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STAY WOKEEffectiveHoneydew422/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 03:23 AM
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SHOWER THOUGHTEffectiveHoneydew422/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 02:03 AM
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RED FLAG 🚨EffectiveHoneydew422/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 09:53 AM
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DISCUSSIONEffectiveHoneydew422/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 05:13 AM
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FDS MOVIES & TVEffectiveHoneydew422/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 06:45 AM
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LESSON LEARNEDEffectiveHoneydew422/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 03:58 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYEffectiveHoneydew422/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 11:53 AM
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#KickHimOut2020EffectiveHoneydew422/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 07:35 AM
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ROAST-A-SCROTEEffectiveHoneydew422/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 06:44 AM
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MALE DEPRAVITYEffectiveHoneydew422/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:35 AM
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LEVEL UP BRO! EffectiveHoneydew422/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:14 PM
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STRATEGYEffectiveHoneydew422/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 09:59 AM
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MINDSET SHIFTEffectiveHoneydew422/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 09:26 AM
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FDS MOVIES & TVEffectiveHoneydew422/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 03:04 PM
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It strongly reminds me of Michael Douglas's character in "Fatal Attraction" Where he is set up to be the Ideal good/honest HV "family man" with picture perfect wife/ house & daughter He is an archetype of the Dream Husband. Yet the plot centers around him having an affair with a women that has some kind of borderline personality disorder and he is depicted as the victim throughout the movie, because it seams to be some kind of unspoken rule that as a married man, when your wife gos away with the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 07:01 AM
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100% nail on head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 06:37 AM
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Im starting to believe the only reason Men get married is so they can live out the fantasy of being a married man that has an affair. They act as though the wedding ring and marriage is going to act like some kind of "chick-magnet". I just think that they are so crippled emotionally that they don't feel the confidence or strength to brazenly hit on women and strangers UNLESS they have a wife at home "jn the bag" Its about power and desperation. Its pathetic. and I hate it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 11:34 PM
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I bet he keeping a whole other wife secret. Why do these men like to make multiple women unfulfilled and miserable?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 11:43 PM
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John Krazinsky ❤️ Emily Blunt OTP Goals
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/11/21 05:37 AM
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Wait im confused did they move into a crack den? and why the fuck would you clean with one hand and film with the other? that just seams so much harder and like we dont need proof that you cleaned the toilet. The smell of desperation of from this video stinks more than that sink - gunk scum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 01:11 PM
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Not sure if this belongs in this discussion but it made me think of how women-led or dominated fields of spirituality that involve preyer, rituals, and other such practices have been historically been painted with the same brush as "witchcraft" and in a more modern version of moon rituals, astrology and the likes are also regularly poo-pooed as woo-woo nonsense... I know its not technically a religion but religion is as old as misogyny and the patriarchy so any thing that could have taken off as…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 12:58 PM
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🤮🤮🤮😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/11/21 02:50 AM
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This is why I think if you bring a womb to the table for a Man to have an opportunity to have offspring, That is PRICELESS and damn straight he should be working and providing for the family. not "50/50" if The woman has born his child there will NEVER be 50/50 because a man cannot give birth to the second child. His half of the deal is PAYING for EVERYTHING, and doing it with a happy and willing attitude. He should be so lucky that a woman carries the child, sacrifices her BODY that NO amount o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/21 01:20 AM
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Im full imagining like the footage at the beginning of the titanic except they dredge up a rusty old barnicle covered bar and look on the monitors in wonder and amazment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 12:27 PM
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Men who cheat on pregnant wives/ wives with babies are the lowest of the low imo hes not just cheating on his wife he's cheating on his child too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 02:35 AM
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"In recent geological excavation of the Mariana Trench, researchers found "The Bar" "
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 02:29 AM
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This is a CLASSIC little insurance policy of lvm posing as a "good guy" Getting in early with the "not looking for anything serious", but curious to just "take it as it comes" "live in the moment" "see where it goes" Its all just a clause to refer back to when they are done with you as a "FWB" which will be at their discretion (usually when something or someone better (whatever that means to them) comes along. They want an on-call bang maid, while they work on looking for someone they do want to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 02:24 AM
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I read a thing where they Man who originally came up with the term "Alpha" for wolves, has admitted that it is outdated and miss-leading term. It doesn't apply to wolves and it certainly doesn't apply to human men. I get that men will align themselves with this term, but it translates to = Stupid and Insecure
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 11:58 PM
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omg agree! I was thinking this the other day! I love astrology- I dont use it as a crystal ball or make massive decisions from it but I do find it so useful still! I love guessing ppls star signs and am actually pretty good at it and its a fun party conversation- There is ALWAYS a guy somewhere not even part of the convo that HAS to make it know that he doesn't believe it. I usually laugh at them and say your being SUCH a Virgo rn. The truth is so many times they actually want to be part of the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 06:33 AM
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I like the rule where when going in for a kiss no matter who, should only ever lean in to max 90% and the recipient should move in the difference. If A guy moves in for a kiss and you dont want to, he should be able to pick up on that before making contact. If he moves in for kiss and hasnt got the awareness to see if you are meeting him there and goes the full distance then Id say thats a red flag. That kind of man does shit like grab your chin or back of head when kissing and doesn't have the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 06:20 AM
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Hes a sniveling fucking coward and absolutely doesn't deserve to spend another moment with you. I can't believe he would say that! He is the one who is insecure if he has a loving relationship and still has to satisfy addiction to porn and then rationalise it in such a hurtful way that puts you in the centre of blame and avoiding his own issues. Cut that toad loose so he can fill his days with watching porn and jerking off, and you can go and be happy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 10:20 PM
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Yeah its not like in Seinfeld anymore where a sat/fri dinner and a movie with MAYBE a kiss goodnight in the car, and a mandatory call the following day , followed by arranging another date - Was the standard. .....I grew up watching Seinfeld. Even George - George- Would pay for dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 09:59 PM
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This reminds of a a Larry David bit, about how even Quasi Modo had to have the prettiest girl in town! lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 07:23 AM
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Suprisingly, I have one very good friend who is male, who has been on OLD, and He is only interested in asking out Women for dinner dates, He knows good places and he make reservations. But at first when he was first on the apps and chatting He felt weird about asking Women out to dinner, because everytime women would downgrade and suggest drinks, also his housemate thought that it was hilarious that he asked women in dinner dates and not drinks and that he was "old fashioned" also many women ca…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 03:51 AM
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anecdotally, 100% yes
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 12:42 PM
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He was a trained first aid responder, and was a certified rescue diver, would give the shirt of his back to a complete stranger if they needed it. But couldn't even prepare me a meal when I was really sick and bed ridden and I ended up having to go to my mothers for care. Also left me stranded the first time I went scuba diving and I had a mild anxiety attack and had to go back to the boat and get out of scuba gear. Haha he also did tutoring for high school students when he was at uni and got al…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 04:41 AM
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The more slack women pick up on the dating front the more men slack off. Another reason why FDS is the future of dating.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 04:25 AM
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I dont think its a red flag or that he is doing anything wrong, but its quite telling to me intuitivly that his response suggests that he is dating multiple women and being honest about it to feel ethical etc, but when he knows he knows and he won't date other women and wont want her to either. That said Id say maybe more than a single date for him to know
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 04:22 AM
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Im using this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 03:41 AM
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NGL initially I thought she was crying to report that the guy in this couple was super controlling and the women was visibly uncomfortable by his hand on her leg the entire flight... Only because I see these PDAs often and the women is usually resisting the constant groping and over the top territorial displays of "affection" BUT in saying that I also totally get her point. I often think back to all my relationships and it hurts to know that there was never true reciprocated love happening it wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 03:39 AM
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She thinks he has elevated her to his car's status - And she's grateful- But in reality he loves the car more and always will, and she (and anybody for that matter) deserves to be loved above all- especially a hunk if metal. But Men like that will never love anything as much as they love inanimate objects. Unfortunately Ive wittinesses many a friend suddenly become into Cars for the shirt periods of their life they are with a Car Bro, they even go out and buy a car that will impress it's actuall…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 10:25 PM
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"Instead, it’s turning increasing numbers of men in their sexual prime into flops.” Aint that the truth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 06:07 AM
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a lot of the time boys place more value on impressing their 'crew of boys' than they care about impressing girls. ( my first bf dumped me because his new friends told him to)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 06:02 AM
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🎪 🤡 🎪
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 02:10 PM
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Thank you for the reminder. My identity in relationships has always been 'the insecure / jealous one. But tis true I just called the BS and unfortunately for them I knew they were cheating. (even though i didn't get the full admission of guilt until way after the relationship ended)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 12:24 PM
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I watched that documentary a few years back and it still haunts me. I cryed so much listening to the women recounted the abuse. The spiritual abuse combined with the way these perverts conceal their atrocities behind their religion and assumption of purity is especially revolting to add to what is already an abominable act to torture a child in your care. I totally understand how triggering it is. Left me feeling that you can NEVER trust a man with an innocent girl behind closed doors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/21 10:03 AM
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fucking hell that was depressing to read. My brain feels like its been slimed with this women's toxic rationale.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 11:50 PM
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Ridiculous! I wonder if Alec has the feeling you get when you find out your expensive handbag that you got a good price for is actually a fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 11:40 PM
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Are you sure you are not dating an animal?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 07:47 AM
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Ha Ha this would not work. Can't wait for men to actually try this and faiiiil.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/21 07:39 AM
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let them live in the delusion I say. Its funnier that way, so when they are expecting young hot women to be falling over eachother to be with them then once they old flabby bald and not to mention have TERRIBLE fashion sense, they be a lonely af " Doggo Dad" it will be a total zinger !
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 07:33 AM
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ummmm, compensating much? This is the epitome of small dick energy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/21 07:25 AM
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I think the idea behind this is good, but why should it be so secret code? It should just read : Our venue has ZERO tolerance for sexual harassment of any kind. If you or someone you know is experiencing this unwanted behaviour please do not hesitate to let one of our staff or security know, and we will assist you. And put them up in ALL the toilets. This would be a deterrent for sex pests and the patrons will be encouraged that all the staff are aware of this policy. I never really understood t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/10/21 10:21 AM
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The ZVM "HVM Snare" ahh its quite tricky to pick the trap, because they are like a reverse boggart from harry potter, They themselves will have no distinguishing features but rather will morph into what ever it is you are seeking. They will first have to figure out what makes you tick. You also would have to have something they can gain from, this isn't necessarily something materialistic but could be social status, networking connections, or of corse physical gratification... Once they have mad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/21 12:26 PM
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So lemme get this right, she's lamenting all that time she wasted waiting for the gross sex when she could have been having heaps of gross sex with multiple people?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/21 11:18 AM
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There is no such thing as your body EVER consenting to life threatening violence. I have heard women claim to be into "a light choking". To this I say, how can your logic and conscience override your bodies natural survival instinct? It literally cannot. All that is happening is your brain is releasing a dangerously addictive and deadly cocktail of hormones and adrenaline/ oxytocin that your bodies cells are being obliterated with and the neural pathways of sexual pleasure are being crossed with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/21 06:42 AM
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Yes, "Future Faking" its a cheap way to reap the rewards and payoffs for things that haven't even come into fruition yet. Planning things in the future is essential, but don't start having feelings for guy over something hes "planning on doing" and also Faking a Future of like years down the line when you are still "getting to know you " phase like children is manipulative AF. ESPECIALLY if he leans into suggesting he wants children and assumes you (being female) are going to gush at this. Ive k…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 10:58 PM
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Spending time...Bonding with Child?? POOR GUY! What a fucking WAsTE of his LIFe! What he's supposed to not have his own hobbies?? because of a toddler, how unfair! maybe his wife should do ALL the "BoNdInG" (whatever the furk that is) and Let him drag them into isolation, have her quit working, stay home alone with the offspring and let him climb that corporate ladder until he has enough money to have the balls to just divorce and get the fuck away from him meaningless "Family " and begin his le…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 02:24 AM
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🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮🤮 more like: ~~ @HIGHVALUEKINDERGARTENTEACHERS edit: Also I definitely feel like being this condescending and self righteous in "teaching" and "training" your "man" would actually elicit a violent, aggressive or resentful response from most men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 02:05 AM
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Yes! I find it so easy to imagine the reverse and its impossible to even comprehend women ever collectively being so destructive, selfish and deprived. Plus the denial is SO strong in men that they will not allow themselves to even entertain this thought for one moment. I bet the idea of their wifes or gfs, relentlessly and feverishly fapping to exploitative pornography of young barely legal boys being choked and spoofed all over is something there minds wont comprehend because they would have t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/21 01:59 AM
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Pornography is for deprived men and is designed to be addictive for them and then gradually deteriorates the brains capacity for imagination and creativity leads to violence, stupidity, and depression. If im going to have a man in my life I only want a mentally sound, happy, creative, intuitive caring and loving Man. Its simply not possible with pornography in the equation. And YES I will happily choose the alternative of being single forever if this type of man doesn't exist. Im not here to nur…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/21 12:47 AM
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what a fucking toad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 09:03 AM
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I Agree Sooo much. Because duh ive been there done that. It just makes you feel worse because you are NOT going to get the response you are hoping for and even if you did it wouldn't count anyway because you had to spend paragraphs of text walls to get them to"Get It". Im a fan you writing it all out in a journal and then at some point in the future read it back, forgive yourself for getting tangled up with a douchbag and then tear it up and throw it away. With importance on destroying it when y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/21 04:34 AM
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I LIKE TALL GUYS AND I CAN NOT LIE YOU OTHER LADIES CAN'T DENY WHEN A GUY WALKS UNDER AN IDDY BIDDY SPACE AND HAS A SMALL DICK IN YOUR FACE HES GETS NONE
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 11:14 AM
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yeah coffee / walks aren't The Date, they are a garnish, if anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/21 06:21 AM
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no matter how many girls go on only fans, the sex work industry will never profit women more than men and will never benefit women more than men. ever. Full Stop. The Libfem "empowered women" trope is propaganda invented by men to benefit men, and oppress women. They are terrified about the collapsing Patriarchy and its all a desperate last ditch attempt to cling to their former power. The Patriarchy is Falling. This is the beginning of The End. I see it everyday. One day it will landslide.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/21 10:43 AM
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"Its NoT RaciSim If It Is MakEiNg ME HaRd" And just because he is so entwined in diversity and has WoC for his partner, doesn't mean shit. He's clearly obsessed and has fetishised PoC. Its covert racism and its harmful. Its like saying "Im not a misogynist, how could I hate women when I want to fuck them?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 05:05 AM
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"TrUsT Me YoU DoN'T WaNt Me As a BoyfRienD" a few weeks later, "buT i LovE yOu, I doNt WaNt yOu to Be WitH anYoNeElSe" afew weeks later cheats/lies/fucks up "I tOld YoU" break up. A few weeks later "My NeW GiRlFrieNd EvEryOnE 😝" -A tale of scrotacitys
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/21 04:52 AM
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Men being wholesome and having a genuine love (of course if you love someone you dont care weather they can sing in tune or not. Basically when you are authentically in love there would be plenty of heartwarming examples like this. I think men have such high rates of relationships that are simply about having "sex on tap" with any willing and submissive female, to the point that a dude can simply just be genuinely inlove with a woman for who she is, and everyone loses there mind about how specia…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/21 06:37 AM
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This Mans Wife is like the patron saint of pickmes. Lol, Proof of the miracle of a man eventually praising your hard work if you can stick it out for 35 YEaRs!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 09:48 AM
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true when someone tramples a boundary- pleeding, negotiating and talking about "the boundary" will not achieve anything. you need to just enforce it without explanation. Because they know what they have done, they need to figure it out and fix it or fuck off forever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:34 AM
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Do It Sis!! feel the fear and do it anyway! that's bravery. that IS courage. When you are scared but just purge through it! I promise you will feel so proud and strong and it will be a graduation. Yes this might seam easy for some people but whatever this is HUGE for YOU. I believe you can do it, you are 99% there. I am personally inspired by your strength. Go For IT!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 01:54 AM
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haha but you can dip it in glitter (like this poor af pickmesha)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 01:47 AM
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Im pretty sure even if the deed was in her name alone he would still be entitled to half if they divorced- this guys a gross af loooooser. He has zero rights to any of the house - he can take the furnishings seeing as its all he paid for and he can fuck right off. How sad if he finds out the deed is in her parents names and stays in marriage because hes a coward. a poor loser coward. I feel for his daughter having to have such an impotent loser for a father. What a shame he is such a sniveling l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 10:54 AM
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This is fucking devine
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 10:46 AM
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Here! Me! I feel the same! I think about how much i have loved, how truly, how deeply committed, how much I empathised and understood and forgave. How many bad men I have turned away. But still the facts are the same, none of my past relationships have I ever felt loved, seen, met or understood. Sometimes I wonder what it must feel like. And How unfair it feels that my exes have felt it, but I have not. Not even by either of my parents or any of my siblings. Nothing. I e given so much thinking t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 08:44 AM
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I hope his filthy ears get so infected they fall off and then he loses his miserable pointless meaningless useless fucking "job" and then dies alone. the end
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/21 06:37 AM
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I was Literally saying this exactly just the other day! Ive dated older / younger and same age- and honestly the younger ones have been more progressive, older guys (late 30s 40s) have more cultural misogyny ingrained and are possibly more porn and video game addicted because they have owned every single game console that has ever existed and have been the worst effected by graphic pornography at early development, seeing as they were there at the dawn of the internet when it was the wild west a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/21 03:02 AM
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Like a true asshole he can not see the 💡- and talks about nothing but pure shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 11:21 AM
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This my friends is a prime example of Toxic Positivity. The whole sentiment of "Oh well lets see where the night goes - I will make the best of it - Its a good story - hey i gathered some sticks so its not a complete waste of my time " is not optimistic, positive or virtuous. Its plain delusional, low self esteem / low self worth and enabling other people to treat you like sub human. Its ok to be skeptical, discerning and to call a pile of shit a pile of shit. learn from mistakes don't sugarcoat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 08:23 AM
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Gee Its what ive always suspected written out in plain english- how validating. I find it so funny how these losers also are "vetting" but they are literally vetting OUT women with self worth, boundaries and high morals. How can they in there right minds compare that to FDS Vetting? Can you imagine the types of fucking weirdo desperate loser freaks FDS ladies would be dating if our vetting standards were in line with theirs? Its insane to even imagine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:54 AM
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This gives a whole NEW depth to the term "Man-Baby" Literally competing for bitty with his own offspring is on par with the lowest forms of life. He is a parasite. Gross. I feel terrible for this women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/21 03:38 AM
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These silly little fucking loser sick dick brain dead fucking twerps. Utterly repugnant neanderthal "men" UGghhh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 09:46 AM
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Y I K E S that was a limp AF hug. She's clinging to his complete disinterest in her and its awkward to watch.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/21 09:43 AM
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I think you should tell him that you can see his constant lurking, that is creepy, and to never contact you again. If he doesn't cut it out tell the wife without warning, you never know she might really need that info in there almost certain upcoming divorce. I think you entertained this fool for long enough.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/21 11:15 PM
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men who are self titled 'feminists' are womanisers and creeps with low self esteem. They feel emasculated easily by other men and associate this with them being feminine and feel like feminism is for them now and that everyone should celebrate how soft and sensitive they are and women should all let down there boundaries and have uninhibited "LiBeRaTeD" no strings attached "LoVe MAkiNg" sex with his non-threatening non-macho feminist self. I have a male friend who is HV he calls himself a misand…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 01:30 PM
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I worked at a Bar for MANY year and trust women ask men out WAY WAY more. They are treated like money you find in the ground- and are used and spent immediately. Men are also so so dull to think that women are "Missing out in them" by not asking them out, when in reality the aren't missing out on anything because they are ignoring you because they are not interested in you. You definitely are as dense as forged steel if you think women are sending you signals that are going over your head. What …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/21 04:07 AM
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My second-hand embarrassment is off the richter rn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/21 07:35 AM
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i read this in geoff goldbulm voice from Jurassic Park
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 04:28 AM
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Fuck that carrot dangle/ bread crumb energy! It can catch you off guard and get you hypnotised but it always leads to a boring shit and waste of time situationship, that once ends will have you looking back wondering wtf you were thinking. Its a RP tactic no matter if he is doing on purpose or not, the reason its a tactic is because its psychological warfare creating false commodity of his attention which subconsciously drives its "Value" up and if your not careful its easy to get sucked into in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/21 06:41 AM
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Chuck in the words "Consenting" "Ethical" and "Play" an you can get away with literally any type of Immorality, coercion and abuse and are shielded from any criticism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/21 03:24 PM
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How tf is this a fairytale ending? brothers grimm maybe..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/08/21 01:18 PM
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I completely get what you are saying. And I agree with you. Women who commit heinous crimes are an oddity and its makes it of higher interest and is never compared to the brutality of the crimes men commit every day, instead its in its own category of being compared to the ideal women/ mother/ saint and how far it strays from that makes people in general more shocked. I even did this myself (watching Law and Order SVU lol) when the child abuser was a women in the episode I was like -WoAH thats S…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/08/21 05:37 AM
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And don't forget to make mens hair cuts 15$ and womens 80$ !!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 11:22 AM
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A Karen is just the rare occurrence when A woman shares character traits your average scrote right? Basically women aren't aloud to be total jerks! That a mans business!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 02:02 AM
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what the f did I just read? I want to pop out my eyeballs and burn my phone. I feel zero humanity or connection to "men" like this. Im sure no one would shed a tear if they were stuffed into cannons and launched into deep space.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/21 01:48 AM
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😝congratulations!!!! I remember the feeling to when i realised i could watch whatever i wanted without a fight or anxiety and no more sitting through shit tv i didn't want to watch - a small thing but also a huge thing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 10:03 AM
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Take care of your character and your reputation will take care of itself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/08/21 09:58 AM
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What the fuck is it with single bachelors and fish tanks?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 04:30 PM
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Lol she just wants a free meal 🤣 she' s not oliver twist ffs! Hes a cheapsake and shes out of his league
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 04:29 PM
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WOW. on point
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/08/21 04:16 PM
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"It dOsEnt FEEl As gOod 😭" Well guess what dudes? sex with you doesnt feel good either because you're too lazy and usuless to even make a women wet before sex, let alone come in the vast majority of cases. And still they play dumb as to why women as so "picky" and lament how easy it is for us women to "get laid". Well its a curse having it this "easy" to get laid when y'all are so incompetent at pleasing women sexually - complain about a condom ? imagine if 93% of one night stands youve had was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:40 AM
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I really hate the term "squirt" especially coming from a male. It just makes my soul cringe
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:22 AM
11

hmm oddly his specific insults reflect the truth of who is is and he knows it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/08/21 10:19 AM
11

"Unless you meet all these requirements you dont even deserve anything " Yes and? What are women a charity service handing out sex to poor men who just inherently deserve it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/08/21 01:29 PM
6

What is he referring to when hes says "see them in person" ? He refers to her as she, and then as 'Them' ? At first I thought he meant her but I think he must mean the plural of her breasts, or maybe them is just "nudes" ie he needs to see her breasts, and her other body parts (bum and vagina?) in person. How horrifically telling that he doesn't veiw her as a whole person but a culmination of genitals and glands he can play with. ew to him and also yes this is probably fake it stinks of incel pr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 04:48 AM
13

Is her husband a highly intelligent rat?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:28 AM
26

"nourish" 🤢🤮 no. just no.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/08/21 02:21 AM
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agree! her entire schpeil would make sense under the title "3 core kinks of un-consciously self loathing and internally misogynistic heterosexual women"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/21 04:17 PM
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my opinion on this is that JJ comes off as sort of glib, and enjoys the title and appearance of "husband" andprobably does whatever he wants whenever he wants under the guise of a "progressive" relationship. Maybe it works for them, idk but if he had specifically wanted to marry her he would have proposed before her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/21 11:50 AM
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"Trading" is a convenient and sophisticated mask for - A Gambling Addiction - Add it to the list ladies. Gambling is an addiction up there with the most addictive substances (cocain) and ofcorse pornography. Substance addiction and abuse are quite openly and obviously life- ruiners, but the insidious nature of crypto currency trading and totally normalisation of excess use of porn mean these lofe ruining addictions are largely un noticed and hubby over here seams like a "smart guy" providing for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/21 05:15 AM
14

Its their emotional age, just so you have a heads up of what you're going to be dealing with
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/21 08:00 AM
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OMG ITS SOOOoOoOoOo BAD! I tried watching it and I knew pretty quick its was absolute drivel- I thought it MUST have been written by men (its not !!?) I made it to episode 2 because its was boarding on comedy, but then it wasn't even good-bad it was bad-bad Poorly executed, bad plot, bad acting, bad script, pushing really dumb- ass fantasy trope character toxic archetypes. This is like C- grade soft porn with actors and storylines to match. Totally unwatchable. Trying to pass off as "female gaze…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/21 10:29 AM
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Buckle up for how many men who are in relationships are DTF. Also I never in my life seen a healthy relationship flourish from a women randomly picking a guy and asking him out. More often this is the beginning of some shocking dating disaster story. This DOESNT boost esteem in only lowers standards. Everyone who goes through this, lets call it a phase, ends up 🤦‍♀️ regretfull.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/21 09:50 AM
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Reporters wont ask any hollywood men if they're on dating apps because the answer is yes, and not to find a relationship, its for free prostitution.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/06/21 04:56 AM
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This lame husband is also piggybacking off his wife to have a party without feeling the anticipation of just doing the big brother party plan for himself for his birthday as its clearly just what he wants. But he probably knows people wouldnt come for him and he would be embarrassed, so hes using his wife as a proxy to throw his own little fantasy party.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/06/21 04:11 PM
6

this clearly has nothing to do with pleasure and everything to do with dominance and breaking down boundaries. They just want submission from every woman do sooth the harshest of reality that they are incompetent inadequate and lousy excuses for "Men"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/06/21 09:41 AM
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TREE WIZARDS- So true they are drawn to that subculture to be around what they perceive to be 'open minded' 'sexually liberated' women, and are nothing but creepers trying to cop a feel and wait for opportunities to mooch off people with poor boundary function, preying on and exploiting the ethos of sharing/ caring /giving /selflessness. Ive been there done that, and it might seam so righteous and wholesome but the whole hippy scene is rife with pickme bang maids doing all the emotional labour a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 03:07 AM
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why do they try and kid themselves that misandrists are just as bad as incels/misogynists. The day I see LVW using teenage boy for there bodies, and husbands are scared for there lives, while young single men fear walking home alone because a cars full of misandrists heckle them/ kidnap them/ rape them with impunity. I literally cannot even imagine that EVER happening. Women on whole have way more dignity and class than mOsT meN
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 09:04 AM
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The projection/ insults these scrotes use funnily enough provide a crystal clear window into how they truely feel about themselves. Its the only time they can honestly express how they feel, but they have a sillly little habit of convincing themselves thats how YOU feel. - hence the fraudian slip of saying "bro" - I realised this is the case with Narcs especially because the only way they know how to try an hurt you is to use what is most painful to them. They cannot process empathy or even fath…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:48 AM
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fuuuuuuuck. Disaster marriage coming right up! Hes layed some solid gaslighting groundwork - with her chastising herself for being 'entitled' like are we still really pushing this "you should be so lucky to have a guy even agree to marry you, dont push it or expect anything" and what you get for this is a spermdoner, and gamer/porn addict teenager who will feel more than entitled to cheat in you with impunity and ignore you. But.... LuCkY YoU! WoW a HuBbY. YaY.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:31 AM
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the vagina records these interactions as trauma, even if your mind is like "oh whatever fine he'll be done soon "- a friend told me that and it sounds about right to me but i haven't googled it yet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:29 PM
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is this like one of those horror stories in 1 sentence 😱
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 01:26 PM
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i feel so validated by your comment! thankyou! i had a shit time in the youtube comment thread
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 12:16 PM
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This presenter says she 'disagrees on multiple fronts' but then is stifled umming and arring, to explain why. There is some cognitive dissonance happening. She agrees with tik tok-erbut pickme programming is not letting her speak her truth. Thats the vibe im getting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/06/21 02:18 AM
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asked her for a walk? BINGO- his LVM trait was right there all along lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 10:34 AM
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That wavy bottom end to bread crumbing too real! It's like that intermittent reinforcement behaviour study with rats, that become addicted to the machine giving out the intermittent food pellets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 11:28 AM
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Translation : Im scared of other men and resent women so i take out my self loathing on women by constantly negging them. Women with any self esteem need not apply. PS my crippled personality is actually a positive character trait.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 09:28 AM
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the very existence of "body count" encourages rape and is a pillar of rape culture. Getting that "number" up at any cost
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 12:28 PM
60

Proof of this is "sMiLe!" they react so dramatically to a complete stranger's facial expression (if that stranger is a women) Also: I remember doing this face accidentally that made a dude react so badly once, and I did it completely unintentionally (was an organic reflex) that i will try and describe.. raised eyebrows, and pursed /drawn in/ lips almost in a forced smile. Its a standard awkward reflex face. This guy (not my bf but friend of a friend) was like "wow jeeze way to make me feel like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 11:22 AM
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"Girls enjoy strangling any sense of enjoyment out of guys" Guys enjoy strangling any sense of life out of girls. also, You can't just expect a gIrL to settle for mediocre sex with a guy that just wants to manipulate her, when she could be living out her fantasies of living her best life as a HVW Scrote- Free . Men need to back off and recognise that their unhealthy porn addiction is impacting poorly on every mans sexual health.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 11:58 AM
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it seams the student has surpassed the teacher.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 03:22 AM
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When I see this pickme behaviour that is makimg enemies of other womam for simply not being a pickme it makes me wonder if this is projected severe self loathing/hatred, in this instance, perhaps this young pickmesha actually does hate when her bf likes other girls pictures but has been so conditioned to be ashamed of her boundaries that she has no outlet for the internalized emotions and cover up, resulting in this utter garbage spraying over mediums like reddit, insta, etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:15 PM
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exhausting? Dude probably spends 99% of his free time sitting on his phone scrolling, clicking, liking, commenting, gaming etc.. and all of a sudden its exhausting?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:05 PM
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I was actually thinking the other day how Shakespeare wasn't a fool, and when he wrote Romeo & Juliet he wasn't trying to convince anyone the two were "in love". He made a dark comedy/ tragedy about how foolish young love can go wrong. Its like a comedy for adults and and tragedy / drama for teens. I remember as a pre- teen watching the Baz Lehrman Romeo+Juliet and wishing I could have a love that deep (minus the suicide). But now Im older that fleeting relationship has all the classic red flags…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 12:01 PM
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These sick perverts do not deserve a platform to discuss this, gross gross no no ew ew wtf. There is no point to this except to connect with other perverts and validate there perversions. Reddit? Fucking disgusting. And FDS is a toxic cult? Reddit is a toxic cult.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 04:22 AM
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Season 4 Episode 3 - He a keyboardist in a band and she goes goo goo ga ga, until he's kicked out of the band then she sees him truly- its sooo funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 02:41 AM
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I had to have breaks during my binge of that show because I got so mad. Christian Slater does a convincing job of being the cool calm slimy narc it was honestly triggering me because I had a step dad that drove my mother crazy with similar antics. I watched an oprah interview with betty, from the time that also made me mad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 04:10 AM
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right!! hes got SUCH a stink weasel vibe so limp so boring. Its like that ep of The IT Crowd where Jen goes out with that musician and is blind to how unattractive and boring he is because hes a "MuSo"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:30 AM
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This pic makes me sick because I feel so seen. I USED to think THIS. I used to think, "Hey I helped you with your homework can you help me with mine? " but I believed it was IT. I even told people this as advice. SMH. This cartoon isn't even being ironic, (I don't think) I think this is A LOT of people's fantasy; They can ignore all their baggage until the "right" person comes along to help unpack. Its nieve as hell. 9/10 if you want this you will do all the heavy lifting and unpack the baggage …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 03:07 AM
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This perfectly captures the catch 22 of leaving a mentally unstable abuser. You want to be safe but all the avenues (leaving them, getting AVO, getting weapons) all in there own way add pressure to the situation and make it more unpredictable. abusive ZVM are such parasites
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 02:54 AM
15

"Thats just my personality"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 09:33 AM
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Its true they obsessed with size but NOT about a the pleasure of their partner. They are fixated on the length more than width too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:50 AM
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riight? like if he has to say it like that he absolutely doesn't love her. I doubt he even loves his dog. He resented her for even communicating her needs. I had a narc ex who would withdraw emotionally and affection but over the top shower his cat with "LovE" . Its all an act to diminish and dehumanise his partner. The narc sees their possessions as extensions of themselves and so can easily show thier pet affection because they rarely if never talk back, express boundaries or needs, have diffe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/21 06:04 AM
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My only criticism is that is IS normal to struggle to get and maintain an erection in your 20s. ED is normal because excessive porn use of men in there 20s is the norm. Its not healthy, its not optimum, and its way too normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 02:10 PM
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well...thats a pretty damning graph
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 02:57 PM
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you put down a boundary and he clearly couldn't deal, this is classic case of the rubbish taking itself out and a totally organic vetting process. Its sucks that at the time you felt sad, but the only "chemistry" he was missing was the fact that you weren't a push over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 02:41 PM
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Even though I can appreciate a TW at the begging of reading or watching something traumatic/ graphic, and I appreciate that this small change is a sign of empathy and care for others mental health, I completely agree that its a very easy target and low hanging fruit for narcissistic personalities exploit for attention and easy egg- shell layering which as we all know is a a narcissist's bread and butter. The term "triggered " has been polluted and over saturated its turned into a tool of manipul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:54 PM
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this reminds me of a post i read on reddit ages ago, it was from a divorced husband that was exclaiming about how much better his life is after the divorce because he is so much happier living in his truck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:34 PM
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This brought back a memory of being about 9 or 10 in a "sex education" class in school. The teacher asks the class to raise there hands and contribute a different word for the female and male sex organs. I remember being HORRIFIED and so uncomfortable witnessing the amount of boys taking glee and pleasure in excitement as they all raised there hands "one upping" eachother with dirty and degrading words for vaginas most i had never heard, I think the teacher was shocked and put a stop to this cla…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 01:54 AM
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womens self help : how to get a man mens self help : how to get a Lamborghini and a pool and a helicopter and money lots of money so I can have sex with "gold diggers" finally! society has been tipped on its head with this mentality, since the early civilisations re writing and edited older history to eventually mould a society that agrees that women belong to men and are bad/ untrustworthy/ sinners because bible even atheists are living in a society that has been largely shaped bu religion. Eve…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 01:38 AM
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Haha Joke of reddit? Do you realise Reddit is the joke of the real world? Honestly there was a creepy dude at this Bar I was at, and one of his friends apologised for him to me and said "sorry about my creepy friend, I don't actually know him that well, he's a friend of a friend and he's in reddit a lot" Like someone being outed as a redditor IRL is like saying "hes a toxic creepy misogynist" Soo being the "most toxic r/" is actually an indication that its not toxic at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 06:32 AM
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Dear Random Guy, Being scrote-less is the happiest Ive ever been, the only time i recall being lonely and unhappy is when, Ive been in a relationship with an emotionally crippled man-baby, with anger management issues, porn addiction and zero life admin skills or ability to take any level of care for themselves. And this is the normal bar for relationships. You're power to scare women with the notion of being "lonely (man-less)" is done. its over. it doesn't work anymore. it just makes you look …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 06:25 AM
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Just wanna say. Yes. You are the hero.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 03:05 PM
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true facts
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 04:05 AM
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looks like a Burning Man rapist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:15 AM
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he's baiting her into an argument that he can accuse her of being irrational and jealous and will twist it around so its her fault for driving her into the arms of another. He's been using this poor woman to feel a illusory sense of importance and power that he is deeply lacking, because he's emotionally void. i hope she gets outta there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 09:12 AM
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these bare minimums are possibly a mirage anyway. With the first one, he probably cared about his pleasure more and a dry vag is not gon feel good for him either. With the second one, he probably kust had a fap-a-thon being home alone while she was out and didn't have it in him. Spun it the next day for easy brownie points. This seams more likely seeing as these women seam so overjoyed at some bare minimum shit, just seams like they are trying way too hard to convince the world that there bf is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 11:08 AM
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what the fuck. buy 2 cars you dingus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 09:20 AM
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Jenny Jenny Jenny, check yourself before you wreck yourself hon. That was NOT witchy- queen behaviour. That was desperate, clingy and utterly pointless. Scarf-boy would have actually walked away from that feeling like a real "heArt bReAkeR" ( standard compliment for men) because you literally handed over the last scrap of power and dignity you had left. If a guy ghosts you: solution is, problem already solved the trash up and disappeared into thin air. If you ever come across them IRL again, rem…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 05:33 AM
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hes like a stupid tom cat trying to spray his anal glands at your new place and mark his territory. And also would have probably given an oscar award winning speach about his mistakes blah blah miss you blah blah how he feels around you blah blah some plus he would have done or said something to make you sentimental for the "gOoD tImEs" in an effort to have sex with you, then he would have said "goodbye" these creeps LOvE to have the "one last time" sex as many times as possible
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:14 AM
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Chore-digging, Maid-Zoned, Sex Zoned.. Mommyzoned SideZoned
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 02:11 PM
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I used to be the CEO of creating narratives about the budding romance of cute guy I had a crush on and Unforch I had to also feel that deep regret and humiliation at realising that it was all in my head before I truly leveled up and out of there. So just wanna say I loved your raw honesty in this post, I totally feel for you but I can also tell you have a sense of humour about it too and it made me smile in solidarity with you. You're not pathetic its just misdirected creativity and potential im…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 10:28 AM
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Funny thing is if he got his way he'd most likely flop under the pressure of having two women to please. And if he watched her with another man spiral into inadequacy depression
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:48 AM
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Yeah I found a similar thing when my eyes were open I had an urge to push FDS on friends who ids say are now recovering pickmes. But I can honestly say just confidently and unapologetically stating your values and standards (such as block delete etc) and not pushing any of your own agenda on anyone is effective and stressless way of adopting FDS principals and doing it at your own pace and to what level you are comfortable with. Remember pickme programming is bloody hard to break out of, and you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:52 AM
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when your self esteem is so low you require validation from "THe BoYs". Cooking/ cleaning / feeding them beer from your own hard earned cash as a security that he doesn't cheat on you?? And then trying to spread this strategy like you've cracked some fucking code on how to get male attention and validation?? Holyfuckingpickme batman! I think this variety of pickme needs it own name. Pickwendy ? (Peter Pan and Lost Boys vibe) Also has Snow White and 7 dwarves vibe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:43 AM
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that first comment boils my blood. Its insinuating that she is sooo materialistic and shallow for caring about the quality of the gift. When the quality of the gift IS a symbol of the relationship. If her bf is going to gift her cheap worthless shit that in no way indicates that he is deep and non- materialistic. If he were he wouldn't bother buying anything and would show his love in other meaningful ways. Basically he opens the door for materialistic gestures of love/ romance and cares more ab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:32 AM
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Fucking "Love Languages" are a hoax. Seriously they need to go, its complete bullshit, unhelpful in communication and essentially the bible for enablers and bare minimalists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 06:08 AM
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Things in this post that I hated: "down there". "private area" what are you a child? . "labia kind of big, but beautiful" patronising. . "and thats the truth" Why are you trying to convince so hard? "coochie" ... wow so cute ..... "now she keeps it waxed" oh ok clearly Pubic hair is not beautiful, got it. " Am I the only one..?" yep, your special medal is being minted right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 03:24 PM
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interpret this as the usual aka this is relationship norm. Next up from him will be "you knew what you were getting into" "stop trying to change me" "accept me for me" "its just my personality" Which is fine, but just end that bin fire. A guy like this is looking for a temporary gf that accepts bare minimum applies no pressure. I also get the feeling that if he does feel an upsurge of mood and libido he gonna dump her immediatly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 02:59 PM
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more tragic than Romeo & Juilet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 05:46 AM
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It inflates their ego, and then they have a fleeting sense of confidence that they will use to hit on a woman out if their league, if successful they will pump and dump/ treat badly because of built up resentment towards women out if their league. The lie about it being such a "tUrN On" is purely sold to women who have lower self esteem because they are easy target, its literally like an eco system of lvm upping their body count. a toxic eco system. Men need to make the first move, only after no…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 03:47 AM
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its so good! I think narcs are proud of being "Narcissists" lets reframe it more accurately. The Loser. After all they have no ability to self regulate self esteem and so spend every waking moment over compensating for the sinking realisation that they are in fact losers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 03:02 PM
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I sincerely hope that within a year time there is a tipping point where all the apps are exclusively LVM paying premium $$ to swipe through bots and onlyfans/ selling adverts. Leaving HVM to IRL, and LVM out of our reality because they are preoccupied with the "talking stage" with AI.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 02:13 PM
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"notallmen" is the most toxic piece of gaslighting garbage that has ever been hashtagged. Women and survivors have been trying to let this very obvious and simple fact of DV rates be known and its constantly being stifled and derailed deliberately. There is no more point to bringing awareness to something that ALL men are aware of they actively try and cover it up and gaslight and threaten anyone who speaks about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 05:14 AM
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Post nut "clarity" is an example of how men see women as nothing more than an object for use/ consumption than after they have been used all thats left is the candy wrapper. This is nothing to do with having some kind of horny brain fog, that clears up after a bit a semen has spurted out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/04/21 04:31 AM
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The scariest of men are these. The nice guy routine is a very convincing and clever act to disguise their true self who is a disgusting monster. I dated a type like this and I totally understand the shock. The cognitive dissonance of having felt what in your heart was genuine love and remembering it clearly but then the flood of fear and shock remembering when the mask slipped and the true monster underneath was revealed. My heart goes out to you. 💗 Did you ever have any small alarm bells before…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:16 PM
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This sounds like you are right in the middle of the up hill final stretch before the summit. But you are right you are dealing with all of the responsibility of adulthood and looking at his easy breezy childlike life and its fucked because hes not a child hes and adult. However I think you have already known this and everyone who isa mature adult will agree, that even though it has its moments (like these) by and large being an adult who can actually do these things is far more satisfying, liber…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 03:58 PM
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Wtf. Not so you didn't have to go through the pain, so you couldn't use it against him? what a fucking turd. Sounds like He's the one who would revel in the opportunity to use his pain to win arguments totally pathetic. Im sorry you had to put up with that clown.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 06:03 AM
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Even the hottest dudes start to diminish in attractiveness as soon as you witness what they laugh at and what they think is funny... it can go from 10/10 hot to 0 in a matter of seconds. Or even attractive man starts speaking about his GF in a way that is shudder and you just feel bad for her because you know the physical attraction is making her settle for a very lack lustre relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:45 AM
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Part Of Me Still Loves You ( But Im not trying to get back together with you) We Both Made Mistakes (Ive Changed) When Can We Be Friends Again? Sorry, That Text Was Meant For Someone Else Ft. How Are You? You're a Bitch and Nobody Will Ever Love You
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:18 AM
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I wonder if the "single/spinster with a cat" trope is just the modern day residue of witch hunts and witch trials that are just an expression of mens deep rooted fear of independent women Plus i just want to add that on my breif excursion to the swipe apps 80% are "proud single doggo dads" like why does that make a man a hero and a single women with a cat has such a negative stigma?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:57 AM
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I have a similar mother, She divorced and remarried by the time I had turned 1. Her new husband was from a church cult, and was an abuser, but he was very popular in church very charming and good looking, so she let him get away with anything meanwhile accusing my father of being the devil, and ensuring he had zero custody. She had another child with new husband and left the country to go to see the cult leader of her new church. She left me behind at 3 years old and had no plans of returning bu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 04:31 AM
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FDS women energy is smart, funny, wise,HOT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 03:54 AM
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The conclusion I've arrived at is that men have all been equally bad/ average/ mediocre in bed, and that I am great in bed and have been solely responsible for whether the sex is good or not. When left to there own devices men absolutely dont try and be anything in bed. They just use you as a sleeve to masturbate with focusing in what feels for them and if they are slightly more considerate than the average guy they will try to not cum straight away... which usually means stopping suddenly befor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 03:42 AM
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That made me so sad, I can't wipe this frown off my face. Its exactly what Ive always known but what NOBODY admits! Its disgusting. Men are Pigs. They are born entitled little pig babies, that literally focus their whole lives on degrading and hating women and using their penis as a weapon to carry out violence towards, girls and women all because of what? They were rejected? Did they come into this world with some promise that they can and should have any women they want? and when they dont get…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:34 AM
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If you are in a cafe or bar or any establishment let staff or management know that you are being creeped on, they will handle it for you, (i used to manage a venue and It gave me great pleasure kicking out creeps but I really needed to have received a complaint before in allowed to refuse service and ask a creeper to leave. When I did get a complaint I would be very cautious about making sure the creep didn't retailiate or know who complained about them, and Just plainly ask them to leave, that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 03:10 AM
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If wholesome, sensual, loving, considerate, respectful is the Vanilla Icecream of sex. Then "breath play" HanDcuFfS , ""rApe FantacY""" etcs is The Bubblegum icecream of sex. Imo. Bubblegum is a shit icecream flavour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 04:28 PM
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Oh My Grossness. Aside from clearly being a pickmesha on crack and showcasing wifey/forever gf material, his house was so filthy she probably had to clean it to bring herself to f*ck him in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 03:13 AM
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Pornography has turned sexuality into a toxic industrial product. 100% accurate. the porn i have come across through ex bfs and other internet sites like TPB pre- adblocker has always just put me off sex. Its gross, cheap, nasty, and tacky. And it does for my sexual appetite what vomit does to my food appetite. Its upsetting because I think sex or making love can be so beautiful romantic sensual passionate and exciting but all of those elements are sucked out and whats left is tasteless gruel. K…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 09:27 AM
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do these commenters actually see the truth of what happening and just stick there neck out for a complete random stranger on the internet and join in in the gaslighting like a narcissist anonymous pay it fwd cult type sitch?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:44 PM
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because duh you should be so lucky to have any man right? the lion the witch and the audacity of this bitch
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 07:39 PM
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" Creating backstories for other people. " I can relate to that so hard! Its so awesome you placed your finger on that as a trap!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/21 01:44 AM
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wow i didn't know that. I wish i did everytime DV is brought up some cowboy rides into the discussion with the "men have higher suicide rates" argument as if that is some silver bullet proof that men have harder lives. Without any reason or logic just like duh! see proof men have it harder. end of discussion. I always associate it with the rate of mens murder suicide rates. I think ever man who committed suicide after being caught as a rapist or murderer should be scrapped from the suicide stati…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 07:44 AM
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Ok This question just reminded me of something a old ex security guard ex military man taught me once in a Bar in far northern queensland. So basically its called "small joint manipulation" You wont learn it in any martial art training because it's illegal and breaks the rules, but its what every woman should know because its doesn't take any strength or size to defeat an attacker. Basically the moves involve grabbing the attacker finger with your entire hand and pushing it backwards- (check out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 12:03 AM
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lol men are such snowflakes. Anything that reminds them of the other uses of vagina and breasts (childbirth and feeding) makes them insane with jealousy, resentment, rage, entitlement and disgust. They can not deal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:49 PM
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Male entitlement is like a bad smell that you stop noticing from being immersed in it for so long. So this just STUNK.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:32 PM
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In my past experiences i noticed that the urge to break contact had some correlation to my cycles, each mth of not giving in it was weaker and weaker after 3 mths the urge was gone and what replaced it was an feeling of pride strength and relief that i hadn't given them the satisfaction and i knew that what inwas feeling was far more satisfying than whatever downward spiral contacting them would have achieved. this is just my experience and every one could be different and different things can a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 12:18 PM
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Its sounds like what you are experiencing is peptide addition. Its the cells in you body craving the rush of hormones that are linked to the NVM. These are usually a cocktail of stress hormones and dopamine which creates a particularly addictive cocktail. This is basically what trauma bonding is and why its really hard for women to leave abusive relationships. There is hope tho! I find that once you can get an objective perspective on that's happening (you are having withdrawals from a drug your…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 01:34 AM
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comments like "r u ok" after ive made my point with vigour. Having any brazen opinion will get a "why are you so angry, so outside and touch some grass " After answering a question and adding my opinion "you could have answered that without attacking op, .. so unnecessary" all over reddit there are scrotes policing a women's tone with the same un original gaslighting crap. After blocking every who responds someone i blocked sent through reddit an emergency "someone on reddit you have blocked is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:52 PM
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all the relationships i ever had were shit. I was never happy in them, just bending over backwards trying to make them happy, and they drained all my life force, creativity and potential. In the times I was single friends and family always say crap like "you'll find someone" "it will happen" "you wont be single forever" "you're a catch" "someone would be lucky to have you " blah blah all said in a well meaning way and encouraging way, but it's actually fucked and just re-enforces the standard of…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 02:18 PM
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the cat gets it at least
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:18 PM
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Drinking..exasperates..his...sleepwalking? Holy Moly. No honey. just no. Its called being a gross pig who doesn't care where he pisses because hes that drunk. He has a drinking problem, and a character deficit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 06:59 AM
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ICONIC
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 04:50 AM
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Thank you SO much for sharing. When I started reading that you ex literally sounded exactly like my first bf, whom I was with for 3 mths, but I was just a rebound and being used to make another girl jealous. But I was 4 years younger that him, cooked for him, shopped, waited on him, bought him alcohol ad cigarettes (he didn't have a job) I thought he was so coo because of the music he liked and he was a musician. He dumped me after he kept getting drunk late night calls from the other girl, so o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 01:31 AM
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You had that sick feeling in your gut, when you knew what you had to do, even though you were scared and dreading it. You did it. You finally stood up for you, you did one of the hardest things to do ever. You are so brave for that, and you can thank yourself for it. Past you you didn't leave deserves forgiveness and compassion, she was in the depths of a toxic relationship and trying to navigate her way out. She got you were you needed to be and your intuition was communicating with you and hel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:34 PM
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I dont want over prescribe or anything but there is a really good clinical psychologist on youtube called Dr. Ramani. She perfectly describes the feelings of fog and confusion after ending a relationship with someone like this (narcissistic abuse trauma is her field of expertise) I find her to be so understanding and able to make sense of what was senseless- and when she details the kind of common feeling and confusions that come with this it can really hit home and make you feel truly seen and …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 03:05 PM
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Girl I got vertigo reading all of that. Damn. I have been there almost to the letter. Pleeeeeese. Pleeeese, do not blame yourself. Im saying this while I know when I was there I too, blamed myself. Horrendously. I got through the suicidal depression, I forgave myself because you have to and with time you will get more and more clarity on why this is not your fault, rather its your talents and strengths that were being exploited and had gone unchecked because you had belief in the inherent good i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:30 PM
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🤦‍♀️ 🤦‍♀️ 🤦‍♀️ that was me. Down to the pasta, the delusion that it meant something, the bad, rushed, entitlement sex. the ghosting after. The guy i found out later rinsed and repeated this move on tinder dates, like it was his fucking MO. match, say 'hey i making my famous pasta tonight want to come over for dinner' this appears to be more wholesome than the OtHeR gUys. Pumps- Dumps. Next. His male friends think it's brilliant, woah what a genius. This BS is what was the final straw for me, My …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 02:13 AM
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This guy is fucked in the head. His wording is so fucking bizarre it's hurting my brain. ..she procrastinating with the folding... probably doesn't enjoy it... WE have to run it back through the dryer? WE? i doubt that is a two person job. Ive offered to help with simultaneous folding ? But she pushes it back still... ..She makes sure to say thankyou.. Its no big deal to me... It reads like hes selling his wife like you would sell some used item on a trading post like ' some scratches in ok cond…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 04:55 PM
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I totally agree with you and would like to add, that from what ive seen in films, media, documentaries etc Those most vulnerable sex workers sell there bodies for access to drugs that they have a debilitating addiction to, they can be extremely sick, malnourished and not in any way shape or form "sexy" or "empowered" but still find work, and when there is a male/female couple it's more often the female who sells her body to buy drugs for the both of them. Young men also will selling there bodies…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:43 PM
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She got a Hopium problem. Shes been with the tumour of a "man" for 12 years and her health is deteriorating because of it. If shes asking reddit what to do about it it just is crushing because there is only one thing she needs to do, surgically removed him from her entire experience, she must know it. her intuition would be screaming it. Yet this self blame and co dependance (this is a result of 12 years of gaslighting- not her fault) is still running the show. I hope she sees the light and just…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 01:10 PM
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plus the phrase "starfish" is disgusting. This term I first heard when I was still in high school (14 yo) Its was foul locker- room male gossip about girls who they had had sex with and then would rate her as "star fish" or not. This was 17- 18 yo boys taking the virginities 15 - 16 year old girls and then deciding to not actually have a. relationship with because they were "star fish". At the time i had no idea how fucked up it was and just knew that starfish =bad . In retrospect these girls we…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 11:42 AM
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"when he tries to have sex with his OWN gf" Why is that got such a specifically gross feel to it. I mean the whole post is garbage, but the wording there gave me the chills and I knew exactly what kind of vile and pathetic dullard this guy is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/04/21 08:19 AM
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what the fuck is he whinging about? How hard it is for him to pretend to not be a loser? Sorry but yeah go ride your bike and then have a toss, the rest of us women will be juuuuust fine without you and your dates
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:09 AM
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Yes. JP had this youtube algorithm preference a few years back it was CONSTANTLY in recommended videos like I think he must have paid or something but the title was "JP DESTROYS Feminism in 15 minutes" Or some crap, its got like millions of views- was clearly clickbait for TRP and he takes this pseudo intellectual approach that really appeals to dumb ass men who want to be misogynistic but want to appear all noble and intelligent about it. Its gross he's gross, huge red flag. Ive tried watching …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 09:04 AM
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I have friends that are similar in that, they have the same values fundamentally but there is this wall up where so many are really reluctant to be perceived as a "b#tch" like they will lay boundaries but also do it while walking on eggshells, and carefully crafted wording so they still come across of "cool" and understanding of men's emotions prefacing statements with "i dont hate men but" and im over here not giving a shit if someone thinks im a stone cold bi#tch. I know who I care about, I kn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:53 AM
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100% Agree. FDS is the thorn in the side of this misogynistic site. Cackles wildly under full moon
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:36 AM
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They need to stop saying golddigger, and say gasdigger, mealdigger, coffeedigger. Bro, you haven't got any gold, any kingdom, or any title. You have 10's of dollars and are sitting on a pile of dirty laundry, not gold. Get the fuck outta here. The positive is at least if some scrote dumps a girl for being a "golddigger" then happy days she didn't waste another moment on a LVM and he did all the leg work and removed himself. win win
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 08:32 AM
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People go broke, dicks go limp, men die earlier than women especially when they dont have one looking after them. But I think most importantly when you have a ugly and insufferable character (like this guy) as time goes on you will end up with no family, friends, and be empty, boring, and useless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 07:12 AM
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I think a lot of men know when they an "excusable" cheating opportunity and they take it every. time. This actually came up recently- I was out celebrating with a friend and we stayed out really late- a guy tryed to make moves on me but i had mad him confess that he had a gf. I drilled him as to why he is hitting on me. He then brought up his sex life with gf being non existent and a recent illness in his family that was hard because of a death in family that effected only the recently ill perso…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:23 AM
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Holy shite. What a colossal turd. Diagnosis = He is allergic to empathy, She is allergic to his sperm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:09 AM
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thanks for listening to my mini rant/vent I really appreciate it JippityB xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:41 PM
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its a sorta a miracle that we didn't get snatched, my mum was pretty religious cult-y and probably thought her preyers were all the protection we needed, which is sickening in itself. We needed an adult to give a crap about our wellbeing. Also my older sister was a bully and would make me sit next to strangers/ give our tickets over/ get us snacks and water and generally treated me like her slave
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:12 PM
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Also i did a comment on youtube calling him out as being the male version of a "not like the other girls" due to his fun vintage shirts and nose ring lol I got instantly swarmed with his flock telling me to TaKe A JoKe and CaLm DoWn etc etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 12:00 PM
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maybe you dad will have second thoughts when bubbles becomes a horny tom cat spraying all iver the place and coming home with serious injuries from cat fights that will cost a fortune in vet bills not to mention feline HIV that is mostly commonly transmitted through cats fighting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 03:22 AM
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The patriarchy is a cult. The internet gives their true feelings and intentions away. Also on an aside, the whole "whattabout your daughter/ mother/sister" rationale to get through to vile men is a waste of fucking time im SO sick of it. We ALL need to stop this. All men have mothers, this clearly isn't a deterrent for disgusting treatment of women. Daughters are abused by fathers, sisters are abused by brothers, Married men cheat of their wives constantly. Every time someone tries to make a man…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:47 AM
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👀☠️☠️⚰️⚰️ I cant. please god please let her be being sarcastic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:18 AM
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He'Ll Be OuT PasT 10! CaLl CPS! or you could go and pick him up and he would be in bed by 10. This is particularly upsetting because my lazy father lived an 1.5 drive away from me when i was 8 - 9 years old, every access weekend Me an my sister (11yo) were put on a rural train without any adult, I was so scared every time. apparently an hour and half drive was too much of a pain in the ass for my dad, and my mum also had to look after my 2 younger sisters and would always just make a point to us…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 02:10 AM
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F*ck me. She's seriously just hitting the TIP of the iceberg with this compulsive lying sack of shit. Lordy. I hope she gets free from him but unforch if they divorced she will inherit half his debt, that absolute scumbag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 01:59 AM
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jinkies! She definitely believes her own spiel and she is clearly traditional enough that she's waiting for him to propose. 100% Guaranteed the so called Christian fiancé to be is living in allll sorts of sin, and is a garden variant of LVM cowering behind Christianity
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 01:52 AM
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Translation: I have feelings for a Woman for who she is. I am also emotionally crippled and cant be with a woman long term unless she is submissive and my bandmaid because my im sick with an extreme fragile masculinity. Based on some things I know about men past there 30s especially ones that have made a career out of partying and and binge drinking I would bet that his "sickness" is is related to that, and hes not allowed to drink while he's getting tests done, and therefore cant date or meet w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 01:25 AM
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woah that was draining my soul to read such a thought out, sound, thorough, well articulated wall of text calmly explain to this guy, and see his response. UGH. Pearls at pigs ladies... pearls at pigs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/21 01:10 AM
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yes i came across that vid during a youtube danny/ kurtis/ drew phase and I was put off, i knew there was something a bit on the nose about their virtue signalling being feminist allies. Its purely to double their followings and not land in cancel culture territory- also like how they do "i react to my old video " videos- it's damage control to get ahead of it before it comes out, they in the very least are possibly socially engineering their male followers that treating women like humans is soO…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 07:16 PM
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You rule, so glad that you made the right decision and cut him off so quickly. You will not regret that. im living for that queen energy and those solid boundaries babe. Hes a rootrat and always will be, if he was a good HVM actor its a bittersweet blessing you caught him before marriage. Your worth and value far exceeds anything he will ever amount to. hugs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:44 PM
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when they cut you off mid sentence to pay you a compliment like "you have amazing eyes" and you realise they weren't listening to you. Trying to shut you up and get down to the sexy flirty talk, then if you dont thanks them they tell you "you need to learn how to take a compliment", or some other gaslighting bs. You know what is a compliment? when a man has the decency to actually participate in a conversation with you without out zoning out and wondering how long till mahpenus gets wet
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:19 PM
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nawww, thanks for the wholesome content! love this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 06:07 PM
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ewwwwwww grossss. sHes yOunger ThaN me and Is More suCseesfhL no FAIRSIES! Inadequate men will scrape the barrel for excuses for thier inadequacies being someone else's problem and use what ever brain cells they have acquired in old age to legitimise and rationalise their pathetic behaviour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 04:13 PM
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I remember my first ever exposure to the idea of VR was from the movie 1992 lawnmower man. I was like woah that will be the future- and imagine what kind of advancements technology will be capable of- but even in the movie it boils down to sex and war. Now its 2021, VR is widely accessible and all the advancement of the human race always comes down to porn and military. Sex and Violence. This is a gender imbalance issue. This is a toxic Patriarchy that can't move past it's insatiable appetite fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 03:37 AM
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comments section ; let me just eggshell around the worst crime known to man (kink shaming) The reality is that her boyfriend is probably a sociopath/psychopath and will escalate to murder and necrophilia within is life until he gets caught
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 03:23 AM
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lmao This is gold class comedy! So rich! Exquisite! Can I still have no strings attached sex, use women as a cumdump, and think about signing up to a full time bandmaid to look after me later? Coz if not - No Fairseys! I'll show them! I'll remove myself from the dating pool and these women who want more than mediocre ONS will be SOooRrY ! bahahaha. what a legend. so funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/21 03:19 AM
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Men who have low sexual impulse control are the opposite to manly. It is really unattractive. They seam immature, animalistic and weak. I remember when I was an out of control teen, throwing myself at this older guy that I liked, even though i barely knew him, (huge pickmesha) and he could have easily just had his way and ghosted - he was actually so nice and told me he had a gf and that I was too young for him and he drove me and my friends home after we had snuck out to make sure we were safe.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 03:30 PM
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After reading an earlier post containing screenshots of FDS superfans, I was surprised to see the equivocation of a woman vetting and choosing whom she would actually accept as a suitable father for her children with eugenics. I can report the sensation of my mind being squeezed down as I tried to comprehend this persons point of view. Edit: Im heartbroken by your story. Im so sorry you had to go through that. I hope you are doing alright, thankyou for sharing. x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 11:56 AM
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this reminds of of neckbeard nests a place to go when u want to see what most redditors live like
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 01:11 AM
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Im I alone in that in my experience (with LTR porn sick men) They can last longer when Im not enjoying it or at least keeping a lid on my own enjoyment, and the second I start to really get into to, take more control, become more vocal they are all "stop stop stop" because they are about to bust prematurely. And im like WOW you can go fOr sO loooooonG* * if i pretend to not exist
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:20 AM
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If this guy actually gave a shit about his own appearance and worked on his presentation, self care, and sense of fashion even 1/2 as hard as a women is expected to he would probably easily have this imaginary dream women. I can only conclude that his self reflection in his personality is off the mark and he has zero self awareness, and 100% debilitating entitlement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 03:19 AM
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I liked kurtis at first but then i watched a video he did that was essentially hanging shit on girls who act like they "not like the other girls" and basically categorising traits that are stereotypical "quirky" girl type tropes and it basically was an awkward shaming and roasting girls for trying to be different but that they were really just basic pretending to be different. And it was just off. I personally hate the "basic bitch/ bad bitch/ quirky girl and think they are just like updated slu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:19 AM
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Exactly! Ive always seen the patriarchy as a conceded effort to oppress women in often blatant fear- based reaction. Men are definitely not in power because of natural leadership qualities or brute strength and logic prevailing, but scrambling knee jerk defensive terror at the idea that A Woman could be in charge of anything. Its like deep routed fear. Must come from somewhere. I think women are far more qualified for leadership and decision making and handling power. Women make better warriors,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 03:38 AM
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Be careful Pickme if you start enjoying it He won't be into it for much longer..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:39 AM
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Ive heard the word "freegan" refer to vegans that only consume animal products if they were going to be thrown out anyway. But, I do like this idea I would like to have a casual label to use for the fact that I dont consume porn. and would love it if it was more normal and people didn't just assume that im lying and am ashamed. It flat out true, I dont find it appealing, the people are gross and it puts me off the whole act, i find its such a cheapened representation of sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 03:05 PM
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congratulations! your future is bright. You are an inspiration. You deserve someone as loving and caring as you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 02:39 PM
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sit back relax and watch him unravel. Do not break NC. But you will see a new side to him so be prepared. A lesser talked about tactic of "hoovering" ( hoovering being basically love bomb round 2) is the Cryptic message. Be on alert for this, because you might break NC out of sheer curiosity. Dont fall for it examples: one word messages, a message that looks like it was meant for someone else, maybe just a picture or a link without any words, Basically its like the click bate of text messages, l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/21 02:36 PM
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You can grieve the loss of the Man you had hoped, imagined, projected he was. I remember feeling the same way once. The reality is this guy and the guy you wanted him to be are not the same entity. So morn the phantom but don't confuse the two.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:29 AM
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nice guy = overly persistent creep with no self awareness
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:18 AM
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I think they have learned how to vet HVW by only dating women who accept coffee/walk/drink dates because they just want to have sex asap and and STR ideally with no commitment just the "see where it goes routine" until the woman either gives up because the sex is rubbish anyway, or has "the talk" and he says "i dont know what I want" and attempts to keep her in reserve and will keep using the app the whole time to line up next coffee/ walk/ drinks date. This is what men use OLD for
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 10:01 AM
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Its honestly such a joke, The only justice I got was watching him lie to 10+ police that then handcuffed him and put him in the back of a police van 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:46 AM
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his wallet be rich but his words a cheap
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 12:44 AM
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eww this was funny until he said he should have found her a therapist before he left! That cat has been and will make her 10X happier than this fucking foul loser, who's threatened by a cool and chill cat. Labelling her with an obsession with cat that needs a doctors intervention, just because he cant handle that she likes her cat and cares about it as much as him! What a dunce!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 11:37 PM
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I was sexually assaulted while at work, was caught on camera, guy pled GUILTY in court after i pressed charges, and he got 6 weeks GOOD BEHAVIOR. Thats like the justice system saying hey, can you not sexually assault anyone for like at least 6 weeks? then you're good buddy! bye!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 11:27 PM
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The Past is the evidence of a pattern that becomes worth bringing up only when it has become a pattern. Otherwise the excuse would be "it was one time!" so you wait until its multiple times, then the excuse is "let it go stop bringing up the past" if you just summerise the behavior, "when did I do that, give me one example" followed by "it was one time" or "let it go it was in the past" so you can avoid bringing something up all together, in hopes that they already know and have reflected on pas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 05:21 AM
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True, I was making a pretty sweeping statement. OP definitely not expecting too much from friends, but still good well meaning friends might be tone deaf on this issue if they haven't lived it themselves and being vulnerable and trying to explain to them could leave OP feeling worse. I have had experience similar with a very supportive boss at work helping me with narc ex showing up at my work and my boss had my back fully and was really great, but said this one comment along the lines of " its …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 05:28 PM
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If someone hasn't experienced it they wont get it. Full stop. Its not that they dont care about you. Its just one of those things, unless you have been through an abusive, head fuck, emotional, psychological trauma relationship. You will not understand it. You will only alienate them by trying to explain it. chances are you will know at least someone who gets it. I would only confide in friends that have been through something similar
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 02:48 AM
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from my experience, and from all the research ive poured hours of time into, victims of narc abuse are usually co dependent and trauma bonded to abuser, and therefore there relationship with the abuser is on par with a severe drug addiction like heroin. Its counter intuitive, logic and reason won't work, or any other method of banging on about how bad this person is for them. You want to be careful to not actually push them away by trying to help. They will choose the abusive person over you 99%…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 02:42 AM
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I reckon guys who call themselves "nice guys" are clingy and desperate, they have zero preferences of what they like about a women, dont get to know different things and discern what really vibes with them and dont have distinctive reason for liking particular women. They just think most men=bad me= nice I buy flowers, and give chocolate and say compliments so me =good ALL females should like me, if not they deserve to be beaten/ abused/ murdered Women have lack of options because men = bad, so …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 05:13 AM
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omg the set up in that. what a series of unfortunate events... I tripped over and my dick fell in between these two chicken fillets, and after i was on the ground already I thought oh maybe i should get a couple of pushups in (because the gym was closed that day) .. 🤥
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 05:03 AM
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male attention span is micro. You could be riding a unicycle and have 3 boobs and they will only be enthralled for a minute before checking their snaps for more scantily clad girls
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/21 05:00 AM
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If you are in a relationship and it feels off, or you dont feel like he loves you or cares about you. DUMP HIM. DUMP HIM. DUMP HIM. Dont wait for him to string you along breadcrumbing/ cheating/ using you as bandmaid/ to eventually dump you. You will kick yourself for not dumping him years earlier when you felt something was off
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 12:25 AM
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This "Rule" Has never been mentioned on here. Obviously its some fantasy that a bunch of jobless hobbit mirco penises made up to cope with how inadequate they are and feel Anyway if there wasss a rule it would be 1. taller then me 2.can get hard, stay hard, and knows where a clitoris is is financially self sufficient and after ✅ these boxes MAYBE - M A Y B E - would agree to a date. Those arn't high standards. those are bare minimum low- ish standards that I agree men feel threatened by.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 12:01 AM
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Ok this just came to me; What if he just cloned his favourite artist and programmed them to like him? why else would these women be with such an freaky uggo dork boy?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 02:17 AM
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My values aligned with FDS principles before finding this sub, after being used by a LVM who was shithouse and selfish at sex, to the point where I realised that although a have a desire for intimacy and connection with a Man, No Man has ever delivered anything but, lies, abuse, manipulation, and disrespect. The "best" men Ive ever been with were leading a double life and lied to get ME to commit and open my heart to them. The worst men have just raped me. I kept rolling the dice on men thinking…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 03:19 PM
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Oh please. These women are kidding themselves. They aren't even remotely attracted to their partners. Bypassing and suppressing there own emotions and intuition. And Protek his fragile widdle feewingz by not letting him know you are watching porn to get in the mood while by and large mens rights to extremely degrading porn and indulging in routine fappathons are completely normalized and totally out of bounds to ever have ANY issue with. What a fucking joke
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 01:57 PM
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Block.Delete. No Contact. Go somewhere safe. I know that its NOT easy. Its more like getting clean from a drug addiction.BUT the clarity will be worth it. I PROMISE. You can do this. You deserve better than this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:54 PM
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elon musk is a freaky robot or alien, and his new wife is probably a really expensive state-of-the-art robot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 02:59 AM
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Spitting is assault. Im sorry that this happened to you. I once was in my car late at night at red light when a car pulled up next to me, full car, they rolled down the windows, all yelling and cat calling, I kept my head facing forward, too scared to look, and then they ALL started getting angry and spitting, my window covered and was dripping with spit. Its was terrifying and disgusting. They then sped off when the light turned and I could finally see them, Men in there 40s - 50s At LEAST. I w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:51 AM
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If a guy has a split personality and changes into another person when really drunk (there is ALWAYS one in every group of male friends, and they will use this guy as their court jester) RUN A MILE. These guys are the ones who piss and shit themselves regularly, and rape unconscious girls and always have "no memory" of the drunken self. They are dr jeckle/ mr hyde
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/03/21 12:31 AM
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Ive never been more repulsed by men than the past two days - two separate occasions first- was in mcdonald's late at night waiting for uber home after work- straight white guy in preppy clothing with two girls also quite chic looking - all three were REALLY drunk, The girls were stumbling but managed to work the self serve touch screen to order fries, the guy started unzipping his cargo shorts and pulled out his dick, shouting "where is the toilet" slurring his words and storming around like an …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:55 PM
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MeN CaNt ThInK FOr TheMsELVeS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:14 PM
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HUGE HUG Im really happy for you, and proud and inspired by your strength and fortitude in your desire for happiness and freedom from all that crap. You are WELL in your way now, so congratulations 🥳 lots of love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/03/21 02:12 PM
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FDS is literally the antithesis of reddit and its kind of funny and ironic that it exists on here, and also is satisfying knowing that we are exposing the truth and therefore attract so much attention. FDS is the 🐝 in the man- baby bonnet that is reddit. on every turn i make the amount of upvoted comments that are low brow- rape/incest humour is embarrassing. Im not even shocked by it anymore it's basically main stream humour on here to mention a dick at every single opportunity. The hilarious p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 12:07 AM
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Im really impressed! Its so true, about the baby steps, we all are allowed to learn at our own pace and its the mistakes themselves that ARE the lesson. I can totally feel your queen boss civil engineering energy and its stunning. lots of love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:49 PM
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Good on you! And if your ex is here, Hello, you are a dumb asshole and you should fuck off and get a life, loser! hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 08:12 AM
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I tend to agree even though I have male friends. Ive learned over the years that men don't have such thing as a "Friend Zone" They straight up dont make friends with women they wouldn't sleep with. They can make good friends when they understand they are in friend zone and have no resentments about that and have a healthy respect for your boundaries and know to never hit on you or try to sleep with you. In all my life of having lots of male friends, almost 50/50 women to men friends, there has n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 04:21 AM
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I get the feeling that you saying explicitly you are not looking to date anyone right now, has translated to him "challenged accepted" He is inserting his energy into you every day life, getting you used to him, fostering in you a dependence on him. You are feeling flattered, enjoying the attention and feelings of being on someone's mind, and there is nothing wrong with that at all, but yeah he's definitely DTF, and also Down to play a long game. I think red flag is that he doesn't really care a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 04:15 AM
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A divorcee woman is evidence of a mans failure on so many levels, in the very least is confronting for a man in a mans world to see evidence of a Womans strength and independence - and so the patriarchy projects its inadequacies onto women because its run by pathetic little cowards. Basically collective gaslighting to self avoid shortcomings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 03:54 AM
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I honestly think that most men see themselves as a "nice guy" and the code of conduct for a "nice" guy is to pump and dump ONLY if she is the initiator. They have to convince themselves that using a women for sex was actually doing HER a favour because she was begging for The D. If they ask a women out, its a big deal and means he want to make her his gf. Even the shyest man on earth will ask out a women if he want her exclusively. Also when mutal friends are involved the "nice guy" code is in f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 12:01 AM
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Ive started to realise that a slightly long lingering eye contact followed by a smile is basically the only "moves" that a woman should have to make. Never approach with a line or do any other gesture, its a vet in itself, that should be more than enough for a man who is interested in you (specifically) to get the green flag and start a courtship. Going beyond that and you will just be an option for him and he will convince himself you're begging for it and will use you for an easy self esteem b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 10:19 AM
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Also if you are dealing with a narcissist do not confront them with evidence of their bullshitery and don't engage in any acts of revenge no matter how justified you feel, they can really fixate on narcissistic injuries and wont rest until they feel like they "get you back" also big displays of your emotions and examples of how they have hurt you will only feed them with the drug that they are hooked on (hurting you and being a person of enough significance to you to cause you emotional pain is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 09:21 AM
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*SPOILER ALERT 🚨 * I wish she was a serial killer tho, I mean why not? Movies and TV show have zero issues with central plots being about male serial killers / rapists and as if that doesn't permeate culture and women's collective fears. Just once it would be nice to make men think, oh fuck, imagine if taking home a drunk girl was actually dangerous for ME?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:37 AM
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Can ppl stop comparing dogs to Women and Babies? It's literally a different species. And the only thing all 3 have in common is they actually dont need a man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:33 AM
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I wouldn't go for a "Talking Stage" of relationship full stop. I guarantee the texting from him is carried out as a way to entertain himself while taking a long shit, because these MFs cant handle sitting alone for any amount of time and need a constant stream of "stuff" popping up on their phone
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:28 AM
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I was thinking this the other day, Women always make the first move. Even when a man "makes the first move" its because the women made the first move. Like air traffic control flag person that waves in a landing. Women, even if its extremely subtle, ALWAYS make the first move. This is because men are like sonar constantly on searching for anything with a pulse- or even ive learned recently anything with a cushion (couch) As soon as the perceive anything as a signal to land they will approach. Re…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 08:23 AM
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Men: She should know by now that sex doesn't mean Im interested in a commitment or LTR. FDS Exists Men: FDS women are man hating fem cel hate group.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 07:57 AM
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Millennial Husbands are projecting their inadequacy issues onto Women because they are cowards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 01:58 PM
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This guy has a rapey- face. Also he could solve his women problems by fucking his hand and his couch, and eating a fries alone.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 01:54 PM
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Narcissism is the second hand smoke of mental health issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 01:47 AM
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take a break from dating or the single and looking vibe. Being deliberately single can still be an emotional rollercoster (where you go from feeling feel lonley/ happy/ free/ sad / tempted to reach out to an ex/ and all that stuff) but its a much safer arena to experience all the emotions that arise. If your normal is happy and single you are automatically guarded from settling for or getting too absorbed in a relaysh. Its like the difference between going food shopping hungry or well fed. In th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:07 PM
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This author is SUCH an Aunt Lydia!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 06:12 AM
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Its so blatantly fucking idiotic that FDS is labelled "female incels" like its a BAD thing but by the same logic defend incels as just misunderstood nice guys that vapid "staceys" should be fucking but wont because they are shallow gold diggers. Where is the back bending compassion and understanding and empathy for "female incels" Why is the word incel default definition a male? I tell you why because apparently we should have empathy for a man who cant get sex, and hatred for a women who doesn'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 03:12 AM
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What The Fuck is this absolute garbage? -Vice- more like Vile. PoorCell?? yeah sure blame your financial situation for all of your personality/character/and physical flaws. This is embarrassing journalism and Vice is an embarrassing street mag trashazine desperately trying to be "cool" . Here is a quote from Daria that reminds me of how I feel about it; "As far as I can make out, 'edgy' occurs when middle-brow, middle-age profiteers are looking to suck the energy, not to mention the spending mon…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:53 AM
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Im sorry this whole situation sounds horrible and can't wait for you to have the resources to be free of it. I believe in you. sending love xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 01:26 AM
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FDS does not prey on men, or manipulate men, or assume any entitlement of mens bodies or resources. We do not scheme or coerce. We have set the bar very high for what we will give over out time, hearts, minds and bodies to, and we know that that means we will most likely happily be single, free, self sufficient due to most men not living up to those standards. We don't push our standards on anyone,and don't advertise. We just support each other once we have found eachother, and everyone is here …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 04:27 AM
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Half way through this I became confused as to who the baby was
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:57 AM
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Porn rots the imagination. So sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:10 AM
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same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:59 AM
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I think like most of us, we came here because of bad publicity and intrigue, at first its hard to admit to being a past pickme, its hard to burst the bubble of "oh yess now i remember how shit all the men in my life treat/ed me, woah" some people do not want to have the blindfold ripped off. But no matter how much bad press FDS, those that come and see for themselves cant unsee the truth
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:56 AM
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this douchebag is way too obsessed with his goal of f#c%ing students and will most likely fail academically and / or get caught and move back with his parents after not being able to find a job, his parents resent him and he is a disappointment and shame on the entire family- he moves into the basement and gets a blow up/ pilloe doll, and lives out hus days in his neckbeard nest posting fanfic on reddit about his life as a professor that bangs 20 somthings...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:33 AM
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I LOVE HIM. Finally a Man gives real advice to other men, and it wasn't a self styles guru selling some cult- like seminar or step by step process of manipulation and gaslighting techniques that only work on vulnerable women to methodically break down every shred of self worth and identity until she can be used for sex and then discarded. I had an ex that i used to fight with about this very issue, I always said married couples stop having sex because men don't realise how to seduce a women, and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 11:47 AM
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I wish men weren't so obsessed with breasts. If you wear no bra / its too noticeable if you wear a bra / it's has to be un- noticeable If you have skin/ cleavage showing its too attention seeking if you are covered up its leaves too much to the imagination. Basically its doesn't matter what you where or dont wear men will either fill in the blanks with their imagination or go wild from exposure. plus no matter how many times they see them they are never satisfied. Then they put the onus complete…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 09:52 AM
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These losers will saying anything, a n y t h i n g a t a l l. that they thinks will get them laid and it stinks of desperation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 07:01 AM
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And just like that everything I did today means nothing. This is a dangerous way to live. She does everything she does for external reward and validation. I think a lot of people suffer to different degrees with this mind set. It is an impossible task to fulfill yourself via external validation and will leave you more and more emptied out. The symptoms will show up as depression, anxiety, brain fog, stress, chronic pain, identity loss, existential crisis, nihilism . I speak from experience. Stil…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:31 AM
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Im so sad for her doing al that and then internalizing how shit his comment made her feel that she is turning to the reddit hive for love support and validation. This marriage is probably a garbage fire and she's one or two more comments like this away from snapping and leaving his lousy ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 12:59 PM
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chefs kiss👌 this 100% Was mid lockdown submarined from a ONS mutual friend from YEARS ago. I was at my weakest and headfucked myself into thinking maybe there was something that had been there all along (cringe i know) after that night I felt so worthless and knew i would never ever fall for that level of slime ball manipulation bull shit again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 12:22 PM
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I think when you can talk about it with someone who has been there done that and can relate it the embarrassment transforms into comedy gold. The joke being that these asshole actually exist and how sweet and nieve our past self was trying to get love from all the wrong places. I had pretty much same situation but the nvm ex goes to me "oh your having a teary, im going to let you go and you can call me back when your not crying so i can understand you" then calls back in 5 being like "are you do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 10:05 AM
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im sorry this is happening, do do not owe him a friendship or anything for that matter. You are well within your rights to tell him that you don't want to be friends and you don't enjoy his company. you don't have to consider his feelings. I think he was trying to stir you up with the fwb thing and it backfired in him, too bad so sad. If you have already played nice and layed down boundaries about wanting space and he wont respect that, then its game over for him. His behaviour is out of bounds …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:08 PM
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her "bursting out in laugh" was so deep uncanny valley it made me wince
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 05:52 PM
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yes quite obviously all men+pickmes/ media/ government / judicial systems / educational institutions have made it ABUNDANTLY clear that "false" rape accusations are a way more severe and dangerous crime than rape itself. Rapes? meh happens all the time, cant catch em all, need proof, forensic evidence, motive, eye witnesses, previous charges, blurred lines of consent. Rape accusation? WILL RUIN A MANS LIFE FOREVER WOMEN HAVE ALL THE POWER TO LIE AND END A MANS WHOLE ENTIRE LIFE. Statistics tell …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:13 PM
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yikes unwatchable. I honestly thought for a moment she was going to make him wear the chunky diamond ring. It makes me sad that the future marriage was just casually brought up enough times until it was a given. She clearly brought it up every time...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 04:00 PM
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Wow! It so eery how narcs all sound the same, same tone, same wording. That font tho? lol gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 02:13 AM
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Hahah where did all these sub-par man-children that have been collectively rejected by forward thinking women, come up with this? That is some aggressive will full ignorance, or severe backwards logic. Feminism: We dont want to marry, copulate, or breed with you brutish controlling rapist enablers anymore. Left over men: Oh no the world is running out of humans because us good old fashioned men don't want to fuck feminists. HaHaHa men will literally fuck anything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 01:03 AM
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slut shaming is unfair because men get high fives while women are categorised as easy, worthless and devalued. HOWEVER, who in gods names came up with this fake as fuck antidote to slut shaming that is vanilla shaming? It's literally just another damned if you do damned if you don't double standard for women that is being peddled by left/ "woke" self righteous ass hats thinking they are all high and mighty for solving the slut shame issue. While men get high fives for "closing" and raised to god…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 11:40 AM
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Reddit is basically a field with "evil" FDS straw men propped up all over the place for inadequate troglodytes to hack away at to give them a fleeting moment of illusory power in a otherwise sad pathetic and purposeless existence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:36 AM
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this translates to "Id accept a proposal if he throws a piece of rotting me at me because I hate myself!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 04:43 AM
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so so much cognitive dissonance. it's unclear whether he is trying to help her or is scared that he specifically wont be getting his end in. plus the argument he is making is that, all men are using her for sex no matter how long have to wait so just give it over sooner the better to get the heartbreak out of the way? This guy doesn't even know how much he loathes himself. and quick aside the lion background picture does not make him seam like the big strong man like he is clearly trying to be
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 03:05 AM
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😂 LOL OMG this C*nt thinks HE is high value Sheesh!! Also he is a PRIMO example of pseudo- intellectual- his demeanour and tone is trying to sound like he has the high ground and giving constructive advice but he is literally calling her "fucking stupid" for thinking she can wait 3 months! for sex?! this is side splitting stuff - hE ValuEs HiGH Sex HiGHlY oooh soo HigH ValUE! what a complete and utter wanker.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:57 AM
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Me Too. Its sounds like things are still pretty raw but things get clearer, lessons crystalize, epiphanies happen, you will look back and see your own growth, you will feel proud of yourself and you will feel forgiveness towards yourself and you will heal. You are not broken for good, you will come to realise that no one in earth has the power to break you. I understand the feeling profoundly. It hurts so bad when you are in it, but as you reclaim all the painful parts and remember the truth of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 02:58 PM
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haven't we learned by now that day one of marriage is not the same as "happily ever after" Like good on you but share this post on your 20th anniversary or something if you really want to drive home your exception to the rule edit: I have a friend in a fairly healthy relationship- (by comparison to most) they hooked up on like second date- and then had many rocky patches with intimacy over the course of relationship mainly due to going gangbusters in the early stages of things that then slowed d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 02:39 PM
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Fellow ♓️ sun and moon, I feels you sis. -Sometimes- all the time, I feel like I am from another planet from another galaxy from another space-time. I dont have any answers to your ponderings I like to live in a dreamland where I can believe that anything is possible because giving up hope entirely is too soul crushing for me. today I had a day dream thought that went something like this: ~40,000 years ago homo sapiens lived alongside neanderthals - there is some evidence that they mated with ea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 09:42 AM
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maybe im just old, 'added on snapchat' was the first and only sign needed to know this guy a is useless waste of time. Also the very fact that you had to definitively say "im only interested in being friends/ dont want to date" was probably twisted in his mind as "oh she does want to date and is playing HaRd To GeT"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 09:24 AM
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fuck-en-hell. was this your ex from kindergarten? Im sorry you went through that. xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:34 AM
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This hurts me to read. I would have been using this same logic and questioning when I was 22. Desperate to find some sign or feedback that contradicts what I deep down knew. I have a friend who termed this "noodling" where your thoughts behave like a giant brain noodle squiggling up down left right until its a big tangled mess. The simplest of solution is to walk away the second you noodle. Noodling= not the guy for you and never will be. I HVM that is dedicated to you will never make you noodle…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 08:32 AM
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I have a few song suggestions that I feel are pretty FDS- that have been on high rotation for me lately Fly Girl- Queen Latifa Woman's Worth- Alicia Keys TIA xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 11:22 AM
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yeah more and more couples are throwing around the term "partner" to give the illusion that its a more mature relationship when the actual details of said relationship are likely to be pretty flimsy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/02/21 09:50 AM
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He is a WOFT. (waste of fucking time) not that it even matters but he would be stringing new discord girl along using you to keep her at arms length while he dangles himself like a carrot in-front of her. He was playing you bit by bit forcing your hand to be the one to dump him so he can use as more leverage against new girl to play victim and spin it like you were cRAzY. He only into the long distance thing because he can cultivate his image as best bf in da whole wide werl, while it's actually…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 03:39 PM
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if you are thinking he will treat next girl 100x better you are basically blaming yourself for his inadequacies. Please dont take the blame for his lousy character. Congratulations on getting him the fuck out if your life. You are stunning. he is shit. end of story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 03:04 PM
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what a dweeb!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 02:54 PM
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I wonder the exact number of "friends" telling her she's single because she doesn't "put herself out there" I can hear the echo still "you need to be more open...open open... make the first move...move...movee... men are actually shy ...shy.. you need to put yourself out there out there out there..." can you hear it whispering in the wind? I can. poor girl.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 02:56 AM
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Being apathetic and enabling is such a banal form of evil. Its pure cowardice flies under the radar when compared to overt aggression and violence.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:58 PM
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on the internet ppl are more outraged at animal abuse than abuse towards women/children on the internet ppl are more moved by mens mental health than domestic violence (wives being murdered / children being neglected and abused) on the internet ppl are anonymous and can express themselves more honestly and it reflects the truth about society fundamentally oppressing women and constantly trying to steer away from anything that sheds light on this. This Sub is literally the only place that women c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 04:37 AM
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WOWwwwwwAH. How fragile do you have to be to equate sliding your thumb 1 inch from left to right on a picture of a woman you have never met, in the palm of your hand, from the comfort of your nest, at 3AM post nut, as a REJECTION?! Where did this bizarre level of BLIND entitlement come from? These Reddit males are made up of equal parts entitlement/ snowflakes/ petals.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 11:35 AM
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My perspective on the "spot the red flags game" 🚩yoga instructor 🚩uses tinder 🚩"good morning" text (its a trope now) 🚩"ive always had a crush in you" (ie you have been a back up option while he filed through his options 🚩cringe af compliment sounds like cheesy romance novel 🚩after said dose of what WAS precisely "sickening flattery" negates by saying "that is wasn't " (dude its a text message dont act like the compliment just fell out of your mouth, you carefully clicked each letter and re - rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/02/21 01:24 PM
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A good farmer doesn't just throw seeds into the wind, he prepares the soil, diligently sows seeds, and waters the crops. ?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/21 12:21 AM
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Haha men that think there reproductive ability is based on how much ejaculate they produce, but reproduction comes down to the amount of available uterus. Heres the "LoGiC" Men: I could technically have 1000's of children because I have Millions of sperms and can ejaculate multiple times every day well into my old age, and Women only have a fraction of the amount of eggs and go through menopause earlier. Conclusion I am more fertile, more important and could have more children than any women. Wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 10:46 AM
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How unconscious and dull they all are. No, you don't "respect" that. No, you aren't capable of delivering a good relationship to a girl "you really fuck with" (they think, if you wanna call it thinking, saying "I fuck with her that hard" means a woman I really care and respect) AND the gross neck beard guy offhandedly admits he cant be alone in V day because he is has a "Void in his heart" There is no logic, in positioning this poor women as having low self worth(free sex)/ or being a prostitute…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 07:41 AM
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Id like to see an apology to Justin from Britney or Janet or both saying something like, "We are sorry, deeply sorry that despite our sacrifices, white male privilege, and ongoing support you are have gone on to achieve mediocrity at best and are fading into irrelevance, whilst we will both never be forgotten in the halls of fame and have inspired many women and have become symbols of power and survival" His apology is so needy and condescending its just yuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/02/21 02:36 AM
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I just realised that sitting position is how women guests on talkshows sit. It looks so uncomfortable. I might do it to get a laugh tho it's pretty funny
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/21 01:45 PM
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the wording comes from deciding to reschedule an event because it's raining, so event needs to be pushed back to a finer day. But the expression is used for everything from dates to special deals in marketing ("no rainchecks" meaning this offer is for today only and not a future date) so a rain check basically means can we keep this deal/offer/event as planned but move the date to a more convenient time. hope that made sense :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 11:04 AM
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I used to read a lot of her articles and even though i knew my values weren't 100% aligned with hers I still really valued her publications and voice in the media. I would credit her with being a helpful stepping stone into finding what values resonated with me more (like FDS) I doubt if she were at fds level of radical feminism she would even have a voice in australian news media, which she mostly using to call out toxic masculinity, for which she has been bullied threatened and abused online f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:57 AM
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thats a full on graduation moment my Queen! Inspiring! xxx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:40 AM
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the OTT consumerism that is valentines day hands to men on a platter buying a thoughtless last minute bare minimum low value red / heart/rose/chocolate themed gift and still many can not even muster that up - if they have a women trained to not expecting much they aren't going to up their game suddenly (keep those expectations low low low) meanwhile a few jerks buy some supermarket register flowers and parade themselves around like king dick. Women in relationships do deserve to be wined and din…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 10:37 AM
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they see the word "strategy" and implode with fear at the idea of women thinking critically independently in a group and straw man the whole sub as if we are planning some kind of fight-club style conspiracy to steel all there 10s of dollars. Completely ignoring the fact that most women have been abused / assaulted oppressed by men and toxic patriarchy in ever area of life for 1000s of years..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 09:41 AM
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i work in face to face customer service and everry time i feel have to pretend to find some scrotes fail attempt at a joke funny a part of my soul dies. ( I only do this because blank stares at the will get me either a negative review for the business and or the scrote being wasting more of my time and energy saying something like "Oh ITs JusT A JokE donT be SO Offended.. blah blah, and I have to say "Im not offended its just that that wasn't funny" followed by them eye rolling at me for being a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 05:00 AM
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go and plunge a toilet where you belong
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:37 AM
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Homer Simpson, Ray Romano, King of Queens, Peter Griffin - The list goes on ! we sold the mere male/ hopeless hubby trope as the norm, and the best you can hope for. Any fictional HVM husbands are mocked as "pussys, pushovers, simps " Its SO blatant. We get saturated with examples of wives providing the ideal role of taking care of family/ household/ tolerant of incompetent men. Any rare examples of a HVM in popular culture is always rewarded with the perfect women/ wife - When has there ever be…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 04:30 AM
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Considering the amount of slander and bad reviews FDS gets all over reddit in other subs, I bet there isn't one lady on here that has slid into some scrotes dms to unleash paragraphs of abusive name calling, threats of violence and sexist remarks, yet Any post on here that even touches a nerve of truth has attracts direct message threats and abuse and they call us toxic, hateful, cult. When they act exactly like a cult, targeting any group that is dismantling their framework of misogyny. Anytime…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 03:39 AM
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YoU DOnT EvEn KNoW ME YeT
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 06:01 PM
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plus a woman's superficial preferences wont ever trump lvm behavior- like no one is going to stick around with some jerk because he's tall - where as when men will date based on boobs/ butt / race / age / and never be interested in any actual connection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:56 PM
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sure, go see how much happiness ONSs featuring 2 minutes of jackhammering and no orgasm for you ushers into your young age...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:24 PM
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Im prettying sure you cant "learn" empathy. His lack of empathy shouldn't make him a charity case for her to coddle and fix. He should find himself a partner who also lacks empathy! and as for this rebuttal about then women planning in murder getting advice about going to a therapist - ? like Pahleese dont cry women are getting easier treatment in terms of advice in REDDIT give me a break. thats fucking ridiculous. The only reason every post HAS to say the age and gender in first line is because…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:08 PM
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There is a really good video essay on youtube called "adorkable misogyny" about big bang theory. the same youtuber also does a video on how toxic the jedi are in star wars, they are both really good. highly recommend!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:05 PM
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Im going to deep deep clean bathroom- then have a stunning bath with essential oils, flower petals, candles, make a playlist on spotify to listen to in the tub, order in delivery italian food (maybe lasagna) for dinner, do hair mask, face mask, exfoliate body scrub, moisturiser every thing. Have tiramisu for desert, read my book , do some internet shopping and buy something non practical thats just coz i want it. I just came up with all if that then but sounds perfect 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/21 02:00 PM
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You are not disposable. His actions do not dictate your value. remember that. You will feel better soon. lots of hugs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 11:59 AM
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Im glad you're out of there sis. Its soul destroying being in that kind of dynamic where you just feel small and invisible and addicted to hanging around hoping that if you could say something or be someone that might get a shred of attention or affection then you would feel better. It so fucking horrible. You deserve to be celebrated, included and supported so you can flourish and then in turn celebrate support and include the people in your life that you love. onwards and upwards! xox
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 07:24 AM
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Its going to be ok darling heart. You didn't fuck up. You learned something the hard way. Its sucks a lot right now but things will get better. I can completely relate to everything you are feeling, Im so there with you. Can I recommend that you do some research into narcissistic abuse syndrome? I think it might help you feel understood and validated. Big hugs. xox
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 02:58 PM
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I had an ex literally admit exactly that, he never vocalised during sex and I found it sort of lonely- especially if I was going down on him, I asked him that if he made some noise at least some audible breathing then I would know what felt good etc, he was just like nah Ive trained myself to be silent from not wanting to be caught and its just like soo repressed. Like why not even try to relax and let out a sigh? he was capable of eating food and going mmmmm like just why? I think moans/ breath…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 01:11 PM
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holy fuck that is some moronic shit right there. How to get a woman: Step 1. make millions Step 2. pretend to be a hobo Step 3. ??? Is the top comment a joke? a genius prank?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 12:43 PM
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Im totally Vanilla loud and proud baby
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 05:08 PM
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don't be embarrassed! i was with a guy for 5 years who only ever took me on dates to restaurants a groupon deal, and I would be all dressed up! imagine what the staff thought! lolol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:57 PM
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ever since watching Love Guru (bad mike myers movie, but good/bad) I always read intimacy as " Into- Me- I See" *TM I like it because intimacy truly begins with knowing who you are and loving the person who you are, consistently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:43 PM
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you're tearing me apart lisa!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:21 PM
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Fuck that guys whole beard and hat look is barf. And whatabout all the sad fuck guys who get dumped and are all sad and expect their girls to help them change and work on their anxiety and low self esteem issues
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:42 AM
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check on her? wtf shes not the contents of your fridge. the phrase "check on her" says it all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:36 AM
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dont waste your energy arguing with randoms over something that is clearly cut and dry as this. It comes across like you really needed this one guy on reddit to "get it" for you to feel validated
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 02:43 AM
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This reminds me of the Louis Theroux episode about the porn industry. So many backwards hat wearing emotionally stunted guys who think that porn is their interest because clearly all they have ever done with their sad little lives is wank. All they want to do is be a porn star or make porn, the reality is that they fail, cannot keep wood and lose interest in sex completely numbing their ability to feel pleasure of reward and become morbidly depressed, so good luck to this guy!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 02:34 AM
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thats some MFin Queen shit right therr
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:00 AM
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being 'open to monogamy' is a paradox
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:09 PM
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there is a distinction between being discerning and being judgemental. People of faith often preach about how you shouldn't judge others and treat them as you would be treated - but often these beliefs are twisted and used for enabling abusers and letting down your boundaries and putting yourself at risk. So it's important to distinguish that you being cautious around men is a discerning and rational reaction to the environment you ate subjected to as a woman. If you were violent and unpredictab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:05 PM
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Ive turned to tarot in times of bad LVM relationships- hoping for a sign they would change etc- but the cards were actually harsh and spot on truth, I was getting no false hope from cards and getting the advice I needed over and over...I still use and have a lot of respect for them from that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 04:28 PM
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I NEED lower back spikes. could this be a thing?? just the other day i was at work and a male customer jabbed me in the lower back on the side as he was walking past but i wasn't even in his way he could have gone around my other side with heaps of room - and I was in the middle of talking to another customer so i was stunned and so confused suddenly. And he just kept walking said nothing when said "hey did u just jab me??" like a fucking coward
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 03:57 PM
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omg the youtube ads that are like some dork "expert" advising women in this "OnE SEnTANcE To MaKe AnY MaN FAll InLovE WiTh YoU" and its just a really long advertisement to buy their content and they never answer the question- anyway i googled it because I HAD to know, and it was like "I really appreciate you" or something. Like this fucking guy thinks hes some relationship love guru for coming up with that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 03:44 PM
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totally, it was just like insight into the dumb mind of a sex crazed idiot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 03:36 PM
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I really enjoy about 6 Tool songs out if nostalgia but I never was super die hard fan and since their stuff was released on spotify and the new album etc the fan reaction and the tool fandom I found pretty cringetown, I never knew how weird and culty the fan base was- even the adult were reduced to teen-age level of competitive out fanning each other and making big embarrassing fb posts and crying videos on twitter. Wouldn't surprise me at all if they abused that sort of power
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 12:47 PM
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Its bad idea disclosing previous abusive relationship to someone you are dating. At best they show theor true colours and gaslight you like this guy- at worse they will empathise with you, listen to all the details (this WONT help you heal) and they will pretend and position themselves as the polar opposite of that to gain quick entry into your pants, when they are done they might rinse and repeat then use all that personal information to abuse you triangulate you and gaslight you. I dont think …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 06:50 AM
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Im fairly new to this expression "body count" and can I just say that is serial killer language. Im so impressed that you are so switched on at 20yo. Thats dope af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 06:41 AM
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they definitely arnt AS stupid as they pretend to be but they are pretty fucking dumb still
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 06:19 AM
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I was thinking also why dafaq do i even? But its like seeing a turtle on its back you know?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 06:18 AM
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I LOVE RATM, they weren't just swearing for the sake of it at least they had an authentic political agenda that had youth interests at heart - not like manson with lyrics like "rebel rebel bitch bitch rebel rebel party party and don't forget the violence " its SO on the nose, and has zero substance
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 06:10 AM
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Men are actually stupid, they dont know how stupid they are thats why its so painful for the rest of us, and the live in ignorant bliss while the societal structures surrounding them re-enforce the lie that they are the more accomplished, valuable, and intelligent of the genders. Anecdote; When Im at the laundromat I often have to assist a man in operation of the machines despite the fact the the instructions are replete on the walls in large print and on the machines its been made full proof, y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 01:05 AM
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FDS is going to keep growing because its speaks the truth. Even lib fem- sex posy DTF, looking for something casual gals, will come across this sub and have the harsh truth sink in. almost NONE of the ONS were any good, the ones that were turned in to nothing but a FWB headfuck that they still think about. And they still feel like if they stop being cool and casual with their bodies they will end up with nothing but the truth is they have never gained anything with this mindset either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 12:53 AM
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Adult men that make music directed that deliberately at angsty young teens are the epitome of cool when you're a teen and SO pathetic and embarrassing when you mature. ahem, limp biscuit, eminem, manson, - they just first to come to mind, the way they put on such and act, and that they make all this money and fame from a demographic that are still in school and have the most easy to influence brains by simply using heaps of swear words (cough fred durst) its just low hanging fruit imo. Im here f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 12:41 AM
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You need him out of you life and when you do MY GOD you are gonna feel WAY better. I know from experience. Its life changing and elating . Congratulations on making the first step!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:52 AM
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I just had a thought that men are so delusional that they resent prostitutes for getting money for sex they probably wish women would be lining up to pay them for sex. I knew a guy who was 'pOLy' and decided to try prostitution he thought he would just get to have sex with heaps of women and also pay the bills (he was young and stupid) he lasted 1 or 2 engagements they were both couples that were freaky and weird unattractive as all get out and needless to say it wasn't what he imagined.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:34 AM
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That actually calmed me down . Thankyou X
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:18 AM
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"A man timeline is a lot more flexible than yours" This so true.Most of the time we think that this mean just that older men have put off having children because their BiOlOgY allows them to impregnate a woman well into his 50s - at least thats how ive thought until right now, I just realised that, the flexibility of a mans life to have children is nothing to do with biology but EVERYTHING to do with how having children doesn't interrupt their life/ career/ body ability AT ALL. If men want child…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:05 AM
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God it so annoying when men bring up the oddity female serial killers as if to say ah- haa - and they aren't even realising the fact that female serial killers are widely know PURELY because they are a rare oddity- Male serial killers who do horrific acts are run of the mill- but when a woman does something horrible its spikes interest only because women aren't meant to do bad. And this usually gets blown way further out of proportion like when a mother kills her children its seen as the most ev…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 03:46 AM
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when you feel your molecules have become one with the bed you are laying on and your soul is hovering over your body
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 03:37 AM
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Wow inside the mind of an entitled and boring loser
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 03:26 AM
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"I feel weird and uncomfortable sitting down at a restaurant and eating dinner with a guy I barely know, but being completely naked with his penis inside me it totes chill" - pickmes (no judging Ive been there its just so fucking bizzare to me now that sex gets used as an ICE BREAKER )
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 04:48 PM
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oh god the tone of that condescending loser. "ha Ha heu heu hue, women are ArT, and men dont act like dogs they respectfully, gently and quietly mill around the gallery, chin scratching and appreciating gods artworks. Maybe he would like to marry a statue with a hole drilled in it. what a fucking dingus
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 04:33 PM
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agree. so much agree. I think the most difficult thing to actually access is the fact that hindsight will always prove that you're gut feeling/ your body reaction/ your emotional center/ your intuition/ was sending you the info and alarm bells ALL ALONG. Reconciling this with our selfs after the the fact (Self Forgiveness) is the only thing worth our time (not dissecting, analysing and figuring out why and how a LVM is a LMV). Instead Saying to yourself "My body was telling me all along that thi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/01/21 04:13 PM
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Totally and completely done with the "has anyone ever told you" line. I was at a city bus stop- alone- 2 am- in a very cute outfit- like I know I looked good- had been at work all night on my way home and this meth head- with no shoes on and rags for clothes who was lurking around half dancing but no music was nearby, hovered around me and finally cocked his head all the way to the side like all quizzically and said "has anyone ever told you you're fuckin' byoodafull?!" im like , yeaahh. yep. an…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:44 AM
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I agree with you, trying to "find the good" in person/people(men in general ) who have shown their overall values and shortcomings is a trap. But, I can also feel like my own "negative mentality" towards men and dating doesn't bring me any comfort or peace. So i sort of get why wanting to change it feels alluring. Im not about to go down any "not all men" mentality to fix it, but I can see value in broadening ones perspective on humanity and the predicament of modern women and our mothers grandm…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:20 AM
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the girl in pic is waring a plain grey hoodie and the text graphic has been overlaid. in other words this jumper hopefull doesn't exists and is some whack af incel fan fic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:55 PM
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also seen a dude tell a chemist women to "smile" when she was masked.. her response was "i am smiling "
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:40 PM
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Translation: I dont know if i should call you shallow or ugly and unfuckable until i get a pic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 04:17 PM
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These are dudes that have learned everything they know about stocks from playing GTA 5
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 03:16 PM
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I think its also applicable in a healthier version where an alpha is setting a tone, out of having more self respect and confidence and less mature members of group look to for social queues and guidance on becoming a self responsible and well respected adult, and a sigma can be one who doesn't fall into the hierarchy but adds outside insights and perspectives that add to the overall development and growth to a group.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 05:37 AM
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They really think they are winning over women with the "cuddling" coz they equate them having an orgasm as the same as women getting to "cuddle" them. Men have become collectively SO bad at sex most pickmes have settled for "cuddles" and now this dick head is straight up advertising thats all he is capable of giving a woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:04 AM
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I recently watched a video on youtube by dr ramani, and she said a study found that men with manicured strong eyebrows shape are more likely to be narcissistic, and that even people who viewed random pictures of faces subconsciously relate that feature with narcissism.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 03:37 AM
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another bumble alumni of this "school of hard knox" wow. so many were enrolled there! what did they teach I wonder? How to exploit a women's material instincts into being your mother/ doctor/ sex slave/ life coach?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 02:59 AM
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I feel like the whole Alpha/betta/ sigma types is only applicable when men are in groups- and even then men change depending on the group / I dont think any man is one or the other permanently. Its like a quick reference guide when you spot a pack of men, the "alpha" is usually the one most of them will copy what beer he gets - follow him - laugh at his jokes - the rest are all betta, and in each group one will be the stupid/ jester/ rapy- "wild card" larakin that the put up to do dares and who …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 01:49 AM
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sooo true! And dharma and greg! its such a trope!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 12:44 AM
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This Is SPOT ON. Ive seen this first hand with the same guy and 3 different girls. They start off MPDG-esque- basically very outgoing and high energy/ rebellious/ funny/ confident extroverted but introverted too, spontaneous, quirky, open minded. The guy I know was reserved- stoner- calm - shy - un motivated- lazy. B O R I n G. I watched him have these LTR with my friends and slowly turn them into SHELLS - depressed and lacking any if their individuality- and 2 out of 3 have recovered after brea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 12:42 AM
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Genuinely apologise and ask them to repeat themselves because you couldn't here them properly, when the moment has passed they might feel stupid repeating themselves- if they do, either interrupt them saying "wait, I think I just heard a (insert believable noise)" then apologise again and say "what were you saying?" hopefully by now they cbf, also if they repeat themselves say, "you're mumbling can you speak clearly?" if they say "oh never mind" Insist that they tell you what they were going to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 11:04 AM
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omg ads are evolving and taking on human form
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 10:48 AM
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Narc are very good at appearance and presenting as HVM. However Narcs are basically allergic to somebody else's clear boundaries- they cant abide them and they are shocking at covering up how much irritation it causes them.Its like a bull seeing red. If they are in early early stages of love bombing they could probably pretend to be respectful but they will retaliate in some way without a doubt. So being a HVW who can confidently lay boundaries and stick to them is practically inoculated against…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 09:53 AM
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After a recent post I made about porn coming with a warning label my inbox was flooded with all messages from some random dweeb that was been so chaffed by my comments he sent me the same messge 6 times that was like "blah blah your an ugly bitch or something " It was so fucking ridiculous the tone felt like he was probably crying thinking about his usless penis and literally lurking womens subs to desperately vent his sadness. I think the fact that these opinions are based in consideration for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 09:39 AM
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a great vetting question is, do you have a nickname? what do your buddies call you? I did this and the response was alarming and suggested he either drank ALOT or he was known for driving recklessly (i dont want to say it in here but it was similar to gasoline) so I 👻
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 09:28 AM
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Fun Fact: 1 "Flushable" wipes are NOT flushable and can completley ruin the plumbing- sewage infrastructure for entire cities (this happened in Brisbane a few years ago) 2 At my workplace we have to refill the handsoap in the female toilets evey. Single. Day. However we only have to refill hand-soap in the mens urinal like every 6 mths im not even joking. even in pandemic times.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 02:31 PM
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when you finally see the 'mask slip' it's devastating. Its unthinkable and senseless and trying to make heads or tails of it is exhausting. Dr. Ramani on youtube has help-full content on wrapping you head around relationships with narcissists. The way he cracked the shits about you friend accidentally popping in - Gave me chills - this is such classic narc tactic basically taking the most innocent of situations and twisting it into a massive drama that they ear bash you with until your completel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 02:22 PM
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having an unavailable father has made the road to being HVW paved with unavailable scrotes and in my early years felt very needy and had attachment anxiety in my first relationships. What felt "right at home" for me was men who were putting me as a low priority like my father had done, and only encouraged me to work harder to earn love- this was a false premise because emotionally unavailable men are bottomless pit for love and attention coming at them but not the other way around. I think Ofcor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:42 AM
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imagine defending your shitty ass cheeks as normal. The denial is strong with this self loathing piece of shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:21 AM
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Hes just a stinge, some ppl are just stingy- its a huge turn off that as a home owner and a man you are seeing romantically that he didn't see an opportunity to show off generosity, and a taking things to another level of commitment etc. hes just got his mind on money and trying to justify it as equality
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 08:04 AM
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Yeah I bet daughter talks to her friends about her psycho creepy looser step dad constantly- this is not going to go well either way- Mothers instincts are spot on here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 02:41 PM
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I had a moment like this when I caught ex NPD in a lie- I came over when he said he couldn't see me because his car was in the shop (we were broken up but he kept making plans to see me to apologise for his foul behaviour- but would forget or cancel last minute this happened like 5 times so i got fed up and went to his house Pre FDS) his car was there. He tried to ignore it and when I pointed it out he faked a mild heart- attack/ Palpitation , panting and putting his hand on his chest, and there…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 08:43 AM
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66% on women deliberately speeding up their partner climax- OOOF! Thats a lot
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 05:06 PM
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Porn should come with a health warning like cigarettes do but instead WARING continues excessive consumption may cause impotence - dopamine de-regulation - depression and sexual perversion and pedofiliea
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:55 PM
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I have a pickme sister and she has this FOUL boyfriend that is utter NV cretin so get this; She's explaining to me one day (humble bragging actually) about how NVC doesn't want to commit to a relationship gf/bf with her (strung her along as FWB for 2 years) because he respects her SO much and she is on another level of respect and adoration that he cant have sex with her regularly because he feels bad and really likes just sleeping around with trashy girls (pickme sister thought herself SO much …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:48 PM
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I second this HARD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:26 PM
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how truly pathetic of him. Such a weird way to "get back at you" that backfired so badly he had to wait another few weeks to tell you he was deliberately not paying you a compliment. Bless that old lady! she was the catalyst you needed to begin your stunning life scrote- free! Congratulations 🥳 welcome to FDS
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 04:08 PM
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omg imagine saying "Im really into small dicks" and seeing which mens faces light up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 03:52 PM
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EWWWW right off the bat, If your husband is cheating the problem is YOUR marriage. So no matter what, cheating is a sign that you are doing something wrong within the marriage? That entire page is garbage How many brains have atrophied reading that utter trash?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 02:45 AM
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women who buy their men PS s and or Xboxs are hammering the the nails in there own coffin honestly. SUCH a trope to get brownie points as being a "cool girl"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 02:35 AM
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I was actually laughing at the bit when she has shown him the video, and he starts begging her to forgive him etc and she is like ....."no.." The audacity!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 02:08 AM
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Yes I was disappointed that she wasn't a serial killer to begin with, and I felt unsatisfied with the ending for her. I think seeing as they ended with her dying then she may as well have been more vengeful. But some things that were well done I thought was how despite her hyper awareness of the "nice guy creep" she STILL fell for that guy which I could relate to because they portrayed his "cute" "funny" side well and that was like real life in how a few jokes and a few "green flags" can get you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 02:05 AM
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They see it as weakness which they despise, because they are weak, and despise themselves. They duck out of this equation by bolding claiming "Im NoT A MinD ReaDeR" translation "Im not self aware, and choose not to be" If men actually communicated like they are preaching constantly they would say "Your discomfort is forcing me to reflect on my actions which have I have not been aware of, and I am afraid if I look at my own behavior I will not like what I see and not be able to go back to ignoran…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 09:53 AM
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dont fool yourself into thinking she will have a better time with him than you did. He is gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 06:50 AM
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I was perusing other subs in my suggested feed and there was this one that was like; "If shes mad at you and wont tell you why, she playing manipulative mind games with you get rid of her" Or something to that affect. Any time a Man is required to reflect upon his actions and evaluate his actions effects in others with out having a woman coddle and hold his hand through this task they lose their fucking minds. They hate this responsibility SO much, its like a burden they are too weak to bare and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 06:39 AM
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was obvious when he said "i never knew my dad so i had to be adopted " (syntax error) coz his just repeating stuff he's heard. the duping delight that manipulative liars get is real- its the hardest thing to fake and cover up is the dopamine hit that they from deceiving someone successfully
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 03:28 PM
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i completely agree with you. Its hard to see the forest for the trees when its my own life. I think she has convinced herself that she doesn't want to get married and she convinced herself that she didn't want children but ive know her for over 2 decades and i know she always has until being with this guy, I don't upset the apple cart though because I can see that although she is smart and capable and strong she is also sort of co dependent and doubt she would ever stop working at a relationship…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:45 PM
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its so funny how women have now mastered the art of walking fast while appearing to walk slow (long strides- and running only when out of view)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:25 PM
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can confirm I know a guy who said he was hanging out with ild school friends drinking etc and on of them just starts bringing up a collection of nudes on his phone and like "show and telling" then like asked to see theres- like its baseball cards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:17 PM
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I don't know- know Ive just not witnessed any red flag behaviour and have seen a a lot of attractive qualities like treating women with respect- and being a really hard working and just stuff I find hot about him is because hes really comes off as decent guy I haven't ever dated him so its not a sure thing- and my best friend boyfriend he does all the house cleaning but my friend does all the cooking he has supported her through sobriety and he went sober too and has been ever since - he bought …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 01:22 PM
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My insight on the psychology of this type of man is this: When I was a teenager having family issue and drug issues I wasn't excelling at school but not failing either- I realised that I was smart enough to get "B"s on tests and exams without doing ANY homework or preparation. I winged all exams and even read the text book or study book hours before exam and rest of class had studied for months and i still got B + . So basically I just NEVER tried. I was incredibly emotionally unstable- depresse…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 05:47 AM
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its so true woman ARE the product but they are selling themselves for free and sometimes even PAYING for the privilege- with the numbers of men vs woman on the apps CLEARLY women are the commodity and the apps are only profitable because of pornsick loney loser incel men, they are what keeps these perverse apps a float and their needs will ALWAYS come first- BOYCOTT everything under the "match.com" umbrella they are nothing but pimps aiding and abetting rape
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 05:30 AM
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scrote logic; Ah Haaa! you have denied me sex 10 times, this means you past my test of not being a stupid slut, NOW I can have sex with you, but I will respect you now as because before now I would not have.. so can we have sex now?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:23 AM
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I have a theory on the matrix red/blue pill thing; firstly i think the pill colours should have been reversed i think that the red pill should be staying in the Matrix- Blue Pill leaving. I think this was a plot flaw/ or might have been some delebrate plot flaw- because Red is low frequency and Blue is high- and leaving to find truth is high frequency- Also Its a fact that in placebo studies red pills are more effective that blue. So red pill is equivalent to stronger placebo/ mentality induced …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 04:10 AM
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Loads of men LOVE to skim over all the advantages and privileges of being a Man- because its all they have know and refuse to look at life from a woman's perspective but scrape the barrel to find the "Cons" of having so many advantages like "so much PreSSure" but it honestly reminds me of like a rich person complaining to to a beggar about how hard being rich is because you have to decide what to spend money on, and how sometimes losing money can feel really bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:44 AM
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honestly it would be interesting to see what the top comments would be if posts like this were reposted with the genders swapped around
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 02:20 AM
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tis true most men behave like violent animals when there reptilian brain is stimulated in any way, and its in MY biology to not further our human race with such devolved creatures.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/01/21 01:43 AM
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what they really were saying "I thought you could get away with raping your date/gf"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:53 PM
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women actually being superior to men might be the only logical explanation as to why men have worked so long hard and meticulously to oppress
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:49 PM
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Narc ex used to demand I repeat him in when we argued, and I could always say back to him what he said verbatim, and he could never remember anything i said and would deny saying things literally seconds after saying them. I noticed he would rarely say fucked up things over text as much as in person when we were alone, he knew exactly when he could go sicko mode and say anything he wanted and then point blank deny saying it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:35 PM
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interrupting with a compliment is the most infuriating, it teams up interrupting/not taking seriously/derailing/condesending/and baiting, all the while insidiously hiding behind CoMpLiMeNt so its a pre-emptive gaslighting move god forbid you dont accept the ComPliMeNt gracefully
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 01:27 PM
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Thank-you for writing this! I think its good to note also that narcissism is a characteristic/ trait- set of traits and is a adjective to describe a person's behaviour which anyone who has experienced is qualified to comment on. I really sick of random comments around the internet warning people to "not diagnose unless you are professional clinician that has seen a patient " however narcissism isnt a diagnosis, its literally like saying person y is vain, cruel, manipulative etc these are observa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 05:49 AM
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yeah she gonna read back on that one day and die inside
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 04:32 AM
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What the actual hell. A fucking LVM - ONS showbag? Do lvm fuckboys think they get an uber rating? Do these pickmes know how much more money they would get being an actual prostitute?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:50 AM
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ive been verbally abused (in hospitality ) by a man and had 3 other 'good guys' watching and standing there as im being torn a new one and after de escalating situation man walks off and on looking men all start to chime in 'he was so out of line' 'you did the right thing' 'you didn't deserve that' IM like ' ...yeaaah no shit, thanks for noticing' Im not impressed, and the 'good guys' all fucking bemused as to why im being a bitch to them too. Cowards, usless cowards trying to earn brownie point…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 03:12 AM
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I have always found that beauty isn't static. Some people have static good looks and photograph well, but I have found the most alluring type of beauty is in motion and goes beyond anything that could be captured, it can be like a combination of a smile/ a mannerism and they sound of a persons laughter that is what draws my attraction that and they way they feel about themselves and they way they make you feel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 02:50 AM
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that reminds me of that episode of family guy where lois tells peter to stop acting like a child, and he says 'if im a child that makes you pedophile' LOL, that line was enough to put me off dating man-babies
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/21 01:37 AM
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Hes a narc dw they are like pros at this. You're not a joke. You did the right thing 100% and you should be proud of yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:31 PM
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as a straight female who has met many other like me and lived a few years can I just finally point out that ive never been convinced that and one of the women ive met have actually wanted a FWB/ f*ck buddy/ situationship and have realistically just set the bar that low due to not believing any man in existence could be trusted and reliable in any capacity more that that- OR they holding out hope that the FWB will slow burn into a tropey harry met sally- pacey / dawsons creek/ (every. single. rom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 04:06 PM
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like seriously
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/01/21 03:58 PM
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This might be controversial but, Maybe a HVM doesn't see women in dating apps as HVW...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:38 PM
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wft is with this "dark humour" trend? its like hey lets laugh at low brow cheap lazy jokes with frequent tropes of pedofiles / babies and label it "DaRk HuMoUr" so we can pass it off as consumable and edgy. Ive seen it on heaps of profiles like "we'll get along if you get my dark sense of humour " you just know that they are so fucking lame and have gross sense of humour
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:34 PM
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alas their a likely millions of him..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 03:50 PM
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love this. So true that child baring women-to be are gatekeepers of the future generations and having high standards for the men they procreate with benefits all of society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 04:38 AM
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I agree we are too quick to dilute the term res flag as a way to soften the blow around what are actually dealbreakers- I use the term a lot with friends that I know aren't ready for full on harsh truth. But atleast ive noticed that lvm usually flood you with dealbreakers so they get the point eventually. and aside i agree that the phrase "child porn" is an oxymoron and it should really be called video/image child abuse material. Its not porn just because sociopaths and other low life get off - …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:38 PM
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Even Cowgirls Get The Blues by Tom Robins is a funny, adventurous, quirky, philosophical novel, with a good strong female lead. I feel like Tom Robbins was very progressive and feminist writer especially for his era, so somethings may have dated but I remember it being really good read, very entertaining and good philosophy rants
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:17 PM
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I didn't even mention how my step brother who was in his 30s got to live with my dad and step mum after I was kicked out at 19 on my first job waitressesing to support myself - step brother moved in with them LEGIT played videogames all night long on headset and my dad and step mum would just call him out his den for meals. then they gave him money to go overseas and more money that he needed to lend his new gf he met in europe and then she turned out to be a scammer with "sick grandma" and he l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 04:07 PM
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that was a roller coaster. I'm sorry about all that shit with your mother, but Im glad you have come out the other side with shit pretty well sorted. That is truly inspirational. I sincerely hope you have a great life x
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:48 PM
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Thankyou for this post that feels quite vindicating I always was the scapegoat problem child and my mother has always favoured (pushing for grandchildren) siblings with partner- she fully enables and supports toxic relationships and has old fashioned views on women. My Dad has such low expectations of me and doesn't invest any money or time in me but loans and helps my brother even though he is divorced he has two boys and so is obviously the highest ranking investment. I am happily single and i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:42 PM
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"drink his tears in a jar and chase it with tequila" amaze
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 03:25 PM
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Every relationship: Guy: "what do you want from me?" "what do you want me to say?" Me: I want to not have to constantly remind you how to act and what to say. Lvm only ever do or say the right things as a cover for their true intentions which is to be left alone with their porn and food and video games and come at you for sex and need you to do their laundry and remind them when to vote etc
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/01/21 05:31 AM
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after finding this sub it has finally sunk in that pursuing men has been the biggest waste of time of my life and that pursuing your own ideas and dreams feels so much more full filling and joyous. Having time to get your own affairs and life values in order is something that is impossible to achieve with a lvm in your life and if a relationship with a hvm is something id like i now know that having my life goals prioritised and a healthy level of self sufficiently is the ONLY foundation on whic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 11:47 AM
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His peripheral understanding of hookup culture as someone not raised in it. is VERY poignant & revealing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 05:10 AM
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all the different fonts...make it stop...MAKE IT STOP
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 05:05 AM
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I think those swiping apps trigger scarcity mindset and unwittingly make you settle and feel obligated to date at least some of these men that you have been swiping like you feel like you have a debt to payback plus like the men are like musical chairs and if you don't settle you will miss out. Ive recently had my eyes opened to the fact that many HVM that i know and work with, would not even consider using dating apps, because they dont meet their needs or standards of how they like to meet wom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 04:11 AM
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celebs/politicians have publicists and staff curating their image for consumers like a product, and HVM is a type. Im never surprised anymore when you find out a seamingly HVM turns out to get metooed *cough Bill Cosby cough*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:59 AM
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dear lord
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:40 AM
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He knew I wanted to start painting, so for Christmas he bought me...a 7$ canvas, but no paints. I had no paints. I bought them myself cost around 50$ He was Sooo excited to give me my birthday gift once, I had got him an army edition torch that cost 80$ and camping shit like strike anywhere flint, some books on outdoor survival shit he was into, he LOVED his gifts, so he was so excited to give me gifts, he bought it online with credit card, I thought maybe it was going to be good, Alas, it was o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 03:16 AM
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what a strange sub... people gatekeeping what is or isnt gatekeeping over-reacting to mildly irritating meme fauxpars
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:54 AM
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"the thrill of breaking down your icy exterior. It is sickening. " SO true, there is the creep loser that i must have distant mutal friends with that always tries chatting me up even though i pretend to not know him everytime i see him, but the meaner and colder and ruder i am to him just makes him froth more, like hes thinks im flirting or being 'feisty' and hes all excited by the thrill of the chase its puke town and hes a gross tree wizard/ muso / urban hippy type its so gross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 02:16 AM
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damn. i hate that. like isnt it sort of like an unspoken communication when someones likes an IG post from ages ago or like at a weird hour- like its meant to get your attention while remaining in the safe zone for the likee of acting completely oblivious like it CoUlD have been an accident or a glitch or something. Its like equal parts coward and sneaky
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 01:44 AM
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totally! definitely didn't mean a blanket statement of ' 'no beards' I also dont mind a shorter clean trimmed beard, but the huge white guy craft beer (I call them "Ned Kelly" beards) are specifically not ok.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/01/21 01:35 AM
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has anyone else noticed how some men push their babies pram with one hand and walk behind and to one side as to not be directly behind the pram. its like they are trying to act like "oh im not with this baby here im pushing it for a friend.." like they are embarrassed by it, its so pathetic and lazy. *pram= stroller
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:22 PM
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using pics with the ex screams "im insecure and not over my ex at ALL and im too dumb to even realize how obvious it is
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:14 PM
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some neanderthal with hopefull freeze his damn dick off later
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:10 PM
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ewwwwww img i just realised a guy i matches with ages ago matches at like 3am and now im guessing he was probably wanking then jumped on the app (i ghosted coz shit chat and delated app ) but ewwwww omggross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 06:06 PM
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im gonna say it. Beards are a red flag. They are SUCH a character bypass strategy and are creepy guys trying to pass as wholesome/ craft beer / outdoorsy- type, but the thing is so many creeps saturated this look in the past few years and now its just a walking red flag for some aggressive specific music genre obsessed beer sales rep boot wearing right wing pseudo intellectual creepy dorky loosers
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:04 PM
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also it came up recently a gf was saying how she got on the apps just to see what matches she gets with no interest in actually dating, and a guy with us was like 'omg that's so fucking mean, thats fucked up blah blah' but im like ? how is that worse than the fact the women on these apps are like risking sexual assault that will be impossible to prosecute (by virtue of being "on a date") every time they DO go on a blind date!? what's fucked up is that women are brave enough to meet strange men f…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:45 PM
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speaking of smooth sailing- fear not stormy weather for you are learning to sail your ship! Basically the only thing better than smooth sailing is being fucking a boss at sailing xx
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:31 PM
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i inly need to glimpse the front page to be reminded what the majority of reddit users upvote and alas they are unfunny gross incel slob men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:16 AM
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all he was ever capable of was offloading his emotional baggage onto you whilst also trapping / controlling and isolating you. his energy was all just his old shit weighing you down and surrounding you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 05:01 AM
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I read: "many of them go insane and become violent" as "many of them go insane and blame vomit" and I just wanna say, apt. lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:57 AM
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you are fucking slaying it queen. dont even TRIP about your past self, she was doing her best for what she knew at the time, and she fucking cottened on to his shit pretty quicksmart actually- she went through the shit so you can be where you are today 100% destined for much greater happiness and fulfilment than this sub par low life could have ever shared with you. Be proud and grateful of past pickme self, she rocks!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:47 AM
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Im so LIVING for linnen this summer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 04:41 AM
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Any seminar/ step / program BS aimed at men (like this guy) is ALWAYS an alpha narc who is actually just manipulating a bunch of directionless / beta / dweeb "men" into some absolutely hopeless system of prey tactic and brainwashing women with low self esteem. The loser guys that get sucked into this midset are the real victims because none of it works, no guy following this is ever going to get multiple women lining up for him that he's replacing frequently. Its just PUA charlarten shit
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:14 AM
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this guy needs to put himself in a trash bag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 03:00 AM
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BAHahahahah suck it loser! you thought you had it all figured out but poly dont mean shit, when you really into someone you don't want to be with other people no one is immune to this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 02:52 AM
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I agree that I also feel more empowered covering up/ wearing baggy loose clothing its a. sooo much more comfortable and b. i get sunburnt easily i wear usually oversized shirts, but yesterday it was really hot and i just had a singlet on and the difference in how much more male gaze and male work colleagues just losing brain cells while over complimenting and taking up way more of my time on small talk etc was fucking draining its not flattering at all knowing that just a bit of skin showing is …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 02:28 AM
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soooo THATs how you ethically cheat.. righto. What a complete fucking tool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 02:05 AM
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I cant believe how much energy I put into fussing and obsessing about how to ask out a guy, or tell I guy I liked them etc, all through my teens and 20s. Now I know I will never ask out a guy ever again and its such a huge relief. It never works out well asking out a guy, they might say they wish it happened but they will just use you as a free pass because they didn't have to put in any effort, or keep you in the wings, but what they will NEVER do is respect you, I think they actually feel rese…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 03:02 AM
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All im seeing here is that 80% of men are LVM and 20% are HVM, and TBH those odds are better than I had previously thought
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/21 02:54 AM
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ex was a "bighter" like ok cute, sexy playful what ever, but the bights got harder and i would be yelling OUCh! and hes be all fucking COY and oooh im sorry baby i just got carried away some fucking bullshit looking back, once i woke up after we had both gone to bed drunk- he had sex with me even though i wasn't at all in the mood or aroused whatsoever i just had to keep saying no until i gave up and let him thinking maybe i could get into if i tried but he just bit me heaps and had trouble fini…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:36 AM
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whaaaaa?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:24 AM
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im just going to go ahead and make an evaluation on this guy shes been "exclusively talking to" based off of the gifts she bought him, annnnd Ew Gross.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:20 AM
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ED from over consumption of porn is natures poetic justice. And its also NMP (not my problem) which I love for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 02:52 AM
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no but its funny how all the lvm have the same script and screenplay
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 11:38 AM
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revenge of the neckbeards
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 09:22 AM
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ive totally been think the same thing... like a fucking coo will sweep in under all this chaos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 09:21 AM
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the pinocchio effect!! so true, I experience this first hand when coming up with an excuse to not do something if im lying (sometimes for personal reasons so its not like im being deceitful for the thrill of it) but yeah i always end up with too many lies, like oh im just really tired and i have to finish this thing and my cat is sick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 08:40 AM
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what a load of waffle! I hate the implication that you have been overwhelming him with obligation and his life affairs have gotten 'all out if whack' This kinda BS was a red flag that I ignored in past relationship that turned abusive AF later down the track, started with low-key negging back handed compliments about how he was "really getting his shit together and his life in order and his business doing so well" before I came along , taking up all his time, but he was the one that would get sa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 08:12 AM
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"hurt people hurt people" has such huge enabling energy. I prefer, an explanation IS NOT an excuse. when I say this to people they often have an 'ahha' moment. Too often scumbags and their enabling cohorts run about you in circles with pages and pages of explanation as though the more thought out and lengthy the explanation is the better excuse it makes. But these two are completely different and NOT interchangeable. While Im here another huge one is ppl thinking forgiving and excusing are the s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 07:58 AM
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wait. This isn't The Onion... even the headline guy was like .... riiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiight
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:08 AM
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communication/ counselling means, Im not going to listen to you or consider your feelings until an expert has unpacked and then can mediate and sugar coat and spoon feed me what I already know but am in denial of. and so i can say "She MaKes ME FeeL LiKe Im Not MaN EnOugh" AKA the WORST crime known to mankind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 04:03 AM
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i just experienced sympathetic emotional labour imagining gingerly explaining "emotional labour" to a husband that clearly sucks but that you have had enough sex/time/ life children with you have a cognitive bias telling you he is a "good" man and you desperately dont want to hurt his fragile male emotions but you are drowning
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/01/21 03:36 AM
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I actually hope this dip shit ducks out cuz of how "ExpeNsiVe" his lifestyle of hanging out with a queen in a lux apartment eating fine food and having intimate relations is, so he can go back to spending that amount on beer pizza porn and prostitutes until hes fat and limp
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 01:30 PM
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omg same
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 12:54 PM
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1 . front seat of car selfie 2. shirtless in any picture 3. bathroom selfie 4. ugly home decor or filthy house/bathroom 5. "traveler" "been to xyz lived in blah for an amount of time" / flag emojis 6. poly/ethical non monogamous dweebs 7. snowboarding gear on 8. holding dog in front of face 9. doggo dad seeks doggo mum 10. "beer" "pizza" "football" "seinfeld " in bio
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 12:31 PM
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Inspired! ok I just wrote out my version of this to remember the only kind of person worth compromising the freedom and peace of being single for.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 11:07 AM
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something tells me this is starter pack for OLD profiles all over the world, and its 20's 30's and 40's males
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 04:05 AM
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I think I'm actually going to get aboard this trend and buy myself a ring. It just makes so much sense. In my experience 'Boyfriends' hate choosing jewellery for gf's, they send their Moms and or Sisters to do the work, or do a horrible job at taste and sizing, it is frankly embarrassing that we have been putting up with this ritual for so long. Whats even worse is my dad is actually good at choosing jewellery and he used to buy me necklaces, and braclets etc, but he even gave the job to his lat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:57 AM
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getting to choose what movie or tv show to watch is a huge mood. i dont think i could go back to the "compromise"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 04:21 PM
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coming up next, THE CONFRONTATION. I lived for this show when it was on middday tv
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 05:05 PM
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it all started with "I dont like using labels " translation "I can dodge accountability more easily with the ambiguity of not using a word to describe something "
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 12:09 AM
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yeah more accurately they are a Single slob with a long term f**k buddy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 03:08 AM
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Yeah my theory on that is they are being "cool girls" hoping they have a magical vagina that makes men monogamous-
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 02:23 AM
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please give up. and mean it next time because this diatribe of a video isnt givy-upy- enough- sounds like he hanging in there and negging women as the bad guys for making him give up but like is still holding out hope for some sex crazed robot wrestle mania fantasy woman to come and rescue is slovenly ass. Like Please GIVE UP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 02:03 AM
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This failed man is willing to move mountains before he will admit that he is the problem and the only thing worth working on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 01:42 AM
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Pre- FDS i dated a guy for a few months- like he took me on dates, opened doors, had a really good job, doted, so basically "on paper" good. For this reason I continued to say yes when he asked me out to see a gig or dinner etc. One day I realised that he was draining me, I didn't feel excited to see him and I felt relief when I would leave his house or his mine. Bottom line I just couldn't stand him. But It took me so long to release because I was analytical of his behaviour and his friends and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/20 01:02 AM
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maybe this is left feild but ironically watching old movies where the male lead is tragically misogynistic loser can have a comedic value and is eye opening to what was just normal not that long ago- basically any of 90s michael douglas sexy thrillers and anything with harrison ford as lead edit: pretty sure michael douglas character literally rapes his office fling/ e. gf and its never brought up again or is seen a slight against his character - he remains the lead and hero of film. this is in …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 09:31 AM
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Cant wait to engage me in some lesbianics! sounds awesome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 09:28 AM
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stop looking for the signs in THEM and identify the signs in YOU that let your guard down- or work on any general pickmesha traits, work on your own boundary setting, and find a base line of happiness in your independence and individuality. The LVM will all be a different chameleon depending on the target. The only way to avoid them is to not be attractive to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:11 AM
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he should have said, "just being honest, Im a pathetic dweeb with zero spine or moral fiber for that matter, if you could take pitty on a worm like myself and let me slime my disgusting energy on tou for a few minutes that might give me enough emotional nutrition to last a few more weeks"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 06:01 AM
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Its totally fucked up that in this porn crazed world its MORE taboo to shame someones "KiNk or FantAcy" then it is to have a racist/ rapey/ pedo "KinK" porn these days straight up perverse / deprived and not healthy for anyone involved- but its totally acceptable to shame someone with that opinion as "Vanilla" or a "prude"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:50 AM
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huge level up babe, you should be high fiving yourself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:39 AM
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damn that one comment was enough to fuel the delusion for even longer. Its not gonna last, loser bf wont be having his cake and eating it too for much longer
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 04:03 AM
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the fact that his son is a drug addict speaks volumes about this Man. Probably was a lousy father.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 03:04 AM
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Being the cool girl or 'one of the boys' only lowerd my self worth and made me a surrogate girlfriend for a group of guys all the way into my 30s - who all at some point between gfs made some sleezy move making me feel like i was probably a no commitment back up option in their heads. Have ditched them all now and felt guilty and grief and loss at first but Im a like different person now- so much healthier and no ones emotional labourer, stronger and have way better boundaries which makes me fee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 02:39 AM
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Personally ive never actually used a device during sex/. call me vanilla ( my ex did whatever i don't really mind that label) but I have had orgasms pretty much regularly since i became sexually active and the times that it has just not not not been able to happen was 100% because of mental reasons /intruding thoughts / doubts about the guy/ and I once heard this line in a documentary "the largest sexual organ is the brain" Ive had close to orgasms just from using my imagination and no physical …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 05:00 AM
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Lololol that cracked me up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:41 AM
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what a different world it would be if men lived in fear of a de- nosing instead of women afraid of a raping.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:33 AM
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this happened to my friend, matched on the apps with a mutual friend- chatted- flirting and stuff- he asks her what day she free for a date presumably- but then ghosts, after she send like 3 messages- shes waits and then comes to me for advice about sending another message! (shes not quite ready for FDS, but is shedding pickme ways ) she was going to write "heyyy still keen for a date, but dont want to rush :) blah blha" and im like NO. No No No. ..tell him that you think he is lame for ghosting…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:24 AM
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this so much, I cringe so hard at my past self that has explained and corrected and given a shit about telling some loser guy how to be better. its such a woft. (waste of fucking time)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:55 AM
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so true you don't suddenly have a greater chance at meeting someone because you use OLD. Its a joyless and draining experience that leaves your bar low and esteem for men in the dirt. Then its like all you notice every where are loser men that you wouldn't pro create with even if you were the last two people on earth and your saying to yourself maybe im not even heterosexual.. or maybe all these guys are a different species.. what the hell is going on, it takes up precious time and energy that c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 02:03 PM
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oh my god what the fuck this is NOT common knowledge! always told "men have infinite sperm and women have limited eggs and have them from birth and dont get anymore and thats why all this TicK TocK biological clock crap" but wow wee turns out men have all that sperm probably to accommodate all the impulsive masturbating and not because nature decided that they were meant to be getting young women knocked up well into there 50s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 01:26 PM
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It because its reddit and anyone who dares saying anything against the incel swarm will be downvoted to oblivion and they know it. or maybe you would have to put it in a star wars hypothetical context for them to even ponder it for a moment
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 01:19 PM
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where even the fuck does this non sense statement come from? ive heard it my whole life too and what is the meaning exactly? like what is the science behind it? Men see? men have eyes and women are blind? men like to look and women like to think? isnt a visual creature any life form with seeing eyes? The idea it really gets across is that men are impulsive and react easily from shallow and 2 dimensional stimulation and women exercise more logic and discernment. But men like to claim that women a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 12:06 PM
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What the fuck is with all the car front seat (with seatbelt on) selfies. set as profile picture. ??? Tinder/ Hinge / Bumble are raping apps. They are a convenient playground for predators, and 99.98% of men on their have zero intention for finding love. The psychology if the swipe app doesn't cater to finding love and relationships, its a dopamine addiction and only exists because it plays on reptilian survival brain instincts and make billions of dollars for the developers. This idea that you c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:36 AM
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its true on the few occasions ive ~made the first moove~ they disclose they have a gf, BUT offer to take my number anyway- or go on to say how thier gf has been a real bitch of late, and or keep flirting and Im just like nope no thanks, but the implication is always there - And its like they think they are a still good guy, coz they were honest. Ones that have not been in a relaysh DTF and Ghost and the sex is always always complete and utter garbage obviously because they see it as a no effort …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:06 AM
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add to this pissing in public- and walking around with shirts off on a hot day. Im sure their logic would be "O dont care if other people do it and I dont care if other people see my dick or my half naked body. But I DONT want to see your dick, or chest and hair and body just in my face. and even if I did I would be at a much higher risk of being assulted heckled and generally in danger. One time I FED up and working at a bar, serving some backpacking free spirit tanned "hunky" beefcake loser, w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 08:41 AM
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i suppose if your really really hungry gruel would taste ok. or dying of thirst a dirty car park puddle would be a refreshing drop!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 08:31 AM
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here i am googling ethical banking alternatives feeling guilty about putting money in bank that invests in fosil fuels, meanwhile the majority of men's top used website where they pour most of their time and money into is 80% child rape, and THEY feel SORRY for themselves? what a world... I would honestly be embarrassed to have a boyfriend/ husband in this era. one day we will look back and say proudly "yes my grandchild I was single throughout the dark times of the pornsick years of the millenn…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 08:19 AM
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your husband is a loser fuck him off- sorry it got this far, my step dad also turned into the psychopath he was as soon as my mom married him. You can grieve you will get over it you will be glad you didn't waste a lifetime becoming emotionally battered and then another lifetime healing and forgiving yourself. Please take the advice of all the women here who have your back. Get out and dont look back. any "redeeming" qualities you might remind yourself he has are fake. Thats your imagination bar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 06:56 AM
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My God. It just hit me that society would view any woman who didn't have this mind set as stupid and/or asking for trouble. this. this is the new normal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 06:47 AM
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ewwwww that's embarrassing for him. lol i cant believe how much god damn stoopid shit goes down in an attempt to pretend that most guys are just a fucking embarrassment to themselfs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/20 02:57 PM
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"I just Cannot leave my bf" You need to elaborate on this, not to me but to yourself. Find out within yourself why. That is what you are avoiding and bargaining with this idea that you can stay with him but somehow tell yourself that you are single and that you someone will still court you and perhaps even propose marriage. This has nothing to do with your grandparents or generations, you are not leaving a relationship that you admit isn't going anywhere. Why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/20 12:20 AM
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Im rooting for ya! xoxo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 01:22 PM
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id changing therapist is not an option then perhaps try to interpret her saying this stuff and helpful to you, because in a sense living with the staunch belief that is backed by number and evidence that men are mostly bad and narcissistic, isnt actually great for tour mental health. It is gearing you to be on guard and notice narcissism everywhere. Im not saying its not there but I have been in the mindset that they everywhere and its just plain stressful. so maybe she is trying to soften you b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 10:39 PM
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sounds likes classic catfish scammer, I watched a 4 corners report on how HUGE the scamming cat fish industry is. they on so many platforms and do it professionally making money from internet cafes using VPNs making heaps of dating profiles and facebook accounts all day long and giving money to big boss. They will say all the right things and will keep a LRD going for years as long as it pays. Its a full time jobs for many young boys in countries around the world that have nothing but good inter…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 10:33 PM
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Sigh, babe I feel your pain. But Im going to be straight with you, sounds like your head is still spinning but we need to whack it on straight. You ex boyfriend is a douche. He most likey always has been and you most likely ignored plenty of warming signs about him being a pathetic douche, its fine though, you had been single for 2.5 years and felt like that was 'enough time' and but evidently whatever traumas from that last relationship hadnt been one overcome completely yet (i feel like now th…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 10:21 PM
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Is this satire? serious question
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 03:30 PM
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this reminds me i was in the chemist the other day and this loud obnoxious clerk was 'flirt/negging' this very sweet female chemist (she had the full chemist uniform he was but a checkout dick) and he full on goes to her after cracking shitty joke, "smile!" and they BOTH HAVE MASKS ON. shes responds "I am smiling" (she was I could hear in her voice) and he goes "Okay! You're SO agro!' she laughs uncomfortably.. B Telling someone to smile when they are wearing a mask is a new level of dumbfuck I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 03:26 PM
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The poster of this is still in shock, just in new apartment. give her a few days/weeks/months and slowly she will recall all the red flags she missed. Ive picked one already "Never Fought" in 2 years- that's not normal, abuse isn't normal but a fight here and there and some evidence that you can communicate through a disagreement is crucial before you settle down thinking you have struck soulmate gold.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 03:08 PM
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try not to get too emotionally invested in somebody elses (even a friend) choices, we have all been there and retrospectively we know we knew, but in the time the denial and unwillingness to face reality is strong. Hold the belief that she will open her eyes and see the reality for what it is no sooner then she is ready and willing and has the mechanisms in place to cope with that. You can be her friend even if she is a 'pickme' you can show compassion understanding and patients for her, even if…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 03:02 PM
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I feel like I could infiltrate mgtow or redpill and become their lord king dick with such ease it wouldn't even be a challenge. I cant imagine why I would want to, but it would be easy. I mean, im not really doing anything next few days, got nothing on..maybe it would be a good gag.. im imagining that final scene in borat, where sasha baron cohen gets into the fighting cage after pretending to be a mucho red neck and then proceeds to start making out with another man instead of fighting. Only I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:45 PM
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shall we just call it #rapeinder and move on? ​ ​ edit: by that I mean that shitty app doesnt deserve to spark some dialog and negotiation with female users and come to some middle ground where they agree to make it safer to use. That PIG TROUGH of an app should be 'myspaced' aka totally and completely discredited and abandoned, until there is nothing to swipe to not even a tumbleweed or a single lizard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:27 PM
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OK I am not on the pill, never have been (exept tried for 1 week years ago for depression and it didn't work) my cycles are and always have beeen 28 days long, and usually follow the full moon/ and new moon, and then half way through year the slowly drift so that ovulation is on new moon, and then moves to ovulation on full moon, its gradual shift is by day, ive been tracking like this for over 4 years. When My best friend who I worked with a few years back would have the morning after pill if w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:16 PM
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Ok... so my experience is invalid then? I not claiming that its works 100% of time for everyone. I and I don't believe that there has historically or recently medical science has poured many thorough, or long term, investigative research on female hormone cycles, and in face a lot of medical science that is carried out excludes women on the basis that hormone cycles interrupt with tests and results. I don't need you or anyone else even scientific peer reviewed papers will not change my experienc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 02:00 PM
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A dog has a more complex mind than a guy who places his value and life purpose on the fact that he can make a dog stay in a cage or not, and want a mate with the same intelligence as a dog (which is at best human equivalent to a 5 year old)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 04:36 AM
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im so fucking pissed at the amount of times ive been 'cool girl' and had a guy be like..I dont wanna use a condom, can I just pay you for a morning after pill? Those pills are fucked, they are massive hormone intake, forcing an early period that is hellish, its fucked with your mood levels for DAYS and fucks with your cycle for months, and it can make you female friends induce their periods because of pheromones. I know that for a fact, I had a friend and I would KNOW every time she hooked up wi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 04:19 AM
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This is also why I feel Cardi b and WAP is also propaganda - I love Cardi B, I do, I just think she and other 'sexually empowered' strong female leader pop stars are absolutly being and are under the control of (evil as fuck )record companies. And are sold as products to normalize a young girls road to empowerment is paved with becoming a male fantasy, and openly sexual liberal. This shouldnt be about left/right wing politics anymore. This is about human rights, and female empowerment should fee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 04:10 AM
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Yeah I am glad I didnt end up one of those poor poor women married to one for 10 years and with a bunch of children that hate them because the narc father has turned them against her. I way I grateful for the crash course in narc behavior early in life, and know i wont be tricked again. Its frustrating seeing friends in these relationships but I know they will too learn eventually
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 04:02 AM
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Where the fuck is the logic in deeming FDS toxic, when the strategy is not sleeping with or dating men that we aren't invested in emotionally. Its absurd. there is no comparison. I'm mind boggled by the attitudes of incel/mgtow/redpill. Its like a seething mess of hatred towards women, with zero awareness of it. Maybe women are going to end up back on Venus, and men on Mars, because it really feels like most men are from another planet to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 03:01 PM
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OK, this guy sounds like replica of guy I know. These type of LVM are all the same. I know how the echos of this relationship can keep going on and on, the layers of confusion! Its A bottomless pit. SO here's something I found out after 3 and half years after being with one of these drainers. Its a simple formula to help you understand the very foundation of NPD (Narcissistic Personality Disorder) Your Pain = His Healing. Your Crucifixion = His Resurrection A person like him is deeply unstable e…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 02:12 PM
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omg thanky ou for putting that so succinctly. We are not at all 'strategizing' on how to trick and lure and bait and switch and lie and cheat men into our lives. (I mean, if we were that would be hilariously easy..too easy) but we have nothing to gain from that. I have honestly thought about making a parody female PUA group. But when it comes down to it, the exact same PUA tactics would work on men especially if we were choosing 'targets' based on low self esteem, but we don't because it would b…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 01:36 PM
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I am CACKLING at dis "..I suspect I have much more to go when it comes to the trials and tribulations of ..." Me - - not so fast their sonny-Jim! I suspect you will be forever alone and the wind cries 'loooooooooserrrrrrr"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 01:48 AM
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I wish posts like this made it over on r/TIL but they don't like learning uncomfortable truths over there. GET THIS POST TO FRONT PAGE smash that upvote button!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 01:38 AM
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Da faq the post has been taken down my moderators? COVERUP?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 01:09 AM
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*eyes squinting to zero aperture*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 01:06 AM
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Honeymoon phase AKA Loveboming-to-lull-you-in-to-false-sense-of-security-before-the-real-toxic-abusive-cave-man-rears-his-ugly-head
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 01:02 AM
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absolutely! Federal Reserve is a scam. IN my country Im pretty Aussie dollar is commodity backed. However I dont own any gold bars myself, and this thing happened like 10 years ago where A bank lost all these retirees superannuation money on bad investments and the goverrment was just like tough luck. So I always have this fear that the bank with all your money in it could just turn around and say, 'we dont have it anymore' and you are powerless to do anything about it. So given that, Im startin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 12:55 AM
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well thats true for all money right? One little solar storm, or mini nova and every electrical device, and satellite will be gone, except maybe internet servers that are deep underground and on back up generators
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 10:27 AM
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i dunno, what ive come to realise for me tho, is the thing that stopped me from getting the fuck rid of negging, draining, bring me down types was how i would feel guilty about cutting people out of my life. Ive been working on that by really giving more energy and graditude to the people in my life that are supportive, and straight up cutting out those that dont the guilt factor with me was strong, but its just a shit feeling that keeps me tied up with more people who leave me feeling shit, aft…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 10:24 AM
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I don't think its imaginary money its more like 'cloaked' money, you need real money to buy into bitcoin and you can tun it back into real money when you sell your stocks or whatever, its just a red flag coz all the guys i know that are into it, act like its an investment hobby, when they are just covering their tracks with buying untraceable dodgy fucked up things
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:44 AM
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well, losing him for ever would be a blessing... and I cant see it going any other way, he wont stop, and he will for sure dump her if she doesn't keep agreeing to it, but not before he guilt trips and gaslights to pump out a few more rounds. The sex is going to become more and more soul destroying for her, and she doesn't realize that he doesn't love her or care about her one iota, you just know if he was feeling they she does during sex, no matter how much it was turning her on, she would not …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:37 AM
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ok no shit, this is actually true, this has stuck with me for years; many years ago at the start of what become the most abusive dangerous relationship of my life, after the first date (he asked me to the movies but when i got to his house, he changed his mind, we had lunch and chatted all day, and then ended up in his bedroom and had sex :( - i stayed the night and had to go to work the next day, he ordered me an uber, and gave me a bottle of water, its was the fancy kind in a glass bottle, I w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 07:15 AM
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love this idea, while its good to vent and get support, some refocus on higher vibration ideas and activities will benefit us all. Im so grateful for being single right now, because ive had such a stable emotional and mental state, and had the strength to do a lot of 'shadow' work For those who are interested, what its means is getting really honest with the unconscious/subconscious aspects of your personality, habits, ego etc (whatever you want to call it) but essentially the things we don't 'l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 06:51 AM
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This Is FUCKED UP. Now I'm thinking men who into cryptocurrency is a red flag
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 06:23 AM
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I get concerned about how many male teachers are clicking away at 'school girl' category porn. That cant be healthy for their minds when they are expected to sit in a classroom of girls wearing the same outfits that they jerk off to. I think given the prevalence of the 'sexy school girl, porn trope, hit me baby one more time- Brittany spears etc" That school uniforms should be abolished, they are more synonymous with male fantasy porn than and learning environment for children. Its ridiculous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:59 AM
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I'm not getting it really, If the boys at the school were protesting so that the girls at the school are allowed to wear pants as well that would be a thing.. but as far as I can understand these teenage boys are making a stance to allow the girls at the school to have no restriction on how "short" the skirt is? like its already 10cm above knee restriction and they want the right to go higher? Like lets be real, allowing girls to alter their uniforms to be more revealing isn't really a win in my…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:54 AM
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I love these two expressions: argue with a fool, and he will drag down to his level and beat you with experience. & Never throw your pearls to the Pigs, they will trample them and still come after you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:40 AM
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do Lvm just rise to positions of power, and then loudly exclaim "ALL MEN ARE AS SHIT AS ME" "LOOK NO FURTHER! MY SHITTY PERSONALITY IS AS GOOD AS IT GETS, MEN WHO CLAIM TO BE DIFFERENT ARE LYING, WE ALL SUCK, GET USED TO IT"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:34 AM
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me too, after some painfull life experiences and lessons I have found so much power and strength in studying the tarot, fools journey, and basically awakening my inner witch. Id recommend Witchcraft as a power full self development journey to anyone. (that said be very care full about who and where you get information about it from) I find its personal practice that I do alone. My favorite witch who is trustworthy guide imo is hearthstone1111 on youtube. But we all have intuition and can follow …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:31 AM
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The comparison factor is red flag. If the 'compliment' is on a foundation of other people being >less than. Its likely it can be flipped around in the future and other people are> better than. The real compliment would be for them to get specific about what makes you special to them. ei, "you are so kind" or ' your mind is so interesting, you make me think in ways ive never thought before" or "you are so funny, i love you unique sense of humor' or 'you have the most infectious laugh on me" like …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:19 AM
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lol lost it at him telling you you should wear lipstick when you play vollyball chuckling hard over here. what a wanker!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:06 AM
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His senile mushy peas brain can't compute that no woman wants him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:03 AM
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imagine bragging about being a cheap stingy asshole, but blaming woman for emasculation issues.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 03:00 AM
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I don't ware make up at all specifically because of how fucking dopey and stupid men start acting around me when I do. Like I love dolling up, its fun, its creative and I look stun with lipstick mascara etc. but I hate how guys look stare at me for longer and inevitably some douchelord will tell me "You SHoulD Wear MAke UP MORE OfTEn!" Male friends that I have long established friendships with act like they've never met me, or like they are meeting me for the first time. Once a friend that I wen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 02:53 AM
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so they exist? this is great news! lol In all honesty, when ever I have doubts i just think about John Krazinski and Emily Blunt. What a dream those two are
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 02:30 AM
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Im Am LAuging OUt loud! You are right that all the FAIL relationships are the same its a fucking trope now. All LVM may as well be robots/clones/Ai - And all the pick mes probably have a different threshold breaking point, lets hope 2020 is there wake up year! The biggest learning point for my whole life is; you can't change somebody! Even if you could, it would be so unsatisfying that you had to do all the work and hold their hand the whole way, and train them into being a passable acceptable c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 02:25 AM
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damn! yeah I knew something was off when I was watching one of the funniest of my favorite shows and (ex) just randomly repeats a line that wasn't even a punch line or a joke, it was like I caught a robot practicing being human. so he didnt even get the offbeat- dry humor he was just stabbing in the dark.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/10/20 02:00 AM
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OH god, PLease for the love of all things holy don't "study the issue further" "You are not needed" - Women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:52 PM
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He's clearly not hurt because she lied, he's hurt because his delusion of being don juan just got smashed into teeny weeeny little pieces. he has an opportunity to improve but would rather create another delusion about her lying about 'other stuff' I'll tell you what else she's lying about; all the things you are fragile about! so lets see, she probs hates his hair cut, hates his friends, thinks his dad is a creep, doesn't like that sweater his mum knitted her, his shoes are probably smelly, and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:17 PM
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mybe they just jerk off from the power trip, this guy couldnt get a gf and he knows it so he just punishes them in advance .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:01 PM
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You have got this babe, bright horizons for you! xox
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:59 PM
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the most frustrating thing is that when you you point it out, the guy will just cut you off and deny it, and you having said something will then make zero difference to his behavior. If you try and match them in velocity on cutting off-there speech, watch how quickly a fight/argument will escalate. its a lose/lose situation. That said, a small win for me did happen its a bit of a story time, but its was pretty good; I worked as a bar manager in a busy bar, that had some high risk incidents occas…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:21 PM
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I love that wish, I will make it too. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:47 PM
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crushing a vulnerable persons spirit, because its the only thing that gets their flaccid dick to from soft to medium, because any person with any amount of self assuredness, is a threat to them and there manhood shrinks down to nano-size as a result. I would say they need help....if I actually gave a shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:46 PM
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totally but he went fucking wholesale!, must be his first date with a woman?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:40 PM
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I literally want to hug this woman (with her permission ofc) That date sounds so horrific, what an absolute tosser. the description of his behavior sounds like a sketch show skit, like SNL. I was scoff laughing, but then how she feels unsure in the end breaks my heart. If your out there lady, come to our group! let us help you, and remind you how stunning you are and so much higher above this loser guy who was definitely LYING through his teeth about everything
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:38 PM
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2020 Fuck-boy myths; -Meal-diggin' woman, will date you ONCE for free meal. -Meal-Diggers are so shallow they always on their phone or doing make up! -Nice guys always get turned down by meal-diggers, But once you flash your cash the start trippin' over your dick to get at it. There is a movie called "swiped" that I havn't watched but, I watched a you-tube reaction video too that is really funny, plot is 100% incel fan fiction.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 01:05 PM
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not too mention how medicated on prescription drugs as well has huge coke addiction that goes with the lifestyle is a vicious cycle, I honestly think you have to be high to not vomit at old mans wrinkly crusty balls and dick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 12:55 PM
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So true! My bff shhe is a fuckin boss queen and drives a motorcycle, and ive seen her make some TERRIBLE tinder swipes just cuz she really wants to be able to go on rides with potential date, and so overlooks SO many red flags due to motobike being in picture... and these guys never matched her anyway because they weren't interested in a woman who has motobike too, but she was hopefull it was upsetting, shes not on tinder anymore so lesson learned there. but mutual interests can pull the wool ov…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 12:52 PM
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hmm maybe these trolls will accept replacing gold digger with the updated 2020 version more inline with their resources : "meal digger" lmfaooooo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 12:48 PM
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agree 'gold diggers' are a myth. disenfranchised mentally abused sex slaves is more accurate. eg anna nicole smith and all of hugh heffners wives/gfs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 08:42 AM
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I had a maybe relevant, maybe not, shower thought the other day; which was that what has really blinded me in the past to red flags and gotten me (and ive seen it in others) in deep quickly to lvm relationship was bonding over something funny in the initial stage of dating, like maybe its a no brainer to not 'netflix and chill' but bonding over a new TV show with someone can cloud a lot judgment if this is taking place too early into relationship. Maybe its just me, but being in a manufactured s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 08:39 AM
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Pamper yourself babe, during this initial grief/relief stage its soo ok to be in. Things will slowly slowly get easier, lighter, free-er, and joy-full. Its hard to imagine how good you will feel a bit later down the road so just let yourself feel what you are feeling, and really keep in mind just doing the things for yourself that make you feel good! I suggest taking a salt bath, but set the mood with candles, and put some flower petals or essential oils, play your fav music and sing along to yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 08:25 AM
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Well I'm glad they've solved all their problems, in this one thread! They don't have to worry about the male children/next generation because they hate children and don't want them. And they can pay for escorts and tell prostitutes they are virgins and have satisfactory sexual conquests, well into old age too. tick! So what next on the docket MGTOW? all your problems are solved and you have a supportive community. why so whiny? I just don't understand what they actually want?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 08:11 AM
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The gut doesn't lie. Good luck with new job! not that you will need it cuz its sounds like you smashing life rn
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 07:56 AM
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This is like propaganda honestly! spreading this myth that women are out there actually with just 'free meal' on the mind. I dumb ass fuck rumor started by fuck boys that didn't get laid after one date. a) women aren't playing the field of free meals, that would actually high risk for us, and is only something we joke about and are being sarcastic about, dudes we can make out own dinner, and pay for our own meals. DUH b) even if they were (the aren't) but IF they were it would still be SO tame c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 07:48 AM
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God forbid a film that women will enjoy more than men is made! Like the existence of these films is actually encroaching on movies like "Wild Hogs" being made. Its so absurd to be annoyed merely by the fact that something you don't particularly enjoy exists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 07:06 AM
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I think I just realized that anytime the expression "deep down" is being thrown around its time to stop gas lighting yourself and GTFO
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 06:56 AM
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Ideology : "No one should hit anyone" Factual evidence based reality; Men hit/beat/punch/kick/murder other Men and Women and Children DISPROPORTIONATELY more than Women do. If your ideology is that no one should be hitting anyone, why is that sentiment equally directed at both genders when the evidence of the reality we live in isn't equal. Its WILLFUL IGNORANCE, and/or understandable FEAR of an aggressive mans reaction to being faced with the truth. If I say the wrong thing or call him out my l…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:37 AM
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omg LOL you read my mind!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:23 AM
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Well yeah he was just giving her a CoMplImEnT. and who knows MayBE it ""could"" have developed into something """more""" if she wasn't such a cold bitch. Now too bad for her cuz he's got lots of $$ and good job/car/sperm lolololol these men are straight up DELUSIONAL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:21 AM
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pICK ME I have A UNQUIE SET of ZERO standards!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:15 AM
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normalizing adult diapers out of practicality and hes not even trolling/joking? I have no words. none. ok maybe, get me off this planet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 03:05 AM
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that episode is so funny and disturbingly accurate, looking at where the division between men and woman is heading. Its like the more equality is gained the more toxic the leftover resistance becomes, and the more women unify and support one another, the more useless the men feel. And so be it, if you treat another human like they are an object, then you should be happy with an object right? "I'm here if you need to talk"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:54 AM
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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NNMLlfHsgu4 LOL Elaine Benes: "Im not a lesbian, I hate men, but Im not a lesbian"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:49 AM
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Its so true, its like if the king of LVM admits it its HILERIOUS, cuz they all know! They all in on it. But its like men are part of a fucking fightclub cult, and they are like 'we addmit it to eachother but 1st 2nd 3rd 4th and 5th rule is NEVER admit it when a women says it. Tell her 'Not ALL men' and get offended because your a nice guy, tell her how you called that guy out that one time, tell her about that popular girl in highschool that rejected you and destroyed your self esteem and humili…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 02:41 AM
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I think the demand for for fem-bots would skyrocket. invest in stocks now ladies ;)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:13 PM
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if the point of this is to highlight the different pronunciations of words, why does he say keep saying 'No' ? I don't like him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:06 PM
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He probz calling you a burrito digger by now. coz like obvi, you ate the burrito, there fore owed him at least one peenus touch, and then you like ghosted on him and like didnt even give him chance, and this nice guy got dogged and im sure his friendz are buying him some icecreams to cheer him up, saying aw shit dude girls are only after ONE thing bro, your sweet sweet burrito pocket muny. lerrrl
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:57 PM
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yessss!! Welcome sweetheart!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 09:12 AM
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Jenny, Jenny, Jenny in a perfect utopian society casual sex, and "fwb" would be the ticket. Have you ever had full filling one night stand sex? You dont have to answer out loud. Has a FWB situation ever been a sexually enriching experience that gently tapered out back to normal friends without any regrets/ remorse/ "caTcHIng FeElIngs/"/heart ache? Keep chasing that unicorn situation sis. We all know that the fantasy is to 'be cool' with one night stand. But then it develops into FWB because the …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 08:57 AM
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The emotional blackmail when you make a boundary is a sign of severe fear of abandonment. This is a symptom in a variety is disorders and mental health issues. Its not going to helpful to you to figure out why, because the bottom line is that attachment and chronic fear of abandonment is not love and those issue would cloud any ability to genuinely love. Despite somebody's ability to claim and excuse this behavior as undying/ everlasting "love" its coming from a place of fear, and putting a resp…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:34 AM
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totally agree with you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:26 AM
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fuck joe rogan makes my skin crawl, his weird tight shiny skin and sleezey slug face.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 02:17 AM
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If he loves her and want to marry her why wouldn't he want to buy her a ring? He's a child and would make a miserable husband. hope she doesn't marry gaming loser boy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:42 AM
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They want sex, but can't get hard without power over a woman. They are literally flaccid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:33 AM
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YES. Every singe time I have seen the girl excersise the 'openess' aspect, and execute the 'honest about it' aspect guy has switched gear into exclusive, or slut shamed, or cried. Guys who want non exclusive, or open relationships, just are manufacturing a dynamic that usually works too that is guy can fuck around-get phone numbers -hook up with random chick, flirt around -(because remember guys who have a sure thing waiting at home have more confidence in their flirt game) (see george costanza …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:30 AM
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WOW. Love her NRG. I wish I did this so many times in past, this lady has a fucking good future ahead of her if she sticks to her resolve and ditches every single one of these assholes telling her she over reacted. "I grabbed my shit, while he begged me to stay...told me..kidding..too serious..lighten up" ?????!!!!!!!! That is not begging, this would be begging "IM sorry, I fucked up, I felt humiliated by my friend and I was being a coward when I should have stood up for our relationship, please…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:18 AM
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Certainly lots of 'diagnosis' get thrown around by people who are far from having a degree on psychology, and I agree that can be unhelpful in that it dilutes the word to mean any old run of the mill asshole. Yet I say I am guilty of throwing it around because I feel like when you are with one, and it all suddenly fits together, there is no mistaking it. I dont think you need to have a degree to know the feeling when you look into someones eyes and there is nothing behind them. Its an unmistakab…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 12:57 AM
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run. block, cut your hair and bleach it i don't care, he dangerous. If that's what you caught/ found out, its likely only 5% of whats really going on I dated a sociopath, pathological liar, performance actor/ crier / Loved his axes. stalked me after break up. LOATHES his whole family- he said some fucked up things about his little brother and sister that were red flags but at the time i just passed off as a 'dark' sense of humor. Total drug addict, steals his moms vallium and xanex and hate her,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:51 AM
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LOL i almost spat out my coffee reading this. Me, ME I call that possessive! I hope this guys girlfriend is getting pleased by ALL the MEN in THE WORLD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:31 AM
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I stopped using the swipey app when it dawned on me that my 'dream' guy doesn't use a swipey-datey app. Don't think that ALL the single men are on there. They arn't, in fact most of the HVM that I know don't and wouldn't use tinder or bumble. They are normal men who meet people occasionally through friends and go slow, make conversation ask out on dates IRL etc I don't think OLD increase chances of finding a partner, OLD apps just force into focus how many bad matches are out there and leave you…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:26 AM
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LOL "r/seduction"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:07 AM
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Stockholm syndrome/ fawning symptom of wide spread cultural misogyny / society is a stressful place for women, stress/fear responses are Fight, Flight, Freeze, Fawn - this translates to feeling towards Men (A woman's BIGGEST danger in life) as ; Anger, Anxiety, Depression, and Fawing equals this Woman. 'Can't beat em join em' mentality. They have subconsciously seen that Men hold all the Power/most likely to harm them (or maybe even have harmed them), and have taken the road of becoming sycophan…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:02 AM
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thats exactly what i was gonna say! I watched Eric Andre stand up on netflix of somthing, and he has this bit about how it such a tight ring of muscle that rejects the peen so uncomfortable and there is a vagina RIGHT there around the corner. Its really clarified for me. I also had an ex that said the same thing, he was like 'im not into that it hurts mah-dick, doesn't feel good' but I used to be friends with this girl who loved it in the butt with her husband, but she also noted he had small di…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:37 AM
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Is it bad I laughed at this.?These two losers deserve each other (the guy and the hippy) you just know it will be an absolute train wreck of a relationship with this trope of a beginning, guy is a narc and the hippy chick is a narc, get out the popcorn GF coz this will be quite the show..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:22 AM
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its not even that hes slightly shorter than you that's a big deal its the way hes being such a nag about it, and spreading on a guilt trip, off setting his insecurities, trying to trip you up on being shallow, He might be 'nearly 5'9' but hes 'energy' is -'5'1' still lives with parents and bald. just tell him some lie about meeting someone else, sell him any lie it takes so that he can't make it about his height, and then if you run into him act like you didn't recognize him, then pretend you fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:55 AM
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the only tight pussy this gross pig has encountered I would bet was just a pussy recoiling and tightening due to being totally unwilling to have sex with him. and second point his puny micro-flaccid drove him to write this diatribe of senseless drivel. Can you imagine how crusty, bald, repulsive and cringe this creep would be? gross gross grossssssssss.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:44 AM
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Fuck you know someone is not worth listening to when they claim "science is proving" or "science says" You need to at the very least say which of the science's (there are sooo many feilds of science), which study/university/and when? (is this something from a kids book of science you read in 5th grade, or a recent publication?) and if you don't know any of these things don't claim "because science" This git has the same donkey-brained blind faith in God and Science and just regurgitates whatever…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 04:17 AM
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Whats makes me sick is that They knew what they were doing and I knew what they were doing. But I was in denial because thinking they were 'deep down good' and I was 'not good enough' was EASIER to believe. Its so fucking evil and toxic how the fuck can they live with themselves, they do not deserve sex, women, relationships, children, hot dinners, all they deserve is a fleshlight, or blow up doll, and a cave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:56 AM
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I'm thinking about starting business and have already sniffed out who among my friends, are eyebrow raising, and giving off a 'you will never make it vibe' So I wont be sharing any plans with them, Also some people have been a bit 'let me show you how its done' -vibe and I'm already dubious of the condescension so keeping them at arms length too, I don't want them to turn around and claim 'You would have never made it without me!' basically an honest friend who is decent and good should be nothi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:31 AM
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I think the tactic is to hang all the way back, and then have you do all the peddling, basically they want there dates desperate and initiating everything, so after the sad sad sex they give they can back away and be like 'bitch is crazy clingy" and "Hey I never led her on" "she persued me" "i just gave her the D coz she was desperate for it" "she clingy so i gave her pity sex" these guys are emotionally crippled and the only way they can engage sexually is under circumstances where they feel li…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:14 AM
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I think humanity has hit a rough patch, and hopefully woman everywhere leveling up wont procreate with this subspecies of males that are the majority. Or maybe the we really will end up with an impotency, and sterile epidemic from this porn sick generation. If humans still around in next few hundred years none of these nvm f-bois will have any legacy, polluting the genepool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 04:11 AM
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ONe RING TO DISAPPOINT THEM ALLL AND IN THE DARKNESS BIND THEM
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:43 AM
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omg thankyou! I always get sucked into dr. grande videos and they never sit right with me. He has no compassion he never offers any real insight and just briefly summarizes the case- takes up half the video saying nothing at all, and then positions himself neatly fence sitting on every issue to keep his subs up. I watched the youtube footage of the police man coming to the house on youtube a few years back, and havnt watched the netflix one. and i wont, becasue dr.grande says that the wife was t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:26 AM
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your phone; "why are you texting me?" His phone; "&^%$ *(*&^%GVH^%^6 ?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 03:05 AM
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does anyone else feel stressed out reading these arguments? Like when some entitled narcissist is refusing to budge, and some intelligent logical and brave person make some very airtight arguments and then the response is just so arrogant and ignoring facts and truth and coming in even harder with BS, I get so uneasy. Like you could be fucking Dumbledore and have the quickest, wisest, truest, purest statement to reveal that they are wrong and they would still just power ahead with arrogant shit-…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:55 AM
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I hope she fingers his butt hole next time he is on a ladder, or using a circular buzz saw.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/10/20 02:41 AM
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You gotta weed your garden before you can get some nice flowers growing. Yes you will be alone (empty garden bed) temporarily , but just think of it a space for more enriching valuable friendships to prosper. Best thing to do at first, is fall in love with your own company. enjoy the peace and serenity, face your demons all that jazz you will do great, congrats on putting yourself No.1
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 05:02 AM
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that got an award? Let hope she does a follow up post, renouncing everything and joins us ...mhuua hah hah
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:57 AM
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Oh no offense to rats of-coarse! I was merely comparing the desperation of a caged animal being similar to the desperation of this type of behavior
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:50 AM
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I think I get that, but TBH, what you might think is coming off as a bitch, might actually be you coming off as a cool confidant take no bullshit woman that you are, and people actually love that. They might just think, fucck shes cool and ddoesnt give a fuck wahat ppl think about her, I want tto be her friend! - I would think that - If you be a nice girl goody goody 2 shoes, you will be walked over by assholes you can see you are a people pleaser. And lets not forget the simple truth that is No…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:47 AM
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Pick Up Artists, They have secret forums and discuss techniques of dating girls, with very unhealthy and toxic intentions, they study women psychology and have made manipulating women or 'targets' as they call them into a science, they experiment in the field and share field reports. They have one goal that is sleeping with as many women as they can, and helping other incell acheive 'results' through training programes an access to closed forums. There is a book called 'The Game' BY Neil Strause…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 04:39 AM
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I swear there is a PUA secret group out there with this post; How to circumnavigate 'woke' women who cock block at the first slip up; Call her a compliment/ pet name Ask how her day is going/ send generic 'good morning' text Pursue as usual
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:05 PM
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people like him with deep seated insecurities have basically got an addiction to 'significance' any type will do. they are junkies for significance. without it they feel a sense of inhalation. Once he has found a new source you will be left alone. It is not personal. Ignore him, do not try and figure him out, or shove it in his face that you know he is just insecure, because that will be giving him his drug, remember they do not discriminate when it comes to this drug, good bad makes no differen…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 03:19 PM
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Sweet Baby Jesus. This woman needs to listen to her bodily reactions - Like she has been poisoned! because that right there is the most fucked up venomous toxic marriage and best friend combo-situation EVER. I can feel her pain of betrayal its paralyzing! She needs to leave and never look back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 03:09 PM
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LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 03:03 PM
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Not About You - Haiku Hands <<my breakup JAM On The Regular - Shamir My Lovin' (You're Never Gonna Get It) - En Vogue Not The Doctor - Alanis Morrisette Get Out - JoJo love this thread!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 02:49 PM
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OK sorry but im just gonna chime in here and say mutual friends should just as much mean him not being a cheap sake loser and putting his best foot forward like "I better bring her a chair, we have mutual friends i don't want to look like a cunt" , not you letting him be sub par. If they are you friends too they wont give a shit if you have standards and self worth. The fact that you egg-shelling around them makes it seam like maybe they are his friends and you want to keep up some image for the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 02:34 PM
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Online Dating ---------------------------------- A place where you can slowly get to know someone and discern for yourself if they are someone you enjoy being around through conversation and finding out each others preferences. ​ Men Who Online Date ----------------------------------- I had contact with another human of gender I like to sex with, then they didn't want to fuck me. There is something wrong with her right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 02:23 PM
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I totally agree, zero is not a tangible 'number'. It is a needed principle/ foundation for the rest of math build on however. I think deep down this guy is the one who is uncertain of the 'number' zero and was desperately trying to get some footing by forcing this poor woman to understand swallow his 'pen and cup' demonstration.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 02:14 PM
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shes got social skills, and he is whinging to reddit about a math issue she couldn't comprehend to figure out if he should dump her? UM... social smarts trumps whatever smarts he has. this guy would do well with an AI doll that he can program to respond in the ways he is comfortable with. I bet she apologizes for him to the room every time he leaves her: "Sorry about Gerald hes not used to people, hes very interesting once you get to know him, just give him a chance he's a bit clueless, but I fi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 11:59 AM
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I had a few male friends in my group in early high school that were a bit pushy/ pervy/ rapey in our teens when they got drunk- non violent, but not good at taking no for an answer, and loved to drunkenly hook up with 'friends' and then be like 'oh it meant nothing we were drunk' , but these guys were 'cool' and popular, good looking, had a 'down to earth' 'nice guy' persona compared to the really really crusty crass ans shitty trashy guys. Growing up into adults with these guys as close friends…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 11:45 AM
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lol there is either a lot of them or we dated the same guy Honestly some of the things a read on FDS actually make me think omg, she must have dated my ex before of after me, coz the descriptions are like identical. Its not even funny. Its nice being part of a community that I can relate to often, I must say. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 10:59 AM
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Yeah, agree, I dont hate lvm I just wish they knew how to do better, for themselves. I don't hate pick-mes, I was one, and It a hard mind set to shift out of, I mean when i was a pick me, i hated other women because they were 'competition' but on the other side it feels so much better celebrating my fellow woman, understanding their stories and situations. I even can empathize with lvm who were introduced to graphic woman-hating-humiliating-un realistic sex- porn at an age where they were still …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:52 AM
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What he doesn't know is that she probs had a whole bunch of exceptionally dud roots by loser guys in college regretted it and grew into realizing her self worth and the person he had supposedly fell in love with. Lets not even go there with the double standards going on. I hope he does call off the wedding, she's about to marry a complete wimp, and total loser. I had a male friend like this, they like to partition woman into sluts and good girls. they want to fuck sluts in there youth, and then …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:37 AM
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yeah I cant get around a guy being shorter than me.. I have slept with one guy that was a fair bit shorter than me and it was fine, he had a very big personality and that made me sort of forget about the height difference, but after, standing next to him, and saying goodbye and his neck all cranked back to kiss goodbye, was just, nope. It was very off putting he looked like a little child looking up at his mummy, so yeah, never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:16 AM
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Inspirational! LOVE THIS!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 04:03 AM
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What a fucking shill. this is BS Shill poser is only there to normalize rape fetish as something "NICE GOOD GUYS" are into. Like I don't get why guys need a certain type of porn to 'get off' like there need for masturbating is equal to oxygen. If you were really committed to not indulge in a industry the promotes rape and child abuse and human trafficking, then just don't watch it. They act like they going to die if they cant wank. Its seams like guys are wanking not because they have a genuine …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 03:59 AM
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Now there is a very unhappy women, buried deep down, screaming for help. this is called it Stockholm syndrome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 03:34 AM
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if this conversation was a tennis match its 0 - 15
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 03:28 AM
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That scene in fifth element comes to mind, where they fire a bunch of missiles at the big encroaching fireball of death, and it just increases in size. I can totes understand how you feel like a sassy retort will show them, but what honestly trumps that every time is the ghost-block-delete. Its like using renewable energy instead of coal power. lvm love to get a rise out of a woman, its like the next best thing to them if they cant cop a root.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 03:18 AM
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absolutely! I have a HVM friend who worked with me, in hospitality, and he noticed over and over to the point that it was shocking, that, when I was managing shift, every man I had to cut off (at the bar) or ask to leave, or basically correct drunk disorderly behavior, would take 5 times longer because they would want to argue and bitch and moan and try and get away with it, and try intimidate me. And the exact same situations when the duty manager was male would be 'yeah cool man' and men just …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 01:56 AM
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love this! i had this guy getting all impatient at the self serve check out line, breathing down my neck, and I was waiting for the attendant to wipe down the free register, but she was assisting a customer, so I stood there knowing that this dude was probs going to rush me, and sure enough hes all agitated and goes 'there's a free register there' and he's clearly annoyed at me, and I go to him, 'Yeah, I know I'm just waiting to be called, because I think she has to wipe it down first' and I sai…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:48 PM
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I knew a woman (an ex's mother )who was a hypnotherapist, got her 'cErTifIcaTe' at a tafe coarse because she was unemployed and over 50 and had a history of being a hippy and decided to make money with the whole pseudo positivity thinking charade. She was so out of touch with her own children and their drug problems and had no idea they never even attended school and had been abused by her partners, she had a string of terrible marriages, dated her coarse teacher who was also a self help- book a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 02:19 PM
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Well to be severely honest, I dumped that obvious Lvm and after doing a lot of leveling up ended up with someone even worse because he hid it behind a stunning reputation, things going for him, impeccable manners, amazing cook, basically prince charming, and I thought 'finally my true love has arrived and its what I deserve' but after (thank fully) no longer than a year I had seen his dark side, mask slip, and I ended up in a dangerous situation. So the upside was I wasted less time, but I leane…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 01:02 PM
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ew when he starts 'air humping' the thought of him owning a penis is making me want to puke. the sisters are being clearly offended but still laughing if off out of reflex to protec his fragile little ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:46 PM
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I remember having this conversation with myself a while back after being with a cheating lying lvm for 5 years. I says to myself, To stay with him I will HAVE to change and become the most emotionally stable, unaffected, no expectation 'cool' gf of all time, and really work hard to be that, so that he can continue to be low effort, selfish cheating slob, without it upsetting me constantly. And I imagined myself as that person, and it hit me, 'that' person wouldn't waste her time with him, that p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:21 PM
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dear lord let this be fake.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 11:54 AM
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personally from working at a bar, I have to say that when you can tell the participants are essentially using the rush of being watched/in public as foreplay I find it offensive and gross. but if its hand holding and a hug here and there (no long drawn out sentimental hugging tho! with exception of airport)- kiss hello -kiss goodbye fine (but NO ONE wants to see saliva or tounges thankyou!) no thigh or ass grabbing either, It always just seams like casual sort of barely consensual sexual assault…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:24 AM
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The answer to your question is; They Don't. Don't be fooled by appearances, but also try get to a point where the truth of the new girl being treated badly eventually, or behind closed doors doesn't have to be the thing that consoles you. Its cliche but you dodged a bullet. you caught him cheating and thank fuck now you wont waste another moment with him. It totally ok to have feelings low self worth surface after being cheated on. That is so normal, understandable and human reaction for people …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 08:01 AM
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I realized once that telling indy-muso type wanker guys that I hate Nick Cave and think hes crap, makes them soo soo personally upset, its amazing. I highly recommend it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:43 AM
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I bet they easily get him to pay, easily make him feel nervous inadequate, then he jumps back online and is like 'booyaaaa got mah dyuk surrked by 2 girlzz yaeahh'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:34 AM
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Reddit; has been criticized for being misogynist driven flock of incels and manbabies. ​ Since when is Wikipedia defining things by what has been criticized as being? not that i care really because pfft.. its Wikipedia I only use it to find out what is most stupid lowest common denominator and plebeian P.C watered down controlled version of event/place/person/thing. So in that light this entry really hits the mark.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:29 AM
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ohno roboscrote has recently figured out that sex can actually get better if you dont ditch after one night stand, so hes tryin to have the 'one night stand' times by however many nights it takes to 'synch' this is so gross and misguided. They actually can not compute that mutual respect and real FEELINGS, honesty, and vulnerability, consistency and intimacy is what make sex better, they are like poor sad robot trying to learn how to love but using a calculator. so so sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:10 AM
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sad face X 1,000,000,000
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:02 AM
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Learn to identify the characteristics of N.P.D This insidious personality disorder presents as 'perfect' 'mr. nice guy' to everyone, except those that end up close to the person and more so when you alone with them. These individuals completely lack empathy and compassion, but fake it very well (too good actually (too good to be true)) . If an individual with N.P.D has no longer any use for you or you have caused harm to their false identity or threaten to, in a given opportunity they will have …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 06:47 AM
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Block Delete, He's NPD 100% Hes wasted your time love bombing, and reeling you in, but none of it was authentic. Don't try and teach him. Don't give him feedback. Don't let him in on your 'why' or 'how' you feel, it will achieve NOTHING but make him feel significant and pleased that he wound you up, and give him ammo and a way to lie and win you back, only to spit you out again. Block delete ghost. You are Queen, you can do this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 04:04 AM
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shiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiit. she's going to realize how ugly that ring is eventually, and damn shes gonna cringe HARD at bragging about it on the internet. And then one day she's gonna laugh about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:49 AM
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the 33 yo's have their age set to 19? use that as a 'legend' The ones over 33, are using a photo from 10 years ago They are all hoping that when they over 40 they will have money, and are banking on young girls being 'gold diggers' but lets face it, woman will be earning and working in a far more equal society by then, and the notion of 'gold digger' (young hot thing that will bang crusty old man for access to a credit card and a nice car will be MYTH)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:38 AM
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I LOVE sipping pickle juice from jar. YES.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:35 AM
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Hey I had same experience Im only new to posting on reddit, and i had to leave for a bit, because on every other sub i join in on, i get a response that is so obvious that the dude has looked at my profile and decided that anything i contribute is invalid because he feels inadequate. lots of pathetic little losers on this website in general, I almost wanted to make another profile that appears to be a 'man' so I could join in discussions about films, science (TIL) , and all the other stuff im in…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 03:03 AM
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scrote puts in .001% effort & empathy Expects a fucking medal of honor and and the opportunity to disappoint sexually.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:48 AM
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You Win! He was going to string you along 100% God I hope the next girl and the next and the next all find FDS, surely this LVM tactic is due to expire soon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:42 AM
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I don't online date/ chat but It would be so funny if all the woman that did would just reply "...whoomp! there it is " once they send *that* revealing text that exposes them for the LVM they are. I mean I still love whatever responseas they are so varied and witty, and i guess they are mainly for the screenshot to share with others and lol at. But I dunno, it would be funny if instead of getting constructive and witty feedback they dont deserve, they just all got "whoomped"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 02:23 AM
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its very hard to prove the effects of pornography on the minds and sexual development of the men & boys (specifically the generations with access to fast internet from age 10 up) that the porn is designed for when, THERE IS NO CONTROL GROUP.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 02:01 AM
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Don't be Dennis'ed
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 01:51 AM
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but maybe also that having yourback turned and being on your phone in bed is not ideal or bf/partner material. maybe just me, all my exes did this and it feels kinda shit. I never would do that, i also dont pick up my phone and look at it when someones talking to me, it just rude and off putting imo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:43 AM
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this made me so happy. Shes smiling, shes happy, he is an impotent loser ahhhhhhh satisfying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 07:00 AM
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SUCH a Tom thing to say. Are you just swooning now you know hes an ~ Intellectual type~ .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 06:49 AM
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and also because the tabloids and press are ulitmatly owned by old crusty pedos white men good old friends of princy boy andrew and twisted scumbag epps
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/08/20 11:36 AM
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there is a very strong possibility that the legend of lilith is from this same source yes. it's actually quite shocking how all religions basically have the same source material yet different powers that have conquered (cough* romans *cough) have destroyed and re written the past to control the future- the biggest biggest miss translation is the word God singular when the original texts it is always plural. if anyone wants to go down this rabbit hole: Matthew Lacroix is a researcher of ancient c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/07/20 04:11 AM
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5 years and 5 disasters? I’m sorry you’ve gone through that but it’s awesome that you can see the pattern and don’t want to repeat it anymore. That’s huge. You should be proud of that. Now I’d say make a stern promise to yourself a contract to focus on you and put you first for minimum 1 year. You are so young and have so much ahead of you the best equipped you can be going forward is re definition of your relationship with yourself and really honouring yourself and of course forgive yourself fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:32 PM
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Big ups that user name 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 03:17 PM
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In the mesepotanian tablet stories the gods made woman.1 and she gave 0 fucks about man kind and was basically like ‘god why do I have to F him?’ So the gods raised her up and started again and made woman.2 and she was more docile but then some of the gods thought that was BS and two of them (brother and sister ) so they went behind the other gods backs and gave her knowledge, but then the main god got pissed off ass. This sounds like Adam and Eve but it’s legit from tablets the predate the bibl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 01:33 PM
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Hmm yes he was sociopath doll, good thing that’s behind you now, it’s a block on everything and never contact again kind of person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 12:03 PM
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It’s part of the control system. It’s isolation tactics, and I agree if your partner hangs shit on the closest people in your life they don’t care about you lot respect you and the want to abuse you away from prying eyes so with begin a long and twisted game of severing every friend and family connection that would ever come between them and there control over you life. Take note of the ones they target the most - these are your most trustworthy people and the biggest threat to them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 07:10 AM
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Yes I think there was a post on here recently outlining why “dating down” or whatever is unwise because really you are (sorry to say this but) you are hoping that investment in someone below your standards will = them being extra careful and appreciative around you and of you- in other words you are forcing the dynamic of you being a ‘prize’ by nature of gifting your self to an ‘unworthy’ it’s not that I’m accusing you for doing this meticulously it’s more or a backward logic operating in the ba…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 07:04 AM
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Be worried you married a psychopath? Naaaaaa she’ll be right m8.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 06:46 AM
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Also a shower thought I often think how good I’d be with the ladies if I was a straight man, like I know which of my female friends I would 100% Marry and I would 100% know how to keep her satisfied and happy and get the best out of life. Alas I’m cursed with being a heterosexual female woman. Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 05:21 AM
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Maybe you should initiate having a once a day or once schedule regular phone conversation because I reckon this monotonous regular check in small talk token text messages is becoming well monotonous and these times of COVID are not easily comparable to other long distance/ no contact. Saving up all your thoughts and interests for a meaningful phone chat might re invigorate you relationship whilst giving you both a chance (while you are a part) do establish your own interests and hobby’s. then yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/07/20 04:58 AM
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Roll your eyes, this simple move hurts a lvm at the core.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 09:59 AM
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Congratulations! Your life of about to get 1000X better. I remember the exact feeling I went through it 8 years ago after 5 years of my good life being a bang maid and being cheated on with prostitutes and I didn’t have the strength to leave him I had just key hole surgery I asked him for more help around the house and he full through a tantrum and broke up with me. I was defeated I had wanted children with him. But FUCK ME after like 6 months my life SWITCHED gears! I had suddenly so much more …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 06:47 AM
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Did you know that when physically traditionally attractive people feel ugly because they have been told they were ugly there whole lives, they also end up with either no partner or in abusive relationships with people who continue to drive down there self esteem. They way you feel about your self is probably the easiest thing you can change (doesn’t cost anything or require any other person’s involvement) Try stop focusing on what you feel is “ugly” and just start doing and thinking in ways that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 06:36 AM
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We ALL need to stop trying to, train, educate, lecture and prescribe to men who have lost their way...I’m Just starting to realise. There is plenty of resources out there. And the initiative and desire to gain new perspectives is imperative to absorbing new information and shifts in thinking. (Lead a horse to water..) I’m personally done with hand holding. I reckon guys who make these comments should be ignored and let sleeping dogs lay ... (or nest whatever)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 05:13 AM
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Yess true after joining reddit 2 weeks ago I’ve gotten I pretty good idea of the larger reddit communities alignments.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:48 AM
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So where are all the notallmen now? If a woman says all men a trash- its hate speech- and notallmen are crying everywhere- but where are these good men when this male confessions have gone viral? Why aren’t there any men’s groups targeting this shit saying “no, not all men think like this! We respect woman regardless of who or how many or when they’ve had sex, it’s not our business! “ why aren’t any man shaming this gross attitude? Is it somehow heroic to be this ‘honest’ it’s so fucking depress…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 04:20 AM
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I don’t like his tone. He’s very aloof- I know that old me would have found this intriguing and alluring- it never is it’s a smoke screen, I think he doesn’t want to talk because he is making progress towards sleeping with you, and he knows that talking over the phone will only put me back a step as he won’t be able to keep you hooked once you discover too much about him. He’s acting all ‘meh’ I think he already knows you are more invested than him, and he ideally will keep it that way for as lo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:55 AM
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Online dating, I got confused with all the acronyms too- I googled the acronym and ‘reddit’ and found some lists that were helpful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/07/20 03:37 AM
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Not that that any better but I had hoped it was fake
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 06:21 PM
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Yeah that what I thought too, maybe this is an aside point but if that guy posed and had like something fun on and he was nicely groomed he would look good because men are rarely judged on their weight over their personality and energy- and if that girl was posing like that man with no make up and just ugly underwear staring like a weirdo she would probably have her inbox full with foul hate mail This whole meme is practically propaganda
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 01:20 PM
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You can learn from this sis! For sure this is a turning point for you, but right now you should just block delete him and never look back- you will feel so good just don’t give him anything! At all! Nothing! Ghost like you’ve never ghosted before. You owe him nothing, less than nothing. You wanted to take it slow and date and he pushed and slimed his way to get what he wanted and your alarm bells have gone off. Forget about what to tell him (because I know you want to be polite and demonstrate t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 01:04 PM
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I had NVM friend - always belittling me and giving me dating advice like I needed his help (he was a f-ing crab nest type ffs) he once told me to just approach a guy and whisper in his ear “let’s fuck” and that would guarantee any man. I never did it but guess what guys ! I have had HVM friends and LVM friends both admit to being totally freaked out the times girls had been that forward and basically feeling too inadequate and threatened by that pick up manoeuvre.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 12:42 PM
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I knew a girl exactly like this in high school- and since then she’s been engaged to the one about 5 times that ends in a dramatic flair in which she is betrayed and the ex would be slandered to the high heavens. I cottoned on to her antics early but by other people’s accounts she still convinces people that she has changed and turned a new leaf and is engaged to someone who is actually good for her blah blah It’s actually very repetitive. I think she was a narcissist. The type that Sam Varkin t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 08:37 AM
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I’m sorry if this is insensitive but this time before the marriage is crucial and should be a magical time and if it’s not it’s your last opportunity to get out before it gets serious. In a way, imagine if you married this guy then his true colours start showing (very common after the honeymoon) and it’s even harder to leave in many levels and you might wish you had seen a sign before you went through with the marriage. I think you should trust your intuition. The alarms went off at the comment …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 08:16 AM
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I’ve always found my imagination was much higher production value than any item of pornography I’ve ever seen. It’s honestly embarrassing the stuff that is porn. But maybe the same effect is at play when men in real life don’t quite live up to what my standard is (it not that high obviously just like normal stuff like being seen as a person and not an object)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 08:03 AM
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If this was meant to prove woman are just as bad, it’s proved the opposite, in a way that is a joke, irony!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 05:06 AM
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Binge watching catfish years ago opened my eyes to how any one can hit it off and think they have a “connection “ through text only and I think while it creates a feeling of intimacy in both people it’s obvious that it can be extremely difficult to tell between real and illusion/projection. My opinion that it’s a terrible way to get to know someone. But when You already know someone to the point that you read the text in there voice then text is great. Before that is La La land.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 01:38 PM
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It’s seams like he was sleeping with his female friend because he could, (doesn’t value a male-female non sexual friendships). Because I get feeling in-love with someone but not being sexually attracted to them is that not just a friend? He isn’t shallow he is entitled and stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/07/20 02:27 AM
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It’s certainly a challenge but the results will be well worth it my sweet! Trust me :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/07/20 10:49 AM
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Ah yes the travelers paradox; The higher the amounts countries someone brags about visiting directly correlates to how dull and uncultured they are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:51 AM
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Yeah the comments section I read like “it’s 2020 haven’t women learned to just say let’s have sex” To that I say it’s 2020 isn’t it time somebody (Bill Gates or maybe Elon Musk) rolled out a bunch of sex robots for all these dullards? There is clearly a huge demand and it will be overall better for the human race for men who want a sex bot to not spread there seed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:48 AM
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You seam to have a high amount of self awareness and a balanced understanding of how his apparent rejection has caused self inflicted judgment. This is a good start to moving away from taking “rejection” personally. So well done! The next steps of how to not let it effect you, in my opinion and experience, is to lose the terminology “rejection” it’s not accurate. Imagine how you feel about someone who you not interested in but you have no negative view of them? Would you want that person (romant…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 03:30 AM
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Yeah the brother probably knows he friends are a bunch of scumbags and will definitely go see her dance. I can understand that the brother doesn’t want to witness his friends sexually objectify his sister- someone he sees as a human- but he probably would if it weren’t- the sister is playing dumb saying that it wasn’t an invite yet admits that she can’t stop them from coming my for kick them out so sorry sister but you don’t need to invite people to a place you have no authority at- the friends …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 02:40 AM
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Suck u up? No🤦‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:44 PM
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Gross gross gross gross dickless more like it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:43 PM
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That would make sense that some 18yo pleb invented the whole thing to get upvotes based on the fact that it’s man-baby bait and 70% of reddit users are man baby dick losers who lap this shit up- so they can perpetuate this fantasy that men who sit in the dark playing games with headsets also have gf/ wife’s and even children! As if they are probably part swivel chair and have shat themselves 12 times today
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 12:48 PM
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She wasn’t communicating properly when she was talking to him- and then she txted him- more bad communication- then she was crying for NO REASON- he made an honest mistake and he missed out on sexy times :( :( poor widdle guy! And I love how DEliCately he plays down her recent birthing of thier child- feeding the child putting the child to bed cleaning up and then changing into something sexy for him while he’s sits in the dark with a head set on playing shootem up bang bang on the gameboy and “…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 12:03 PM
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Someone needs to tell him women in their 30s don’t suddenly want a HVM they have probably just been coping with sexual abuse as a norm for a decade and finally snapped out of it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:36 AM
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Me thinks thou doth protest...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 08:33 AM
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It certainly wouldn’t have 3.9k upvotes and if it did every comment would be along the lines of “ what did you think was going to happen????”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 07:59 AM
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I had 3 narc relationships in a row- my picker wasn’t off- I just had shitty narc parents/step parents and was most comfortable in abusive relationships. Sometime this kind of shit can be deep seeded and subconscious. So your subconscious saw ALL the red flags and subconsciously “picked” him. That’s my understanding for me anyway- it works for me and makes more sense to me than believing that I have a defective “picker” or random narcs just randomly abuse random women. I know what you are going …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 06:04 AM
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I’d say over half of men probably think pee pee comes out of a vagina.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:57 AM
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He wants you to think you over reacted. You didn’t. he says movie + relax as if that’s not Netflix and chill and AS IF he is all like “ThaTs NoT WhaT I MeaNt “ a normal response would maybe be to laugh and admit that’s what he had planned, then be like oh can I take you to the theatres to see a film? After a dinner at a place I know near by’ easy peasy. Fuck off this loser for good
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:54 AM
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I personally think it’s a consciousness shift and that woman are in the lead. By a lot. We can hope for a landslide?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:48 AM
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I love this! It’s true there aren’t many HVM but that shouldn’t mean when a potential enters our world that we say yes to every opportunity to see them and then start doing backflips to make sure they like you. Like you say HV is HV it means you can relax be yourself take your time and not feel like any pressure. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:45 AM
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Anyone who says their ideal dinner guest is “Bill Murray “ the all thought it was sooooo off the cuff but it’s like every 3rd guy - NExT- anyone who has a list of the type of woman who SHOULD NOT swipe right. Like that’s not your job asshole- she’s swiping what ever way she wants and you are gonna take what u can get
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:39 AM
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My first serious boyfriend told me early in that if he told me what kind of porn he watches (5 times a day on the toilet mainly) that I would probably break up with him- SO I just didn’t ask! I felt like it wasn’t my business and he was no way going to hear me shame him for it- after 5 years we broke up and I found out about his regular trips to brothels because he had to- because I was “Vanilla” ( this was also the first time I had heard that expression) Makes me sick what I put up with out of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 05:15 AM
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So glad you didn’t marry that sis. Xox
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 02:14 AM
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True it sounds like his whole family situation is a bit of a mess- I personally don’t speak to one of my parents for good reason but at the time that I broke it off I was very angry and confused so maybe you should put that whole situation in the too hard basket for now and not probe too much- if this guy is LVM there will be other red flags never just one- I reckon the mum thing is too fresh and maybe he needs to process that and best that he doesn’t outsource that emotional labour to you. I’d …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 12:00 PM
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This dickhead actually thinks he’s pulling off new age nice guy with no “bs games” yet it reads like he is an annoying whining dramatic bore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 09:43 AM
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I love this entire thread so much been reading for past hour! My two cents is I reckon fundamentally going back to pre history- men since the first man believed god made women for them. But it was a lie- god didn’t make women for Men, He imported them illegally and took the credit for making them, and lied to Adam that the woman was his toy (because god is a man)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 08:55 AM
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Awesome it’s a good start but early days really so enjoy this time of watching him potentially grow interest and ask you out! I’m rootin’ for ya ;) slow burners are the best right?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 08:11 AM
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Tru af in my city chef= coke head f-boi
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 07:05 AM
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How long has this little dance been going on? I think remain friendly and approachable and keep waiting. Even if he is shy and humble etc and has never gone after a girl because of this then you still should let him get over himself and ask u out. You will find him more attractive in the long run for overcoming his fear and you will have no doubt that he is interested and that is a good start to a relationship (if it becomes one) Good luck girl!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 07:01 AM
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TL:DR boring person becomes bored blames lack of sex with new younger women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:33 AM
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I sent nudes for the first time in my whole life to my ex because he was a psycho good at acting and I trusted him 100% Flash fwd to our break up and he’s been screaming and carrying on and threatening and finally when I calmed him down he’s goes unprompted “Don’t worry about those nudes you sent, my phone broke and I don’t have them anymore “ I’m like thinking “don’t worry? What would have you done if you had them” And basically he backs up all his photos and I have seen he had nudes of his ex …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 05:02 AM
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LA-hoo-SA-err Go marry your dog if you love her so much
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 04:47 AM
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I’m very happy for you sister! All I want to say is in response to you writing “I need to continue to be the HVW he fell for” It’s true that self development is a lifestyle and the sky is the limit- please know that your high value is deeply inherent and is regulated through self love- and benefits you first and foremost. If you stay on your path of self love and development your value will only deepen as well as enrich your life and others. I believe this more than your HV being something you n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 04:34 AM
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I agree with this SO HARD if I could give you two upvotes I would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 04:23 AM
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I think orange flag until you have more information on what the fight was about- does he express any remorse on his behalf? Does he display any understanding of his mother’s point of view? Think about how a healthy person would reflect on a fight with a parent (even if the parent is abusive a-hole and had to be cut off) There could be green flags within this situation but keep alert for any further red flags and make decisions based of clusters of flags if anything. Hope this helps, always trust…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 04:17 AM
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Fuck that shit girl! You DO have a sense of humour and pathetic losers just aren’t funny, creative or interesting. My ex - after me getting up before him to make coffees on the nesspresso (no skill required really) for nearly a year one day goes I wow this coffee is actually good, you have finally learnt how to make a good coffee. I stared him down like ‘are you fucking serious rn’ And he giggled and laughed (this was infront of his family) and said to me that I need to learn how to take a joke.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/07/20 02:57 AM
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Classic micro negging- I read this in the PUA book ‘the game’- Neil Straus It wares your down over time and you become easier and easier to manipulate and predict. It can be anything from “no I didn’t get this/these for you, why would you think that?” or “ you look funny when you do that face” anything like comparing you to a man -“ you look like your dad a lot!” or saying your “funny or weird” is a micro neg- it always designed so you laugh it off at first- and when the jokes not funny then and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 02:11 PM
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Couldn’t finish reading that this guy sounds like a fucking boring loser. He’s got big ideas and a future of travelling LOL imagining those pathetic older single sleezy men who are all free and trVel but they trust me my mum married and divorced one of these guys who thought he was this catch and young at 40 but he just kept womanising and now is really sad ugly delusional old creep.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 01:59 PM
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My experience is that swiping on tinder/ bumble satisfies the instant gratification hormone and becomes addictive- but hopelessly unsatisfying ( sunk loss pseudo-logic) On top of that it can strengthen the belief that ‘there are only NVM/LVM available and I will be forever alone’ which is not an absolute truth but will soon become that the more energy you feed that belief. However I’m all for going through the experience for yourself and support you if you wish to do so- but keep your self in ch…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 12:10 PM
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He’s already in his mind “married her” ie locked her in for life but if he stays her boyfriend he has this cool little get out of jail free card- her best case scenario is he drags her along until all other options are desperately dried out and or he’s balding and getting grosser then he will claim he loved her the whole time and was just scared of not being good enough and blah blah nek minnit he’s a fully dependent man baby that she married. Who spends his spare time drinking beer with his mat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 11:10 AM
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So happy for you! It’s so true that the “I’m not looking for anything more serious rn” [insert relatable excuse]- but we can still “hAnG oUt” [translation; bang on my whim [[when porn stops working] And after this talk takes place I used to snap in to chill gf/ bang maid / give him days or weeks of space and make meals for them to demonstrate I was “gf” material But yes News Flash ; you are wife material and he just doesn’t want you to know it because that will not benefit him. You saved yoursel…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 10:41 AM
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What’s that saying? Never argue with a fool, for they will drag you down to their level and beat you with experience.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/07/20 10:33 AM
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As someone who has been a pickmesha who is changing I don’t think ALL pickme’s are narcs but are varying degrees of codependent. The friend you describe i think is just a narcissist with a co dependency on men because they are in a toxic masculine dominant culture. I have hope pick me’s can grow and change and do better for themselves. Narcs are a WAFT (waste of fucking time) boring - won’t change ever- cut them out of your life like surgery - don’t prescribe them anything to help them even if y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:27 PM
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I can absolutely relate when I’m flush I love to play the alpha and treat everyone to drinks it makes me feel good to make them feel special. And I always used to refuse drinks from guys who give off the “im only buying you this if u give me attention” because I can afford my own and nothing is more valuable than my time. But if I was chasing them I would give them premium access to bar and drinks (I work at a bar) for free and usually get nothing in return except a flirtatious smile! Talk about…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 03:06 PM
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I’m inspired! I would have found that very hard- I’m guilty of paying for drinks etc to prove that I’m independent but also I’m a recovering pickmesha now thanks to FDS so never again!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 01:01 PM
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Huge congratulations! I think you officially levelled up! You passed the difficult challenge of walking away as soon as your standards are not met despite the glamour he had over you! You are now stronger! He is now weaker! You Win!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 12:57 PM
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Oh my god this reminds me of when I was about 8 years old my mum wouldn’t buy me a juice box after we had just walked around the lake (which I hated doing and I wanted reward but she said I could have water ) and so I refused to drink any water- THEN I pretended to faint being exasperated- and I remember finally going to the drinking tap and pretending to drink for AGES so she would believe that I was dying of thirst. But hey, I was 8 and I wanted to teach her a lesson for not giving me what I w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 12:49 PM
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No such thing as objective physical uglyness. There is no wall. It’s such a transparent attempt to add another phantom issue to derail woman from loving themselves because when you do love yourself you realise that no one ever found you ugly and any “man” who has ever made you feel like that is deeply inadequate and doesn’t know how to operate there own penis and they are embarrassed and ashamed and so bury those feeling deep deep down and pretend that woman have all these shortcomings. Woman, y…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:46 AM
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Yess so much to this! I really feel like sisters are bonding harder than ever and gaining rapid momentum in breaking down the outdated pickme programming ! Love this sub xox
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 04:32 AM
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If only men were obsessed with poems 🌹
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/07/20 07:09 PM
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I had a similar ex total narc, two faced, socially elite. After the break up I was very careful over who I told about his actual nature and luckily some had seen his mask slip themselves because otherwise anyone who thought they knew him were very convinced he was a sensitive angel. So he safeguarded’s his social standing psychotically and had a ‘fair game’ policy to anyone who dare try to tarnish it. Anyway tread lightly when it comes to narcs it’s never ever ever worth your while going tit for…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 10:15 AM
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I had a sort of gender reversal thought; Relating to the ol’ “blue balls BS” Imagine a world where girls pressured there first boyfriends to wait - and pressured them into being loving and attentive- and pressured them to be commited and faithful because if they didn’t the complicated cocktail of chemicals and hormones released after sex can cause them EXTREME pain when they are discarded/ used/ ignored during/before/after sex And imagine if the men bowed to this pressure?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/07/20 09:36 AM
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The one that led me here was the screenshot of the dudes reply to a bumble match pick me that had losers whoofing over his ‘sweet burn’
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 10:48 AM
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My step father said this ALL the time “I won’t even dignify that with an answer” when confronted AND “Are you done berating me?” Or “have you finished assassinating my character “ Oh and a great way to tell if your bf is cheating is they stop jabbing you in the back with their boner in the middle of the night when they want sex. 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/07/20 10:41 AM
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