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It happened with me when I was at a very low point in my life. I was somehow better with women because I genuinely didn't care what they or anyone else thought about me. I was going to the bars a lot just to drink, not trying to meet anyone. But that wound up being when I met the most women and some of my better male friends. I think some people can sense the not giving a shit attitude and are attracted to it. I'd love to be as good at meeting people now as I was back then, but I really don't ev…
/r/seduction24/10/14 06:28 PM
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That doesn't negate anything I said. It says they've done a lot more studies on HIV, but that condoms are shown to reduce the risk of other STDs. Any time you have sex of course there's some risk. Complete abstinence is the only way to 100% avoid getting STDs assuming you weren't born with one, but what fun is that?
/r/seduction24/09/14 10:10 PM
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I may have put syph in the wrong category, but the others are preventable by condom use. There are two primary ways that STDs are transmitted. Some diseases, such as HIV infection, gonorrhea, chlamydia, and trichomoniasis, are transmitted when infected urethral or vaginal secretions contact mucosal surfaces (such as the male urethra, the vagina, or cervix). In contrast, genital ulcer diseases (such as genital herpes, syphilis, and chancroid) and human papillomavirus (HPV) infection are primarily…
/r/seduction24/09/14 09:32 PM
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I wouldn't say they're ineffective at preventing most STDs. It's mainly HPV and herpes that they aren't effective against. There are a good number of STDs that come to mind that condoms do prevent transmission of: HIV, gonhorrea, syphillys, chlamydia, and hepatitis.
/r/seduction24/09/14 08:10 PM
2

On point number 9, is sex with the lights out actually that common? I've been sexually active about 10 years now and it's been very rare for me to have sex with the lights off. Possibly 5% of the time or less.
/r/seduction10/09/14 05:25 PM
24

And you can still seduce your own girlfriend. No need to stop being slick just because you're taken.
/r/seduction06/09/14 03:09 AM
2

I know I'm not bad to look at. I find it weird that I can get a couple dozen matches and no significant replies to messages. Maybe I'm not doing something right conversation-wise. I can hold conversations really easily in real life and have done okay in other areas online, but not on Tinder for some reason.
/r/seduction02/09/14 05:40 PM
1

I'm aware of the phenomenon, but it seems like I have better hit rates other places online overall. I've never met up with someone through Tinder, I have through OKC and such.
/r/seduction02/09/14 08:59 AM
13

Huh. I seem to have a hard time even getting a response. Even if I do, it's like 2 messages from them then they're done talking. I'd be curious to see some sample conversations. I've had more luck on OKCupid and other places online than on Tinder. I haven't used the app in a few months because I've been focusing on other things, but I might like to get back on it.
/r/seduction01/09/14 09:34 PM
1

But I actually enjoy cardio...
/r/seduction28/08/14 08:35 PM
16

There is no perfect moment. I've missed a lot of kisses by waiting for the perfect moment. And some of the best ones happened at times that didn't seem quite right. Just go for it when you've got the balls to do so.
/r/seduction28/08/14 07:33 AM
2

We do have bike cops in the US. Come to NY.
/r/seduction13/08/14 10:44 PM
4

There are a few states that have cities/towns named London. In fact, Ohio has 2 towns called London. Why? I have no idea. Of course OP isn't talking about any of those ones though.
/r/seduction13/08/14 10:42 PM
3

The truth is, a lot of people are kind of disappointed with how they lost their virginity. I lost it with someone I thought I loved who actually turned out to be a terrible person and not that great in bed. I might go back and change that if I could, but realistically I can only try to have sex with better people in the future. Losing your v-card doesn't have to be a grand, romantic thing. A lot of times it's not that special. If this is how he wants to lose his, let him.
/r/seduction11/08/14 05:03 PM
8

I told her "You're probably one of those girls who have to go out for 3 months before you even kiss a guy". She said "No, I have to feel it". You didn't immediately move on. You dwelled on it, essentially saying "Why aren't you kissing me?" in a way that comes off a bit desperate.
/r/seduction03/08/14 07:54 PM
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3 inch heels would make her stand at 6', not 6' 2".
/r/seduction03/08/14 07:45 PM
4

You could always enroll in a college art class even if you're not doing it for a degree. I don't really have any other suggestions. I just know I've considered taking individual classes for my own betterment even though I'm not otherwise attending college. Community college classes should be pretty cheap and who knows, you could wind up having wacky adventures with your study group.
/r/seduction02/08/14 07:16 PM
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My little mantra is "comfort = death", shortened from "the comfort zone is death". Pushes me to do things even if it's not comfortable at first.
/r/seduction28/07/14 05:09 PM
2

Even if it's a small chance it's real, it couldn't hurt to try. Meet in public for a first meeting, always. If you get sketchy vibes you can see your way out easily.
/r/seduction27/07/14 05:34 PM
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Because I've been here so long it seems weird to leave. I only occasionally read posts and rarely take advice from them. I've gotten better with women on my own (this year has been particularly good for me). I could always be better but I figure I'll get there without too much help.
/r/seduction26/07/14 05:11 PM
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This is an unusual question. Generally ass-grabbing doesn't happen until you're well into "almost anything I do isn't gonna piss her off" territory. So unless you're certain you're there, it's a very high risk move. If you need to test the waters and happen to have your arm around her hip anyway, just sort of let your hand wander down to the ass. Otherwise, skip it. Seriously, it's almost like asking "How do I know when it's okay to touch her boobs?" Well, if you've gotten to the point where you…
/r/seduction26/07/14 08:24 AM
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As I said, they may not be worth your time, but that doesn't necessarily mean they're not interested.
/r/seduction26/07/14 02:47 AM
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Actually while he may work some long days and may be called on any time of day or night if need be, he also is afforded more time off than many Americans. He can take vacation pretty much any time he wants assuming there's no national or international crises. He doesn't work 2 jobs all year round with no allotted vacation and go to classes like a few of my female friends do. Those ones barely have time to rest. None of them are single mothers or anything like that but are working off either stud…
/r/seduction26/07/14 02:18 AM
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If a girl you approached is having trouble agreeing to a concrete time and place, she doesn't genuinely want to hang out with you. I disagree with this bit. Women have lives too and sometimes don't know exactly when they'll have free time. However, they should be able to give you at least a general idea. And even if she's an incredibly busy person, she might still want to spend time with you. It might not be worth your time to pursue a very busy woman, but that doesn't mean there's no desire at …
/r/seduction26/07/14 01:52 AM
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I am indeed in North America. Hmm...be right back, planning a trip to Europe to buy jeans.
/r/seduction22/07/14 02:03 AM
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Regarding jean size, that might be harder for some guys. I've always had a small waist, the best I can really hope for is jeans that aren't too baggy. Ideally I should be wearing jeans with a 28 or 29 waist, but the smallest you can find in most stores is 30 (and that can be a somewhat limited selection). If I do manage to find a 28 or 29 waist, they're rarely long enough in the legs. Belts are a godsend.
/r/seduction21/07/14 11:44 PM
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Do the same things, but bigger. Seriously. None of this advice seemed weight or height dependent (not sure which definition of bigger you meant). The model has a specific body type, but the same advice would apply regardless of body type.
/r/seduction21/07/14 11:38 PM
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Ah yeah. I don't know what it is about Tinder, but it seems like a lot of girls don't respond to messages at all or only give one or two short replies. I haven't had much luck with Tinder. Good number of matches, never met up with anyone. I have met up with a girl from OKCupid. We seemed to hit it off okay but I didn't make any sort of move because I was tired (shoulda had some coffee before our coffee date) and it felt weird to me in the circumstances. So that was one date, then nothing. I also…
/r/seduction21/07/14 04:20 PM
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It can serve as an ego boost but it can be hard for some people to set up a meetup using it. Especially if the person using it has much anxiety. That said, it's worth trying.
/r/seduction21/07/14 04:07 PM
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I have met a few people online and I have to say there was nothing weird about it. Online dating may or may not be for you but it's only as weird as you make it. The only part I don't like about it is having to send out so many messages.
/r/seduction21/07/14 04:04 PM
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I'm sure. My female friends just don't seem to do much of that.
/r/seduction17/07/14 07:32 AM
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That last bit hasn't proven true for me, but it doesn't matter. I just get along well with women.
/r/seduction16/07/14 11:57 PM
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I don't know how well this works for anyone else, but I've found that sometimes offering them my number is an effective way of getting their number.
/r/seduction16/07/14 09:19 PM
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Or "No worries, we can still be friends." But only if you're actually okay with just being friends. Some of the best female friends I've got are ones I was once interested in. I stopped pursing them when they expressed that they weren't into me like that and I don't harbor any sort of resentment or latent "I wish this was something more" feelings. I actually like having a lot of female friends who are just friends. Maybe I'm weird in that regard.
/r/seduction16/07/14 09:16 PM
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That's what I'm saying, kissing is something that has a bit of a learning curve, as does sex. The one girl I'm thinking of wasn't a virgin or anything. She was terrible at kissing, it seemed like she was trying to ram her tongue as far down my throat as humanly possible. But she was hot and DTF, so I went home with her anyway. The weirdest part is that she was very good in bed, it was just the kissing that she was bad at. I should have specified, people who are experienced and above the drinking…
/r/seduction14/07/14 09:36 PM
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Oh, I know. I just wanted to put it out there lest some first-timer think he absolutely has to go down on a woman to please her. Maybe it's just my experience, but a lot of women seem uncomfortable with a new partner going down on them. I mean, I tried to make my way down there the other night with a girl who's a new sex partner and she kept pulling me back up any time I made my way below her boobs. The sex was pretty great anyway (I really did want to eat her out though).
/r/seduction14/07/14 08:20 PM
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Mostly good advice, but some women aren't comfortable with being eaten out (it's more common than you'd think). And some totally just want to jump to the fucking. Every woman is different.
/r/seduction14/07/14 07:21 PM
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It's probably not literally them shaming him for being a virgin. Probably more like pressuring him to find a girlfriend and give them grandkids.
/r/seduction14/07/14 07:17 PM
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The basic act, yeah. But if you just go at sex like an animal and spurt your seed as quick as possible it's not gonna be enjoyable for the other person. Do you need to read up on sex? No, but you'll probably be a better lay if you do. Some people are actually really terrible sex partners. I can think of at least one I wouldn't want to fuck again.
/r/seduction14/07/14 01:39 PM
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Sex is quite a bit more complicated than kissing. In order for both parties to be satisfied, you very well might have to know a thing or two in advance. And some people are actually bad at kissing. It seems weird that you'd encounter that in adults who are above the drinking age, but it does happen.
/r/seduction14/07/14 01:36 PM
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It works fine if you plan to call rather than text. It isn't a hard and fast rule though. 2 days would likely be okay too. With texting you want to start sooner, it doesn't really matter how soon you text but what you text. My last girlfriend I called 4 days after she gave me her number. Not due to the "wait a few days" rule but due to nervousness. I just kept putting it off. "I'll call at 5". 5 rolls around: "Maybe 7 would be a better time". That kept happening until it was too late at night to…
/r/seduction09/07/14 07:44 PM
1

I can understand the social anxiety a bit, but for me it rears its head less when I'm traveling simply because I know there's little chance of me running into the same person again if I make a fool of myself, whereas in my hometown I'm almost guaranteed to see them next week out at the bar. Try to look at things that way if you actually want to go out to pubs and clubs. If that's not something you actually want to do, others have provided a lot of good suggestions here. I just wanted to add some…
/r/seduction06/07/14 09:02 PM
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I don't think 1000 approaches in a year is overdoing it, so long as you live somewhere where that's actually reasonable. Any major city, you can do that easily. In a town of 10k people, yeah, 1000 approaches a year is overdoing it. You'll exhaust your resources fast. Consider that about half the population is probably male. That cuts the number of females down to about 5k total. Now cut out those who are too young or too old and you've got a pretty small number. Lets assume you live in a fairly …
/r/seduction14/06/14 10:55 PM
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120 a month? So how many times am I supposed to approach the same 50 women? That's a slight exaggeration, but I live in a pretty small city. Some people live in even smaller towns. It's just not possible to do that many approaches in some places. Not that it's bad advice to approach as much as possible, it's just that "as much as possible" is gonna be a smaller number for those of us who don't live in big cities.
/r/seduction14/06/14 02:43 AM
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My one addendum to your first rule would be "except when drunk". Do not touch your phone when drunk if possible. There's a 99% chance you'll say something stupid. I used to find myself sending drunk texts to women I was interested in and it was always a bad plan. I've been a lot more conscious of that the last few years and don't text them while drunk anymore. The last drunk text conversation I had was with my best friend and in that conversation I spilled my guts regarding my intentions toward …
/r/seduction10/06/14 08:57 PM
2

Well you need to actually talk to people too. And if you're in yoga just to meet girls, you should maybe reconsider that. I've never picked a girl up at yoga, but I never left feeling dejected either. That just shouldn't happen. Start conversations, make friends. Don't worry about whether or not you're gonna get a girl into your bed. Developing good social skills first will make everything else easier. Maybe you see a girl at yoga every week. Or a guy, doesn't matter. Introduce yourself. Don't w…
/r/seduction24/05/14 01:36 AM
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Save tv for weeknights if you watch it at all. Weekends are when the most people are out and about (even those that don't go to bars). Friday and Saturday are prime bar nights. Saturday and Sunday are days people will be out doing things. Doing stuff by yourself is only as weird as you make it. The weirdness of it is all in your head. Not sure where to start? Well, get out of your parents' place. Living with them will only make meeting people harder. Pick up a hobby. It could be photography, it …
/r/seduction23/05/14 07:12 PM
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And even if it's not, she could still be an awesome friend. I've accidentally chased lesbians (as in they had no sexual interest in guys) before I knew their orientation a few times, but remained friends with them after realizing my mistake. One of them is my best friend now. I've also heard lesbian friends can make great wingwomen, but I've never experienced that bit myself.
/r/seduction23/05/14 06:39 PM
1

It can be hard to tell. You'll probably be fine. But if you start having doubts, ask yourself why you're having doubts. They may be over nothing, but who knows? It's better to examine them than to sweep those doubts under the rug and hope for the best. Just sort of figure out your own thoughts on it and don't be blinded by the allure of pussy (it can be quite tempting). If, after that, you think you're ready, by all means go for it. Also, congrats and good luck!
/r/seduction08/04/14 03:42 AM
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I don't think I was mature enough emotionally for sex. I was in a bad relationship (which was also my first relationship) and I feel like I was desperate for sex and held on to the relationship much longer than I should have because of it. I would rather have held out either for a more positive relationship or until I thought I could handle completely casual sex, which is a point I only reached a few years ago. Sex and emotions can be hard to separate, especially if it's new territory for you. B…
/r/seduction08/04/14 01:48 AM
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It was that way when I was in high school 10ish years ago too. But I think this may be an issue of perception vs. reality. I'm pretty sure I've seen studies that say high school students think more of their peers are having sex than actually are having sex. Personally I knew some people who did lose their v-card at 16 or younger, and at the time it seemed like everyone but me had, but looking back I think there were fewer people having sex at that age than I suspected then. Regardless, if you're…
/r/seduction07/04/14 10:12 PM
1

I have this weird problem where if I've gone a long while without sex, my libido drops to almost zero. Sort of perpetuates the problem.
/r/seduction05/04/14 12:21 AM
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I have trouble with it because I can't help but think how fake my smile must look. And it feels fake. It's like I want to be able to do it but I just can't get into it.
/r/seduction04/04/14 03:33 AM
1

Especially since it's another way of saying slut or whore. It's not used often anymore, but it they're familiar with that use it's fairly offensive. The main reason I know it is because of a scene in the movie Barfly where the main character goes on a tirade and calls his girlfriend a chippy repeatedly while accusing her of infidelity.
/r/seduction28/03/14 04:46 AM
1

It's possible to misjudge timing. Pretty sure that's what typical use means. Perfect use means you do it exactly right every time. If you're off by just a little bit, oops, there's baby-making juice in her.
/r/seduction25/03/14 02:38 AM
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That's with perfect use. Typical use has a 15-22% failure rate. Condoms' failure rate is 2% with perfect use, 10-18% with typical use.
/r/seduction24/03/14 06:28 PM
1

No they wouldn't. Tinder only shows mutual friends and shared interests, not all friends and all interests. Having no friends in common or shared interests isn't uncommon.
/r/seduction13/03/14 08:54 PM
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Just fyi, Tinder only shows them shared interests, not all your interests. So if she sees you like IHOP, you've found yourself an IHOP girl.
/r/seduction13/03/14 08:09 PM
2

You could just make a facebook specifically for Tinder. Really the only things you'd need it for is pictures. The other things it does using facebook are show your mutual friends and your shared interests, but those aren't really necessary.
/r/seduction13/03/14 08:06 PM
1

In all honesty, I don't know. At this point I just do it. What helped when I was first getting comfortable dancing was to look around at what motions other people were doing and copy a little of that, but never copy from one person for more than a minute at a time. After a while I guess it became internalized. Doesn't matter what's playing, you'll find me on the dance floor.
/r/seduction06/03/14 10:53 PM
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Hell, when he posted that, I was just getting to work. Evening shifts blow. I always feel like staying awake a while after my shift but that also means I miss out on going out during the daytime. Mondays are one of the few days I take a break from hitting the bars so it's doubtful I'm meeting anyone tonight. Tomorrow, maybe. I'm thinking I'll do laundry and rest up so I'll actually feel like talking to people tomorrow night.
/r/seduction04/03/14 03:07 AM
3

Or you could always intentionally keep in contact. Never know when life will put you in the same area as them.
/r/seduction03/03/14 10:42 PM
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It can be hard to get them to work, but when they do, man oh man is it good. Had one that lasted from about June-November of 2009. At some point we just hadn't contacted each other in a while and we both happened to find relationships. Everything worked out perfectly. We're still friends now but without the benefits.
/r/seduction03/03/14 10:40 PM
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I've been telling myself something similar recently, but not in the same terms. What I've been telling myself is "the comfort zone is death". Push out of the comfort zone, or die. Those are my options. It's been working pretty damn well. I've already had more success with women in 2014 so far than I did in all of 2013.
/r/seduction26/02/14 04:16 AM
2

As I've gotten older I've noticed people using proper grammar and spelling more often. Even people who used to be piss-poor at it. I guess some people outgrow "text speak".
/r/seduction23/02/14 08:51 PM
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5.5"-6" is the statistical average penis length. So yeah, he's wrong on that.
/r/seduction22/02/14 12:47 AM
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And parts are not great if you're a member of the kink community. Especially on that "You're a man, you need to dominate, women are submissive, this is the natural order" point. Being dominated by a woman can be fucking amazing, especially because it's not something most men are used to.
/r/seduction22/02/14 12:44 AM
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odds are you'll never see that person again. That's far from the case in a smallish town. Strike out with a girl at the bar this week, there's a good chance you'll see her again next week. Speaking from experience. There are only a limited number of bars, coffee shops, grocery stores or wherever in smaller towns. I run into this problem in a town of about 10k full-time residents (25-30k people when the colleges are in session). But that's just another obstacle to get past. It's hard but if you l…
/r/seduction04/02/14 06:15 PM
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Can I ask how you meet people in coffee shops? It seems like everyone is either wanting to chat with one single friend or is staying pretty isolated. Or maybe that's just how I percieve them. I go to coffee shops often but I'm usually there to drink coffee and get something done (reading mostly).
/r/seduction03/02/14 03:46 AM
0

Welp, two of those are out for me. I guess gym it is.
/r/seduction03/02/14 03:41 AM
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Yeah, in this case though it's not a cultural difference, she's 100% generic white American from upstate NY, and we both currently live in a different upstate NY town.
/r/seduction14/01/14 11:29 PM
2

But his statement also indicates that women aren't doing that. I don't know about all women, but my roommate is pretty damn active in trying to find guys. A good portion of her day lately is spent on OKCupid looking for guys, and even when she's not doing that, she's actively talking and flirting with guys to pick them up.
/r/seduction14/01/14 11:00 PM
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Yeah, that part bothered me too. I've had a female roommate for about 3 months and I don't want to try and count the number of different guys she's had sex with in that time. So his "women have a lot of sex but it's all with the same guy" assertion is not really true for some women in the least. Don't get me wrong, it's great for her that she's having a lot of sex. Kudos to her for knowing what she wants and getting it. There are times I wish she didn't have sex quite as much or would go over to…
/r/seduction14/01/14 06:49 PM
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As she said, it's presumptuous. Basically you're taking advantage of the fact that she has to be nice and polite to you, whether that's your intention or not. And putting her on the spot to boot. /u/Siddly's suggestion is good. It allows her to respond to the actual date request on her own time. And just showing that extra bit of respect for her job could make her more receptive to the idea of a date with you.
/r/seduction14/01/14 02:17 AM
1

I just dance. I don't know specific moves or anything, I just go with the music. Sometimes I'll do some completely ridiculous moves with a ridiculous look on my face to make my friends laugh. It works more often than not. When I didn't do much dancing but wanted to learn, I would look at how other people were dancing and copy it, but never copy one person for too long. It seemed to be pretty effective.
/r/seduction13/01/14 10:37 PM
1

I feel like I'm stagnating here. But I've got a job that while it's not enjoyable in itself pays fairly well and allows me to get out of town during the seasonal layoffs. It's a tradeoff.
/r/seduction11/01/14 01:30 AM
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Could be none of that. Could be he just got stuck there, like me. Except for me it's upstate NY, not Phoenix. Why am I still here? Because I haven't been able to move away yet and it's hard to quit a steady job.
/r/seduction10/01/14 08:20 PM
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*Mount Textverest.
/r/seduction20/11/13 04:23 AM
1

I kinda don't. Drunk girls aren't really my thing. If she liked me enough to meet up with me at a later date she shouldn't need to be drunk for things to go further. I'm not saying either of us need to be stone cold sober, just that drunkenness shouldn't be a necessity. And you can always pop out to a bar afterward, keep things interesting.
/r/seduction19/09/13 11:05 PM
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Guess I prefer cheap dates for the first date. Places where entrees are $8-$12 are about the max for me since a first date isn't guaranteed to be anything more than just the meal and I'd rather not toss away money.
/r/seduction19/09/13 09:57 PM
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Yeah, like I said, still pricey for a first date. You can eat and drink for 2 for $40 max at a decent sit-down place around here. I'm not exactly inexperienced at eating out. Any place serving $20 entrees is too pricey for a first date, save that for 3rd date or beyond.
/r/seduction19/09/13 09:14 PM
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$80? Jesus you put some investment into your first dates. I don't go anywhere that pricey on a first date, hell I barely go to places that pricey when I'm in a relationship with a girl.
/r/seduction19/09/13 07:24 PM
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I'd think so, but this is unfortunately not a one-time occurrence. In the moment, I often can't see the invitation for more or indicators of interest. A few hours, sometimes a day or two later it will hit me. This has been going on for quite some time.
/r/seduction11/09/13 08:18 AM
1

It ain't even depression for me. I'm just not the best at getting things to lead beyond talking. Sometimes I even miss what should be obvious signs. For instance I was down in Philly for a concert recently, met a girl at the show, had a drink with her and her friends, and then messed things up at the end. Her friends and her were heading out and she asked if I was staying there. Somehow it flew over my head that that might be an invitation to go back to her place until it was way too late. It es…
/r/seduction11/09/13 06:03 AM
0

Do you live in a small town? Yes, it's shaming but it goes on all the freaking time. People remember other people more easily when there's fewer of you.
/r/seduction09/07/13 06:14 AM
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The hammer is my penis.
/r/seduction14/06/13 08:44 AM
5

Ah, okay. That makes a bit more sense. That's a lot less generous than what I thought you meant. So basically don't be a total lurker, throw out a like every once in a while.
/r/seduction02/06/13 09:12 PM
4

Could you explain why you think it's better to be generous with likes? I would have assumed being too generous with likes would water down their significance. There are a few people I know are going to like most of my posts. It's predictable. But when someone who rarely, if ever, likes things hits that like button, it stands out to me.
/r/seduction02/06/13 07:47 PM
2

Yeah, I had to go through and remove several years worth of liked pages recently. Now I just have the ones that I actually want updates from. Bands I and local businesses mostly. It's a much better experience now. Back when liking or becoming a fan of things was new we all tended to like way too many and mostly silly things, like "not being on fire". Same thing that happened when apps were a new thing for facebook.
/r/seduction02/06/13 07:39 PM
2

I'm a guy who has a good number of female friends. Yes, they get intimidated. I've actually strongly encouraged some of them to go after a guy they were fawning over. Which of course lead to a whole bunch of "But what if..." scenarios.
/r/seduction09/05/13 08:35 AM
2

Showtime, not HBO. But close enough.
/r/seduction22/03/13 08:20 AM
8

I'm also going to add this: being a bad kisser isn't always a deal breaker. I've gone to bed with at least one girl who was not impressive when it came to kissing. In fact she was pretty bad at it. It was like she was trying to choke me with her tongue. This may or may not apply if you're a guy as well. But if a girl thinks you look hot enough, it may not be a deal beaker for her either.
/r/seduction06/03/13 08:33 AM
5

Personally, I'd say do both. Ask her out, but keep your options open and keep hitting bars and doing like you did in your FR. Abundance is what we're looking for, no?
/r/seduction27/01/13 08:45 PM
14

Are you implying that Scots can't keep up with the Irish and Germans?
/r/seduction27/01/13 08:39 PM
1

Anecdotal evidence is gonna be different for different people. Not talking about OKCupid for a second, I've grabbed coffee with a girl, which turned into dinner, which turned into going over to her place to "watch a movie" (I stayed the night). I've also met girls at bars and had it go absolutely nowhere. Personally, I like coffee as a date because it can be versatile. If I find I'm not interested, I can find an out pretty easily. But if it's going well, it can quickly turn into something more t…
/r/seduction25/01/13 09:53 PM
6

Seeing the title, my response was going to be "Nope, it would be cool if girls asked for my number". Seeing your explanation, I have to change that response. Typically when I'm asking for your number, I'm expecting to exchange numbers, not just get yours and hit it up whenever. So I'd either ring your phone or shoot off a quick text then and there so you also have my number. If you ask for my number and don't give me yours as well, it does come off as "I'm not that interested". Even if that's no…
/r/seduction28/12/12 10:08 PM
10

If for some reason this doesn't work (there's always a chance it won't), it has potential to go wrong in epic proportions. Either way it should make for a night to remember.
/r/seduction03/12/12 01:48 AM
32

I think guys often forget that women want sex as bad as us, but they know they have to be careful (more susceptible to STDs, can get pregnant), so they choose carefully. While they may know that, it doesn't mean they always are careful. The girl I went home with last night tried to initiate unprotected sex twice. I'm uncomfortable with doing that with anyone I'm not in a serious relationship with as a general rule because of the risks. I don't want STDs either, and I especially am not ready for …
/r/seduction03/12/12 01:45 AM
2

Hell, sometimes it's easier to get a girl to have sex than it is to get her to talk about her fantasies Unless you're already at a point where they don't think of you as someone they want to have sex with. Then sometimes they open up completely and tell you all about not just their sexual fantasies, but details about the guys they've had sex with that you probably didn't want to know in the first place.
/r/seduction22/11/12 04:23 AM
2

Reread the first parts of each of his situations, but imagine it with a girlfriend in place of a stranger. The reactions would be pretty different and likely less positive, I'm sure. The raisins one would be pretty damn annoying. And a pissed-off or annoyed girlfriend is much less likely to have sex with you. The first one also seems annoying, the coffee shop scenario just seems weird and judgemental, especially if you don't normally act like that. Apparently a fuckton of people here disagree wi…
/r/seduction27/10/12 10:18 PM
1

Teasing is one thing. OP's examples are beyond teasing and with a girlfriend would be in "persistent to the point of being obnoxious" territory.
/r/seduction27/10/12 05:35 PM
-4

Try any of his suggestions with a girlfriend when you have one. I dare you. I guarantee that if you try the raisins one with a girlfriend you're NOT getting laid that night. The only reason these work is because you're a random stranger. When you have a girlfriend, things are a little different.
/r/seduction27/10/12 04:40 PM
0

I'M SMILING AT THE COMPUTER, BUT NOTHING'S HAPPENING!
/r/seduction25/10/12 07:06 AM
1

Honestly, I just made this change recently (June?) and I've noticed girls are noticing me more. At one point, it was a factor in a random girl approaching me as I talked to another guy friend. She came up and asked if I was familiar with David Tennant and told me I looked like him. Being a Dr. Who fan myself, I was very happy with that comparison. We talked and danced for a while and I got her number at the end of the night. I had a number of friends try to convince me not to cut my long hair an…
/r/seduction25/10/12 07:04 AM
1

I work in the service industry, but it's with a captive audience. It's at a university so we mostly get the same batch of students coming in all the time and my job doesn't involve much interaction with them. I often think of taking a position somewhere where I'd have to talk to people other than my coworkers, but I really can't leave this job. Nowhere else in town pays as well. Maybe a part-time job is in order as an addition (the one I currently work is full-time).
/r/seduction25/10/12 06:44 AM
1

I'm, an Android user too, there are apps for that. I use one called "Volume Master". It's a simple app, but you can set your alarm volume, your ringer volume, your notification volume, your music/media volume, system volume (which on my phone seems to only control camera shutter volume), and in-call volume separately. I love it.
/r/seduction25/10/12 04:00 AM
2

What about a fez? I wear a fez now. Fezzes are cool, right?
/r/seduction22/10/12 03:23 AM
1

As long as you're not wearing a black coat, white shoes, and black hat.
/r/seduction22/10/12 03:22 AM
0

Typically only with a matching suit in a setting where it's appropriate to be wearing a suit. There are a few other times when fedoras are acceptable, but they're rare.
/r/seduction22/10/12 03:18 AM
2

I don't really mind it either, I'm quite used to it having lived here most of my life, but it does strike me as being a bit odd.
/r/seduction13/10/12 05:31 AM
2

No, you can't. Not real wine, anyway. There's some very shitty 5-6% ABV "wines" you can buy, or wine coolers, but not actual wine. I live in a wine-producing area of NY and I know the local wine producers would be selling it in grocery stores it they could. There have been proposed bills to change that, but none have managed to pass. There are a number of articles on the issue. Have a look at these for example: http://www.metro.us/newyork/local/article/1127729--wine-wars-rage-anew-as-report-is-r…
/r/seduction13/10/12 01:10 AM
1

Not in my state, that's for certain. The laws here specify that wines & spirits can't be sold anywhere but in wine/liquor stores and beer can't be sold in stores that sell wine & spirits. This leads to interesting situations like a gas station convenience store that can sell beer with a wine & liquor store owned by the same people right next door. NY, man. It's ridiculous.
/r/seduction13/10/12 12:10 AM
2

Go to a different bar. Not all bars are super noisy. Or go on a different night. Fridays/Saturdays are the super-busy nights for most bars and even if there isn't loud music you'll have trouble hearing over other peoples' conversations. Go on a Wednesday or something and you're much more likely to be able to have a normal conversation. It also helps if you enjoy being at the bar anyway. Go with friends. If you're not comfortable being in a bar to begin with, it's gonna show in your attempts at p…
/r/seduction20/09/12 08:06 AM
0

A couple things I want to point out: You arrive too late. [...] Especially in cities where last call is by 1-2 AM, you want to get to the venue early. When I do that in my town, where last call is 1am, there's hardly anyone at the bar at all. People rarely tend to go out before 10 or 11 here for some strange reason. So depending on your area, your results may vary. You don’t look your best. Dressing well and smelling fresh is one of the easiest ways to stand out against competition. I cringe whe…
/r/seduction06/09/12 04:37 AM
22

A couple years ago, the same happened to me. It was on Facebook since that's the only way I knew of to get a hold of her, so I was able to access it easily for the purposes of posting it here. Me: Hey, I know it's completely out of nowhere, but would you be up for getting together outside of work sometime? Her: Im flattered but I usually dont have too much time to fraternize aside from work. lol. also I try to keep work and external life separate. But thank you for the offer. :) Me: No worries, …
/r/seduction02/09/12 01:55 AM
1

I'm not really afraid of anything, I'm more apathetic and oblivious and I think those are what's holding me back.
/r/seduction17/08/12 11:17 PM
5

The problem is that crazy often doesn't reveal itself until it's too late. At least in my experience.
/r/seduction15/08/12 04:15 PM
2

Honestly, a lot of girls are more comfortable bringing a guy to their place than vice versa. At least in my experience. Why? Because it allows them some degree of control over the situation. Going to a guy's house? They could be taking her anywhere.
/r/seduction12/08/12 12:51 AM
2

You mean from being super-introverted to just a typically social person? It wasn't easy. It took a conscious decision on my part to talk to people, to put myself in situations where I was not comfortable in the least. It took several years. But I got there eventually. I went from having trouble returning a simple hello to the city bus drivers back then to being able to converse with the girls who work at the local coffee shop pretty regularly. And I'm not gonna deny that I still have anxiety in …
/r/seduction08/08/12 05:15 AM
2

Well, I, um....no, I was just demonstrating how it's supposed to work. Yeah, that's it. Let's go with that.
/r/seduction07/08/12 10:28 PM
7

Ah! Very tricky! Weaseling information out of me...
/r/seduction07/08/12 06:37 PM
6

I don't think this test is necessarily going to hold true for everyone. I was picturing those things as I went along, but at least two of the answers in my case are wrong. What I pictured: small metal cube (levitating for some reason), ladder next to it, storm right up close. The parts I think are wrong: I'm pretty culturally knowledgable and actually think a lot about other cultures and how things are viewed outside my own (so the small interpretation is off). I love to travel and this is a goo…
/r/seduction07/08/12 06:06 PM
17

Even when I was extremely introverted in high school (like trouble talking much with even people I considered my friends introverted), I always knew the answer to the dream vacation question. Because traveling abroad was always one of my goals. The craziest thing you've done all year question is a bit more daunting to me even now as someone who can carry on lengthy conversations with strangers.
/r/seduction07/08/12 05:49 PM
1

Just because I feel the need to point it out, anyone can be super loud and obnoxious when they're outside of their own town/country. When I was in Greece a couple years ago visiting my yiayia, I hit the bars most nights. And one of those nights, I happened to go to a bar where there were a lot of young English men (in their early 20s I think) and they were not only loud and obnoxious, they broke glasses and the owner had to beg them to leave when it was time for him to close up. And they were ru…
/r/seduction03/08/12 11:18 PM
9

No, it's like telling a white person to learn to act like Brad Pitt. Not his acting skills, but his confidence and body language. It's actually not bad advice in either case.
/r/seduction03/08/12 11:09 PM
6

Actually, that does happen. I talk to a lot of my platonic female friends and many of them are in fact very intimidated by hot guys and even more afraid to approach them than they are with "normal" guys. So being a shy hot guy can very well mean you don't get laid very often.
/r/seduction03/08/12 11:04 PM
9

I find it highly amusing that they used a picture of Mick Jagger in this article, especially when advising you to "get in shape and stay healthy."
/r/seduction13/07/12 06:34 PM
1

Yeah, a lot of people hear "gay bar" and assume that you have to be gay as a requirement to go to them. That's not actually the case for most gay bars. The majority are perfectly cool with having straight people there too as long as they're not being douchebags and it's not uncommon to run into straight people at gay bars. Sometimes straight women just want to be in an environment where they're not gonna be aggressively hit on every 10 seconds.
/r/seduction06/07/12 08:29 PM
2

So you use the buckshot method ("if I send out a lot of messages, one of them will hit"). That's great if you live in a big city or a city with a lot of people coming in for college, but it's not gonna work nearly as well in a smaller town.
/r/seduction03/07/12 10:55 PM
2

"You've got to jump off cliffs all the time and build your wings on the way down". --Ray Bradbury I'm just discovering this myself. Stop negotiating with yourself, start doing. Jump off those cliffs.
/r/seduction14/06/12 05:46 AM
1

Nearly 4am here, the only people out right now are crackheads and I'd rather not associate with them. Now, if I was in a town where the bars were open past 1am, it might be another story (I know NYC and Buffalo can be pretty happening at 4am). But yeah, I think some of us are taking the wording a little too literally. The moral is: get out there and start meeting people, don't just read about meeting people and don't make excuses for not doing it.
/r/seduction11/06/12 08:02 AM
1

I just listened to it and it's pretty clearly "invention": http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rog8ou-ZepE Skip to 0:26 if you're just listening for the lyric.
/r/seduction11/06/12 07:57 AM
6

Why? Maybe his drunk sex is phenomenal. I've had a lot of sober sex and a few drunken encounters. One of those drunken encounters was some of the best sex I've ever had.
/r/seduction04/06/12 04:47 AM
1

Thoughts on mixing formal wear and casual wear? I occasionally like to just toss a sport jacket over a t-shirt and jeans (with a belt of course) and I've gotten compliments on the look, but I sometimes feel like it's tacky. Also, what about suit with button-down shirt and no tie? And what are some good shoes that aren't completely formal, but a bit nicer than sneakers? I'm a thin guy who stands about 5'9" if that helps. I'd also like to dress nice more often and I enjoy wearing suits, but I feel…
/r/seduction30/05/12 10:39 PM
2

Sometimes it's next to impossible in smaller towns though. I'm very open to different styles of music. But in my town 95% of the music is some sort of hippy-dippy BS or mediocre metal. I'm not really into either.
/r/seduction27/05/12 10:52 PM
2

I'm assuming high school since most colleges are out already (graduation weekend currently at the one I work for)? I was doing the same thing my senior year. Summer break will be a great time to practice. And even if you get a number you don't have to call it. Baby steps. Just focus on getting digits for now. If you can make yourself call them though, all the better.
/r/seduction25/05/12 09:50 PM
2

And how exactly does one go about conveying that?
/r/seduction25/05/12 07:41 PM
3

I think that's an oversimplification. For years I've been someone women love to talk to and I do interesting things. I'm far from boring. My problem is with never knowing how to make moves or when to do so. I can identify missed opportunities after the fact, but in the moment, I'm clueless.
/r/seduction25/05/12 05:56 PM
19

Put yourself outside of your comfort zone. It's really the only way. Don't think, just do. I've struggled with shyness all my life as well, but I'm a lot less shy now than I used to be. I may not always initiate conversations with strangers, but I can carry a conversation if one happens to start. I used to be so shy that I barely felt comfortable talking to people I considered friends. But I got past that by intentionally forcing myself to do things outside my confort zone. Same thing with danci…
/r/seduction25/05/12 05:45 PM
2

Many, but not all. A lot of Schnapps is 100 proof. Drambuie (honey and herb flavored Scotch-based liqueur) is the standard 80 proof. That said, 71 proof is still sufficient to get decently silly quickly.
/r/seduction25/05/12 05:31 PM
10

Eh, you can go to a bar and order no drinks if they've got a dance floor and you're not planning on drinking (or in general if you're the DD), or just buy a single drink, even if you're not bringing a flask. I've done both on occasion. Some nights I feel like going out but I don't feel like drinking. wild turkey american honey. Strong American Honey is 35.5 ABV (71 proof). The typical whiskey is 40% ABV (80 proof) or higher. American Honey is actually weaker than most real whiskeys.
/r/seduction25/05/12 07:06 AM
8

Either he's saying it's that the woman is a mom (used to be a turn-off for me, now I'm kind of indifferent) or that his mom or the female's mom has caused him to say no to an attractive woman (living with parents?). Or there's the slight possibility that he means it was his mom, some people have Oedipus complexes. I'm gonna go with option 1, with option 3 being a close second.
/r/seduction23/05/12 01:05 AM
14

Damn! That's what I've been doing wrong. I've been going out on the dance floor and dancing for my own enjoyment. No wonder no one has approached me.
/r/seduction19/05/12 07:51 PM
4

Most bars have slow times or days. Even the bars that tend to draw a huge crowd. Go after happy hour, but before the partying crowd shows up. Go on Mondays or Tuesdays. You can get to know bartenders at the busier places this way and it does offer some good social proof.
/r/seduction19/05/12 07:48 PM
2

Good point, she may not be working. The only corporate store I've worked at was Taco Bell, but I do know they weren't allowed to give out any info on their employees or their work schedules when I worked there (liability issues). Don't know if GameStop is the same or not.
/r/seduction13/04/12 02:24 AM
3

I wash dishes at a university for my job. Women aren't exactly swooning over that. But I've found a way around saying that outright. When the question comes up, I tell them I work at the university. If they press further, I tell them I work in dining. They never really press further than that, and most assume I'm a cook, which is a bit better (and I do know how to cook, so it works). But yeah, the spy thing might work a bit better.
/r/seduction12/04/12 07:21 PM
2

So what's stopping you from going into her work and asking for her number/asking her out? I guess it depends on how you know where she works, but if you didn't find out some way that might seem shady, there's no harm in it. You could easily say something like "Hi, so I totally meant to ask for your number when we met the other day, but it slipped my mind until it was too late" or something to that effect. Confidence is key.
/r/seduction12/04/12 07:14 PM
4

I'm in upstate NY and it's still a good way to get your ass kicked here.
/r/seduction09/04/12 05:22 PM
2

Cool, then I'm golden.
/r/seduction06/04/12 07:10 AM
3

And for reference, what do you consider "being a shitty tipper" in that sort of situation?
/r/seduction06/04/12 12:17 AM
15

Just be sure to follow it up with The Naked Man.
/r/seduction06/04/12 12:11 AM
1

I don't know myself. It could be from that or it could have been a pre-existing thing they referenced, all I know is that this friend used that method.
/r/seduction02/04/12 02:02 AM
9

Yep, the buckshot method. A friend of mine used to use that method and it worked for him sometimes. When I asked him about it, he basically said: "Ask 100 girls to fuck, there's a good chance one of them will say yes."
/r/seduction29/03/12 03:44 AM
1

I would go with just saying high school Note: This only works if you were actually in high school in 2005 or later.
/r/seduction24/03/12 05:59 AM
1

Might have to at some point. Just don't want to end up in the wrong part of town late at night (I'm not super familiar with the area).
/r/seduction21/03/12 01:20 AM
1

There are two college campuses, but most of them don't really want to associate with locals (at Cornell at least). And like I said, Thursday-Saturday is typically not an issue (typical college party nights), but the rest of the week tends to be pretty dead. I never said that there were zero women to talk to in my town whatsoever, just that doing a whole week running isn't really possible here. Several bars around town are closed on Mondays anyway since it's a predictably slow night and just not …
/r/seduction21/03/12 01:18 AM
1

'Cuse does have some bars, but I haven't heard anything good about them from the people I know who have either lived there or gone to school there. Granted, they mostly went to OCC, not SU, and ventured into Syracuse proper on the weekends. But there's less of a scene for most things in Syracuse than there is in Ithaca (and Ithaca is kind of lacking despite having Cornell). Buffalo seemed awesome the one time I went, but it's about 3 hours away so it's even less doable than Rochester. I drive to…
/r/seduction20/03/12 10:52 PM
1

I live in central NY. Ithaca specifically, which is the biggest town in my immediate area. I could drive an hour to Syracuse, which doesn't have much going on other than stabbings or Binghamton which is kind of a depressing town but does have bar life, either way not drives I want to make too frequently because gas ain't cheap. Then there's Rochester about 2 hours away. You really need to know which part of town you're going to if you drive to Rochester because there are a lot of sketchy areas. …
/r/seduction20/03/12 06:13 PM
2

Yeah, things are a little different in a small city with only ~30k permanent residents.
/r/seduction20/03/12 06:49 AM
5

This is a bit harder to pull off in small towns/cities. There have been several Wednesdays I've gone out to find completely dead bars or with absolutely no one who interests me. I know in my town that there's generally not much going on Sunday-Tuesday. Wednesday is a wild card, could be happening, could be dead. Thursday-Saturday are the only nights that are reliably busy at the bars. And even then I've encountered some dead Fridays and Saturdays.
/r/seduction20/03/12 06:19 AM
1

Move to a big city. Profit! Fixed that. Seriously, if I lived in a bigger city this wouldn't be a problem at all. Half of the time I'm out at the bars it's all people I recognize and mostly don't want to interact with. If everyone's a stranger every night, going solo is no problem. I can have fun in a crowd of total strangers. But that's rarely the case in small towns. Unfortunately, I'm gainfully employed here for unskilled labor in a position that pays me more than it rightfully should (with b…
/r/seduction15/03/12 09:21 AM
1

Same here. My friends are either in relationships, don't go to the bars, are hard to even get ahold of, don't feel like going out, or some combination of the above on any given night. Going solo is a drag for me a lot of the time.
/r/seduction15/03/12 06:12 AM
2

I agree you can stay friends with some exes. Some are just not worth salvaging as friendships. And coffee rarely just means coffee.
/r/seduction14/03/12 06:37 PM
2

Coffee never just means coffee. From the sounds of it, you should avoid the shit out of her.
/r/seduction14/03/12 06:35 PM
1

Losing your virginity is "supposed to be" special. But in most cases, it's not. Personally, I wanted to lose mine to a girl I would be with for life when I was younger. I lost it to my first girlfriend, who I felt that way about. But we broke up about a year later. So I thought it was going to be this meaningful thing with this girl I would be with forever, but in the end it turned out to not even be memorable (I seriously can't differentiate it from any of the other times I had sex with her). I…
/r/seduction05/03/12 04:47 AM
1

Depends on the state. Some states they'll hit you with a DWAI (Driving While Ability Impaired) if your BAC isn't high enough to give you a DWI. Still not something you want to get charged with, but the penalties aren't nearly as severe as DWI.
/r/seduction26/02/12 05:49 AM
1

A single drink is approximately .02 (your weight also factors into it). You're not gonna get to .08 by drinking 1 drink an hour. By .08, you're more than just tipsy. 3 beers in an hour will likely get you close to that point, but you still may not be over .08. When referring to a single drink, that means... A few resources on BAC: http://www.ou.edu/oupd/bac.htm http://www.attorneydwi.com/bacperdrink.html
/r/seduction26/02/12 03:36 AM
1

Your body processes alcohol at approximately 1 drink per hour. You have a drink and wait an hour, you're probably good to drive. So yes, perfectly legal. Unless you haven't given your body enough time to process it.
/r/seduction26/02/12 03:33 AM
7

Maybe Trooper2442 does.
/r/seduction26/02/12 03:29 AM
2

Dinner is far too formal for a first date. Keep it simple for the first date, something either of you can bail from if things aren't going well. Coffee or going out for drinks are both good bets. You don't want to go out to dinner and find yourself locked in for an hour if things start going wrong after you've ordered. If things go wrong and you're out for coffee, you can bail at any time. Same with going to a bar/club. You do want to be somewhere you can talk and get to know each other better t…
/r/seduction24/02/12 08:03 AM
16

Self-loving introvert here too. I've got a good social life, people love being around me, but I'm not actually attracting women. I'm currently on a dry spell of a few months. I'm also gonna put this out there: The period of time where I did best with women was after a particularly bad breakup, during a time where I was filled with self-loathing. I didn't give a fuck about myself or anyone else. I was going out pretty much every night, drinking out of sorrow, and usually driving home drunk (thank…
/r/seduction21/02/12 07:35 PM
5

True enough, but: A) If she's completely disinterested you'd be lucky if you didn't get the head-turn or pull-away. And 2) If she's completely disinterested it would need to be one hell of a kiss to ignite a passion in her.
/r/seduction19/02/12 03:42 AM
1

Even at the doorstep is acceptable (before that is always better of course). Waiting until the 4th date? UNACCEPTABLE.
/r/seduction18/02/12 11:17 PM
13

Shit, I always give it a shot by the end of the first date. Even if it's just a small kiss, it shows you're actually attracted. If she isn't interested, she'll let you know by turning her head or pulling away. And if she isn't interested, congrats! You've saved yourself some time and money by finding out early!
/r/seduction18/02/12 11:13 PM
3

I've done it, but not with a close friend. She's still a friend now even though we've both moved on from the FWB thing.
/r/seduction18/02/12 06:47 AM
6

To anyone who doesn't know much about suits, any suit will look good. A $200 black suit and a $2000 black suit side-by-side, you'll be able to tell which one cost more and which is nicer. But a $200 black suit isn't going to stand out as being cheap on its own unless the observer really knows a good amount about suits. Honestly, a man should really have at least one nice suit. Honestly, not everyone can afford an expensive suit or would rather put that same money to another use (travel, a nicer …
/r/seduction13/02/12 08:45 AM
16

Even a cheap suit can look good as long as it fits well. If it's too large, take it to a tailor. You should with off-the-rack suits anyway, to get a perfect fit rather than a "close enough" fit. Most tailors' rates aren't too expensive anyway. You don't need to drop a thousand+ dollars on a suit, a $200 suit can look stunning if it fits. Tailoring is more important than most people realize.
/r/seduction13/02/12 06:05 AM
2

I have this problem too, but you know what I realized recently? It doesn't matter what you say as long as you say something. I realized it after just randomly starting a conversation with a girl at the bar. Didn't really think about it, just went for it. My opener was pretty lame, just asked her what she was drinking. But from there, we got into a discussion about whiskey, which somehow progressed to music (apparently we've got very similar interests there) and by the end of it all an hour had p…
/r/seduction08/02/12 10:43 AM
1

Seems you've attracted their wrath yourself. I was banned for attempting to start a civil discussion about what they think would be a better approach in that situation. EDIT: It's been deleted. Try deleting this, SRS!
/r/seduction07/02/12 06:53 AM
8

They played Monopoly until the break of dawn, the best kind of fun!
/r/seduction30/01/12 05:08 AM
10

Confidence != arrogance. People tend to respect confident men (and women). People tend not to respect arrogant men. EDIT: And to expound on this in regards to seddit, being confident is as simple as believing in yourself and being able to approach women without fear. Arrogance is thinking you are god's gift to women and believing you can never be wrong. Huge difference.
/r/seduction17/01/12 08:35 PM
9

The behaviour of the moderator that banned you suggest that she is very feminist, not to mention bitchy Feminism has nothing to do with it. Feminists are not necessarily bitchy by nature. They just want to see a world where women are on equal footing with men. That's all feminism is. Bitchiness is independent of that. She may very well be feminist (or believe she is). But that has nothing to do with the ban.
/r/seduction09/01/12 11:31 PM
14

More importantly, don't be boring!
/r/seduction05/01/12 05:48 PM
2

Speak for yourself there, buddy. If anything more than mundane mine tend to be awkward, but never once have they been hurtful.
/r/seduction02/01/12 02:27 AM
1

I had to pretend I had a stomach problem just so I could spend 30 minutes rubbing one out, haha! 30 minutes? Christ, man! I take a long time to come when I'm having sex, but I can rub one out in 5 minutes or less on my own.
/r/seduction21/11/11 05:25 AM
2

In America we have this weird thing where our culture is both prudish and highly sexual at the same time. We use sex appeal to sell products, sex is talked about all the time in sitcoms, but if you accidentally show a single tit on primetime TV it's a huge fucking controversy. And it does apply to other aspects of our culture as well. It's considered improper by a lot of society for women to talk openly about sex.
/r/seduction10/11/11 05:41 PM
1

I agree it's probably best to do that and I would do that if there were any predictability to my hookups. I've gone out on a Wednesday night about an hour before the bars stop serving and had a random hookup when I wasn't even looking for that sort of thing. I've also gone out plenty on Fridays and Saturdays expecting to find someone to hook up with and went home by myself. It's also easier if I don't have to remember to grab a condom every time I go out since I'm a master at forgetting things.
/r/seduction06/11/11 02:49 AM
1

I don't understand it either, but more from a comfort/harder for pickpockets to get at without me noticing standpoint.
/r/seduction06/11/11 01:19 AM
1

I meant asking about that in the comments section since "Condom Man" seems to have answered a couple other questions there, one of which was pretty inane. I'm thinking I'll do something of a copy-paste of my question. EDIT: Might or might not get a response. I just noticed those questions are from 2008, though they have been answered. DOUBLE EDIT: Seems it wouldn't submit it. Oh well.
/r/seduction05/11/11 09:38 PM
1

Might be worth it to ask them then.
/r/seduction05/11/11 09:10 PM
3

I'm curious, they mention your wallet going in your back pocket where it will be pressed close to your body when sitting down, exposing it to higher heat than normal. But what about if you keep your wallet in your front pocket with the condom in the side that's facing away from you? Doing a quick check on my own wallet (which is always in my front pocket), the side that's against my leg is warmer than room temp, but the side facing out seems to be about room temp. I admit it's not a very scienti…
/r/seduction05/11/11 09:05 PM
4

Yeah, I wouldn't do that because it seems rude. If it were one or two times during the date, that's one thing. If it's constant, that's another. I all but ignore my phone while on a date. I legitimately got a call from another friend while on a date, looked at my phone, and hit the ignore button. And that seemed to score me more points with the girl I was out with.
/r/seduction02/11/11 08:30 PM
3

If you're in a loud environment (like a club or near a busy street), it's also much more convenient than calling. It sucks when the other person can't hear a word you're saying.
/r/seduction02/11/11 08:25 PM
3

One question regarding eye contact that I've had for a while, but don't want to make a separate thread for. Are there any special tips for maintaining eye contact with someone who wears glasses? I seem to have trouble making and maintaining eye contact with women who have glasses because there's a physical barrier there and from different angles eye contact seems odd.
/r/seduction14/10/11 01:16 AM
1

The only gay bar in my town is a lesbian bar. The other gay bar did a conversion a few years back into a regular bar. It just doesn't have the same feel to it now.
/r/seduction08/10/11 12:59 AM
2

You're correct, but you're also completely missing the reference.
/r/seduction11/09/11 04:53 AM
5

Lebanese girls are the new half-Asians.
/r/seduction11/09/11 03:51 AM
1

There have been a few times recently where total strangers have said "Hi" to me and it really throws me off. I live in New York (state, not the City) and while people are generally friendly here, it's uncommon for strangers to say "Hi" to each other. Of course I say it back, and it is nice to get noticed, but it always leaves me a little confused.
/r/seduction09/09/11 03:08 AM
3

You know what? I smile a lot (toothy grins) and no one has ever given a damn about how white my teeth are. They're not smoker-yellow since I only indulge in cigarettes occasionally, but I drink coffee every day so they are a little stained. But that's never stopped anyone from having an interest in me. If you want to use teeth whiteners, that's cool, but it doesn't matter all that much overall. Then again, the teeth that are visible when I smile are pretty straight. My wisdom teeth on the other …
/r/seduction08/09/11 05:41 AM
4

Everyone needs time to themselves once in a while. I'm a social butterfly and I make a conscious decision not to go out some nights and just spend some time by myself.
/r/seduction07/09/11 05:34 AM
2

Honestly, I don't care what the girls think. What my parents think when I'm living with them (which has happened a couple times over the past few years) is another story. I don't have to deal with the girls on a daily basis. My parents, I do. And with my dad getting up at 4 in the morning so he can make it to work by 6, you better believe he'd be pissed if I woke him up. God I hate moving back there, even though I get along with my parents for the most part.
/r/seduction01/09/11 06:30 AM
2

Typically after work coffee, but a Saturday in early to mid-afternoon would also work. And the date with the girl I ended up in a relationship with was around 6pm (I can drink coffee any time of day, she had non- caffeinated herbal tea).
/r/seduction31/08/11 12:01 AM
3

Yeah, save movie for second date and dinner for third. Coffee--> movie--> dinner has always worked pretty well for me. Coffee is also great because if the date is going badly, you can always just decide to go the friends route or cut it off easily before you're out more than a few bucks. Or if it's going well, it can lead to walking and talking or other activities. I've even had a single date go from coffee to dinner to movie at her place to me in her bed (though we decided not to actually have …
/r/seduction30/08/11 05:08 AM
1

Fuck that. There are some women I want to get in my bed, there are others who are in my personal friend zone. A guy not being interested in a particular flirty woman doesn't make him gay.
/r/seduction29/08/11 01:53 AM
1

I'd say that just because a woman doesn't like you, that doesn't make her a bitch. Yes, but if a woman doesn't like you, she shouldn't give you her number in the first place. She may be a perfectly nice woman otherwise, but the move is quite bitchy.
/r/seduction29/08/11 01:50 AM
2

She was joking, I was running with the joke and until that verbal exchange she was fine with it. I didn't "lose her". She's a friend, nothing more, and friends play around like that sometimes.
/r/seduction27/08/11 09:03 PM
10

Never mention anything about a woman's weight, they will take it the wrong way. Case in point, a friend jokingly asked me to carry her because she didn't feel like walking the last few blocks to another friend's house. I picked her up and she said I didn't really have to do that, to which I replied "It's no problem, I've carried much heavier things before" thinking I was implying she took no effort to carry because she was pretty light. Yeah, she wasn't happy with me that night since she took it…
/r/seduction27/08/11 12:48 PM
0

Probably even more as a foreigner because you're a novelty.
/r/seduction15/08/11 01:07 AM
3

Unless it's part of your identity and passion (e.g., endless shifts at the hospital could be worth it if you're on your way to being a doctor and love medicine), fix this. There are other jobs. Even in this economy. I'm sorry, but this doesn't work for some of us. I hate my job, but it pays well enough that I can't quit. While it may work for someone who's working a minimum wage job, it doesn't work for someone like myself who is getting $6/hour over the minimum wage at a full-time job that also…
/r/seduction05/08/11 06:57 PM
2

So I was quite nervous about this but after doing a little research online, I found that the age of consent in my state is 16, not 18 as I thought. This is a handy reference for age of consent in the US. Many people aren't aware that the age of consent is not 18 everywhere. It varies state-to-state and the most common is 16. That said, I wouldn't do it. I've been with younger girls who were just above my state's age of consent. In my experience, they're just not as emotionally mature as women wh…
/r/seduction04/08/11 09:00 PM
2

I don't usually make funny toasts. Usually, I just use a generic toast in another language. Almost all of them mean "to health" or "to life" or just "cheers!". The ones I do most commonly are Greek or Gaelic or Russian/Polish, though I've been known to do others.
/r/seduction02/08/11 11:42 PM
6

Agreed. As lovely as it sounds on paper, it's not really toast material. That last bit would make it come off like you're hitting on the other person, but have resigned yourself to failure.
/r/seduction02/08/11 11:32 PM
54

to the ‘good life,’ whatever it is and wherever it happens to be. Even just this last bit would make a good toast.
/r/seduction02/08/11 11:29 PM
21

Meth will age you quick! Just 3 months on it and you'll look 10 years older! I'd recommend quitting after 3 months though, you don't want to overdo it and be a 22 year old who looks 55. (For the one person out there who doesn't get it, I'm don't actually recommend meth to anyone. It's quite a nasty drug.)
/r/seduction31/07/11 07:27 PM
6

This is not only true in Sweden, but many non-English countries. Engaging a Greek in Greek to start with will get you farther than approaching them and trying English immediately. At least in my experience. Again, all of them are taught English in school, but they're self-conscious about it because they only speak it when they have to. I swear I heard several different females say "My English is not so good" while I was there even though they could carry on pretty normal conversations in English…
/r/seduction29/07/11 03:34 AM
1

Could you give us some examples? It seems like a skill I'd like to use myself.
/r/seduction21/07/11 03:46 PM
0

The only major problem I have with the article is this: In the Hip-Hop world, someone who tries to be something he isn't is called a "poser" -- because he's seen to be "posing" like a model would pose; it's all about appearance, without any real substance. The word is "poseur". It's been in use since long before hip-hop was around. They arrive at a definition that's almost correct, but the reasoning they give for it meaning that is a bit strange. /off-topic rant
/r/seduction20/07/11 10:04 PM
1

Hey, it's cool you posted this to seddit, but this PSA goes beyond just the seduction community. If you wouldn't mind posting it for the general reddit community, I would definitely upvote it and I'm sure others would do the same.
/r/seduction18/07/11 06:37 PM
1

How much would it likely cost to get some T-shirts tailored? I've never really done it, but acknowledge that because I'm a lean, tall guy that when I buy medium T-shirts, I can expect them to be a little too loose, but if I buy small T-shirts they'll usually fit pretty well, except that they're a bit too tight and bunch up at the seam in the armpit. It's a no-win situation unless I were to get mediums and then have them tailored.
/r/seduction18/07/11 12:52 AM
1

It's more of an "if they ask" sorta thing. If they don't, then I'm not gonna explain because that would come off as trying too hard.
/r/seduction15/07/11 08:18 PM
1

What is the "drop out?" I'm assuming he means dropping out of contact entirely for whatever amount of time. I've pulled it on occasion and it can work to get someone more interested, because they'll assume you're off having fun without them. A week isn't really enough time for it to work though. It's usually been 3-4 weeks before they get curious enough to contact me.
/r/seduction13/07/11 04:24 PM
2

I was actually better at seducing my last girlfriend than I am at picking up girls now that I'm single again. There were often times when she said she needed to focus and get things done before we could do anything sexy (grad student in Materials Science) and we'd frequently end up in bed before she was done with work, which would result in a "dammit, how do you do that? I was trying to get work done!"
/r/seduction13/07/11 12:37 AM
0

And then she asked if I also went to the same church. I'd like to answer that question with another question: "Are tomatoes a vegetable?" It's deceptive because most people would assume that means "yes", when it could in fact be intended as a "no", which would be useful in this situation.
/r/seduction10/07/11 06:05 AM
1

It's cocaine. Nose candy and doing lines are almost always references to coke.
/r/seduction07/07/11 06:07 AM
2

Actually, yes, I can think of at least a few embarassing situations my friends have been in. However, I can't remember any that complete strangers have been in, which is what you would be to someone who you're approaching for the first time so your point still stands. (Yes, I am playing semantics.)
/r/seduction03/07/11 07:02 PM
1

Ah, thanks for clarifying. I wasn't sure if you were talking about "movement fuzziness" or not. A higher ISO would allow you to shoot at faster shutter speeds so it could eliminate some of that, but it's not going to help with actual focus otherwise. I'm also less familiar with Canons as I've been using a Nikon since I first got into digital. So the focus points being determined by the camera body struck me as a little strange. I'd actually like to check out the Canon side of things eventually j…
/r/seduction03/07/11 04:16 PM
2

The reason girls know that I'm not a creeper is because I spent $1000 on a DSLR that can focus on people's faces in the dark (btw, Rebels can't) One question: Doesn't your lens affect what you can focus on much more than your camera body would? Unless you're talking about issues with ISO not going high enough to get pictures without camera shake, but a flash would eliminate that problem. I spent $500 for an external flash, and I have a huge ($50) paparazzi-like flash diffuser. You don't even nee…
/r/seduction03/07/11 06:49 AM
10

It's all in the delivery. No confused look, just say it as confidently as possible. Think Barney Stinson confident, as if you can do no wrong.
/r/seduction01/07/11 05:34 AM
10

I tried it (or variations of it) with every shit-test comment in this thread so far. It works well for all of them but two: "Which of us do you think is hotter?" (which I guess could maybe work if you modify it to "Me. I'm Batman") and "Show me your muscles." I'll have to remember it so I can use it. The one I think it's funniest with is: "We're lesbians."
/r/seduction01/07/11 04:45 AM
8

Funny thing is, I could actually use that line and not be lying. My family on my dad's side is from Lesvos, Greece (often spelled Lesbos, always pronounced Lesvos), where the English term lesbian comes from.
/r/seduction01/07/11 04:39 AM
1

There's a difference between an actual nice guy and a door mat. This person is asking for a door mat.
/r/seduction30/06/11 09:09 PM
2

Maybe you should check out the situation a bit closer to you. I don't even have the luxury of being within 30 minutes of a big city. I live in a town that comparatively is in the middle of Bumfuck, Nowhere and I can find places to go 4-5 nights a week (although they can get really repetitive since it is a small town). Seriously, the nearest "big" cities are Syracuse (1 hour drive), Rochester (2 hour drive), and Buffalo (3 hour drive). I'm about 5 hours from NYC. So I'm sure you can find somethin…
/r/seduction30/06/11 08:23 AM
1

Yet still had time to reply.
/r/seduction30/06/11 07:19 AM
1

I'm in a similar situation, but to play devil's advocate, can you go out and not drink? That would eliminate the money problem and take away half of your excuse. The fact that I live in a small town is a harder problem for me to overcome than buying drinks.
/r/seduction30/06/11 07:19 AM
3

16 year olds aren't worth it, even if it's legal in your state. I dated one for a while when I was 20 and really, you're dealing with someone who is likely inexperienced sexually and emotionally immature. It's a bad combination. After that one experience, I stick to girls closer to my age (or older). I'm only 24 now, but I still wouldn't consider someone that young again even just for a casual encounter.
/r/seduction27/06/11 08:23 AM
1

That works fantastically for larger cities, but not very well for some smaller towns. The subreddit for my town has less than a handful of members and zero activity. The one for the nearby university isn't faring much better.
/r/seduction26/06/11 12:05 AM
3

This isn't actually bad advice. Churches are meeting places. Even more so if you're of an ethnicity covered by the Orthodox faiths (Greek, Russian, etc.). Even though I'm not a follower of the faith I know I can go into any Greek Orthodox church and will be welcomed. It's one of the major meeting places for the Greek community, even those that don't follow the faith.
/r/seduction25/06/11 09:04 PM
1

I suggest starting with your family, hang out with your first cousins who are of similar age, be friends with their friends. This is sound advice when it's possible. For myself though, it's not possible. My first cousins are all several years older than myself and married with children. And even if they weren't, none of them live near me. They're all at least a 2 hour drive away. Even my more distant cousins don't live anywhere nearby.
/r/seduction25/06/11 09:00 PM
6

Maybe he's going after both and thinks he might need different techniques for each.
/r/seduction16/06/11 01:51 AM
1

organic condom Lambskin condoms are at least natural, but maybe not organic (not treated with chemicals or whatever). But even so, I wouldn't want to go there even with lambskin condoms if she's that neurotic. You definitely dodged a bullet.
/r/seduction13/06/11 07:34 AM
3

xtc and mdma are the same thing right That's true, but nowadays most people use "ecstasy" (or "xtc", "E", "X", etc.) to refer to the pill form of MDMA, which is frequently cut with cocaine, speed, or other drugs and "Molly" as the typical term when referring to "pure" MDMA. I put pure in quotes because Molly is usually between 95% and 98% pure MDMA, which is a hell of a lot more pure than most of those E pills floating around, but still not 100% pure. And yeah, rolling is being on MDMA, whether …
/r/seduction12/06/11 08:03 PM
4

The line would seem rude without absolutely spot-on delivery. They have to be able to clearly tell you're teasing them playfully and not just being a dick. It's a tough thing to pull off unless you're a regular Don Juan. But if you're dressed to the nines and give a sly grin as you say it, you might be able to pull it off. Certainly not advisable for beginners.
/r/seduction12/06/11 06:35 PM
2

Oh, I agree. I'm just stuck in a small town where most of my friends are either too busy/tired to go out because they work all the time or they don't drink so I find myself having to fly solo a lot.
/r/seduction08/06/11 05:49 PM
4

Alright, that one makes sense. How about if you're at the bar solo?
/r/seduction08/06/11 02:59 PM
11

Man, that seems time consuming. They didn't even build in a pee break, which I'd definitely need after a drink or two. Seriously though, how do you turn your back to her and make it seem natural unless it's a response to something else?
/r/seduction08/06/11 02:13 PM
9

I had fun with my ex girlfriend sometimes by saying something that to me is obviously false and stating it as fact. Her response was usually "Really?", to which I just responded "No." It got a good chuckle out of her a lot of the time. Don't see why something like that wouldn't work. You have to be good at saying things that obviously aren't true with a straight face though.
/r/seduction30/05/11 06:55 PM
1

Start with friends of the opposite sex, they'll be more receptive to it. Make them non-"hitting on you" sort of touches. You know, touch their shoulder briefly to punctuate a joke or a point you're making. Start with that, and eventually that sort of touch becomes more natural to you. Then the idea of touching someone during conversation on their forearm or hand or wherever becomes easier. Just practice. When they don't shy away from your touch, you become less afraid of breaking that touch barr…
/r/seduction30/05/11 04:02 PM
1

While it is technically an amphetamine, the effects of MDMA are somewhat different from a "typical" amphetamine and often make the user more open to the feelings of others (in addition to the warm, fuzzy feeling it causes in the user).
/r/seduction30/05/11 03:37 PM
1

It's hard to make something like that sound sarcastic without actually being sarcastic. Your tone of voice conveys it all. Say it like you mean it.
/r/seduction25/05/11 07:43 PM
10

I prefer to divide and conquer, personally.
/r/seduction25/05/11 07:39 PM
1

I'd guess she's blowing you off, as much as I hate to say that. Did you kiss her at the end of the first date? Or at least try to? In my experience, it's expected that you're going to try. If you don't, it may signal to her that you aren't all that interested. And if you can, try to set up plans for the next date before the first one is over. It gives her something to look forward to, puts you in the dominant role, and gives her less room to just blow you off if it's done right (i.e. "Let's go t…
/r/seduction19/05/11 08:01 AM
1

24/M. My best friend committed suicide when we were both 17. I had relied on him a lot for socialization as I had always been the shy, quiet type. I seriously think I had severe social anxiety as even everyday interactions with cashiers, bus drivers and the like made me uncomfortable. After his passing, I struggled for a good long while before learning how to make social connections myself. Today, I'm still pretty quiet in a lot of situations, but I know how to talk to the people I actually want…
/r/seduction19/05/11 06:43 AM
2

Day game. I've seen a bit of material presented here, but you could probably find more searching on your own. The point is "put yourself out there rather than sitting at home all day/night browsing seddit", not "go out and drink otherwise you're a loser". Also, I know a few people who frequently go out to the bars but either don't drink or take 1 month breaks from drinking. If need be, you order a coke or other non-alcoholic beverage to make you feel better about not actually drinking alcohol.
/r/seduction02/05/11 08:25 AM
1

Thanks. I'm not too worried about it, there are other trees I can bark up in the mean time. I wasn't really apologetic about anything that night, which is something I've had trouble with in the past. I'm trying to work on that. The Misfits bit was asking her opinion, but I also thought I might feeling like other music at the time and didn't want to mess around looking through my CD case.
/r/seduction30/04/11 12:54 AM
2

Just under 3 drinks since she had maybe 1/4 of that last beer, 2 hours to process (we did some walking with her friend before driving that was irrelevant to the initial post). Meaning that my BAC was maybe at .02 or .03, which isn't nearly enough to get a DWI. I know not to drive when I'm drunk since I had a few scares when I was younger and stupider. And I wasn't rationalizing anything until people started questioning why I didn't bang her. I had a good night regardless and that's something we …
/r/seduction29/04/11 09:51 PM
2

You're right, I don't have direct evidence of a boyfriend that's current. But I do know for a fact that she was in a relationship with this guy from a local band as recently as a month ago. And now that I'm thinking about it, I'm pretty sure she's living with one of her parents. I'm not 100% certain but I know in some previous conversation she had mentioned after a previous breakup that she moved back in with one of her parents about 10 minutes outside of town, and that's about how far this was.…
/r/seduction29/04/11 09:22 PM
2

Yeah...after a while we started joking that for them it's probably like what nature programs are to us. Strange situation though.
/r/seduction29/04/11 08:28 PM
4

Hey, I got my morals, you've got yours. I did check and she's still listed as being in a relationship on facebook so no dice.
/r/seduction29/04/11 08:27 PM
1

A quick way to know if a woman is married or engaged before even speaking to them (in the U.S. at least) is to glance at her left hand. Is there a ring on the ring finger? If yes, don't bother approaching if being married/engaged is a dealbreaker for you. I know it's a dealbreaker for me, but it's not for some men. If she's not wearing a ring and tells you she's married/engaged, try to keep the conversation going, she may be testing you. You can always say something like "Oh, must have lost your…
/r/seduction29/04/11 07:13 PM
5

You make an excellent point. My first girlfriend and I always had sex in a secluded park because we were both in high school, lived with our parents, and didn't drive (each of us living 15 minutes outside of town by car in opposite directions). There were perks to it. Ever felt a light warm rain on your back while having sex? It's incredible. There were also downsides to it, like sex being weather-dependent. Or the deer that would sometimes watch us. That's just awkward.
/r/seduction29/04/11 06:19 PM
2

I've had to move back in with my parents a few times. Last August-December I was living with them. I'm 24, work full-time, and am in great shape moneywise (no debt to speak of, several k saved up). Sometimes situational problems require moving back in with your parents. Last time I did it was because the friends I was looking at getting a place with bailed on me 2 weeks before I was leaving for Greece for a month. And in my town nearly all leases start in August. I was left with 2 weeks to find …
/r/seduction29/04/11 06:10 PM
1

Worth a shot, just don't pass up other opportunities that come by.
/r/seduction26/04/11 12:34 AM
2

Either way, can't hurt to put in a minimal amount of effort if he's interested and just keep her on the backburner. I'm not suggesting he invest too much energy in pursing her because it very well might be a lost cause.
/r/seduction24/04/11 03:38 PM
15

I'm gonna disagree with the other posters here and not just tell you to move on. My suggestion would be to find out when she's actually available (if such a thing is possible) and make plans for then. If that's not possible, tell her you'd like to chill with her and that she should get ahold of you when she's actually free. Normally this is "beta", but when dealing with a girl who's actually busy frequently sometimes you have to adjust your play-style. If you don't hear from her for a few weeks …
/r/seduction24/04/11 07:12 AM
1

You might want to go to /r/porn for that. It's very doubtful you're going to ever see porn in this subreddit.
/r/seduction20/04/11 04:00 AM
7

So attempting to be Michael Cera isn't the way to get the girl?
/r/seduction20/04/11 03:58 AM
2

Proximity is one of the major factors in attraction. If you're around someone frequently enough, you can easily build up an attraction to them. Think about how common it is for someone to fall for a person they work with or someone who runs in the same social circles. I originally learned that tidbit in one of my psych courses, but this article reminded me of it.
/r/seduction20/04/11 03:53 AM
6

While those guys are out there, there are other guys who genuinely are nice and don't lash out or back out of the friendship just because the girl's not interested that way. I kind of am one of those nice guys. But I'm breaking out of that mold more recently. Even at my worst I never invested all of my energy into any one girl I wasn't dating, I've had my advances rejected by female friends, and I've remained friends with those ones and focused my energy elsewhere. The only time I've ever lashed…
/r/seduction19/04/11 01:52 AM
1

Actually your FR was half of what inspired that question. The other half was the cute girl who cashed me out the other night at the supermarket. I managed to maintain eye contact with her for longer than what's usual with strangers even in transactions. But I really didn't know how to have much of a conversation with her. After all, I don't usually need to buy more than a couple things. First time I've seen her there, but I might have to try having a little bit of conversation next time I see he…
/r/seduction14/04/11 02:12 AM
1

Good eye contact is the easy part. I've got that down. Getting more than a few seconds to interact is the hard part. Worth a shot though.
/r/seduction13/04/11 04:00 PM
5

I have a question relating to day game. How can you get a cashier's number when there are other customers waiting on line? I've missed a couple opportunities because it's hard to break out of the typical customer/cashier role.
/r/seduction13/04/11 04:58 AM
1

Can't he do both? Getting a number and not calling/texting is going to get you nowhere. Get lots of numbers, try them all and your probability of it leading somewhere increases by a lot.
/r/seduction09/04/11 05:41 PM
21

Congrats! But don't put all your eggs in one basket. If it doesn't work out, use this experience in getting more numbers from more girls since it worked well for you this time. Consider this a first step rather than THE step. I'd say call her within 3 days of having gotten the number. Could be one day, could be 2, could be 3. If you wait much longer than 3 days, it ceases to be building antici....pation and starts to be "he's not interested in me". Set up a date. Don't ask when she's free, give …
/r/seduction09/04/11 08:54 AM
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You want to build a little anticipation, but 3 days can be a bit much. I've had some success with it, but you can be successful calling the next day or 2 days later even. The main thing is to not wait too long. If you wait a week, she's going to think you lost interest entirely. Even if you do call, she'll assume it's because none of the other girls you're presumably going after are getting back to you. And no one wants to be a last resort.
/r/seduction09/04/11 08:44 AM
16

And goes to raves, and wants me to come with him.
/r/seduction09/04/11 08:39 AM
1

Always at least attempt to k-close on a date if you're interested in them. Girls expect it on a first date. To not even try signals to them that you aren't interested in taking it further. Also, I've found in my own experience that it's a good idea to set yourself up for a second date by the end of the first date. I'm not talking about "This was fun, let's do it again sometime". That "sometime" makes it a weak statement. Instead, be a bit more specific. "Let's go to a movie next weekend" is stro…
/r/seduction06/04/11 04:15 AM
3

Sorry, but there are problems with that when you're both working people or college students who have busy schedules. Maybe the wording could be better, but a lot of times you do need to know when the other person is free. Maybe he should have made it more of a statement, like "I'm free [Friday, Saturday or Sunday] evening, let's get together then". Would that be more effective? I'm genuinely curious since this is something I could work on too, but is taking a shot in the dark more effective than…
/r/seduction06/04/11 03:43 AM
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Not so sure. When scheduling dates you need to know two things: when she's free and when you're free. You already know when you're free, so now you need to ask her when you're free. I don't know why you were downvoted for that. It's easy when you're in college and pretty much everyone has evenings/weekends free. But beyond that, when you work full-time and so do a lot of people around you, it can be hard to make plans without knowing schedules. True life example with a girl I actually know has s…
/r/seduction06/04/11 03:37 AM
1

Switch your brackets. [] around the title, () around the URL if you were trying to do what I think you were.
/r/seduction05/04/11 03:42 PM
1

I was just thinking about asking this earlier. I think it's come up here before, but it's a topic I don't mind seeing re-opened since music changes, as do peoples' tastes. This is always a good one, just because it makes me feel badass and I like the message: Dwarves - You Gotta Burn And this one is always fun: Mindless Self Indulgence - Bitches But usually I just listen to a bunch of ska (3rd wave) because upbeat music puts me in a good mood for going out and being social.
/r/seduction05/04/11 05:33 AM
3

I'd say to keep trying. Why let a girl go when you've got her on the hook? Just mind that you shouldn't be overly assertive regarding sex with her. She seems interested, she just might take a little longer than other girls before she's comfortable going all the way. I've been with girls who took a while to be comfortable with sex, but if you're consistent with just making nods in that direction and stopping when she's uncomfortable, she'll let you know when the time's right (verbally or non-verb…
/r/seduction05/04/11 03:50 AM
5

she says: "NICK I CANT!" My name is not Nick. Instantly was like "wtf???" She says "You don't understand!" To me, this says that someone named Nick may have been a little too pushy with her at some point. Maybe she felt coerced into sex by him at some point when she really wasn't comfortable with it or he could have forced himself on her or something like that. It doesn't seem like she was saying his name in a way where she associated it with something good. I could be wrong here, but you do hav…
/r/seduction05/04/11 03:38 AM
1

I used to be the type of guy who would always ask. I'm breaking out of that habit, but I get incredibly nervous at all the wrong times. I can do everything right during my time out with a lady, and then screw up at the end of the night by not making a move (despite plenty of liquid courage). I managed to at least make the small move of kissing the last girl I was out with at the end of the night, despite this tendency. I plan on doing a newbie FR as soon as reddit stops fucking up, but I figured…
/r/seduction05/04/11 03:10 AM
1

Usually if you're kidding around sarcastically and doing it well she should be able to tell without you saying. I joke like that all the time and never drop a "just kidding". It's easier to just say things in a tone that makes it seem like what you're saying can't possibly be serious than to use a "just kidding" without it costing you.
/r/seduction04/04/11 06:30 AM
1

Okay, I know I'm missing the point with what I'm about to say, but: Where am I going to "open practice sets" by 2:30 in the morning when the bars here close at 1 (the few that are actually open on Sundays)? And between now and 10:18 am manage to number close two or more FB 8/9s? I get the general point you're trying to make (go out and do things rather than sitting at home contemplating doing things), but it may be a little off-mark in the delivery.
/r/seduction04/04/11 06:20 AM
1

I live in a small town in the U.S. and it always feels weird to me too unless I find someone I know there. I just don't know what to do when I'm out solo, it's much easier for me when I have at least one friend to play off of. But a lot of my friends don't go out to bars very often.
/r/seduction02/04/11 04:56 PM
2

One thing: While I admit I look baller in a suit, I'd feel pretentious wearing one for anything more than special occasions. In fact, most "dress" clothes would fall into that same category for me and a lot of other college age males (I'm being generous with the ages here in my head, thinking of the 25 and under crowd). Also, I'd be way overdressed for 90% of all of the bars around here if I were to go in dress clothes. Are there any general tips for those of us who want to look good, but mainta…
/r/seduction01/04/11 06:49 PM
1

A good guide for those who are unfamiliar with dancing. The thing I've noticed out at clubs is that if you just move to the rhythm of the music, you'll do fine. Your dance moves aren't going to stand out unless you're either phenomenal or a complete train wreck so just don't worry about it. On the dance floor most people have only average dancing skills.
/r/seduction29/03/11 06:36 AM
0

I was trying to point out that it's not a good option at all, it's actually a pretty bad one. But if you have no scruples and don't care about the consequences, then it's still an option. I assumed the "weaving a web of lies" part would make that obvious. Call me devil's advocate on this one.
/r/seduction27/03/11 05:09 AM
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If you're okay weaving a web of lies for a potential lay, tell them you're in a frat and use letters of one of the bigger ones on campus. Just realize you're going to have to lie through your teeth and play your cards just right. Otherwise, just tell the truth. It's easier, but the girls who are asking are probably only into frat boys. And if something as silly as that is going to make or break their interest in you, you probably don't want to be with them anyway.
/r/seduction27/03/11 02:54 AM
3

15/20 here, but really where did they find some of these people?
/r/seduction26/03/11 09:54 PM
2

At first I was gonna suggest that you should have texted her the bar you were going to and invited her there. By coming to her you were a bit beta. I would have, but didn't feel like doing a lot of texting and never gave her a definite on whether I was going to meet her at all until I showed up. Also, that bar is one that it's been established previously that we both like. The bars that are right downtown (which is within walking distance of my place) are kind of limited too. You've got the two …
/r/seduction22/03/11 08:20 PM
1

But everyone knows the plural of "anecdote" is "data".
/r/seduction22/03/11 05:33 PM
2

So how does that explain us who wank every night (except those where we're getting laid), yet still take at least 30 minutes to get off when in bed with a lady? Serious question. I'd like to masturbate less, but don't want to take too much longer to get off in bed.
/r/seduction22/03/11 07:30 AM
1

I realized that about 5 minutes too late. Next time I'll be trying for it.
/r/seduction22/03/11 06:26 AM
2

It looks like they've got things organized strangely and arbitrarily. Why sigma and lambda rather than other Greek letters? Other than that they're probably the ones people are most familiar with. Would it be any different if they'd defined lambda as what they have sigma defined as and vice versa? I doubt it.
/r/seduction20/03/11 09:25 PM
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Like I said, it seems pretty solid. I do know a few girls who are in my own personal friend zone who really don't like people using their given names. They're few and far between, but they do exist. Your technique seems like it could work most of the time though.
/r/seduction15/03/11 03:08 AM
9

Some girls really don't like their given name, so if they put up a lot of resistance to it, you just might have to go with their preferred name. Otherwise, it seems pretty solid.
/r/seduction15/03/11 02:37 AM
3

Also unrelated, how'd you take a screenshot? Is that a phone-specific thing? --Fellow Android user.
/r/seduction14/03/11 05:58 AM
2

I met a 30 year old who I wouldn't have guessed was over 23. Her friend (the one who had a boyfriend), I would have guessed was 25 at the oldest. She was 29. So yes, they're hot. EDIT: I'm also going to mention I was 23 at the time of the trip and have a pretty set age range that I'll consider for potential partners. Greece was the first time I've ever considered changing the upper limit of my age range.
/r/seduction12/03/11 11:38 PM
3

In my experience with travelling abroad, you just have to seem like a chill tourist. Don't act too touristy, but just try getting to know the locals. Really, be yourself. I fucked up my opportunities when I was in Greece. Not much choice about it, I was staying with my dad and grandmother in a small apartment. Sharing a room with my dad, my grandmother sleeping in the living room which the front door opened into. Next time I will be going on my own and not staying with my grandmother. However, I…
/r/seduction12/03/11 10:41 PM
1

I like this idea. My town is small but there are definitely places I haven't checked out. Going out for food though, I like to not go out alone. I prefer to bring a friend or two. But that won't stop me from trying this while I'm out.
/r/seduction01/03/11 05:12 AM
1

One of my favorite "seize the day" quotes is from James Dean: "Dream as if you'll live forever, live as if you'll die today."
/r/seduction01/03/11 04:40 AM
2

For me it's more Carpe Noctum. Because I'm rarely out during the day.
/r/seduction01/03/11 04:30 AM
1

I've had this happen before and went for it. It was well received (I got laid that night). The avoiding eye contact was also coupled with a nervous lip-bite, which is a pretty sure sign to go for it too. Thank you for the reminder. I haven't gone out much recently, but I'd forgotten about those small "I want you to make a move" signals and will attempt to put that info to good use.
/r/seduction01/03/11 04:27 AM
1

That was pretty helpful. I've started editing my profile to work with your guide. One thing I'd change though: The part about never being online on FB chat ever. I use FB chat to keep in touch with close friends who are so far in my own personal friends zone that I'd never even consider them possibilities. And male friends. What I did instead was to create a special friend group for people I don't want to see me online for the purpose of seeming like I'm not on FB all the time. Then in the FB ch…
/r/seduction25/02/11 09:10 PM
1

There is always a possibility of offending someone when trying to pick them up. You shouldn't worry about it, if they're offended you'll likely never see them again or at least not enough for it to matter. But yeah, the specific things he listed were a bit over-the-top and a little creepy. You do want to avoid being a desperate creeper. But it's always a risk of trying to pick someone up at a bar/club. Simply asking to buy a girl a drink can come off as creepy if it's not done right.
/r/seduction25/02/11 04:25 AM
1

You're missing the point. He's not saying do those things specifically, he's saying to be bold and try something, anything, just make a move and stop worrying so much about "what if...?" because you won't get what you want by always taking the safe road.
/r/seduction25/02/11 03:52 AM
16

I am Spartac-- er, Bill Clinton!
/r/seduction19/02/11 08:33 AM
10

See, I'm just not gonna worry about it. February's gonna be a good month for me regardless of the ladies. Gonna be seeing 2 of my favorite bands, plus another supposedly awesome ska band as well as attempting to make a female friend's birthday great since last year's sucked bigtime for her. Maybe if I'm lucky some chick will pick up on how happy I am this month and things will happen, but if not, oh well. It's not going to make me any less satisfied. Besides, the 14th is a Monday this year, I'll…
/r/seduction07/02/11 03:54 AM
1

It took me a while to get what it was saying too and half of the time I still read it like that. They should consider hyphens.
/r/seduction02/02/11 05:25 PM
2

I know they're not great, I just had to make the joke.
/r/seduction02/02/11 04:47 PM
4

Don't be sad, there's still Plentyoffish in the sea.
/r/seduction02/02/11 04:27 PM
1

One note: James Dean's "scowling" often wasn't actually scowling. He had poor eyesight (as you can see by his glasses in the first picture). He rarely ever wore his glasses though, so he would have to squint a bit to see things. /James Dean fanboy So if you want to be able to give that James Dean look, get myopic and squint to see better. This may cause some trouble trying to tell an HB4 from an HB8 from across the room though, so use it carefully.
/r/seduction02/02/11 06:19 AM
2

Slouching in an unconventional seat should always be your first choice.
/r/seduction01/02/11 07:44 AM
2

Are you implying that you talk to people other ways or not at all? The general public needs to know.
/r/seduction28/01/11 09:28 AM
15

Side note: HB's love this movie too and I've invited sev eral girls over to my place to watch it with me. Most of them said yes. Its worth owning the dvd just for that reason. If you finished the movie, you're doing it wrong. Movie is girl code for sex.
/r/seduction28/01/11 06:31 AM
1

Change "fuck" to "sleep with" and the response sounds a lot less aggro. Keep cursing to a minimum with people you don't know well.
/r/seduction22/01/11 06:06 PM
44

You could pull something similar in a bar, tell them that you'll buy a drink for the most beautiful one. Let them bicker about it for a while, order a drink, down it yourself and walk out like a boss. Dealing with Lady Eris can be a bitch.
/r/seduction21/01/11 11:36 PM
3

townies scare the crap out of me (HPV) Can I ask why townies scare the crap out of you? I doubt everyone there can have HPV and I'm curious what you meant by that statement. Don't write people off because of where they're from or whether they're undergrad or grad students. You may just find what you're looking for someplace unexpected. Basically, just don't limit yourself. The only reason I thought to write this out is that in my area, I'm a townie and most of the college girls won't give me the…
/r/seduction21/01/11 10:50 PM
2

Yes. A few times. First time, I dated a girl for a year and a half. She had a problem with fidelity and I ended it. It took me a couple years to get over her. I didn't have sex with anyone after her for nearly 2 years, hardly even made out with anyone during that time. The second time, I dated another girl for a year and a half. She pulled the "I need space" thing on me after all that time. And right after we'd had sex no less. She kept me in a grey area for about 3 months, never specifically sa…
/r/seduction08/01/11 07:58 AM
6

"Movie" is often girl code for sex. There have only been a few occasions when a girl invited me back to her place (or suggested we go back to mine) to watch a movie where it didn't result in sex. My most recent ex even admitted that she used it as such.
/r/seduction07/01/11 09:43 PM
7

If you don't want to talk to them, don't talk to them or tell them you're not interested in what they're selling. Those awkward guys are just that. They're not doing it to piss you off, and if they're that awkward they probably have trouble reading subtle hints that you're not interested. Don't throw your drink on some random guy who just doesn't know good conversation starters. And what do you think would work better? It would be useful for us to see it from the female perspective because we al…
/r/seduction02/01/11 06:45 AM
0

Always a good idea to eat before you drink. I got alcohol poisoning once as a teen because I had nothing in my stomach. It was a learning experience.
/r/seduction18/12/10 10:03 PM
1

Don't make out in public, don't get too drunk that you forget you shouldn't do this. Always stay on the charming side of drunk.
/r/seduction18/12/10 08:01 PM
3

I've never seen either of those so I couldn't really say.
/r/seduction18/12/10 06:44 PM
3

Of course that won't work on everyone, it's sort of a scattershot technique. A friend of mine has done something similar, basically he'll just ask a girl if they want to fuck. Most of the time it doesn't work, but occasionally there's a girl who will take you up on it. He figures on getting 1 or 2 positive responses out of 50*. *Results may vary depending on looks, confidence, and charm.
/r/seduction17/12/10 06:03 PM
3

Yeah, in that case I don't get why you wouldn't just refer to him as an "alpha male" or if you need to shorten it, "alpha".
/r/seduction11/12/10 10:28 PM
1

The first paragraph is project talk, and the second...she has a boyfriend, and he wouldn't like that she was going for coffee with someone else. But it's not awkward, and she didn't make fun of me (I thought). And as it turns out, we worked on the rest of the project online and she even told me that she really liked working with me! I had my first good rejection like that about a month ago. It was a girl I worked with and talked to occasionally who seemed pretty flirty. So I decided to ask her o…
/r/seduction10/12/10 07:26 PM
1

I am going to make some moves. I'm grabbing drinks again tomorrow night, but she's meeting friends this time too (there were friends last time I was invited along). Another part of not wanting to really push it last time was that I was just getting over being sick but still didn't want to turn down her invite. Ask her out in a few days with a text that says "come meet me at [place] tomorrow at [8]!" Make sure it's a night date, and not coffee. This is part of the problem right here. I work days …
/r/seduction10/12/10 08:22 AM
1

Fair enough. My only concern is the potential of coming on too strong. I should mention I don't have much experience with anything even resembling actual dating (although I've had a few relationships) and don't want to come off as needy. I'm not, just easily excitable about potential new situations since the dating pool here is kind of small.
/r/seduction07/12/10 06:21 AM
2

This always gets me pretty pumped. It doesn't really kick into high gear until after the 2 minute mark. This one makes me feel pretty badass. Also, this one sometimes just for fun. And for the record, I can't stand "We No Speak Americano". It wasn't bad the first few times, but when I heard it about 5 times a day every day for 3 weeks in Greece I was about ready to rip my hair out.
/r/seduction07/12/10 03:18 AM
2

24 year old male, and I'm at 5. Numbers 3, 4, and 5 happened last year. Number 5 and I ended up in a 6 month relationship. I haven't had any new partners since we broke up in April, but the two of us have continued to have relatively regular sex since then so I've been a little laid back on finding anyone new. It may seem low, but I go for quality over quantity. I could have had a number of other girls, but just wasn't interested in them. Plus there's a pretty small dating pool here and not much…
/r/seduction07/12/10 03:05 AM
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This goes out to the ladies out there too. ;)
/r/seduction28/11/10 03:19 AM
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