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Imagine his response if that was the reply back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/21 03:24 AM
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Lol I don't use those apps either but it's totally solid advice for basic product advertising. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 07:23 PM
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Yep, most cellphone cameras are wide angle lenses which means they compress your face and crowd your imperfections together. If you have any slightly distinguishing feature on a normal sized face they will not flatter. I think this is also the reason it's so easy to fatfish by just taking face pics. Wider faced people actually benefit from the compression effect of a cell camera. The lenses that professionals use provide an aspect ratio that is close to what you'd see in a mirror or real life. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 03:41 PM
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Women like what? This is good design 101. Have good photos if you're going to look for dates on a visual platform. That's such obvious advice. Your special snowflake attitude is going to hurt you more in dating than your subpar looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 03:36 PM
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How can people that seem to want to be serious make such huge mistakes? One of the main functions of the overall manosphere is disseminating misinformation.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 06:14 AM
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When I was doing the OLD, a shitty photo of a decent looking guy would definitely get a swipe left. Bad photos just make a man seem socially retarded maybe even literally a little on the derpy side. And I barely read profiles. If a man somehow decided to pay for a full on glamour photoshoot, I'd swipe right even though I'd think he was probably a bot. You don't even have to put any effort into a profile just pay a photographer 200 bux to make you look pretty. Actually that's my advice to men on …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 06:05 AM
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At the very least serious fuckboi vibes if not outright sexual predators. I think that's a well known fact among circles who encounter said hippies on the regular though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/06/21 12:58 AM
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Lol were they all 3 for 3 on DUI's too?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/06/21 09:22 PM
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He would be waaaaay higher if he didn't have the wonky eye.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/21 09:21 PM
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No, you man is not symmetrical so he's definitely 6-7.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 08:48 PM
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Why does Michael Cera look like someone pasted a bigger face onto a smaller head in photoshop? nooo
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/21 08:47 PM
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Dating and fending off suitors is inevitable isn't it? The last year and a half of pandemic has put a pause on most people's social networking but I know that the vaccine rollout is going to change that situation pretty rapidly. I feel as if a lot of people are still deep in hibernation mode, however, and that's changed the flavor of the posts dramatically. It's natural to be in the hyper independent mindset at this point in time, otherwise most of us would be foundering mentally and emotionally…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 07:27 PM
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Dad pretty much cucks his own sons at that point. These mommy's boys are terrible partners and the emotional enmeshment between mom and son is creepy as fuck. My ex was like that, three boy children in that family and the likelihood of the family line actually continuing is minuscule becuase the fucked up dynamics and all the codependency. For how much men care about their legacy, they certainly don't think longterm when they choose to abandon or mistreat their own families.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 06:44 PM
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I was reading a thread and dude is talking about how this single mom with two kids lives in a fancy apartment and nice lifestyle and he thinks it all gets paid for with the $800 in child support she gets a month. These men with their weird opinions of single moms would probaly shit themselves if they saw the actual amount of money that moves around in a month to maintain a household for two kids. If I need 800 bux I pull it out of my metaphorical couch cushions. If a single parent is livng a nic…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 06:36 PM
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Well, keep in mind that the subset of women who you can date is pretty small. I guess you can also date the girls who get pumped and dumped a lot for whatever reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 10:46 PM
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So I guess typical dating is uber sluts matching with kissless virgins and all that ensuing hilarity. And that explains PUA, TRP and incles and their beliefs.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 07:48 PM
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I suppose one should consider that the vast majority of monogamist types just aren't available for dating most of the time. So if you're trying to break into the relationships realm maybe the people you encounter more often are going to be perpetually single high n-count individuals. Eidt: Or virgins.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 07:06 PM
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This. Most people I know are either serial monogamous, meaning they get a new partner every 2-5 years or so and might have an extra one in there during a really crazy single year. Or they're relationship long haulers. I do not know about all these young women having double digit sexual partners by their early 20's.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 06:38 PM
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I sure as fuck would.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 06:03 PM
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marriage will raise her "power" by legally entitling her to half of the total income and assets generated by the couple no matter her own contribution. A lot of people only think of income and assets in regards to marriage, but another thing that is shared is DEBT. And that's the real reason people of similar income/social class end up together, because they can agree on things like a reasonable debt to income ratio. This is also why sometimes people who make similar incomes aren't always the be…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 05:20 PM
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Since child support is usually a very small fraction of the actual costs of raising a child, so one can assume that the parent raising the kid probably pays a fixed amount of monthly bills for things that directly benefit the kid, (classes, childcare, insurance premiums, rent, food budget) and the courts have already determined the amount based on the financial information the parents provided, why does it matter to also get receipts every month? If you were talking about stuff that changed or f…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 04:58 PM
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Chronic illness usually happens later in life. The divorce rate for when a partner gets cancer is 11%. Oh but if you segregate those statistics by gender (who is leaving whom) men leave their wives when they get cancer 20% of the time and women leave 2% of the time. That's what we mean when we say men are selfish.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/21 03:18 PM
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They don't have human souls.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/21 02:52 PM
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Learn to invest! And start talking to a therapist becuase sipiraling thoughts are a symptom of anxiety.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:47 PM
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Hell, even when I was a kid I had a grand-uncle we called "muscles grandpa" because until the end, he kept on working out and being insanely strong and healthy. Haha, all my uncles are buff uncles. Like how to men 30 years younger justify their squishy physique?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 07:40 PM
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Probaly like 20-30k spent for a brief marriage to a NVM ex, divorce fees, destruction of property, therapy, moving costs etc. The previous ex, probaly not as direct but he sure did try hard to keep me from pursuing a viable career so maybe like 90k in wages that didn't get made for 3 years fucking around in minimum wage jobs compared to my entry level salary. I always laugh at men who think that they're the ones who keep the economy going since it's 100% a fact that shitty male partners are a fi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 06:13 PM
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We assume men want domestic slaves because of how many men refuse to do domestic work once they start living with a woman. They will literally do nothing and come up with a bunch of justifications for why they can't do housework. If you wasnt examples go on any relationship sub. So what men do and what they say.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/21 07:59 AM
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See, I can't get into country music because standard American faire is just too dark for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 06:06 AM
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I'm talking about men, who are the ones who commit abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 05:59 PM
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Not really. You're talking about the equivalent of building a whole other welfare system on top of child support payments. Food stamps, unemployment, housing assistance all essentially work like the way you're describing. They require massive amounts of money to maintain and they only enrich the corporate megalopolies who own the infrastructure. All that when we know that, when it comes to welfare, direct payments cost less and are more effective. So you want to build another inefficient welfare…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 05:57 PM
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Nah, we just need to put abusers in jail or maybe work camps more often. People who have no rational basis for their beliefs should be kept away from society.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 05:17 PM
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Why is this necessary besides catering to some crazy ass dude's sense of control? And how do you prove that a $300 child support check was spent on illegitimate things if daycare is $800 and gets paid every month? You can't, cause that's not how balancing a budget works. Related to that, there are legal processes for adjusting child support or revising custody if the parent's income changes, living expenses change or if there is clear case of neglect. Also creating an infrastructure so that ever…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 04:56 PM
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He doesn't sound that great. Actually he sounds really bitter about having the kid. Do you even know if he moved to be closer to his kid or if he moved to stalk her?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/06/21 03:13 PM
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Child support is based off a calculation of both parent's incomes and livng expenses and is meant to offset the cost of raising the child. I don't know how you'd expect to get more precise than that. We can't track individual dollars in a bank account. I've heard of men becoming irrationally enraged when they discover any purchases made by their ex's that aren't child related. As if 100% of all household expenses will be spent on child related costs. But that's probaly just a symptom of bitterne…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/06/21 02:53 PM
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Oh, I think single dads with young kids should automatically be assumed to he abusive. That's why they're single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/06/21 05:25 PM
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Wow this could be my theme song. Sorry bros. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 11:06 PM
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Post partum hair loss. Yep. It's why women get mom-bobs. I think it's a lot more common than tooth loss tho.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 10:36 PM
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Except when my granny and step-grandpa met they were both on their second marriages and had a bunch of kids, and never had kids of their own, so it does seem like they just wanted to be married to each other. They both valued caring for their children, and they were lifelong companions. Grandma didn't live very long after he passed, so to me that indicates that he added a lot to her life that could never be replaced once he was gone.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 07:36 PM
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Men are taught from an early age about being the patriarchal head of the family and that men have innate qualities (strength, will, logic, intelligence, soticism) that women do not possess, which entitles them to take the lead and dominate in a relationship. Since none of those core values and beliefs about men and women are true, most men are set up to experience massive amounts of cognitive dissonance when they enter into an intimate relationship with a woman. Narcissistic behaviors are learne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/06/21 07:24 PM
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My grandma left her abusive alcoholic first husband and then worked in a fancy hotel until she found a second husband who was rich as fuck and would take her out dancing every week. I hear she even hired a PI before they got married to make sure he wasn't secretly poor or in debt. She lived with him on the East Coast and they lived the snow-bird lifestyle until he passed. He left a shitload of money to her so she could live her retirement comfortably. Then when she passed she left a shitload of …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/21 06:26 PM
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The only correct answer is 'Nothing, if it's your table." or 'Why are you looking for someone to sponge off of?"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 08:58 PM
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It's all men. Men are taught mode of relating to women that makes it easy to slip into narcissistic abuse and control. It's all men, and some of them go farther down the path than others.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 07:46 PM
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THIS is the hallowed SAHM honor that the manosphere says is better? This? Yea, it's better for the abuser. They are basically criminals so they are vulnerable to women who have means to leave them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 06:57 PM
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How is that more harmful to the sex worker? Decriminalization is less harmful to the sex worker because any kind of criminal record is a barrier to legitimate employment. Sex workers with criminal records may not be able to leave the sex trade if they are not able to seek a more legitimate line of work. Whether sex-buyers get harsher criminal sentences is irrelevant.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 02:39 AM
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This is the other reason for dead bedrooms. All it takes is one month long medically indicated sex pause where he persists in trying to coerce you into sex the whole time. Can't think of anything more un-arousing than my partner suddenly acting like a rapist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 10:49 PM
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Decriminalizing is not the same as legalizing. Decriminalizing sex work means that women who are in the sex trades and get caught won't have criminal records. Currently, being a prostitute carries a heavier legal penalty than buying sex. Sex workers with criminal records due to their sex trade have higher barriers to entry into non-sex occupations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/21 09:01 PM
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Yep, look at China and it's woman shortage. The men in rural areas who can't find a wife live in squalor and urban women are wealthy and refuse to marry because they can't find anyone decent even with the proliferation of choices. Without women men turn into weird toothless gremlins who sponge off their parents indefinitely.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/21 06:25 AM
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What was the gender ratio of the Capitol riots on the 6th? Just sayin. Because it looked like there were a lot more dudes in that crowd.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/21 02:27 PM
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Mandatory incarceration for DV perps without bail. The victims know very well that even if he gets arrested he's going to be out in a matter of hours/days. I've been through that bullshit myself and the first thing the DV hotline tells you is that he won't be in custody very long. They know that there's literally no incentive to actually penalize men for DV and the system doesn't want to deal with them. Becuase of that the onus is on the victim to completely uproot her whole life and go into hid…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 10:16 PM
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Oh my god, it's becuase this is true that I'm 100% prepared to commit murder if I have a daughter who grows up and is unlucky to date a man who thinks he's entitled to terrorize her. He's not going to survive, because I sure as fuck won't value his life over my own offspring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 08:28 PM
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I have a lot of single male friends who cook real food and have their own homes with the usual selection of furniture. Men who function like adults exist.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 06:21 PM
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Well, the way the case has been handled it's pretty clear that the men responsible for this case in the legal system have more in common with a sex trafficking pedo than a victim of abuse. They want to protect their brethren. Obviously women who stand up to their abusers must be punished, these men don't want their own victims getting any ideas. There's no doubt in my mind all of them have their victims.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/21 02:36 AM
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If that sounds absurd to you then you've gotten a small glimpse into how absurd men sound when they talk about sex with women as some kind of transactional commodity and how women are looking for 'extract resources' by going on dates with men and refusing to go Dutch. In fact, now that I'm really digesting the impact of my own satire, a lot of men are Qanon, Trump is busting a secret cabal of Hollywood pedos and vaccines give you 5g reception level of absurd the way characterize the motivations …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/21 12:01 AM
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Men appear to lack object permanance (which is an important developmental marker) when they see a meal or a gift on a date as a 'transaction' becuase that assumes that the cost of the meal or gift is a significant value in proportion to her income and the cost of living in the area in which she is residing. If you consider that the average cost of a date is around $40-$70 per person and an extremely busy dating schedule may include 2-3 dates per week, the total value of 3 dates at $40 would be $…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/21 03:50 PM
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Yea, and the actual things that men do, they dont want to do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/21 04:56 PM
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I don't really care about splitting things down the center 50:50 for housecleaning. That kind of attention to detail goes against my genral approach to cleaning. I mean, with dual incomes hiring a maid to supplement is not an issue either. I'm saying I've never dated a man who shows any motivation to clean anything and a lot of motivation to hamster himself into reasons why he should never touch a dirty dish. That type of attitude is just a shitty one to have in a partner. I am a top 10% earner …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/21 03:18 PM
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Well, I needs friends, companions and family, which I have. Committed relationships, I don't need, nor benefit from.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 10:37 PM
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Nah the truth is commitment is an awful prison. Well that's how I feel about it, yea. Like i said I never found a dude who made positive contributions so I usually get like a year in and think, nah commitment is not for me. And the men really try to make it a prison too, because most have a lot of opinions about what you ought to be doing with yourself. No thanks.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 10:27 PM
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Lol because you said so?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 08:09 PM
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Well, I've never concerned myself with doing all the housework when I cohabit with a man. I'll just do enough to keep a home acceptably clean after myself. It's not hard. If I could find a partner who also believes in cleaning up a bit here and there, it would be excellent. If you have other full adults in a house that refuse to do housework for whatever reason shit just gets gross though. I've had similar issues with slob roommates so this is by no means just a male gender issue. The problem is…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 08:04 PM
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Stalking should definitely be reclassified as a form of attempted first degree murder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/21 07:32 PM
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Third wave feminism is just leftist identity politics and lacks any kind of cohesive critical thought structure and is meaningless as mode for change, advancing women, or creating critical frameworks for social analysis and therefore only supports the status quo and social class division.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 07:28 PM
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You clearly don't.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 07:01 PM
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No feminists are anti-trans but feminist theory is based on the idea that women as a sex class, face discrimination based on their biological sex. Since trans activists define gender as an orientation and biological sex as mutable there are some trans activists who are militantly anti-feminist.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 05:13 PM
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It's becuase the older I get the more resources and ongoing life goals I have in process that are at stake. We all know how allowing the wrong person into your life on such an intimate level can suck you dry of your money, resources, and derail plans. Any rational adult is going to be very choosy about who they let in. Young adults are relatively carefree in this regard since most haven't had the time to mature their assets and career goals. Also once you get into your 30's you start seeing how …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/21 04:46 PM
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I had an ex like that but I refused to pay anything except for a couple necessary expenses (maids 2x a month and cable) unless we sat down and did a full break down of monthly expenses. He never did. Probaly what I paid was a fair split.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/06/21 01:14 AM
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Don't date woke ass tech dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:08 PM
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He probably makes her pay 50/50 on their shared household expenses. So she pays her loans, half their lifestyle and he gets to pocket the rest and put it in HIS savings which he will attempt to withhold from her when they get divorced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 06:02 PM
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Yes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/21 02:42 PM
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Reading the comments is always chilling because I wonder if he is using those comments to gaslight his SO. Without a doubt. This is why I always make a point to come down hard on men posting about their relationships becuase there's a high chance that he's lying and using the thread to gaslight and manipulate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 11:13 PM
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The whole manosphere is made up of these men. The amount of cognitive dissonance, we should classify misogyny as a personality disorder.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/21 06:58 PM
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She believes that her career is super impressive and that childbearing would pose a severe threat to it. ​ My career really took off after I became a parent, so I'd like women to know that having kids isn't necessarily detrimental to having a great career. I will say that the men that I had allowed into my life have probably been more of a detriment to my career than my kids, so having a sperm donor, a great job and a solid support network is probably the most ideal way to raise kids and have a …
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/21 12:43 AM
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Could be something relatively vanilla if he's bad at sex. I will totally find blowjobs hot if I'm with the right partner. Ironically the least arousing man I've ever been with was a total porn hound and wanted to do all this risky sex stuff (some of which I have actually done and enjoyed with others), which I just wasn't interested in with him becuase he had zero ability to turn an acutal woman on. It was sad. Porn steals the sex lives that men could have if they weren't addicted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:48 PM
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his mother, who could be a pedophile, child abuser, ANYTHING! Women with sons are sus when considering if they're responsible childcare. It's fucking true. Like there is a non-zero chance that any woman who has boy children is going to double down on the internalized misogyny in this fucked up society.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/21 11:32 PM
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I mean, to this day you still have to monitor your old lady relatives social media and stuff for con-artist men trying to suck their money.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/05/21 02:38 AM
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I swear that in average metro areas there are more fat men than there are women, so even if there are slightly more men in higher CoL urban areas, the difference is minimized by the amount of men who just can't make the cut cause they refuse to do basic physicals maintenance. And even if you manage to meet a decent man with an okay weight the chances of getting fat-fished are so high.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 11:26 PM
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For those who do, why? And is this what men mean when they say women have unreasonable standards? The people who say those women are unreasonable are measuring men and women by two different standards. Men are measured by who they are as a person, their accomplishments and values. Women are married by their youth, beauty on a 1-10 scale and how submissive they are. So when a women goes, 'hey I'm a generally capable adult and a decent person with good values who wants the same,' there are men on …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 10:59 PM
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I am currently a 5'11 male who weighs 165 and so not exactly the most ideal as im not very muscular, but was wondering what seems to be the "general desired trait"? The answer is 'muscles' and 'broad shoulders' with varying body fat percentages depending on how much she's into dudes who meal prep. Also some women like fat guys. And most don't like overly buff guys but don't worry about getting too buff unless you're really interested in taking steroids.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/21 10:49 PM
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Yea, I was going to say that the infographic leaves out all the actual blatant gold digging that men do. Even as a young woman with a modest trust fund (I used it to pay for school) my boyfriend at the time who had a well paying tech job would come out and ask me to give him my money. Now that I have my own assets, I think the number one priority is to make sure that no man get's the idea that he can take ownership of my funds through marriage or otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/05/21 06:59 PM
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Most guys I meet are decent normal cool dudes who can hold a convo perfectly fine. Men act differently towards men than they do towards women. When a woman says a man has a personality issue, it usually means he acts demaning, insufferable, or controlling towards women. These men don't really have a 'personality' issue-- becuase they are obviously able to interact normally in same gender scenarios-- as much as they have a set of values and beliefs that are unfavorable towards women that they exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 07:58 PM
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Feminism is for the advancement of women so yes feminism supports women. If it doesn't then it's not feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 07:53 PM
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Yes, the law says any money, assets or debt accumulated by any party during a marriage is part of community property and should be divided in half after a divorce. But prior assets are generally considered separate property. These definitions will vary by state but that's the gist of it. One area that gets really hairy is real estate, an example is if you have a large savings of money that you accumulate prior to marriage, and you then get married and use that money for a downpayment on a family…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 07:52 PM
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Are you talking about 50% of the marital property and usually alimony for the lower earning spouse and child support if applicable, becuase that's not extreme, that's the law. In divorce subs there are more horror stories of men pulling fast ones in divorces, circumventing the legal process to leave ex-spouses with nothing while putting vulnerable young children in harm's way, than there are stories of women getting basic fair treatment in divorce proceedings. So do elaborate on what you believe…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/21 07:50 PM
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Any man who uses 'feminism' as a means to shame or otherwise control a womans behavior is exactly the type of man that is anti-feminist.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/05/21 10:01 PM
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You come off as someone who doesn't know that it takes hard work, dedication, and discipline to get muscular, which takes stability.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/21 01:45 PM
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Yea, while the study touches on how married women have more housework, it says nothing about all the behaviors men employ to coerce women into doing the majority of the housework. Because they feel entitled to her free labor. But we all know the reality of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:28 PM
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lol essentially
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/05/21 05:21 PM
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Women, what motivates you to develop your career? Money, growing assets, maintaining a lifestyle. Also I chose to work in a field that I think is cool, so working is enjoyable.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/21 06:11 PM
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It's appropriate that Bumble's branding is yellow becuase the second I went on that app I immediately found some gross dude with a piss fetish. Block and delete the app.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 06:02 PM
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Yea, the original 'dad bod' that I recall seeing in the media was professional beefcake Hugh Jackman hanging out between roles on the LA beaches with his kids. 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/21 05:32 PM
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I do not think men have very solid sexualities like women do. When I am attracted to a man, there's like, hardcore biological signals there telling me that he's going to make good babies. It's wild. When women find a sexy male partner they literally get high on his pheromones. Men are more opportunistic, only some men have to be reproductively successful in order to ensure population stability, the rest are extra. In order for men to remain emotionally stable, it's important for them to be able …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:54 PM
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Not checking his phone and just dumping him when you get the inkling is a power move. Men find it gratifying to get their current partners all freaked out about losing them. Makes them feel powerful. If you refrain from participating in the theatrics and just dump, it'll crush his ego. If he's post wall when this happens he may never date again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 08:25 PM
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Men saying the line, 'Women are equal now so they should pay their way 50/50,' even when dude knows he makes twice as much as she does remind me of how my parents would set me up to fail at things they didn't like for me, they'd say, 'okay you can do this thing and were going to challenge you.' Then they'd make sure the barrier to success was high enough that I'd never succeed and never offer support. That's your typical 50/50 relationship guy. He's going to expect her to pay 50/50 and he'll mak…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/21 06:16 PM
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Right? I'd be like, he must be really into action sports, seems reasonable. Millenial dudes see a woman who has a totally basic standard that your grandma would probaly agree with, 'Shriiiiiieeek!'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 05:17 PM
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I just love how he tells on himself. When he said he didn't care what anyone thought of his table manners all I heard was, 'I am a nasty eater and I'm embarrassing to take out to meals.' Someone needs to tell him that, as a fat bloated man, his opinions mean nothing to a young attractive woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 04:57 PM
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Thank you to everyone who engages one-on-one with these fucking assholes. Trolling fools on the internet has been my hobby since waaaay before reddit. You're welcome.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 02:37 AM
10

This is like, basing a man's attractiveness off of his wallet and then saying a man who is actually generous with his partner is a pussy so you have to compensate by abusing her or something. Toxic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 12:41 AM
21

In the same thread we also have a raging mysogynist with an okay investment portfolio who thinks he's hot shit and has made four or five posts explaining why women are prostitutes for expecting men to pay on dinner dates. No, it's not prostitution, it's a test for obvious red flags. https://imgur.com/ni26I9o.jpg
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/05/21 12:02 AM
10

I think so too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:57 PM
42

In summary: I comment on avoiding men who insist on 50/50 for dates and a man shows up and gives a perfect example of why you want to avoid men who insist on 50/50 for dates.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:40 PM
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Sadly it seems like of she dumped him he'd walk away with half her inheritance in the form of a downpayment on their house and he'd have way more disposable income to spend on an aggressive lawyer since they split expenses 50/50 and he now makes more than twice her salary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:36 PM
33

I can't even imagine having a kid with a guy like this. Sounds like an absolute nightmare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 11:33 PM
3

I believ most women want to go on dates to find a relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 08:16 PM
2

It makes you look like a man who wants to date a lot and hook up but can't afford the volume.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 08:03 PM
1

I think there's a disconnect here. Women who do have enough to support themselves above the poverty line absolutely do have to screen out men who're just looking for a meal ticket. If you're not careful who you hook up with you can end up with an unwanted 'boyfriend' trying to live the hobo sexual lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 07:56 PM
20

I remember watching I Heart Huckabees in 2004 and thinking about what an absolute tragedy his hairline was.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 07:24 PM
-1

What, I'm like the actual result of womens liberation. I'm not looking for a dependent that I have to pay for. It's those poor trad chicks that will put up with the kind of $0 date bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 07:16 PM
5

If you don't pay for dates, I'll assume you're financially unstable and therefore too much of a dumpster fire to fuck. Seriously are there women who don't think like me?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 06:55 PM
22

Yea, too bad my stimied anger is easily redirected to cold brutal strategizing.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/05/21 02:41 AM
3

Based on the quality of the posts in PPD a top tier man is a 30-35 yr old adult with basic financial skills, a job with which he is able to support himself and a post secondary education who practices basic grooming and spends at least some of his free time doing things other than masturbating and playing video games. Most consider women who also fall into those same categories as overvaluing themselves because women over 25 are worthless on the dating 'marketplace.'
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/21 02:38 AM
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Omg, I had no idea that Ring was police surveillance now. I wanted to set up a camera system in my home too. I wasn't going to use Ring to begin with becuase I assumed that anything wireless has security issues but not on this level. Out of curiosity, what brands did you use for your cams and motion detectors?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 10:38 PM
1

They are not going to a friend’s black box theater one man show. Yea, I went out to the pier and saw a two man mime/circus arts show about an ill-fated whaling crew a couple of summers ago.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 09:30 PM
1

Being outdoorsy is fun and I do my share of camping. I'm not super cool with hunting or fishing becuase of the murdering animals for sport bit. Maybe blue collar dudes are a bit intimidated becuase going outdoors is supposed to be their 'thing' but our nature is hella fine where I'm at so everyone is a bit outdoorsy. But I find the most fun in being super active in local culture and music scenes. Urban blue collar dudes seem to get a bit couch potatoe-ish.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 09:26 PM
2

I spoke about this topic in another thread, I didn't grow up in the religious heartland but to me-- as an outsider-- it seems like incestuous sexual abuse is a pretty normalized aspect of growing up religious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 09:19 PM
6

I mean, the source of all male entitlements is that women can't even exist without them, there's so much about being a single mom that exposes this for a complete fabrication. Mostly what (LV)men do in a parental relationship is indoctrinate their children to male abuse and entitlements. If a mother then says, 'No, exposing my children to this is bad parenting,' then she's literally attacking the dominant social order. This is exactly what conservative talking heads mean when they say that singl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/05/21 08:21 PM
2

I have dated down, my own parents were UMC/blue-collar, but it's never worked for me. I find that lower class men have pretty strict limitations on what they want to experience for fun and entertainment and they either get completely freaked out about managing money or they ignore the management aspect completely and drive themselves into debt. My ex's did not like or respect my priorities and would feel bad about me being more open to experience or more money savvy and always eneded up trying t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/21 07:48 PM
10

Well I've never fucked a fat dude so this thread is all sorts of weird penis stuff that I'm just learning about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/21 05:30 AM
3

Also, it's weird that you'd try to imply that would prioritize relationships when I just said I didn't in so many words.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 09:52 PM
6

Well, men are pretty ruthless themselves so I don't see the issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 08:42 PM
1

I have always been vaguely uneasy about long term partnerships with a man becuase, in my experience, they get very difficult to maintain to the benefit of both partners. I like the idea of a long term part time boyfriend better. Like, I do my thing, and then he just comes to visit every few months. I am probably not the norm.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 07:13 PM
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Ladies who have careers that allow their financial independence don't care what men think. Actually most of us who've been at it awhile have very positive associations with discarding men quickly as soon as they start to be a liability.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 07:02 PM
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This doesn't work. If you don't automatically clean up after him, he just digs his heels in and does nothing harder. Maybe he starts accusing you of being a slob. A lot of them think that if they hold out long enough that you'll eventually cave because their idea of womanhood was formed by their dependent mothers. Just dump slobs. Let them know that they're not worth cleaning up after.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 06:15 PM
7

Oh yes, you are so correct about how Mad's portrayal of Hannibal as being able to move around in society was so believable and real.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:58 PM
30

Ngl that's kinda hot.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 05:54 PM
1

I don't have a problem with this, but men have to be careful because these will probably be the first jobs that get automated. I don't disagree. And as we age it's pretty clear that a few are kinda stuck and would be screwed if their gig suddenly dried up. But I also don't think just having coding skills will save tech workers from getting offshored. The 'soft skills' that you learn in college are defintely an asset it you want to develop a viable career, even in tech. Edit: I actually went to c…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 04:33 PM
2

Yea, cause they're derpy. Not everyone needs to excel at scholastics. Trades don't educate that way and there is plenty of work for men without higher education. My circle is made up of people whose parents did go to college. The reason men dont go to college in my cohort is becuase they get well paying tech jobs right out of highschool.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/21 03:27 AM
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Yes, if redpill or any of the MRA sites provide anything positive, it's because they're a place you can go to educate yourself about the way abusers operate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/21 12:06 AM
3

The bf is defintiely creeped out becuas he fetishisizes underage women and is projecting his creepy desires onto the actual dad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 11:35 PM
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Most women's forums that deal with the topic of abuse are carefully moderated to censor any kind of discussion on the misogynistic nature of abuse in hetero relationships. So I'd avoid posting there becuase they're probaly just torture porn for male redditors. There was the recent kerfuffle on the 'quality' of the moderation in LGBTQ reddits, I would not be surprised to find that the mods on other types of forums are equality exploitive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 11:25 PM
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Never at 20 and not now at mid 30. Probaly never in the future either unless I happen to make a connection with someone worthwhile in the next couple of years. If I'm quite honest even 40 looks too old right now. If I'm single at 50, I'm just gonna stay single. Gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 11:05 PM
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Congrats! And frankly three years is nothing compared to the amount of time some women spend with abusive partners. Good job! Look forward to a magnificent life that you earned.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 11:00 PM
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Well, considering that most abusers will say that a woman is being abusive when she doesn't respond to his abuse with anything besides submission, is it any wonder that redpillers want to project their own abusive intent onto any group of women creating strategies to avoid abuse? No.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 10:56 PM
7

That would suggest that a higher percentage of the male population is just not college material.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 10:16 PM
2

Among the men I know,-- people with at least one college educated parent so the default expectation is for children to attend college,-- the ones who didn't end up going to college did so becuase they got offered high paying jobs when they were 19-22. So your answer could actually reflect the fact that a lot of men have more work opportunities at younger ages. If so, are there negative social implications that are in the social/cultural pipeline because of this? Considering that college educatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 08:02 PM
13

In Gilead the Wives, the Martha's and the Aunts get to live insulated from the sheer brutality of the reality of that society due to their privileged positions within the hierarchy. The Handmaidens sit directly in the middle of that hierarchy, since they're breeding chattle for privileged men. Econowives and NotWomen sit at the very bottom. But Handmaidens are also the least of the group to be indoctrinated into the social order. They have the most numerous of the priveledged class but also have…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 07:41 PM
2

Actually a lot of them seem to be married but they're like "husband is like raising an additional child". Those women should get divorced or just accept that they have no ability to make their own choices.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 07:03 PM
2

Anyone else confused by this? Women all the time bring up studies and anecdotes saying that marriage makes women unhappier etc. Why is this confusing? The women who believe this probably aren't married or maybe they're headed towards divorce if they got married young. But it's common for women to want to get married becuase it's one of the big Adult milestones and because they feel like they want some kind of Commitment to their partners. In genral, I believe rates of singleness and childlessnes…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/21 06:51 PM
23

They swipe on everyone. Their desire for impressing women controls them. Their frustrations over failing to impress women destroy them. This explains why men are so out of sorts, they're at odds with their own biology following our unnatural social script that flips the roles. Look how they have created the absolute contradiction of the disdained beta bux/aging alpha stud who ATTRACTS YOUNGER WOMEN BECUASE OF HIS EXPERIENCE AND RESOURCES! Beta Bux and Fine Wine Older Guy are the same dude! On on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/21 05:15 PM
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They know the new left has gone quacko with its support of porn/sex work I'm gonna say this, sexually abusing women (preferably young girls who are related to you) seems to be part of the Christian right's value set since the founding of this country. The new left is actually not that liberal, it's just a viral version of the same incestuous Christian values trying to take hold of any progressive social motion to convert new bodies to the cause of male power and female subordination for the glor…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 05:30 PM
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We are spoonfed the lie that as "corporate slaves who serve a company instead of serving our husbands and families" that we are more expendable and replaceable. But this is a lie. Yes, and men in white collar jobs who have done well will spout this non-sense to women who they perceive as threatening the masculine order of the workplace because they know that internalizing the idea that you're a 'corporate slave' is a great way to set yourself up to fail.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/21 04:38 PM
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So my family is all immigrants on both my maternal and paternal grandparents sides, we are mostly European descent and MC/WC so we blend in well. But that means that Midwestern Protestant/Baptist Christian culture is NOT my culture. And I have to say that from the outside it seems like sexual abuse of young women by close family members is the norm and it's creepy as fuck. Like, I don't even want to even interact with older white men becuse of that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 06:59 PM
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Women should be able to use deadly force against their stalkers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:31 PM
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I am trying to understand what the posters mean by ‘settle down’ and how they come to the conclusion most women aren’t doing that until they reach exactly age 30. That's ass backwards, so I guess those posters mean that their experience with women is that limited. Most women I know are super relationship oriented and spend most of their 20's in long term relationships hoping for commitment. Some don't end up committed and then they start *freaking out* that their lives are over and their eggs wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/21 05:21 AM
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Men seem to leave sticky residues in excess. Like, in general, all the residues. Shit doesn't even come close with just women in a house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/05/21 05:11 AM
1

I didn't see a question mark in the above post, I saw OP making some wild statements that don't match the giant wall of text he posted.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 04:25 AM
1

Bud that's how sociologists and mental health professionals who specialize in abuse define abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 04:24 AM
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FDS is huge on women having real careers and well managed assets so it's weird when people say that these women are looking for providers as if they need financial handouts. To me, it seems as if men are overly transactional in relationships which is probaly ties in well with totally mainstream discourse about the objectifying male gaze.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 02:56 AM
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So you're saying that avoiding men who are out for NSA only sex is now abusive? Or did you not actually read what you posted? Last I checked that was just a dating preference. Abusive men, of course, will try to spin any female behavior that doesn't benefit them as abusive. That's a key red flag for an abuser.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/21 02:19 AM
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I'm guessing coworker dude already make more than his wife so by him taking the 80k job instead of her, he is actually depriving the family of money they would otherwise have had I'm also guessing their marriage is already on the rocks cause most mom's wouldn't want to spend the week away from their kids unless there was someone else in the house who was absolutely intolerable. I'm guessing as soon as dude moves to Chicago he gets divorce papers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/21 07:51 PM
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A lot of the women from 30 onwards said yes. Meanwhile the teens and twenties virtue signalled. Haha, weeeellll, maybe it has to do with older women having had kids and younger women not having had kids. So there ya go, all the men out there who want to date no-n count virgins probaly have small dicks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/21 09:15 PM
1

You act like every man easily has economic support. I believe what I said was that I'm not talking about people who are privileged enough to become doctors at all. A man who willingly becomes a health technician ... Why would a man get into that field when he could join a union right out of highschool or work in a warehouse for 18 bucks an hour? There are so many more employment options for men with just a highschool degree than there are for women, and they pay better.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 08:33 PM
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Absolutely nothing because the way I've set my life up, I don't believe in marriage as an institution that could possibly benefit me. At this point-- given the way men are, it's just a threat to my assets, health, and life goals.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 03:43 PM
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Women can become doctors and administrators as long as they have the economic support to get years of professional training needed to hold those jobs. Most women working in health care are some kind of healthcare technician with 1-2 years secondary education. Relatively low pay for the difficulty of the job despite the fact that healthcare industry is extremly lucrative and those jobs are in demand. CNA's make about 25k-50k a year. Coal miners in the us are in a different situation, the industry…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 01:43 PM
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Anarcho-socialist, really. I could honestly say the same for teaching jobs and nursing. Mostly women doing really difficult jobs being exploited for their labor and, for the most part, not getting compensated fairly for their efforts. And they're not making the big bucks off the industry despite the fact that there's huuuuge money in education and health care for the right people-- again, mostly highly placed men. Of course any kind of sex work comes with higher risk of bodily injury, not to men…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/21 02:41 AM
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The reason why some women are against porn and prostitution is becuase we have a lot more empathy for the actual human women who are providing those services and the absolute garbage they have to put up with in those professions. Porn and prostitution have a clear hierarchy of influential men exploiting female sexual labor for profit. Like the non-unionized shift laborer, most women in those professions are not the main beneficiaries of the money that flows into the industry. And we have about z…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 08:13 PM
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This is going to have a different implications relative to whether the woman is objectively attractive or not. I dont know if I could deal with the level of pickiness that would imply if my partner didn't find me acceptably attractive. The dude doesn't need to think I'm most gorgeous woman on earth. He can definently value me for my personality and all those intrinsic qualities that make a good connection and find me more attractive becuase of that. That's normal and healthy. But the idea of dat…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/21 05:17 PM
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Yea, I think most Americans have been lead astray from their moral center by the unholy the union of monotheistic religion and fascist culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 02:20 AM
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Why are men so prone to using double-think? Why are they not able to recognize or value honestly and integrity? Is it even possible to teach a man that his actions will define who he is despite his intentions?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 10:04 PM
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Dating over 30 is just where you go if you feel like you want to download a dating app. Just read the stories and go on with your life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/21 09:14 PM
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Being vegan/vegetarian Being a grillmaster Sobriety Using drugs/alcohol Having an education Being in debt Being financially stable Being too basic Having tattoos and piercings Having male interests and hobbies Having boring girl interests and hobbies Being ditzy Being better or smarter than them Being ugly Being too attractive Being too religious Being too opinionated Wearing too much makeup Not wearing enough makeup Being a woman and not a man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 08:20 PM
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Women who are hesitant to break up becuase they don't see themselves prevailing in the courts system against their ex's have legitimate concerns. Many courts systems are biased against protective mothers and they can often make the sick and twisted decision to put the children in the sole custody of abusive fathers. It doesn't happen 100% of the time but it does happen. Lundy Bancroft wrote a book called When Dad Hurts Mom which goes into these details and concerns regarding abusive male partner…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/21 07:14 PM
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If it’s bad behavior on the part of men then why do women keep rewarding it? I honestly have no idea why women ever date divorced dudes with young children. Zero. There was never a time in my life where that would have been appealing. And I don't know any women who'd do that either. Apparently there are still women who do this. They and their motives are mysterious to me. Like maybe they're the mythical women who are looking for a daddy to pay for them that RP keeps talking about. IDK. ​ ... I t…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 07:56 PM
2

Did you know you can get the laundry picked up and done and they drop it off to you folded?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/21 04:51 AM
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Same. I watched this before the Disney version was produced. It probaly had a pretty signficant impact on the way I approach relationships. 😂 You don't want to pick me? Well I got this magic dagger for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 10:11 PM
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I don't know where these men live, but where I live in the supermarket you can buy plenty of already made salads and other healty-ish meals. Not to mention that reduced cost meal delivery services that cater specifically to house bound seniors are a thing. So either they live in the middle of nowhere or more likely they're being deliberately pitiful in order to guilt their female children into becoming the next house slaves for them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 05:09 PM
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Seriously the whole point of being TRP is to have as much sex with as many women as possible, which is completely in opposition to the basic requirements for being a good partner. ​ Like, if you follow redpill and are secretly hoping for a retirement plan where you bag your dreamgirl and get married maybe redpill isn't for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 07:41 PM
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This whole post is why I can't respect older men. And their example is exactly why more and more women are refusing trad-wifery.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 04:43 PM
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Any woman who has already left an abuser is obviously a poor dating prospect for other abusers.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 04:38 PM
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I'm my experience lower earning men always cause issues in the relationship and don't make good matches for higher earning women. They have to double down on the behaviors they use to cope when their masculinity feels threatened, because most men lack an internal locus of control anything you do that doesn't fit the feminine 'script' can throw them off balance, and that makes them disagreeable and sometimes downright dangerous partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/21 05:53 AM
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Do you ever get the sense as a single woman that some married women seem to engage in more mate guarding than is really necessary considering how fugly their husbands are? Like you want to tell them to chill becuase there's no chance in hell you'd let that dumpy slob anywhere near you but then you'd be insulting their husbands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 11:15 PM
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I've been moisturizing religiously since my pre-teens my toddler is now learning that moisturizing is part of the daily routine. Have you ever been to someone's house and they don't have several different forms of face/hands/body lotion? Savage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 06:49 PM
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This resembles my ex's mom to a T. He was defintiely a son/husband and she acted like a jealous girlfriend. It was so abundantly clear that if I had stuck with his ass and had a kid with him she'd be a total nightmare and he'd be running around acting like he didn't have a kid and wife to care for. Fuck all of that. I think he was honestly shocked when I broke up with him after 5 years becuase his group likes to keep these forever girlfriends around who they eventually get married to. I never to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 05:22 PM
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Great write up, very clearly stated that oppression is based on labour and threateaning the power systems that support the extraction of labor resources from the oppressed class. Gay relationships/marriage actually does directly relate to this since marriage is the vehicle for exploitation the labor of women. Having non-conforming individuals participate in marriage changes the definition and reason for marriage. Disabled people need accommodation (money/resources) but don't produce equivalent v…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 02:21 PM
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Here's a good article that links to a bunch of studies on marriage, singleness and quality of life: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-single/201701/is-it-true-single-women-and-married-men-do-best?amp
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/21 02:00 PM
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My experience is that if you're a smart woman you've got to be extra careful to make sure your intelligent partners have solid self-esteem. There is nothing worse than spending time with a man who values his own intelligence and is constantly trying to 'debate' you or tear you down becuase he suspects that you're smarter or better at something than he is. Dumb men are just dumb and mean. The thing is that even if you dumb yourself down to initially attract a man, you'll have to resort to heavy d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/04/21 04:23 PM
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Studies show that being single is the best predictor for women's happiness as they age, and a lot of women choose to be single so...
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/21 04:08 PM
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Becuase when you get down to it, men are very sex-negative and prude. Their values and entitlements come from the mono-religion and so does their sense of shame. Most of them are also highly disassociated from their genitalia as a source of pleasure and reproduction. Curcumcision, monotheistic religion, shame, violence-- it's some oldschool dark sorcery, human programming shit. One thing I do agree with MRA's is to cease the curcumcision of male babies. It's some initiation shit that really ruin…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 09:35 PM
3

I don't know cause I haven't interacted with a socially awkward dude in, like, a really long time. I'd probably just note that he seemed uncomfortable and find someone else to talk to.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/21 05:54 AM
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Yea, the cheap apartment I'm currently renting (and leaving soon for a much swankier local) has obvious wall punches leftover from some previous tenants. And I've defintely had other places with busted out doors and such. I've dealt with some men and their absolute bullshit but staying with a man punching multiple holes in the wall... damn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/21 05:25 AM
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yooo men not being able to afford too many dates is exactly why we SHOULD make make them pay. If you go 50/50 that's like subsidizing his fuckboy activities. I have paid for my own in the past but that was to send the message that we'd definitely never be hooking up or having sex or seeing each other again. Maybe I'm old but I can't imagine a woman going dutch and then also hooking up with a dude.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 05:31 PM
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The idea that women crave abuse is a misinterpretation of the phenomenon of women thinking they can earn the love and respect of an abuser, if she proves herself to be "good" enough. Very well said.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/21 04:06 PM
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My advice is that you need to act with no mercy and no regrets. Becuase he doesn't. I made a post about how abusive men use guilt to control their victims and escape the consequences of their own actions, they're literally incapable of feeling shame over how they behave but they know that their victims do feel shame when it comes time to make hard decisions. Find a therapist to work throgh those feelings so you don't screw yourself over. Also, get your lawyer referral throgh your DV resource.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:50 PM
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Domestic violence is driven by misogynistic attitudes about a man's right to control women and children. All the MRA lies are just defensive maneuvers to keep people from speaking openly about misogyny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/21 04:42 PM
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Based on this formula, trying to convince high earning women to give up their careers to be a house wife creates negative value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:16 PM
2

I think pre-nups are useful as a statement of who holds what assets at the time of signing,-- which can be useful if one spouse starts making bogus claims about what is and isn't community property during a divorce-- but don't expect a pre-nup to radically circumvent existing state and local laws.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 09:11 PM
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And all these fools are usually getting paid more because they've got 'families' to support, but I can't tell you how many of them will openly talk about how they hoard the extra cash or spend it on stuff that they want and drive their families into debt when it comes time to spend money on necessities because it's 'their money.' They live in the cheapest towns to spend as little as possible on the families they're supposed to provide for,-- she'll be extra financially dependent because there's …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/21 06:15 AM
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Yea, one piece of advice I'd give to any woman just starting out in her career is that while women may be playing the game with some disadvantage, focusing too much on how gender is keeping you back can limit you by making you think that your issue is gender while it may just be that your company is acting like a company does. Corporations exploit their employees. Some more than others. Long standing employees always give shit to newbs. That's just how they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 05:52 PM
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Others (male and female) who’ve been promoted from within also seem to make less than a new hire into the same role would cost... so a little about gender and little about just being frugal. From experience, this is always true regardless of gender. So if you want to make the $$$ you've gotta get the promotion and then make a plan to find a new job with a bigger paycheck in a year or so.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/21 04:58 PM
6

When I was in college I thought Jim and Pam were so adorable with their unrequited love story arch. Now I work in an office and I think Jim is a disruptive asshole. Fuck Jim.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/21 06:14 AM
32

I notice that gap gets really wide during our most fertile years. Proof that society is throwing moms under the bus.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 09:49 PM
106

Literally becuase she wouldn't obey him. The whole genesis story is really all about the futility of trying to dominate women. We will fuck your shit up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/21 02:46 AM
2

This explains the recent steady stream of fb adds from obviously single dudes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 01:10 AM
9

Okay, serious question for OP here what are your thoughts for giving NSA housing and UBI's to the homeless? Even knowing that most of them are homeless because of their own serious personal failings. I live in a huge urban area and I'm kinda inclined to just give it to them even if they are sucky people because it's better than having homeless encampments in my kid's local park.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 08:55 PM
100

Millenial here and I'm pretty sure my boomer mom was bulimic. Fucked up teeth, fucked up esophagus, binge eating, puking bulimic. Terrible attitudes about weight, so I was 5 and already knew that being fat was literally the worst thing ever. She'd wander around the house muttering about how fat she was. And she restricted my and my siblings eating so I was underweight most of my childhood and my sister was obese by 10.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 02:29 AM
16

I was thinking there should be an informal register for this stuff to compliment dating sites.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 06:07 PM
2

Yea, things like caring for a newborn can be especially difficult while recoving from a c-section for example. You should have a serious talk with your mom on what would happen if you had to recover from a serous complication and weren't able to care for your child. And also, you can always hire some additional help if you just need an extra hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 03:45 PM
51

Patriarchal society is totally structured to mirror the way individual men use abusive tactics to control women. I've been listening to all the news coverage about the recent racially motivated cop killings, the way the local media drags the victims and the police organizations collude to place all the blame for their own deaths on the victims,-- it's all the same kind of gaslighting rhetoric and displacing blame that abusers use. This leads me to believe that individual abusive men in a patriar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 03:37 AM
5

The hardest thing about being a single mother is lack of resources (after being a SAHM for however long) and dealing with the terrible ex. So if you have neither of those concerns it's actually not too bad. But do be aware that gestating a kid can really throw some serious curveballs when it comes to your health. You absolutely need a fallback plan if you find yourself unable to go back to work on the timeline that you were originally expecting. Like, I dunno, being a doctor is pretty active and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 11:22 PM
1

I usually date guy A, and I drive them up to the brink of a meltdown because I take risks and am always doing the self-improvement thing, then the relationship ends because he's turned into this asshole who is constantly trying to take me down or one up me and goes along with my vacations or activities but clearly hates them. So I will literally never date Guy A ever again even though he's the safe choice. Guy B and I just don't seem to merge streams because if he's on his own trajectory, then t…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/21 06:48 AM
1

Yea cause my main point is that it's just not that common in my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 04:31 PM
1

Lol does that exist?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 04:26 PM
9

I absolutely hate how punching walls and breaking shit is so normalized for men. We normalize it so women won't use that behavior against him in the courts. All that shit is assult and can be prosecuted. I favor normalizing men facing consequences for their criminal behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 04:19 PM
2

Well, serial cheater friend isn't in a committed relationship and has never been really into marriage so there's that.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 03:42 PM
1

No she never said anything like that. From knowing her it seems like something else is going on besides her being just 'amoral' or a bad person.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 02:54 PM
10

I also have other friends with ADHD and they are quite loyal to their partners. It's just this one chick who seems to 1) be thrill seeking in general, 2) prioritize that thrill over fidelity. People make different choices. She's also an alcoholic, and that's also kinda common under the constellation to ADHD stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 07:05 AM
12

I can only imagine he's rinsing out the chlorinated water from his eyeballs. I'm sure that shit gets kinda burny.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/04/21 07:02 AM
54

I only know one serial cheater, the rest are married/ long term committed and faithful types. The serial cheater has ADHD so I'm like 99% sure she has some kind of executive dysfunction related to impulsive sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/21 05:43 AM
1

Men did invent the terms 'simp' and 'manlet'. I don't see those terms being flung about in women's subs. Men in this thread will claim that women totally do, just secretly so no one else knows. But in reality, short men date short women and nice men date nice women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 07:07 PM
2

You're not going to get very far in your career if you think 'submitting' to a corporation is the way to go dude. That's like signing up for a life of being a bitter burnout office drone. Work hard, collect assets, assemble income streams, retire early.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 06:46 PM
1

I will say, from personal experience, I have a mission and my male partners did not support that mission and that's why I dumped them.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/21 06:38 PM
9

Hahah, I used to have this one girlfriend who constantly talking about how she needed an enormous d to satisfy her She was like, the chick who complained about dry tampons falling out. Well, at one point we are all hanging out with this one dude and his friends and we all just knew. So we sent him her way and she ended up marrying him so there you go.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 05:48 PM
2

This type of weight gain in a 20 year old is honestly shocking. That's all I can say. I cant even fathom how a person could gain so quickly and not appear to be concerned about it at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 05:30 PM
26

Divorced.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/04/21 04:44 PM
1

Women don't hate sex workers. But the industry is exploitative and dangerous and for most women doing literally anything else is preferable.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/04/21 05:21 PM
9

I also had the ex that would repeat himself endlessly. We used to have daily walks after work, but he kinda devolved into ranting about the same issue over and over and so I cut out the walks after it was clear that he wasnt going to stop ranting. He was soooooo butthurt. His main gripe was about this employee on his team who wouldn't get in line. Obviously all that hostility my ex was harboring bled out into his professional life because the last I heard of that saga was that the employee went …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:51 PM
3

I hate the old definition of codependency. Addicted to being needed by an alcoholic? addicted to abuse? Yea, not to mention that codependency is a learned family dynamic from the not too distant pass when a lot of women were literally dependent on the addicts in question.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 04:36 PM
9

It's true, there are studies that back it up. Hormonal birth control is supposed to change your hormone profile to the way your hormones are when you're in the beginning stages of pregnancy, and when women are pregnant, they will favor men who are genetically closer to them (family). When women are not pregnant they favor men who are generically dissimilar which is supposed to reduce the chance of passing down genetically disadvantageous recessive traits to your offspring. See Cystic Fibrosis, T…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/21 03:08 PM
51

Every time I dump a guy it does something special for my career. I got a new job with a $40k salary improvement this year. I really value being able to job hunt and not have some idiot breathing down my neck with his stupid opinions about how I should be looking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 09:28 PM
1

Misogyny exists. Misandry is a fantasy. Live in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 09:10 PM
90

Yea, in today's world, expect a lot of hostility from poorly performing co-workers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 07:51 PM
2

Unlikely.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 05:41 PM
1

A lot of women do consciously avoid men who engage in obvious pickup artistry. But also.. A lot of women have been groomed to accept abuse by their fathers' misogynistic behavior and their mothers' acceptance of said behavior. That's the culture we live in. You're still an abuser if you choose to participate.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 05:34 PM
-1

Yes. It's really abuse.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 05:26 PM
2

TRP 'tools' are just emotional abuse dressed up with funny names. No, you will not have a happy relationship or attract high quality partners when your relationships with wome are based on a foundation of abuse and control.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 05:12 PM
5

Yes that's called serial monogamy and no one ever talks about it here even though I think it's a common relationship style.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/21 02:31 PM
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People have casual sex becuase they don't prioritize traditional relationships. I think that goes for men and women. I think the image that you are painting of a person going from an extreme of having tonnes of casual sex to only holding out for the 'Commitment' is a caricature that doesn't reflect reality in most cases. I think most people fit the pattern of having some casual sex experimentation when they are in their early 20's and then setting into commitment. It's normal to not prioritize t…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 11:06 PM
1

Somehow put less emphasis on nuclear family relationships as the ultimate goal of life and a way to achieve status. Then people wouldn't expect any utility from a relationship and would be a lot more free to hang with the opposite sex for fun and pleasure. Basically take away the whole concept of marrige and relationships. Take away lineage passed throgh the male. Make sure there are social supports for people who chose to procreate. Give tax breaks to all individual parents, since there is no s…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/21 10:35 PM
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Or she's going to dump him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 10:03 PM
22

Me too. But I would also feel scared for any women who was so desperate to take a man up on that kind of arrangement.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 07:22 PM
9

Yea, it seems to be a common theme in relationship abuse subs. It's either the man is completley financially in control or he's completely dependent on her. I think must be the false belief that women can be as abusive as men is what holds these Male-dependent abusive relationships together too. Like she's afraid of the consequences of breaking up with him becuase he knows he'll turn around and accuse her of financial abuse or something...??? Cause otherwise I cannot fathom why women would put u…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:24 PM
27

There are soooooo many of these on CL as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 05:02 PM
32

All these men seem to be abusive as well. They know they don't have financial control so they do their best to find other forms of control. Not only are financially unstable men deadweight when it comes to building a productive life, they're an absolute liability for their financially secure female partners.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 04:42 PM
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Yea, I've been banned on women's subs for taking about trends in male violence against women in relevant contexts and for asking mods not to endorse languge that only denigates women. So yea, women's subs are not for women and don't represent any positive version of womenhood that I know.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 07:10 PM
1

Becuase they all have really terrible side effects.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 05:27 PM
1

I think that both men and women, on average, are still extremly homosocial so that does mean that it's mostly men who are enforcing social hierarchies on other men and women who are enforcing social hierarchies on other women.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 05:23 PM
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The way mods crack down on 'misandry' in those subs leads me to believe that they're banning a lot more women from commenting than men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 05:03 PM
7

No
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 06:07 AM
3

All the women's interests subs have a lot of male posters and mods so the content that gets elevated would tend to confirm men's beliefs about women. I don't particularly enjoy posting on women's interests subs becuase a lot of it just doesn't seem genuine, the content just isn't very feminine or reflective of the women I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/21 04:03 AM
1

You certainly didn't get opinion of yours by actually reading that sub so what are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 05:54 PM
1

What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 03:20 PM
3

Ironically, that does seem to be the whole point of FDS.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 03:12 PM
5

Women who get advanced degrees mistakenly believe that it will make them more attractive. Actually the only reason I've pursued any kind of education is to make more money. Having money is a nice thing to have in a high cost of living area. QOL is significantly higher.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/21 04:11 AM
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I think you're confusing cooperation with submissiveness. Cooperation is reciprocal. People who enter into any social contact with other people assuming they have a right to lead actually does not inspire cooperation. You're taking about dominance and submission.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/21 11:18 PM
1

Men need to learn basic social skills, empathy, and a cooperative mindset instead of making up elaborate reasonings for why they don't know how to coexist with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/21 11:13 PM
3

Ugh, you know the thing about porn is that it literally kicks off my gag reflex whenever I've watched it. I can't even imagine having sex with a creature that finds the same thing arousing. I haven't really been with a heavy (I'm sure recent ex's weren't completely porno free but they certainly seemed to be using a lot less) porn user since I was in my early 20's. That guy was no fun to have sex with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 10:24 PM
3

I do believe that a non-insignificant portion of men get off on the idea of taking away women's employment options so they are forced to resort to sex work. Won't happen though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 09:00 PM
7

If they don't pull their weight I do the minimal to keep my shit together until I dump them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 08:25 PM
1

How true is this considering every guy I have ever seen get a relationship this way were above average physically and from what I hear from stories many woman dont want to be asked out on dates at these places. You're missing a key point which is the fact that it's easier to get dates if you have a larger social circle. So the point of joining in on the activity is to develop your social network-- not to directly get dates. In the group you should be making friends with men and women, you want t…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/21 07:32 PM
4

Could this be projecting since men are the ones always looking for women to have sex with? I mean, I've always made good money for a woman in my age grouping come form privilege and, as many women in my position can attest, men are looking to leach off their money too. They absolutely do insist that all divorcee/single moms are leaching off their ex's, but that just doesn't match with reality. The way child support is calculated most single moms are the family's main or sole providers. Men don't…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 06:34 PM
4

That really gets to the root of all the men's rights people who insist that women cant get ahead in their careers, that they all want to be STAHP, that they are all looking for a provider to leech off of-- it allows them to sexually objectify the women around them. The only way men acknowledge women's financial success is when they are successful in the sex trades, becuase he has to maintain the delusion that that is the only thing women are good at and meant for if they're not virginal obedient…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/04/21 05:33 PM
1

'She fell' that's just the use of the passive voice to try and erase the man as a perpetrator. The media is so enamoured with that passive voice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 06:59 PM
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I'm tired of men pretending that 1) they're the only ones who face economic hardship, I think this speaks to how deeply men dehumanize women, to the point that her economic reality doesn't even exist for him. This is why it's so easy for them to trash women who have to work for a living. Like, most adults have to work for food and shelter. Her working isn't some kind of weird power play or meant to offend you personally.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 06:54 PM
3

I'm glad that she was able to tell her story, cause reading that was the moment when I thought, 'men trying to pick women up is not cute.'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 04:52 PM
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It's a threat and a dominance play that they can go back and claim they they were just being playful if someone calls it out. I read an article the other day about dating violence e on the rise. One dude threw a woman off a 12th story balcony.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/04/21 03:40 PM
3

I think there's something to be said for "enabling females as consumers benefits capitalism." This is actually true. Female consumers are super consumers because their caretaking roles mean that they aren't just buying for themselves, they're usually +kids/+elders. I also read a study back in college on microloans in India that were targeted to women only. The finding was that money given directly to women was spent on her dependents or used to fund alternative income streams, which would always…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 05:56 AM
1

This sounds like feminist identity politics, which is the scapegoat of feminisms. Real feminism is just a bunch of female social scientists writing essays analyzing structural dynamics of society and how they influence, restrict or benefit women. The ideas presented evolve over time as anything sciency does. Honestly, it's pretty boring. I doubt much of anyone-- self identified feminists included-- have read any first order feminist material. Real feminists want to do things like identify underp…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/21 05:49 AM
10

She should leave him. ... She's covering the majority of the bills PLUS his bullshit. that means she can survive without him BETTER than with him. Agreed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 07:27 PM
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Yea, there is a sort of refusal to take charge of the family situation on her part. She may also have reason to believe that taking charge would cause him to escalate to actual abuse instead of his low grade resource sucking that he's currently engaging in. The interplay between female socialization for helplessness and male socialization to become domineering and controlling when they feel their male authority is challenged is a complex one. My relationships between men have always seemed to es…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/03/21 06:28 PM
85

My ex was a huuuge asshole to me but he would go above and beyond at work, with random friends, his mom and get all this praise and accolades for doing shit that he was paid to do. In all honesty he was kind of a slacker, with low standards of professionalism, hed frequently get in stupid fights with coworkers and would have trouble keeping up in any job that didn't have a bunch of people emotionally invested in his well being and this explains him so well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 09:15 PM
61

Literally no one trying to paint women as just as violent as men has ever taken a basic stats ir critical thinking class. And men claim to be the logical sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/21 05:48 PM
38

FDS has destroyed the false narrative about ME and about women as a whole. That we're the ones with a bad picker. Same. I've come to realize that I've been extremely picky to begin with. I have absolutely avoided and rejected so many men who showed up with really terrible behaviors and attitudes and tried my hardest to only date the ones who seemed like decent people. They turned out to be the kind of men who can keep up appearances for a while before sucking the light out of your soul. Like, ju…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 07:03 AM
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Only Keanu. While Crewes admitting the way he sees women could be a catalyst for change in the long term it could also just push more men further into their misogynistic thoght process. If Crewes does it then it's fine for them. Maybe they get more audacious and that causes women to pass them over more. So in a generational sense some men will be taking themselves out of the gene pool and that will be an overall positive step in human cultural evolution, it doesn't change anything for this gener…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:10 AM
5

I think he figured out that my technical skillset was a better match for the postion than his was-- I just came out of a job that gave me loads of relevant industry experience, his background was a little less on point. And I do have the baby face that misleads people about my age so he proably misjudged me initially. He got to know me a little more and assessed where I was at and felt threatened. He did it to another contractor (dude) who was there a couple months before me as well, so its proa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/03/21 01:01 AM
3

Im just assuming your know what fds is Are you sure you're not getting FDS confused with redpill, cuase that's the only sub that I see that explicitly talks about getting into hookup culture. Again, this shit does not make sense to you becuase you're insisting on ascribing a male behavior onto women. Not sure why you're doing that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 10:53 PM
1

Who says these women are sleeping around? Most women I know are serial monogamist and their body counts are equal or slightly higher than the number of relationships they've been in. They don't really knowingly participate in hookup culture or want to participate. The waiting rule rules out the fuckbois who make a lot of noises about a relationship just to get women in bed and downgrade them to FWB. What you are describing there having one semi-serious girlfriend and also some sidepiece(s) for s…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/03/21 10:41 PM
7

I started a new job and the dude who I was supposed to be shadowing speed walked the entire time we were supposed to be walking the site. And then he turned around and shit talked me to my supervisor and made up a story of some kind of supposed injury of how I wasn't the fit for the (tech not speed walking) job because of that. She ended up calling me and interrogating me about my 'injury'. Stupid. Fam I just left that job one week in. That shit was stupid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/21 10:34 PM
2

That dude is just.... confused to think that being able to bring in the $$$ is worth as much as broken glass to me. Like how fucking illogical?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 11:09 PM
64

Oh yea, I was dating this one guy who'd completely freak out if I was doing an activity with him and I did something he didn't expect. Like this fool had a meltdown over me cutting a mushroom differently than he expected when we were cooking. Never mind that I obviously had no intent to ruin his mushroom slicing plans. Becuase that literally fucking stupid. And yet I'd ask for apologies for his actual behavior and he'd get so bent out of shape.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 04:19 PM
1

I doubt it would change peoples' behavior very much in the short term. Behaviors are learned over a lifetime. It takes a lot to shift social norms. Maybe some people who were totally desperate to get out of bad situations but needed that extra boost would do it. What it would ultimately do is reduce childhood poverty so that in a couple generations people would have an overall increase in mental health and healthy relational habits.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 04:12 PM
1

A lot of gender related issues that keep men and women in these transactional relationships are the result of poverty. Reducing poverty does have the added affect of giving individuals the financial mobility to improve their quality of life.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 01:49 PM
27

You're totally correct, cancel culture or other types of speech policing based in black and white thinking ultimately end up getting coopted by privileged groups and used to control underprivileged groups. That is part of the reason why most women's online groups are actually hostile to actual feminist thought, because it talks about women's oppression in a nuanced way related to men's priveledge. To maintain intellectual freedom is to be willing to analyze opposing viewpoints and not participat…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/03/21 01:13 PM
1

Here's a report on a recent UBI experiment conducted in Stockton CA, it would appear to contradict the claims that the above poster is making though: https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2021/03/stocktons-basic-income-experiment-pays-off/618174/
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 06:49 AM
3

Could be that you feel that way because you have some trauma around men who acted that way? Even with recent events and some of the stuff that orange clown was saying it's possible to feel a bit worn down with some of the sexist hijinks that some of those Republicans were saying and doing openly in the media. It's normal to get out of a shitty relationship and have a period where all men/women suck. You need time to process the crappy shit that happened and categorically staying away from the op…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 06:25 AM
2

UBI's and universal healthcare and even housing for certain at risk populations (like the currently homeless, or hostels and dorms for young adults who don't mind living with a bunch of peers) to alleviate poverty would also indirectly benefit a lot social problems and reduce animosity between out groups with zero sum views on resource allocation. Shit always gets more fucked up when people are struggling. I am actually in favor of scrapping most other welfare programs in favor of direct UBI pay…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 05:35 AM
1

One of the reasons women love being with taller men is that they make them feel small and protected. Nope, I don't have that particular fetish. Cute guy is cute regardless of height. Actually some shorter guys have really nice looking bodies. Like proportions are excellent, maybe becuase it takes less energy to grow? Tall men can get kind of lanky and weird. Also less likely to get squished if you're rolling around in bed. Also lots of sex symbol guys in the media are kinda dainty. Also my vibe …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 04:58 AM
1

It helps with poverty though. That's a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/21 02:21 AM
49

Saying that women don't like sex is a massive cope for men who turn women off with their behavior.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 11:07 PM
3

Look, as an intelligent woman I will take a dumb good looking guy over an unattractive nerd any day. My experience is, not only is the nerd un-appealing to look at, he's also going to inevitably end up making every damn thing a competition of intelligence, which is so exhausting in someone you're going to be interacting with on a regular basis. I have legitimately not been with another nerd since my early 20's. I'm almost 40 now and I don't expect that to change. Being intelligent means I have n…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/21 10:49 PM
24

WTF who does this?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 08:05 AM
13

I hate my ex for cheating and forcing me back into dating. I really can't see how spending all my free time trying to sort rando men with personality issues would contribute anything to my life at this time. Why do you personally feel compelled to date?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 12:42 AM
31

That particular sub and the posts on it have convinced me that dating is just a waste of time and a sap of my vital energy because it's all gross old 40+ year old dudes who think dating a 30 year old is doing her a favor and chicks who get pumped and dumped.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 11:13 PM
8

Definitely. There are real links to the way we are socialized on an individual level and the influences of the fascist state. It isn't an accident the way things are, not by a long shot. The Republican party is 100% fascism light, and taking advantage of the psychological weaknesses that bathing male brains in porn and violent anti-female media produces to maintain their power and influences in the government. Men are the least capable of liberating themselves and most programmed population in t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:41 PM
12

Ugh, exhausting is the right word. That's one of the main reasons I don't read 'women's subs' anymore. Filled with nothing but a bunch of women who are willing to service male egos and entertainment needs and nothing else. Plus I always get banned for misandry for pointing out facts about male on female violence in relevant contexts. Whole threads get highjacked so the OP can bend herself into knots trying to salve the egos of every man who posts 'not all men.'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:28 PM
2

Probably wouldn't make a difference anyway, if the safety net was part of a program that involved filling out some forms or having a brief screening interview men wouldn't sign up. Men neglect signing up for programs like they refuse to get basic preventative healthcare.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 08:21 PM
3

Oh, I know, he's basically lucky that human mothers tend to be protective of their offspring.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:21 PM
6

Wouldn't it make more sense to increase the actual social safety net rather than this tortured idea to further victimize women in sex work?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:47 AM
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That's what happened to my ex. No lies. Kicked for the survival of the colony. He definitely had a rough patch there right after. He didn't die tho. He's a bit more resourceful than a male bee. (He went to sponge off his mom.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 11:30 PM
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Only like 1/4 of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 06:42 PM
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The wall at 35 is another one of those things that fit male patterns of aging more than female. Men's testosterone is at work on their facial cartilage all throughout their lives, making those features grow imperceptibly, and it also makes their facial hair grow more and more. Around 35 is when they start getting old man face with large nose, ears and chin and weird hairs sprouting out of every crag and orifice. That's why women can look gorgeous with good bone structure at any age but men will …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:57 PM
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They really will go to any lengths to discredit women and will sit there lying and making up utter bs to try and make us out to be "insane". That's the behavior of someone who is literally abusive towards women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/03/21 03:07 PM
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Well, it's almost like childhood trauma isn't destiny. It's how an individual chooses to grow from there, and men consistently make the wrong choices.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 10:05 PM
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Agreed. I don't even think it's possible to have a harmonious relationship if both partners aren't an equal match to each others' standards. Human psychology being what it is, the lower value perosn is always going to try pulling the high value perosn down to his or her level. That creates so much conflict in a relationship. The challenge for young people to find good matches is defining what your standard should even be when you're in the process of growth and development and you haven't reaped…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 08:44 PM
3

If you are married filing jointly your standard deduction is about twice that of a single person or a married filling separately. A standard deduction is a set amount of non-taxed income beyond what goes into your non-taxed withholdings (401k, medical, childcare, etc). So if a person's gross taxable income is 45,000, if that person is single they get to deduct 12,000 (I'm rounding these numbers and simplifying a lot) and get taxed on the remainder, so they pay taxes on 33,000. If the person is m…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 08:11 PM
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Absolutely. Those RedPill people made up a really good term for the thought process men engage in to maintain the delusion-- they are master projectors-- it's called hamstering. The rate at which a man can come up with rationalizations that excuse men from male-pattern behavior when presented with hard facts about their own behavior, exceeds the rate of RPM's generated by an overexcited hamster on his wheel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 07:53 PM
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I've dated a few ripped men when I was in my early 20's and also older. He's not wrong, especially if you're talking about men over 30 and extra especially if you're talking about men over 30 posting shirtless mirror selfies in their dating profiles. That absolutely does scream high maintenance narcissistic douchebag. If the dude is doing it for his health or because he likes to stay active he will not be posting a bunch of pics of his shirtless abs. Dad-bods don't necessarily connote virtue eit…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:54 PM
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They are allowed to be that incompetent at work. No one gets coddled more in the industry than precious man-babies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:31 PM
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"Men seem to mistake criticism for hate" Not just criticism, you can literally just state a fact about the way they are behaving and they mistake it for hate. The truth is they have severe cognitive dissonance about who they believe they are as a person and how they actually behave.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 06:20 PM
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I dunno what kind of ridiculous world.salad you're spewing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 01:06 AM
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I doubt it. Violent behavior is actual behavior that could reasonably be a lead up to a person hurting another person. Usually you'll see assault charges go along with battery, the battery part is the part that deals with the injury. That law recognizes that there could be a number of reasons why a person didn't get to commit their intended act of violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 12:59 AM
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Assault has a pretty specific legal definition. It includes intimidation, any verbal threat of violence and any act that threatens violence (like punching a wall, pulling or pushing someone or breaking objects). Any action that could lead a person to believe that an attack is imminent. It's violent behavior. The bodily harm caused by assault is considered separate. Why do you think those are different based on the country? You don't think a white dude is capable of acting like a violent psycho? …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/21 12:32 AM
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One thing I learned about abortions when I was pregnant is that the procedure for removing a miscarried fetus is usually also banned under these laws. Which means that these laws will also indirectly increase the chances of death or permanent disability for women who actually wanted to have children. Becuase the real goal of patriarchial power structures is to make sure children are severed from healthy attachments to their mothers. Those type of people grow up to be addicts (good consumers) and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 10:45 PM
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maybe you had a great date and the person ghosted you, MOVE ON, maybe you were dating for 3 months and this person is a bad texter, MOVE ON, maybe he is unsure after 1 date if he wants to be official with you, MOVE ON. All these behaviors indicate that he's just not that into you. I assume you're being a bit facetious in that last statement. Based on the collective experience of daters all ages, it's healthy to move on if he's doing these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/21 05:22 AM
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I find people who present androgynously to be most attractive. I find overly masculine or overly feminine presentation to be offputting. I'm really not cool with this new trend where people have to give their pronouns in professional settings.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 10:09 PM
3

That's actually exactly what I pictured. Good job.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/21 09:42 PM
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Yep, 'modern woman' is concerned for her and her children becuase we know how well the tradwife stuff worked out for older generations. We also know that her and her kids ending up on welfare is actually a best case scenario for a tradwife coming out of a failed relationship over some of the alternatives. Like her and her children getting straight up executed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/03/21 05:42 PM
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Correct. The real data is this: women harshly rated men's attractiveness, such that only the top 20% of men could maintain a high rating but women as a group still consistently messaged men of all levels of attractiveness. Men rated women's attractiveness very scientifically along a bell curve, but men as a group consistently only message the top 20% of attractive women. So that data suggests the very opposite of when most in this thread are claiming.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/21 12:47 AM
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Liberal indoctrination is literally just studying college level history classes (they're waaaaay more in depth than what anyone learns in grade school) and taking a few critical thinking courses so one is able to form a rational argument which comes in handy for writing essays, which is another thing one gets to do in college. That's it. People are liberal because they have a more accurate view of reality and a historical context. Most of you Redpillers making wild claims about feminism killing …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/21 06:23 AM
5

No what?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 05:53 AM
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Very true. Women have always worked. There are plenty of examples of how women live in agrarian and pre-industiral societies right now. Working class women work. The kids work. Women have always worked and when we had this brief experiment in the mid 20th century where women didnt work, we opted out asap. Also women's earned dollars benefits society by reducing childhood poverty in a way that men's wages do not becuase women reinvest money into family whereas men hoard and control money or waste…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 10:38 PM
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I was wondering whether he was also doing some sketch ass financial moves that were putting the family on the brink and he was! Shocking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:02 PM
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We will move forward as a society as soon as institutions realize that men are not and never were the solution to women's problems. Edit: in fact quite the opposite. But in the last 50 years our society has doubled down on the level of shit men will hand out for the priveledge of being their servants but also given an out. And women take the out. And men are shocked.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 09:01 PM
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Wow, I can't imagine being a highly paid professional, having a husband who said this to me and going on to having two more kids with him. The price of being a 'good woman' by societies standards is being used by a terrible man. No thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 08:53 PM
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As an added bonus, this policy would help women avoid and escape abusive relationships. I'm convinced that a lot of the negative effects of single motherhood could be countered by allowing single mothers to have the means necessary to escape from abusive men completely. Most family courts bend over backwards to keep abusive fathers in co-parenting relationships with their victims, and divorce settlements keep women under control of abusive ex-spouses to the extend that they can lack even a means…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 08:28 PM
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In my experience, if you respond calmly to his anger, he turns violent so quick it makes your head spin. I used that against my ex husband very well in our divorce settlement. Abusive men absolutely depend on their victims getting emotionally riled up and engaged in retaliatory abuse. The less you give the more outrageous they feel they have to behave in order to get a reaction. Just based on my experience, the best time to implement this is before a man has escalated to violence. It may create …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:31 PM
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They can live in a gutter and die in 5 the way they consistently vote for less social safety nets, less protections for vulnerable populations and the NIMBY shit which is basically just state sponsored terrorism against homeless people.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 07:11 PM
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For some reason, the hot chicks that always try to draw attention to themselves are not looking for a guy that likes them... they have a weird fetish for guys that would literally give no shits if they never saw her again. I've seen this type in action, they're definitely seeking validation based on their looks and ability to act desirable. Usually very extroverted. They travel in packs so it's safe to say the performance is as much for the benefit of their female companions as anyone else. They…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/21 06:23 PM
2

Ive never met a man who actually felt entitled to women or a woman’s body. That's a very extreme example of male entitlement. When women talk about male entitlement it has more to do with how men behave in committed relationships. Refusing to do housework, claiming that they can't do any chore after working, doing as they please when they're out with their friends yet expecting women to follow a standard of behavior that they won't even adhere to, not contributing financially to a household, exp…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/21 07:25 AM
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I think people nag becuase they think it will nudge a person towards contributing, and they're attached to the idea that this person will somehow start contributing their fair share. So yea, they're clinging to the idea that they can be in a relationship with this partner who actually wants to contribute. If you don't nag, just ask for what you want once calmly, and see how a person responds. Less energy wasted. And it'll be pretty clear what your partner's intent is. You'll find yourself not wa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 06:31 AM
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When I have a male partner, I have a strict no-nagging policy. Nagging is what they want you to do, because it's a form of clinging. It means you're attached to this drama and exasperation cycle that they're creating with their malicious compliance rather than deciding to detach from him. When you're thinking about how to cOMmUnICaTe to a grown ass man why he should behave like an adult, you're not thinking, 'I should leave this dude becuase his behavior is clearly malicious and disrespectful.' …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 11:29 PM
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Yea, that stood out to me too. Given a village full of men, women are still leaving becuase those men are no good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/03/21 05:16 PM
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Anyone adult who lives in a house should take responsibility for daily cleaning that makes the house more livable-- like dishes, clearing clutter, basic wiping down and clearing messes off the floor. If you see a mess, fucking take care of that shit. 50/50 is the wrong paradigm, the right way to think of it is that adults take responsibility for their own homes, children and mentally feeble people do not (at least not consistently). If a partner desires to be respected as an adult in the relatio…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/21 07:05 AM
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All while the man should pay for everything No, he should just pay for everything until the relationship is in spreadsheet territory. And if he doesn't know how to navigate one of those he's out. All we're really asking for is men who excel at basic math skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 09:19 AM
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You seem to have confused verifying that a man is capable of holding down a job ( which is a signifier of maturity ) with extracting resources. FDS main ideal is that women should be able to support themselves, but we all know that adults who can support themselves need to guard against golddiggers. It's the same shit manosphere people have to deal with. There are plenty of freeloading men in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 05:22 AM
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That user is the type of man who thinks that if he stridently shrieks things he desperately wants to be true enough that they become true. I've encountered a few of those. Dumped becuase they're completely miserable to be around.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/21 05:15 AM
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Well, change drivers do usually come from the in-group. All women can do is evict men with extreme prejudice who refuse to take care of their own homes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:51 AM
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If they wanted the authority on home improvement knowledge, they could have actually joined one of the trades that Home Depot serves regularly. Working a shitty retail job at a hardware store is not the same.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 04:48 AM
3

Like Terry Crews.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/21 12:15 AM
5

Yea don't take any advice from anyone who works at home depot, they don't know what they're taking about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 06:00 PM
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For one, what kind of idiot just swallows an unmarked pill from a strange man? Ridiculous 😂 Neo defintely went to underground raves in the 90's.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/21 05:50 PM
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To be perfectly honest I get the same energy from this place when it talks about dating and women. A lot posters use the same language of sjws with talks of privilege just about women and dating. And it’s not just limited to this subreddit, I see it all over reddit now. It's a common rhetorical device for privelieged groups to coopt the language of oppressed groups in order to suppress any discourse about who acutally holds priviledge in a society. You're seeing this type of language all over re…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/21 05:28 PM
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Did you check and see if he's a registered sex offender. I bet you could get some mileage out of that if you wanted to say... call him out on nextdoor or something.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 06:33 PM
1

Why does this happen? Women are taught since they are kids on how to attract men (you can think of several examples of it) but men are almost never taught. The least attractive thing about most men is their entitled behavior which they learn from being raised as precious boy babies. So most parents are actively teaching their male children to be extremely unattractive with their coddling.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 05:43 PM
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I mean, traditionalist societies aren't that much better than the livestock scenario. The number of valued patriarchs is pretty small compared to the number of 'surplus' males in pre-industrial societies. I don't think quality of life or high life expectancy was a thing for those dudes, either. The mid century American model gave the 'surplus' their own place in the world, we had massive social programs to keep those men working and economically afloat, this is why men look back on that era with…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/02/21 06:44 AM
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I would be devastated and absolutely beside myself for somehow fucking up so badly as a parent to have my daughter end up doing something so degrading. She could be an expat digital nomad or follow stupid festivals around or a variety of other dosreptuatble pursuits which would be fine but sex worker would be a hard no.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/21 05:14 AM
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I think you need to kick the kids out of the nest and focus on what you need. You've clearly sacrificed a lot for your children, now you need to do what's good for you. My mom divorced my dad when we were around your kids' ages, and my sister kind of glommed onto my mother well into her 30's despite the fact that she'd been given a free ride through college and earned her degree by 20 so she would have supposedly been able to make her way on her own, it was not a good arrangement for either of t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 07:28 PM
3

I guess I'm a real man then.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/21 07:04 PM
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A good example of this is the strategy schools use to deal with misbehaved boys. Often boys who have serious behavioral issues or mental issues will be placed next to or intentionally partnered with (by teachers) girls, specifically soft quiet girls. This happened to me all my life. Huh, I think they used to pair me with these kids too, but I'd either just ignore them or spend class work time, like, drawing stupid pictures with them or otherwise goofing off and ignoring the teacher. Sometimes I …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/21 11:35 PM
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Woaaaaaaahhhh, this post literally blew my mind. Women menustrated and then we invented the month. Not the other way around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 04:12 AM
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Gay guys know how it is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 09:14 PM
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He definitely didn't get custody of his kids because he's crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:25 PM
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I would say she's just trying to show that she's recently immigrated to a liberal west coast city and that she's a shitty cook who abuses avocados. I grew up in California with two avocado trees in my front yard, that shit right there ain't right.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 07:52 AM
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I refuse to date any of the divorced single dads because of this. Bruh, what did you do. It had to be pretty bad. I would tend to agree. Single dads are the real pariahs of the dating world. No one ever says this online but anecdotally a bunch of women in my circle all give a hard pass to single dads. Some of them do find women who are willing to date them but there are a lot of women who will simply refuse to wade in that dating pool. Any woman who has a shred of empathy for other women or has …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 07:44 AM
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it’s better to teach emotional control no? As a parent, I'm teaching my toddler to identify her emotions so that she can use her words or act on her needs rather than having inarticulate meltdowns. That is generally the accepted method for teaching emotional intelligence to young children and prepares them to live their lives in control of their own destinies.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 05:09 AM
5

Except repressing feelings in order to fit some idealized image of a 'strong man' is actually cultivating mental and emotional fragility.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 01:19 AM
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Learning the skills to cultivate emotional health is very attractive, and does include acknowledging feelings and crying sometimes. All you men who repress your feelings look like you're on the brink of meltdown anytime anything is mildly stressful and its painfully obvious. But the other point I want to make is that avoiding crying becuase you have a belief that it's unattractive to women is such a strange hangups to have. Why are you even thinking about things like your attractiveness or not w…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/21 12:04 AM
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I think Adam Driver looks handsome. He's clearly got some latin/native heritage. White people call attractive white-passing people unconventionally attractive. It's totally a race thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/21 05:17 PM
9

Why are libfems and men so desperate to push the narrative that men and women are the same? It's a strawman argument that men like to trot out against feminists in order to gaslight about modern feminist issues. The strawman argument itself comes from a deliberate misunderstanding of how early 20th century feminist theorists would say that there's no innate feature of women's brains or intelligences that would keep them from functioning as a full citizen in a post-industrial society, since that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/21 06:36 PM
9

Yea, my conclusion is that men already feel superior to women on the basis of gender, there's no need to get into a relationship where he's also going to feel superior to you on the basis of race. There are no white people who are truly woke to their own racial biases.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 05:26 PM
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What's best for kids is that they have at lest one strong attachment figure which they can spend the majority of their time with, and also spend the majority if not all of their time in an environment free of drug abuse, mental illness, emotional and physical abuse, and violence. Do some reading on Adverse Childhood Experiences if you want to know about what kinds of things can traumatize children. The relationship of the parents might take on many forms to fit those requirements and depending o…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/21 06:37 AM
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No experience with the 'swirler' movement because I'm mixed white/asian. But, I've only seriously dated white guys for some reason and even if white dudes aren't openly mygynistic, they're passive aggressive and extremely thin skinned and even if they live the idea of dating a non-white person they still want their ethnic girlfriends to whitewash their lives to make them comfortable. So my thoughts are, don't date white guys becuase they're not any better than any other type of man. 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 10:51 PM
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Divorce is 100% a minefield meant to keep financially dependent abused women in the pockets of their abusers. Which is why I'd suggest poor women don't even get married and don't put dads name on the birth certificate. Marriage is good for an affluent woman who wants to have kids and intends to do the bulk of the child rearing with a man in certain states, because marriage does confer rights to shared property.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 10:43 PM
2

Sarah later explains how there were multiple boyfriends that were shitty father figures for John From a parenting standpoint John would have been better off with no father figure at all vs having a bunch of negative examples around. I think the belief that people are born inherently bad blinds us to the reality that we teach children learn bad behavior the same way they learn good behavior-- by emulating the adults in their lives. What's a good man though? Moral behavior Emotionally stable Follo…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/21 05:28 PM
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Same for a lot the capital insurrectionists on the 6th. We'd have a better democracy if we took violence against women seriously. We should stick men who've been throgh the courts for domestic violence and abuse on a terrorist watchlist for life becuase it's the exact same profile.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 03:48 PM
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If 1 in 4 women suffer from domestic abuse then we should have a whole state set aside for imprisoning men who commit intimate partner violence. The fact that we don't have Prison State, shows that men just get little wrist slaps for their crimes. MRA's are mad because they think they should be able to commit violence against women and children and get NO punishment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:59 AM
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That's my ideal relationship. I keep finding men are looking for more of a service contract, and since I don't require their services (money) I usually opt out.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/02/21 12:37 AM
3

men don't respect women (including women they love)? Because I've observed a massive sample size of men disrespecting their female partners as a third party observer. And in most of my male ex-partners, disrespect seemed to be their default mode and I often observed those same pattern's in their own parent's behaviors. Really put me off them, which is why they're all ex-partners. I should disambiguate, when I say respect I mean a basic respect for someone's time, autonomy, and effort. This is wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 06:12 AM
1

women would complain how harsh, uncaring, and competitive things are. This is an accurate reflection of reality and I don't feel particularly negative about it, and I navigate it well enough just like any other person will. I expect people to me mostly self-interested and I try to avoid other people who are obviously malicious. ​ Which is why men patronizing me with 'kid gloves' is fucking obnoxious. It instantly lowers my opinion of them and makes me think they're a bit soft in the head and del…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 05:59 AM
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I'll give a real life example and say that if I had a very loving and otherwise compatible male partner who had a condition where he couldn't achieve an erection to have penetrative sex, it would not necessarily be a dealbreaker, and I would not be out looking for a side piece. Shit happens, you know. People don't always remain the same and you don't throw out loving relationships for superfluous reasons. And I believe that it's possible to be intimate while not having sex. ​ He might give you a…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/21 05:49 AM
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Yea, it's literally impossible to use the types of controlling tactics that men use against women on toddlers becuase they're wired to test boundaries and don't have fully developed impulse control so they literally can't decide not to do something becuase of dad's scary behavior. They're developmentally incapable of participating in the dynamic that men want to bring into their families. I'm very convinced this is part of the reason so many divorces happen after children. Toddler and toddler-mi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:14 PM
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I read a post like that in singleparents, it was sad. Like, fucking grow up and live with your choices and give your kid the love it deserves. So offensive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 07:56 PM
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Women shouldn't reward men's bad behavior with attention, like at all. This is actually true for raising any small child as well. The best method for dealing with toddlers is to disengage when they start testing boundaries. So it's true that men have developed very little beyond actual toddlerhood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 03:51 PM
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Yep, my immediate thought was that the other two dudes did not care for him at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 08:14 AM
2

Women can get sex, quality sex, anytime they want Sex, yes. Quality sex? No, never. This is the real reason women get tired of hooking up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/21 06:23 AM
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At the time that I met them, probaly around my level, in looks genrally always, but also in lifestyle and personal outlook. But I tend to outgrow partners in the lifestyle/perosnal aspects. My tolerance for change and uncertainty is high.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/21 12:14 AM
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If he is undermining his wife, making more work for her, doesn't contribute and ignores when she asks for help, or is himself manipulative, etc. he is modelling bad behavior for his sons to imitate. I can't tell you how many times I see posts in parenting subs by moms for help dealing with childhood behavioral issues that are clearly caused by the father's own behavioral issues. Usually it's some version of dad freaking out when a toddler doesn't submit to his control. The only solution to that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 11:22 PM
53

Crab bucket mentality. Men gotta get other men in line when they start behaving high value.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:15 PM
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But what makes a man high value is based on his morality. Ah, this is great and to the point. The things that make a man great are his high moral values. Full stop. And agreed. It's worth pointing out that if you pay attention to how men characterize themselves, they almost always talk about how ashamed they are of their own moral fiber. THIS IS MEN TAKING ABOUT THEMSELVES! You don't have to look hard to find art and media and writings, all by men, who touch on this subject. Hell, my favorite so…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 10:06 PM
2

That and stifling emotion and not putting in the interpersonal work that it takes to create mutually satisfying relationships. Most men will take shit until they're off the wall resentful and then freak out. Many seem to think that installing a woman in their lives will somehow fix this, becuase they have the unrealistic expectation that she'll support anything and everything he does unconditionally and that will somehow make up for the rest of the bad interpersonal choices he's making. That's c…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/21 05:54 PM
1

I think a lot of men must somehow equate being vulnerable with emotional instability becuase a lot of the replies to this thread seem to be referring to trying to avoid frequent and disruptive displays of strong emotion. My working definition of vulnerability is that vulnerability is interacting with other people even when you're not sure how others will react you. A really good example is giving a speech in front of a crowd of people despite having some stage fright. Another example is asking y…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/21 05:31 PM
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Yea, if you say that 10% of the population are rapists that's a lot of men. You could say that the majority of men are not rapists but the number of men who are rapists is statistically more than enough to warrant a women's concern for protecting herself against rape. By comparison COVID 19 has a ~2% mortality rate in the US and our resposnse to that has been significant. Just imagine what we'd do about a disease that kills 10% of the population. The fact that 1 in 10 men might be rapists just s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/02/21 05:58 PM
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Is it because men don't see women as human and are surprised when they react like a human? Is it the stupid stoicism thing, where he who reacts less wins? Men are defintely not the stoic sex. Men scream about anything and everything, I've only seen women scream when they're compltely startled and caught off guard. I do think the contempt comes from wome displaying that they are having a visceral human reaction to something. Abusers tend to react with contempt when the women they're abusing react…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/02/21 11:33 PM
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Men coming through family court with ex-wives who are obviously significnaly economically disadvantaged during a divorce should trigger a criminal investigation into possible crimes aganist her human rights and civil liberties every time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 08:44 PM
3

Ah, fair enough. I'd still consider going back and making a report to adult protective services, it's anonymous.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:44 PM
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Yea, it's only taken seriously in criminal courts when it's not directed at female partners and children. Coercive control is the act of depriving someone of their civil liberties. It should be taken very seriously but it's clear that in our society we're okay with systematically depriving women of their rights even when the word of law says otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:42 PM
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Are you still working for him? You should lawyer up right now and sue the fuck out of that company. And send CPS (whoever's deals with adult dependents) to his house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:36 PM
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I've gotta say that what some people call letting 'boys be boys', really does look like behavior issues due to lack of adequate parenting, low key neglect, abandonment, and abuse from a children's behavioral health perspective.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 05:32 PM
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For me perosnally, the non-romantic aspects of life have always been the most important. I will say that, occasionally, I really enjoy having some good sex. I haven't found a long term relationship that contributes remotely the level of satisfaction that I get from any of my long term goals and pursuits. Not sure why that is.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/21 05:23 PM
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Not for cuddling, just for making piles of money that I will hoard like a dragon and not spend on stupid shit like a dude would.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 03:58 PM
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It's more like, raise men who have values and standards fit for society and restrict the freedoms of those who don't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 02:51 PM
1

Haha, I used to live in the city charmingly known as Man Jose. And the population statistics backed that name up. Worst place to date ever.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 12:01 AM
4

I'm talking about men who literally don't touch a mop for months or ever. It's really more about seeing that he's actively engaging in cleaning activities on a regular basis and engaging in a range of different types of cleaning than hitting some kind of standard of cleanliness. So yes, my standard is literally, don't let fungus start growing in the sink. Personally, I'm pretty casual about cleaning, I like to keep stuff kinda' okay most of the time but I always do daily chores and cleanups. The…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 10:38 PM
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Absolute nonsense. Women put in less work than men in every aspect of life. That's a weird fantasy you have there. You obviously have biases and prejudices that color your views of male and female relationships. But what I was referring to there is that women are socialized to seek counseling or couples therapy and use special communication techniques when their male partners start withholding in the relationship. My main point is, it's this sort of work that makes the relationship last longer a…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 08:02 PM
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Women are socialized to put a lot of work into relationships when the issues in the relationship are caused by his behavior, rather than cutting their losses and moving on right away. Also, it appears that a lot of the relationship killers for women only seem to crop up when they've already committed to sharing space and resources with a man, so there is the logistical issues of breaking it off when he's already a big part of her lifestyle. My main complaints about men have always been their slo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/02/21 04:56 PM
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I live in the Bay Area and I say, work in tech, don't date tech. The dudes are worthless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 06:50 PM
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From personal experience they will do this all the way past the point where they start developing dewlaps and an old man gut. Then they get really bitter about the young women they choose to date all turning out crazy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 05:03 PM
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Me too. The crazy thing is that when I was growing up my parents related all this to me but no one could ever acknowledge the that what my grandmothers went through was so awful. It was weird. Cuase I write it all down here and it just sounds horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:34 AM
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My grandmother's first husband (my grandfather) was a drunk and a wife beater, she had six kids, two died in infancy, one was an illegal abortion that almost took her life. I can only imagine what kind of pain and suffering she was going through that she decided to take that route. She divorced him and had to live on her own while her four kids were traumatized living with him and his new wife who he also beat. Based on my mom's age, she took the divorce route right in the 70's, like ASAP. My mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 12:12 AM
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• winning • emotional control (76% of Canadian adults believe boys are more likely to be made fun of if they cry) • risk-taking (41% of Canadian men and 19% of women believe that being a man means taking more risks) • self-reliance (38% of Canadian men and 21% of women believe to be a man you need to be tough) • primacy of work (43% of Canadians think men should be responsible for earning income and providing for the family) As a woman I've perfected a lot of these traits becuase my parents deci…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/21 06:19 PM
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I work in a technical field and I do geek out with people who I've worked on projects with, established a rapport and mutual respect. I don't geek out with randoms becuase geek men are really prone to gatekeeping and mansplaining when women enter a conversation. It's fucking annoying to get lectured at when you're just trying to chat.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/21 06:57 AM
1

I actually dumped the only true long term relationship that I had and immediately doubled my income at a new job. I did dump him specifically because I thought he was dragging my career down. I had just gotten laid off and I couldn't even bear the thought of another job hunt while listening to his boomer-ass job advice. The last breakup also corresponded with a 5k raise and a promotion. I guess I'm in the habit of shedding dead weight when I'm ready for a life transition.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 04:43 AM
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I will say that I have never heard of another woman friend who's into day trading. They all go for long term investments. Buy, hold, wait for inflation. I did buy a couple shares of GME just becuase this whole saga is funny. Edit: I've also learned a lot about stock trading.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 10:46 PM
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Never trust a single dad The office I used to work had at least two single dads with sole custody of their kids and one gave me serious creep, don't talk to him vibes, and the other one was 50+ year old, tried to treat me like I was his personal secretary (I was not an admin and our work groups were completely separate) and spent the rest of the time trying to steal my expensive textbooks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:59 PM
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Oh yea, that too. They don't even bother and blame their lack of contact all on the mom when she's even spending way more effort than she should trying to get him to hang out with his own kids.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:55 PM
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I think Lundy Bancroft cites a statistic that the majority of fighter dads trying to get full custody or primary custody are actually abusers. Average dads will either take whatever is legally mandated or less so the kids don't impact their single life too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:29 PM
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This is the truth here. The court system is biased against women. The men on reddit forums who lost their custody cases, screaming that the courts are biased against men, have probably done some seriously heinous shit with legal repercussions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:19 PM
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Really important when it comes to medical issues, I see too many women waste their lives away begging for their husband to see a doctor/dentist and they are just worn out over it. Oh my god, when I see women on the relationship subs talking about how their partner sadistically abuses them and they have also spend years calling ambulances and making sure they get treatment for life threatening conditions like cancer or uncontrolled diabetes, I am like, 'why didn't you just take out a life insuran…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:51 PM
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Yep, I saw the logo for the refuge house and the hotline number and it was clear it was targeted towards the victims. It's because victims of parental abuse tend to identify with their abusers. Children are psychologically primed to please and identify with their caregivers as a survival tactic, because human children have such an extended period of helplessness before they reach adulthood. They are really, in a sense, little mirror images of their caregivers' psychology until they go through ad…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 05:27 PM
5

I'd be talking to him about something important and he'd literally look away and act out a made up conversation between himself and stereotypical lady reacting in a funny voice. And he was a pretty respectable dude with a good job and an active social life. Shit was weird. He couldn't cope with what I had to say so he had to live a made up situation where he could be the 'man' talking down to a little woman.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 12:17 AM
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It is psycho cause it's exactly the type of crazy shit people babble when they take too much acid and are fighting the ego-death.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 01:32 AM
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This writer is spot on about the way men and women use external and internal locii to create their sense of self. I feel that in my life, I have adopted a very strong internal locus of control as a coping mechanism to deal with growing up in a household with unfit parents-- mother who refused treatment for mental illness and philandering father-- which is, overall, not the worst way to cope. But this quote 'It thus follows that male sense of self disintegrates when the Other is absent,' pretty m…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 08:00 PM
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Men and women talk past each other constantly on this sub and in everyday life when discussing dating because our lives and experiences are too incomparable to find any common ground. What about all the other stuff in one's life that doesn't have to do with dating? I think the periods in my life where I'm dating is such an infinitesimal fraction compared to the periods where I'm either in a relationship or single and focusing on other stuff. What about all that stuff? Like the stuff I spend 99% …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/21 06:09 PM
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It's the delusion that excuses the transactional behavior. They spend so much effort convincing themselves that women aren't participating in the working economy like normal humans who have to pay rent and eat and wash on a regular basis. They don't stop to consider that, if this were actually true, we'd have hoards of women roaming the streets.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 05:26 PM
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I don't understand this LVM paranoia about getting used for meals. It goes along with their fantasy land where women need men to provide for them and in return will provide sex and submission. This is the point where you think, well, maybe men are a little delusional as well as horrifically entitled. I think a lot of them might actually believe they are providing something women cannot provide themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 05:51 AM
1

Wat? lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 08:49 AM
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No, when men start talking about respect and masculinity in the same sentence it really is a coded language. I found this out after many years of having ex boyfriends shriek that I wasn't 'respecting' them during arguments where I had opinions that differed from theirs. When women talk about respect what we mean is respecting someone's basic humanity (ie not being cruel, listening, being supportive, having empathy, and all that stuff). When men say respect, what they mean is that they feel they …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 03:54 AM
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she ends up losing respect for her husband's masculinity. This must be coded language to say that women breadwinners are not likely to be submissive. It makes more sense when you say it that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/21 01:41 AM
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I am in the habit of not recognizing low levels of pain. Like, I'll just think, ' oh that feels weird,' and I don't connect that what I'm feeling is pain and that it would be remedied with a painkiller. I have to be in the kind of pain that literally makes you vomit to notice that I am, in fact, feeling pain.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:07 AM
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Something that helps is never going to a male doc. Most of them are literally worthless when it comes to practicing medicine on their women patients.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 01:03 AM
1

She initiated the divorce with a false report of DV. Literally every man who has actually committed DV will say that the report was false. So no one should read this post as assume that your outcomes are not literally the consequences of your actions.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/21 06:54 PM
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You missed the last part where mom drop kicks the one on the right.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 06:01 PM
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Would you, in your capacity as an average non-professional observer of human behavior, agree with Dr. Bancroft’s observation? Well, haven't we seen this mindset acted out on the national stage with the violent, supremacist, Q conspiracy nuts? I would tend to agree that the capacity for sadistic violence against fellow humans does tend to go along with an unjustifiable, paranoid, victim complex.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 08:19 AM
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Women are considered complicated because who they are and what they desire often directly contradicts what other's would like to project onto them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/21 08:14 AM
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The weird thing about abusers is that they can't stop acting like abusive robots when someone is pointing out the very things they are doing that makes them look like abusive robots. It's a strange truth that you could be dropping truth bombs in any sub when abusers tend to congregate and say, 'well if you were an abuser you would do this and speak these words,' and the abuser does just that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/01/21 08:11 AM
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I do not have this effect, rather the opposite. Men who date me end up being single for long stretches and meandering around in relationships with questionable people for a long time afterwards. I'm a terrible girlfriend. I'm very demanding, I have zero interest in taking on all domestic duties when there is another warm body in the house who could be helping, if he doesn't put down anything of value into the relationship I withdraw in kind, I prefer to state my position once and then see how he…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 08:23 PM
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I wanted to delurk just to comment on this very insightful post. OP you are so right in pointing our that relationships with men are literally keeping women in poverty. 'Relationships' are the missing factor in public discourse when we talk about women collectively being more educated at higher rates than men, even being more conscientious employees, and yet still making less on the dollar average than men. Any article on women's wages inevitably result in a lot of hand waving, 'well those women…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 08:01 PM
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