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| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 11 | Women are interchangeable (seen on IG)exhausted just imagining replying to any such nonsense as this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/22 12:52 AM |
| 33 | “Scrote’s response to: “What sacrifice have you made to save for a down payment?”toronto? yep, checks out. shit is rough out here for so many reasons, this extra level of fuckery included. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 07:12 AM |
| 10 | This is why FDS recommends snooping. Be very ruthless with your vetting process! You never know how deprived some men can bebrb, im off to be violently ill | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 05:13 AM |
| 64 | Reminder: Nobody is nicer than a man trying to have sex with you for the first time.I am not into one night stands, but it took some experimenting with it for me to come to that conclusion. 0/10 would never do again. I ended up trying to make a relationship out of it that was just like turning the key in a dead engine for two years. When I unpacked it in therapy, I realized I felt like I had to try to make it meaningful relationship because I felt ashamed and would have felt worse (for like a few days or weeks) if I let it been a 1 night stand. Bleh. I wish I had FDS back then | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 06:27 PM |
| 75 | Reminder: Nobody is nicer than a man trying to have sex with you for the first time.I met someone and am holding this advice highly in the front of my brain while we get to know each other. Not willing to have sex until I am legitimately comfortable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 06:23 PM |
| 2 | Anti-Seductive Qualities to Avoidthey posted the same thing in AskFDS, just reported it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/11/21 04:34 AM |
| 9 | Please don’t idealise men from other culturesAny ladies out there can give me a heads up on Ukrainian men? I’ve been trying to research but it’s hard to parse what is stereotype and what is general wise womanly wisdom | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 04:42 PM |
| 66 | The IckAnother ick story, is that an ex of mine started whining and complaining to me when I mentioned buying a replacement vibrator for mine which had been broken a few months earlier. He could never get me off and sex ended when he finished every time, and was threatened by this device. He also wanted to stay at my home while I was at work so he could play my ps4 which he couldn’t afford. l really shouldn’t have even started anything with this guy. He tried to shame me for not being a natural in the … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 05:08 PM |
| 123 | The IckI’ve never told anyone this but, I had an ex that went on a cross country road trip with me. He didn’t have his license, a job, or any money, so I was paying for everything and driving the whole time. He set up the camp site every night and cooked though, so I was alright with it (sort of… there were a lot of little things leading up to this that I was shoving to the back of my mind)…. Until one morning I woke up and he had peed the bed. The air mattress. The sleeping bags. The tent. It touched … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 05:00 PM |
| 25 | Bikini waxing?“Is that Jon Wayne Gacy in your pants or are you just happy to see me ?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 04:00 PM |
| 82 | Did you guys see the house wife unpopular opinion post on front page?I’ve achieved my goals financially, against all odds, I’m independent and have a great job. I have 0 interest in cat clawing my way up the ladder and playing office politics. I’m not good at that and I just want to settle in to a nice routine and have a family, and be there for my kids as they grow up. I’d love to meet a guy who matches or exceeds my career ambitions… What’s wrong with wanting to be a classic family unit… I’m not worthless, if you only want to be with a partner in order to incre… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/21 09:12 PM |
| 155 | What do you wish someone had told you about men when you were 14?They don’t even know that the kind of love you crave to share can even exist. They love, but they are enslaved by their body’s desires. They are trying to show off for their buddies even when their buddies are not around. The company they keep says a lot about who they really are, and what their values really are. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 10:43 PM |
| 2 | Do not take me to a horror movie as a date 🚩They did a great job of creating a true horror experience, as a writer I can appreciate it but it really messed with me internally and tbh it still sits with me some of the visuals, and extreme emotions. Your comment made me feel better! <3 glad it wasn’t just me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 02:57 AM |
| 17 | Do not take me to a horror movie as a date 🚩I was a teen when hostel and saw were in theatres. Can’t believe I saw them on the giant screen as part of a date … I hid my face in my jacket for over half the movie with the guy playfully trying to make me look at these horrible gore scenes…. Just 2000s things … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 01:22 AM |
| 16 | Do not take me to a horror movie as a date 🚩Yes I agree, I let the guy I was seeing talk me into watching Hereditary and although I could appreciate it for it’s good parts, I had nightmares that night and couldn’t shake the feeling of being disturbed by some of the gore and violent stuff. It’s like, I have enough on my plate as it is, why can’t we enjoy something sweet and light and romantic… not fun 🚩 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/10/21 01:15 AM |
| 7 | One of the most bittersweet, but ultimately helpful realisations of my dating life: For a LVM, it isn't about you. Make sure that it is about you for the guy you're dating.This is the story of our times, you put it so well | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 11:43 PM |
| 2 | I was feeling nervous so i cancelled the dateI’m right there with you 🥧🥧🍦🍦 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 11:31 PM |
| 25 | I was feeling nervous so i cancelled the date🥧🥧🍦🥧🍦🥧🍦🥧🍦🥧🥧 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 11:30 PM |
| 11 | I was feeling nervous so i cancelled the dateTrue, but also, friends start off as strangers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 11:29 PM |
| 8 | I was feeling nervous so i cancelled the date🥧🥧🥧🥧 🍦🍦🍦🍦 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 11:16 PM |
| 6 | I was feeling nervous so i cancelled the date🥧🥧🥧🥧🥧🥧🥧🥧🥧🥧 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 11:14 PM |
| 6 | I was feeling nervous so i cancelled the date🥧🥧🥧🥧🥧🥧🥧🥧🥧 thank you 🙏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 11:13 PM |
| 11 | I was feeling nervous so i cancelled the dateThis hits a chord. I too have been scalded by “right guy, wrong time” thing. My mantra on this is “the right guy at the wrong time is still the wrong guy for me.” 🥧🥧🥧 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 11:13 PM |
| 2 | I was feeling nervous so i cancelled the dateThanks for the tip ! 🥧 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 11:10 PM |
| 7 | I was feeling nervous so i cancelled the dateYou nailed it!! 🥧 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/10/21 11:07 PM |
| 2 | FDS is BACK!We’re back!! I love it!! Thanks mods. Consistent rules, positivity, and refocusing on strategy is what we needed. Love love love. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/10/21 02:02 PM |
| 28 | Ladies how do you plan to KeEp A mAn? Wrong answers onlyWhat’s incredible about human biology is that we are organically maintaining our own damn selves day after day, breath after breath. That is the grand mystery of life. So like, sounds like he needs to see a doctor. Does he have COVID? Damnit man, I’m a woman not a breathing tube! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 04:44 PM |
| 66 | Ladies how do you plan to KeEp A mAn? Wrong answers onlyHe says, waving his hand in front of her face like he’s cosplaying obi-wan | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 04:42 PM |
| 53 | Ladies how do you plan to KeEp A mAn? Wrong answers onlyHe talks like he’s out in space encountering an alien lifeform. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/10/21 04:41 PM |
| 67 | A man who loves you should be able to explain what he loves about you SPECIFICALLY. It’s a red flag if he is generic about your qualitiesTranscroteation: “she’s better than me in so many ways and deserves a lot more than I have to give, such that I have to try harder to maintain a decent enough façade to gain her trust before settling in to a low effort no commitment LTR.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 03:27 AM |
| 25 | A man who loves you should be able to explain what he loves about you SPECIFICALLY. It’s a red flag if he is generic about your qualitiesI’m taking the washer when we break up tho 👀 /s lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 03:23 AM |
| 28 | A man who loves you should be able to explain what he loves about you SPECIFICALLY. It’s a red flag if he is generic about your qualitiesTo me it means they don’t feel like they are in danger of losing you, so they are safe to coast on minimal effort as they don’t think you’ll leave even if another (better) option is available for you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 03:22 AM |
| 25 | A man who loves you should be able to explain what he loves about you SPECIFICALLY. It’s a red flag if he is generic about your qualitiesWell I’ll tell you why I love my best gal. She is fiery and doesn’t take shit from anybody. She grows through so much adversity and I admire the person she’s become since we started being friends. And we laugh together about stupid shit, reminisce about old times together, and at the same time have deep level convos about our feelings as we support each other when things are rough. I love that she holds space for me and I will always have a seat at my table for her. I look forward to growing old… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 03:16 AM |
| 21 | A man who loves you should be able to explain what he loves about you SPECIFICALLY. It’s a red flag if he is generic about your qualities“Ur so chill” = a combo of both | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 03:07 AM |
| 10 | A man who loves you should be able to explain what he loves about you SPECIFICALLY. It’s a red flag if he is generic about your qualitiesYep, still to this day have only ever heard compliments about my looks. Brains, sure, I’ll get a bone tossed my way for being good at writing but more often than not it intimidates them when I express the truth without couching it in “socially acceptable” tone / words / phrases. It would be nice to hear that I’m valued as a whole, as a woman, as a partner, etc. Can’t help but be disappointed when they can’t vocalize a reason why they actually like me. Last guy I dated took it as some kind of tra… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/10/21 03:06 AM |
| 41 | If, according to MRAs, women are useless after 25 🙄. Then why would any woman ever sign up for the 18+ year commitment of raising children with them?“they basically subjugate themselves to a life based around facetious pursuits and proverbial inauthenticity” I need this on a mug or a doormat or something. Tell it once again because it bears repeating 👏🏻👏🏻 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 02:01 AM |
| 38 | Why didn't we get banned yet?Incel implies involuntary celibacy. It’s inane nonsense to paint us with that brush. The whole point is that celibacy is preferable to spending any time or thought on people who aren’t a good fit for our lives. We are fine with celibacy, but they can’t be, and want to make that our problem somehow. Delusional. They claim celibacy is so torturous it drives them to literal murderous rampages. Meanwhile celibacy to us is like a cool calm stream through a sunlit meadow with birds chirping as we go a… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 06:44 PM |
| 65 | Please stop “gifting” threesomes. Also, your friends aren’t “gifts”.I’ve got anxiety just thinking about it. She gave him what she thought was a one time “””””gift.”””” Frozen in time and space. She didn’t know it would haunt her over time, so it was a lifetime sacrifice of sanity, security, and peace of mind should she choose to stay with him. True cost of the games lvm play that they really do not understand on those other subs lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 05:29 PM |
| 102 | Please stop “gifting” threesomes. Also, your friends aren’t “gifts”.I don’t like spices that ruin the dish I guess that makes me bland? But “bland” is full of healthy fibre, easy to digest, and doesn’t end in searing pain in the ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 05:27 PM |
| 78 | Please stop “gifting” threesomes. Also, your friends aren’t “gifts”.“Did you talk to your husband about that?” The convo: Her: “honey I’m worried about XYZ because of ABC” Him: “awww honey don’t worry hugs” Situation solved, everyone!! /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 05:24 PM |
| 5 | The “Menstrual Cycle of Abuse” 😂😂😂LOL oh wow | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 06:11 AM |
| 5 | I’m simply not attracted to noncommittal meni got the ick over here with you blech, disappointment! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/21 02:06 AM |
| 6 | Reminder: Losing friends and becoming unhappy at work are potential side effects of finding FDSTruth indeed i can relate to the work thing | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/07/21 03:21 PM |
| 1 | Reigning in the extreme pick me horror tales - this is not a place to just vent, get sympathy points for tolerating extreme clownery, remain clueless and go back back to being a complete pushover.I get your point but my post wasn’t about trauma sharing it was a dating question, but the main point just seems the fact that it’s so difficult for everyone to get on the same page about what is or isn’t appropriate to ask about. So unless the rules are enforced consistently then lurkers and newbs are not all going to see the same point as y’all. (I still agree with you) Being in the right headspace for dating isn’t the same as asking a question along the lines of “does this situation sound sal… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/07/21 07:41 PM |
| 3 | Reigning in the extreme pick me horror tales - this is not a place to just vent, get sympathy points for tolerating extreme clownery, remain clueless and go back back to being a complete pushover.Consistency in rule enforcement helps this, so I think that adding more mods would be more helpful than lambasting newbs for getting mixed messaging about what kinds of posts are appropriate. I agree in spirit I just think it’s futile to ask newbs to realize it when there are already lots of posts like that like you said | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 11:36 PM |
| 5 | Reigning in the extreme pick me horror tales - this is not a place to just vent, get sympathy points for tolerating extreme clownery, remain clueless and go back back to being a complete pushover.I hear you, but we don’t all learn the same way. It’s one thing to read and understand the handbook, it’s another to match every detail of it to the grey zones of a real life situation. I have a hard time learning and applying the abstract concepts to my own life, and I am sorry for asking for help parsing through what feels like grey areas to me. Sometimes I get lots of upvotes on others’ posts talking about old situations that I learned from, but when I asked a question about my current situat… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/07/21 11:30 PM |
| 2 | Need some adviceThank you so much. I think I’m not feeling the butterflies and candy land that he is, because I know deep down it’s too soon after his last relationship | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 06:28 PM |
| 2 | Need some adviceThanks pozzo, I appreciate response and perspective. I think you’re right | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 06:26 PM |
| 3 | Need some adviceThank you Tulip I really appreciate your perspective and support | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 06:08 PM |
| 3 | Need some adviceYeah I know, not married and everything. But I wasn’t sure about whether that is a red flag for the next girl he dates after a forevergf, since it seems that the story is that when they finally wise up and realize they don’t see a future with that girl, they find who they marry next. I’m confused about whether that next girl / wife is pick me behaviour for accepting he did have a forevergf before her. Thanks so much for your reply | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 06:04 PM |
| 6 | Need some adviceThank you thank you thank you for sharing your perspective… I had that funny feeling that might be the case but didn’t want to jump to a conclusion. I’ve never really had a love bombing before but it makes sense. Would you cut it off or put the possibility of relationship on hold until more time passes and he is past his feelings about her? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 05:59 PM |
| 1 | Need some advice🥺 please tell me what you think, I’m kind of fogged out from being able to see it clearly by my delight at the good things that I see in the situation | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 05:54 PM |
| 3 | I will no longer be the only one who doesn't get an orgasm...lmao!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 04:08 PM |
| 129 | I will no longer be the only one who doesn't get an orgasm...Him: has his orgasm Him: “Did you cum?” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 10:02 PM |
| 14 | I will no longer be the only one who doesn't get an orgasm...Bahahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 10:01 PM |
| 1 | Green Flag: effort and attention that isn’t designed to get something in returnThank you so much for your response! I have done a post in askFDS but it’s still waiting for mod approval, so I’m trying to find wisdom in the comments and other posts | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 05:40 PM |
| 41 | Green Flag: effort and attention that isn’t designed to get something in returnthaank you! I need to read more green flag posts. I've started dating again and I think I've met someone special who is genuinely generous with his time, attention, and dates. how long did it take you to see / know / develop feelings for him? how long until you were engaged? :) so happy for you, happy almost anniversary queen! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/07/21 11:06 PM |
| 43 | This is what breeding with a LVM will do to youThey invited me over to meet their kids and hang out! I had the idea to write them a letter or just have a convo about it over a drink while we hang out :) I just love them both so much. ♥️😇 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 09:44 PM |
| 92 | If you are allergic to accountability or you call it "mean" or "making fun of someone" you don't belong on FDSLmao that one always gets me. There’s an ED epidemic but it has nothinggggg to do with the rise in access to porn noooope | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 09:39 PM |
| 55 | Lingerie is NOT a giftNot to mention it’s also really badly crafted 9 times out of ten. Like, unbreathable fabric that gives you a UTI, was made in a sweatshop … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 09:33 PM |
| 641 | This is what breeding with a LVM will do to youlearning from other women is so SOO important. whether it's seeing tragedy unfold like in this situation, or being the tragic one like I was back in the day. I used to wonder if I had made the right decision by not getting toggether with one of my best friends from back in the day... But this person resented his best friends' girlfriend for asking the guys to keep it down when they hung out at the best friend's house, when she was tryiing to sleep after worked lonnggg days and they yelled and ho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/07/21 04:23 PM |
| 25 | Got a new, better paying job in May and wanted to reward my hard work. No one treats me better than I treat myself.CARTIER 😇😱💯♥️ nice!!! You’ve just inspired me and raised my own idea of what I could do for myself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/07/21 11:28 AM |
| 9 | THE CORE OF THE DATING WAR: Money.I hear that!! cheers Laffy!! <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 12:36 AM |
| 23 | THE CORE OF THE DATING WAR: Money.... you're bringing back memories... of his goddamn Warhammer 40k collection... while he was broke and i was buying us food all the time because i felt bad for always being over at his house eating dinner with his family ... dinner his mom made ... he was 26 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 09:27 PM |
| 36 | THE CORE OF THE DATING WAR: Money.a moment of silence now, for the time you lost with that fool. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 09:26 PM |
| 20 | THE CORE OF THE DATING WAR: Money.This. This is the exact thing. In a way, I see this as the fault of crony capitalist societies that force famiilies into these situations, making it man vs woman when it should be man + woman (or however combo of genders) vs. establishment of cheap labour and wage slavery for their profit. everything from the obvious like porn, to housing, cars etc, who benefits when men and women are turned against one another? the industries that benefit from there being a need for 1 car for every person in th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 09:20 PM |
| 7 | Rich AH mad that his GF is still poor after she took a second job.Praying Jesus Thank you for opening my eyes that it is ok to say no to this kind of life... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/06/21 02:10 PM |
| 32 | A woman got sued by her Tinder match for not hooking up with himThis literally hurt my head to read. Oh my god | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 11:27 PM |
| 3 | When they lie about their ages on dating apps and think we won't notice 😂I updated with a Reddit link - google for Chelsea arkarakas she is a badass | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 03:48 AM |
| 5 | When they lie about their ages on dating apps and think we won't notice 😂Yeah here is an article I read recently about a younger guy who pretended to be older on tinder... he couldn’t handle rejection and.... well, trigger warning for violence. The woman acted in self defence Edit: oh weird, I must have confused this with a different one... there are too many... this guy was older srry | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 03:36 AM |
| 30 | When they lie about their ages on dating apps and think we won't notice 😂Woooooooow called out by the damn twin towers | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/21 03:23 AM |
| 67 | Celibacy > LVMs, by farNuns have entered the chat i love this for us, x-ennials. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 01:40 AM |
| 87 | Found this gem on TwitterI like this because it’s about critical thinking and analysis of what we have been conditioned into being for others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 09:05 AM |
| 48 | Found this gem on TwitterI like this because it’s about critical thinking and analysis of what we have been conditioned into being for others. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 09:05 AM |
| 27 | If he still uses Snapchat, lovebombs you in the talking stage, and/or attempts to triangulate you against his ex/gf while seeing you or otherwise uses EtHiCaL nOnMoNoGaMy to justify why he needs multiple women, DISCARD HIM. Do not be the unwitting participant in any scrote’s harem 🤮Can you explain why the good morning bothers you? I’m just curious edit: thanks for the responses!! food for thought... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/06/21 09:01 AM |
| 8 | I'm appalled by some of the comments on Jammies' latest post. If you want to participate here, you have to respect our community. If being expected to follow subreddit rules makes you "feel unwelcome", then leave.oof i had never been on any of those subs and didn't know they existed. But it really fucking sucks that mods have to deal with more people coming in trying to take our space away from us... why is it so hard to want a place where I can learn from strong women who have families with strong and decent men? That's what I want. That's what I am so alone to try and find offline, on my own. Why am I not allowed a community? Because some other girls are angry and have opinions and say I can't? because… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/06/21 10:55 PM |
| 19 | When women hate men, we stay away from them. But when men hate women they rape and murder us.mfw they equate their own masculinity with mysogyny ... so their smooth brain take is that femms critiques are misandry... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/06/21 11:45 AM |
| 1 | Something subtle to mention to an Uber / Lyft driver...I agree it’s not a one size fits all conversation. Listen to your intuition here :) I feel safe to have these kinds of convos for my own reasons when they do come up, to share a glimpse into a reality they hadn’t considered. I also use the example of when my blood sugar was low in a heat wave and I needed help getting home with groceries. If it’s a risk then it’s within my own personal risk tolerance, and ymmv 💚 don’t do / say what you aren’t comfortable to do | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 12:52 PM |
| 1 | Something subtle to mention to an Uber / Lyft driver...I think it depends on the situation for sure. It is something that men may not consider when they focus only on themselves and their gas money and their profits. It’s not on us to educate them or to try and convert anyone, but it’s a response to the naive ones who seem more unaware than mean or rude. If you don’t feel comfortable, that’s totally fine. That’s why I say stuff juuuust to plant the seed in the minds of some, instead of just nodding along to affirm their point of view. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 12:48 PM |
| 11 | Yet another reason to avoid dating apps.ah jeezus. ugh. meanwhile the local news in a different but similar area is asking for submissions from women to talk about their dating experiences.. im like ....... for a fluff piece? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 03:26 AM |
| 42 | It’s Unfortunate How Many LVM/NVM Know What Women Want (An HVM), Pretend To Be It, And Then The Facade Slowly Erodesthey will lie to themselves and avoid introspection entirely. for example, they will not think about family in their lives. when they think of the future, when asked, they will talk about what they want to do, where they want to go, where they want to live. But ask them where family fits in and they go blank and say "uhhh never really thought about it." ... and then they will say "oh i thought that was a breeding kink" when they finally admit that they dont want kids! Never wanted kids! when… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 03:08 AM |
| 21 | It’s Unfortunate How Many LVM/NVM Know What Women Want (An HVM), Pretend To Be It, And Then The Facade Slowly Erodesmmph. facts. mmmmmmph. im looking forward to getting older and telling all the goddamn stories. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 03:05 AM |
| 16 | How could any woman sacrifice this much??painful indeed. my face couldn't hold back all the expressions while reading. im sure im not the only one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 02:27 PM |
| 3 | Older queens if you woke up as a 20 year old again, what would you have done differently?<3 <3 Happy belated birthday! <3 <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 02:19 PM |
| 50 | Why Do So Many Men Kill Their Pregnant Partners?A family member who has been a cop for 30 yrs (Canada) casually mentioned a few months ago that women are far more likely to be attacked while in the shower / bathroom. Something about vulnerability and trusting that we are safe makes some men’s minds go about planning opportunities to attack. I want my bathroom to be a panic room. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 12:10 PM |
| 4 | Never go to a "life coach"Thank you!! Some people have NO idea what they are talking about and will feed you some stupidity about “being a snob” for wanting to see a licensed doctor over a coach .... bruh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/06/21 12:07 PM |
| 9 | This article makes a case against poly relationships. 'It’s good to have friends. It’s good to have multiple confidantes. But people aren’t just fungible widgets in a factory. You don’t just lump them in a shopping bag until your heart is full.'to this day, the smell of patchouli brings me riiiight back there hahaha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 09:20 PM |
| 27 | This article makes a case against poly relationships. 'It’s good to have friends. It’s good to have multiple confidantes. But people aren’t just fungible widgets in a factory. You don’t just lump them in a shopping bag until your heart is full.'LOL oh god!The cuddle puddle could be totally innocent or a prelude to group sex. In its pure form is a bunch of people engaging in a group cuddle, clothes on. Everyone lays on a big couch or on a beach blanket, heads on chests and on laps, hugs all around, just enjoying a physically intimate moment, talking, being nice to one another, touch without the pressure of sex. toss in some psychedelic drugs and edm music and everyone "melts" into one another, a 'puddle' of melty people cuddling :P oxyt… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 09:18 PM |
| 14 | This article makes a case against poly relationships. 'It’s good to have friends. It’s good to have multiple confidantes. But people aren’t just fungible widgets in a factory. You don’t just lump them in a shopping bag until your heart is full.'Thank you for your comment reply! I'm 32 now, and those events were the summers 2013-2016. :) I'd go back to the beach 1000000% and in fact that was my plan for the summer of 2020 lol. It's nice to connect with you and hear that I'm not alone with those kinds of experiences. You nailed it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 09:10 PM |
| 31 | This article makes a case against poly relationships. 'It’s good to have friends. It’s good to have multiple confidantes. But people aren’t just fungible widgets in a factory. You don’t just lump them in a shopping bag until your heart is full.'I think the thing is like... when you've been surprised and betrayed enough times, it becomes like... a relief? at first... like, at least i know about the other women, at least it's something above board, that I can control somewhat by being a part of the conversation and in some cases, being 'higher up' than another woman in the hierarchy of sex and time and commitments. and thats why it's so dangerous. they enter into it willingly and then any negative feelings they have are then "theirs to d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 08:37 PM |
| 83 | This article makes a case against poly relationships. 'It’s good to have friends. It’s good to have multiple confidantes. But people aren’t just fungible widgets in a factory. You don’t just lump them in a shopping bag until your heart is full.'the poly people in the community I was living in was kind of aggressive. I am open minded and gave it a shot, but it wasn't for me. It made me fall out of love with my partner and feel like crap to the point where I started crying mid-sex with a guy and ran out totally embarrassed. I was a lot more comfortable being with no one than being a part of their cuddle puddles. it was very much a few guys with enormous egos, and a large number of women who were very cool and had great taste in music, cl… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 05:36 PM |
| 13 | Older queens if you woke up as a 20 year old again, what would you have done differently?Happy birthday young Queen!!! welcome to the next decade!! 32 y o here. Here are some thoughts I wish I could tell my younger self at your age: :) A) the english language is inadequate. there is an upper limit to what can be expressed, and even if you get it perfect, the person hearing you will interpret those words according to their own bias and preconceived notions. You are not responsible for that side of the equation. If they can't understand you, you are not obligated to keep trying to exp… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 05:15 PM |
| 8 | Queens, guess what? We are the society.Precisely. Our choice = our society | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/06/21 03:19 PM |
| 12 | 📢🤏🤏Staying a Spinster >>Marrying a NVM/LVM🤏🤏📢 But society teaches girls they'll die alone/ no one will marry if they are too picky/all "good" men will be gone since birthday 0. They feed on our fear and ruin our lives. When are men taught manners? NEVER. Get rid of these parasites 💣⚔️👑👠💋This is the way! And if the right person does come along, I'll thank god and (with some more therapy) I hopefully will be able to "show up" for it. I'm so glad to hear this ^..^ high five~! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 06:37 PM |
| 21 | 📢🤏🤏Staying a Spinster >>Marrying a NVM/LVM🤏🤏📢 But society teaches girls they'll die alone/ no one will marry if they are too picky/all "good" men will be gone since birthday 0. They feed on our fear and ruin our lives. When are men taught manners? NEVER. Get rid of these parasites 💣⚔️👑👠💋i feel so bad about that!! does the 'family' not realize their young ones will most likely outlive the older folks? If my fam treated me that way I'd silently commit to striking their names from the history books once they've died. No one will remember them. it's tougher when you're not an only child, but from what I know about old people today, it's that they get to decide what to tell us about the generations that are no longer with us to speak for themselves. The leverage of youth and longevi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 04:34 PM |
| 53 | 📢🤏🤏Staying a Spinster >>Marrying a NVM/LVM🤏🤏📢 But society teaches girls they'll die alone/ no one will marry if they are too picky/all "good" men will be gone since birthday 0. They feed on our fear and ruin our lives. When are men taught manners? NEVER. Get rid of these parasites 💣⚔️👑👠💋my mum married at 23. My grandma met grandpa at 16, married at 18. My great grandma was 16 when she got married. I'm 32 and haven't been married. My grandma and I were talking about this the other day! We are looking at the family history, and in 1800s we had a woman who had several children without marrying, to various fathers. She eventually was married at 34 to an agricultural worker which meant she could leave the factory and work independently on the farm work instead of being on poor relie… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 04:27 PM |
| 54 | Pick me moms?!She’s in too deep and wants to be “cool” in her sons eyes instead of making the world a safer place for our daughters and future daughters. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 06:15 PM |
| 6 | Don't waste your time and energy on FDS crosspost subsReminds me of that rabbi post from the other day. Man: “I will die if she doesn’t have sex with me” Rabbis: “then perish” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 01:05 PM |
| 2 | Don't waste your time and energy on FDS crosspost subsIs downvoting in silent judgement ok in moderation? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 01:03 PM |
| 6 | If you ever needed another reason to hate Vice - FDS principles apply to WLW dating too; treating women the way men treat us just isn’t it.Thank you so much! Really needed to hear that🥰 glad I shared 🫀 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 01:00 PM |
| 11 | If you ever needed another reason to hate Vice - FDS principles apply to WLW dating too; treating women the way men treat us just isn’t it.I’m bi but have never come out or acted on my feelings because I was always caught up with a lvm, and I feel like I missed my chance to learn and discover how to fully be myself and find out how I give and receive love with a woman. I am too self conscious of being judged not gay enough to be bi, and I know there’s lots of het woman just playing with peoples feelings so there’s a lot of pressure not to come across that way, but having very little experience, idk how. so I stay silent in the clos… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 12:26 PM |
| 71 | South Korean women and their crusade against patriarchyRising above can mean biting the hand that holds you down | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 12:12 PM |
| 10 | ‘Women love cheaters’ according to Donavon Sharpe’s red pill podcast- tell me then Donavon if we just LOVE cheaters why do you men go to such extreme lengths to hide it and gaslight us? Surely you would be flaunting it in our faces and admitting it because we love it- amiright?as a writer, you just made my whole year!! <3 <3 i had it on repeat in the shower today after writing this lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 11:22 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Check-inthat is so sweet!! small things to help the community are not small at all. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 11:22 PM |
| 99 | ‘Women love cheaters’ according to Donavon Sharpe’s red pill podcast- tell me then Donavon if we just LOVE cheaters why do you men go to such extreme lengths to hide it and gaslight us? Surely you would be flaunting it in our faces and admitting it because we love it- amiright?I feel compelled to ask: What is love? I also feel compelled to say: Baby don’t hurt me. No more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 03:00 PM |
| 6 | I feel like I’m breaking and will not be able to crawl out. Please share any valuable resources that you may haveHey there!! You aren’t alone my friend. Here is the very odd thing that worked for me... getting into genealogy?! Strangely enough, it’s true. I have been reading up on the fascinating and horrific things that my family experienced in the late 1800s early 1900s Scotland. They were in the poorhouse for a few generations. They were only given gruel, bread if lucky, butter if lucky, and forced to work and labour. Meat was beyond luxury. By the 1930s the conditions had improved but not by much, they… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 11:48 AM |
| 13 | Please Share Your Stories of LVMs and LV Friends from High SchoolHey it’s me, a version of you from the future. The details are slightly different but essentially the same thing happened to me. The whole group essentially didn’t even think about being my friend, because I mean, he was really funny and charming. I’m 32 now. I wish I could tell you I’m not still a little bitter, but I am. It sticks with you. But you have the choice of whether or not to embrace the freedom this brings you, or to ruminate and become one with the fear and anxiety that this is some… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 10:33 AM |
| 6 | Self Defence Strategies (SDS) When You Don’t Live in the U.S.Thank you! Checking it out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 10:14 AM |
| 26 | Self Defence Strategies (SDS) When You Don’t Live in the U.S.Cars, loans, contracts... great advice | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 10:13 AM |
| 7 | Self Defence Strategies (SDS) When You Don’t Live in the U.S.Wow thank you for this post. 👀👀👀 eyeee gouging you say... hmmmmm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 10:12 AM |
| 56 | Men always talk about natural selection and animals. Well here is proof of their 'nature'.Maybe it’s just my compulsion to deal with horror with humour but, at the end of the post a song burst into my head... It’s the ... CIIIIRCLE OF LIIIIIFE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 10:10 AM |
| 3 | I found my underwear in my brothers room, I am seriously paranoid & starting to think the worst. Just Why. Perversion needs to stop invading my life.You’re right! I knew I had a bad feeling about my own advice. I’m speaking from a place of knowing I’m safe at home which is not the case. Adults do need to be told | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 06:29 PM |
| 23 | Me and my HVM have caused two major break ups by existing. Feels good.Ahhhhh yayyyy I love your love! Positive post !! Also highlights why men find fds so threatening. They might not even consciously realize it but they don’t want the girls in their life to get any ideas. Fuck that let’s celebrate 🎉💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 03:53 PM |
| 16 | After nearly 10 years of being a Reddit lurker (never even made an account) this subreddit has had such an impact on me that I finally had to sign up, so I can say to all of you...When I’m on my device I just can’t resist! 🌱😇💃 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 03:49 PM |
| 67 | After nearly 10 years of being a Reddit lurker (never even made an account) this subreddit has had such an impact on me that I finally had to sign up, so I can say to all of you...Hey you! Me too :) redditor since long time ago but never felt like part of the community until fds. Welcome 💜💜💜💜💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 02:55 PM |
| 10 | A personal realization: why losers leave during cancer.Hugs 🤗 you made me lol ‘similar to other things hmmmm’ 💜 all the best | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 02:24 PM |
| 8 | “What do you bring to the table?” is a question men use as a set up to devalue women—it is never sincereI know , it really exposes how they are so used to corporations selling them products that they seem to think nature works the same way? Like they grew up watching tv and seeing "what they wanted" on screen. Grow up with internet algorithms that cater ads to get their money. They seem to equate dating to the exact same process... like.... bruh I’m not a product and no one is trying to scam you, it’s called being a human being. Goddamn th4 industrial revolution fucked society up. I.e they think n… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 02:12 PM |
| 6 | I found my underwear in my brothers room, I am seriously paranoid & starting to think the worst. Just Why. Perversion needs to stop invading my life.You’re right I’m assuming she’s older but absolutely correct! Listen to yggiwtt | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 02:08 PM |
| 10 | Apparently even ancient Rabbis didn’t have time for thirsty dudes and their nonsenseI feel so .... seen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 02:07 PM |
| 11 | The lowest of the low, that I've never thought possibleJust today got an email that a donor i favourited a few months ago is now available in my country. Might be a sign....!!!! Fuck it I’m buying some today. 😌 my heart is at peace | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 01:01 PM |
| 54 | The lowest of the low, that I've never thought possibleMaking “single mother by choice” look better and better as my path towards motherhood | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 02:42 AM |
| 47 | I found my underwear in my brothers room, I am seriously paranoid & starting to think the worst. Just Why. Perversion needs to stop invading my life.Humiliate him publicly. They only respond to shame and losing face with their peers. Maybe this is bad advice. But it’s what I know in my heart would stick with him for ever. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 02:38 AM |
| 296 | Solid dating advice from seniors 👌. June is a mood 😄Me and June see eye to eye on things lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 02:35 AM |
| 20 | and that’s on periodtFor real. It’s like ok if you want me to take care of you let me find the cheapest old folks home with room available immediately. Have fun reflecting on how you treated me in the first 15 years of my life bc the last 15 years of yours will be at my mercy. (From the op of the thread’s perspective) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 09:36 PM |
| 42 | and that’s on periodtto the poorhouse with him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 06:39 PM |
| 65 | and that’s on periodtwomen struggling with aggression and irritation in old age: "here's a fuckload of psychiatric meds and a hospital confinement" men struggling with aggression and irritation in old age: "send him home to his wife and hope she doesn't call the police on him" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 06:37 PM |
| 72 | “What do you bring to the table?” is a question men use as a set up to devalue women—it is never sincerelol that thread was bonkers. the racism was subtle but stank to high heavens. also this made me gag: if you're marketing yourself to men, then men's judgement is the only thing that matters. Sorry bois, I don't have a marketing degree uwu /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 06:25 PM |
| 38 | “What do you bring to the table?” is a question men use as a set up to devalue women—it is never sincerei saw a post on another sub talking about this from the opposite perspective. someone said if you're marketing yourself to men, then men's judgement is the only thing that matters. .... im not marketing myself to anyone | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 06:23 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Check-ini've been thinking about this too. think about it this way; this subreddit began in 2019... it's only 2 years old!! in 5-15 years, I bet you this will continue to be something we talk about. Getting alternative networks for women looking for high value partners seems more possible than ever to me now that we have a community like this. Dreamstorming but, what if there was an "fds matchmaking network" where we can help to arrange meetings in a more conscious way than the swipefest roulette of the… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 02:48 PM |
| 2 | I have no wordsmmph. people don't know how easy it is to strike a name from the family tree and let them be completely forgotten by their grandkids. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 04:08 AM |
| 27 | It’s quiet ain’t no talk backguys: "I can't see your worth so you must have none" gals: "no" guys: "but the table" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 03:36 AM |
| 122 | Husband eats all of the food in the house leaving his wife and children hungry. Gets mad at wife for not giving him more food when she replaces what he ate that night.Oh dear lord I can’t imagine trying to argue that your children need food | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 10:18 PM |
| 6 | Weekly FDS Check-inSmart!! that's what I'm looking for too. I don't want to be a "landlord" so much as I want to have a close knit community and space available for extended family if they come on hard times. The only reason I left my apartment that had all those same things you love was because of covid... pool closed, sauna closed, gym closed, etc etc... just started to feel like a caged rat without those perks so I decided to move back home to save. Thankfully my mum is a saint and moved out to help her mother … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 05:05 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Check-inwe're among friends here :) thankfully we have this space to talk about and share in these sensitive issues. Thanks mods for protecting our space. and to be honest, it puts some of my soul back together too, to share what I've learned with you. Get out in the sun and feel the warmth on your skin and know your online friend is thinking of you and cheering you on. :) better days ahead, don't let him talk you into that 'disconnected from yourself' state... that is where they need you to be in order… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 04:52 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Check-inCheers Shockingupdate, from my family to yours. Shout out to your grandfather for making it happen! What a badass! It's so sad that our mothers' generation was gaslit into believing that "having it all" was all about "keeping up appearances" in that way. It was common at the time too for women to be blamed by their husbands for "overspending" rather than on these centuries-in-the-making systemic factors that incentivize living beyond ones' means... which guarantees labour output from that indivi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 04:08 PM |
| 17 | Weekly FDS Check-inHey Getlow! Big hugs to you. Sorry that you went through that, it's definitely not okay. Please write this down in your journal in detail in case you need to come back to these events, but for now I just want to let you know from one woman to another... you're fully allowed to feel like there were boundaries that were crossed that night, and that this is not ok. And that how you feel right now is reason enough to cut contact without explanation. Even if you liked him, even if you wanted to have … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 03:21 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Check-inthis is probably not the book you are looking for, but from these topics you may want to peruse the book sex and destiny by Germaine Greer. I skipped the sciencey chapters because it's old book and we know more about the human body now, but her commentary on children / child rearing / why people got married and had kids in the 1980s is so enlightening. Wouldn't include any keywords about generational trauma, but it does paint that picture if your parents / grandparents were waspy in the 80s. Thi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 03:11 PM |
| 7 | Weekly FDS Check-intruth. in 20-40 years they will be asking you "how you did it" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 03:08 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Check-ini would feel more encouraged to forego OLD if i had more exposure to alternative methods rather than focusing on the negative aspects of OLD. I see some women coming out of very long term relationships who haven't had OLD in their lives trying to figure out if you HAVE to use it these days. It seems impossible to avoid and I can see why... I just want to see more positive assertions about what is good than negative assertions about what / who is bad. that is just me though, not discounting that … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 03:04 PM |
| 4 | Weekly FDS Check-inglasses of water seem to need to be filled up sooooo often. having a dedicated waterbottle and keeping it nearby / on the desk at all times is key. We evolved from the oceans!! we're like reverse whales!! whales live underwater and need to consciously come up for air; we live in the air and need to consciously seek out water. when i think about it that way, it's like, if I was in space and running out of oxygen in my tank, would I say "i just can't bring myself to put my oxygen mask on" or to re… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 03:00 PM |
| 9 | Weekly FDS Check-inI want to meet new people soooooooo badly!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 02:55 PM |
| 5 | Weekly FDS Check-inAll the amenities are what makes those apartments worthwhile. Sounds like a great deal.... 500$ less a month in perpetuity!? Wowza! And free printing!? and steam room + sauna? good stuff. I would suggest visualizing your 'exit strategy' as in, always trade up so your next situation is better than the last. Long term, there's probably a sweet spot for when to leave (and for what) in order to get yourself to where you want to be in your later years. If that's renting in the same spot, sweet. if yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 02:53 PM |
| 18 | Weekly FDS Check-inI vet my purchases like I should have vetted the men in my life. If you look into what you are purchasing and what the business model behind that product is, you may find yourself A) waiting to spend that money until you find a business worth supporting B) discovering that whole industries make you entirely sick to your stomach and you lose the desire to make that purchase C) enjoying the research process so much that you spend so long doing it that weeks pass before dollars leave your account. … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 02:45 PM |
| 54 | At FDS, we are not SWERFS. In fact, our goal is to help as many women as possible escape the industry. Here's why.I was talking to my friend about whether or not FDS (and by extension my own) philosophy is TERF or SWERF. They said “if anything you are NERF. NON EXCLUSIONARY radical feminist.” (context: we have been besties since 2008 this isn't some rando who doesn't know me) I like it. Instead of negatively asserting what we are Not, positively assert what we ARE. The only ones we exclude are men? But even still, they are welcome to read and learn, just not harass and disrupt us? Soooo.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 01:25 PM |
| 4 | UPDATE: I got a job! (From: "I'm an escort and camgirl. The FDS Podcast made me realize I need to quit")I can’t tell you how much love is in my heart right now. Sister you are on the path and not alone!! Celebratiooonnnnnnnn!!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 01:19 PM |
| 1 | Dear Male Lurkers: This is WhyI’ve known some lovely morons. I hadn’t had experience with layers of lies that deep before. He had driven himself half mad trying to cope with all the shit he did while trying to think of himself as the victim and me hurting him. A true psychopath pretending to be a charismatic court jester. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 05:45 PM |
| 3 | Today is Meme Free Monday!Controversy makes us go viral, and the more viral it goes, the more women exposed to the core messaging. I predict this is going to end up being a gamergate style online meltdown, but wayyy more mainstream and therefore less contained, more dramatic, bigger social movement. It is just so annoying that we are just trying to live our life and it’s somehow so enraging to ppl | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 05:38 PM |
| 9 | Today is Meme Free Monday!So women’s choice = eugenics now? Taken to its conclusion, this implies that women must be stopped. From what? From deciding based on our own criteria who we want to have a child with / who we don’t. All men’s arranging of systems in this life... there is no legacy for men if women choose not to birth their children. If no woman in the world was forced against her will to conceive, then our species would be stronger because if women get to decide who procreates and who doesn’t, then their whole … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 05:25 PM |
| 9 | Dear Male Lurkers: This is WhyOkay here’s one that sticks out in my mind. We were driving in to the city from the suburbs to attend an appointment that I had booked with a therapist because I wasn’t done being codependent and brainwashed by his abuse yet. The ride could have been a time for us to talk about .... um, anything. But instead, he would play drums on his legs and exclaim when he saw any normal street sign, idk what the fuck his criteria was for selecting the sign, let’s say it was "Winchester Rd," he would make th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/05/21 04:50 PM |
| 33 | Dear Male Lurkers: This is WhyAn ex of mine used to read signage out loud in a stupid voice and then laugh obnoxiously at himself, instead of engaging in actual words | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 09:09 PM |
| 9 | Celibacy is POWERFUL ❤️✨I'm still just learning! The mods here and the community has helped me and called me out on some sus feelings I had, and it helped me break that cycle. now I am walking the walk it is easier to speak from the chest about this stuff <3 ill keep writing and maybe fewer ppl will have to learn the hard long way I did and can learn from my mistakes instead, thanks for the encouragement! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 01:37 PM |
| 21 | Celibacy is POWERFUL ❤️✨It's true. I used to think I had to play by their rules. But just because the person makes a semantically sound statement, does not negate Reality and The Truth. If they are living in a warped little world where up is down and left is right? Fuck 'em! You don't have to learn their language in order to speak your truth to them. Something can just be right or be wrong in my life and I will act accordingly whether they "understand" or not. Fuck 'em! If I am gracious enough to give them the emotiona… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 01:22 PM |
| 49 | Celibacy is POWERFUL ❤️✨Ten years ago I was met with “you’re not kinky enough, it’s not fair to me” I never saw any conversations like the ones we’re having in FDS. Keep this place alive and there will be hope for gen z badasses and beyond | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 11:31 AM |
| 293 | Celibacy is POWERFUL ❤️✨Totally. I thought that outright abuse would be obvious to spot. Didn’t realize that men will lie TO THEMSELVES in order to better lie to me. Anything to justify their own self serving perspective behaviour | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 11:26 AM |
| 88 | Celibacy is POWERFUL ❤️✨I hear you! My only comment is what I’m sure you already know: We were born with these rights and then conditioned into thinking those rights need to be earned or can be revoked by an authority above our own. I am not the highest moral authority in the universe and I am agnostic, but I certainly don’t believe that Joe Snot professional Clown 🤡 has the insight, authority, or perspective to have a valid opinion on how I stand on the shoulders of women’s rights’ heroes. I represent the culmination … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 11:23 AM |
| 51 | Celibacy is POWERFUL ❤️✨This is the real deal. Men feel entitled to “understand” before conceding this. If they “don’t understand”, if it “doesn’t make sense” to them and their sensibilities, they negate it. Or... they try to anyways. When we have a place to talk with one another openly, just us women and wlw, they get so mad that they aren’t a part of our consensus. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 11:16 AM |
| 5 | FDS & British Royal Mantra: 👑 Don’t Complain and Don’t Explain 👑This is awesome. The older I get the more queen Elizabeth stands out to me for her stiff spine and for the decades of walking that walk | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 11:38 AM |
| 3 | Thanks to this sub, I’m divorcing my extremely LVM husbandthe calm is near!!! You are going to feel so much better with your own space, where you can breathe and listen to what you want to listen to, and lock the door behind you. Ahhh keep us posted! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 06:34 PM |
| 16 | Redditors having a meltdown over FDS 😂Oh noooo I’m a hypocrite what ever shall I do | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 08:30 PM |
| 10 | What the actual fuck. 🤡i would start commenting on his ballsack. ask him whether it will keep getting saggier? you are starting to get concerned about his ability to keep up with your libido and give you full satisfaction now that you are more spry and hot. if he ends up going soft too soon, comment about it. if he ends up enjoying himself before you get yours, comment about it. turn conversation towards this when he brings up body, stare him down and look for the epiphany to form in his eyes, if it doesn't, byeeeeeee… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 01:19 PM |
| 15 | Dear Scrotes: cope and SEETHE. 😎✨our choice dictates the future of the world. they hate that and want to control it. that's all folks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 01:12 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Check-InIt is the only way | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 11:39 AM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Check-InHappy belated birthday Queen!! I’m here processing some rage too. Namaste and hope you had a nice week 😇 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 11:38 AM |
| 21 | world travel vs stabilityI know what you mean. I used to tell an ex that while I love to travel it is sad for me to do so without a nest to come home to. He was put off by the idea of .... having a warm meal around a family table to look forward to after an adventure? It must just all be about sex and looking cooler than he really is in front of foreign ladies. Travel for him was about ego. He didn’t want to be the guy who didn’t travel. That need to feel cool was stronger than any pull to an individual experience of cu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 11:32 AM |
| 19 | world travel vs stabilityWHOOPS is that his BARE ASS SHOWING? brb I need to post this aaaall over social media. 👑 great post op | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/05/21 11:27 AM |
| 3 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantLet’s set an alarm for 1 year to check in? :) first thing I’m going to do is set out the facts on the timeline. That way I can build each paragraph around the timeline of events, and then flesh it out with how I felt in the moment vs what I know now in retrospect. The drafting process is entirely your own. If you are ready to be honest about it in a draft that only you will read, that is step 1. Shame is insidious, we feel it even when no one is watching or reading. Somehow just saying that it h… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 04:04 PM |
| 5 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantYou are reading my mind. Low presh writing buddy and alpha reader / editor for each other would probably help us both get it done. Do you think within 5 years you could see yourself holding a physical copy of your experience in your hands? I can!!!! 😇👑❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 03:44 PM |
| 8 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men want10000000% there’s a market. Look at the rise of FDS principles off of the subreddit in conversations or on tik toks. I think ppl “our age” need to let the younger ladies know what we were expected to put up with so that they can stand on our shoulders instead of following in our footsteps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 03:37 PM |
| 11 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantI love your username!! it made me laugh :) I’m so pissed on your behalf that u had something like this happen too. BIGGEST SIGH!! I’m going to have to write that book for the young folks with stress over a human centipede of douchenozzles. To help assess and weigh the options of total disengagement vs keeping on to keep the group alive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 03:27 PM |
| 26 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantNever got over it means... It’s part of the Greek tragedy of my early 20s. How do I explain without explaining the whole thing... it needs a little context I think sorry for so much text but: I was the “cool new girl” in the group of guys who all knew one another from childhood. I was really IN the group after a few years of “proving myself” as the Hangout House guy’s girlfriend (he was abusing me after all the friends left for the evening). We all hung out as a group most nights and weekends fr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 03:03 PM |
| 19 | Ooops, it's my biological imperative to be attracted to fit, atheletic, good dick game menthese men will argue with their own strawmen while not listening to women who are literally explaining clearly about what we like. For example an ex bf of mine arguing with me over whether “size matters.” Fuck. Off. If I’m telling you how to push my buttons and all you can do is questions cross examine me like a smug lawyer / guru because of your immature notions of “what most girls say”, then your mental state is too young for me even if your body is 23. “But you CAN FEEL IT when a person is la… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 01:56 PM |
| 67 | Women are choosers and it literally does not matter what men wantAhh wonderful to see these facts shining brightly! I remember one time, a male friend (who surprise surprise was in the process of fuck zoning me) was blah blahing about what our costumes would be if we ever got to perform our tracks live as a band. He was saying something like, “and you, pizza! You can dress up like a beautiful multi coloured exotic bird temptress for the fans...” I was like “...... oh is that how you see me? ............ btw the colourful ones are the males, the MALES who are … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/05/21 01:41 PM |
| 3 | keep your journalsJust knowing it is there helps I hope. Knowing you do have power and control | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/05/21 01:14 PM |
| 2 | keep your journalsIt’s true, that period of time is where I became a writer because I was always in my journal trying to unravel his fuckery! It’s like a silver lining | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 02:35 PM |
| 2 | keep your journalsThank you! Yes I would not go for less | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 02:34 PM |
| 2 | keep your journalsThanks love. It’s so true. Visions for the future are forming | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 02:34 PM |
| 3 | keep your journalsGood advice, I have been reflecting on this a lot. Good luck with custody | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 02:33 PM |
| 6 | keep your journalsThank you, it is a lot but it is so so good to have! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/05/21 02:32 PM |
| 4 | New term, as a verb: “Scrote yapping” Definition: circular talking of making excuses and/or trying to exhaust you with word saladI can’t stand that “positive energy” , it makes me want to don a beret, wear all black, and mutter French insults about them | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 02:40 PM |
| 1 | New term, as a verb: “Scrote yapping” Definition: circular talking of making excuses and/or trying to exhaust you with word saladMy ex and I (back in ‘10) had a lot of inane inside jokes that basically amounted to us saying nonsensical word salad to one another. It became an avoidance tactic for him and over time he would basically only contribute to the conversation brilliant gems such as reading out loud street signs that he sees and purposely garble it. Then laugh at his own ‘joke’. For example, let’s say I was driving and I brought something up he didn’t wanna talk about, or just unprompted. He would give short “idk” … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/05/21 02:35 PM |
| 4 | Any experiences with red flags in dating women?thank you for sharing this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/04/21 07:44 PM |
| 32 | Using "political lesbian" as an insult is a homophobic and misogynist slur.“Bisexual women exist” Thank you!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/04/21 12:37 AM |
| 24 | Friendly reminder: we don’t have an expiration dateplease when you do, can you make online classes? I would sign up ^..^ I want to learn yoga from the lady who closed on a freaking duplex in 2021. haha Asana Flow for Real Estate Investors | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 03:19 PM |
| 67 | Friendly reminder: we don’t have an expiration date32 checking in who felt like this at 28 -- Don't stop the Yoga, keep a journal, and invest in your self. I did, and I feel deeply satisfied with how the last few years went. My only regret is waiting for so long before investing real money in passive growth strategies. It wasn't until recently though that I was able to think clearly without the burden of mental blockages | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 03:13 PM |
| 33 | Friendly reminder: we don’t have an expiration dateLadies I am 32 and let me tell you -- THANK GOD!!! MMmmpph. I went off hormonal birth control in 2017 after being on it since 2009, and I can now ... feel my moods? instead of having my moods be hijacked by the burning hot feeling of lust or love or want or need or whatever it was pulling me along by the seat of my pants for the past 15 years. is that bc of going off of birth control or is it because im 32 and my body has 'settled in' to its monthly routines? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 03:04 PM |
| 13 | Another reason why vetting is so crucial. Imagine passing away and the father of your children is so incapable that he uses your daughter as his maid & chef. Disgusting.hello fellow pizza. pizza hugs for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/03/21 07:49 PM |
| 180 | I/we need your helpwomen's movement against pedos could be a global movement, we stand with you sister | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 06:15 PM |
| 8 | Queens don't waste our energy on greasy ass napkins.lmao! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 02:53 PM |
| 22 | Before FDS I told myself it was a *few bad apples*; even though in reality it was 90% of men I encountered. Ladies, these are not *a couple of bad seeds* in a sea of princes. HVM are rare. Remember this and vet accordingly.true facts | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 04:40 PM |
| 3 | Laughing so hard right now at all the ridiculous conspiracy theories being spread about FDS 😂What in the actual fuck, can we not just have 1 place to hold hands and tell each other it's ok lady we've been there too let us help you get your feet back under you. Here's how. ......?!?!?! I can't believe it's gotten to that point, Q anon??!?!! WHY! ffs can we not have just one piece of the internet to be ourselves.... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 12:00 PM |
| 4 | Appreciation post for all you beautiful women of FDSWishing you well too! welcome to the club! ^.^ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 11:57 AM |
| 13 | Red flags that I didn't know were red flags, from my "perfect" "conflict-free" relationshiplmao yes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 11:50 AM |
| 14 | The Perfect VD Date!LOL! This should be the FDS mascot, the handbook's very own clippy | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 01:27 PM |
| 2 | Calling out the LVM in tech!!I get that, he's actually down for marriage and a family, but has trauma from childhood. His mum left early on but kept having kids, and he was left to raise his 4 younger sisters, starting when he was under the age of 10. I won't raise every detail but he has been my hero in the past for big things and small things countless times. Last night's convo ended with him apologizing, telling me I was right, listening to me, and accepting that he needs to go to therapy to deal with his mom making him … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/21 01:05 PM |
| 69 | Why "jUsT cOmMuNiCaTe" is problematic: we live in a culture where men generally get what they want when they ask for it, and where women generally don't.Don't weep! Fight! Let's all talk about it with each other, and the more we do that the more likely that our message of FDS will reach a younger audience. Be a sponge, absorb all this, and 'pass it on' like back in the good ol' days (p.s i am weeping too) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 02:42 PM |
| 49 | Why "jUsT cOmMuNiCaTe" is problematic: we live in a culture where men generally get what they want when they ask for it, and where women generally don't.being a young woman is hard enough physically without inconsiderate scrotes coming along and causing blunt force and tearing trauma to a sensitive area. For their dick's momentary pleasure, they will rip you up and cause you deep pain that can last long term... Anal went through a surge in popularity when i was a teen too, porn for sure caused that. It was seen as a test of merit or how "hardcore are you really?" because that was the thing back then. Trying to be the most "hardcore" and not a "p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 02:41 PM |
| 50 | Why "jUsT cOmMuNiCaTe" is problematic: we live in a culture where men generally get what they want when they ask for it, and where women generally don't.i've never read this feeling put into words before. holy shit this explains a lot. I have been so confused by my powerful reflex to 'be good' but now I get it. Thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 02:32 PM |
| -1 | Calling out the LVM in tech!!It's a story, just covid getting in the way of our lives | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 07:21 AM |
| 38 | Evan Rachel Woods steps forward about the abuse she, at age 18, suffered from 36 year old Brian Warner aka "Marilyn Manson"This is an apt metaphor. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 07:18 PM |
| 40 | Evan Rachel Woods steps forward about the abuse she, at age 18, suffered from 36 year old Brian Warner aka "Marilyn Manson"Hiding in plain sight. He reminds me of Jimmy Saville | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 07:17 PM |
| 95 | Evan Rachel Woods steps forward about the abuse she, at age 18, suffered from 36 year old Brian Warner aka "Marilyn Manson"I feel you. There’s so much about pop culture that was just so heinous and dark. At the time it was like “.... is it just me or...? Ok I guess it’s just me....” imagine if we had fds to gut check back then. Maybe Aaliyah might still be with us too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 07:16 PM |
| 15 | Marriage has not only NOT been a boon for women's sexual needs, it mostly runs against our interests, even in terms of sexual stability.arrghhh trying to explain to a guy who is asking "did you cum?" or "how many times did you cum?" .... if I am literally sitting there in my head counting, I'm definitely not having an in-body orgasm experience. Do you want me to count? bc i guarantee if I try to stay self aware enough to gauge my responses to give you metrics on your performance.... then I'll probably not even cum at all. Oh and emotional intimacy makes a huge diff in how much pleasure I experience... but some men don't wanna … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 06:57 PM |
| 11 | Marriage has not only NOT been a boon for women's sexual needs, it mostly runs against our interests, even in terms of sexual stability.I think the only way to get a sense for what marriage is really all about, is to look into and study case files from divorce law in your area. Look up the marriage laws in your area, the requirements and evidence they require to prove things in court... just know those things. As you go through your life, you will be empowered by knowing the details of what you by law can press for / what rights you hold and have a plan for how you will hold bad behaviour to account. I keep a mini binder in my o… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 06:54 PM |
| 40 | BF pretends to be happily married family man at work, then yells at his GF when she accidentally lets it slip to co-worker that they're not marriedDo not let him convince you that he has any legs to stand on in this situation at all. That's all pure power play, trying to get you to bend your reality to his will. WTF, not okay! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 06:50 PM |
| 7 | Calling out the LVM in tech!!can you break this down for me? not sure i understand fully | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 06:48 PM |
| 11 | Calling out the LVM in tech!!even the life of a cat lounging in sunbeams and drinking milk from a saucer can't compare to a tech bro who has his live-in forevergirlfriend bangmaid locked in and on birth control. He resents anything about her that mismatches his ideal "optimized" lifestyle which is just his own fear of change and fear of inadequacy projected onto her needs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 06:47 PM |
| 29 | Calling out the LVM in tech!!yeah in the Toronto region they don't like leaving their little isolated bubble. So they date in their income bracket and pooh-pooh at the notion of traveling 30 mins on the 401 to date someone who owns their own property in durham region. unmatched a dude recently who found out I live a few kms outside the city centre and he said somthing like "so you ok with coming into the downtown area?" and I said "no, not generally, why?" his reply: "because i'm definitely never coming out there. it's a li… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 06:40 PM |
| 4 | Calling out the LVM in tech!!facts | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Calling out the LVM in tech!!Hmmmmm should I force a convo with my interest of a few years by sending him this and asking what he thinks.....? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 06:23 PM |
| 29 | Me: Doesn't text/call for two days Him: wHaT aRe We?!"how can you be so cold!? you're not the PizzaNo7741 I used to know!" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 03:40 PM |
| 40 | What's with the spreading of complete lies about fds?bisexual woman here - FDS helped me to see my life in a different light. None of my relationships work out, not because I'm uniquely fucked up and irredeemable, but because I have been too comfortable in my LV traits out of sheer absence of any HV role models of either gender. Unaware of how obvious it is not to spend so much time / money on video games, weed, and bdsm / porn like it makes me "the cool girl"... I finally got the chance to hear some truly awesome women's perspective, and had to t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/21 02:51 PM |
| 36 | FDS has been saying it all along and women are catching up. Men do not love women like women love men and that's why we need to start demanding more and holding back the energies we give out for freethis post is giving me life and an ulcer at the same time! love it haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 10:25 PM |
| 12 | Sad how a lot of young girls in the comments are missing the point though...I wonder what young girls think of older gals who grew up gaslit into “sex positive grrrl power” bs. Not from a judgement perspective but, can y’all imagine all these tropes being so pervasive and unquestionably part of the fabric of society | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 05:26 PM |
| 3 | Sister Solidarity"The only place where your value can nose-dive is in your own head." TRUE! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 01:23 PM |
| 154 | Love a good roast.i want a "turn down for what" style song about "submit to what" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 01:10 PM |
| 3 | I was learning a lot in this subreddit but I can't anymore if my work is being stolen.This is a pretty audacious post ngl. Memes are not copyright material and the mods are not your personal lawyers nor are they your mommy. Are you a man? why are you acting so entitled to their time, attention? They protect this place from men who are sending death threats, violence, abhorrent content, extremely graphic shit, trying to infiltrate, and all sorts of really terrible shit just to corrupt the convo we're trying to have here. If you're not a man, you need to smarten up because the wome… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 01:01 PM |
| 7 | Remember: in nature, the greatest accomplishment that a male animal can ever hope to achieve is mating with a female. It's time we human women recognize our power over men, and start acting accordingly.Thanks for this perspective sleepykittn. I can feel my anxiety subsiding :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 10:55 AM |
| 17 | Remember: in nature, the greatest accomplishment that a male animal can ever hope to achieve is mating with a female. It's time we human women recognize our power over men, and start acting accordingly.Love this!!! there is no bar. That's my new mantra. The bar is the pull up bar I use to enjoy my own body while I'm alive. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 02:55 AM |
| 16 | Remember: in nature, the greatest accomplishment that a male animal can ever hope to achieve is mating with a female. It's time we human women recognize our power over men, and start acting accordingly.it's like their entire being is focused around 1 singular paradigm. And being a multifaceted person around someone who is not acknowledging anything outside their own mindset, is the most reductive, excruciating dissonant feeling. They choose to see only a tiny sliver of who you are, and smirk at the notion there's anything important beyond his dickhead | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 02:51 AM |
| 28 | Remember: in nature, the greatest accomplishment that a male animal can ever hope to achieve is mating with a female. It's time we human women recognize our power over men, and start acting accordingly.we must not mate with them. protect your womb at all costs | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 02:50 AM |
| 28 | Remember: in nature, the greatest accomplishment that a male animal can ever hope to achieve is mating with a female. It's time we human women recognize our power over men, and start acting accordingly.incels are basically ISIS in my mind | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 02:49 AM |
| 24 | Remember: in nature, the greatest accomplishment that a male animal can ever hope to achieve is mating with a female. It's time we human women recognize our power over men, and start acting accordingly.it scares me to think about what the incels would do if there was a way to technologically replace a womb / natural birth through a woman... would they just try to get rid of women entirely and rely on sex toys + porn and consider that an ideal society? The dehumanization is beyond. If women weren't needed to feed their supply, what would they do? Disturbing af | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 02:45 AM |
| 54 | Remember: in nature, the greatest accomplishment that a male animal can ever hope to achieve is mating with a female. It's time we human women recognize our power over men, and start acting accordingly.This is why I want a guy who can provide. I just want to know that we'll have food in the apocalypse. is that really so much to ask? lol the bar is in hell | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 02:42 AM |
| 76 | My goal for this year is to have boundaries and establish them like men do. They only do what they want, when they want it, with whomever they decide. There is no forcing them, they never give in, especially if they're not benefiting. I aspire to be like this.A commitment to laziness and lack of human decency can create the appearance of “boundaries”. “I won’t do that because I don’t want to and it will make me sad!” sounds great until “that” is actually visiting a dying relative or going to a loved one’s funeral (true story of my ex) ... Look what happens to male “boundaries” when they want sex or start losing some kind of zero-sum mind game. They go berserk. Well put. You are so right, and that is the EXACT road all this leads. A boy who will hide … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 02:31 AM |
| 22 | My goal for this year is to have boundaries and establish them like men do. They only do what they want, when they want it, with whomever they decide. There is no forcing them, they never give in, especially if they're not benefiting. I aspire to be like this.feel the powah flow through you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/01/21 02:25 AM |
| 4 | A man who doesn’t assault women should not be put on a pedestal. We don’t glorify treating women with the bare minimum of respect. This video shows a great level of self-awareness.oh wow. my heart. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 10:43 PM |
| 2 | Glad to know there are more women who are not afraid to speak up against kinky culture and its roots 👏👏👏👏👏👏I think you are starting, since you have asked that question :) We are learning how together. I don't have it all figured out, but I think it's a milestone to realize that there's something to figure out. <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 08:03 PM |
| 2 | Glad to know there are more women who are not afraid to speak up against kinky culture and its roots 👏👏👏👏👏👏Wow orangeboobert. You deserve so much better than that. Damn, that's so destructively shitty it's fit behaviour for a villain in a novel. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 07:58 PM |
| 7 | Glad to know there are more women who are not afraid to speak up against kinky culture and its roots 👏👏👏👏👏👏hell yeah! someone get this man an oiled up glamour shot near some felled trees | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 05:21 PM |
| 77 | Her scrote husband strung her along by future faking about adopting a child. Men will lie about absolutely anything to tie a woman downwow, that's a thing? I would probably ace home visits without a manbaby in my life | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 05:20 PM |
| 26 | Her scrote husband strung her along by future faking about adopting a child. Men will lie about absolutely anything to tie a woman downFuture fakers are the bane of my existence. How to even begin to describe this | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 05:18 PM |
| 30 | Glad to know there are more women who are not afraid to speak up against kinky culture and its roots 👏👏👏👏👏👏we've got to bring back rugged 70s dude aesthetic so that this kind of anemic milquetoast snot-nosed look can finally die | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 05:05 PM |
| 5 | Glad to know there are more women who are not afraid to speak up against kinky culture and its roots 👏👏👏👏👏👏This makes me so full of hope! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 04:36 PM |
| 46 | What Should a HVW Say When a Man Asks Her to Pay Half on a Date?Agreed. Please tell us explicitly what the intention is! I want to know you WANT to date me, just you talking to me doesn't tell Me anything. I'm not filling in the gaps with my magic imaginatory paintbrush anymore | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 02:17 PM |
| 22 | What Should a HVW Say When a Man Asks Her to Pay Half on a Date?I loved your tone / voice!! I'm sure the fact that I too have been described as "abrasive" has nothing to do with anything... need grit to get the scrotal residue out of the fabric of my life! ;) The type we're after has a sharp and witty banter in him that will catch the drift I'm sure. (I hope.) But it's good to see the other perspective because I might also be getting in my own way sometimes without realizing. Worth a second thought that's for sure | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 02:14 PM |
| 10 | What Should a HVW Say When a Man Asks Her to Pay Half on a Date?Thank whatever muses compelled you to write this out and post it. Thank you thank you thank you. I'm going on a second date / first in person date this weekend and due to restrictions I can't insist or expect to go to a nice restaurant or whatever. So we have something nice planned outside, but I have been wracking my brains for good quips to keep in mind for indicating my value and expectations on this date while keeping it light. Oh no, I would never emasculate you by insisting on paying for m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 02:09 PM |
| 139 | Glad to know there are more women who are not afraid to speak up against kinky culture and its roots 👏👏👏👏👏👏can't find it atm but there's mention of "the smirk" in the FDS docs. we should link to that vid lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 01:57 PM |
| 252 | Glad to know there are more women who are not afraid to speak up against kinky culture and its roots 👏👏👏👏👏👏She's so spot on. We need to be having this conversation often, and loudly, not to the boys, but with each other. They don't need to agree. They don't get to argue. You are speaking to your girls and filling them in on KEY LIFE INFORMATION that so many of us don't have the opportunity to learn from a role model irl. So thanks for sharing it! I used to feel so guilty and cry myself to sleep for having a "secret" craving for loving vanilla sex and respect, because I never thought about it the way … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 01:54 PM |
| 5 | Girl..Lmfaothis would be controversial to drop on my fb feed. But I want to sooo bad | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 03:08 PM |
| 20 | WHAT IS A “WALK DATE”?!I’m howling | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 05:52 AM |
| 22 | WHAT IS A “WALK DATE”?!I’m so happy to read this thank you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 05:51 AM |
| 35 | Im still in highschool, but I wish I could restart and live it differently myself. I watch anime and I don't have pedophilic tendencies. Stop excuses scrotes (the reply )i used to love anime, then got edged out as a demo they catered to. Everything got hypersexualized over the 00s, and in the '10s i didn't even bother with anime at all anymore . I like progressive psycho-social dramas and cyberpunk sci fi romance. Romance!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 12:49 AM |
| 6 | Lvm readers will be so triggered lol but she's completely right and now I want one toono worries, I immediately bought a new one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 09:56 PM |
| 20 | Let's start CELEBRATING the END of LV relationshipsWill you be my friend lol :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 02:13 PM |
| 9 | Let's start CELEBRATING the END of LV relationshipsYes plan it all out and make that your happy place when things get tough. Good luck sis I hope things work out for you | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 02:13 PM |
| 19 | Let's start CELEBRATING the END of LV relationshipsMaybe a great way for a lady who was with a lvm to say sorry to her friends with a big cake in their honour lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 02:12 PM |
| 6 | Let's start CELEBRATING the END of LV relationshipsAny kind of sub culture like this would have made me feel more confident to leave way earlier. I’m so going to adopt this positive attitude! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 02:11 PM |
| 4 | Lvm readers will be so triggered lol but she's completely right and now I want one tooI’m sorry I was just being gross, not a man. Just thinking about whether or not they ever knew what a woman’s body can do. My bad for the gross out factor I’m still deprogramming from porn. :) learning moment for me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 01:43 PM |
| 187 | Lvm readers will be so triggered lol but she's completely right and now I want one toothis whole stretching out thing... why don't guys' dicks get stretched out more every time they get a boner? The skin just gets looser and looser on them every time they get hard I bet. So by the time they are old they don't have as much tightness left in their dick skin and their available hardness is like, zero. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 01:30 AM |
| 269 | Lvm readers will be so triggered lol but she's completely right and now I want one tooThis sub brings up so many repressed memories that make me laugh to look back on. Let me share one with you. I was telling the lvm guy i was dating that my hitachi broke, and that I was going to buy a new one. He begged me. Begged. Pleaded a case. Made puppy dog eyes. Argued with me, please don't buy another one. ... boy what in the fuck!? He thought it was too good at getting me off and that wasn't fair. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 01:27 AM |
| 51 | THE GUARDIAN: Why are increasing numbers of women choosing to be single?Don't ask the women who aren't attracted to these scrotes... go ask the parents who have boys in the millennial and Z generations. I'm sure they are well aware of their sons' ... "communication issues". | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 08:24 PM |
| 131 | If he sucks up your time rather than enriching it, he's low valueCan I add for us chronic health problem ladies that this also applies to him sucking up your alone time / recharge time. IMO regardless of how you want to spend your time, if they are shaming you for it then they are not adding value. One of the number one priorities for me in selecting my mate is that I feel comfortable and not anxious going at my own pace. Sometimes that means I get the vibes he's rushing me, other times it means I want to get up at the crack of ass and spend a whole day doing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 08:15 PM |
| 80 | Dear male lurkers: FDS is coming for your girlfriends.scrotes please, think of the planet. I get you wanna bang and you wanna maid, but we're building a better future that you will indirectly benefit from even if 1 particular woman on the internet has a strong opinion you personally dislike. Go back to sleep little baby, put the VR headset back on, stream your cartoon fetishes and pretend we don't exist. If you can't get us out of your head, maybe you are attracted to strong women after all. Hm. Must be uncomfortable seeing it laid out plainly in f… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 08:00 PM |
| 2 | Just a reminder ladies 😘I'm going to try that Tresemme mousse! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 12:05 AM |
| 3 | Just a reminder ladies 😘hell yeaaaah! that's big hair energy :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 07:05 PM |
| 3 | Just a reminder ladies 😘Have fun! Blow dry it all over the place and see what happens | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 06:14 PM |
| 7 | Just a reminder ladies 😘keep experimenting with the curls that way. See what happens when you curl the tendril around one way vs another. I find that on my own head, there are pieces of hair that really truly must be curled away from my face, where their neighbouring curls must be angled towards my face. I've given up wondering why or fighting it, I just work with what we've got. There are a lot of curling pattern resources out there, a lot of the old diagrams from the 1950s, and 1930s pin curl guides were helpful. try… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 04:02 PM |
| 52 | Just a reminder ladies 😘if you want to achieve it with Minimal Styling Efforts, then it starts with getting the right cut of face-framing layers for your hair type and face shape. if you have a cut that will support it already, I'd say the best option is to get a round-brush and blow-dryer all-in-one tools. Revlon's is really popular. After you get out of the shower, get some of the excess moisture out and comb some heat protectant spray through your hair, focusing on the ends not the roots. Don't focus product on your… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 03:40 PM |
| 2 | Ladies would we marry a man that keeps a jar of pubes?I hear you, and I get where you're coming from, but this logic I just can't apply to a literal jar of pubic hair. Sorry for the downvotes, I still enjoyed reading a different perspective so thanks for sharing :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 03:13 PM |
| 78 | Ladies would we marry a man that keeps a jar of pubes?I bet he stares longingly at it and reminisces about the passage of time. Idk something tells me he likes to see "evidence of himself" and perhaps his bizarre overreaction is because he feels that she threw out a key piece of his externalized identity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 03:11 PM |
| 22 | Ladies would we marry a man that keeps a jar of pubes?The most sad part of this to me is that he can't regulate his emotions of sentimentality towards an object ike that. Like he has a lot of feelings displaced onto this jar full of pubes, he is literally "bottling himself up" and wasn't ready to let it go. Like a blankie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 03:07 PM |
| 88 | Scrote is proud of his Oedipus complex."She gives in to what I'm pressuring her about 90% of the time" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 03:01 PM |
| 146 | Scrote is proud of his Oedipus complex.Someone recommend that he let his mother pick out a suitable daughter-in-law lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 03:01 PM |
| 5 | ‘Just checking to make sure you give blowjobs’Good catch! :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 04:15 AM |
| 11 | Advice to my younger pickmeisha selfyeah that bullet point on OP's post hit me hard too. Oooof. Please think about it if you're young and really sit with whether it's true for you too. It's not shameful to prefer to be treated well, especially intimately. When I was envisioning what I thought a "dom woman" would be like, it was through the lens of porn I had been exposed to way too early. There was no way to separate "dominatrix" from "strong, confident woman" in my head, a strong woman would dom a man how he wants to be dommed. A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 07:32 PM |
| 26 | ‘Just checking to make sure you give blowjobs’I nearly did a spit take on this title! I bet that guy knows how to shop for auto parts | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 05:55 PM |
| 4 | My self love stackStack LIFE | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 05:44 PM |
| 77 | Proud of myselfYOU DID IT! Well done! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 01:15 PM |
| 15 | My mother never taught me how to be a woman.i hear you. i hear it and I empathize. there's one thing I know though: as we do, so women do. We are women! there's no womening properly. There's only strategic decisionmaking and placing yourself as the worthy core of that strategy. <3 it's okay not to have learned it before. There will hopefully always be more to learn! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 01:08 AM |
| 42 | A Man Sends Hookup off With a Bag of Doritos and $40 - PickMes on Twitter: 😍😍😍😍😍😍lmao or does the NVM ask YOU for a send off bag? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 12:44 AM |
| 26 | A Man Sends Hookup off With a Bag of Doritos and $40 - PickMes on Twitter: 😍😍😍😍😍😍but baby, you can re use the zip loc bag! shits sustainable babe! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 12:44 AM |
| 145 | boy BYEHe starts it over a few times so she enters at the right moment as the music crescendos | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 02:41 AM |
| 18 | The reboot nobody needstrue! agree to your second point. But sex in the city is soooo egregiously engrained in pop culture ... the audacity of those producerScroters! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 03:02 PM |
| 39 | The reboot nobody needsany writers in here? we should brainstorm alternate universe sex in the city from FDS perspective. oo oo, i've got one. Angry redhead of the group doesn't want to be anyone's fetish object and refuses to wear makeup, tight clothes, or dye her hair. She plays the drums in a metal band and imagines LVM faces stretched out on the snare skins as she wails away on 'em with her sticks... Edit: meanwhile, Samantha... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 02:59 PM |
| 8 | Men: "I don't like women who-" Women at FDS:fermé la bouche | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 02:29 PM |
| 2 | Sister finds child porn on brother’s computer. REDDIT: bUt WhY WeRe yOu SnOOPinG ThOugh?facts. the Hyper in Hypersexuality has become mainstream | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 12:09 PM |
| 76 | Why women keep "losing".Thank you for enforcing that boundary, it's the first time I've ever been active on reddit and enjoyed a community. I've been browsing reddit since 2009. Not sure what goes on behind the scenes but I love this little pocket of the internet where I can actually speak and not feel like I'm drowning in opposing perspectives and invisible, alone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 12:04 PM |
| 3 | “If he was abusive, why did you stay with him?”You know what, I can't fault them. In a way I think it's fair, not that I deserved it, but that's how I learned the lesson many women will tell younger ladies. Don't neglect your friendships for a man no matter what. If I had been a better friend instead of being so focused on the guy, maybe I wouldn't have gotten so sucked in to his BS for so long. I blame him for being an asshole. But I know there's a reason that it's staple in female dating strategies to at all costs maintain your friendships… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 12:01 PM |
| 11 | Why do males target these 3 groups of women/girls so harshly?They go for who they perceive to be the easier targets. They have no clue “how to communicate with” Women who are not in those categories because they don’t have any practice acknowledging their validity. Their meme brains are too stuffed full of what they and their buddies parrot to each other daily to have room to expect the unexpected from a Woman. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/21 04:03 AM |
| 48 | Who knew it was so easy to vet a guy by simply insisting he be responsible for making plans?This!! It's so true. Especially if he is one of these "adventurous traveller" types. I'm sorry, you're telling me you don't want a family because you have wanderlust and want to "get out into the world again", but you won't cross town to meet me bc it's not a bougie popular part of town? Trash can I also say the tags in this sub amuse me greatly. SCROTATION REPORT | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 06:33 PM |
| 44 | “If he was abusive, why did you stay with him?”"what did you expect? we all knew he was a psychopath." .... thanks for the heads up, "friends"... god I pray to have good female friends in my life, the wrong ones can really tear you down even without meaning to. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 06:29 PM |
| 20 | “If he was abusive, why did you stay with him?”You escaped it too! We made it out!! High five sis. *hug* | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 06:28 PM |
| 105 | O no hunnyEver since someone said the line "this isn't build-a-bitch" I can't get it out of my head.I mean ok, it's fun to fantasize, but it's such a turn off to imagine this like... little kid energy running up to you with their eyes all wide and mouth open pointing to some advert for a new toy. MOMMY MOMMY CAN I HAVE THE NEW POWER RANGERS? what's the difference? "BANGMAID PLZZ CAN I HAVE THIS ONE? I WANT THIS ONE *shows her the pic* " | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 06:24 PM |
| 21 | How many here ended up with the man they met on tinder, bumble and other dating apps?I've started 2 relationships via online dating and they were both successful. They treated me great, and were not LV. Those relationships ended due to my life circumstances changing dramatically, moving far away etc., so we agreed to end on good terms (both). The people I meet through happenstance always pull me into some kind of dramatic "do they want a relationship or don't they" vibe. One of the only things I like about OLD is that we get past that stage within days / weeks of conversation ra… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 06:19 PM |
| 2 | Men that are not taking COVID-19 seriously are LOW VALUE: What makes you think they'll respect virtual dates?I never thought about this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 06:15 PM |
| 2 | Men that are not taking COVID-19 seriously are LOW VALUE: What makes you think they'll respect virtual dates?arrrghhh you're rightttttt arrghhhh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 06:15 PM |
| 23 | Enough men to make it truehis "communication issue" was misunderstanding me 9 times out of 10, but never asking clarifying questions | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 05:54 PM |
| 16 | Enough men to make it true<3 i am okay, he isn't around me anymore and I have been levelling up. Thanks for commiserating with me, it really helps | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 05:51 PM |
| 10 | Enough men to make it trueit's okay, honestly I don't think he maliciously faked it, I believe his bumblingly sincere idiocy more than believe he is a bad person. Not giving it a pass, but I categorize it as Just soooo dumb and try to laugh because yeah it is very sad that so many young boys and girls are experiencing this way worse in the younger generations | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 05:48 PM |
| 19 | Enough men to make it truei think you nailed it, he mistook my actually wanting a spiritual connection with a man to make a family as a breeding kink. I have a good sense of humour about it thankfully! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 05:45 PM |
| 93 | Enough men to make it truei definitely thought that for a while before I called him on it and said hey, I was specifically up front, when did I say I wanted to ROLE PLAY having a man who loves me and wants to create life with me? LOL. I have since woken up and discovered FDS... wish I had had this place a few years ago. Not ashamed of who I was, but I am glad to have figured it out even if it did take me longer than ideal | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 03:24 PM |
| 41 | Enough men to make it trueOh examples! Well i mean i hate to paint a sad picture but he would be very intimate and loving, and look deeply into my eyes and say .......... stuff that does not translate well to text......... and i'd be like melt because hey, that's what I wanted. him months later: I thought this was role play why do you actually think this is going anywhere me: so all those times you faked orgasming because you know I like to get off at the same time? You were also faking the feelings? him: i wouldn't call… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 03:23 PM |
| 317 | Enough men to make it truelol this reminds me of times past when I first met my ex. I told him I want a family and kids before going any further so I would not get with someone who was by default not into it. Well he took that to mean, I wanted to be talked to IN BED as if he wanted kids ..... You know, like a prop to getting me off? But when I tried to have serious conversations about it he would get uncomfortable and try to spin it like he isn't sure and doesn't want to talk about it. He wasted so much of my time. I di… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 12:45 PM |
| 3 | Where does the idea that women will end up cat ladies and pass alone come from?Love this perspective! Thank you queen | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 10:43 PM |
| 5 | If you actively practice FDS, people are going to fucking hate you.Hmm. Good. Bring it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/01/21 06:52 PM |
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