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| 3 | Why do you care what men masturbate to?But your release of dopamine from the brain is similar, you’re bonding with you essentially your hand watching a false reality to get off va with someone else | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 12:25 AM |
| 4 | Why do you care what men masturbate to?I question this. If a man (or woman for that matter) watches porn and the brain is wired to that for 10+ years, couldn’t we logically and hypothetically say that’s worse than casual sex for 2-3 years? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/02/24 12:24 AM |
| 1 | Guys, it’s actually weird to be willing to sleep with any woman that is attractiveA very based response, thank you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 01:01 AM |
| 3 | Guys, it’s actually weird to be willing to sleep with any woman that is attractiveReally? If you get to know someone and you can be goofy, fun, etc outside of the bedroom, because that’s who you are, how wouldn’t that translate into the bedroom? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 01:00 AM |
| 3 | Guys, it’s actually weird to be willing to sleep with any woman that is attractiveAre you sure this was written by a woman? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 12:57 AM |
| 3 | Guys, it’s actually weird to be willing to sleep with any woman that is attractiveYea said no man ever “it makes me feel uncomfortable to think sexual things with a woman “ 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 12:53 AM |
| 2 | Guys, it’s actually weird to be willing to sleep with any woman that is attractivePost actually sounds like a 🤖. I get the intention of the post, but the wording is too repetitive and inauthentic without examples. What is the “female brain”? Curious to hear that explanation created by a man I’m sure……..or a 🤖?? 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/10/23 12:52 AM |
| 1 | What can restore the divide between men and women in America?I see what you’re saying but pinpointing the issue to hypergamy is low hanging fruit. Its certainly sad that the resources we must compete for is money and women finally being able to earn it and play the field now becomes an issue. In the end, the traditional values of a financially dependent woman isn’t even possible today, let’s be real. So whose fault is it? In the end, we’re all suffering. It’s gonna take a collective coming together to on a structural level, and we don’t raise families any… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 04:00 AM |
| 0 | What can restore the divide between men and women in America?I see what you’re saying but pinpointing the issue to hypergamy is low hanging fruit. Its certainly sad that the resources we must compete for is money and women finally being able to earn it and play the field now becomes an issue. In the end, the traditional values of a financially dependent woman isn’t even possible today, let’s be real. So whose fault is it? In the end, we’re all suffering. It’s gonna take a collective coming together to on a structural level, and we don’t raise families any… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 04:00 AM |
| -1 | What can restore the divide between men and women in America?Nothing significant can come when we blame the other sex for our woes. Real or believed, we create the reality we chose. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/03/23 03:48 AM |
| 3 | ladies, how do you feel about the idea of being a stay at home mother and housewifeI’m a SHAM right now and it’s hands down the hardest job I have ever had. Previously corporate sales executive, managing teams, selling multimillion dollar contracts. You are 24/7 on the clock. You are dealing with tiny humans who constantly need recorrecting, coaxing, attention. At the end of a long day you just want some peace and quiet but by the time you have a chance for that you’re too emotionally, physically and mentally exhausted. I commend the women who do it and enjoy it. I don’t think… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/03/23 08:19 PM |
| 4 | Many Women Are Still Peak Beauty at 30-35So bizarre and I wonder given it’s ppd and all, is there not some projection where men feel once women hit a certain age they should be garbage but men they themselves are feeling inadequate with some hope they’ll be 40s+ and it will all change? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/02/23 03:21 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: Would you want to be a man given the choice?So this is a study on what…autistic men? I could also give you a study women are the root in the intelligence of their offspring https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5800314/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 05:43 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: Would you want to be a man given the choice?Honestly my dude not much more worth my energy except to say superlatives without empirical proof is opinion. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 03:29 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Would you want to be a man given the choice?😅. And you’re inherently a man so can only think from your penis. Your ability to self-reflect and be logical is impossible as you’re directed by your hormones. Does that help for you to see how irrational your claim on vanity is? Regardless, best of luck to you dude, I hope you come to realize people are not black and white in the end. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 03:06 AM |
| 8 | QuestionYup. And I think it’s owning as women our sexuality is healthy and not having those needs met are just as important as a mans. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 02:59 AM |
| 6 | QuestionProbably not, let’s be real. What woman wants to continually instruct a man how it feels good? Some men are probably too far gone to connect. I’ve seen this moreso with women who don’t actually care so much for sex too so who knows 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 02:20 AM |
| 1 | Q4W: Would you want to be a man given the choice?What a weird question, hardly ever I’m chasing around an infant and a toddler then a pre-teen before/after school 😅. If you’re dealing with vain people in your life, you can change that. You decide what’s healthy and right for you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/02/23 02:10 AM |
| 0 | Q4W: Would you want to be a man given the choice?How? What stats have you seen as such? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/23 03:58 AM |
| 4 | Q4W: Would you want to be a man given the choice?Better in what way? I think if you walked around constantly knowing you have to protect yourself from your opposite gender who commits 80% of crimes you’d sorta maybe think about the 80/20 principal? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/23 03:39 AM |
| 2 | Q4W: Would you want to be a man given the choice?No, but I have thought about how would it be if I was born such. Would things be easier (athletics) or other things harder (social emotional support)? How would I have fit-in in the locker room? Or would I have been more of my theatrical side like my male cousins? Never know, and never will know given our unique differences. To say I know would be quite narcissistic, like perhaps alot of the men we hear here … just a thought … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/01/23 03:35 AM |
| 2 | How all the pills workWhy this so important to define all this? Why do we try to pseudo analyzing when each person is unique in DNA yet 99.9% similar. Your wood may feel different but connect vulnerably with others trusted around you and you’ll see placing people in boxes is of lower consciousness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/23 04:49 AM |
| 1 | Framing the Passport Bros as “predators”, “sex traffickers”, and “creeps” is absurd and reeks of bitterness & jealousy from American women.Love it, see this scenario I think. Go and byeeee. 💙 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/23 04:39 AM |
| 2 | Framing the Passport Bros as “predators”, “sex traffickers”, and “creeps” is absurd and reeks of bitterness & jealousy from American women.Bahahaaaaa omg I can’t 🤣🤣🤣🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/23 04:35 AM |
| 8 | Framing the Passport Bros as “predators”, “sex traffickers”, and “creeps” is absurd and reeks of bitterness & jealousy from American women.LOL I just can’t I imagined this entire scenario, here’s your lunch and byeeeee 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/23 12:12 AM |
| 39 | Framing the Passport Bros as “predators”, “sex traffickers”, and “creeps” is absurd and reeks of bitterness & jealousy from American women.I married a Frenchman and he’s way more in tune with emotions than any American man I’ve met so go for it! Honestly, American women don’t care so just go for it. Be wary if you’re doing it to hope someone will conform to your ideals and then be upset when they don’t once they they get their desired passport. Perhaps it wouldn’t be your fate, to be considered. My time in the Philippines helped me to see in talking with the women that it’s a real thing. Best of luck and God Speed my friend. Just F… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/01/23 12:11 AM |
| 12 | True love exists (if you let it)Unconditional love is for children, you will not get that from adults nor should you, this amis a grave mistake in hopes from another grown and mature human being. Your story is fantasy, like a movie made to reflect on how couples were perhaps in times ago. While my grandparents had a lot of love and forgiveness for each other, my grandmother was the first to say make your own money so you don’t ever have to feel trapped no matter where life takes you. It’s something g I can’t quite wrap my head… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/23 03:11 AM |
| 6 | How are there enough high value men for all of the women who feel entitled to them?Something I’ve been thinking about is how often do men settle in relationships? We hear women won’t right now, perhaps, but are men widely and massively doing so? Is it just to get a warm lay? Is the “warm lay” actually a net-net to his life so it’s perhaps more than that? Not sure but in the end a true HVP has standards and will look to build for a future with a HVP whether that works or not. We’ve got plenty in this society with demands from trash individuals, men and women. I get its part of … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/23 12:06 AM |
| 5 | Ladies, what are your personal experiences with a Red Pill man using "dread game" on you?It’s 100% manipulation - “any attempt to sway someone’s emotions to get them to act or feel a certain way”. The dread thing was bizarre to me. He would casually mention a girl at work and compliment her and I agreed she seemed smart. Or mention a convo he had with a random girl I honestly can’t remember the details but I remember feeling and saying “good for you” or “totally, you’re a catch!”. To me it felt like he was a little child who wanted compliments and praises. I guess I’m not really the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/23 06:40 PM |
| 4 | QFW: What are some of the doublespeak / between the lines phrases / white lies, that you use to communicate you either are or aren't interested in a guy?Who told you to be more subtle, communicate indirectly? And What does that even mean? Honestly dude you need to get into your body and feel through how these experiences are happening in real time. Women don’t hate direct communication. We wish we could without fear of being harassed, catcalled, intimated, etc. Not saying that’s what you’re doing but when the senses come up for danger, we must be aloof. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 05:20 AM |
| -1 | Oxytocin = one-sided relationships for women?Totally. Here let me leave this the Short Men Are Psychopaths study 😅 https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0191886922004950 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 04:24 AM |
| 4 | Oxytocin = one-sided relationships for women?I think your post is great and we need more of it. She’s saying PPD I think (or hope 😅). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 04:20 AM |
| 0 | Oxytocin = one-sided relationships for women?But empathy is different from being weak. An insecure, codependent person appears to have alot of empathy but it’s a facade in a means to control their environment. A true empathic and strong person is what any human hopes to be, male or female. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 04:19 AM |
| 0 | Oxytocin = one-sided relationships for women?Women who are breadwinners have a lot to lose in divorce and we will start see as a society on a more massive scale in the next 10-20 years. OPs point was about oxytocin and bonding, a good one at that, a woman doesn’t marry a man hoping to divorce him and especially once kids are involved. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/01/23 04:09 AM |
| 1 | Question for all, but mainly other women: What are your thoughts on long term relationships (lifetime as ‘the girlfriend’ title) with no marriage proposal? Red flag, or not a red flag?It’s a HUGE red flag 🚩!!! But there is a difference - is it he doesn’t want to commit to HER or is it he has a commitment hang up. My best friend and sister both got married this year after 7-9 yrs with their guy, living together, etc. What it came down to was a fear due to dysfunctional parental marriage (best friend) and fear of being unable to provide for her (sister). Own internal fears vs. their partner. At least that’s what I heard and understand. Either way, I think there is some curiosit… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/01/23 12:50 AM |
| 17 | Cardinal sin with women --am I wrong?It’s an interesting dynamic to see guy friends picking on each other cause many times I’ve spoken up about your #1 issue for my man and I’ve heard it’s ok, it’s just bros, no need to get upset. Grated this happened when I was in my teens, any use of this behavior beyond that age made me realize this wasn’t healthy - an adult who says they’re a friend who makes fun of you where you don’t laugh along is being mean and not a friend (nor mature adult) at all. I could see this in a relationship phase… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/01/23 02:39 AM |
| 6 | Where men thinking logically vsbwomen thinking emotionally can cause huge issues in a relationship.Totally, that’s not what I’m saying. I’m saying focus more on you - maybe think about doing less than 60% of tasks, perhaps 10% less and with that time you spend more time doing things that bring you joy. This will help to shift your perspective while taking care of yourself and having boundaries with someone who has said they understand they have an issue but are not willing to make steps towards fixing. It has nothing to do with being female, it has a lot to do with individual accountability. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/23 04:17 AM |
| 6 | Where men thinking logically vsbwomen thinking emotionally can cause huge issues in a relationship.Honestly my dude if what you’re saying is true, you’ve gotta back off and do less. If she’s admitted she’s the problem and it’s her emotions, there’s nothing you can do except build boundaries to protect your well being because an adult who knows there is a problem and refuses to work to overcome us actually not an adult. Big red flag 🚩 this person wants to stay a child, a victim. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/23 03:53 AM |
| 13 | Where men thinking logically vsbwomen thinking emotionally can cause huge issues in a relationship.It’s not necessarily an emotional vs logical thing. Most women struggle to state their needs as they’ve been primed to not do so since a young age. Do you have kids or family she constantly needs to take care of? Does she have time to think this thru and had the help in a healthy upbringing to know her needs and wants matter? Have you thought about perhaps she doesn’t speak up because it will lead to your disappointment or criticism when she does so she’s essentially given up? A lot of times whe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/23 01:38 AM |
| -6 | Which privileges aren’t women able to see?I guess it’s the chicken or the egg? Are the men perverts? Are the women lazy? Don’t have an answer for that but I do for the ways young girls get groomed into thinking this is the way. In the end, none of it is right. Perhaps the exploitation could be seen as the men who get sucked into porn and OF. Although I struggle with sympathy there as it’s their choice 100% of the time. For a woman, that’s just not simply the case for a lot of the time. It’s sold as easy money perhaps, but never without … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/23 12:57 AM |
| 3 | Which privileges aren’t women able to see?This is laughable presented in conjunction with the mere definition of such a phrase. Don’t think it’s worth my energy except to remind you men go to great lengths to buy sex and a young premature woman has the right to feel violated in such an arrangement as she grows older and wiser. Regardless, I think if we thought deeply about it, do you think most women really enjoy selling their bodies like a commodity? And while I’m sure I’ll hear whining for this argument, we do not and have not had the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/01/23 12:21 AM |
| 11 | What are reasons besides abuse and infidelity would you divorce?This type of click baity straw man Q4W from 2 day old accounts is getting really annoying and quite boring. Seems like a harmless question until OP or other RP gang members take up the cause of bitching for no reason. The intent from the beginning is not genuine. I imagine a bunch of basement dwellers trying to build content for their RP underlords for some “it’s gonna be the next best how-to bang chicks brah” podcast. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/01/23 04:02 AM |
| 0 | Sexless marriage is a form of abuse.How much household labor do you do? New scientific study shows it’s a libido killer for women https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC9483460/. Secondly, what’s her love language? What’s her sexual blueprint? She’s certainly capable Im guessing given you married her, but certainly turned off by you in this moment. Wouldn’t hurt to read up on relationships, Gottman and Hendrix are excellent resources. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/12/22 01:12 AM |
| 1 | Girls don't want a 'guy who's 6ft+' because that's some magical height, they want a guy who's 6ft+ so that they can tell their friends they're dating a guy who's 6ft+.But women do try to talk about personality and that certainly has its many varieties of being told you’re wrong. No amount of physical will perhaps add up in the end. Unless we’re truly pushed as women to continue to think and act like men more. IMHO. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/22 04:10 AM |
| -2 | Girls don't want a 'guy who's 6ft+' because that's some magical height, they want a guy who's 6ft+ so that they can tell their friends they're dating a guy who's 6ft+.I’m sorry but this isn’t true for an attractive man and I don’t get how this doesn’t apply to any man. Let’s be serious on the amount of men who cheat on their partners. 99% if you include porn. It never ceases to amaze me the disconnect therein. Would you be ok with your wife orgasming to hot men that have nothing on you? It’s all about opportunity in that end, perhaps a woman could level up easier in real life than a lousy man in that regard. Hypergamy is a cop out when placing only on women, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/22 03:28 AM |
| -1 | Girls don't want a 'guy who's 6ft+' because that's some magical height, they want a guy who's 6ft+ so that they can tell their friends they're dating a guy who's 6ft+.So men will fuck whatever they want in a skirt yet not be the ones to settle in the end, ok. You do you bro. I’m just a bloop, whatever that means to you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/22 03:21 AM |
| -2 | Girls don't want a 'guy who's 6ft+' because that's some magical height, they want a guy who's 6ft+ so that they can tell their friends they're dating a guy who's 6ft+.Quite frankly sounds like projection, it sounds like it’s the men who 10x settle for what they can get vs what they desire. And I think it’s you’re wrong in how the basis of relationships actually work out. We all desire to be known and to know. That’s the root of I Tina you and why we try to find what makes sense, woman and man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/22 02:02 AM |
| 0 | Girls don't want a 'guy who's 6ft+' because that's some magical height, they want a guy who's 6ft+ so that they can tell their friends they're dating a guy who's 6ft+.What I don’t understand, respectfully, why so much talk on height and n count here? just seems to be a continual sideswiping by men to make sense of women as they gorge themselves in porn fantasy and try to make sense of women by what they experience on screen (dominated and made by men, for men, btw). It’s an interesting thing I can’t quite understand but hope one day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/22 01:35 AM |
| 14 | Girls don't want a 'guy who's 6ft+' because that's some magical height, they want a guy who's 6ft+ so that they can tell their friends they're dating a guy who's 6ft+.Right?!? Like where is this coming from 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/22 01:26 AM |
| -2 | Girls don't want a 'guy who's 6ft+' because that's some magical height, they want a guy who's 6ft+ so that they can tell their friends they're dating a guy who's 6ft+.I think the fetish has something to do with not wanting to have any male offspring in a difficult position of authority by being short. Long live the patriarchy! I just don’t understand how any other thought in height would make that much importance in the long run. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/22 01:25 AM |
| 1 | Girls don't want a 'guy who's 6ft+' because that's some magical height, they want a guy who's 6ft+ so that they can tell their friends they're dating a guy who's 6ft+.Just like a man confabulating he really wants a porn star but settles for whatever he can get? How is this any different? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/12/22 01:20 AM |
| 1 | What causes women to not understand that they are being used by top tier men?If having sex early and often causes a man to use a woman, well, there’s nothing more narcissistic than that. Using another human being for your own gain is textbook narcissism. Being dishonest and stringing along someone is not just cruel, it’s sociopathic. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/12/22 08:49 PM |
| 8 | What causes women to not understand that they are being used by top tier men?Most women and girls know better and eventually exit a situation in which they’re being used for sex. A “just sex” normally takes some effort on the guys part to keep a girl coming back, outliers aside. The biggest issue are the “situationships”, these are not one and the same, a fwb could be this type of scenario where a girl is thinking a relationship is possible but in a guys mind it’s not going to be much more so he strings her along. In the end, it’s unfortunate, but it’s the man, not the w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/12/22 11:36 PM |
| 1 | The importance of eye contact in dating and relationships.....Totally, and in that conversation someway to control you 👀 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/22 01:48 AM |
| 8 | The damage caused by the sexualization of women is substantially greater than any benefit.I too thought this might be good, the damage of women’s objectification, ok let’s go! But alas, it’s somehow women just not understanding a man’s inability to control himself and his own bodily autonomy 🎻 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/22 01:46 AM |
| 1 | The importance of eye contact in dating and relationships.....Same. As a woman with ADD too much eye contact is so uncomfortable! It’s about reciprocity, as you said, and I’ve found someone who is taking and holding intense eye contact with you has an agenda behind such conversation. Has been my experience anyway. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/12/22 12:53 AM |
| 17 | Who are better in bed, genuine good guys or toxic guys?It’s true to the extent that toxic people use manipulation to create a push/pull dynamic in a relationship which overtime can make the lows feel really low but the highs feel really good. It’s really your brains response to dysregulation. The sex is most certainly not better. Once you’re out of the trauma bond you’ll look back and be like WTF that actually sucked! It applies to both the “crazy girls” and “toxic guys”. Same. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/12/22 10:28 PM |
| 1 | The last posts about intimacy and standards show how disconnected women is from the average men reality and how discussion is mainly a pointless effortI totally get what you’re saying. We must put in our own effort to meet our own needs. From a societal perspective, I truly struggle to find the sincere empathy for why the sexless man is now the problem of a society - a society built by men and continue to hold power financially, socially, physically. We don’t live in a world ruled by women, we just don’t, and society cares even less today for mothers than ever existed before to my knowledge. As I see it, most men on ppd would rather be the vic… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/22 03:47 AM |
| 2 | Why are we giving mixed messages about texting and dating?Honestly, I think most men who are interested will work to continue dialogue to a meet up in relatively short amount of time, this is if you’re looking for a relationship, imho. Each are different in their approach. If you’re back and forth for weeks, it’s time to focus your energy elsewhere. He could not be that interested or he could not in the right place at the moment to take it any further. You’ve just gotta focus on what you want and need. Some people are here for a season and other for a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 04:38 AM |
| 7 | The last posts about intimacy and standards show how disconnected women is from the average men reality and how discussion is mainly a pointless effortYikes, wow, holy hell is right. Why on earth would an adult grown human being’s need become the problem and responsibility of another’s? Am I reading this correctly?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 04:20 AM |
| 8 | The last posts about intimacy and standards show how disconnected women is from the average men reality and how discussion is mainly a pointless effortThis is the answer. Seriously. Introspect and level up. If sex is a need for you, figure out how to get that need met. What do you need and how will you achieve that? Any divergence from working to meet your own needs as a grown human being is resorting back to being a child. It’s not healthy, and at the base quite narcissistic (because all narcissists are stuck in childhood temper tantrums and blaming over accountability imho). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/22 04:06 AM |
| 32 | What’s your opinion about female Jordan Peterson fans?I honestly don’t see why I should hate him…he can say things I don’t agree with while he says stuff I do agree with, People are not monolithic. This is part of our societal problem. We would rather cancel people than listen to what they have to say because we’re so far from critical thinking and have no emotional maturity to act and live in the grey and see people as whole beings. As beings who when they self-correct for wrongdoings own it too. I don’t see how Rush and JP are similar tho in that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/11/22 03:57 AM |
| 6 | "My favourite thing about a woman, is she is not a man"Rejection of femininity by what standards? Who defines what that means? If you’re talking manosphere gibberish, no adult human being should “submit” to another as an authority figure against their own body and wishes. Just as the “boss bitch babe I don’t need no man” is a byproduct of the same cultural brainwashing but inverted. We all have masculine and feminine energy. We should honor the times we need to be masculine to act and honor the feminine to feel. Separating the two by gender and soci… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/11/22 12:12 AM |
| 4 | neurodivergent men don’t have it harder than neurodivergent women - the struggles are simply different and this is largely a case of grass is greener-ismsI can see that for men there’s a greater uphill battle as there is no model or default for smoothing over a moment which society deems as socially awkward. For women we just live as frauds, faking it as it’s pounded in us from a young age to be the emotional and social gender. I guess your poison - is it better to be the clown or the joker? Both borne from a similar cloth, perhaps, the clown more socially acceptable but both living as caricatures in life so sad no matter how it’s sliced. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/22 01:15 AM |
| 0 | neurodivergent men don’t have it harder than neurodivergent women - the struggles are simply different and this is largely a case of grass is greener-ismsBut I think a big difference here is women are conditioned from a young age to learn to follow social cues so when it’s weird there’s a default to playing dumb or “acting cute”. Women never feel good about these types of interactions either, even though they may be seen as perhaps more socially acceptable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/22 12:46 AM |
| 1 | neurodivergent men don’t have it harder than neurodivergent women - the struggles are simply different and this is largely a case of grass is greener-ismsI feel attacked!! You’re spot on … as a highly sensitive neurodivergent woman, I have attracted my fair share of narcissists both romantically and otherwise. In so much I’ve dedicated part of my life to understanding and helping others where I can. The struggle is real, for both genders, and I’ve particularly seen how it shows up for women. A deep sense of inadequacy or un-belongingness. The loathing for chit-chat as if it’s supposed to be in our nature as women. The guardedness that comes from … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/22 12:42 AM |
| 5 | red pill is lowering man’s self-esteemThis is a great point. What do you think makes a guy so endlessly talk about 80/20 on this sub? For me, I wonder if its men who look at hot naked pornstars on the daily then obsess/thirst/manipulate real women in hopes of getting laid and ultimately on the basis of envy, perhaps. Until the goal posts must be moved again as the magic formula isn’t working as TRP promised. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/22 03:18 AM |
| 8 | Hypergamy is making men marry women even without love, and that is OKPeople fall in and out of love, love is a verb, it’s an action - you’re not always gonna feel “in love” for your partner but when you commit, you work to try and see it thru. In your scenario the woman you’re describing makes a man’s life easier, it’s comfortable, not much passion ultimately for him. She becomes the mother, the Madonna. He resorts to porn or cheating, and she dreams of better times too. A woman ultimately knows when she’s not really loved. And it’s only a matter of time before s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/11/22 03:01 AM |
| 11 | Did Women Always Care As Much About Height As They Do Today?I think height has become a filter in gaging a man’s attractiveness today by social standards due to social media. I’ve dated men 5’7 to 6’5. Both were within my social circles so that’s something to consider. For sure the 6’5 got way more attention on OLD than the 5’7 even though the 5’7 is a great catch with an awesome personality, super smart and driven. The 6’5 was coasting in life thanks to good looks, imho. I broke up with the 6’5, the 5’7 was more mutual given life’s circumstances but def… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/10/22 08:59 PM |
| 2 | Hypergamy does not benefit women at the long runThank god women have the right of autonomy today, financially most importantly. Becoming more selective has certainly hurt some of egos on this sub. Correlating hypergamy, however you define it, by giving a doomsday “we’re headed back to the 1700s!” type of scenario will never work in the end. Perhaps we’ll see more sex robots for men and women going to the sperm bank to make children with genetically superior genes? Who knows. It’s unfortunate to see a woman’s only value continues to be her sex… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/22 10:38 PM |
| 2 | Women need men as much as men need women, but women have the government as proxyIt’s still the same, mind boggling none sense! Paying more a month for a day care then my mortgage? That’s a tough pill to swallow… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/22 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Women need men as much as men need women, but women have the government as proxyWomen can’t live off the government like you described. The government will petition for child support from the father before allowing any supplemental benefits, on average she’ll get $500 monthly, that is the figures. From there if she works, supplemental is difficult. This claim is so bogus and outside of reality. I read a recent study like 80+% of abortions happen because women worry about their financial ability to support the child. Unless you’re a millionaire and your wife didn’t work and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/10/22 06:54 PM |
| 1 | Does the relationship between high n-count women and the female aversion to bisexual men suggest a type of discrimination against male sexual partners in general?I don’t think it’s about sexual biology for women. Can’t speak for all but it’s comfort in what feels right to you. Plenty of lesbians have the “sub/dom” exchange based on who is leading and a hetero woman in charge in the bedroom is in a dom position even being the one “penetrated” so it’s moreso an interaction between the two and a decision for sexual pleasure. I know bisexual men who are def never bottoms too. At least that’s what they tell me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/22 08:56 PM |
| 4 | Does the relationship between high n-count women and the female aversion to bisexual men suggest a type of discrimination against male sexual partners in general?What the F does this mean - “man’s penis seems to devalue its recipient a form of discrimination and/or hate against men being perpetrated by both genders hardwired into biology” ??? Are more men bisexual than they admit to? Are more women lying about n-count? How are these even correlated? I’m honestly so confused…. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/22 08:46 PM |
| 3 | Is the SMV arms race accelerating the sexlessness of average men?I hope so. Our society has become more and more consumed by vanity. I don’t think having a tattoo or taking drugs to look fit will do it. Men do this for themselves to be seen as worthy, much like I believe women who spend hours upon hours on beauty do it to be worthy by society deems as so. It’s part of the same system and standards. We’re all, men and women, pushed an agenda to consume and mold into what is considered beautiful when in actuality all we ever needed was to find beauty in a famil… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/22 08:38 PM |
| 3 | Is the SMV arms race accelerating the sexlessness of average men?How didn’t a man come up with the fantasy? Porn is exactly what you’re describing…a fake, filtered, objectifying view of a body, a hole, whatnot. How is a man “changing his mind” by watching porn which in of itself a fantasy? I was wanting to come here to say something about how we all as humanity stop this nonsense of social media filters. What’s attainable on screen yet unattainable in real life is where we need to draw the line. Honestly all this talk of recent on here tells me men have so ma… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/10/22 08:24 PM |
| 3 | What do same-sex relationships tell us about genders?I would have to agree my lesbian friends are def committed beyond superficialities and such. They’re also great communicators. Ive seen them grow stronger together when facing job losses or health issues for sure. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/22 10:02 PM |
| 2 | What do same-sex relationships tell us about genders?Interesting…so what is it you see men are more conservative than women and vice versa? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/22 09:55 PM |
| 2 | Mamas boys are easily the least datable personality type of man imaginable, and it's not talked about nearly enoughSure. All cluster B. All with other lining traits of narcissism. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/22 01:21 AM |
| 0 | Mamas boys are easily the least datable personality type of man imaginable, and it's not talked about nearly enoughGod this is good, I could add a lot more pertaining to the dynamics you’ll see play out but in essence it’s the Peter Pan syndrome, a book worthy of reading if you think you’re dealing with this type in life and dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/10/22 12:04 AM |
| 2 | Mamas boys are easily the least datable personality type of man imaginable, and it's not talked about nearly enoughThat’s a stretch, but if we break it down mommas boys are stunted emotionally and incredibly self-absorbed therefore fall into a category of narcissism. The categories you mentioned largely fall into antisocial or psychopathy which all exemplify narcissism. I’m not sure what point you’re trying to make except extremism as OP is stating reality when trying to date as a mature human being. The mommas boy might actually give you more heartache as their intentions aren’t easily discernible. They’re … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/22 11:58 PM |
| 3 | What are the traits the opposite sex find attractive that you think are actually easiest to cultivate? What do you think stop so many people disgruntled by their dating prospects from doing so?Right. But we’re taking about things that are easier to cultivate that would make one more attractive that doesn’t require a lot of physical changes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/22 04:33 AM |
| 4 | The Red Pill has gone mainstreamI’m not claiming to understand either one, I’m just referring to the fact the PUA manual I read originally written in 90s, that I mentioned above, and the TRP manual, have many overlaps. PUA frames its tactics like game and dread can only work from a basis of knowing your purpose in life and understanding human behavior. The first several chapters are dedicated to this. So I’m not sure what differences beyond perhaps trp is more updated? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/22 04:28 AM |
| 4 | The Red Pill has gone mainstreamDa BEARS come’on yous guys | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/22 02:48 AM |
| 5 | The Red Pill has gone mainstreamMaybe trp needs to update their sidebar then cause it’s clearly written there. I get not all members are hive mind, I loved the ladies I connected with in FDS but didn’t agree with all their rules on dating. Nevertheless, you’re right she’s gonna pick what she wants and in your scenario my guess would be the lumberjack has emotional maturity in a way she can respect him vs the rich dude who is either an asshat or inept in taking charge when needed. Women innately want a man who can take charge a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/22 02:36 AM |
| 4 | The Red Pill has gone mainstreamRudeeeee … we finally did it tho. Now onto the next 100 yr drought I imagine 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/22 02:19 AM |
| 6 | The Red Pill has gone mainstreamHow? Isn’t trps thing you provide cause that’s nature and she submits cause that’s nature, treat her like the biggest toddler in the room? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/22 02:16 AM |
| 0 | The Red Pill has gone mainstreamYup | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/22 02:14 AM |
| -3 | The Red Pill has gone mainstreamThis is false. Read the Venusian manual from the 90s and you’ll see the TRP handbook is an updated carbon copy with some philosophy jargon and pseudoscience mixed in. What you’re describing is literally from the PUA manual. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/10/22 02:13 AM |
| 2 | Women put virtually zero effort into dating, and certainly far less than menThat’s great to hear. She appears to be a mature adult and isn’t afraid to take care of herself and also state her wants and needs. God speed my friend! I can identify a lot with what you described as in an awe with a woman who wants to contribute and honestly it’s a woman I would guess who is into you. We are very giving when we are interested, for the most part, esp if coming from a place of true desire for right relationship. I think men can be too. It all comes down to the right person, righ… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/22 11:29 PM |
| 7 | What are the traits the opposite sex find attractive that you think are actually easiest to cultivate? What do you think stop so many people disgruntled by their dating prospects from doing so?This is the answer. Men are attracted to the “feminine” in women but it’s simply the ability to have emotional empathy and be prosocial imho. Men who cultivate and understand this, who show full range of emotion, can win even if the physical attributes aren’t on par with society’s standards. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/22 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Women put virtually zero effort into dating, and certainly far less than menSo how did you feel in this specific instance? And how do you feel about her now? I’m genuinely curious. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/22 10:24 PM |
| 10 | Redpill values in society actually benefit womenOmg I coughed up my wine with the arching of the eyebrows comment….Damn you it was red wine too now all over my cloths 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/10/22 01:06 AM |
| 1 | The dating world is unbalanced because, on average, women desire dates, love, relationships, sex, kids, and marriage less than menI wouldn’t call menopause stark, it’s a 1-3 yr process starting a peri menopause. But still, you’re correct it’s much less gradual than a man’s for sure. And I agree young women are more likely to be in relationship and unfortunately feel the need to stay and work things out (the emotional load I was trying to convey) rather than leave and move on. I wonder how much of a gap that eventually becomes when a 30 some never married or divorce tries again and gives up? Im wondering what you mean in re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/22 01:12 AM |
| 3 | how accurate is the advice to men that they should just be socialI think maybe you have to think about what type of woman you’re attracting now. Is that what you want? Will this type of woman make you happy long term? Also, how has your social circle changed? I think as most people navigate life we can mature or slide backwards, we attract what we become. If you’re not in your best place, you’re probably attracting those who aren’t either. Sometimes it’s a lonely road or it takes time to become who you feel your best at even if it’s counter intuitive to the r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/22 12:57 AM |
| 1 | The dating world is unbalanced because, on average, women desire dates, love, relationships, sex, kids, and marriage less than menI mean, I guess you could say the same for older men as testosterone wanes, they too desire sex less. Sex isn’t the pre-marker for a desire of an intimate relationship, especially over 65 I would imagine, it’s the value to add to each other’s lives. I agree the number of men outweighs women in the dating pool, and evermore so why younger women self-select out has a bit of congruence with my above mention of not wanting to take care of a man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/22 10:15 PM |
| 3 | The dating world is unbalanced because, on average, women desire dates, love, relationships, sex, kids, and marriage less than menThis is pretty accurate, especially if we define “unattractive” as not just merely physical looks but moreso personality and drive. A lazy man is dangerous as you won’t have the resources nor help to take care of any offspring in this situation. It makes your life worse, not better. There must be a net gain when considering the pain of pregnancy, childbirth, and responsibilities thereafter. It’s really that simple whether we consciously admit it or not. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/22 10:03 PM |
| 1 | The dating world is unbalanced because, on average, women desire dates, love, relationships, sex, kids, and marriage less than menPost menopausal women desire relationships too, and enjoy sex too, why would that be the determining factor for being single? I find moreso they’re willing to date or have fun, are established in their lives, and say ”I don’t want to have to take care of another man again”. It’s fascinating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/22 09:57 PM |
| 6 | Is this a safe strategy for a man to have a family with a woman these days?Ok. Have you actually tried to find yourself a good woman that meets your terms? No good woman with a brain would out up with this nonsense. You’re too paranoid dude, work thru whatever that is, honestly and sincerely. I was the breadwinner who got “divorced raped”, never have I ever considered such terms, and I believe that’s because I actually have and strive for healthy relationships, understand how they function. You are what you attract. Level up your consciousness and you’ll see what’s pos… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/22 12:20 AM |
| 10 | Is this a safe strategy for a man to have a family with a woman these days?And have your mother take care of your child, as you mentioned. This isn’t the way. Ask yourself why you’re able to trust your mother to do such but not trust yourself to find a woman as good as your mother to raise your own joint children? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/22 11:44 PM |
| 6 | There are more women who sexually select for evil men than vice versa. Thus, in a way, evil men exist because of some womenClassic nice guy vibes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/22 04:15 AM |
| 0 | Would you be cautious getting into a serious relationship with a guy who's had an unsuccessful sexual past?No. I dated a guy in his late 30s like this and a good heart, but it was his own FOMO dating someone his own age that he struggled with, not me. Never crossed my mind until it was made apparent desiring at 40 the 25 year old girl he’s seen in the church group he led. It was his own baggage to work thru and also saying we were in a casual committed relationship while we’ve spent holidays together with both families, I saw the maturity gap and need let go. He did try to reconcile several times aft… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/10/22 12:21 AM |
| 4 | If all good people are "taken" by their 20s and 30s, why do so many relationships that start early tend to fail?Cause we all get married with the best of intentions and quite frankly people are stupid and do stupid things. Sometimes you can work thru them, but sometime the infidelity is too much, too difficult to get over. Sexual, emotional or financial infidelity can break a marriage, especially when kids are invoked. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/22 04:26 AM |
| 3 | Women who have cheated: Did it feel good?Dude, lay off the porn, or if a girl cheated on you let it go and know you deserve better. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/10/22 04:20 AM |
| 2 | "Personality" is too broad of a term -- looks AND "behavioral conduct" is important to female arousal.Totally. I think manipulation could be seen as good or bad. One manipulates their child to perform a certain way and if with good intentions for the betterment of society and themselves. A 3 yr old is a good testament to dealing with a small tyrant and redirecting. But grown adults should overcome and not act this way. Many haven’t seen what a healthy relationship looks like inho and so manipulation will always be for the betterment of self vs other or a whole. We are selfish in nature, maturity… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/22 10:17 PM |
| 2 | "Personality" is too broad of a term -- looks AND "behavioral conduct" is important to female arousal.I don’t disagree with what you’re saying here but you were the one to use absolutes in the aforementioned post. Maybe put many, or most, or whatever for inclination. Would be better suited than “why the many reasons women today…” in your op … while simultaneously saying not all women think alike. It’s quite contradictory. Regardless, I believe we can’t group people as a whole, as you stated you care about yet I’m struggling to see in your response is true. There are many high libido women with l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/22 09:52 PM |
| 0 | "Personality" is too broad of a term -- looks AND "behavioral conduct" is important to female arousal.No i was making fun of the opposite of what you were saying! Take the gross garden variety porn against the eloquently written romance novel and one will see what makes us continue in a good path as a species 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/22 05:27 AM |
| 0 | "Personality" is too broad of a term -- looks AND "behavioral conduct" is important to female arousal.No honestly I’m not. Should I be? Where did this go wrong? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/10/22 05:11 AM |
| 0 | "Personality" is too broad of a term -- looks AND "behavioral conduct" is important to female arousal.Love this perspective. Take a gamble and read one gentlemen! Maybe instead of the garden variety porn? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/22 11:36 PM |
| 4 | "Personality" is too broad of a term -- looks AND "behavioral conduct" is important to female arousal.Totally. A lot of life is just manipulation anyway. Quite frankly we need to do it just to exist in corporate America to succeed. Those who have mastered it seem to always hold the most power. Machiavelli wasn’t wrong in his conclusions on human nature, as hard as that can be sometimes to swallow, coming from someone who has the high sensitivity towards empathy and compassion. In the end, we must all learn skills to survive and thrive. What I struggle with is the continued posts as of late from … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/22 11:31 PM |
| 4 | "Personality" is too broad of a term -- looks AND "behavioral conduct" is important to female arousal.These are over 30 yrs old, do you know of more recent researches on the topic? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/22 11:08 PM |
| 11 | "Personality" is too broad of a term -- looks AND "behavioral conduct" is important to female arousal.I don’t think this is true at all. I’ve seen many women on ppd change a stance, myself and OP included. I’m not sure where you think women get imaginary boyfriends from or fantasies as such. Also how all women think the same?? I’ve talked to some awesome and very different perspectives from women on this sub. And also women who read romance novels use their imagination to imagine feeling treated well, can’t say the same about porn. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/22 11:05 PM |
| 1 | "Personality" is too broad of a term -- looks AND "behavioral conduct" is important to female arousal.I think what you’re missing on personality is a capacity for true empathy and to display that consistently over time. Many men would rather fight and die on their own sword than admit to being wrong or uninformed. It takes a mature person to step back and evaluate a situation, to act righteously. Women tend to be able to do this, on average, it appears, better than men and why we keep talking about “personality”. A good game can only get you so far, or frame as you mentioned, but in the end, isn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/22 10:44 PM |
| 5 | Modern society is wrong. Women do not love or have real sexualities, but use sex and love as a weapon and a resource.Gotta figure out a scapegoat for their self loathing apparently | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/22 03:57 AM |
| 1 | Modern society is wrong. Women do not love or have real sexualities, but use sex and love as a weapon and a resource.I love all the studies on female sexuality as much as from the era of vagina dentata in the Victorian era. I certainly can tell you, as a woman, we have many spots of orgasm inside our vaginal wall and that’s not even to mention the sensitivity of the clitoris (another study to look up). You can pull whatever data you want, but try for studies at least published in the last decade. The squirt thing is new, that I admit, yet still another small sample study that now amounts to 4 of same size and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/22 03:55 AM |
| 1 | "Just find someone who prefers you" doesn't work as advice for men. There are far more unpreferred men than women who prefer them.I don’t know how many times you guys need to rehash this, it’s like everyday we see posts like “women care so much about height, muscular tone, my penis size” while simultaneously the actual women responding say “we look for confident, caring and compassionate men” … literally blows my mind 🤯 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/09/22 12:55 AM |
| 17 | How do you think the dating game would change if body count was public information?Yes! But only if number of porn videos watched is also part of the equation. I’d guess many women would nope to not add to body count with a man with a high porn body count. Perhaps this is a way to correct society in such circumstances. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/22 04:05 AM |
| 6 | CMV: I don't think men are "bad at communicating" like we women often tell each other. I think this stereotype is false and men are fantastic communicators... when they want to be. I think most men, however, are bad at pretending to care about things they don't.This is exactly me! Also neurotypocal. I need time to process things, sort thru my emotions and the situation, and I def agree the texting/writing is key so we can come back together to discuss. I used to just freeze up and then try to avoid but have learned it’s best to say what I need in that moment and he also feels good cause he knows we will talk about it when it’s the right time and therefore we both feel safe and heard. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/22 12:26 AM |
| 8 | CMV: I don't think men are "bad at communicating" like we women often tell each other. I think this stereotype is false and men are fantastic communicators... when they want to be. I think most men, however, are bad at pretending to care about things they don't.Totally do this with my hubbie. He’s more the talker, I make sure to validate his feelings and also support his choices when it comes to his work. There are times each of us, men and women, just need to talk thru something vs getting feedback. The key is learning when that might be and having the courage to tell the other person I just need you to listen vs I want your feedback. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/22 12:19 AM |
| 8 | CMV: I don't think men are "bad at communicating" like we women often tell each other. I think this stereotype is false and men are fantastic communicators... when they want to be. I think most men, however, are bad at pretending to care about things they don't.This is definitely true, but for both genders. The amount of times women say their husbands or boyfriends don’t listen have 2 paths just like men: ramp up your voice or sit back and disengage. Neither are healthy. I will say as the woman who has always been “safe” enough, it’s somehow ended up in me listening to their problems or needs at the detriment to my own voice and needs. I’m naturally sensitive and intuitive so it’s easy for me to get in another’s world. All I have to say is guys if you … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/22 12:08 AM |
| 1 | what is the correct way, in your personal beliefs or experiences, for a man or a woman to find a relationship?I laughed so hard at this thank you 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/22 03:21 AM |
| 3 | PornI don’t clench my teeth, I bow my head cause what good does this do in the end for humanity? And men who won’t date a woman with a high n count but wacks it to porn every day is an absolute hypocrite. Do as I say, not as I do. And please spare me “it’s not the same”. Your body gets release and your brain, hormones, certainly may think differently. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/22 02:03 AM |
| 0 | Let's have a discussion about OnlyFans/webcam girls. What are your thoughts on the matter?This is cool to hear about I gotta look it up! Thanks for sharing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/22 12:58 AM |
| 2 | PornA woman’s greatest fear is not that, for sure. It’s honestly just gross, objectifying, perhaps how the many men here have an issue with a woman of high n count? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/22 12:57 AM |
| 4 | PornYup, and these men are not good at sex, they are playing a scene in their mind. Ultimately there’s no connection and a woman can feel she’s being used as a body bag in due time. It’s something I don’t get, if men what it so bad why wouldn’t they try to figure out how to please the woman they are with? Like feel her body and talk about it?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/22 12:47 AM |
| 3 | Why are married people on here? What do you get out of this?Same 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/22 12:38 AM |
| 2 | Why are married people on here? What do you get out of this?I’m married, but not married, depends on the country. Divorced 5 yrs ago in the US, in Europe we still are married technically (originally married in his country), got back together 2 years ago after a horrendous divorce. Both of us changed a lot. I would say we were the typical narcissist and codependent couple before, he cheated a lot, i cheated once, nasty stuff, a lot of childhood trauma and baggage we both brought into the marriage. But people can change and I hope people do cause I live th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/22 12:36 AM |
| 0 | Let's have a discussion about OnlyFans/webcam girls. What are your thoughts on the matter?Simply and rightfully said! Also your flair - like Jeffar from Aladdin?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/22 11:32 PM |
| 5 | Question for women who went back to a guy you rejected after an event that “lowered your value”Wait a sec, OP, are you saying that the case you’ve brought is actually the reverse of what you’ve seen in real life and you’re testing how it would appear in the opposite??? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 04:18 AM |
| 3 | The idea that “if you were truly good looking/socially savvy you wouldn’t be struggling” is a huge fallacy here. Due to women’s inflated egos, even attractive men struggle.No sorry m’y troll, you did not. But may God bless you regardless. No need to continue in a conversation as ugly as this 🙏. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 02:22 AM |
| 6 | The idea that “if you were truly good looking/socially savvy you wouldn’t be struggling” is a huge fallacy here. Due to women’s inflated egos, even attractive men struggle.You made my point in the last part of your sentence “high value personality”. Thank you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 02:18 AM |
| 2 | The idea that “if you were truly good looking/socially savvy you wouldn’t be struggling” is a huge fallacy here. Due to women’s inflated egos, even attractive men struggle.So if people rate each other on financial status, as you mentioned, why does it have to be a woman thing? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 02:16 AM |
| 3 | The idea that “if you were truly good looking/socially savvy you wouldn’t be struggling” is a huge fallacy here. Due to women’s inflated egos, even attractive men struggle.Dude we could go round in circules here. My point, looks and money matter but it’s not the end all to be all. That is what I said in the initial response. These things matter but OP is trying to understand, as it appears you too, that there is some phenomenon you can’t get that even unattractive women in your minds will reject men in cases where men can’t comprehend. So comes down to who you are in the end. It’s baffling to me but I’m open to discussing, do you want a woman who settles because y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 02:13 AM |
| 1 | Question for women who went back to a guy you rejected after an event that “lowered your value”Posts like this help me to make sure to keep my kids grounded in reality. This is 🦇💩 crayyyyy. Who thinks of these things? Time to touch some grass, maybe, I don’t know you dude but don’t overthink it. If she rejected you why would you want her back? Same goes for women. Level up Jesus lord | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 02:03 AM |
| 2 | The idea that “if you were truly good looking/socially savvy you wouldn’t be struggling” is a huge fallacy here. Due to women’s inflated egos, even attractive men struggle.You did not read the response as a whole and that is part of the issue. You pulled one sentence and decided the whole claim was wrong. This response is aligning with exactly what I’m saying is the problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 01:46 AM |
| 2 | The idea that “if you were truly good looking/socially savvy you wouldn’t be struggling” is a huge fallacy here. Due to women’s inflated egos, even attractive men struggle.I said it has nothing to do with how a woman ultimately choses a man, it’s a determining factor, not the determining factor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 01:30 AM |
| 5 | The idea that “if you were truly good looking/socially savvy you wouldn’t be struggling” is a huge fallacy here. Due to women’s inflated egos, even attractive men struggle.I never said they are minor, I just said they are not the definite determining factor. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 12:30 AM |
| 4 | Please explain this behavior - meanness after sexMy guess is the sex made them feel vulnerable and it’s some insecurities on their end. It’s one thing for a man or woman to be turned off after sex, it’s another to be hostile. Sex is a vulnerable act and when it gets too close in intimacy it can trigger some people to push others away. Check out insecure attachment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 12:26 AM |
| 5 | The idea that “if you were truly good looking/socially savvy you wouldn’t be struggling” is a huge fallacy here. Due to women’s inflated egos, even attractive men struggle.I never said it wasn’t attractive. I merely said it’s not the final determination in how a woman choses to be with a man. A very wealthy man certainly can bang hot women. But that’s not the majority, of lost women. Or men. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 12:18 AM |
| 1 | The idea that “if you were truly good looking/socially savvy you wouldn’t be struggling” is a huge fallacy here. Due to women’s inflated egos, even attractive men struggle.Have you thought about for a second how you’ve taken this out of context in what I was saying ultimately how women chose? So you realize women can make money today? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/22 12:15 AM |
| 11 | The idea that “if you were truly good looking/socially savvy you wouldn’t be struggling” is a huge fallacy here. Due to women’s inflated egos, even attractive men struggle.How about recognizing attractiveness and money, no matter how much you believe these should be able to “earn” you a woman, has nothing to do with how women ultimately chose men? How about recognizing a woman’s “inflated self image” is merely that she has no need or want for a man who can’t actually hold a conversation, have values, and respect himself enough and certainly not her, for a healthy relationship to ever be possible? How about, for a minute, we think about how women and as you said “o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/22 11:44 PM |
| 1 | What’s the middle ground between getting to a know a woman before asking her out and “just using the friendship to get in her pants?”The thing is you need to start figuring out what you want. In each scenario you presented you’re looking for how to achieve landing a woman when your objective should be what woman am I looking for, that I want to share my life with. This mindset shift is crucial. Not just with women but in how you approach life. Set goals and crush them, without it we each are all led astray to the next best thing. No compass, no confidence, and no ability to make an impact on this world. Know who you are and f… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/09/22 12:07 AM |
| 1 | What's your "hot take" or unpopular opinion when it comes to dating?Care to elaborate? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/22 11:03 PM |
| 1 | CMV Either sex is presumptively inherently degrading to women OR pumping and dumping a woman is just fine/not immoralWhat I’m missing is how exactly it’s a pump and dump scenario if he doesn’t rule out seeing her again? Also furthermore how women think sex is degrading?!? I saw a study once that it was men in a ONS scenario who wanted to continue whereas the woman will bow out. My guess here is the guy sucks in bed and so she values good sex and likes it, therefore doesn’t think her own sexual pleasure is degrading. OR he’s just not relationship material or someone worth keeping around due to incongruous value… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/09/22 11:00 PM |
| 7 | What's your "hot take" or unpopular opinion when it comes to dating?I appreciate your response as it is technically true but applicably I’m not so sure true at the time. I grew up in a more progressive and very large city and banks wouldn’t lend to single women. I was curious and asked around about it. What I got was most people were coupled up early by then and divorce was out of the question, shunned, until probably the late 80s. A widowed woman with capital was more able than a divorced woman even if the wealth originated on her side. Wild! The golf club I gr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/22 10:56 PM |
| 14 | What's your "hot take" or unpopular opinion when it comes to dating?This! And the amount of time spent agonizing and “studying” women would be better spent leveling up and making yourself into someone a woman would want to be around. If you think about it, women were dependent on men financially in the US until 1974. Where law passed that a woman could get credit (buy a house, rent an apartment, get a car, have a bank account) without a male co-signer. It’s time to step into figuring out how to healthy meet each other’s needs now that dependance is taken off the… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/22 10:23 PM |
| 4 | What's your "hot take" or unpopular opinion when it comes to dating?Porn ruins relationships. Most men complaining about women and not getting sex is based on a cognitive bias from experience in watching on-screen actors do what can’t and shouldn’t be desired in real life. 80+% is derogatory if not abusive towards women. They’re all on drugs. It’s not normal. It’s made to give you the adrenaline and dopamine response with release to come back for more. It’s a mind control mechanism to further continue the gender wars. Overtime it makes you angry, bitter and shor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/22 10:08 PM |
| 8 | Why would people attracted to the Red Pill philosophy listen to you when you claim it doesn't work?TRP works if you are or become a narcissistic male to attract a borderline or histrionic personality disordered woman. It’s ultimately impossible to have a meaningful relationship otherwise. The comment from another woman here you quoted is about doing what’s best for both people. I think it’s time to lay off the porn and start living real life with comments like this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/09/22 03:07 AM |
| 1 | CMV: The reason why sex relations between the sexes is breaking down along with many things in society is because of the SunOooooo for sure. It’s interesting to see how much these toxins alter testosterone. And estrogen. When it all comes down to it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/22 01:39 AM |
| 1 | CMV: The reason why sex relations between the sexes is breaking down along with many things in society is because of the SunNow this is a conspiracy I can come behind!! But in all seriousness, there are way too many other factors beyond the Sun. Let’s start first in the Monsanto chemicals, fluoride in water and vaccines if we wanna go that deep in the 🐇 🕳 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/22 01:31 AM |
| 4 | Is increased porn use a cause or symptom of sexlessness?I don’t doubt that’s true. I also will say this is the liberal feminism ideal that just be a man and you’ll get respect. I wonder why so many women feel it’s empowering to resort to showing body parts, but I think it’s fair to each their own. At the same token I wonder if it’s just a programmed way to keep us dumb, docile and animalistic. Masses are more easily controlled in such environments. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/22 01:20 AM |
| 13 | Is increased porn use a cause or symptom of sexlessness?I think it has absolutely driven a weird hatred and contempt for women as a whole. And I can’t blame the men who go down that rabbit hole and become consumed what they can’t get a woman in real life but see on screen women ready and available to be chocked, slapped and humiliated. To your point, prior to 1970 maybe a guy had to work for it. At the same token, women were taught your virtue is of a hot commodity in such. Times have changed. It’s why we’re seeing soooo many “find a virgin” posts on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/09/22 12:35 AM |
| 5 | Men should give up on western women and go overseasBahahahaaa I laughed so hard, this is pure truth and gold 🏅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/22 01:24 AM |
| 5 | how do you feel about modern marriage?Nah. Recent studies show women have been the happiest ever, saw an article the happiest within the last 40 years. Take any media with a grain of salt but societal wise it makes sense as I don’t see how a woman could ever. It be happier since having autonomy, a credit card or bank account without a male co-signer (not until 1974 in the US). Having kids will change you, and for the better, it’s hard work, it’s hard on your relationship, it tests your mental, emotional and physical resolve. But if … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/09/22 01:00 AM |
| 12 | CMV: Wanting a virgin/low body count woman isn't about pussyThis is absolutely the truth. They’re mad they’re not excelling in this arena and it always feels better to blame outside circumstances for such conundrums. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/22 12:37 AM |
| 7 | CMV: Wanting a virgin/low body count woman isn't about pussyExactly 😘 Edit: meant to do the 💯 emoji but kisses it is for you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/22 12:34 AM |
| 5 | CMV: Wanting a virgin/low body count woman isn't about pussyThis is infatically wrong, take it from men who feel divorced raped or taken advantage of in a relationship. They too are dealing with the trauma that comes from entering in a bad relationship. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/09/22 12:33 AM |
| 16 | CMV: Wanting a virgin/low body count woman isn't about pussySo you’re saying that women who have a lot of sexual partners have bullshit and trauma but Joe is that not also applicable with men? Do men who pump and dump or watch a ton of porn in hoping to that just as bad and damaged? Disregarding that argument is just as stupid, IMHO. A woman equally weirded out dealing with a man with trust issues is real. In the end we should be looking for a mutually healthy, normal and loving partnership. You won’t be able to get that with declarations like this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/09/22 11:35 PM |
| 3 | To men who want biological children: It might be better to pay a surrogate than to have children with a woman. What do you think?Exactly and even in the US it’s just as comparable to that figure. There are factors that go in, and especially amount of time being together that the courts weight on. If you’ve never lived with your spouse, been the stay at home parent, or together for over 10 yrs, alimony is out. Child support is a fraction of both incomes. It’s crazy how people take one story and make it a blanket end all with rhetoric like this without stats about what it takes to raise a child and how the courts are legall… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/09/22 09:40 PM |
| 1 | “Keep This Between Us” on Hulu is the life that many of the women you know lived as teenagers.The circle is deep and always has been. There is a fine line between doing and just passing it off in saying you want to do. Unfortunately, porn is here and quite abundant. It didn’t exist in full colors, lights and video in such frequency before. It’s good there is a shining light on it, as it should be, as statistics show 1 out of every 3+ girls are sexually abused by the time they are 18. No need for situation here just google it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/22 02:13 AM |
| 1 | Women, what do you think the average man's dating life looks like?I hear you, but not a straw man for me as I’ve been with men 40+ who have either passively aggressively made these comments or one flat out told me they wonder about the girl they know who is 26, known her since she was 22, and it was during one of those conversations to figure out where the relationship was going. Men may not flat out chase younger women but certainly there in the back of mind possibility. Perhaps a baggage/commitment issue thing or a perhaps a more systemic issue I can’t know,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/22 12:55 AM |
| 3 | Women here, what advice would you give to your sons going into dating?Totally, I think I’ll leave the “how to initiate with women” talk to his dad to tackle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/22 03:27 PM |
| 1 | Women, what do you think the average man's dating life looks like?Exactly this and was the basis of my argument. Thank you for articulating it so well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/22 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Women, what do you think the average man's dating life looks like?I’m sure this is true, no doubt. But there comes a time to take responsibility to get through whatever emotional baggage should be left in the past and make sure to stays there and doesn’t bleed into your relationships in the detriment of connection. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/22 12:31 AM |
| 1 | Women here, what advice would you give to your sons going into dating?Nah. Honestly cause both my hubs and me are good looking enough and know how to work hard for what we want. Now he’s 8 mos old so we’re a longgggg ass time out and dynamics will change drastically in sure in the meantime. I hope to keep up to help as best I can on live and love for him and my daughter. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/22 12:29 AM |
| 4 | Women here, what advice would you give to your sons going into dating?Focus on your studies, sports, cultivating true and healthy friendships first and foremost. Focusing on girls will get you no where, the right girl will come when you’re living your best life in integrity and authenticity. And you will have your fair share of opportunities if you focus on succeeding in however you choose to contribute in this life. Walk away from entitled and manipulative women early and often. Have good boundaries and a set moral code that you decide to live your life from and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/22 08:54 PM |
| 18 | Women, what do you think the average man's dating life looks like?Pretty poor once you get older imho. I think most men think cause manosphere tells them they’ll be banging 20 yr olds at 40+ and reality is really not that or if he’s lucky will score a few but doesn’t cut it for happiness, esp if he’s got kids cause by then he’s matured a bit. I don’t get why men can’t get thru their baggage when they meet the right person. Each of them fucked it up and tried to come back. That’s my experience at least as an over the wall lady (whose had guys 10+ yrs younger as… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/22 05:14 AM |
| 1 | Do most men lack basic decency?I guess. But my success in sales was taking the standard data to make sense for the opener and being able to emotionally and empathically put myself in their shoes to solve the problem. Humans in relationships aren’t quite as cookie cutter. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/22 12:01 AM |
| 1 | Do most men lack basic decency?I get what you’re saying, in theory. Finite math freshman year of college an A on the final starting off with a C- on the first test. When it all comes together it does. But how this coincides to human relating, I’m not quite sure. We are not equations to be solved but complex beings ruled by many factors outside of what I think any mathematical and physics equation can provide (also took AP physics in HS, a long time ago, but just sayin). I’m not saying you’re wrong, I’m just interested in your… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 10:16 PM |
| 0 | Do most men lack basic decency?I’m genuinely curious, what was the profound clarity you came to? It let sounds like an issue with true emotional empathy? What rules are you referring to? Thanks for sharing your insight! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 08:22 PM |
| 3 | Do most men lack basic decency?This was my train of thought too. Without seeing OPs profile but knowing OP travels often and uses tinder, one would think a transient man will attract a transient woman and within such a premise, it better be a good time. A woman who know her worth isn’t into casual sex, it’s a waste of time. The ones who are into I’ve seen it’s also a means for fun so if a man’s not paying, wooing and overall trying, there’s no need for a woman to care, next. This article wasn’t about decency, it was about a r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/22 08:14 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: how many women believe that guys “enjoy the chase” and that you have to be a little aloof to get them to want you and work for you?This doesn’t make sense, a guy who is more aloof and distant is actually the one wanting to be chased, just like a girl who appears as such. Both in this case have avoidant personality issues often looking for an anxious attachment style to “chase” them. It’s either a deep-rooted attachment/personality issue or an immaturity problem. Relationships don’t exist functionally, healthily, within the premise of chasing. These people are stuck in romantic fantasies. The only time I have heard a guy say… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/22 12:21 AM |
| 2 | Porn Use Bad for Men; Good for WomenI would totally think so. I can’t imagine how I would feel about my body and enjoyment of sex. Was also in my 30s when I went down the rabbit hole of understanding what it’s all about. A failed marriage in part because of it, subsequent relationships where it was clear (2 admitted) was a problem. These are men in their late 30s and 40s. I do not understand how people can think this is healthy. All you’re doing is reenacting scenes to get a release. Self masterbation with a warm body by replaying… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/22 10:09 PM |
| 2 | What is it about erotica that makes you gravitate towards it vs other kinds of porn?This!!!!! My sister who writes Harlequin novels would agree and thank you right now for this comment 😎 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/22 04:59 PM |
| 7 | Most women DO NOT prefer men their age and younger men.I would say most women up until early 20s (college age) prefer men who are +/- 2 years. If not settled down by then, they will venture out to go + in age given men are typically more established in jobs, personality, etc (hence more stable). A woman will entertain younger men in mid/late 30s+ if the connection makes sense but probably no more than -5 year range. Where we see a drastic (~10 yr) gap is often the established woman who enjoys a certain man’s company. This is how I’ve seen it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/22 04:55 PM |
| 2 | Help me understand why you all feel hurt when a guy looks at porn/ Instagram modelsLove your vulnerability here and honestly, feel the connection, let go, and then pleasure her by other means if needed. She will feel good about the experience, no matter how it’s achieved just as you are too! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/22 10:40 PM |
| 69 | Help me understand why you all feel hurt when a guy looks at porn/ Instagram modelsI’m not quite sure it matters until it does. The ED. The weird inability to connect during sex. The distance you feel in a quick fix fantasy vs enjoying the vulnerability you could have together. It’s that simple. Men create their own insecurities about sex when they make it a performance over a connection. If you’re honest with yourself, every kink, every fantasy, is borne from images you watched and created in your head based on what you think is right. You’re playing a script that has no real… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/07/22 01:08 AM |
| 19 | What attracts you to men's faces, in the most analytical way you can describe?Most definitely not that weird Chad meme 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 11:30 PM |
| 1 | Attractiveness and getting matches on dating sites (DIY Interactivity Inside).This is awesome, but you’re certainly a catch! 💯❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 10:16 PM |
| 3 | How soon should you schedule a first date?Just reading thru comments now and you’re spot on here, I had the same thought process. Women go thru the same thing you’re taking about, men playing the field to see if they can score another base or perhaps keep a harem. The goal should always be intentional, not all people on dating apps are looking to get off of them unfortunately. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 10:04 PM |
| 1 | How soon should you schedule a first date?This is interesting, but the only question you should be asking yourself is “what feels right for me?”. And then do that. If building rapport over text and calls feels right, do that and the right people for you will reciprocate. Personally, any more than 2-3 meaningful exchanges (probably 10-15 back and forth texts) should show if there is compatibility and any longer than that signals incompatibility for me. Most likely someone not truly interested or playing the field, that’s how I see it any… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 10:00 PM |
| 3 | Attractiveness and getting matches on dating sites (DIY Interactivity Inside).I got a 1.7 higher beauty score and 2 years younger! Just added normal makeup (no fake eyelashes, all the special stuff I have no idea how to do cause I’m no artist). Surreal but love whoever put this together cause even in my ugly state they’re off by 10 years in my age 😅😅 Edit: looks like we’re sharing scores now Beauty: 6.4 -> 8.1 Age: 29 -> 27 BMI: both at 20 but I’m fat as F for me right now 7 mos postpartum it’s like 26 for reals | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 11:46 PM |
| 2 | Attractiveness and getting matches on dating sites (DIY Interactivity Inside).I got a 1.7 higher beauty score and 2 years younger! Just added normal makeup (no fake eyelashes, all the special stuff I have no idea how to do cause I’m no artist). Surreal but love whoever put this together cause even in my ugly state they’re off by 10 years in my age 😅😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 11:33 PM |
| 6 | Attractiveness and getting matches on dating sites (DIY Interactivity Inside).This is awesome…just got back from outside gardening, no make up, sweaty and gross as hell. I’m gonna redo it in a couple hours once I’m all “dolled up” for the evening to see if results change. Thanks for sharing! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 07:37 PM |
| 0 | Let's talk about nicenessMost certainly. I think the nice group tries to be genuine but doesn’t know nor respect oneself. The kind variety has self worth and is truly genuine, not afraid of shame and feeling thru it when it happens, and therefore grows from each experience. Knows when it’s not about them. It’s the immature from the mature. That’s why there is a distinction I think needed for both terms. It’s easier to comprehend and apply with this idea to implement, if that makes sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 01:40 AM |
| 1 | CMV The sexual double standard (Guys getting girls = studs/Girls getting guys = sluts) is as natural as women who can't grow beards wanting men with beardsOh totally! Thank you 👍 Edit: still doesn’t discount the estrogen and other hormones I was taking about, I believe | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 12:06 AM |
| 1 | CMV The sexual double standard (Guys getting girls = studs/Girls getting guys = sluts) is as natural as women who can't grow beards wanting men with beardsReally? Proof? Edit: see above | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 12:04 AM |
| 1 | Do any woman here follow Female Dating Strategy? If you do, how is your dating life? What kind of men do you attract?I’m sad you feel this way, it is what it is, but it is not true, for me. Just take a step back and see there was some good in it as much as you feel some good in your TRP ways. I won’t deny you that, whatever works for you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 12:04 AM |
| 1 | Let's talk about nicenessThere is a difference between nice and kind. I stated this in an earlier post but probably one sided. A nice guy is the white night who curtails to anyone just like a nice girl is a doormat. Both of them put up with bad behavior from the opposite sex. There is something they want from the opposite sex, it’s not genuine. A kind person has boundaries, cares for others, is assertive, doesn’t put up with bullshit. The “NiceGuy™️” is someone who thinks he’s owed attention for being a decent human bei… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 12:00 AM |
| 2 | CMV The sexual double standard (Guys getting girls = studs/Girls getting guys = sluts) is as natural as women who can't grow beards wanting men with beardsGet what you’re saying, androgens are glands that secrete hormones like testosterone and estrogen. It’s perhaps the expression of these glands that drive reproductive functioning where hormones are involved. My point was to bring it back to the leading hormones aka T per OP is not the sole driving factor in libido. Good calling this out. It’s complex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 11:38 PM |
| 6 | Man Whore Or Whore Maker?Agree here, I’ve seen it. For a fun time, with or without sex attached, but never something taken seriously. And honestly these guys aren’t “alpha” cause they end up washed up and alone at 30 or 40 without much direction and wonder why they can’t pull the strings like they used to. People mature and wake up to understand fun and charisma is fake without the backbone of character. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 10:43 PM |
| 11 | CMV The sexual double standard (Guys getting girls = studs/Girls getting guys = sluts) is as natural as women who can't grow beards wanting men with beardsThere is no talk of estrogen or progesterone in your post, both of which are primary sex hormones for males and females. Testosterone is not what makes women necessarily want to have sex, it’s actually a serge in estrogen given her cycle. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 10:32 PM |
| 1 | CMV The sexual double standard (Guys getting girls = studs/Girls getting guys = sluts) is as natural as women who can't grow beards wanting men with beardsSorry, my bad, you’re right 🙏 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 10:27 PM |
| 1 | Many redpill communities say modern women need to change, but is the average male fueling women to not change?I could see that for sure. Amazing how many inter webs there are in feminism tbh but not surprising given the Friedan vs Steinem movements in the 60s. Sam Vaknin does an interesting piece on this that women are increasingly becoming like psychopathic men. Where I think he misses the mark is why. Women do have a right to feel angry over being treated as second class citizens throughout history, a woman couldn’t legally buy a piece of property until 1974, for example, but that’s not a reason to be… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 10:23 PM |
| 7 | CMV The sexual double standard (Guys getting girls = studs/Girls getting guys = sluts) is as natural as women who can't grow beards wanting men with beardsShould someone tell him testosterone isn’t the only sex hormone? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 10:11 PM |
| 1 | Do any woman here follow Female Dating Strategy? If you do, how is your dating life? What kind of men do you attract?Dude, chill. Reread what I said. There is no possibility of conversation with you if you think AWALT and Hive-mind talk. One gets themselves in abusive situations and out of them when we grow as human beings. No where in the manual is there talk of abusing men, it’s about self worth and believing you are worth what you want and how to steer clear of a man who is using you, that’s where the concepts of modern dating stems from. The same can not be said about the TRP manual. Regardless, we are all… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 10:03 PM |
| 2 | Do any woman here follow Female Dating Strategy? If you do, how is your dating life? What kind of men do you attract?So bizarre. It was sudden and most of us active contributors left in the dark. For me, it’s not a safe haven anymore. They’ve decided the way of profit over personal development. I get everyone has got to do what they got to do but there was no coordination and no communication. It was bizarre. That’s how I feel anyways. Still keep in contact with some great ladies so for that I can be thankful for. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 09:56 PM |
| 3 | Many redpill communities say modern women need to change, but is the average male fueling women to not change?Nah, PUA has existed since the 1970s. TRP is a spin-off of that concept. It wasn’t until the mid-90s we saw books like The Rules published for women on dating. Here we are now. What is it, the chicken or the egg? Not sure but it appears to only be getting worse as we as a society value cheap thrills and dopamine fixes over human relating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 09:52 PM |
| 7 | Do any woman here follow Female Dating Strategy? If you do, how is your dating life? What kind of men do you attract?I came here from FDS. We had a good core group of us higher ups, chatted in back channel. What I’ve recognized is we all come from different walks of life, have our own shit to deal with. I joined FDS to help women in abusive situations or with self worth issues. Esp for those women post-Red pill man. I could relate at the ripe old age of 35 figuring out a bad relationship where he quoted directly from the TRP manual (the saving private Ryan example is coming to mind). I married young, was the b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 10:23 PM |
| 0 | Niceness, confidence and men attractivityThere is a difference between nice and kind. When you are nice you are a doormat. When you are kind you have boundaries and confidence and self regard in that you know how you should be treated and you walk away from people who don’t respect you because you know your worth. That’s the problem with “nice guys”. They actually are douchebags because they think curtailing to the opposite sex will get them laid and then get mad about it if they don’t get it. It’s a passive vs agressive stance to get … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 10:28 PM |
| 2 | Woman of PPD: can you give an example of a man who is overweight or obese who you find attractive?Omg same I LOVE the think thighs and muscular calf’s, and also big butts 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 10:17 PM |
| 1 | Woman of PPD: can you give an example of a man who is overweight or obese who you find attractive?My man is “obese” but I find him attractive, he’s a bigger guy overall. I don’t like skinny guys, it’s just not my preference. We all have preferences so don’t be ashamed of yours. It’s really that simple. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Why Are You On PPD?Agreed here for sure! I wonder if we have a bunch of introverted, deep thinking women here tbh | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 09:59 PM |
| 6 | Why Are You On PPD?I came here curious from FDS. I felt stupid at 35 from a relationship with a red pill guy who literally quoted stuff from the manual. I wanted perspective. I wanted to know how dating worked after 15 years not being in the dating game. I’ve been surprised at times, for the good. I’ve felt shit on too. But so is life. Take what matters from any conversation. My main motive is how to help prepare my kids for modern dating. Finding the right partners and knowing where they fall on the pecking order… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/07/22 09:56 PM |
| 5 | Discussion- Women going back to their toxic bf/ex after bad mouthing them in front of their friends.I concur 😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 07:27 PM |
| 1 | Discussion- Women going back to their toxic bf/ex after bad mouthing them in front of their friends.It’s called a Trauma Bond. You will see this in abusive relationships where there is a push/pull dynamic where an abuser feels slighted (real or imagined) and then reacts actively or passively aggressive to get their partner to react emotionally in an effort to push them away to then pull them back in by means of manipulation to reestablish a sense of power and control over the other person and relationship. It’s likened to Stockholm Syndrome. There is an underlying emotional immaturity present … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/07/22 07:22 PM |
| – | Ladies, what is the biggest thing that the men on this sub get wrong about women?Interesting so how did you become black pill, from experience or something else? I’m really interested to hear your perspective. I’m against porn because of how it impacted my marriage and how I’ve seen it’s impacted women and men overall. Many young women I believe are opting out of dating because their sexual experiences with men have been traumatizing due to porn. There is no intimacy in being chocked or slapped, as much as porn can make one think so, but that’s just my opinion and if between… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/22 11:25 PM |
| – | Ladies, what is the biggest thing that the men on this sub get wrong about women?We’re all not chasing some weird Chad fantasy you made up in your heads. We don’t like “nice guys” cause you actually aren’t nice. When you put your goals before your ability to truly connect in a relationship, you will fail. Take a step back, look yourself in the mirror, and ask, what is it I really want? If you wanna bang as many women as possible, go for it but don’t expect to be finding a “submissive virgin” if that’s your goal while seeking the opposite, for yourself. Please, for the love o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/07/22 10:14 PM |
| 4 | What is it with women and "exceptions"?Keep working on you love! We all come to relationships with wounds and the more we heal the better we can show up in this world, romantically or otherwise ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/22 08:45 PM |
| 10 | Q4W: let's suppose that the current state of relationships among men and women leads to the complete collapse of modern society due to so many bitter aimless single men...If porn was erased from society and only women could own and operate guns, I would think we’d all just do fine. Women wouldn’t worry so much for safety (as you implied how bad that would be for women in general) and some accountability from men in their actions and true need for romantic sexual relationships. Your comment about forced monogamy is interesting. Red pill glorifies pump and dump but at the same time wanting forced monogamy?? Make it make sense 🤯 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/07/22 08:25 PM |
| 4 | What is it with women and "exceptions"?Dude, I feel ya! Truly I do cause I’ve been there too with men who were cheated on and they just couldn’t get past the hurt I believe. Every corner I turned in intimacy was met with a weird self sabotage and distrust I know I didn’t deserve. So is in the end, feeling is mutual here. I’m probably a bit older than you but the sentiment appears to be the same. It’s a savior complex issue that can be present in both men and women, IMHO. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 10:16 PM |
| 1 | What is it with women and "exceptions"?So what you’re saying is men don’t have rules and will fuck anything (why n count matters so much?) and then wonder why women get pulled into the “I can fix him” mentality after they’ve decided to sleep with the man? I’m thinking taming the wild beast is just like getting a virgin submissive woman. It’s a fallacy on both ends that have no root in human relating. It’s time for therapy for both, IMO. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 09:49 PM |
| 5 | What is it with women and "exceptions"?Just like some men are delusional and watch too much porn. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 09:41 PM |
| 11 | What is it with women and "exceptions"?You’re missing the point. The woman who thinks “I can save him” is the same as the man who presents himself as the “white knight”. They’re the same, and need therapy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/07/22 09:40 PM |
| 6 | Men are career focused for the purpose for serving, pleasing, or providing for others. Women are career focused due to the fear of others. Concluding women are not as meant to be career women.As the former breadwinner for our family, we followed the career of the one that made sense. Even after kids. Unfortunately that didn’t seem to be enough to make sense for my husband and he cheated to feel validation. We divorced. We talk about it. In divorce court, I made out worse. Women don’t do careers like this to to selfish, especially with kids. Women are just as motivated as men to provide for their families and even more. We are the ones whose bodies go through trauma to even have this … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/06/22 02:29 AM |
| 1 | Some critic on the Red Pill messageYou can’t blame women for your acceptance of abuse. If women did that, shit we’d have more more mass shootings and rapes out here…seeing as 98% of these are perpetuating by men. But STILL women enter into dating because there are good men out there. TRP will ensure you drive away a good woman. Because you will sabotage it based on your own past hurts and forums that tell you how women really are. TRP is for narcissistic men to attract borderline women. It’s about control and power and vice versa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/05/22 11:56 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Thoughts on Kevin SamuelsOnly time I’ve ever heard his name mentioned was here, since I’m not TRP and all. After listening to a few rooms in curiosity today in Clubhouse, I am now convinced in my original thoughts about him. He’s an influencer who capitalized on making men feel there is no problem while touting how Red Bull is toxic yet it appears his death may have been caused by a cocaine laced fentanyl cocktail that caused heart attack? We don’t know the full extent. But he appears he was enjoying his time with a wom… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/22 10:37 PM |
| 2 | The problem is that women do not have real sexualities, and as society becomes more liberated, this fact becomes more relevant.And this is your opinion. How does the ability to go multiple times and enjoy it not equate to wanting more of such thing? Dopamine release is what video games, porn, gambling, alcohol, drugs, shopping, gossiping and much much more have in common. It feels good to the body and ultimately to the brain. That’s a bit of common sense I would argue. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/22 01:14 AM |
| 1 | The problem is that women do not have real sexualities, and as society becomes more liberated, this fact becomes more relevant.The science you are stating, as I mentioned, are psychological studies. They are not biological studies based on anatomy. Think about it, if you could orgasm from 5 different areas, and multiple ones simultaneously, how great that could be. It’s possible for a woman. That’s why we actually do love and want great sex. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/22 12:25 AM |
| -1 | The problem is that women do not have real sexualities, and as society becomes more liberated, this fact becomes more relevant.It will take time to actually understand the female anatomy and care for it. And until that happens, we will continue to see studies like this presented in socio and psych settings yet not truly biological. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/05/22 12:11 AM |
| 7 | The problem is that women do not have real sexualities, and as society becomes more liberated, this fact becomes more relevant.So why then can women have multiple orgasms in one setting? How is that woman have not 1, not 2, but FIVE, yes 5, different erogenous areas within the vaginal area? Have you heard of the A spot or the O spot? No one really cares about women’s sexuality, that’s why the verdict on “squirting” is still out with a handful of studies since the 60s but hundreds for issues with male erectile issues. The studies you present show the behavioral comportments of sexuality, not necessarily the biological on… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/05/22 10:29 PM |
| 2 | Do you have a pre-set range of attractiveness you look for, or is this something that you approach case by case?😅 Chad Thundercock I’m sure you’re doing just fine. More meat on the bones, like a stocky football player. A huge beer gut is def a turn off just like a skinny tall guy is. Just not my cup of ☕️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/04/22 09:33 PM |
| 2 | Bf looked up his ex on insta? Should I be worried?Exactly this! Discern how you feel about it after answering the questions above. Then you will know. Sometimes it’s hard to decide, make sure in introspection what is past baggage/fear vs reality vs what feels right for you to do. Dating is hard and triggering, no matter how you break jt down, all that matters is you feel right about it ❤️. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Do you have a pre-set range of attractiveness you look for, or is this something that you approach case by case?Sure, we all have a type we find super attractive. For me, I prefer 5’9-6’1 guys who have a bit of meat on their bones. I like how easy a is kiss at this level (I’m 5’7) and I’m not into the ripped muscles. I’ve dated guys at 6’3 and 6’4 but it wasn’t a deterrent, cause I liked their personalities, but physically not my sweet spot. We all have a sweet spot so don’t think you’re more or less attractive based on how you perceive it. You will be the right wow for the right woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/04/22 09:54 PM |
| 82 | Would you guys be okay with this? It's sounds crazy to me.Oh he’s def going to Vegas and paying to sleep with these women, may not be in a brothel but he is paying and hence why he leaves extra cash for her like a prostitute to feel better about himself. Could totallly be a man in disguise too for sure! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/22 09:34 PM |
| 98 | Would you guys be okay with this? It's sounds crazy to me.Him seeing these hookups as a game 100% makes me think he’s an exhibitionist sex addict. And those men are liars and cheaters in everything they do. He has so much disrespect for her that he has no problem even telling her about his sexcapades. My mind is blown 🤯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/04/22 07:02 PM |
| 1 | What makes women not happy about the current dating market?What?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/22 02:30 PM |
| 3 | What makes women not happy about the current dating market?Now your talking your views… how the hell did you come up with women are nice and men are monsters based on my response 😅. Plenty of men and plenty of women, married, will display this type of behavior if they are not mature and grounded in their purpose, so perhaps I am back at square one in my response. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/22 03:16 AM |
| 3 | What makes women not happy about the current dating market?😅😅😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/22 02:48 AM |
| 2 | What makes women not happy about the current dating market?Agreed about Sparta but every town and village around that time worked differently. And modern society built on evolving Saxon or Roman or even Viking values is what we see today. Hebrew women had even greater rights than Spartans. We must see ourselves as today. Even for the French, I get what you’re saying, I married one, but it was and still borne from the male gaze and a way for women to exert ownership over their sexuality and in the marketplace in traditional Gaulle society. Rates of child… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/22 02:39 AM |
| 4 | What makes women not happy about the current dating market?Yes, why not? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/22 01:59 AM |
| 5 | What makes women not happy about the current dating market?I would guess you don’t have kids yet, a woman wants to raise offspring with the man procreated with it possible. It’s bonding and protection at the highest degree biologically if we’re looking into history with women of ages. You also have to remember women of spartan and enlightened France were considered property. They were sold and bought like gold and silver, as a means to make alliances and sacrifice for the world they had no voice in. People will do what they need to do with o survive, wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/22 01:58 AM |
| 0 | What makes women not happy about the current dating market?It’s on men to understand how to transmute that energy, and if it doesn’t work then you just don’t have it yet. Many other factors come into play like definitive of purpose, unwavering faith, a pleasing personality, to name a few. I didn’t make this assumption, Napoleon Hill did who studied men over two decades did. He also talks to the point most men don’t make it in life until 40 or 50, until they can harness their sexual energy into purpose. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/22 01:54 AM |
| -1 | What makes women not happy about the current dating market?Most women aren’t looking for abundant sex with multiple partners. Abundant sex with the right man is awesome. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/22 12:51 AM |
| 1 | What makes women not happy about the current dating market?Exactly. An abundance of shit on OLD is why many women just abandon ship. Too many options is not the issue, it’s too many options contrary to what we explicitly say we’re looking for. It’s exhausting. Most men would take abundant sex if given the opportunity but herein lies the lack of maturity as a strong, high value man that knows transmuting that energy into strong relationships and his work, rather than physically release with a warm body, is what will make him successful in life. Not my wo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/04/22 11:39 PM |
| 20 | My ex-husband is in an age-gap relationship now and I feel sick to my stomach!An enormous age gap with a younger woman who is coming from another country is a big fat 🚩 - worst case she wants citizenship and he’s bought into the redpill philosophy of getting an Asian or Eastern European girl will solve your problems and worship you. Not saying that’s your situation but just sayin. Be careful. Men like this are sociopathic or psychopathic. Or at best really, really lost. But either way an incredibly loose cannon. Do not get yourself in a situation of acceptance where he at… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/04/22 02:01 AM |
| 1 | Dating is A Scam And Doesn’t Work For Most PeopleI never said introverts thrive on more connections I said they have many connections, of which a large sum are most likely acquaintances or transactional relationships, with strong boundaries behind how those relationships function. They will not be all friends, in the true sense of the word, where intimacy and vulnerability can be found. No contractions here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/04/22 11:57 PM |
| 2 | Dating is A Scam And Doesn’t Work For Most PeopleOf course they are. What kind of question is this? Even isolated individuals live within a certain community, while small, it’s still a community. The best example of complete isolation would be the movie Cast Away, or even Life of Pi. In both instances the characters engaged with very few or even no people like Tom Hanks and his volleyball. It’s a good example of human nature that even alone, within the own mind in complete isolation, we make meaning with objects or nature to feel connection, b… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/22 09:59 PM |
| 15 | Dating is A Scam And Doesn’t Work For Most PeopleIf I’m not mistaken, you are asking thoughts to a fellow INTJ so I’ll interject. Introverts and extroverts both thrive on human connection, we are built this way, all of us, as humans. Healthy introverts prefer smaller and oftentimes deeper more vulnerable connections over many connections with a lot of stimuli but we are human and still thrive on connections. The idea of sigmas and such is red pill nonsense. The type of man you are speaking of, admired and followed, has many connections and man… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/22 03:02 AM |
| 62 | Beauty pageants - for the male gaze? For the women gaze?Former beauty queen here and I honestly can’t give you a straight answer 😅. Granted, I was part of the county fair system supporting agriculture across the county and nationally. It’s a competition rated on intelligence and talent but also how good you can walk a runway in a bathing suit. It provided me a scholarship for school and it was endearing to see little girls faces light up when they saw “a princess with a crown”. There’s gotta be something to the Disney princess thing, and also patriar… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/03/22 09:08 PM |
| 15 | Taking on spiritual practices or meditative practices for spiritual/personal growthLove this! Our spiritual connection to Source is so pivotal to leveling up, and honestly where our physical, emotional & mental health converge. As a Christian, I take a bit of a different approach but love and appreciate all of how we practice our spiritual growth. For me, I grab my Bible and pray over it, releasing what does not serve me and asking for guidance on what I desire and need. I ask God to help show me how to achieve it and I open the book to where I feel led to. There has and conti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/22 10:23 PM |
| 137 | Just met a career pickmeUgh, BARB stop it!! She totally married a loser and my guess is she feels somewhat embarrassed by his lack of drive and initiative, and also responsible, therefore she’s doing all the work. I sincerely hope he doesn’t bounce once she’s built him up. Never, ever invest in a man like this. I should say a boy like this. I remember being asked to help strategize on a guys business underneath the layers was a lazy and entitled man child. I bet she’s getting a part of the potential profit, not even pa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/22 11:52 PM |
| 51 | Being promiscuous after you have children is not morally okBut why the comment on single moms? Literally mind boggling considering it takes a woman and a man to sleep together to make a child. If we had more men rising to the occasion perhaps we wouldn’t have so many single mothers. Stop it already. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/03/22 12:59 AM |
| 1 | Women's inflated self-rating today is mostly due to men's desperation on OLDWhat does can’t afford to have high standards mean? Of course both men and women have physical standards, as mentioned, the determining factor for men is often first looks and women take into consideration the entire profile, on the regular. But again not everyone, we don’t live in a box. Having options could feel good but it means nothing when that doesn’t hold up to your standard. Not all people set a standard, that may be part of the problem. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/22 02:39 AM |
| 1 | Women's inflated self-rating today is mostly due to men's desperation on OLDWell then clearly you’re warped up in an understanding you’ve heard about and not on your own reality? I’m not talking in hypotheticals because it’s a waste of time, focus on you and what matters. So not sure what to say but happy check out your profile if you want a second opinion? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/22 02:17 AM |
| 1 | Women's inflated self-rating today is mostly due to men's desperation on OLDSure, but men do have lower standards than women, it’s part of my point, standards are at base immediate looks and certainly men judge and decide almost entirely on this first. Clearly there are physical preferences there. Women don’t quite work the same way, for the most part, as it’s just not the look. And that’s my point on indiscriminate. Women chose and that choice has very little to do with quantity. The apps are built for the male thirst tbh. It’s work forever and financially in this worl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/22 02:00 AM |
| 1 | Women's inflated self-rating today is mostly due to men's desperation on OLDSo further shows get off the app if you’re gonna be indiscriminate. Let’s not put the cart before the horse. Women don’t have a hard time choosing, we just have too many to go thru even when we’ve been discriminate with our filters…doesn’t matter cause the apps are built to keep us active and single, hopefully paying, if you think about it. Instead of fighting each other we might be better off fighting the system but that’s a subject for a different day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/03/22 12:30 AM |
| 7 | "Legal Prostitution won't solve anything."A hooker app wouldn’t have women looking for or in a committed relationship like this, your example is just so silly. If you’ve found yourself in a situation where a woman asks you for an open relationship, or vice versa, and you’re a monogamous minded person, then leave. Why do we need to complicate everything??? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/22 05:55 AM |
| 1 | Women's inflated self-rating today is mostly due to men's desperation on OLDHow does that even happen? Like cause they provide Instagram it’s for clout? Men put that on their profile too so they’re chasing the same perhaps? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/22 12:41 AM |
| 7 | Women's inflated self-rating today is mostly due to men's desperation on OLDThis type of thinking is delusional, have you ever been on OLD? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/03/22 12:36 AM |
| 9 | Women's inflated self-rating today is mostly due to men's desperation on OLDMen don’t know where they stand cause, as you stated, they swipe on anything. If they knew their true rating there’d be some discretion or at least some preferences but clearly a quick lay trumps all most of the time. It’s honestly not a compliment when you get likes on OLD from guys clearly out of your league. Women know, relatively, it’s not that hard. We may get more quantity but it’s annoying and why many opt out of OLD entirely. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/22 09:55 PM |
| 2 | Women's inflated self-rating today is mostly due to men's desperation on OLDDo it! I’d totally join your club 💯 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/03/22 09:27 PM |
| 9 | Man Wonders If Leaving His Urgently Ill Girlfriend At The ER Was, Like, Rude Or Whatever.This is so F’ed Up I imagined a “mail order bride” situation where he thought he was getting a sex robot, like ordered, and not a human being. This is absolutely disgusting 🤯. Makes me ponder some of the more extreme behavior we’re seeing with men today - engulfed in porn and video games, extreme entitlement, and a deep disconnect of reality. It’s almost as if they’re no longer even human anymore… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/22 04:47 AM |
| 2 | Narcissism and it's effect on modern datingI’d like to see studies on that. Genetic predisposition in the realm of mental and psychiatric disorders is far far behind things like cancer or autoimmune diseases. Within the last decade or so schizophrenia has (finally) been linked to generational trauma but it’s still inconclusive and more correlative vs causative. Trauma, whether a little t or a big T, will manifest in individuals in different ways. A hyper sensitive individual may experience classroom bullying and be socially paralyzed whi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 10:57 PM |
| 2 | Narcissism and it's effect on modern datingSure, as my original post mentioned it’s early family dynamics that mostly creates or causes narcissism as we know today, with the only exception of the roughly 1% of the population with psychopathy which shows brain biological origins. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 01:55 AM |
| 2 | Narcissism and it's effect on modern datingI beg to differ. Perhaps not in all Cluster B disorders but with NPD it most certainly is. Even with covert vs grandiose narcissism, the underlying mechanisms of grandiosity manifests itself in unhealthy competitive and dominating behavior. Again, narcissism is on a spectrum and these are key factors in the negative side of its expression. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/03/22 01:46 AM |
| 2 | Narcissism and it's effect on modern datingWhat’s the driver then? To win at all costs takes an unhealthy expression of ego rooted in superiority and expressed in behavior as agressive competition and dominance over others. Put “unhealthy” before those words and it has accurate meaning if that suits your fancy. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 03:04 PM |
| 2 | Narcissism and it's effect on modern datingOn the extreme yes, they are narcissistic traits. To dominate and win at all costs without regard to others is a Machiavellian trait in the dark triade. I am well versed on the subject. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/03/22 02:52 PM |
| 92 | We need to talk about exit strategies for those of us with LVM.Brace yourself for the reach outs during the cooling down period once they realize you’re really done. In my experience, while LVM may not have shown abusive tendencies when dating, you will experience it now when you leave. They will try to manipulate you by gaslighting and lying to keep you around, anything to continue the conversation. While you can’t block on email, send their messages to the junk folder. Be firm if/when they show up at your house or job that it’s over and if they contact yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 08:50 PM |
| 3 | Narcissism and it's effect on modern datingNarcissism is on a spectrum, we need healthy narcissism to assert ourselves, achieve our goals, be confident individuals. Unhealthy narcissism is the inflated egos à la superiority, grandiosity and manipulation of others. Society today is more individualistic and there further on the unhealthy side. We are seeing many more women matching the narcissistic traits previously held mostly by men (competition, dominance, etc). In general, our society is disillusioned by the Disney fairytales of romanc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/02/22 07:10 PM |
| 107 | Pick-Up Artist "PUA" Tactics: Which Have You Heard?FRAME - from page 132… “He who controls the frame controls the communication itself”…”If your frame is strong enough you can get away anything. This is the caveat for every piece of advice in this book. If you have the right frame, and it’s strong enough, you can break every rule and anything will work.” Your description is spot on that you could be his dream woman but he’s too far gone, he’s become a psychopath playing a game of control and manipulation beyond our own comprehension. It’s so sic… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 11:58 PM |
| 193 | Pick-Up Artist "PUA" Tactics: Which Have You Heard?This is sooooooogood! Gosh takes me back to the time I dated a 42 yr old divorcee, highly educated and from a rich family, and he pulled this shit on me I was so confused. Did some research and came upon TRP (he had literally quoted from the manual). I asked my then ex husband about it and down the rabbit hole I went when he sent me the Venusian Arts manual, Holy mother of God!!! I am happy to forward if you ladies want/need, we should build off this material - I was intrigued, disgusted, scared… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/22 10:41 PM |
| 228 | Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂Omg i literally spit out my water, yessss!! Did you see he took an interview that claims he never told these women he was the heir of diamonds? Or how about people saying these women deserved it cause they were too “naïve”?!? The gaslighting is deep and men like this get a “let’s hear his story” premier while a woman would hands down be called the spawn of satan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 10:33 PM |
| 58 | A message to the kinkmeishas: No, porn is not "normal".Porn is made for men by men, it’s why 90% of men just aren’t worth it for relationships as their brains are too far fried to understand intimacy and normal relating. It always baffles me to hear that they respect their mothers or love their daughters when 80+% of porn is proven to show violence against women…Their brain matter changes like in addiction and they compartmentalize like zombies. And we’re taught as women that it’s ok and normal. F that!! We must acknowledge that they’ve all been exp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 12:03 AM |
| 51 | Only 19 years old 😭 she shouldn’t tolerate thisExactly what I came here to say 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 11:34 PM |
| 33 | Another post promoting sex work as “real work” and an OP that is probably one of the top 1% of earners on OF… I feel for these people struggling to make it financially but sex work ain’t it.…and imagine how’d you explain it to your grandkids one day, if ever, wild to think about 😳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 11:33 PM |
| 99 | If you follow FDS right, you WON'T know the full truth of what you dodged. And that's not only fine, it's preferable.As crazy as it might seem, running a background check on any man you’re considering is so pivotal it’s Handbook worthy. My father ran extensive background checks on every guy I dated I eventually found out much later. He’s a lawyer and luckily none of them had anything in the courts but just that admission alone showed me how men don’t trust each other and neither should we…. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/22 10:32 PM |
| 1 | On authentic vs performative datingIntimacy is a dance and early on it’s a performance. Both men and women will test each other to see if a match is possible, so you’re right in the performative act. But in a normal and healthy progression, the play act drops to authenticity. If the goal is to get laid and nothing else, that’s the energy you will get back. It’s that simple, no self respecting person plays that game…and if they’re caught in the spiders web of a bad game will get out, although perhaps with regrets……… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/02/22 02:57 AM |
| 62 | Stay away from self-proclaimed “brutally honest” menThese men are 100%, hands down, narcissists. Their grandiosity and superiority complex is straight out of the diagnostic manual for Narcissistic Personality Disorder! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/22 08:44 PM |
| 3 | Men and women are more different than they are alikeAre you really saying a man’s only motive is sex? For you, perhaps, but it’s time to grow up. Sex is best in intimacy, mature men and women will agree. Not all “feminists” believe men and women are the same - divergent thinking here dates back to the 60s. Wisdom is understanding we’re not all that different in the end because we as humans all crave connection and belonging in this world. Where we differ is the expression and needs in such. Men crave admiration and respect, women crave love and a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/01/22 12:39 AM |
| 21 | Has a man ever lied to you about potential opportunities/working on common goals to spend more time with you? *discussion*Yes!! Omg girl I laughed at your edit cause not needed, you are beautiful and will turn heads! Hence why he wanted to be around you to feel superior or special, it’s so real and weird, like association just by having a good looking woman by their side…And I know how you feel on that front, I purposefully dress down to avoid the gross lustful attention. Who knows why he decided to do what he did now, maybe attention, maybe a bad dating experience and wanted to feel deserving or to show off in fro… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 02:27 AM |
| 105 | What've you rediscovered about yourself since being single?Aweee I love this! I rediscovered I’m a highly sensitive empathic person who deserves the compassion I give to others. I recognized I really do love my time by myself to write, read, contribute to people and spaces that lift me up. I’m better able to spot manipulation and walk away and set really good boundaries and while scary to do it at times I feel really good about it keep at it cause I’m taking care of me! I realized being alone is not lonely at all. That self care is my commitment in life… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 01:24 AM |
| 161 | Awful everything 😩 same grooming, different scroteIt never ceases to amaze me how often the “no major fights or disagreements” somehow end up with the man being a complete lunatic psychopath pedo living a double life. Like wtf 😳 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 01:11 AM |
| 62 | Has a man ever lied to you about potential opportunities/working on common goals to spend more time with you? *discussion*Totally, men will go to great lengths to impress a woman they want and have no problem lying or exaggerating the truth in that conquest! I’ve found men have a deep desire to be admired and the ones who’ve watched too many romcoms or stuck in Peter Pan boy mentality or even just honestly losers will have a weird propensity to exaggerate the truth by thinking once they “win you over” the lies won’t matter and you’ll be forgiving cause you’re in love and have empathy and can see why he did it to im… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/22 12:50 AM |
| 43 | We have a fragile one.I literally can’t take the immature projection anymore. $500 this guy contributes to red pill or enjoys abuse porn. Like really? Ok, cause we have standards and it makes you mad so we must just all hate men like you hate women deep down?? I am amazed at how much trouble men go to put us down. There are several subs dedicated to mocking and making fun of us, why? Because they can not stand we’ve figured them out and have standards. We live rent free in these basement dwelling neck beards minds it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 09:14 PM |
| 57 | So done with avoidant men.I feel your pain! Didn’t matter if I was cautious and respected the build-up to intimacy or jumping in and laying it all out on the table, both types of men have ended up emotionally unavailable for me in the past. A key indicator I look back on now is if they have truly been able to move on from a past heartache- what they learned, improved in themselves, and how they show up today (many may cognitively know what they want but too emotionally immature to get there). A book that really opened my… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/01/22 09:55 PM |
| 67 | No. FDS is not about clapping back at men who neg youExactly. If you must, the only response to a neg should be “what?” with a dumbfounded and contemptuous look followed by walking away. Engaging in any way is giving them your energy, time and attention that they they do not deserve. Remember that quote that goes something like “men fear women will laugh at them while women fear men will kill them”. A neg is simply a way to instill insecurity in you which is ultimately fear to grab female attention, don’t take the bait!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/11/21 06:30 PM |
| 80 | "Do you want to hang out sometime?"I think a phrase like this stems from either insecurity or too many rom-coms. Either way, the guy is showing a lack of initiative and definiteness in purpose in pursuing you (and probably bleeds into other areas in his life). I’ve found its a cover for a weak or fragile ego. An immature man. If he can’t pick up on your interest or is testing to see if you’re interested as not to bruise his ego or he’s heard this phrase and imagines it’s like the movies and people just magically fall in love and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 07:09 PM |
| 48 | The self-aware LVMEwww yea, if you’re real with yourself you’ll feel a level of disgust, contempt and pity all while your vag literally dries up and recoils within itself. Men love to pull on the heart strings of women as we’ve historically been conditioned to care and nurture for all of humanity and put up with this garbage. When we actually identify with our true feelings it’s like ewwww, grow up dude! But many women will stick around (been guilty of that before!) and take on the savior role which is so toxic, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/10/21 02:05 AM |
| 0 | Is porn ruining average sexual experiences for men by raising their expectations on how much sexual women should be with them?This study says nothing except “evolved biological factors are the primary cause of sex differences” with “Gender equality and economic development tended to predict, across nations, sex differences in sociosexuality” - proving my point | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 03:08 AM |
| 39 | Flirting tips + dating when not ready for marriageDo what feels right and don’t be afraid to test the water again, but do it with intention. Pull back when overwhelmed or forge forward if you’re ready for more connection. You shouldn’t be considering a potential man for marriage for at least a year of consistent dating so saying you don’t want marriage or a serious relationship any time soon is par for the course. Just be intentional. Showing up and with an energy of exploration of free and fun is what you will attract. We all need a little fun… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 02:58 AM |
| 0 | Is porn ruining average sexual experiences for men by raising their expectations on how much sexual women should be with them?Yes. Yes porn is ruining the sexual experience for both men and women, but certainly for men as fantasy gets the best of most. a conquest to be big and strong like the men they watch pounding some hot woman who lovessss your dick for just being a dick and hot to go! That’s why it’s fake and film. The worst in bed are the the porn watchers. As a woman with a love for sex and doesn’t watch that shit, it’s easier to catch men who do - disconnected, performing, and dealing with ED issues (and someho… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/21 01:18 AM |
| 212 | Make sure you are his first option. Men can fake and pretend you’re his #1 because they’re lonely, when in fact you aren’t the one they want.Agreed. Even if you’re everything they want, if they haven’t worked through the baggage of their previous relationship failures he will 100% sabotage the relationship. This has happened to me multiple times and I ended all of them because they couldn’t fully show-up in the relationship because of their baggage. Each one sabotaged by either playing games or just generalized anxiety about commitment with no action behind the words to overcome on their part. No way I was gonna be therapist/mommy to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/10/21 10:02 PM |
| 2 | When does "shit testing" become domestic violence?Hahaaaa how about men stop sexually abusing first? 😁 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/21 03:59 AM |
| 2 | When does "shit testing" become domestic violence?No, I’m just countering your argument about women having been untouchable for along time. There’s a history and unspoken or unacknowledged something here. My guess lies in the 1 in 3-5 women being sexually abused by age 18 so there’s a trauma response that needs to worked out. Angry and violent people are hurting and broken people, it’s that simple to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/21 03:54 AM |
| 1 | When does "shit testing" become domestic violence?I get your point but never in modern history have women had a voice until within the last 30 or so years. Owning a bank account or having equal pay wasn’t even something real until the 70s. I think women shout loudly because that’s what has been needed to to in order to be taken seriously especially as these “rights” have been “granted”. Perhaps you’re right we’ll see a pivot but I doubt it. These social narratives we talk about will only get more polarized as we’re seeing in the greater landsca… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/21 03:15 AM |
| 0 | When does "shit testing" become domestic violence?Weird. Not me. Not the women in my circle. Not the women even in my outer circle. Smells like another AWALT cop out explanation. Sure, there are women who will shout from the streets just like there are men who wouldn’t mind beating their wife. Women aren’t held accountable how? Who should be holding them accountable? And why does it ultimately matter in the longitude of the life you live? Not all men are rapists yet men get looped into this category and then wine and bitch about it. Just like w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/21 02:43 AM |
| 4 | When does "shit testing" become domestic violence?Nope. Along with all the mental health community. It’s a defense mechanism to avoid guilt or shame. Shit tests are just a fancy way of saying manipulation to get what you want. It’s immature and ultimately psychologically destructive not just the the receiver but to the giver too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/21 02:38 AM |
| 7 | When does "shit testing" become domestic violence?Shit tests are mutual. I’ve been shit tested with that red pill bullshit from holding back affection/sex to stupid negging about my personal style and cooking, which are strengths of mine. I of course loved to find the TRP manual and how this is used as an abusive tactic to breakdown the psyche of a woman because “yeah, they’re all children” and “never lose your frame”. Or how about the emotionally stunted blue pills that desire a great relationship but have no understanding of how to navigate o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/10/21 02:13 AM |
| 73 | Pickme: a cautionary tale (long read)So much love to you! It took strength and vulnerability to share your story and it is so, so, so common with women who married a man child young!! What I’ll say is think about the example you’re showing your kids by staying together. They will never see a healthy relationship and you’re not only depriving yourself, you’re depriving them. When my parents divorced, I was glad. They were horrible to each other and while the divorce was difficult for us (I am eldest of 4), they both moved on and rem… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/10/21 12:44 AM |
| 90 | If you are confused about his intentions, read this. These are the words of men, describing how they behave when they love and respect their woman. Don't accept any excuses, ever!This is great! But I do think it’s just the bare minimum….it’s just the tip of the iceberg to show you he’s serious about you. A man who wants to see you, build a future is a good sign of his commitment but is he truly worthy of your time and your commitment? I’ve been with men who show these green flags but I saw I ultimately served a purpose for them that they were unable to equally match me in emotional investment. I supported them with their careers or personal relationships, encouraged them… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 06:40 PM |
| 8 | Men will have sex and date “younger women” who act like literal children. How can anyone be turned on by that? 🤮Yea that’s girls with their moms, technically. I was trying to say more like instead of boys competing with fathers they complete to be the father so perhaps not a reversal of OC but some version of f’ed up perhaps connected to this childlike premise/stage of development. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 04:07 AM |
| – | Are any of the women who post here good looking? I know 1 is, what about the others? Rate yoselves! Decimals allowed.A mystery it must remain 😉 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 03:01 AM |
| – | Pills by colour 💊I can’t stop laughing and rereading this, yesssssss!!! I think WP is missing reclamation to be achieved via reincarnation or afterlife. In this world? Nah. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 02:59 AM |
| 141 | Men will have sex and date “younger women” who act like literal children. How can anyone be turned on by that? 🤮There is a DEEP father/daughter dynamic in this type of behavior. It’s like the Oedipal Complex reversed. They like to feel superior and the daddy knight and shining armor. While many of us might get warped into the caretaker mommy role I feel it’s different given there truly is an age and maturity difference that makes this such so damn creepy. He actually wants to be with a young girl. Redpillers love to talk age difference and grooming young girls cause it’s easier to control them. It’s about… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/10/21 02:29 AM |
| – | Are any of the women who post here good looking? I know 1 is, what about the others? Rate yoselves! Decimals allowed.Hi, IHaveSalesQuestions, I’m flattered, thank you! I fit into the category as best described by user ThesePeopleBeggin on this thread …. but I can help you with answering your sales questions as I own a sales consultancy and coaching firm! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 02:12 AM |
| 1 | Men, Rwd and Blue and Unaffiliated alike, what stupid questions and assumptions are you tired of getting/hearing?I’m so sick of hearing men have a higher sex drive…..this is biologically untrue at the base as women can orgasm from the clitoris as well as vaginally in 4 (yes 4!!!!) different spots. Men aren’t more sexual, i would urge the opposition. The problem? Women’s sexuality has been ridiculed, shamed, feared (check out vagina dentata), suppressed, and overall not important (the verdict on squirting still is out) ….. since the dawn of time. Ya’ll men create your own problem. Stop watching porn and sta… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 01:40 AM |
| – | Are any of the women who post here good looking? I know 1 is, what about the others? Rate yoselves! Decimals allowed.Former beauty Queen, model, and captain of the Pom squad. Over the wall, still get carded and hit on by 20 yr olds (also checked out by boys much younger which weirds me out). How can one objectively decide? How would one rate a “girl next door” look? I’ve taken those dumb quizzes, knocked big time points for a B cup and late 30s. I’m also too serious and intellectual to be hot 😂. What about the men here? My guess is you’re all 20 something neckbeard basement dwellers or washed up butt hurt divo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/10/21 01:07 AM |
| 82 | Difference between men who watch porn and don't watch porn and how they center discussions is amazingThere is definitely truth to this as healthy conversations around sexuality and pleasure is vital, and it’s certainly nice to be with someone more caring and communicative! Just be sure to watch as things unfold. I’m not sure how long you’ve been together but it’s so critical to understand his history - ask him about times he’s watched it, how he felt, why he doesn’t, what made him stop. Truth be told, all boys have been exposed to it to some degree and it’s about us vetting how far down the rab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/09/21 07:51 PM |
| 651 | The sign reads “Convince my boyfriend to propose to me.” Harry: How long have you guys been together? Her: 7 Years. Harry: I can’t help you.This is so sad and really gross at the end of the day. To show up with a sign like this, and he knew about it, it’s like a weird power play that screams this relationship sounds dysfunctional at best, toxic at worst. I have friends and even my sister who have succumbed to forever girlfriend status as they “progress” slowly over the years. There’s nothing I can say and over time everyone makes their own decisions and has their own needs so I let it be. But damn the anxiety I can see sometimes I b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 11:39 PM |
| 47 | Never say sorry or thankyou to a narcissist. They prey on vulnerable people to make them dependent on them/ feel they owe them only to use it against them later. Their calculated favours are priming you to tolerate the abuse that’s coming.I can attest sorry & thank you are words you will not hear from a sociopathic covert narcissist. A grandiose one will use them (esp sorry) in order to sideline then scapegoat with some excuse and lace it with gaslighting lies. A narcissist sees relationships as a means to serve them. Watch how often you walk away from “fights” feeling confused and misunderstood- that’s the key to the bigger play in how you’re always the one feeling the need to apologize of be thankful for breadcrumbs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 09:51 PM |
| 8 | If a guy says he wants to marry you, how soon is this proposal?It comes down to does he want her to move in for support (financially, emotionally, physically, etc) or is he doing it out of an intention for the next step in partnership. Yes, all advice against moving in prior and less than a year together is often too soon to know! They could be one of those couples that it works but what it will come down to is watching for is if this is means to an end or true. If he starts to expect certain behavior like cleaning, cooking, supporting, etc. She will have t… | /r/askFDS | 23/09/21 09:49 PM |
| 25 | Women of Reddit, why would you cheat?There’s something to the phrase “men cheat out of opportunity, women cheat out of desperation”. If you are in a committed relationship and that’s been established, especially in marriage, the women has most likely met her breaking point. You’ve probably heard she’s frustrated/not feeling loved/connected/understood/valued or she’s totally shut down, and on more than one occasion. Cheating is never the answer but some women succumb to it as anyone who continually feels unheard and unseen can be de… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/21 09:52 PM |
| 1 | What's the best definition for "masculine" and "feminine" traits?Totally. So for me, the physical traits I find interesting as I’m attracted more to a certain type of male (5’8-6’1, hairy, thick thighs) yet I have dated and have loved men outside of that realm. In the end, it was about maturity and how they showed up in the world as I wanted to be too. The vibration and maturity mattered more than anything than looks at the end of the day. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/21 01:15 AM |
| 1 | What's the best definition for "masculine" and "feminine" traits?Yes and no. Jung provides archetypes, as does others is the psych realm, yet there’s a lack of realism which I tried a bit to make sense of as I understand it. Its ideologies vs real life imo, I agree as syxtaly said I think it’s a simulacrum of truth as we each can make sense of it to our experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/21 12:25 AM |
| 5 | What's the best definition for "masculine" and "feminine" traits?It comes down to energy. We are all born with masculine and feminine energy (both men and women have the typical “manly” hormones of testosterone and “womanly” hormones of estrogen, but to different degrees.) what’s important is the understanding and application of your own masculine and feminine in a mature vs immature expression. Most of our life’s problems stem from operating in the immature of these energies which is often based on our own biases, shaped by culture, and more importantly who … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/09/21 11:05 PM |
| 4 | RP men, what do you want?Agreed on the trajectory of a relationship where you’ve got immature people relating. I think your point on women asking for more and more and losing respect is just as valid and it’s common on the flip side with women and coercive and manipulative men. They’re one in the same, regardless of gender, it’s an emotional immaturity and preference to manipulation over authentic relating. I married a man who was manipulative to get out if it and date a guy to struggled with an ex wife just as you’re s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/09/21 04:12 AM |
| 24 | Help having discussions around money / career with current partnerAgree with the rest of the ladies but here’s something I have to add - HUGE red flags on the philosophy here. As a coach myself and versed in mindset, he’s gaslighting you when he brushes off your concerns about the future and stating you’re not staying in the present moment. No where in modern teaching of manifestation or I believe Eckhart’s work does it not talk about not having a vision or goals for the future - one must be present with feelings and motives in order to manifest and it’s best … | /r/askFDS | 31/08/21 02:20 PM |
| 425 | What are examples of a LVM playing red pill mind games ?Trust your gut, especially in the beginning of a relationship and most certainly if you feel someone is lying. It’s almost always true in my experience that you can sense the lies and they’re on point. The sob stories are to garner your sympathy. It’s a classic tactic of a vulnerable/covert narcissist. Looking for a mommy/care taker and it has probably worked for him in the past (especially with broken women who have a savior complex). Don’t feel bad, it will just get worse, you’ve probably got … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/21 01:52 PM |
| 36 | I desperately needed to bring attention to this. It speaks for itself. I was once a sex worker between the ages of 20-21 and I am filled with regret and am traumatized. Source: https://mobile.twitter.com/ellyarrow?lang=enOP were you once a sex worker, is that what you’re saying in the title? I just wanna understand and as a momma of a young girl I’m petrified at times with what’s to come as she ages and would appreciate more dialogue on this. Thank you for sharing! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 01:46 AM |
| 68 | I caught my husband watching porn and kicked him outSo proud of you!!!!! Yes 💯🙌. It’s so crazy how much we’ve had to put up with until we say no. You’ve got this and your while life ahead, sans kids baggage, so rock it. You deserve it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/21 01:39 AM |
| 10 | How do I become a HVW when all the odds are stacked against me? (Rant)She is here with you! She’s within you, in your DNA, and guiding you alongside higher powers - tap into that spiritual however it feels right for you…a walk in nature, a meditation, a prayer, a painting, singing or dancing. You’ll know when you feel it and unapologetically embrace it 💗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 07:39 PM |
| 14 | How do I become a HVW when all the odds are stacked against me? (Rant)First off, be proud you own your story and are working towards your desires, that’s huge! A NPD is not capable of that…I hope you’ve ditched the therapist, yikes, there are a lot of bad ones out there who are narcs themselves and project that onto their clients. I highly recommend Pete Walkers work in healing C-PTSD. His free resources and worksheets can walk you through the emotional disregulation and healing that comes with a broken upbringing. Often many are labeled BPD or NPD while the under… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 07:14 PM |
| 143 | Tell me you blame women, without telling me you blame women.Omg the word salad here is insane. So patriarchy created it but only rich men and then it’s all women to blame cause feminism and it’s the rich men and ohh the poor women. What in the world salad is this?! Oh Lord help us all these “woke” manchildren cause women need to realize how they reinforce it!! Lmao 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 03:50 AM |
| 2 | The only sustainable, effective way for a male to truly uphold his mental health is to become a stoic.Exactly. It helps in business being stoic as a woman. Really, really well. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/21 03:40 AM |
| 3 | The only sustainable, effective way for a male to truly uphold his mental health is to become a stoic.Well, you’re not old nor have a family so manifest what you desire and it might be true? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/21 03:39 AM |
| 5 | The only sustainable, effective way for a male to truly uphold his mental health is to become a stoic.Back pain. ED. Acne. These are all physical manifestations of repressed emotions often seen in men, and women too. We’re humans for Christ sake! Numbing is toxic, so true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/21 03:38 AM |
| 11 | The only sustainable, effective way for a male to truly uphold his mental health is to become a stoic.Until your physical body starts to show signs of emotional bottling up. Emotions are what they are, they need to be felt and released in order to mature. Denying them or wishing them away does no good. Accept what is and feel through your feelings in a safe space with others or yourself, journaling is a good outlet. My demeanor is quite stoic as a woman, I was raised by narcissists, necessary to survive. Denying emotions though only manifests psychosomatically. Someone rejecting or cheating or m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/21 10:34 PM |
| 47 | The narcissistic LVM stare. Has anyone else noticed this while vetting in person?Yes! This is the love bombing narcissistic stare. So funny cause I just posted a response on Quora about this recently. This is the stare you will get during the idealization phase. You’ll feel it’s creepy and most certainly uncomfortable. It’s when they’re in their fantasy projection and believe you are their perfect soul mate, their true extension of themselves. I call it the Pepe La Peu stare (look it up from the old cartoon, you’ll know what I mean haha). Ive also seen in between the idealiz… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/21 09:04 PM |
| 90 | Why they're hung up on their exI think the not relationship ready/hung up on ex is just a cop out they learned in PUA boys camp. Appeal to the emotional level to reap the benefits until their hot, submissive, Barbie doll shows up and perfects their life, she’s out there and waiting for you!! It’s all an illusion and then they blame women for being too picky or too demanding. Who made up the Prince Charming fallacy? Men. Who touts hypergamy and AWALT as a projection of their own self loathing? Men. It never ceases to amaze me … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 01:11 AM |
| 5 | Good Books for Healthy Long-term Relationships/Marriages?I’m a big fan of Harville Hendrix’s Getting the Love you Want and Keeping the Love you Find. It’s a good look into why we’re attracted to what we are and has some great exercises to do that map out our love maps and how our past affects our relationships today. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/08/21 12:46 AM |
| 113 | Walk away from people who overshare EARLY on in datingYes! Over sharing as well as tons of texting/contact within the first few dates is a huge red flag. It shows either a codependent personality at best or a narcissistic personality at worst to try to get you trauma bonded into a false reality. As someone who doesn’t like to waste my time and a deep thinker, I’m not great at small talk and can see how my sharing could be contrived as such but what is significant is if the sharing is contextual to the conversation and to provide input into ones lif… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/21 10:53 PM |
| 44 | Accountability & How It Gets Weaponized Against You.This is so true, and what you will find while being an emotionally mature and healthy adult who takes accountability is when met with emotionally stunted and immature people there is always confusion and exhaustion. There is no true relationship possible because you’re not in the same place and wavelength energetically and in maturity. No more being therapist, mommy, teacher, savior, whatever. Say goodbye when you continually feel forced to question yourself and know when you’ve been pushed to a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/21 11:27 PM |
| 21 | Why are men ridiculed for women's sexual dissatisfaction when Evolution did not select for women's sexual pleasure?I would argue biological factors are stacked FOR women’s pleasure. With over 4K nerve endings in the clitoris and 3 vaginal “spots” (G spot, A spot, O spot) identified for orgasm within the vaginal wall, biology and logic would say female sex organs were made for pleasure in order to support the reproduction of the human species. The issue we have are societal taboos along with a lack of medical research in the field of female ejaculation. As a “squirter”, I was shocked to see there have been a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/07/21 06:09 PM |
| 18 | What are ways we can help the children of today?Good post and this feeds into our strategy of choosing the right man and being HV so for me I think it’s great the topics and questions you raise. Yes, certainly the world today is more complex, more digital, more seemingly dangerous. Then again as a woman pushing my 40s believing in the Disney narrative of romance and how I was supposed to be, plus my own trauma and neglect, I feel actually empowered to make the right decisions for me kids. As a parent, I recognize there needs to be a balance o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/07/21 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Never go to a "life coach"Love this! I became a certified life coach through an ICF program and focused on narcissistic abuse recovery (I have a degree in cognitive psychology plus raised by narc parents for context) but exited coaching back to business consulting because the coaching “industry” as a whole is unregulated and quite frankly cut throat and trash IMO. True coaching is about holding space and asking the right questions to help a client be empowered to find their own answers and truth. I’ve met hundreds of coa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/06/21 07:49 PM |
| 33 | WE ARE HUMAN FEMALE AND THEY SEE US AS SUCHInteresting concept. I question now if it isn’t because of our humanity that we’re hated so much? From a psychological perspective, I think men largely are narcissistic and lack object permanence. They see themselves and then see others as extensions of themselves. Which begs the question if they enjoy getting a rise out of us or exploiting us is that because this is how they innately operate in the world? I have yet to meet a man with a capacity for deep emotional empathy but know many women wi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/05/21 12:15 AM |
| 80 | Podcast feedback from men: "hate fan mail"Totally! I can so relate. What I’ve been able to discern is the information shared is so triggering for them cause it’s real that they’re filled with cognitive dissonance. So instead of be a man and saying “yea, she’s right we men do that and it’s horrible” he’d rather gaslight, lie, accuse, stonewall, project (insert any narcissistic tactic) in an attempt to manipulate to ease his own subconscious. Men know women want to believe the best in them so they exploit it. It never ceases to amaze me h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 05:20 PM |
| 24 | DO NOT fall for a man claiming to be "traditional".Yes!!!! Amen preach sister! I love the helpmate thing cause the Hebrew word literary if I remember correctly was used 3X more in the Bible in relation to God as helper to humanity. Which begs the question, if women were God’s last creation and it was the wife as helpmate as God is helpmate, it’s time to recognize that we as women actually have more power and spiritual ability than any man. It’s why they’ve tried to silence us and kill us, they’re deathly afraid of us! Any man who fears will try … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 11:15 PM |
| 149 | DO NOT fall for a man claiming to be "traditional".This is so true. There are a lot of slimy “traditional” Christian men that have been indoctrinated by misogynistic principles in the church. It amazes me how the Bible has been rewritten by men to the male narrative - for instance, “wives submit to your husbands” in Hebrew is wives support your husbands. Big difference. I agree it’s sad cause many women who grew up in the church have been indoctrinated too and living on a fantasy of male “headship” (also rewritten) when this was not God’s intent… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 05:36 PM |
| 40 | Why scrotes are triggered by this subTotally. The post I presented on porn and why men aren’t worth it certainly got it’s fair share of messages and ugly responses to the thread (shout out to the mods!). I was told I knew I was presenting false info with “proof” in some Wired article from 2014. In good faith, I provided a follow up academic study from 2017 built from and evolved from the 2014 study that yes! porn deceases grey matter. But it’s pseudoscience and given other non-scientific articles and links on Quora 😅. It never ceas… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 10:31 PM |
| 12 | What is the term for this behavior?This sounds like intimacy issues which may be rooted in mental or psychological disorders. Asking too much or not enough is indicative of avoidant or anxious attachment styles. They want people around but are incapable of healthy relating. I’d call it lack of emotional immaturity at best and a personality disorder at worse, could also be a spectrum disorder. That’s my guess at first glance. | /r/askFDS | 18/05/21 02:03 AM |
| 3 | The strength to leave/clarityOmg I was just reading thru the rest of the comments after I just posted. Bingo, it’s the guy, your gut is right and if you dig deeper into the past you’ll probably be able to remember certain times that felt off like right now where you’ve questioned him with other men. Take your time, it may be buried subconsciously! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 02:23 AM |
| 7 | The strength to leave/clarityThis may sound a bit out there but have you considered that he may be sleeping with the coworker? First thing, he’s mean and grumpy coming home and that’s a HUGE alarm bell - he’s hiding something and that’s what emotionally immature men do because they project their own shame onto us partners, often subconsciously. Secondly, unless this is his boss or above there should be no need for “I didn’t have time” on a lunch break and evermore this type of behavior shows weak boundaries and again, immat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/05/21 02:16 AM |
| 22 | Inc*ls and mainstream pornography speak the same language of misogynyThis is phenomenal 👏👏👏. I like your inquisitiveness on the creation of words like scrote, research points to male authors in the 1970s where the original term was used - a “worthless, annoying and immature man” as other men described them. This article nails it to show how pornography has created a culture of angry and envious men living in fantasy. They have created their own demise but prefer to compartmentalize and then project blame on women since their warped minds are now conditioned and s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 11:55 PM |
| 52 | Why men like anal (unpopular opinion: wanting someone to feel pain during sex isn't normal).It has nothing to do with being sooooo tight. This is a lie, men who say this are seeking domination and submission to exert their “ownership”. They’re porn-sick animals IMO. There are actual rituals where anal penetration was part of the indoctrination of cults in ancient times. And think about it, how often is anal about getting screwed/fucked/played in their jokes and in pop culture?? If a man cares enough to know what he’s doing, is emotionally present, and a decent human, he knows the vag i… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 02:38 AM |
| 3 | Men of Reddit - Have you ever met an FDS-oriented woman irl? Women of Reddit - Have you ever met a redpilled man irl? How did the interactions go for you all?With both subs having 100,000+ users it would be ignorant to over-conceptualize what it means to be part of either one but for perception I can say when I hear “incels” or “femcells” I know I’m dealing with a very angry and triggered person. I dated a guy who we had family connections, aligned a lot intellectually and otherwise but there was a weird push/pull and superiority like a father or teacher that showed up that proved he didn’t see me as a partner but as a transactional figure to him. I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/05/21 02:02 AM |
| 13 | Old bff keeps coming back after intense drama? Applying FDS to friendships.She straight up sounds like a narcissist. They come in many forms so maybe do a little research on the spectrum (perhaps she’s histrionic cause that’s some intense drama). She cut you off during the worst time possible in your life - that’s when you know who your true friends are or who is using you to their own advantage. Eventually most people leave a narcissistic person because it’s all about them so she’s trying to give it a go to get back in your life cause everyone else dropped her. I woul… | /r/askFDS | 01/05/21 07:03 PM |
| 1 | We always talk about pump and dump, but what date and leave because of fear (avoidants)? How common is that nowadays?Women don’t like vulnerable boys. Girls don’t like vulnerable boys. Women like vulnerable men. There is a difference. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/04/21 12:30 AM |
| 9 | Working with a sociopathic manWow, this is insane! Your boss recognizes it but for whatever reason this guy is protected and they’re counting down the days until he retires? Not sure which country you live in but document and send and email to your boss when these things happen so you have a viable paper train in case you feel the need to sue for harassment/discrimination. Secondly, find a way to build relationships with your bosses boss and on up. I was screwed by being pigeonholed into doing my old bosses work while she to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 11:42 PM |
| 1 | We always talk about pump and dump, but what date and leave because of fear (avoidants)? How common is that nowadays?I like your realism. I would say there is a difference between avoidant attachment and avoidant personality disorder worth exploring. Sounds like AVP might be what’s happening here, it’s like a more advanced avoidant attachment. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/21 02:15 AM |
| 4 | We always talk about pump and dump, but what date and leave because of fear (avoidants)? How common is that nowadays?I agree on the coping mechanism for Chads. Avoidant men don’t avoid the dating arena, in fact I’d say many are habitual daters or without a lot of long-term relationship experience. It’s about how vulnerable and authentic one can be. Taking time to date and do what feels right sounds like that’s what you’re doing and that’s awesome! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/21 02:11 AM |
| 1 | We always talk about pump and dump, but what date and leave because of fear (avoidants)? How common is that nowadays?I think the whole Chad narrative was created and enforced by certain men and altogether different from a generally good yet avoidant man. Some avoidant men, having been burned or not succeeded as they wished with women, turn to the TRP and the Chad narrative. It’s a cop out IMO and really part of society’s brainwashing and probably family of origin or past trauma. Men aren’t often celebrated by men or women for being themselves, for being vulnerable and ultimately understanding their emotions. I… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/04/21 02:02 AM |
| 10 | how to not be upset that no one wants meThe mother wound, as women, is the hardest ... myself and others here I’m sure can relate. You, only you, trust yourself, you know what’s best. Dig deep into the creativity or what makes you feel good and the answers may come. The therapist too, but only you will know ❤️. | /r/askFDS | 19/04/21 03:10 AM |
| 4 | how to not be upset that no one wants meIt’s about clearing that energy! Giving and receiving in the right and healthy ways. That’s great you see it’s partly you and you’re working thru it so give yourself the compassion you give to others. Once you clear out all the gunk, it will better make sense. Life is a journey we’re all working thru. | /r/askFDS | 19/04/21 02:00 AM |
| 12 | how to not be upset that no one wants meJust seeing now you have a therapist, perhaps not the right one. Did you go thru childhood trauma at all? If so, it’s time to think about finding the right therapist for you. I had a go thru a few, I’m now a coach, it’s a life long journey with the right people to help you along the way. Find what’s right for you!! | /r/askFDS | 19/04/21 01:57 AM |
| 13 | how to not be upset that no one wants meYou are beautiful, you are smart, you are capable, you are strong, and most importantly you are focusing on studies and building up your life over chasing the boys. People will love you if you open up your light to them. It concerns me, no friends as you mentioned. Is that your own doing? How many people have tried to get to know you, men or women? How have you sabotaged those efforts? I would say finding a good therapist to work through that would be so good. Sending you much love ❤️. Above all… | /r/askFDS | 19/04/21 01:52 AM |
| 49 | Left my husband due to his porn addiction. Feeling relieved, but also ashamed and pissed offSo proud of you for leaving!! You’re not alone. I divorced a sex/porn addict and the numbness you’re feeling was my first state of grief, utter shock and dismay left me numb and disconnected. When I finally connected the dots that porn addiction and narcissism are directly related, everything started to make more sense and my anger at myself turned to where it should go - at him and his lies, deceit, and abuse. I saw this article yesterday on another sub and it was dead on so sharing in case it … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/04/21 05:43 PM |
| 1 | Dating women who have advanced degreesI was the breadwinner and had half my money taken along with fighting for custody in court in a very liberal state that my ex had a leg up and was the primary caretaker. It exists. The courts as I asked for agreed to 50/50. I can and have seen how the courts historically claim the mother is better suited, never ever agree to this as get yourself a good lawyer. I’m glad my dad fought for us is all I can say. Edit: and I’ll provide an edit that if you wanna be that human who walks in faith and tru… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/04/21 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Dating women who have advanced degreesBased? Haha, ok, sure if using dread, mansplaining, and the likes make sense to you. Just not for me, again, I’m not a personality disordered individual not looking for a power struggle, just a partner, that’s not possible with a man who follows TRP. It’s right in your manual “treat women like children”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 11:49 PM |
| 1 | Dating women who have advanced degreesReally? I’m pretty sure the PUA manual was set up in the 80s or 90s and TRP is an off shoot of those tactics. It’s never been about how women act, it’s about how to get women to sleep with you, attraction. And again, certain types of women and certain types of men. For me = maturity level. If you want to manipulate and be manipulated your whole life that’s your deal, I’m sure it could work, just not my prerogative. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 11:20 PM |
| 1 | Dating women who have advanced degreesI found the manual and flat out showed my ex he quoted directly from that, it was about saving private Ryan. As a former beauty Queen and model, I don’t think it’s my not being feminine enough, actually quite the opposite now that I think about it. A smart, feminine woman? That seems to be such a fallacy so might as well try to knock her down a notch. Bizarre, and again, my experience, take it for what it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 11:13 PM |
| 0 | Dating women who have advanced degrees“women are sexless by choice because they don’t care about sex that much” please, no gaslighting | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 03:32 AM |
| -1 | Dating women who have advanced degreesGross. You clearly don’t know women. We love sex. We have 10X nerve endings in our clitoris alone not to mention 5 orgasm spots inside. Men for centuries have been afraid of our sexual drive, look it up, the Mayans linked it to like a snake trying to eat their penis when we orgasmed. Makes me laugh comments like this 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 03:23 AM |
| 2 | Dating women who have advanced degreesYour mom is one awesome lady and I’m so glad you are asking these questions and everything you’ve said wow you give me hope for my daughter ❤️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 03:16 AM |
| 0 | Dating women who have advanced degreesWhatever you say, let’s tune in at 11! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 03:13 AM |
| 1 | Dating women who have advanced degreesTotally! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 03:12 AM |
| 3 | Sex toys for men seem to be rarely talked about seriously yet women who buy sex toys are “empowered”. Why?Perhaps my point proven... use Google over using your real world living experience........ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 03:11 AM |
| 4 | Sex toys for men seem to be rarely talked about seriously yet women who buy sex toys are “empowered”. Why?Interesting...I’m not quite sure how to respond beyond they probably both have sexual incompetencies (each of them don’t understand their own bodies nor know how it feels being with another human)? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 02:18 AM |
| -1 | Dating women who have advanced degreesNope, just sharing my perspective | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Dating women who have advanced degreesAnd this is why divorce rape is real for a woman breadwinner. I was that. Never again will I put myself in that position and I cheer on us ladies to take care of ourselves first. The notion of divorce rape as a man is ridiculous for me as I don’t know any woman who didn’t try to make it work after she was succumbed to bullshit. It’s just not in our normal. I’m sure there’s outliers but I’ve just never seen it, and I’ve traveled a lot. It’s a fallacy when men cry divorce rape wolf IMO. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 02:11 AM |
| 3 | Dating women who have advanced degreesOh I certainly it did. Didn’t help I was raised by narcissists but glad I came to reality of it all and why I say it like it is. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 02:01 AM |
| 6 | Dating women who have advanced degreesThe men who resort to redpill are insecure, narcissistic assholes. They use the tactics they’ve learned and get borderline or bipolar women to agree to their reality. I have an advanced degree and dated 2 men also of the same who after time and trying to figure out their bizarre behavior stumbled on Reddit and TRP and it all made sense. I’m emotionally mature and didn’t take the bullshit games for very long. These men are narcissists. They put up a good front then try manipulate women and quite … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 01:54 AM |
| 2 | Sex toys for men seem to be rarely talked about seriously yet women who buy sex toys are “empowered”. Why?Touché yet is this a solution to really destigmatize sex toys so we as women don’t have to deal with such unwanted attention? It just feels very counterintuitive, not a problem we have to nor should have to deal with. I get your stance though, one step at a time perhaps, not one I really want to be on a side with tbh, just not me raising a daughter. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 01:44 AM |
| 2 | Sex toys for men seem to be rarely talked about seriously yet women who buy sex toys are “empowered”. Why?Just have to say I love your new photo and hellooooooo fellow INTJ! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 01:36 AM |
| 1 | Sex toys for men seem to be rarely talked about seriously yet women who buy sex toys are “empowered”. Why?A good perspective yet not relevant to my post IMO, that sucks if you’re seeing or hearing otherwise, but let’s call it what it is, men are the ones that put so much stigma on sex anyways, we don’t as women need to pick up the pieces. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 01:17 AM |
| 1 | Sex toys for men seem to be rarely talked about seriously yet women who buy sex toys are “empowered”. Why?What is that? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 12:38 AM |
| 3 | Sex toys for men seem to be rarely talked about seriously yet women who buy sex toys are “empowered”. Why?No one can make you feel self conscious or uncomfortable, those are your feelings to own. Given men on this sub have shown sex is king, and not to shun, but it has been for certainly centuries ... look at the history of sex toys all the way back to Egypt, and perhaps before. Its been only recently women have embraced the sex toy for themselves, and perhaps decided that’s easier than dealing with the real thing? That may be something to think about. Personally, there is a reason why sex is good c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/04/21 12:34 AM |
| 46 | The annoyingly persistent manNo. You’re taking the right steps to protect yourself. I had a guy once call me at my hotel room when I was staying an extended period of time for work in a very small town (only 2 hotels so he called both). My company responded and set boundaries with him not to come near me and at check-ins had a “body guard” type coworker ensuring there was no crossing of the rules set. It was so creepy, if your company is good they will respond and make sure you’re protected. You may need to vocalize it a fe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 12:43 AM |
| 62 | The annoyingly persistent manSounds like he’s watched too many romcoms produced by misogynistic men subliminally telling him “just try harder and you’ll get the girl!”. Ummmm, no, you’re creepy at best and probably a delusional covert Peter Pan narcissist at worst. May sound extreme here but worth thinking about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/03/21 12:37 AM |
| 12 | This is a website about narcissists. It's a bit hard to navigate, but I suggest you try anyway. This article is such an account description of the typical LVM we talk about all the time here, I just had to share.I think he’s the guy who wrote about his sexual dominations? His writing are fractured because he’s highly schizoid and not in touch with reality. His experiences, along with many narcs on the higher end of the spectrum (malignant, machiavellian, psychopath), are pure fantasy. He wants to feel ever powerful so writing to make others believe it he gets satisfaction. It may not be this guy but always take writings like these with discernment cause they’re portraying an image they dont actually pos… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 03:51 AM |
| 67 | This article made me sick!🤮She probably won’t have kids. The reality is we will most likely hear that she committed suicide or some freak accident where she was killed cause she knew too much (think Epstein) or she’ll be raped and killed by some fan. That the reality. I would be shocked if she ever has children. If by accident, perhaps, I pray for their souls. Ir better yet she gets out and rebuilds her life and overcomes the trauma she’s gone thru. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 03:33 AM |
| 134 | This article made me sick!🤮A million dollars a month to portray child sexual abuse. I’m enraged. I’m disgusted. I’m grieved. But this is reality, and I’m thankful for us sisters for truth. 1 out of every 3 girls will be sexually abused before age 18. A prime example yet again to show how we don’t hate men, but men certainly hate us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/03/21 01:21 AM |
| 42 | Why do men insist on keeping women around they aren’t truly attracted to? Why not go forth and find your type? Why do they like to waste their time and the time of the women they aren’t attracted to?Because they’re opportunistic and IMO not great long term planners. If it works for right now, that’s great. Men are allowed this in a society built to cater to them. They get something out of it by means of companionship, nurturing, therapy, mothering if they find the right woman who is willing g to give them this without a commitment for the future. It’s no mistake men struggle to grow up and take responsibility in today’s society. So simply, it’s because they can. | /r/askFDS | 11/03/21 07:12 AM |
| 4 | The Truth About Women in the BibleTotally. That’s why I search the history of things. As mentioned, the book Genesis was 1400 BC or so abouts and then we had another interpretation added in Genesis 2 , when? It’s important to study and search. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/03/21 03:21 AM |
| 2 | How to stop being treated as a secretary at work?Ugh, I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this. I feel you, I've experienced similarities to your story too. I would agree with others, you can't change the culture, you can only change you and ultimately your job. This sounds like a very misogynistic environment. But in the interim, I would really pull back on your contributions - take a look at your job description again (if you were given one, if not, ask for one) and when asked to do things outside of your scope, you've got the ammo to … | /r/askFDS | 11/03/21 12:45 AM |
| 2 | The Truth About Women in the BibleYes, we’ve certainly been indoctrinated to believe humankind was man first then woman. Imagine humankind as genderless and plural. Also the word “helper” is inaccurately translated too. That word (ezer) was used 80 times in the Bible with more than half representing how God is the ezer of humankind. Helper should be more like rescuer or deliverer. I think it is because of our statute in Gods eyes that terrifies men to silence us and want power over us, perhaps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 10:27 PM |
| 10 | The Truth About Women in the BibleSo true! Religion is not the true Bible. What are the 5-7 books you are referencing? Would love to hear your thoughts 🤗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 07:45 AM |
| 18 | The Truth About Women in the BibleTrue, but we were all Pickmes at some point and the more I study, the more I see how and why Jesus came from the Christian stance. He came as a gendered male for a reason. Men have been corrupting god for centuries before. I’m with you, why would god allow this to happen? I’m not sure we’ll know in this lifetime but doing the work we do together as FDS sisters I believe is part of the good fighting evil, IMO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 04:08 AM |
| 5 | The Truth About Women in the BibleVery cool, we are not alone! We are all children of God/Allah/Spirit. I don’t care to hear any different. It’s man-made rules that try to teach us otherwise, IMO. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 04:00 AM |
| 21 | The Truth About Women in the BibleTotally, I think the way to look at it is the division of man and woman happened after the fall. Before that, we walked with God as man was woman and woman was man. We all have masculine and feminine energy. I feel intuitively “Adam” actually knew and agreed with “Eve” to eat the fruit because they were one and the same. They were one with God and could feel each other regardless. I know, probably sounds a bit woo woo or esoteric, but I think it’s possible. It was the revision of the Bible that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 03:59 AM |
| 22 | The Truth About Women in the BibleOh yes, this is sooooo true on reading the Bible. And agreed on women in the Bible, I haven’t spent too much time looking at it like this but you’re inspiring me now! At the base, just look at the progression...we have the book of Ruth and Esther in the OT dedicated to the women in faith, the NT? 0. The only mention is Anna (and some virgin daughters) and contextually Anna is praised because she prays fervently like pretty much like her voice doesn’t matter, just her prayers, is how I feel about… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 02:20 AM |
| 7 | The Truth About Women in the BibleYes! That sounds so accurate. Especially thinking about how Genesis was written around 1400 BC and book of Enoch around 30-70 BC. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 01:42 AM |
| 29 | The Truth About Women in the BibleFrom what I understand, Lilith was derived from the ancient book of Enoch which contained myths and stories of how Israelites applied the Bible in their lives. It isn’t included in the Bible for that reason, it’s sorta folklore. And the way Adam is used today as man is not accurate as originally it is humankind, so essentially they are the same Eve was created from God from Ha’Adam (or English translation Adam) which stands doe humankind, not the male gender, if that makes sense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 01:33 AM |
| 67 | We've all heard of gaslighting, but what about when we delude ourselves? A man like this is not "amazing"!Clearly this man is using sex to control and have power over her. He’s probably a covert/cerebral narcissist who would rather jerk off to porn than have true intimacy. Probably even gains a sense of sadistic gratification by invoking pain and causing her to doubt her attractiveness. Just so sick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 09:17 PM |
| 11 | She speaks the truthThey’re so insecure about penis size cause they watch porn. It has nothing to do with our opinions. It blows my mind their need for therapy is self-inflicted. The amount of gaslighting they do to themselves I will never understand 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/03/21 11:03 PM |
| 1 | Why am i only attracted to men who don't want me?You are not born without a brain, #1 girl you are powerful and know your own being so lean into that. Secondly, you’re searching to heal a wound in your childhood so ask yourself - was mom or dad aloof, uncaring, distant? Once you identify the parent figure work to heal it. Our conscious mind may know what we want but our emotional body keeps attracting the types we don’t. Healing is a process and don’t be hard on yourself, just talk the time to sit with what this means, how this relates to your… | /r/askFDS | 20/02/21 06:25 AM |
| 59 | This is how we arrived herePorn has brainwashed and mind controlled men to become more and more like animals...not humans who see others as humans but as objects to consume, kill and control. Not surprised by this research but certainly dismayed. This sounds like a bunch of men who have never had sex in real life but in their fantasies. Or if they have, “lucky” to find a woman who has been sexually abused to the point this makes sense to her too. Regardless, men perpetuating and continuing violence while crying to mommy a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/21 01:53 AM |
| 2 | The Peter Pan “momma’s boy” is a Narcissist tooGood for you going NC that’s so hard and I admire your strength! When we lean into only what’s needed for each of us is where the miracles happen!!! No need for sorry, we don’t need to be sorry, we are warriors in this battle of life I say 💯💪 🤗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 07:43 AM |
| 2 | The Peter Pan “momma’s boy” is a Narcissist tooMe too girl! Both parents diagnosed narcs and divorced one...weird though we got a deep sense of empathy to heal the world ❤️💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 06:34 AM |
| 2 | The Peter Pan “momma’s boy” is a Narcissist tooYup, you’re right they do gaslight a ton!!! My last convo he tried to say I was the gaslighter and it was shocking cause I study this shit and help others to do the same and it was the pivotal moment .... yea no, thanks for using my words to try and spin your narrative as I dump your ass, I’ll send that energy back where it belongs 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 06:33 AM |
| 3 | The Peter Pan “momma’s boy” is a Narcissist tooSo true!!! The seething misogyny behind it all - cause momma plays the victim and he loves the power he feels as a man to exert his control awhile she’s just playing him thru manipulation and he feels a weird power cause “provide and protect” mentality....in reality, just weak excuses for human beings and it’s sad. No true love, no true understanding, just manipulation to try and get what they think they want which brings no joy and happiness and gratitude in the end | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 06:30 AM |
| 3 | The Peter Pan “momma’s boy” is a Narcissist tooTotally a Peter! Weird relations with their mothers (too close or they hate them) is a fine trigger to explore. The end is a narcissistic male who has the luxury of patriarchy but whines and wants to be coddled like a baby. Some men (very few I would guess) actually come thru intellectually and emotionally to understand. Because really why not in a society built for their comfort and the possibility they’ll find another woman to lift them up and take care of them? It’s a sad, sad world but it’s … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 06:21 AM |
| 7 | On Ethical Self-Preservation: is it okay to fundamentally distrust men?Love this!!! Yes we are all created in the image of God but have a choice (free will) to decide how we live. The book of Proverbs talks beautifully about the scoffers and fools and describes to stay away from them (also sprinkled in NT, don’t give pearls to swine, do not even eat with them, etc). A wise person uses discernment and “tests the spirits”. The way I’ve reconciled this is if a man decides to sin and harden his heart, the Holy Spirit will not guide his actions but rather the devil and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 11:51 PM |
| 6 | The Peter Pan “momma’s boy” is a Narcissist tooOmg did you date my Machiavellian ex?! Totally feel you sis. And hahaaaaa a smart golden retriever I’m dying 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 03:04 AM |
| 9 | The Peter Pan “momma’s boy” is a Narcissist tooYes! In fact, I’d venture to say 98% of men are narcissistic because they watch porn thereby objectify women. They come in all shapes and sizes! Some are easier to catch than others. I’d say the Peter Pan type appears a bit more co-dépendant, the silent treatment won’t be used cause they’re more smothering in nature. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 02:03 AM |
| 8 | Calling out the LVM in tech!!I had a short stint in tech and I was blown away by how much these men are cry baby Peter Pans who have learned how to emotionally manipulate and gaslight even women and themselves. I was even more blown away at the proportion of such men who were married to go-getter women more successful than them. And then it all made sense when I got to see them in a more intimate setting with their wives = their therapist and mommy🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 12:37 AM |
| 18 | This post will haunt my dreamsHe even called himself out - a DUSTY! 😂😂😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/21 01:25 AM |
| 2 | "You just dont understand my art" after blowing up my phone telling me he wanted to sexually assault me while speaking Greek and French. Discovered I could block his number from the phone (samsung a01). I will be reporting his messages because he knows where I live. This is NOT leaving me alone.Ahhhhh so horrible!! Some men are so delusional, I dated a family friend for a few mos and it was certainly incredible how after I blocked on phone and socials he found my email and proceeded ... like you’re not being romantic, you’re creepy. And you’re disrespectful. The delusion is pathetic. Glad you got out sis! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 04:46 AM |
| 12 | Patron saint of women who don’t want to talk to you on public transitThis is so awesome!!! Omg so real and this saint has certainly helped me ... when I’ve asked these guys what they want I always get some sorta response either highlighting my appearance or how they’re feeling it felt right to talk to me, and when I say how would you like me to pray for you? Convo is dead this patron saint was behind it!!!💯😍🙏👌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/21 04:42 AM |
| 2 | If a man says he was abusedAwe I’m glad, you’ve got this girl no doubt ✅💯💪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 04:25 AM |
| 32 | Why is she cleaning his apartment before she moves in?The baby thing made me clench my heart in pain, no, please no girl 😟 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 04:05 AM |
| 82 | Why is she cleaning his apartment before she moves in?“I don’t know how to babe!” Yeah my ass...if you spent half the time you do trying to get your balls cleaned on actually learning how to clean and be a decent functioning adult maybe you might have that wish come true.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 04:03 AM |
| 47 | If you have to publicly brand him, he’s not the one sisOmg I literally posted here 30 mins ago a similar ad from fb but not showing up yet, wtf is this propaganda?!? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 03:52 AM |
| 49 | Why is she cleaning his apartment before she moves in?Gross. Way to perpetuate and support men being a bunch of baby Peter Pans avoiding housework...”they don’t know how to clean!” No sis, they’ve just done a good job gaslighting you to think they don’t know how so they don’t have to do it 🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/21 02:50 AM |
| 35 | If a man says he was abusedMost veritably and certainly! If he plays the victim and can not articulately state his own contribution to the break down, get out. Women when they commit give it their all to make a relationship work by and large. Any “abuse” the man suffered most likely was by his own making. No person can be poked and prodded and disrespected without lashing back, that’s human nature. I dated a guy who played the victim and yes his wife cheated and lied to him over several years but guess what, I finally was… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/21 02:27 AM |
| 33 | Red flags??Your gut is spot on. I’ve noticed many men can play nice and genuine but often times have a type of cognitive dissonance like split personality. Because it’s somehow accepted in our oversexialized society it’s supposed to be ok but if he’s this forward visibly online there is no doubt he’s watching porn and who knows how deep his misogyny runs...you’d be setting yourself up for heartbreak here if you continue, IMO | /r/askFDS | 08/01/21 10:43 PM |
| 3 | If porn is bad because it desensitizes men, then vibrators are also bad because it desensitizes womenThat’s been debunked recently with further evidence, at the min the brain changes with continual usage. Gotta find the validated research but here’s a start: https://fightthenewdrug.org/study-shows-brain-structure-changes-porn-consumers/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/21 06:06 AM |
| 1 | If porn is bad because it desensitizes men, then vibrators are also bad because it desensitizes womenFair enough! Would be an interesting study to see for sure... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/21 05:43 AM |
| 2 | If porn is bad because it desensitizes men, then vibrators are also bad because it desensitizes womenDecrease my bad | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/21 05:43 AM |
| 38 | I find it hard to watch you tubers that are in relationshipsYou’re watching what society wants you to see. I promise you now being in my late 30s and divorced I’ve seen these perfect couples you see on social media don’t actually exist, it’s a show, they’re not happy. Focus on those around you and true living in happiness, define that for you, find your people and you only need a few to feel alive. Social media is killing intimacy and making us psychologically feel like losers but it’s not real, none of it, it’s all a show. Be you and cultivate what make… | /r/askFDS | 08/01/21 05:22 AM |
| 4 | If porn is bad because it desensitizes men, then vibrators are also bad because it desensitizes womenThese 2 things are so incomparable it’s mind boggling to even consider so let’s just keep to science ....no studies done proving vibrators increase the grey matter in the brain to make one more dumb unlike porn, so let’s just stick to that. No, just no, lmao 😆 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/21 05:16 AM |
| 49 | Signs of aggression in any form is a red flag.And then when we get angry for such bs treatment we are the actual aggressors - uninformed, too sensitive, misunderstanding - projection and gaslighting it’s finest! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 05:06 AM |
| 26 | Someone here recommended drawing your ex and the reasons you left....I ran out of space.This is awesome!!! I wish I could draw and can’t wait to see all the pics that follow. Genius. I’ll try, maybe, with photoshop 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 05:02 AM |
| 99 | I highly doubt that most straight men are capable of loving somebody romantically.I agree. Modern Men have been coddled like babies and are addicted to porn literally rendering them animalistic and dumb. Less grey matter in the brain. Ever more incapable if actually being a “man”. Strong, protective, caring of the tribe. Nope. Just porn sick Peter Pan losers looking for a mommy figure to take care of them. It’s a sad sad world.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/01/21 01:46 AM |
| 14 | Update: My locomotor skills has improved 3 months into my break up.Forgiving oneself is the ultimate and final stage of healing from toxic relating, love it!! It can be the hardest and longest in the healing process as we recognize consciously the things we unconsciously accepted. It’s so good, and while painful, lifesaving. We’re all on our journey of growth regardless so my motto is “give yourself the compassion you give to others” ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/01/21 12:39 AM |
| 3 | But at least you have a solid N Count though...Beautiful. So glad you did. The irony is mind blowing but in a way that cuts both genders 👏 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 05:54 AM |
| 1 | The manosphere will never be ready for the realities of relationships anywayDo you consider yourself a Chad or makeshift Chad via PUA tactics? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 05:47 AM |
| 1 | The manosphere will never be ready for the realities of relationships anywayCool story bro! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 05:45 AM |
| 1 | The manosphere will never be ready for the realities of relationships anywayYou are a sex starved redpill incel that only gets off to fake women via porn. Does that make you feel better? More like a man? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 05:44 AM |
| 3 | But at least you have a solid N Count though...Omg I’m dying thank you for this 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 05:42 AM |
| 1 | The manosphere will never be ready for the realities of relationships anywayDude, come on. As a fellow intj and on the conspiracy channel, stop. Just stop. You may hate me cause I’m female but I checked you out. I was using irony. It’s purge week. You’re young. Just chill. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 05:40 AM |
| 1 | The manosphere will never be ready for the realities of relationships anywayI never called you anything. You called me a lab rat. You exposed yourself, please, get help. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 05:33 AM |
| 1 | The manosphere will never be ready for the realities of relationships anywayPerhaps I’m having fun cause you can relate? I actually know Machiavellian behavior quite well. Dealt with my fair share both men and women of the sort. But that says nothing about you. Yet you continue to gaslight and defend a position to have an upper hand. So perhaps I’m correct in my original assumption. I’m a lab rat anyways so good luck to you and 👋 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 05:31 AM |
| 0 | The manosphere will never be ready for the realities of relationships anywayI have no idea what you’re taking about, I asked you a pointed question and you answered with you already know cause I’m a lab rat and a FDS user. Dude, come one already | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 05:26 AM |
| 1 | The manosphere will never be ready for the realities of relationships anywayYou didn’t tell me anything. In fact, I asked and you said you already know everything, the projection is real here! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 05:23 AM |
| 1 | The manosphere will never be ready for the realities of relationships anywayThat is a very general and sad observation, an observations only a lab rat would have as all people need to be put into boxes and stereotyped? I wish you well friend | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 05:20 AM |
| 1 | The manosphere will never be ready for the realities of relationships anywayWhat would you like to know? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 05:18 AM |
| -2 | The manosphere will never be ready for the realities of relationships anywayRight back at you 😘 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 05:16 AM |
| -2 | The manosphere will never be ready for the realities of relationships anywayThank you Mr. Red Pill for this precise observation | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 05:15 AM |
| -4 | The manosphere will never be ready for the realities of relationships anywayLearned it from the best, Mr. Machiavelli himself! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 05:14 AM |
| 1 | What is your contribution to a relationship?How this question even needs a response made me lose brain cells but cause it’s purge, yeah!! say it like it is. Any man who questions a woman’s value only as sex is a porn addicted sex starved loser. It is what it is. Go get some real life experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 04:42 AM |
| 1 | Purge week: how I know one is good in bed...Yikes why did the font look like I’m screaming.... I’m sorry dear lady friend, if you are one | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 04:38 AM |
| 1 | Purge week: how I know one is good in bed...Are you a woman or a man? 5, meh, taller men are not better in bed, at all, nor the quieter ones. Depends on how you define “taller” but 5’9-6’ is much better than the 6’4 7 true and they’re called Peter Pans. Probably 20-40% of men, and many here IMO, love to hate and blame women for their momma issues but might grow out of it with age. Musicians and artists no. Just no. Peter Pans. You must be a man...claiming men can fall in love thru intimacy is how we all connect? 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 01:42 AM |
| -3 | What is your contribution to a relationship?You porn addicts are annoying. Please, just return to your incel hell. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/01/21 01:27 AM |
| 5 | Women don't understand that you still need a good personality in order to keep a high quality man aroundNailed it! 💯👏 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/01/21 05:34 PM |
| 15 | I kNoW mY wOrTh!!Oh, cause you’re “this type of man” while you’re watching “that type type of woman”....the hypocrisy is just laughable 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/21 11:46 PM |
| 0 | Q4W: Why do you buy more expensive pink shit and then complain that the patriarchy made you do it?I responded to a question like this already,,.. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/21 11:44 PM |
| 2 | Would you marry a divorced man? Any reservations, deal-breakers, questions he must honestly answer?Wealth and status won’t get you much if you’re an emotionally stunted asshole looking to hook up with an intelligent and self-made woman. If you’re looking for a young, naive and less intelligent redpill wife, I think you’d have a much better shot. Just be willing to drop the cash and learn the “shit tests”. You’ll most likely be miserable if you have half a brain as you’d be signing up for a lifetime of lack in deep or meaningful conversations. But hey, to each their own. Good luck to you! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/21 08:11 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why do you buy more expensive pink shit and then complain that the patriarchy made you do it?Sounds about right, perhaps, I’m just not sure that’s the absolute best term but I’ll concur | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/21 08:05 PM |
| -1 | Q4W: Why do you buy more expensive pink shit and then complain that the patriarchy made you do it?Yet women are expected to be objects of perfection and beauty, it is men who are the “visual” creatures, soft porn is somehow accepted on billboards all over the globe. It’s not empowerment, it’s enslavement, I debate this often with my younger sister - you’re not dressing up for you, you’re doing what society has told you that you need to do to succeed in life and to get a man or for a woman to respect you. Ok fat woman does NOT well, mostly, but tons of fat men do just fine. It’s brain washing… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/21 08:00 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Why do you buy more expensive pink shit and then complain that the patriarchy made you do it?They never laughed at women, they conspired on how they could manipulate women to manipulate men given the social constructs of family that was set into place since the Victorian era. So actually they laughed at both sexes, but moreso men, as they raked in the cash manipulating all. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/21 07:56 PM |
| 0 | Q4W: Why do you buy more expensive pink shit and then complain that the patriarchy made you do it?Or perhaps men fall for giving their women the propagande men created to begin with? Social dominance hierarchies at its finest perhaps? 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/21 07:48 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Why do you buy more expensive pink shit and then complain that the patriarchy made you do it?You guys are all missing the point. Men decided how to sell to women (via men, of course, marketing in 50s was a time where men dominated the workforce). You guys fucked yourselves over to sell to the wives who asked for more. I can agree that it’s ridiculous to pay a dollar or 2 for the same razor, I don’t do that, but I’ve been with men that are weirded out I use men shaving cream or razors (they’re way better by the way) because it’s been labeled for a man. It’s psychological kind control at … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/21 07:30 PM |
| 5 | Q4W: Why do you buy more expensive pink shit and then complain that the patriarchy made you do it?Maybe you should ask why men made it that way? I mean seriously, the last 50+ yrs of marking and beauty product companies were run and made by men for men & women. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/21 07:00 PM |
| 2 | Women are children and everyone knows itDamn, you are most certainly delusional, or maybe I hope very young and immature with hope. The nuisanced hypocriticals of your many ridiculous posts today have made me laugh, so thank you! I’m also sorry your mother isn’t very smart. You did inherit IQ from her after all: https://www.independent.co.uk/news/science/children-intelligence-iq-mother-inherit-inheritance-genetics-genes-a7345596.html. Unfortunately and Unforgivably, for you, not all us women are dumb. My IQ is higher than 98% of peeps… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/01/21 06:55 PM |
| 22 | I'm curious if anyone else feels like this is a block and move on situationThe problem here is a long distance relationship after being together only 2 mos. That’s not enough time to vet a man or even know him...the distance keeps true intimacy at bay. I did long distance with my ex and it ended in divorce. We felt more comfortable in independence until my daughter was born and it all went to shit within 2 years after 12 years “together”. I would highly recommend saying no to a LDR unless at least 1 yr has been had as a couple with future talks of plans. Regardless, th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/12/20 09:29 PM |
| 2 | Women Should Be Expected To Be "Fuckzoned" When They Have A Promiscuous PastGirls are socialized and primed for male attention. Combine that with a psychologically abuse or neglectful upbringing and you’ll get a promiscuous woman or an antisocial male. Your hypothesis is not at the root here, just the symptoms. Single family homes produce promiscuous women wanting to be saved and antisocial males feeling ostracized. The traumatic experiences can work themselves out, it’s where biology meets experience in reasoning and cognitive functioning in our mid 20s with frontal co… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/12/20 12:24 AM |
| 57 | Dear ladies who love too much: You MUST protect yourselvesThe #1 is self love. Give yourself the compassion you give to others is my motto. I would say instead of finding a pet or volunteer work, learn to sit and LOVE who you are is first and foremost... your whole body, mind, soul, and spirit. All of it. Many of us have learned to forgo our needs/wants/desires and until we’re solid in our identity, in vulnerability, we’ll continue to give to other areas as a scapegoat to what we really need = self love. Forgive yourself for past mistakes. The only per… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/12/20 10:35 PM |
| 20 | I read this article about “I Can’t Believe They Don’t Want Me Syndrome.” The parts that really resonated with my pre-FDS self were around knowing a man was not ‘good enough’ but still wondering why they didn’t want me, seeking validation and struggling with ego ... anyways, interesting read.Natalie’s entire website is a gem, highly recommend her fallback girl book, she’s so insightful in human behavior and the demise that most of us ladies fall into when dealing with unavailable men. Really it’s about learning when to stop caring and fixing and hoping, awesome content | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/12/20 09:36 PM |
| 5 | Has being on PPD made you change your mind on anything related to gender dynamics or the opposite sex?I’ll be brutally honest, cause it’s Christmas, and I’m enjoying my expensive vino after a good beef Wellington .... I have learned and confirmed my underlying fears that FDS values are right for women. The men of PPD have helped to prove such true for me. From the youngins trying to make sense of women thru a bunch of statistics they’ve never experienced in real life, to the washed up divorcees like me (literally had a convo where the boys were jealous cause I was divorced raped and hope to meet… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/12/20 02:36 AM |
| 24 | My heart sank when I read this, poor woman 🙅🏼♀️I’d go as far as to say that she loves the fake personna that he presents to the world. Until she’s willing to face what that means, that the love she feels isn’t actually real, because he hasn’t been. Say goodbye to the fantasy. So many of us ladies have had to deal with a reality similar. It’s heartbreaking but it’s reality, patriarchy and porn have molded the modern man. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/12/20 02:25 AM |
| 47 | My heart sank when I read this, poor woman 🙅🏼♀️Ugh, I feel her pain! Seen friends go thru it. This type of male is the typical people pleaser - everything is good but lives a dual life. He needs deep therapy, probably to heal early life trauma. She needs it too, to see how much in denial she’s been in, the clues she pushed aside but can bring to consciousness. To see him for who he truly is. The journey ahead painful but lifesaving, hope she takes it 💝 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/12/20 09:50 PM |
| 5 | The disconnect between the men and women of PPD is mostly because the women here don't understand that TRP is not about relationshipsThis is so true LMAO 🤣🤣. Also have us gems - the washed up “over the wall” divorcees bitching about divorce rape and emotional baggage trying to understand the opposite sex thru a TRP and/or FDS lens. Frankly too old to give a damn, but do. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/12/20 11:27 PM |
| 10 | Another porn addict scrote with unrealistic FantasiesGosh she needs FDS bad, rescue mission!! This scrote hasn’t been laid in years and appears to be playing out all his porn fantasies while she’s gaslighting herself into believing he wants a relationship. Breaks my heart. She’s second guessing herself all over the place, I couldn’t even finish the whole monologue 😢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/12/20 12:24 AM |
| 358 | The projection is palpable; I've spent quarantine fixing my skin, working out, and taking college courses. Ya'll?Someone needs to tell him it’s been over for him since 1998 when frosted tips went out of style. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 07:20 PM |
| 1 | So my dad died a month ago today. I sent this LVM a FB news article I found funny. This is what I get hit with. He was immediately blocked after this.Ugh, I know your pain....... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/12/20 03:56 AM |
| 15 | So my dad died a month ago today. I sent this LVM a FB news article I found funny. This is what I get hit with. He was immediately blocked after this.I LOVE that girl on tik tok 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 03:45 AM |
| 27 | So my dad died a month ago today. I sent this LVM a FB news article I found funny. This is what I get hit with. He was immediately blocked after this.Wait is his picture or nickname or something #notmypedophile? And like ewwwwwww how is that even funny pretending you’re gonna sleep with my mom?? After my dad fucking died?!?! Psychopath. Sorry just straight up Ted Bundy serial killer shit.... wait... or he just told on himself, yes you are the pedo 🤷♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/12/20 03:43 AM |
| 1 | why is america so sexually repressed yet wants people to be experts at sex/dating?Sounds like sticking to indigenous women is your way to go, or to become a Spaniard? Or maybe find a good Protestant? You know Protestants are global. I have no idea your point. I’m speaking about my personal experience. You can place me or any woman in a box as you’d like but you don’t know me. Just sounds like a bunch of gibberish in stereotyping people. Regardless, God speed to you friend! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/20 01:21 AM |
| 1 | why is america so sexually repressed yet wants people to be experts at sex/dating?Yikes, sorry you feel that way. My Protestant upbringing didn’t train me or my brothers to be white trash....No one can read minds - that’s called being emotionally immature or personality disordered at the extreme. I’ve liked Europeans probably because there’s no cultural shame in expressing emotions, IMO. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/20 01:02 AM |
| 1 | why is america so sexually repressed yet wants people to be experts at sex/dating?The Puritans, contrary to what the media tells us, were not sexually repressed - they believed that sex is natural and wonderful, within the confines of marriage where it should be celebrated. Perhaps you’re thinking of the Pilgrims, they were a bit more rigid. Having married a European as an American, they are much better lovers. Equal opportunity for porn but not for prostitution might have merit for the US. Regardless I’ve found Europeans and especially French men are much more expressive and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/12/20 12:24 AM |
| 22 | Sunk Cost Fallacy in full effectI divorced my ex over it and never looked back. Poor girl I hope she actually takes the time to watch it, study it, understand it. How it changes a man’s brain. How the grey matter in their brain literally changes to make them more like dumb animals. She has no idea the extension of what is ahead if she continues .... for me, I was against it so he went outside the marriage. If she continues she’ll be doing 3 somes and bdsm in no time and the trauma of that I can’t imagine to get thru. Hope she … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/20 02:05 AM |
| 105 | LVM can’t stand the idea of his wife being more successful than him 🙄Yes, you’re the asshole. You can’t celebrate the success of your wife, of someone you pretend to care about, cause you see all people as competition to your poorly regulated ego. Men wonder why dating and marriage and child rearing is so hard? Cause you’re just so damn selfish, lazy and stupid. That simple. Will they ever grow up??? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/12/20 02:43 AM |
| 17 | Ugh. How do you avoid people like this who keep you as an option? Audacity is all he has. His poor girlWow! They takes some balls. Some men have delusional thoughts even if it’s been over a long time ago. Be thankful we walked away from that narcissist. I wrote about that on Quora “the victim a narcissist never forgets” 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/20 02:38 AM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered December 3 2020Do we have a list of suggested date ideas during COVID? I swear I thought I saw a post on this but can’t find it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/12/20 08:28 PM |
| 12 | How to control yourself during first dateRemind yourself that the attraction and feelings you have are (1) a normal biological mating hormone response to attraction (2) such attraction is fantasy projecting your wishes for what you hope he will be without actually knowing him (ugh hormones sometimes) (3) this man needs to prove himself over and over again to gain access to your time and attention (4) pay close attention to how your body feels during and after each conversation/date - any early signs of confusion or doesn’t quite sit we… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/12/20 10:45 PM |
| 1 | Why is OLD 10 men : 1 woman? Men don't know how to lead, that simpleI’m not saying you’re lying, I’m just saying it’s bullshit | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/20 04:37 AM |
| 1 | Why is OLD 10 men : 1 woman? Men don't know how to lead, that simpleAbsolutely! We bring both to the table our gifts in different ways, it’s about being vulnerable and navigating where each of us feel comfortable leading or following. One can’t do it all alone. My point in the post was more centered around early dating and particularly trying to point out that being frustrated in OLD means nothing until you say what you want and mean what you say and don’t waste anyone’s time | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/20 04:36 AM |
| 1 | Why is OLD 10 men : 1 woman? Men don't know how to lead, that simpleYou lost me at “feminist believe they’re better leaders”. That’s bullshit and not true feminism IMO, not at least at the core of the nature yet certainly has manifested for many in that way. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/20 04:30 AM |
| 2 | Why is OLD 10 men : 1 woman? Men don't know how to lead, that simpleThis is a good point! The problem is many women need to speak up when it doesn’t feel right rather than criticize after the fact, the responsibility lies on being true to yourself and caring for the other and working to figure out the in between | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/20 04:29 AM |
| 1 | Why is OLD 10 men : 1 woman? Men don't know how to lead, that simpleI’m confused, is my post marked as a rant? I meant for a discussion. How would you suggest I proceed? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/20 04:26 AM |
| 1 | Why is OLD 10 men : 1 woman? Men don't know how to lead, that simpleTaking into consideration the natural feminine/masculine dynamic, over time and from what I’ve seen no leadership on behalf of the male leads a dead bedroom, nagging wife, or cheating husband. It’s a biological mechanism worth studying yet inconclusive IMO | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/20 04:23 AM |
| 1 | Why is OLD 10 men : 1 woman? Men don't know how to lead, that simpleInteresting...why is it men don’t have opportunity to build relationships IRL? I’ve seen comments on hardship even prior to COVID so why is it so hard? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/12/20 04:20 AM |
| 1 | The Top Golden rules of dating [RED PILL] ( this not be for everybody, so ready with cautionsWait, so you gotta care and learn about a girl and treat her as an individual? Is she not treating you the same? Jesus Christ there is no war drum it’s called being a decent human being respecting another human being .... I honestly do not get it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/20 03:00 AM |
| 2 | The Top Golden rules of dating [RED PILL] ( this not be for everybody, so ready with cautions🤣🤣🤣 i can’t stop laughing that’s good | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/20 02:52 AM |
| 1 | The Top Golden rules of dating [RED PILL] ( this not be for everybody, so ready with cautionsNo, I’m sorry to say 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/20 02:50 AM |
| 1 | The Top Golden rules of dating [RED PILL] ( this not be for everybody, so ready with cautionsRight where I am!!! 🙌💯 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/20 02:47 AM |
| 1 | The Top Golden rules of dating [RED PILL] ( this not be for everybody, so ready with cautionsActually, mature, confident and secure men have women fawning over them...as much as the women in that category do too....if sex is your goal, I’d venture to say you’re struggling in any one of those categories. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/20 02:04 AM |
| 2 | The Top Golden rules of dating [RED PILL] ( this not be for everybody, so ready with cautionsI agree with everything you’re saying. In the end, what matters is to each. If it’s following a bunch of red pill rules to dominate, who am I to judge? If it’s figuring out how many women you can sleep with, go for it! My point is rules made by another and not rules from within will fail, always 100%. Figure out personal wants/needs/goals and it will be easier to walk away from apparent manipulation used by rule following, that’s been my experience | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/20 01:54 AM |
| 2 | The Top Golden rules of dating [RED PILL] ( this not be for everybody, so ready with cautionsI would argue to say that if you CAN get it you’re not obsessed with rule following. You know yourself - secure, confident and most importantly mature. To each their own but ultimately understanding how not to be manipulated. So many “rules” become rigid because of stereotypes. Funny how both men and women have this problem in figuring each other out ... no one is really willing to be real IMO. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/20 01:43 AM |
| 3 | The Top Golden rules of dating [RED PILL] ( this not be for everybody, so ready with cautionsPSA!! Attention!!! From a dude who’s probably never been laid and so angry at women about that rather than figuring out why it might be! This shit never ceases to amaze me 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/20 01:30 AM |
| 2 | EqualityI’ve never understood how a woman could think beating on a man is a good idea to begin with but more importantly why physical violence is ever the answer. Dumb, immature, toddler temper tantrum behavior. Just GTFO once you see that type of agression, really. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/20 01:23 AM |
| 2 | TRPers can rightfully call Canadian women the oldest teenagers in the houseDamn well that’s fucked up 🤯 Edit: I will never move to Canada cause if it can happen to a man it can happen to a woman | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/20 01:15 AM |
| 1 | TRPers can rightfully call Canadian women the oldest teenagers in the houseWell that’s ridiculous and 0.0001% probable in real life but certainly worthy of our time to read cause so applicable in real life! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/20 01:14 AM |
| -1 | Stanford Study: Meeting online is displacing meeting through friends or other methods of connectingYou clearly have created this scenario from porn. LMOA unless you’re both druggies and alcoholics anal on the first date then wanting to build romance? None of this is real life 🤦♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/20 01:02 AM |
| 1 | Stanford Study: Meeting online is displacing meeting through friends or other methods of connectingThis made me laugh so hard cause it’s 100% true about men’s pictures on OLD. I just don’t understand the bathroom selfie’s and shirtless pics and hoping to score a good smart, girl. Really? Why don’t you be a good, smart man? The hypocrisy I can’t quite make sense of. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/11/20 12:55 AM |
| 50 | A lesson learned.Men do not change unless they can tell you exactly what they did, how it made you feel, and how they’re going to fix it. Today’s men are children, hoping to go from mommy to wife. It’s all over the postings on this sub to prove true. Forgive yourself because God forgives you, I know it. Don’t be stuck in what has happened, learn the lesson and use it for good. So many of us women are waking up and that’s what I love about FDS. Stay true to you and your journey, love and learn, grow and be your b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/11/20 04:06 AM |
| 1 | CMV: Men aren’t “intimidated” by successful women. They just don’t want a woman who will disrespect him.Men correlate wealth with masculinity, not women. Women may be more attracted to men with money as a means to believe the family unit will be carried forward but ultimately it’s a transactional relationship that will end in disaster. Looking for respect thru money or thinking you understand people is foolish. Living not in humility and dedicated to growth will bring just that - pain and suffering. So do you want to know love or submission/domination? My dad taught me better. Seek spiritual growt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/20 03:55 AM |
| 4 | Stanford Study: Meeting online is displacing meeting through friends or other methods of connectingI will say as a single “hit the wall” woman in my now ripe age of 37 yet still attracting men 10+ years my junior on OLD, I’ve come to realize it’s all a game. I’d love to meet someone thru my channels, yet men don’t quite want or trust a self-made woman with a child who has intellect. So OLD it is, let’s play, let’s be virtual and figure out the rules as we go by what others standards you read and believe. All women are hypergamous! All women are manipulative! Yeah, right back at you the same g… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/11/20 03:33 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Men aren’t “intimidated” by successful women. They just don’t want a woman who will disrespect him.Probably depends on a lot of factors but where I live, I am not a rare commodity. There are at least 5 other couples in my kids class where the wife makes more so that’s at least 30%, that I know of. I married a European so maybe that has something to do with it haha. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/20 03:27 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Men aren’t “intimidated” by successful women. They just don’t want a woman who will disrespect him.Only so much betrayal until you have to walk away. He’s since gone thru therapy but it took the divorce and many subsequent behaviors like the apologies mentioned above to get there. No lies dude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/20 03:19 PM |
| 6 | CMV: Men aren’t “intimidated” by successful women. They just don’t want a woman who will disrespect him.You don’t marry someone expecting divorce. We’ve become friends after several years should point to how I feel. He’s the father of my child and a good one at that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/11/20 02:23 AM |
| 23 | CMV: Men aren’t “intimidated” by successful women. They just don’t want a woman who will disrespect him.This is not true, I was the breadwinner, always have been during dating into marriage, I enjoyed it, and I never lorded it over him. He handled the finances. Find a good woman and be a secure man and you won’t have a problem. Either one of those out of wack, you’re doomed. My ex and I are friends now and he’s admitted he was proud of my success but at times felt inadequate by his own making and social brainwashing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/11/20 11:41 PM |
| 2 | Facebook Dating Chronicles: Good men exist like Lawrence who feature a terrified woman about to be eaten by a monster male! I just CAN NOT, omg is this real life?! 🤣💀🤣🤣💀🤣💀 i know I laughed so hard I almost peed my pants WTActualF?!?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 04:35 AM |
| 22 | People really think "communication" is going to help herYup! It’s disgusting, sociopathic, and at the purest level and core - pure evil. The devil, no way around it. It’s sad but true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 04:27 AM |
| 38 | People really think "communication" is going to help herYes!!!! Classic TRP bullshit. From an average scrote who would rather be taught by other low life males how to act in this world. It’s pure evil, may their souls burn in hell 🔥 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 04:19 AM |
| 45 | People really think "communication" is going to help herPorn addict. Plain and simple. Check his computer for proof and then dump his ass. It never ceases to amaze me how average shitty guys love to tear down amazing women like this due to their own insecurities and warped perception of life. Let him go live in Never, Never Land | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 04:16 AM |
| 2 | Will the gold christen country girls please stand up? Poor Jamie needs someone to drive him around and pay his meals. OMG ladies I am dead 🤣🤣🤣🤣Totally and I certainly felt a tinge of ‘this sorta feels wrong’ but then I recognize the hypocrisy, he’s not as dumb as we think, the pictures looking macho, one of the best guys you’ll know rhetoric....how the hell are you late 30s and pulling this shit? Be honest with yourself and the types of women you can attract perhaps. But I’m sure he’s getting matches? Men have no shame and some women buy into it, it’s mind blowing actually 😳🤯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/20 02:24 AM |
| 3 | Will the gold christen country girls please stand up? Poor Jamie needs someone to drive him around and pay his meals. OMG ladies I am dead 🤣🤣🤣🤣Facebook dating | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 04:28 PM |
| 15 | Will the gold christen country girls please stand up? Poor Jamie needs someone to drive him around and pay his meals. OMG ladies I am dead 🤣🤣🤣🤣Only looking for a Cristen with a gold tint living in the country it appears....bahaaaaaaa I just can’t 🤣💀🤣💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 03:59 AM |
| 40 | Will the gold christen country girls please stand up? Poor Jamie needs someone to drive him around and pay his meals. OMG ladies I am dead 🤣🤣🤣🤣Cause I do “what ever austin tell me to dom” 🤣💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/11/20 01:31 AM |
| 28 | “Opening up” to menAlways, always trust what’s right for you! As a deep thinker who struggles with small talk, also in my late 30s, single mom, business owner, it feels right for me to ask about the deep questions early on so I don’t waste my time. I trust the right person will do the same if he’s overcome life’s challenges and has a curious and growth mindset. The sharing for the most part has been mutual however, so trust your gut. I’ve been grateful to catch when a man has tried to use my past as a precursor to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/11/20 03:14 AM |
| 7 | Sad but true, gotta just laugh at this point 🤣Yup! Divorced a somatic narc, dated a cerebral narc, then a sociopath, could have been psychopath. Both my parents diagnosed narcissists back in the day (found out after my divorce). I know so much I decided to make a living out of it and help others. Left corporate to become a coach 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 04:15 PM |
| 12 | Sad but true, gotta just laugh at this point 🤣Yes!!! I’ve known the inventor of the twin flame concept for years - it’s all BS. Based on a relationship she had later realized was a covert narc. She too was an expert on narcissism, somatic and energy healing guru. Just nuts the sneeky devil deception | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 03:33 PM |
| 22 | Sad but true, gotta just laugh at this point 🤣Stonewalling, hovering, flying monkeys, one upping, negging, dread, silent treatment, triangulation, grade A supply......... omggggh make it stop haha. Yes, same, I happen to be an expert too. My Quora followers and clients (I’m a life coach) would agree 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 03:21 PM |
| 0 | Years later and it still bothers me.Yes!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/20 12:44 AM |
| 23 | Years later and it still bothers me.Me too. And I’ve looked into it! There used to be a service that tried to do this probably 5-6 years ago, I forget the name but they shut down because of liability. The guys were suing the site for defamation. I’m thinking it would take setting up a server in a country where this could never be prosecuted, also connecting via VPN. Who’s with me?!?! 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 11:53 PM |
| 40 | Years later and it still bothers me.Projection at its finest. All the things he said that you are, he is. You are the confident, good, righteous one. He is exactly the opposite and he knew deep-down you were better than him. He tried to kick you down a notch again and again but you overcame. The light will always triumph darkness. The lies used by narcissistic men for control and power are so devious. You are 100% right you deserve way more, way wayyyy more. We all love and learn and make mistakes, I think us women have a harder t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 10:18 PM |
| 7 | Never again. Not even 50/50.All of them!! Late 30s here and dated 38-44 yo and all of them Peter Pans!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/11/20 03:12 PM |
| 2 | Ain’t this the truth...👎🙅♀️🖕Gosh I’m replying here for all the above comments that I love you ladies and so proud of us for telling our stories and getting the truth out to support each other!!!! I have seen so much of this blaming of women for the rape they’ve endured, the gross evil of it I’m still haunted. Taking a friend to have an abortion which I later understood was a fucking gang bang she endured by being raped and drugged in a fucking Frat house in a Big 10 school. I know I was drugged too, twice, in the 4 years I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 06:38 AM |
| 3 | Ain’t this the truth...👎🙅♀️🖕It’s biological. Men are born of larger statue. Women can learn the tactics to fight, but innately, if you’re a man you’re at an advantage. Also you’ve got the tool to actually penetrate. I’m so sick of hearing “rape” from men because logically and biologically it makes no sense. The odds of them actually experiencing a girl riding them while they were asleep is a fantasy they’re trying to pretend is real based on the amount of porn and fantasy genres of video games. The truth is the truth. An e… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 06:10 AM |
| 44 | How do y’all feel about long engagements? I feel that if after 2 years of engagement y’all ain’t married, it’s not going to happy and it’s most likely doomed.Yup, gotta love how they try to twist a term that clearly is defined by sexual agression, that was needed to define their own actions, to now suit their own narrative. What I never will understand is how men claim they’ve been raped but don’t you need a hard penis to even allow that and you supposedly the bigger and stronger specimen feel helpless? Please enough with the bullshit. We’re all waking up and I love FDS for all us who are seeing the light 👸💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 05:35 AM |
| 80 | How do y’all feel about long engagements? I feel that if after 2 years of engagement y’all ain’t married, it’s not going to happy and it’s most likely doomed.So they’re both worth $20M and looks like Jason has 1 upcoming show series while Olivia is directing and staring in her own film. Good job girl. So much for divorce rape now huh gentlemen? She’s smart enough to protect herself I’m thinking. I certainly didn’t fair so well when my cheating ex took half my money in divorce as the breadwinner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/11/20 04:14 AM |
| 11 | For all the Pickmes and Cool Girls out there.Honestly I think they just want themselves therefore same look therefore another man. They glorify a made up reality by gaslighting themselves for power and control to the point they become so delusional that I truly believe it’s some warped form schizophrenia. And I studied schizoid behavior, terrifying to see really. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 06:24 AM |
| 8 | For all the Pickmes and Cool Girls out there.👏👏👏💯💯💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 06:15 AM |
| 44 | I really hope she will get away from him... He honestly sounds like a lunatic.Yeahhh...I stopped at her fiancé was telling her he’s going out with coworkers, the flirty one was gonna be there with her bf, but she wasn’t invited until she had to question and pester him? Dear Lord way to start a fight dude, I hope she wakes up this was a sign from God to GTFO, the abuse only escalates from here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/20 05:54 AM |
| 22 | Does anyone else get triggered from casual sex scenes in movies/TV shows?Or how about the gentlemen’s club $10 lap dance billboards followed by the ED ones driving along one of the most frequented expressways in the US? Yeah. Triggers are everywhere. Don’t beat yourself up, feel through all that rage and disgust so you can get to the point of non-triggered, while dismal, acceptance. Just been my journey anyways 🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 02:46 AM |
| 31 | This is so powerful. Really puts into words what we're all trying to say a lot of the time.Damn this is truth... really, really truth. Our recent ancestors bought into the “protect” rhetoric from men, wasn’t so 2000 years earlier. All about power and control. Sadly, the byproduct of that is vast the majority of men today have no accountability, spewing rhetoric to win, all a bunch of porn addicted buffoons. Brah, you live in a fantasy land, enjoy your life jerking off in your moms basement ✌️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/20 12:57 AM |
| 27 | Chile The AccuracyHands down these men aren’t better off, they just found someone easier (or they hope) to manipulate or control. Maybe someone more on the borderline crazy spectrum. Never forget that! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 02:57 AM |
| 18 | Chile The AccuracyLean into those feelings to heal you first and foremost, where does this feel familiar in the past? Take time for you to explore before another relationship. If not you’ll attract the same, most likely ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 02:55 AM |
| 14 | Chile The AccuracyBobette the builder! Let’s not even give the courtesy of a female surname here 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 02:50 AM |
| 3 | And I will not be stopped!!I feel you. I’ve been back “dating” now again in my mid 30s and it’s a shit show. This is really what’s happening, these idiots don’t realize how far they’re being brainwashed by pornography. The violence against women all in the name of power. Because they feel powerless on their own, insecure manchildren living in never never land. No reason for their demise except for their own making, and agreement with where society is today. Ravage animals. May God help their souls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 02:46 AM |
| 2 | And I will not be stopped!!Beautiful! Gosh it’s gotta be hard out there for the teenage girls and I’m terrified for my 7 yr old. Staying close to you all is a breath of fresh air. We can learn, and grow, and be strong together 💯💪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/20 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Why are some men ok with shamelessly using women to their benefit?Maybe it’s as simple as the men who write that have no idea what they’re talking about cause they can’t actually irl relate. I guess for the youngin’s finding their way maybe, or both of them are dumb and I intellectually & socially matched. I’m pretty confident those who say this kinda stuff have had very little relational experiences of this context. Men who can get an easy lay don’t bother to keep up with women who cause trouble. Women who can get an easy lay don’t bother to keep up with men … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/11/20 12:16 AM |
| 2 | Why do women hate cheating?👏👏👏 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/20 03:24 AM |
| 2 | I regret.I felt the same way 😅❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 01:08 AM |
| 51 | 😇 The Madonna/Whore Complex in Men 😈Happens so often it’s sickening. Puts you on his own imagined pedestal until you don’t act like he wanted (his imagined reality) and you’re just like the others he loathes yet worships as he’s jacking off to their images. It’s mind boggling to me the extent they gaslight and create cognitive dissonance in themselves. Sick in the mind, really. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 01:02 AM |
| 115 | 😇 The Madonna/Whore Complex in Men 😈👏👏👏 The vast majority of men today are narcissistic porn addicts. They split reality vs fantasy, unable to understand and reconcile the years of brainwashing they’ve enjoyed as slaves to sex. They live in fantasy of real women (Madonna) and fake women (Whore). People are objects, even themselves. A culture of Peter Pan manchilds knowing and gaslighting themselves into believing their own bullshit. The older I get the more I recognize how men are masters at lying, even when they don’t need to. Bl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 12:54 AM |
| 6 | I regret.There was no drama you created. A normal human reaction to unfair treatment is warranted. Modern society likes to call that drama. Any human being will react instinctively, when individuality is threatened, for survival. Trust that, always. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/20 12:35 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Do you have sympathy for men who report being sexually harassed by women you find attractive?I dated a guy once that was jumpy, it was weird, he opened up to tell me that he lost his virginity at 14 to his best friends mom. Totally fucked up. But he struggled with seeing how it was totally not right... he talked about how he felt violated but at the same time totally felt good and cool... cause society says that’s cool. He fared better than a girl in the same situation - she’s used goods and highly traumatized. I’m sorry but it takes a hard penis to penetrate, women have a hole. I’m not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/20 03:37 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Do you have sympathy for men who report being sexually harassed by women you find attractive?This. Is. Truth. ... thank you | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/20 03:23 AM |
| 7 | A man "tried" making a birthday cake for his girlfriend. Pickmeishas in the notes going crazy over the "effort". 🙁Hahaaaa this made me laugh so hard!!! Like maybe I had a bit too much asparagus last night and damn I didn’t digest those pumpkin seeds ahhhhh 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 11:41 PM |
| 29 | Extremely toxic relationship- any advice appreciatedYou need to one day wake up and the next day be gone. Block him, give yourself at least 60 days no contact. 4 year is a long time. Get into therapy if you need it. Read up about healthy relationships, what they’re supposed to look like. Learn all you can about boundaries, these you need to enforce and see with actions, not words. I’m sorry to say but this man’s past is not your problem, can’t make excuses for him, he’s displaying a lot of toxic narcissistic behaviors. Please, please get out befo… | /r/askFDS | 02/11/20 03:36 AM |
| 56 | I don't even know what to say at this pointThank you God this sorry excuse for a human being will not be procreating and continuing his gene pool 🙏. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 03:01 AM |
| 14 | Joining FDS, I found it a bit weird that men couldn't comment. Joining r/TwoXChromosomes, I realised how fucking good the rule isPurple Pill Debate. I have no idea how to link it like you tech savy ladies do 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/20 12:45 AM |
| 118 | Joining FDS, I found it a bit weird that men couldn't comment. Joining r/TwoXChromosomes, I realised how fucking good the rule isTotally!! I participate on PPD sometimes for shits and gigs, also to stand up for FDS. I was appalled at what was posted there during purge week, by men I’ve debated before, thought had some respect for women. No. Nope. All pornsick manchilds. How they gaslight themselves is astonishing to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 05:56 PM |
| 1 | Vetting on OLD?Opps, sorry forgot questions go there!! Thanks 🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 04:43 PM |
| 5 | The Intellectual Manipulator, Mr. Machiavellli (per request ;)Ugh I feel you sis. I’ve been through it more times than I can count. With knowledge comes wisdom. Most importantly, listen to your body. It will tell you much sooner than your mind will so trust it and get out early before further damage can be done, best I’ve learned to make sense of it and protect myself ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/10/20 03:01 AM |
| 3 | How do you avoid intelligent LVM?So true!! Oh gosh the trauma bonds, the soul wounds from these wolves in sheep’s clothing, so so hard. I’ve been thru the ringer, highly sensitive and empathetic, such a magnet, 15+ years in corporate America too with this bull shit. Thank you, I’m gonna post it soon!! ❤️🤗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 02:39 AM |
| 20 | Found this nugget in my inbox after my last post on here. If this is a woman I feel sorry she has such little self respect and worthiness that she actually believes this is true.HAhahaaaa extactly!!! Dude can’t even make a real woman orgasm in real life. What hypocrisy and quite frankly sad these low lives spend their days watching other people have sex over actually knowing how to do it. A bunch of Peter Pan emotionally stunted boys. I can’t even take it. Wish I was a lesbian sometimes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 01:39 AM |
| 16 | How do you avoid intelligent LVM?I’ve been working on a piece on covert vulnerable narcissists. I find the highly intellectual LVM use a ton of manipulation - primary gaslighting (you miss understood) and diversion (direct the convo away to something they know more about or one up to loosely tied topic). Personally, I find they’re the most insidious types of narcissist and if you’ve found yourself with a Machiavellian type, it’s ugly. Dark psychology. Swallowed every red pill. You’ve now just inspired me to finish my writings o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 01:29 AM |
| 3 | How do you avoid intelligent LVM?This is golden and spot on!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/10/20 01:19 AM |
| -1 | Study: Men suffer most from being single over a long period of time, while women were more negatively affected by being in an unstable relationship but were not affected by being single for longer periods.How? And what? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/20 04:28 AM |
| 5 | Study: Men suffer most from being single over a long period of time, while women were more negatively affected by being in an unstable relationship but were not affected by being single for longer periods.God speed my friend! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/20 04:08 AM |
| 9 | Study: Men suffer most from being single over a long period of time, while women were more negatively affected by being in an unstable relationship but were not affected by being single for longer periods.Or disgusting and perverted. I’m honestly grateful for Purge so I can see true characters here, it’s brilliant | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/20 04:07 AM |
| 23 | Study: Men suffer most from being single over a long period of time, while women were more negatively affected by being in an unstable relationship but were not affected by being single for longer periods.It’s a very simple answer, as I see it. Society has for centuries placed women as the drivers of relationships, cause they can have the babies and all. Wasn’t so before the Victorian Era for us Western cultures at least and a couple hundred years of this thinking, the emotional and mental labor of a relationship is largely on women. So why bother as a woman if you can be single and enjoy life vs literally having to help a manchild mature and understand decent human behavior and empathy? That wou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/10/20 01:24 AM |
| 2 | A man wanting to have sex with you does not mean he likes about you. Male sexual attention is abundant and low value. Also, the same men who are going bareback with women are also the same ones who will complain the woman “trapped them” if she gets pregnant and decided to keep it. 🤡I really don’t get the no condom thing, it’s called caring for ones body and health...like famous men such as gangster Al Capone or author Oscar Wilde or painter Paul Guegin all died from syphilis. I just honestly, logically, don’t get it. Ohhhhhhh that’s right, women are actually the logic sex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/20 12:48 AM |
| 24 | FDS writing exercise: let's practice seeing the truth behind male gaslighting and manipulation by translating this piece of male propaganda“21 Rules of the Toxic Man” ... bunch of immature toddler bullies.... 7) Anything I gaslight you about 6 mos ago can’t me used against me once you figure out my idiotic and repulsive behavior. In fact, I’m so dumb I can’t remember anything past 7 days. LMAO this was good 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/20 10:31 PM |
| 1 | CMV: FemaleDatingStrategy is a very hilarious and entertaining subreddit.As much in the same way I don’t think it’s ironic a TRP man calls himself an “alpha”. A mature man wouldn’t want to be coddled by a mother figure as much as a mature woman wouldn’t want to be in that role. A mature woman wants a partner, not a child or project. A mature man wants a wise and nurturing woman. They’re very much one in the same. Getting over the society stuff is where we might be able to see each other, as humans beings, and attract what we ultimately desire is how I feel anyway. I’… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/20 02:03 AM |
| 3 | Women bad.Ewwwwww ....... Girls have COOTIES!!!! But wait, wasn’t I borne from a woman? 🤔 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/20 12:56 AM |
| 5 | CMV: FemaleDatingStrategy is a very hilarious and entertaining subreddit.THIS! Is truth. If you don’t value yourself over others, strategy is needed. Mainly cause we’re all dealing with emotional wounds and bullshit along the way, societal driven stuff too, IMO. Both sides worth looking at but without maturity, accountability, and compassion, it’s impossible, either side would rather stick to their narrative over growing and learning. It’s how society operates today. Pick the right people for you. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/20 12:53 AM |
| 3 | The Purge - Announcement (2020)Omg wait what is this about? I’m seriously reluctant to click the link... it feels like an 80s infomercial of grab bag, white elegant, smells of suspicion, get my dopamine release. Yet I’m intrigued and succumb, I’m newer after all. .... but Wait! So can I talk trash on all the Peter Pan stupid comments I’ve seen on here? [Inset some emoji] | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/10/20 12:34 AM |
| 1 | Do you believe that the female sex drive is as high as the male sex drive on average?We only take longer because we’re shunned from a young age not to explore our sexuality combined in a society where we’re all taught sex is a commodity. I’m sure thus will be downvoted too but I don’t care. Ladies, we do and can have these great orgasms if we can connect to our bodies as beings not objects as society has told us to be. Ok, maybe not all women, but we don’t have any scholarly research to say otherwise. Looking up squirting is funny with 1 French study from the 70s and over 1 mill… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/20 04:45 AM |
| -1 | Do you believe that the female sex drive is as high as the male sex drive on average?A woman’s sexual capability for pleasure far outweighs men’s with 4-5 (maybe more) orgasmic areas in the vaginal wall plus the massive nerve endings in the clitoris. It makes biological sense. What Kinsey started in the 60s has long been forgotten, the female anatomy is not really one to be understood, and it’s always been frightening per the ancients in any civilizations. This question can’t be solved without further research and on today’s world, it doesn’t matter. Push Viagra. Push birth cont… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/10/20 01:30 AM |
| 1 | Just read the handbook and disagree with a few thingsFirst tackle the porn thing. 80% of it is degrading to women, 99% degrading to both sexes. FWB and ONS are a means to use another person for their body as a fleshlight of their own fantasies. Any woman who loves her body knows her body and can find the right ways to take care of herself because we know that sex leads to attachment because we biologically secrete the love hormone oxytocin upon orgasm. Next is the 50/50 thing. Sure, we all want equality, but you also need to make sure you can rely… | /r/askFDS | 10/10/20 10:56 PM |
| 8 | I’m dying....Dude really thinks a lesbian wants to have a threesome with him, lesbian tricks him into just letting her bang the girlfriend insteadOh I’m guessing this came off so wrong. My point was let’s not waste our time, to this extent, we’re better than this. The man was clearly gross. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 05:25 AM |
| 5 | LVM Giving Attention to LVW Over You (Mix of stuff learned from this subreddit & what I've picked up on my own)I feel you. Take as much as it makes sense to you. Sometimes being the “sponge” has its upsides, especially where moving up is concerned if you’re able to see individuals over the problems and come to resolutions. Half the battle is making people feel safe enough to have a voice. That’s being a leader. Just be sure you’re compensated or our own values reign in all you do would be my suggestion. Either way, you’ve got this I’m sure! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 03:46 AM |
| 10 | 🙅🏻♀️Love this take on the empath!! So true. I find people who haven’t healed core wounds and identify as empaths/victims are just as bad in a state of mind as narcissists/abusers. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 03:33 AM |
| 15 | 🙅🏻♀️He wants a momma. His heart aches because he expects an unconditional love to wipe his ass and tell him he’s wonderful while he sits around all day doing nothing productive to further real adult growth and maturity which comes with responsibility and accountability. The perpetual victim, “my Princess is coming” while he lives in a state of delusional fantasy. Lord help his soul. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 03:29 AM |
| 17 | LVM Giving Attention to LVW Over You (Mix of stuff learned from this subreddit & what I've picked up on my own)You’re not alone. But it’s time to stop caring about the drama and start living for you. I started my career in staffing and for the most part, it attracted like-minds in caring for people and finding them jobs. Our Queen leader I still admire. My boss a Pickme who convinced me the old leader wasn’t good and I ended up working for her in the tech industry...HOLY SHIT(!) the misogamy and gamer attitude, even selling for the biggest internet provider in the world. Went back to staffing but realize… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 03:17 AM |
| 8 | Ladies, I created a faker than a pickme orgasm profile to show how men lie about their intentions on OLDYes!!! I’m getting my 🍷 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 02:53 AM |
| 6 | Let's talk about waiting.Ultimately from a biblical sense, waiting until marriage is for protection. It’s how we get the ‘feel goods’ biologically/chemically and the one place we can meet as humans emotionally, physically, and spiritually. The problem ultimately with premarital sex are the soul ties. Bonds formed when we do have sex aren’t the best for rational decision making. I can agree waiting to make sure he proves himself is righteous. At the same time, every Christian man has watched porn. I’ve met some of the mo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 12:28 AM |
| 28 | Let's talk about waiting.Porn is where my mind went too...80% of Christian men watch porn weekly. That jumps to 99% if I remember correctly within the last month. These men may feel shame about it but they’ve rewired their brains for masturbation regardless. Sex starts in the mind. If he doesn’t have a clear mind, can’t articulate his struggles, how he tries to overcome, etc. You’ll be stuck in a sexless marriage while he continues to wank it to porn because that’s how he’s trained his brain to get release. I am a devou… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/20 12:16 AM |
| 4 | Why are women more against having children than men?Yes, please, good, do not procreate. All you incel, narcissistic, angry people. The world will be a better place. Men included. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/09/20 03:44 AM |
| 16 | I got called high maintenance the other day.So f*ing what is right 🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 03:31 AM |
| 79 | I got called high maintenance the other day.Omg from another woman?!! Ugh, use reason, get clear communication, ask him if he considers it a date, stop wasting time ruminating about something you could easily find the answer to if you just asked! How the hell is that high maintenance? That’s having a brain, no? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 03:08 AM |
| 42 | I got called high maintenance the other day.Interesting. I’ve been called high maintenance and didn’t like it but wait should I?? It’s always ended with me challenging wtf they meant and basically turned into me explaining having standards and goals is how every smart and mature human should act. What gives 🤷♀️🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 03:02 AM |
| 3 | If you blame single mothers for picking poor men to hook up with, you should also blame men who get left or "divorce raped" for also picking poor choices for marriage.This is spot on. And the fact we have so many men already responding to describe the female experience like “no but single moms know they’re getting a Chad” is laughable. You know what it comes down to? Psychological issues and personality disorders. The codependent man marries the narcissistic trophy wife and gets divorced raped. The narcissistic man marries the borderline female and gets divorce raped (after being cheated on). The codependent female marries the narcissistic Chad and gets divor… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/09/20 11:37 PM |
| 5 | Is hamstering and mental gymnastics basically describing the same thing?Im laughing so hard right now cause personally, means a lot, my ex would talk about cognitive dissonance a la TRP while I’m over here like wait, psychology degree and worked in a cognitive behavioral lab. All I can say is cognitive dissonance applies to all facets of life. Humans have a need for control, instinctively. Without emotional maturity alongside deductive reasoning, we don’t normally do well in the “grey”. Black/white thinking is one of the common key traits across personality disorder… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/09/20 02:28 AM |
| 3 | Mature/Older FDS Sister'sUnfortunately really can’t really answer without perspective on what you’re hoping to understand. Your questions are quite open ended, like a survey, just ask what you wanna know based on your experience. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/09/20 01:55 AM |
| 28 | How do you deal with men that compete with you?The issue is emotional maturity. These men say they want an intelligent woman, and I truly believe they do, but when faced with one their egos get in the way. They react in competition or by shutting down. Fight or flight. They do not have a good grasp of their emotional states and ultimately their own insecurities. So they try to knock you down one or make you subordinate because they do not feel good enough for you. That’s not your problem, that’s theirs. Your tolerance in hoping they’ll grow … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 07:40 PM |
| 2 | Healing the pain is hard but it is worth it and you’ve got this!This is beautiful, thank you for sharing, I feel you!! 💝 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 07:22 PM |
| 10 | Reminder to read the handbook and follow the values of this sub when posting and commentingI had this happen to me, this dude literally wrote an essay about me, 15 paragraphs, in response to a simple post where I told him to listen to this other guy’s advice given prior. What do we do? Do not even finish reading nor put in any energy to understand a delusional “lecture” - Class A Creep!!! Block, delete posts, DO NOT ENGAGE with nor try to rationalize with these types of humans. May God help their souls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/09/20 07:21 PM |
| 6 | My level up / life goals! ❤️💅🏻💸💁🏻♀️This speaks to my soul!!!!!! ❤️🙏🙌💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/09/20 02:37 AM |
| 1 | Taking females on dates is a waste of time and no real man does it.Nah, not a new concept, and exactly how we live today as a society “the means justify the ends”. Precisely why we are more narcissistic and stupid than ever as a culture. The metaphysical no longer matters, so I’ll go back to point #1 (with elaboration): through our Creator, unconditional love can be felt and wisdom is found. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/20 01:53 AM |
| 1 | Taking females on dates is a waste of time and no real man does it.Wikipedia explanation, made all the difference! Not really. But, Ok, unconscious incompetence. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/20 01:08 AM |
| 1 | Taking females on dates is a waste of time and no real man does it.I thought we were talking about relationships, not a grocery store clerk.... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/09/20 12:56 AM |
| 2 | Taking females on dates is a waste of time and no real man does it.Exactly. That’s the great thing about being individuals. Work to know yourself and your standards, admit when you’re off track, always stay true to you. Suffering is a signal of change needed - embrace it and learn from it. Keep evolving. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/20 10:29 PM |
| 1 | “I believe that one of the keys to understanding male violence is to understand the psychological impact of dealing with rejection. We must admit that as women, we face much less reflection than men”... from a major French feminist Instagram account. I can’t even cope.Meh. Wouldn’t put it past him, or any man who gains “power” perhaps. She was definitely not coddler from what I remember but we’re taking college days for me 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 10:21 PM |
| 1 | Taking females on dates is a waste of time and no real man does it.Sure, unconscious competence is the goal but let’s be real, we’re on this forum. That would take vulnerability and authenticity and a shit ton of self awareness, and we’re all on our journey somewhere. Transactional relationships can work for the unconsciously incompetent. That’s why men and women of this mindset view sex as a commodity. That would take competence to unconsciously decipher the difference. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/20 10:18 PM |
| 10 | “I believe that one of the keys to understanding male violence is to understand the psychological impact of dealing with rejection. We must admit that as women, we face much less reflection than men”... from a major French feminist Instagram account. I can’t even cope.She needs to go read and learn that coddling male violence only perpetuates the problem. She’s delusional as she tries to explain male violent behavior, stop please for the love of God in trying to coddle men who need to be accountable for their own actions. Jesus she sounds like my ex mother-in-law (my ex is French). Too bad they’re still not aligned with Simone Beauvoir, the wife of Jean-Paul Satre, when she said “On ne naît pas femme : on le devient. Aucun destin biologique, psychique, économ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 09:57 PM |
| 3 | Taking females on dates is a waste of time and no real man does it.Beautiful. In the end it’s all time and money. We work hard for our jobs, acquire the skills/talent, to survive (make money). Why not look at relationships much the same, they need investment to reap the rewards? Problem is we have no magic framework or process flow or Gantt chart for that 😅 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/20 09:35 PM |
| 4 | Taking females on dates is a waste of time and no real man does it.There is no such thing as unconditional love. Only your Creator can give such, although humans do try with their offspring but we’re all broken people. Everything is transactional for unconsciously, incompetent people. We’re all somewhere on our way to conscious competence. Most people live unconsciously and therefore evaluate others based on ones like-experience (our brains are naturally lazy) alongside society’s standards/rules/programming. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/09/20 09:18 PM |
| 4 | I can't believe this male combs through our sub and even dedicates time to writing future posts for when we hit 100k. Haha. I assure you buddy, there isn't any risk of us becoming "inclusive" or "average". You males have shown us what average looks like and we are not interested!And the saddest part about it is “divorce rape” could have been avoided if they had actually grown up and stoped be so lazy, immature and selfish. If these men actually cared to understand their wives and got in touch with their real problems of superiority/patriarchy/misogyny, there wouldn’t even be a thing called “divorce rape” but I do love debating on PPD how I was divorce raped, my ex LVM took half my money, not the other way around 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 08:09 PM |
| 18 | I can't believe this male combs through our sub and even dedicates time to writing future posts for when we hit 100k. Haha. I assure you buddy, there isn't any risk of us becoming "inclusive" or "average". You males have shown us what average looks like and we are not interested!What I find absolutely mind-boggling is how delusional and dumb this man is. So somehow our groups is here just in order to “not divorce rape their husband”. Dude, wake up, we’re about self empowerment, leveling up, and having standards. Self awareness IS our focus and you’re a perfect example of why...somehow it’s all about you men anyways 🙄🥱 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 06:20 PM |
| 1 | How can I stop feeling like men are entitled to me/my body?Sure! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 03:50 PM |
| 3 | I WILL Make This HappenMontana my heart ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 03:31 AM |
| 17 | The longer I stay away from dating, the harder it is to imagine wanting to go back..Totally! I feel you right now. For me, I recognize now I set out in dating with an agenda to “find a husband” and was I sorely mistaken by being upfront and conscious. I’m a successful business woman, say what you mean and mean what you say. All of my relationships ended up feeling like work, all the emotional/mental labor cause these men are stunted. Focusing on me, my goals, my comfort is the most rewarding thing of all. You’ll know when it’s time to start thinking about dating or you’ll be as… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 12:40 AM |
| 23 | How can I stop feeling like men are entitled to me/my body?Wowsers, there’s lot to unpack here. First thing’s first, you’ve had sex and feel guilt (classic Christian response) so lean into knowing and believing you’re forgiven in Christ, and truly, until you feel it and believe it. What I think is happening is you’re wrestling with the flesh vs the spirit, and if so, I’ve been there. The men you’re attracting are wolves in sheep’s clothing but you’re on a journey of healing so give yourself the grace God so abundantly does, if we’re willing to accept it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 12:20 AM |
| 1 | Calling all FDS experts! We need your help over at r/AskFDS to help answer personal relationship questions.I’d love to contribute! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/09/20 05:19 PM |
| 23 | How do you stop letting men define your value?Because you are so amazing that this might be why they acted like jackasses to begin with. Think about how those relationships actually made YOU insecure because of their own securities and inabilities to love. That’s why you’re having thoughts like this most likely. Grieving takes time so don’t beat yourself up. You’ve got this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/09/20 11:33 PM |
| 2 | Do you think Heterosexual women's sexuality is inherently more fluid than men's?Just like men’s sexuality is fluid if there’s a peep hole 🤷♀️ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/09/20 02:15 AM |
| 1 | Cutting Off Audacious Individuals (Online & IRL)Crucial Conversations! Just looked it up in my bookshelf haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 02:22 AM |
| 12 | C-PTSD from pornified cultureYup! My suggestion is EMDR as it’s focused on trauma. CBT was a waste of time for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 01:49 AM |
| 1 | WtfRegression is natural. Lean into the feelings. Figure out why this trigger happened and what’s holding you back and feeling this way. It may need a therapist to unblock if you feel it’s related to trauma. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 01:42 AM |
| 2 | Cutting Off Audacious Individuals (Online & IRL)I’m glad, I feel you! Gosh it’s so hard in work setting, it’s delicate. I read a book several years ago called Constructive Conversations which helps to know when to shut down or continue a conversation. Also What’s Your Proposal was another good one. Pretty much how to handle high-conflict people who try to use your kindness against you is what I learned, if that makes sense. I do a lot of reading so hoping those titles are correct and LMK if not 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 01:34 AM |
| 13 | Cutting Off Audacious Individuals (Online & IRL)People try to connect over LinkedIn all the time to build their network and I’ve gotten plenty of “thanks for connecting” or “great to connect with you!” type of responses but context is needed and yikessss “tell me more about yourself” !! I know where you’re coming from. Treat yourself with the compassion you give to others. If they pull this shit, remember they’re not capable of healthy relating and it is in NO WAY a burden that you have to carry and feel bad or guilty or whatever for. Your en… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 01:13 AM |
| 6 | C-PTSD from pornified cultureAmen love this sister, so spot on 🙏❤️💯 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 12:17 AM |
| 12 | C-PTSD from pornified cultureRelatable here too. First step is getting the help in therapy to heal the past so you can move forward. What you’ll discover perhaps is there is no way around it in our culture today - porn-sick and MSM like movies and billboards all prove that’s true. Boys have been exposed to porn in increasingly younger ages. Getting past being emotionally triggered to be able to face the fear of asking the man about his history of porn will be key. If he’s said he never has, he’s lying. If he can not explici… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 12:15 AM |
| 7 | Is it LV behavior to ask a guy for his Instagram before meeting up?Totally, former model and beauty queen here so I get you! I would suggest maybe 1 modeling pic, the rest good photos of you. We’re not all OlnyFans (that actually didn’t exist for me in dating at my old age ;) but I’d go more on extenuating your personality over pics. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 10:34 PM |
| 14 | Friend posted this, please read comment for more info!!!Sex is the one place we can connect physical, emotional, and spiritual. Even the spiritual New Agers have this belief, perhaps rooted in Christianity, but regardless. Lets look at the bigger picture - why do men use PUA tactics and how the hell is it the porn industry profits to the point every person in the world could get $40/year, and how is prostitution one of the oldest professions of mankind? Patriarchy. Male ego. Animal-like behaviors. The incredible research out today is proving porn add… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 10:29 PM |
| 7 | Is it LV behavior to ask a guy for his Instagram before meeting up?So guys are getting bombarded today with women on OLD who are insta OnlyFans. I think telling him why you want to know upfront with the request will help to weed out quicker than any other strategy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 10:15 PM |
| 28 | Block and move on!Exactly. It’s not up to us to do the mental labor for a reschedule request, period, for anyone. He sent a message without alternative dates. No matter the reason, poor social etiquette and clearly emotionally stunted LV behavior. No need to coddle a grown man “awe that sucks” - please - that’s bait - say no to Peter in Never Never Land. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 10:06 PM |
| 5 | Well just got kicked out with nothing.Proud of you for sharing and that you’ve learned your lesson here and bold enough to share it! You’re not alone. It’s hard. This breakup will need grieving and allow yourself to do that and remember how beautiful you are, this man will not break you, you are stronger every day ❤️🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 03:31 AM |
| 7 | Are HVM more intuitive towards you?Depends on where you are in the dating cycle, and how you define HVM for you, with FDS principals. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 03:23 AM |
| 2 | From removeddit, this guy's comment on a post by a pregnant woman who's husband is buying nudes and sexually talking with other women. I worry what he said is true: men will always feel something is missing in a monogamous LTR, even the faithful men who do try not to stare or are porn-free.He gave himself away “we are apes”.....yeah, you are dude, glad and praying you won’t be procreating 🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 12:34 AM |
| 33 | And that’s why you have to leave these cowards at the first sign of disrespect. You’re in for a ride if you don’t.Habitual Peter Pans. Society has conditioned women to be the caretakers of relationships/marriages. These wussy’s would rather self sabotage in dating than be a grown ass man to state their feelings and needs. Because they’re thinking another woman will coddle them and their mommy issues, then get all self-righteous when the wife wants a divorce cause she didn’t marry a child? Oh, and he’ll most certainly blame the system and all women and feminism. Brah, your own gender created the system and s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 12:28 AM |
| 2 | At first I felt for her until.. (let me know if you got to that part in the comments). 😣😣😣Jesus Lord let’s save her!!! 🥺 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 12:19 AM |
| 18 | Pickme pickme pickme !!! 🙋🙋🙋We all process our experiences and healing differently and at different rates. Quite frankly, we’re all recovering pickmeshas anyways, just in different places of maturity in our journey. Some will need more handholding, others affirmation, others a rant. But we’re in this together. The handbook is a starter and growth is hard. I can tell you I’m learning and growing thru some of the coddling posts because I see this as a way to prepare my daughter to eventually enter this cesspool. In the end, … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/20 12:08 AM |
| 41 | Please Use Our New Flair "SOCIAL GROUP STRATEGY" to discuss issues specific to your racial, ethnic, political, professional, or religious group.Love this so much!!! We are all from different walks of life and our history brings us here for so many different reasons. I love the idea of helping those of similar background and also allowing space to understand from one another when we aren’t to learn and grow. We all have something to contribute ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/20 05:06 AM |
| 13 | Lol i’ve seen this all over Reddit & people fail to realize women would rather masturbate with sex toys that can provide them dependable pleasure than fuck any substandard dude 😂😂 This wasn’t the diss you thought it was sweetie, you agree that women are selective & dick is disposable 💅🏽Omg I’m dying 🤣🤣🤣👏👏👏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 01:22 AM |
| 46 | Lol i’ve seen this all over Reddit & people fail to realize women would rather masturbate with sex toys that can provide them dependable pleasure than fuck any substandard dude 😂😂 This wasn’t the diss you thought it was sweetie, you agree that women are selective & dick is disposable 💅🏽Teddy bears, garden hoses, jacuzzi jets ... just find the hole!! 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 01:20 AM |
| 1 | What is your view on legalization sex work?On a spiritual level, that’s heading further into the belly of the beast. On a practical level, yes. Actually, hell yes. Better for the human race that certain genes don’t get passed on. Legalize and regulate it and that logically would help regulate sex trafficking. Yet, that’s probably me being an idealist, given prostitution is one of the oldest professions documented of mankind. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/09/20 01:14 AM |
| 68 | Subtle negs- watch out for themOh and the creep-up negs! That compliment of your dress, style, job, you name it, suddenly, doesn’t quite feel so good. Somethings off. Ladies, the mask has dropped. These men are so insecure they self sabotage a good thing. They feel you’re out of their league. That’s for a reason. You are. Next. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 12:48 AM |
| 129 | Lol i’ve seen this all over Reddit & people fail to realize women would rather masturbate with sex toys that can provide them dependable pleasure than fuck any substandard dude 😂😂 This wasn’t the diss you thought it was sweetie, you agree that women are selective & dick is disposable 💅🏽Let’s try to take a stab at the reverse... “Women are so irrational” the gender who thinks women use knives to masturbate | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/20 12:26 AM |
| 18 | Y’all ever mourn the loss of letting them go before you end it?Yup! And it worked to be able to let go and move on much more quickly afterwards. Once I’ve clearly stated my needs/wants that are not being met, I put myself on a timeframe and began the grieving process & emotionally detaching. This process allowed me to see the man more objectively and reaffirm my decision too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 03:52 PM |
| 12 | After my abusive marriage I stopped singing. You ladies have made me want to start again. Here’s a cover of Lady Gaga I did withhold my kids playing in the background. Thanks for helping me find my voice again ❤️You sound AMAZING!!! Such a beautiful tenor/bass tone, seriously so good. I’m singing again too and now onto learning the harmonica, so much fun. Thank you for sharing and so happy to see you’re singing and doing you again, I feel it! 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/09/20 04:25 AM |
| 8 | And I can see why you have not landed a single date in the past 5 yearsWow, just wow. God rest his soul. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 08:25 PM |
| 22 | And I can see why you have not landed a single date in the past 5 yearsAnd all I can see is a beautiful woman who decided to give life rather than take it away. A strong and resilient woman doing it all on her own....and a piece of shit scum bag who doesn’t deserve even the title “baby daddy”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 08:21 PM |
| 1 | The amount of risk and investment a woman puts into the dating process is the same she will into a relationship.Amen to this, women have thousands of nerve endings in their clitoris and a vaginal wall with 4-5 areas which produce orgasm (look up the A and O spot!). Hookup culture makes sex a commodity, and that’s been a commodity men have paid for long ago. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/09/20 01:53 AM |
| 3 | Women constantly talk about how immoral men can be in regards to their sexuality. Are women generally any better, or are they even worse?Doesn’t seem like you’re insecure, maybe an opportunist and I don’t blame you why not get laid if you can and want to? Your story brings me back, I remember those types of girls. Today I hear there’s a fine line between being “sex positive” and a woman hoping for more and ending up accusing a man of sexual assault because she herself feels ashamed (projection at its finest). This is largely the world we live in unfortunately, and we each can decide our path. I would say women who use their bodie… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/20 08:36 PM |
| 14 | Accommodation and Masculine EnergyI’ve had a similar experience in the past where I felt the relationship was lopsided and I was doing more than him. Men appreciate what they work hard for and meeting him half way, going to him, planning dates are all you taking action therefore in your masculine energy. It’s ok to do this sometimes but as a general rule he should be putting in the effort 80% of the time to see you and be with you. A man is attracted to our feminine ‘being’ and this includes stating what we want and receiving fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 03:36 PM |
| 1 | Field report - too focused on my looks?Oooooo I didn’t see all the new comments. Agreed FDS strategists will have best advice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Field report - too focused on my looks?Totally if OPs intuition feels off, maybe I missed that in the comments somewhere 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 02:59 PM |
| 3 | Onlyfans and modern relationshipsWhy? Jealous are you? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/08/20 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Field report - too focused on my looks?You got me wrong. It’s never at the wrong time, I just struggle to take compliments whether it is work, relationships, etc. Because of my past issues of codependency and people pleasing. It is genuine and never makes me feel creepy and inauthentic, i just struggle to take compliments, some of us do, all of need FDS and all need perspective. It’s hard to place every single comment and situation in a box and certainly we all need to trust our gut and it’s up to OP to decide which path is best. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 02:48 PM |
| 19 | Am I just a bitch? The amount of times he mentioned my school drive me bananas. I think I may just suck at this online dating thing.This seems to be an attempt at negging backhanded compliments cause he already knows you can do better than him. Who is he to think it’s better in the US? Personally I’m happy I have my nexus to head north if I ever need it 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 03:36 AM |
| 20 | TerpDerp (redpiller) brags about Dreadgaming abusing a girl with CancerI love the irony that this scrote even thinks he’ll ever even have a wife or gf. This poor girl has probably not even been mentally well given the cancer taking over her body. I hope this piece of shit gets hit by a bus tomorrow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/08/20 01:53 AM |
| 3 | Onlyfans and modern relationshipsI think that depends on your views on pornography. If you’re flappin’ it to other ladies than perhaps you should be ok with other men flappin’ it to her? Personally I find it all grotesque. I’m glad to have a partner where all of our sexual energy goes to each other (no porn, no onlyfans, no masturbation). The experience is mind blowing felt by both of us in the spiritual, emotional, and physical. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/20 11:51 PM |
| 3 | Is the marriage/birth rate declining because women don't want it? Or is it because men are of increasingly low quality.Such a weird dichotomy today I think, so many men are Peter Pan whiny bitches “love me for me!” looking for a surrogate mommy. Like what healthy woman wants that? And so many women like “yeah! Let me sell me body for money, it’s freedom!” Like that’s prostitution, and you’re weak and blaming men for your issues while we finally live in a society that has changed tremendously for women’s rights and this is how you use it?? Ultimately, I’m disgusted by it all. Better these people don’t procreate. … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/20 01:48 AM |
| 86 | A guy[27M] who dumped me[22F] a couple of months ago with the excuse that he doesn’t want anything serious is now on bumble with a profile that says “looking for a relationship”Men will say they want LTR to get women to agree to date and eventually sex. Once they get it, often they keep looking for “grass is greener”. Take it as a compliment you’re awesome and thinks he can do better. Never, ever, let him back in. He’s playing you, he’s a player in a game of dating and not looking for real love. Edit: he thinks he can do better because men are opportunists so keep to your standards cause this man is not relationship material. He’ll regret it most likely, never forget t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/20 01:24 AM |
| 1 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.His theories still stand and others in the field build off it. Whether he he was an addict or not, my point, Madonna/Whore is created by him, a man, not a woman, so best not to present it as such. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/08/20 01:14 AM |
| 1 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.Thanks for actually being real, I get your perspective, although don’t totally agree cause it’s better to learn what these things mean than to find yourself in that type of situation. You know I’m divorced, and I’m quite old in comparison. It’s dangerous to teach men to be ruthless and use words like dark triad without knowing what it means and how they themselves use this, that’s TRP, this is PPD. It’s good to know what it means and how both men and women can be like this. That’s the key to kno… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 06:47 AM |
| 1 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.I don’t know a thing about you idiot in charge but you certainly are an idiot for labeling me and certainly have the path you see is best for you ahead so good luck, I’m not one to judge. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 06:31 AM |
| 1 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.“So you banged...” “You think men shouldn’t adopt dark triads” all while you have no idea narcissism is dark triad and now trying to wordsmith your way out of it? Like really you that dense?? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 06:23 AM |
| 1 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.You insulted me to begin with so I guess a self fulfilling prophesy and I’m supposed to be “the bigger man”. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 06:18 AM |
| 1 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.Well, echo attracts narcissus. Same spectrum, opposite dichotomies, both broken until healed. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 06:15 AM |
| 2 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.Both of those great theories and still used as basis for human behavior today. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 06:12 AM |
| 2 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.Jesus you men are ruthless, and quite dumb it appears, HE was the dark triad, a narcissist falls on that spectrum. Do your fucking homework on what dark triad means rather than ingesting the rhetoric of what TRP tells you on the subject. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 05:01 AM |
| 5 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.That’s hilarious given Madonna/Whore complex was created by one of the best psychologists, Sigmond Freud, a MAN...let me repeat, a MAN. And studied by other great men like Jung throughout psychology. Jesus Lord help us all to do our homework first before accusing the opposite sex for what our own gender defined. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 04:56 AM |
| 1 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.Do. Self. Authoring. Program. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 04:42 AM |
| 2 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.Last ditch effort - go watch Jordan Peterson and do his Self Authoring program, that might help. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 04:31 AM |
| 2 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.This is so sad, you go ahead, go get your holes. Goodbye. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 04:21 AM |
| 2 | Is your argument "TRP doesn't work"? Or "you shouldn't do it even if it does work"? What alternative method do you have for availing of casual sex, that isn't "join a hippie commune"?Sarcasm again, and sorry without context had other fish to fry on this thread. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 04:08 AM |
| 2 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.I know all about you narcs and my purpose and mission in life is such to help others see past their narcissistic tendencies. For that, I know when to move on or when to engage. You’re a weak man to say you manipulate because women do. You’re better than this. Believe it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 04:06 AM |
| 1 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.Yea, I’ll also say no thanks to “Hey would you like to blow me” 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 04:02 AM |
| 2 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.Way too much noise, my dad has moved on and so have I. You can make as many rationalizations about me to try to tear me down as you want. Not falling for it. You manipulative men are just like manipulative women. All manipulators in the end thinking you know it all in this world, it’s actually called a narcissist. Good luck to you and God bless. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 03:24 AM |
| 1 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.HA! Go find my latest post in this thread...of course I care when women do it. FDS is not TRP, I’ve also answered that prerogative in another thread. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 02:37 AM |
| 2 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.Why label loving sex as BP that’s absolutely ridiculous and contrary to its true function. How about this for perspective - I married and divorced a narcissistic man who took half MY money, I was breadwinner, not the other way around. I didn’t go off on a rampage hurting and blaming and saying “all men are trash” like all you men do, damn, grow a pair. My father is my rock and divorced my narcissistic mother who is a manipulative woman (oh! I married my mother whaaaa?). My dad is the truest Alph… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 02:32 AM |
| 2 | Is your argument "TRP doesn't work"? Or "you shouldn't do it even if it does work"? What alternative method do you have for availing of casual sex, that isn't "join a hippie commune"?Shit I’ve had too much wine and my brain hurts 🤣 - more context please!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 02:23 AM |
| 1 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.What is truth? The wise know that they know nothing at all. Here you are in discourse, with a woman. I certainly won’t change your perspective but certainly hope to leave an imprint with hope. Either stick to manipulation as a way to compensate or dig deep to heal and move forward. Nothing else I can say here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 02:21 AM |
| 2 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.Decide all women aren’t attracted to mindset, that’s where you’ll stand. What does it matter how many women are out there, you just need one, your one, go find her once you get over this nonsense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 02:06 AM |
| 3 | Is your argument "TRP doesn't work"? Or "you shouldn't do it even if it does work"? What alternative method do you have for availing of casual sex, that isn't "join a hippie commune"?Hope you’re being sarcastic here, if not I’ll humor you with more 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 02:04 AM |
| 2 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.Not for all women. Know your standards and stick to them. Understand healthy and unhealthy behavior and move on when the red flags come. Unhealthy woman won’t like it and will try to reel you back in (most likely with sex) and this is your choice to entertain or grow from it and move on, which I think I’m understanding is very difficult for men given their desire for sex. But imagine the sex eventually being not just physical but emotional and spiritual too, how amazing that would be, don’t know… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 02:02 AM |
| 2 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.If that’s your mindset, you’re right, good luck. You’ll attract what you believe, it starts all in the mind and ends with the energy you give out. A healthy woman would never be attracted to a man with a minimalist mindset, and TRP tries to tout this phrase often. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 01:55 AM |
| 2 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.As I said, if that’s the type of relationship you desire, ok. It’s one of manipulation absent of true intimacy, that’s you’re choice, we all get to decide. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 01:49 AM |
| 2 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.A healthy woman would have been honest and transparent with her feelings because she cared about the person, the man. She would not go behind his back and be “hypergamous”. But this is a mature woman I’m talking about and neither one is fully mature in Highschool for example, if that was the years, so best to chalk it up to learning. We can not control or change people, all we can do is control and change ourselves and grow from the experience, but boundaries in place to protect ourselves, and e… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 12:52 AM |
| 3 | Is your argument "TRP doesn't work"? Or "you shouldn't do it even if it does work"? What alternative method do you have for availing of casual sex, that isn't "join a hippie commune"?Why would one want casual sex to begin with? There’s no connection and it’s like a transaction that gets your nuts dry for a conquest or a good time... why not just not just use porn or prostitutes to do the deed? And same goes for women (although the casual sex type I believe are about $ and deeply insecure). It’s the conquest and raw superiority felt that comes from manipulation of negging and nexting and dreading. Like a video game, reach the next level and figure out the “rules”, but this is… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/08/20 12:44 AM |
| 2 | Most RP-type men allow dangerous and damaged women to self-select themselves for conquest because it fits well into the man's personal lifestyle.False. They never went for regular (healthy) women cause they wouldn’t have been burned otherwise. It’s not a chicken before the egg thing. Like-attracts-like. The problem I see for TRP is rather than figuring out why the F they were attracted to that to begin with, it’s easier to categorize all women and blame the “system”. Once a TRP guy finds a decent woman, he doesn’t know what to do, his tricks don’t work and he sabotages it. He’s never learned and grown from his past experiences. He’s tryi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/20 11:54 PM |
| 11 | Finally cut him off for good! Writing out why, to remind myself never to go back.Love this!! You go girl and so thankful and proud you are sharing with the group! We all go thru similar “wake up” experiences and you writing this out to remind yourself will turn into what you want and don’t want in a man. Lessons learned are never in vain 💯❤️🙌🍷✔️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 11:42 PM |
| 24 | Why do LVM shame promiscuous women, but at the same time expect every woman to sleep with them???🤔I am convinced red pillers are sex starved, bitter, women hating losers who most likely will end up MGTOW trying to make sense of women thru that cult unless they wake up to the gross misrepresentations and cult-like behavior. These followers got their pee pees hurt and can’t move on, wanna blame the whole female gender and too dumb and emotionally stunted to recognize their issues and grow. Most of us here have been deeply wounded by piece of shit men too but we don’t have 80% of the content/ad… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 11:36 PM |
| 2 | Why People Are So Triggered by "Looks Matter"Instinctively, I think both men and women select on looks. I read somewhere within seconds both are either interested or not due to pheromones (smell) and innate biology of preference for stronger features in males and waist-to-hip ratio in women. I know women who at first weren’t attracted to a guy but his personality sold the deal and these women didn’t meet these men on OLD, it was thru mutual friends and/or work. Looks matter, taking care if oneself physically matters, we wouldn’t have TRP o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/20 11:10 PM |
| 31 | No.. just noShe needs to get in touch with her anger for being used as a placeholder. Wake up woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 10:58 PM |
| 4 | There needs to be time limits on dating if we want to encourage people to marry.After 2 mos of dating and thinking this is “the one” is projective identification. One does not know the true character of the other without the experience of living and observing behavior. This person is projecting their idealized love onto other due to the infatuation cocktail of hormones happening during the initial phases. I agree one should use dating for vetting but I’ve found people often don’t know who they are or what they really want because talk is often in theories and sound good to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/20 10:45 PM |
| 1 | Marriage isn’t worth it to independent women either.Yea so he was in charge of the house, I couldn’t burn it down haha. He was envious of my success and admits it now, it had nothing to do with my personality and he’s come back years later in regret wanting to try again. In fact, I am not responsible for another persons feelings. That is not healthy. No idea what you’re referring to making someone feel important while not doing the same for the other. That sounds pretty narcissistic and not a relationship, or maybe a transactional or dictatorial … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/20 04:29 PM |
| 2 | Why do you come to PurplePillDebate?Yup, just like I’m sure some men are rapists but I don’t know any crazy psychopaths like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/20 05:14 AM |
| 2 | Why do you come to PurplePillDebate?I’ll concur, buttercup best you keep sticking your butter in your own cup. As you say, you’re an intelligent man. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/20 05:09 AM |
| 1 | How do we have a debate when TRPs don't accept reliable sources that contradict their views and when they continue to perpetuate the very issues they speak out against?“I know that I know nothing” - Socrates | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/20 03:55 AM |
| 1 | Marriage isn’t worth it to independent women either.Bananas smart man indeed 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/20 03:18 AM |
| 4 | Marriage isn’t worth it to independent women either.Haha just like men are more narcissistic, disloyal, and superior in their minds perhaps? I chose not to place people into boxes... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/20 03:17 AM |
| 2 | Marriage isn’t worth it to independent women either.Haha, no, we are 50/50. Most states are no fault and don’t decide custody unless (1) the parents agreed to the arrangement (2) the state gives sole custody due to an egregious act by the other party (aka you’re driving drunk with your kids and get in an accident). That’s what you don’t get and I’m guessing by your response you’ve never been to divorce court. I made sure I did what’s best for my child regardless of how my ex treated me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/20 03:13 AM |
| 8 | Marriage isn’t worth it to independent women either.And WHY is it only 30%? Perhaps marriage does somehow benefit men more than women? Or maybe their desire for their kids is a way we don’t understand. Are women too demanding or mismatching living makes women more likely to try and do something about their unhappiness because of their emotive capacity? It’s unfortunate many men don’t realize the gravity of their put downs, avoidance, and placing household responsibilities on women in today’s world. At the same time women acting like babies wantin… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/20 03:07 AM |
| 9 | So whats the right way to ask a guy where he is in the relationship?No. You watch his behavior. You re-read the FDS manual several times, let it sink in, it takes time. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 02:59 AM |
| 2 | Marriage isn’t worth it to independent women either.Ummm, your original comment is “there is no risk for women to lose half their assets”..... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/20 02:57 AM |
| 12 | Marriage isn’t worth it to independent women either.Haha i did it! White collar working woman married to the stay at home dad who thought we were good yet turns out he cheated so much cause he never felt manly enough (we talk about it now several years later). So many of you men say “we’ll see” but once you have the opportunity in the fire, can you really take it? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/20 02:55 AM |
| 1 | Marriage isn’t worth it to independent women either.Depends on your state. Cheat on your husband in AL or NC? He’s got all the cards. Do it in IL or CA? You’re dealing didn’t the “system”. It’s not black and white. There is no universal divorce law in this country. It’s too early, we’ve only started to see the uprise since the 80s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/20 02:49 AM |
| 1 | Marriage isn’t worth it to independent women either.It’s not about the laws, it’s so loose in divorce court it’s laughable. Have any of you men ever been divorced?! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/20 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Marriage isn’t worth it to independent women either.Amen to this. Spot on!! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/20 02:40 AM |
| 17 | So whats the right way to ask a guy where he is in the relationship?The “ex’s did him dirty” needs to get out of your vernacular and into your Sherlock badass investigation to specifically when, how, why and most importantly, THE most important - what he’s learned from the ex’s and his experience. If he can’t tell you that, you have your answer (aka he’s a manipulator). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/08/20 02:36 AM |
| 4 | Marriage isn’t worth it to independent women either.Nope. I’m living proof that’s not true. My ex suggested I get 70% custody cause that’s how divorce law somehow thinks for mothers in my state (and also cause he cheated and I was the breadwinner) - I said no. He is her father. 50/50. So many are too selfish to realize it’s not about them in divorce, it’s about their kids and best based research out today. I think many dads feel pressured not to question the system in divorce court because child rearing has typically been female and divorce is re… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/08/20 02:25 AM |
| 79 | Link this dude sends his matches. Click and decide if you wanna laugh or cry.Omg laughing so hard right now this dude is a walking oxymoron and making my head spin with all the gaslighting. He should just say “looking for a mommy to take care of me cause I’m a lazy, argumentative, cerebral narcissist who will make you think I don’t demand perfection but will certainly reference my dating CV to the contrary” 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 11:28 PM |
| 29 | So whats the right way to ask a guy where he is in the relationship?He’s got to lead. You have to match him in his effort. The first at least 3 mos needs to be exploration for you to make sure he’s good enough for you. Keep your feelings in check and recognize any time you are “future fantasy faking” and tell yourself : I do not know this man enough to make an accurate assessment of his character at this time. I am going to enjoy our company and live my life because it’s awesome and any man would be lucky to be in it. Until that time comes for greater commitment… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 10:56 PM |
| 3 | Why do you come to PurplePillDebate?I joined for perspective and to understand WTF is this dating shit about these days?! I was deeply hurt by a man who I later understood was red pill. Everything clicked after reading TRP manual. We are both divorced, cheated on by our spouses for years, from the same town and religion. I think he’s still too bitter after this woman took everything. And hurt people hurt people. I could relate financially as I was the breadwinner and my ex took half my money too. But if we don’t forgive one anothe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/08/20 10:43 PM |
| 33 | May we never deal with NVM again👸Yeah, my ex husband did all of these things. I’ll always remember the time I sang solo in front of our congregation of 3,000 people when he told while married I wasn’t good enough for that. I’m still singing and soaring and I thank God everyday I’m out of that abusive relationship because I am good enough and so much more, way too good for il that loser!! 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 03:26 AM |
| 8 | May we never deal with NVM again👸I know!! Hit me so freakin hard, I’m with you queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 03:19 AM |
| 2 | TRP is a sexual strategy for Narcissists to have wild sex with females with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)Because you’re right you probably have NPD traits to the level you attract similar BPD traits. The sex is the glue. Like attracts like, until we evolve. Does the sex really make you feel inside better or do you still feel lonely, angry, or bitter? Those feelings are rooted deeper in shame and guilt. Understand why and you’ll unlock the key. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/20 02:37 AM |
| 1 | TRP is a sexual strategy for Narcissists to have wild sex with females with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)Women who have rape fantasies have unhealed sexual abuse. Women asking for abuse or coking in the bedroom is previous sexual partners rooted in porn. The false rape claims maybe a woman who feels deep shame and regret for the act of sleeping with the man who she thought wanted more but she needs to own that and her behavior, very toxic and unhealthy otherwise. Casual sex and pornography have created such confusion in the expression of our sexuality. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/20 01:19 AM |
| 53 | TRP is a sexual strategy for Narcissists to have wild sex with females with Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)I like this theory, in sorts. My perception is that at the base TRP is largely a strategy for the vulnerable or fragile narcissistic kind. Been hurt and haven’t healed it appropriately (society hasn’t helped, remember ‘boys don’t cry’). Their sexual strategy of treating women as children is interesting because if they actually looked in the mirror, they themselves would see they’re acting like manipulative children too. Both emotionally stunted. Both manipulative. Both toxic. Narcissism is on a … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/08/20 12:54 AM |
| 2 | CMV: Men are far more into casual sex than females as noted by casual sexual outlet ratios with far more men than femalesAmazing, just ordered the book 🙌💯🙏 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/20 11:03 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men are far more into casual sex than females as noted by casual sexual outlet ratios with far more men than femalesThanks for pointing that out, I also had a few other grammatical errors, harder to catch them all on a phone. Your comment is trollish and unnecessary. I ignored it the first time but I’ll humor you with a response. I sure hope you don’t feel better about yourself by tearing others down. Not healthy behavior. Level up dude. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/20 08:53 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men are far more into casual sex than females as noted by casual sexual outlet ratios with far more men than femalesI find 48% even a sad statistic. There are 4 or 5 erogenous areas in the female vaginal wall (check out the A and O spot) and take that with the number of nerve endings in the clitoris, women should, in theory, be orgasming more than men, but they’re not. Why? That always baffles my mind. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/20 08:42 PM |
| 1 | CMV: Men are far more into casual sex than females as noted by casual sexual outlet ratios with far more men than femalesHere’s an article showing high testosterone can create ED issues. I’ll try to find the estrogen one. But hormones do have a significant play in sexual function from arousal to ejaculation. https://www.health.harvard.edu/drugs-and-medications/testosterone--what-it-does-and-doesnt-do | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/20 08:12 PM |
| 2 | CMV: Men are far more into casual sex than females as noted by casual sexual outlet ratios with far more men than femalesWow thank you so much, I’m honored! I agree with your perspective too, women are so often shamed for their sexual expression. I think parental influence too because if you’re shamed as a toddler (naturally body exploration phase) and internalize that ‘touching down there is bad’ it can have a lasting psychological effects on sexual expression. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 24/08/20 07:52 PM |
| 43 | CMV: Men are far more into casual sex than females as noted by casual sexual outlet ratios with far more men than femalesI think the dichotomy of casual sex might be a combination of hormone levels and society’s conditioning. From a biological view, sex hormones like testosterone and estrogen are needed for libido in both men and women. The expression of these hormones as neurotransmitters is interesting. I’ve read studies like ‘more testosterone in a female did not produce more desire for sex but desire for masterbation’ or ‘ED in men is caused by low expression of estrogen rather than vs low testosterone’. Chemi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/20 11:06 PM |
| 5 | What’s Sex Like with a NarcissistI’m so honored you’d think maybe I’m a shrink!! 🥰Nah, just do a lot of research and have had wayyyyyy to many narc experiences (both family of origin and men I’ve previously dated). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 09:51 PM |
| 14 | What’s Sex Like with a NarcissistSex is different depending on the type of narcissist you’re with. The more somatic, extroverted, grandiose types are trying out the porn moves and it’s all about their performance so if you don’t get off, they can get pissed and start shaming. For the more convert, cerebral kind, they take their moods out on you via sex and tend to be lazy and entitled in the bedroom. Because narcissists can’t connect (they operate from the false self), it is an act of dominance and control for the male, they st… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/20 08:36 PM |
| 1 | Why are there FDS users in this sub?Perhaps it’s time for us all to head over to PPD. While I can agree there are posts and responses like “all men are trash” on the site, just like there are responses “all women are trash” on TRP. If we’re about learning, we need to be about growing. This is fixed mindset. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/08/20 02:47 AM |
| 10 | Why are there FDS users in this sub?Nah, FDS is not TRP. Read the manuals and you’ll find a glaring difference. 75% of FDS is personal growth, protecting yourself in dating, building your self confidence. 75% of TRP is sexual strategy and making sense of a hierarchical world. Those of us who participate on FDS who have dealt with TRP methodologies are a subgroup of the greater group but we all support each other’s experiences and build each other up. Sure, there’s plenty of commentary on poor men’s behavior, and there will always … | /r/ExRedPill | 23/08/20 12:31 AM |
| 9 | He talked me into a MFF threesomeGosh this is so hard to hear, do not be ashamed!!! You were not in a lucid state to even comprehend (sleeping and too much alcohol) and how vulnerable you must have felt with a shock like this. Our bodies and brains in a moment of shock like this leave us paralyzed and actually fearful for our lives at the core. You should be so proud you walked away and you’re sharing this story!! Sometimes we allow things in our lives because they are familiar but not comfortable. Once we learn and grow, we ca… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 06:50 PM |
| 13 | Man gets dumped for a literal cucumber. You love to see it 🤣LMAO 😂😂😂. Cucumberpilled causing her ED issues clearly that’s why he’s an alcoholic | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 05:00 AM |
| 23 | ‘Please wait an hour after or before we have sex to tell me I’m unknowingly supporting child porn’. Sickening...Hit the nail on the head with “intellectuals”. I too had hoped within the first few comments then it went all to hell as if jerking off to chocking and anal raping is separable from your psyche and relationship, my Lord just cause you’re proud of your IQ doesn’t mean you know how to use it. Translates to other areas too, just sayin...... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 04:52 AM |
| 30 | ‘Please wait an hour after or before we have sex to tell me I’m unknowingly supporting child porn’. Sickening...The ego and objectification these porn sick men have is disheartening. Never can admit wrong and if they do, comes with some bizarre behavior change request so they don’t feel such self loathing. Oh and because they’re manipulators. All about them, anyways! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/08/20 04:07 AM |
| 2 | Is this how decline looks like?Wasn’t just about you, tried to respond to the whole group of messages 🤣 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/20 03:59 AM |
| 11 | Men are Succubus to a Woman’s Self Esteem.I think that’s a smart strategy especially when you’re young to weed out the bad from the good. Eventually, marriage is about accepting the other and there will be a need for compromise, no one person is alike, but it will be worth it when you know. It’s all about just knowing when to fold ‘em and when to hold ‘em, | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 03:57 AM |
| 13 | Men are Succubus to a Woman’s Self Esteem.It’s all about leveling up and damn is it painful but don’t lose hope. It’s hard but worth it the path to consciousness 🙏❤️. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 03:54 AM |
| 2 | Is this how decline looks like?My Lord, what good is it to have discourse like this? You’re all heated up and being hard on each other like AWALT and AMALT. Remember, we’ll be triggered by our own wounds, heal that for you, you matter to God. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/20 03:45 AM |
| 2 | Is this how decline looks like?This is not new news, in a sense, read about femicide pre-Victorian era. Mexico I don’t know anything about but I believe it could be true while I also believe this is a propaganda film. I hate seeing this shit as a woman. Honestly taapy we’ve had a couple of good discourses lately so I’ll be bold to say cut out the rhetoric in trying to prove your red theory without context, you’re better than this....unless you live in Mexico and talk specifically about this of corse. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/08/20 03:36 AM |
| 6 | I've seen this image posted around before with various captions, but this one upsets me the most. If this girl's FATHER is placing so much value on her sexuality, how does she stand a chance with the rest of the world?Wtf is this? This is not Christian. Poor daughter when she wakes up and sees parents posted disgusting, porn-induced falsity shit like this of the female anatomy. May the Lord have mercy on their souls. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/08/20 02:30 AM |
| 19 | Q4W: Does it bother you when you dump a guy and he does not seem to care?Honestly the times I’ve dumped a man I was relieved he was apathetic in the moment. I think once things cooled off (most breakups happen because of continual mismatching of needs/wants/desires), there was a part that was angry AT YOURSELF for wasting time, not hearing anything cause he was avoidant to begin with...that shame is hard to feel thru and we as a society shift these feelings into others, it’s easier to play the victim or talk shit than to look into oneself and find the lesson to learn… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/20 07:01 PM |
| 6 | Has Porn Ever Enhanced Anybody’s Relationship?Porn for couples became a thing in a psychiatrist’s office in the 60’s when a couple had sexual dysfunction issues. It was more of a “how-to” vs the top searched porn videos today = anal and chocking. How on God’s green earth is pain supposed to be sexually exciting? I have never watched porn, saw it twice in passing in a college frat house and I was terrified. It’s all acting, not connecting. I’ve heard I have a very healthy sexual expression (I’m a squirter, TMI maybe 😅) and my partners have a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 06:01 PM |
| 28 | This surprisingly gets near to 50 upvotes. Wow.Brillant. So true. Condemn every girl because a small majority are on insta and onlyfans. Play the 80/20 game and make sense of the world to “be an alpha” and AWALT brah. The sad and funny thing is these men don’t live in the real world. A real man doesn’t tear others down. A real man doesn’t blame someone or some group for the hate they feel inside due to their own damn idiot self. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 01:06 AM |
| 7 | This is the kind of guy that would say "wOmEn aRe ToO pIcKy" despite listing TWENTY-NINE extremely specific things he wants in a woman...Ah ok. That feels a little weird I guess cause I have extended family who raise horses and wouldn’t consider them high maintenance like that, they’re farm girls. I also come from an affluent community and I get the horses as hobby type thing, they do seem to be a bit standoffish but they’re animal lovers more than people lovers sometimes, goodhearted ladies. It’s as if having horses would make one high maintenance but the horse girls I know don’t seem like that....something to ponder and interac… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 12:58 AM |
| 14 | This is the kind of guy that would say "wOmEn aRe ToO pIcKy" despite listing TWENTY-NINE extremely specific things he wants in a woman...I don’t understand this horse thing so like girls that ride horses are somehow a category of women in dating that’s not normal? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 12:45 AM |
| 5 | This is the kind of guy that would say "wOmEn aRe ToO pIcKy" despite listing TWENTY-NINE extremely specific things he wants in a woman...The F??! This can’t be serious...my Lord, this guy probably has never been on a date, lives in Mom’s basement, plays video games and smokes pot all day. People this picky are delusional losers living in a fantasy world. I hope he never continues his gene pool so good for him, keep the bar high 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/20 12:43 AM |
| 1 | Simping is a part of male natureSounds like the guy doesn’t have a backbone and the woman is a hysterical child who can’t take no? I’ve heard the term when I was in Highschool and that was a longggg ass time ago 🤣. Some things never change I guess. Thanks for this explanation! This helps. Also sucks sex is a power play, society programming says so therefore it’s true. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/20 12:29 AM |
| 1 | Simping is a part of male natureI would argue the institution of marriage disproportionately disadvantages the breadwinner in the family, especially when infidelity is at play. With 40% of women now being the sole breadwinner, we get slammed in divorce court too. My cheating ex husband took half my money, not the other way around, but I don’t put all men in a box to say they’re all “trash” or losers or whatever. My interest in men’s issues has nothing to do with me and what I can derive from them. Men are commuting suicide at … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/20 06:21 PM |
| 2 | Simping is a part of male natureThank you for this 🙏 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/20 04:49 AM |
| 1 | Simping is a part of male natureThat would be blasphemy to say my words are directly from God as if to be an apostle, wow, I never said that. My words can encourage as God calls me but I am not perfect and will never have it right. Only Jesus is right. I don’t know what is said made you feel that way but I am not as you see me. I think it would be good for you to look into the history of man in the Bible - in Genisis, - original Hebrew text, I wrote some about it based on my research on this channel, but only God has ultimate … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/20 04:48 AM |
| 1 | Simping is a part of male natureWe started with: what’s the big deal -> men only want sex -> ok -> Lord help us. May God’s mercy and grace cover you and guide you. You matter to Him in the kingdom. No big deal, however you discern. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/20 04:23 AM |
| 2 | Simping is a part of male natureDo you see here how you’re categorizing women based on your experience and more importantly, how have you leveled up and worked through why you attract these types of women that make you think this to begin with?? You seem smart enough to answer so be smart enough in real life, be you, with this type of mindset you’d be better off sticking to TRP cause then you can tame the borderline inhibited woman as you act in your alpha self-ego narcissism. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/20 04:05 AM |
| 1 | Simping is a part of male natureYikes...I will repeat Lord, Jesus, help is all..... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/20 03:50 AM |
| 1 | Simping is a part of male natureOf what? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/20 02:58 AM |
| 1 | Simping is a part of male natureGosh I think I’m too old at this moment, more wine needed 🤣...best for both to compromise and use the Socratic method? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/20 02:47 AM |
| 1 | Simping is a part of male nature“Pussy whipped” like as if having a pussy (vagina) is a diabolical thing? I’m with you guys, that sounds like a pretty pathetic statement.......... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/20 02:17 AM |
| 1 | Simping is a part of male natureSo would you say all that matters is sex to a man? Is that how women should be thinking .... that men only want sex? If so, makes sense why it’s a commodity today....porn helped to fuel that fire. Yet my dreamer self is not of the vernacular that AMALT, just like AWALT. Let’s move past this together, debate it perhaps, Jesus Lord help us all.... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/20 02:08 AM |
| 2 | Simping is a part of male natureThis seems really sad like it’s foolish and catering to be being virtuous and open doors? Marriage and starting a family, leaving a legacy, is now a female ploy to make men “simps”? Virtuous men open doors and care about their legacy. I know many of them, my dad is my rock. My mother was the abusive one. I am a woman. I care about men’s issues just as womens but damn posts like this make me think twice .... | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/20 01:49 AM |
| 3 | TRP is the projection of a depressed feminine side.This is an interesting theory and I would definitely agree. Just as anima is man’s feminine side, animus is woman’s masculine side. We are all born with masculine and feminine energy. Since you mentioned Christ, maybe this might peak your interest, in the original Hebrew texts in Genesis 1&2, “man” is Ha’Adam which means human. God made human and because human was lonely he took half of Ha’Adam to make each male and female. I believe it is largely cultural and societal brainwashing which has got… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/08/20 06:39 PM |
| 36 | “I can’t think of a specific neg so I’m just going to keep it general.”Yes! Totally read that thinking from what PUA manual did this loser learn this 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 11:51 PM |
| 16 | How to get over being mistreated by my LV ex?Sounds like the breakup was traumatic for you and no doubt, first boyfriend and an insecurity is heartbreaking. Sometimes time heals all wounds and other-times it’s about finding the missing link in you that is in need of healing, that’s keeping us stuck in grief longer than we understand. This would be a call to boldly lean into that pain and verbalize it with your therapist so you can heal and grow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 11:37 PM |
| 2 | 90,000 Members Party!!! 😃😃😁🎉🎉🎉🙌🙌Cheers ladies 🥂👸💯💁♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 11:24 PM |
| 5 | Why don't the simps and pickmeishas just date each other?I agree, simps and pickmeshas are not true givers. They’re like codependents trying to control or secure something by catering and enabling bad behavior. They wouldn’t last long as both are worried about “other”. No one is anchoring the couples identity and their people pleasing behaviors would annoying each other cause no one can make a decision. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/20 11:03 PM |
| 10 | I’m choking-Wait....so you’d prefer the smell of feces? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 10:36 PM |
| 40 | I'm actually fine, thanksSIX WAYS TO KEEP A MAN 1. Be a slave 2. Be a slave 3. Be a slave 4. Be a sla....must I go on... 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/08/20 10:34 PM |
| 1 | Q4All: What did your first love teach you about love?Ugh that sucks you sound like a great guy. Don’t give up, learn what it is about your compassion and integrity that women take advantage of. I had to learn that myself, as a woman. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/08/20 03:16 AM |
| 1 | Q4All: What did your first love teach you about love?To grow into the person you were created to be. To live your life in alignment with your true self so that on your death bed, you can say with joy that you lived your life worthy of your calling. There is a school of thought that we are attracted to those who trigger our psychological wounds and for them it’s an area of growth. If we have the right skills and understanding of healthy behavior, we can overcome and heal the wounds of our past. I also believe that like-attracts-like. I had for most… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/20 10:23 PM |
| 3 | Do American women feel betrayed by the Sexual Revolution and Feminism?I cant remember the specifics (college was over a decade ago ;) but there were 2 trains of thought in the 1st wave led by Friedan and Steinem along the lines of: women are different but equal vs. women are the same and equal. We’re seeing in modern culture the latter. Rather than embracing femininity as a strength (intuition, deep feeling, intellect) it is seen often in our culture as weak (too emotional, too sensitive) so women have become more masculine to compete in our Western culture which … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/20 09:01 PM |
| 207 | Bruh...To the girls over 30, I’m a liar. To the girls under 30, I’m a liar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 04:43 AM |
| 4 | AWALT - seems to be directly correlated to Western women for men but AMALT describes behaviors that women share over the globe.Yup. You didn’t. What I find fascinating is somehow men understand women better than themselves? This makes no sense. I am not a man and will never claim to fully understand a men’s perspective. Converse with someone who believes all men are rapists and you’ll find someone who believes female nature is “running wild”. With this type of mindset, TRP will work well to attract the unrestrained woman that needs manipulation to control. It’s a classic narcissistic male and borderline female. Let’s le… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/20 03:50 AM |
| 2 | Q4All: What did your first love teach you about love?That true love does not come to you until you are ready. Until you understand what that is, as a human being, to love. Until you heal the wounds of your past. Until you realize that the perfect love you’ve created in your head is just a fantasy. Until you get to a place of authenticity and vulnerability. The first love is real, raw, emotional and devastatingly heartbreaking but it is a lesson to learn, as is all relationships along the way, to help you grow. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/08/20 02:31 AM |
| 70 | Saying too bad he couldn't sleep with me is apparently a compliment 🙄The irony in “this is why men hate waspy women like you” while you are the one who is in fact married is hilarious stupidity 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 02:16 AM |
| 20 | An entire thread of things men like and desire, but will pretend they don’t!“Men will have sex with a McChicken sandwich” bhahahaaaaa I’m dying 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 02:10 AM |
| 21 | An entire thread of things men like and desire, but will pretend they don’t!Omg I’m with you LMAO - don’t play dumb but don’t be too smart, don’t wear make up but look nice. Hey, how about you decide who you are and what you want and stick to it? Cause we’re done putting up with emotionally stunted, irrational male behavior 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 02:09 AM |
| 14 | Wtf 🤦🏾♀️You’re being too kind, that’s not a man, that’s a misogynistic, infantile boy trapped in a man’s body 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 02:02 AM |
| 14 | Do abused women take out their frustrations/inability/lack of I understanding about how to help themselves out on other women?Absolutely. That toxic energy spewed on them needs to go somewhere - either outwards (towards others) or inwards (depression). Seeing as a woman’s closest allies are her friends or family, bound to happen. Either that or she’s stuck in a loop of indecision, drama, fights and grief which would probably signal inward processing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 01:17 AM |
| 3 | A man who is interested will leave no doubts in your mind🥰🥰🥰 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:45 AM |
| 6 | The woman that was kicked out of Paradise and snuck back inYou bet! I haven’t spent a ton of time on these websites to know their overall validity but found these articles hit the chord for me in conjunction with my previous research on Lilith. Hope it’s meaningful for you! 🤗 https://margmowczko.com/human-man-woman-genesis-2/ http://www.jewfaq.org/m/women.htm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:44 AM |
| 13 | A man who is interested will leave no doubts in your mindTHIS!!!! An emotionally stunted LVM, while wanting a relationship with you, has no idea how to do so and reverts to mind games and manipulation to achieve the relationship status. He lacks healthy relating skills and the ability to cope and understand the intense feelings inside him preciously BECAUSE he feels so strongly about you. In the end, if he can’t treat you well and emotionally connect, you must move on. Your time is too precious to help or explain to a man. It may hurt, but sticking it… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:32 AM |
| 6 | A man who is interested will leave no doubts in your mindThis is a call to work on yourself. Find the ‘why’ and ‘how’ in these instances. What red flags did you miss? When did your doubts first come in about each of these men? When you dig deep, you’ll find the answers and grow. The right man will be there at the right time for you. Just know it’s a process and believe with every step, every revelation, you’re closer to finding the relationship you truly want. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:23 AM |
| 7 | Why do guys get back with their ex?Never be afraid to ask about a man’s past. We have been taught to play it cool and allow a relationship to unfold naturally and that’s great, but intimacy and a relationship can not be built without an understanding of our past in all walks of life, especially relationships. One of the first things I’ve done after 3-5 dates when I know it’s getting more serious is to discuss relationship past. You need to do this to protect yourself. A man a few weeks and months out of a relationship has not emo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 12:17 AM |
| 9 | Not sure what the hell this was about?This makes no sense. Why would a random person approach you for advice when it is unknown if you have the propensity to give such advice? PUA tactic probably and worked before on the caregiver/healer pickmesha type (used to be one!). My first response would be to say “I don’t know, that sounds tough, but I wish you the best of luck” and walk away. Remember, your time is valuable and not a good investment in someone you do not know who approaches you out of the blue with such personal anecdotes a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 11:04 PM |
| 6 | The woman that was kicked out of Paradise and snuck back inHaha, he’s scared because of her spiritual power! I have all the redhead genes too and am highly sensitive, intuitive and prophetic. It scares a lot of people and society would rather label vs understand, ingrained by patriarchy long ago given we are women and therefore irrational, emotional beings vs true warriors, intelligent and intuitive beings | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 10:45 PM |
| 32 | The woman that was kicked out of Paradise and snuck back inLove this!! Wow so I’ve studied some on this, would love to hear thoughts... I find the juxtaposition in Genesis 1 in God creating man and woman vs Genesis 2 woman was made from man’s rib fascinating. In Hebrew “man” is Ha’Adam which means human. No gender. This is how he created us in Gen 1z in Gen 2, God split Ha’Adam into man and woman as Ha’Adam was lonely. Lilith is folklore character from oral Jewish mysticism, written 200+ years after Christ in the Talmud. It is not holy, just an interpre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/08/20 10:34 PM |
| 30 | Men claim they want straightforwardness, no games, and honesty but subconsciously they don’t. Anyone have experience with this?I think they ultimately do want these things as all healthy human beings desire authenticity and vulnerability which is the based in honesty. What it comes down to is the innate biological/attraction factors that drive each sex. Men appreciate what they work hard for. They are doers. The feminine is about receiving. It is our being and feminine presence that draws a man in. Only the right man for you will want honesty and show his appreciation for it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/08/20 09:21 PM |
| 20 | Disney movies we grew up withGreat topic! Disney has brainwashed us beyond belief. A few off the top of my head.... Beauty and the Beast: a kind and caring woman can turn a monster abuser into a loving prince. Oh! And his rich, it’s worth it. She just needs to be more patient, loving, and give up your life to live in his world and turn him into the man she’s always dreamed of. Sleeping Beauty: a dreadful curse from a jealous woman makes a girl naive enough to fall in love with a man by his kiss (sex) for her beauty and sing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 02:37 AM |
| 15 | Please tell me if I handled this the wrong way. I can’t tell if I am executing FDS incorrectly, or if he’s gaslighting me.The male ego, ah what a mystery of raw and ridiculous sometimes. Rather than admit he’s wrong and move on, he’s the one backpeddling and telling you to get over it...which would have happened already if he had owned up to his behavior....He’s gaslighting you with this immature and blame shifting response. Sometimes it can be a gut-response but a HVM will hear you out then assess and at least work to find a solution vs “just get over it”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/08/20 12:20 AM |
| 15 | Unattractive guy I was talking to made me feel like shit. Why am I upset about it? Is it an ego thing?Sometimes it can be self esteem, sometimes it’s a lesson to learn to heal and grow. I divorced a narcissist and took my time to rebuild and heal thru therapy and rebuilt my self esteem (2 yrs). I ended up in a relationship with a psychopath connected to family. Always remember it takes time to learn about someone and be proud of walking away when you did even though it hurts. That hurt is for you to heal ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 10:48 PM |
| 21 | Unattractive guy I was talking to made me feel like shit. Why am I upset about it? Is it an ego thing?Dismissive avoidants are the worst. My guess is you are anxious or fearful avoidant as they hit our buttons aka deep seeded attachment issues from childhood. Work thru that in therapy and reading to understand and heal your attachment wounds. Give yourself grace in the process as it takes time to heal wounds from the past and rewire our brains for healthy relating. You can do this and remind yourself that this man knows you’re a catch, it’s the reason he tries to tear you down, he’s emotionally … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 10:36 PM |
| 90 | Can you imagine coming home to that? Why would you want a guy who seems pissed of 24/7I’m sorry to be crass but why even post disgusting shit like this? This dude doesn’t deserve the energy placed on this group and I could be wrong but I admit I’m old 😅 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/08/20 02:24 AM |
| 29 | Let’s discuss the difference between a slow moving relationship and one where he’s just not that into you ?In my experience, men know fairly quickly if they want to pursue a relationship with you and the topic of exclusivity will come up within the first 5 dates or so. It also depends on his situation and if he’s “ready” for how much he can emotionally invest in you (men in transition out of ltr or in career should be auto yellow flag). Unfortunately, in my case, an agreement of exclusivity has been merely a situationship or a casually committed relt in which the guy has commitment issues, most likel… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 12:30 AM |
| 26 | [PSA] STOP assigning HV status to people you have known for under 6 monthsAmen sister!! It takes 6 mos of dating to even truly brim the surface of true character. Biology plays into the Honeymoon phase for at least 3 mos and most of this process is projection. We naturally, because of the chemicals released in our brain, can overestimate the other in the beginning. Watch out for how often you fantasize about the future with a guy you’ve known only for weeks. You do not know him, nor him you. That takes observing behavior over time and especially after the “love” hormo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 07:56 PM |
| 10 | Can someone explain the idealise devalue discard cycle?Saying you love someone after 3 weeks of dating is projective identification. One does not know the other after such a short amount of time therefore they are love bombing and idealizing the other as ‘self’. It’s common in personality disordered individuals. This is. good lesson, one I’ve learned myself, when a man professes his undying love within weeks, run. Block him. This type of guy could try to keep the doors open for as long as you allow him. The Active Avoider often uses these tactics in… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 07:35 PM |
| 7 | What made you realize you needed FDS?I joined Reddit for FDS after leaving a confusing and covert abusive relationship with a guy I now realize was Red Pill. This community is amazing and supportive and really opened my eyes to the bigger patriarchy in our world 💯🙌❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 04:33 PM |
| 5 | And I oop...Mine does too! And I’m LOL’ing right now cause I prefer guys 5’9-6’ and somehow ended up with a 6’4 😅. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 03:33 PM |
| 27 | I just know she is not asking her to wear different clothes in the comfort of her own home because her boyfriend is there. imagine telling a woman you live with to cover up bc your man was staring instead of checking up on her to see if she was uncomfortable bc YOUR MAN WAS STARING.Totally matters!! I’m LMAO right now thinking the roommate was wearing underwear or lingerie when in fact, it was a tshirt and sweats. I hope she’s planning her exit and with a last hooray by wearing provocative clothing the day she moves out just for her roommate’s boyfriend 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 10:27 PM |
| 3 | I can’t believe her family said she was the AH. Thoughts? 😣Yup, LAZY AF! Hope she wises up cause good luck if she thinks this man ever get her a thoughtful gift or perhaps even change a diaper.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/07/20 08:30 PM |
| 1 | An Analogy For MarriageLet’s say Jane wants to buy an iPad. She goes to the Apple store after deliberating for some time, to be sure - best features, longevity, best price - and so she decides the iPad. While in line, she’s uncomfortable as two salespeople say “Wow! You’re so sexy! You’re so cute!”. Jane knows shitbags will say things like this and she’s really tired of it. Jane has no jizz stains nor cares to take your money. In fact, Jane would never entertain a Jim. Good luck to you and this post will probably be r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/07/20 04:10 AM |
| 7 | Apparently it's Opposite Day on twitterYes!!! And he loves the Socratic method yet can’t make much sense when a woman questions him....it’s biological brah!!! 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 03:44 AM |
| 52 | Imagine being so insecure you can’t event hold a conversationThis dude’s eyes says he’s straight up psychopath! I zoomed in and got the creeepers...check it out online there is a particular smirk and stare they have 👀😵 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 06:44 PM |
| 109 | Apparently it's Opposite Day on twitterThis guy has definitely been Red Pilled. Lift weights brah, play mind games brah, be selfish brah, it’s biological brah 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 06:37 PM |
| 2 | Marriage advice Do I marry him?You do not trust each other. Your relationship may always be a give and take, a negotiation, a transaction, a fight, a ‘who is stronger’. Is that what you want? FDS advocates for authenticity and learning toxic behavior to better oneself, there’s a lot here. Stay strong my sister, in your healing, as God sees you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 02:22 AM |
| 16 | Why is Instagram filled with such BS. Can anyone recommend good quality pages?I hate this sh*t so much it’s like “behind every great man is a woman”.... it’s been wayyyy tooooooooooo long men have had to mature thanks to the all giving wife. Dad’s generation is not our life today. Men are more and more entitled, lazy, porn addicts, living in parents basement, gamers, you name it. Loyalty? Second nature to us women given our mix of oxytocin and biological childbearing. Loyalty of men today is a different story.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 01:45 AM |
| 3 | How to trust yourself and your intuition?I agree. The way to connect with intuition and gut feelings is via your body - where do you feel feel sadness, fear, anger, joy in your physical body? Label it and pay attention to when you feel the same in a specific moment. If you’re in safe company, verbalize it; if not, write it down later and reflect on it. Trusting oneself is a journey if you’ve come from abuse or a toxic environment for so long. Always give yourself the compassion you do to others and a reminder that we will all make mist… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 11:12 PM |
| 9 | Can someone explain why BDSM is so accepted in mainstream media??Here’s my theory...while the feminist movement liberated women in modern society, the introduction of easily accessible internet pornography in the 2000’s put everyone in a tailspin. Women’s rights took a turn towards: equal = the same as men. If we tune into our true feminine, the objectification in BDSM should disgust us. But we have aligned in modern society to show we can do and even like what men like (Pickme nation). Given men have a propensity to visual and sexual stimulation (testosteron… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 12:30 AM |
| 13 | Remember this post every single time a man complains that his ex/current wife/girlfriend refuses to have sex with him. Makes me wonder how many posts on r/ deadbedrooms are from the perspective of the abuser. No, she's not "asexual" or inherently "low libido", he's probably just an asshole.Ah yes! Opps, it’s The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma Book by Bessel van der Kolk | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 03:55 AM |
| 18 | i am really depressedAmen sister, truth 💯🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 10:50 PM |
| 99 | Remember this post every single time a man complains that his ex/current wife/girlfriend refuses to have sex with him. Makes me wonder how many posts on r/ deadbedrooms are from the perspective of the abuser. No, she's not "asexual" or inherently "low libido", he's probably just an asshole.The Body Doesn’t Lie is a great book that explains this. Much like recommended book in the FDS Manual, The Gift of Fear....Our bodies instinctively know we are not safe but we rationalize and deny. Emotional abuse is literal psychological warfare with an extreme narcissist. In lesser degrees, it is said men crave respect and women love. We can not love if we do not respect the man (I.e. a Peter Pan will just frustrate us, grow up dude!). We will lose attraction and desire for sex. It’s that simp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 08:47 PM |
| 17 | A post titled “How to love a man”....thoughts? I have a strong feeling that if the word “man” was swapped with “woman” scrotes would be yelling about how women have too high of standards.....I would say yes. I have friends who might fit into a “tradwife” category who don’t work or work part time but they are not doormats nor people pleasers. Red Pill women focus alll on the man’s needs and have bought into their narrative. A healthy relationship would have all the above, in reciprocally. Not possible when it’s all about manipulation and male dominance over at The Red Pill. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 08:29 PM |
| 28 | A post titled “How to love a man”....thoughts? I have a strong feeling that if the word “man” was swapped with “woman” scrotes would be yelling about how women have too high of standards.....The title is incorrect, should read “How to be a Red Pill woman”. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 08:10 PM |
| 20 | Im so tired of seeing some pickme in the comments of engagement posts.I literally just responded to a “we can’t blame him for not working hard” post 🤦♀️. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 11:52 PM |
| 2 | Help a sister outNo blame here at all. I’m assuming OP stated her needs (staying home raising kids) and that there was a discussion on finances, how that could look, etc. - healthy relating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 11:07 PM |
| 2 | Help a sister outTruth!! Although I see the choices as a sequence actually cause #4 is bound to happen even if you decide to marry him. He’s pretty much telling you he doesn’t want to work hard to provide for you or that he doesn’t think he’s capable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 08:05 PM |
| 7 | An Open Letter to My "Suitor"Sis, any man who claims to be a Christian yet tells a brother or sister that they have not received the Holy Spirit is complete heretics and blasphemy. This man is a wolf in sheep’s clothing, not a true Christ-centered, Jesus following man. Praise God he took you out of this situation and while it hurts and the grieving is painful, God will honor this. Bless you my sister on Christ!! 💯🙏❤️✝️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 05:45 PM |
| 8 | They just can't pick a narrative and stick to it, huh?You bet! So the concept of a man to provide and protect his wife and family is sprinkled throughout the Bible. At its purest form, in Genesis (first book of Bible), God told Adam he would labor all of his day’s and wife Eve would bear children. The concept is to provide for his wife in all aspects emotionally, physically, spiritually as wife’s would submit to their husbands as their husbands submit to Christ. A man who says he’s the “provider” and then accuses a woman of being a “gold digger” is… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 05:19 PM |
| 8 | Restraining order servedSo proud of you!!!! Such a hard step, God will honor this 💯🙌❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 01:39 AM |
| 48 | They just can't pick a narrative and stick to it, huh?CLASSIC! ... “providers” ... a term taken from Christianity, skewed by modern men to their reality, to hold onto, their faulty reality. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 01:33 AM |
| 9 | 2️⃣🙅🏻♀️1️⃣🤦🏻♀️3️⃣🙎🏻♀️😂😂😂I just spit out my wine...this is brillant 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/07/20 01:19 AM |
| 7 | When guys want to date girls who are hot but insecure enough to believe they can’t do any betterAka “I want a girl I can control which means not consulting social media, friends or family members so I can isolate, abuse, and dominate you” smh. Sick. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 09:26 PM |
| 16 | BLACK PILL FOR WOMEN VIA PPD-THE GIFT THAT KEEPS ON GIVING "ALL MEN LOOK DOWN ON WOMEN WHO..."Couldn’t even read the whole damn thing as I could feel I was losing brain cells.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 05:23 AM |
| 23 | The Difference Between Being Used Versus Engaging In Sex: ReciprocationYup! And let me suggest a good book to prove it: The Man’s Guide to Women by the Gottman’s. Read this for a reminder of how we should be treated, the research is fascinating! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 03:17 AM |
| 28 | Woman posts about wanting romance. Scrotes on the comment section make it about themselves once again. We cannot even complain about LVM without them getting defensive. The narcissism of these Redditors. The audacity of scrotes if baffling.I just LOL’ed .., the irony of the Red Pill men and woman debunking the “men are the romantics” ideal. Gonna make some scrotes a mad! I love when they portray the Disney upbringing for their “brainwashing” and it’s like Disney is run by men and have you ever looked into that Walt Disney dude? Yikes. Pedo. Just sayin. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 03:14 AM |
| 37 | The Difference Between Being Used Versus Engaging In Sex: ReciprocationThis is GOLD! On soooo many levels and think about how it’s possibly women love sex more then men, biologically makes sense. We have 5 erogenous areas alone within our vaginal anatomy (look up the A and O spot). The key to women? Intimacy and trust. That simple. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 02:48 AM |
| 41 | Woman posts about wanting romance. Scrotes on the comment section make it about themselves once again. We cannot even complain about LVM without them getting defensive. The narcissism of these Redditors. The audacity of scrotes if baffling.And even when they try to see others perspective it still...still....still........comes back to them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/20 02:31 AM |
| 9 | is my boyfriend a HVM?Yeah...yikes, this feels familiar. Ok, my take, this man means well and can be attentive (if he’s been taught by mommy, ex’s, or you) but is a Peter Pan. He hasn’t grown out of wanting a mommy figure, immature, perhaps doesn’t know deep down who he is. The eventual archtype of a pleaser male who ends up in a midlife crisis of philandering, IMO. You’re too smart for him...don’t date potential as the rule book says | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/07/20 12:12 AM |
| 3 | I need recommendations on books to read. Ive Currently finished reading a few of the recommended books and I need moreSecond this one, she’s amazing! Her website Baggage Reclaim has been a life saver. Other suggestions - Men Who Can’t Love followed by His Fears, Her Fears by Julia Sokol and Steven Carter. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 08:23 PM |
| 5 | Come on Brittany, you are better than this...Wait...does this not say she’s interested in straight women?? Regardless, this is so fake 🤣. I hope a team of women are behind this gathering data to expose disgusting men...gosh I would love to see the messages received on this profile... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 07:43 PM |
| 19 | Guys who play video games, obsess over cars in a childish way, or collect stupid piece of plastic as "hobbies"They haven’t grown up yet or are regressing to a previous boyhood state due to mental issues. No grown man spends hours on video games or fantasy play or “hobbies” that are worthless. No mature man at least. Depends on your age but into your 20s+ still on the video game thing = immature. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 01:19 AM |
| 13 | My own brotherGosh, this is so heartbreaking to hear after the message you posted the other day! Sometimes, as hard as it is, the patterns could have been set by our prior generations, passed down subconsciously, and that’s familiar to us and we pick bad people until we wake up and face the truth. It’s incredible the timing and all I can say is God’s* working to expose this through you and your story and in the world today ....FDS is part of making the change needed for women with women to against systemic ab… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/07/20 12:02 AM |
| 3 | Seeking optimismI’ve got one for you! After divorcing a LVM abusive and narcissistic man 3 years ago, I got back into the dating scene and ended up with 2 relationships with emotionally unavailable men. But I learned and grew and it showed me my own weak spots and gave me more strength to speak my truth (which is hard to relearn after emotional and verbal abuse). I have now met the man I believe God wants for me, a man from my childhood, and the connection out of this world (and frightening sometimes too!). The… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 11:42 PM |
| 1 | When they hide it so well...Yes! I did. It took me probably 2 years to dig out of it all but I am happy and whole now, with a wonderful man I trust and we have true authentic and vulnerable conversations. That was something I had to learn given i didn’t grow up with my feelings validated and ended up with a narcissistic man. I’m not crazy about S-Anon personally as I feel they put some of the “blame” on the victim much like enabling for AA. This is not the case for spouses of sex addicts, we exhibit post traumatic stress w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/07/20 03:44 PM |
| 16 | When they hide it so well...Ugh, I feel you!!! I divorced a sex addict, similar acting out to yours, and he took half my money (I was the breadwinner) and I wasted 12 years of my life ...hope you’re thinking now “well, at least it wasn’t thatttt bad”🤣. But you will learn to trust again once you trust yourself. This guy sounds psychopathic to me with serious compound trauma probably from childhood. He was acting as he was “supposed to” because he studied how to be a good man, husband, etc but doesn’t have the capacity for t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 09:43 PM |
| 2 | THIS 💯🙌❤️ (especially for you Christian ladies).....THE REOCCURRING EX (6 Reasons Why They Keep Coming Back)Yeah! I’m so glad 🤗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 05:24 AM |
| 10 | Aherm...what was that about women being too emotional & erratic to be effective leaders? Females are needed to steer us out of the chaos greedy & incompetent men created. Turns out our ability to think of others needs benefits everyone, including men. Female empowerment is much needed!Amen 🙏 gosh it’s an uphill barren sometimes but we will persevere 💯💪 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 05:21 AM |
| 27 | Aherm...what was that about women being too emotional & erratic to be effective leaders? Females are needed to steer us out of the chaos greedy & incompetent men created. Turns out our ability to think of others needs benefits everyone, including men. Female empowerment is much needed!I’m on my way! Already in the works and with some amazing women behind me 🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/07/20 05:18 AM |
| 139 | Aherm...what was that about women being too emotional & erratic to be effective leaders? Females are needed to steer us out of the chaos greedy & incompetent men created. Turns out our ability to think of others needs benefits everyone, including men. Female empowerment is much needed!This is amazing to see....my personal leadership experience speaks a lot to this I feel. I spent 12 years in a company run by amazing women leaders (gay and straight) as well as good men who respect women. We took the company from $200M to almost $1B in an industry (manufacturing) typically male. I led sale for our largest clients and managed part of our team for many years. I left after we were acquired by a “good ol boys club” company ... many of our female leaders as well. The company lost ha… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 09:44 PM |
| 4 | So many men say they want a smart woman...Gosh these comments are good! It’s totally a LVM/NVM vs HVM thing. My current guy (HVM) and last guy (LVM), both genius level IQ & self-proclaimed sapiophiles, have a totally different approach. The last guy would talk in circles or stonewall by trying to move to another subject - it was clear he was uncomfortable, anxious, surprised and needed to take control of the convo to feel secure and showcase his “superiority”. Little by little he worked to tear me down and not build me up. This was #1 a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 03:17 PM |
| 2 | Absolute filth and garbage from Red Pill “leader” on nature of women thru the lens of a men’s owned magazine + pornhub star in an industry (prostitution), and ideology (women’s witchcraft re: Salem with trials), crafted long ago by men to control and abuse women 🤬....yo Belle, wake up girl!Hahaaaa YES!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/20 02:42 AM |
| 11 | How do you get over past relationship hurt and stay hopeful?I know your pain, it so hard and your world feels so broken! I’ve been there. I promise, you’ll get through it. Your “picker” is not off, you’re a vibrant and vivacious and loving woman, never forget that. There is something to learn from this experience and in due time you will come to it. I divorced a typical “playboy”, cheated on me our entire marriage and took half my money, but I’ve come to forgive him and accept ... it took several years of rebuilding and finding who I am. If you’re findin… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 11:12 PM |
| 4 | How to get over a situationship? Please share your strategies that helped you get out of a bad placeIt’s totally a trauma bond thing! Been right where you are in trying to get over a trauma bond from a situationship that lasted 3 mos, it was insane and I knew it shouldn’t have dragged me down like you’re feeling so hopefully my experience might help. I think Alan Robarge does an excellent series on this, here’s his video about getting over an ex. I would also say work on trying to separate the man from the fantasy you created in your head about your future and even your bond. Make a list of th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/20 07:39 PM |
| 2 | Anyone else down to read Why Does He Do That? by Lundy Bancroft and do a virtual bookclub discussion each week to process the content/discuss? Details here!!!Love this book & can’t wait to reread it with you beautiful ladies! 💯❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/07/20 01:19 AM |
| 1 | An apology two years later from the guy who secretly took photos of me in the shower WITHOUT my knowledge for an entire YEAR simply because I refused to send him nudes. Does his apology acknowledge that? Nope.Feel thru that rage!! My Lord that’s so tough. The message itself doesn’t lend to being manipulative, is it possible you just may be hearing an apology that you have waited and needed to hear all along to truly forgive and let go? Just a thought. Never take the scum back, of course. Hell fucking no. Forgiveness is for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/20 01:20 AM |
| 8 | If you are struggling right now, it's okay to take some time to process past behaviors that have hurt you and reframe those challenges in a way that lifts you up. You owe it to yourself to allow your past feelings to shame to bring you the gift of grace to move forward. Here are some tips & supportLove this💯❤️🙌!!! I’m on a quest at the moment to “dig deeper” personally and I believe much of the treatment we’ve received and now regret that we ever allowed, is part of growing ... healing core wounds or negative inner chatter. I just picked up and working through Feeling Good by David Burns and it’s putting a lot in perspective for me. I’ve worked through much and understand I can be perfectionist, CO-dependent, blah blah blah but ... for some of us sensitive ladies who have taken a lot of u… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 10:45 PM |
| 3 | He's 'fine' with FDS but misses the point completely. Link in commentsOr a -2048372901 💀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 10:21 PM |
| 3 | He's 'fine' with FDS but misses the point completely. Link in commentsYes and Amen! I’m holding back with all my might not to upload a 👸pic at this moment 🤣 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 10:19 PM |
| 2 | He's 'fine' with FDS but misses the point completely. Link in commentsNot at all!! Same here 🙌 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 10:17 PM |
| 1 | Are There Common Problems with Serial Monogamists or Am I Looking Just Looking for Them because, well ... Men?I would say if he’s been a serial monogamist most his life (relationships starting in Highschool), there would be reason to have caution as he could be the type that stays and jumps when they find someone better but it doesn’t sound like it to me given his friends and hobbies are important so trust your gut and definitely find out why the relationships ended. This may take some time to get comfortable but you’re 3 mos in and if you approach it from a vulnerable space in asking what he’s learned … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/07/20 08:13 PM |
| 129 | He's 'fine' with FDS but misses the point completely. Link in commentsModel and beauty queen here, ummmmmm, pretty sure I’m not considered “unattractive” by society’s standards and pretty sure I’m on FDS because we’re smart beautiful women who have been steamrolled by the low life redpillers using covert abusive tactics to try and get us to stay with them when we’re a 9 or 10 and they’re maybe a 6 or 7. Just sayin’ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/20 01:25 PM |
| 5 | “You own all of those things but you still don’t have a man.” This was posted in r/trashy where everyone is bashing the woman for expecting more than an Applebee’s for a first date.Totally see your perspective! Your points are totally valid and I think great boundaries and knowing what you want!! Honestly maybe I’m too old to comment as a divorced 36 yr single mom of a beautiful daughter hahaaaa....but I’ve made the mistake of feeling offended by a guys choice in restaurant to then realize he owned the damn place and the chain of regional restaurants, named after his family. But I’m now remembering his dad did give him a bunch of sh*t for taking me there so that’s comical … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 09:30 PM |
| 5 | Is anyone else exhausted?AllI gotta say is....oh my, I feel you!!! Seriously summed up typical situations in dating as we all love and learn. You’re equipped with the knowledge and strength now, you’ll know when the right one comes along so trust that and evermore trust it because you’ve experienced the opposite and you know how that feels. If it feels familiar, reassess (and damn is it exhausting I hear you, I can relate to so much of your post it’s baffling!). I’m on a break from dating right now and working on myself… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/07/20 07:43 PM |
| 3 | Thoughts on Evaluating A Man....Yeah!! I was tempted to quote Matthew 10:16 on the post but thought nahhh that would be too much🤣. I love that you caught that!! I sure am a woman of Christ (lead worship at my church) and glad to see I’m not the only one on this sub! Much ❤️🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 03:13 PM |
| 2 | This sub is moderated by a blue piller that was never red pilledStraight from “yourgirlfriendsdad” - ohhhhh Lord, the irony 🤣🤣🤣 | /r/ExRedPill | 01/07/20 04:15 AM |
| 9 | Supermodel hinge dating experimentAbsolutely! The men of low or no value (LVM, NVM) certainly will try to get away with this due to immaturity so time to say NEXT! 🤗 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 03:34 AM |
| 7 | Thoughts on Evaluating A Man....Aweee I love this and thank you so much, so glad it touched your heart, I felt it might for someone out there and you are proof 🤗! Stay strong, work through the pain, learning to love again at our age is like WTF I’ve already gone thru an Apocalypse😅!! Sending lots of love your way ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 02:38 AM |
| 32 | Supermodel hinge dating experimentSo speaking as a former model and beauty queen, none of my pictures on OLD are in a swimsuit, photoshopped/filtered, or sexually overtly suggestive (only silly sometimes aka me lovin’ on my pup). That is for a reason. I’ve experienced what you have in various degrees in my life. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. It’s who you are at the core that matters for life and overall happiness. Brush it off, they’re losers, anyone who tries to bring you down is not deserving of your attention. One of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 02:31 AM |
| 28 | This sub helped me realize I'm not stuck-up or old-fashionedAmen sister 💯🙏💯🙏 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 12:15 AM |
| 16 | The male expectation of women to be completely shavedA Low Value Man (LVM) or sometimes you’ll see NVM= No Value Man. I’m a newbie here too so trying to pick up the lingo as well. The new manual was just published and it’s awesome, gives so much more context on the subject 🤗💯❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/07/20 12:09 AM |
| 45 | The male expectation of women to be completely shavedOmg porn culture and misogyny at its finest!! The comments are hilarious from the original post and seen a trend with men like this trying to turn it around “oh Hitler was a vegetarian and you’re one too so you support Hitler” .... is literal non-sensical, unrelated, narcissistic gaslighting at its finest!! Without knowing the full history of shaving, I’m pretty sure it is a common phenomenon as who had razors back then and cared? Ancient principals like Kama Sutura pictures all had hair. Every … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 11:57 PM |
| 42 | Ladies, we should all leave reddit at the same time and make the news.I’m in! Only reason I joined Reddit was for FDS and to help contribute and learn since I was completely blindsided in my past relationship by his red pill ideologies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 05:39 PM |
| 3 | What led you to find this sub?I’m new to Reddit (mainly spent time on Quora) and new to FDS. I was trying to make sense of some bizarre behavior from my now ex-boyfriend, stumbled on The Red Pill theory, and my mind was blown away in terror it all made sense with him. I’m 36, coming out of a 12 year toxic marriage, he was the first relationship I had. FDS gives such perspective and I love how everyone builds each other up! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/06/20 07:42 PM |
| 3 | DAE have a hard time processing healthy treatment from a romantic partner after experiencing multiple toxic relationships and healing? I know "the hardest relationship is the one with yourself and others after a toxic one" but it def. takes constant re-framing and referring to FDS. Let's discuss !Love all of this! For me, as well as many of us I’m sure, healing past trauma of abuse and neglect is so hard!! What I’ve noticed now being with a HVM (after a divorce from a narcissist and 2 unhealthy relationships) is that I often feel suspicious of his love and care for me. At times also uncomfortable cause of how he compliments me, takes care of me, and loves me for me. It’s a mind shift and just today I told him about how I recognize my past and it’s hard to let love in even though all he s… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/20 10:58 PM |
| 6 | Debunking HypergamyThis makes so much sense and thanks for explaining the Hypergamy concept a bit further as I’m still a novice and learning!!! 🙏 🤓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 04:21 PM |
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