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C-PTSD here too! I feel like I've read every book and learned every technique. Nothing worked until Tim Fletcher and his Lift program. I started in March 2024, finished in October. It's amazing to be able to think back to who I was one year ago and realize how much I've healed and changed for the better. I'm now studying to go back into the Lift program as a facilitator and coach to help others heal too.
/r/RedPillWives09/04/25 07:30 PM
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I probably needed to use a better word than ideology. Thank you for explaining. At first I felt like "I already knew that" but the more I let it sink in, I guess that's what I'm doing as far as choosing what works and drop what doesn't. I've held very tightly to the traditional conservative view as i interpreted it regarding the man's role and the woman's role in marriage and this new info about my husband has really jolted me and scared me into thinking I would have to give all that up. I can t…
/r/RedPillWives02/10/24 02:46 PM
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Very true 💚 I appreciate that input
/r/RedPillWives02/10/24 01:42 AM
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I love this! Thank you for your honesty! You sound like a delightful person and it makes me happy for you and hopeful for me that you guys have found your groove!
/r/RedPillWives02/10/24 01:41 AM
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Thanks for the recommendation. I've gotten support from a few non-redpill places outside of reddit and I was hoping to get a redpill perspective as well. I'm a bit overwhelmed at the moment but it's feeling like I might need to rethink how much redpill ideology I'll be able to hold on to going forward. We married 20 years ago with strong redpill beliefs but this new info seems to be changing all that.
/r/RedPillWives01/10/24 03:52 PM
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True, thank you for the suggestion. I've gotten support from a few non-redpill places outside of reddit and I was hoping to get a redpill perspective as well. I'm a bit overwhelmed at the moment but it's feeling like I might need to rethink how much redpill ideology I'll be able to hold on to going forward. We married 20 years ago with strong redpill beliefs but this new info seems to be changing all that.
/r/RedPillWives01/10/24 03:52 PM
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"Lots of communication" And therein lies the rub. Communicating has become a bit more tricky, some days down right impossible.
/r/RedPillWives01/10/24 03:46 PM
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This is so awesome for you guys! I loved reading this success story unfold! Unfortunately, my husband is one who would not like it at all. I think part of it is being introverted, part of it is him worrying that someone else could get the photos somehow even if it's a very remote chance and, when we've talked about it in the past, I get the feeling that he's almost embarrassed at the thought.
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/24 03:30 AM
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I. Feel. This. You are not alone. That probably doesn't help a lot but I was in much the same situation as you are including adhd - I had a few more kids but not the mom stuff. I'm no help because I never did come up with any solutions. I just lived each day exhausted, beating myself up about what want getting done or how badly I was handling things. If you can try to manage your thought life in the midst of it all, that might be one area you could see a positive shift. Trying not to beat yourse…
/r/RedPillWives15/08/24 05:51 PM
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We have 6 children and were financially in your same position. Husband said he needed help with the finances. Rather than taking on a 9 to 5 job, I first started with other jobs like waitressing or hosting in the evenings (which allowed me to still homeschool during the day and husband was home with the kids when I worked so no day care). It still wasn't ideal because I was locked in to a schedule set up by someone else and I usually worked a lot of weekends. Since then, I've started doing clean…
/r/RedPillWomen18/03/23 01:08 AM
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It might be helpful to know what makes him feel loved and appreciated. We did the love language quiz and that was helpful for me to know about my husband.
/r/RedPillWomen28/10/22 01:53 PM
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Such good advice!! "Growing apart from her husband was a choice" resonates with me very very much! I'm choosing to grow together! Thank you for this!!
/r/RedPillWives09/07/22 11:34 AM
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This is so good for me to hear! Thank you for adding that!
/r/RedPillWives24/02/22 02:10 PM
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I'm a cleaning lady. It's not what I wanted to be when i grew up and I've tried not being one many times over the years but here I am. Today was my long day - start at 9am and clean residential homes until 2pm then common areas of several apartment buildings until 6pm. I'm honestly just so tired Wednesday nights. But kids need to be picked up from events and activities still so off i go. Not grudgingly, just tiredly. Hubby asked me to help add some more income to the budget beyond what Wednesday…
/r/RedPillWives24/02/22 04:38 AM
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I love all the comments here! I can only add one or two things - I like to get into the bathroom just as he's finishing his shower and dry him off, it's one of my favorite things to do. Take off his work boots at the end of the day and put them onto our boot dryer. I try to detail his car every six months or so - I really get into the details and make it look super amazing.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/22 05:37 PM
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Im also interested! Im already married but I have 4 daughters and would love to put this info out there for them.
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/22 07:34 PM
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We met at a very conservative church - women are to only wear skirts and long hair, etc. He showed up, married me and whisked me right out of that type of church forever! Lol!
/r/RedPillWives29/07/21 10:39 PM
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It really is! 😍❤️ So thankful to call him mine! 😁
/r/RedPillWives19/07/21 10:04 AM
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I entered the marriage feeling that meeting his sexual needs any time, every time was a top priority. With that said, I totally trust that I could say no to my husband and he would be supportive and understanding. So kinda yes, I would absolutely give him whatever sexual act he asked for on "command" tho my husband rarely comes across as commanding in a rude way. But there's always been a good balance for us - he's kind and wonderful about all things including sex so it's probably easier for me …
/r/RedPillWives18/07/21 03:42 PM
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I think your points are valid and well said. But I don't think you have all the information. Read even just the first book of Rollo Tomassi's "Rational Male" series. Science based information about how the biology of both men and women drives their interactions.
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/21 03:26 AM
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Girl! You are not alone! Dishes are literally the worst! I go in ebbs and flows as far as being able to stay on top of it. I enjoy the clean kitchen so very much, sometimes that's what gets me up and working. Sometimes it's just knowing that I'm the only one that's actually going to do it any way so I may as well get to it. Sometimes I reward myself with an episode of a show or part of a movie or some kind of snack and that's enough to get me washing. I don't think I ever find joy in it - joy wh…
/r/RedPillWives28/05/21 10:07 PM
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We met at church. I already thought he was cute and then he buckled on his tool belt and built an extension on the stage and took that cuteness up a whole other notch!
/r/RedPillWives22/05/21 03:16 AM
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That sounds like a lot of fun!! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 02:09 AM
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Yes that's exactly what I was saying today. It helps me to know that we still have that fire between us and that this is just a season - but at least we still want each other, plenty of marriages don't have that. My older ones go to bed after us but they are usually in their rooms by the time we go to bed at least. I think some of the problem is that teens are old enough to know what's going on when we try to slip away and go to bed earlier and that impairs the mood quite a bit for hubby. But we…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 02:08 AM
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Oh my goodness! That would be amazing to have half the basement! As it is, he worries about the kids hearing us. My kids at home are 16 to 8 but I do remember the days when we had them in bed by 7 or 7:30 and had all kinds of adult time. Definitely lots of teasing and kissing throughout the day tho!
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 02:02 AM
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Oh you're so right! He would loooove that! Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 02:00 AM
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Yes I agree! We've got 7 here and there is just no way I can spend that on only one meal of the day. We are home together all day so breakfast lunch and snacks still need to be taken care of. It's easier for me if I think to grab several days worth of meat out of the freezer and put it in the fridge to thaw - whatever thaws first is what we eat earliest in the week. And I have a master list of hubby-approved 😉 meal ideas tacked to the fridge which takes some of the decision-making out of it for …
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/21 11:34 AM
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I'll echo the sentiment on losing weight. My plan currently is to follow an intermittent fasting protocol of 20:4 which allows me to eat from noon to 4pm. Eventually I'll get back on the keto bandwagon since that's the only thing that has worked for me in the last four years but I'm happy with sticking to the eating window so far. Also getting out to walk the dog at least once a day, maybe twice now that the weather is nice. I just got out of the boot after an ankle surgery and haven't been able…
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/21 03:42 AM
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That makes perfect sense. I appreciate you sharing that perspective. I definitely don't want my girls to feel that way. I've not encouraged them regarding relationships at this point - mostly I've been letting my relationship with my husband, their daddy, speak through actions. I just feel my oldest daughter slipping away and expressing some of the mainstream ideas I had hoped she wouldn't agree with by this age and so I felt maybe I had failed in some way, maybe by not explicitly teaching her a…
/r/RedPillWomen14/04/21 10:11 AM
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Thank you for addressing this question. I've not read the original edition yet. When I was searching for it and was surprised to find out that the author's daughter has said the original version is too outdated to be read today.
/r/RedPillWomen09/04/21 08:19 PM
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I'm SOOO glad you suggested this magazine! Such great content! I've already binge-read several articles!
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/21 10:53 PM
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Great idea! What books do you suggest?
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/21 08:04 PM
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Would you mind sending me another invite link? @JenniferS#6040 When I tried the other one given by @nandemodekiru it said it was unable to accept. Thanks!!
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/21 08:36 PM
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Happy cake day! And thank you for the simple concise definition. Lately I think I need to work on the happy part more.
/r/RedPillWives16/03/21 11:19 PM
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I love this!
/r/RedPillWives16/03/21 08:03 PM
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Oh my goodness!! So few people know anything about GPs!! I'm so thankful to meet you! I would love to see pics of your baby GPs! They are the most adorable fluff balls! I spent hours upon hours learning about dogs (neither my husband nor I have had one before) so that I was ready to buy the ground running when our Yeti got here. I thought for sure I was going to be an awesome dog owner. The puppy biting really threw me for a loop and I figured I was doing something wrong - but we're mostly past …
/r/RedPillWives16/03/21 07:44 PM
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I would love to hear what your home business is! We did get a dog recently. I was initially super excited about that but it turns out the Great Pyrenees breed is a bit stubborn. My husband would love it if I got back into working more consistently with him. Once I heal from this ankle surgery and can walk on both feet again, I think that will be one of the things I do. I think what happens when I find a hobby of my own is that I feel so guilty about not being available to the kids in those momen…
/r/RedPillWives16/03/21 07:21 PM
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Yes you're so right. All my hobbies went out the window with each child and as homeschooling got more intense. Now that the kids don't need me as much (you know, besides being chauffeur and events planner) I'm definitely not fulfilled with my days. And then I end up looking to my leader husband to fix it. Probably not the right answer.
/r/RedPillWives16/03/21 06:45 PM
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Hahaha! This is the answer I needed! 😂
/r/RedPillWives16/03/21 06:43 PM
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I totally feel you on this one!! I love some of the new looks that come out but, as I start trying to incorporate them into my own looks, I worry about whether I "can" or "should" wear it. So I end up sticking with my same old.
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/20 09:00 PM
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I've been a stay at home mom for almost 16 years and 6 babies now so I totally feel what you're saying!! ❤️ Along with all the amazing advice here, I would just add to remember that "this too shall pass". I know it's super cliche and every old lady (myself included) says it to young moms. But I think it would have helped me in the midst of diapers and feedings and craziness to remember that it won't always be this way. Sometimes, it felt like that was going to be my life forever but now here I a…
/r/RedPillWives22/09/20 04:11 AM
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Oh my goodness! You are amazing!! I honestly wish I had more helpful advice to offer but I don't. Only to say that, as a fellow Christian woman, I feel very moved by your post and will definitely be praying for you. Please keep us updated on how you are doing. You have accomplished SO much in your 38 years and walked such an amazing journey, I bet you'll end up taking all that strength and intelligence and turning this unexpected and horrible situation into a riveting testimony! ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen24/08/20 11:31 PM
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I watched a very very young couple navigate dating and now marriage so beautifully! The girl was 12 and the boy 15 when they started noticing each other. Both sets of parents figured it was a passing fancy, laid down some pretty substantial rules (like no talking alone together, always in a group) and figured it would fizzle out. As the years went on, they continued to follow every rule the parents laid out for them, which got more relaxed as they got older. As soon as she turned 17 and 1/2, he …
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/20 12:53 AM
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I'm mixed in my opinion on this but of course there aren't any absolutes when talking about trying to predict how a man is going to turn out. On one hand, I've heard (maybe in this sub?) that if you find a determined, motivated man when he's still young and ambitious and helping that man, as his wife, rise to the top, he will cherish you as his most valued help in getting to where he ended up. Whereas, if you find the man once he's already rich, won't he just look at women as somewhat easy to ga…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 12:11 AM
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I don't have any advice really - I just came to say WOW GIRL! AWESOME JOB!! There are PLENTY of women who come to that same crossroads in their relationship, where they see how they are contributing to issues, and yet do not make a change for the better in themselves. So much mental and emotional baggage can factor into that decision along with a good dose of pride. But you set all that aside and did the hard work to change in order to help your relationship!! It couldn't have been easy and I ju…
/r/RedPillWives17/06/20 12:24 AM
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I'm still very new to red pill ideas other than what I did just naturally without knowing it was a thing. So when you say "using those tactics on him", I'm a little lost. I've read things that sound similar on other posts here (I've been part of this reddit less than a week and my husband has been learning red pill just shy of one year) and I'm not sure what is meant. What would you say is meant by that type of phrase?
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 11:18 AM
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I guess I started doing it before I had seen it advised against. It likely depends more on your individual relationship and communication style with you man. My husband and I communicate very well and really enjoy sharing our thoughts on lots of things including RP topics. Many times, we will listen to some of the podcasts put on by some of the guys and chat about all the things they talk about. It's lots of fun for us. My husband can listen at work and I'll usually start the conversation by ask…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/19 03:31 AM
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I started reading the books because my husband had just started learning about the Red Pill movement/group and I wanted to support him and enjoy knowledgeable conversation with him about it. I guess that's the long answer! Lol! Short answer would be to understand my man better! 😉😁
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/19 04:57 PM
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Rollo Tomassi's book series called "The Rational Male". While written for men, I gained a lot of knowledge about women from reading them.
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/19 04:39 PM
You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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