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11

A lot of the time people here forget that it's actually better to make friends with HBs because they know other HBs and you will be introduced as the really chill guy and you'll enter each new relationship with that recommendation. It's so much more valuable than trying to meet random new girls on your own. Btw this is how networking works.
/r/seduction29/01/14 02:55 AM
1

That and minimalist.
/r/seduction19/01/14 06:37 AM
1

My parents are white trash hoarders (though great people and wonderful parents) so I can't be dating that.
/r/seduction19/01/14 02:02 AM
5

Random woman here, I'll try for something generic. - Goal-oriented or plans for the future. - Good with money, doesn't throw money away. - Good with kids, wants kids. - Expresses his feelings well. - Physically active, baseline healthy. - Committed and loyal. - Not petty or jealous or immature. - Knows how to dress himself. - Keeps his surroundings neat, not a slob. - Can cook, or better yet, is a great cook. For me it's more like: - More masculine than me. - Taller than me. (I'm tall with short…
/r/seduction16/01/14 11:39 PM
19

No you suck at not letting things bother you and you suck at keeping your mouth shut. Get over yourself.
/r/seduction26/12/13 01:02 PM
2

There are plenty of millionaire businessmen who don't get laid, or who don't get laid without dropping lots of dough first.
/r/seduction29/11/13 03:05 AM
0

They can't say 'I just want some cool guy who's good looking who fucks the shit out of me and makes my friends jealous' Sweet, thanks, I'm gonna start saying this from now on.
/r/seduction20/11/13 02:49 AM
3

"I had a really great time the other night with you, and you seem really cool. Wanna go get lunch sometime?" Girls love being called cool, especially if we're conventionally attractive, because when people call us gorgeous/pretty/cute/hot/beautiful it's like not something we worked at. Telling us we seem strong/clever/funny/smart/cool is a much better compliment.
/r/seduction14/11/13 04:25 AM
2

Movies is bad, no chance for conversation. Coffee is good, or your favorite smoothie place or something. Somewhere public that's close to other cool venues (like a park/fountain/beach) that you can walk to together.
/r/seduction14/11/13 04:22 AM
1

Plenty of other fish in the sea. Makes for a good story and it builds confidence.
/r/seduction17/09/13 04:18 AM
1

You clearly have an ellipsis problem then.
/r/seduction17/09/13 04:16 AM
2

Just think of it as learning how to socialize.
/r/seduction13/09/13 10:50 PM
2

True sorry I didn't mean to sound so rude
/r/seduction13/09/13 04:53 PM
3

Normal people guide with their hands
/r/seduction13/09/13 04:02 AM
22

Get a hobby. Hiking, yoga, cycling, salsa dancing, bouldering, underwater basket weaving. Take a class at your community college. Hit up your friends from high school. Don't give up when the first tiny problem arises.
/r/seduction13/09/13 04:00 AM
1

Wow, the two of you made a very mature decision. I say that because I wish I had done the same in a similar situation.
/r/seduction25/08/13 11:56 PM
1

Put that on my list of things I used to know that my brain no longer has room for.
/r/seduction21/08/13 03:02 PM
12

fedorable Adding this to my dictionary of awesome combined words.
/r/seduction20/08/13 01:11 PM
5

I use "nerd" all the time.
/r/seduction20/08/13 01:10 PM
19

Drop the f-word. "Friend."
/r/seduction07/07/13 01:49 PM
4

That's because you thought before you acted. You need to act without thinking. Get out of your head. Now obviously don't be an ass, but do what's natural. Not what's normal for you, which is running around in circles inside your head.
/r/seduction07/07/13 06:03 AM
1

Meh, at 5'9" it's hard to date short guys without feeling like a man. If you're gonna clone me then make me shorter. Also I'd totally hook up with a shorter version of myself.
/r/seduction01/07/13 04:17 AM
2

As a woman who likes Asian guys with smaller-than-average dicks I say fuck 'em. And if I weren't ridiculously tall I'd probably be all over that shit. I find shorter Asian guys more attractive than taller ones, at least here in Japan, because the taller ones don't eat enough or take care of themselves. 5'5" seems to be the sweet spot for good proportions.
/r/seduction01/07/13 04:09 AM
1

Word
/r/seduction01/07/13 04:03 AM
8

Make eye contact, smile, offer your hand/take her hand, and dance. Then dance sexier and initiate makeout.
/r/seduction25/06/13 01:51 PM
2

Unless the person is in class. Or in the shower. Or at work. Or on the toilet. Or in the library. Or their roommates are sleeping. And when you call it begins a game of phone tag. Maybe I just hate phone tag too much. Also I live in Japan and talk time is kind of expensive here. Most young people get large data plans with minimal talk time and text using LINE. While I'm not presenting Japan as the pinnacle of seduction culture, I do think you should consider a person's communication preferences …
/r/seduction21/06/13 07:44 AM
1

I think I'd marry any man who did this. I need a guy with a deep voice, and if he can finish my duet I'd probably die and go to heaven.
/r/seduction21/06/13 12:49 AM
1

I have the same problem, don't worry too much.
/r/seduction21/06/13 12:46 AM
1

Strive to be self-aware. I probably do sound like a troll though, sorry.
/r/seduction20/06/13 03:06 PM
4

I'm a girl who loves long text conversations but only because I'm an attention whore. I know they don't work for getting you laid and it's much for effective to use text as a way to meet up.
/r/seduction20/06/13 08:07 AM
3

I'm glad both of you pointed out how off-putting it is to get a phone call from someone you just met. I've mentioned this before but nobody believes me on this forum because I'm female (even though I've been lurking for a year and a half and I give better advice than most male commenters).
/r/seduction20/06/13 08:06 AM
2

"Are you free right now?" Would do the same thing without asking permission.
/r/seduction20/06/13 08:03 AM
2

Very very true (woman here). Generally I'll mention that I have to pee because I have no filter for stuff like that but if you caveman me at the door it'll be uncomfortable later on and I'll have to break the mood for a bathroom run. Though it might be work it for experience. I don't think I've ever been cavemanned.
/r/seduction12/06/13 07:39 AM
1

Go to the top of the post, click where it says /r/seduction. Once that loads, click on the arrow-in-box and then it'll have the option to show the sidebar
/r/seduction04/06/13 01:10 PM
1

The attention thing is HUGE. And it's the first I've heard it phrased like that in 18 months of lurking. Kudos.
/r/seduction04/06/13 01:07 PM
3

10 seconds is a long time for a first kiss. That's borderline makeout territory. I think the soft single kiss is fine, pull away a bit for more eye contact, and then go back for more.
/r/seduction30/05/13 03:31 AM
1

I am so bad at eye contact. Gah it's so intimate. I need to get over that because just smiling and making eye contact with a guy more than once is enough to get him to talk to me.
/r/seduction30/05/13 03:30 AM
3

Depends on how you say it. If it sounds like an emergency then she'll respond like it's an emergency.
/r/seduction30/05/13 03:24 AM
17

Oh man, the gently pulling of the hair at the nape of my neck is a guaranteed way to make me moan. I wish more guys would do this. Especially when I ask them to.
/r/seduction30/05/13 03:23 AM
8

Masturbation is an easy one. Depending on the girl, she already knows you jack it daily so implying that she's a horndog or whatever with her secret vibrator or talking about what porn she likes is a good way to get the juices flowing. Again this really depends on the girl. I was extremely sexual throughout middle school and high school so talking about masturbation was a fun way to mess with guys and get attention before I was ready for sex. If she's mormon or catholic it might not go over so w…
/r/seduction30/05/13 03:17 AM
1

Yup. ::crickets::
/r/seduction19/05/13 06:34 PM
1

If he isn't cute I'd just answer with "No."
/r/seduction19/05/13 01:11 PM
47

Women are nothing if not predictable Woman here, also long-time seddit subscriber. If anyone decently cute uses that line on me I think I'd just caveman makeout right there and then walk away. Definitely adding this to my bucket list.
/r/seduction19/05/13 02:04 AM
5

Make friends first, meet girls second. A handful of female friends is a huge boon, they act as your wingman and introduce you to their hot single friends.
/r/seduction15/05/13 06:29 AM
3

The thing is, working out is enjoyable not because it's like eating candy or masturbating. It feels good because you're bettering yourself. You're building character. It can be fun, but it's never easy. After you work out long enough you'll start to miss it when you skip a day. It might be the feeling of accomplishment after a PR, it might be the quiet solitude of jogging, it might be how clean you feel after sweating so much and washing it off, it might be how well you sleep after a good workou…
/r/seduction15/05/13 06:27 AM
2

Another one checking in.
/r/seduction13/05/13 01:32 PM
1

There are ways to answer like this without putting people to sleep.
/r/seduction13/05/13 05:27 AM
2

Was she being socially awkward? Like not sure how to steer the conversation? Was there dead air that made her uncomfortable?
/r/seduction13/05/13 05:26 AM
2

I think she pulled the social blunder here if she's asking you questions like that where you can't even hear the answer. Seriously though, come up with a quick answer on what you're doing with your life right now. I have an interesting job in an interesting city and I encounter a lot of tourists who are curious about where I'm from or how I got into this job/city. And I get asked this about three times a week. Learn how to answer this in a direct and concise way, it'll come in handy for intervie…
/r/seduction13/05/13 05:22 AM
1

I appreciate you getting my gender correct.
/r/seduction07/05/13 10:56 PM
8

"sorry I've been busy"? Do we need to hold your hand through this? What is your goal with her? Are you talking to other girls? Has she been too clingy?
/r/seduction07/05/13 05:07 PM
1

Wow it's like you've been eavesdropping on my life. That's exactly how I talk (22/f).
/r/seduction07/05/13 04:59 PM
1

Why not both? Seriously if she's the type of girl to get some elsewhere after some teasing then she's probably also the type to come back to you for sex once she knows it's available. I say that having been that type of girl at one point or another.
/r/seduction05/05/13 06:12 PM
2

Definitely had a few guys do this to me and it's a nice warning that you plan to go down. In case she wants to use the bathroom to clean up or something. Also it's hot.
/r/seduction05/05/13 06:09 PM
2

As someone who tested in the 90th percentile for introversion back around age 18, I definitely have experienced this. Sometimes my introvert/extrovert switches coincide with changes in my living and financial situation. For example when I moved back with my parents I felt less like an adult and I got tired of playing 20 questions 24/7 so I stopped going out so much. When I moved away again I partied for a while, and then when money was tight I backed off again. I think also good experiences bein…
/r/seduction01/05/13 02:53 PM
1

Well if you like boobs you're in the right place. Otherwise I can't be much help.
/r/seduction30/04/13 10:16 PM
1

You don't even know what I look like!
/r/seduction30/04/13 09:49 PM
4

For future reference: Voulez-vous coucher avec moi?
/r/seduction30/04/13 04:18 PM
2

Loving it. Can't wait to start working, if only the fuckin bureaucrats would get a move on.
/r/seduction30/04/13 03:29 PM
4

Excellent advice
/r/seduction30/04/13 03:21 PM
3

It's really about managing your feelings. If you're capable of turning off your feelings and friend-zoning people at will, then you're probably fine. If you're a recovering AFC plagued with a series of oneitis-es (there's a much more eloquent way to put this) then you obviously can't handle being friends with women you find attractive yet. You need to sleep with a few first to lose the pedestal.
/r/seduction30/04/13 02:27 AM
3

I would say don't use casual sex to fix those issues. But if learning seduction makes it easier for you to talk to people and make friends, which in turn helps you fix your emotional issues, then I'm all for it. Because that's what it did for me.
/r/seduction30/04/13 02:23 AM
1

Well since you're not looking for them it's not a problem for you. Also since you're a guy you probably see guys are their most confident. If you had boobs you'd see the blubbering, moronic messes they become the moment sex enters the picture.
/r/seduction28/04/13 01:44 PM
3

That's the thing though. If girls just wanted dick we could just knock on the neighbor's door and get some. We don't want that, we want to interact with cool, confident guys who don't put us on a pedestal. We want the push-pull, the flirting, the teasing. We want to practice with guys who can do this because when we meet the 10, the guy who has it all together and then some, we want to keep up with him instead of melting into a socially awkward puddle. There's more to game than NSA hookups. Girl…
/r/seduction27/04/13 06:13 PM
3

Seriously. Also my bras are expensive, I don't need guys messing with them.
/r/seduction23/04/13 11:30 AM
4

Getting a girl to masturbate while you drive should be fairly easy too. Feel her up and then take her hand and put it on her crotch.
/r/seduction18/04/13 09:19 PM
1

Also gluten could be playing a part. When I cut out bread and ate mostly meat, veggies, and healthy fats my acne, bloatedness, indigestion, and random soreness went away. I didn't sustain that for long after moving back with my parents for a while but I'm definitely looking to go back.
/r/seduction15/04/13 09:47 PM
1

I think negs are counterproductive to almost anybody. OP really should focus on socializing and having fun rather than actually gaming anybody. If she has a general plan for the night but keeps an open mind, she'll learn a lot more and gain a lot more experience than if she says "Today I'm going to pull this move on these three guys." Not much different from that men should do with pickup. Maintaining a good attitude and getting out of your head (orienting yourself to your surroundings) goes a l…
/r/seduction07/04/13 03:10 AM
2

It happens to men too when they get good enough at pickup. It just takes longer because casual sex has fewer repercussions for them, and it's usually harder to get than it is for women.
/r/seduction07/04/13 03:07 AM
2

But it's not like OP is even asking for the drinks. American guy isn't asking if she wants and drink and she's saying yes. He's straight up just putting drinks in her hand without asking if she wants them first. There's a difference between a guy paying for your dinner on a date and a guy bringing takeout to your house unasked. I think that's what's going on here. Maybe for insurance purposes OP can say "You don't have to keep buying me drinks you know." Then it's on the record and she doesn't h…
/r/seduction06/04/13 10:51 PM
1

Definitely write down what you want. Just start writing down everything in a notebook. It'll help you articulate your thoughts better. You've been neglecting your emotional well being. Not everyone needs to have romantic feelings all the time, you can worry about that after you make some short and long term goals, which you can do after you figure out what you want. I'm on my phone so I can't reread the OP but are you a student? Working full time? Make some general goals, a checklist that you ha…
/r/seduction06/04/13 10:28 PM
3

Meh, it's better to wing for the guy and bond so that you're friends long-term and he'll occasionally buy you drinks because you're an awesome friend who hooked him up with his new girlfriend (or whatever) than it is to keep passively accepting drinks and diverting his advances until he confronts her and they have a falling out. On another note, OP is lucky she's apparently in Western Europe where she can accept drinks from a guy and hang out with him the whole night without being marked as take…
/r/seduction06/04/13 10:12 PM
5

You shouldn't offer someone free drinks if you don't want them to take it. Poor AFC my ass. Don't pretend like you wouldn't take the drinks if you were a girl in the same situation. Who doesn't like free shit? If the AFC can't figure out that he's not interested, well, that's his problem. Also he makes around 10x what OP does so he can probably afford to buy a few drinks here and there.
/r/seduction06/04/13 09:11 PM
2

Number 3 also has to do with context. It's one thing to get looks inside of a club with music blasting. It's another thing to be stared at on a bus or train with bright lights and complete silence.
/r/seduction06/04/13 07:02 PM
5

Negs in their purest form basically only work on people who are objectively 10/10 models with six figure salaries and metric tons of confidence. And even with that they basically only worked in the 90s before people ever heard of pickup. I recommend teasing instead, playing with innuendos and sexual tension, and kino.
/r/seduction06/04/13 06:59 PM
5

It does build value for you to wing your guy friends. Remember, make friends with everybody. Nothing's wrong with playing matchmaker, and it's really fucking fun.
/r/seduction06/04/13 06:57 PM
4

Great write up. I'm in a similar situation as you: American woman living in a foreign country, early 20s, naturally introverted. I'm nearing the end of my yearlong sabbatical from going out due to first logistic issues and then financial strain, so I look forward to going out again. A few comments: You have a great body, but I'm not a fan of that dress. Magenta is a good color for you but by itself it looks unfinished. I like to follow the three-color rule when planning outfits, it looks more pu…
/r/seduction06/04/13 05:39 PM
3

Please warn her beforehand if this is the plan
/r/seduction26/03/13 11:20 AM
1

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/r/seduction14/03/13 10:02 AM
3

Because if we put "casual sex" then we get too much content for /r/creepyPMs
/r/seduction07/03/13 08:41 AM
2

Sounds like you're non-monogamous. I've been having similar feelings the last year or so, after being previously pretty jealous and possessive (like in high school). I just don't get that invested anymore, although I am getting tired of meaningless hookups and I'm looking to up the stakes in my next relationship, whether that involves serious feelings/love or something like swinging. Anyway a lot of the recovering AFCs on here are still caught up in the soulmate/one true love myth but really hum…
/r/seduction04/03/13 01:01 PM
1

Humans are social beings there's a reason why people drink and party and dance in every culture (more or less). You're just not used to interacting in these environments. Put yourself in these situations and let go a bit, and you'll get used to it and even learn to like it. Give yourself a chance.
/r/seduction27/02/13 03:52 AM
1

Thanks. I'm trying to do that a bit so maybe it's my customers. When they give me one-word answers does it mean they're just not as chatty as me?
/r/seduction26/02/13 12:14 AM
1

Ok, 22/f here and this is a problem I've had for a while. I know I should ask people questions about themselves but I grew up with a very invasive mother and now I feel weird getting people to talk about themselves. I feel like it's rude to ask too many questions, and on a certain level I kind of don't care, so I just end up talking about myself. This is a problem especially now since I'm working as a bartender. How do I get people to talk?
/r/seduction25/02/13 11:36 PM
1

She's not interested because logistics suck. Date girls near you.
/r/seduction22/02/13 05:35 PM
2

Yeah once you start working out for yourself it stops being desperate attempts to lose stubborn belly fat and starts being what you do in your spare time. A hobby. A part of you.
/r/seduction19/02/13 04:41 AM
2

Well if you approach it like, "Here, this is how I like it," instead of, "Giiirl you need to get that tongue back inside where it belongs." they might be more receptive.
/r/seduction13/02/13 02:36 AM
2

Depends on the kind of party.
/r/seduction12/02/13 10:11 AM
4

If you treat an HB10 like your little sister she's gonna be like, "Why isn't this guy objectifying me? Normally I can't go two minutes talking with a guy before he tells me I'm beautiful or hot." and eventually she'll turn the conversation to sex if you play your cards right. You're making her seduce you.
/r/seduction06/02/13 06:20 AM
5

It's all about how you frame it. I've asked guys to be my "boyfriend for the night," my "sugar daddy boyfriend," my "gay boyfriend" so that I could be his beard. I'm chronically happily single so it's always a joke, but people never know if I'm quite serious. I can be pretty deadpan at times. Don't take yourself so seriously. Most relationships end sooner or later so just enjoy your time with this girl. If you want to put a label on it that's fine. Shit I've joked with guys that we would make cu…
/r/seduction06/02/13 05:26 AM
1

This guy I've been working on just came out and said that he's straight. What do I do now? Is it possible to turn him gay? Or should I just let it go? Are there any advantages to this? Think about this a little before you ask these kinds of questions. It's possible that she's bisexual, depending on where you live she might not know that bisexuality is a thing. But from the sounds of it she is lesbian.
/r/seduction06/02/13 05:20 AM
3

Treat them like your little sister. Make them sexualize the interaction.
/r/seduction06/02/13 05:15 AM
1

A nice inexpensive bouquet is cute and mostly meaningless. Better than a card or chocolates I think.
/r/seduction06/02/13 05:14 AM
2

"Maybe we should. HB, will you be my girlfriend?"
/r/seduction06/02/13 05:11 AM
5

Yeah as much sexting as I've done I've never preferred a dick pic to the real thing. If you're thinking of sending a dick pic just tell her to come over and see what she's done to you.
/r/seduction04/02/13 01:57 AM
3

If not letting girls walk all over you means being an asshole PUA then I'd take that any day. Passive guys who just try to win girls over by being nice are boring as fuck.
/r/seduction03/02/13 07:46 PM
1

This also takes away the girl's autonomy. Everyone is allowed to be attracted to whomever they want, and by extension they are allowed to not be attracted to whomever they want. Everyone is allowed to have preferences, whether they are physical, personality, socioeconomic, whatever. I think it's important for PUAs to embrace rejection because it reinforces the fact that everyone is an autonomous human being who makes their own decisions about who they like and don't like. Seduction makes you mor…
/r/seduction30/01/13 03:33 PM
21

Tell her she's funny/cool but only if she is. Pretty smart girls can come across as stuck up at times so if you think she's chill and easygoing let her know. She already has two traits that distance her from most people and emphasizing those traits just makes it harder for her to bridge that gap. Telling her you think she's cool will make it easier for her to get along with you.
/r/seduction28/01/13 10:36 PM
1

I definitely want a guy to get the ok before he sticks it in. Otherwise that's just rude, cocky, and yes rapey. And I did try to make a little disclaimer that making out isn't an ok for sex. I was just trying to say that I don't make a habit of kissing guys I wouldn't sleep with. Making out should be a green light for escalation, and if she doesn't want to then she'll say so.
/r/seduction17/01/13 08:09 AM
3

Not sure how many are willing to fly out to Tokyo to fuck me. Although I do suck a mean dick. I'm putting off sex and dating until I figure out job/visa stuff. After that, these Japanese guys won't know what hit 'em. Haha wow do I sound like a cocky bitch or what.
/r/seduction17/01/13 07:54 AM
1

Thanks I thought I was the crazy one over here. I have experienced sensual touching with jeans, but it's usually limited to caressing the legs and butt and running your nails up and down the thighs. I have sensitive legs though so this might not work for other people. But yeah even though I usually wear mini skirts because they make my legs and butt look awesome, there's something incredibly hot about a guy putting his hand up my skirt and aimlessly feeling around a bit. Like getting fingered is…
/r/seduction17/01/13 05:56 AM
2

I used to be like you. At a certain point I realized that there is nothing more important in life than being social. Once your food and shelter are dealt with, interacting with other people is how we survive. You don't realize this until you don't have friends. Or maybe now you think having conversations with random strangers is stupid. But I've found anecdotally (but I'm sure there's research here) that people who can hold conversations with strangers are much happier than people who refuse to …
/r/seduction17/01/13 03:39 AM
1

As someone who probably should wear glasses but hates having things on my face (sunglasses too) I don't understand how people can wear dirty glasses without noticing.
/r/seduction17/01/13 03:33 AM
4

I feel like the exception to everything. I never know what to say when a guy says, "Tell me how you want it" beyond telling him I want his dick. I'm annoyingly indecisive so if he puts the decision in my hands we're not going to go anywhere. I've never been a fan of crotch rubbing through jeans. Usually it doesn't feel like anything. But it's not like once I start making out with a guy I still have to decide whether I'm horny and want sex. No if I'm making out with you, I want your dick. Not in …
/r/seduction17/01/13 03:30 AM
1

This is how I got a job offer from every interview I performed last summer. I actually got compliments on my presentation at a couple of them.
/r/seduction16/01/13 04:05 AM
1

I consider myself a pretty successful sexter. I've had a lot of sex on first dates from texting people from OKCupid. But if your logistics allow you to meet up fairly easily, only text for logistics. Don't drag out conversations with this girl. As fun as sexting is, it's never as fun as the real thing.
/r/seduction13/01/13 04:54 PM
2

Honestly, your dick shouldn't be doing all the work to pleasure a woman. Most women can't orgasm from penetration anyway, and for the ones who have g-spot orgasms, the g-spot is only 2-3" back from the vaginal opening. Get amazing at oral and be enthusiastic with kisses and caresses and women will come back again and again. The worst thing is when a guy just pumps a few times and that's it. That's not sexy for anybody. Visit /r/sex for more advice. And it's not even that small. 5" is average.
/r/seduction13/01/13 04:50 PM
1

You're at the point where pickup is no longer about lines but instead conversation. Practice talking to people about the immediate circumstances, their lives, current events. Get good at asking open ended questions without sounding like an interviewer. Depending on the person, yes or no questions might be ok too: "Aw man Black Sabbath is great yeah?" "Oh yeah I saw them in concert a few years back..." etc Don't forget to escalate kino and create a sexual frame with girls you're targeting, but pr…
/r/seduction13/01/13 04:46 PM
1

Most people go to the gym to get shit done, not to socialize. If you're making repeat eye contact with someone then approach during a water break. Otherwise leave girls alone when they're focused and sweaty.
/r/seduction13/01/13 04:42 PM
1

If a girl is standing, sitting, or dancing, approach with a smile and offer your hand. Then dance together.
/r/seduction13/01/13 04:39 PM
2

Wow you just expressed perfectly what I've been trying to say for over a year. Especially the part about sex-positivity. I think seduction and feminists can absolutely coexist and even promote each other's cause, but many people have the wrong impression about what pickup entails and they never look past that. Thanks for a great post.
/r/seduction13/01/13 01:38 PM
3

I submit myself as a test subject.
/r/seduction04/01/13 04:17 PM
2

I'm sorry that happened to you. And I'm sad that one crazy bitch ruined women for you. But seddit is a positive place. Your attitude doesn't really contribute anything to the conversation.
/r/seduction03/01/13 06:40 PM
5

Stop trying to read people's minds. Stop comparing yourself to others. People have sex because it's fun and it feels good. You're the one who is making a big deal about putting notches in your belt. Get over that and stop putting women on pedestals.
/r/seduction03/01/13 09:49 AM
2

Ok this is the first to actually make me laugh.
/r/seduction31/12/12 07:28 PM
1

I'll see you in /r/deadbedrooms in a few years.
/r/seduction31/12/12 06:53 PM
-1

"Do you want me to be?" or "I'm not that easy, you gotta work for it." Why would she ask if you're horny if she's particularly trying not to look like a slut?
/r/seduction31/12/12 04:04 AM
3

You shouldn't date girls who don't like sex.
/r/seduction31/12/12 12:17 AM
3

Thank you! I'm really good at sexting but I have such a hard time explaining how to start it. THIS is how sexting gets started.
/r/seduction31/12/12 12:13 AM
3

"Get your mind out of the gutter"
/r/seduction31/12/12 12:12 AM
1

I'd almost rather not get laid on New Years but lately I've been ending up in weird threesome/foursome situations without trying so shit might go down this year. Definitely helps to hang with the right crowd. And king's cup. That's good too.
/r/seduction31/12/12 12:10 AM
-1

Well I hope men have the physical capacity for a deeper voice than I do as a woman. Just like some women are stronger than some men but men have the potential for greater peak strength than women do. Guys lift weights to look and feel better, why not improve your voice as well? (pleeeeaaase?)
/r/seduction31/12/12 12:08 AM
8

Yes, please. I'm so tired of meeting guys who are gorgeous but turn out to have a wimpy voice. It's the biggest turn off. Like I need to be (dirty) talked through sex. Weak, passive voices don't work. Sometimes I can talk deeper than the guy. That destroys me.
/r/seduction30/12/12 08:06 PM
2

Breathe more?
/r/seduction30/12/12 08:02 PM
3

It helps to know ages and where the tutoring takes place.
/r/seduction29/12/12 06:59 AM
1

Read all the city guides and explore as much as you can. Get lost and try to find your way back without your phone or a map. Visit every store and restaurant on a street. If you drive, park and explore the area for a few hours. If you take public transit, pick a new stop each time you explore. Ask your friends and coworkers places they recommend. Look up famous places in movies and TV and use them as anchors (this is incredibly easy in LA). Connect the dots.
/r/seduction29/12/12 06:58 AM
12

They probably know that the other is being fingered too. Like someone else said, tell/dare them to make out
/r/seduction29/12/12 06:54 AM
7

Maybe stop going out with them until they respect you more?
/r/seduction26/12/12 05:57 AM
1

The sidebar has a kino escalation ladder somewhere.
/r/seduction25/12/12 02:51 AM
-8

Under 21? Sucks for you. (Honestly I have no idea, I didn't start going out until I was 21). Open your mouth and say words.
/r/seduction25/12/12 02:48 AM
2

Make sure you identify yourself. A lot of people don't answer calls or texts from randoms because there are so many wrong numbers and stuff nowadays.
/r/seduction25/12/12 02:45 AM
3

A good way to think about it is when you hesitate to do something, that's your subconscious telling you it's risky, which means it's something you should do. Obviously don't break any laws but when you feel the knot in your stomach use it as fuel to move forward.
/r/seduction25/12/12 02:44 AM
8

In the mean time, learn to get people to talk about themselves. The less you talk, the less of a chance you'll screw up. People like good listeners.
/r/seduction25/12/12 02:42 AM
3

Make sure you don't just hang around the mall though. Go to stores (shopping for your mom's bday? and other excuses) and then ask girls for shopping advice.
/r/seduction25/12/12 01:34 AM
47

This is why it's so hard to have a social life when you live with your parents. They become your crowd.
/r/seduction25/12/12 01:32 AM
2

Are you making yourself too available? Are there logistics issues? I became a flake when all the decent guys were a 30+ minute drive away (and then I stopped bothering with guys). It's probably the first one. Don't schedule your life around these girls. Keep busy, put yourself first.
/r/seduction20/12/12 06:10 AM
1

What makes you think girls like her don't have guys wanting to fill the FB roll?
/r/seduction18/12/12 09:16 PM
2

"Wanna study together next time? It seems like you know your stuff." etc etc "Yeah my roommate works late Tuesdays so I have the room to myself, you should come over then. Although I'm not sure how much studying we'll get done..." I just pulled this out of my ass in like 30 seconds but I'm sure someone can express it better. Basically isolating and escalating. If you can't do those, hint at isolating and escalating.
/r/seduction16/12/12 05:54 AM
5

Well I use seduction to make friends and do well in interviews. Everyone has different goals here, doesn't mean the techniques don't still work.
/r/seduction15/12/12 05:20 PM
2

This never worked for me because I was always the first to finish :/
/r/seduction15/12/12 04:32 PM
2

I like you.
/r/seduction15/12/12 04:29 PM
2

Because when AFCs are staying up all night obsessing about the first girl who ever showed them any attention we need a place to filter their walls of text so it doesn't clutter up normal seddit content and cause them to flip out from downvotes.
/r/seduction15/12/12 09:30 AM
1

What did you do when you couldn't get it up? Did you get all embarrassed and stopped all sexual activity or did you say, "Well I guess that means I'm gonna have to give you some more attention" and finger her or go down on her or just make out and make her feel sexy? Yeah it sucks when a guy can't get it up and some girls can be bitches about it. But there's so much potential for fun things you can do in bed with a girl and after hanging out with her some more it might shake off the nerves and y…
/r/seduction15/12/12 09:25 AM
1

Not really. It could mean that the 10,000 other girls weren't worth sticking around for. But in reality it means nothing.
/r/seduction14/12/12 10:39 PM
5

Yeah if they really don't want sex then they'll make it really clear, like "Let's not have sex..." or something.
/r/seduction14/12/12 07:41 PM
3

Basically all through high school and college until I lost my virginity. I'm not sure if I've done it since then though.
/r/seduction14/12/12 07:39 PM
7

Also just because one woman turned you down doesn't mean another won't be all over you.
/r/seduction12/12/12 03:49 PM
1

If you want to look less intense it can help to think of a joke or a recent accomplishment you're proud of. Or whatever might make you laugh inside a little, like try to guess the girl's bra size or what color underwear she's wearing as she walks by. It's a fun little secret that'll soften your face a bit.
/r/seduction12/12/12 02:34 PM
6

In the back of my mind, I'm thinking she may be unattractive or desperately crazy to be moving so fast. Jeez I must be the craziest of all then, I never take it slow. Get it in your head that a girl might actually just want your dick. How do you guys greet a women on a first date who you never met before? Sometimes the girls go for a hug. I always go for the hug. When I meet people from online I just act like we already know each other. By the way, this is how you make friends quickly, act like …
/r/seduction09/12/12 06:29 PM
1

Ha you sound like my type.
/r/seduction07/12/12 09:55 PM
7

*No me gusta
/r/seduction07/12/12 09:53 PM
1

Wow thanks for totally misreading my comment. I don't see what makes me a bitch but you shouldn't get butthurt about some woman you've never met who does things differently from you. Not very level-headed to go around calling women that. I basically only text "What?" to one guy who was kind of funny at first with his random phone calls interrupting my day but it's not funny any more. Like he only calls me when he's bored driving or he wants phone sex. He's kind of an ass and I don't really talk …
/r/seduction07/12/12 07:06 PM
4

What about all the people in between? I'm a woman and I hate when people call me. I hate talking on the phone, I hate repeating myself. If a guy calls me it throws me off. It interrupts whatever I'm doing and I usually don't answer anyway and I'll just text him "What's up?" (or "What?" if I'm feeling annoyed). Even guys I like. If I'm going to call someone I ask permission first, same as if I were to skype them or stop by their house for a visit. Or I'll be like, "Are you free right now?" Also i…
/r/seduction07/12/12 07:44 AM
1

Yeah that's exactly what pinkwashing is. I originally used it as an exaggeration to demonstrate my distaste for 2XC. I appreciate you as a male feminist! We need more of you. Especially if you refrain from using "female" as a noun instead of an adjective (same with "male" but it happens less often). I think sedditors should be much more supportive of feminism than they are. We do have a good record of killing off slut-shaming comments, and it's great that we discourage complaints of "friend-zoni…
/r/seduction07/12/12 07:18 AM
2

What? I'm a feminist. I'm saying that what I saw on 2XC was a poor excuse for feminism. Have you heard what pink-washing is? Look it up. Anyway I haven't been on there for a while so things might have changed. Edit: Also radical feminism is just feminism "of the roots" or whatever the Latin translates to (I'm a linguist, not a classicist). Cultural feminism is the kind that says women are better than men. It's been a while since I took my Language, Gender, and Sexuality class though, don't remem…
/r/seduction07/12/12 07:03 AM
5

I unsubbed from 2XC probably 18 months ago when it devolved into "my period this" and "my boyfriend that" and "omg bad hair day". It's candy-coated pink-washed feminism.
/r/seduction06/12/12 11:39 PM
2

I've been here for over a year.
/r/seduction06/12/12 11:37 PM
13

I have a friend with a rule that she doesn't buy anything that's not cute. And because of that, everything she owns is adorable, and it all matches her amazing personality. I can't pull off the adorable look as well as her but I've been working on going minimalist for the last two years, it's nice. I've learned that it's better to hoard clothes if you're going to hoard anything. When I studied abroad I brought one suitcase and while it was nice for getting through the airport and train stations,…
/r/seduction06/12/12 09:26 PM
1

This is me with Asian guys on okcupid haha
/r/seduction06/12/12 07:50 PM
10

I try to downvote repetitive questions and things that are obviously in the sidebar but I'm only one person.
/r/seduction06/12/12 09:22 AM
1

Seduction is just social skills applied to women and sex. If you broaden your scope a bit you can see that lots of pickup "techniques" are really just how people interact. I've used pickup tactics in interviews (where I was offered the position), when making friends, when closing a sale. It's just getting people to like you in various ways. Read Dale Carnegie's How to Win Friends and Influence People.
/r/seduction01/12/12 07:57 AM
1

This.
/r/seduction01/12/12 07:53 AM
17

You mean wifebeaters? But they're sexy and so good for sleeping in... Don't listen to me, I'm a woman.
/r/seduction28/11/12 06:49 AM
0

It's not like you're going to marry the girl. You'll get more number closes. Invite her to a low-key date ("I'll buy you ice cream!" is cheaper than dinner but you're not being a scrooge) and feel things out.
/r/seduction27/11/12 04:16 AM
2

Actually women online probably avoid talking to guys who look like male models because the male models types are usually either fake or just bombarded with messages.
/r/seduction27/11/12 04:12 AM
14

25 is too old to be using the term "second base." Take off her clothes already.
/r/seduction25/11/12 07:40 AM
1

But sometimes they are? That's completely normal. At a certain point it becomes a numbers game and you just gotta have fun approaching. Your batting average will go up with practice and you'll be able to land hotter girls as you become more confident, but some girls just won't be interested.
/r/seduction23/11/12 07:05 PM
7

I have him at [+16] and I'm a woman if that makes a difference.
/r/seduction23/11/12 05:50 AM
2

I don't think this is a really helpful post to be honest. Not everyone who suffers from AA are going to feel like their relationship with their parents made any difference. Everyone has their difficulties with their parents, obviously some more than others, but AA is about being afraid of taking risks. Let's not make it something it's not.
/r/seduction23/11/12 01:19 AM
4

It was banned like six months ago or something. Their language was really controversial and it offended a lot of people (way more than the flak seddit gets) and I think some mods were spamming people in seddit to get more subscribers. I liked /r/pua when I paid attention to it because it doesn't coddle AFCs like seddit does but I didn't really read it much because I'm a girl and the techniques didn't really apply to me. (My approach is basically get to know enough guys to narrow things down to t…
/r/seduction22/11/12 12:11 PM
3

Not really, it's kind of sexy because it's intimate without being too attached. Maybe it's because I have a thing for NSA sex but it's sexy when a guy calls me babe and I get this tiny question mark in the back of my head like, "Is he calling me that because I'm a babe or because he forgot my name?" Anyway saying a person's name while hooking up is a little much for me so I just talk dirty and shit.
/r/seduction22/11/12 12:02 PM
0

I used to hate any kind of pet names until this guy I was hooking up with started calling me "babe" and I liked it because I liked the attention and the intimate-but-not-attached atmosphere it creates.
/r/seduction22/11/12 11:58 AM
11

Your one leg jokes are excellent. OP, use these.
/r/seduction21/11/12 06:48 AM
3

Also yes I learned in college that race is a social construct. Same with gender and sexuality. But it doesn't mean race doesn't exist in society, it just doesn't exist in biology/genetics. It's good to have these conversations. Can't move forward until you have awareness and acceptance.
/r/seduction20/11/12 08:56 AM
6

I'm aware of my sub-conscious judgments of people of various races and I work to combat them. And sure it makes me racist to find facial features more commonly found among Asian guys the most attractive. But there are bigger fish to fry. Like it really grates me when people like the OP use "female" as a noun instead of an adjective because it's creepy and it makes women sound like another species but I don't bring it up every time someone uses it. People are going to have yellow fever or jungle …
/r/seduction20/11/12 07:43 AM
2

Why do you say that?
/r/seduction20/11/12 01:08 AM
3

One way ticket ;)
/r/seduction19/11/12 10:58 PM
2

Late January, early February. I'm nervous :]
/r/seduction19/11/12 10:33 PM
1

Yeah but the problem for me here is if I go up to a white guy and hit on him chances are he's going to be responsive. But my experience with hitting on Asian guys is that they'll freeze up if I'm too forward. Obviously everyone is different and my approach is pretty far out of the norm but I can't tell whether a guy dislikes my approach or if I just caught him off guard. Most of my lays come from okcupid so being forward there works better than irl usually. The rare pretty girl in your inbox is …
/r/seduction19/11/12 08:55 PM
4

I got into Asian guys in high school and all the guys I've dated (not just one date or a hook up) have been Asian or part-Asian. I'm not really attracted to white guys. I love black guys but I don't meet very many right now. Anyone else just doesn't show up on my radar. Like sure if I see a male model I'm like "dayum" but they're not really dateable. Too much work. If I'm in a public place I immediately pick out the cute Asian guys nearby. I look forward to moving to Tokyo haha. Also I'm bi but …
/r/seduction19/11/12 08:41 PM
2

5'9"
/r/seduction19/11/12 12:10 PM
1

Honestly, I'm not really attracted to gingers or really any hair color outside of black or dark brown. And non-dark eye colors creep me out. I've dated paler guys but I prefer darker skin. Also not into beards (although I love some good stubble). But I'm particularly picky about looks for some reason. I guess it helps that tons of guys still fit my criteria (actually the hardest trait to find besides being taller than 5'9" is a good voice--I need to be talked through sex). I would totally fuck/d…
/r/seduction19/11/12 11:00 AM
1

Depending on the context I'll usually ask something like, "We should get drinks soon, what's your schedule like?" Then they'll be like "I'm pretty busy during the week and Fridays are bad for me but I have Sundays off" And then you can be like, "Well I wanted to go to this comedy show Saturday night but I also know this great place for happy hour Sunday with free bar food" Etc. You learn about the person's life a bit while also not having to ask them "What about this day?" a hundred times. Also …
/r/seduction19/11/12 10:39 AM
31

Wow this is my thread. I'm a white woman who almost exclusively dates Asian guys. But it's a pain in the ass when they're passive. ABearWithFeelings up there has the right idea. The reason why white women don't end up dating Asian guys is because they don't end up seeing any. Change that: stand out and get their attention. Plus I know you're going to be way more classy than the loser white dudes who approach me. I mean seriously just smiling and eye contact will do the job here.
/r/seduction19/11/12 06:38 AM
1

More precisely, your attitude and behavior. Those two things are really the difference between loser and success.
/r/seduction15/11/12 09:02 AM
2

Haha sorry guys I thought I cancelled my comment but I guess it sent. That's what happens when you reddit on the phone.
/r/seduction05/11/12 10:03 PM
2

It's not more grammatically correct. English doesn't have a rule that requires a noun for direct comparisons. Basically OP is saying
/r/seduction05/11/12 09:48 AM
13

Go study
/r/seduction04/11/12 05:10 AM
5

Women like sex. Get over it.
/r/seduction29/10/12 07:39 PM
4

Urban dictionary that shit. Or basically it means to fuck someone for the lolz.
/r/seduction29/10/12 06:48 PM
1

I think you need to relearn what ironic means. It doesn't mean "true" or "appropriate".
/r/seduction28/10/12 12:16 AM
1

an ironic hipster-nerd So totally normal?
/r/seduction28/10/12 12:04 AM
13

See OP's wall of text? Don't do that. Get out of your head and talk to people. Do things, live life.
/r/seduction27/10/12 08:45 AM
1

"But waaaah" I guess you're shit out of luck then.
/r/seduction25/10/12 05:46 PM
1

I've learned that the point when you feel awkward and nervous and like you should hesitate is the best time to escalate.
/r/seduction25/10/12 05:35 PM
2

I feel like it's a bad idea to ask a girl this, you're making her thing logically about something that's illogical in the same way as if you asked her if she's attracted to you. Like I'm sure it still works but it's probably better to just escalate kino without making her think about it first.
/r/seduction25/10/12 05:21 PM
2

I'm a very hetero-leaning bisexual woman and this probably won't help you very much. I don't really use pickup techniques beyond abundance mentality, occasionally approaching, and reading people. I try to talk to everyone like we're totally awesome friends. It's very easy to have sex with men. It's harder to have standards and figure out logistics (well, it's harder to have standards when you live in a shit area with your parents). I'm in a transitional period right now so I'm just trying to sta…
/r/seduction21/10/12 06:16 PM
2

That's not manners, it's formatting. I know you're making a joke but I'm tired of people saying something is ironic when it's really coincidental or appropriate. Or saying something is grammar when it's really spelling or word choice. Or the rampant misuse of "semantics."
/r/seduction21/10/12 02:13 PM
4

It would be easy as hell if you're at a party and she's giving crazy IOIs. Other situations might not work so well.
/r/seduction19/10/12 05:13 PM
7

If she weren't working and you were in a more intimate setting I'd have made her earn your name with a kiss.
/r/seduction19/10/12 04:44 PM
1

I blame the short girls (I call them "dolls" or "children" if I'm feeling particularly mean, you know, in my head). They should really stick with shorter guys. Also the midget/giant relationships piss me off and they look terrible together. But I'm not much of a "Love overcomes all!!~** <33" kind of person.
/r/seduction18/10/12 05:40 PM
0

I'm 5'9", 160lbs on a good day. I'm also overwhelmingly attracted to Asian guys. I'd love to date shorter guys but they make me feel like a fat giant. I hate short girls who date tall guys (and vice versa). What a waste.
/r/seduction18/10/12 06:43 AM
3

Go for tiny women. And send the tall guys to me.
/r/seduction18/10/12 02:36 AM
1

You need better things to remember
/r/seduction13/10/12 02:21 AM
2

It's easier in clubs than during the day because it's expected.
/r/seduction09/10/12 09:37 PM
3

Take her hand or upper arm.
/r/seduction09/10/12 09:36 PM
3

Talk to your doctor before doing this. Also it can take several months for the hormones to make their way out of your system.
/r/seduction08/10/12 12:13 AM
3

A way to become friends with the girl. At which point you ask to hang out more and build attraction and then fuck.
/r/seduction07/10/12 11:21 PM
11

It's not that doing favors makes you seem weak. It's that doing favors while expecting sex in exchange makes you a dick. Do favors for people when you want. Say no when you don't. Treat girls like you treat guys. It's when you give us special treatment while expecting sex that gets you in trouble. You can't buy sex with favors.
/r/seduction07/10/12 11:19 PM
3

Same here.
/r/seduction07/10/12 11:17 PM
2

Then wear crew necks. They're not terrible.
/r/seduction05/10/12 08:25 AM
1

I've been there before. If this is a chronic problem (like stuff like what OP said doesn't change things) it might be time to look elsewhere. Some people are just sexually incompatible.
/r/seduction03/10/12 09:56 PM
1

Nope. And I stop sleeping with them and sexting them once they're in a relationship.
/r/seduction02/10/12 10:53 PM
-5

Obviously not since the guys I sleep with like hearing it. But if you don't like it then I don't have to tell you. And it's not like I go around telling everyone. I just tell the guys I trust when I already know they like hearing it. I mean they'll straight up ask, "How's the dating scene?" or "Any new guys lately?"
/r/seduction02/10/12 07:34 PM
1

If there's a word for polyamory without the -amory part that isn't "slut" I would use it. But yeah I'm non-monogamous. Doesn't have the same ring to it. And right now isn't a convenient time for me to develop strong feelings for one or more people. Seddit, especially askseddit, is full of guys who put girls on a pedestal and are afraid of soiling a girl with their pervy desires. They don't realize that girls are pervy too. We like sex.
/r/seduction02/10/12 06:24 PM
-1

Um some people don't want monogamy. Doesn't make me a bitch.
/r/seduction02/10/12 06:20 PM
-8

Some girls like to date around, sleep with multiple guys, get attention from multiple guys. If she's talking about another guy in front of you and you abruptly change the subject or just act like you don't want to hear about it, it makes you seem jealous and possessive, less attractive. I'm one of these girls. My favorite guys to talk to are the ones who actually listen when I talk about other guys and escalate at the same time. I've gotten dating advice about one guy from another guy while his …
/r/seduction02/10/12 05:51 PM
1

Treat her like you'd treat a dude that you hung out with and you want to stay friends with.
/r/seduction30/09/12 04:47 AM
1

Basically everyone I meet now is off OkCupid. I live in a social desert without a car (it's at the mechanic) and I'm not going to shit where I eat at work. My friends don't go out much. I'm the player in the group. Story of my life.
/r/seduction27/09/12 10:38 PM
3

Talk to/open everybody, assume attraction (act like you're already friends), be interesting.
/r/seduction27/09/12 05:45 AM
0

I'm also getting more laid than you. Probably.
/r/seduction27/09/12 12:09 AM
1

This is what it looks like when a guy calls me out of the blue. In the middle of a conversation with my coworker. Me: "Shit, someone's calling me. Sorry. Wait, Mike? Why the fuck..." (Ignore) Via text: "What's up?"
/r/seduction26/09/12 11:41 PM
1

I did this last night, ended up sleeping with a new guy instead of the really busy but amazingly cool guy I wanted to sleep with. I thought about pinging him to see if we were still on but he's not a big texter and I overloaded him with texts during summer. So I assumed since I hadn't heard from him (until like 8pm when I was at a bar with new guy) that I wouldn't see him. And logistics in LA suck to the point where I couldn't just bounce and go see awesome guy. I sort of tried but with five dri…
/r/seduction26/09/12 11:34 PM
2

A good way to get over AA and start talking to people is to work in retail. At my job we need to greet everyone within 10 seconds after they walk into the store or within 10 feet of us. I mastered the inflection to "Hi! How's it going?" within three weeks of working here part-time.
/r/seduction26/09/12 11:26 PM
1

I get drunk but I retain enough hand-eye coordination to text and enter my phone number as well as give decent head. Wait what are we talking about?
/r/seduction24/09/12 03:57 AM
2

Why couldn't the bicycle stand up on its own? It was two-tired. I work at a bike shop, so using this with every customer.
/r/seduction24/09/12 03:48 AM
8

My problem is that I always start laughing when I do the whale sound. Like I can't even get it out. I'm female though so I'm necessarily unfunny.
/r/seduction24/09/12 03:39 AM
7

Have something to do and then invite her. Demonstrate some value.
/r/seduction24/09/12 03:35 AM
18

I think instead of filtering the world to suit your tastes, you should try getting along with and making friends with everybody. I know smart people who also enjoy things you would judge to be stupid. So turn off the judgement and enjoy the differences other people have.
/r/seduction21/09/12 03:58 PM
16

The last question is straight out of an interview. Rephrase it like, "What kinds of cool/crazy things do you do?"
/r/seduction21/09/12 03:56 PM
1

Are you sure it's actually tutoring she wants?
/r/seduction20/09/12 04:40 PM
2

Well don't stay leaned in. Use it deliberately.
/r/seduction20/09/12 04:10 PM
1

Maybe not genetically but it's possible to get by sharing spoons/straws/etc.
/r/seduction20/09/12 06:59 AM
14

What the hell is wrong with everyone on seddit lately? Has nobody heard of body language and kino? Approach, lean in, take her hand, lead her somewhere you can talk. But really, nothing you say will get her into bed with you. It's how you carry yourself.
/r/seduction20/09/12 06:53 AM
1

What does that have to do with girls that want to have sex with you though? Behavioral therapy can recondition you not to fear that vomiting.
/r/seduction19/09/12 08:33 PM
2

Most relationships fail. The number one cause of divorce is marriage.
/r/seduction19/09/12 07:59 PM
2

That's fine, just say that. But in the future, stop asking reddit to approve of every little text you send. You have to try things out by yourself. You're going to crash and burn a few times but you'll learn and do better.
/r/seduction19/09/12 07:58 PM
1

Maybe something that requires therapy. That sort of anxiety isn't normal.
/r/seduction19/09/12 07:52 PM
1

Say you thought that there was a real connection between you guys and you acted according to your feelings. First date, "Are we ok?" Please don't do this, OP. Act like friends, you know, like you would treat anybody else. Don't bring it up. Flirt with her about as much as you flirt with everyone else (and yes you guys should be hinting at flirting with guys a little too, that's how you get places in the world). If she's interested she'll send some IOIs eventually, but stop pursuing her and focus…
/r/seduction19/09/12 07:51 PM
4

You're not responding to anything, you're bugging her.
/r/seduction19/09/12 07:46 PM
3

She doesn't respond for about 4 hours, so I text her "I'll take that as a "no." Have a great night. Take care." Guys please don't do this. When a girl doesn't respond for four hours don't send passive aggressive "oh I guess not wah" texts. People work for a living at jobs where they can't use their phone. People sleep. People fucking forget to check their phone sometimes. People see your text and then get distracted and then forget to respond. She'll text you when she texts you. it made me uncom…
/r/seduction19/09/12 07:45 PM
3

Front and back, multiple lines?
/r/seduction19/09/12 07:32 PM
1

Can this be posted at the top of askseddit? Because that's all there is over there
/r/seduction12/09/12 07:06 PM
2

;]
/r/seduction12/09/12 05:30 PM
2

I'm a girl fyi. Who doesn't wear deodorant sometimes and enjoys picking her nose and q-tipping for eargasms and eating junk food. I'm maybe a 7 though, if that.
/r/seduction12/09/12 04:51 PM
6

What's wrong with not wearing deodorant when home alone or picking your nose when nobody is around?
/r/seduction12/09/12 04:17 PM
1

If you look like you're 16 hit the gym and start eating. For everything else read the sidebar. And talk to everybody, make friends with everybody.
/r/seduction06/09/12 07:51 PM
2

Yeah it happens but there are starting to be more helpful contributions from girls than critical ones.
/r/seduction04/09/12 03:23 PM
2

I almost never answer my phone unless I have a huge crush on the person or we have imminent plans. So I know I've never answered the phone for you.
/r/seduction04/09/12 05:27 AM
2

You don't need the disclaimer, girls are welcome. I've been here for about 9 months now.
/r/seduction04/09/12 05:23 AM
3

I think the issue here is that you're calling 30 year old women "girls" as if they're in college. This confuses the intended audience.
/r/seduction04/09/12 05:20 AM
3

Because we never get to be alone to talk on the phone for hours. We're either in class, in our room (with roommates), at the library, at the gym, in a coffee shop, etc. There are always people around so it's a lot easier (and more polite) to have an intimate conversation via text than over the phone. We don't want our roommates to hear us or be bothered, and we want to save up the sexile vouchers for when we're actually getting laid. I don't understand why this isn't obvious to guys here.
/r/seduction04/09/12 05:18 AM
6

I know people who will avoid picking up the phone, then text me in response to find out what I was calling for. Checking in.
/r/seduction04/09/12 05:16 AM
0

Agreed. This is unnecessary, especially because every girl will have different response times from the next girl for varied reasons. Also we don't know whether the response time actually indicates interest or what it indicates at all without asking the girl, who might not even know herself.
/r/seduction02/09/12 04:23 AM
1

Seddit teaches the opposite of this. Keep and abundance mentality and you should avoid this no problem. Also folks need to stop taking rejection so personally. One person's "meh" is another person's "oh my fucking god yes."
/r/seduction01/09/12 10:59 PM
2

Well if I'm moving out I'll be relocating to a different city and an expensive one at that. The only reason I stay in this shithole is for the free rent. I hate it every day of the week. Ideally I'll be in Tokyo in six months. I have friends there to help with the transition a bit.
/r/seduction31/08/12 05:17 AM
14

It's probably downtown Bakersfield
/r/seduction30/08/12 08:49 PM
7

A lot of us aren't terrified to leave. It's just not sustainable. Once I have a few grand saved up I'll get my ass out of here.
/r/seduction30/08/12 08:48 PM
3

I usually ask someone, "What's your schedule like?" Then you talk about your own schedule and figure out when you're both free. It also makes more conversation and you know what's going on in her life.
/r/seduction29/08/12 06:59 PM
1

Checking in. Don't make fun of me for never beating the gb games though.
/r/seduction28/08/12 10:43 PM
2

The main thing stopping me is that I don't want to pay for the book when I can buy something like, you know, food.
/r/seduction25/08/12 04:08 AM
3

Definitely agree with your low manliness observation. That's probably the most useful thing to take out of the book.
/r/seduction25/08/12 04:04 AM
4

I didn't want to read it but you make me want to just to see how bad it is. Your review of it is basically what I expected from what I've heard about it.
/r/seduction25/08/12 04:01 AM
0

It's more the second, although I've found that a lot of the advice here applies to other aspects of life besides dating.
/r/seduction24/08/12 08:13 PM
1

I was writing on my phone during a walking break in the middle of my run earlier so I wasn't very clear. You should try to stretch your boundaries a little by kissing a guy the next time you're in a similar situation. Because it's good to try new things.
/r/seduction24/08/12 07:26 PM
1

Hawt. I have a date in 30 mins. I'm excited now ;]
/r/seduction24/08/12 07:24 PM
9

Men are keys, women are locks. Thats the way it is. This is why people hate seddit. My vagina is not a lock. I can have sex with 50 guys and my pussy will still feel as good for guy #50 as it did for guy #1. Plus I'll be much better at sex by guy #50. A high number of partners doesn't lower the inherent value or quality of a woman. Stop using stupid metaphors to talk about women. I love this community and I think it teaches important concepts but when people say shit like you just did it makes m…
/r/seduction24/08/12 07:20 PM
1

I'm 21/f and I've had 20 partners in about one year of being out of a relationship (where I lost my virginity). I could hit 80 by age 24 if I keep it up. I'm starting to back off a little though, I don't need to sleep with every cute guy I meet.
/r/seduction24/08/12 07:15 PM
1

You're lucky you've never bad a bad kisser. I recommend trying to kiss a guy earlier in the game. Like, in public. Just stretch your boundaries a little. Have you ever made out with a guy without sex being on the table? Like on a first or second date?
/r/seduction24/08/12 05:10 PM
0

But kissing is so fun. And you can build up by kissing every part of him except below the belt. Maybe you just get off on resisting. I get off on initiating.
/r/seduction24/08/12 04:49 PM
1

Started cleaning my room last night, halfway done haha
/r/seduction24/08/12 04:36 PM
2

Yes, shit testing a guy is just qualifying him to make sure he's not a loser. Nothing wrong with that, guys do it too.
/r/seduction24/08/12 04:35 PM
0

Checking in
/r/seduction24/08/12 04:34 PM
3

I still don't understand why you don't just kiss him.
/r/seduction24/08/12 04:31 PM
1

This is why I stopped posting FRs
/r/seduction24/08/12 04:29 PM
4

Dance! Go to a loud club and dance. You won't have to speak.
/r/seduction24/08/12 04:21 PM
11

Hey that shit is entertaining. Reddit really is just entertainment underneath it all.
/r/seduction23/08/12 08:35 PM
5

This topic comes up every few months/weeks now and the problem is that no women step forward to write anything. I'm not going to take time out of my busy life (two jobs, an internship, and no car in LA) to write material for free when I'm just going to be called a slut and told that women don't need pickup advice because they can get any guy they want. Most of the material would be the inner game stuff on normal seddit combined with sex-positive inner game (anti-slut shaming defenses) and how-to…
/r/seduction23/08/12 03:25 AM
2

Yeah I hate this expression.
/r/seduction23/08/12 03:15 AM
2

Reckless woman here, I've had quite a few same day lays. I think I have pretty good judgement when it comes to figuring out whether people suck or not once I meet them. I mean I've never been wrong so far. If you want a guy to leave your place come up with something you need to do (study for a test, read this report, clean before you have guests staying). Also I've literally said, "Ok I'm gonna kick you out now," to a few friends and guys I've hooked up with. If you say it in a nice way they won…
/r/seduction23/08/12 03:15 AM
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Not quite the same feeling. I was thinking more like, "Well duh, we're friends now."
/r/seduction22/08/12 02:43 PM
3

Sorry to hear that :( I'm lucky I started watching porn at 11. And actually I've been fascinated by sex since I've known that boys and girls have different parts (preschool). Now that I can get it whenever I want, I'm not gonna let some stupid society bullshit stop me!
/r/seduction22/08/12 04:35 AM
1

Um, cosmo? I'd like to see casual sex as more of a goal on the female side.
/r/seduction22/08/12 04:30 AM
4

Better than them all having neckbeards and ponytails. Also there's a new trend of gym attendees, especially guys who lift. I have no problem with any of this.
/r/seduction22/08/12 04:28 AM
1

She means she just wanted to flirt and not let it go anywhere.
/r/seduction22/08/12 04:26 AM
2

But sex is a win for everyone! (the safe, consensual, good kind at least)
/r/seduction22/08/12 04:21 AM
1

I think it might be a cultural shift actually. What did people do for fun in the 90s? Shop, drink, eat out. All of those things prohibitively expensive for young people now. There's not much to do except exercise when you're broke. A gym membership is chump change compared to cover charges and drink tabs or a new pair of Nikes every month.
/r/seduction20/08/12 08:59 AM
3

Really depends on the books OP has.
/r/seduction20/08/12 12:40 AM
8

Fat smelly acne-ridden neckbeards are going to have a hard time getting girls. That's why fittit and MFA exist.
/r/seduction20/08/12 12:17 AM
1

Infanticide is a very old idea however.
/r/seduction19/08/12 11:05 PM
3

Reread the story. Kid cried about his father's funeral, which happened the year before. A few days after the crying episode the girl shit-tests him.
/r/seduction18/08/12 05:57 PM
1

Actually rape is ineffective because the woman won't want to keep a baby that's forced on her. That's why we have shit like love.
/r/seduction18/08/12 05:51 PM
4

We really don't realize that we're doing it. That's the unfortunate part.
/r/seduction18/08/12 05:47 PM
4

When you have a gag reflex like mine, attitude is everything.
/r/seduction17/08/12 09:32 PM
30

But flaccid penises are more fun! They don't work for pussy but it's great to play with using my mouth! /not sarcasm
/r/seduction17/08/12 03:28 PM
34

I don't blame you at all. Who brings a ginormous purse to a bar? Fucking streamline your life a little. Keys, wallet, phone. What the fuck else do you need? Drinking it is better than putting a roofie in it, shit. Didn't she learn not to trust strangers with her drinks? Note: I'm a woman.
/r/seduction16/08/12 05:15 AM
15

Frogma, you've never been tested? Is there a reason? I'm 21 and I've been tested at least a handful of times.
/r/seduction10/08/12 05:07 AM
1

Well usually the person already likes me by that point.
/r/seduction08/08/12 02:38 PM
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I ask, "So what do you think?" About what? About me. Then they give you their first impression and their current impression now that they know you a little better. I love hearing the unique things people say about me. And then they ask me what I think of them and then we talk about ourselves and how we make a good match. Also allows you to handle any objections they have about you.
/r/seduction07/08/12 05:42 PM
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How many people who rent can have cats in their apartment? If I was talking to a single woman who owned a home I'd add like ten cats. I don't like cats though.
/r/seduction07/08/12 05:38 PM
1

Wow late to the party much? Check out the sidebar------> Or ctrl+f "glossary"
/r/seduction07/08/12 05:22 AM
1

So uh, where are you located?
/r/seduction04/08/12 04:02 PM
2

For dtf girls in a big city it's like guys are falling over themselves to message you. I had to take "looking for: casual sex" off my profile cause I'd get so many dick pics. Now I just exchange a few messages of witty banter, get texting or iming, drop a few innuendos, and then meet up. It's a different approach with every guy but usually once I'm kissing him it's in the bag. The talking is really important though. It wouldn't work nearly as well if I weren't an interesting person and if weren'…
/r/seduction04/08/12 03:28 AM
2

It was harder when I lived in a smaller city but I'm in LA now so there's a pretty wide selection. Yeah I do the work picking up guys, that's kind of the point of this subreddit. I mostly meet them off okcupid though. Still don't go clubbing as much as I'd like. Okcupid is really fucking easy though. Especially if I only want hookups or fwb deals. Actually I could have landed a bf a few weeks back who is convenient and adorable and sexy and really likes me but I'm pretty commitment phobic right …
/r/seduction04/08/12 03:14 AM
3

Your loss. I get lots of compliments on my tongue skills. Plus I keep my hair just long enough to grip it.
/r/seduction04/08/12 01:29 AM
4

Most of them treat me like any other girl, at least to my face. One guy was a foreign exchange student from Japan, he bragged to his friends that he fucked an American/white girl, so I guess I was kind of a novelty to him. Most of them are impressed with my boobs but they probably think I'm too chubby compared to most Asian girls. Also I'm tall which makes it hard to find Asian guys I feel feminine around. Most everyone I've dated or hooked up with have been right around my height (5'8"-5'10") b…
/r/seduction04/08/12 01:22 AM
2

If you're asian (and fairly attractive) and you said this to me IRL I'd totally bang you. Can't speak for anyone else though.
/r/seduction04/08/12 12:02 AM
2

Um, what kind of question is that?
/r/seduction03/08/12 10:37 PM
1

;)
/r/seduction03/08/12 10:26 PM
2

I just realized I've probably never read the FAQs. I should do that soon. Also being a person of value isn't about having sex, it's about making people want to be around you. Lots of times people accomplish this by throwing money around but this is really where a great personality shines.
/r/seduction03/08/12 06:02 PM
12

Girl who loves Asian guys here checking in. It's not even that I like Asian guys but I prefer white guys or something. I seriously love Asian guys and I always notice them first. I almost exclusively date and hook up with Asian guys. I know this doesn't really help you guys since I'm definitely a rare breed but I did want to back you up where you mentioned that there exist girls who prefer Asian guys. Also, any girl who thinks Asian guys are gross should be forced to watch kpop. Yes some kpop fa…
/r/seduction03/08/12 05:55 PM
2

How often do people encourage negging here though? And LMR is something I want to look into more. The techniques aren't what seduction is about, they're just training wheels for people who need them. Seduction is an attitude. It's an approach to life. It's being a person of value and demonstrating that value in various social settings.
/r/seduction02/08/12 08:40 PM
2

There are problems with all of reddit's userbase. Seddit is better than /r/pics and /r/wtf and /r/videos. Have you been to askreddit? It's bad everywhere. Once the AFCs figure out that it's about self-improvement and not date rape I think they might end up having more respect for women. Women want quality guys and seduction teaches guys how to present themselves as quality.
/r/seduction02/08/12 07:42 PM
4

It's funny cause I'm a woman and a feminist (and a linguist!). You're right about the language. I think I'm sort of expressing how I approach sex and dating and seduction. It usually works out better to let the guy give chase a little because then it's more exciting and interesting for him. But I do a lot of the work during sex so I guess I'm doing a lot of the fucking. But most of the time when I want dick I want the guy to do the work haha. I should not be typing this from inside this office..…
/r/seduction01/08/12 06:49 PM
1

Yeah I got a PM and subscribed but I never really read any of the material. Honestly I haven't read much of the material in seddit's sidebar either. I get that keyboard jockeying gets subscribers but real seduction is done in with real people in the field. The more people you talk to and the more you talk to people the better you get at talking to people. They sent me like 5 PMs total though.
/r/seduction01/08/12 05:31 PM
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Is there really anything wrong with someone just wanting to get their dick wet if it's mutually consensual? Sometimes women just want to be fucked. Sometimes we want to be courted and made love to and treated "properly", but sometimes we just want to ride some dick. I think a lot of the white knight issues with seddit is that they think women are helpless beings who never want raunchy impromptu hookups and they need to be protected from being conned into this kind of sex from dirty pervy guys. W…
/r/seduction01/08/12 05:23 PM
2

They were spamming people with pms.
/r/seduction01/08/12 05:19 PM
1

Thank you for explaining the "females" thing better than I ever could have. It's abundant all over reddit but I think it's particularly detrimental to seddit's reputation because I think a proper understanding of seduction techniques is so important for success in all aspects of life. Seduction is really just learning to interact with people so that they're attracted to you, not necessarily sexually but also in friendly or professional ways.
/r/seduction01/08/12 05:17 PM
1

My point was more that if you have the right attitude, gaming techniques aren't so important. Being flirty and fun comes naturally when you're in the right frame and surrounded with great people.
/r/seduction30/07/12 06:02 PM
1

Congrats on getting in and good luck :]
/r/seduction30/07/12 05:46 PM
2

Have you ever noticed that if you are doing the pretty normal, casual thing in a bar/nightclub kinda setting and you open a girl and it goes well, you start passing on other opportunities, some of which are actually better. Oh god yes. Let me tell you about the guys I've been talking to lately. Entrepreneur and martial arts instructor with an amazing body (my height) and one of the top ten best smiles I've seen. Our first IM conversation consisted of making a sexual bucket list for me. Oh and he…
/r/seduction30/07/12 05:36 PM
3

Go out more. Talk to more girls. Day game. There isn't much for 18 year olds to do, depending on your location. I think the most important thing is to set your attitude and mindset for college. You're going to be meeting a TON of new people in a very short time. Be super friendly and make friends with everyone. Practice being a good listener. Be open to new invitations. I learned this the hard way. College isn't about being competitive. It's about making connections. Form study groups, invite pe…
/r/seduction30/07/12 05:15 PM
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Yeah it comes across as a little redundant. Not really needy, just like, "Um why are you telling me this?" Also it sounds a little outcome-dependent. I've learned the hard way after burning bridges with people I sort of dated or hooked up with that even if things don't work out, it's nice to have cool people in your network. Like, if you throw a party. Or to set up your single friend with. Or whatever. I've stopped using seduction to find a relationship (mostly because I can't decide if I want o…
/r/seduction30/07/12 04:53 PM
2

What did you say in the text? If you're not really talking anymore and she's avoiding making plans with you then sending a goodbye text is probably unnecessary.
/r/seduction30/07/12 04:38 PM
0

I'm in the same boat. I've met so many cool people on OkCupid that I don't really feel the need to approach people IRL. I mean if I'm at a club and I want to dance with a guy then sure. I don't get out much where I'll see really gorgeous guys now but I'm going to start approaching the 8s and 9s that I do see. When I'm not on a date already haha. Or maybe with the right date. I'm on a bit of an ego trip this weekend, sorry guys.
/r/seduction30/07/12 02:38 AM
2

I think your hands should be talking to my tits. Um wait what? Sorry I somehow wandered back here from /r/ladybonersgw I'm thinking of making a post on text/sext game as soon as I finish this million page reading I haven't started. Anyone interested?
/r/seduction29/07/12 11:32 PM
1

Haha no I was a prude back then. Actually it went sort of like this: 8th - 9th grade: little skank/heartbreaker 10th grade to 2nd year of college: prude/sexually frustrated/antisocial 2nd - 3rd year of college: serious relationship, first love, lost virginity Age 21: woohoo!
/r/seduction29/07/12 09:14 PM
1

I've been this person since middle school. Definitely picked it up from my environment. I've gotten better though. On a related note, please don't be one of those guys who tries to solve my problems when I'm venting to you. You don't need to tell me what to do 30 seconds after hearing about what's going on in my life. I've probably thought of and tried every solution you'll come up with. I say this because a handful of guys have been giving me unsolicited advice every time I express sadness abou…
/r/seduction29/07/12 09:09 PM
1

What part of California are you in? That's like saying, "I'm going to be in France for an internship, where should I game?" California is huge. You're not 21 so shit's going to be pretty hard. I almost want to recommend flirting with girls in your internship program if it's that kind of thing. Make friends with all the young people, invite people to hang at your apartment or wherever you live, have people hook you up with booze, get invited to house parties. If you happen to be in Santa Barbara …
/r/seduction29/07/12 08:49 PM
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No I get what it means. I'm pretty good with words, I did my undergrad in linguistics. It just felt like an attack on girls like me, even if I haven't cheated or done anything malicious. Lots of girls get confused like that, so I sympathize a little. Like I told someone else, I prefer "vine-swinger", I think because it implies that the girl is more immature and doesn't know what she wants. "Cock-hopper" is more accusatory. I mean it's not really a big deal. I think I was mostly sad because cock-…
/r/seduction29/07/12 08:43 PM
1

I've graduated from college and I'm still hung up on what all the cute genius guys I went to high school with think of me. They probably won't even go to the reunion. I need to get over it and live my life.
/r/seduction29/07/12 08:36 PM
3

I think you're giving yourself a hard time, and it sucks that your parents think less of you now. My parents have been getting high since they were in high school and they're just now quitting (because my dad was diagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia of all things) so I can't really relate to you there I guess. But just because you did something illegal doesn't mean it was morally wrong. Forget what your parents think, just explain to employers and landlords that it was a stupid mistake in colle…
/r/seduction29/07/12 08:24 PM
5

I like "vine-swingers" better haha
/r/seduction29/07/12 07:05 PM
1

Ha I usually find beginner classes to have more of the geriatric crowd. If you want to attract girls by just being sexy and awesome, do bikram every day at 6am. That's where the really hot girls are, and they'll respect you for it. Be friendly and chatty with everyone after class and people will just know you as the hot bikram guy. Plus your body fat % will drop like crazy. It's great for cutting.
/r/seduction29/07/12 06:50 PM
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I'm right there with you. Sometimes you need to turn your brain off and just do.
/r/seduction29/07/12 05:53 PM
14

I'm a woman. I think because it's a little slut-shamey. I know you're talking about girls who cheat but I can see it being used derogatorily for girls who have a lot of casual sex.
/r/seduction29/07/12 04:59 PM
2

This is really interesting. I'm interested in polyamory and I'm talking to a number of guys right now. "Talking to" is the euphemism I use for guys I'm interested in/already sleeping with but not really sure if I have feelings for. I say I'm "sort of dating" a guy when I start to have feelings for him and I can picture it going somewhere more serious. I say it a lot. "Dating" is like the next step after that, when you spend way too much time together and lie in bed all weekend fucking and cuddli…
/r/seduction29/07/12 04:56 PM
2

Single as in unmarried. Like on your taxes.
/r/seduction29/07/12 04:44 PM
7

This term makes me sad. :(
/r/seduction29/07/12 04:44 PM
0

Yeah I have problems with being too wordy so I'm trying to clean up my writing style a bit.
/r/seduction29/07/12 06:10 AM
0

First time being an exhibitionist. Definitely not my last ;]
/r/seduction29/07/12 06:08 AM
4

Girl here. I'm getting better about this (more for the sake of interviews than anything else) but I definitely look around when I'm nervous. I want to dispel the notion in this community that hot girls are all totally confident. Not all pretty girls are used to male attention for whatever reason especially the nerdy/smart ones.
/r/seduction29/07/12 03:43 AM
0

;]
/r/seduction29/07/12 03:28 AM
3

Also *pique.
/r/seduction29/07/12 01:01 AM
2

Lots of sexy dancing and drag queens and making out and groping. Idk whose hands were whose. The four of us were sandwiched a lot. The after party was where the real fun began. The hot tub had a no-clothing rule. Making out naked on a couch escalates rather quickly. I only sucked three dicks. Ha. I don't think anyone came, too much booze. But it was way fun. I'd like to try it without alcohol. Factoring in nervousness and escalated horniness might make things even more interesting.
/r/seduction29/07/12 12:59 AM
3

Over at /r/C25K we tell the slowest runners that they're lapping everyone on the couch. Get your ass out there and talk to everyone.
/r/seduction28/07/12 10:08 PM
3

Yes. Talk to more women.
/r/seduction27/07/12 04:26 PM
3

Or the people who choose to write FRs are the ones who write well. I get laid all the time but I hate going through the details of it all. I prioritize shit that nobody cares about and I leave out things that people want to know.
/r/seduction26/07/12 01:02 PM
1

Girl here, you just made me realize I did the exact same thing. Between going to bars and finally embracing the party scene at my school, getting laid was a million times easier.
/r/seduction25/07/12 05:38 PM
3

Ouch.
/r/seduction25/07/12 05:33 PM
0

Don't even get me started on Korean pop. Koreans are seriously the cheesiest lyric writers in the world.
/r/seduction25/07/12 05:30 PM
13

Thank you for getting guys to use their voices. It's such an attractive trait and it's a fairly easy one to fix (compared to losing 30lbs or something).
/r/seduction25/07/12 05:21 AM
4

It kind of makes me sad that folks need that much guidance to make themselves not look like slobs but I guess that's why they're here, right?
/r/seduction22/07/12 02:29 AM
2

Yeah euro coins are way better anyway. Disregard my suggestion. Plus there's actually cool stuff to do in Germany. Fuck America, especially the suburbs.
/r/seduction21/07/12 09:02 PM
10

Ok I did think about that as I was writing my comment. The one time I folded a tip it was for a bartender at a gay bar that my friend and I were chatting with. He thought it was super cute and he wanted to wear it. It probably helps that it was a good tip too, like a $5 bill for the rose and another $1 for the stem. If you're making friends with the waiter and it's a good tip, it's a DHV. People will remember you. If you just make a crane or some shit with a $1 bill everywhere you go with no con…
/r/seduction21/07/12 08:50 PM
13

Easy fix: gym, diet, haircut, clothes.
/r/seduction21/07/12 08:40 PM
1

There are tons of tutorials for folding shit with money all over the internet. Take an hour to learn a few things.
/r/seduction21/07/12 08:38 PM
12

It's easy to learn origami with money and it's a lot more appropriate in a bar setting. Plus bartenders and waitresses love it.
/r/seduction21/07/12 08:37 PM
5

No man, all women are hot virginal sex goddesses who make sublime sandwiches and give amazing blow jobs. Except the fat ones. They can go die somewhere.
/r/seduction21/07/12 12:16 PM
7

Gym. Shower. Blast club music on the drive/commute home. Dance. Don't masturbate for a couple days. Sing. Try on different outfits. I'm a girl, ymmv. Edit: for what it's worth, I also have a long commute to get to the clubs and very few friends who would go with me. I've taken to staying home and saving my money. Meeting guys on okc works better for my interests anyway.
/r/seduction21/07/12 12:07 PM
5

"when you go up to a girl, talk to her like you've known her your entire life." Do this with everyone. Acquire social skills.
/r/seduction19/07/12 07:52 PM
2

Generally, it's good to have plans or things to do after a date because then it doesn't get drawn out too long. If you end it with something else to do, it builds anticipation for next time. I've made the mistake of drawing out dates for too long. Even something as stupid as "Oh I have to go study" is enough. Here, OP is just an idiot. Touch her, you fool!
/r/seduction15/07/12 09:07 PM
6

This is my favorite
/r/seduction15/07/12 09:05 PM
0

Hmm maybe I misremembered. I remember seeing a few photos like, "Dayum I woulda totally hit that back in the day." Although you might have just picked the least flattering photo on Google Images. Uh yeah he's totally cute in 90% of these pictures. I'm on my phone but I scrolled through the first dozen or so and Mick was a hottie. But most guys are also really cute if they're fit and healthy and they have good hygiene. Cut your hair, shave your face, eat right, lift some weights, and you'll be in…
/r/seduction13/07/12 09:07 PM
9

Embrace silence. It forces you to think about what you say before you say it. I'm totally guilty of this too though. Not the complaining, but more just talking way too much.
/r/seduction13/07/12 08:53 PM
1

Mick was a hottie when he was younger.
/r/seduction13/07/12 08:52 PM
1

You pay like $25 a month or something. Idk I'm still living under my parents' roof but that's what I remember hearing it cost when they got it a few years back. Apparently for T-Mobile it's $15 or $20. I have Verizon so I'm probably getting ripped off.
/r/seduction13/07/12 03:03 PM
3

It's 2012, you're supposed to have conversations via text. That's why it's unlimited.
/r/seduction12/07/12 04:15 PM
2

Haha I do NOT trust my friends to approve of guys for me. We all have completely different tastes.
/r/seduction06/07/12 05:53 PM
3

Right, so if I want to be trained in the art of gold digging I should move to eastern europe.
/r/seduction06/07/12 05:49 PM
2

I'm a woman and I hold the door open for lots of people. It's a nice thing to do, especially if you're leading her somewhere.
/r/seduction05/07/12 01:13 AM
1

Where some women get tramp stamps. Or where your hand naturally rests when you put it there. I'm surprised so many people haven't heard of this.
/r/seduction05/07/12 01:12 AM
4

Dammit I really need to get laid. Great advice! The arms under her shoulders thing is great. More options for missionary include gripping her behind the neck, pulling her hair at the lower hairline, interlocking fingers (although this might be too intimate for a first time), cupping/grabbing her butt, caressing her legs (please do this! my legs are begging for attention), gently scratching her back, gah anything on my back and shoulders and neck, dammit I'm horny now. Depending on how long the g…
/r/seduction03/07/12 09:57 AM
2

The problem with pay sites is the only people on there are the suckers who paid for it. Stick to free sites, there are more people.
/r/seduction27/06/12 05:59 AM
3

It's not seduction. He's making the best of a bad situation. Right now we're in /r/helpinggetyoulaid
/r/seduction27/06/12 05:56 AM
5

There are tons of girls who want to fix/mother/care for guys. Find one.
/r/seduction27/06/12 03:24 AM
3

Woman here, I was too distracted by your shower visual to read the rest of the post.
/r/seduction25/06/12 04:50 AM
2

Omg the "u" and "ur" stuff hurts to read. I forgot that people text like that.
/r/seduction24/06/12 08:47 PM
1

Just dance? You don't need to talk to someone to seduce them. Just take her hands and pull them up to your neck. Can't dance? Learn.
/r/seduction24/06/12 05:02 PM
-3

Wow. You're introverted. You don't like when people compliment you. Good for you. Don't apply this to the rest of us.
/r/seduction19/06/12 04:05 AM
1

You still have a chance to build attraction. This is when you're first meeting her. It's less about what she says and more about the way she says it.
/r/seduction19/06/12 04:02 AM
2

As a woman who prides herself in her handshake, this is great. Can we stop encouraging the limp fish syndrome? It weirds me out.
/r/seduction19/06/12 03:59 AM
3

I always try to make eye contact during doggy but it's hard to twist around like that when I'm getting fucked properly and trying not to get my head smashed into a wall. The way my arms have to go prevents me from turning very far. But maybe a more flexible girl could do it.
/r/seduction17/06/12 03:24 PM
3

Wear the shirt under your clothes and show it to the girls you talk to. Actually this might only work on the nerdy ones like me.
/r/seduction17/06/12 03:21 PM
8

"Let's do 6:15 just to be safe then." It's about leading and setting expectations for future behavior.
/r/seduction13/06/12 11:32 PM
2

Just meet a lot of girls and be awesome/open and exchange your number with them. Eventually you'll get a few who like you enough to text you randomly. Also lift weights and eat clean. It makes it more likely that girls will randomly like you with little work on your part.
/r/seduction13/06/12 04:53 PM
3

What's going on here is that the girl is already interested in OP. That's why she texted him out of the blue. Gentlemen, when a girl texts you random shit it means she wants you. Or she's bored. Both ---> sex. Seriously, trust me on this one.
/r/seduction12/06/12 09:17 PM
1

Alpha is a fake ideal touted in dating advice because people are lazy and like easy terms to describe things that they only slightly understand. This is exactly my point. The terms we use are tools to help people learn new behavior that helps them achieve their goals. It doesn't matter if we call it "alpha" or "omega" or "kamikaze", it just represents a type of attitude and behavior we like to discuss.
/r/seduction12/06/12 09:12 PM
1

If she's texting you out of the blue telling you mundane things about your life, you're probably in the clear. Take risks, man. Grab life by the balls.
/r/seduction12/06/12 09:07 PM
1

That's funny because as a girl, this is the perfect response. Like it makes ME want to impress OP. Don't be afraid to escalate and get sexual. It's easy as shit via text.
/r/seduction12/06/12 08:09 PM
2

I'm a linguist. Everything we say is made up. Sorry if I didn't make that clear, that's more along the lines of what I meant.
/r/seduction12/06/12 06:21 PM
1

Because all gay guys sound the same amirite??
/r/seduction12/06/12 06:09 AM
3

Keep it up, and be harsh. Seddit coddles a lot of the AFCs here and what they really need is to gtf off their computer and talk to every girl they see until they learn to stop being awkward (which comes across as creepy). Then they need to figure out wtf they're doing with their life beyond trying to get laid and learn to balance as they pursue that. The most attractive people I've known have been the ones who have experienced life to the point that they don't even think about it anymore. They'r…
/r/seduction12/06/12 05:58 AM
1

Oh we're beyond agreeing here. All of this shit is made up. They're tools to help you live the life you want. We give them names so AFCs don't have an aneurism trying to analyze the shit out of it. I'm a woman and I have no trouble getting laid so it's not like it's an issue for me. I think other posters don't realize how much they hurt themselves when they misunderstand and stereotype gender/sexual minority people like this.
/r/seduction12/06/12 05:47 AM
2

This whole post and all the comments demonstrate such a misunderstanding of gender and sexuality that I don't even know where to start. Alpha is an attitude, and a lifestyle. It has nothing to do with your sex life. Sex is a side effect of the attitude.
/r/seduction12/06/12 05:37 AM
3

Linguist and female sedditor here, everything here has my approval (not that it matters). I've written all kinds of manifestos and memorized all kinds of adjectives I want to be like. For over five years I've done this countless ways with all kinds of words I wanted my life to be like. But honestly, I didn't become a runner when I told myself I was a runner. I became a runner when I got sick of sitting on my ass and went outside to run. Now I'm on the last week of C25K and I'll be working up to …
/r/seduction07/06/12 05:21 AM
10

This is like those fedoras that guys think they can wear. They look good on other people (very few of them). Not you.
/r/seduction30/05/12 08:12 PM
2

Ok you're definitely a medium then, maybe even a small. Try the 511s first, they'll make your legs look longer. And eat something! I'm 5'8 and I weigh 30lbs more than you.
/r/seduction30/05/12 08:11 PM
8

No. Rounded toe is better.
/r/seduction30/05/12 06:50 PM
3

http://us.levi.com/shop/index.jsp?categoryId=12402008&cp=3146842.3146855&ab=leftnav:byfit:men'sfitspectrum:12402008
/r/seduction30/05/12 05:35 PM
9

You're very good looking and young. If you could respond with your height and weight it would help a little but I'm going based off your proportions now. Go to a Levi's store and try on a few pairs of dark indigo jeans with no fading in 511, 513, and 514 cuts. Figure out what fits and start searching for them on sale at different stores and websites. Next go to Target and get some Merona v-necks: black, navy, grey, light blue, dark green, burgundy. Or buy this multi-pack from American Apparel in…
/r/seduction30/05/12 05:29 PM
32

Find your receipt! Square toes are universally garish.
/r/seduction30/05/12 05:14 PM
2

You do sales for a living but you can't approach girls? Shit, girls are the easy part. You don't have to worry about not being able to make rent or buy groceries when you fuck up with girls. Just go out and have fun, try to make people laugh. You're in an open marriage. You seriously have nothing to lose. You know about building rapport? Talking to girls is 100% practicing that. Why do we call it a k-close and an f-close? Because seduction is exactly like sales. People make decisions based on th…
/r/seduction28/05/12 05:56 AM
1

If you don't want the guy touching you, why don't you move or something so he can't? That's better than sending mixed signals. Getting someone's hopes up isn't nice.
/r/seduction27/05/12 01:04 AM
1

You don't speak for the rest of us.
/r/seduction27/05/12 01:03 AM
6

This makes you sound even needier and more dramatic. No matter how you put it. She's not interested, don't waste your time. Move on and find a girl who isn't as much work. And op, if your hand is around her waist, that's the ok to go in for a real kiss.
/r/seduction27/05/12 01:01 AM
5

Well yeah (guy in my case) but I didn't post on the internet about staring at him while he was asleep. Or compare him to porn. I've totally done that in my journals though. I should burn that shit. I guess you're right. I think I jumped on the SRD "fake" bandwagon. I can imagine this happening. Did you read the edits he deleted though?
/r/seduction26/05/12 06:32 AM
46

Honestly I hope this whole thing was fake because I can't believe how creepy the guy is. On the other hand, though, it's good for everyone to keep in mind that people like this do exist out there and they need serious help.
/r/seduction26/05/12 04:55 AM
7

It's called a dysphemism but I literally have not used that word in my four years as a linguistics undergrad. There's definitely another term that's more common but I can't think of it. Your example would be more like technical/medical jargon than a true dysphemism anyway.
/r/seduction20/05/12 05:20 PM
1

I just got tested and I'm clean, thankyouverymuch. Honestly though, can we quit with the slut shaming? It is the female equivalent of forever alones/nice guys shaming PUAs for being "douchebags" or "manipulative" or whatever. Everyone has different tastes and different ways of deciding who to sleep with. Sometimes a girl will just want to go out and find someone to sleep with, and that guy grinding up on her just right fits the bill. Other times she'll be looking for someone that's boyfriend mat…
/r/seduction19/05/12 07:42 AM
1

I like you. All good points right here.
/r/seduction19/05/12 07:36 AM
2

Let me put on my slightly larger glasses...
/r/seduction16/05/12 03:04 PM
2

This is where alcohol comes in.
/r/seduction12/05/12 05:35 PM
1

I think this is an attractiveness thing. If the guy is good looking he probably takes care of himself more and girls will respond better to that. If he's a slob then it's gross.
/r/seduction12/05/12 10:31 AM
2

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6vwNcNOTVzY
/r/seduction09/05/12 08:26 PM
13

useless whores Hey this is a sex-positive place. Just cause someone doesn't fit your criteria doesn't make them useless, or a whore. Trying not to scare out the women who are interested in this community and do give great advice when given the opportunity. Or even just the women who might be interested in the guys on here. You can approach sex and seduction however you want but don't bring down the people taking charge of their sexuality, especially with the Puritan bullshit we get in American s…
/r/seduction09/05/12 08:18 PM
2

Yeah a real dick/pussy is much better than ol' righty.
/r/seduction09/05/12 08:15 PM
2

Maybe they were speaking English. I say this as someone who lived in a European country.
/r/seduction09/05/12 10:00 AM
2

Because we don't know any better. That's why it's so important have an abundance mentality. It's like eating oatmeal every day and then suddenly having a burger. It's going to taste like the best thing you've ever eaten and suddenly it'll be your all-time favorite food, because you don't know any better. I don't have a favorite food because I eat a variety of good food. And I don't have oneitis because I can get dick pretty quickly if I'm craving it. It's all different and no one is inherently b…
/r/seduction05/05/12 04:16 AM
6

I got laid last night after telling a guy I thought he was cute. I know it's different because I'm a girl but I definitely noticed some interesting things. Here's how the conversation went (it was in person): Me: Hey, you're really cute. Him: Thanks, you're cute too. Me: :] Thanks (this is where the conversation usually collapses and I awkwardly go back to my friends) Him: I've been looking for a girl to dance with, want to go dance? Me: Sure We go dance, within ten minutes we're making out and …
/r/seduction05/05/12 02:20 AM
2

Turning off your brain and just talking to people like they're normal human beings.
/r/seduction30/04/12 03:28 AM
4

Woman here. Honestly I don't think it's a problem that women are deciding not to get married. Marriage shouldn't be something to check off your bucket list, and if you feel like you don't want to spend the rest of your life with a person then you shouldn't marry them. If a woman has the resources to raise a kid on her own then I think that's great. I'm a strong supporter of adoption by older (40+) potential parents because their lives are more likely to be secure and stable. The problem shows up…
/r/seduction29/04/12 08:46 AM
3

fPUA here. The way I think of negs is like teasing. If you're using it in any other way then you should probably just do something else.
/r/seduction26/04/12 12:53 PM
3

We don't want to feel responsible for breaking naive hearts or causing babies to have babies. Or something like that.
/r/seduction26/04/12 12:50 PM
1

The HB scale sort of acts like a pronoun when writing FRs so you don't have to keep saying "that first girl" and "this new girl" and so you also don't have to use their names. For me it really streamlines the FR and makes it easier to read, because what the person rated the girl is irrelevant except to figure out who their target is.
/r/seduction26/04/12 12:46 PM
0

Totally agreed on the first two.
/r/seduction26/04/12 12:43 PM
5

Honestly I don't like this girl. Those aren't shit tests, that's her being bitchy and power-tripping. About your job, you can mostly keep it vague: "I work for the government." And depending on what specifically you do during the day you can give details. I'm sure your job can't be that terrible if you do it every day. Basically girls want to know the kind of work you do because it gives us more insight into your personality and character. Think about the difference between someone in IT versus …
/r/seduction22/04/12 06:05 AM
1

Treat it like an IOI. Just assume interest. Also this is a question for /r/askseddit.
/r/seduction19/04/12 09:05 PM
3

You say that like it's a bad thing. Signed, Resident nympho
/r/seduction18/04/12 03:19 PM
1

I actually don't spend a lot of time there, but I'll definitely start!
/r/seduction18/04/12 12:46 AM
1

I'm not sure why you're telling me all this but I'll bite. I think she sounds a little extreme. I mean I have my old love letters from one of my exes but it's not like I keep them under my pillow and read them every night. If the guy can't seem to live without talking to his ex all the time then he's obviously not over her and the new girl is probably better off finding someone else to date.
/r/seduction17/04/12 11:59 PM
1

Oh yeah that would piss me off. If the girl doesn't like it she should find someone else, because this guy isn't going to change for her. Dammit I really need to take my own advice sometimes. Ughh
/r/seduction17/04/12 11:43 PM
2

This sounds like a joke but I'll answer it anyway because what the hell. I don't like when someone's ex is still in their life. I've never seen it play out well, unless the relationship never got serious and so they were able to stay friends. If you loved somebody and the relationship ended and one or both of you was hurt, it's healthier to just move the fuck on. Other people disagree with me, but I think the new people in your life and their feelings should get priority over people from your pa…
/r/seduction17/04/12 11:30 PM
3

Well a crotch says a lot about a guy: his fitness level, how he dresses himself (brand/quality/fit of pants), and sometimes there's a bulge. Even if there isn't a bulge, crotches are sexy. Compare this crotch to this crotch. Obviously it comes packaged (LULZ) with the rest of the man, but the crotch is an important part. Also the second guy has a very slight bulge, but it's enough to make the picture that much more sexual. Generally when I look at a guy I see face, chest/torso, crotch. Not neces…
/r/seduction17/04/12 05:29 PM
4

;]
/r/seduction17/04/12 05:20 PM
9

Woman here, I almost always check out a guy's crotch. But I've been accused of being a nympho by a handful of people so I might not be the best example.
/r/seduction17/04/12 02:33 PM
4

fPUA here, and I basically realized this in the last year. Everyone in my life treats relationships as an accomplishment to check off. In my psych class we talked about where we see ourselves in ten years, and the girl next to me basically assumed she's be married and own a home. It weirds me out now.
/r/seduction15/04/12 09:34 PM
1

I recommend this to my female friends but I think it would do a lot of good for the gentlemen of seddit as well: "He's Just Not That Into You", the audiobook. If you don't mind being called a pretty girl and dealing with opposite pronouns, it really is a great listen and a lot of AFCs need to hear it.
/r/seduction15/04/12 09:30 PM
5

Yeah it sounds like this guy hasn't seen the notebook in a while. But every other rom com or romantic drama is guilty of this so I'll let it slide.
/r/seduction12/04/12 11:55 PM
5

"I bet you like that." "Oh we'll have to find out later." "Are you sure about that?" winksmile These are called innuendo. It's like "That's what she said" but sexier. Drop them in at appropriate moment (you already know what these are, just use one of these phrases instead of "That's what she said"). How do you make it not creepy? Don't second guess yourself. Say it like you're saying it to your best guy friend. This is why guys who are comfortable with their sexuality and flirt with their guy f…
/r/seduction12/04/12 01:23 AM
1

I totally did #1 yesterday. Grad school example and everything. I realized as I was saying it and I couldn't stop it from coming out of my mouth. Eh, I don't really like the person anyway. But it's not a good idea for me to make enemies like this.
/r/seduction12/04/12 01:20 AM
1

Assume attraction, and follow those intuitions.
/r/seduction10/04/12 08:07 AM
1

Maybe you should sign up for private lessons.
/r/seduction02/04/12 11:01 PM
12

I think it's the one where you approach and then ask the girl if she wants to go home with you. You: Hi Her: Hi You: Do you have any plans after this? Her: No/Not really/Etc. You: Do you want to go home with me? And sometimes you'll get a yes. Other times she laughs and you talk about other things, but later she'll go home with you. Someone correct me if I'm wrong.
/r/seduction02/04/12 06:53 PM
1

This advice is aimed at guys. Girls can do whatever the hell they want, I'm sure I could get laid off a sexy fax if I tried. Yeah this is the clincher. A guy has asked me "So why haven't we fucked yet?" via text before and it worked. But that's probably not going to work for a lot of the guys on here until they're comfortable with their sexuality, etc. Also part of me thinks I use texting as a crutch, but the other part knows that when I'm forward in person I usually scare people off. I'm not at…
/r/seduction02/04/12 06:46 PM
1

Honesty it really depends on what you're comfortable with. I had a same day lay that transitioned into the perfect fwb situation after finding a guy on OkCupid. We started texting and sending sexy pics, and he recognized my bathroom mirror--turns out we live in the same apartment building. I'm 21 and I've been texting since I was 13. It's a more natural way for me to escalate when I'm not with the person. I've been flirting via text as long as I can remember. And it clearly works, considering th…
/r/seduction02/04/12 03:05 PM
2

Girl here, just flirt and then be straight up about not wanting a relationship or anything right now. This is most easily done over text. Then escalate sexually. If she's already interested in you and is cool with being casual, it should be in the bag. The biggest deal for me here is logistics. Source: three successful fwb situations and two less than successful ones (where feelings got involved), as well as a handful of same day lays that could have been fwb if the person were actually cool.
/r/seduction02/04/12 05:31 AM
1

This is exactly the kind of shit that I love on here.
/r/seduction01/04/12 06:06 AM
22

Girl here, if I'm making out with you and I feel a boner, I'm going to want to get you off. Idk if other girls are like this but I've basically been programmed to "take care of" any boner that I helped create. Don't be ashamed of your boner. Boners are sexy.
/r/seduction30/03/12 04:08 PM
4

Always worth a try. Start with the fingers, teasing the lobe. I can't stand a tongue in my ear so save that for later after you talk about kinks.
/r/seduction30/03/12 04:07 PM
5

Because I've experienced guys who are really this clueless, don't bite hard. Just graze with your teeth. And suck a little. And then go back to making out.
/r/seduction30/03/12 03:59 PM
1

It seems so alien to me that the friends would be hovering the whole time. Are most girls really that dependent on each other? I mean even when I meet a guy usually I'm just like, "Alright guys, see you later" and I bail. Girls are weird.
/r/seduction29/03/12 02:58 PM
1

What did you say? Can you give a summary of the whole situation? Maybe we can help you from there.
/r/seduction28/03/12 04:16 AM
1

I like, "Is it? Are you buying dinner?"
/r/seduction28/03/12 02:48 AM
0

I like "Do you want it to be?" She doesn't have to respond, you just smile and play with her hand at that point. One guy I'm seeing right now who I keep going back to even though it's never gonna work says these cocky things like, "Oh you're falling for me" and "Look, you're getting attached!" and for some reason it works. It helps that the sex is awesome and he's pretty smooth, which you wouldn't guess by looking at him.
/r/seduction28/03/12 02:45 AM
2

Yeah, no. Depending on how cute the guy is (and if I'm in a situation where it could be a date, the guy is probably cute), I'm going to smile and try harder to win him. Mostly subconsciously, but a guy who says that is clever and that's something I'm looking for.
/r/seduction28/03/12 02:36 AM
1

I mean the people I end up talking to these things about are usually weeded out by friends, campus organizations, or OkCupid. And I go to a very liberal UC so it's not like we're full of bigoted crazies.
/r/seduction27/03/12 03:46 AM
1

I have the opposite problem (if you can call it a problem). I'm not interested in a relationship but I still have fun meeting people and going on dates, partially because I want to work on my social/networking skills. I'm pretty optimistic and I just like talking to interesting people and making friends. One of the ways I summarize seduction is that you're "making friends with everybody", which implies that you're being open, fun, valuable, and attractive. I think it's a nice way to approach lif…
/r/seduction26/03/12 10:08 AM
1

Woman here (who has been complimented on her intelligence despite her promiscuous/party lifestyle), why don't you just talk about politics, sex, and religion before things drag out too much? I mean, I usually get those things out of the way in the first few conversations. It's a great way to weed out your options.
/r/seduction26/03/12 10:04 AM
6

As a woman who has to deal with button up shirts that never fit properly, button up shirts are shirts, not outerwear. Of course it doesn't look terrible to have a visible t-shirt underneath but it looks so much cleaner just to have the button up. Take advantage of your male physique and keep it slick.
/r/seduction26/03/12 12:01 AM
6

It's not what he said but how he said it and what he was doing while saying it. Aw man I hope this shit is real because OP is so sexy right now.
/r/seduction24/03/12 10:25 PM
4

I think I'm turning into seddit's groupie.
/r/seduction22/03/12 07:47 AM
4

You just made me realize that I picture Tofu as GGG.
/r/seduction22/03/12 06:52 AM
8

I have so much to learn from you, Tofu-sensei. Japanese and people skills are my two crucial points right now.
/r/seduction22/03/12 06:51 AM
2

Go out, approach, come home, write it down (either in a journal or in an FR). Figure out your mistakes. Repeat ad infinitum until you're a pro.
/r/seduction21/03/12 05:50 AM
2

Every time I see you comment it makes me happy. I'm really broke now but once I have money I'd like to buy you a drink.
/r/seduction20/03/12 12:42 AM
2

Find someplace that has salsa dancing and flirt with a cute girl to teach you.
/r/seduction17/03/12 03:11 AM
2

Tbh I'm guilty of this. Definitely not 100% of the time though.
/r/seduction17/03/12 02:51 AM
1

I'm looking at the greater Tokyo metropolitan area right now but it basically depends on where I find work. I have an interview in two weeks for a marketing position with one company and I've been applying to English teaching jobs. If I don't get hired before graduation I'm planning to fly over there, volunteer in Fukushima, and then apply to the hundreds of teaching jobs on GaijinPot that require you to be in Japan. I've never been to Japan before so I'm super excited.
/r/seduction15/03/12 07:03 PM
2

Great post, Tofu, I'm pretty sure this is where I'm at right now. I have a fuckbuddy in my apartment building with an amazing dick so I don't feel like trying when it comes to approaching other dudes. I've been working on my coy smile a bit but in my day to day school life I just don't care about day game or even looking cute. Also I'm moving to Japan in June or July so American guys aren't my priority right now. I really need a Japanese penpal.
/r/seduction15/03/12 06:30 PM
1

No-fap is meant to motivate you to go out and meet women once you're already good at talking to them. For you, some therapy and a lot of personal growth will be required so you can at least have female friends before you start challenging yourself to up the ante sexually without resorting to prostitutes as a fallback.
/r/seduction14/03/12 01:35 AM
19

Not only have we had diarrhea, we've had diarrhea while on our periods. ;D
/r/seduction12/03/12 11:18 PM
1

Hey if I were with my parents and a guy had the balls to approach me, my parents would be rooting for him and pestering me to go on a date. They've been trying to get me married since kindergarten though, so I might be the exception.
/r/seduction12/03/12 06:57 PM
14

"Maybe later", so simple, and yet so perfect. I'm definitely using this soon.
/r/seduction11/03/12 11:16 PM
1

I'm jealous, nobody has ever helicoptered me before.
/r/seduction11/03/12 11:12 PM
5

Girl here who had a guy over for drinks last night, maybe I can help. Bring wine if you like it ($3ish golden gate shiraz is really good actually). When you first greet each other, hug her. Let her sit first and then immediately sit close to her and put your arm around her. Don't make the mistake of slowly building that closeness, it's too obvious that way. Be your flirty awesome self. But! Don't interrupt her or correct her. I've been getting that a lot from guys lately, about things that have …
/r/seduction11/03/12 11:11 PM
5

Because at the mall, girls get bombarded with salespeople trying to swindle us into buying their overpriced products. If we look busy and uninterested we'll be more likely to be left alone.
/r/seduction11/03/12 09:01 PM
1

So much of this! I experienced this problem a lot in high school and college when a guy intimidated me and I didn't really make my existence known to him. Shy girls don't get approached like outgoing girls do because we don't get noticed, and when we're scared to talk to a guy we just look bitchy or snobbish when we're really dying of anxiety. We build up in our heads the attraction and anxiety so in real conversation we freeze up and destroy any chance of getting the guy interested in us. AFC g…
/r/seduction11/03/12 05:34 AM
10

Thanks for posting this. As a woman who struggled for a long time in the dating department, I definitely feel like my concerns were dismissed. Although now that I'm getting ass all the time I wonder if the dismissive people were right. Either way it was a long road to get where I am now.
/r/seduction10/03/12 09:17 PM
3

I want to learn from your friends.
/r/seduction06/03/12 07:30 PM
15

Girl here, I just tried this. Genius. My new goal is to smile at a guy this way at least once a day.
/r/seduction06/03/12 07:28 PM
2

Befriend everybody, invite people over. They'll start reciprocating. I mean even if it's just to study and then you say, "Hey are you guys hungry? I can make enchiladas/spaghetti/kangaroo stew if you want some." Food attracts friends super fast. Ask people what they did over the weekend. If they say, "Yeah Jake's party was ragin'" you can even straight up ask, "How do I get in on that? I'll bring a fifth of whiskey." But a lot of the time people will invite you once they realize you're cool. Don…
/r/seduction05/03/12 11:22 PM
6

Unless you never have sex the rest of your life.
/r/seduction05/03/12 03:13 AM
1

Yeah just come clean. My ex had lied and said he wasn't a virgin and didn't come clean until a while later before we lost our virginities to each other. I was kind of mad (cause I said I was a virgin) but I understood the kinds of pressures he was dealing with. Definitely tell her pretty much everything you said here: you lied about your virginity, you want to lose it to someone special, you think she's special, etc.
/r/seduction05/03/12 03:08 AM
2

I took ballet last summer. I have to say, men should wear tights more often.
/r/seduction02/03/12 10:38 PM
5

Freebirds... do you live in IV or in Texas?
/r/seduction29/02/12 05:11 AM
1

He lives in the dorms. You commute. That means when you go home and jerk off, he gets all this time to connect with these girls and build attraction. Find ways of getting into the dorm life, even if you don't live there. Offer to bring beer or pizza for a study party or something. Offer to drive people to the grocery store. Don't be creepy or pushy about it though. I'm sure someone more experienced can explain how to implement these things in a way that works.
/r/seduction29/02/12 05:10 AM
5

I think we're getting lost in the semantics here. My definition of objectifying women vs. treating them like people is different from yours. If I weren't on my phone and if I didn't have work to do I'd explain how historically having put women on a pedestal is an example of objectification, and the sexual liberation of women is the opposite--it's treating women like people. I think I've kind of lost my point here but maybe I've given you something interesting to think about.
/r/seduction27/02/12 05:45 PM
2

Forgive me, I got distracted and I meant to explain that better. I was going to say that there's a happy medium between treating every girl like a princess and thinking of every girl as a piece of meat. And that's called treating women like people. Like how you treat men. Of course men like being considered special, and of course women do too. But if you pine after her it's creepy, and if your thought process is "yeah you're special, bitch", well your seduction is going to come off as insincere.…
/r/seduction27/02/12 05:35 PM
8

I don't get why it's so hard for some people to wrap their head around the fact that women are people. People who respond to emotional stimuli and who want to be around the fun guy and who want good sex. Obviously, women deal with different cultural issues than men, but PUAs are aware of that and that's where many aspects of seduction come in.
/r/seduction27/02/12 05:22 PM
4

Not objectifying women doesn't mean falling in love with every single girl you meet. It just means treating women as people (who you aren't close to yet so they don't need to play a huge role in your life).
/r/seduction27/02/12 05:16 PM
2

5'8, 163ish lbs, size 10-12 pants, 32F bra. I'm tall and I weight a lot but I have a nice face. I think I'm fat sometimes but mostly because I'm top-heavy and I hang around cute little Asian girls who wear cute clothes that don't suit my body type. I posted pics to the latest body fat Friday thread on r/fitness if you're bothered to look for mostly naked pics of me. I know I have weight to lose but I feel like I look good in my clothes and it hasn't stopped me from getting laid. It's probably ti…
/r/seduction27/02/12 04:09 AM
4

Excellent post, you explained exactly why all of this works so well. I'm guilty of overtexting so I should work on backing off a bit so my texts are more exciting when the guy gets it. Also it's great that you included opportunities for the girl to suggest meeting up sooner but you don't suggest meeting up until the third text.
/r/seduction27/02/12 01:26 AM
6

Man I was so turned on until that last paragraph. Dammit you sexy bastard.
/r/seduction27/02/12 01:20 AM
11

"Well that's what I assumed from how you act around me." See how her behavior changes.
/r/seduction27/02/12 01:17 AM
2

Like someone said elsewhere, I wouldn't put all your eggs in one basket. Different girls might respond differently, and anyway it's just sexier to seduce her properly.
/r/seduction27/02/12 01:16 AM
5

It's too bad you lost a friend there. She could have introduced you to some hot girls. Not that I haven't totally done the exact same thing.
/r/seduction27/02/12 01:11 AM
4

It's soooo annoying! Especially since my circle at school is mainly Japanese language students and Japanese exchange students. They can't handle a girl who actually likes dick. And I think quality guys (hb8-10 with no pua experience) assume there's something wrong with me if I don't want to marry them or whatever. I mean I have problems, but that's not going to stop me from having sex. It's only going to stop me from getting into a relationship (unless it's a sugar daddy type relationship, in wh…
/r/seduction27/02/12 01:04 AM
2

Yeah I mean this is for same day f-closes (which seem to be my specialty). With AFC guys, if I don't escalate then nothing will happen. I love when a guy responds at my pace, but my pace is pretty quick and very few AFCs keep up with that. I really should focus more on exchanging numbers and gradually sexualizing things via text. I guess I'm just really impatient and if I don't get good vibes from a guy right away then there's no use in bothering. I kind of fucked up in that respect just now act…
/r/seduction27/02/12 12:55 AM
2

Good point. Unfortunately I don't really get friend zoned. I make it clear when I'm interested in someone and allow them to reject me. It'd be nice to figure out how to change their minds (I mean, I WANT to suck these guys dicks! I'm not trying to marry them or anything) but I guess not everyone is in it for the sex as much as I am.
/r/seduction26/02/12 11:34 PM
5

Just drop on my knees in the middle of the dance floor. Who'd say no to that?
/r/seduction26/02/12 11:31 PM
4

What's been working for me recently (but has also gotten me quite a few rejections) is approaching, saying "hi", telling the guy he's cute/hot, and sexualizing the conversation a little. I have to be careful that I don't escalate too quickly because that tends to scare guys off. I think the rejections bug me because I still have this mindset that I have boobies so nobody should want to say no. But obviously I understand that everyone is entitled to be attracted or not attracted to any given pers…
/r/seduction26/02/12 11:27 PM
-1

Either this shit is 100% luck for girls, or I'm terrible at analyzing my life. I say that having fucked two guys yesterday. Does anyone want to help me out here?
/r/seduction26/02/12 08:50 PM
24

I wonder if I can use this on AFC guys (basically all of the ones I approach) or if they'll get butthurt and give up.
/r/seduction26/02/12 08:46 PM
1

Oh well from the story it sounded like the guy just showed up uninvited to escort the girl home but it makes more sense that he was asked to give her a ride. I have the "fend for yourselves" mindset so unless it was an emergency I wouldn't get out of bed to pick my friend up or walk them home, I'd be pissed at them for calling me to take care of their bullshit. Blame rebellion against overprotective parents. Also I'm in an area where people aren't stupid enough to drive drunk (we have night buse…
/r/seduction26/02/12 03:37 AM
1

Actually it's harder than you'd think, even for a girl like me just looking for casual sex. Though I just had shower sex 30 mins ago with a fuck buddy so I'm not chronically unsatisfied. But I still don't know how to get a guy interested in me who doesn't see me as hot right off the bat. I think my issue is that I intimidate guys cause I'm already relatively tall and I'm really forward. My goal now is to start acting more coy and girly, which is hard for me. Which reminds me, I should wear a ski…
/r/seduction26/02/12 03:02 AM
1

Occasionally. I like having sex with men more. When I find myself attracted to a woman I just want to fuck her with my penis, but I don't have a penis so that makes it really difficult. I'm not really into boobs because I already have huge boobs, and I used to get excited about eating pussy but lately not so much. Probably cause I ate out this girl I wasn't really sure about and it was meh, and she became clingy afterward. ...I love dick.
/r/seduction26/02/12 02:41 AM
1

Well good for me, I won the genetic jackpot, more or less. I just need to get my lazy ass in the gym (went today for the first time this month!) and plan my meals better. I already wear makeup when I go out, not clown status obviously. Sometimes I'll dress up for class but I don't do day game on campus so it's not worth the effort.
/r/seduction26/02/12 01:28 AM
3

Your friends are idiots. Find new ones. Also if I saw a guy dancing like that I'd be incredibly attracted. I sort of dance like that (I incorporate a lot of robot because people love it and say I'm good at it) and while it hasn't gotten me laid yet it has allowed for some fun nights.
/r/seduction26/02/12 01:23 AM
2

But unlike a women, a guy can go from a zero to a ten with a lot of hard work and dedication. Woman here, please explain why this isn't possible for women?
/r/seduction26/02/12 01:10 AM
1

Well yeah, people's personalities do change as they experience life and mature. I bet your attitude would be a lot different if you went to the gym several times a week, ate healthy food every day, and dressed well than if you lied in bed all day on reddit eating junk (even if you are obese in either case). That is one step in doing things to make good habits and become the kind of person who gets women (not a frat bro, but a confident man).
/r/seduction26/02/12 01:09 AM
6

First I was like, "Rude much? Why don't you try and socialize a bit?" But then I realized he probably left quickly to go cry in his pillow. Yeah we've all been there, but probably not that bad.
/r/seduction26/02/12 01:02 AM
1

Like you're clapping along to music and trying to get other people to clap, you clap and then open your hands wide apart. I think. I hate when people clap to music though.
/r/seduction25/02/12 12:08 AM
1

I think you should say something to break the tension.
/r/seduction25/02/12 12:06 AM
1

Instead of "Why?" people should ask, "What happened?" because then the person will tell you about their day.
/r/seduction23/02/12 08:11 PM
8

I know, is it that hard to ask, "Oh what happened?"
/r/seduction23/02/12 08:10 PM
2

Or even the simpler, "Wow, I'm impressed you're wearing shorts in this weather." And to cheese it up: "You must be a really warm person at heart."
/r/seduction18/02/12 11:30 AM
2

Yeah it's definitely not a good opener. There are much better ways to approach a stranger.
/r/seduction16/02/12 10:01 PM
5

Used that once. Didn't work but after a few more attempts I managed to date the guy for six months. What did work? Talking to him in person instead of stalking him on myspace.
/r/seduction16/02/12 09:57 PM
2

Unless you actually want ecstasy, I can see how this can be funny, where both parties discuss their lack of drug knowledge.
/r/seduction16/02/12 09:56 PM
1

Wow thanks for the input. I definitely need to work on letting the guy be a man. I tend to get impatient and make all the moves (and while redditors claim to want this, in reality it tends to be a turn-off for a lot of guys). Coyness. That's the next thing I'm gonna learn.
/r/seduction15/02/12 04:13 PM
2

Does this work for girls? Or should girls smile for the most part?
/r/seduction15/02/12 12:56 AM
3

We're not talking about making babies, we're talking about morality.
/r/seduction14/02/12 05:50 AM
2

I have been to Houston once! Between connecting flights! Like five years ago! Other than that I have no desire to visit Texas. If you're ever in SoCal, hit me up.
/r/seduction14/02/12 12:24 AM
1

...wink wink hint hint
/r/seduction14/02/12 12:19 AM
3

Potential latex allergies, other reactions, etc.
/r/seduction13/02/12 11:46 PM
6

Especially for the smaller ones! Actually the smaller ones get it all the time. I can and do pick up most of my friends who are 5'4 or shorter. It's us tall girls who really get turned on by being caveman'd into the bedroom. If a guy has no problem carrying me at 5'8 and 160lbs, that says quite a lot about how he's gonna handle me in the bedroom.
/r/seduction13/02/12 11:46 PM
7

Fucking women without condoms is immoral. Not if it's consensual.
/r/seduction13/02/12 11:42 PM
2

That's called alcoholism.
/r/seduction13/02/12 06:48 PM
1

Hey, we're all just pandas here.
/r/seduction13/02/12 06:48 PM
17

Because my parents didn't love me enough?
/r/seduction13/02/12 05:34 AM
1

"I did not have sexual relations with that woman." - Bill Clinton.
/r/seduction13/02/12 05:33 AM
2

I'm actually pretty good at controlling my drunkenness with hard liquor. Plus there's no way I'm giving up the good stuff to drink shitty beer. Isn't all drinking social drinking? Unless you're an alcoholic?
/r/seduction13/02/12 01:38 AM
2

See this just makes me sober. If I'm not careful I sober up way too quickly and then I have to play catch up with my friends.
/r/seduction13/02/12 01:16 AM
-2

I didn't know this but now I'm glad I already have a habit of avoiding beer altogether. Beer is gross anyway, and yeah it probably does do exactly this to me which is why I only vomit when I drink beer.
/r/seduction13/02/12 01:15 AM
2

I am terrified of escalation in public places and in general. I went to party last night, there was a cute girl all the guys tried to hit on, they stuck out miserably. I made conversation, next thing she's on my lap putting her number in my phone. She starts kissing me on side of the face/neck, and I got scared. Told my buddies we should head to the bars and left. This is sadly not even close to the first time something like this has happened. :( Why don't you kiss her back? Any girl would take …
/r/seduction13/02/12 01:14 AM
7

Yeah it's probably better to be like, "I love this song, we should dance!" and lead the situation.
/r/seduction13/02/12 01:10 AM
-2

Put your hands on her waist. Is it really that hard? Move hands down to hips/ass smoothly without hesitation. I would say keep your hands on her hips/waist for the most part and start touching her hair/face when you're going in for the make out. If she's grinding against you she's probably ok with you touching her. You know not to continue if she gets uncomfortable. But until that happens, you're gonna be touching her. You were probably standing like a deer in headlights. Not smooth.
/r/seduction12/02/12 07:43 AM
1

Girl here, I think it's the opposite for me (and maybe girls in general). Since I'm busy with school and don't have time or a place to get off, my horniness level has dropped like crazy. When I do get off regularly I want sex 24/7. It's funny because I actually have like three or four guys who would probably fuck me at the drop of a hat. I'm just so unmotivated between being sick, midterms, and a recent depression relapse/family bullshit. I feel similar to the OP. I miss having my own room.
/r/seduction12/02/12 07:34 AM
8

Girl here, I would say sexual performance is 50% and social performance is 50%, once you're fucking/you've fucked. Am I much more likely to follow up with a guy who went down on me like I'm his favorite ice cream flavor? Hell yeah. Even if he's not the smoothest guy on the block. Will he ruin it if he acts all clingy after? Absolutely. And as always: Be attractive Don't be unattractive /you know, the seddit way
/r/seduction10/02/12 09:07 PM
8

See /r/TwoXChromosomes. So many girls over there complaining about being friendzoned. Between that, the period rage comics, and the "LOOK HOW AWESOME MY BF IS" posts, I got sick of it and unsubscribed. Initially I loved having a female-oriented subreddit to get away from the manly circlejerk, but do we really need a new period rage comic every week?
/r/seduction09/02/12 06:36 PM
9

This sounds like female oneitis (not very different from male oneitis). I actually experienced something similar to this last month after hooking up with a guy. Never ending smiley faces. It does feel somewhat degrading, or at least uncomfortable, for someone to give you all the power in a situation like that. I like some tug-of-war with my partners.
/r/seduction09/02/12 01:56 PM
0

If by "most women" you mean a select few women who frequent certain social circles and have a very specific appearance. Also, interacting boys in puberty is not the same as interacting with adult men who are "catches" and probably score a lot of women (see how this assumption looks when it's turned around?). Finally, some of those girls who got a lot of attention in high school may have lost out later in life since they didn't need to try hard to interact with men before. If something comes alon…
/r/seduction08/02/12 11:47 AM
12

Wow I just had a tiny epiphany. I was going to reply to your comment about how they're just as afraid of you as you are of them. Then I realized how easily I could apply this to my own life and have it work out awesomely. I get so intimidated by attractive guys, but if I just assume attraction and realize the guy's probably intimidated by his attraction to me (there's probably a better way to phrase this), things will go smoothly.
/r/seduction07/02/12 11:47 PM
3

Where are you located? Seddit and most PUA stuff has a very Western bias. You would make a great experiment for how PUA stuff works in your culture.
/r/seduction07/02/12 04:58 PM
2

These sites are the reason why seddit gets so much crap from the SRS community. /just wants everyone to get along.
/r/seduction05/02/12 09:01 PM
3

21 year old woman here, :( I'm not that dumb.
/r/seduction05/02/12 08:59 PM
5

ABC: Always Be Closing.
/r/seduction04/02/12 07:44 PM
2

It probably helps your body stay cool (didn't look at the link, I'm on my phone). I'd also suggest to the OP to watch his diet and exercise more. I notice that I sweat less in general when I sweat it all out at the gym. Definitely sweat more when I sit on my ass eating Cheetos.
/r/seduction04/02/12 07:16 PM
1

As a girl who happens to be interested in bouncers and bar staff more often than not, how do I approach you? Should I wait to see if you're interested? I've been subscribed to this subreddit way too long not to know the answer to this question.
/r/seduction04/02/12 09:11 AM
1

No sorry. I'm learning that pickup is less useful to me than inner game and taking care of my appearance, so I really don't know how that line would work.
/r/seduction04/02/12 02:54 AM
1

"Well me, of course." (I'm actually a girl but I'm imagining this being said by a man and loving it)
/r/seduction04/02/12 02:20 AM
2

Ask open-ended questions. "So how do you know (host)?" Then discuss friends in common, job, class, however they know them. Then tease them a little "You're pretty popular, I bet you have 900 Facebook friends" but more clever. "Where did you get that (article of clothing)?" Then talk about being sexy and fashionable. "I'm always impressed when someone can pull that off, I would look like a cupcake if I wore that." Ok don't say that but you get the idea.
/r/seduction04/02/12 02:19 AM
1

Another vote here! I'll buy you a drink sometime once I get to try it out. ;D
/r/seduction01/02/12 08:37 PM
1

Loving this imagery right here.
/r/seduction01/02/12 12:19 AM
1

Actually it's more an askreddit non-advice type post. I could go to askreddit but I'm curious about what the seduction community thinks.
/r/seduction31/01/12 07:44 PM
2

Absurdify is my word of the day.
/r/seduction31/01/12 07:39 PM
-2

Ugh the run-on sentences. And the racism. I guess when you're a 99% match you can do stuff like that cause the person will probably take it well. Edit: I do like your game. I get so sick of OKC because the guys don't do shit. We just message back and forth forever and then someone forgets to reply and the connection gets lost in the cyberspace abyss.
/r/seduction28/01/12 05:21 AM
1

Seconded on hating candles.
/r/seduction26/01/12 03:30 AM
5

Anything from France. It'll say on the label. Not any more expensive than domestic wine but it's more delicate on the palate. California wine tends to overpower your mouth, but French wine sneaks up on you and seduces you. Source: I studied abroad in Bordeaux and all the wine I get is >$10 from Trader Joe's.
/r/seduction26/01/12 03:24 AM
19

Girl here. When I first started having sex, all the beds I use (mine and my ex's) had some kind of frame/railing/headboard to hang on to. These ended up being my training wheels for girl-on-top sex, which I got really good at within a few months. Now my leg muscles have atrophied from disuse, but even still I can do pretty well if I have something to hold onto. My upper body strength compensates.
/r/seduction26/01/12 03:19 AM
5

Except don't run. I don't recommend that.
/r/seduction24/01/12 06:46 PM
1

;)
/r/seduction21/01/12 12:03 AM
1

Should I start wearing makeup to class or something? It's not like I look like a slob but I don't exactly dress feminine. I assume the average guy will notice his attraction to a girl faster if she has some eyeliner and mascara on. I think I just answered my own question.
/r/seduction20/01/12 11:53 PM
1

Yeah. They all seem to be gay or dating Asian girls though.
/r/seduction20/01/12 09:57 PM
1

I'm a (bisexual but hetero-leaning) girl btw. I've been doing house parties and clubbing since September (wasn't really a partier before I turned 21) but I just feel the quality of a lot of the guys is lacking. I really ought to learn day game because I'm noticing more and more beautiful men on campus. I need to stop fucking my guy friends though. It's just too easy. But I don't want to be the slut in my group of friends (I have a couple friends who slut-shame, assholes). I want to be seduced bu…
/r/seduction20/01/12 09:48 PM
2

SoCal 21
/r/seduction20/01/12 09:37 PM
1

Santa Barbara. It kind of sucks here. I'm originally from LA which also sucks. I'm considering moving to the Bay or NYC after I graduate in June.
/r/seduction20/01/12 04:17 PM
1

California. But I'm thinking of moving to NYC. Or the Bay. Or Tokyo.
/r/seduction20/01/12 06:43 AM
0

As long as you don't have a strong accent you're fine. Bonus points if you can cook delicious food from your heritage. I'll forgive a strong accent if you're a native Japanese speaker because I need a conversation partner. My only thing is you need to be as tall or taller than me. At 5'8 this is pretty annoying.
/r/seduction20/01/12 06:42 AM
3

Age/location/pic?
/r/seduction20/01/12 12:06 AM
1

It's probably like stretching any muscle.
/r/seduction19/01/12 07:39 PM
7

White girl who loves Asian guys here: How you doin?
/r/seduction19/01/12 07:35 PM
1

Clamjam has to be the most disgusting combination of words I've heard this month.
/r/seduction18/01/12 09:36 AM
1

Text her: "hey are you busy right now? Let's hang out. I have a bottle of pinot noir/jack/shock top with your name on it" The booze part almost seems like bribery though. Definitely the first two parts are important.
/r/seduction18/01/12 09:35 AM
4

Nope. Just stop. She's not interested. You don't have a chance with her. If you need to write that much about this one girl, you're wasting your time. She's not that special!! This is why one-itis is named like a disease. It prevents you from living your life to the fullest and being the fun person you are. Go out with your friends. Delete her number. Delete her screen name or whatever. Go talk to five new girls tomorrow. You deserve better than her leftover feelings. You're not a pity fuck.
/r/seduction18/01/12 09:06 AM
2

Try going around assuming attraction. You'll start thinking about the possibilities you have with new people instead of what you'll never have with this one girl.
/r/seduction18/01/12 08:48 AM
6

I can't believe I just read that. Move on already. If you're cute (most redditors are cuter than they think), there's another amazing girl out there who wants to fuck you/date you. One thing I've realized recently is that nobody is special. We're all just regurgitated stardust that's billions of years old. Your feelings are chemical reactions and your actions are electrical signals. And it's the same for the other 7 billion people on this planet. We're animals and we're all gonna die way too soo…
/r/seduction18/01/12 08:37 AM
1

Girl here. If you gave me awesome orgasms and made me laugh, you left me better than you found me. As surprising as it sounds, not every girl is looking for Mr. Right, and there is nothing wrong with wanting to experience a mutually good time with someone you find attractive.
/r/seduction17/01/12 12:12 AM
1

But don't lie.
/r/seduction16/01/12 09:41 PM
3

This is the most appropriate use of this meme ever.
/r/seduction16/01/12 09:37 PM
1

If she was enjoying a lap dance, you fucking kiss her already.
/r/seduction16/01/12 09:35 PM
5

>Its funny how you are the chick but he completely femmed out after you slept with him and you had to creep out of their quickly. I was telling my friend about this guy I slept with who WOULD NOT STOP texting me afterward. Every other text had a ;) face. He tried to see me probably ten times in the week after we slept together. I'm BUSY, ok? Stop acting like I'm your girlfriend or some shit. So anyway when I told my friend about this she's like, "Damn, you're harsh, lingual_panda. It's like you'…
/r/seduction16/01/12 08:13 PM
0

People judge based on appearance. People judge based on first impressions. The appearance of confidence usually does better than the appearance of insecurity.
/r/seduction16/01/12 08:10 PM
2

Yeah I made it pretty clear that I just want casual stuff right now. I mean I talked about setting him up with my other friend and he knows I'm pursuing other dudes as well. I think I was just really turned off by the winky face and innuendos in every other text for a good three days. He's cooled down a little and I also backed off in my replies but next time I see him I'll point out the boyfriend-ey things he said so that next time he doesn't smother me or whoever he hooks up with. Also I could…
/r/seduction14/01/12 08:02 PM
3

Woman who does this, checking in. I wouldn't call it "fuck and dump" per say. It's just casual sex where I don't want annoying texts from the guy every day telling me how special I am or whatever. Ugh the last guy I hooked up with was so annoying. We sleep together for the first time, talk about potentially doing it again, and like the next day he's trying to see me again. Dude, I'm busy. And I'm still SORE from last night. Why does he need to completely change how he acts around me just cause w…
/r/seduction14/01/12 07:27 PM
2

Yup, pretty much. After dating so many AFCs, I will forever be a supporter of any place that teaches men how to attract me and make me feel awesome and give me awesome sex.
/r/seduction14/01/12 03:37 AM
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Of all the successful FRs (field reports) that I have read, there has been no sign of any woman being tricked into doing something she wouldn't otherwise do. You act like nobody would ever possibly want to have sex with these guys unless they learned how to manipulate these poor helpless women into getting in bed with them. In reality, the guys are just learning how to get their intentions across and find the women who DO want to sleep with/date them because you know what? That's a hell of a lot…
/r/seduction13/01/12 09:33 PM
1

I'm not at my computer now but you can try going to UCSB's health and wellness site. They do tabling on campus where they tell students about this stuff so I'm sure they have links to the research there.
/r/seduction12/01/12 06:33 PM
2

Also on the topic of writing things down, make a list of 3 things that you're happy about every day for a week. Research shows that the positive mood effects of this week of list making last up to six months. It can be as small as "I'm happy that I ate a delicious lunch today". Post it on facebook if you want. People will start to see you as a positive person. I have a friend who is a health and wellness intern at my university and he did this for a while, and everyone loved reading it.
/r/seduction12/01/12 05:34 AM
1

Edit: I replied the wrong person, hope he sees it. Go to the first club meeting of the semester and stay for the after party. Whatever club you're interested in. Get people's numbers or friend them on fb, especially if you've met them before or had a class together. Some majors end up having a lot of the same people in different classes. If you recognize someone, introduce yourself. Straight up tell people that your New Year's resolution is to make more friends. Smile, be interested. Invite a fe…
/r/seduction05/01/12 12:55 AM
1

If you're making out and you're older than 21, you're probably ready for the bedroom. For the 18 to 21 crowd it depends I think.
/r/seduction03/01/12 07:47 AM
12

Girl here, I'm going to give you TMI about my own experiences. I've had sex with seven guys. Five Asians, two white guys. I know, not a huge sample. But I'm not small, I'm white, 160lbs, 5'8", and I have found the sex with the white guys to be a LOT more painful than with the Asian guys. Yeah I'm not going to deny that I've experienced a size difference, but there was definitely a range among the Asian guys, from smallish to average. The average guys were the most enjoyable I think. These hung w…
/r/seduction03/01/12 07:25 AM
1

Single girl in the valley with single friends. I hate it here. Santa Barbara is a million times easier to find hot guys, mostly because you can take the bus downtown.
/r/seduction30/12/11 06:31 AM
2

Did you mean "pheromonal"?
/r/seduction26/12/11 09:00 PM
0

*No escape from reality. Open your eyes
/r/seduction23/12/11 08:29 AM
2

I have almost never met a girl that did not dig gay guys or say "I wish I could fuck gay guy X" from time to time. SERIOUSLY. I went to a few gay bars on Saturday and it was UNFAIR how sexy all the men were. My friend and I were both lamenting about how straight guys don't get the hint.
/r/seduction23/12/11 07:26 AM
1

...sex. You personify it.
/r/seduction23/12/11 07:23 AM
0

Is this just fantasy?
/r/seduction23/12/11 07:22 AM
6

Lurk for a while and read everything on the sidebar. Read lots of FRs and the comments in them.
/r/seduction22/12/11 10:47 PM
3

Yeah, like I didn't already notice that, being a woman and all.
/r/seduction21/12/11 09:24 AM
1

Seriously, when did seddit become a nice-guy-syndrome circlejerk? Go fuck ten other girls and you'll realize it's not worth wasting your time pining after one girl who isn't interested.
/r/seduction20/12/11 09:53 PM
4

she'll want you to fuck her in a public place.
/r/seduction18/12/11 08:29 PM
1

Yes exactly. Just ask the girl where she is staying and say something about how your place is really inconvenient or something. You don't even have to mention your parents.
/r/seduction18/12/11 08:29 PM
3

I think because most guys on there are really beta and have no game, you get lumped into the mix. Just like guys who go to clubs are douchebags and guys in college are bros. If your online game is good you'll probably stand out among the boring guys that are on okc. I just deactivated my account though because I think "real life" game is more fun and better for my well-being.
/r/seduction18/12/11 01:05 AM
1

Thanks, I appreciate the warning. I've just been bored out of my mind in SB during winter break. Luckily I'll be in LA tonight so I'll have some female friends to chill with.
/r/seduction15/12/11 08:45 PM
2

Yeah we didn't fuck. Both times I've hung out with him I happened to get plastered so I was worried it would lower his opinion of me, but since then I'm getting a better handle on my drinking habits and balancing my life more. I really just need to continue being the valuable awesome chick I am and show some interest next time he's around without becoming a chump about it. I don't think I'll see him until after winter break anyway so it would probably be best to put him out of my mind until then…
/r/seduction15/12/11 03:41 PM
2

Man I miss being fucked like that.
/r/seduction15/12/11 03:28 PM
2

Yeah Okc is pretty bullshit now. It's a million times easier and more fun to dress up and go to a club with friends. It makes me happy that you're looking out for me haha. Question: If there's an HB in my apartment complex that I blew it with a few months back, should I just let him go and stick to being friends? Or should I treat it as a challenge? (I don't see him all the time but everyone in the complex parties together.) He's really gorgeous and Gahhhh this sounds like a one-itis post. That'…
/r/seduction15/12/11 03:25 PM
5

Thank you! I have a lesbian friend who likes me way too much right now and I'm considering introducing her to this community but I'm not sure whether to do it before or after I break her heart. I don't want to be put on a pedestal, right now I just want to be fucked (unfortunately for her) by a penis. I'm not a delicate little flower and some casual sex isn't going to ruin me for the rest of my days. And if a guy is honest about his intentions from the beginning (which unfortunately a lot of the…
/r/seduction15/12/11 08:29 AM
1

This is pretty sweet. I've considered trying this by going out solo and just chilling at a bar on a weekday night when it'll be quieter and I can just chat with the bartender. It would be a nice ego boost if a couple cute guys approach me. Plus I might get a free drink or two out of the deal.
/r/seduction15/12/11 06:44 AM
1

I need to hit a gay bar sometime. Oh man.
/r/seduction14/12/11 01:35 AM
3

Stop spending time with the wrong people. Ok, my parents. Stop running from your problems. Uh, my parents. Well which one do you want me to do? Edit: Besides those, I think I'm doing pretty well.
/r/seduction13/12/11 07:26 PM
15

DAMN you have a high sex drive. I need to find a boyfriend like you.
/r/seduction11/12/11 10:55 PM
10

Sounds like two couples and a single girl.
/r/seduction11/12/11 10:54 PM
2

1.) If you're going to finger a girl, isolate her. Most girls probably like getting fingered, but not in front of 100 people. By insisting it takes place in front of 100 people you're limiting yourself to big-time sluts. It didn't even bother me the first time he reached for it, I just moved his hand away coyly and it was a good way to ramp up the sexual tension. But he kept doing it and that was fucking annoying. Learn to real social cues, that's my advice.
/r/seduction10/12/11 08:42 PM
1

I never used to talk to the hairdresser during a haircut but I'm implementing the "talk to everyone" rule and clearly it's awesome.
/r/seduction10/12/11 08:37 PM
1

It was way too loud in there to have a conversation, but I did probably scare him a little by being so forward. I've noticed that the best way to approach people in clubs is to dance near them until they notice you and then start dancing with them. Things will escalate.
/r/seduction10/12/11 08:34 PM
1

I was gonna go downtown with a couple friends. Not sure where, I just feel like dressing up and dancing. I also have my apartment to myself so I might have people over. One of my friends is trained in bartending and I sort of want some free fancy drinks without hitting on old dudes.
/r/seduction10/12/11 08:04 PM
1

;]
/r/seduction10/12/11 07:49 PM
2

Jeans are badass? Sorry, what decade is this?
/r/seduction10/12/11 05:51 PM
5

A lot of people are telling you to focus on fellow ethnic women. Are you only interested in white girls? Because that might be your problem.
/r/seduction10/12/11 05:47 PM
1

I'm probably gonna go clubbing in LA during the holidays because I'll be visiting my parents and friends in the area. I might post in the LA seddit to see if anyone wants to get together or something.
/r/seduction10/12/11 03:22 AM
1

Santa Barbara.
/r/seduction10/12/11 12:19 AM
1

I've just been around Asians more than white people so I have a stronger affinity toward them.
/r/seduction09/12/11 06:25 PM
2

I definitely think it's a good idea to try. Don't ask over at GM if it's a good idea, just tell them that's what you're doing.
/r/seduction08/12/11 04:28 PM
1

Maybe she broke up with you because she didn't want to be with a relationship with you anymore. Now get the fuck over it and chat up some girls.
/r/seduction08/12/11 04:55 AM
8

Rock on, this was a great FR. My newest goal is to avoid getting super drunk so I can focus on my game, so hearing your story definitely helps.
/r/seduction08/12/11 04:03 AM
6

If I'm interested in seeing you again, I'll probably make that clear. Especially if you successfully build attraction and seduce me, I'll probably be super excited to hear from you the next day. It tells me that you might be busy and have other things going on in your life but you're still thinking about me. From a seduction perspective, waiting several days to contact a girl might kill all that attraction you've already built. I want to hear the experts weigh in on this.
/r/seduction07/12/11 10:32 AM
12

I unsubscribed from r/getmotivated because the only thing that I ever saw from them was courage wolf.
/r/seduction07/12/11 10:26 AM
1

She's just not that into you if she's not calling you.
/r/seduction07/12/11 03:25 AM
2

The basics of seduction/building rapport/good conversation work for everybody. Make the person feel important and attractive. Shy/introverted girls are just less likely to be found in clubs and parties than extroverted girls. Learn day game and start hanging out in the places where shy girls would be. Approach that cute girl in your section or orchestra. Maybe don't escalate as quickly, but if you build attraction I think you'll be fine.
/r/seduction07/12/11 02:52 AM
7

I think your mistake is waiting until you get her to the bedroom to kiss her. Escalate early and in public ('where people could hear her screams' says the paranoid girl my mother created) so that she knows your intention before you get her alone, which can be a high-pressure situation for a girl who doesn't know what you want from her. A lot of the mPUAs on here have repeatedly mentioned that they kiss on the first date. It's super hot when a guy knows what he wants and makes it clear that he wa…
/r/seduction07/12/11 02:39 AM
2

I say just do whatever you're most comfortable with and whatever looks best, with looks taking slight priority over comfort (eg getting my ass in the gym). If you look like a hottie male librarian, stick with the specs. Lots of people have a megane (glasses) fetish and some might not even know they have it.
/r/seduction05/12/11 06:36 AM
1

Going out to pick up girls is called sarging and it's something frequently discussed here on seddit. Read the FAQ and some of the other threads.
/r/seduction05/12/11 06:34 AM
1

As long as they fit you right I'm sure they look awesome. More guys need to wear sweaters.
/r/seduction05/12/11 06:31 AM
3

I've had yellow fever since high school and all of my relationships have been with at least partially Asian guys. I've found that white guys are more DTF and sex-positive though, at least in the last month or so. I'm not attracted to blonds really. I've never really been around a lot of black or hispanic guys but I'm not ruling them out. Especially since there are so many hot black guys at my school. Other ethnicities don't really show up on my radar, but if the person is really gorgeous or if t…
/r/seduction05/12/11 06:29 AM
2

Yeah after being in reddit for a year and a half I know to expect stuff like this. Wow I just realized how much time that is. No regrets haha.
/r/seduction05/12/11 06:11 AM
2

Not for me, mostly because I like helping people and I'd be interested in why this person is trying to approach people. I mean if that's what you're doing, you may as well be honest. Meta-conversation. Plus you'd be complimenting me by implying that I'm pretty without me having to respond to your compliment, which I'm bad at.
/r/seduction05/12/11 02:35 AM
2

I find it interesting that you think I'm Asian.
/r/seduction05/12/11 12:50 AM
2

Usually if I'm in a club and not facing you I don't know that you're there. Just follow seddit advice and assume interest. Approach. Kino. Don't hesitate. Three second rule. Etc.
/r/seduction05/12/11 12:47 AM
10

Ask for advice about women. That's like the number one indicator of a platonic relationship. Or just be like, "hey you're hot, can you come with me to find other hot chicks?"
/r/seduction05/12/11 12:46 AM
8

r/malefashionadvice. A great wardrobe makes SUCH a huge difference. Get clothes that fit you right and ladies will be drooling.
/r/seduction05/12/11 12:45 AM
9

I don't think any of those count as a receding hairline.
/r/seduction05/12/11 12:43 AM
3

Oh I've never done the surprise make out before with people I don't know. I'm still bad/new at a lot of seduction stuff so I'm probably not the best source for advice on this. With people I do know, I basically just get really drunk and start kissing them. I'm actually not really sure how it happens. I think my brain just decides, "Mmm lips" and then it goes on autopilot. Sometimes I'll ask, "Can I kiss you?" and they'll say yes. Also, I like it when a guy asks if they can kiss me, but that's ju…
/r/seduction05/12/11 12:34 AM
1

It really depends on what you feel comfortable wearing and what kind of image you want to convey. I'd almost rather go home with a guy and wait until he takes off his shirt to find out he has gorgeous arms and shoulders then go home with a guy who's showing off his tattoos and shit. Like, this guy > this guy. But not all girls are like that. Btw when you kino a girl we can tell more or less how fit you are. Seeing it naked is more of a reward. It's like taking a bra off for men :] Actually I alm…
/r/seduction05/12/11 12:17 AM
1

On my phone right now but are you talking about wifebeaters or about those loose ugly cut up t-shirts? Cause wifebeaters are fucking sexy on the right guy.
/r/seduction04/12/11 11:50 PM
7

I meant the YouTube thing as an example of the bullshit excuse some guys need to get girls in their bedrooms.
/r/seduction04/12/11 11:48 PM
12

Yeah I'd rather a guy be honest about wanting me to go home with him, either by asking (Do you want to go home with me?) or by saying something like that. No bullshit please (check out this youtube video!), just make it clear that you're attracted to me. I know this doesn't work for all girls though.
/r/seduction04/12/11 10:43 PM
7

It depends on how old you are. Although I've heard of guys in their 20s with receding hairlines who get a lot of women. I definitely agree with the idea that good game/personality/conversation skills is more important than looks a lot of the time.
/r/seduction04/12/11 10:40 PM
3

Seconded on the shoulders here. I prefer guys with low bf% than guys with huge muscles. So even if your biceps aren't huge, they feel muscley and your shoulders are sexy and your back is omg I want to touch it. I would lick the hell out of all these guys. Huge pecs are overrated. http://data.whicdn.com/images/3190409/JakeMaddenZaneHoltzTysonPaigeMatthe_thumb.jpg http://30.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_l8acnlXaDC1qca9n0o1_500.jpg http://famewatcher.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/kiowa-gordon-shirtless.…
/r/seduction04/12/11 10:38 PM
3

It's funny because even I buy into the be attractive/don't be unattractive meme, but in my experience I've been creeped out by conventionally attractive guys and I've found myself becoming attracted to less conventionally attractive guys. Basically the biggest indicator is when someone is really self-conscious about their behavior. Other than that, a big age difference will creep me out.
/r/seduction04/12/11 10:34 PM
13

This is one thing I wish people would do more. When you ask my major/hometown/age/sexuality/personal info of some sort and I respond, don't just sit there quietly waiting for me to ask yours. Just say it and continue the conversation.
/r/seduction04/12/11 10:31 PM
2

Good picture, having fun with friends, that kind of stuff is important. If he's witty that helps even more. Facebook isn't really a blank canvas for showing someone's personality though, so I don't put a lot of weight into it.
/r/seduction04/12/11 10:29 PM
4

That really depends on how gross I'm feeling that day. But if you don't think I'm gross and I think you're a cutie, I don't think the surprise make-out would be a terrible thing, as long as you're smooth about it. Man I'm smiling just thinking about it. Do you think I could get away with making out with random guys while sober? Like on campus or something? I do it a lot while drunk haha.
/r/seduction04/12/11 10:28 PM
1

1) If I look angry or really busy. Probably more if I'm busy than angry because if you can make me smile then that's a good thing. 2) Catcalls, etc.
/r/seduction04/12/11 10:24 PM
8

My thing would be to explain why the heck you decided to talk to me. I saw you standing in line to order coffee and I just wanted to say that your haircut is perfect for you. Or I've been thinking about getting a Chrome messenger bag but they're a little out of my price range. Are you happy with it? Or I made a promise with myself that I would talk to five pretty girls today and you caught my eye. Mind if I have a seat? (not sure if this is beta language) Don't just be like, "Hi, how's it going?…
/r/seduction04/12/11 10:21 PM
16

Reptar.
/r/seduction04/12/11 10:16 PM
31

Another girl chiming in. I also leave seddit feeling like a badass. Conversation skills and confidence are important in all aspects of life. Pickup also teaches people to go after what they want without worrying about potential failure. Rejection isn't a big deal. Yeah <3 seddit
/r/seduction04/12/11 08:37 AM
1

Girl here, I've never heard of a "cheese call" and honestly it sounds kind of gross/stupid. In college we have the "booty call" (I guess this applies to non-students too) but that's more of a FWB deal. If I'm with my friends and I see an attractive gentleman I just say something like, "Mmmm ten o'clock," so they know where to look. Or the basic, "Did you see that guy? Gorgeous!" I'm not sure why we'd differentiate between a ONS and a relationship when pointing out attractive gentleman, but I gue…
/r/seduction04/12/11 04:21 AM
1

That's because r/sex gets this question like twice a week at the minimum.
/r/seduction04/12/11 03:59 AM
1

As a Los Angeles native who imagines herself a lot more like the New York business woman in a stylish skirt suit, I find this really interesting. I want to look for work in New York for after I graduate in June but I'm not sure if I'll be able to handle the cold. I mean I was shivering today and it was 70 out.
/r/seduction04/12/11 01:33 AM
2

I actually can't really talk about that because I work for the government. Man I wish I had a cool job like that. You have so much opportunity to get creative with the stories you tell.
/r/seduction04/12/11 01:11 AM
2

Introversion/extroversion is a personality orientation. Introverted people get energy from being alone, extroverted people get energy from being around others. When someone is introverted it does not mean that they are shy.
/r/seduction02/12/11 04:08 AM
2

It was through referrals. Basically I would talk to my friends and family and they would get me in touch with all of their friends that I didn't know yet, and then if I built enough rapport with those people then they'd get me in touch with their friends, and so on. It was really easy to get discouraged though, except instead of not getting laid you just waste your time not making money. That is if you're doing it wrong. I remember working with a few naturals and they would make bank, and then s…
/r/seduction02/12/11 12:58 AM
2

It gets a lot of crap but the whole Cutco/Vector Marketing is a good way to learn sales and social skills. I did it for 9 months and sold over $18 grand in knives, and I know quite a few people who have done really well with the company and gone on to have great careers.
/r/seduction01/12/11 11:03 PM
2

Thanks, although I'm sure that I'm not saying anything different from what any of the PUA guys would say. It's just funny how you guys will come up with all these rules about the way guys can approach girls but you don't realize that it's all reversible and universal. People are people are people and you're just learning to apply social skills in a way that makes you valuable to the person. Also I'm trying to save fantasypills some time/money printing up business cards and save a little face too…
/r/seduction01/12/11 07:05 PM
3

Well then be like, "here, I'll give you my number" and then program it into her phone. Give yourself a cute nickname, like "Jake SexyEyebrows" if you have nice eyebrows or you talked about them or something (yeah I know, weird example).
/r/seduction01/12/11 05:23 PM
4

It seems like a lot of people don't appreciate this post but if I were in an LTR with a guy who matched my sexual needs like this, I'd never want to leave.
/r/seduction01/12/11 05:10 PM
1

Well that I can understand. Maybe we can go petition people spitting on the ground and smoking in public sometime.
/r/seduction01/12/11 12:28 AM
1

Voice mail. And if she doesn't have voice mail, she probably doesn't have a job. It's 2011, you should have voice mail.
/r/seduction01/12/11 12:19 AM
1

When she sees it in the morning she'll remember you better.
/r/seduction01/12/11 12:16 AM
5

constantly on the verge of taking her out back behind the dumpster and fucking her senseless This is how I'm going to approach all my dates from now on. Thanks for that.
/r/seduction01/12/11 12:12 AM
1

On this subject! Thank you! For some reason I have a really consistent sleep schedule. I like to go to bed by 10 or 11pm and get up before 8:30am. Because of this I get REALLY tired when I go out at night. Like 11pm, I'm ready to crawl into bed. I've tried drinking caffeinated drinks and it doesn't help much, although dancing for several hours straight helps a bit. How do I not turn into a total grandma at the clubs?
/r/seduction01/12/11 12:10 AM
1

Wow does it really hit you that hard when a girl doesn't respond to your texts? I guess I'm numb to rejection after working in sales for a while.
/r/seduction01/12/11 12:05 AM
2

As a girl in college, I appreciate all of this so much. Thank you. The last three times I picked up my phone from an unknown number were people asking for campaign donations. And since I've been a telephone monkey before, I can't let myself be rude to them, so it's easier just not to pick up. If you text me first so I know who you are, I'll look forward to talking to you. :]
/r/seduction01/12/11 12:03 AM
1

How do you know we're not on reddit?
/r/seduction30/11/11 11:59 PM
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They get their egos stroked constantly on Facebook. They have guys constantly blowing up their smartphones texting them out. They get hounded with hundreds of messages on online dating sites. They’re getting constant attention and validation and being pulled in all directions. Yeah, this doesn't happen. I'll just introduce my personal, recent experience. I will give my number to a guy who seems interesting enough. I will text him if I know he's going to keep up the conversation. But if I don't k…
/r/seduction30/11/11 11:53 PM
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xY5q01fTceQ
/r/seduction30/11/11 11:36 PM
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I'm having a bit of a problem with this too. It got better after I turned 21 since there are some really great bars and other venues in my area, but before when I just had the restaurant/coffee/smoothie option, stuff got boring really quick. Since I'm a girl I might start doing stupid stuff like taking the guy shopping so I can try on clothes in front of him and going to the Apple store to put stupid videos up or something. Like Nyan cat. Stuff I would do with my friends but with more kino and m…
/r/seduction29/11/11 12:33 AM
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Keep up the awesomeness, frogma. You're an inspiration.
/r/seduction29/11/11 12:23 AM
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It's both, hopefully. She has to realize that you're not going to put up with her crap, and if she doesn't like that then you both move on. If she wants to stop with the LMRs then you get a nice LTR out of the deal. But she has to decide what she really wants.
/r/seduction29/11/11 12:21 AM
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"I would love to have you in my life but it sounds like you're confused about what you want. Maybe we can get together when you figure it out". Just wanted to make sure the OP saw this.
/r/seduction28/11/11 11:45 PM
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Do you have tattoos and nice arms? Cause that might be playing a bigger role than the clothes.
/r/seduction28/11/11 03:44 AM
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Well I appreciate you taking time to describe your findings. I'm hoping you'll post pictures for us to see the difference in these two looks you're describing.
/r/seduction28/11/11 03:38 AM
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I'm seriously doubting that this is true. We need some evidence up in here, OP.
/r/seduction28/11/11 01:00 AM
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Booth vs. table. Or, round table vs. square table. It's still hard to find stuff like this though. Also you can sit next to each other at the bar.
/r/seduction27/11/11 10:01 PM
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Yep, but it actually doesn't feel that crowded. We have a really big living room and kitchen area. I even get a decent amount of privacy most of the time. The only downside is the lack of space for sexytimes, especially since I have the top bunk.
/r/seduction27/11/11 03:36 AM
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Definitely agree with MassToilet, this is something you should definitely talk to a professional about. Most guys shouldn't feel bad-uncomfortable when hugged by a girl they are attracted to, just boner-uncomfortable. I hope you get some help so that next time this happens you can turn the heat up like a pro. Good luck, man.
/r/seduction27/11/11 12:34 AM
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First of all, assess your situation. Are you healthy? Are you where you want to be career-wise? What are your lifestyle goals? Relationship goals? Are you happy with your appearance? Do you have excessively high standards? Second, think about your location. Is there a gay scene that you can break into? Are there nice clubs and bars? When is gay night? (In my town Sunday is lesbian night.) What do you do on the weekends? What do your friends do? I just read your other post. It seems like you have…
/r/seduction27/11/11 12:22 AM
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LIKE GOBSTOPPERS.
/r/seduction27/11/11 12:09 AM
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to me it sounds like OP was completely ignoring the ones this guy was giving This is a good point. Seduction is a two-way street, and the more people who learn this, the better.
/r/seduction26/11/11 11:58 PM
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It's seduction jargon for non-awkward fun touching.
/r/seduction26/11/11 11:47 PM
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Girl here, when I first started being physical with my ex boyfriend, the main thing that impressed me about him was how he would always go down on me like I was his favorite ice cream flavor. Be that guy, and most girls will never forget how awesome you are. Also it took about a month for that ex to make me come from oral (I came the second time we had sex though). Even though he was amazing at it, girls are shy. This is more like sexxit advice, but I'm hoping it'll help the OP.
/r/seduction26/11/11 11:42 PM
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Yeah I did feel like her shit-test was unwarranted. He probably took that as a mini-rejection so for the rest of the date he wasn't sure what to think about her kino.
/r/seduction26/11/11 11:36 PM
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Define "moving too fast" and "being handsy and disrespectful". Is this different from kino? Does "moving too fast" only happen when the guy is otherwise awkward and unattractive (to you)? For me, if the guy acts like an adult on a date (not afraid to make eye contact, maintain an interesting conversation) then I'll probably find him attractive enough for him to initiate some kino. Actually on my last date I was the one who initiated the kino, and it ended up working out well. Can a girl be "too …
/r/seduction26/11/11 11:32 PM
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But the way I read the OP's post made it seem like she was basically wanting him to lay her out on the table in the restaurant and start a make out session in front of everyone. Not sure where you got this impression, but what I read from the OP was that she was kinoing him a decent amount and he didn't respond at all. If he had responded with more kino back then it could have escalated into a nice kiss or two and they wouldn't have had such an awkward drive home.
/r/seduction26/11/11 11:27 PM
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Date started with driving to a restaurant I was introducing him to and included some ultra-light kino, I amped up the kino a bit, and during the show tried to get the whole leaning into/facing him thing going - just giving him plenty of invitation for opportunity. Again, no moves were made. At this point it's not the OP's fault. It's the guy's fault for not reading her signals. She's clearly inviting him to make a move, and I'm sure he could have gone 60% into the kiss and she would have done th…
/r/seduction26/11/11 11:24 PM
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Lady here: after finals are over I'm gonna start sedditing it up some more. My goal by graduation is to be able to make friends and network with anyone I meet, so hitting up cute guys in bars and clubs is my segue into that.
/r/seduction26/11/11 11:14 PM
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Hornier-than-average girl here who lives with other average girls who like to go out drinking and dancing. I think the hardest part for us about getting laid is the (shit my English is failing me)...um...preparation? Arrangement? LOGISTICS. Basically there are six of us in two rooms. If someone wants to bring a guy home, where the hell are we going to get some privacy? We usually go out on a Thursday, and two of my roommates work on Fridays. I'm not hijacking the room just for a quick lay. And t…
/r/seduction26/11/11 11:09 PM
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Usually when I'm texting someone important/that I'm interested in I take a lot longer to reply because I don't want to sound stupid. Or I'll start writing and then get distracted by something and then realize later that I never responded.
/r/seduction23/11/11 08:33 PM
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Unrelated to the OP but I see you everywhere on reddit! I always enjoy your posts. :]
/r/seduction22/11/11 11:15 AM
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I read about the first 1/3 of them. Is it just me or are these really tame? Are these people new to sex or something?
/r/seduction22/11/11 10:54 AM
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Despite the evolutionary pseudo-science, his point still stands. There needs to be a balance between appreciating the woman and sexing her up. Of course, this applies to any person you're approaching, whether male, female, gay, straight, whatever. People want to feel like you're approaching them for them, not just because you want to approach somebody. But of course it's weird if you over invest yourself right away. I used to work in sales and this is exactly how building rapport with your custo…
/r/seduction22/11/11 10:40 AM
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I just really love penises and since I have a sensitive gag reflex, I need to be more creative in pleasuring penises with my tongue, hands, etc. I don't really think I'm that great but I get good feedback in contexts where the guy doesn't need to give feedback (like a one night stand). This last guy couldn't get over it so I felt pretty pro.
/r/seduction22/11/11 01:21 AM
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And that's why I'm here. Care to enlighten?
/r/seduction22/11/11 01:15 AM
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Yeah my ineptness over the last few months is basically what led me here. The fact that I can think of socializing (pick up) as a game that I can learn and get good at will help me get over those unreasonable fears I've been holding onto my whole life. Like I said elsewhere in the thread, if I can approach a guy like you and be smooth about it and maybe even leave a good impression, I'll be able to apply those skills to other parts of my life.
/r/seduction22/11/11 01:12 AM
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I had a whole response typed on my phone and lost it. Let's see if I can remember what I wrote. I think my biggest issue with non-Asians is that I just don't notice them or think of them sexually. I'm working on expanding my horizons though. For white people there's still probably a bias against dating Asians because of all the stereotypes, and in general people tend to date what they're familiar with, which is usually within their own racial or ethnic group.
/r/seduction21/11/11 10:25 PM
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I had a whole response typed on my phone and lost it. Let's see if I can remember what I wrote. I think my biggest issue with non-Asians is that I just don't notice them or think of them sexually. I'm working on expanding my horizons though. For white people there's still probably a bias against dating Asians because of all the stereotypes, and in general people tend to date what they're familiar with, which is usually within their own racial or ethnic group.
/r/seduction21/11/11 10:23 PM
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I meant compared with the guys I'm sleeping with. I can't really compare my abilities with girls since I don't sleep with many of them.
/r/seduction21/11/11 09:01 PM
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I used to feel that way but I'm realizing now that I tend to judge a lot of people before getting to know them so I missed out on meeting quite a few people who could be really cool. I definitely suggest keeping your eye out for ways of meeting people outside of the normal bar scene, cause me from two years ago wouldn't have been caught dead in a bar (besides the fact that I was only 19). Gah I need to stop trying to respond to comments on my phone. Idk what I was trying to write.
/r/seduction21/11/11 06:48 PM
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Well I think there are more than two types of girls out there. If you care enough to read my comment history from like a year ago you'll see that I was in a committed relationship and I was a super devoted girlfriend. I've always loved sex and when I'm in a relationship with someone I not only want sex like 500 times a day but I also want to spend all my time with my SO to the detriment of other parts of my life. And when I'm single I'm still pretty boy-crazy. I'm just barely learning to balance…
/r/seduction21/11/11 05:31 PM
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That's exactly the balance I'm learning right now, but for me I'm more trying to avoid being desperate. Plus I still get seriously intimidated around guys who are around HB8. I have to remember that they're people too, and that everyone likes the person who is friends with everybody. Part of the reason why I follow this subreddit is because while I wasn't ugly growing up, I could not hold my own in a conversation with anyone in a position of authority or any guy that I found attractive. My brain…
/r/seduction21/11/11 01:30 AM
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He just poked me. Straight in the middle of my back. I hadn't been touched there in a while so I jumped about a foot. I was like, who the fuck pokes someone they don't know? Since then we've been huggy and clingy and touchy but still no cigar. Oh well, his loss.
/r/seduction21/11/11 12:55 AM
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;]
/r/seduction20/11/11 11:59 PM
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Hey I've been horny and rejected by several guys in the last few months when I offered NSA sex via text message. While that's not seduction material, it's obviously not a no-brainer for many girls to acquire dick. Or at least me. Shit this one guy in my class who sits behind me, we have like a ton of kino every day but when I invite him over he always flakes. Jerk.
/r/seduction20/11/11 11:28 PM
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This is ok haha
/r/seduction20/11/11 11:25 PM
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Fuck that, I'll lose weight and dress up but there is no way in hell that I'll deal with that rat's nest again just for some guys. I've never been happier with my hair.
/r/seduction20/11/11 11:11 PM
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I would say "never been in a gym" would be a bit of an exaggeration.
/r/seduction20/11/11 11:07 PM
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I do love wearing a lot of makeup, I think of it as war paint and it's kind of like an art. So I understand where they're coming from. But if I'm gonna go PUing I don't need so much to attract the gentlefolk.
/r/seduction20/11/11 11:04 PM
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I do agree that there's an imbalance between male and female success in getting laid, but girls have to deal with cultural issues like the madonna/whore paradox as well as a uterus that wants nothing more than to incubate an embryo. Yeah I'm on birth control, but if I've had sex in the last month it's still a huge relief to get my period.
/r/seduction20/11/11 11:02 PM
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Example? I think part of the issue was that he already lacked confidence, and he called his dick a "thingy". I guess when you're less experienced it takes a while to get used to talking like that (I definitely had a learning curve) so I should give him a break. And I mean, I still had orgasms :]
/r/seduction20/11/11 10:51 PM
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Haha you're definitely cute/fuckable. Not my type but if you made me laugh and kissed my neck just right I might go home with you.
/r/seduction20/11/11 10:46 PM
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True, which is why condoms exist.
/r/seduction20/11/11 10:44 PM
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Well he used 'cute' where he should have used 'sexy' or 'hot' because we were in the middle of having sex. I love being called cute and I do call other people cute, but when your dick is in my mouth and you're pulling my hair, 'cute' isn't really what I'm going for.
/r/seduction20/11/11 10:43 PM
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I'm very happily single. :) Also I'm sure I have a zillion flaws that don't get portrayed over the internet and while I could probably easily score with a guy on any night, I do like having standards.
/r/seduction20/11/11 10:41 PM
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Well you can like me for my body as long as you're skinny, cute, and Asian. And intelligent. I'm not trying to fall in love here, though I know some people are. But by ideal type I don't mean Mr. Perfect, I just mean more attractive than what I've been scoring.
/r/seduction20/11/11 10:39 PM
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Well you can like me for my body as long as you're skinny, cute, and Asian. And intelligent. I'm not trying to fall in love here, though I know some people are. But by ideal type I don't mean Mr. Perfect, I just mean more attractive than what I've been scoring.
/r/seduction20/11/11 10:39 PM
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Don't worry, I'm a hand-holding expert. As a violinist I'm already attracted to nice hands, and my ex gave amazing hand massages so I learned some stuff from him. Thanks for the tip, though, I'm sure lots of people can use it.
/r/seduction20/11/11 10:36 PM
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Santa Barbara, but I'm from LA and that's where my friend is.
/r/seduction20/11/11 10:34 PM
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ALL THE ASIANS! I'm gonna think about this and get back to you, but mostly I want I know if Asian guys are less receptive to being approached than white guys. Although I think my game needed work, so the guys I approached didn't really have a chance to build attraction to me. Also I know every guy is different but I'm curvy and I have huge boobs. If a guy is used to dating small Asian girls will he be less likely to go for me even if my game is awesome? I also like Asian girls if you're wonderin…
/r/seduction20/11/11 10:33 PM
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Some people can embrace the word "slut", but I don't really want to do that. I don't really use it as a slur, but I'm more reinforcing to myself that my behavior is perfectly acceptable and it's a good thing that I'm comfortable with my sexuality. I don't want to label it one way or another.
/r/seduction20/11/11 08:50 PM
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Pic, age, location?
/r/seduction20/11/11 08:48 PM
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Well I scored with a less confident guy yesterday and while I thought he was really cool and the sex was great, it was a total turn off how he kept apologizing and like, worshipping me. Let me clarify. First, if a girl seduces you, just go with it. Mimic her language (don't call her 'cute' when she's saying 'dick' and 'pussy'). Don't mention anything about past experiences ("I bet you've had much bigger guys"). Also if you're having sex you're mature enough to call a dick a dick. Sorry I'm being…
/r/seduction20/11/11 08:46 PM
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To be honest, this whole day I've been thinking, "they didn't lie that it's easier for girls!" But I'm gonna see if I can score closer to my ideal type in the future.
/r/seduction20/11/11 08:37 PM
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Is this what what most guys do when blue balled? So hawt. Forgive me for my ignorance, but does building the anticipation like this make it better when you do have sex?
/r/seduction20/11/11 01:15 AM
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Well if I knew you could get it at the store I wouldn't be so desperate!
/r/seduction19/11/11 10:11 PM
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Dick dick dick. I want dick. Dick dick dick.
/r/seduction19/11/11 09:15 PM
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Is it needy to want someone's dick?
/r/seduction19/11/11 08:42 PM
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Girl here. This thread is turning me on. Once finals are over I'm looking forward to trying this.
/r/seduction19/11/11 07:42 PM
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This was creepy.
/r/seduction19/11/11 07:03 PM
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Lol @ perspective.
/r/seduction19/11/11 06:51 PM
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Excuses time: I'm not trying as hard as I could, that's for sure. Also I just turned 21 so I'm getting used to the bar/club scene. Finally, I'm feeling for that balance between confident-dick-wanting and desperate-dick-wanting. I tend to lean toward the desperate side so I don't want to overdo it.
/r/seduction19/11/11 06:35 PM
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Pic/age/location?
/r/seduction19/11/11 06:13 PM
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Wait, for that line, aren't you only supposed to use it on someone before starting a conversation?
/r/seduction19/11/11 05:56 PM
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Lmao since I know these girls, it's incredibly funny to get your first impressions from this one picture. I actually think #4 is really pretty. And #6 had recently fallen and torn up her chin, requiring stitches, so I understand if she's feeling insecure. Ok if that smile is fake, how am I supposed to smile?
/r/seduction19/11/11 05:47 PM
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;]
/r/seduction19/11/11 05:36 PM
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I decide whether I want to fuck a guy before I get to know him. I hit on him before I get to know him. I have yellow fever. Also I get a little too drunk and then I'm ridiculously forward, trying to kiss the guy without establishing mutual attraction first.
/r/seduction19/11/11 05:35 PM
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My friend also knows that I'm bi and I would hook up with her if given the chance. So while the chances are slim, a package deal isn't out of the question.
/r/seduction19/11/11 05:33 PM
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I was wearing heels. Try smiling with a pair of those on.
/r/seduction19/11/11 05:31 PM
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I never said Asian guys only, I meant that I notice Asian guys first. I also like hapa guys, black guys, and white guys with dark hair and eyes. Not really into blonds but I make exceptions.
/r/seduction19/11/11 05:30 PM
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Oh right, I should have checked your username. Irish accents are cute though.
/r/seduction19/11/11 04:31 AM
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I also like guys who are not Asian, and we're not talking about being picky. We're talking about being DTF.
/r/seduction19/11/11 03:48 AM
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Wait so is it bad that I'm a creeper?
/r/seduction19/11/11 02:21 AM
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Ok just curious, which girls did you find attractive? Cause that's me and my roommates lawlz.
/r/seduction19/11/11 01:24 AM
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In the last six months? Maybe 10. Not including online dating, where I often send the first message. This will usually score me a first date and not much after that. I probably need more kino. The problem with when I approach guys is that I do it while drunk, so while my standards remain the same my brain-to-mouth filter shuts down, so I end up asking if I can kiss them. Edit: I'm also overwhelmingly attracted to Asian guys, and I think there might be a bit of a cultural issue there.
/r/seduction19/11/11 01:15 AM
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Ok so this would work with this girl maybe, but would it work with any of these girls?
/r/seduction19/11/11 01:11 AM
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You have no idea.
/r/seduction19/11/11 01:04 AM
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Pic, age, location. I'll let you know right now.
/r/seduction19/11/11 01:03 AM
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Girl who approaches guys here, I consistently get rejected when I make it clear that I'm attracted to a guy. And I'm not fugly, although I could stand to lose like 10lbs. I think guys freak out when I make the moves. Plus I'm kind of a creeper. That doesn't help. Here's a pic to prove I'm not fugly. I'm in the white shirt.
/r/seduction19/11/11 01:02 AM
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Girl here: call her! It might make her day :]
/r/seduction12/11/11 02:54 PM
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Props on handling it so smoothly. Free beer makes everything better.
/r/seduction11/11/11 10:56 PM
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For me it's seriously hard. When I'm excited about something I want to talk about it, and lately my brain-to-mouth filter has been broken.
/r/seduction11/11/11 10:44 PM
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