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You didn't answer the question directly. Are you flirting from the start? Are you touching early and frequently? Are you being playful? Are you escalating and going for a kiss consistently? I highly doubt you "can't stack up to most men". I've watched guys of every size, shape, and type for six years become successful. Many of them are traditionally "unattractive" and do amazingly well. There's something specific you're not implementing.
/r/seduction19/07/13 07:15 PM
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Guys who have a lack of experience tend to perceive that no girls are attracted to them. Usually, it's a lack of taking action and pushing it forward. You exercise, dress well, have good eye contact, and approach. But do you show intentions? Do you flirt with them? Are you escalating physically and logistically? Are you asking for numbers? Are you going for the kiss? And then are you trying to move them back to your place? You have to bring the connection to a sexual point because the vast major…
/r/seduction19/07/13 06:48 PM
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Thanks for the insightful comment. It's definitely a hard lesson to swallow but an important one. As for "you can be friends with girls who don't find you attractive", I'm in total agreement. Nothing in the article contradicts that. There are plenty of girls who I'm friends with that have no attraction to me. The key is, I only want to be friends with them as well and that's great. It gets shady when you secretly want her as a sexual partner and you're only pretending to be a friend in hopes som…
/r/seduction19/07/13 06:37 PM
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They're one and the same. If you're showing your genuine interest you are showing you like her in a sexual, romantic manner. Like I stated above, I disagree with the whole idea that obscuring intention is beneficial. Intention is only needy if the mindset behind it is. If you hit on her because you simply want to, that's attractive. Men who shamelessly go after the women they desire get laid like rock stars. But if you hit on her because you're seeking a certain outcome, looking for her validati…
/r/seduction19/07/13 06:32 PM
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Showing interest is exactly how you AVOID getting friend zoned. It's when guys pretend to be platonic and don't turn girls on that they get slotted as a friend. She has to see you as a sexual prospect. She needs to feel the sexual tension between you. That will never happen if you only have safe, timid conversations. Check out my article on displaying sexual intention, I think it'll help.
/r/seduction19/07/13 06:00 PM
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Thanks for reading. I have to disagree with "less you show you are interested the more they flock to you." It was a big point I addressed in the article. You should always show your intentions with a girl. Be forward. Flirt. Setup dates. Get physical. Go for the kiss. Assume she's attracted until proven otherwise. You draw the line when the girl doesn't return the same. When she never makes plans with you. If she's never receptive to your touches. If she refuses to kiss you back. You give it a s…
/r/seduction19/07/13 05:50 PM
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Thanks.
/r/seduction19/07/13 04:33 PM
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It puts a huge smile on my face to see my advice helped out. Thanks for sharing it with others!
/r/seduction15/07/13 07:20 PM
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No need for sorries, you were just having fun.
/r/seduction28/06/13 09:44 PM
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Glad it's helping to motivate you.
/r/seduction28/06/13 01:59 PM
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Not famous but I've been contributing for many years.
/r/seduction28/06/13 01:57 PM
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That guy was me and I disagree. There's a huge difference between assertiveness/persistence and desperation. The former is attractive, the latter is needy. Being vulnerable and showing honest intentions are some of the most confident qualities a person can have.
/r/seduction28/06/13 01:56 PM
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Thanks.
/r/seduction28/06/13 01:50 PM
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You're welcome and good luck sir.
/r/seduction28/06/13 01:50 PM
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For the sake of retyping, here's a similar response I made earlier: As for creepiness, it's relative and there is no absolute metric for it. It's useless to stress over. If a girl likes you, almost everything you do will be seen as attractive. If she doesn't like you, those same things will be seen as creepy. Check out my post The Truth About Being "Creepy"
/r/seduction28/06/13 01:49 PM
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I waited 5 years to finally share some simple, common stories in hopes of throwing people off the trail. But damn, you still caught me. In all seriousness, it doesn't matter if you believe what I did. What matters is that you and other readers believe those type of experiences are attainable for yourselves.
/r/seduction28/06/13 01:46 PM
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Haha, my content can get lengthy. But I try to make it so engaging and useful that people have to read on.
/r/seduction28/06/13 01:41 PM
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Then maybe this will help... Why She Stopped Sleeping With You
/r/seduction28/06/13 01:38 PM
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It's catch-22. Until you put yourself out there and see women attracted to you, you won't overcome that belief.
/r/seduction28/06/13 01:36 PM
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Thanks and you're very welcome!
/r/seduction28/06/13 01:36 PM
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Thank you sir, happy you enjoyed the read.
/r/seduction28/06/13 01:35 PM
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Mhmm, and that's part of the idea in the article. Start small, set goals to introduce yourself to even one woman a week and increase from there. Even a simple functional question like, "Do you know where the nearest Starbucks is?" just to get your feet wet.
/r/seduction28/06/13 01:34 PM
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I'm barely 5'8" but as Xaxxus said, it doesn't matter. It's all about how you carry yourself. I have two friends under 5'6" who crush it with beautiful girls. Also, shorter guys can often be more assertive and sexual without coming off too intimidating. And anyway, can you change it? Nope. So no point in worrying about it. It'll only limit you if you allow it to.
/r/seduction27/06/13 11:58 PM
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Sure, I would recommend these posts to start: The Sherlock Holmes Method to Always Having Something to Say How to Be a Charming Storyteller How to Be a Better Conversationalist In general: Use more statements. Force yourself out of your head and to be present listening. Ask questions you give a shit about and that aren't fluff, generic, or always safe.
/r/seduction27/06/13 11:55 PM
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It could be a fear of success. "If I succeed, then I have to follow through and eventually it's going to fail." Whatever it is, you never overcome an anxiety by only thinking about it. Action will build reference experiences to break through what's holding you back.
/r/seduction27/06/13 11:50 PM
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Hell yeah, that's awesome -- good job. As for conversation: Keep to light topics (no previous relationships, religion, or politics if possible) Don't talk or interrupt constantly. Let her speak and actually listen -- force yourself out of your head and into the moment. It takes the pressure off you and she sees you as a confident listener who wants to know her. Ask genuine questions that you care about. You'll be more invested in the answers and have an easier time relating. This one’s a little …
/r/seduction27/06/13 11:47 PM
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I'm glad the stories helped you relate, that's why I decided to write this. I understand it can be hard to imagine yourself putting it into action. I wanted to show guys that achieving success doesn’t require you to be perfect. It’s straightforward and closer than you think. Just taking action brings huge opportunities. Good luck tonight!
/r/seduction27/06/13 11:33 PM
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Haha. Now only if I could sell a few million books...
/r/seduction27/06/13 11:27 PM
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Oh god, the Bulbasaur images.
/r/seduction27/06/13 08:45 PM
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Thanks for the kind words. It's taken me a lot of hard work to get my writing to where it is today.
/r/seduction27/06/13 08:43 PM
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Surprisingly, they didn't (she talked to them and told me after). I wouldn't outright advise guys to hook up with a woman near her friends. But I was young and in a passionate moment with a beautiful girl. I'm happy with the decision and so was she.
/r/seduction27/06/13 08:39 PM
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That's a difficult situation. Is there a nearby bigger city you could drive to on the weekends? Have you tried online dating? If the answer to both of those is yes, then unfortunately there aren't many other options than moving to somewhere more populous.
/r/seduction27/06/13 08:02 PM
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Hey Eric! I'm happy to hear you've been putting the advice into practice. You're very welcome and it was my pleasure. Best of luck with the girl.
/r/seduction27/06/13 08:00 PM
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Not every woman is down for same night sex regardless of how you play your cards. But, many others are.
/r/seduction27/06/13 07:56 PM
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It was definitely a ballsy move. But at that point we had talked about having sex together extensively.
/r/seduction27/06/13 07:15 PM
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All learning experiences my friend. Find 3 another chances this weekend and be more bold.
/r/seduction27/06/13 06:59 PM
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If you look your best, have a interesting lifestyle, and many girl friends, you likely just need to be more forward with your intentions. I would practice flirting more through physical contact (including going for a kiss), genuine compliments, statements of intent, and branching into sexual topics and questions. Once you lead by being more forward and see a girl return that attraction, those limiting beliefs will crumble. You just need to experience it for yourself.
/r/seduction27/06/13 06:57 PM
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That might be a little painful for me.
/r/seduction27/06/13 06:53 PM
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In each situation there were plenty of opportunities for the girl to turn me down. I didn't pressure them or try to convince them into hooking up. I don't understand how you can want a "clear and obvious indication" but then speak against giving the girl chances to choose if she wants to progress further. Sexual attraction is an emotional response. It's something we feel, often in the moment. If you really want a clear-cut verbal approval of sex then why don't you start asking every girl you tal…
/r/seduction27/06/13 06:52 PM
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I'm glad it inspired you. We've all made tons of mistakes, but in the end they are what guides us to success in the future. Apply the insight you've gained and try again!
/r/seduction27/06/13 05:24 PM
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You have to understand that showing your sexual intentions is not disrespectful. It's when you keep trying to escalate or cross her boundaries after she's blatantly said no. Lead with assertiveness, progressively escalate, and then calibrate. Unfortunately, it can be tough when you're newer to see that line because it's different for every person. But that's why experience is the best teacher. As for creepiness, it's relative and there is no absolute metric for it. I wouldn't stress over it. If …
/r/seduction27/06/13 05:21 PM
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Thank you and that's a great way of putting it. Many guys don't realize how close their success is at times.
/r/seduction27/06/13 05:11 PM
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Damn right.
/r/seduction27/06/13 05:08 PM
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I'm sorry you feel that way. I think there's a lot to learn from such as: How your inner voice is often wrong and ruins chances Strong approaches can be simple Assertiveness is attractive Little roadblocks can be overcome and that you should create the best out of what you have Women love sex as much as we do but you usually have to lead it there Success can be had even in the most unlikely of circumstances
/r/seduction27/06/13 05:07 PM
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It sounds like you know what you need to do. Push it forward!
/r/seduction27/06/13 04:51 PM
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The problem isn't the advice. The problem is a lack of experience. They're making assumptions out of fear. I can guarantee those guys haven't taken bold action often. They likely got turned down from a couple advances, gave up, and made up their mind about what women want to protect their ego. If they had kept trying, they'd see plenty of girls would like their sexual assertiveness.
/r/seduction27/06/13 03:30 PM
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Haha, office boner made me laugh so loud. Thanks man, it was a hard decision for me to put it up. But my hope is that it will inspire and motivate others to see success as well.
/r/seduction27/06/13 03:13 PM
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More so not applicable than invalid.
/r/seduction27/06/13 02:48 PM
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Thanks and that XKCD is awesome.
/r/seduction22/06/13 04:43 PM
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It's good to be informed but within reason. I advocated cutting down, not eliminating, because many of us still consume way too much. If you took some of that time and put it into more productive efforts, you'd still have tons to talk about (if not more variety) plus a whole host of additional benefits.
/r/seduction22/06/13 04:18 PM
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Time to change that :)
/r/seduction13/06/13 05:54 PM
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I think you misunderstood the content. The exercise argument was simply her providing excuses not to be intimate when in reality she does have time. She could take one exercise day off, not watch one show, or not go on FB for 20 minutes. I never said you always choose sex over everything. I stated that you should create some time for romance and not just let it die out. Also, your ideas are great and exactly what you should do with your partner to keep things exciting. Cook together, go out for …
/r/seduction13/06/13 05:38 PM
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No one said it has to be constant but we all want to feel connected at times. I feel you're looking at this through a very narrow lense. A healthy relationship is mutually beneficial. The right woman will improve the quality of your life and decrease your stress -- not increase it. A good partner understands when to give you space and when to respect your boundaries or limits. Which is why I always harp on finding a person who isn't codependent, unrealistic, and disrespectful.
/r/seduction13/06/13 05:31 PM
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You're welcome.
/r/seduction13/06/13 05:24 PM
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Of course you're going to get used to a person with time. That said, there are tons of other ways (many in the article) to keep things fresh and spontaneous.
/r/seduction13/06/13 05:22 PM
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That's a tough decision and really only one you can make. That said, cheating on your partner is a huge breach of trust. It's difficult to regain that once you know how they treated you. If the son is older (like in middle/high school), there's a million ways to stay in contact. If he's younger, that may be a more tricky situation. All my best and I hope everything turns out well.
/r/seduction13/06/13 05:19 PM
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Thank you.
/r/seduction13/06/13 05:13 PM
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That's definitely it.
/r/seduction13/06/13 05:13 PM
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It really sounds like he has major issues with himself and is taking those insecurities out on you. And it doesn't seem as if he's taking the steps to correct those problems either. If he's always negative, doesn't show you intimacy, doesn't make you feel loved, doesn't make you feel attractive, and isn't changing, what's keeping you there? Familiarity and history together? It looks like you're miserable and aren't getting much of anything from the relationship. I don't know him at all and I onl…
/r/seduction13/06/13 05:10 PM
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Haha, thanks.
/r/seduction12/06/13 10:46 PM
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I agree with your assertion but not your interpretation of the article -- to each their own. Of course it's both partners' responsibility and fault. I explain that you should speak set your boundaries and not let yourself be disrespected. I talk about recognizing when she's not being that equal partner and when it is her fault. I advise searching for someone who wants to put in the effort into you. And I suggest leaving those who aren't improving the quality of your life. The advice still stands…
/r/seduction12/06/13 10:44 PM
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I think you're taking this from a defensive standpoint and stretching my words. I'm not blaming men for everything. This article is geared towards men who have made missteps in their relationship. I outright say: If your woman doesn't care for you, respect you, or put effort in -- you should probably walk away. Respect your worth and evaluate if she's treating you well. You deserve to have someone who makes you happy and satisfied. I also never vindicated women for cheating at all. I supplied st…
/r/seduction12/06/13 09:32 PM
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Wow...I am a loss for words. I'm so sorry to hear about your situation. What's his reasoning for turning down your advances and not wanting to be intimate? You don't have to answer of course, only if you feel comfortable. My gut says that if he hasn't wanted to have sex in over a year, it may be difficult to salvage. You're not married yet and if things aren't getting resolved now, they will likely get worse. You deserve a partner that makes you feel loved and satisfied.
/r/seduction12/06/13 08:16 PM
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Glad you liked it and thanks for the kind words.
/r/seduction12/06/13 07:12 PM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction12/06/13 05:57 PM
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I love Athol Kay -- highly recommended.
/r/seduction12/06/13 05:05 PM
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Thanks and you're welcome.
/r/seduction12/06/13 04:54 PM
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If you think like that, you're setting yourself up for failure. All relationships require work -- a big part of that is honest and open communication. Remember, you're trying to get two different people to be happy and monogamous over a long period of time. It isn't a walk in the park for anyone.
/r/seduction12/06/13 04:42 PM
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Yup and in fact, it should begin even before you enter a relationship.
/r/seduction12/06/13 04:29 PM
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Thank you.
/r/seduction12/06/13 04:29 PM
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Agree with everything here. I'll add that you should expect the same from her as well -- someone who takes care of herself, wants to be attractive for you, and puts consistent effort into the relationship.
/r/seduction12/06/13 04:02 PM
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I tried not to be, just realistic. Relationships are hard work and if you don't accept that early on, it's unlikely you'll have the fulfilling connection you want.
/r/seduction12/06/13 03:46 PM
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I'm not talking about skipping over anything. In fact, I'm recommending you put yourself in more situations to get rejected, practice faster escalation, rack up even more experiences, and stay in those interactions. Where do I imply that you don't need any seduction skills at all? Too many guys waste time with interactions that will never go anywhere. Instead, focus on practicing those same skills constantly while also improving your odds. You actually get more value and knowledge plus greater r…
/r/seduction31/05/13 06:52 PM
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Completely disagree. Approaching is only desperate if you are desperate yourself. Confident, outgoing people love to expand their social circle, network, and find women they deem worthy of their time. The fact that you see talking to other people as an act of desperation says a lot about your mindset. As for learning to approach, yes you should always try to hook and push through interactions. But after 5-10 minutes, if it's not going anywhere, 9/10 times you're just wasting time. You'll have mu…
/r/seduction31/05/13 02:29 PM
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Haha, thanks man -- that means a lot to me. Honestly, I really enjoy sharing value with the community here and the discussions it encourages.
/r/seduction31/05/13 01:58 AM
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Agree wholeheartedly. I love this line: I'm not a part of their problems with men, I'm a potential solution. Being the guy who listens to her hang-ups about other men frames you as an emotional outlet. Be the guy that makes her forget about them completely.
/r/seduction31/05/13 01:58 AM
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Perfectly said.
/r/seduction31/05/13 01:53 AM
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I would recommend using text primarily as a means to setup dates if you aren't already. After a few text exchanges at most, I always suggest hanging out. You aren't going to hook up with girls over the phone. Have you tried to make plans with her?
/r/seduction31/05/13 01:52 AM
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So why do you feel that way? Is it rooted in fact or are you assuming this? I begin showing my intentions almost immediately with some light physical contact and humor. How long are you waiting to flirt? If you struggle with initial attraction, then it could also be your non-verbals and overall approach. Are you dressing well? Do you have strong body language, eye contact, and vocal tonality? Are you smiling? Are you in decent shape?
/r/seduction31/05/13 01:41 AM
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Happy to help brother.
/r/seduction31/05/13 01:26 AM
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You're very welcome.
/r/seduction31/05/13 01:26 AM
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Thanks! A lot of that anger often comes from two areas: A lack of experience. If you haven't had much success yet, it can be hard not to feel frustrated. I would suggest trying to find a balance of school but still pushing yourself to socialize more. Holding onto something that upset you in the past. Maybe that's an opportunity you missed, a girl you liked that didn't return affection, or a relationship that ended. My article on overcoming your past might help with that.
/r/seduction31/05/13 01:26 AM
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Thanks for the kind words, glad you liked it.
/r/seduction30/05/13 09:14 PM
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Thanks.
/r/seduction30/05/13 09:14 PM
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You're welcome. Congrats on having the courage to walk away.
/r/seduction30/05/13 09:13 PM
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Then I would ask are you expressing your intentions? Are you being sexually assertive? Are you bringing her mind to sexual thoughts? Are you leading? Are you escalating? Are you going for kisses? The strong majority of women will never outright show sexual interest until you do. If you're acting friendly with them, they will act friendly with you. Definitely check out my last article, it was all about this.
/r/seduction30/05/13 08:14 PM
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Mhmm, when I got out of a 2 year relationship I thought it was the worst decision of my life. Looking back I'm so thankful because it ended up turning me into the man I am today.
/r/seduction30/05/13 04:23 PM
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Haha, you're welcome!
/r/seduction30/05/13 04:22 PM
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Bullshit. For six years I've watched fat guys, short guys, traditionally "unattractive" guys, depressed guys, guys without jobs, and more turn their lives around. They bust their ass to improve whatever they have, become successful with women, and have tons of options for themselves. If you're not getting what you want it's because: You don't invest in yourself constantly. You're not putting effort to grow, manage your emotions, develop your body language, get in shape, be more assertive, expres…
/r/seduction30/05/13 04:15 PM
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Never committing to hanging out, canceling on plans repeatedly, standing you up on a date, etc.
/r/seduction30/05/13 04:01 PM
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You're welcome!
/r/seduction30/05/13 03:38 PM
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Thanks and that's definitely it.
/r/seduction30/05/13 03:37 PM
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Thanks. You know them now and that's what matters moving forward :)
/r/seduction30/05/13 02:50 PM
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If you chase endlessly there's no guarantee you're going to get the girl. Usually the longer it takes, the less likely it'll happen anyway. Too many guys spend an enormous amount of effort on women they hope will work out but never do. And it's often out of desperation, fear of being alone, and a lack of experience. Ask yourself, do you really want to be with a girl who isn't truly invested or interested in you? Or that you have to play games with just to get her attention? I'd much rather have …
/r/seduction30/05/13 02:50 PM
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This was actually written by Mark Manson of Postmasculine on his old site: http://web.archive.org/web/20100701232459/http://www.entropypua.com/blog/guide-to-your-pua-development
/r/seduction28/05/13 03:47 PM
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I agree with you to a certain extent. No one is saying you start tearing her clothes off against her will. You progressively escalate to a kiss and allow her multiple opportunities to display she's not interested. You aren't going to get a restraining order by going for a kiss on a first date unless she's screaming for you to get off her and you don't stop. She's an adult as well and not a helpless victim. There comes a point where if you're flirting with her, she has to speak up if she's uncomf…
/r/seduction22/05/13 02:12 PM
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Thank you for the wonderful compliment. You have the knowledge, now it's all about taking action. Keep me posted on your progress!
/r/seduction22/05/13 02:00 AM
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Thanks! A few points come to mind: Creepy is relative. If a girl's not attracted to you, almost anything can be perceived as "creepy". If she is into you, those same things and everything else can be attractive. There's no point in worrying about it. Calibration comes from experience. We're all human and have different personalities, wants, comfort levels, etc. It's a skill that has to be internalized over time. That said... Always assume she's interested. Start with that mindset until proven ot…
/r/seduction22/05/13 01:58 AM
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Thanks and happy you enjoyed the guide.
/r/seduction21/05/13 07:17 PM
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Mhmm, my point exactly. A concept a lot of men understand but few actually implement.
/r/seduction21/05/13 07:16 PM
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Thanks. Chalk it up as a learning experience for next time :)
/r/seduction21/05/13 07:12 PM
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Glad you liked it!
/r/seduction21/05/13 07:10 PM
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Some do but it's more so that many guys get first date kisses and yet never get a second date. I had 2 guys respond to my newsletter today for this post. Both talked about dates within the last week that ended in a kiss. Both received "I'm sorry but I don't feel a connection" type messages the next day.
/r/seduction21/05/13 04:32 PM
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I'm sorry you feel that way. I've been contributing valuable content to Seduction for 4 years as well as many others who post their articles. I spent 6 hours on this piece alone to provide the best quality possible -- I refuse to share anything less. I also thoroughly answer any questions or comments when I do submit something here. I have no salesy advertisements, no pop-ups, and no pushy marketing. I have one link after the entire article that says "Check out my new packages" since I literally…
/r/seduction21/05/13 04:02 PM
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Well said. Allowing yourself to vulnerable by taking chances is the only consistent path to success. It's a major component in developing an abundance mindset. The only thing I'd say is that it's not just about overt touching, but overt intentions all around.
/r/seduction21/05/13 03:39 PM
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Yup, that's me! I'm sad to hear that I ended up in your junk inbox though. Any particular reason why? I welcome constructive feedback :)
/r/seduction09/05/13 09:45 PM
15

Models is arguably the best book on seduction and it was written by one guy. Please support the small businesses who work hard -- don't pirate this. If you already downloaded it and like the material within, consider buying a legitimate copy. I have no affiliation with Mark, I just know how much effort must've went into the book.
/r/seduction09/05/13 02:30 PM
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As much as I love Louie, I wouldn't take his advice on this subject to heart. He was in a miserable marriage, has admitted that he's not a ladies man, is very self-deprecating, and has a cynical view of the world. He's a brilliant comedian but that doesn't make him right when it comes to social dynamics.
/r/seduction01/05/13 06:09 PM
4

It would be awesome to see actual science behind it. Although, I definitely agree that would have to be fleshed out more. Just need to find a university who would back the study.
/r/seduction01/05/13 06:04 PM
2

Glad you enjoyed the article. From interviews, they intended for moments to be awkward so it would be more realistic.
/r/seduction19/04/13 05:02 PM
1

To each his own. I found the acting and dialogue to be extremely natural. The entire film feels like two people just talking and getting to know each other.
/r/seduction19/04/13 04:52 PM
3

Haha, thank you for the wonderful compliments. Be proud that you're trying and keep your head up!
/r/seduction12/04/13 09:26 PM
3

Mhmm, many of our deepest insecurities stem from childhood. No More Mr. Nice Guy has been one of my most recommended reads for men.
/r/seduction12/04/13 09:24 PM
2

You're welcome, glad I could help out.
/r/seduction12/04/13 09:22 PM
2

Thanks!
/r/seduction12/04/13 09:22 PM
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Or you could just learn to build stronger connections so she feels comfortable and excited to have sex with you. Getting "last minute resistance" is generally a symptom of two issues: She doesn't trust you enough yet (need more comfort). She's not ready yet (need more time). Yes, you can make a girl feel awkward or guilt her into sleeping with you -- I know plenty of guys who do it. Personally, I'd rather want her to fuck me and not deal with manipulative tactics or the potential fallout. For th…
/r/seduction12/04/13 07:46 PM
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First off, huge congratulations on the weight loss and personal growth! That's a huge feat and you should be seriously proud. A few things I'd consider... Are you actually not likeable to people or is this something you're assuming? What has happened that makes you feel this is true? It could be valid but just want to get a better understanding. Have you gotten a second opinion? I would ask a couple of people you trust to give you an honest assessment. Ask them if they feel there's anything you …
/r/seduction12/04/13 06:10 PM
2

You're very welcome.
/r/seduction12/04/13 05:53 PM
9

It was a huge realization for me as well. You're welcome!
/r/seduction12/04/13 04:40 PM
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It's definitely a problem and sets guys on the wrong path. What people say they want and what they actually respond to are often different. Also, creepiness is such a silly worry because it's relative to each person, situation, and how attracted the girl is to you. What one girl may find creepy, another finds charming.
/r/seduction12/04/13 04:39 PM
5

Glad you liked it, you're welcome.
/r/seduction12/04/13 02:42 PM
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Yes, at least most of the time. Edit: Definitely return eye contact, hold it, and smile. It's called an approach invitation and let's him know you're interested in being talked to.
/r/seduction04/04/13 07:07 PM
4

No apologies necessary, you were just trying to convey your opinion. I appreciate the respectfulness and well-constructed responses. That's what a great debate is all about :) I agree that I used a more extreme and rare case as well -- good catch. Just felt it was relevant since I encountered it only a few days ago.
/r/seduction03/04/13 08:41 PM
13

I think you're over-exaggerating and using extremes to try and prove a point. No one is talking about "HBs and threesomes". The ideas of assuming interest, being more forward and honest with your intentions, and going after women you find very attractive are foundations for being a confident man. I don't think of it as "pick up" or "game". I also never said anything about looks don't matter and every girl will like you. But I know plenty of traditionally unattractive or average men who date beau…
/r/seduction03/04/13 08:27 PM
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I would agree and disagree with you. While the guide does have some decent tips, there's advice in there that is absolutely wrong. And having some good ideas does not outweigh the negatives. Beginners will take everything at face value and apply both the positive and the harmful points like "Flirt with people of roughly the same attractiveness level." That can set them back greatly.
/r/seduction03/04/13 06:56 PM
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I've seen this posted many times over the years. While some of it is helpful, a lot of it is just bad advice. I wrote an article breaking down what I feel is wrong with the guide if you're interested: What's Wrong With the SIRC Guide to Flirting
/r/seduction03/04/13 05:05 PM
3

Thank you, you sound like you've got a great attitude.
/r/seduction16/03/13 01:14 AM
2

lol
/r/seduction16/03/13 01:13 AM
2

Thanks for the kind words!
/r/seduction16/03/13 01:12 AM
6

Umm..my whole site focuses on values like not putting women on a pedestal, prioritizing yourself, being assertive, being dominant, and showing your sexual intentions from the start.
/r/seduction16/03/13 01:01 AM
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Thanks and i'm happy that my advice helped out.
/r/seduction15/03/13 08:41 PM
3

Glad you liked it :)
/r/seduction15/03/13 08:36 PM
3

You're welcome!
/r/seduction15/03/13 08:34 PM
8

Mhmm, you nailed it as well man. You should clearly value the advice of someone with lots of real experience over a virgin teaching theory. The point is to not see that as a reflection of your self-worth or to think they're superior human beings because they have slept with more women than most.
/r/seduction15/03/13 08:34 PM
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Thanks for the response. I like Mark's writing and think he's one of the guys who really gets it as well. Being a true alpha is the goal but I just call that being a real man. That's just my personal preference in nomenclature though.
/r/seduction15/03/13 08:20 PM
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Agree with your points and I don't feel the article conflicts with this view. I think it's extremely important for men to learn how to attract women and be more confident. My argument is that many guys learn wrong beliefs about what actually makes a confident man. They worry so much about fitting into this false, stereotypical "alpha male" image. Then they overcompensate, act like dicks, and develop unhealthy mindsets out of insecurity. Instead, they should focus on strong core values like prior…
/r/seduction15/03/13 07:53 PM
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Yup, it's back. Again, I'm so sorry for the inconvenience everyone. I'm working with my hosting but the article is getting massive traffic from multiple sources.
/r/seduction15/03/13 07:10 PM
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Edit: It's up, thank you for being patient. The server is getting hit really hard.
/r/seduction15/03/13 05:10 PM
10

You're welcome and I agree completely.
/r/seduction15/03/13 04:27 PM
14

Yup, real world exposure and experience is critical.
/r/seduction15/03/13 04:00 PM
10

Thanks and you're welcome.
/r/seduction15/03/13 03:54 PM
2

Not the wrong subreddit at all, many here would benefit from the advice immensely. I love Brene Brown and she changed my life as well. Her new book is incredible and goes in-depth about vulnerability, shame, and real confidence: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead
/r/seduction10/03/13 03:57 PM
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Thanks for the comment! I'd argue though that was the entire point of my article. Sex is massively important and if you don't go for it, she's likely going to find someone who she does want to have sex with. If you’re interested in a woman, you have to at least attempt to escalate it to sex. That intimate act isn’t only for fun, it creates a powerful and necessary bond between you. You want her to invest in you because otherwise she will invest in someone else. and But you should try to be her l…
/r/seduction10/03/13 03:39 PM
2

You understood my point perfectly.
/r/seduction10/03/13 03:33 PM
2

Yes, I understand FWB. But it's a misnomer, you're not truly platonic friends which is what I was describing. You are lovers even if it's just casual sex. I think you greatly misunderstand vulnerability and how it relates to being a confident man. Being vulnerable doesn't mean you're a sissy, or that you get oneitis with every girl you encounter. It means you have the courage to express who you are and what you want at all times in life. That is the true definition of an "alpha male". you are en…
/r/seduction10/03/13 03:28 PM
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That's an awesome quote and I definitely agree. It's a constant struggle with men, too. We're told that being vulnerable is being weak when in reality it's the root of confidence. We all yearn to make honest, meaningful connections with others.
/r/seduction10/03/13 12:03 AM
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I responded to a similar argument below so I'll paste what I wrote: "I highly disagree. Of course there are many other factors that contribute to investment, I'm not arguing against that. I'm saying for a romantic connection sex is a critical component. We don't sleep with our friends, we sleep with our lovers. The vast majority of people want to eventually have sex with a person they are romantically interested in. If you always spend time with a woman and she never wants to be intimate with yo…
/r/seduction09/03/13 11:59 PM
8

Well said, glad you enjoyed the article!
/r/seduction09/03/13 08:50 PM
12

It depends on the dynamic but it never hurts to try moving things forward. Especially if sex is an important part of a romantic relationship to you, which it should be. I know many couples (myself included) who had a strong sexual connection from the start. Both parties trusted each other, both wanted it, and it began a healthy, successful relationship.
/r/seduction09/03/13 08:48 PM
11

Good fix.
/r/seduction09/03/13 08:42 PM
7

Thank you.
/r/seduction09/03/13 08:32 PM
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Truthfully, until you get past that first time it's going to seem like a big deal. Everything will feel intimidating. You've just got to push yourself over that hump, the confidence will come after.
/r/seduction09/03/13 08:32 PM
9

A huge part of seduction is bringing a connection to the point of having sex. This isn't just for long-term relationships, it's for any girl you're interested in -- even for casual sex.
/r/seduction09/03/13 06:38 PM
13

I highly disagree. Of course there are many other factors that contribute to investment, I'm not arguing against that. I'm saying for a romantic connection sex is a critical component. We don't sleep with our friends, we sleep with our lovers. The vast majority of people want to eventually have sex with a person they are romantically interested in. If you always spend time with a woman and she never wants to be intimate with you, then she’s not completely tied to you. The exception being women w…
/r/seduction09/03/13 06:31 PM
1

I've never actually read any of Dr. Paul's stuff, just a coincidence I guess. But if he's saying similar things then I approve.
/r/seduction01/03/13 12:17 AM
1

And I'm glad you enjoyed it. Looks like you know what you need to do :)
/r/seduction28/02/13 11:48 PM
3

Thanks for reading. I agree that you will encounter "failures" along the way and you will have to continue on. Adopting this mindset is definitely not an overnight thing. But, I disagree that having a good success-to-failure ratio should be the basis of your motivation. That is exactly what keeps you tied down to external validation. If you're feeling miserable going out and meeting people, then you're not being true and self-loving. Are you going to places that make you happy? For example, if y…
/r/seduction28/02/13 11:45 PM
2

Thanks and will do.
/r/seduction28/02/13 10:25 PM
2

Of course, that's always a given. Self-improvement will only take you so far. True medical/clinical issues should always be handled by a licensed professional.
/r/seduction28/02/13 10:24 PM
2

Thanks! It's much more than just "go for it" though. It's viewing the choices in your life through the lens of "What do I want? What will make me happy?". You prioritize your needs and then act accordingly.
/r/seduction28/02/13 10:05 PM
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The best you can do is to try and make yourself happy every chance you get. From the way you speak, to what you do, to who you associate with, and so on. But if you're clinically depressed and have deeper issues, you may need additional help. If you've tried everything and haven't seen an improvement, have you talked to a professional?
/r/seduction28/02/13 07:42 PM
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You're welcome. Happy to hear you're ready to get back in it. Drawing boundaries and prioritizing yourself is key.
/r/seduction28/02/13 07:35 PM
1

Thank you and it was my pleasure.
/r/seduction28/02/13 07:05 PM
2

Sent. There's a lot of formatting and additional links that are missing. I recommend checking out the full article when you get a chance.
/r/seduction28/02/13 06:15 PM
2

Mhmm, the idea is to see the parallels in your own life and then apply the advice accordingly.
/r/seduction28/02/13 06:00 PM
11

You're very welcome!
/r/seduction28/02/13 05:58 PM
7

Exactly.
/r/seduction28/02/13 05:18 PM
3

Thank you!
/r/seduction16/02/13 05:07 PM
3

You might have too intense of a focus. Use the softer focus exercises in the article in a mirror. See if there's a before and after difference. Try it with a trusted friend and ask their opinion. It could also be your overall body language. Don't get me started on the whole be attractive, don't be unattractive thing. I've seen and coached many "traditionally" average / unattractive guys date plenty of attractive women.
/r/seduction14/02/13 12:53 AM
2

You need to consciously remind yourself to maintain eye contact and apply the rules in the article. Do it in every conversation with a girl you like, period. Build a habit through practice. It could be related to deeper anxiety as well. Are you reasonably comfortable in conversation or are you nervous most of the time? And thanks!
/r/seduction14/02/13 12:45 AM
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Definitely the former. You don't have to have a huge grin all day, but at least look friendly and inviting. A big part of that comes from having relaxed eye contact as well as not having a serious facial expression. If you only smile when people smile at you, it makes them question your authenticity. It can also come off as approval seeking. You're happy because you love your life regardless of the other person.
/r/seduction14/02/13 12:03 AM
1

You're welcome good sir.
/r/seduction13/02/13 08:51 PM
15

Was going to reply "go introduce yourself already!" but I just read your update. Awesome stuff man, already putting it into practice and seeing the results :)
/r/seduction13/02/13 08:50 PM
3

Success!
/r/seduction13/02/13 07:08 PM
5

Haha, I have no doubt the other visualization technique will have similar effects. You're welcome!
/r/seduction13/02/13 07:05 PM
2

You're welcome, glad I could help out.
/r/seduction13/02/13 05:11 PM
1

You're very welcome!
/r/seduction04/02/13 12:16 AM
1

Thank you, glad you enjoyed it.
/r/seduction04/02/13 12:16 AM
5

Then lead and talk about your experiences, passions, and travels. Once you start opening up, they will feel more comfortable doing the same. Also, ask the questions you really want to know about. Get personal and stop sticking to surface level topics. You say you fall back on verbal ticks. Instead, why not ask questions that require more investment and honesty from her end?
/r/seduction01/02/13 10:59 PM
4

Thanks and definitely. The same principles can be applied to all types of social interactions.
/r/seduction01/02/13 09:52 PM
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This right here. Nearly every person talks too fast. I used to do it all the time and had to consciously catch myself during conversations. It's difficult to break years of speaking habits and even I still do it on occasion. Pace yourself and speak with purpose, it draws people in. When you talk in a controlled, calm fashion it makes you seem confident even if you're nervous. If anyone's interested, I recently wrote a thorough guide to developing an attractive voice.
/r/seduction01/02/13 08:52 PM
9

I sees what you did there. ;)
/r/seduction01/02/13 08:43 PM
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There's a big difference between assumptions and educated deductions. It sounds like you're using the former to protect yourself from being vulnerable. Rather than putting yourself on the line, you're convinced that you already know what you need and can make excuses to not approach. I don't think it's a problem of being too observant. Rather you may have a subconscious fear of letting people get close to the real you. Although I could be assuming myself as I don't have much to go off.
/r/seduction01/02/13 08:42 PM
4

Thanks, glad you enjoyed it!
/r/seduction01/02/13 08:01 PM
11

I forgot a few words that should clarify. I said, "...but I do the same when I'm bored sometimes." We were at the bar bantering back and forth and being silly. It was said sarcastically and she understood the subtext. It can be hard to translate the delivery and mood of conversations in writing.
/r/seduction01/02/13 07:49 PM
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Mhmm, I tell guys to become interested in many things. Discover new hobbies and passions you never thought you'd care about. The more you know about the world, the more topics you can contribute to.
/r/seduction01/02/13 07:43 PM
9

Haha, it never hurts to have a deep British accent.
/r/seduction01/02/13 07:38 PM
17

Sherlock*
/r/seduction01/02/13 06:10 PM
4

Never said you shouldn't, just giving some fresh examples. Plus, how is showing a girl your passions or going to a fun show not normal? Dinner dates are good if you know how to handle them. But many guys do better on first dates that are more action oriented and that take pressure off "interview" style conversation.
/r/seduction28/01/13 04:53 AM
1

Thanks, I'm glad you enjoyed the article. It's all about finding the women you like and who like you as well.
/r/seduction28/01/13 04:49 AM
2

Thanks and you're welcome!
/r/seduction28/01/13 01:35 AM
2

Haha, no idea but there are now.
/r/seduction28/01/13 01:34 AM
1

You're welcome!
/r/seduction16/01/13 12:16 AM
1

That's a really good idea hah, it must've been a ton of fun. It's awesome that you found a girl you could read and explore with. Congrats!
/r/seduction16/01/13 12:15 AM
5

There are without a doubt plenty of other better "alpha male" characters. I even point out he's not a role model that people should idealize. But it's a book that has nearly every woman under 50 obsessed. That counts for something. I agree that it got a boost but it's clearly doing something different than the rest. Not everyone knows about Seddit. My site has a wide audience and some have not even heard of seduction. They have heard of 50 Shades and they can use that to understand the same unde…
/r/seduction15/01/13 08:50 PM
10

This. She's likely implying the attitude as well as the BDSM aspects. Women love a strong man who leads in the bedroom and isn't afraid to fuck her well.
/r/seduction15/01/13 05:58 PM
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I covered this in the article. Yes, he has those things but you don't need all that to be ridiculously attractive to women. It's the attitude and passion that got him there which makes him irresistible. Too many guys use the excuses of "I'm not tall and handsome" or "I don't have a ton of money." Not implying you are but it's so commonplace with men. I'm barely 5'8" and spent most of my years dating women without my own car or place. It didn't slow me down at all. I wrote a detailed post on what…
/r/seduction15/01/13 05:54 PM
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I don't think many men even care about how "bad" it is. It's usually a cover for the way it makes them somehow feel insufficient. You're spot on with everything. No one expects you to put it on your favorite book list or even read the thing. But to blindly hate the book that has millions of women horny is the exact opposite of trying to learn seduction.
/r/seduction15/01/13 05:46 PM
5

Thanks. I'm glad you get what I'm trying to convey. There are valuable lessons to be learned rather than just defensively shutting it down.
/r/seduction15/01/13 05:39 PM
6

Exactly. The truth is many guys feel sexually threatened by the book. A woman getting off to a fictional character makes them feel insecure and inadequate, even though it shouldn't. They should be trying to understand why it's captivated so many women and use that knowledge wisely.
/r/seduction15/01/13 05:37 PM
8

So "smut novels" are disgusting yet watching porn is cool? I bet you've seen your fair share and you not because they're amazing pieces of film. Would you be okay with women with women getting off to hardcore videos instead?
/r/seduction15/01/13 05:10 PM
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Definitely agree, that's why I wanted to make it clear he is not an ideal role model. His attitude, passion, and ideas in theory are good. His execution isn't. I highly recommend anyone interested in BDSM to check out the community. Also, read some informative books like SM 101, The Loving Dominant, Screw the Roses Send Me the Thorns, and The New Topping Book.
/r/seduction15/01/13 05:05 PM
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Rofl, it may not have been professional...but I bet it was damn fun ;) Yeah, pulling stuff like that is definitely dangerous. If it's an important job, you've got to be a little more tactful than that. Great advice on keeping it quiet until you know it's serious. I agree that the best situation is someone who you're not in constantly working with. If that were the case, I'd have a hard time getting anything done hah.
/r/seduction11/01/13 09:29 PM
2

Thanks, that means a lot to me. Appreciate it.
/r/seduction11/01/13 09:03 PM
8

Haha, I thought the picture fit perfectly. Thanks man.
/r/seduction11/01/13 07:35 PM
3

Hmm, it's almost as if you didn't read the article. Why are you trying to hook up with girls at work? Is it because you don’t actively meet other women? Are you only chasing a co-worker because it’s convenient? ...keep in mind there’s a whole world of women outside the workplace. They want to meet you.
/r/seduction11/01/13 05:57 PM
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As written in the post, it's easy to automatically jump to that from the outside. But it depends on a lot more though. Do you care about the job, what's the work environment like (corporate vs Olive Garden), is she making obvious passes at you, etc. I personally know many people who've had successful relationships and even marriages from work. Does the "NO!" apply there? Should they have not gotten together? Not trying to sway either way but it's complicated. People should understand their situa…
/r/seduction11/01/13 05:19 PM
6

No matter how you slice it, there's always a chance. That's why I focused the article on evaluating whether it's worth it and minimizing the risk if you decide to try.
/r/seduction11/01/13 04:52 PM
1

Happy you found value in it. Comedians are an amazing way to learn delivery and timing. Definitely learned a lot over the years from watching standup.
/r/seduction31/12/12 05:45 AM
2

Thanks and of course, but this a single blog post. You can only focus on one topic at a time. There's a ton more articles on the page which cover a variety of subjects to sound and become more confident.
/r/seduction31/12/12 01:15 AM
4

Well said.
/r/seduction30/12/12 08:43 PM
5

As silly as that sounds, it comes down to this. Consciously shut your mouth. If your brain is running too fast, that doesn't mean you have to blurt out what you're thinking. Be proactive. Catch yourself speaking quickly, remind yourself to slow slow down, and make a habit out of it. Repeat enough times and you'll internalize pacing yourself.
/r/seduction30/12/12 08:43 PM
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Sorry, but you are highly incorrect. It's not about altering the tone of your voice, it's about learning to use the right muscles and breathing correctly to project your best voice. Almost every successful speaker, actor, singer, etc has benefited from a vocal coach. What you're talking about is trying to change your voice unnaturally. If you follow the steps outlined, you won't damage your vocal chords at all.
/r/seduction30/12/12 08:16 PM
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Mmm, that's why I differentiated diaphragmatic breathing and chest voice. I use the term chest voice since that's what vocal coaches refer to it as. Appreciate the comment!
/r/seduction30/12/12 07:17 PM
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The first step is recognizing what you need to improve, good stuff. Now just actively put it to use in conversation. You'll get there in no time.
/r/seduction30/12/12 06:31 PM
1

Yeah but when you have a list where a lot of the advice is wrong, you're setting up inexperienced men for failure. Many of the guys here can't decipher which are valuable and which aren't. They need effective, accurate tips. If the list was filtered for the good parts, it would be infinitely more valuable.
/r/seduction29/12/12 02:44 AM
1

I'd take much of this with a heavy grain of salt. Some are okay but many are bullshit and assume a ton.
/r/seduction29/12/12 02:21 AM
2

Are you pushing things forward? Are you sexually escalating? Are you showing your intentions from the start? Or are you waiting for signs of interest before you make a move? You might be a cool guy but most women aren't going to throw themselves at you. You have to be assertive and aggressive. You have to take charge. You have to flirt and touch them like crazy. You have to go for a kiss and put them in a position where they accept or reject your advances.
/r/seduction27/12/12 08:05 PM
1

Thanks man, got to keep it real.
/r/seduction27/12/12 06:32 PM
2

Thanks Tofu. Love the rawness you bring to the table :)
/r/seduction27/12/12 06:31 PM
2

You're very welcome.
/r/seduction27/12/12 04:15 AM
1

Thanks, glad you enjoyed it. Not how I'd normally approach it but awesome nonetheless. Can't knock what worked, good stuff!
/r/seduction27/12/12 01:53 AM
4

One of the primary reasons is that it's easier to sell quick fixes. It's both a huge problem in the industry and with the people seeking help. Most guys don't want to put in the effort. They want instant gratification. They don't want to hear that it takes time, that they'll have to face a lot of demons as well as rejection, and that it's hard work. So then coaches push what sells rather than what's the best solution. It makes them money and men keep coming back for that magic pill. Very few are…
/r/seduction06/11/12 06:34 PM
1

You can go that route but this article is specifically for guys who need to practice becoming more assertive. But, I will say that if a woman flakes multiple times without notice, I wouldn't worry about ruining my chances. I want to hang out with a woman who's interested in seeing me, not one who disrespects my time. Too many guys will keep "playing it cool", make plans again, and then fall into the same situation. I'd much rather go meet a girl who wants to spend time together.
/r/seduction26/10/12 02:10 PM
1

Thanks man. I'm still unsure of what you mean. I organize all my articles in categories under "Dating 101". You could go through section by section and read them through. Although, I would personally suggest reading a few that you have trouble with (say approaching) and then apply them in the real world. Work on that area until you feel more comfortable with it and see results. Then move on to the next sections -- rinse and repeat.
/r/seduction26/10/12 02:03 PM
1

Mhmm, that's why I wrote these exercises. Do them, feel better about yourself, and reinforce that these are healthy values. Do them enough and you internalize them to the point where it becomes natural.
/r/seduction26/10/12 01:58 PM
1

Thanks.
/r/seduction25/10/12 10:46 PM
3

Haha, Archer is most definitely the man.
/r/seduction25/10/12 10:46 PM
4

Glad you liked it and I appreciate the kind words!
/r/seduction25/10/12 08:38 PM
6

Thanks! It depends on how you approach it. There's a way to discuss differentiating opinions, even on touchy subjects without creating conflict. Listen to their points openly, don't get aggressive, and express yours in a calm fashion. With another guy, I can understand if you'd rather not go there sometimes. Certain men will flip no matter what and try to start a fight. But with a girl I'm interested in, I'm going let her know how I feel -- especially if it's an important topic to me. If she can…
/r/seduction25/10/12 08:37 PM
1

You're welcome, I'm glad you enjoyed it!
/r/seduction25/10/12 07:46 PM
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Yeah, she said it perfectly. You don't have to pick every time obviously but leading is attractive. Suggest an idea and if she's not feeling it, she can speak up and recommend something else. Most of the time she's more worried about getting ready, figuring out what to wear, and how she can look her best for you.
/r/seduction25/10/12 07:45 PM
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Thanks man. If a girl you're talking to is turned off by your escalation she's either a) not into you like that or b) you're uncalibrated and doing it wrong. You may be coming off as crude or pushing too hard too soon. The combination of creating a genuine, meaningful connection along with steady escalation is what most women want. Boston is regarded as one of the "coldest" cities and the advice definitely works when done well.
/r/seduction25/10/12 07:40 PM
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Exactly, it shows you're not afraid to bring her into your reality. Also being in your own environment helps you be more comfortable. Win-win all around.
/r/seduction25/10/12 07:32 PM
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Well said.
/r/seduction25/10/12 07:29 PM
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Haha, I grew up on D&D and had quite a few girls play it with us -- they loved it. Mainly because we were always silly and didn't take things too seriously. Good times :)
/r/seduction25/10/12 05:13 PM
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Spot on dude. You have to setup your expectations from the start. If she's not comfortable with them, you're not going to have the relationship you truly want.
/r/seduction25/10/12 04:52 PM
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If it's a girl you're trying to show intentions with: Flirt openly with her. Touch her, make statements of intent, tease her, and escalate until you kiss her. Taking it slow is always a risk. That's why I advise being forward from early on. Many girls who like you won't wait around. They'll get bored, frustrated, or lose interest. Strike when the iron is hot and see if she's down, too. If you must play "slow game" then just flirt playfully (often) but don't escalate it far. Be an awesome, fun an…
/r/seduction12/10/12 02:57 AM
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I was replying to pk_atheist.
/r/seduction12/10/12 02:35 AM
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Nope, same Boston.
/r/seduction12/10/12 02:33 AM
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Cool, I respect your opinion and I humbly disagree. There are deeper insights about proper mindset, it disproves lots of terrible advice, and provides specific compliments that have been actually tested and aren't cookie cutter. All without excessive and wasteful mental masturbation. Again, to each their own.
/r/seduction11/10/12 10:26 PM
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That's where you misjudge me. I've been a coach for 5 years (involved for over 6) and have worked with/for various national "pickup" companies. I was the head instructor for the Boston Lair when it had 200 active members. I've have done thousands of approaches myself and with students. I've contributed to Seddit for two years. This isn't new to me. I 100% agree that many women have no idea what they want or say something different. But a girl saying she likes the advice does not automatically me…
/r/seduction11/10/12 10:20 PM
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Haha, exactly what I was going for.
/r/seduction11/10/12 09:06 PM
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Compliments put you in the wrong frame no matter how sneaky you think you are. If you're trying to be sneaky, then yes. That inherently says you're scheming to get something from her which is low value behavior. If you are complimenting her, you are trying to appeal to her by making her feel validated. You are also displaying that you thinks she is worthy of a compliment (which means in her mind, she's number one on your list, so she assumes you don't have options). Again, if you're giving the c…
/r/seduction11/10/12 09:01 PM
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There are so many upvotes because people upvoted it. As for the downvotes, it's because this is a polarizing and controversial topic, as seen by the comments. People have very strong opinions both ways. I don't think it's basic it all, keep it simple stupid. Too often guys overcomplicate shit and it ends up hurting them more by trying to micromanage everything. I wrote what I've seen work for years. Although some of it seems straightforward, how many people actually implement it correctly? Out o…
/r/seduction11/10/12 08:50 PM
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I've noticed a trend in your recent posts man, especially the "jaded by game". I feel bad that you believe giving value to someone is beta and means you're a pussy. If everything you do is needy, then yes it can be. But a high value, confident man who gives without motive can compliment with great results. No one is saying you have to gush over her like a wimp. There's more to it than just "omg that doesn't build attraction". It builds trust, makes you a real person, and creates deeper connectio…
/r/seduction11/10/12 08:33 PM
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Mhmm I agree as well. But I did have quite a bit of context such as waiting until she's shared depth about herself, impressed you, opened up, connected, etc. Also, that you don't have to compliment in every interaction. Still though, everyone is different which is why I'm not for absolutes. I've seen many guys walk up to a woman with a strong compliment and hit it off. Although I wouldn't always recommend it, sometimes it works out.
/r/seduction11/10/12 07:55 PM
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To each their own and context is very important. If a guy who you literally just met 2 minutes ago said it, sure. But if you've been talking for an hour or on an amazing date, things might be different. For example, say you've been having excellent, meaningful conversation and you know he's interested in you for more than just sex. He throws in a little flirtation and it comes from a good place. That's why you like it when your boyfriend does it because that's clearly not the only thing he cares…
/r/seduction11/10/12 07:41 PM
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Man tested, woman approved :)
/r/seduction11/10/12 07:06 PM
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No reason you can't. Just try to be a little creative and specific.
/r/seduction11/10/12 06:02 PM
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Thanks man, I'm glad you enjoyed it! The downvotes are likely because there's a huge fear of compliments. It's been repeatedly bashed in that they are somehow "beta". It's only weak if they're coming from an insincere, needy mindset. Being genuinely forward and vulnerable with your intentions is one of the most alpha things you can do.
/r/seduction11/10/12 05:25 PM
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Appreciate the well-written response. But common sense does not mean everyone actually does it and therefore should be restated. Too many guys aren't succinct, overdo it, or give thin compliments. There's an overwhelming amount of advice in the seduction community that says compliments are shit. It's because so many guys use them incorrectly and have bad experiences with them. Just the other day there was a big discussion where everyone said compliments are for "pussies". They're missing out on …
/r/seduction11/10/12 05:06 PM
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I agree to disagree :)
/r/seduction11/10/12 04:44 PM
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Thanks for the heads up, I fixed the link.
/r/seduction26/09/12 03:30 PM
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Of course none of it means anything if you're terrified and unconfident. But this is a lighter post focused on looking fresh :)
/r/seduction26/09/12 03:30 PM
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You definitely don't need any of this to get laid. You can go out unkempt and still hook up with tons of girls. These are just items I enjoy to look my best. Still, many of the guys here would benefit from grooming and taking care of themselves more. I disagree about being done up hurts you. When in college, I always dressed up and I stood out instantly in a good way. Girls eat it up. Even the guys I coach who dress up at college bars get great responses. It's not about looking good to get laid.…
/r/seduction26/09/12 03:27 PM
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I'm sorry if you feel that way but I tried to do the exact opposite. I only posted well-reviewed, reasonably priced, quality items that I personally use. I chose not to recommend generic ones because there are a lot of shitty products that aren't worth the money. For example, I tried different contact companies and even other Acuvues. They were all more rough, plasticky, or expensive. Those specific Acuvues are gel-like and were the first that didn't make my eyes feel dry as hell. Same with ever…
/r/seduction26/09/12 02:55 PM
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Agreed, the look of Hugo products are incredible. I just wish the quality, especially for the price was there.
/r/seduction25/09/12 09:45 PM
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To each their own. I spend no more than 30 seconds putting them in when I wake up and 30 seconds taking them out before bed. The saline solution feels good and I've experienced no pain. When I wore glasses I had to constantly clean and adjust them. I had to be careful not to scratch or break them. And any kind of physical activity like sports would require them to be removed -- leaving me with bad vision. Contacts definitely made things easier for me.
/r/seduction25/09/12 09:03 PM
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That's not bad at all for running shoes. I like the look of them a lot, might have to snatch myself a pair. Thanks for the recommendation :)
/r/seduction25/09/12 08:40 PM
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You're welcome, any time!
/r/seduction25/09/12 08:36 PM
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Everyone's skin is different and you have to find what works for you. For many, coconut oil is one of the best natural lubricants and is very moisturizing. Sorry to hear it didn't react well with your skin type :-/ Would love to hear your alternative recommendations for people who've had similar experiences.
/r/seduction25/09/12 08:34 PM
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I haven't written anything personally, but there are a ton of great resources out there. Some of the best I've found are: Kinowear's How to Groom Your Eyebrows Eyebrow Shaping Guide Alpha M Eyebrowing Grooming Video Hope that helps!
/r/seduction25/09/12 08:26 PM
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Mhmm, they're not attractive themselves but the health benefits from using them are :) Damn those Vivo shoes look comfy. How do they hold up in regular use?
/r/seduction25/09/12 08:04 PM
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Those look quite nice as well. The benefit I like of Vibrams are the individual toes so you can grip onto surfaces easier.
/r/seduction25/09/12 07:20 PM
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Yes! Forgot about writing that in. They're arguably some of the best shoes for free weight training, boxing, and MMA. Since you can completely feel the ground, your foot contours to the surface and provides excellent balance. Loving the Vibram fans coming out in droves.
/r/seduction25/09/12 06:13 PM
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Haha that's great, I've never worn mine to a venue. I do get a lot of attention while wearing them out in the day though. I've started plenty of conversations with girls that check them out. It's so easy to smile back and say: "Are you checking out my awesome shoes?" "Jealous of my sexy shoes, huh." Always gets a laugh and breaks the ice.
/r/seduction25/09/12 06:07 PM
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They're not meant for fashion. They're for working out, staying fit, and minimizing running injuries. It's not like I'm walking into the club with them on haha.
/r/seduction25/09/12 05:52 PM
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Thanks man, happy you liked it!
/r/seduction25/09/12 05:45 PM
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Definitely and I'm glad I did. I can't imagine shaving any other way now. Check out /r/wicked_edge. They have details on everything from razors to skin care -- it helped me tremendously.
/r/seduction25/09/12 05:44 PM
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Nothing wrong with it at all as long as you truly enjoy that as a hobby. But, it shouldn't be the only hobby you have which is unfortunately true for a lot of guys (my old self included).
/r/seduction25/09/12 05:16 PM
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Will do! I'm going to really flesh it out and elaborate on some additional points :)
/r/seduction25/09/12 05:10 PM
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Damn you Eric! I literally spent the last couple of hours writing an article of the same concept haha. You did an excellent job with this. Too many guys become obsessed with pickup and make it their priority. Instead, they should be building a lifestyle that they love and that people will want to be a part of. As long as it's outside, there will always be women to talk to. The difference is that "picking up" becomes secondary. Your only outcome is to have fun and if she wants to join in -- aweso…
/r/seduction24/09/12 08:11 PM
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Haha that's great, I love it.
/r/seduction12/09/12 08:23 PM
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Ahhh but there's the catch. If you still ooze the need for validation and it's coming off desperate, are you truly confident in yourself? I do agree it's a combination of both. You need to work on yourself and also approach women regularly. It seems you're doing the first part, how about the latter?
/r/seduction12/09/12 07:09 PM
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Thanks for the well-constructed input. I have to disagree though, self-respect is highly intertwined with seduction. Especially if you ever want to attract quality and not just any girl. Like attracts like. And it definitely doesn't negate loneliness but that's not the point. Too many guys try to fill their voids only through women and don't work on themselves as well. It leads to feeling even more hollow -- I've been there. The argument is you need to be happy with yourself foremost. That's how…
/r/seduction12/09/12 06:52 PM
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He's not talking about her looks necessarily. He talking about her as a person. There's a lot more to hotness than just physical beauty.
/r/seduction10/09/12 03:31 PM
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Mhmm, a lot of guys think that you have to be flawless which isn't true. In fact, if a girl's into you, you can screw up quite a bit and she'll still give you chances. But yeah if you're too drunk and out of it, that usually won't work.
/r/seduction06/09/12 02:54 PM
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First, don't beat yourself up over the past. It's all a learning experience and I've fucked up more times than I count. But each time I gained new insight and became stronger because of it. If you have a bunch of those issues, start tackling them one by one. Take a single piece or two you really want to work on, and make that your focus for the night. If its hearing them (positioning) and being heard, only worry about those two points. Forget everything else for the night and refine those skills…
/r/seduction06/09/12 02:51 PM
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Next time you go out, drop everything you know about seduction. Make your only goal to find out who people are and share yourself. Forget all objectives and say silly stuff to make yourself laugh. Even try to intentionally get rejected by being too forward. Consciously detach yourself from the outcome and don't give a shit for a night about what happens.
/r/seduction06/09/12 02:43 PM
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Getting to know the staff is huge. Not only does it get you more sociable, it provides instant social proof and makes you new friends as well. I've had many bartenders give me free rounds and point girls over to me just as you have. Great advice.
/r/seduction06/09/12 02:39 PM
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Yeah but if you can't enjoy getting to know the girl (even for casual sex) then something's wrong. If literally the only fun you have is when you're fucking, that's not a healthy mindset.
/r/seduction06/09/12 02:33 PM
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Yeah, Boston is the same. I guess I should clarify by early I mean arriving around 10-11 and not 11-1. Agreed on your second point. I'd still classify it as dressing well but within that includes appropriate to your environment. I go to a lot of new wave/alternative bars and you can definitely get away with more scruffy and informal looks. Still, many times it pays to be the better dressed man, even in those environments. Thanks for the input, I appreciate it!
/r/seduction06/09/12 02:15 PM
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As I wrote in the guide, simply ask her to grab a drink, get some fresh air, or go somewhere more quiet to chat. Don't overthink it. I also go more in depth about it in my previous article.
/r/seduction06/09/12 02:05 PM
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I'm all about keep it simple stupid and not over analyzing 90% of the unnecessary shit. But when it comes to body language, it's important. Guys clench their drink tight, look closed off, and like they're going to shit their pants. It definitely makes a difference in the responses you get.
/r/seduction06/09/12 02:00 PM
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It makes you seem more stiff and nervous. Body language boils down to closed (defensive) vs open (relaxed). Keeping your arms down also makes you look approachable and inviting.
/r/seduction06/09/12 01:59 PM
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You're very welcome. I just wrote grind instead of repeating the word dancing haha. I go to a lot of new wave / alternative clubs where you don't grind as well. The same advice still applies though, keep dancing with her. Have a couple songs together and don't try to talk much (or at all) while on the floor. After a couple songs, pull her away from the music. That's when you start actually talking and building a real connection.
/r/seduction06/09/12 01:55 PM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction06/09/12 01:52 PM
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Definitely, you've got to know what you want. Find out who they are and if they interest you. Become a man of choice.
/r/seduction05/09/12 11:30 PM
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It sounds like you're not making a strong enough connection with the group. Are you talking to them all for at least a couple of minutes? Are you speaking to each of them and not just the girl you're interested in? Usually, when they cockblock it's because they didn't like your approach. Even if you go after only one girl, the other friends want to know you respected them as well. But, there are the times where they'll cockblock you no matter what out of jealousy. Not much you can do about that.…
/r/seduction05/09/12 11:27 PM
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Agreed :)
/r/seduction05/09/12 08:18 PM
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It really depends what you're looking for. If you're trying to go home with her the same night, it can be best to stay and create a deeper connection. Screen for logistics (do you/her have a viable place) and keep pushing forward. I've rarely made out with a girl and hung out all night without us hooking up. If she's not interested in moving it along, there's something else preventing her. Maybe you didn't create enough trust or she thinks you only want her for sex. Or the opposite being you hav…
/r/seduction05/09/12 08:14 PM
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Same here man. I stopped treating it like a mission. I became genuinely interested in meeting people and finding out who they are regardless of outcome. Coincidentally, once your only goal is to enjoy yourself, everything else falls into place.
/r/seduction05/09/12 06:47 PM
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I'm happy you liked it :) Try it out and let me know how it works for you.
/r/seduction30/08/12 02:25 AM
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Thanks.
/r/seduction30/08/12 02:25 AM
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I know how frustrating online dating can be. But once you figure out what's not working, it can give you some good experience. That said... Pictures definitely matter most. It comes down to: Were you dressed well? Did you look confident, friendly, and inviting (smile)? Were the pictures of high quality and taken with a decent camera? Did you have any that showcased an interesting lifestyle? Take a look at my picture guide for reference. Profile will be hard to dissect without reference. But you …
/r/seduction30/08/12 02:24 AM
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Honestly, I've found that if a woman isn't interested within 5-10 minutes, it's best to move on. Attraction is an emotion that's usually felt quickly. You can spend 30 minutes trying to force something that's not there or find a girl who will actually like you early on.
/r/seduction30/08/12 02:17 AM
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And you always have great insight to share :)
/r/seduction30/08/12 02:05 AM
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Haha, that's awesome. It's so much fun when only you two are in on something.
/r/seduction29/08/12 11:45 PM
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Thank you! Confidence is a major component of escalation. Don't be fooled though, kissing a girl in 3 minutes does not necessarily mean you have good game. I know plenty of bar/club make out guys who can't get a responsive number or pull a girl home.
/r/seduction29/08/12 07:20 PM
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Yeah, I mean you don't want to be a formulaic robot about it. It shouldn't be "now is time to touch. Now is time to ask for her number." But inexperienced guys often hesitate and never take the interaction anywhere. You just want to remember that it's important to push forward a bit before she gets frustrated or loses interest.
/r/seduction29/08/12 06:46 PM
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I appreciate the response but I have to disagree about the timeframes. They are solid general frameworks based on many years of experience -- both with myself and coaching. As stated in the article, they are for when she's receptive and accepting your advances. If she's not, then they will obviously adjust. But, they are still good to keep in mind as a whole. Personally, if a girl is unreceptive to my escalation, I don't stick around for long. Too many guys continue to wait and take it slow, usu…
/r/seduction29/08/12 06:26 PM
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Thanks man. There are definitely so many variables that it's difficult to give one-size-fits-all advice. You start with a basic framework and then calibrate to individual situations. Much of that comes from trial and error and experience. Glad you enjoyed the article!
/r/seduction29/08/12 06:10 PM
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It's all a learning process and recognizing what you need to implement is a big part of that. Especially if you're at a bar or party, physical contact is a must. Try it out, I guarantee you'll start seeing better responses.
/r/seduction29/08/12 05:50 PM
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You know it's the only way I do it ;) haha. Thanks man!
/r/seduction29/08/12 05:09 PM
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It has nothing to do with your height, it's your confidence that's the problem. I'm 5'8" and two of the best guys I know with women are 5'5" and 5'7". I usually date taller than average women and my current girlfriend is 5'7". She's taller than me in heels and it's never been an issue. Stop with the "I'm ugly" shit. You're actually a very attractive guy and you're fit as hell. You'll have no problem landing women but only when you start believing in yourself. Women are attracted to men who like …
/r/seduction20/08/12 06:15 PM
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I'm not going to waste the effort posting Roosh quotes when they're all over the site. Here are two examples: http://www.rooshv.com/do-it-for-the-notch http://www.rooshv.com/call-the-bitch-out Every other post is riddled with points about how fat, ugly, and slutty women (especially Americans are). In the first post, he completed dehumanizes this woman, repeatedly talks about how much of a troll she is, and how he literally just stayed for two hours so he could "do it for the notch". Then he's di…
/r/seduction16/08/12 08:35 PM
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I want the most lays for the least time/money/energy spent possible. "I see women as soulless objects and I don't give a shit about creating any kind of connection. I just want the quickest way to stick my dick in a hole." Honestly, it's statements like that which are the bane of the community. It's perfectly fine to want lots of sex but even if it's casual, you'd hope there's some kind of actual connection. Guys like Roosh are perpetuating fucked up mentalities. They're misogynistic, insecure, …
/r/seduction16/08/12 07:30 PM
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It doesn't make me angry. But, the women who would actually buy these and use them are probably not my type. I respect a woman who can be upfront without the use of a rejection card.
/r/seduction15/08/12 03:25 PM
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Lift heavy, get strong, look awesome, and deter hostile men. I like it.
/r/seduction10/08/12 11:29 PM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction10/08/12 11:28 PM
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Carnegie was brilliant and ahead of his time, can't deny that.
/r/seduction10/08/12 08:50 PM
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Not sure if serious haha but just accept and show you're unphased by it: "I know, those were the days." (longing look) "I used to be so flexible then!" "Hell yeah, got to try everything once :)" Have fun with it and be silly, they can't shake your frame.
/r/seduction10/08/12 07:44 PM
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I have to disagree here. You're assuming just because you avoid violence that you're weak or a pushover all around. If you're assertive, sexual, and lead with confidence combined with calmly handling confrontation, it's very attractive. Again, I don't think the women who seek that type of attention are worth it. But that's just my opinion.
/r/seduction10/08/12 07:33 PM
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As stated in the post, I don't think it's worth it. You achieve the same results by dealing with them politely and then ignoring/shutting them out. I don't see the need to get into underhanded attacks or making them out to be fools when there are smarter ways to handle it. Half of those examples are stuff that gets guys bottled or stabbed outside the venue. Not worth getting permanently injured over something so meaningless.
/r/seduction10/08/12 07:28 PM
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Yeah, you definitely need keep an eye open for potential attacks. When I say turn your back, I don't mean that blindly -- you should always be aware of your surroundings. Thanks for the insightful input, I'm going to add that in and make it more clear.
/r/seduction10/08/12 05:08 PM
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Haha, that's a challenge I'd be willing to take :)
/r/seduction10/08/12 03:40 PM
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That's why I wrote self-respecting woman. A girl who gets off on controversy and hollers "You got your ass whipped!" because you acted mature is not quality. Drama queens aren't worth my time. Glad you enjoyed the article!
/r/seduction10/08/12 03:05 PM
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You need to stop seeing the transition as something amazing. It's simply a bridge into conversation. That can be a question, cold read (assumption), or an observation. Especially in the day, you don't need anything over the top. Going in direct is attractive and already shows confidence. Focus initially on displaying good body language, strong eye contact, and looking comfortable. Then just really listen to her and relate back, maybe throw in a dash of playfulness. Daytime conversations are supp…
/r/seduction10/08/12 02:34 PM
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Feel good that you made an approach, it's a step. Stop beating yourself up and praise yourself for even trying. Next time, push yourself to take it a little further. Rinse and repeat. Do it enough times and you'll have no problem staying in conversations.
/r/seduction08/08/12 05:57 PM
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Brilliant response and the right answer. It sounds like she has some potential hangups from the past and is protecting herself. Retrieve those out of and show her how you're different (while still leading / holding frame).
/r/seduction08/08/12 05:07 PM
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There's always a chance shit can happen when you get involved with women at work -- especially someone under you. That's a decision you'll have to make and weigh the risk versus reward. That said, if you go ahead with it, don't overcomplicate this. You already talk to her and she's showing you signs. If she's potentially interested in something, she already knows. Start a conversation with her like you normally do, have a few laughs, and then ask her out. "You're a lot of fun, we should grab dri…
/r/seduction08/08/12 05:04 PM
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Approach from the front and try not asking for the dance. She's at a club, which means she's likely already open to the idea. Convey through your body language that you want to dance with her. Start dancing near to her. Playfully mimic her moves, reach out your hand, or challenge her to a mini-dance competition. Even just move closer to her and pull her in. Nothing exudes confidence like leading with action. Check out my dance floor guide. A lot of it was written from my many nights at The Middl…
/r/seduction08/08/12 04:59 PM
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Haha, god I love women in sexy outfits. She felt your passion, in every sense of the word, and that's what turned her on. And yeah, we take this stuff so seriously sometimes when we should relish in the journey. Thanks for the kind words.
/r/seduction08/08/12 02:40 AM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction08/08/12 02:35 AM
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You are the one percent ;)
/r/seduction07/08/12 10:49 PM
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Thank you man and I'm happy to hear my advice is working for you. Comments like yours are the reason why I love doing what I do :) It'a funny because we get so hooked on seduction material and believe we need more than we truly do. Then one day you start a straightforward convo with a girl, she loves it, and you're like "holy shit, that's all it took?!?" What matters more than anything else is hands-on experience. Keep chipping away at it, you're doing it right.
/r/seduction07/08/12 07:56 PM
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That's exactly it dude. Once you understand the concepts of approaching, leading, escalating, and showing intentions, you need tons of practice and not more theory. So much time is wasted talking about taking action rather than actually doing it. A guy who meets 50 women a month with basic knowledge will get far greater results and improve quicker than a guy who meets 5 women a month but knows everything. In fact, too much material can be paralyzing and hinder the development of your emotional i…
/r/seduction07/08/12 04:37 PM
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Completely disagree with you. While yes you shouldn't simply read "inner game" material only, combining understanding yourself with consistent practice yields the best results. If you believe it boils down "be awesome and people will like me" then you don't get it. And from the sound of it, you're still insecure internally if you base your self-worth off other's opinions. That's the exact opposite of a strong mindset. True inner game is about being vulnerable. It's recognizing your own insecurit…
/r/seduction06/08/12 02:42 PM
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For sure, it's all about progressive escalation as discussed in the article. There's also a first part (linked within) which shows when to move forward and when to pull back.
/r/seduction31/07/12 04:27 AM
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Thanks man, glad you enjoyed it.
/r/seduction31/07/12 04:02 AM
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The article actually says the "biggest" difference, which is most definitely true. You don't sleep with platonic friends.
/r/seduction31/07/12 03:47 AM
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Thank you!
/r/seduction31/07/12 02:51 AM
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Then you've been doing it right for years :)
/r/seduction31/07/12 02:40 AM
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Thanks man. I didn't even realize someone submitted this until just now, haha. As for the small of the back, it's in there under medium level touching. And I agree, it's one of the best spots you can touch a woman.
/r/seduction30/07/12 11:54 PM
2

No harm in asking :) Without sounding like a dick, my schedule is pretty crazy right now and I barely even have a free moment to myself. But shoot me an email and we can make plans when I have an extra day.
/r/seduction30/07/12 11:51 PM
1

Thanks.
/r/seduction30/07/12 11:48 PM
1

You're welcome and let me know how it goes.
/r/seduction30/07/12 11:47 PM
2

The latter of course.
/r/seduction30/07/12 11:47 PM
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Mark and I are both from Boston and have had some brief discussions. He's a brilliant writer and one of the few guys I feel who actually "get it" as well. I would be lying if I said he didn't influence me greatly -- especially when starting out years ago. This article is geared towards guys who are already approaching but can't express their sexual intentions. But, the same principles apply for getting started. Begin with functional questions like, "Do you know where the nearest Starbucks is?" o…
/r/seduction30/07/12 08:24 PM
3

Definitely CBT and I agree :)
/r/seduction30/07/12 07:50 PM
6

Yeah, you always have to be careful at work. If it's a career you care about, it's best not fish off the company pier.
/r/seduction30/07/12 07:10 PM
2

Thanks and honestly when it comes to being sexual, most of it will be more difficult than just standard conversation. But, you take it at your own pace. For example with the teases, compliments, and questions, they can be very light. "You're such a dork." "You're cute." "When was your first kiss?" Once you get comfortable with those then you can ramp up the difficulty.
/r/seduction30/07/12 06:51 PM
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Hmm in that case it may be attributed to a lack of experience. I'd try working on it using the examples in the post. If that doesn't help, it might be a deeper issue which could require professional help. Seduction has its limitations.
/r/seduction30/07/12 06:37 PM
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Yes because as you become more sexually comfortable, you anxiety will decrease. Your nerves (which usually stem from inexperience) make it difficult to stay aroused. Also, try cutting back on the porn. There are a lot of studies that show excessive masturbation from porn can cause ED. Even if you don't believe that, not watching those videos will make you horny as hell and force you to try and release that tension with a real woman. Here's an article I wrote about that a couple months ago.
/r/seduction30/07/12 05:59 PM
3

As above, in person is the best and most respectful route but phone is acceptable.
/r/seduction30/07/12 04:19 PM
1

You can send out a text as a last resort but personally I think you should move on. You're hung up on this girl because you're a virgin and are placing her on a huge pedestal. You're needy and desperate because of a scarcity mindset. The only way to overcome that is through meeting other women. Approach more, escalate harder, and get yourself laid. Once you start connecting with other girls, she'll fade quickly for your mind.
/r/seduction30/07/12 03:56 PM
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With stuttering, your best bet is to simply own it. There aren't any tricks that are going to be advantageous and trying so often makes you seem insecure about it. You can poke a little fun ("it's my secret sex move.") but be careful not to self-deprecate. Either way, it's not the end of the world. That said, I would practice a ton to overcome it. I know a lot of guys who use to stutter and with regular exercises they got rid of it permanently or managed it to the point where it didn't make a di…
/r/seduction30/07/12 03:47 PM
3

Honestly, if you didn't have sex then you don't owe much more than that. Ideally you would want it over the phone or in person but what you did is fine.
/r/seduction30/07/12 03:36 PM
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You're 20, most girls don't expect you to have your own place. They understand that you will probably have roommates or still live at home. That said, I didn't have my own place for a long time and it never hurt me. I mean, if she doesn't have a spot to go back to and you don't either, then it probably won't work out. But that's why you screen for girls that live on their own or with roommates that won't mind. Just be honest, "I'm at my parents right now, putting myself through college. How abou…
/r/seduction23/07/12 09:03 PM
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Yup, that's how I felt on my journey as well. It takes more work to develop yourself as a well-rounded man than just outer fixes, but the rewards are infinite. And once you do, attracting women becomes a cakewalk.
/r/seduction21/07/12 03:06 PM
1

It sounds like you're on the right track, congrats!
/r/seduction21/07/12 03:03 PM
3

Thanks, feel free to share it out!
/r/seduction21/07/12 02:59 PM
5

Yeah you know me.
/r/seduction21/07/12 02:56 PM
4

Thanks man, I'll definitely take you up on the offer :) Love the picture, haha.
/r/seduction21/07/12 03:58 AM
2

Nah, I didn't post it on GetMotivated. That's an amazing compliment and thanks so much. Keep working at it, you'll get there.
/r/seduction21/07/12 01:34 AM
3

I'm happy you found value in them!
/r/seduction21/07/12 01:31 AM
4

That's awesome.
/r/seduction21/07/12 12:16 AM
3

Never too late to start, just got to take action.
/r/seduction20/07/12 10:36 PM
7

Hah, well a month would be tough to squeeze it all in but might as well start now!
/r/seduction20/07/12 07:36 PM
5

Haha no problem at all, your criticism was helpful :) Thanks for the kind words.
/r/seduction20/07/12 07:30 PM
8

Thanks for the input and I completely agree. I took your suggestion and moved it to the first spot.
/r/seduction20/07/12 07:20 PM
1

Grant me the serenity... to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference. I love that quote! That's the exact attitude that leads to success. Honestly, "making it" mostly comes down to determination. If you keep the mindset you have, I have no doubt you're going to do great things :)
/r/seduction13/07/12 11:25 PM
1

Thanks. If your hair is receding or getting noticeably thin, shave it off. Trust me, the shaved down style looks much better than sparse hairs. Honestly, I wouldn't stress over it otherwise. I know bald guys who crush it and many women love the look. Think how many attractive and bald male leads there are. It's all about how you carry yourself.
/r/seduction13/07/12 11:19 PM
1

You know it.
/r/seduction13/07/12 11:16 PM
3

Thank you thank you! Meetup is an amazing site and you can literally find a group for any interest. Check out local Reddit meetups and Eventbrite for other ideas as well.
/r/seduction13/07/12 11:16 PM
1

As suggested, start watching other funny people and deconstruct why their humor works. If there's no improv class, pick some improv games from online and practice with a trusted friend. Learn how to tease women and practice. Also, I haven't read these books yet but I've heard great things: The Comic Toolbox and The Comedy Bible.
/r/seduction13/07/12 11:13 PM
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As lingual_panda said, take a second to formulate your thoughts. This will also allow you to catch yourself when you're going to say something negative. Be consciously aware and stop the words from coming out of your mouth. Reading introspective material helped me a ton. I started questioning why I was so bitter and began challenging those harmful thoughts. Don't Sweat The Small Stuff, The Four Agreements, and No More Mr. Nice Guy are excellent books that push you to be a more positive person. M…
/r/seduction13/07/12 11:04 PM
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Thanks. Lol, I couldn't tell because it's usually the one thing guys fight to let go of. You tell them to drop TV and porn, no problem but video games are a fight to the death.
/r/seduction13/07/12 09:56 PM
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Mhmm, that's exactly the point of the article. Personally, I don't think he has an attractive face and many would agree. He's no Ryan Gosling or Brad Pitt (in his prime). Now imagine if he was overweight and unkempt, I guarantee the majority would not find him very attractive based on physical appearance alone.
/r/seduction13/07/12 09:22 PM
3

I love hitting the heavy bag. It's an incredible workout, great stress reliever, and ridiculously fun. What more could you ask for?
/r/seduction13/07/12 09:17 PM
3

Thanks and glad you liked it :)
/r/seduction13/07/12 09:15 PM
2

Never said anything is wrong with that, I love my Diablo 3 time. But guys have to understand that if you want to meet awesome women, you have to cut down the play time.
/r/seduction13/07/12 09:15 PM
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Depends on your taste but definitely not hot in the traditional sense. For reference: http://pstracks.com/wp-content/wptouch-data/temp/mick-jagger-young-i3.jpg
/r/seduction13/07/12 08:59 PM
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I feel you, I'm an introvert myself. You don't have to be the guy who's center of attention and in large groups all the time. Focus on environments that make you happy and stick to intimate interactions. I actually wrote a whole post about this recently: http://www.thedatingspecialist.com/blog/being-an-introvert-is-no-excuse/ Hope that helps!
/r/seduction13/07/12 08:25 PM
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Woohoo, happy to hear it inspired you :) Now go out and meet some women!
/r/seduction13/07/12 07:52 PM
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Did you not understand the point of the article? In 5'7 1/2" on a good day. My current girlfriend is 5'7", towers me in heels, and I've dated quite a few tall girls. Two of the best guys I know with women are 5'4" and 5'6". One of them always hooks up with gorgeous girls and the other is in a relationship with a blonde bombshell. It's your limiting beliefs and mindset that's unattractive, not your height. Yes, some girls aren't going to be interested but there are plenty who will be. Build yours…
/r/seduction13/07/12 07:46 PM
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The article focuses on various ways to improve attractiveness, health/fitness is just one avenue. I chose Mick because he's not what most people consider naturally "good looking" but his attitude, presence, and passion made him a lady-killer.
/r/seduction13/07/12 07:13 PM
3

Haha, thanks man.
/r/seduction13/07/12 05:46 PM
2

"All I have in this world is my balls and my word and I don't break them for no one." - Tony Montana
/r/seduction12/07/12 12:44 AM
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You said 8:15, so be there by then and stay true to your word. Whether thats 8:13 or 8:15 doesn't matter, you're overthinking it.
/r/seduction12/07/12 12:37 AM
1

That's a useless stat. I could be really friendly and get a ton of numbers that don't convert to anything.
/r/seduction11/07/12 06:43 PM
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That's because most pickup overcomplicates what you actually need. Being a normal, funny, confident guy who isn't afraid to push things forward is mostly it. I guarantee your friends aren't playing some trick. That said, you're here to learn seduction, which is about attracting women. Why would you change what works and why are you turned off when it does? It doesn't make any sense to me.
/r/seduction11/07/12 06:39 PM
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Because you're inexperienced. You don't push your comfort zone daily. You don't approach women regularly. You don't put yourself on the line and become vulnerable. You haven't gotten rejected enough. You have a scarcity mentality rather than one of abundance. You're in your head worried about what could happen rather than taking action to face your fears and insecurities head on.
/r/seduction09/07/12 09:48 PM
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1) Research places around you (Yelp.com is a good start). That could be bars, parks, bowling alleys, whatever you want to do. 2) Invite her on a date. "Hey, let's catch up over drinks. Tomorrow, 8 PM?" 3) Go on date and follow seduction's advice. If you don't know where to start, read the sidebar.
/r/seduction09/07/12 09:44 PM
1

Seeing as these are slightly modified examples of successful first messages that have been tested repeatedly, I disagree. I'm going to paste part of my response from the other thread: "The messages are playful, non-threatening, not needy/creepy, and show that you're a normal guy who actually read her profile. They're not supposed to be prolific works of art, just good conversation that sparks a smile and a response."
/r/seduction03/07/12 11:03 PM
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Yes, because it's a post about specific applicable advice for online dating. I have many pieces about inner game -- you have to focus on one topic per article.
/r/seduction03/07/12 10:34 PM
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Absolutely, and that's why I titled it "Get More Dates..." The whole purpose of online dating is to meet in person, connect, and try to make something happen. I would never tell a guy to sit and practice chatting online until they feel ready.
/r/seduction03/07/12 09:16 PM
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I'm not really sure what you're arguing here. I never claimed they were the same but the necessary skills do blend quite a bit. If a guy lands a date from online he can still practice body language, non-verbals, physical contact, being sexual, escalation, leading, teasing, and communication skills. Also, hooking up when a guy has little to no experience or a long dry spell can give a huge confidence boost. It can be hard to believe in yourself when you have nothing to base it off. I have worked …
/r/seduction03/07/12 09:03 PM
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I agree and have always advocated that online dating should be supplementary. Knowing how to approach a woman in person is a valuable skill that everyone should learn. That said, it can help guys with less experience build confidence and have some initial success. Online dating can provide an avenue where they connect with girls right away and get their feet wet.
/r/seduction03/07/12 07:02 PM
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Again, you want to hide the fact that you like women from your friends. How is that healthy? You believe that becoming a social, attractive man is inherently wrong. You have this crazy idea that if you want to meet women, you are a "pick up artist" and lose value. I don't associate myself as a PUA, I don't brag about my conquests, and yet people love to be around me and no one thinks any less. Being awesome with women does not conflict with being a gentleman. You want a great girl but guess what…
/r/seduction01/07/12 08:51 PM
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...What do you want us to say then? Why do you believe that talking to women, being an attractive man, and dating is wrong or tacky? How does that create a bad image? It sounds like you have some serious limiting beliefs and because your friends don't talk to girls, it makes you feel awkward. And what does that girl have to do with it? First, you have no idea what she's about and you aren't even on a personal basis. Second, no woman is going to say "What an asshole, he met a girl and went to go …
/r/seduction01/07/12 08:24 PM
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Why didn't you just say, "Yeah, you should come along." If she agrees then you tell her to grab her stuff while you update your friends. Walk up to your buddies and say, "Hey guys, I'm going to head back with this girl. I'll hit you up tomorrow." If they're your friends they want you to get laid dude.
/r/seduction01/07/12 07:51 PM
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No, you did the right thing and handled it like a man. You didn't let her disrespect you and were the bigger person which is why she profusely apologized. After that, it's up to you if you want to give her a second chance or not.
/r/seduction01/07/12 04:38 PM
1

Yes. You don't need to go out your way to show her that you won't use her friendship. Just be a real friend.
/r/seduction29/06/12 08:08 PM
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Yes, obviously hitting it off and hooking up with a woman is awesome. But, if you base your success on whether or not you "f-close", you're doing it wrong. So many guys involved in this stuff validate their whole existence on getting laid. It's an endless chase and can lead to some serious unhappiness.
/r/seduction29/06/12 04:37 PM
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You're a man who knows his liquor. New Amsterdam is an incredible American Gin that's affordable, I highly recommend it to everyone. Hendrick's is my favorite though and IMO the best of it's type...it's just so damn expensive. Excellent article Vichet.
/r/seduction29/06/12 03:48 PM
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Awesome! Happy to hear you found it valuable :)
/r/seduction27/06/12 01:55 PM
1

Most girls won't take the lead at all, especially before you've had sex. They want the guy to make the moves and if they're interested, they'll welcome your advances. Always escalate and pay attention to how she reacts (body language). If she's positive, smiling, and not hesitating, then you're doing great.
/r/seduction27/06/12 04:07 AM
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No, again oneitis is a symptom. You're too nice, that's the real problem. See here: http://www.thedatingspecialist.com/blog/are-you-a-real-man-or-just-a-nice-guy/
/r/seduction27/06/12 02:49 AM
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Maybe she is or was but I still think you're missing the bigger picture. I highly doubt she sees you as a non-dominant person because of only that. All your words you said, the fact that you're clearly obsessing over her, that you think she's the world to you when you haven't even been romantically involved, and that you never make a move, is a symptom of something greater.
/r/seduction27/06/12 02:38 AM
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Ok great, but did any of the words sink in? That's the bigger picture here dude. If you don't work on those aspects, you're going to keep facing the same issues over and over.
/r/seduction27/06/12 02:25 AM
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I don't think it's your looks or because you're introverted. If these girls are hanging out and offering you blow jobs, they're probably interested. Here's the real question: you talk about all this "escalation" but are you kissing by the first or second hang out? How many times have you chilled before anything has happened? Usually by the third or fourth time at the latest is when you get intimate. If you're going out together on multiple occasions and nothing is happening, they're going to get…
/r/seduction27/06/12 02:23 AM
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I have to give it to you straight man... You are way too nice. You're talking about marriage (even jokingly), defending yourself, qualifying yourself, being really awkward with the "you come up with all these excuses", and are trying to logically sway her to like you. You can't convince a woman that you're dominant or assertive through your words. It has to show through your actions and emotions. It's not as simple as kissing to prove it either, it has to be you. She doesn't mean the world to yo…
/r/seduction27/06/12 02:18 AM
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Aww, thanks man that means a lot to me. I put a ton of effort trying to making them as useful as possible. Glad they're helping!
/r/seduction26/06/12 10:43 PM
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I feel you man, that's why I wrote this article. To help convince your mind that thinking about sex is healthy and normal.
/r/seduction26/06/12 01:58 PM
1

Thanks and I'm glad you liked it :)
/r/seduction26/06/12 01:43 PM
1

Haha, I love Louis -- great clip.
/r/seduction26/06/12 01:36 PM
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Depends on the girl. Depends on the situation. Some girls will sleep with a guy in 5 minutes, but the vast majority won't. It sounds like she was drunk, at a party, and looking for someone to hook up with. He seems like he was in the right place, at the right time, and was the only one making moves.
/r/seduction26/06/12 03:13 AM
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Thanks for the feedback! There's a mix of different sources in there including the Durex World Sex Survey (one of the largest globally), The Journal of Sexual Medicine, North Texas University, and yes, Maxim. It's tough to find current public research on a lot of these topics so I had to pick a little from everywhere. That said, even with some skewing I think the numbers would still reflect the same ideas.
/r/seduction26/06/12 02:07 AM
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Thanks, I try my best to be as straightforward as possible.
/r/seduction26/06/12 12:56 AM
1

That's the best kind of sex! ...minus the vagina sand.
/r/seduction26/06/12 12:55 AM
3

As a man, I must say that I was turned on while writing this post.
/r/seduction26/06/12 12:54 AM
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If you're completely new, there's way too much to convey in a single reply. I'd suggest checking out the sidebar and learning the basics. There's an entire "NEW HERE?" section at the top which should help you get you get started :)
/r/seduction25/06/12 09:05 PM
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Definitely, everyone needs to make a living. I've just never been much of a promoter, which might be stupid on my part. My philosophy is to invite rather than sell. Be honest, provide lots of value, and give a shit about people. In return, if someone wants to work with me then awesome. If they don't, I'm still happy they got something out of it and hopefully they'll spread the good word.
/r/seduction25/06/12 08:45 PM
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Yup, I offer in-person coaching (Boston/NY) and remote coaching over the phone. I also do a lot of online dating work where I rewrite profiles, craft/respond to messages, and help guys get on first dates. But before I do paid work with any client, I always have a free session over the phone. I like to make sure it's a good fit for both parties. My Services
/r/seduction25/06/12 08:35 PM
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Upbringing is often a major factor in repressing sexuality. If you have everyone around you saying it's bad, avoiding it, or making it awkward, those beliefs are going to be instilled in you. It's never too late to destroy those limiting ideas though.
/r/seduction25/06/12 06:52 PM
1

Haha, that's the same reaction I had.
/r/seduction25/06/12 06:47 PM
2

Wow, really interesting research. I'd never heard of them before, going to have to dig in a bit. Thanks, I love all the extra insight you guys are providing, keep it coming!
/r/seduction25/06/12 06:46 PM
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Without a doubt, but that's why you're on here :) Practice regularly and I promise you'll see results -- never met a guy who didn't. Start by setting simple goals for yourself like a high five, quick arm touch, or light tease. Once you've got that down, work your way up to more personal flirting. Progressive learning is the best way IMO.
/r/seduction25/06/12 06:43 PM
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Thanks and you're very welcome. Yeah, I guarantee nearly all of us wish we started earlier. But who knows, maybe you wouldn't be the man you are now. It's the failures that we learn the most from and become humbled by.
/r/seduction25/06/12 06:40 PM
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Pretty much everything that Seduction advocates about flirting and creating attraction. Strong/seductive eye contact, teasing, statements of intent, subtle innuendos, bold compliments, intimate or sexual questions (qualification), physical contact and sexual escalation, leading, etc.
/r/seduction25/06/12 06:23 PM
2

Thanks and of course dude! Cite whatever you need and let me know if there's any way I can help out.
/r/seduction25/06/12 05:52 PM
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Thanks man, glad you enjoyed it. Of course it's my site lol, look at my username and also most people on Seddit probably know me by now. But as you said: I don't have any ads, spam, popups, and I never push sales. I answer questions here regularly and only submit articles that I feel will give a ton of value.
/r/seduction25/06/12 05:48 PM
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Glad to hear it man, that was exactly my intention with this article. Outer work can get you to a point, but crushing that persistent voice of denial is what's going to provide lasting change. I wouldn't say weird, more sexy than anything, haha.
/r/seduction25/06/12 05:11 PM
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From my reply above, I understand that a ton of guys realize women want sex, but not as many have internalized it. Much of the questions on here come down to a lack of escalation and expressing sexual intent. Those guys need to believe that women desire great sex and facts make it harder for the brain to deny that.
/r/seduction25/06/12 04:57 PM
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Apologies on the source, fixed. Must've gotten messed up when I transferred from pages.
/r/seduction25/06/12 04:37 PM
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Of course, a lot of guys know that women want sex. But, something deep inside prevents them from truly believing and acting upon it. This is my way of giving hard evidence to help them break out of their shell.
/r/seduction25/06/12 04:29 PM
2

Thanks! I love the Kinsey Institute and it slipped my mind -- appreciate the reminder. I'll see if there's something additional I can throw in.
/r/seduction25/06/12 03:57 PM
2

Haha, that's brilliant and very clever -- I love it.
/r/seduction25/06/12 04:02 AM
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ThatGuy1990 has some truth to what he says. Most women don't need to do much to attract a guy. But they often can use motivation to talk and help giving signals. Teach her about approach invitations (making eye contact and smiling). Tell her to be more approachable by having open body language and looking friendly. Go up to groups and socialize together.
/r/seduction25/06/12 04:00 AM
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Agree on all points. It's always good to have a subtle signal so your buddy knows when to chill out. It doesn't have to be verbal either, a simple gesture or quick touch works well. And yeah, the #1 goal for a wingman is to help your friend get some alone time. That includes at the bar but also back at a more private location like your/her place.
/r/seduction24/06/12 10:35 PM
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There isn't much to go off here. You don't really know what happened and we can't be certain either. That said, here are a few points: Don't get so drunk. You already know this but I'll restate it. Your social skills get weak and it's extremely difficult to calibrate yourself and the situation. It's hard when you're drunk to not get pissy about getting flaked. But, take one of two paths instead: accept that girls flake and give her another shot. Or, decide that she's not worth your time, smile, …
/r/seduction24/06/12 07:50 PM
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Help motivate each other to approach, introduce groups of women you meet to your wing, and support him when he needs help in conversation. Sometimes you will need to entertain other members of the group so he can get personal time with his girl. Also, keep each other's spirits up and have fun together -- that's most important. Good wings will take turns so both parties experience success. You'll be the lead in one interaction and he'll lead the next. Take a look at my guide if you want some basi…
/r/seduction24/06/12 07:34 PM
4

It doesn't matter. You're never going to get an exact percentage and it's a waste of time to think about it. Approach and you'll find out.
/r/seduction20/06/12 03:44 PM
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People react to situations differently. Some girls are more shy initially while others are extremely open off the bat. I wouldn't worry about it too much and just focus on having fun the next time you hang out. If you're enjoying yourself, she will, too. On another note, I always say you have to bring the "interesting" out of women. You said she was listening to your friend and you also told some stories but didn't talk much. That could be a reason why she didn't open up as easily. Remember, the…
/r/seduction18/06/12 04:02 PM
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Forget worrying about her "chasing you". Yes, when you're first attracting a woman, you want her to work a little for you. But she's already into you and having sex dude. Start giving her the best sex of her life and she'll become more and more invested in you. Maybe she's calling you a girl because she doesn't see you as a leader or a dominant man. If she said that to me I'd reply with, "Oh really?" and then get super physical. Pull her in by the waist and kiss her passionately. Go behind her a…
/r/seduction02/06/12 04:42 PM
1

Np, any time.
/r/seduction01/06/12 05:41 PM
2

Holding hands and hugs don't prove anything -- friends do those things. You need to move into the sexual zone: touching the small of her back, putting your hand on her leg, caressing her thigh, and kissing her. So yes, you should go for a kiss. I guarantee that when you do, you'll get the answer you're looking for, whatever that may be.
/r/seduction01/06/12 05:35 PM
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She's immature and young. Girls like that eat up guys who push them away and make them chase hard. I mean most women do to an extent, but the young ones crave that attention the most. It also has nothing to do with being a dick, it was you growing a spine. You didn't take her silly shit and called her out on it. You probably had regular, comfortable conversations before with no chemistry or sexual tension. Once you added those elements in, you turned her on and showed your willingness to walk aw…
/r/seduction01/06/12 05:30 PM
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Dude, stop pussyfooting around your intentions and be a man. You know those dangly things between your legs called testicles? Take your hand, grab them, and do something already. You talk to her often, hang out alone, she sleeps over your place...what are you waiting for? If a girl I'm attracted to is sleeping in my house, you better believe I'm going to take a shot and see what's up. Flirt with her like crazy, start touching her, and escalate sexually. If she's not feeling it, she'll let you kn…
/r/seduction01/06/12 05:23 PM
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First off, stop thinking you're going to be creepy. If you believe that, you will scare yourself from approaching or project those feelings onto the girls you do meet. Second, I actually just answered this on another thread, so I'll link you there to avoid repetition: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/ucgfd/where_to_meet_girlspractice_game/c4u6t6k
/r/seduction30/05/12 07:31 PM
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So what you're saying is you want everything for nothing. "I want to meet and attract awesome women. I just don't want to talk to them during the day, at coffee shops, at the gym, at a club, or anywhere else outside my comfort zone." Your attitude on this is completely wrong. You see it as "gaming" women which makes you believe it's weird instead of seeing it as connecting with human beings. The truth is 9/10 single women would rather meet an amazing guy than whatever else they're doing. If you …
/r/seduction30/05/12 07:24 PM
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Women love to be desired, that's what turns them on. Yes, you still want to "be the prize". You want to initially show her you're willing to walk away. You want her to express why she's worth your time (qualify). But as she opens up to you, you want to display your intentions and interest in her. You do that through leading, touching her, statements of interest, getting sexual, and persistently escalating. That's what women mean by getting chased. They enjoy that feeling of being lusted after.
/r/seduction30/05/12 04:42 PM
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She told you she's cool with casual sex and invited you alone to her apartment for drinks. She wants to have sex with you. If you're cool with being fuck buddies, go for it. Hang out at her place, enjoy yourself, and flirt with her. Sit close, drink with her, and start escalating. Tease her and push her arm, rest your your leg against hers, then place your hand on her thigh. Keep escalating and kiss her. At that point things will naturally progress to the bedroom.
/r/seduction25/05/12 12:09 AM
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Yup, which is why two guys can say the same exact things with very different results.
/r/seduction23/05/12 06:37 PM
1

Agreed. You're welcome man, glad you found it useful.
/r/seduction23/05/12 06:35 PM
1

Thanks and thanks, I put a lot of hard work into it. Appreciate the kind words :)
/r/seduction23/05/12 06:34 PM
1

Thanks and you're welcome!
/r/seduction23/05/12 05:47 PM
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Thanks man. The transition is just a stepping stone into real conversation. It doesn't have to be anything elaborate or over the top. Ask her a simple question or observe something (surroundings or about her). Then based on her response, use a hook point to make statements and build off of what she said. For the sake of not retyping, I wrote a post on transitioning for a Sedditor who had the same question.
/r/seduction23/05/12 05:13 PM
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I disagree with this advice. Being direct, especially during the daytime, is an incredible way to approach. It's confident as hell, cuts through the BS, and declares your intentions outright. She is taking her experiences with creepy guys and making blanket statements from that. I've been coaching for 5 years and I've seen guys try everything in the book. Being honest off the bat gets great results. Last weekend I coached two guys, both got numbers that turned into dates and my first demo intera…
/r/seduction23/05/12 03:22 PM
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Blunt time...where do I start? Doesn't sound like she's interested at all. Or maybe she initially was but you're just annoying her now. You sound like a desperate panting dog. You're constantly qualifying your words, backing down, awkwardly calling her out, begging, and so much more. You aren't generating any positive emotions from her. I would leave her alone and focus on learning the basics.
/r/seduction22/05/12 12:55 AM
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This. Own it and be honest. Say it lightheartedly and don't sweat it. You seem like a nice guy -- there's no rush and you'll get there in due time :)
/r/seduction22/05/12 12:40 AM
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Agreed, I don't chase women who are already in a relationship either. If they break it off and want to get together, then I'm open to it. But, I wanted to give you some examples for when that comes up with other girls in the future :)
/r/seduction21/05/12 08:21 PM
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She has no respect for your relationship. She's openly admitting that she's going to meet a guy she finds attractive and who wants her. Grow a backbone and drop her before it's too late. There are tons of gorgeous girls out there who won't treat you like shit.
/r/seduction21/05/12 03:45 PM
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That's flirting my friend. She probably thinks you're cute and is attracted to you. You gazed into her with puppy dog eyes and turned up the sexual tension. She felt flustered, you escalated by touching her knee, and then she got turned on. I don't know what you want with this girl but for future reference, you can easily escalate that situation. When you asked if it's working and she replied yes, she was subtly saying, "you are getting me hot." You can respond by slowly dragging your fingers on…
/r/seduction21/05/12 03:16 PM
2

Definitely. A marathon runner can read every tactic on proper form but they won't win the race without practice.
/r/seduction20/05/12 08:17 PM
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Yes. Most guys read way too much theory and don't socialize enough. The concepts are there to help you understand but they won't matter unless you implement them. You can't will yourself to overcome approach anxiety -- confidence comes from experience. Being in an interaction is very different from reading about it. The golden rule is for every hour of reading, you should spend two hours doing. You've absorbed all this material, but what do you have to show for it? Stop reading for now and start…
/r/seduction20/05/12 07:52 PM
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As for other places to meet women, I'll paste something I wrote recently: Try malls, coffee shops, bookstores, parks, public transportation, supermarkets, college campuses, and anywhere people are doing their daily errands. How do you carry your laptop around? Why can't you just place it in your bag and walk with it? If you're really worried about having it stolen, then just take a book as you suggested.
/r/seduction20/05/12 07:31 PM
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Good luck and you're welcome!
/r/seduction20/05/12 06:11 PM
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He's not joking, he's just too nervous to ask you outright. Next time he brings it up smile and say, "Okay, I'm convinced. Where are we going?" If he gets a little flustered you can help him out, "How about we grab a drink at the bar around the corner?" Once he knows you're down, he should be willing to move it forward.
/r/seduction20/05/12 06:06 PM
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Listen to their names when they tell you! It's so simple but many guys don't actually do it. Look at their faces and repeat their names out loud a couple of times during conversation. Think of a mnemonic device. You can associate colors, rhymes, personalities, movies, nicknames, and even appearances with her name. The sillier it is, the easier it is to remember. Examples: Jenny - think Forrest Gump or even just say "Jennaaaay!" in your head. Gina - green shirt (g). Elizabeth - The Queen. It does…
/r/seduction20/05/12 06:01 PM
3

Yeah that's part of it and to just have your info as well. That's a great sign if she wants her own copy.
/r/seduction17/05/12 05:18 PM
3

Normally I advocate easing off a little and reinforcing the connection if she's hesitant. But, you've already slept with this girl, she was hinting at sex, and wanted to come up to your place. She was just feeling self-conscious and honestly it was likely false resistance. It sounded like she wanted it bad. In that case, I would've told her that I don't care and I think she looks damn sexy. I would've caressed her body, kissed her all over, and restated how much I want her. Turn her on to the po…
/r/seduction17/05/12 03:59 PM
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Agreed, most of the time even if she is interested, she's not going to be the first to reach out. It's too much pressure. You can pull out a business card and then get her to write her number on it. It gets her to invest and comply which will increase your chances of seeing her again.
/r/seduction17/05/12 03:49 PM
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Some of it is going to bars and clubs but you can meet women anywhere during the day. Try malls, coffee shops, bookstores, parks, public transportation, supermarkets, college campuses, and anywhere people are doing their daily errands.
/r/seduction10/05/12 07:23 PM
3

Couldn't have said it better myself, glad to see we're on the same page :)
/r/seduction07/05/12 08:17 PM
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Have to disagree on some important semantics here. There's nothing wrong with being a ladies man, a player is a different story. The word player comes from "to play someone" or to pull one over them. By definition, a player is a guy who leads women into believing he's going to date them or pretends to be exclusive while secretly cheating. He's dishonest and uses women solely for sex. A ladies man is upfront with his intentions and let's a woman know where they stand. He's not afraid to admit tha…
/r/seduction07/05/12 07:43 PM
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It's not a shit test, she told you straight up she feels like a booty call to you. It sounds like she wants something more with you and is trying to figure out what you two are. Ignoring a girl you're sleeping with is a douche move. Have you clearly set your expectations with her? Too many guys avoid the topic because they're afraid of it being awkward or losing the girl. But in reality, if you're having sex with her, you need to let her know what you're looking for. Otherwise, someone always ge…
/r/seduction07/05/12 05:18 PM
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So it's hard to tell without further details on your initial meetings with these girls. Usually, if a girl's not coming out to see you, it's more to do with your interactions than the texting. It may be that they don't trust or feel comfortable with you enough yet. Are you talking about anything real in person or is it always playful and jokey? Do you share any stories, passions, vulnerabilities, or discuss deeper topics? Attraction gets a woman to desire you but connection is what gets her to t…
/r/seduction07/05/12 05:10 PM
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Usually, we talk together on the phone or Skype and try to understand your sticking points. Then we discuss what you need to focus on to overcome those obstacles and how to go about it. I give some tips, exercises, and a full writeup afterwards. That's the gist of it. Or you can simply use that time to pick my brain about anything you'd like :) It's up to the person and how they want to spend the session. If you want additional details: http://www.thedatingspecialist.com/free-session/ And as I s…
/r/seduction06/05/12 04:06 PM
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Yeah, I feel you. That's why I always advocate pushing for a date via text sooner than later. Too much time is wasted playing the text game when it should be saved for in person. Or, if you feel more comfortable, get her on the phone and invite her out from there. And no problem, the pleasure is all mine. Will do!
/r/seduction05/05/12 02:46 PM
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Woohoo, thanks and you're welcome!
/r/seduction05/05/12 02:12 PM
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Don't be a dick. Are you that insecure about a female's sexuality?
/r/seduction05/05/12 02:11 PM
2

Calling is very confident and I love the phone because it's where I feel strongest. It's definitely not too much. If you can get a girl on the phone, she's often much more likely to meet up. I chat for 10 minutes, respark our initial connection, and nearly have always gotten a "yes" when I invited them on a date. That being said, the one tough part is actually getting them to pick up. Girls are so used to texting that sometimes even if she likes you, the phone is intimidating and she won't answe…
/r/seduction05/05/12 02:09 PM
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Awesome, that's exactly what I was going for. Glad you liked the books and site :)
/r/seduction05/05/12 01:52 PM
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Thanks man, I appreciate the kind words.
/r/seduction05/05/12 01:50 PM
1

Yeah, I generally wouldn't recommend that as a way to start a conversation...but to each his own.
/r/seduction05/05/12 01:49 PM
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You're welcome!
/r/seduction05/05/12 01:47 PM
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Born and raised. Newbury St is full of beautiful women :)
/r/seduction05/05/12 02:34 AM
2

You mean grammatically, right? I"ll change it to something like "everyone else you encounter." Thanks for the heads up!
/r/seduction05/05/12 02:29 AM
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You're welcome, glad you found it useful.
/r/seduction05/05/12 01:05 AM
1

Right back at you brother!
/r/seduction05/05/12 01:05 AM
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Haha, thanks man. Eventually I'm going to try and release them on the Apple / Kindle stores but that's down the line.
/r/seduction04/05/12 10:45 PM
2

Thanks and you're welcome good sir.
/r/seduction04/05/12 10:43 PM
4

I'm a lefty so by default I hold my drink in the left hand :) But this is a great point I never thought of. I'm definitely adding it in on the next update, thanks for the idea!
/r/seduction04/05/12 10:42 PM
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So one thing about direct is to always introduce yourself (or ask her name) right after the delivery. If you wait, she's going to feel nervous and just say "thanks" or give a reason why she has to go. It's very powerful and you need to cut the tension quickly. Then, there are a million ways to transition… Ask a general question: "What brings you to Newbury Street on this gorgeous day?" "So, where are you from?" Cold read her: "You're not from around here.” (if she's got a different accent, style…
/r/seduction04/05/12 10:39 PM
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A fellow drummer! My advice would be similar to the response I gave to Botulism: "Stand closer in general, move right by their side and against them if necessary (shoulder to shoulder). Lead them to a quieter area in the venue if you absolutely can't make out a word." If you position yourself correctly (side vs front), your ear should usually be close enough to hear her. Taking a seat next to her works well, too. It's fine to let her know the reason but you should only lean in as a last resort. …
/r/seduction04/05/12 09:23 PM
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You're welcome.
/r/seduction04/05/12 08:54 PM
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You're very welcome, any time.
/r/seduction04/05/12 08:19 PM
1

Facebook is a viable avenue and it's been on my radar. Right now I have my next 3 eBooks planned which will cover conversation and connection, flirting and escalation, and online dating. I'll probably include some social media advice in the online dating guide.
/r/seduction04/05/12 08:01 PM
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As much as I love Word, I've become a Pages convert. It's beautiful and everything works without frustration. Plus, it's fully compatible with Word documents. Thanks dude, that means a lot to me. I'm 24.
/r/seduction04/05/12 07:24 PM
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Been coaching for over 4 years, involved with the community for 6. I previously taught for two professional pickup companies before starting my own venture. I was also a former head coach for the Boston lair. Now I coach, write, run meetups/seminars, and work with The Professional Wingman. I'd love to do a full AMA sometime. I just want to make sure it's a day where I'm completely available so I can thoroughly respond to everyone.
/r/seduction04/05/12 07:07 PM
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Pages for Mac/iPad.
/r/seduction04/05/12 07:01 PM
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Glad you like it. I'm all about keeping it simple and practical.
/r/seduction04/05/12 06:29 PM
2

Stand closer in general, move right by their side and against them if necessary. Tell them to speak louder and tease them about it. Lead them to a quieter area in the venue if you absolutely can't make out a word. If you're positioned correctly, you should be able to hear them even with the extra foot or so.
/r/seduction04/05/12 06:09 PM
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Haha...a reminder that Diablo 3 is only 11 days away!
/r/seduction04/05/12 06:03 PM
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Thanks man, I worked hard on trying to come up with a clean yet sleek design. Definitely some of the more experienced guys will be familiar with the material. It's especially geared towards teaching less experienced men the fundamentals and getting them started. But, I think it's a solid reference that anyone can use :)
/r/seduction04/05/12 06:02 PM
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Thanks and you're welcome.
/r/seduction04/05/12 04:20 PM
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Of course and I agree. It goes both ways and some men are as well.
/r/seduction30/04/12 09:48 PM
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Thanks and no problem, I appreciate it. Fixed!
/r/seduction30/04/12 08:54 PM
2

Great quote and so true.
/r/seduction30/04/12 08:53 PM
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Maybe, but sometimes all it takes is coming off a certain way or a small misunderstanding to start the "bitch" attitude. And like I said, you don't know what happened prior, she could've had a shitty day. There's always two sides to a story. It's not about over-compensating to get laid but rather how you handle these situations. It takes just as much effort to retaliate as it does to simply diffuse and use that tension to your advantage. If you assume every girl who gives a bit of resistance is …
/r/seduction30/04/12 08:51 PM
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Thanks man :)
/r/seduction30/04/12 08:02 PM
4

Use the yes or no system. If you think she's attractive, approach -- don't overcomplicate things. And don't say the whole "I can only stay for a sec" unless you actually have to leave. Generally, the longer the conversation, the more likely you'll build something real and see her again. But, you can eject when you want and still go for the number.
/r/seduction30/04/12 07:52 PM
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While I applaud your don't give a fuck attitude, I would have probably read and handled that situation differently. Something I learned over the years is that women reciprocate behavior. If you're being kind of an asshole to them, they protect themselves and do the same back. If you keep battling her, it's hard for her to drop her defenses and admit she's in the wrong. You walked over and asked if they wanted drinks while looking like a baller. Of course they're going to say yes. Then you bust o…
/r/seduction30/04/12 07:33 PM
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Restaurants and cafes don't have to banal, it's all about how you handle them. I love grabbing a bite or a cup of coffee with a girl. But, if you're the one approaching these women, getting their number, and asking them out -- you should generally pick the place. The more pressure you put on her, the less likely she is to come out or feel relaxed. By taking charge you show that you got it under control and if she loves the experience, she attributes it solely to you.
/r/seduction29/04/12 04:40 PM
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Mhm, good conversation is important but you need that passionate connection. And you're very welcome :)
/r/seduction29/04/12 12:04 AM
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I do not kino or flirt much as I simply want to get to know them first. There's your answer man. You're under the misconception that somehow flirting / touching them is not getting to know them first. Or that somehow it cheapens the connection. It's the complete opposite. Attraction is an emotional feeling, not a logical one. Because you're not creating that sexual chemistry, they're are not looking at you in a romantic light. They're on a date with you dude -- they want to feel some kind of spa…
/r/seduction28/04/12 06:33 PM
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Understandable, but most guys here are already not forward enough by far. Sometimes you've got to go a little too overboard to figure out the appropriate limit. I always say there's a big difference between playful teasing and sexual (intent) teasing. If they play it safe and never get embarrassed or fail awkwardly, they won't create the powerful sexual connections they're looking for. I guarantee the reason you got to where you are is by taking risks and saying some ballsy stuff :)
/r/seduction27/04/12 03:13 PM
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Amazing post. Extremely thorough and well written. The only thing I'd maybe challenge is getting too sexual too soon. It's definitely a fine line and dependent on the situation. I'm pretty forward / sexual off the bat but I've learned how far I can push it from experience.
/r/seduction27/04/12 02:20 PM
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You did a great job dude. She's clearly still into you, don't worry that it didn't happen last night. You can setup a more personal date next time and then take her back to your place alone. As for your friend, did he know you were with a girl? If he did and purposely barged in, I'd have a talk with him. Let him know that is not cool and could've screwed it up for you. If it was an honest accident, let it slide -- it happens. The only thing I would've done differently is insisted to walk her hom…
/r/seduction25/04/12 07:44 PM
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Technically they do, for some of the reasons I listed above but not because three seconds is a magic number. Always approach early if you can. If not, approaching later is better than nothing :)
/r/seduction10/04/12 05:06 PM
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The three second rule was created to help guys stop over-thinking and overcome their approach anxiety. It's not some absolute guideline that if you break women will suddenly reject you. A good rule of thumb is to always approach sooner than later. There are many reasons for that such as her potentially leaving, you talking yourself out of it, another guy starting a convo with her, or even she notices you and is waiting for you to talk to her. But, I've had plenty of situations where I've been in…
/r/seduction10/04/12 04:40 PM
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Which is why I said it's like a little boy pouting. A girl is usually giving LMR because of one reason: she's not comfortable yet. She's nervous, scared, maybe not ready. A freezeout tries to make her miss your attention, feel guilty, or worry that you're going to lose interest. It's manipulative and immature. Instead, if you actually give a shit and talk to her, you accomplish the same result. I completely stopped getting LMR once I made real connections with women. The rare couple of times it …
/r/seduction09/04/12 07:35 PM
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It's a good mindset to have, with some self-control. Keep plowing or not believing a girl really means no and you can get into some serious shit. And may I ask why you need to go after a married woman? There are literally millions of single girls to talk to.
/r/seduction09/04/12 03:28 PM
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Freezeouts are lame. It's like a little immature boy not getting his way so he pouts and walks off. Do they work? Sure, but often because the girl feels guilty and sleeps with you so you aren't upset with her. Personally, I want a woman to have sex with me because she's excited and genuinely wants to. That being said, just pull back and connect with her for a little. Her hesitation is because she doesn't feel comfortable enough yet. You opened her with something sexual and by the end of the same…
/r/seduction09/04/12 03:01 PM
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Truth, that's a huge part of it.
/r/seduction07/04/12 12:59 PM
1

You're welcome. Jealousy was one of my biggest problems and contributed to killing my 2-year relationship. Congrats on accepting it as an area that needs improvement -- that's the first step.
/r/seduction07/04/12 12:58 PM
1

Thanks and that's the attitude I like to hear :)
/r/seduction07/04/12 12:50 PM
1

You're welcome, you won't regret it.
/r/seduction07/04/12 12:49 PM
1

You're welcome, I felt the same after I read NMMNG. It's the start of something awesome :)
/r/seduction07/04/12 12:48 PM
1

Thanks man, I put a lot of work into it.
/r/seduction07/04/12 12:43 PM
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It's about fulfilling your needs and being honest with everyone, especially yourself. This helps you become a more happy, confident, and attractive man. In turn, you also learn to sustain healthy and mutually beneficial relationships. I like the description they have on Amazon: "Dr. Robert Glover has dubbed the "Nice Guy Syndrome" trying too hard to please others while neglecting one's own needs, thus causing unhappiness and resentfulness. It's no wonder that unfulfilled Nice Guys lash out in fr…
/r/seduction07/04/12 02:58 AM
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Not to cop out, but see my responses to NEU_Gambino and Jahonay.
/r/seduction07/04/12 02:47 AM
2

Seeking approval is a form of validation. You need to focus on becoming your own voice of approval and making yourself happy. Combine that with meeting more people regularly and you will naturally become less attached to the outcome. It will be about fun and enjoying the experience rather than "winning". I wrote this comment more geared towards neediness with women but it applies here perfectly: "A lot of neediness stems from a lack of experience. If you haven't made connections with many women,…
/r/seduction07/04/12 02:39 AM
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This is much bigger than a comment could hope to solve but I'll give you the short version. For low self-esteem with women: You need to give your mind positive reference experiences. Start going out and talking to more people, especially women. It's easy to tell yourself you're not worth it or no girl will like you when you're alone. But when a pretty girl is showing interest/flirting with you during a night out, it's proof to your mind. That's a big part of this community and also what I teach.…
/r/seduction07/04/12 02:28 AM
1

Thanks!
/r/seduction07/04/12 01:23 AM
2

Definitely, as long as you've got a positive attitude and an open mind, that's what matters.
/r/seduction06/04/12 10:55 PM
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You're very welcome and I'm glad you found it so useful. Don't beat yourself up too much, we've all made plenty of mistakes. Those experiences help us learn what to do better the next time around.
/r/seduction06/04/12 10:08 PM
1

Haha, every time I tell someone the name of the book, they get the wrong idea. It's always followed by a short explanation and then they think it's great.
/r/seduction06/04/12 10:05 PM
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Mhmm, for sure about being frustrated leading to more of those negative behaviors. When you're getting rejected and feeling lonely it's tough to stay positive. But, I think that some nice guys are at least partially to blame, myself back then included. They get angry and jealous easily which is a major reason why the girls are uninterested. They speak with misogyny and call women bitches for liking other men and slut shame them. I can't tell you how many guys I've tried to give good advice to wh…
/r/seduction06/04/12 09:43 PM
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Awesome, that's a great idea actually. Everyone is probably going to have a mix of both and nothing is absolute. But it's a good reference to see what you can work on.
/r/seduction06/04/12 09:31 PM
9

It's like I'm wearing nothing at all!
/r/seduction06/04/12 09:30 PM
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This shouldn't be depressing, it should be inspiring! You can always work towards improving, nothing is permanent unless you want it to be.
/r/seduction06/04/12 08:13 PM
12

I completely agree on trying to help those men. When I felt lost, I actively sought out ways to improve myself. The biggest issue is that often those guys aren't open to the idea of changing or getting help. Glad you enjoyed the post :)
/r/seduction06/04/12 07:47 PM
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100% agree although it depends on what he's looking for. If he's looking for a casual hookup / FWB then that might not matter to him. If he wants a relationship, that's a different story.
/r/seduction02/04/12 12:03 AM
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She's interested, is clearly into you, and says things aren't working out with her boyfriend. If you want to keep pursing her, ask her out on a date sooner than later. It's really up to you if you want to get involved with her or not.
/r/seduction01/04/12 08:50 PM
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"Thanks :) What's your name?" You don't need something spectacular, they just want an opportunity to talk to you. Introduce yourself and roll into a conversation about anything. Make a playful comment or cold read something you notice about her. Ask her who she knows at the party. Just start talking, pay attention to what she says, and build off that. Don't sweat it and you'll be fine.
/r/seduction01/04/12 08:45 PM
1

Didn't think you were trying to oppose, I was agreeing that we're on the same page. Now who's assuming :)
/r/seduction30/03/12 10:30 PM
3

Yes, might. We don't know the whole story and you can't say with absolute certainty. In the end, we're both advocating the same point which is to tell her the truth that he's just a positive guy.
/r/seduction30/03/12 10:04 PM
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You can't control her mind and the best you can do is speak the truth. If she keeps believing that you're laughing at her after you've said otherwise, she might have some self-esteem issues.
/r/seduction30/03/12 06:54 PM
1

She's probably just nervous or feeling self-conscious. Hold eye contact, smile warmly, and re-assure her that she's fine. "Please, you're the farthest thing from stupid." or "No way, you're awesome." or "Not in the least." Give her genuine value and she'll be putty in your hands.
/r/seduction28/03/12 08:44 PM
1

I think we're arguing for the same point here. If you've made a strong enough connection in person, she likely wants to see you again. Casual texting is a good way to remind her of your humor and re-spark the connection you had so she agrees to coming out. There's definitely a line between texting too much and not enough. Most guys go way over and could successfully get a girl out earlier if they tried. But, they believe they need to run this crazy text game to win her over. At this point where …
/r/seduction26/03/12 02:14 PM
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These girls are already messaging you and then reaching out again. They're clearly showing that they're interested in you. At that stage, instead of worrying about read receipts and purposely not texting back, why aren't you inviting them out? The point of texting is not to keep the conversation going, it's to get her on a date with you. Guys often spend too much time over text. Once a girl laughs or is responding positively, push to see her.
/r/seduction25/03/12 05:28 PM
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Yeah, I like it a lot, too. I'm not sure actually, someone posted it in a comment but I can't remember who. I'd love to know the original author so I can give proper credit.
/r/seduction22/03/12 05:32 PM
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Of course there are many ways to attract a woman: body language, teasing, banter, roleplaying, leading, touching, and even natural looks. But, this is a blog post and not a full book -- you have to pick a focus. This one is specifically about expressing sexuality in the right ways. There are plenty of other articles where I cover different subjects.
/r/seduction22/03/12 02:07 PM
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Exactly. It's definitely meant as lighthearted and said when you've been flirting for a while, are touching, and have built up sexual tension. It's bold but bold often works :)
/r/seduction22/03/12 03:31 AM
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Appreciate the support Tofu :)
/r/seduction22/03/12 12:39 AM
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Thanks for checking it out but I have to disagree. When I say something like that, I mean it and so should you. You should strive to give her the best damn sex she's ever had. You're not actually comparing yourself to her previous partners. It's letting her know that you are going to rock her world and it piques her interest. So many times i've said that and right away she now wants to see if you're for real. Often a girl comes back with a playful challenge and things escalate quickly: Her: "Oh …
/r/seduction21/03/12 11:42 PM
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A lot of neediness stems from a lack of experience. If you haven't made connections with many women, you are likely to feel more desperate. It goes back to scarcity vs abundance mentality. When you haven't had any positive references, it's hard to convince your mind to be unattached (opposite of needy) from the end result. Here's how to fix that: Gain experience When I started going out I just wanted a taste of success, any success. I tried to "win" every interaction and my motives were very out…
/r/seduction21/03/12 11:25 PM
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You're very welcome!
/r/seduction21/03/12 10:43 PM
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She told you she didn't want anything and you had to convince her for 40 minutes to be with you. Honestly, she probably just said yes because she felt bad and was under pressure. I think you're setting yourself up for a lot of heartbreak. Don't get your hopes up and be ready if it doesn't work out. Personally, I believe you need to move on from this girl and meet other amazing women. You are infatuated and have been for 5 years man. You have her so far up on a pedestal and that's all you can see…
/r/seduction21/03/12 05:10 PM
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Perfectly said. Don't bring it around to parties but don't be ashamed of it either. You can talk about if the opportunity arises or when she's back at your place. Get her interested in you, not what cool tricks you can perform.
/r/seduction21/03/12 03:59 PM
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Both work well and it's all personal preference. I know guys who have success with either way and I've switched it up myself. Sometimes it helps to have a wingman to assist when there's a lull or to entertain her friends so you can make a personal connection. But, that just means you have to learn to handle those situations yourself, which can force you to improve your own abilities. Personally, I usually end up going out with a friend. Then our only goal is to enjoy the night, be silly, and hav…
/r/seduction14/03/12 06:08 PM
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If you're at a club, dance with her for a while and then move her away from the music. Usually by the bar, lounge area, or the section furthest from the dance floor is talkable. Project from your diaphragm. When you yell from your head voice (throat) it doesn't carry well. It's not necessarily about the loudness as much as it's resonance. Learn diaphragmatic breathing and practice speaking from your chest. When you can't hear her, move to her side and stand closer. You can be physically very clo…
/r/seduction14/03/12 05:50 PM
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The only solution is experience. You need to learn how to express your most attractive self in various situations and that only happens with time and effort. If you say you don't know how to begin, it means you haven't approached enough. Start talking to everyone you meet -- it's the best thing I ever did. Girls on the bus, in line at Starbucks, at bookstores, and across the bar. Speak to grocery store cashiers, people in the elevator, toll booth operators, everyone. In no time you'll start to f…
/r/seduction14/03/12 03:58 PM
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I agree about setting boundaries but you don't need to potentially embarrass her to get it across. Most situations, a girl is either playing with you or temporarily in a bad mood. Being unphased or laughing about it does the trick 90% of the time. If she's slightly crossing the line, you can call her out respectably as suggested. If she keeps being genuinely rude and disrespectful, walk away. Why would I stay around and talk to someone like that when I can meet an awesome girl? "Cool, nice talki…
/r/seduction13/03/12 02:01 PM
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Some good nuggets of wisdom here, especially about presence. Really like that. I’d have to disagree with you on a few numbers though: 1 - Not true. Direct openers work great including a simple "Hey" and stuff such as "Hi, you guys seem fun, we wanted to join you." In fact, anything and everything can work -- I've done it and I've seen it done by many. As long as it's genuine and you have a great attitude (body language included), that’s what matters. 2 - You can pull out your phone whenever you …
/r/seduction13/03/12 02:40 AM
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Haha nudge nudge. But in all seriousness, the very few girls I spoke to were ones a friend introduced me to or that he approached first.
/r/seduction12/03/12 04:15 PM
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My friend knew I was into the girl and was facilitating us hooking up. He was being a wingman, I did it many times for him, too.
/r/seduction12/03/12 04:41 AM
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I never considered myself a natural. It's more that my drive to want to hook up with girls (at a young age) overpowered my fear of rejection. When I started out in the real world, I could barely do a cold approach. It took me about two months of going out many times a week to talk to more than a handful of girls.
/r/seduction12/03/12 04:34 AM
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Always been a huge advocate of legs touching (and footsie) as a strong indicator of her interest. It's also a great way to build sexual tension and escalate the situation. It's something I discovered long before I knew about game. I was sitting in the backseat of a car with a girl while my friends drove around. I "accidentally" rested my leg against hers and she kept it there. I wasn't sure if she noticed so I laid it stronger on hers and she still didn’t move. I continued pushing further and so…
/r/seduction12/03/12 02:37 AM
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Finish him! Flawless victory.
/r/seduction10/03/12 07:22 PM
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Really? You can judge all that from a one line response? She still gave her number, got a recommendation from a friend, and wants to go out. What happens if she's an awesome girl who's all hot for him on the date? It really irks me when nearly every response is "move on, she's probably not worth it." I understand it's in good theory to not be needy or waste time chasing girls -- I'm all for that. But you've also got to take a look at the specific situation. There's a big difference between girl'…
/r/seduction07/03/12 07:39 PM
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I agree it's best to not waste time on a girl who's uninterested. But, she didn't she necessarily say that and still wants to go out with him. Like I said, girls are often nervous and spout BS stuff like "this is just friendly" to protect themselves. Do you know how many times I've heard "nothing is going to happen" or "this isn't a date" only to be hooking up a couple hours later? Most girls don't want to seem easy. Many times what they say outright is not how they actually feel. Plus, he's got…
/r/seduction07/03/12 07:25 PM
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I think your response is fine except for "I'll call you when I'm available." If you wanted to go on a date with this girl and she accepted, why are you making her wait? If you're so busy, why didn't you hold off until asking until you were more available? I would make plans with her now, even if it's a few days away. When a girl puts herself on the line, reward that by showing your interest in her. The whole "it's just as friends" thing is often a girl protecting herself because she's already ne…
/r/seduction07/03/12 04:44 PM
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You're very welcome man!
/r/seduction01/03/12 02:08 AM
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It's more just meeting there and then you can be driver to the date. But yeah, I agree that if you can pick her up at her place, it's always the better choice.
/r/seduction01/03/12 12:30 AM
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Just be awesome from the start and focus on having fun. She already flirted with you, gave you her number, and is coming on a date (as long as she understands that) -- she's interested. Hug her right when you see her and tell her how good she looks. Take her hand and lead her to your date. If you're going for drinks, preferably pick a spot next to her rather than across. It sets a casual vibe from the start and allows you to touch easily. Then just progressively escalate throughout the night as …
/r/seduction29/02/12 10:32 PM
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Here's my best tip for e-mail game: Stop getting e-mails. If a girl's truly interested in you, she'll give you her number. Man up and invite them on a date.
/r/seduction29/02/12 08:27 PM
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Yeah, not going to lie -- I find many pregnant women to be sexy. It's extremely common and I probably know more guys who agree than disagree. Going to say you're wrong on this one.
/r/seduction29/02/12 06:12 PM
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Take it as a compliment, beautiful girls get hit on. As long as she's coming home with you, that's what matters.
/r/seduction29/02/12 03:33 PM
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I like how you started things off, takes balls to be so forward. You were dropping the right amount of innuendo and she playfully brought up sex twice --"thought you were being naughty" and "take those messages 2 different ways." At that point, you've got to push your intentions a little further and subtly show you're serious. If she's taking it to that level, you run with it. I felt you kept going back to jokey and somewhat goofy, not committing to your sexual advances. You want her to get hot …
/r/seduction27/02/12 03:59 PM
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It seems like she was into you after you took the lead and danced with her friend. The fact that she looked disappointed and then touched you later when with another girl is a damn good sign. If you were interested, I would've finished out the dance and gone over to speak/flirt with her.
/r/seduction27/02/12 03:07 PM
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Woohoo, yeah fuck morals! Who actually cares about other human beings? That's for pussies and losers! Let's all just treat people like shit, lie, steal, and abuse as long as it makes us happy. That's worked out so well in our current society. It's not like that kind of self-entitlement lead to a global economic collapse or loss of freedoms or anything. Seriously, grow up. People say this kind of crap until they or someone they care about experiences it firsthand.
/r/seduction24/02/12 06:07 PM
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Completely agree. Guys get so wrapped up in being "alpha" and not being seen as a "nice guy" that they end up treating girls like shit. They see it as black or white. I went through it myself years ago. Does it work? Sure, look at dudes like Roosh. They get laid all the time but are miserable people and I guarantee the quality of women (not just their looks) is not great. No woman who values herself is going to stay with assholes like that. It's funny when I've said that you can be incredible wi…
/r/seduction24/02/12 05:14 PM
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Congrats on having the guts to up to them right away man. You can't be certain how she feels from that response -- either shy or uninterested. What you can know is that you waited too long. You did a great job going in there, talking to them, and being awesome in class. If they were positive to you, take that as a sign to move things forward. It may have been tough the first session to ask for the number. If they go there a lot, she might not want to be looked at as the girl who jumped all over …
/r/seduction24/02/12 04:53 PM
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So if you feel uncomfortable in conversations with nearly everyone, then the above applies even more. You need to try to initiate conversations with everyone you come in contact with. Yes, it's going to be hard. Yes, it'll take effort and dedication. Yes, you will likely have awkward moments and face rejection. But it's absolutely the only way you're going to improve -- there's no way around it. And it's perfectly okay to take a moment to regain your thoughts. A second or two of silence isn't go…
/r/seduction23/02/12 09:35 PM
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The best piece of advice anyone will give you is to talk to everyone. Cashiers, baristas, girls you meet on the train, girls at bars, the toll booth guy, whoever. You need the constant exposure and experience to build those skills. You provably don't have trouble riffing with your friends and family. Why? Because you're used to it, you don't give a shit if you say something stupid, and you're not consciously thinking about what to say next. It likely just comes to you naturally. You need to turn…
/r/seduction23/02/12 07:51 PM
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No problem, any time.
/r/seduction19/02/12 07:34 PM
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You did a great job man. The most important rule is to have fun and enjoy the experience, which you did. A lot of guys can't even go out and do that, they end each night frustrated and upset. You respected the married woman and then made a great connection with her friend. Instead of being defensive or a douchebag back to her brother, you handled him with class. That shows you’re a real man and I guarantee you his sister looked at you with even more respect. The only thing you could’ve done diff…
/r/seduction19/02/12 06:11 PM
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We don't have much to go off but here's what I can tell you: Getting a solid number at night usually takes longer than you think. Short conversations can get numbers but the longer you connect, the more likely she is to give it out and respond later on. During the day, five minutes is plenty of time. At night, sometimes it takes 20-30 minutes to make a significant impression. They're drunk, in party mode, and will give themselves reasons why it meant nothing. Stay for a while and she becomes inv…
/r/seduction17/02/12 09:27 PM
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I'm a guy who loves girls in either heels or flats. But, if you're trying to get the most attention possible, heels will always win out. You don't have to go crazy and wear those extremely high heels. Anything 4" and under is fine. When you start getting over that, they have no benefit and are going to suck to walk around in. Think sexy yet practical.
/r/seduction17/02/12 06:56 PM
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Congrats on taking the chance and pushing yourself! You did an awesome job for your first time. So I want you to think this out. If you've read a lot of Seduction, you understand leading is important. It's also really good to move around at night with a girl so she trusts you and gets comfortable. It's loud and you wanted to talk to her, right? What I do in that situation is dance for a few songs (5-10 minutes) and then get a drink with her. Pull her close and say, "Come grab a drink/some water …
/r/seduction17/02/12 05:31 PM
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Sure, I'd love to :)
/r/seduction16/02/12 02:14 PM
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Haha, I'm actually writing my guide on that as we speak. Trying to have it done within the next week or two. I'll post it here for download when it's finished.
/r/seduction16/02/12 03:37 AM
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I agree with her looking interested at the end. I said earlier: "It doesn't matter whether she was into it at the end or not." It's the principle of how it went down. At the very beginning, they talked for a few seconds and it wasn't clear she was into it. He asked to kiss her hand and then he kissed her cheek, cool. She's in mid-sentence and he pretty suddenly and intensely grabs her head and holds her there to make out. In that situation, he didn't really give a girl a chance to say no or resi…
/r/seduction16/02/12 02:42 AM
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Sexual assault includes rape (such as forced vaginal, anal or oral penetration), inappropriate touching, forced kissing, child sexual abuse, or the torture of the victim in a sexual manner. - http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sexual_assault Pretty clear there. "Most of the time girls don't take kissing that seriously" Where is your "most of the time" statistic coming from? Most girls I know would take that shit very seriously. But, some girls are okay with it...so if only 50% of them feel sexually vi…
/r/seduction16/02/12 12:27 AM
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I'm not arguing if it'll work or not -- you're proving my point. You're only seeing this as "Did I get my mouth on a woman in time?" as a basis of success. Do you even take into consideration other people's feelings or boundaries? Over the years I've kissed and hooked up with many, many girls in and out of bars. I've made out in the first moments of meeting someone and gone home with women the same night. I’m never afraid to get physical, say something sexual, or be very blunt with my intentions…
/r/seduction16/02/12 12:13 AM
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You're right man...I don't have any "in field" experience. I've only been going out for five+ years, coaching for four, and am personal friends with many coaches in the industry. Just because she let him touch her hands or agreed to a cheek kiss doesn't mean she knew he was going to aggressively kiss her. And on both kisses he got her unexpectedly, grabbed her head/neck, and went in before she had a say in it. It's pretty hard to back off when someone holds you there by your neck.
/r/seduction15/02/12 11:40 PM
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Did you miss the part where both times he did it while she was mid-sentence and off guard? Or the fact that he suddenly and forcefully grabbed her head and back of her neck into him? She didn't have a split second to react, say no, or back off. Then you see his hands holding her there to the point where she can't move away. It doesn't matter whether she was into it at the end or not. If you take advantage of someone, does it make it right? He could've still kissed her very early on without forci…
/r/seduction15/02/12 10:38 PM
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I'm probably one of the most aggressive and sexually assertive guys I know. And honestly, this gave me a rapey vibe. She went to introduce herself and he pretty much forced her into kissing him unexpectedly. He grabbed her head on both sides and she had no way to resist. I felt he rushed suddenly it so that she had no say in the matter. Then again in the middle of her talking, he hurriedly grabs her neck and kisses her before she has a single second to process the thought. It doesn't matter even…
/r/seduction15/02/12 09:33 PM
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Keep your date for Valentine's. Invite other girl out before or after then. Remember, you're just going on a date with these girls and nothing is exclusive yet. If you clearly like a certain girl more, then keep seeing that one. If you really like both of them, then you'll have to determine which you feel closer to if and when that time comes. There's no point in stressing about it now when nothing has even happened. Focus that energy on having the best experiences possible.
/r/seduction11/02/12 05:33 PM
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That's pretty vague and not much to work off. Did you talk to him and not her for a long time? Did you end up getting some personal time with her? There's a lot of possibilities what could've went wrong. You could've said something that turned her off or maybe she thought you were gay, too. Any further details would help us better understand the situation.
/r/seduction31/01/12 09:49 PM
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Winning over the group makes things a lot easier to talk to your girl. If they approve of you, they'll usually be cool or even encourage you talking with her. That being said, you need to get some personal time with her if you want things to progress. My rule of thumb is around 2-5 minutes. It gives you plenty of time to make friends with everyone and feels completely natural when you start talking one-on-one with her. After speaking with the group, turn your body towards hers. Even though you'r…
/r/seduction30/01/12 10:14 PM
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No man, being direct is awesome. It means you're confident enough to show your true intentions. That's extremely attractive and starts things off on a great foot. I was coaching a student last week and he wanted to see a direct approach during the day. He pointed out a girl trying on some headbands. I walked over with a big smile and said, "I think you looked really cute with the butterflies, I'd go with that one." Right away she was taken back (in a good way) and couldn't stop blushing. We hit …
/r/seduction30/01/12 08:13 PM
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Smelling a girl is usually done when things have already started heating up. It's not like you walk up to her and 5 seconds later do it. It's when you've been talking for a while and have had lots of physical contact. You've playfully pushed her, walked arm in arm, and are sitting/standing close together. Example: now you're sitting on a couch and legs are touching. It's not awkward to lean slightly into her and say "Damn you smell good" and slowly move your nose from her shoulder to the base of…
/r/seduction30/01/12 07:59 PM
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Congrats on approaching your first girl! The first one is always the hardest. During the day I'm always situational or direct. If I do ask a question, it's legitimate and not "to get an opinion." Like I see a girl reading "The Elements of Style" I'd ask casually "What do you write?" and start from there. I'd like to comment that age doesn't matter (unless you cared) and there's always time to ask for a number. Even if you only talked for two minutes you can say "We're almost at my stop but this …
/r/seduction30/01/12 04:30 PM
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Yeah man, that's fine. Just have a good time talking with her again and be real about it. Smile and say, "This is fun, we should do this again." If she's interested, she'll say yes.
/r/seduction30/01/12 02:42 AM
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Excellent post! Very thorough on explaining the most important piece of conversation -- threading. I also like how they touched upon relating through emotional statements rather than logical ones. That's huge and it's something guys miss so often. If you want some of the other ground rules, I wrote an article on the basics of being a good conversationalist. Hope it helps :)
/r/seduction25/01/12 09:23 PM
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As you said, I highly doubt a simple response here is going to fix your problems or be the magic answer. It's a more complex issue at hand. The thing that strikes me most is you look at people as a way to get something. To benefit from them. To take value. If they can't do that, then they are worthless. You need to start looking at people as human beings and not tools. Fall in love with personalities, getting to know who they are, and how you can mutually add to each other's lives. In other word…
/r/seduction25/01/12 06:51 PM
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The question is, why are you basing your self-worth on getting laid? You're feeling like crap because you're judging yourself on your "pickup ability." There's a lot more to life and being a man than how many chicks you bang. The guys who become obsessed with their numbers are the ones who are usually messed up. Focus on having an awesome time and forming great connections. There's no competition, who cares what your friends are doing? I care about the quality of my interactions and the girls I'…
/r/seduction19/01/12 05:13 PM
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I am a robot beep beep.
/r/seduction11/01/12 07:42 PM
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Exactly. It's ok to sympathize "Sorry, to hear that" but don't stay on the topic. Focus on having an awesome time together and making her feel great right then.
/r/seduction10/01/12 10:27 PM
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Damn dude, someone feels threatened. You have no idea who this guy is and you feel the need to trash him? And not only trash him, but in such a vulgar, immature way. Any girl who values yourself would see through that insecurity. And if she thinks it's cool how you talk like that, what does that say about her? Remember, she dated the guy and is still obviously hung up about it. And for good measure, most girls want to their boyfriends to be romantic. They like to know that he actually cares and …
/r/seduction10/01/12 10:25 PM
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So you're emotionally manipulating these girls and leading them on to feed your ego. Are women just meat with numbers to you?
/r/seduction09/01/12 03:32 PM
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No problem, any time!
/r/seduction02/01/12 02:25 AM
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Thanks a lot man, appreciate the kind words :)
/r/seduction02/01/12 01:01 AM
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I think you're the only one who actually feels like you're "standing out". I go to bars and haven't gotten a drink plenty of times. No one cares man, trust me. People are too involved in their own world to give a crap about something so insignificant. And if some girl is truly focusing that hard on the subject or turned off by it, why would you want to get with her anyway?
/r/seduction02/01/12 12:06 AM
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You don't have to drink out at the bar. No one cares, I've done it plenty of times. You get an upper hand by having a clear mind as well. If you'd rather not be around alcohol (completely reasonable) then the daytime and events are your best bet. Coffee shops, bookstores, the mall, gym, bus rides, supermarkets, anywhere really. I've had successful interactions in tons of different places. Networking events and meetup.com groups are great, too. Not only can you meet women but make useful connecti…
/r/seduction01/01/12 11:09 PM
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I'm not saying you did by any means because she's talking to you now. But, you can't be sure deep down how she feels. And it doesn't take away the fact that you refused to pay for a $3 drink because you wanted to seen as "high value" which is silly. The right choice was still to get her drink. Just because it didn't blow up doesn't make it right. Most girls who value themselves and their time would've taken that as a rude, inconsiderate gesture. If you had gotten her drink you would've been in t…
/r/seduction17/11/11 08:09 PM
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The whole "don't pay for a girls drink" is greatly misunderstood. Yes, you generally shouldn't buy a girl a drink before you get to know her. But once you've talked for a bit, it's perfectly fine to do so. In fact, it shows you appreciate her time and that she's worth it to you. You already met this girl before, right? Did you invite her to grab a drink? It sounds like she got ready and came out to hang with you to enjoy drinks together. You've passed the "I'm not buying your drink" phase. You r…
/r/seduction17/11/11 03:50 PM
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No, they aren't. He's not just cynical, he's misogynistic and fucked in the head. Do you not realize the way he thinks of and treats women? The more I see of Roosh I wonder if he has any human empathy at all. I'd go as far as to say he's a straight up sociopath. I bet he's never had a deep meaningful connection with a female in his life. Women are either numbers or filthy hogs, right? There's nothing else about them except their physical body and orifices to have sex with. And the ONLY thing tha…
/r/seduction16/11/11 06:41 PM
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Why do you even give attention to this bitter, insecure, misogynistic asshole? Follow his advice and I guarantee you'll systematically weed out any quality women or relationships in your life. Just take a look at most of the comments on his blog, they literally disgust me. Guys with such fucked up warped views I don't even know where to begin. I've said it before and I'll say it again: think hard about who you idealize. Listen to this kind of distorted mentality and you'll start to become it. Re…
/r/seduction02/11/11 09:24 PM
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Again, sample size, what type of women, how was the question phrased, etc? There are a ton of factors that skew statistics. If you ask a girl on a random survey if they are attracted to sobriety, of course that's a yes. Everyone is attracted to sobriety, doesn't mean they're less attracted to a man who drinks responsibly. Also, that's a loaded question, it makes it seem like the only other option is sloppy drunk men. What women is going to answer, "yes" I want an alcoholic over a clean guy?
/r/seduction25/10/11 03:49 PM
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Yeah exactly, short guys that are insecure about themselves need to use stuff to add height. The best natural (close friend, let's call him Mike) I know is 5'5" and one of the best pickup coaches I've ever seen in person is 5'6". A few years back I asked Mike if he felt his height ever held him back and he straight up said, "Hell no man! It only does if you think it does." He regularly dates some of the hottest girls, many of them much taller than him. In fact, I tried hooking him up with an ex …
/r/seduction25/10/11 03:45 PM
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So your single sample size is absolute and no one should wear cologne? What about if you found the right one that enhanced your own scent? I've been told that I smell amazing with cologne by many girls. Does that mean every guy should wear cologne? Both all natural and using cologne can work equally well -- simple as that.
/r/seduction25/10/11 03:35 PM
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Where is the evidence that women "ultimately prefer men who don't drink"? That's one of the most ridiculous claims I've heard here. Just because you don't drink doesn't mean you have to justify why you're better off. Most women I know that drink love to drink with a man who is responsible. Of course you always want to look better. Get in shape, dress well, and groom yourself. -- done. But when you start feeling the need to make yourself seem taller, you're not truly happy with who you are. Those…
/r/seduction25/10/11 03:27 PM
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I love me a fine glass of Whiskey. OP just responded up there with "However, women ultimately prefer men who don't drink." which I completely disagree with.
/r/seduction25/10/11 03:19 PM
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Perfectly said man, was trying to capture that in my response. So much mental masturbation goes on analyzing every tiny detail when there's no point. Work on being completely confident with who you are and 90% of all your issues will be resolved.
/r/seduction25/10/11 03:00 PM
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I agree with you on many points, however... Saying women are more attracted to a man who doesn't drink or rarely drinks is a stretch. Yes, if you're an alcoholic who can't control himself then that's unattractive. I know plenty of women who enjoy a nice drink together and appreciate a man who understands fine spirits. Yes, women do like taller men as a whole. But I'm a short guy (5'8") and it's never hindered me. In fact, it's often allowed me to get away with being more assertive while not feel…
/r/seduction25/10/11 02:50 PM
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That's ok if you didn't want a date with her but again short interactions lea to flaky follow-up. If you're always trying to take a girl home that night, you can sometimes get away with it. But often the girls willing to sleep with a guy after 20 minutes are not of the highest quality. Even if you're looking for the same night, often spending more time is the answer. Building a deeper connection builds deeper trust, which is what many girls need to be intimate with you. Also, if you're looking t…
/r/seduction24/10/11 09:17 PM
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Numbers are far from a waste. Solid numbers lead to dates, period. If you're not getting anything, it reflects more on your first interaction and follow-up than anything else. You have to make a strong and real connection if you want her to see you again. Are you talking to her long enough? Especially at night if you find a girl you like and it's going well, spend time with her. Most guys leave after 10 minutes and expect her to remember you more than just another bar guy she met. Now if you spe…
/r/seduction24/10/11 08:39 PM
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Exactly, I'm not against one nighters with "sluts" by any means -- theres absolutely nothing wrong with that. It's the negative perception of women. You can see them as "filthy sluts" who need to be "used and dropped" because they "deserve it." Or you can see them as women comfortable with their sexuality and who are looking for a good time. Rather than seeing them as something less, you see them as equals. You treat them like a human being rather than a fuck object. Casual sex and respect are n…
/r/seduction11/10/11 05:43 PM
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Roosh can teach you how to pickup girls, no doubt about it. But god damn does he have such warped views. His misogyny levels are through the roof. Thinking of women as pathetic and worthless? That screams a bitter truly insecure man. He's always tearing women down as "inferior sluts" who just need to be used. What a broken, angry, unconfident person. You can be extremely successful with women and still respect them. Only a fool believes that women have to be looked at as "lesser objects." In fac…
/r/seduction11/10/11 02:40 PM
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Is your view of the world that warped? How insecure are you man? Had your heart broken or cheated on by specific girls and now blame everyone? It’s pathetic. There’s an incredible amount of great women out there and I’m close to many of them. Strong, caring, and compassionate women who have done amazing things. Women who have sacrificed far more than you ever have to see the happiness of others. Women with courage and honor you can only wish you had. Are all women saints? No. But are all men sai…
/r/seduction27/04/11 03:23 AM
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Everything you've written is atrocious. You should be ashamed sir.
/r/seduction27/04/11 02:34 AM
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Flawless.
/r/seduction05/03/11 12:16 AM
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What do you do differently to build lasting relationships instead of "picking up women"? It's easier to think of it as an ongoing connection: When you first meet, you create a connection. When you get to know each other, you build the foundation for that connection. Once you've been intimate, see eachother more often, and transition into a full relationship, you live and grow that connection together. Maintaining a strong connection takes consistent effort and that's a positive thing. Both parti…
/r/seduction04/03/11 10:24 PM
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"kino" implies an escalation that "touch" doesn't. The terms are not identical. Kino literally stands for kinesthetics -- touching. It never implied direct escalation. And it's not hard to say "start touching her more personally . intimately" and explain it that way. " k-close" implies that you ended with a kiss. "kiss" doesn't mean the interaction ended there, so these terms are not identical. What's so difficult to say we ended with a kiss? The HB scale is very important for gauging things lik…
/r/seduction04/03/11 08:09 PM
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Fat chicks give the best BJs! FACT. They chow down like it's one of those giant turkey legs from Disney World. We burn the food, go upstairs, fuck for a couple hours, fuck again in the shower, microwave the uneaten food, watch a movie, go back upstairs to sleep and gush over each other, fuck some more, sleep in, wake up and fuck, get sushi, walk around the city tied to the hip, makeout everywhere we can, drink coffee, admire the sunset and unseasonably warm weather, walk back to the house, and t…
/r/seduction04/03/11 07:57 PM
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How is it that much easier to type "touch vs kino", I "kissed" rather than "kiss close", HB rather than "girl", "set" instead of "group" etc. It's not like you could use standard words and people would be clueless. When you put terms on something like "HB" you're almost taking away the human element. Also, I beg to differ about more frustrated because that's not always true. Many of the guys in the community go out a ton and get a lot less action than some of the "AFCs." Who's more frustrated th…
/r/seduction04/03/11 07:45 PM
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I think David Wygant teaches in a more clean way than a lot of coaches and I like that. But relationship management is completely different ballgame than pickup. Hell, I went pre-med to become a relationship counselor and I've learned more in my current relationship than anywhere else. Personally, I don't think a lot of the advice given helps make longlasting and healthy relationships. That's my own take. So many guys build up a "game mindset" of being super alpha high-value all the time and can…
/r/seduction04/03/11 07:32 PM
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I'm not the one who downvoted you and I'll clarify a bit on what I mean: It doesn't just go for Mystery Method things, that was a long time ago. I'm talking even the "natural stuff." So much focus on how alpha you need to be, state pumping, frame control, value levels, and much more when it's not necessary. It can be simplified into a much more healthy and not so overthought process. There's an intense fear of seeming beta and weak to the point of absurdity. It's ok to be a bit nervous, hell tha…
/r/seduction04/03/11 07:04 PM
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Hey man, I'm a mod at dating_advice and a former pickup coach for 3 years. I'm sorry someone messed things up for you. I'd love to help and fix whatever went wrong. Hit me up whenever for advice.
/r/seduction04/03/11 04:31 PM
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Thank you man, appreciate the open view, says a lot. Check out my response above and tell me your thoughts: http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/fx3wi/dae_think_that_the_advice_on_rdating_advice_is/c1jb9o0
/r/seduction04/03/11 04:28 PM
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Hey guys, I'm one of the mods at dating_advice and former PUA coach for 3 years (5+ years involved). I've worked in the industry with some of the top coaches and big name companies. I was also the primary coach at the local lair with over 200+ members. Here's my take on things: The theories that pickup teach work -- don't get me wrong. But after years of being in the community, I realized how unhealthy things had become. Mysoginy, objectifying women, competition, ego stroking, bragging, and so m…
/r/seduction04/03/11 04:10 PM
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