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It's funnier to clown on the women and embarrass them when they're having a woman moment in our sub
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 11:57 AM
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I don't want to recommend meds if you don't have actual issues with depression and anxiety like I have had my whole life, also I'm not your doctor and can't recommend them, but if you want to know what worked for me it was trauma and Zoloft. Losing my mom and marriage within three months, going insane, and then going on Zoloft has made me no longer give a fuck. I should mention though I'm the primary parent for my son so it's easier to not give a fuck when you have to work and be a single parent
/r/Divorce_Men28/02/26 06:13 AM
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I found it was well worth it if you're touch starved and you're in a good mental place to keep it platonic and professional. She was very kind to me and it really helped me feel better and more confident again as it removes the anxiety of fumbling a relationship or an attempt at one and allows you to just practice being yourself again. It also reduces the chance I'll trauma dump if I get with anyone seriously again.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/26 01:15 AM
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Talk therapy was good while I sorted things out but it eventually yielded diminishing returns for me as talk therapy isn't going to help my physiological symptoms. Because I was emotionally abused, financially controlled, and had affection withheld I have a lot of trauma in my body. I've developed very negative feelings toward sex, especially oral, because pity sex was so humiliating it destroyed my desire. Two days ago I paid someone to just cuddle with me platonically and it was the most heali…
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/26 12:25 AM
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Your wife doesn't respect you. I would start looking for signs she's working on her exit plan or infidelity and if you find any lawyer up and file first and don't move out. Even if she hasn't worked on her exit plan or cheated, when your wife treats you this way it's because she doesn't respect you. Were you already not having sex before you said you didn't even want it anymore? If you weren't then that's all you need to know because with everything else it is well and truly over
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/26 04:36 PM
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Consult a lawyer ASAP and get ahead of this. Stop talking to your ex outside of co-parenting logistics. There's nothing else we can tell you. It would just be us browbeating you as you need to CYA immediately
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/26 02:13 PM
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A lot of them feel like they have to do constant PR for themselves, narrative maintenance, and triangulation to feel like they're in control
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 09:54 PM
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Engaging the argument means you've already lost. Women understand the divorce process better than men do. They're playing for keeps. There's nothing to say to her that is helpful to you in any way. She isn't going to change her mind. She isn't going to realize she was wrong. She is never going to apologize to you even after saying heinous and unforgivable shit her own family finds embarrassing. All communication needs to be about logistics and schedules and anything more than that is making your…
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/26 06:07 AM
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They're all like this
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/26 10:37 PM
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If you're posting in here chances are you're expecting divorce down the road. I would get everything ready and file first before she springs it on you. I knew my ex was secretly working on divorcing me and she had a whole plan about how to do this without spending much money, so I lawyered up and filed first in order to force her into a situation where she had to negotiate with me and show me the financials
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/26 08:07 PM
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My son will eventually see how insane his mother is and then when he's 18 I'll tell him what happened
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/26 10:07 PM
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Welcome to the first of many Certified Woman Moments. Just watch and observe and catalog everything and if you're in a one-party consent state record every single encounter
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 02:26 AM
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Depends on the type of person you are. For some guys this is their market, for others it's a nightmare. The type of women I'm attracted to were already rare in the first place and I have severe disadvantages such as my height and income comparative to the women I'm attracted to, and add in the trauma I have from the abuse while being the primary parent for a young child, I've decided to not date again. I've been happier for it.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 07:56 PM
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Scared the shit out of mine when I figured out who her affair partner was and contacted his own soon to be ex-wife. Also I acted like a crazy person during the proceedings while staying within the bounds of the law and never restricted her access to our child and never engaged in parental alienation with our child. This wasn't intentional so much as me actually going nuts from five years of emotional abuse that I had just put up with. She was used to getting away with it because she had isolated…
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/25 07:49 PM
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I spent Christmas Eve with my son and cried happy tears while walking the dog as I finally had the moment of clarity and epiphany I needed to make sense of what happened. It freed me. My heart feels lighter. I wish my little buddy was with me here right now, but knowing that literally none of this was my fault and there's nothing wrong with me makes me very hopeful about the future.
/r/Divorce_Men26/12/25 12:01 AM
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"During and after an encounter with a psychopath, you probably found yourself behaving in ways you never imagined: lashing out, pleading, begging, taking revenge, writing nasty letters, apologizing profusely, blaming yourself, blaming others—a far cry from your usual fun-loving, easygoing self. You probably feel ashamed about this behavior, but it’s time to let that go. Any emotionally healthy human being is going to react strongly to emotional abuse. The fact that you’re ashamed about it means …
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 03:47 PM
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Yup. She talked constantly about not wanting a spoiled kid and yet she buys him new toys every week. Not because he asked for anything either. She just won't stop spending because that's how she buys people's approval and love. She makes way more money than I do because shes is a workaholic and she's shocked that I'm able to pay half the bills while we sell the house because she is incapable of saving money. Thankfully I keep my kid grounded and all he wants to do is spend time with his parents,…
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/25 01:43 PM
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Certified woman moment
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 03:37 PM
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My mom died on Christmas Eve, my ex decided that was when she would start her exit plan and affair, and my dad went insane from grief effectively making me an orphaned single man. I scheduled myself to work on Christmas because this whole season is pointless for me except for Christmas Eve when I'll have my son
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/25 12:36 AM
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Lmfao no.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/25 01:25 AM
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Certified woman moment
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 11:50 PM
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My ex was more cognizant of how her sex is than most and she was an awful passive abuser. I'm short, losing my hair, an eccentric, and an introvert. And I have a kid i have most of the time. My ex was the best I was ever going to do and I'm never dealing with women again just because I'm occasionally horny or lonely. I'm never going to let a nagging abuser back into my life and that's all that's going to happen with whatever woman goes for me
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 02:05 AM
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Holy shit, exact same thing happened to me. I was always wrong, unless her dad or mom or brother happened to agree with me.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 03:37 PM
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I had a weird anomalous situation as her mother was very kind and had even warned me her daughter was a pathological liar. Actually funnily both of her parents tried to warn me. Her dad told me basically his daughter was like his mother, an unreasonable crazy and controlling person. The whole family was messed up. I was genuinely sorry for her mom. She was married to a man and cheated on her and stayed with him and her daughter was a pathological liar and a crazy person who treated her poorly be…
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 03:35 PM
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They all become what they claim to hate about their mothers, and some actually become what they hate about their fathers. My ex told me what her father cheating on her mother did to her and how badly it psychologically fucked her up and gave her an eating disorder and got plastic surgery. And yet after telling me how awful her dad was, she still loved him and idolized him and talked about amazing he was constantly even when he would refuse to help us and his only grandchild out. And then she did…
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 03:31 PM
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Previous marriage. Extremely close relationship with immediate family that goes beyond normal where she's always talking about them and comparing them to other people. Noticing that when she tells stories she changes details that you know are wrong. Constantly buying gifts for people randomly. Buys animals impulsively. Workaholic. Wants to "fix" you in subtle ways. Thinks she's intellectually and culturally superior to "normies", especially someone you know.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 03:25 PM
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I'll never stop despising her for her abuse and manipulations because she will never admit she did anything wrong, but I no longer let it control me. It's just there, just a part of me, as I Grey rock her and ignore her texts unless it's something about co-parenting I have to respond to. I can't pretend I'm not affected by what she did to me, that I won't live with this grief and anger for a very long time as I have to still see her and watch her get away with disrespecting my dead mother like s…
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 03:20 PM
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The problem is my son doesn't know or understand any of that. He probably has zero memory of me and his mom being together and loving each other. So the facts on the ground for me is i hate this man and woman that my son has no conception of ever doing anything wrong. And he talks about him and the guy's kids all the time and he's sensitive to what I think. I'll never forgive either of them for what they did while my mom was dying but my son has the right to love them and I love him more than an…
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 11:38 PM
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At first I said im never getting married again. Now ive decided im never dating again after realizing just how traumatized I am from the ex and most of the stories I hear about women they're way worse than she was. I've got my son and a steam deck loaded with all the games I missed in the last seven years as I was with a nag who hates video games. I am never introducing someone new into my son's life. He's the only person who matters
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 12:19 AM
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I had to go on Zoloft in order to save my life. We're heading into the one year anniversary of my mom's death, my father losing his mind and trying to drink himself to death (and he's only gotten worse so I consider myself to have lost both my parents) and the end of my marriage. I've found peace of mind and have decided I will never date again and I'm happy with that.
/r/Divorce_Men24/11/25 12:11 AM
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I am my mother's son. She never met an animal she wouldn't take care of him. She has until the house to re-home them or they're going to the shelter
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/25 03:07 PM
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This exactly. I'm the primary parent and I have been extraordinarily kind to the ex and not weaponizing our kid but all of our fights have been over her inability to leave me the fuck alone and stop humiliating me with talking about how great her affair partner is. Her dad, whom I don't even like for reasons I won't get into, called me and apologized that his daughter is a psycho. I think it was him that finally got her to stop antagonizing me.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/25 03:08 PM
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Women never budge from their position so we think there must be something wrong with us. But if you're dealing with someone who is so uncompromising they believe they've never done anything wrong and will never apologize under any circumstances, then it's not on you to question yourself for their sake
/r/Divorce_Men14/09/25 12:57 AM
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I'm cognizant of my position. I'm not ungrateful. I'm just exhausted
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/25 11:17 PM
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I know. That's basically what drives me the most and why I chose not to get into a contentious battle with his mother or deprive him of seeing her whenever she's available. This has been hell for me but it's never been chaotic and he's never seen us fight. I make sure we get along in front of him.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/25 10:42 PM
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My STBXW started her affair and asked for a divorce immediately after my mom died. My dad nearly drank himself to death but since he's finally gotten clean ill be moving in with him with my son so I am fortunate in that regard
/r/Divorce_Men08/09/25 11:36 PM
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Funny how the more egalitarian and feminist the United States became the more the term cuck and cuckold became normalized by every political persuasion It's almost like the United States is a horrible bullshit society full of nothing but horrible bullshit people who all think they're the good guys when they aren't
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/25 10:04 PM
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Go Your Own Way by Fleetwood Mac and To Old Friends and New by Titus Andronicus so I experience musical cyclothymia
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 10:27 PM
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You file before she does. My ex was the one who wanted to divorce and tried to convince me not to get a lawyer and when I got a lawyer and filed first and she got pissed I knew I had done the right thing
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 10:22 PM
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Do absolutely everything you never had a chance to do OP because of someone yapping in your ear. Those of us with kids, especially if we are the primary parent, don't have that opportunity. I have my son 80% of the time and I'm having to work on this house until it sells so I envy anyone that can take a vacation or pursue an interest. Live your life and get pictures taken that you can use if/when you plan on dating again.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/25 05:15 PM
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Doesn't sound stupid to me. I have trauma from how my ex treated me and no longer have sexual desire due to it all. I have no plans on ever trying to date again as I will never trust again.
/r/Divorce_Men29/08/25 01:19 AM
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Gave it to my ex-wife. Since theyre both broke as a joke and both have to pay child support and can't have anymore kids, I think it would be really funny if she gave it to her affair partner
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/25 09:39 PM
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Why i refuse to meet the AP/boyfriend as well. There's no point. I know enough about him from cyber stalking him what he's about and the few times I caught a glimpse of him I felt things that my lawyer would advise me to keep to myself. I can't change anything, so the best I can do is just leverage what my ex wants (for me to approve the relationship and let my son get a passport so he can take him to see her boyfriend's kids in Canada) in exchange for more custody and child support (I'm the pri…
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 10:21 PM
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I decided to move in with my dad to dry myself out and rebuild my life while raising my son, especially since he's lonely after my mom died. I tried dating briefly but it still hurts too much to think about. I'm already in therapy but it's not going to fix what's permanently broken inside of me.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 01:59 AM
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My STBXW LARPed as a big religious TradCath when we were together. As soon as she met someone else she stopped going to church, apologized for convincing me to convert to Catholicism, and no longer cares if our son is raised with the church in his life or not when this was previously a huge dealbreaker for her.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 07:33 PM
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I plan on treating everyone the way they treated me. I will never be the bigger or better man ever again.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/25 05:56 PM
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Her mental illness and seething resentment of me
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 05:43 PM
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I am just like your guy, although I'm currently in the middle of the divorce process. I understand all of those feelings however. I won't want to be in a serious relationship again but then I have these feelings it would be nice to be with someone I could try again with but then I think about how awful my ex treated me and how abusive she is and I get nervous because she was really nice and lovey-dovey at first too. This is all to say i think for your sake you should let him go, with love and co…
/r/Divorce_Men04/08/25 09:42 PM
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