How to Make Strong, Unforgettable Eye Contact

2TallJones69 · 2013-02-13T19:30:47+00:00

Don't know how relatable this is but there's a girl in my class who I've caught glancing at me twice during lecture. This is a lot considering she's two rows ahead of me. I'm going to see what's up with her. A year ago, I wouldn't think I would have a chance in hell. Just like anything else, it's about practice.

TL;DR we talkin bout practice man

Update: got a number and a "study buddy" who also happens to be a gymnast...

dubeskin · 2013-02-13T18:27:34+00:00

A long time ago when I first started reading Seddit, I came across a tip that went "Imagine every girl you walk up to you're getting a blowjob from them. Your eyes will naturally be more calm, you'll fall into an aroused state, and escalation or steering of the interaction into a sexual nature will feel easier." (Paraphrasing)

I thought that was a miracle quote. And I started adopting that mindset. Try it out in a mirror. Just look into it normally, then pretend (as weird as this is), you're getting a blowjob from yourself. Your eyes fall back, a small smirk will appear, and your face naturally appears more confident.

In line with this from the article:

Visualize a memory that makes you feel happy or content. For example: receiving great news, accomplishing something, spending time with good company, or snuggling with your pet. Your eyes will naturally change into a relaxed, warm, and inviting state.

Once again, Nick, great article. Thanks!

NickTDS · 2013-02-13T16:56:02+00:00

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NickTDS · 2013-02-13T16:15:58+00:00

I've always had a hard time maintaining eye contact. I started trying to incorporate the suggestions in the article into my everyday life. It not only makes you appear more confident it makes you feel more confident. Thanks for sharing.

2013-02-13T20:23:36+00:00

Only just today was thinking I needed to step up my eye contact. I know my shoes are pretty but...

slwy · 2013-02-13T23:26:29+00:00

Quick question: Is it better to smile throughout the day or when you see someone start smiling?

icerrafon · 2013-02-13T23:29:25+00:00

I only have trouble holding eye contact with girls I really like. Strangers are no problem. How to correct?

Great article btw!

Bananawoot · 2013-02-13T17:48:07+00:00

Thanks alot for this! Have been kinda struggling a bit with eye contact, and this was a great guide for improvement!

jap-a-negro · 2013-02-13T19:50:49+00:00

TL;DR: Keep soft eye contacts. Or wear glasses.

No, but seriously. I forgot about this rule when I was talking to some chick. I walked her to class, had a good interaction but due to us walking I couldn't hold good eye contact. Left the conversation feeling good, but something was missing. Twas the eyes.

LieBaron · 2013-02-13T22:22:03+00:00

ITT: http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mcs15q7ueS1r36uqb.jpg

Seriously though, I liked the article.

DialSquare · 2013-02-14T14:00:34+00:00

Those Eastwood pics made me laugh pretty hard. Great article yet again though Nick.

Kingkarlo · 2013-02-14T00:18:19+00:00

Then how come every time I stare at girls they just call me creepy? Is this one of those *be good looking things

klebsiella · 2013-02-14T00:27:55+00:00

Does anyone here have an opinion on appropriate eye contact duration and/or flair with the same sex (no homo)? Mainly to convey a sense of friendliness, nothing more, nothing less.

Vanilla_Delight · 2013-02-14T01:37:53+00:00

What if she won't even look at my eyes? :(

bunka77 · 2013-02-14T14:17:48+00:00

So I have one eye that sometimes has a mind of it's own and wanders off. I'm always super self conscious of it and have a hard time maintaining eye contact. I think one of my big problems is not holding eye contact, but it seems like a catch .22 situation...

UnkleTBag · 2013-02-14T01:38:49+00:00

Most people are right-eye dominant. Spend more time on their right eye for more pronounced eye contact.

surfinfan21 · 2013-02-14T12:23:31+00:00

Great article. But how many people really have a problem holding eye contact during a conversation? Where else do you look? If someone's talking to you do people really not look them in the eyes?

2013-02-13T20:24:13+00:00

"How to make strong, unforgettable cringe".

Title	How to Make Strong, Unforgettable Eye Contact
Author	NickTDS
Upvotes	743
Comments	50
Date	February 13, 2013 3:33 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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