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I don't date slobs (anymore)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 10:42 AM
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Checks out
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 08:57 AM
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Have you ever considered that women are not men?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 08:49 AM
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I wouldn't date men who did this
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/22 02:27 AM
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Ok, guys who pretend to be their friend but have no interest in being their friend
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 07:50 AM
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Only when he spends a long time pretending to be a friend just to get in her pants.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 06:46 AM
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It's not the man's problem, why would it be? It's also not a woman's problem if you feel shitty about being rejected.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 03:36 AM
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I haven't seen women complaining about this. Usually if we reject a guy the last thing we want is to have him buzzing around as a "friend".
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 03:17 AM
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It's not "society", it's an anonymous internet forum made up of people who spend too much time online. If it upsets you, turn off your computer and go interact with people face to face.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 10:52 PM
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Honestly it sounds like you're dealing with a toddler, not a husband
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/22 10:15 PM
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Lol ok keep telling women what they find hot
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 12:56 AM
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He has panty dropping appeal, it's just because of his persona/style, not his face. That first photo of him looks like every other skinny dork in my office. Without the hairstyle, tatts, attitude he'd be completely invisible.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/22 12:38 AM
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Well yeah, if you're repulsive you're repulsive. But MGK's face is nothing special either. 99% of his appeal is the attitude and style.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 10:58 PM
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MGK is attractive because he's got attitude and style. Take away the fashion and tattoos and rockstar persona and he'd just be a dorky white guy with huge ears.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 10:35 PM
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Obviously yes the gender
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 01:21 PM
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Lol these age gap threads are always full of dudes casually dropping how young they claim to date. We should make a weekly humblebrag thread where guys can make up stories and get it out of their systems
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 01:04 PM
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Your brother bringing home a 30 year old woman was not the scenario he explained at all
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 12:59 PM
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No they won't
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 12:58 PM
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You're trying to debate someone's subjective experience. It's stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 12:21 PM
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You can't argue against something completely subjective like creepiness with facts. If they find it creepy, it is creepy. I think people get grossed out when the girl is of an age where she's likely still dependent on her parents in some way. An older guy swooping in and taking on some of those daddy duties just feels creepy to some. Showing them how many favourite movies you have in common is not going to change that.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 11:58 AM
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No one cares about an age gap when the woman's 35 lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 11:55 AM
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What's the shit stuff if not the black pill negativity?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 05:56 AM
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It's diverse in the broader context of boards of directors. If 80% of boards are all male, 20% are mixed, and just one is all female, that is adding diversity to the collection of boards, if not that individual one.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 05:39 AM
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I mean I don't agree with it, but can you honestly not see how this would be seen as a positive thing by some when it's not the norm? It's pretty disingenuous to pretend you can't see the difference between an all male and all female board when the latter has literally never happened.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 04:53 AM
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Red pill without the black pill nihilism is just red pill...
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 04:50 AM
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Lol what? No. In high school, girls were excluded from my group if they were too prudish.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/22 04:48 AM
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And the answer is "there's no such thing. Expand your search." I pointed out some conservative meetup groups, but you conveniently skipped over that.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 06:35 AM
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I'm not putting you down, I'm telling you how you come across. I'm trying to give you some honest feedback and ideas, and you've taken that as an insult. Maybe you come across differently in real life, but the impression you've given here is that you're always on the defensive. You say that your problem is Portland, but if you are 30 and unable to hold a friendship without them attacking something or other about you, it might be worth looking at yourself and your standards for friendship first.
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 06:10 AM
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I'm sure not every woman in Portland is so nosy that they'll attack you over your relationship or shame you for wearing a dress. Just keep personal stuff to yourself. There are plenty of conservative meetup groups in Portland, did you try any of those? https://www.meetup.com/en-AU/topics/conservative/us/or/portland/?country=us&city=portland&state=or&radius=25 If you're going to make your own meetup, I wouldn't go so specific as to make it a Laura Doyle group. Find something less polarizing. It s…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 05:24 AM
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I think if this is a pattern that keeps repeating itself, maybe the problem is you and not them. It sounds like you're taking harmless comments too personally, or you're explaining your relationship in a way that rings alarm bells. Re: not living together, you're going to get more pushback, not less, from more conservative women. I share my location with my SO, if it comes up in conversation (and it rarely does), I just say we share each other's GPS because it makes logistics easier. It's never …
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 04:42 AM
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Most women who are aligned with RPW are just normal women in normal relationships who have never heard of the subreddit or Laura Doyle. Most of my friends are progressive feminist types, but when you actually look at their relationships or talk to them about men without all the terms we use here, they're naturally very RP. Most women in happy relationships will agree with the principles if not the culture. I also live in a big, progressive city, and have found that outside of the internet lunati…
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/22 03:44 AM
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I was more talking about young guys who actively hate on all of the social activities their peers like. The "clubs are for morons" type, which doesn't sound like you. Are you living in a city? I'd say to get into something that has a social community around it. A friend of mine in his 30s recently got into rock climbing and made himself a regular at the local climbing gym. He's meeting so many fun people there. My SO often goes down to our local pub and just invites strangers to join him for poo…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 09:37 AM
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Restoring stronger communities would make women showing their interest and actually looking at what's around more approachable I mean all of this is true, but those strong, social communities do exist. The men struggling with women actively avoid them. How many times have you seen people in here suggesting a guy goes out partying, and he'll respond with oh no I can't do that, I hate clubs, it's too loud, hate normies, don't drink, drugs are bad, club girls are sluts, etc etc etc. These guys sit …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/22 06:33 AM
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I didn't say it isn't stressful. It is stressful. But maintaining your house when you're stressed and working a "logical job" is possible and what adults do.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 11:14 PM
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Classic case of a self-important dude on the internet. He's probably never had sex, let alone a healthy marriage to speak of.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 07:37 AM
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I don't presume. I've been involved with RPW since the day it started like a decade ago, and in that time only a VERY small handful of men have contributed anything valuable. 99% of the men who wander in here don't understand RP theory, or they do and they're here to push the male imperative. There is value in having a space for women to talk to each other without a bunch of internet dudes throwing their stupid opinions around. Understanding that men and women are different and have different th…
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 07:33 AM
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Why should we be democratic? This is a women's sub for women to talk about women's things. Very few men have anything valuable to add.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 04:30 AM
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I didn't see her response as smug or know it all. She just disagreed. Going through her post history to make personal attacks is childish.
/r/RedPillWomen01/06/22 04:18 AM
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You can chase women or you can be mad about it 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/22 02:13 AM
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ETA: genuinely confused by the downvote Nerds are mad that programming isn't sexy
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 11:21 PM
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Yeah, we're the same. I'm the academic, he's the street smarts.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 11:19 PM
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There's hot intelligence and then there's sperg intelligence. I can't stand STEM intelligence in men, even though I'm very stembrained myself. My guy was a high school drop out and needs me to work his computer for him, but is sharp as a tack, funny, runs a successful business and is a musical virtuoso. It works really well.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 11:18 PM
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That's why I included masculine and with solid frame. Looks is a small part of it, I was talking "hot" in a more holistic sense, as in a man who can hold the attraction and respect of a woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 10:36 PM
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I'm not reading all that. Men should approach women because they are biologically the pursuers. A woman will never feel wanted or sexy or secure in a relationship where she had to do the chasing.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 08:36 PM
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Women nit pick/shit test weak men. Hot, masculine men with solid frame and options are not getting endlessly nagged.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 08:34 PM
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I have a good relationship with my dad and definitely value some of his good traits in men. Or maybe, growing up around a good male role model gave me less patience for shitty, weak men? I don't think this is mainly a female thing though. I've seen so many men who glorify their own mothers and expect a woman to live up to her. "Mum was sweet and caring and cooked roast every night and never talked back to dad and and and why can't you be like that"? is pretty common.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/22 08:32 PM
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I'm a big believer in women (and men) having private spaces to discuss things with their own sex. Even the most red pilly RP men change the landscape just by being here. You only need a couple of experienced female mods to keep things on track in my experience. I'm part of a private sub that excludes men, and they will ask for verification before letting you in. The culture in there is so nice. A private sub obvs wouldn't get the same foot traffic as an open one, but maybe that's a good thing.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 07:39 PM
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I agree
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 07:27 PM
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Ok, whatever. Why wouldn't they find it "meaningful"
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 09:33 AM
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You didn't say chase, you said not interested in sex. Why would any man not be interested in sex?
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 08:40 AM
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Ok? My point is that if you're working from home, I find it very hard to believe that you don't have 3, 4, 5, whatever minutes to start a load of laundry.
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 04:45 AM
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Why would they not want sex?
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/22 01:46 AM
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It's not just you. I'm the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 06:16 AM
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They're answered constantly here, men just don't believe us
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 06:15 AM
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When he's talking to me. I can see him from across the room and feel absolutely nothing, but have that switch as soon as he interacts and flirts with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 06:14 AM
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What does that have to do with your post?
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 04:06 AM
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Sorry but this is nonsense. I've kissed plenty of people and still feel just as intensely for my SO
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 03:41 AM
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Can you please fuck off, this sub is not your wank content.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 03:26 AM
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If being effeminate is making them unhappy or stopping them from getting what they want, yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/22 02:28 AM
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Yeah it only takes me a few minutes to organise and start a load of laundry
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/22 01:02 AM
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The only time I've been a bit gobsmacked was when my SO estimated his number to be around 300 lol. Even my slutty past looks chaste after that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 09:57 PM
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/u/omarnbradley another one. Apparently every man who's ever found himself in a monogamous relationship was there out of desperation lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 09:54 PM
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I'm not a feminist, but they're not wrong on that. Male sexuality IS predatory and dangerous, and I can't believe all the men in here pretending otherwise. Wait til you have a daughter and see how benevolent you think the male sex drive is.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 09:38 PM
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It does exist, I'm with him
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 09:37 PM
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Not ugly, socially fluent, flirtatious, bold/cocky, skilled
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 09:30 PM
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Or she finds a man who isn't a slob
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 09:25 PM
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Haha yep. "Just shoot up together, it'll be romantic!"
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 09:19 PM
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And if she's a girlfriend with no children, like OP?
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 01:12 PM
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By similar logic, why would a woman want a husband if she's going to have to work full time AND do all the house work? Everything you're saying is theoretical. My SO and our peers all make over 150k, and they all split housework pretty evenly with their partners. Men are marrying for love and family, not so they can obtain a dishwasher.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 12:26 PM
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That hasn't been my experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 12:12 PM
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I haven't washed a dish since my SO moved in because apparently I "don't do it right" lol. I'll tell him a fitness trainer on reddit has decided he's low value.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 11:59 AM
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Lol right? A HVM won't wash the dishes, but he'll spend hours on end gaming every day
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 11:43 AM
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Maybe she likes her job? There are plenty of valuable careers outside of IT. Maybe she's "put in the effort" in a different industry? Are you suggesting she should change careers so her bf doesn't have to wash his dishes?
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 10:47 AM
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She said she's on her feet all day at work, she obviously doesn't work a comfy desk job she can do from home.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 10:38 AM
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I'm not trying to hamstring anyone, I'm just describing reality. Sorry it seems to upset you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 08:41 AM
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hahaha
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 08:27 AM
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I'm not talking in circles, you're just not listening to the nuance
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 08:26 AM
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Oh wait you're talking about women, I thought you were speaking as a man. Yes I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 08:11 AM
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Good luck. Maybe look into dopamine fasts. I don't know much about it and it may be quackery, but I really do believe that porn, social media, Netflix, etc is messing with our dopamine responses and should be dealt with carefully
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 08:06 AM
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Who mentioned failed fuckboy? What are you talking about?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 07:55 AM
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I can't think of a situation in which OP's boyfriend can't step away for a few minutes to help keep his own household running. If they're not expecting him to pee at his desk, his excuses are nonsense.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 07:54 AM
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There's no two ways about it. You just need to give it up. Cold turkey. Porn is absolute cancer to a regular sex life once it starts to interfere.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 07:52 AM
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She can't stop herself, she needs more and more depraved porn to be satisfied, and it's affecting her relationship. It is absolutely an addiction.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 07:51 AM
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Yes but it's all visual
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 07:48 AM
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I'm not sure how you WFH as a fitness trainer, but I seriously doubt you can't step away for two minutes to turn on the washing machine. If you can leave your desk to use the bathroom, you can run a laundry cycle.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 07:44 AM
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4 years as a data analyst, 6 as a data scientist, and now a project manager running a team of data scientists and programmers
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 06:55 AM
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yes honey i'm in STEM and have been for 15 years.
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 06:21 AM
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she just did. it's about protecting her own feelings, not "rewarding" or "punishing" a man. fucking a man you don't care about and then having him ghost you is no big deal. fucking a man you're really into and having him ghost you is devastating. women are going to guard their hearts a little more when they have feelings for a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 06:01 AM
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well yeah but it's not about you, it's about her. you're exactly the kind of guy she's trying to protect herself from, so her strategy works perfectly in that case.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 06:01 AM
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don't snark about like a bitter woman if you don't want to be called a bitch.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 05:43 AM
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and?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 04:47 AM
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yep. most men i know followed a similar path. yet we have the spergs below claiming that men in their 40s have their 20 year old brain and libido, and are for some reason allowing themselves to be manipulated into a relationship they don't want anything to do with lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 04:40 AM
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would you like to read downthread and respond to my actual thought-out explanation of this, or would you like to have a cry?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 04:30 AM
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Onlookers may think it is less stressful, great for work/life balance, no commute, all that. I say, it is closer to bringing your home to work, rather than your work home. i disagree completely. i moved to WFH during the pandemic and it's made household management infinitely easier. i've taken back 90 minutes in every day just for the commute for one thing. that's a huge amount of time when you're working a high stress job and also trying to think about dinner, housework, etc. i can rotate laund…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/22 04:28 AM
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AWALT. i experience sexuality like every other woman out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 02:35 AM
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Wow, I wonder what some feminists would think of your take lol. I'm sure they'd deny it while still falling in love with strong, masculine, possessive men. “Women get possessive when they're afraid she'll lose him to another woman. That he'll stop investing in her and invest in someone else. It's different.” Isn’t this the fear of most possessive men? No. Men are possessive because they're afraid another man will steal his woman and own her. He invests in her so that she sticks around and can co…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 02:28 AM
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Yeah, sort of
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 02:17 AM
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Women are not possessive in the same way men are. Male love/sexuality is about ownership. Men want to own their woman. As a possession. Women want to be owned by a desirable man. Women get possessive when they're afraid she'll lose him to another woman. That he'll stop investing in her and invest in someone else. It's different. Women who brag about dick size or other sexual, visual attributes are just "cool girl"ing and imitating men. Get a bunch of women together without men present and no one…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 02:12 AM
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because men are sexually visual and possessive in a way that women are not. men objectify women as something pretty they can own and control. women objectify men as a status object among other women. something valuable to show off for his achievements. it's completely different, and please note before you get upset that I am not saying one is better or more moral or less shallow than the other.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 01:45 AM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 01:37 AM
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Not at all like how men objectify women, no
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 01:35 AM
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Ok fair. I mean I agree with her that men see us as objects, I just don't think that our attraction is any less shallow because it's not as visual.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 01:30 AM
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No I'm not. Feel free to link me if you've seen otherwise.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 01:18 AM
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I dunno, I see men doing it to themselves more often than not. "I get more turned on by how a man acts than how he looks" "LIAR!!! You're just pretending to be better than us you shallow whore" Like, ok whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 01:13 AM
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Ok sure, it's possible. I haven't personally seen women in here claim their sexuality is more moral. Every time I've seen it, it's a man doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 01:11 AM
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I'm not going to argue about how I personally experience my own sexuality with a man who has no interest in listening lol. Talk about a waste of time.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 01:06 AM
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No, you're wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 01:01 AM
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Or they marry too young and are not done changing yet. That people get divorced at 40 because they don't want the same things in a partner that they did at 27 just supports my point.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 12:37 AM
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Women's sexuality is more complex, there are objectively more moving parts that go into getting a woman aroused. That doesn't make it less shallow or "better" than male sexuality. When a woman explains (correctly) that their sexuality is less visual than men's and that we need interaction and game and nuance to get turned on, it is ALWAYS a man who jumps in to apply a moral value to that. Always always a man who takes that value-neutral point and cries about how women are pretending to be less s…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 12:34 AM
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I love seeing children in here try to explain how grown men and women evolve and change over the course of their Iives.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 12:15 AM
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Why would a fit, attractive man in his 40s with plenty of options get into a relationship if that's not what he wanted? No one's forcing him into monogamy with me, he chose that for himself. People's preferences and desires and energy levels change between 20 and 40.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/22 12:07 AM
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Lol I was waiting for the bitter bitches to come out! Right on cue.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 11:58 PM
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It's exactly how most attractive men behave. My guy was a raging slut until his late 20s, slowed down as he got over it, and is now happily monogamous in his 40s.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 10:28 PM
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A. I want a man who's chosen me, not one who's with me out of desperation
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/22 10:21 PM
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Genetics definitely plays a role, but apparently the education itself has a causal relationship too. https://ifstudies.org/blog/the-many-ways-mothers-education-matters
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/22 01:40 PM
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Very few women make a life of being a homemaker. The wealthiest families I know tend to be dual income despite not needing her salary. My parents' marriage was very traditional, and even so my mother only took a few years off while we were kids, and went straight back to part time professional work once we were in school. Not to say it can't be done, but just that it's not and has never been the norm for a woman to stop working at 25 once she's married and just stay home forever. The odds of you…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/22 04:44 AM
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It's one thing to look, it's another to publicly advertise that you're looking via visible likes. I can't tell you where your boundaries should be, but I personally would find that incredibly disrespectful.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/22 12:39 AM
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I never said otherwise
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 10:17 PM
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How does that change my point?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 09:42 PM
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Whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 08:56 PM
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And?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 08:56 PM
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I didn't
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 02:20 PM
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I don't know
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 02:06 PM
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Height in men and weight/figure in women are as biological as it gets. Sexual dimorphism is what it all comes down to.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 01:26 PM
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I have less than zero interest in educating someone who doesn't want to listen
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 12:33 PM
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Did I say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 12:26 PM
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If he can't experience it first hand, and he automatically dismisses everything I say as "wishy washy", it is literally a waste of my time to persist.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 10:57 AM
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It was actually a serious question, not meant as an insult at all. I can't explain love to neurodivergent people who don't experience it like I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 10:51 AM
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I've seen a bunch of articles about it and tattoo parlours holding "semicolon days". It's just in-group signaling between mentally ill people.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 09:28 AM
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They are though. Why do you need to advertise something like that?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 09:16 AM
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Where did you get the idea I feel angry or attacked lol. You guys are nuts. I just answered his question and now yours?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 06:33 AM
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Ok so tell OP that. His question was what do you get from a relationship that you can't get from friends/family/pets and I answered him.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 04:00 AM
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Yes and?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 03:37 AM
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Yeah I don't get the "women are whores these days" that gets thrown around here. 20 years ago when I was a teenager it was all boys and partying and drugs. The teens I've come across today are far more wholesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 03:36 AM
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"why can't you get companionship from your dog?" 🤖🤖🤖🤖🤖
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 03:30 AM
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It's used by suicide or self-harm survivors attention seekers
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 03:19 AM
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Literally no one has ever argued that if a young woman offers herself up as a hole to use she will not be taken up on that. Acting like this is something women might actually want is pure male solipsism.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 03:17 AM
-1

Never in my life. The whole thing is just team man trying to deny unflattering sex differences
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 03:13 AM
17

And spending your life with a committed romantic partner is different than having friends and a dog
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 02:17 AM
17

Do you genuinely not understand the difference between the affection you get from a human life partner and a dog? Playing stupid is such a boring debate tactic.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 01:54 AM
1

Have you ever been in love? Do you have autism?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 12:30 AM
13

I want a partner who complements me, not another version of myself
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 12:29 AM
67

Affection, romance, companionship, stability, partnership
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 12:22 AM
1

I think regular, well socialized men have it pretty easy. I think men who use video games to relate a 1-10 scale are probably struggling.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 06:01 AM
1

When were little boys and not little girls allowed to go to school? (In the west)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 05:51 AM
1

Yeah. So the restrictions on female education have lifted and they now out perform boys. Where's the unfairness in that? Maybe girls are just better at that stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 05:47 AM
1

On the purchasing thing, women just tend to do all of the family spending because shopping falls in their domain. My ex made more than me, but I spent more than him because I was buying our groceries, paying our bills, paying for our renovations, etc etc. He had just as much if not more say in where that money went, I was just the administrator of the house that dealt with the money.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 05:45 AM
1

Men don't have to though? Why can't a man become a nurse if he hates being a plumber so much?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 05:39 AM
1

Sure he can. And a woman can change her mind on monogamy lol. If a woman has children with him based on how he acts before children, the marriage isn't likely to work out when he suddenly changes his mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 01:05 AM
1

Go to other parts of the world and caring about things like body count will become even more relevant lol. Do you think there's a single woman here who cares what some Saudi Arabian thinks of her sexual history?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/22 01:02 AM
1

PTSD is a physical illness now? Expecting others around you to change and accommodate your anxieties is not RPW, no. Sorry.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 09:47 PM
1

Conflict starts with me getting triggered by sound or smell, I've got a neurological disorder and cptsd. I basically need a calm response or my nervous system gets flooded. Today I tried to drive us towards a place where I can get my calm on my own but he got all mad that I needed a quiet space. None of this is normal or easy to live with. You have a long way to go before you're asking other people to sort their mental health out
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 12:37 PM
1

Yes sometimes you have to work to get the things you want. Shocking.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 12:29 PM
18

I swear you guys are all martians lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 12:05 PM
1

Yes, and? It worked for him didn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 11:39 AM
1

It worked on me pretty recently
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 09:43 AM
1

you need to get your mental health under control and then find a man who's done the same. if you're still getting triggered to the point of crying all the time, you're not really in a place to tell your man to get therapy. sort yourself out first.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 12:56 AM
1

two sensitive, traumatized people bouncing off and triggering each other is a recipe for disaster. you are responsible for your triggers (and he his). you can't change him, so you need to either fix yourself and get to the point where you can be the solid rock of the relationship, or you need to find a man who can be that for you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/22 12:54 AM
1

Yeah, these guys are imagining the awkward YouTube PUA style and wondering why it doesn't work. My SO flirted with me in a cafe, I flirted back, we bantered a bit, and when I was leaving he gave me his number and told me he wanted to get a drink on Monday. Ball was in my court, I wanted the same, here we are.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/22 12:31 AM
1

I'm not reading some dumb tabloid article. I don't believe women orgasm from anal.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 09:53 PM
1

Sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 09:40 PM
1

It's PPD, of course that's what he thinks
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 09:40 PM
1

I'm not "against" anything, I just don't believe in it. I think it's something men who want anal will say, and cool girls will latch onto it to appear fun. It's just not a thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 09:28 PM
1

Nonsense
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 08:42 PM
1

Haha some guys are easily fooled
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 11:44 AM
1

Because women don't orgasm from their butts.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 11:14 AM
1

Only a man would ask how many women orgasm from anal lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 09:46 AM
1

Yes I'm sure there's better ways to spend your day!
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/22 08:14 AM
1

how do you politely and in a feminine way turn down other men be polite, sure, but you don't owe femininity to any man who is not your man. there's nothing wrong with turning the femininity down around men who may be interested, and in the workplace being a little bit colder will probably work in your favour.
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/22 04:40 AM
1

I don't know if I'd call it selfish, but men tend to assume that their interests are universally interesting and that girls want to hear all about it. Let's just say in my house we spend a lot more time talking about synths and drum machines than anything I happen to be interested in. I don't really mind.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 10:32 PM
1

Dude your writing and grammar is absolutely horrendous, if I've misunderstood something you've said that's 100% on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 12:37 AM
1

I think the issue is that awkward introverted sperg nerds only see their brand of intelligence as valid. They see the high IQ, extroverted, good looking sales or humanities guy out having fun and getting laid and just assume he's a moron.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 11:24 PM
1

No woman ever says that smart awkward introverted nerds are "high value". Men told themselves that and then complained that it didn't reflect reality. High value is whoever does well with women. If you're unemployed but fun and charismatic and hot girls want to date you, guess what you're high value.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 11:20 PM
1

Are all the "smart" people you know in STEM by any chance?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 09:35 AM
1

Red pill doesn't claim attraction can't build. It's actually all about game, and showing value she might not see at first glance.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 05:56 AM
1

That's not true
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 04:36 AM
1

Lol do you speak English? Do you understand how those are different statements?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 04:34 AM
1

Because the good ones don't stick around as a gf forever
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 04:18 AM
1

Yes it is. 70% of women do not initiate divorce
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/22 04:16 AM
2

Yeah n count was never discussed here back then. I agree that it's the incels/foreigners pushing it in that direction, but also the stamping of trad married men with their indulgent essays as ECs. The guys who participated back then were younger and treated it as a women's space they were allowed into rather than an invitation to lead and educate. This whole "gather round little ladies while Uncle (or Aunty depending on the day lol) ___ explains your sexuality to you" vibe is relatively new and …
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/22 08:37 PM
3

yeah this is me
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 09:48 AM
2

give him more than one beer and it's daggy 80s hair metal all night
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 09:46 AM
1

yes, agreed.
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/22 12:14 AM
1

No. Gym culture and roidbro aesthetics is men competing with men. Similar to women with fancy makeup and high fashion. None of my female friends are interested in that look.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/22 12:00 AM
60

My disagreement with lateral's post (aside from the looseness thing that everyone went in on) is that he approached it from a female perspective rather than a male one, and that's simply not something a man can understand first hand. If he'd come in and said "as a man these are my observations on women who have slept around" or even "I think sluts are ick and if you want to land a man like me you shouldn't be one" that would have made perfect sense and been helpful. But it wasn't like that. He w…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 08:55 PM
2

What happened to "we're equal/same"? I don't know, ask someone who believes that
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 08:10 PM
3

How is that insulting? It's just an honest observation. I wouldn't dream of going into a men's sub and explaining to them how they experience sex and attachment, because I don't and will never get it. It's one thing to say "as a man, this is how I feel about sluts and this info might help you". It's completely different to tell women you understand their bodies and minds better than they do.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 02:53 AM
1

I'd be a poor commenter/poster if I couldn't admit when I'm imprecise or wrong. yet here we are
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 02:20 AM
2

That’s not to say that I believe in the whole “taxi light theory” from Sex and the City though. It’s not like a man hits a certain age/stage and BAM! Whatever random girl he was is who he chooses his wife, out of sheer luck I think you're right that it's def not the norm, most men need a combo of right woman and right time. I do think it can happen among men who are more interested in having a wife than a particular woman though. I had an ex from a very proper family who proposed to me once his …
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 02:12 AM
1

Right, weird people in niche internet communities who obsess over this stuff. Go out to the supermarket and ask the girl behind the till what she thinks of MGTOW. She'll have no idea what you're talking about.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 01:38 AM
2

I teared up reading this. Magical. I'm sorry you have to go through life comparing all of your encounters to this, I don't know how you can ever love again.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 01:14 AM
1

yeah i can't take someone seriously after they double down on something like that
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 01:10 AM
1

be careful not to fall into the trap of believing that what men need in women is what women need in men. our attraction is wired completely differently and this is at the core of RP.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 01:09 AM
2

However, such men don’t commit very often, and if hundreds of women were not commitment material to him, what is the probability that I am just so special that I am? i agree on all of this, but just to add, men's priorities (like women's) sometimes change as they age. my guy was a massive slut in his 20s, slowed down a bit in his 30s, and now in his early 40s just doesn't have the interest or the energy to carry on like that. he enjoys a slower pace and a woman who's a little more stable and san…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 01:05 AM
2

i think the male n count is good at demonstrating a man's values and ability to get laid, and not much more. i don't think that having a high n count "changes" a man in the way that OP is saying a high count changes a woman. my guy's count is very high, and that's a product of him being an attractive, outgoing, sexual guy without any hangups around hedonism and fun. i like that. i don't care at all that he's had hundreds of women before me, in fact i love that i'm the person he chose to keep aro…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/22 12:30 AM
1

who hates it? i don't see anyone talking about it at all outside of niche internet spaces where MGTOWs feel the need to self-identify and then go on and on and on about how shit women are.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/22 12:11 AM
3

yes I'm well-acquainted with the OP lol, i've also been here for a while. my feelings on him are that he's one of the smattering of tradcon husbands who for some reason enjoy lecturing the little ladies here about their purity, but I won't go there. if he just came in here and said "i think sluts are gross and lots of men like me agree. if you want a tradcon husband, don't be a slut", that would be helpful. women can act on that. waxing lyrical on theories as to why that's the case (esp alongsid…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 11:46 PM
30

If he's just a bf, less than a year, and you're not living together, I'd butt out if it. Let him manage his own money and stop lending him. It's emasculating and sets up a dynamic where you're mothering him. Have a good think about the future of the relationship though and what you need from someone. Money causes a lot of issues in marriages, so it's very important to get on the same page before thinking about engagement or cohabitation
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 11:03 PM
1

1 - again, not my experience but appreciate that different circles might be different. We're all mid-30s, mostly married, mostly with a promiscuous period in our pasts. The sex talk happened around casual relationships or men they'd just started seeing. Once that relationship became serious and the girl had truly fallen for him, the talk about him dried up. My happily married friends would never discuss the ins and outs of their sex lives, despite having a lot of experience. 2 - When you’re wide…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 10:19 PM
1

I think we should blow up the internet lol and I'm only half joking.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 09:46 PM
1

Yeah, understood. I had a back and forth with a guy recently saying it's self-torture and unhealthy to spend time reading what the opposite sex says about you. It's always going to be unflattering, and we've historically kept those convos private for a reason. The internet lets us peer into discussions that aren't meant for us and can give us a pretty ugly view of the opposite sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 09:45 PM
1

1 - fair enough. I've seen very different. In my circles, women will gossip/overshare/brag/complain about men they're luke warm about. I can tell when one of my friends is actually in love with a man because there is a respectful silence that falls around her relationship, especially their sex life. Every time I've been truly, madly in love, everything else pales and even if another man was technically bigger/better/whatever there's just no comparison going on. Those other men just don't exist t…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 09:35 PM
1

Yep, this. Someone who has an RP outlook is preferred, but it's only attractive when it comes naturally/from personal experience. Getting on the internet and learning it from reddit/YouTube/whatever is gross
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 09:24 PM
1

I don't think that phrase is about emotions specifically, I think they're talking about maturity in general and saying that a woman basically stops developing cognitively at teenagerhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 09:22 PM
1

That also wasn't the question. Any of these guys now could lock down some plain girl who's more interested in kids than him and have dull, procreative sex a few times a year. was ever a time in human history where awkward, introverted men were having the sex lives that men complain about not having now?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/22 07:56 PM
1

My man and I both have high n counts (by RPWs standards, anyway) and in both our cases it was a product of having an adventurous and pleasure-seeking personality type with almost no neuroticism. It's this same compatibility that has us bonded so hard and keeps us so sexually active with each other. Neither of us have strayed or felt any urge to. We'd both make terrible partners to someone remotely trad or restrictive, but we're perfect for each other.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 07:53 PM
1

Sorry, but it's blindingly obvious that was written by a man who's never experienced female sexuality first hand. 1 - it doesn't work this way. A woman doesn't need experience to tell if a sexual encounter is great or not. I've never once found myself comparing a partner to someone in my history, sex is either amazing or it's not. There's no ranking and comparing that goes on in a woman's head. 2 - again, if your first time was shit, it was shit. The fact that it was first doesn't lead to any ro…
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 07:34 PM
1

Completely different. Opposite sex friendships don't work out because of attraction. My gay friends are like girlfriends, my SO has a butch dyke friend who's basically a dude. It's not a problem.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/22 07:13 AM
1

Are you suggesting that there was ever a time in human history where awkward, introverted men were having the sex lives that men complain about not having now?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 11:34 PM
1

And how's that working out for you?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 08:56 PM
1

Refusing to do things you don't like for a long -term tradeoff is a child's mentality. I prefer to eat pizza everyday but I cook healthy meals. I prefer to work from home, but engaging face to face with my clients earns me more money. Socializing and meeting new people is what's going to help you with women. If you refuse to do that, then that's on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 08:44 PM
1

I am heavily introverted. I had to learn to put that act on to get ahead. Throwing your arms up and saying it's too hard is giving up. Fair enough, but you can't complain if you've chosen you'd rather not do the work.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 08:24 PM
1

No, one out of date OkCupid "study". Show me the others. And those traits don't affect women's attractiveness as much as men's. If you want to be attractive to women, you need to stop doing things that women find repulsive.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 08:14 PM
2

All the more reason to get out there.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 08:09 PM
2

No, it is EXACTLY what introverted men need to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/22 08:08 PM
29

You're mixing up RP with trad. You can be a great, desirable partner to someone with similar values to you. Trying to lock down some restrictive tradcon is probably not going to work out, and I suspect he wouldn't be all that appealing to you either. I have a RP relationship with my guy - he's successful and masculine and a leader, but also heavily tattooed and has a very wild past. He's never asked my n count because he couldn't care less, and would probably prefer me to have some tattoos. Give…
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/22 07:46 AM
1

i'm literally saying that they way men are carrying on about FDS makes them look like women. because women are emotional. can you please read things in context.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 02:27 AM
1

ok, let's do the same thing again and see if you catch my point TRP love to put women into boxes with good girls and sluts, but many display the same traits as a lot of the sluts they complain about. It's more so perplexes me rather than angers me.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/22 02:19 AM
5

being an RPW has nothing to do with your virginity
/r/RedPillWomen06/05/22 02:17 AM
1

In what way?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 09:12 PM
2

No one would consider that a chubby man
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 09:06 PM
1

It was the same in my case I thought it was so strange. I went through maybe a year of very invasive testing before they ordered a sperm analysis for my ex-partner and found that the problem was on his end. A lot of doctors just assume the issue is caused by the woman
/r/MensRights05/05/22 04:42 PM
1

There's no leveling the playing field. Sexual success has always been and will always be a competition. The only way to get what you want is to be better than the person next to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/22 03:50 AM
1

He unblocked me, I can see his profile again
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 08:45 PM
1

Creativity
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 08:44 PM
1

If men don't give a shit, then who should?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 08:43 PM
1

Yeah I had it maybe a month ago and it hit me way harder than I expected. Spent a full week completely useless.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 10:24 AM
1

And are men looking at all those ugly, old, fat girls?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 08:53 AM
1

Acceptable to women. Women get mad when men generalize them. Men get mad when women generalize them. If you're only listening to women talk to each other, of course it's going to look one sided. Stop obsessing over what women say.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 08:01 AM
1

Neither, I'm not saying anything about you. I'm stating a fact about how autistic intelligence differs from neurotypical.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 07:38 AM
1

Autism is the opposite of original thinking. It's computational intelligence without the spark.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 06:23 AM
1

There's an interesting theory around the "mavericks" having a higher percentage of neanderthal DNA. Also a big cross over with ADHD/impulsive personalities.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 06:22 AM
1

OPs point was that women are predicable and don't like being told so. He implied that this was a female trait rather than a human one.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 06:20 AM
1

Yes human/male/female natures all exist. No people don't like the feeling of being reduced to a faceless stereotype. Are either of these surprising to anyone?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 06:19 AM
1

I think they're both entirely nuts. Telling that you call Amber a narcissist while poor Johnny can't be blamed because of his mommy issues.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 06:03 AM
1

FDS cautions men about male nature and how to deal. TRP is a boys club for AFCs to bang hot women The solipsism is amazing to watch lol. Just because you have an emotional reaction to the female version of it doesn't make it any different. You sounds like girls stumbling across TRP and clutching their pearls.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/22 01:43 AM
1

All of my friends are women in their 30s, and I've never seen any of them lie about their age.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 08:46 PM
1

Ok Aileen, maybe, although there was a lot more going on in her life than "hatred of men". Dorothea killed for money, nothing to do with hating men. The other three are from the 16-1800s lol not going to entertain those.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 06:28 AM
1

There has been plenty of documentation of women who hated men turned serial killers throughout history lol where?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 02:19 AM
2

To me it was always "Strong, independent, account to no-one, fuck who I want" for her and "Traditional gender roles" for him. so the exact inverse of TRP then...
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/22 02:15 AM
2

No, it's not a given. People who want to be fun want it because it's fun, not because it gets them something else. If you try to play the part of the fun guy while actually looking down on fun people, you're not going to get anywhere. Sort your own head out, let go of that bitterness and anxiety, and actually HAVE fun.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 10:58 PM
1

Yet you'll all cry about afbb lol
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 10:47 PM
1

You talk about it and dump her if she's not on the same page. It's not controlling to have boundaries, you're more than welcome to leave if she acts in a way you don't like.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/22 02:44 AM
2

Certain people. For most people it's intuitive and doesn't need explaining.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 07:15 AM
1

Haha ok whatever
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 06:51 AM
2

Yeah I don't know sorry. Most girls I know, incl the masculine ones, want a guy more manly than them. The ones who genuinely enjoy being in charge in a masculine way are all gay.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:55 AM
2

What are you looking for? A woman to take on the dominant role?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:33 AM
1

It's what humans do. You can learn to spot it, or you can take everything literally and hate women for being women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:32 AM
1

Ok well in my case I'm with a very dominant, masculine man and he likes that I'm capable and independent and don't fall to pieces when he gets into the types of situations that masculine men tend to get into. If I was a typically feminine woman I would need a lot more reassurance and comfort, and that's not who he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:23 AM
1

I'm talking masculine in behaviour, not looks. They want a male brain in a hot female body. Femininity is weak and annoying to masculine men. Feminine girls need to be reassured and coddled and can't handle being around masculine anger or violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 02:00 AM
1

Haha are you my ex?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 01:37 AM
1

I actually don't think it's a conscious lie most of the time. Women often don't know why they want what they want. Similar to men who say they want a nice girl and then chase the hot slut. I don't think they mean to lie, they just aren't very self aware.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 01:24 AM
1

A man who works with his hands/body will always be more viscerally attractive than someone who sits at a desk typing. It will help his SMV, not his RMV. Having a well paid or prestigious career will attact a woman who's interested in stability and status, but it won't turn her on.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:54 AM
1

That's what they say. I haven't seen it work that way in real life though.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:51 AM
1

?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:04 AM
1

No, the opposite I think. Men who want the soft wilting flower of a woman tend to be softer themselves. All the really masculine guys I know end up with more masculine (in behaviour) women.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:03 AM
6

Select for mental stability and resilience. If one or both partners is overly sensitive, fights start cropping up out of nowhere. Be generous with how you see your partner. He is going to do things that upset you sometimes, make a habit of seeing these as innocent rather than malicious. Choose a man who you feel respect and admiration for. If you don't look up to him in some way, you'll end up hating him.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/22 12:01 AM
1

Yes I am a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 11:53 PM
1

When what you enjoy is obsessing over and correcting how women think, you're 100% in their frame.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 11:39 PM
1

Talk about living in women's frame lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 11:33 PM
1

Yeah but why do you care. You can see how women work, just act accordingly.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 11:18 PM
1

I think the female claim that they don't pay because it's up to the person who does the asking out to pay is well and truly debunked Why does this even deserve "debunking" lol. It's so obvious.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 11:06 PM
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Why does everyone act like dating is or should be symmetrical? Men have always been the pursuers, it's just the way biology and as a result our culture operates. If I went on a date with a guy and he didn't make some kind of effort to appear like HE was pursuing ME, I'd assume he wasn't into me and lose interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/22 11:03 PM
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Do you have a solution to suggest or are you just here to complain?
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 09:31 AM
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Why are you telling us? This is a post for a men's sub
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 09:30 AM
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Hey /u/pearlsandstilettos is this /r/redpillwomen or /r/MGTOWscomplainaboutmarriage? OP and most of the commenters are men with no RP post history
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 08:48 AM
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According to who? What numbers?
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 08:47 AM
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Well I doubt OP is talking about whatever bizarro land you live in where courts just take people's houses.
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 08:46 AM
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my dad specifically told me that and that the court went ahead with seizing the house anyway. Your dad is wrong
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 07:26 AM
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If anyone needs help in a divorce, the government should help Does this include wives who sacrificed their own earnings and career progression to raise children?
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 07:25 AM
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Alimony is only awarded in extremely rare cases nowadays, and the splitting of assets generally only covers those acquired as joint property during the marriage. How is this unfair?
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/22 07:15 AM
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It literally is, you just don't understand the meaning of the term.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/22 01:28 AM
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Radical feminism is not the dominant feminism today. Most modern feminism are completely at odds with radfems. I feel like a lot of people use radical in this sense to stand in for passionate or extreme. Radical feminism is an actual school of thought that is very far removed from intersectional/online/modern feminism.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/22 01:35 AM
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And women do what?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 01:25 PM
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By that logic all men are even worse, since her work crush is married with a newborn.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 12:47 PM
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Who is a man if he's not the things he does? What essence exactly do you guys want to be loved for?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 11:22 AM
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Can you answer the question?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 10:49 AM
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Well I mean even if my job benefited no one but "the boss", if I got personal satisfaction from it I would continue working. Some women truly do enjoy career achievement in its own right and that's fine.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 10:28 AM
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In a recent med school student thread there were women saying they would rather work than be a SAHM even if their husband could support them. So? I'm not a feminist by any means, but I enjoy having a high powered career that makes a difference in the world. My SO supported me for a couple of years when I thought I wanted to stay home, he's more than capable of supporting us financially, but it turns out I'm happier when I'm working. I don't think this is due to any insidious programming, it's ju…
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 06:47 AM
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No I'm not critiquing your formatting, I'm critiquing the way you've cherry picked outdated and out of context lines to make a point. I see feminists use the same tactic all the time, and it's intellectually dishonest regardless of which "side" is doing it.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 06:13 AM
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Opening with paragraphs of what feminists of a different wave said 70 years ago certainly dilutes your message that feminism today is anti choice.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 05:31 AM
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Mainstream modern feminism is, in many ways, worse than anything de Beauvoir has said. then why not focus on that? there's nothing wrong with looking at the history, but to use that as an argument against following it today is a strawman. the political party i vote for today has some VERY questionable roots, and 100 years ago was doing things i would never support. should the way the party looked back then influence my vote, or should i look at their policies and beliefs today?
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 04:39 AM
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There are plenty of arguments to be made against feminism today, but plucking 70 year old quotes entirely out of context isn't honest nor helpful. Second wave feminism arose in a political and social climate entirely different to today's, and mainstream modern feminism does not resemble de Beauvoir's at all.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/22 03:57 AM
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That's obvious virtue signaling. Why you guys take that seriously, I have no idea.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 12:52 AM
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Sort of, I think I'm saying something a little different though. I think you're saying a high status man can get away with hookers BECAUSE of his status. I'm saying that high status men tend to use hookers for different reasons to desperate men, and it's this reason that makes it ick or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 12:41 AM
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Seeing hookers for no strings fun gets a shrug. Seeing hookers because no other woman will look at you gets an ick. It's not the hookers, it's the man.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/22 12:31 AM
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But you still get upset at women not behaving like men. Good luck with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 11:44 PM
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Do you think so?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 11:32 PM
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Because men aren't women. As long as you treat women as defective men you'll be miserable with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 11:15 PM
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She never should have had kids with him, that was stupid. But a grown man with 2 kids who refuses to work IS a loser. Both can be true.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 10:56 PM
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This is why you can't get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 10:12 PM
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And if they don't express those inner worlds how is a woman supposed to love him for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 10:10 PM
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And how's that working out for them? Relationships and sex are inherently messy, emotionally, human experiences. Trying to wedge them into a scientific view is retarded and helps no one.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 10:06 PM
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Who is a man if he's not the things he does? What essence exactly do you guys want to be loved for?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/22 10:05 PM
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We have a perfect case study where men are able to get sex with ease, and it's gay men.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 09:58 AM
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Yes. When female caution is removed from the equation, men fuck freely. In hetero relationships the male sex drive is tempered.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 09:42 AM
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Have you seen how gay men date?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/22 09:34 AM
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What does talking about negative experiences have to do with responsive sex drive? No woman is saying we get horny when our partners talk about their trauma lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/22 10:40 PM
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Well I'm not comparing girls vs guys getting hookups, because that's stupid Can you read?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 02:32 AM
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Well I'm not comparing girls vs guys getting hookups, because that's stupid. I'm talking about men being able to have non committed sex now vs in the past. Men have more options than ever before, and they're still whining about it because they see someone else having a bit more. It's so childish.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/22 12:54 AM
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I've seen it said here that there's never been a time in history where men could fuck a young woman and prevent her from fucking other men without having to marry her. What exactly are men complaining about? There has never, ever been a time where men are getting more strings free sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 11:56 PM
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I would sooner die than fuck a robot.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 11:53 PM
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Autism is a lot more than hyperfixation. The lack of social fluency and nuance that is a turn off.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 01:57 AM
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Yes https://autisticandunapologetic.com/2020/09/12/why-do-autistic-people-love-anime/
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 01:49 AM
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Yes. It's not a coincidence that the anime/autism/trans overlap is so huge.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 12:34 AM
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That's a dad bod? His physique is way hotter than the sculpted disproportionate gym bros.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/22 12:32 AM
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absolutely. and it's extra stupid when a man tries to mimic it as a gotcha.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 07:11 AM
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the PPD classic. "i think women say stupid things, so i'm going to act just as stupid. that will show them!"
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/22 07:01 AM
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Cool, be single then. The rest of us will keep on fucking. You're just making it easier for everyone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 01:45 PM
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Funny, it's always the guys with zero experience saying this. What a coincidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 01:38 PM
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Good luck finding a car with no mileage and proven performance
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 01:37 PM
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If a car's driven 100,000 miles and still runs reliably, I'd prefer that over an unknown.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/04/22 08:44 AM
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And kill any chance of romance and attraction. Good luck.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 05:37 AM
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exactly. so he's settling for what he doesn't want.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 05:03 AM
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most men can't ride the carousel, even if they desperately want to Can you read what you're actually responding to? If he desperately wants to ride the carousel, then no, he's not delighted to commit to some girl who can't do better
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 04:57 AM
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Someone unattractive who is settling for her you mean?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 04:49 AM
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most men can't ride the carousel, even if they desperately want to right, so even if they don't reject you it's out of a desperation to get sex. why would a woman want to be with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 01:42 AM
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yeah, i've said this here before, but my SO is a textbook case of the male AFBB. when he was in his 20s, he exclusively dated/fucked BPD stripper types. now that he's older he's settled down with me, a mentally stable UMC career girl who he can hold a conversation with and rely on. he still gets plenty of interest from these girls, but has grown out of all the drama that comes with them.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/22 01:32 AM
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Without exaggerating, I told my ex maybe a hundred times in plain language that I was at my limit and needed things to change. I told him I was done and looking for places to live alone. He made fun of me for being dramatic. It wasn't until I'd signed a lease that he was all surprised Pikachu face wondering what went wrong. Some people are being told loud and clear but refuse to receive the message.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 01:23 AM
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i think a lot of people dismiss their partner's complaints until the love is gone and it's too late. then they say "wow where did this come from?!" when in reality their spouse has been telling them it's coming for a long time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/22 01:04 AM
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Yes. That's normal flirting. No one texts their crush and says hey would you like to come over and have sex with me? No? What about a blow job? That would be weird lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:37 PM
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It's not one or the other. Having casual sex has not prevented me from building deep, committed relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 10:35 PM
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Ok and why should we limit our enjoyment if it falls outside of it's biological "purpose"?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 10:26 PM
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"intended" by who? Who chooses what sex is for?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 10:03 PM
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No one's denying it matters to the men who ask about it. Women who lie about it don't think his concerns should outweigh her own privacy. I wouldn't lie about it because I'd never date a man who cared/asked about it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 09:27 PM
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What do men find sexy about tits and a small waist? It's just hot in itself. And lol at what "should" be attractive. It is what it is.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 06:07 PM
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Speak for yourself. I'm attracted to height because it's sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 12:16 PM
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You really think women only prefer height for status? Weird take. I like tall men because it's hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:41 AM
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Where do you get this from? Have you been a woman before?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:26 AM
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It's mostly a status thing. A taller man looks more conventional in photos and makes other women jealous. lol no
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/22 11:21 AM
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how so?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 11:34 PM
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sexual liberation
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 11:21 PM
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they don't
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 11:18 PM
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yeah you've misunderstood what cuckoldry is. just call it sexually liberated culture. why incorrectly insert a charged word like cuck?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 11:14 PM
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you can't just redefine cuck yourself lol the word has an actual meaning and it's not what you describe
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/22 11:09 PM
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so we agree that the availability of porn today is not at all comparable to the past, then. to ignore that this impacts sex lives is being completely ignorant.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 10:23 PM
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I was able to get sexy posters for free just by helping people move and scrounging what they didn't want to take with them Are you seriously saying helping a guy move house in exchange for a couple of pre-used still images is at all comparable to endless, free, streaming video porn of every fetish imaginable?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 09:59 PM
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Are you guys really so autistic that you can't understand how it's hurtful to make fun of a medical condition?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 07:16 AM
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he wanted to get a message across, and he did. i don't think rock will joke about his wife again
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 06:36 AM
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lol i can't even follow you guys. your arguments are like an anti-feminist fever dream. you don't even know what point you're trying to make.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 06:27 AM
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the pearl clutching over a slap is hilarious. he didn't injure the man, he lost his cool but was actually quite restrained. if someone made fun of a medical condition i was insecure about in front of my SO, i can guarantee he would do a lot worse than slapping lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 06:26 AM
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martial arts doesn't have a veto on why people slap each other lol when i was a kid i'd get smacked if i misbehaved. my parents weren't trying to injure me, they were trying to teach me a lesson. same thing. Didn't go too well for him. aw good on you big boy!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 06:23 AM
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has nothing to do with what he said though? neither of you are making any sense lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 06:21 AM
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fat is a choice. if someone made fun of my partner's medical condition and it hurt him i'd want to slap them too.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 06:18 AM
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feminists absolutely do not say that rich and poor are treated equally. what are you talking about. this is a rich man slapping another rich man, what does it have to do with feminism?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 06:09 AM
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if you are going into fray, your intent should be to end this fight as quick as possible, preferably by rendering the opponent unable to fight. says who? who makes the slapping rules lol a slap can get a message across without injuring someone, i think that's all he wanted
/r/PurplePillDebate30/03/22 05:59 AM
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And by that autistic approach, the reverse is true and men are only interested in the top 20%. Not old, not fat, not crazy, etc etc
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/22 08:28 PM
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Take it back to the incel subs
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/22 08:06 PM
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That's bs
/r/RedPillWomen29/03/22 07:42 PM
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Are you naturally manic or on meth?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/22 07:27 AM
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oh no I agree completely on the clear communication part. that's a must if there's something bothering you. it was more this kind of approach: Also note that I phrased everything sweetly (lots of pleases and thank yous) and gave him an incentive for his efforts (more fun time with his girlfriend). Before people say that you shouldn’t be praised for “the bare minimum,” I’ve found that appreciation and positive reinforcement are far more successful motivators than just expecting your standards to …
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 11:57 PM
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I do struggle with giving instructions like he's a child I really feel you on this and I'm sorry you're in this situation. I had an ex who became very messy after we moved in together, and I felt like I was constantly following him around tidying just to keep the place liveable. I tried every trick in the RPW book, and while the/u/SunshineSundress approach was the most effective in getting housework done, it was also very effective in nuking my respect for him. I am a woman who simply cannot bab…
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 11:02 PM
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passing judgment and making assumptions like some other comments seem to be doing. Where? I haven't seen anyone passing judgement here. If you're reading "judgement" into these comments that are trying to help you, I suspect you're also reading judgement into innocent interactions in the real world. This seems like a you problem.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 08:35 PM
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Sorry but this is nonsense. 80-90% of men do not settle for whatever they can get.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 02:34 AM
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I'd never marry for anything else. Hurdles in a relationship are far more manageable when you're wildly in love.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/22 02:31 AM
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Did you flirt with and seduce her like you did before the wedding?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/22 12:53 AM
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hah yeah we've done that a couple times. it's hot.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/03/22 06:13 AM
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Literal eugenicist lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 12:34 AM
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so no one who can't provide a comfortable, home-owning, debt-free life to their children shouldn't have them? RIP the entire developing world I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 12:22 AM
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Why wouldn’t you try to minimize the unnecessary suffering and struggle your kid has to go through? sure, but where's the limit? at what level of "suffering" is it better to not exist at all? when you have student loans? when you can't afford to buy a house with a yard? it's so precious. people have been bringing children into MUCH worse conditions for all of human history, and these people had meaningful lives. this is the comfiest and safest we've even been, especially in the west.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 11:55 PM
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Yeah I hate the "don't want kids because the world is fucked" argument. It's so disingenuous. Yeah there's issues, but that's just reality and the world is better and safer than it's ever been.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 09:29 PM
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if majority of people say something is creepy or wierd that doesn’t mean they are right yes it does. creepy/weird are just terms for what the majority of people feel grossed out by. there's no objective measure of "creepy".
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 03:58 AM
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i think you're getting outraged over nothing, because the chances of a 25 year old ever wanting to jump into bed with a 55 year old is close to nil. why would an attractive young women want to date an old wrinkly grandpa in his 50s or 60s?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/03/22 03:55 AM
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If brad pitt watched porn and played video games you wouldn't date him? Ok sure If he was a porn brained shut in, then no I wouldn't date him Porn and videogames existed in the 90s and early 2000s before dating went to shit. Not on the scale we have now. We have whole swathes of men who'd rather stay inside and wank than go out and meet women. I don't know if it's the T levels or what, but it's very unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 09:57 PM
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Porn and video games have changed everything. I look at young men today and honestly I would just be a lesbian if those were my options. It's gross.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 01:41 PM
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I think young men have become very passive and effeminate and unable to trigger women's attraction. This is probably what you're seeing
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 01:14 PM
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Are you actually saying that 80% of men can't find a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 01:06 PM
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ok then no i wouldn't like it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 02:05 AM
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"comfy amount" doesn't mean anything to me. If he makes enough that a $200 dinner is a normal, weekly occurrence for him, I'd be fine with it. If it was a special expense in an effort to impress me, I'd be turned off.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 02:02 AM
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How much do they make?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 01:55 AM
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Unless he was so wealthy that's spare change for him, I'd think he was trying too hard.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/22 01:44 AM
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do they normally discuss it and make the decision together?
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/22 11:48 PM
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It's probably worth pointing out that you're in an arranged marriage. In the west, one half of a married couple unilaterally deciding to leave the country alone would be very unusual. Considered pretty unacceptable. In your culture? I don't know. You'll get better advice from people who understand the kind of marriage that you're in.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/22 06:49 AM
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Are you actually saying that 80% of men can't find a relationship? Unattractive people pair off every day. Go outside.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/03/22 05:52 AM
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Prostitution is fully legal where I live, the smp is exactly the same. Sex workers are used by married men stepping out on their wives, ethnic guys who can't be seen having sex before marriage, and traveling businessmen who want to let off steam in a new city. It doesn't overlap at all with the regular dating and casual sex scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 08:21 PM
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"Your honor just because my client consented to committing this crime doesn't mean he consented to being arrested" Lol right? "I didn't consent to being hit by a truck when I wandered out into the highway" Ok and? That isn't going to help you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 10:31 AM
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"Consent" is agreeing to have someone perform an action on you. Parenthood is not an issue of consent, it's a result of biology.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/03/22 10:25 AM
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If you had a less autistic approach to women you probably wouldn't be here complaining about them
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 08:00 PM
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I like dates to feel romantic, not like a business transaction. It feels nice to have a man take me out and look after me, and there are plenty of men who enjoy doing so. Why would I spoil the fun?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 08:42 AM
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That's becoming attractive, not negotiating attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 08:39 AM
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If any of the "red" guys here actually read TRP they'd know that you can't negotiate attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 04:59 AM
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Congrats?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 04:14 AM
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I'm obviously talking about continental Europe, genius
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 04:10 AM
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Because she lived in Europe
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 03:22 AM
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Yeah my Aunt got pregnant in the 60s and flew from Europe to London to get it taken care of. More annoying but definitely available if you need it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 03:04 AM
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You simply can't keep up a house to such a standard alone while working a demanding job and taking care of yourself. I don't think anyone here would say that it's your "wifely duty" to do so. If you're going to go down that trad route, then it's your partner's "husbandly duty" to provide for you financially. If you're both working similar hours then I'd suggest that you both take care of the house, and you both get to enjoy some downtime. Doing everything yourself is a short path to burn out and…
/r/RedPillWomen07/03/22 08:14 PM
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It's not about crazy being hot, it's about most men needing to feel needed and superior to be happy. The don't tolerate hypoagency, the revel in it. I've had multiple exes get turned off when I demonstrated too much competence. One of them just about walked out when I accepted a job that paid more than his. Most relationships I've been in have run smoother and more harmoniously when I feign a bit of stupidity and allow my man to rescue me cause I'm just a ditzy girl teehee. Thank God my SO is no…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/03/22 03:10 AM
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After my divorce I specifically looked for older men. Men my age are honestly a bit useless and I wanted someone who'd already had any kids they wanted. Worked out really well and I'm far more attracted to him than my age-matched exes. I definitely didn't settle.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 08:39 PM
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People should keep doing whatever gets them the results they want. If a man wants to be attractive to women, he should definitely avoid makeup
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/22 04:28 PM
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What is your idea of the perfect or near perfect relationship? I don't fantasize like this. I know it when I'm in it, but I've never sat down and thought about a hypothetical relationship would look like What is it that initially drew you to your partner? He had an interesting style and a cocky attitude and he flirted with me What is it about your partner that you love or simply find irresistible? A million things. His attitude to life, his resilience, how funny he is, how tough he is (physicall…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/22 05:23 AM
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yeah i didn't say it would work for every guy ever. i think around here in these weird corners of the internet, the issue for most guys is not that they're so ugly it's hopeless, it's that they're awkward introverts who spend too much time online and develop weird mental loops around women. taking a break from all the theoretical stuff and actually experiencing the world first hand would put them in a much better place to get what they want.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 10:38 PM
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What's nihilistic about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 06:36 AM
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Yep!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 06:36 AM
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the one common thread between the men who have won me over is masculine boldness. in how you approach women, but also just in life in general. if a guy engages with the world in a brazen, confident way i'll almost always find him interesting and attractive. i think 90% of men's dating woes here could be solved by getting off the internet and hitch-hiking through some shitty country for a while. take some drugs and party recklessly to beat that neuroticism out of you. endure some hardship and get…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/22 03:10 AM
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She's not his "partner" though, she's not even his girlfriend. Part of dating is understanding that this person has a life that includes a job. It's not really realistic to date a 26 year old woman and not expect her job to be a factor in scheduling plans.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/22 12:06 AM
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How did you make the leap from "being able to win a fight is hot" to "men who don't win fights don't get laid"? I swear to god you guys need a logic 101 class before coming in here. I am a woman, and I am telling you from personal experience that being able to fight is an incredibly sexy trait to me
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 10:14 PM
0

Interesting, did you grow up around violence? My guy hasn't been in a fight for 10 years, well before I met him, but he's got the scars and the stories. Just knowing he's got the aggression in him to protect me if things ever turned violent is a huge part of my attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 08:39 PM
-1

Hm I don't find that sexy. Useful and admirable, but not sexy like a man using actual hands-on violence.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 08:28 PM
-2

There is something viscerally attractive about a man who can fight though. Even if you never need it, just knowing he could protect you in a bad situation is very sexy
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 08:15 PM
2

Nah there is something viscerally attractive about a man who can physically protect you through violence
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 08:08 PM
2

Lol where did you get that from? You guys need to try reading a little harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 01:12 PM
5

Yep. Once you're beyond your 20s it's all about attitude and sensuality.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 08:27 AM
6

it has less to do with him looking like chris hemsworth, and more to do with him continuing to bring flirty, seductive energy into the relationship. my SO is no supermodel, but he looks after himself, has his shit together, and he hits on me just like he did when we met. he'll slap my ass when i walk by, look me up and down when i'm getting dressed, whisper disgusting things in my ear when we're out for dinner. him keeping that going keeps me horny for him, keeps me wanting to look good for him,…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/22 05:28 AM
2

Haha my guy's dad was a hell's angel. He lived on the streets from 16 and started his first business at 23. Whatever trust fund kid you have in mind, that is not my SO. You guys are absolutely incapable of believing that some men are tough and masculine and forward, and that this makes them attractive to women. It's so bitter lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 09:30 PM
3

I actually didn't know that he owned the business when I agreed to the date, I thought he just worked there. But yes that was a bonus when I found out he was the owner. Women like men who work hard and succeed. Shocking.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:37 PM
1

No he was actually a perfect gentleman and just dropped me home. If he'd asked to come in though I probably would have let him
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 08:34 PM
2

I'm not going to dox us
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 04:12 PM
1

Why are you here?
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 11:13 AM
3

Lol you sound very young.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/22 06:08 AM
5

Yep! He's really funny and cocky and had me blushing straight away. Asked for my number, and called me the next day to line up a date. Been together 18 months now.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/22 05:36 AM
2

well yes that's what marriage means.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 10:38 PM
1

Then what are you talking about? I was talking about sticking by a spouse, not some boyfriend
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 10:11 PM
2

Are you going to marry someone with the intention of abandoning them when things get hard?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 10:04 PM
0

Money doesn't make a man sexy, it makes him stable
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:12 AM
2

This is why the princess Diana story is so popular, men will marry women far beneath them socioeconomically because that isn't what we're looking for Diana came from straight up British nobility. She wasn't some waitress he stooped to marry lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/22 05:08 AM
1

If you're too lazy to read the post then yeah you should probably leave
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/22 11:32 PM
2

Exactly Male and female sexuality are treated differently because they are different. It's not hypocritical to say so.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 11:26 PM
1

Porn brain
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 10:30 PM
1

Yes, everything you're describing is lazy and passive. If you can't pick up a woman you're attracted to then you need to fix yourself or fix your standards
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 09:43 PM
1

Yes exactly you're proving my point. Porn has made men lazy and passive.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:57 PM
1

Sure
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:29 PM
1

Depends who you listen to
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:01 PM
2

Gross
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 08:00 PM
12

Because you're listening to women talk to other women. Go into a bar full of men, or say, TRP, and ask them what they think of female sexuality. It's not quite as flattering. If I spent my time reading conversations between men I could easily write the exact reverse of your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 10:19 AM
20

I see both sides of it on this one. I do believe TRP when they say a man can fuck another woman without it affecting his love for his partner. I also believe that any man with half a brain knows that this will devastate the woman he loves. Choosing to do that, especially if he tells her, is a completely loveless action.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 07:01 AM
-2

Don't try to separate the two. Porn is and always has been a replacement for sex. It serves no other purpose. When you're so passive and pornsick that you'd rather wank to a screen than fuck a real life woman, there's something wrong. This is what women are grossed out by.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 06:39 AM
-1

A perfect example of porn brain right here
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 06:16 AM
1

Vaginismus
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 12:21 AM
-1

How is it equivalent? If a man's dick doesn't work you can't have sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/22 12:04 AM
3

He's being facetious
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/22 10:07 PM
3

Nah I wouldn't get into a relationship if he couldn't have sex, regardless of the reason. Sort your stuff out and we can try once things work again.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 01:16 PM
6

Well then it's not unexplained ED, is it
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 12:06 PM
–

Hahahah
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 11:14 AM
27

Depends how long we've been together and how serious it is. A new boyfriend with unexplained ED? Seeya. An injured husband, different.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 10:03 AM
8

No, women do not say to invite a man out, change the plans after you arrive, get halfway through your solo dinner and then tell your date that you have literally no money on you and they'll need to buy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 09:55 AM
17

We weren't even planning on going for dinner, it was meant to be a drink at a bar and I was planning on paying for my own. It was his idea to eat, I hadn't even ordered anything lol I was just sitting next to him to be polite while he ate his shitty $12 curry. What double standard exactly are you talking about? You're stretching so fucking hard to be outraged lol you're giving the feminists a run for their money.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 09:41 AM
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I'm not impressed by flashy high effort dates. Nowadays I'd like to go to a dark wine bar where we can talk and flirt and get a bit tipsy.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 07:46 AM
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Yeah probably. Showed he had money and a good upbringing, it's also a little more creative and shows more investment than dinner and a movie.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 07:02 AM
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I actually don't think I've ever had a pick up line used on me. Usually people just strike up a conversation
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 05:15 AM
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That's so adorable ♥️♥️♥️ If a man doesn't like/get along with animals I'm immediately a bit suss of him
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 05:12 AM
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My ex took me sailing when we were getting to know one another and that went down well with my friends
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 05:10 AM
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Do whatever gets you the date, then turn up without the high heels on and charm her.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 05:08 AM
0

Hahaha omg
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 05:03 AM
25

I agreed to meet a guy for drinks and at the last minute he said he was actually starving and can we stop for a bite to eat on our way to the bar. I wasn't hungry but said sure, I'll sit with you while you eat. It was just a super casual cafeteria style place. About half way through his meal he stopped and said "oh btw I'm short on cash this week, you don't mind paying for this, right?" I laughed at first, then realized he was serious. I got up, apologized, and just left him there with his dinne…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/22 04:59 AM
1

23% of US children attend a Catholic church?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 11:39 PM
4

Sure but how many kids are in the public school system vs the Catholic church. You need to look at it on a per Capita basis for the numbers to be meaningful
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 09:36 PM
1

I think it does
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:30 PM
0

It's awkward when people are self deprecating, and it's just a polite way of defusing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 08:57 AM
2

I think you should stick to your own language sorry
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:25 AM
1

This is why none of you geniuses can get laid. You're so confident in your retarded ideas of what SHOULD get women wet, that when you have someone trying to explain to you how we work you stick your fingers in your ears. Good luck with that lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:18 AM
1

He doesn't speak English, don't bother
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:15 AM
2

"Settle for" and "settle down with" have completely different meanings in English, genius
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:14 AM
2

That's how just about all the relationships I know of started
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 05:11 AM
4

Which mbti types wanted to be men?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 04:36 AM
3

Didn't we have this question like yesterday?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 04:33 AM
1

Lol you guys are legit retarded
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 04:33 AM
5

More red flags than a Chinese parade
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/22 02:59 AM
1

He's not advertising middle class, he's signalling UMC at worst. His target audience are looking to marry well, and they're probably not interested in a black guy. If he was white he'd be getting plenty of attention from white UMC girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/22 02:23 AM
1

I have no idea what point you're trying to make here
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 11:45 PM
1

Lol you're not making any sense. Nevermind.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 10:02 PM
3

I don't know, I might not like him. There's more to a man than his looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 09:52 PM
1

lol
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 09:30 PM
3

Because even the hottest man on earth might not be the kind of person I enjoy spending my time with
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 09:29 PM
14

The best you've had isn't always the best looking. You're forgetting that women are not men and value things beyond looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 03:15 PM
3

Bitter bitch
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 03:14 PM
35

I don't think that's a common occurrence among women who have hookups. In my circles, almost all of the marriages and LTRs started as hookups.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 03:59 AM
45

yep 100%. i would have hooked up with him and then desperately pined over him until we were a couple
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 02:47 AM
85

Women settle for a less attractive man as the hottest man can't marry all the women he slept with. I don't think many people marry the hottest person they've ever been with, but I don't think this means they're settling or unhappy with their lot. A woman's attraction depends on a lot more than looks. My SO isn't the best looking man I've ever been with, but he's by far the man I've been the most attracted to. The pretty boys I fucked 15 years ago don't hold a candle to what I have now and there'…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 02:28 AM
-2

i've seen my SO cry over stuff that actually matters, and of course i comforted him. but crying over something stupid like embarrassment or losing a fight he chose to take part in is gross. it would damage my attraction to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 01:31 AM
1

Yeah but is it sexy if he cries about it after?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 12:20 AM
3

Lol I'm curious. What do you see as an acceptable way to discuss a bill vs an incorrect way?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/22 12:18 AM
3

Lol it's so funny you guys believe this.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 10:34 PM
7

Losing a fight wouldn't turn me off, crying about it and asking for a cuddle certainly would though
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 10:30 PM
5

If he just wants to get laid, stop pushing the Duke U, nerd, ultramarathoner, good boy angle. That's not sexy. Make a profile that comes across as relaxed and fun and a bit flirty. He'd do just fine. His problem is he's trying to appeal to top tier ivy league girls with how he presents himself, but these girls are looking for a nice white guy to bring home to meet the family.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 08:08 PM
4

This guy could easily get laid if he presented himself differently. He marketing himself to a particular group of women who don't want a hookup and don't want to marry a black guy. It's that simple
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:46 PM
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Personality wise he's appealing to one set of women (Duke, ultramarathoner, etc) and those women are not going to like his looks. If he was white he'd be getting a lot of matches. UMC, well educated, disciplined girls are looking for someone to settle down with, and bringing a 5'6 black guy home to meet the family is probably not going to go well. All the talk about intimidation is virtue signaling.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:37 PM
3

No it doesn't at all. Women are not turned on by a body part in isolation. There is nothing sexy about his profile.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:35 PM
1

I'm more compatible with high n guys
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 07:27 PM
1

Had they been sleeping together? She just says talking and hanging out
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 12:16 PM
15

So I'm in a relationship with a divorced dad, and the truth is that most men just typically don't have the drive to deal with the day to day child rearing shit when they're on their own. Dealing with the school and doctors and ballet class and the dentist and and and... Men want to be around for the fun stuff, but mothers just care more about the minutiae of a child's life than fathers do. When a man's no longer fucking the mother of his kids, he typically wants to move on with his life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 12:08 PM
3

Yeah my first bf asked, but we were both virgins so it was just us figuring things out together. I haven't been asked since then.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:12 AM
0

I've never lied because no one's ever asked. I don't even know my number. If a man did ask and saw a high n as some kind of issue, I'd be turned off and not interested in him anyway. Neurotic men aren't my type.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:10 AM
-1

I wouldn't care. I've hired one myself for a threesome.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 05:05 AM
1

Fun. Maybe you really hit it off and it turns into a great relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/22 04:55 AM
1

Omg how hard is it to follow. They judged 80% of the photos they were shown as below average. In 2008, on an OLD platform that was full of ugly people. Even so, photos are a poor indicator of whether a man is attractive in real life. The 80/20 "study" guys harp on about here is bullshit.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 09:35 PM
2

Because static looks in a photo is a very poor indicator of whether a woman will be attracted to that man in real life. A huge portion of male attractiveness is his presence, humour, voice, personality. Many of those 80% who appear below average in a photo would do just fine with a woman they met in real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 08:32 PM
1

That's an amazing percentage. Below average in what way? As men in general? They're referencing an article okcupid came out with in 2008 where they found that women ranked 80% of their users as unattractive. What they ignore though, is that back in 2008, okcupid was a loser magnet. NO normal, attractive people were on that site back then, it was just the dregs. 80% of men on okcupid in 2008 WERE below average It also ignores the fact that women are incredibly shit at judging attractiveness from …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 10:37 AM
1

Yep
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 10:26 AM
8

interesting article on how being too online is turning awkward girls into they/thems. i think it's a very similar phenomenon to the inc*l/porn/anime boys and the rant i got into here the other day. The adolescent brain is in a developmental stage primed to incorporate experiences into the process of identity formation, and spending so much time in fantasy without building much of an identity through real social and life experiences can lead to the identity and fantasy elements becoming indisting…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/22 01:48 AM
1

a non-answer of course
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 05:37 AM
1

What ratio of history's wars were started and led by men vs women do you think?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 05:29 AM
3

creepiness is mostly behahioural
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/22 12:43 AM
1

Depends where you are. Going out to bars/clubs with friends? Constantly. Just out and about during the day? Maybe once a week. This is how I met my current SO
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 09:06 PM
17

You rarely come across a woman who needs to read a book every time she wants to masturbate. Lots of men are dependent on porn and can't imagine getting themselves off without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 10:26 AM
1

Because it's fun. When it stops being fun people tend to stop doing it and seek relationships instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 10:22 AM
2

No you can make online friends on discord or games, if you like some obscure thing it's easier to find like minded people online. this is exactly the problem. you can not learn actual social skills through discord. young people are becoming more and more anxious, depressed, isolated. mental health is going to shit. and it's because they're retreating to artificial online spaces instead of dealing with the messy, sometimes painful, real world. it's a temporary comfort, like alcohol or junk food, …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 02:11 AM
1

ok and? the post is about boys, not girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 01:25 AM
1

It did for generations and generations before porn and games. It's always been how young people learnt to be socially adjusted.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 12:36 AM
1

I'm not talking about "many cultures", I'm talking about the west. Bullying sucks, but it is part of what teaches kids how to act and helps them learn to be liked. But it isn't just bullying that I'm talking about. Forcing your boy onto a sports team or into boy scouts or something where he has to learn to be part of a group. To be a happy, adjusted adult you need to learn how to make other people enjoy your company. You need to provide social value, and you can't learn how to do that through th…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 12:34 AM
1

Are you deliberately misinterpreting me or can you not read?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 12:19 AM
1

Sure, and while we're at it we should tell men to stop raping. It'll be just as effective. Fact is that the weird kid will always get ostracized. That is the nature of kids and all the anti bullying programs in the world won't stop that. The question at hand is whether that weird kid should be encouraged to go through the discomfort of learning to socialize for the long term payoff that is a somewhat normal dating life, or give up and retreat into artificial comforts. I know what I would be doin…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 12:12 AM
1

They're addicted and can't fathom giving it up, even if it would help solve their social/dating issues
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/22 12:06 AM
1

I have no idea what you're trying to say
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 11:10 PM
4

No. I literally watched them grow and socialize and become less weird. At the first sign of social difficulty now, kids retreat. It's too easy to avoid social interactions now so they just give up on it and indulge in porn, anime and games. They get weirder. That is the problem. But as is the nature of addiction, they'll blame everything but the actual problem. Like an alcoholic who says he drinks because his life is a mess, while ignoring that alcohol is causing A LOT of those problems. But it'…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 10:03 PM
4

Why coddle them? They'll be happier in the long run if they do the work to not be such a loser.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:51 PM
6

I actually think there is a bit of nuance. Kids who are naturally a bit odd have historically been forced into the real world and socialized until they learn to be less odd. I grew up with guys who would almost certainly be diagnosed as autistic today, but through a whole lot of probably pretty uncomfortable socialization they are now grown and well adjusted with a wife and kids. Nowadays, at the first inkling of not fitting in, boys retreat to this online world and any social development is hal…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:49 PM
0

No, you are. These things have destroyed boys, but they're all addicted so will never admit to themselves that it's such a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:42 PM
2

Ok your friend is in a tragic situation but that has nothing to do with having kids or not. What kind of a 50 year old is living with 20 year old roommates? She should have MORE money than a woman with kids, not less. She just sounds a bit useless in general and it's probably a good thing she's not inflicting that on children. Most of the older childless women I know are living very good lives with childless men. They have plenty of money, an active social circle, interesting work, hobbies, part…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:37 PM
9

Blow up the internet, porn, anime and video games, and get the boys outside and properly socialized again. Young women aren't finding young men attractive because they're acting like weirdos.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:33 PM
-1

What is "who he is as a person?"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 08:04 PM
0

What is "for him"?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 05:21 PM
1

??
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 05:20 PM
0

That's a lot of words for "I want to cry about it"
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:05 PM
1

That's not what I'm talking about
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:04 PM
1

do you actually want to know what i mean by "silly things", or do you want to cry about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 10:12 AM
1

when women say "be vulnerable" we don't mean cry over silly things. men misinterpret it and show feminine weakness, that's not what any woman is asking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 09:17 AM
4

watch what they do, not what they say
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 06:13 AM
2

Well yeah that's like one of the best things about being with a man. Why wouldn't a woman seek that out?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 04:42 AM
3

So what should a woman actually love a man for then?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 04:39 AM
1

It's unattractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 04:38 AM
2

Vomit
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 04:10 AM
1

That's a little dramatic of you. I said that the ones who have grown up on porn and insist on maintaining that are terrible in bed. If you tie your entire worth to how good you are in bed, and you choose not to change your porn habits, then that's on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:36 AM
3

Oh no I'm very much locked down by a great guy. No porn dick in sight.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:26 AM
2

Yeah lol I'm so glad I wasn't born 10 years later. I'd probably be gay too.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:13 AM
4

How? Life of the party , everyone circles around him and he gets the crowd hype and may even seem a bit full of himself Just sounds like a fun, outgoing guy that people enjoy being around
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:08 AM
5

Oh I did lol. As soon as I drew the correlation between age and pornsickness it was very easy to avoid the gross ones and my sex life has been fantastic ever since. I feel sorry for young women though, these are their peers and it's harder to avoid. I really think it has a big part to play in rising sexlessness and lesbianism. They can't get good sex out of a man, so they give up and fuck each other lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:07 AM
3

Yeah what's with this. They act like it's literally impossible to masturbate without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 02:04 AM
26

Yes that's what a relationship is.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:54 AM
56

don’t insist you know better than I do Omg I HATE this. My first bf and I lost our virginity to each other, and for the rest of our relationship was trying to do freaky things to me cause "this is what girls like". No, it's what men pay porn actresses to pretend to like.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:53 AM
5

Because it changes the way guys have sex and what they want from you in bed. I have been with a lot of men, and there is a HUGE difference between those who came up with free online porn and those who didn't. Sex with the latter type is a million times hotter for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:50 AM
8

I don't like people whose self esteem hinges on being liked by others or getting the attention of others. Why do you think his self esteem hinges on it? Can a person not just enjoy partying and giving others a good time? I mean they're not my type to date either, but I have plenty of friends like this and it just comes from being a lively, fun person.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/02/22 01:45 AM
1

Do you know where you are? Rule zero: advice must be woman centric
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 04:46 AM
3

Regardless of all that, she's sick and his "needs" can wait.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 03:17 AM
1

If he put the word "cuddle" in inverted commas, like she said, then he was clearly fishing for sex.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 02:29 AM
2

They've been on two dates. His "needs", or rather, desire to fuck a woman 20 years his junior who's recovering from sickness, can wait.
/r/RedPillWomen13/02/22 02:27 AM
1

Repulsive, no.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 08:27 PM
1

Ok ok chill
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 08:16 PM
1

Yeah it's beautiful, but in my experience the sex goes from filthy to friendly pretty quick once you share like that. I have friends for my rambling, I prefer to keep my relationship sexy.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 11:34 AM
2

Ok honestly, I don't understand how what you describe is enough?? For me, all of the enjoyment and fun and excitement and closeness around sex is wrapped up in how that person makes me feel. Reducing that experience to their looks doesn't make sense to me at all. Not to minimize it or say there's anything wrong with it, I just can't imagine enjoying sex with someone who doesn't trigger that emotional excitement in me. It seems TOO simple.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 11:25 AM
3

That's ok! I don't understand male sexuality at all, but acknowledging that it's different and appreciating it for what it is lets me enjoy it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 11:07 AM
3

I read the bit where he said That always has to do with her behavior And I pointed out an example I've seen where it's purely about her looks not being good enough for him. Can someone point out what I'm missing? The OP is talking about women mocking other women's choices in men and triggering hypergamy. Where exactly is the difference between that and men mocking their friends for having a fat girlfriend?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 06:36 AM
2

Yeah, some guys here refuse to believe it, but women experience attraction very differently to men. For us, it is far more tied up in how he makes us feel that what he looks like. Good looks certainly help, but if he's not triggering that exciting spark feeling it's not going anywhere. I've had very eh looking guys I became obsessed with because they were so charismatic and flirtatious with me. I've also completely lost interest in very good looking guys because they didn't have that "something"…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 03:56 AM
3

Semantics
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 01:41 AM
5

What's the podcast? But yes, I think romantic relationships work better when there's a bit of space and mystique. Too much familiarity kills the sexiness. I'll never understand couples who pee in front of each other or share every thought that enters their head.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 01:21 AM
5

I need chemistry with someone and if that chemistry isn't there from the outset I can't see it developing. Either things are fiery and tense between us from the outset and I want to date you, or they're platonic and you're a friend. I've never had that chemistry build over time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 01:19 AM
3

Not really. I don't have like a number cutoff or something lol. Just someone who was free and easy and unrepressed with their sexuality. Had sex with lots of different people and enjoyed it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 01:13 AM
2

I'm not using it as a slur.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:46 AM
2

Someone who slept around a lot
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/22 12:45 AM
2

She's saying men who fret about count are insecure about their own performance
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 11:49 PM
5

I know a zillion former sluts who are now very happy wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 11:48 PM
16

Are you just going to copy paste the same response to everyone who answers your question?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 11:46 PM
2

What does that have to do with count?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 11:44 PM
11

I don't think "most men" care about it, and I don't think it's instinctual. I think it's leftover conditioning from religious purity culture, or insecurity that he won't measure up to other men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 11:41 PM
4

Yeah, and making fun of him for dating a fat girl is appearance related
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 11:37 PM
1

Different women will also weight your categories differently. Height and style is really important to me, status and body not so much. I know girls who would say the opposite. In general though, men totally miss how important the "vibe" category is. I've become obsessed with some pretty eh looking guys because they were fun and charming and flirtatious. OLD completely misses this critical mark.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 09:29 PM
2

The guys will say this is only a female thing, but age and life stage come into it a lot. If I'd met my SO in his 20s I think I would have been another in a long list of conquests. I was lucky to meet him once he'd had his slut phase and was open to something/someone more stable.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 09:22 PM
12

Not true. A friend of mine was dating a fat girl and got endless shit for it from the other guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 09:16 PM
3

i don't think i changed much after marriage, but am probably not the best judge of that. from my perspective though, i stayed the same size, i took on more of the household duties, i was as good a wife as i could be. my marriage actually ended because my ex changed/came off his best behaviour and i couldn't bear to spend my life with this new person.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/22 01:10 AM
1

I'm sure it looks that way to men who don't understand how women work.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 07:04 PM
1

You're welcome
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 07:03 PM
4

Lol you know I didn't actually believe in misogyny til I found this place. I've never come across a group that gets so horny over hating women, and I used to be in the military.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 06:01 AM
0

sure, that's what it looks like when you only hear one side of the story. i suspect her husband would give a little more nuance if he were here. if he's a good husband, she should trust that he knows what he's doing. if he's not, then she's married a poor leader and should be more concerned with that than the holiday.
/r/RedPillWives07/02/22 05:25 AM
4

i think 99% of the frustration in this sub is just men noticing that women are different and getting agitated by it, and vice versa. we really are from different planets, and accepting that makes everything run sooo much smoother.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 04:19 AM
3

yeah this is it. after a long day my guy sits on the balcony with his guitar and just fiddles around for a while. doesn't want to talk, doesn't want me sitting with him, just needs some space and time in his own head. i don't get it, but i know it serves the same purpose as me babbling at him about my day.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 04:09 AM
6

autism
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 02:33 AM
0

sure, but what's the point of coming to RPW if you don't have trust in your husband's decisions? the only thing that sets us apart from a regular relationships sub is that we seek male-led relationships. it's a sub for learning how to nurture that dynamic, not bending our men to do whatever we want.
/r/RedPillWives07/02/22 01:50 AM
13

this is how women build intimacy and feel better about difficult things. just the act of sharing vulnerability and feelings with someone can lift an emotional weight. sometimes just talking through a problem or venting helps me think through it better and put it in perspective, often i'll vent to a girlfriend about something that's been really distressing me and by the time i get to the end i realise it's not actually as bad as i felt it was. just because men don't work this way and don't like b…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 01:47 AM
25

It's an excuse to try and monopolize your time because women like having control. you really don't understand women at all. i get that it's annoying and you shouldn't listen to it if you don't want to, but it has absolutely nothing to do with control lol
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/22 01:11 AM
5

Why not say that then? "Get your shit together woman!" isn't advice
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/22 11:40 PM
3

How is this helpful? She's come in here in an attempt to improve things and you say "hey, improve things!"
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/22 10:05 PM
-4

You've expressed your wishes, you've brought him your problem (and a solution) and he's made his decision. What else is there to discuss? Surrendering doesn't mean "you're in charge as long as you do everything the way I would". If you want a leader, this is what that looks like.
/r/RedPillWives06/02/22 09:52 PM
2

It's not a lie at all. You'll make a great BB with those qualities, and that's what women prime their sons for. No mother is interested in whether her son can get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 11:21 AM
1

Where did I say that? I'd also never date an octopus, doesn't mean I don't think they should exist. Reddit "should" consist of whoever wants to use it. Men who spend time on reddit are not the type that I would ever be attracted to. Especially if they use it to discuss dating tactics and sexual strategy. I think most of them are pretty defective, and I prefer "naturals". But since men don't exist to be attractive to me, they should do whatever they like.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:47 AM
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He's whining over a choice he made, which is far more repulsive than not making money. She doesn't care, he should either get over it and count his blessings, or stop willingly working for free. Girls like that (independently wealthy, smart, good university) care more about status and prestige than dollars. If he's got a passion career where he's well-regarded he'll be fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/22 02:28 AM
1

I don't think it "shouldn't matter", I just know that for the men I'm attracted to it doesn't matter. But no it wouldn't bother me if he'd seen hookers in the past.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 10:49 PM
2

Yes 100% true. I'd never date a man who used reddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 10:16 PM
2

Do you differentiate between someone who learns psychology in a college course versus someone who learns human psychology thru experience? Yes, absolutely. The ability to observe and learn from and adapt to the world first hand without intellectualising it is a very attractive trait to women. A man who is naturally funny and confident and flirty and able to read women is FAR hotter than one who had to read a book or a forum to learn it. That ability to learn without being explicitly taught is a …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 10:14 PM
1

That's not what I said. I said it's not attractive to be so retarded with women that you need this stuff explicitly TAUGHT to you. My partner would agree with near everything TRP says about women and relationships and sex, but he learnt it through experience. He didn't need it autistically spoon fed to him in words. He is "red pill" without having any idea what those words mean. He doesn't even know reddit exists lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 09:43 PM
2

Men love women for who they are what they look like Do you see men falling head over heels for the fat, disfigured girl?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 05:28 AM
4

Wow good point you've changed my mind
/r/PurplePillDebate05/02/22 03:01 AM
16

It's not the RP worldview I'm opposed to, I agree with that. It's that the men who end up on a website to learn this stuff have something wrong with them in the first place. Naturally attractive, socially fluent men have no idea what "red pill" means.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 10:33 PM
3

Wow your name really applies, doesn't it. Can you not picture a "broad shouldered man" without receiving measurements?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 08:33 PM
4

Do you really need a set of measurements to picture what a man with "broad shoulders" might look like? What if you said you like a woman with a small waist?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 07:30 PM
1

all of the above. it's a fun thing to do in a casual setting, but also can be deeply intimate and special with the right person.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 12:37 AM
6

I don't think vigilance against attacks or home invasions is a female phenomenon agreed. the men in my life are far more paranoid about security than i am. the only real condition my SO had on moving in with me is that we change my locks to something more substantial and i stop being so absent-minded with personal safety.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/22 12:33 AM
1

if you define sexuality as it is experienced by men, then yes. this is the classic PPD "women are just defective men" perspective. you can't compare male and female sexuality, they are completely different experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/22 10:18 PM
3

no you didn't lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 10:44 PM
4

Being overweight is similar to having extremely bad hygiene; even if everyone does it, it doesn't mean that suddenly becomes average in terms of attraction. so you're not talking about average at all. you're talking about what men wish was average. So if all women took basic care of themselves and were at least not overweight, then yes the average man would find the average woman attractive, but the same can't be said in reverse. if all men had basic hygiene and social skills and game, then wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/01/22 10:02 PM
7

Good thing we're all the real world talking about reality, then
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 05:43 PM
1

Do you believe the opposite situation is okay Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 04:45 PM
38

fell for what? he offered you a free ride and you accepted. it's his problem if he's winding up covert contracts in his head.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 06:18 AM
1

i was talking to klashberry. i'm curious if his respect for "e-sports competitors" extends to whores.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 03:58 AM
1

well if you're defining a valuable skill by the money it makes, what's the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 02:36 AM
3

Perhaps they feel the need to act like men because men like you discount anything remotely feminine as a waste of time Acts like a woman "Lol women are so useless" Tries to act like a man "Ew women are trying to do man stuff"
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 01:20 AM
1

Prostitution is making some people quite wealthy. Most of them women!
/r/PurplePillDebate25/01/22 01:17 AM
6

yes men are better at being men than women lol. groundbreaking. if you automatically discount anything feminine as useless, then of course men are going to appear "better" than women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 10:38 PM
7

video games lol. imagine even considering this a category worth excelling in
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 10:34 PM
4

i see he/hims all over linkedin and in email signatures
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/22 10:33 PM
11

Not unattractive, but just invisible. I'd seen him around but never interacted with him and he'd never caught my eye. I went to a show one night and he was the headline act. Seeing him in action as a musician did it for me and I developed the biggest crush.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 10:45 PM
7

Lol what. How is being social and outgoing a strictly feminine trait? Sounds like something social inept guys say to make themselves feel better.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 10:40 PM
1

i think it's pretty common in men to enjoy that feeling of swooping in to save the day for the pretty little lady. some particularly insecure men have that feeling of being needed deeply ingrained in their sense of self worth, so when they're with a competent woman they just feel useless. this ex ended up with a much younger ditz and they both seem really happy. my current SO is the opposite and has zero patience for feigned helplessness. i like myself a lot more since being with him.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 03:30 AM
1

Yeah, my dad sounds similar to yours and the kind of girl it produces certainly isn't for everyone. My ex got very grouchy when he didn't feel like "the man", so I caught myself playing dumb and useless a lot when I wanted him to be nice to me. How well that worked on him was a huge turn-off.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/22 01:57 AM
0

Yeah. Don't marry into a cult if you don't want to do cult things.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 01:06 AM
2

How can she post something like that and not even mention the boyfriend's religion? If he's from some whacky orthodox sect she should have seen this coming.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/01/22 12:06 AM
2

When you realize that a lot of the men in here simply hate women and are going to continue hating women no matter what you say, it all makes a lot more sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 08:02 PM
4

Pretty much all of the TRP founders/ECs are settled into LTRs. It also recommends you to be open about the fact that you want something casual with those women and not stringing tham along. Where? I thought TRP was amoral.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 07:34 AM
13

which is so different to TRP guys spinning plates and banging sluts until they find the good girl to settle down with... how?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 03:11 AM
1

yeah but why send your ex wife to collect them? that's bizarre. do cabs not exist in LA?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 02:16 AM
1

why on earth would you put your gf through that?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/21 02:01 AM
22

Have you considered that perhaps these women are drawn to feminism because they're stuck with men who are demeaning and unhelpful? It's easy to love men when you have a wonderful one in your life. If your partner is more of a drain than an asset then independence and taking control might be the most appealing option.
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/21 03:25 AM
1

If she did continue dating the shooter then yeah, I'd be mad at her too. But the custody squabble in isolation? No.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 02:37 AM
1

No, I'd be mad at the guy who shot and killed my dad.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 02:16 AM
3

Wow talk about hypoagency. Are men children who can't make their own decisions? How insulting.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 01:33 AM
2

Saying "well he wouldn't have got shot if the woman hadn't done X" is poor logic. He wouldn't have got shot if... The other dude hadn't pulled out a gun and shot him lol. That's like saying "I wouldn't have run this child over if my boyfriend didn't lend me his car". Technically true, but misplaces the blame completely.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/21 01:29 AM
3

Hilarious. A man shoots and kills another man, and it's somehow the woman's fault.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 11:51 PM
7

that's not what calculated means
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/21 11:14 PM
8

you're certainly not a concise writer
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 04:08 AM
6

are you actually a good writer who's working towards publishing, or do you write fanfic for fun?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 11:50 PM
9

A talented but undiscovered writer I could get behind for sure. A guy who works a crappy job because he likes to read? Not so much. That's a past time, not a passion.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 09:58 PM
21

If he was a low earner because he worked at a passion - music, art, a business, whatever then sure. That wouldn't bother me at all. I could never see myself falling for a guy who was content to waste his life in retail though. I'd prefer a driven and passionate drug dealer than that lol I think you're asking if a passive man without any drive can be attractive to women, and the answer is probably not.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 09:43 PM
6

Every non-religious man I've met who specifically seeks out virginity in a partner has been riddled with issues. Any well adjusted woman I know keeps her distance from these guys. Take that how you will.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/21 03:59 AM
1

Okay to who?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 01:31 AM
5

Some men. Not necessarily the ones we want.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/21 01:20 AM
2

Getting to 22 without so much as a boyfriend is going to raise some eyebrows, yes. Why can't you date? You don't need to jump into bed with anyone. You learn all sorts of things about connection and compromise and boundaries in your early years of dating, turning up in a big city with zero experience and expecting to fall into a healthy relationship that leads to marriage is a little naive. Most people move to big cities for work after their studies, it's also perfectly possible you meet someone…
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/21 12:59 AM
1

Yeah we're not going to agree here. People pathologize themselves today to the point of insanity. It's unhealthy and self-obsessed.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 12:39 AM
2

Yeah everyone has some minor issues, but not everyone needs help to get through them. The people I've met in therapy are the type who are either so fucked up they couldn't make a good partner, or they're the type to dwell on relatively minor issues in an almost narcissistic way. I don't like men who don't have the resilience to solve and move past their issues without blowing it up into a whole therapy performance.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 12:16 AM
1

I've dated a few men who have been in therapy, and the common trait is that they're the type to externalize and dwell on their issues. Making a mountain out of a molehill. That is a trait I can't stand in men. A man who's been through shit (aka everyone) and is capable of just dealing with it and moving past it without professional intervention is the green flag.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/21 12:01 AM
3

Or pick a guy without issues in the first place? Or is capable of getting past them without clinical intervention. Not everyone is so fucked up lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 11:58 PM
8

Well most women work full time. The sahm set up is pretty uncommon.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 01:40 AM
6

Is this a serious question? Everyone knows women bear the brunt of household chores. It's not a controversial take at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/21 12:07 AM
2

Let him go. Don't chase a man who doesn't want you to.
/r/RedPillWomen17/11/21 10:51 PM
3

Because he's a weird nerd, not because he's ugly. Leo's pretty unattractive these days, but he's charming and knows how to flirt and that goes a long way.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/21 10:35 AM
-1

He's only 22 lol. And a church guy. It's not like he's a predator. A 5 year gap does not merit all this hysteria.
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/21 10:43 AM
-8

What is with all the pearl-clutching over the age gap in this thread? She's almost 17, she's not a baby. OP - he sounds like a wonderful catch and it's a shame your friend is not on board. Not unexpected though, she'll be hurt and embarrassed so it's natural to want to lash out a bit. I wouldn't take it personally, she'll probably come around in time once her own crush on him fades. Take things slow, get to know him, and have fun! It sounds like he's very into you 🙂
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/21 06:45 AM
1

It's obviously genetic don't be daft
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 07:25 AM
1

In my experience, a bad temper in a man (especially directed at his woman) is a sign of something deep down that's very wrong. He's sad and angry about something in his life, and doesn't have the self-awareness to tackle that particular problem. You, as the person in his vicinity, bear the brunt of it. Your whole post sounded EXACTLY like my ex. It was good-bad-good-bad on and off for years. Whenever his stress levels ramped up (from work, family, whatever), I became the metaphorical punching ba…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/21 07:06 AM
1

Sure. In my previous relationships I've always felt like he needed/wanted me more than I wanted him. They looked up to me and would drop everything to make me happy. It felt like their lives revolved around mine. They were in my "frame". This is the first time in a relationship where I've felt like the needy/clingy one and that I want more of his attention than he's comfortable giving all the time. He's got his own life going on and I want to be a part of it. Part of me loves that feeling of yea…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/21 04:19 AM
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