Calling out the LVM in tech!!

ciellavi · 2021-02-01T07:31:14+00:00

"Righteous resentment is poor compensation. Just go."

Truer words have never been spoken! What an FDS statement!

PizzaNo7741 · 2021-02-01T11:11:45+00:00

At best they have relationships with girlfriends that last a few years each before each one finally realizes he's just using her.

She'll ask the question he's been anticipating, but couldn't quite put into words or see coming clearly which is "where is this going?" A shitty, flailing attempt at still seeming like the good guy will result in him acknowledging the POSSIBILITY of them staying together long term, or reMAIninG frIENdS, and she'll finally dump him after years of focusing on a tech guy, instead of FOCUSING ON TAKING OVER IT FIELDS, like young women SHOULD be doing.

Pornruinedsociety · 2021-02-01T07:25:04+00:00

They hate and resent women, so they'll never give her anything she wants, he could have everything in the world but still take pleasure in taking from her.

EffectiveHoneydew422 · 2021-02-01T08:05:52+00:00

"A man timeline is a lot more flexible than yours" This so true.Most of the time we think that this mean just that older men have put off having children because their BiOlOgY allows them to impregnate a woman well into his 50s - at least thats how ive thought until right now, I just realised that, the flexibility of a mans life to have children is nothing to do with biology but EVERYTHING to do with how having children doesn't interrupt their life/ career/ body ability AT ALL. If men want children earnestly they have them young, in their 20s I know a few male friends that had babies quite young because thats what they wanted and it hasn't had any interference in their timelines career wise, because the mothers and grandmothers do all the heavy lifting in terms of time and even finances.

Men who end up having kids in their 40s dont and never did want children- they wanted as many sexual partners as possible and when they got bald/ old ugly the options dried up and they get forced to compromise by having a baby to avoid losing the last women they could possibly attain - because they are actually terrified of looking after themselves and living alone sans the one night stands they were accustomed to in their bachelor days. These men make shitty fathers and will be prone to cheating at any opportunity - hello babysitter - TLRD just realised if you want children- have them with a young man, if he wants kids, he wants kids.

KAT_85 · 2021-02-01T18:32:01+00:00

"give your girlfriend kids..."

Nope, sorry. Give her a ring, a wedding, and then she can give you kids. Otherwise, you're just playing games... This is how you end up as a forever girlfriend. Don't fall for this

tallwomenneedlovetoo · 2021-02-01T15:56:01+00:00

It’s crazy to me that this is such a big thing in some tech circles. As far as high earning careers, tech is probably my #1 or #2 pick for a husband and father. My husband has been in the tech industry for around 10 years; they’ve got great pay, great benefits, dependable 9-6 hours, and fabulous work-life balance (30+ days of PTO p/year!!!)

I could see how it could allure scummy dudes as independent contractors, but all my husband’s coworkers are pretty similar as family men, 2.5 kids, pictures of their wives on their desks, taking off early to see plays and very minimal fraternizing outside of work. I’m guessing men are most like this in tech hub cities with sky high COL and a thriving young professional scene, like SF and Austin?

2021-02-01T09:45:53+00:00

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musicallymirrored · 2021-02-01T13:38:42+00:00

This post triggered me. 😂 (I am laughing so I don’t cry.)

My husband is in this field. You can see my comment history for his views on children. This past Christmas he scheduled a vasectomy reversal for this spring because he knows I desperately want a baby and I don’t have that many years left. A Catholic priest said it would be immoral and unconscionable for us to have a child together...which is a rather shocking thing for a priest to tell a married couple. It about sums up how much value is being brought to the table though by this tech guy. 😑

Thing is, at my age, by the time I would be free to marry again between divorce and annulment, I will be too old to realistically have a good shot at having a family life with someone else.

The resentment is real and I should have broken off the engagement when he got the vasectomy. But it was just a few months before the wedding (which was paid for) and we were in process of a relocation and home purchase. While I was devastated, I didn’t feel like backing out then was going to improve the immediate quality of my life. I’m still not sure that it would have at that point. The resentment is impossible to shake though. Towards him and myself.

jjlew922 · 2021-02-02T00:37:05+00:00

I had a short stint in tech and I was blown away by how much these men are cry baby Peter Pans who have learned how to emotionally manipulate and gaslight even women and themselves. I was even more blown away at the proportion of such men who were married to go-getter women more successful than them. And then it all made sense when I got to see them in a more intimate setting with their wives = their therapist and mommy🤢

PizzaNo7741 · 2021-02-01T18:23:14+00:00

Hmmmmm should I force a convo with my interest of a few years by sending him this and asking what he thinks.....?

PizzaNo7741 · 2021-02-02T07:21:49+00:00

It's a story, just covid getting in the way of our lives

Title	Calling out the LVM in tech!!
Author	ciellavi
Upvotes	595
Comments	45
Date	February 1, 2021 7:21 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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