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Probably one that is more nuanced than a series of kink references.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 02:27 PM
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I used to be like this and it’s still my baseline personality. They hate it in large doses
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/22 02:26 PM
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I wish this weren’t real but I can believe it is… only because I’m currently a foster mom to a 13 year old who has moments where she thinks this way. Because of abuse 😕
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/03/22 04:28 AM
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“I am learning that we have to endure abuse to be called queens…” Just wow… hits a bit too close
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/22 05:30 AM
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My husband and I had a friend like this when we were in college. She essentially orbited through the guys in the friends group. Initially I’ll admit I was intimidated by her because my husband wanted me to be more forward with my affections like her. Then she decided she was interested in him and wouldn’t leave him alone. We’re talking sexual harassment level behaviors, grabbing at him with me right there, etc. it was so disconcerting he told me, that if he had to pick, he’d take my less forward…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/22 05:28 PM
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It's actually even worse than what I put on here... The friend would come to our house high on edibles and would tell my nieces and kids about how her brother who raped her was still living at their tiny-ass apartment. They had left another state when the school district there was investigating the rape allegations. The father came into my house and I could literally feel him sizing me up, sizing our situation up... I don't know how to describe it, it was predatory. I never let my niece go over …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 04:28 PM
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I did actually…. We’re foster parents and have social workers in our house all the time. Also told the school counselor
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 02:43 PM
109

I think my niece might have been targeted. She’s in high school and lives with us. She has a troubled past due to her parents issues and is very vulnerable. She found a friend at school and the friends mother immediately became overly friendly with my niece. She gives her daughter edibles, the daughters brother raped her and still lives in the home. They apparently offered to let my niece come live with them when they move out of state. The mother was always wanting “girl time” with my niece and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/22 03:29 AM
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I think people who have experienced both sides are often disgusted by how disingenuous both sides are in their own ways. Conservatives make a big deal of protecting women from other men and then still act in predatory ways. Left leaning men claim to support female sexual empowerment but then use it for their own ends. Every guy I’ve met who was into lolli or ddlg was left learning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 08:13 PM
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When men become depraved enough, they don’t think about whether they’re harming literal children.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 05:36 PM
54

I don’t know… I’m a leftist economically these days but I have yet to run into a left leaning person who wasn’t pro porn to the max. Conservatives are a mixed bag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/22 05:35 PM
36

These women hold everyone back. Ok, so you’re a female coomer. Aren’t you special
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/22 09:48 PM
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Anyone who goes against the good mommy/wh$$re bangmaid will be cancelled and mocked. I’d say childfree women have it 5% better because they have more ability to control their own resources. Other than that it’s a tossup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/22 06:33 AM
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I’m starting to wonder if the last part is true… I’m not a perfect mom but I do get joy from their happiness and the relationship. It’s not mostly about social kudos because mostly moms are looked down on where I live. I’d get more kudos for an old fans
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 02:21 PM
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And said kid was probably two or under.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 02:12 PM
49

She’s doing the goddess’ work, that’s why !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 03:07 PM
43

In the current culture, I feel like we should institute the “would this get you cancelled if you said it about a dog” test. We don’t care about kids, we’ve never cared about women… I’ve seen men get super upset about dogs being disparaged and abused. (Same with pick me types.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 05:36 PM
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“It’s so easy to talk to you…” I’m ☠️ If I had a dollar for every time a guy said that to me when I parrot back their anti social bs, like it’s some great epiphany… I’d be a richer woman than I am now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 03:11 PM
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I've argued with men before and I always point out that they were the gender credited with having exceptional self control, better spatial reasoning, etc. for thousands of years. Following their own "logic" (yes they're supposed to be more logical as well), the question isn't IF men are capable of managing things, it's whether women are capable of doing things to the same level as men. Even by their backwards reasoning they should exceed women in most things other than taking care of children an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 04:53 PM
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This is a good point. Right now I’m the “rich” Woman in this scenario but I’ve also been damn close to where Alex was. While Alex’s situation is far, far worse, many well off women I know are only that way as long as they placate their husbands. Which… as we know can be a very precarious situation. I’d say we need to normalize helping other women. Give them the referral, opportunity, etc even if it takes a bit more effort. We also need to stop trying to rely on men for financial security, whethe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 04:20 PM
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I read the book and I don’t know if I can handle watching the show. It’s extremely accurate in terms of how domestic violence survivors are treated by the law and society at large.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 04:23 AM
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But... if they BOTH reimburse each other for the valentine's day gift... doesn't that mean the woman is STILL scamming him? I mean, he should be coddled like an overgrown child... or he's being literally abused
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 11:31 PM
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And sometimes it’s them rewriting history too… which makes it incredibly scary. As in you can look like their physical ideal but 20 years in (or 10), they want something else. Or they don’t like dealing with your very human needs/wants in the relationship. Then they complain that you weren’t the person they REALLY wanted and some pick me will come by to commiserate
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 02:06 PM
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Yes I have student loan debts that are a fraction of that and omg… he’d better be a neurosurgeon and obviously he’s not…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 01:22 PM
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Cue them lining up to try to wreck the relationship... just to prove they're right... And yes I blame the LVM more in this situation, but the women who do this are jerks of the highest order.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 07:26 PM
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But isn’t that a bigger question related to human group think? It’s a vicious cycle when we all view the behaviors that most personally enrich us as an inherent good. Maybe ask how much money is enough? How much sex is enough? It’s like we’re saying it’s never enough because a psychopath believes it’s never enough and has more than us. So we all create a world that doesn’t have the balanced, healthy relational aspect that’s usually built in to our drive for “more.”
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 02:31 PM
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this^ Most men are more aggressive than women even if covered up as being passive aggressive. Also I am immediately suspicious of any HUMAN who loudly and longly claims some sort of moral or cultural high ground. I’ve seen many self described “good guys” passive aggressively trying to cheat on their long term wives or girlfriends because they didn’t get what they think they deserve. So from where I’m sitting men compete with other men. Women can be thrown out at any moment when she stops making …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 02:18 PM
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It’s not a guarantee but men seem to at least think twice before marrying someone. They don’t place weight on kids but MGTOW has made them scared of legal commitment. Never mind that child support is a lot more onerous than spousal support which rarely is awarded these days. Tells me all I need to know about their intentions
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 04:11 AM
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I don't understand this logic at all. I would NEVER have a child with someone who wouldn't marry me first. EVER. Because I'm not a fan of the idea of being a single mom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/07/21 01:44 AM
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The red pill encourages them to date younger because they view women as a depreciating asset in a relationship. It’s to the point that, even by superficial measures, men will choose a much younger women over an objectively more attractive woman of the same age. Any focus on personality or emotional/social connection has gone out the window completely and did years ago. They justify it by saying that all women are the same, or AWALT (all women are like that). By that they mean we are all wanting …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/21 01:33 PM
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Tech bros are worse than the chads they hate. They used to be a good bet back when engineers weren’t worshiped like Demi gods. Now they’re one step away from MGTOW
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/21 06:04 PM
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He thinks he’s going to find some cute 20-something childfree pick me… she’ll understand how he’s struggling to “adult” and give him unlimited kinky sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 05:51 PM
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Exactly. And what’s his wife doing while he takes a break? Taking care of his offspring of course ! Gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/21 05:49 PM
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I have an ex like this… I’ve been married for 16 years and had to unfriend him because he wouldn’t quit. He still stalks me on LinkedIn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/21 10:33 PM
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This is the hardest thing to convey for me as a parent of two girls (soon to be five via kinship foster). My daughters dream of a kind husband who loves them. I’m over here having to tell them that most men are con artists. It’s sick and I hate having to temper their natural desire for companionship. It’s truly better to be alone than to be tied to some jerk who thinks of women as bodies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:14 AM
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Referring to women he’s slept with as “bodies.” Where do I find this Casanova ?! /s And they wonder why we’re not interested
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/21 04:12 AM
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I’m glad you found us, because even if everything here isn’t for you, having boundaries and self worth isn’t optional. I understand where you’re coming from, as I was raised extremely conservative and to be their kind of pick me. Far from an incel here; I married at 20 and I’m still married. My relationship has improved now that I’m asserting boundaries. Men who care about you will respect you asserting yourself. The ones who want to complain about women being less feminine for having boundaries…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/07/21 01:26 PM
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Is this a thing? My 11 year old has a very round face with high, round cheeks. She is upset that she has a moon face ? It’s just her face shape and I didn’t know she was getting this online
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 02:24 AM
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This is also what gets me... I mean... I can be simultaneously concerned that someone might end up dead, trafficked, etc. AND really irritated that sex workers as a group often seem to get a real kick out of sleeping with attached men. Even if a sex worker broke up my marriage, I would still not wish her dead. One human to another and all. I also wouldn't be applauding her OnlyFans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 06:13 AM
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Agreed. Funny how there aren’t any widely pushed messages like this targeted at women… it’s almost like we don’t usually have to be told that we’re supposed to take care of our kids and men think it’s optional
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:08 PM
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Having children is much more normalized in certain social groups. I was brought up in a conservative family and if I had had 4 kids back to back after I married at 20 nobody would have batted an eye. I had two in my mid 20s and now apparently that’s even young ? Usually in these bad relationships with a lot of kids the father is giving intermittent positive reinforcement and later claims he never wanted “all those kids.” The social community usually also encourages having the children but then w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 01:41 PM
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Omg I don’t want to reproduce with loser men… somebody start the Nuremberg trials 2.0. Clearly I’m a LITERAL nazi… Rofl And yes my husband is 6’4. They be mad about it. Further…. Do they really appreciate how the caregivers of disabled Individuals are treated? Do they see how little help disabled people Themselves get ? These same idiots will get offended and then turn around to blame the mothers of disabled children for expecting ANY help. We need to provide more support and compassion to disab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 11:30 PM
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No I've read it. It's purely about the manosphere and their viewpoints on women. Women who dislike other women are irritating but mild compared to what's out there on the men's side
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 04:18 PM
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I’ve heard men make fun of pandas because they won’t fuck to save their species... irony much ?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 03:54 PM
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Cunt, foid, gash, hole... it goes and on.., what a liar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 02:43 AM
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FDS would have been SO helpful if it had been around when I was going through that. There are almost zero resources for women who are in relationships with men who turn to TRP. The suggestions I got from my lib fem friends just made things worse, and it took me longer to set boundaries and stick to them due to the massive amount of gaslighting directed at women in general. They're still out there pick me dancing for men who won't even do things that would have been considered basic human conside…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:02 PM
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I'm not her but I did live through this. And yes he was actually what everyone on here would see as a HVM before the transformation occurred. And we were having sex on a regular basis at the time. He fit the description of the STEMengineer type who is successful, likes his wife, but is socially awkward. For him, TRP came about because he was having some issues connecting with people at his work and started googling ways to be less socially awkward, more accepted, etc. It tapped into a HUGE amoun…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 03:17 PM
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This needs to be pinned at the top of the page and maybe FDS could write up a more complete guide/addendum on the FDS manual. I lived this with someone who started as a HVM. Oh and dead bedroom/lack of creativity in the bedroom isn't the only thing that creates this situation. We were having sex daily and I was at peak libfem open-mindedness when he started in on TRP. In retrospect, he says he was 1000% driven by his own insecurities. It had nothing to do with me and there was literally nothing …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 02:58 PM
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Former conservative here: is it just me or is it really disappointing how many conservative men have turned into complete degenerate trash ? The thing that conservatism had going for it for me was the focus on community, family, self control and personal accountability. Where is that when these red pill alpha conservative men are crowing about all the women they pull? When some of the more deranged ones are on about white shariah ? That wasn’t the way things were when I was growing up. Wasn’t pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:11 AM
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They're worried that married women like me who have boundaries will somehow damage their reputation. I hate to break it to them, my critiques don't mean ANYTHING. The men are the ones who created this duality, Madonna/whore. So what if I'm the proverbial Madonna and she's the proverbial whore, we BOTH LOSE BECAUSE THE GAME IS RIGGED.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:21 AM
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Here's my two cents: there are selfish, self focused, myopic women in the world. Sex work Twitter is probably pretty well populated with women of this sort. It could be due to immaturity, underlying mental health issues, ignorance, or just plain garden variety selfishness... I feel for the ones who will grow out if it. Really they're just dragging the whole system down faster than it was already sinking. I will pursue agendas that keep sex workers safe, but you can bet if my husband EVER visits …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 06:17 AM
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She is a perpetrator when it comes down to exposing her newborn child to this kind of sickness. It's disgusting. It's already been said, but I can't imagine knowing my own mother sold videos of me being born to a bunch of disgusting degenerate slobs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 01:08 AM
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While I agree that Conservatives do this, the greatest shock has been the fact that Liberals are just as guilty. I was raised in an Evangelical homeschooling family. I'm painfully familiar with conservative control of women. The thing that shocked me was the fact that Liberals, who claim to be feminists, are using many of the same techniques to control women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 06:12 AM
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Geeze... so they do this to other men too? Wow. I'd encourage anyone who's on the receiving end of this behavior to just say "no."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:42 AM
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I saw this and it was... a little bit too accurate. Props to my husband for actually being the one to introduce me to it. We're not mice, I get that...but there are too many parallels to totally ignore.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 08:01 PM
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Yes... I was banned from feminism and breaking mom....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 04:27 PM
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I think you're absolutely right on this. They think it's just part of the natural order of things. Rape is only unnatural when it's happening to a man by another man. We see them as fellow humans, they don't see us in the same light.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 02:29 PM
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If they're true red pill acolytes they're expecting their new 20 something (or late teens) girlfriend to pick up the heavy lifting associated with childcare. After all, women are pretty much worthless unless they're having sex with you or raising your kids... And the wife was dumb enough to abandon that amazing position, probably taking half of HIS stuff. s/ Unfortunately there are overly empathetic younger women who will step into this role not realizing they're enabling a horrible person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 06:32 PM
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I see this ALL THE TIME. It's actually pretty disgusting. While I think there ARE good stepmothers out there, I've seen plenty of childless, much younger, pickmesha stepmoms who think their husband is hard done by. They push for full custody, take his sob story to mean the mother is evil and should be prosecuted for parental alienation. No... sweetheart... that's just the line he told you to get you to date him... he didn't expect you to actually do something about it on his behalf...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/21 06:24 PM
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Exactly. It makes absolutely no sense to me at all. Like... as a reasonably attractive average-ish woman in her 30s, I would never even ASSUME that I could call a random male celebrity unattractive without appearing absurd. Like seriously?! It's like average-ish me walking up to Jason Momoa and telling him he's got some pudge around the midsection... and too much beard. Absurd. If these men don't like a particular look, they can just follow a different celebrity and shut up. But of course they w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:09 PM
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Wow.... She freaking roasted him... Good job!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:02 PM
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Crackheads need love too... s/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:42 PM
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Fair question: the reason I mention compatibility is that I'm going on the base assumption that whether you're looking for a short term sexual encounter or your lifelong soul mate, you're wanting there to be a shared or compatible set of goals. So, when red pill men (or men in general) come at me with the whole "well you'll end up alone with cats" trope, it doesn't really hold a lot of weight because what's the point if there's no compatibility? (Actually I've been married since I was very young…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/21 01:21 AM
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Sex is a bit different for men and women, if your experience is standard. When men date each other, I think they seem to follow your logic. There are a lot fewer restrictions because the people involved are similar in their approach to sexuality. Women aren't another weird species, but what makes an encounter worthwhile to us isn't the same as what makes it worthwhile to you
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 10:43 PM
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Pretenders don't wait around. Players tend to be Machiavellian and don't want to waste their time. Narcissists have short attention spans. There's literally nothing for a man with short term intentions to gain if the woman makes him wait. She can "lose" in the sense that he might ghost her, but I'd argue that he probably would have eventually ended the interaction anyway once things weren't going as smoothly. He feels the loss of the sex, but she doesn't have to suffer emotional damage.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 10:42 PM
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Waiting isn't a game of win the coochie... It's about the fact that, for some of us, sex is emotionally important. I would want to see if there's an interpersonal connection before having sex. As a female, it's in my best interest, especially knowing that it eliminates 80% of the red pill strategists. We're not compatible anyway, as if I were single, I would want a relationship with a similarly minded man. Mutual benefits don't include acting like someone's fleshlight, and I wouldn't be asking t…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 10:40 PM
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But, then, if you DO marry in your early 20s... you get the whole, "well now that I'm established and since we're close to the same age I COULD pull better than you..." from men. It's all written into redpill philosophy. If a man can get a decent looking woman to marry him when he's in his early to mid 20s, he will be able to get someone who is younger when he's in his 30s and more successful. So where does this leave the woman he married in his 20s? Screwed over with a couple kids in tow. We've…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 10:33 PM
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Any time! (And I do mean that. If you ever need to talk, feel free to message me.) I think it's so important that we learn to prioritize ourselves, especially if we have children. Modeling these concepts for them can break 1000s of years of conditioning women to put up and shut up for scraps of male approval and resources. The recent downturn in male regard for women has just thrown a pre-existing problem into greater focus. In my mind, either we break free of this paradigm or women will end up …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 06:19 PM
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I am not in as bad of a situation as you are, BUT... I have a husband who had to change, to fix his own issues, and who needed to be called to the carpet for HIS BULLSHIT. Not mine, his. I was a married pick me without realizing it. I went down the whole ethical non monogamy, sex suited to his porn fixations, cool girl bullshit narrative. We had been married since we were 20 and we're now in our 30s with two kids. He legitimately did have a horrible childhood, and we had crushing debt issues due…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 05:38 PM
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Of course ! I'd like to at least see age verification (credit card) required for porn, etc. Utah voted to ban it but there are groups fighting the implementation of the ban. In other words, it's more symbolic legislation than something that actually has teeth. Which is a start, but I just don't trust anyone to do anything in a timely fashion. Utah has Mormons. That's the only reason it passed. I have a lot of respect for them trying to fight cultural corruption in this way, but I don't think any…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 05:18 PM
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If she's still a minor, maybe get her a pinwheel phone. It's a standard smart phone but with an OS that's designed to limit what they can access. It's not a perfect solution, but it's a fair sight better than allowing unlimited access or giving them devices where they can work around any controls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 02:16 AM
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Never ever have kids with a man you don't know well/aren't married to. EVER. If you want a baby and don't end up finding a man worth marrying, go the sperm donor/adoption route. They know that a child diminishes your opportunities far more than it does theirs. The only thing that gives them pause/forces some sort of accountability is marriage, and even that is a bit overblown by MRA types. (You'd think that women were just able to waltz in and wreck a guy's life if they're married with kids, but…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:27 AM
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I'm not sure why they think women get overwhelming amounts of support for things like this. I mean, sure, domestic violence is shown in a negative light on the hallmark channel or whatever other mainstream publication includes it.. But in real life, people look the other way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:07 PM
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I think you might be on to something here... I'm not bad looking, got married early/stayed married... I have a very low n count (1) in my 30s. There are some women who just exude sexual energy. I never developed that because, as I said, I entered a long term relationship early. Even so I still attract plenty of people, but the real "prize" these guys are after is someone who is somehow both a 0-1 n count and sexual in the way that an experienced sex worker or sexually open woman would be. I'm te…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 02:15 AM
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I was permabanned from the feminism sub and I was actually having a constructive exchange with a man there. They wouldn't give me a reason but I'd bet it's FDS.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 06:55 AM
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Chump Lady follower here too... She was my gateway drug to understanding boundaries and leaving pickmeville. I wonder how much overlap there is between Chump Lady, FDS, and anti-porn feminism... (Though Chump Lady doesn't explicitly say all porn use is bad, she comes pretty freaking close.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 04:00 PM
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Exactly this^ I could see the appeal/utility if a group of HV people (men and women) wanted to form a polycule (tribe?) to make their collective lives better. Raising kids, paying bills, doing chores, providing health insurance, and even beating sexual boredom could IN THEORY be easier tasks with more than just a nuclear family couple. There seem to be several issues with this, though. First, the men in the relationship have a lot more power than the women because they are getting their cake (se…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 03:38 PM
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Yep. This is what I'm thinking... There are quite a few men who will go along with getting a house, DIY, even having children and then will it around and say they resented it all along. Maybe it's the male version of having kinky sex you don't want to make your partner happy and then resenting them? I'm not sure. Point is, I don't assume that men want to play house anymore. Especially after reading FAR TOO MANY man-centric rants about how their ex FORCED them into a domestic situation. Men and w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 03:09 PM
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My husband was a broke 19 year old college student when he proposed to me. He used the money he’d saved working as a cashier at a local grocery to buy me a ring that cost 1100 in the early 2000s. It’s still nice today and I wear it. Sometime we’ll upgrade it, but if he can make the effort (he’s very money conscious) these guys can too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 05:01 AM
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I'm adopted and when I was younger I had an anxious attachment style. I've learned how to care about myself enough to have a secure attachment style, but these men can fuck all the way off with that. This is why I teach my very conventionally attractive daughters to NOT engage with this BS. So... there are two fewer potential targets on the dating "marketplace." It makes me smile every time I think about how pissed off it will make some loser. No, you don't deserve her affection for nothing...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 04:35 AM
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While I don't think these movies are "art" like some men do, I do think they speak to something in the collective male unconscious. Men feel victimized by the society that other MEN built. They are workers who exist at the pleasure of the overlords, the rulers of the proverbial Gotham... But instead of asking themselves what they could do to improve EVERYONE'S lives, they punch down on women, the group that even the overlords say is less worthy, less human... that exists to be the receptacle for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 05:50 PM
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Exactly... I mean it's probably because I'm married and have been since I was pretty young (20). But it seems almost like an afterthought or that wives/long term partners are expected to accept their partner seeing a sex worker because they're inherently not good enough. Most of the sex workers I've seen discussing this either straight up don't care or actively encourage seeing attached men. That's predatory because it's not an even playing field when there are decades, children, mortgages, etc.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 10:08 PM
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Agreed. I think it comes down to self hatred. Which is a really sad, sad situation. And I do feel for the men believe it or not... but I know I can't fix it for them even if I know them personally and my heart breaks for them. It's all about a sense of meaning in life, which can be a hard thing to create in modern society where everything is possible but also at the same time seems so pointless in the grand scheme of things. Everyone has to find a way through the ennui or suffer in the meantime.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:31 PM
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Yep! Also... think about this... men come on here (and on other subreddits) screaming about how women will end up alone if we don't go along with what they're putting out there. And the pickmes also parrot this line of thinking. You KNOW they don't care whether I'm partnered or alone. They don't know me; they don't like me... we're not compatible. So why go to such great lengths to threaten me with being alone? (I'm not I've been married for almost 16 years.) It's because they know they're sitti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 04:24 PM
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I've noticed a change in the overall dialog in the past few years... It seems like people under 25 expect EVERYONE to have a kink or two...and sexual compatibility is some song and dance involving lining up your personal kinks? It's weird. Kinks used to be niche things. Now if you don't have a kink you're odd.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:57 PM
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I'm kind of convinced that, on a fundamental level, society (the collective consciousness, whatever you want to call it) believes men don't have self control and WILL commit violent acts if they don't have access to women. So we're willing to throw certain women (or maybe a lot of women in this case) at these poor sad men to try to forestall what is seen as nearly inevitable. But we don't want to say that out loud, because it might anger another group of men and make THEM act out too. Nobody is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:55 PM
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It's called... if he can't let go of that particular kink to the point where he needs to find relief outside the relationship... WE ARE NOT COMPATABLE AND THAT'S OKAY. Full stop. End of conversation. Nobody is obligated to share their body with another person or to deprive themselves of these so called necessary kinks. It works both ways and no judgement is required past the point where you both decide it's not going to work. These advice columns want to force a square peg in a round hole (no pu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 03:44 PM
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As someone who has a high sex drive but a lot of self control, no it absolutely doesn't mean they're not interested. What I wouldn't be interested in is having meaningless sex with someone I barely know as a chance to prove that I'm fuckable enough to take seriously. Sounds like a recipe for those mental health conditions the OP was referring to.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 07:52 AM
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You're basically making the women's point for them... some of us temperamentally would rather be pursuing hobbies/things that bring us joy than try to shut our emotions off just to have sex with someone like you're describing. If most men truly don't want relationships and closeness, that's there prerogative. Women have few socially acceptable ways of expressing that they don't want to be rotated through a never ending harem, as that's somehow equated directly with being empowered. So it at leas…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 07:42 AM
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I can see not having an issue with taking a walk and having coffee to get to know each other a bit, but I take issue with expecting women to have sex within a few dates. I can absolutely say that I dated plenty of men before my husband and I was sexually attracted to all of them. I DIDN'T have sex with any of them because I don't view sex as being the equivalent of other bodily functions. It has an emotional component for me. My husband waited about three months (this was in 2004) and actively s…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/21 07:35 AM
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I'd say it's what you make of it if it's true. I tend towards an anxious attachment style due to childhood abandonment (literal and figurative, I've struck out with both bio and adoptive parents truly through no major flaws). This would trigger my husband who legitimately was avoidant due to a neglectful childhood interspersed with parental blowups. We both have learned to take responsibility for our behaviors and to communicate our needs. If I'm feeling overwhelmed and need to press a conversat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 07:12 AM
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If they're self aware and want to change, it can be helpful if they realize they're avoidant. For many reasons, I used to have a very anxious attachment style, husband was avoidant. We met and married young but otherwise have compatible personalities. Once we realized what was going on it took our fights from explosive and hurtful to far less damaging to both of us. When I see people using their attachment styles as an excuse for treating other people poorly I always wonder why there often never…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 07:05 AM
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Yeah they're basically talking about the entrance skin... and slightly inside... so women who have the extra stitch sometimes end up with a painful stretching burning sensation whenever they have sex and no additional tightness internally at all. The scar tissue from repaired tearing hurts bad enough for the first few months, I can't imagine having to deal with this as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 03:48 AM
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Invite pls!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:09 PM
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I think they have a really hard time giving up pursuing other women. They expect the early romance chemical attraction to stay for the duration of the marriage with no work from them. Further, porn usage makes that limerence period last even less time than before, so it's really a case of diminishing returns from a male perspective. Their whole conception of a "good woman/wife" is based on a bang maid paradigm and they believe women should be happy in this dynamic, cheering them on while they em…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:46 PM
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This is chilling because it's true... Wow. If I had gold to give I'd give it to you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 03:06 AM
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It's because they are all used to the paradigm of using intimidation/boundary pushing to get what they want and they want to believe that it's a normal part of sexual interactions with no repercussions. Most if not all of them do that, so they can all probably think of a time when a woman could potentially come back and accuse them of acting in a negative manner. This gets them all scared and protecting full on rapists like it's their job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 04:10 AM
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Things men don't consider to be rape/assault/intimidation but women experience as such: 1.) Forced sex in a long term relationship/marriage. 2.) Surprise anal/any other potentially painful sexual act that wasn't previously agreed upon. No it didn't just slip in. 3.) Perving on teenage girls when you're in a position of authority/much older. 4.) Discounting rape allegations because the woman isn't a 10/10 by society's standards/was drunk/had agreed to kinky sex with some past undisclosed boyfrien…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 04:08 AM
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They don’t want to hear that... and I’m not sure why. Clearly you’re not compatible with someone who follows FDS. If that’s the case, you’re not losing out... why get upset ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 06:44 PM
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I think the online onslaught of potential partners is just too much for a lot of men. They’re like a kid in a candy store. I’m not making excuses for them but it used to harder to cheat. It took more of a concerted effort and wasn’t just a slide from looking at porn on your phone to browsing tinder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 06:42 PM
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They are using you as a counterpoint to highlight how cool and fun they are. It’s competition based, not because they care what you’re doing. Alternately if you’re in a relationship that at least seems happy, some will make an effort to destroy it to prove their view of life is the correct one. Either way it’s crap
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:50 PM
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Someone point out the fact that the toxins in the environment are affecting men’s sexual development more than women’s. Men have smaller penises and much lower testosterone than their grandfathers to the point that lowered sperm production might sink the human race in 50 years. Sure there are affects on women too, but these idiots are leading the charge to extinction. There’s no wall to hit if you were never a viable sexual option to begin with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 03:45 AM
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I think for men physical attraction works this way and I think you should listen to your intuition on the subject rather than waste some woman's time if she's wanting something more serious. This is also why I don't recommend women OVERTLY pursuing a man who isn't really that interested in her. If he's not feeling it early on, there's no way it's getting better with time. As a woman, I have 100% been in a situation where I wasn't initially physically attracted to a guy and that did a 180 once I …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 04:35 PM
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So... what counts as an "evil heart"? Does the fact that, as a woman, I don't want to be passed around like community property and I strongly prefer a committed relationship mean I have an evil heart? Many of you assume that women don't desire you if we don't have sex with you almost immediately and that it's somehow manipulative to expect to get to know a man and have some level of commitment before sex. If your stated goal is to sleep around and mine is to find a life partner (actually have on…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/03/21 04:30 PM
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I did that once in 8th grade. NEVER AGAIN! Single most humiliating experience of my dating life... If they're interested and you give them the social cues that you're open to them coming over to chat, that's all they should need. Otherwise, they're the ones who need to go to therapy to overcome their aNxIetY. (Seriously, how did people function in the past? I no kidding have anxiety myself but working to overcome it is the key to achieving anything.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 04:20 PM
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It's how I met my husband... Circa 2004... He's not the most socially aware person, but he DID understand that much. If they ignore you, leave it alone. My mom taught me to do that to get their attention if I'm interested. You're not pursuing them per se, but you're giving them a chance to come and talk to you. I also met the serious boyfriend before my husband that way. All of them put in effort to talk to me/get to know me and both were kind of on the attractive but geeky side (that's my datin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 04:12 PM
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I mean... I got perma banned from the feminism sub because of posting on here... Ironically, I was actually politely asking a man who was responding to a post about porn what his perspective was. In other words, I WAS LISTENING TO A MAN'S POINT OF VIEW IN AN FORUM FOR WOMEN THAT ENCOURAGES INTERSECTIONALITY. The thing they accuse us of not doing. He was confused why my comment was deleted and actually responded in my DMs with an answer to my question. So the mod (who is a biological male, but I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:56 PM
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Freaking loops are the worst... lol Once you get the hang of it it's not so bad... Promise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:46 PM
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New-ish developer here... I was thinking the same thing... I can set a bunch of bots loose in Reddit??? Please tell me it's true!! :-D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 04:25 PM
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My husband knows I'm on FDS. Obviously I'm not here for dating advice per se as we've been married forever. He believes that women should have their own spaces and that the power dynamics between men and women are shifting constantly right now. I wouldn't raise a son to have no boundaries with how he's treated by romantic partners so why would I raise my daughters to have no boundaries? He's also someone who fell into porn addiction and it nearly ruined our marriage. With this context, and tryin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:45 PM
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Awesome to hear! I think that some men are afraid that women will treat them with disdain if they show us affection/basic human kindness. While some women might not appreciate their efforts, that's where men's boundaries should come into play. If men and women BOTH prioritize healthy, reciprocal relationships imagine how much better off everyone would be.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:04 PM
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Agreed. From a female perspective, it's hard to look at yourself in the mirror and realize that the message you've been receiving since childhood has not only failed to produce the loving, sexually connected relationship you've wanted... it's actively destroyed parts of your self worth and ability to function as a whole emotional and sexual woman. There's a lot of sunk costs. Also, when men do start holding themselves to higher standards of self control and introspection, they will expect the sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 07:00 PM
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That's why I'm not down with the whole, "If your feminism isn't intersectional it's not really feminism" when it comes to male people. I don't hate men, but I DO think that women have female-specific concerns related to the sex we were born as. My feminism IS intersectional when it comes to women from other parts of the world/different cultural backgrounds. I'm also a humanist, so I DO care about issues like the rape of men in men's prisons, etc. These are two different issues and are not mutual…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 08:57 PM
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Now that I think about it... The first time a male person scared me was when I was 5 years old playing on the sidewalk in the upscale neighborhood where I lived in CA. This was during the late 80s. A group of teenage boys started walking down the street towards me. They were huge and I was afraid of them. I hid behind a tree, not well mind you because they saw me from a ways away. They were between me and my house. As they approached, the leader of the group took out a very large knife and said,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:42 PM
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I had a 20-something express this same sentiment to me. She's never been followed, harassed. She thinks that the concerns expressed by an older female coworker about walking out to the parking lot at night by herself are paranoid and misandric. I honestly didn't know what to say... I mean... I've been married forever now and I am rarely alone because I take precautions when walking at night/in remote areas. That said, I HAVE been aggressively followed multiple times. Always when I didn't have a …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 05:36 PM
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They are also encouraged to take out life insurance policies on the man, or at least they were when I was growing up in Evangelical circles. That's one good piece of advice in a sea of crappy ideas. My husband and I have sizeable life insurance policies on each other to replace at least some of our earnings if we get hit by a bus between now and retirement (term policies). As for cheating... well... they believe they've found the antidote to that kind of "modern' problem. So I feel for the ones …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 04:39 AM
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Most of my actual hobbies/interests are very feminine, but there are a few one-offs where I am into male dominated things (think hard sci-fi, computer science, etc.). As OP said, there is no right answer to this hobby question. Men seem to take a different approach to hobbies than women do, so if you claim to enjoy one of their hobbies be prepared to be quizzed to see if you're a "real" enthusiast. Sorry, buddy, I have kids, pets, a life, and tons of things every day demanding my attention. I do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 04:26 AM
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This comment needs more upvotes! All the things they're advocating are to teach avoidant attachment style behaviors. And, yes, anxiously attached women will be attracted to this until they wise up/get a handle on their abandonment fears. I doubt someone with a secure attachment style would fall for the red pill nonsense. Anxiously attached men are just male pick me's, so it stands to reason that a strategy where they feel more in control would appeal to them. They're by definition constantly fee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 04:19 AM
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Well plenty of women I've known have had pain concerning the c-section scar area, etc. I mean I had textbook deliveries and I have some sort of soft tissue injury running up the front of my pelvic bone. If I do a sit up at the wrong angle, I have burning pain sensations and it's been 8 years since I had my youngest. There are juts a lot of things that can be messed up physically when you have a child. It's hard on your body even under the best of circumstances.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 03:29 AM
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I have heard of soft STEM before... Usually in the context of MDs, biologists, pharmacists, and some branches of chemistry/biomedical engineering. Basically anything where women make up a reasonable percentage of the individuals represented in the field. They then look for any mechanical advantage they can find to lower wages for the "unimportant" female dominated aspects of the field and focus on pumping up the male dominated parts. Consider: an OBGYN is technically a surgeon, but since it's mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:42 PM
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Yep. I'm pretty decent looking but I'm not insta model level. And I'm one of this "intelligent" women this guy claims he wants. He would totally do what you just described, as I've seen it happen to plenty of similar women in long term relationships. They're perfectly reasonably attractive, meet these geeks and get married in their 20s... and then when age starts to take some of the shine off in their 30s, the guy decides he can cash in his six figure tech job for newer, prettier options. CS guy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:39 PM
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Yep... I'm in computer science as well and I enjoy watching less than intellectual shows sometimes. (Think Tiger King.) True, the rest of the time I'm watching sci fi, documentaries, etc. but I still love me some trash TV. I'd like to see the average guy in CS make a case for why his preferences in shows (anime, Marvel...) are somehow superior to Tiger King. I'll wait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:32 PM
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Yep. This^^ I'm in tech and I've always been told I'm pretty smart (for what it's not worth). With the exception of a small subsection of men in tech who end up obsessed with me, I generally really end up pissing them off when I have one of these "intellectual discussions" with them. They want to sit and monologue at you while you smile, nod, and interject occasional affirming noises. I'm not mean to people when I debate (which is more than I an say for a lot of guys like this), but I do incisiv…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 08:29 PM
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Hopefully the new woman reconsiders and runs away from him... He's a whole parade of red flags and baggage
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:06 AM
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Yeah, see... but we actually care about our kids... so... yup
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:05 AM
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Oohh... and I bet as a firefighter he has life insurance... eaten by a bear is a great karmic outcome!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:04 AM
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You're probably right and I hope she dumps him once she learns what he's all about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:04 AM
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He's an idiot and I bet he hasn't even thought about talking to a lawyer about the financial ramifications. Literally thinking with his dick. Which will help her in the long run. I would IMMEDIATLY use 1K of that 15 to secure a lawyer and bury his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 04:03 AM
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They seem to always want what they don't have. I used to worry about automatically being in a vulnerable position because I married young and had kids... And then I ran into FAR TO MANY childfree female friends who were in their 50s or 60s who had their long term husbands or partners leave them once they went through menopause because, "I always wanted children and you never gave me any..." This is after these men invested years, if not decades, of their lives with these women who TOLD THEM POIN…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:59 AM
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Even in a generally good marriage, moms do a lot of image management for dads. Most men don't take to fatherhood as naturally as women take to being in a caregiving role. On a subconscious level, the wife realizes this and tries to create a good relationship between the father and the kids. She takes on the less appealing, mundane tasks associated with childrearing. It's like all those jokes you see on moms groups talking about the difference in quality of pictures dads take of moms with their k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:54 AM
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Yep. I can hear the screams of dIvORCe RaPe right now... They really do think they should be able to just up and leave their wives and kids without any support. Back in the bad old days, if a woman had a supportive father/brothers, this idiot would have been beating within an inch of their life. Apparently that's the only kind of consequence that resonates with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:52 AM
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Yep this right here... Her husband is probably a porn sick scrote. She's lost her new toy shine a long time ago... In a bid to be relevant to his damaged brain, she agreed to do OnlyFans. Things were going as well as one could expect when the other brain dead scrotes at the school found out... It's all sad and gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 03:39 AM
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I'd just leave it on 'read' status and then block him. No interaction at all, just make sure he knows you saw it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 03:45 PM
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I think social skills have taken a nosedive in the past couple decades. I'm 36 and even I notice that people younger than me have a hard time just... interacting for lack of a better word. It's almost like they're afraid of making eye contact, generally engaging in small talk/banter. I'm an introvert and I cringe initially at smalltalk as much as the next person, but there's really no other way to break the ice, so to speak. A stranger is just a friend you haven't gotten to know yet. So, yeah, m…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/21 02:43 AM
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Ooh I can answer this.... I have had some VERY pick me friends in my time... and the answer is "yes" because they think it will prevent him from cheating on them... (Sorry couldn't help myself)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:29 PM
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Yes. I like tall dark haired guys with light eyes who are on the thin to average weight range. That's what I ended up marrying... I also dated a short blonde guy and really enjoyed his company. I DIDN'T sit there and emotionally abuse men who didn't fit what I was after when I was single. That's just unattractive and unnecessarily gross. Who says every guy needs to meet my particular preferences? Guys don't seem to have any qualms with just being gross humans. If a woman who looks/acts like his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:28 PM
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Pretty much... People are allowed to have preferences/deal breakers. They DON'T have to actively be disgusting to people who don't fit their preferences. (Especially when they're being overtly racist, etc.) Signed: a small female human who would have met his criteria at one point and would NEVER have dated him. Because he's being gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:24 PM
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Having kids implies that someone out there let him get them pregnant... I'm thinking this guy lives with his parents or by himself and doesn't have an actual friends circle or any interesting pursuits outside of video games/cooming/anime, maybe all at the same time. This is why he's mad. He thinks he has social skills and really hasn't interacted with actual humans since high school (and even then that was forced).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:42 PM
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I think they're so delusional they don't realize that a date means something different than a hookup/casual sex. Only men who had a lot of "game," charisma, whatever... used to get ANY casual sex and it wasn't from every woman... just women who for whatever reason were into that as a concept. Men now think that women are running around having casual sex at the drop of hat with everyone but them and they're mad about it. No... I wouldn't be having casual sex with anyone and I sure as hell wouldn'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 04:36 PM
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As a woman I would say that you can certainly have standards, but when the average is overweight.... for men and women... yeah that's having higher than average standards by definition. All the same, it's not unreasonable to want to date someone you're attracted to. Just don't be the guy who does nothing to take care of himself and wants an extremely small, fit girlfriend. I agree with others who have said that you shouldn't advertise as wanting a particular weight range. Just put out there that…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/21 04:36 AM
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They ruined this otherwise polite tradition. It would be great if everyone helped pick up after themselves no matter what gender. Now it’s a sign of subservience
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:44 PM
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Yes I hate to say it but we need to bring back shame. You can legally do whatever as long As it’s consensual but not near me. Not in my house, my knitting circle, my book club. Go start your own
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:35 PM
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My mom passed away last year at 69. Not to scare anyone, but they were an issue in the nursing home. She was very into a dance related sport (to the extent that she was known world wide so I’ll leave that detail out) and had dementia. They were attracted because she would try to dance in her room. Before she was sick she would go to the gym and all the weirdos would be flocking to her. She was abused as a child and hated it. There is no upper limit on their attention
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:15 PM
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Scrotes complain why more women are becoming less interested in being traditional wives/mothers - I mean why on earth would be want to be? Even those of us who want kids are realizing that we aren't going to be valued, especially if we have a daughter, and want to make sure we can take care of ourselves first. Exactly this... I mean, I like being a wife and a mother... but you're ALWAYS potentially being compared to women who put themselves out there online for likes. There is no dignity in it o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 04:23 PM
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Well, then, Mother Nature is a eugenicist. What can I say?! Let's be real here, eugenics is HUMAN directed selection. Being attracted to intelligent, fit, competent, emotionally stable men is just nature playing out. They go on and on about wanting fertile women in their prime. Once we find a man and partner with him, we tend to stay with him. That's more than can be said about men who want to "spread their seed" far and wide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 04:05 PM
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Thank you for the gold!! :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 03:40 PM
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I have gotten off to it, and it’s intense. But I still stand behind the idea that it’s not something to be expected from everyone and what makes it pleasurable isn’t going to make it in a porn vid. I only like it in one position with a slow start. I can’t ride or do front facing and I have to be extremely turned on. So if he’s getting off to disrespecting me we’re a no go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:40 AM
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What? You don’t like 5 seconds of good touch followed by another 20 minutes of intermittently trying to stick a finger with unclipped nails or a dick in your ass? What’s wrong with you ?! s/ Sometimes I wish I were a lesbian, for real. I like men but their approach sucks
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:36 AM
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If I could give younger hotter me one piece of advice it would be: you aren’t just some young naive girl trying to make your way, you are sacred. Your body is sacred. Your time is sacred. you’re the embodiment of the goddess at this stage of life. If you don’t enjoy anal don’t do it. Men and boys worship at the alter of your sexual energy. Don’t let them come in and wreck you just to prove that you don’t hold power over them. That’s their problem to deal with. I’m glad you’re seeing what you wan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:32 AM
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Yep ! This is the message of the day. You can try something and decide you don’t like it. After a few tries even. And then never do it again. Some men pressure you to try it and then won’t let up until it’s a regular occurrence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 07:24 AM
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Ah yes the real questions for any prospective populist movement \s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:56 AM
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Yep! It’s questionable whether there was any truth to it at any point but the idea that they’re somehow anywhere near as masculine as their grandfathers is laughable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:46 AM
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This is universally triggering for men from all walks of life. Just read an incel on a leftist sub asking what Marxism would do for his inceldom. It's like... free mental health help, but I'm assuming he wanted the state to assign him a bang maid. They universally tend towards viewing us as commodities.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:31 AM
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If you do have a child with a loser, they'll be the first in line to tell you you're trash and you're the author of your own suffering. So which is it? Have kids with every random incel who swipes right, or be super selective?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:29 AM
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These guys are heroes in their own minds, for sure. I mean, way to prove our point for us. I personally was once upon a time pretty impressed with traditional men. Back when that meant being a good citizen, loyal to his family group, etc. Sign me up! (And yes my conservative upbringing is showing.) They can't hold a candle to that ideal and they know it. They want us to submit to them through brute force all the while crying "not all men" into their microwave soup for one. Bunch of whiners, all …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:25 AM
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Got a deleted message earlier... He was butt hurt that I expressed the idea that maybe men should be more open to letting women be courted by multiple men if they want their precious porn. Basically said I deserve to be single and unhappy. I'm neither, and no I don't screw around on my husband. If porn ever became enough of an issue in our marriage I would leave rather than date multiple guys because that's just not how my mind works. But the screeching and anger was pretty epic when I suggested…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 12:19 AM
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Yeah, what can I say? I'm just weird like that... lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:28 PM
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YES. ^^THIS^^ When you're in a long term relationship, there are sacrifices. The men sacrifice sexual novelty in favor of a deeper relationship with the female partner. Women sacrifice the rush of new attention from an interested man. Both sexual novelty and attention from other men are perks of being single. Women are expected to sit on the sidelines and become old news, yesterday's thrill. We are expected to watch our partner give other women the attention and focus that we once enjoyed and we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:17 PM
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They’re freaking triggered today... thanks mods for deleting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 05:46 AM
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To those who commented about stress and dementia: my mom was massively abused as a child. Her stress/ptsd reactions did make her more prone to dementia. Has been told this by several doctors. She did her best by him and he did his best by her while she was alive. My point is men can’t be alone. I like his new SO well enough and we’re on good terms. I’m having the two of them over when COVID isn’t an issue. He fulfilled his obligation which is more than most. Just don’t be like my mom and assume …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 10:17 PM
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This happened with my dad too. My mom died in August. By November he had another girlfriend. He did take care of my mom, but... yeah... They were married for 50 years and he was the love of her life. It's hard to comprehend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 06:54 PM
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This tracks with what happened when my beautiful best friend died from cystic fibrosis at age 33, leaving her husband and two small children. He was engaged to another woman within six months of my friend passing. My friend's younger sister was so disgusted with him she unfollowed him on all social media. She takes care of the kids frequently to keep her sister's memory alive with them, but she can't stand to be in the same room with her former brother in law.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 06:52 PM
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My dad did this when my mom died from dementia. To his credit, he did really care about her, visited her every day, etc. So I can't really be angry with him. But he had a girlfriend (age appropriate thank god) within three months of her passing. They can't be alone. Ever. I don't think my mom would have dated, at least not for a very long time, if he had passed away first. He had a stroke and her dementia was probably caused by the stress of caring for him in the first couple years after. Women'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 06:48 PM
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It’s about the fact that some men are sexually aroused by violence, power, and force. It’s not hard to understand and psychologists should know better. I work in defense and have had reason to understand the psychology of battle, violence, etc. there are books that are required reading for officers in some military branches. One is “on killing” and talks about the actual psychology of battle. Not every man experiences arousal at violence. Some have to be trained by repetition to kill (in fact th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 06:46 PM
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Once again, I'm sorry. And he probably was thinking about his friend if that was her "thing." What I find interesting is that men will scream all day long about how cruel women are, about how we hate and manipulate them. How we like "bad boys" who abuse us... But then they fetishize women who act out hatred on them. I might be totally wrong, but I think that women who embrace BDSM have embraced some form of hatred. Whether that's hating themselves, or men, or both. They're not making love, they'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:46 PM
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They're lazy, by and large. They want to be treated like children and pandered to sexually. Meanwhile, they aren't willing to help out financially at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:34 PM
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They're both trash, for sure. But if I HAD to pick, I'd probably choose the one who is up front with his lack of helping with certain domestic chores and is more likely to feel ashamed if he's lazy/demanding disgusting things. Or better yet have a good career and put up with neither... Ah, choices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:33 PM
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Male Partner of Sex Worker: "Buy me a PS5, bitch..."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:30 PM
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Thank you for posting this. And I’m sorry he did that. And I can relate. Some men are so warped that they can’t imagine having romantic fantasies or sexual fantasies that are beautiful, sensual, and involve a connection/touching that isn’t some kind of abuse/pounding away at an orifice. Best I can figure they truly believe that empowered sexual women want to be treated like the women in porn. And maybe some women do like some of these things. I truly don’t want to alienate other women here. But …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:05 PM
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I have always felt a bit bad that I like expensive vanilla flavored things (think creme brûlée at an upscale place) better than chocolate anything. Sure, cheap chocolate beats cheap vanilla any day but fried chicken beats a boiled chicken breast too...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:52 PM
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YES!! My thought is... if they can unironically try to dread game us with the idea of being replaced by robots... we have alternatives. And the human genome will be healthier for it. I’m all about choosing to be a solo parent with a sperm donor if a woman doesn’t find a worthy Partner. And yes I’d choose a chad. They spend decades choosing porn so one selfish choice that benefits the human race ?! No biggie
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 07:15 AM
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HAH well... I'm happily an FDSer and I'm raising my daughters to seek out high value behavior and nothing else. Men hate that too, teaching the next generation of kind, attractive, smart young women to not be pickmesha bang maids. Their anger on that point gives me life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 12:42 AM
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LOL I now work in tech in a very different state and environment. It's night and day. My coworkers these days sound a lot like yours and I'm very happy for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 12:40 AM
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This^ My friend from HS just got pregnant using donor sperm. The donor was a 6'5, blonde, blue eyed, fit former Navy Seal who was in med school and who valued family/community. I mean... you can't plan for every contingency, but... there are certainly options out there for those who want to use alternate means. The cost of the donated sperm and the IUI didn't set her back very much at all, and I'm sure the baby will be adorable!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:40 PM
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I used to live in the Bay Area, and you've never seen a less kid-friendly place. The technocrats love their poly lifestyles, MDMA fueled orgies, etc. It's like anime/nerd/weeb culture on steroids run by guys who couldn't get a date in HS but who are now millionaires. They all want to be the main male character from the Transformers series and are mad that Meghan Fox lookalikes weren't rushing to suck their nerd dick before they "made it"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:35 PM
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"give your girlfriend kids..." Nope, sorry. Give her a ring, a wedding, and then she can give you kids. Otherwise, you're just playing games... This is how you end up as a forever girlfriend. Don't fall for this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:32 PM
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While I don't TOTALLY disagree with you... Men do have a longer shelf life if they take care of themselves and have a decent personality. I think that men tend to assume that they're more charismatic than they are at older ages. Maybe it's the power of testosterone, I'm not sure. All I know is that, while there are of course exceptions, most younger women aren't being swept off their feet by the man's charisma at that age. It's usually his bank account doing the talking.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 06:22 PM
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First off... I DO think that men would be much healthier and happier if they would cultivate friendships with each other. There are seasons in life and most of us aren't 24/7 in a relationship. I have been married for almost 16 years, since I was 20, and I STILL heavily value my female friendships. Most of my friends outside of a few male acquaintances from work are female. When my mom passed away last year, my dad was socially isolated and depressed. He started dating his neighbor, and now has …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/02/21 06:16 PM
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Oh no... That hurts my heart and I don't even know your friend... When are women going to start getting angry and demanding better from these men? We've given them access to more casual sex than they ever had in the past, and this is how they repay us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:08 PM
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I can believe it. And I think they've always been like this. The only change is that, socially, we no longer have a viable model for a high value long term relationship. We see plenty of examples of the high value, "empowered," super hot sex worker. He can tout up paying loads of money for sex or sexual content because he can justify it by how "hot" the woman providing the service was. If he takes his equally hot long term girlfriend, or goddess forbid wife, out for a fancy dinner date, he's a s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:06 PM
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YES! Don't let men fool you... I've had this conversation with several men my age and younger. You know, the ones who don't want to pay for a coffee date. I made the point that men work towards the things they value, and they don't put effort or resources towards the things they don't value. When I made that statement, I got resounding agreement. "Yes, we know what we want and what we don't want... because we're strong, self assured males..." I then followed up with, "okay, well, then it makes s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:02 PM
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And for me it's the opposite position that feels somewhat okay with anal... and I stopped even bothering with it when my partner started pouting because I wouldn't do it on my back. Nope. Now you get neither... because what I want matters.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:49 PM
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Yes... Imagine asking the average man to enjoy prepping a woman for ANYTHING rather than just ramming it in? At least just ramming it in to the standard entry won't likely cause permanent damage. They can't even manage that half the time, so my new take on anal is pretty much a solid "no" every time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:47 PM
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Same... As in I can do it in ways that are mutually pleasurable under very specific conditions. And if I'm ever single again, I will NOT be telling anyone I date that I like it SOMETIMES. Why? Because I don't ever want to do that with someone who doesn't care about my pleasure and comfort during the act. Not worth it most of the time so why bother even discussing it. Men ruin their own enjoyment with their bullshit and that's not my fault (or any other woman's fault tbh).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:45 PM
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The confidence thing is dead on... I'm so tired of the whole, "you must be insecure because you don't want a threesome/to allow me to stick it in your ass every day until you have anal incomitance" paradigm.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:16 PM
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Also want to say... that I like this book because it’s not just about right wing women, it’s about the compromises we all make to ensure our safety with men. And how much of ourselves we destroy in order to do so. She’s also critical of the lib fem model and makes that clear too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:50 PM
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Here’s a link to a free pdf. This site has a lot of the major authors’ work for free. https://www.feministes-radicales.org/wp-content/uploads/2010/11/Andrea-DWORKIN-Right-Wing-Women-The-Politics-of-Domesticated-Females-19831.pdf
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 06:41 PM
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Right wing women is pretty amazing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 03:45 AM
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When I was in my pick me phase on this issue, the worst damage came from other female pick mes. I believed, like so many do, that there were all these sexy, secure, outgoing women and I just wasn’t one of them. I have two young daughters and I’m glad to see this narrative changing. We don’t all have to aspire to be “happy hookers” or repressed housewives. Maybe we can even find happiness in ourselves, but that’s what actually scares men. They want us to compete with each other
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 03:52 PM
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MANY of us do... but nobody wants to end up alone or be called a prude, especially as a teen or 20 something woman. If you’re a woman attracted to men and you’re young, it’s a hellish trade off. Now that I’m in my 30s, I feel like I’d be fine being single long term if something happens to my marriage/husband. 19 year old me couldn’t have imagined
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 03:49 PM
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He deleted it ! The shaming worked:!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 06:04 PM
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Yes! Makes you wonder how much actual damage has been done. Is it somewhat irreversible? Did we just drop a nuke into the minds of millions of men? Men from the older generation weren’t perfect, but what’s going on now feels like it’s an exaggerated depravity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 05:31 PM
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I was watching the LA nightstalker documentary on Netflix. In the first episode, the investigator was talking about a man they interviewed who had been following women, lurking behind cars, etc. that matched the profile. They initially thought they had a match because he had a ton of violent porn mags and women’s underwear with the crotch cut out in his house. The investigator said “we concluded he was a freak but not our freak (the serial killer)” I haven’t finished the show but I’m wondering i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 03:59 PM
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Yeah... ew. Just... no you little creep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 03:52 PM
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To all you young ladies... beware. This is the great prize, the bright future MRAs want you to conform to. Choose a man when you’re in your early 20s and you get the joy of being his ex in your 40s. Unless you’re okay with him cheating. If you wait to marry, worst you get is ridicule for being independent and;having pets rather than kids. And yes for some of us that is sad. But it’s better than this outcome right here
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 09:50 PM
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I feel your pain... UAE men are exactly my type looks wise but are so toxic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 11:51 PM
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My husband actually did this for me... (no he didn’t post it to social media.) and he and helps me dye my roots so I don’t have to go to the salon as often. He also spent Christmas break fixing our car to save us 2k in repairs. Not all men are worthless... hold out for a good one !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 05:26 PM
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We’re supposed to be his free fucktoy while he looks for “the one”. NOPE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 10:43 PM
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this^ all of this... when I was in middle school, I was awkward and had been home schooled k-6. I had crooked teeth and no fashion sense. You’d better believe guys preferred my hot blonde best friend to me. And it hurt. And I leveled up... so... yeah. I don’t like to see anyone hurt but men don’t give a damn about women’s feelings. Tell that bs to women who are Left after three kids and 20 years of marriage/because he NEEDS a 20 year old. Tell it to women with cancer who are left. Nah. I don’t a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 10:41 PM
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Oh I don’t disagree. I’m just saying that’s not always the case. But we’re allowed to have standards too. And you can absolutely refuse to date single fathers for any reason. Not like they’re cutting us any slack
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 10:15 PM
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I don't know... There are women who cheat on their husbands, act in ways that are highly financially irresponsible, or who become addicted to drugs and refuse help. I've known situations where these things happen (and no I'm not just listening to his side of the story here). In that case, so long as the man is taking care of his kids/obligations, I have plenty of respect for him leaving the relationship. It doesn't mean he is entitled to date childfree women or start over with a 19 year old when…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:57 PM
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I've been thinking about this whole concept a lot lately... Men seen to almost universally view women as you've said, a resource. Like a piece of property, wheat, oil, a commodity... I don't like trending towards being a biological essentialist, but I've started wondering if this is something that's hardwired. Sure there might be some exceptions, but MOST men are designed by nature to think of women as property at least in some respects. Another thing that further convinces me of this is the fac…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:51 PM
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See... It's your fault for having the audacity to age past 22 or whenever he met you... s/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:45 PM
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Like gee I wonder why someone might not be lining up to reproduce with a man when suddenly your whole value as a sexual human being drops the minute you have his child. Oh, and don't forget the part where he's still entitled to go seek out "higher value women" after you've birthed his child. Better dance the super pretty pick me dance or you'll end up being *cue sinister music* A SINGLE MOM... And they say marriage is just a piece of paper. Any more, marriage BARELY provides any security, but it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 06:43 PM
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I have a gold and diamond earring that I wear in my daith piercing that's worth three times that much. My husband took me to get the piercing done since I've been wanting one for years now. Didn't batt an eye at the price. My engagement ring was only 1000 dollars because we were very young (19) when we got engaged. I still love it for that reason, but it's not from a garage sale/pandora. (Though I'm sure my mother in law would have loved to have gotten a ring from a garage sale and had her son g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 08:26 PM
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I love this !! So true. There’s more to life... Also wanted to point out that there are whole religious beliefs that send women to die with their spouse. This isn’t a new construct
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:01 PM
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They have porn and unlimited access to hookup apps populated with pick-mes. WTF do they want? Before the sexual revolution they would have had to negotiate with my father/brothers for a chance to speak to me. Sure, the woman in question might have been between 16 and 18 at the time of marriage, but the bar was 100% higher than it is now. This is absurd whining from losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 07:13 PM
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I'm going to PM you... I'm doing a MS in CS, but it's early days... I could see myself really getting into computer forensics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 02:51 AM
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YAY you!!! I'm also getting a computer science MS. I'm currently doing other semi-tech related things, but I'm about to officially transition job titles. Since you're already doing well, would you be willing to share suggestions on what sub fields of CS are the most lucrative? I haven't run into anything I couldn't handle in my coursework/real world projects and I'm excited about this new path. Thanks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 03:20 AM
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I work in a field that supports the military directly, so I end up working with the same types of men. I 100% agree with you. It's easy to recognize/be impressed, even, with highly competent men. They're something to behold, truly... But, based on my lived experiences with these same men, I tend to believe that even high value men don't often see us as their human equals. They can come close, but they don't quite make it there. We can be honorary men in a sense. As in our competence is so painfu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 08:19 PM
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I'm in a male dominated subset of tech. Three years ago, I started to prioritize my female friends. I ran into some dead ends, but I met an amazing woman in her 60s at my work. She's quirky and highly intelligent. Doesn't take anyone's BS. She also happens to be a lifelong pagan, though she doesn't tell anyone at work. We bought a house in the same small town as her, and she introduced me to a circle of women that includes some pagans (so coven lol). We have a knitting group that includes all ag…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 05:09 PM
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I can't deal with most people like my brother in law for this reason... I've known him since he was 10, so he's as close to being my brother as you can get without actually being blood related. It's still exhausting, but he will at least have a real debate with me on these topics. From my experiences interacting with men, the best one can hope for is that they have been civilized to the point where their violent urges are controlled/directed appropriately. My early memories of my Dad are of him …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:58 PM
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Yeah... You're not going to change 1000s of years of male evolution to make them respect you. Hate to say. I think the social experiments we've been running since the 70s has shown that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:10 PM
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The reply I always get when I mention this in younger circles is, "Well if we normalize it that won't happen..." Just because it shouldn't be an issue doesn't mean it won't be an issue. They're too young to realize it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:09 PM
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While I love brother in law, he's unfortunately very much into the porn/rick and morty/tech bro/I won't pay for coffee crowd. I try to help him, as he does respect me, but it's a long road... My Dad... was a good provider. Took care of my mom. Loved her even though she had massive emotional issues due to childhood abuse. But he had a dark side. He could be... crass about the suffering of others. Not in an extreme sociopathic kind of way like we see online... just in a more conservative "they sho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:05 PM
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Wow... This is.. What I needed today. I'm saving this off. Thank you. A digression: my mom died this year from early onset dementia. She was my adoptive mother, but she was the one who raised me, loved me, talked to me... She wasn't perfect but she lived under the weight of needing to be perfect after a severely abusive childhood. So she taught me to be this soft spoken, perfect doormat woman. And I miss her immensely... I only really have my husband and kids as family. The weight of all the upc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:22 AM
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She's only 22... And this is so, so sad. I know how it feels to have low self esteem, but you MUST project that you have confidence. These men don't understand anything other than projected power and self worth. So, even if she isn't the hottest woman on the planet, the fact that she groveled and told him that she understands where he's coming from... She just made this so much worse for herself. If she can't see herself as attractive, he won't either. She needs to leave and go do something with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:02 AM
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Yes the wall is absolutely a myth, especially when it comes to their sexual proclivities. And yes we probably could make bank too... some women in their 30s and older do. They put the idea of the wall out there so that they can scare younger women into dating them/marrying them. Only to cheat on them when they're older anyway. It's a false promise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:31 PM
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This is absolutely true too. The market is being saturated and people have access to unlimited porn content for free. The student loan example is just to demonstrate that younger people make stupid choices with their futures all the time. Sex work is far worse for long term outcomes... but tell that to late teen/20-something liberal women and they'll shout you down like you don't know what you're talking about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:27 PM
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I have been married for 15 years. He loves me... but YES they are all more selfish than women. I'm sorry, but it's just a fact. My husband is, my Dad is, my brother in law is... They have to be socialized into civility with each other and with women. That's what older cultures mean when they say that women "civilize" men. Men are designed to want to conquer, expand their areas of influence, to ally themselves with other men in their family/social groups to secure resources. And don't kid yoursel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 04:17 PM
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This is.... something that really makes me worried for younger women who start an OnlyFans at age 18. No I'm not being a jealous old harpy. (I'm 35 but you know that's where some people will go.) When I was 19 I made a huge mistake and began taking out far too many student loans. I'm still paying for it to this day. If I had been older and my mind had been more developed, I NEVER would have made that choice. I see doing OnlyFans as a similar life limiting choice that a younger person could make …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 03:56 PM
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Nah... I’m adopted... and she should do what SHE wants to do. Abortion, keep it or adopt... but adoption is often the worse of both worlds for the woman. And he’ll leave her anyway no matter what she does
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:46 PM
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He’s probably pro life until he’s not. Grew up with these guys... and most of them are like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:44 PM
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Honestly I think he would leave even if she had a termination. So whatever she does shouldn’t even take him into consideration
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 03:43 PM
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See... I have sympathy for the 20 year old up to a point... but I see way more of a push to celebrate destroying marriages regardless of how it affects the older wife. I will support calling the behavior out because someday this 20 year old will be in her 40s. If she continues her current patterns she will enable trash men at every stage of her life, to her detriment and to the detriment of others. I can see where I’ve enabled bad male behavior and I own it. It harmed me and those around me. Nob…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 05:23 PM
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Actions have repercussions. I mostly blame him but if you want to act like I’m not, fine. When women contribute to breaking up marriages it materially harms other women. And empowers trash men. Yes the trash men are the major issue, which is why we encourage divorcing them, not giving them sex, our youth, our attention... anything really. She has time to hear that her actions harm her and others. The wife will suffer far more for choosing poorly and I don’t see most people feeling bad for her. A…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:55 PM
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People have agency. He’s the worst in this situation clearly but I’m not going to sit here and make excuses for shitting on other women. Either direction. I don’t shit on other women who have a more nuanced sexual past than me, and I don’t excuse the whole “hahah I fucked your husband” empowerment that’s going around either. If she has low self esteem she needs to learn to care for herself more. If she’s getting off to ruining another persons life, that’s trash behavior
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:49 PM
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Yeah that part's not great... I just like jewelry and animals. Carry on...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:29 PM
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I knit so an alpaca would be awesome! One of my close older female friends and I are thinking about crowdfunding a couple alpacas in the next year or so. We love animals and the fiber arts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:28 PM
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I want both... And I'm standing by that :-D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:26 PM
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https://thoughtcatalog.com/shahida-arabi/2018/01/narcissists-dont-always-suffer-from-low-self-esteem-malignant-ones-are-just-entitled/ Here's a start... It largely depends on the type of narcissist... if someone just has some traits, it's not the same as being a full on narcissist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:21 PM
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Eh true... I suppose... I just get tired of this disgusting attitude because I've been on the receiving end of a younger woman actively going after my husband. He walked away but her attitude sticks with me to this day. My kids and I would have been living in a trailer park at that point if he had taken her up on her offer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:13 PM
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That view of narcissists has actually been disproven, though it's not completely clear that the woman is ACTUALLY a narcissist. If she is... studies prove that narcissists don't actually have low self esteem. As another commenter already mentioned, it could still be low self esteem if she's just wanting validation for other reasons.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 04:12 PM
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Yeah... My inner crazy lady is voting to pull the whole damn bed out on the front lawn and burn it. Don't actually do this... but it probably would feel damn good for half a second
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 03:49 PM
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They can't comprehend having real feelings/commitment for anyone. They think that married women are jokes and make it their business to validate their personal choices by helping destroy other women's lives. I think it's overly high self esteem to be honest. Narcissists come in both genders.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/20 03:47 PM
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I would 100% view it as a red flag, especially if they are single fathers themselves or give single fathers the hero treatment. I understand and respect not wanting to date a parent if you are not parent yourself, but don't use single mothers as a source of commitment free sex. Men can't seem to understand why a single mother wouldn't be thrilled with being chosen to be their bang maid while they scout out the woman they ACTUALLY want to be with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 07:49 PM
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No. Absolutely not. Wow. If she's feeling charitable, she can donate it to someone/a group of her choosing. If not, she can sell it or keep it. Because it's hers. He can go fuck off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 06:52 PM
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I'm so sorry... I also did the bounce back in two weeks routine, but ya know what? If they want to find something wrong with you, they can. It's not you, it's them. I looked so good a random young guy stopped me in the park when I had my toddler and my infant with me just to tell me what a beautiful young mother I was. Idiots online who want to denigrate the mother of their children need to be sterilized
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:48 AM
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I've had two kids and yes it's gross. But that's how they are... unless they have empathy. The way I figure, as long as you take care of yourself, having kids just accelerates SOME negative changes to your body that would happen anyway. So if they can't accept it when you're in your 20s or 30s, they will be leaving you in your 40s for a 20-something even if you don't have kids with them. So, if I were single, I would look at every snarky comment they make and ask myself if they are signs of some…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:45 AM
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Right Wing Women changed... everything for me. Like Andrea was speaking my life to me beyond the grave. I was raised as an evangellical homeschooler with a patriarchal father. He was a decent person before he had a stroke, but it's not really freedom, is it? Neither is the current pro sex work paradigm. There are actually a lot of similarities and I've been shamed/harmed by BOTH sides due to my inability to perfectly embody their ideal. So... Read some Dworkin before getting too upset at your mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/20 04:38 AM
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Yes! Don'tcha' know that any "real" alpha male can ONLY get off with a wide range of 14 year old anime characters with a variety of hair colors and breast sizes? I mean, at 23 a normal western woman has hit the wall... s/ They don't want to take responsibility for the actions because that would mean they'd have to change. They'd rather feel like masters of the universe for no reason that's demonstrable in the real world
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:30 PM
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As if he has the self control to wait for sex... Hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 10:18 PM
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Dealing with their bullshit is tiring lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:06 PM
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Honestly... he looks like a weirdo. Don't care what he makes, I wouldn't date him. (And he wouldn't date me, so we're even there lol.) I'm fairly average in the sense that I have an okay face, a nice body, 35 with two kids... I work in tech and I'm married to a 6'4 high level data architect/developer who makes well into the six figures. Sure, I married him when we were both 20, but I have plenty of attention from six figure earning men. It really depends on HOW they're making their six figures. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/20 06:04 PM
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So the real "queens" are mistresses who are one click away from a prostitute? Women who marry deserve to be shit on? Great..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/20 03:09 AM
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I have a daughter on the spectrum. She's extremely conventionally attractive, smart, talented... And she doesn't see the threat in people's actions. I'm working on teaching her to take no bs from men, but she's very naturally trusting. Who wants to listen to their mom the rest of their lives, especially when a less than ideal man is pursuing you? She might be 30, and yes she's an adult who can make her own choices. That said, women on the spectrum seem to have even more issues than normal with b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 10:27 PM
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I work with these guys and married into a family that trends this way. Emotionally they’re children. Don’t be afraid to call them on their bs. If you push them even a little on their logic they pout and throw a fit like a toddler
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 09:25 PM
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Right ?! Rick is a broken person and probably knows it. His IQ is all he’s got. Add Dr House to this list. Broken narcissist/sociopath can never be happy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 09:23 PM
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Okay... so I like breaking bad, Rick and Morty, and dexter. But it’s while knowing they’re monsters who shouldn’t be dated. Joker, especially the new class conscious mentally ill one is interesting because he reminds me of men I’ve met. It surprised me initially when people thought skylar was a bitch but now I use that kind of thing to make the men around me uncomfortable lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 09:21 PM
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If she’s “lucky” it’s “just porn.” Gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/20 06:17 PM
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I’m like okay... so FDS isn’t the problem, it’s the solution. No more benefit of the doubt
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 04:35 PM
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I'm married. And yes YTA. And if my husband falls for someone like this, she can have him. :-D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:38 AM
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Um... no... maybe if you were in some odd throuple type relationship and you knew the other woman... but that's not my jam... so nooo... WTF
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 03:01 AM
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They equate "coolness" with being confident. As in... they believe that women are inherently attuned to being doormats. And by expressing your coolness (in the form of indifference to his extracurricular activities) you're confident in your place in the world. I can never remember a time growing up when I or my other female friends dreamed of sharing a man. All of us were relatively sheltered, emotionally healthy... and it just wasn't a thing. Men want to make us believe we're all dying to be in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:46 AM
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They repeat over and over again that college/intelligence/personality don't matter... because they say so. They care about youth, appearance, fuckability... What "they" never think about is what happens after the fairy tale ends. When they leave for that younger woman. We have to think about that. So of course they make fun of us for competing with them in what was traditionally their space. They don't want to admit that their commitment means only as much as it means to that individual man in t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 02:40 AM
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He has 5 other kids with his first wife who he chose because she’d make genetically solid babies with him. Made sure they were all boys via IVF. He then ignored them and her until she gave up and divorced him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 03:13 PM
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He looks like he’s 10. My daughters age... omg 😔
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/20 04:52 PM
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My mom was this size and build into her 70s... Let's try to be nice :-)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 07:10 PM
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Most teenage boys I've known have gone through an angry outburst stage somewhere between 13 and 16-ish. My brother in law is very intelligent, an engineering PhD student, etc. I've known him since he was 10. Between those ages he would melt down and try to punch my husband (10 years older) if he was told that he had to conform to family expectations. Basically, only my husband and my father in law could get him to do anything. And by "get him to do anything," I mean some male person had to physi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 03:07 PM
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I used to like video games, but now that I'm in my 30s and have kids I just don't have the time/inclination. Nothing against guys who do like to play them. My husband will sometimes play video games when he has some downtime, and I see nothing wrong with that. Personally, I just get a lot more out of reading, knitting, DYI-ing, cooking, and cleaning... I guess I enjoy having some sort of finished product when I'm done and I don't really register the same level of accomplishment when I'm doing vi…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/20 03:24 AM
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I unfortunately know one of these men in real life. He’s in his 30s and spouts all this bs. Hates his ex wife to an absurd point. His daughter is around 11 and he 100% has negative feelings towards her. She’s starting to have mood swings, argues with him, wants to live with her mom... normal pre teen stuff. He says she’s “just like her mom” who he hates. I will sometimes talk to him because I worry he’s going to hurt himself or someone else. I’m married and he has a thing for me, but he’s conser…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/20 02:46 PM
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So then they can tell you that you "forced them into marriage" when they leave you with two kids 10 years later.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 03:20 PM
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Thank you for saying this... I am not ugly (better than average body but kind of a meh face). When I was in high school, I made the mistake of asking a guy out. He was way, way further down the ladder than me socially. I just thought he was funny and kind of cute. He initially said "yes" to going out somewhere as more than friends, but then mocked me to his friends. Ever since then, I never asked a man out. Sure, I made eye contact and chatted with men I found attractive. That's how I met my hus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/20 03:19 PM
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They think you’re a prude or judge mental for caring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/20 10:35 PM
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Ugh I’m so sorry. The joker and Harley don’t make sense to me either so I guess some white people have their own version of this. Like... he’s a disgusting psycho
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:24 PM
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Yes and maybe. Men push and push to the point that women will sign up for this just for a shred of attention in a long term relationship. If they’re obsessed with threesomes only bringing others into the relationship either via fantasy or reality will elicit the desired response from the man. Very sad stuff and best avoided
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:22 PM
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Same. I can almost never finish my food unless the place is super high end. He makes me want to eat every single bite
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:07 PM
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So it’s not satire then? Because some of the memes I see that seem to emphasize struggle love come off as either satire or something that I’d normally associate with some bdsm control kink
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 08:05 PM
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Unfortunately, from what I've seen, there are plenty of younger women who will have sex with these old men. Sure it's probably a power trip, insecurity, etc. but do you really think that these men care? It's free validation and sex. We're talking about a gender that continually pays for sex with minors. I'm not meaning to be negative, but I'm at/approaching middle age and I've seen how overtly predatory younger women are when attempting to mate poach. Sure they might be pick-mes. I actually feel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/10/20 02:39 PM
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This really sounds like an excuse to be with someone who validates your bad habits. (Binge drinking as a plus, really?!) Guys who lurk on here should take note: this woman isn't encouraging you to be your best self and she probably has some underlying addiction issue that she needs to deal with before being in a relationship. But sure, take the cheap attention.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 05:29 PM
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Or just abandon their family without consequences. Nothing humane about it. Which might be the better option if the alternative is for them to murder their family Chris Watts style...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 09:01 PM
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We should... have a thread where we talk about dating red pillers. They're out there in the wild and some people's SOs are turned while they're in the relationship. It could be an opportunity to vent/compare experiences/ and maybe strike a chord with someone who's with a guy like this and doesn't know what they're really dealing with. I'm still surprised at how many younger women have no idea what red pill guys are all about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 05:59 PM
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I've been there.... With the screaming. Not something I'm proud of. My mind literally fucking broke due to his horrible behaviors. And then they smugly call you "crazy" and the pick mes flock to validate them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:17 PM
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Yes! I like witches vs. patriarchy well enough but I feel like a lot of them are sex work is work, etc. I am digging deeper into my family's pagan past and learning more about the craft. It's been very freeing to acknowledge the divine feminine. Let's do this thing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 03:12 PM
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This is... a very relevant point. I mean we know all this already, but I think the reality of what it was actually like is lost on a lot of us now. This is the world that men would have us go back to. They have always been entitled, and now they're mad because they can't continue to expect us to support their illegitimate children. They are the problem. Their entitlement to women's bodies and time knows no limits, and I think on some level most men know this and just. don't. care. Which is why F…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:37 PM
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If you devalue yourself... you devalue yourself to others. I hate that this is true, but from what I've seen people treat you how you allow them to treat you. And trust me, I'm not judging anyone for letting others treat them badly in the name of being kind, because I've done that plenty. It's not worth it, though, as they end up resenting you and thinking that you're not worth anything anyway. So have standards. Hold your head up and move on if they won't respect them. You'll attract people who…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:56 PM
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He's homosocial and trying to increase his value among his male peers. Apparently he thinks Hooters with their tacky throwback uniforms and crap food are the epitome of masculinity. I have to think that even if I were a guy who hates women that would fail to impress me. Hurrr durrrrr I made her wait while I licked the second rate hot wings sauce off my already grubby fingers...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 06:50 PM
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This is obviously disgusting... But I'm thinking that he's trying to sell some shitty ebook or other bs about his "success" with women. It's total PUA fantasy, right down him refusing to give her even the dubious pleasure of his company while they eat together. Pure hatred of women, plain and simple. I'm never getting married/seriously dating again if my marriage doesn't last/I end up a widow for some reason. That said, I am going to make my daughters absolutely brutal in the face of this shit. …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:05 PM
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This is such a disgusting attitude and it's cross cultures as far as I can tell. The pick me's really seem to come out of the woodwork when you are pregnant/have young children, so be aware... This is why picking a HVM for a partner is so extremely important. Other women will work your LVM's weaknesses and take shoot their shot when you're not able to give 100% to the relationship due to normal life things. They end up winning a piece of crap, but the damage is often still done.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 03:05 AM
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Yep! This is a whole other conversation... Cats understand boundaries and consent. They're not dogs and WON'T love you or even come near you if you don't treat them right. My cats are aggressively friendly when they know you and trust you. I always side eye men who hate cats (assuming they aren't allergic).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 05:02 PM
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I'm a Marxist Feminist thanks to lived experience... I don't like how the Soviets went all authoritarian, but we could do with some Socialism in our discourse, if you get my drift. Capitalism hasn't been working out so well for anyone and it's destroying the planet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:47 PM
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I got into a civil (it was Facebook) debate with a young woke feminist on a leftbook group. I didn't want to get banned for being a SWERF, so I kept it light, but I was asking honest questions about exactly how having an OnlyFans at 18 is empowering for most young women. She hit me with the idea that I was denigrating women and not a feminist because I was questioning young women's agency in their own sexuality. I am 35, but I can remember being 18. I had agency but very little wisdom. I was mos…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:44 PM
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He's the only one on that list I would halfway want to see naked if I wasn't in a multi-decade loving relationship with them. :-D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:34 PM
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Let's put it this way... My mom passed away from early onset dementia at age 70. She had guys hitting on her at the gym up until age 68 when she started having symptoms and couldn't really interact normally. My dad, 77, is now seriously dating a nice lady from his neighborhood. She's a former nurse, half blind, looks every bit of her age (early 70's?). He pays for everything, takes her out on dates, helps her fix her house, cooks dinner for her... His feelings for her seem to be genuine and she'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 04:25 PM
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That’s a good point. I’m not sure that helps much in terms of the actual sexual interactions though . Maybe some European FDSers can chime in here 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 05:11 PM
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I'm 100% for freedom of speech, so therefore I'm technically against banning TikTok. That said... couldn't have happened to a better app. I know that there are some inspirational women on there, but so much of the content seems to be complete and total trash.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 04:53 PM
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I think that women can also prude shame, for lack of better way of putting it. And it comes from the exact same dynamic as slut shaming. Women now shame other women for having boundaries (being a "prude" so to speak). Men are able to play both sides of the madonna whore complex to their advantage as long as women keep trying to one up each other by playing to one side or the other. So the wife is thrown out for the mistress and the mistress isn't acknowledged on holidays or in his will. Neither …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 03:16 PM
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Count my brother-in-law among those who think this way. He credits porn with his education on how to approach women in bed... I'm over here thinking he's terrible in bed and is admitting it without knowing it... just yikes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:58 PM
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The first time I saw porn was due to my fiance pushing me to watch it with him. It disgusted me. I tried to become more open minded over the years, but I really have never been able to see anything but an expression of men's hatred for women writ large. No matter what they say, it's NOT an admiration for the female form, an exploration of mutual sexual enjoyment, etc. It's all about him. She's an object being acted on. Half the appeal seems to be taking a woman who is conventionally attractive a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:54 PM
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I think more women than you'd initially think actually hate this on a deep level and don't see that there are any other alternatives. We end up policing each other for the benefit of men who won't ever truly care for us. Women in conservative circles have been doing this forever. Just accept who he is, love him through his problems, stand in the gap... whatever euphemism is being pushed at the moment, and you'll be rewarded by his love and devotion. Unfortunately, we can see from the conservativ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:51 PM
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Unfortunately, I'm pretty sure that what passes for sexual liberation in Europe is just men having more mistresses and their significant other being pushed to look the other way. It's a nice thought though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/09/20 01:46 PM
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This reality is what got me hooked on Marxist feminism. They deal directly with labor issues as they are experienced by women. Marx himself didn’t really discuss women’s unique situation much, but modern Marxist feminists talk about all the unpaid labor that went on to support men, even in a communist context. They’re also anti sex work
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:11 PM
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Uh oh.... guess the choice to hook up with HVM chad wasn’t such a bad idea. His 6’4 frame, will to protect his family, and superior intelligence suddenly seem like the smart choice not the shallow choice. Every day incels prove me right and I love it !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:29 PM
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Some younger women seem to have delusions on the point. you know this idiot would be badmouthing his wife to some 20-something who might believe him. He’s treated soooo badly don’t ya know ?!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 02:17 PM
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It’s a hard hill to die on, that’s for certain. I have always had an issue with my husband using porn , but for a period of time the liberal feminism mantra won and I told him i was fine with it. I also gave him too many sexual liberties, things he’d always wanted. My female friends cheered me on. So brave, so open minded... leaving my hang ups behind. Soon he spiraled out of control. Started pushing for an open marriage when we had small children and I’d never said I wanted that. I slammed that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 04:00 AM
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I’m almost at the point where I believe we’re all somewhat victims (hear me out) of consumerism and the technology itself. The over abundance of porn doesn’t seem to be making men happy. It’s an addiction and robs them of something they don’t know they need/want. Now as always women end up paying a higher price than men for men’s failings. (Look at what happens to women and children when men engage in war if you want an example of this that stands the test of time.) I hope we can move past our b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/09/20 03:56 AM
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Well the way the men talk about the women in porn, one might easily become confused. It's the only way the women in the relationships can cope with having their partner's shitty behavior rubbed in their faces.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 08:33 PM
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They don't want to be run over repeatedly for disagreeing with porn and/or they have convinced themselves that it's no big deal. I don't know if I'm the only one who notices this, but women are being pushed to accept more and more behaviors that would have been coded as cheating in a previous era. I've seen women called SWERFs for being upset over their husband or boyfriend giving money to sex workers for exclusive, personalized content. It runs hand in hand with the poly conversation. Nobody is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 08:32 PM
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Be careful though... All the radfem subs were shut down a few months ago. We don't want to risk FDS too,
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 05:49 PM
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Same. I work in STEM and all my male relatives are engineers, mathematicians, etc. it will be less than 10 minutes into a conversation with one and I’ll get a chance to test drive this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:41 PM
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It’s nightmare fuel for me, and I love/have kids, I’m an adoptee, and I was raised in a religious home. Abort both! It’s not even a question
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 04:46 PM
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Like I said, my issue comes down to the idea of genders to begin with. Which goes outside the purpose of this sub, so I'm going to let that rest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 04:30 PM
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I’m skeptical of the whole gender concept to begin with so you’ll have to forgive me... if someone doesn’t like sex, doesn’t feel sexual unless loved, likes one night stands with hot strangers... I don’t see why we need special designations. It’s... limiting and inherently judgmental of everyone involved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:46 PM
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Okay minor difference. It seems like they’re judging anyone who feels this way as on the spectrum of not liking sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 03:09 PM
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I freaking hate the term Demi sexual so damn much. It’s on the asexually spectrum, implying that wanting someone to care about you before fucking is somehow anti sex
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 02:34 PM
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Exactly this^ Because, even by LVM logic, once you choose a life partner, you're lowering your potential value to other potential suitors if he turns out to be a fraud. The more options you have, the more selective you need to be. As you know the men themselves will fault you for choosing poorly (a deadbeat, a neckbeard, a thug, etc.) and will bash you for that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:28 PM
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To his last point, a feminine young woman who is highly desirable is also more likely to be used by idiots like this. She's just a spinning plate to him. By his own admission, he's also dating her mom, her professor, her friend who dropped out of high school... There's literally no reason why that presumably ideal young woman should date this guy unless she wants added emotional pain to work through. Young women age into middle age/older women. If this is all some kind of sick game (we hear you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 03:24 PM
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OMG... I literally have a friend from high school who did this. She became a stripper/sugar baby in her early 20's. To her credit (and I do give credit) she paid her way through her English degree. She wrote a self published Amazon book about her experience sugaring for a guy who had four kids and a wife who had no idea. At the end of the book, she screws over her sugar daddy by leaving evidence of their multi year affair on his front doorstep so that his wife can find it. She believes that his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/09/20 02:56 AM
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Yes! I have noticed the same thing. The adults are often the ones encouraging the anti social behaviors. No, teenagers don't need to metaphorically know tow to every senior and adult in their vicinity, but the eye rolling, sarcastic lack of manners is a real issue. It seems to start when they're little and get worse from there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:52 PM
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Yes it's taught. To be fair, I have seen parents enabling bratty snark behavior from their pre-teen/elementary aged daughters. As in, the child is allowed to be super mean and nasty without any real social check. That kind of behavior doesn't age well by the time they're teens and we should probably return to teaching some basic social niceties (aka the golden rule).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:50 PM
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They really don't understand the concept of nervous laughter, do they? I personally laugh to try to diffuse the situation and get him out of my space. When a man interjects himself into my space, even to try to sell me something, I get an immediate sense of panic. I've never personally been raped or assaulted sexually by a man, so I can only imagine the reaction a woman with that background would have. My advice on approaching someone with a headset on, "Just don;t."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 02:46 PM
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To the men lurking: if she’s intoxicate and under age, it’s absolutely rape. I’d say the same if she were a man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 08:39 PM
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Men can be raped... forced penetration is a thing... but whatever
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 08:37 PM
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Yep
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/20 06:24 PM
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Totally agree. I’m a woman and I don’t inherently deserve friendship, sex, commitment, protection, etc. unless those things have explicitly been promised (see marriage vows). Even then i wouldn’t hold someone in a situation where they were unhappy with what they are/aren’t getting from the relationship. Of course unrequited friendship, desire for sex, etc. have always hurt. This isn’t new, and women also experience it especially when we’re teens. After a while you figure out the type of person w…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/20 01:21 PM
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Unironically... this is actually very close to the advice my great grandmother from the hills of WV handed down... if he’s an abuser and you have no recourse, well, just make sure you don’t get caught. That and if he hits you, beat his ass with a cast iron skillet. Men should be happy we can just get a divorce these days...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/08/20 05:23 PM
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Honestly... Until his comment I would never assume that a guy I didn't really know would go to that much effort to find me and whack off to me. It doesn't make me want to use my kids as a human shield (though good for him not being a pedo I guess?). If women knew this, they would just make all their personal profiles private unless they were trying to monetize themselves. Just freaking disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/08/20 03:49 PM
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Unfortunately I know a couple people who would volunteer... though they also would work their way into the marriage eventually, so maybe you’re ultimately right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:26 PM
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Mine unintentionally did. Unless I had married some sort of Mitt Romney clone, the level of blind support I was brought up to give was nothing short of setting me up to be abused
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 09:14 PM
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When you get into your 30s it’s either be conscious about what you’re eating and exercise or slowly gain weight. (Barring metabolism issues. My mom was 5’7 and 95 pounds when she was under 25. She struggled to weigh more than 110 at later ages but her thyroid was jacked up. Being super thin and unhealthy isn’t goals and she’s the only person I know who could eat like a man and still be that size.) Men need to shut up about things they don’t understand
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 12:11 PM
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You would be surprised at how brainwashed a lot of women are. I’m here because I was almost that bad off. Conservative upbringing meets modern porn culture induced bullshit from your male partner and you have a recipe for disaster. Also PTSD is a thing and it includes dissociation
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 01:27 PM
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You know... If a man can beat a woman half to death for his damn kink, I think you can indulge.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 04:51 AM
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I dunno... i will say that I know some women who are into findom, and they believe they’re mainstream feminists. I did not know it was frowned upon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 04:49 AM
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Yes we do get treated this way. Mostly by white men. I honestly think that men will take what they feel they can get from any woman they’re with. If you’re the same race as them, they know how far they can culturally push you. If you’re different they can fetishize you and you MIGHT get treated slightly better than women of the same race, but for the wrong reasons. (See white men and Asian women. )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:14 PM
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And some pickme online will eat this up.... that poor family man 🤮
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 05:08 PM
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This is a little bit too real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 06:23 PM
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The pick me deal has really harmed women. I also engaged in it when I was younger, because who wants to be perceived as a sexless bitch ? Now I see the full outcome of the cultural change and I’m appalled Women have a right to their feelings. We don’t owe men our bodies or our time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 04:36 PM
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Apparently quite a few younger men do. I told him that he’s absolutely wrong. Porn is fantasy geared toward men and has not a lot to do with women’s pleasure. Maybe he’ll listen. I dunno
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 04:35 PM
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They would make sex dolls and use the huge supply of porn that’s already available. And traffic women. Anything to not acknowledge their role in the breakdown of male female relations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 03:53 PM
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Weird thought but men were born with this thing called an imagination. It honestly never occurred to me that men COULDNT get off without porn. That’s not normal. Do you think men never got themselves off for the thousands of years prior to porn hub? It sounds like men are the ones with the issues on this topic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 03:51 PM
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Yeah they don’t care... the more I’m digging into the actual mindset of men 30 and under (and to a lesser degree 40 and under) on this issue the more depressed I am about the future of sex between men and women. Man don’t care and they want the least effort for maximum stimulation. I had a long conversation with my brother in law who is 10 years younger than me. He’s hooked up a lot with people in his friends group but hasn’t had a girlfriend since high school. He asked me why I have a problem w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 03:08 PM
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Um yeah... my kids are going to learn FDS or something damn close because this shit is unacceptable. The more women bring standards to the table the less we all collectively suffer.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 01:42 AM
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He’s actually the first huge red flag I remember growing up when it came to the hypocrisy of conservatives on this topic. My otherwise very faithful father had every excuse for old newt. Couldn’t figure it out at the time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:36 PM
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Exactly. I could never understand the absolute hatred for her that came out. If Hillary was upset with her, sure I’d get that... but Newt I cheat on every wife I have and leave when they get cancer Gingrich ? Wow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:18 PM
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That’s funny... i can remember assuming similar things when I was a kid. I didn’t know what a blow job was because I was super sheltered. When i was 13 I had a crush on my older friends brother who was the same age. She found out and was trying to make fun of me for liking her brother. She asked me if I wanted to give him a bj. My confused expression gave me away and i didn’t hear the end of my total ignorance for at least a year 🤦🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 05:16 PM
31

Testosterone is a hell of a drug...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 09:10 PM
100

This guy is a moron to think Ramsey of all people would be amenable to this bs. He’s an old school patriarch type. You know the type all these redpillers claim to be. Little do they realize that abandoning your mate and child with nothing gets you voted off the island in that culture. Effin hilarious
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/20 03:13 PM
1

First, I think you 100% do have options even if you're not super hot by conventional standards. It comes back to how engaging you are to be around and how high you set your standards for the women you're interested in. When I was single, I usually dated taller men but one of the men I had a crush on in high school was my friend's brother. He was 5'5 so almost exactly the same height as me. Unfortunately for me, he had more of a thing for blondes, so the attraction wasn't mutual. (That happens to…
/r/askFDS18/06/20 03:03 PM
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I'm still surprised by how many women have no idea how pervasive the red pill shit is... But welcome sister!! If you're a young woman dating this is 100% necessary information. They're looking for a victim (victims?) not a soul mate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 04:41 AM
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For some men it’s a veiled threat of violence or neglect. And then women are blamed for leaving their kid when he gets neglectful, is violent or cheats. She’d be judged for being a single mom if she leaves. Obviously leaving might be best but the social beat down is hard to ignore. That’s why FDS and woman centric feminism (not pick me feminism) are so important
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 04:34 PM
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Yep and don’t forget that some loser men are neglectful at best when asked to care for their own kids against their wishes. At worst they’re abusive/reactionary. Maybe she feels like she’s protecting her son...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 04:28 PM
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She was probably afraid that his resentment of watching their child would morph into neglect or abuse. She should throw the guy out, sure, but let’s not pile on her for making peace with the red flags screaming at her and what might amount to a lack of social support if she’s a single mom. Women are blamed if they leave and are blamed if they stay. I’d be shocked if she wasn’t from a conservative upbringing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/20 04:26 PM
11

Very nice! Everyone could benefit from learning how to carry themselves with self respect at a young age. It's so much more meaningful coming from other men rather than just the women in their lives. (Not that this isn't important but I don't think it carries the same weight later in life.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 10:32 PM
6

Love it !! Grimes’ mom is an mvp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/20 06:29 PM
113

It's all to build up his ego. He can't just go order up a random blonde. That would be too predictable. Instead he has to feel like he's dominating on someone who is just as intelligent as he is. He doesn't choose an intelligent struggling blonde artist because her blondness would make him doubt his worth relative to her. You're right. It is extremely nasty behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 04:22 AM
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This is literally what we women have said forever about ugly dudes. Maybe we'd all be better off if we acknowledged that being ugly doesn't make you virtuous and neither does being super attractive (halo effect). You should date someone based upon whether you can be reasonably (note the choice in words) attracted to them and also have a good connection when it comes to shared interests, personality, sexual interests, etc. Any other approach and you're asking for trouble regardless of whether you…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/20 04:17 AM
6

The more normalized this becomes, the more difficult it will be for women to actually push for a committed relationship. I don't hate women who do only fans or other sex work, but it's essentially ruining the dating market for anything other than transaction-based exchanges.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 02:58 AM
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I was arguing with one idiot in the comments who seems to think that her boyfriend can change. No he’s a straight up narcissist or sociopath. That’s not normal behavior, even in the world of cheaters. I swear some people are so open minded their brain falls out
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/20 06:53 PM
13

Troll or not, these types of posts irritate the hell out of me. I can see the point if he was legitimately coming from a place of worry about blood diamonds. However, there are so, so many options other than buying a cheap ring that will probably break. First, he could have determined if she was even interested in a diamond engagement ring. Second, he could have bought an ethically sourced diamond off the myriad of sites that offer such things. Third, he could have bought a high quality syntheti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/20 06:15 AM
18

Oh but you forgot about variety! :-D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 07:21 AM
40

I agree with this 100%. When men are insecure or immature (or both), they start obsessing on what they think they’re owed or what other men think of them. In that context you can be very attractive and still not escape his constant criticisms. It’s all in his head and he everything to do with how he relates to other men. You’re not even a person in that scenario. Men do have another mode where they just enjoy a woman’s company. Sure they’re sexually attracted but it’s on more human terms. Everyo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 05:37 PM
1

Eh... a lot of real men don’t make women feel desired either. But it’s a bit more core to our sexuality than it is to men. Otherwise we’d be paying male escorts. Im not saying it doesn’t or shouldn’t matter to men, only that it seems to matter less. I could be wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 09:07 PM
2

I don’t frequently read fan fiction (millennial version of romance novels), but when i do I don’t use it to get myself off. So there’s no heightened dopamine feedback. Also, I recognize that it’s ridiculous which is why i don’t read it often. 100% not something i compare my husband to. Sex toys don’t make you feel desired, so that’s a fail compared to the real thing for most women. I won’t argue about having many partners. I never did. What’s the point in being super attached to a man if they’re…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/20 01:52 PM
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He must have updated it then... gross... She needs to leave him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:21 PM
23

What’s the age gap? I was one of the first to respond and assumed he was, like, 22 at most.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 08:18 PM
15

Like doc antal in tiger king. That guy was pure trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 03:52 AM
18

That’s so freaking hilarious. Love it !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 03:42 AM
33

Ironically this is the kind of consequence that can actually affect young men in a positive way if it happens early enough. I’m in my mid 30s and I feel like my generation of women were too open to the whole porn/sex industry message. I’ve successfully argued with men my age that women who accept porn use would never accept it if they knew that many men use it as a way to not need real life women. Men don’t know what to say to that. It’s like their dirty little secret. Non pick mes who accept po…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 05:03 PM
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I actually came away from the post surprised in a good way (for once). Maybe the younger 20-somethings are getting the idea that this stuff is addictive and ruins relationships.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 04:57 PM
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Usually it’s in the context of spending time together, prioritizing each other to some degree emotionally. In other words creating a positive foundation of security for the kids. Right or wrong it’s not meant to be a situation where you allow the kids to die to save your spouse. I’d argue that’s selfish male thinking as I’ve heard men express that they could just “make another kid” if one dies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 02:34 PM
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Yes! My spouse and I have had this conversation before. We agree to save the kids first and then each other. Couldn’t live with the guilt otherwise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 02:30 PM
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As a parent... If my child’s father would want me to pick him over her, he’s not worthy of being a parent. Kids don’t choose to come into this world only to have pickmesha mom throw them under the bus for a man who wasn’t worth the sacrifice anyway
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/20 02:29 PM
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Being more cautious doesn’t mean we’re perfectly tuned in to who someone is. We also don’t magically know the future. Strong positive role models growing up help to choose a mate who will stay, but not everyone has that and its still prone to error. Finally, as someone who did marry young who is from a more traditional background, i will also say that the RP philosophy has helped destroy the dating market for young women. I have two daughters and it pains me that they can’t expect positive long …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/20 01:20 PM
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As a woman, I’d say no. Mostly because I’ve turned down some pretty hot “Chad” types because they were annoying. I was more attracted to some of the less conventionally attractive men I dated because of their personality. I actually ended up marrying a guy who is conventionally attractive and has a good personality, but I would 💯 have married him if he were less hot. Most of my previous boyfriends were and it wasn’t an issue
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/20 02:59 AM
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We do have a libido, it’s just more nuanced than a man’s is. We tend to approach sex more cautiously than men do because many times sex can end up being unfulfilling or even dangerous if we have it with the wrong person. That doesn’t mean we don’t think about sex or enjoy sex, it just means that bad sex is way, way worse for us than bad sex is for men. It’s hard to communicate what we want and men often really don’t care what we want sexually, so quite a few of us end up just trying to gain acce…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/20 02:09 AM
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I mean... sure if you’re talking material gain... For most women casual sex isn’t that enjoyable when it comes down to it. It takes work for a guy to give pleasure to a woman. A casual hookup who isn’t particularly attracted to you doesn’t care if you enjoy yourself. So even from a purely sexual perspective it’s kind of a losing situation for ugly women. As a woman, i feel for the frustration that less than attractive men feel about sex. I probably wouldn’t have sex with them, but I at least rec…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/20 02:05 AM
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They also unintentionally make life harder for every other woman when they normalize this crap (no pun intended). It’s frustrating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 06:12 PM
37

Yes ! My German Shepherd loves cuddles 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 06:10 PM
2

It makes sense to me why they would add people off of social media to give them a chance. when your options in real life and on OLD suck then you’d tend to want to get to know as many people as possible hoping to find the diamond in the trash pile. Also it seems to me that a lot of younger women (under 25) have fallen for the idea that these guys are just misunderstood and are being sold short by their current partner. After being put down over and over again by an ex, a random dude telling you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/20 01:29 PM
10

Same with me. If my husband dies or i end up single in other ways , I’m never bothering with serious dating again. It’s a mess out there and i have better things to do than be shamed for not being a porn star.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 04:08 PM
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Don’t feel sorry for them. They’re mad because they’re not banging a pornstar tier woman. Better yet, they want multiple super attractive women under 25. Most of us don’t fit that bill so they feel justified in texting their side pieces. We’re not the women they’re complaining about. We don’t even exist as viable sexual partners to them. I think a lot of this has to do with the young age at which they start watching porn. That’s their baseline standard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/20 03:55 PM
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Just like dating dysfunctional nerds (my experience), I’d imagine it has more to do with your available options than some innate attraction to gang trash. 😊 A huge issue I have with the whole red pill philosophy is the idea that teenage women should somehow know, better than teenage men, who is a good mate. I mean, have these people spoken to a teenager lately? They’re passionate about what they believe in, but they have no context
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 04:57 PM
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I’m the same way. I dated a few guys with the intent of getting married. I married the first person I had sex with when we were 20. I’m 35, so this wasn’t back in the dark ages.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 03:50 PM
3

Never had an urge to date gang trash, even as a teen. I’ve dated dysfunctional nerds. I married a functional, attractive man in a STEM profession.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/03/20 03:37 PM
13

Only some of the traditionalist groups hate birth control. But if there’s a surprise baby, the man is expected to suck it up and support his family
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 10:08 PM
2

Literally was about to post this and you beat me to it ! 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 05:17 PM
34

My dad was a patriarch, and he was a HVM, even by fds standards. I had an incel In my dms saying he was betabux because he cared about my mom. No... the man was a community leader, not perfect, but a whole lot closer to their ideal of masculinity than they (Incels/MRAs) are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 04:40 PM
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Yes... I wish I could upvote this more. I’m from an evangelical traditional background, and these men would HATE it. Think Mitt Romney’s clan without the Mormonism. The man’s whole worth is judged by how stable he is, how he treats his elders (male and female), and whether he’s someone you could trust your children/daughters around. they accept some level of deviance from their sexual mores when you’re young, but the expectation is that men and women will get married and “do right” by each other…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 04:37 PM
11

First of all... VPNs are your friend. I would never cheat but this guy is a freak... I like my cats and my dog better than the idea of being with someone like this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 09:39 PM
12

As someone who was adopted as an infant this sends me over the edge. Either that child is her child or she isn’t. Full stop. My a-dad was a conservative and made some racist jokes about native Americans before he knew I was 1/3 Native American. He was wrong to say those things to begin with and it hurt to know that he felt that way. HE NEVER SAID THOSE THINGS DIRECTLY ABOUT ME. Further he apologized later in life as he became more liberal. This piece of shit disgusts me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 11:29 PM
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It’s a barrier to leaving the kids biological father. Once you tear that bandaid off, leaving anyone else is a far sight easier. What’s the worst that could happen? You end up a single mom again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 04:44 PM
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I don’t think they’re looking to have children in a literal sense. They just want to leave that out there as a way of roping women into the idea that maybe they could be convinced to settle down
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 10:29 PM
3

Thanks !! 😄
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:48 PM
1

We both working while going to school full time and I made more than him. Neither of us had much anyway so it really wasn’t a huge deal. We’ve been happily married for almost 15 years and make many times the national average with very healthy investments. But thanks for being judgmental
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 07:15 PM
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Everyone has something they like to spend money on. For some it’s cars, for others vacations... it’s not greedy as long as you’re not being financially irresponsible. And it’s rude to judge what brings someone else joy. I pay good money to keep my hair long and looking nice. I also like having my house organized and easy to clean with two kids and four furry animals (hello ikea and whatever cleaning gadget actually works). I can’t stand people who judge what brings others joy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:24 PM
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My mom told me that the reason she gave my dad a chance was that he didn’t think twice about buying her a pizza when he first met her. Back in the 70s apparently cheap guys in college didn’t want to spend that kind of money off hand and would want to take her to McDonald’s. Their relationship isn’t perfect but he stood by her through massive emotional issues due to her extremely abusive childhood. We’re talking he went without sex for a year due to her ptsd issues until she got them resolved. Sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:20 PM
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These girls make me sad. I’m raising my daughters to expect effort in exchange for their time/emotional support. The ring doesn’t have to cost a fortune, but the man should make an effort that’s proportional to his means
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:15 PM
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Wow.... standing ovation here... My husband bought my ring for me using all of his savings from working odd jobs in high school. We were 19, and it cost 1500. It’s not the flashiest thing in the world, and he plans to upgrade it within the next 5 years when we’re through paying our student debt. Point is, even when he had nothing, he wasn’t cheap and zeroed out his bank account so that I wasn’t wearing trash for the next 20 years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 05:13 PM
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Thanks for posting this. My nine year old Daughter is high functioning autistic/aspergers. I was raised conservatively and I didn’t know what to tell her when it comes to navigating the shit show that is dating. She just assumes that everyone is nice and it terrifies me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:42 AM
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I have one that’s convinced that i was the one he was supposed to marry. Granted I broke up with him to be with my husband... but I knew at the time that I wanted to get married and he didn’t see me that way. I was just a temporary diversion while he was waiting for the girl he wanted to come of age. She cheated on him and divorced his ass. I’m still married. Sorry, buddy, wasn’t meant to be. I didn’t want to be a spinning plate then and I sure as hell don’t want that now
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 06:19 PM
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Eh... I don’t feel like she’s a mindless victim, but I’d bet a lot of money that her dad was a low value man with money. It just strikes me that, with her looks, she could have done better. Raise your daughters with self respect
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:37 PM
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Yes... it makes me mad watching it. Like she’s wearing four inch heels, is all made up, and he’s making her risk falling on National tv. This from a dude that uses her as a prop demonstrating his masculinity. She could have done way better
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 05:26 PM
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Hey Adam... yes you’re a low value man. And you’re insecure. Stop stalking this poor woman and get a life. She blocked you for a reason... OP: you know men don’t reach out for benevolent reasons after they broke up with you. He wants to keep you feeling small and insecure so that he can double back later and take advantage. Good for you on blocking him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 04:50 PM
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I doubt he was looking at scat porn every day when she first married him. This stuff is poison for some men. Like it fundamentally changes them. My husband watched porn starting at age 10 and I’ve only recently been able to make any progress convincing him that it’s damaging to women and men. He’s 35 years old and it’s only because porn has become so violent and so disgusting that he even has wanted to question it. So I can believe that someone could fall down that rabbit hole over the course of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:38 PM
20

Yes! We don’t know how far his fetish goes. She doesn’t either. He might be feeding all the people he loves shit for all she knows
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:35 PM
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It would be extremely hard to deal with that after being together that long. The cognitive dissonance must be massive. I’d at least con him into texting me proof that he did in fact feed me shit. gather as much concrete evidence as possible and see a lawyer. Get a picture of what life would look like after a divorce, if I could legally separate and force him to move out... Id also get a counselor that deals with domestic violence/abuse situations. I guess as someone who’s been married since 20, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 02:34 PM
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Fair enough. Makes me wonder what can done about this cultural trend. You can see how one genders choices feed back into the other genders choices and so on. Where does it end? Humans are miserable without quality communities and friendships. I don’t even see males and females having close friendships with others of the same gender. And I’d argue it’s a fair trade between men, not between humans in general. Women are resources for sex. Women can work too so the whole men providing financially is…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 07:41 PM
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Same ! I think the word is gross but apt description of how SOME men categorize a particular type of woman
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 04:52 PM
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I haven’t seen one neutral comment about the Bezos situation from MRAs. I was actually being nice and not bringing up the fact that a large group of MRAs also have an issue with the woman he took up with at the end of his marriage because she’s not 16-18 years old and super model hot. From an outside perspective it truly seems that you only see women as sex objects. You can’t imagine why someone with all the power in the world might have valued his wife’s support early in his career, or why he m…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 04:48 PM
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As a woman, I 100% agree with you. Especially since women can also end up paying alimony due to a spouse leaving/cheating. Men can’t lose any chance at companionship in the way a woman can, and as far as I can tell men are encouraged to trade up their first wife when they’re successful. I’m 34 with two kids by a successful man i marred when we were both 20. Back then he was certainly Lower in social value than me and I turned down offers from higher status men because i was committed to our futu…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 03:37 PM
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this^ 100%. I’d also like to add, how would you feel if he justified it using red pill philosophy. After all, an alpha male in his position deserves the best, most nubile young things and a wife his age just can’t compete. Don’t believe me, please refer to how all the MRAs were talking about Jeff Bezo’s ex wife. Hate to break it to you, but she is his looks match in everything but net worth. According to MRAs, she deserved to be cheated on and discarded, even though she believed in him and suppo…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/20 02:55 PM
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I think he’s 98% to blame. Mom should have said something to him sooner instead of making the daughter police him, but that doesn’t mean she’s primarily to blame. Men aren’t expected to self police so of course they primarily blame mom in this case
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/20 11:10 PM
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And then you realize that half the MGTOW/MRA types openly advocate using single mothers and not helping women who are being assaulted... I’d say the no sympathy thing is mild comparatively
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/20 08:31 AM
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I will have cats long after I’m unable/unwilling to care for a dog. I also love black cats. Guess I’m a witch lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/19 01:04 AM
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I have two main coon cats and a German Shepherd. I will 100% say that, if a man has an issue with cats, it’s unusually due to control Issues. They don’t suffer idiots. If you violate their boundaries they will bite/shit where they shouldn’t. I love my GSD, but she’s a huge pushover. Like a walking pickmesha. There’s a reason most men like dogs...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/19 09:51 PM
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And then if you do any of these things and break up, men somehow think you need to do it with them too. I’ll shame them for their kinks all day every day. It’s not like they respect my boundaries
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 07:06 PM
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Get him pregnant with a wanted baby. Then, when he’s two weeks post delivery, double down on chatting up other women on social media. Disappear for hours at a time trying to “find friends” (aka fuck buddies). When called On the behavior, tell him that he just “needs to find some friends” and to “stop being so pathetic and clingy.”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 06:12 PM
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This is so absurd... I lurk on here because I am improving the dynamic in my marriage using your ideas. When my husband asked me to marry him we were both 19. He cashed out the 1000 he’d saved working as a cashier in high school to buy me a nice half carat solitaire. He comes from a money conscious family so that was a big deal. I still wear it today. When we hit 20 years he’s going to upgrade it to a 2+carat in platinum. As long as it’s scaled to their current means it’s all good. I would not h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/19 05:22 PM
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