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I think you are doing the right thing: My rule has been if I run into a customer in any other situation than at Starbucks, say, at a bar or the supermarket, she's fair game This is good. The problem is that you're not meeting enough of them to have what you want. You have to find where do these girls go and be there, create opportunity and not just wait for it to happen. You'll do good.
/r/askTRP23/05/17 06:37 PM
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You can start a family with any woman. You're justifying this one because she is not so smart and she wouldn't mind being a SAHM. I think you should prioritize the things you want the most and see if she fits. Not the other way around.
/r/askTRP23/05/17 06:29 PM
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If it was me I wouldn't make contact while she's away. Sure, answer some messages if she contacts you, but nothing else. You shouldn't even be thinking "how much time until I contact her again?", "Is the time now? Tomorrow?". Just DGAF. Live as much as you can and when she gets back you wont even remember her.
/r/askTRP11/05/17 07:12 PM
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My 2 cents on this: You don't focus enough. You should learn how to make 1 think each time and focus on it. Don't multitask, don't think about multiple things all the time, when you do something focus on it, be precise in every movement, every action. Meditate, learn mindfulness. Read books (start by the sidebar) and think about what you're reading. Don't let your mind drift.
/r/askTRP01/05/17 05:21 PM
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I think both of us are in this thing exclusively And then: She is the one that doesn't want to commit (...) she isn't ready for any LTR She is telling you! WTF do you want more? Proof that she is dating other dudes? seeing them together on her social media There is the proof. I'm pretty aware that this is a case of oneitis Good, if you know the disease now apply the cure. I don't really want to date other girls I'm afraid you don't really know what it means. I'm not really a huge fan of spinning…
/r/askTRP01/05/17 09:14 AM
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I'll see a 5-6 and think, "I can totally get her." Then go get her. Fuck her and then see if the horniness is still present.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 10:22 PM
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He explained well, you misunderstood his explanation: all guys are "wired" to "plate" as many women as they can. Many of our behaviours are signs of this because this is our sexual strategy.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 10:12 PM
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Giving up sex without commitment. If you do this regularly for a guy, without him investing more on you, then you're his plate.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 10:05 PM
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Do you have a goal you want to reach? Do you know what you want? When you work towards a goal, you make it grow in you with the investment you make. And if you start seeing some results it will boost you even more to work harder. It's like a vicious circle where your hard working feeds the will to do more towards something. The initial ambition to do something I think is very personal. It's like a personal taste. If you know what you want then the ambition will come from this will to have what y…
/r/askTRP21/04/17 10:02 PM
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Just keep calm, breathe, go read the content on the sidebar and keep coming to the sub for more reading. That's what you should do. Play it cool now. And don't get into trouble because of some pussy, not worth it.
/r/askTRP21/04/17 09:54 PM
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Is there a chance for you? Maybe. You need professional help. Look for a psychologist and explain all this.
/r/askTRP19/04/17 07:03 PM
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does that mean i should embrace the red pill What are you doing here then? what should i drink and eat and avoid drinking and eating What a stupid fucking question. You already answered this one, but you came here looking for someone to give you an excuse to drink your sodas and eat your junk food. Man, just grow up, learn how to cook, cook good food, food that you enjoy. Stop putting shit into your body, it's yours and no one else will give a fuck. Exercise it, it's made out of muscles for a re…
/r/askTRP07/04/17 08:56 PM
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This. With this you're giving her options because now she knows that you don't like something specific and by doing it in the future she will be disrespecting you. Now she has the option to disrespect you or not, and if she does you know what to do.
/r/askTRP06/04/17 07:44 PM
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Well you can have the sex and someone else will have to handle her shit. It should be the same as any other plate.
/r/askTRP06/04/17 07:37 PM
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If she said she doesn't want to have sex for a while you should have said that you are busy "for a while" and have no time to meet her. edit: I fear that if you try to escalate and she doesn't go for it you'd just be in a worse situation. Don't meet her until her opinion changes regarding sex.
/r/askTRP06/04/17 07:34 PM
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Try teasing her a lot (fingers + oral) to the point she's asking you to fuck her, and then you just lie down and tell her to "come get what she wants" or something along these lines.
/r/askTRP06/04/17 07:31 PM
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she pulled away saying "you go that far I'll definitely be late home." Here I see one course of action: continue what you're doing and ignore or just say "Ill drive faster" or "you'll want to be late today" whatever. If she insists on that point I would take her home saying something like "let me take you home then, you'll be on time" and don't be upset or show any emotion. If she isn't giving you what you want, then you have the choice of not giving her what she wants, your time and attention.
/r/askTRP06/04/17 05:41 PM
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You asked? Now you've learned why you shouldn't do that... Just say no if you're not interested.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 09:09 PM
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Serious question: why do you want to be polite about this? She turns you down, you still chatted with her(give her attention and more of your time), and she is now trying to whore you to her friends. She wants to make you their time whore. Don't be polite, have self respect.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 08:27 PM
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The truth is 90% of your success with women comes down to your looks You have much to learn. But if a girl finds you attractive What do you mean by attractive here? all you have to do is being normal and shell let you know shes down. Talk about blue pill...
/r/askTRP04/04/17 08:23 PM
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she randomly starts ignoring me Interest goes down at about the same rate as you give them attention. I start feeling pissed off and annoyed You shouldn't. thinking I did something wrong You shouldn't feel annoyed or pissed off, that's what you're doing wrong. they are unable to express what is really wrong. You will rarely find a girl who has enough self awareness to know what is wrong, nevermind expressing it. What is going on is that you are giving them more attention than you should, they lo…
/r/askTRP04/04/17 08:20 PM
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I don't understand what is the question. Would you feel like a "cuck" for raising a kid that's not yours? I don't think anyone can tell you that. Would other people think that you're a "cuck" for doing it? well, fuck them. Who cares? If you want to raise a kid and you have the possibility to do it, go for it. If you want a biological kid there are options or if you want to adopt its up to you. This is a very personal decision, I don't think we can make up your mind about this.
/r/askTRP04/04/17 08:13 PM
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Serious question: have you tried an escort/prostitute? Tell her the problem (or not) and ask her to perform the entire time your paying. If this is a psychological matter wouldn't this help?
/r/askTRP02/04/17 07:28 PM
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You want more what?? She is going to give it to someone else and stop giving it to you. Don't change what you got going.
/r/askTRP02/04/17 07:21 PM
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Why do you think this difference appears so clearly in women. This is natural, it's nature following its course. how do you embrace that you gotta fight for leadership with a RP girl. A "RP girl" is a girls who know what is natural and what not. What you're thinking of is the complete opposite. Blue pill mentality fights against these natural instincts and tries to suppress/view them as wrong/oppressive. A woman who tries to lead the relationship will never respect the partner.
/r/askTRP02/04/17 07:19 PM
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what if Stop over thinking this, another guy has said it: "tell him you want him in the dirtiest way possible". No guy will turn this down.
/r/askTRP02/04/17 07:14 PM
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It's not about NOT having sex, it's about CAN'T have sex. If you're not having sex it's normal nobody is doing it 100% of the time. But if you tell him you WON'T or you CAN'T then you played yourself out.
/r/askTRP02/04/17 05:37 PM
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Ok, misunderstood that. But if you like a guy make him want to be with you. That's my point. As much as a guy likes your company(apparently he didn't) you know what he wants.
/r/askTRP02/04/17 05:31 PM
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Me and a guy have been hanging out/hooking up for a month And We haven't had sex And I've been with guys where it was just a hookup before Why would you make this guy wait for a month then? Do you see the logic here? You seem to like this guy and make him wait longer than other guys for something you know he wants. If you like him make things that will make him want to be with you, withholding sex is not a way to get a guy.
/r/askTRP02/04/17 05:22 PM
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Did you do those things for yourself? Are you really on the career you want? Are you being honest about this with yourself? What have you "improved" on? Are you happy? Why? These are all questions you should answer to yourself before asking us what's wrong. Be honest.
/r/askTRP02/04/17 04:56 PM
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It's mostly the psychological war part of it. Most of the wars are won through deception and making believe your army's strength is greater than reality. It also gives you a glimpse into the importance of information and controlling information, gossip, and "truth", by using spies (enemies or otherwise) to get more power. If you think, it's a text with ~2500 years and the teachings are still relevant. Don't just read the words, think and interpret. Extrapolate to our reality.
/r/askTRP02/04/17 04:48 PM
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If you have a question, go ahead. You might get the answers you want. But don't come here expecting attention because your a girl.
/r/askTRP02/04/17 04:34 PM
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You're asking, giving them the power. Take the power, go to them and dance with them, don't ask (try not even talking either). Test this next time.
/r/askTRP02/04/17 04:31 PM
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:D lol XD What is this?! and my IRL game is pretty weak You seem pretty weak in general, from such a small text. Be what she is expecting you to be (from what you gave her on the messages) and always be sexual about it. Move fast if your game is weak so you don't have time to fuck up..
/r/askTRP01/04/17 12:37 PM
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I regret what i've done Learn from it then. i don't know what to do Do nothing. Did you learn from it? Good, now act normal and nothing happened. Don't let her make shit because of this or be a bitch about it. Just dismiss it if she does it and move on.
/r/askTRP01/04/17 12:30 PM
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Then it's a matter of priorities, what valuable info are you expecting from these people? Is it worth the time spent? The trouble of doing something you don't want? Weight your priorities. Be honest to yourself. Don't try to justify why you spend time doing thing you don't want with people you don't want to be with.
/r/askTRP01/04/17 11:17 AM
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I understand that TRP advocates that you search for and try to stick to high-value people Man, just be honest and do what you want to do. That's what it's about. Why would you want to be friends with "time-wasters"? Why be friends with people you have nothing in common? Because they are "high-value"? High-value to who? Be honest and things will get in line with what you want.
/r/askTRP30/03/17 03:26 PM
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The most green of the flags require a sexual relationship to be ongoing. The rest are details
/r/askTRP23/03/17 06:49 PM
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Ok, if you're having a LTR in college at least make the best of it. You already said you don't give her too much attention, so it's more like a plate really. Man, take it easy, take some more time every other day to fuck this girl. Am I really saying to a college student to study less and fuck more? Man, you got me confused. Is she not attractive? There are others you know?
/r/askTRP21/03/17 05:43 PM
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engagement rings cost money Less than a divorce I would say... sometimes you take a loan to pay for them This is crazy! He can legally get it back But you see, is it worth the trouble, the drama? Will you get the same value for it? What about after legal expenses? So much stuff... it was given on the condition she marry him Now, come on, are we so naive here? We know what's up, it's a kind of revenge, "you won't marry me, I'll take the ring from you" type of thing. In my opinion, all the drama a…
/r/askTRP21/03/17 05:24 PM
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From my experience (having sex regularly) does not change my energy at the gym or any other sports performance. However if I have sex 1/2 hours before going to the gym I feel less "power" to lift heavier stuff. By "power" I don't mean that physically I can't do it, it's just that I don't feel like doing it, my will to do it, the adrenaline is not the same.
/r/askTRP21/03/17 05:17 PM
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Just let it go... Keep some things if you want them, but what you gave to her its hers now. Don't give her the drama she wants by pursuing those things. Take this as a lesson, and good that you're not married now, or the lesson could be much more expensive.
/r/askTRP21/03/17 05:07 PM
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technique to hit on girls was falling in love with them Never heard this one before... Fall in love every time you hit on a girl? WHAT?! Do you know what love means? Do you understand what you're saying? PUA tricks It's just that, tricks. TRP is not about tricks. It was more successful I still don't understand what this means, because clearly you are not using that "technique" anymore.
/r/askTRP16/03/17 07:45 PM
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It's a biologically wired in us to make us feel bad when we loose something that we invested on. When you want to survive and resources are scarce you should feel bad when you loose your investments (this includes anything you spend your time and energy on) so you know not no loose them. This is how we survived and its still wired in us to be this way. This is a possession thing.
/r/askTRP16/03/17 06:45 PM
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It even worked What do you mean by this? What I'm doing wrong? The problem is you're "shopping for a girl", instead you should be living your life. Have many girls, and if you think over time one of them is worth putting aside all the other pussy you're getting then go into an LTR with her. Is there a way to formulate that falling in love game for LTR? I don't even know what this means. Can you clarify?
/r/askTRP16/03/17 06:42 PM
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Try meditation.
/r/askTRP08/03/17 09:07 PM
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Have started implementation What have you done precisely? I see nothing there. I have invested a lot in my friendships but people walk all over me Not 'but' , it's because you do it. Stop doing it. You don't buy friendships. My gf left me too and befriended all my best friends and invites them for parties to which I am never invited. Your 'best friends' go to parties where they know you aren't invited and cannot go? You have a very weird definition of 'friend'. I read trp everyday, go for a jog …
/r/askTRP08/03/17 08:57 PM
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Let them have it. Why even bother? It's a natural defense, and mostly based on a false perception. If they want to dig deeper they'll do it. Until then, live and let live.
/r/askTRP27/02/17 10:31 PM
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Women and men look at me in disgust now Recently I got his look from a girl after I teased her, it was the perfect motivation for the gym during the month after that. It just stayed with me, that look. Fuck that. Never before and never again. I understand you man. Go for it.
/r/askTRP27/02/17 10:18 PM
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I was just wondering if monk mode is a viable option It is a good thing, but it's not mandatory. If you can improve without it then keep going, if someday you get stuck go monk mode and focus on what you want. I figured monk mode for the next five years This is not how I see monk mode. Five years is a LOT of time. It's roughly 25% of your prime life. Think of monk mode literally to have an idea what it means and re-think that number.
/r/askTRP27/02/17 09:57 PM
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she's ready to try me out. So she's leading this... which I found quite immature It's a girl... She also has told me she doesn't want Already demanding stuff. She is definitely leading this. expects me to enter a LTR with her. Break out of her frame. Her pussy is not worth it, maybe at that age you feel like it is (I know I did anything for the smell of pussy back then). Should I try building more comfort Some, yes. Not a lot. show interest in a LTR I wouldn't do it, but that's me, older than yo…
/r/askTRP27/02/17 09:51 PM
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Short answer based on the TLDR: After taking TRP is it supposed to be hard to make and maintain friendships Real friendships are always are to build/maintain. After the pill you're probably more aware and don't take bullshit so easily. Do I ghost everyone that doesn't add value to my life despite being a good friend? A good friend is someone who adds values to your life. This is a moot question. Is monk mode a pragmatic mindset for a person transitioning into tradesmen work? Don't really underst…
/r/askTRP27/02/17 09:37 PM
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No. The man's value does not decline In her eyes it does (and that's what we are discussing here). I don't know why so many downvotes for a perfectly valid answer. Her expectation from you dictates your value for her. If she perceives you as high value she will give you more while expecting less, on the other hand if she does not value you she will expect a lot from you while giving a lot less. her expectation of benefit may rise exponentially This is because of perceived value (SMV).
/r/askTRP27/02/17 09:29 PM
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Show off a little as well maybe? Not too much. Don't try to hard to impress. Be fun.
/r/askTRP21/02/17 10:13 PM
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Yes, that why (I think) cohabitation is not a good idea.
/r/askTRP21/02/17 10:05 PM
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I go to the gym to work, I take it seriously. I never approached a girl in the gym mostly because I'm there everyday and it's like a "second home" to me and you get to see the same faces. "Don't shit where you eat" for me applies to work and gym. But in your situation, I've been to the gym once or twice not to workout but to help some girl with their workout: so show them the exercises, don't be afraid to touch them and move their body to the right position, touch the muscle that its working on …
/r/askTRP21/02/17 10:02 PM
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Also, your value decreases with time. In the beginning you trade few of your time for sex and she will be eager to see you and give you what you want for every little effort you make. Because you are together more often (live together) she will get more of your time and attention while giving you less sex. So your perceived value decreases in her eyes, unless you withdraw attention and give her less time (do your own stuff without her, give attention to other girls, dread...).
/r/askTRP21/02/17 09:55 PM
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Ouch: you got me. Why are you giving us sarcasm? These guys read your post and took time to answer. If your initial post was more complete and to the point they would have given you straight answers. Learn to appreciate effort, and to know when its your fault.
/r/askTRP21/02/17 09:49 PM
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but i want to bang her We all do. Move on. Or do the same to her, but that would show that you're weak.
/r/askTRP21/02/17 09:44 PM
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Don't learn from what they say, learn from what they do. Shut up and watch.
/r/askTRP21/02/17 09:41 PM
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LMR's signify that the girl is not that into you This is not true. There are many reasons this might happen. Don't think too much of it, you're going in the right direction... Make sure to build more comfort for her next time, don't go rushing into sex, build some tension, and hold kissing as much as possible while teasing her.
/r/askTRP13/02/17 10:13 PM
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Tell her to come pick up her bag, show the object that she took and say that if she wants to keep seeing you, that stops now, and give that shit to her/throw it in the trash so she knows its not about the value but the action. No excuses, no more talk. That's what I would do.
/r/askTRP13/02/17 09:07 PM
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Is this supposed to be a post or a question? During tribal warfare, the men were killed off, and the survivors would have harems. Women were the war prize for the winners, the ones (women) who fight against it are killed and do not reproduce and the other will reproduce with more chance of offspring survival (seeing that the winners are stronger/have more resources). This is the origin of the theory behind it. This is made even worse by the fact that women's sexuality was repressed throughout th…
/r/askTRP10/02/17 10:48 PM
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What is the question? Make questions and you might have some answers.
/r/askTRP10/02/17 10:27 PM
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I would say he should practice not talking for a while. OP listen and don't talk, just the bare minimum to be polite and that's it. Even if it starts to kill you on the inside like an itch you have to scratch, don't say anything. Practice this and in some time you'll see the difference in how people treat you and listen to you when you DECIDE to talk.
/r/askTRP10/02/17 10:23 PM
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AMG - Bitch Betta Have My Money
/r/askTRP07/02/17 09:57 PM
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I messaged her and said You don't announce it, you just do it. Little things that add up.
/r/askTRP07/02/17 09:02 PM
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You say things that you think are ok, but then do stuff that are REALLY not ok. Do you see the difference? Is what you think you say versus what you do.
/r/askTRP07/02/17 08:37 PM
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I do what I'm told when I think I should do it. When I know it's bullshit I try to argue and show my point. If there is no argue to be had then I just don't do it. My dealing with authority has nothing to do with respect. I respect someone above me, besides me, bellow me, when I understand the effort made towards something. I don't respect someone just because they are in a certain position.
/r/askTRP07/02/17 08:34 PM
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i don't know which one i should take There is no choice to be made. Take them all! one of my coworkers I would date someone from work... i don't like her because So why are you talking about her? Why are you choosing?
/r/askTRP07/02/17 08:28 PM
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Start reading. Start with the side bar content.
/r/askTRP07/02/17 08:22 PM
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I am overweight, i do not exercise, I've been on junk food since i know myself, my sleeping schedule is fucked. The source of most of your problems right here. And no doctor did any good. Doctors are not magical beings that serve to change your life. YOU live in your body, YOU live your life. Start taking care of it. My parents were abusive and offensive, This is the source of the other problems you have. For this one you (likely) need therapy. You know what's wrong with you, you just don't have…
/r/askTRP07/02/17 08:13 PM
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Is this a troll post? So much shit going on..... I'm super horny and message a girl on tinder saying she's wife material. We hit it off and I get her number and snapchat. Whatever, you have the number, next is the date. We talk on the phone and I'm getting shit faced at the same time Where is the date?? We talk Still no date??? What are you waiting for? I live 400 miles away from her What? You can't fuck her, but you're being fucked for sure.... Go meet girls in person, where you can fuck them..…
/r/askTRP07/02/17 08:03 PM
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Never got why TRP has such a beef with having a social life, drinking, and partying Where did you get this from? How is TRP stopping anyone from doing this? If you like it, sure, do it! Is it for everyone? I don't think so. My preference is to go to a bar/pub with 1 or 2 friends and drink some beers, talk, and meet some girls. OP, don't you have 1 single friend to go out with you? It's easier to go with a friend at first, meet new people and go from there.
/r/askTRP02/02/17 10:06 PM
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It's tinder! You did good going for the date but maybe took too long. She flaked on you once, you went for the second she declined before you could ask. I would stop contact and go for other fish. If she contacts tell her to come up with a date or shut up.
/r/askTRP30/01/17 10:05 PM
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First, learn to search before asking Second: I read a while back some exercises and tips, that included: breeding in before talking and slowly release the air as you speak so you lower your tone; think before you speak to make a clear "map" of the words you say so you can control the pace better and think through what you say. To lower your voice tone there are a lot of exercises. Search. Also, always say less than necessary.
/r/askTRP30/01/17 09:58 PM
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I'm now in the middle of looking for a LTR with some of the women I meet online. Advice, don't go into an LTR with a tinder date. I will never date a single mother in my life. Good! But you could fuck them once or twice. A stage were you are just talking to the person but not together so you don't have to worry about going to another girls house and her bitch about it when you get home. Like a plate then? This sounds like plate theory to me (except maybe the amount of talking). I learned here th…
/r/askTRP30/01/17 09:48 PM
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Unless its someone like your boss and you want to make him feel at ease from time to time in a informal environment. Personally I keep my work away from my personal life, so no problem for me here. But otherwise, you're right.
/r/askTRP30/01/17 08:22 PM
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LTR a non virgin is risky because of the inability to pair bond that happens after enough guys have fucked her and left her. What? Since when is non virgin equal to "fucked so many guys that she cannot pair bond any more"? There is a big in between there. it is more important that she loves you and is dependent on you for her well being Again, this works on very specific cases but its not the rule! You should strive to be the guy she doesn't want to leave, not because she will be miserable (this…
/r/askTRP28/01/17 12:15 AM
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Go read this post.
/r/askTRP28/01/17 12:05 AM
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Guys filter what they say in fear of the consequences of what they think. Too much conditioning. You'll learn as you "grow" (unplug) that you don't have to fear almost anything about what you think and so you can say it more naturally. It took me some time to develop this(and I've been where you are) but now I only filter the stupid shit (when needed) and say whatever I want. It feels good to say what you want to say. But more important, know who you can talk to and when you can say what you wan…
/r/askTRP28/01/17 12:02 AM
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Two years ago I would say yes. I would fixate on things I did years previously and I could have done better. But that was caused by the lack of abundance mentality. Nowadays I don't even think about shit I did last week. Could I have done better? Maybe yes. Do I care? No. And move on to the next. Live and learn. You are on the path, keep going.
/r/askTRP27/01/17 11:30 PM
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I was in a LTR relationship with a great girl (call her girl A). We had sex frequently, and the sex was great. Our personalities matched and she is fun to hang out with. Good! What's the problem?! I decided I didn't want to be in an LTR with someone who wasn't a virgin You effectively reduced your possible mating pool in 99.999% with this decision. Either that or you are 15... You had a good thing going and ended it based on that decision, and now ask too much RP thinking? This is not even relat…
/r/askTRP27/01/17 11:20 PM
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Could it be just lies? It could. She probably suck all of those guys dicks, that's why they stayed around for so long. She maybe took it in the ass. The point is, you don't go into a LTR with a girl you haven't fucked, you do that with a girl you've been fucking and you'd like to promote to LTR based on good behaviour (and other stuff you want).
/r/askTRP27/01/17 11:08 PM
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I know, I'm still venting from this. I've seen recently a friend miss many chances like this and then feel bad as shit because of it. And by the way, if you have the thing under control why the post? Humble brag?? Edit: I get it my jealous friend. This is a bragging post. I just delayed the fucktime with her, she knew and left If you knew this, then this post is just bragging... What is the questions really? Was she into you? Definitely. Did you do something about it? No.
/r/askTRP26/01/17 10:16 PM
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I had written something before and then deleted it. It was basically saying you should flirt with other girls at said party. Go with the DGAF attitude and enjoy yourself there. edit: Not sure it's worth the fallout risk though This is a bit too much thought seeing that you are talking about plates (who are sorority girls). You should not give a fuck. Abundance, always.
/r/askTRP26/01/17 10:10 PM
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Because I was tired and needed to workout little bit and get in form then get her when Im strong Are you telling this to us or to yourself? When is a guy NOT ready to fuck?! Now I would say "I hope you don't give a fuck because you might have fucked up", but you've made this post which means you give a fuck. So you fucked up for sure. Be honest and don't lie to yourself...
/r/askTRP26/01/17 10:04 PM
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go loud and proud and not care if either knows about the other I would do this.
/r/askTRP26/01/17 09:58 PM
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Man the fuck up! Your response to being depressed is to do shit that will make you feel even worse? You feel bad because you haven't fucked anyone in 2 years? Too bad! Do you think you deserve it? Not with this pussy attitude. You don't fucking come here knowing what your problem is and expect sympathy from us. You know that you are doing wrong, go do right. I bet you are making extremely unattainable goals and failing every time and seeing no progress and then go back to the comfortable being d…
/r/askTRP26/01/17 09:50 PM
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But this is not a trend that was "invented" this is in the root of humanity. Since the "beginning", males that showed to possess more resources attracted more females. And this isn't because it would be cool to have more, but because individuals with more resources had more chance of survival. So these resources were "consumed". Nowadays this "consuming of resources" evolved into what we see in our cultures, but with the foundation that women are the ones spending the resources gathered by men, …
/r/askTRP25/01/17 06:53 PM
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For me it's my body, my mind, and my career: I learned to cook many things and now enjoy cooking so now I can eat healthier, have more skills, and save money. I read books on many subjects (mainly psychology) every day on my way to work, so now I understand better myself, my interactions, those around me, politics, society in general. I workout almost every day and rest decent amount of time. I have my career planed in a way that doesn't interfere with my personal life and I can progress at my p…
/r/askTRP25/01/17 06:04 PM
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Of course these two count, but I'm talking about guys with nothing, who in some context think they are the shit and behave like that in that context. They can get any pussy like that. Of course that outside that context they are ridiculous. And when you see these couples on the street you know that's the case.
/r/askTRP25/01/17 05:56 PM
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I've seen so many ugly guys with hot women that I can say that confidence is it. Nothing more. Be confident. Now, where do you get this confidence from? In my case I get it from the fact that I know that I DO what is in my power to become a better person. I work on my goals and know that even when I'm not giving 100% I'm giving something everyday. Nothings beats that. My confidence comes from me, not from anyone else. This is happiness... Want to know more about confidence, listen to the Black P…
/r/askTRP24/01/17 09:46 PM
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Take it easy. If I was your age I would start learning a martial art, working on my body/mind. I know you are very anxious to have girls but take it easy. If you can't go to parties find activities where you can meet new girls. The examples you want are field reports on the main sub(read), and life experiences(act). Don't be afraid to live, learn from failure and enjoy success.
/r/askTRP23/01/17 10:34 PM
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I think the point is exactly that: what do you want for yourself? We are conditioned since birth by an homogeneous system put in place to favour the collective mass and not the individual. It is better for the "ones in charge" to have a predictive collective mind than an ocean of individual opinions. Its easier to sell something in mass if everybody understands the marketing message the same way. I'm not saying there is a conspiracy for this to happen, but this happens because its "cheaper" for …
/r/askTRP23/01/17 10:28 PM
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Your value depends on how much would it cost to replace you in case you left. If you have other job offers and proposals, tell your boss and show what you are worth to other companies. Also, changing jobs is the fastest way to increase salary (my opinion based on markets I know).
/r/askTRP23/01/17 09:54 PM
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I'm not in the US so not familiar with the laws there, but can you put your money somewhere it cannot be touched? If so you can start saving there for "rainy" days. If you can divorce without too much fuss just do it. As for the relationship, keep being strong and leading, don't show weakness and try to improve yourself always. Always be fit, dress well and have a good presentation overall. AWALT! But if you work to be the best you can, your odds will be greater. She put up with you so far, and …
/r/askTRP23/01/17 09:48 PM
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She wants to keep you around. But be sure she is looking for a replacement (if not already).
/r/askTRP23/01/17 09:36 PM
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Don't worry, we all learn this way. And she is only being a woman, nothing else. You now know not to show weakness. Live and learn...
/r/askTRP22/01/17 09:52 PM
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During the day you meet the girl and be straightforward "you're really good looking (blablabla) give me your number so I can call you for coffee when I'm free" (something like this). Or you can go for coffee immediately if possible. Escalate will be more difficult unless you are really good in this game. Search on the main sub for day game posts. It's been a while since I've tried it for dating purposes.
/r/askTRP22/01/17 09:48 PM
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u/_vend7u gave the advice, I just want to comment on this: no sex until marriage policy. As the great Patrice would say: "you will not fuck before marriage? OK, I will not not be fucking before marriage" and let the girl decide with who are you going to fuck in the meantime...
/r/askTRP22/01/17 09:42 PM
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Plan your time better. If you want something you make time for it, if you don't want it then we shouldn't even discuss it. With plates its the same thing, plan your time, if it fits in your schedule then good, if not then let them drop. They are plates not LTRs.
/r/askTRP22/01/17 09:36 PM
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Good advice! OP read this. And print a big year calendar, put it on a wall and mark every day you work towards your goals... Let the chain of days never stop.
/r/askTRP22/01/17 09:32 PM
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I don't like the club scene, but while I was there I knew we had to close fast and before she joins her friends inside the club, some make out and leave her to her friends. After not long come back and pull her and ask to leave. From there the reaction should be different. And if it fails you have the rest of the night to retry. If I were you I'd try the day approach. The ASD is not in high alert, you can have clear interactions and understand better. Meet and go for coffee dates, fast stuff tha…
/r/askTRP22/01/17 09:23 PM
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I did a science degree, I like logic Girl act on emotions, guys act on rational. I find both infuriating and surprising You have much to learn. At some point you showed her weakness because of the deal with your mother. She got that from you and sensed (hamstered) that after all she might be submitting to a "pussy" instead of a man. From there you have the change in behaviour. Cut contact for a while. If you have doubts: well get back in touch when your mums fine then This should be logic enough…
/r/askTRP22/01/17 09:16 PM
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What are you looking for here? A bullet point list of tips and tricks to loose weight? This IS the real world. Eat LESS, eat BETTER. In the beginning the exercise should be moderate so you don't get hurt. Then start increasing intensity. Make plans, and achievable goals. Don't "reach for the stars", you'll fail and get back to where you are. And a "tip": make goals such as being able to run X miles in under X minutes ; make 30 pushups in under 1 minute; stuff like this that doesn't involve the w…
/r/askTRP22/01/17 09:06 PM
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For me it will be just another Tuesday... Fuck these holidays created by marketing people to make people spend money. Make your own holidays...
/r/askTRP22/01/17 08:23 PM
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I think you did good for the first part, now I would follow the second part, and act like you're not interested most of the time. And just sometimes tease her a bit. I don't know if being younger is a killer in this situation, you might be perceived as "lower status" for that. Maybe you should try to tease other girls in that group and try to get a reaction out of one of them that indicates this perceived "lower status", something like disgust, or creepiness from her face. If they don't show any…
/r/askTRP22/01/17 01:10 PM
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But still she texts They always do if there is a possibility of you giving more attention. as always I reply late as in TRP theory. This is just the "fake it until you make it" thing. You should be busy doing shit you want and like to do. Or sometimes busy doing nothing because you feel like it.
/r/askTRP22/01/17 12:53 PM
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I just answered that on the other thread you made: This is how I see it: Showing Interest/Confident Iniciative/Clear Sexual Intentions/ Direct Approach When you see a girl you'd want to meet and you feel attracted to, go meet her on the spot. Make your intentions clear about why you are talking to her. This applies when you meet new people. This is you, going for what you want. Showing Disinterest/Ignoring/Making Her Feel her SMV is lower/Hiding your Intentions (3rd Law of Power)/Making her wond…
/r/askTRP22/01/17 12:18 PM
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My advice here is limited, but it's basically to learn how to cook. And cook a lot of different stuff with the same ingredients, just small variations. So even if you're eating the same thing it will taste different. Learn what you can buy around you that is good/cheap and learn to use it to the fullest. No wasting food. As for the fast food addiction you can think of it multiple ways: Your body is your temple. You'll live in it for the rest of your life, take care of it. You should feel disgust…
/r/askTRP22/01/17 12:16 PM
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This is how I see it: Showing Interest/Confident Iniciative/Clear Sexual Intentions/ Direct Approach When you see a girl you'd want to meet and you feel attracted to, go meet her on the spot. Make your intentions clear about why you are talking to her. This applies when you meet new people. This is you, going for what you want. Showing Disinterest/Ignoring/Making Her Feel her SMV is lower/Hiding your Intentions (3rd Law of Power)/Making her wonder if you like her This is for people (girls) that …
/r/askTRP22/01/17 12:07 PM
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Are you a girl? This sounds very feminine... I talk and get very close to peoples Ok, I don't talk much but I have close people with who I can just sit in silence and do nothing. I get close to them by sharing experiences, not by talking (this sounds very feminine) I am never satisfied I crave for more new people. Why? Never felt this... What do you want them for? Go talk to new people while not talking to old friends. Well, people make new friends and old friends grow apart. That's life. some g…
/r/askTRP22/01/17 11:55 AM
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I learned to respect ones effort: if I see you try, I'll respect you for that; if I see you make fun of people for trying, I will leave you. That's a really immature thing to do. And here we grow, become men. Rejection what fuels motivation (some of it at least), learn to use it to your advantage.
/r/askTRP22/01/17 11:38 AM
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Good one! I missed it in my comment.
/r/askTRP22/01/17 11:28 AM
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Use texting as a means to meet them. If you feel like you are investing it's because you are.
/r/askTRP21/01/17 11:52 PM
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For me and in the LTR context: parents divorced; no girl friends/most guys friends; tattoos(noticeable); Travelled the WorldTM ; needs/wants constant attention; father is "not a man"; smokes. When they say "I don't cook"...
/r/askTRP21/01/17 11:44 PM
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The best thing for that (worked for me) is to re-read this post written by you in 1 year after you've been around here. You'll see for yourself. Really, go read. And then go out and meet new people, learn from life. And come back here every day until you see it.
/r/askTRP21/01/17 11:37 PM
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I started seeing a tinder match This is for fucking not LTRs. she moved 100 miles away. I still kept seeing her. You shouldn't. She only had eyes for me. That's a lie. (Even if you tell it to yourself). She cut me off for a few weeks saying it was a sign she needed to be alone. When a girl is feeling bad and weak she goes to the one who makes her feel better, someone she sees as a strong person (maybe she had eyes to another guy). Eventually she came back into contact with me He dropped her. I w…
/r/askTRP21/01/17 11:32 PM
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What is going on exactly and what do I do? You need to read!!! A lot... You fucked up in many ways for too long. I would say there's no going back in this case but go read the side bar and learn from this experience. Start with The Rational Male.
/r/askTRP21/01/17 11:16 PM
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See these comments.
/r/askTRP21/01/17 11:12 PM
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A plate is as good as your ability to drop it. The effort to drop it should be less than the one needed to write the question: "Should I drop it?". Of course this is just theory, but in your case you shouldn't even think of her as a plate. Not before you have multiple.
/r/askTRP21/01/17 11:10 PM
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Fucking an ex is not really fucking, is more like getting fucked. Because you know you lost.
/r/askTRP21/01/17 11:06 PM
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Read my comment here.
/r/askTRP21/01/17 11:04 PM
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So did you or didn't you fuck other girls at work? If yes then she wants to know why you fucked the others but not her, so she teases you to get your attention. If no then your posture there is probably good (meaning you are an alpha in that context) and she wants your attention which is hard to get.
/r/askTRP21/01/17 11:00 PM
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The best resource is practice. No more procrastination, go and do what needs to be done.
/r/askTRP21/01/17 10:56 PM
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I think people in general self-sabotage in order to fail at their own terms. What I mean (and I hope to be understandable) is that when something starts to go well, the feeling of fear that it might fail because of something out of your control is bigger than the good feeling about it. And so you start sabotaging it in order to control the way it fails and to fail on your terms (less pain). I don't know if its clear. Example: a plate of yours is doing great and you feel that she would make a rea…
/r/askTRP21/01/17 10:54 PM
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(My opinion from what I've studied) It's conditioning. I'm the same way (not so much now) and I know when I'm going towards fucking up and leaving my frame. Recently I started dealing new friends who were not raised in the same culture as me (not western culture) and the way they handle girls in the same situation as me is really astonishing, they don't really give a fuck what they want/say. And it's not a matter of reasoning, it just comes naturally to them. I had a long process here on TRP to …
/r/askTRP21/01/17 07:36 PM
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that i should be pursuing No you shouldn't... You're your first priority, your career the second, women come in seventh... What steps should i take to better my life? The steps to the gym. Create discipline first. Should i start small or think about the long term? Start with "accomplishable" goals, small stuff for short term, example: next 3 months create a gym routine, work everyday just a little towards what I want, etc... Then after 3 months new plans: gain/loose this amount of weight in the …
/r/askTRP21/01/17 07:23 PM
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You're not giving them reasonable doubt. When you ask them over to your place without a reason as to why without it being fucking it puts the agenda on them and they don't like that. What you want to do is give them a "way out" of the responsibility. Ask them for dinner, to watch the cool stuff you have, whatever...
/r/askTRP21/01/17 07:10 PM
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Go for the one you want, its business as usual. If you want to use the less attractive one to get the other you should have them together and give attention to the least attractive so the other starts making moves for your attention (that's what the "books" say). Honestly I wouldn't use the girl, and go for the one I want. Business as usual.
/r/askTRP21/01/17 07:00 PM
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the guy can't find a girl his age as attractive that would be into him This is mostly it, as it was explained to you by u/lietruth girls at the 22 year range are not generally looking for partners their age, so the 22 year old guy looks for girls who want him and are attractive to him, i.e., younger girls (because of the mentioned reasons) and some 30+ year olds who still want to know that they can attract young guys...
/r/askTRP15/01/17 09:49 PM
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If she wanted a relationship with you she wouldn't find excuses otherwise. You're the backup she has at the moment, and you shouldn't have drop any plates for this, just made it worse. I'm not interested in spinning plates anymore What does that mean? Be honest with yourself.. starting something real here Even you see that you're not the first priority for her, you're just the backup guy... Open your eyes and see the truth. You know what to do...
/r/askTRP15/01/17 09:29 PM
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It's like he has a notebook with these bullet points on it: "A&A check! Kino check! no pedestal check!" Relax man. Have a good time.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 11:05 PM
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This is a really good answer! Add to it: acknowledge that you are not the number 1 in everything, but you can be the best one in your frame. Learn how to control your frame and pull people into it.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 11:02 PM
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Create value through scarcity. The perception that your attention is sought after increases it’s value – it’s when men are too eager to get with a woman that their attention becomes worthless Remember, scarcity increases value. It is written multiple times on the Rational Male, go read! Learn how to value yourself to the point where people ask you to be around and are happier when you give them attention.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 10:57 PM
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If she won't do it, find another one that will and keep this one spinning. That's why they are plates. Unless this is a philosophical question and not really about someone specific. In that case you have to make her want to take it, create conditions in the moment that will make her ask for it. Try reading Sex God Method.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 12:27 PM
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Don't give any emotional response. Use logic every time. And never talk more than necessary.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 12:21 PM
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From the age of 16 until where I am now, I had one moment like that per month (likely more on average), where I see a girl I'd really want to meet (ultimately fuck, but not the point here). At the time if I don't do it I will battle with it in my head, and it will eat me everyday until I forget. But now after many years, I only remember about the ones I did meet and had a good time with (even some of these girls I forgot about). My point is: don't give any importance to it. It's just life happen…
/r/askTRP14/01/17 12:16 PM
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If you're going to approach a girl with intentions you better follow up, otherwise you can just go meet her and break the ice and next time (when you're not busy) it'll be easier to go for the date/number/whatever you want.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 12:01 PM
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Well I can tell you that you already did. If you think like that, it's over before it starts. (...) Now that it's over already, why not take a shot?! You've already lost, so there's nothing to lose any more. Just talk to her next time you see her. Don't wait for the "perfect" moment.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 11:57 AM
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I know you're really young but this message is not age specific: If you see a girl you like to meet go talk to her immediately, just say "Hi, I'm <your name here>. What's your name? I think you're really [cute, pretty, ...]" Don't over think this, make a habit out of it and it will come naturally.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 11:50 AM
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Just an experience: go to news places and try to meet new girls and just try to make them "tell you to go fuck yourself". What I mean by this is that you seem like a nice guy, you should practice being an asshole. See what happens.
/r/askTRP10/01/17 10:35 PM
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Something I get from your post is that you've never experienced difficulties and hardship. You seem to have lived a very comfortable life (and there's no reason why not to take advantage of it) but I think your "lack of guidance" or narrowed objectives seem to derive from that fact. Try to have some experience outside your comfort zone. Make long trip (preferably alone), or if you can live for a few months in another country. Other than that, you seem to be "doing well in life". PM me if you wan…
/r/askTRP10/01/17 10:30 PM
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I didn't know about wife sharing... And you wont get your answer here..
/r/askTRP07/01/17 08:04 PM
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only her feeling at that moment matters No, YOUR feeling matter. If she invited you, it means she wants it... Go for it, don't over think this. And as u/The_BitterTruth say: "A plate is a girl you're fucking regularly"
/r/askTRP07/01/17 07:56 PM
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It might be your thing, just watching. Do you also fuck other women with your wife watching? Is this a swing thing or just the cuck fetish? I don't know if overtime your brain gets a bigger reward from watching then doing. Maybe the other dudes have a bigger dick and you'd like to do what they do to your wife... And this is not the sub to be asking this honestly..
/r/askTRP07/01/17 07:53 PM
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You got nothing. Don't make a big deal out of this. Just have fun and do what you feel is right. If in your gut you feel she's attracted, go for it. If you have to ask if you have 'a plate', you have nothing... And read before asking: https://therationalmale.com/category/plate-theory/ https://therationalmale.com/2011/08/19/plate-theory-2/
/r/askTRP07/01/17 07:47 PM
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Respect is when you value someone's effort. Respect is when you acknowledge honesty in someone's actions. Respect is not what you feel when someone is above you in any arbitrary scale just for that reason. That might be fear. Good question, made me think on it...
/r/askTRP07/01/17 03:37 PM
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It could also be self-sabotage. He can be afraid of when trying to "succeed" lose on somebody else's terms and be seen as the reason for failure. So he decides to sabotage himself in order to lose on his terms then to lose on somebody else's terms. But as you said, if he had stuff going on in his life he wouldn't waste time and effort on this drama.
/r/askTRP07/01/17 03:26 PM
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If you want to know why, you have to read and dig deeper into the rabbit hole. Start with this.
/r/askTRP07/01/17 03:20 PM
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(do what you want; be honest with yourself; fuck what girls think) Would I regret signing one of these to a girl? What would make you regret it? She thinking its ridiculous? She thinking it's bad? You looking less attractive? If it's one of these reasons then you're not being honest with yourself and you're doing it to impress a girl which then means you are giving her control over it and that's where the regret comes from: possible rejection. If you plan to do it seriously, just do it.
/r/askTRP07/01/17 03:12 PM
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Friendships with men are forged through experiences. This is the most important one: experiences. You can have the potential to be the best friend to anyone but you have to: 1. meet them; 2. share something with them. Meet them: not their names, favourite colours and all that shit; really know them: how do they behave, how do they react to some situations environments, their strength and weakness, how can they improve your life, how can you improve theirs, etc... Share something: do sports toget…
/r/askTRP07/01/17 02:48 PM
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Read Sex God Method.
/r/askTRP07/01/17 02:38 PM
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a friend that is good looking, confident and has the ability to pull a lot Good.. He says, 'just be yourself' Of course, that' s what works for him. When I was younger I managed to always have girls, and I always thought like that: "just be yourself", "be their best friend", etc. What I didn't know is that it was all wrong. It stopped working for me and I started to wonder where I went wrong, when in fact I was never right, I just had the confidence coming from abundance at the time which was lo…
/r/askTRP03/01/17 10:00 PM
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Keep it to yourself. Edit: Let me rephrase it. Why would you want to tell her? I feel really bad Deal with it. Never set out to do something your not prepared to live with. Women act based on feelings, not men.
/r/askTRP01/01/17 08:13 PM
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Why should I take any of this seriously? Terms like abundance mentality don't originate from TRP, they were constructed many years ago on other forums/blogs by people who studied this enough and had access to a collective knowledge (shared by the thousands of guys in those forums) who discussed it, tested it, and even found some scientific proof to back it up. If they seem wrong to you, you should find its source, and try to take your own conclusion instead of taking everything you read here for…
/r/askTRP01/01/17 08:09 PM
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Take care of your mind and body: read the side bar material, go to the gym, join a martial arts club, do some collective sports, talk to people and create your social circle. In sum: go out of the house. I didn't mention girls.... because it doesn't matter at this point.
/r/askTRP01/01/17 07:48 PM
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Well, because you've already said you two are finished you now should talk to her and clarify that you overreacted but you feel its a big disrespect and expect it to never happen again (because this is the first time). And work on handling your emotions, you should never react emotionally to these type of actions.. As for next/soft next (or other), do whatever you want really. Trust your gut.
/r/askTRP01/01/17 05:13 PM
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It depends on how you had set your boundaries before. As she done this in the past (before your relationship), or is it something new? If I saw this from a girl I just started dating I would probably say something next time we'd meet along the lines of: (showing the picture) "don't do this, I see this as disrespectful to me" without any fuss or emotion and don't argue about it. If it's a LTR doing it then the meaning of it can be a lot different. (context, context, context...)
/r/askTRP01/01/17 04:02 PM
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For me it's not about acquiring it, it's about understanding it, there's a difference: you need to know about your options, and treat girls accordingly. "it’s when men are too eager to get with a woman that their attention becomes worthless" - Rollo Tomassi
/r/askTRP01/01/17 03:50 PM
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You should not know their names, because you don't give a fuck about them. Right? Because that's how a guy with abundance in his life behaves, and how he sets the stage for his relationships. Did you ask her about them? Did she tell you spontaneously? If it's the first, then you should do some more reading and learning. If it's the second, then she is thinking of them and you take the conclusions you want.
/r/askTRP01/01/17 03:25 PM
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I am in a moment that I'm focusing on work and lift, so I wouldn't have time to go out and meet new girls What's the relation between those things? Do you prefer to put up with being disrespected than being alone for a while? You might be thinking this will get better or go away: it wont unless you take action, it will get worse. And by the way, focusing on work and lifting (i.e. your self value) should not be a moment, should be your life.
/r/askTRP01/01/17 03:15 PM
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If you are choosing to be in a "relationship" with her then you have to accept this and move on. If she sniffs just a bit of jealous or butthurt because of this you're done. Anyway, 3 months together, both are 19: just have fun and enjoy your turn, anything other than that its not worth your time.
/r/askTRP01/01/17 03:05 PM
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Because you are feeling unsuccessful and frustrated you are showing them that in your behaviour. Then can "sense neediness" in you. I recommend you to go read the "Plate Theory VI: Abundance & Scarcity" by Rollo Tomassi. It's not about abundance in the fact that you fuck a lot because that is the bi-product of abundance. Abundance refers to the options you have. And options/opportunities are everywhere (not just the club).
/r/askTRP01/01/17 02:53 PM
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When there is disrespect for you and for what you want when you made it clear that it's disrespectful more than once you have to go all the way with your threats: dump her, or cut contact for a while. The problem is that you probably threaten to leave her if she disrespects you but never follow through with your threat, and she'll lose even more respect for you. If she is disrespecting you or somebody else in front of you, don't be upset and don't show any emotion. Depending on context you can t…
/r/askTRP01/01/17 02:41 PM
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