Get More Dates With Captivating First Messages (x-post from /r/OKCupid)

HumanSockPuppet · 2012-07-03T18:51:56+00:00

This isn't terrible advice for messaging women on dating sites, but let's remember something here:

Chatting with women on dating sites is not and should not be considered a substitute for approaching women in real life.

I've known too many fledgling PUAs who used online dating sites as creative workaround to avoiding confronting their troubles with approach anxiety, and it hurts their game in the long run.

If you must use dating sites, let it be to supplement your daily approaches.

24rubikscube · 2012-07-04T08:00:24+00:00

Agree with all of the advice. It's a good tool if used right. I've had a lot of success on there.

fish619407 · 2012-07-03T22:29:53+00:00

Don't make a captivating first message.

This is why.

Have you ever heard of the Nigerian money scams. They email you some BS and try to get you to send money. Why do they always say they're from Nigeria? They could say they're from anywhere in the world but they don't. It's a way of qualifying who's dumb enough to go through with the scam. It makes it easier for them.

I've been on OKCupid for not even a year. I always send the same message and I've been on 30-45 dates in that 8 months on the site. My message always says, "You seem cool...Lets go on a date." If they don't respond it's OK. But if they do respond I know that it will be a good date because I didn't have to go through all the bull shit and flakyness. In a sense my low quality message qualifies who is down, and who isn't. BTW I live in a foreign country that doesn't really use OKCupid and only date western women. Keep it simple, stupid.

kale2 · 2012-07-04T05:30:00+00:00

you should have reframed them and brought them into your reality

next time pivot on them

Kminardo · 2012-07-03T22:43:36+00:00

The example openers kind of suck. Put yourself on the receiving end, are any of those going to perk your interest? Probably not in the least.

Title	Get More Dates With Captivating First Messages (x-post from /r/OKCupid)
Author	NickTDS
Upvotes	73
Comments	19
Date	July 3, 2012 4:18 PM UTC (14 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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