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This is probably the reason. It's not some super bizarre hidden urge. Just girls who want to feel good and the internet lets them do that. I'd almost compare it to jacking off.
/r/askTRP02/04/18 01:01 AM
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Have your read it? The author talks about how fixation on sex or on anything other than the moment/feelings/enjoyment causes psychological stress. This stress causes a flight response, like an animal in the wild. So your either going to get ED because your body is diverting power to help you run OR there'll be PE your body is rushing to orgasm because that fear prevents you from controlling your reaction. The book doesn't have more than a page or so on PE/ED but if anyone truly wants to start ad…
/r/askTRP26/03/18 05:13 AM
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I would recommend reading No More Mr. Niceguy if you haven't already.
/r/askTRP25/03/18 04:29 PM
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Wow that "game" you explain at the end is wild. I like it.
/r/askTRP24/03/18 04:42 PM
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Hey, I really appreciate your advice. Especially the "immediately approach a girl you want to meet. If you don't, you're going to overthink it in a negative way and up doing nothing" Do you have any tips on what it is you focus on when making that initial approach? Are you focusing on just having fun? On making a friend? I think when I talk to girls I am attracted to I often have some sort of goal in the back of my mind (like sex, attention, or deep connection) which contributes to panic, awkwar…
/r/askTRP24/03/18 04:37 PM
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I just wanted to say I was having very similar thoughts recently. I am losing all motivation because girls at Uni just disqualify themselves after a few conversations.
/r/askTRP19/03/18 06:22 AM
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You know I am reading this again after a month and it really resonates with me. Thank you for your advice I will give it a try.
/r/askTRP19/03/18 06:09 AM
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I am also asked if I am gay, and have been asked out by gay guys. It never bothered me, just made me wonder what the quality was. I have asked several women and I think what it comes down to is clean-cutness (do you get your hair cut stylishly, do you dress well, do you wear nice clothes). and Emotionality (do you talk to girls about shit they are responsive to, do you keep the conversation fun like a friend and not weird like so many of the desperate guys they encounter). And yeah the pretty bo…
/r/askTRP19/03/18 06:03 AM
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David Shade deep spot fingering technique is golden I am going to have to try this. Any pointers?
/r/askTRP19/03/18 05:45 AM
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Does she have any social anxiety/awkwardness? If so, it might be that she is putting considerable effort into social interactions and being alone is enjoyable because she gets to relax that kind of facade. I am a little worried about the mom thing, because whereas a bad/nonexistant relationship with her father would suggest varying levels of "acting out" around/with men- many women end up exemplifying traits of their mom. I conjecture that how they 'learn' to be moms is either to be the opposite…
/r/askTRP19/03/18 05:35 AM
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Thanks I'll give it a try
/r/askTRP08/02/18 01:07 PM
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Like zero porn/masturbation lasted a few months but I resumed after I felt like it wasn't actually fixing my problem. (Aka it was hard to be sexual)
/r/askTRP08/02/18 01:06 PM
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what if she just doesn't want to go to some guys house who she has never met? That is not an unreasonable position and may be influenced by many factors that you cannot "bypass" simply by talking right. I would go to the theatre and chances are, when you offer to go to your place after and listen to music or see your fishtank, she will be willing. Basically tl;Dr why not just go to the that theater
/r/askTRP05/02/18 01:50 PM
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I don't think you should feel ashamed. I know that won't change anything, but understand what I mean. You need to not feel ashamed. Shame is a toxic emotion. Furthermore, men are in a strange time in history where countless of our brothers are struggling just to grasp the most basic truths of women. Let alone be able to manipulate them. You had sex with a prostitute to lose your virginity? I think that's hilarious and you should too. Obviously you will improve and when you're plating girls from …
/r/askTRP05/02/18 01:45 PM
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I have never had this issue but assuming you don't want to just tell him to fuck off, why not say "Hey I actually am really busy today, I need to get my lift in fast, let's talk later" And just workout. And if he asks again, use another BS excuse. By using an excuse you let him save face and if he presses you on the excuses you have a reason to be honest.
/r/askTRP05/02/18 01:38 PM
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"because I know I have failed as a man and not fucked enough women." You need to fix something but it's not your face, it's your mindset. It is easier to change your definition of "being a man" than change the body you were born with.
/r/askTRP17/05/17 09:16 PM
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If I was in your position I would plan meet a bunch of girls either from tinder or from my social circles, and also join a club/new social group. Social interactions, meeting people, making friends, this puts emotional distance between you and the past. You need to stop mopping asap it's wasting your precious time. Additionally, if you haven't considered this yet, your mindset is crucial moving forward. You are sad, you have to make yourself not sad and you have to do it yourself. That is what b…
/r/askTRP16/05/17 05:34 AM
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Just make sure you're in bed by 9:00 kiddo ;)
/r/askTRP16/05/17 05:20 AM
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Just need vasalgel to come through maybe.
/r/askTRP15/05/17 09:13 PM
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Could just masturbate or settle for low smv women.
/r/askTRP15/05/17 09:10 PM
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Good advice in here. I finger them/rub their clit for awhile and then I go in and cum in 2-4 minutes. If they are still good I finger a bit more. Then we go at it 15 minutes later and could fuck all day. That being said, I've started edging so that that initial bout can be longer.
/r/askTRP15/05/17 01:35 AM
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Trim that shit, balls, inner thigh, gooch bare as fuck once a week. Feels good, looks good, makes your dick look bigger.
/r/askTRP14/05/17 06:57 PM
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Why you trolling bro.
/r/askTRP14/05/17 06:43 PM
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It's all in your head, get off the internet and get out there. Lift, daygame.
/r/askTRP13/05/17 09:55 PM
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It's not easy but you need to just keep doing right by you. You should also find a way to cut out all poison people from your life. Live like you love yourself, and be willing to let yourself make mistakes in your journey.
/r/askTRP12/05/17 08:10 PM
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This isn't true 100% of the time. But regardless that sentiment is to meant to increase IDGAF attitude, not to give you something to linger and be depressed on.
/r/askTRP04/05/17 05:37 PM
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I'm with you there. First time is ego boosting.
/r/askTRP02/05/17 08:10 PM
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Username checks out then.
/r/askTRP01/05/17 12:19 AM
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As an American with a weak sense of family, I recommend the opposite. To willingly endure emotional abuse for something like "family is important to me" is agreeing to cede control of your life, a like a token into the shitty circumstance slot machine. When will you do what you want and not what they want? When you have a good job? After you marry? After a few kids? Will they be telling you who your children can date? Give me a fucking break. You don't want that.
/r/askTRP30/04/17 10:33 PM
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Get that foreplay on lock, then have her lay on her back, legs up on your shoulders. Do a bit of thrusting to get things going so you don't hurt her, then go as deep as you can, like push her into your matress a bit. Then just sort of keep thrusting in but not out, just bouncing her up and down on the matress while you're fully penetrated. Someone commented this technique before and I've tried it. Drives em crazy, if you move enough you hit all the sides in there. Usually they're moaning so much…
/r/askTRP30/04/17 09:57 PM
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I fuck a girl who lives a floor above me. Hella convenient. Helps with IDGAF attitude.
/r/askTRP25/04/17 12:38 PM
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I always cum inside with the condom on. I thought that was the point of wearing a condom. I've probably done this over 50 times with three different girls, never had any problems. Just look down to make sure the condom is fully on, if she's dry it might start to roll back up ya penis. It feels amazing. Waaaay better than masturbating yourself or having her do it.
/r/askTRP23/04/17 04:52 PM
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My emotional state moves high and low on the confidence loop. I have always just considered this to be necessary balance. I can raise my baseline emotional state through life experience/improvement, but I will always undulate up and down depending on the situations I am in.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/17 03:32 PM
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My masturbation has been as bad as one a day (sometimes twice) to months of not (up to 70ish days) where I try and regain control. This over 3.5ish years. So as long as you'd expect to really change some brain chemistry. I went through both extremes in horniness and chastity while coming off it. It was was a huge area of insecurity and I had a few nights I couldn't make anything happen (probably 2 months "sober" at that point with some girl.from tinder). I got Viagra from my family doc because h…
/r/askTRP20/04/17 01:19 AM
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Thank you. That is helpful life experience to me. Guess I'll just stay open minded. I hope you keep having success!
/r/askTRP17/04/17 05:28 PM
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One of the laws of power to is disassociate with bad luck. You can love your parents, you can do them favors and make them happy when you have the time and effort, but you must live your life free of guilt or shame or sadness whenever possible. And more importantly, spend your most valuable asset (time and attention) on you (primarily). Consider getting them a puppy or investing in a stock for them or something. Something hands-off that you can do.
/r/askTRP17/04/17 04:18 PM
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I am just starting my career in programming, but don't want to do it forever by any means. Did you always know you wanted to do sales or did something in your coding career lead you there?
/r/askTRP17/04/17 04:12 PM
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Go bang her ugly friend.
/r/askTRP15/04/17 06:54 AM
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Rollo in his book talks about how when one forms part of their personality around certain beliefs, letting go of those beliefs is especially hard. This is why denial is a thing, it is a protective reaction over your ego.
/r/askTRP16/03/17 09:28 PM
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Lift weights too, or start some physical hobby like climbing or fighting. Cross training for a full body workout will.do wonders for body and mind.
/r/askTRP15/03/17 11:13 PM
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Don't fucking apologize.
/r/askTRP13/03/17 07:21 PM
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I know it will be difficult at first to change, but keep reading and meditating. Your future happiness is the only sponsor you need.
/r/askTRP26/02/17 05:09 PM
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Do something you suck at. I'm taking judo, and I'm a complete novice. That continual failure brings me back because I want to flip these guys.
/r/askTRP23/02/17 06:07 AM
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Am I just being a bitter beta? Yes. Or a troll. Don't shit where you eat, and you have scarcity mentality. Also, is it a good idea to try to get in the way of her and this guy Probably a troll. Thinking about this one girl, deciding elaborate ploys where you beat out whichever guy is currently giving her the dick, it's all an extreme waste of your time.
/r/askTRP17/02/17 04:50 PM
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Got to suck out the poison before it spreads. He has every right to want to ditch, but that doesn't mean you have to do anything differently. Go about your life, do not take it personally, be polite when you see him, focus on yourself.
/r/askTRP17/02/17 04:43 PM
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Don't respond. Ask some other girls and if she comes around you can decide then. It's literally her trying to get you to go out.of your way to appease her world view -> shit test
/r/askTRP14/02/17 03:58 PM
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It's a fucking octopus who cares. We evolved to dominate this planet, stop anthropomorphizing food.
/r/askTRP14/02/17 03:55 PM
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Designers don't make as much h as programmers pretty much anywhere, and real the holistic design jobs at big companies usually require masters degrees (in my city). There are a few entry level UX designers for people with bachelor degrees buuuut, you'd probably want to go it alone on the side, building up experience and teaching yourself the best practices. Then maybe go for a big company. In a big city on the west coast US.
/r/askTRP14/02/17 03:54 PM
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He's a cuck but there is no need to feel insecure (pathetic or not, he's just a man). Most of us are/were victims of the conditioning, and they needn't concern you anymore.
/r/askTRP14/02/17 03:50 PM
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Stop thinking about it. Just mind your own damn business, they can make their own decisions. Any attempt to control other people's behavior overtly is beta.
/r/askTRP14/02/17 03:44 PM
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Listen I am not an expert and I don't pretend to know or care what you want to hear. You have to realize you are just a brain inside a skull, atop a chemical reaction machine. Feeling like your missing out, feeling left behind, feeling inadequate- none of those things are fucking real. You can be whoever you want in your mind. You control your brain (if only indirectly for now). You actually have to TRY and look at yourself and list off 10 great things about you. It will suck at first, but if yo…
/r/askTRP08/02/17 08:21 AM
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I have been trying to understand ED from a physical standpoint for quite some time. I believe physical factors are at play. Though, I want to reference something from your original post "the only consistent way I've gotten passable boners is when I'm reading some of the more descriptive parts of Sex God Method" Is it possible that you can meditate long enough to link what gave you pleasure from that, and use it as a model for future endeavors? /u/loveydovey2121 said this to me when I was worried…
/r/askTRP07/02/17 02:09 AM
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What do you mean, "nuke"?
/r/askTRP06/02/17 07:45 PM
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Hey, I have similar issues. I got Viagra from my doctor even though I'm only 21, but haven't tried it out yet. Consider that if you can. I have been reading around and am thinking that my last relationship (she was religiously celibate and dumped me hard) may have instilled a great mental artifact that needs solving before I can truly let the animal materialize. Have you considered what is holding you back mentally, if anything? Best of luck.
/r/askTRP06/02/17 07:10 AM
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Have you been jacking off?
/r/askTRP31/01/17 05:31 AM
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I don't know if this is certain but asshole and dick definitely connote some sort of arrogance/power/dominance possessed by the subject being labelled when women use jocularly (humorously). And I can say I have experienced this. Now I've had girls tell other people I'm an asshole behind my back and that was not the same. Maybe the generalization is if she calls you a dick to your face with a smile/neutral expression while gauging your reaction, then in private she wants the dick. If in private s…
/r/askTRP30/01/17 09:39 PM
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Interested in solutions people have. My situation is somewhat similar. Porn, masturbation, orgasming on and off for two-three years, just while schooling. Some success in there. I have trouble getting hard for average girls but average girls are way easier to get. The advice I've seen is to be dominate. To really lose yourself in the moment and get her to do what she has to do so that you like it. That's what I intend to test. Edit: I also got my talk to prescribe Viagra so we'll give that a try…
/r/askTRP25/01/17 04:21 PM
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Can confirm this guy's knowledge is very narrow, and reflects his own experiences but said in a way to sound universal. I am In frat, had a blast, spend time away from them now and having probably more fun in these last two years of college actually. No, they don't care how much you or your fucking parents make. Some of our guys can't even afford it, but we understand and take care of them because they add value. Being in a frat (in my personal experience) means you just need (but not always) un…
/r/TheRedPill25/01/17 06:44 AM
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I am beginning to realize that all the "ya uh huh I get it i'm red-pilled now" feelings I get when I read here is a fucking self-induced, blue-pill comfort cave. Same self-gratification as masturbation or junkfood. I will try acting the part.
/r/askTRP23/01/17 05:41 AM
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It does seem probable that her being fairly unimpressive physically (though a nice face) had something to do with with it. I should have just tried to see what I could have gotten away with as far as making her do before I "threw in the towel". I'll definitely approach it with more resolve to do what I want next time. Fun fact, this girl had like a slave. Like a guy who would do whatever humiliating thing she said. Go figure. And, thank you.
/r/askTRP22/01/17 09:36 PM
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Don't mistake correlation for causation. No, FB did not create attraction it just nurtured it after it had already been formed. Social media presence is the result of many factors, but more importantly to rely on it to validate your progress is a losing strategy. Keep working on you, and if you want to do what I did- delete FB/IG/Twitter/etc. It takes about a two weeks but you will cease to care about things like this, as your energies can't as easily be spent on worrying about other people.
/r/askTRP22/01/17 01:54 AM
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Hey, allow me to enlighten you a bit to my experience. Third year in college, and third-year in fraternity. Rushing at my uni basically boils down to the same thing, but it is always good idea to shmooze not just the rush chairs, but the members at large because they can vouch for you if the rush chairs ask for insight. To answer your question, you talk about whatever the hell you can to keep them engaged. You need to convince them 1. It feels like you already a brother because you are natural t…
/r/askTRP16/01/17 08:13 PM
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Can confirm you made a sensible choice. Your time is valuable, too valuable to waste. That being said, in the past when I have completely nexted/rejected girls who refused to go any farther it has bitten me in the short term with many social groups. But, in the long term I think I have settled it for myself and for anyone who knows me that I don't take shit easily.
/r/askTRP15/01/17 05:03 AM
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Really smart play. Stay vigilant.
/r/askTRP14/01/17 12:51 AM
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Very good advice. Hard truths. You have implanted in their minds a seed that will change their perception of you (which is good, you can work with that). Asking out more girls (in person, please) will keep you relevant in their minds which is of some modicum of value in the low-stakes environment of HS.
/r/askTRP09/01/17 09:59 AM
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In my experience, not really possible that you can increase leadership/AMOG status with everything else remaining static. In a particular group. This should not be what your goal is, in my opinion. I had a great group of really geeky friends. I went on my pilgrimage in a manner of speaking, to attain more experience and try new things. Geeky-friends kept doing the same ol' shit and we lost interest in each other. Now when I see them, I can't chat about the same shit we used to do together (video…
/r/askTRP09/01/17 09:53 AM
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I did some CL posting for a similar reason but saw that it was mostly trash. I see a lot of male-hamstering on your part it is sort of understandable because virginity feels like such a burden. TheRedPill is about the truth of sexuality in modern day. What about this encounter would be empowering? Ignore the "swedish massage" bullshit. It's an old grandma. Lift, do one thing to meet new people your age, read. Challenge yourself to get a date with a peer in one week and succeed.
/r/askTRP08/01/17 08:52 PM
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I am confused what you are getting at here. Are you saying that the dry period you would need would be a month until you were sensitive again BUT now you can fleshlight and not abstain at all?
/r/TheRedPill03/04/16 04:55 AM
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Can confirm on multiple occasions. Once at club where random stranger comes up to me and asks me to dance (I was 19, she was at least 26) and not giving even one fuck I just start dancing and chatting with her and leave the group of girl friends I was with (but they literally just stood there, looking for guys to look at them). Anyways 5 minutes in this woman says "You're gay, right?". Also interestingly one of the girls in the other group privately asked my close guy friends if I was gay as soo…
/r/TheRedPill18/01/16 11:26 PM
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Not a veteran by any means, I had some success by complimenting their looks but then continuing with mundane conversation as not to feed them validation. A compliment may help get across that you are interested but have to be careful to leave it at one until some more IOIs come up. I would be interested in more tips or critiques of this approach.
/r/TheRedPill07/01/16 07:19 AM
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Sorry to piggy back, but I've recently been involved with a girl who is nice enough, cute enough, very inexperienced. She moves my hands away whenever I try to escalate. And says some bullshit like, "not now". And the one time I respond with stopping what we were doing (only kissing) and decide we will watch a move as a sort of negative reinforcement, she didn't cave and said the same thing. She finds me attractive, maybe not enough? Should I move on or hold out for slow build-up virginity takin…
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