How to Develop a Confident, Attractive Voice (x-post from /r/SocialSkills)

Spooner71 · 2012-12-30T19:10:21+00:00

As a trumpet player I HATE how they say use your chest voice. Breathing with your chest and your diaphragm are pretty much opposites. At least they described it properly.

2012-12-31T06:14:55+00:00

Here is a relavent slam poem by Taylor Mali, on how to speak with conviction. Just speak confidently.

nyrookie · 2012-12-30T18:26:56+00:00

I never use a passive voice but I'm pretty sure my voice is too neutral and doesn't include enough passion or breaking rapport.

SirDePau · 2012-12-31T11:03:53+00:00

Now...what's about ASL?

Sulicius · 2012-12-31T00:21:28+00:00

Interesting article, nicely written!

It's true, one of the most important things to use is enthousiasm. I've listened to a man talking about selling shoes because he simply had some passion doing so.

I'd like to add that I've learnt most of my use of voice by watching a lot of comedians do their thing. A comedic timing of tone and volume does more than the wittiest pun you can imagine.

I've been, hmm, gifted with a very nice low voice, and many girls have told me I have the 'movie trailer voice', and should do something with it. It helps a lot to know that your voice is enjoyable, so I really hope this helps some people out to find theirs!

two_cranes · 2012-12-31T14:45:24+00:00

As a female, I've always hated my voice--it sounds kind of nasal/hysterical to me and I was wondering if this would be of benefit to females as well? Or do guys find girls who talk from their diaphragm a turn-off? I'm not even sure what I'm asking..

crbiker · 2012-12-30T19:02:47+00:00

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lingual_panda · 2012-12-30T20:06:26+00:00

Yes, please. I'm so tired of meeting guys who are gorgeous but turn out to have a wimpy voice. It's the biggest turn off. Like I need to be (dirty) talked through sex. Weak, passive voices don't work. Sometimes I can talk deeper than the guy. That destroys me.

DownfallSA · 2012-12-31T09:59:41+00:00

Gonna start practicing this. Thanks.

Wollff · 2012-12-31T13:30:12+00:00

I think this might be more important than most people think.

In order to speak with a confident voice, you are forced to relax your breathing and relax your diaphragm. That relaxation tends to spread out, as most people who meditate will know from experience.

So when you get ready to speak with a confident voice, not only are you doing things to your vocal apparatus, you are centering yourself, body and mind. And that helps not only with sounding confident, but with feeling and being confident.

smikecinco · 2012-12-31T16:45:33+00:00

Kinda cool

Echo-Whiskey · 2012-12-31T00:05:27+00:00

Pretty sure if I had this voice, that panties, would be dropping. Now to channel my inner K.C

But seriously, sound like you have the authority in the group, make yourself heard but not overbearingly. A good thing to remember is when you speak, try to exclude filler words such as - like, um, uhh etc.. Those words can take away from the presence of your voice, just pause if you need to stop and think, but don't stutter or blank out. If you can't think of anything to keep going with, rewind a bit and it's quite possible what you wanted to say will come back around the 2nd time.

SethMemVegas · 2012-12-31T00:37:52+00:00

Although this is useful, but if someone is trying to find ways to sound more confident, then there is more that needs to be worked on, not just tonality.

Askquestionsbro · 2012-12-31T08:29:13+00:00

Now I have a deep voice, and I find it difficult to project it. sometimes I will talk and people will have to ask me to repeat it and I get embarrassed from it because I know I am mumbling. Guess I need to work on that.

juma606 · 2012-12-31T11:09:58+00:00

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ksjohnson42 · 2012-12-31T07:53:51+00:00

Random but this is also a good link for those who want to learn to sing, which in turn could help your conquest to pick up women... Just sayin...

hottubbin · 2012-12-30T19:29:20+00:00

Commenting for later.

Knight_of_Malta · 2012-12-30T19:55:34+00:00

deliberately altering the tone of your voice is damaging to your vocal chords.

Don't do it. I don't really care what the article says. Don't let your voice define you, you shouldn't even have to think about it. I mean, how insecure can you fucking get? You don't like the sound of your voice? What will you do next, get colored contacts? Therapyyyy

Title	How to Develop a Confident, Attractive Voice (x-post from /r/SocialSkills)
Author	NickTDS
Upvotes	481
Comments	68
Date	December 30, 2012 5:06 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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