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Hahahahahahahaha
/r/seduction09/04/22 12:36 PM
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Yes, it can. You have acne? Treat it. A crooked nose? Get surgery. Having 'Poor body image' does not always mean you are objectively wrong about your looks. Also, you're assuming that OP being short isn't a problem. How can you make that decision for him? If he say, had a micropenis and could fix it with surgery, would you be saying the same things? Just because you think that people look fine, doesn't mean they are, it's all relative. I didn't develop body dysmorphia until I suffered from lymph…
/r/seduction04/04/22 02:52 PM
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Destroyed their lives how?
/r/seduction04/04/22 01:14 PM
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This is a terrible take. 'Don't fix this problem because other problems do and will exist' Why should anyone learn to live with anything? Why would you discourage someone from taking action that might leave them a happier and thus healthier person?
/r/seduction04/04/22 01:14 PM
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Jesus
/r/seduction07/03/22 12:12 PM
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I would never pay.
/r/askTRP07/07/20 09:39 AM
1

If it’s not ‘all that’ then why are you paying for it?
/r/askTRP07/07/20 08:12 AM
1

This
/r/askTRP02/12/19 03:55 PM
9

Headspace app. Do it daily for a few months then come back
/r/askTRP14/11/19 10:19 AM
3

You sound like an idiot
/r/askTRP11/11/19 09:26 PM
1

I know the feeling. You keep bettering yourself and people still treat you like scum. You have to keep going. Worthwhile relationships will come, just focus on your mission
/r/askTRP11/11/19 10:48 AM
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Yes, sometimes logic isn’t enough.
/r/askTRP05/10/19 02:32 PM
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Okay. Telling people they are weak isn’t very constructive or helpful though, is it?
/r/askTRP05/10/19 01:48 PM
1

Think of it this way - weak people are weak because they’ve been made that way, they’ve had shitty or spoiled childhoods, right? So you’re essentially ‘attacking’ adults for what happened in their childhoods. Not everyone is brought up RP, stoic, powerful etc. Life is about understanding your weaknesses and then learning (from different sources) how to overcome them. It’s almost sociopathic to think that reacting naturally to something like a family member dying is ‘weak’. We can only use the in…
/r/askTRP05/10/19 01:29 PM
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Then you haven’t experienced trauma have you? Which is great - for you. You also aren’t a psychologist so if you do happen to experience trauma, you’re lying to yourself and being far too arrogant if you think that you can understand what you’d be going through and how exactly to heal or treat yourself. You’re privileged in that sense and you should realise that.
/r/askTRP05/10/19 01:24 PM
1

So you know everything? Nobody has anything to offer you that you don’t already possess?
/r/askTRP05/10/19 12:44 PM
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You have no idea why individuals suffer from depression and anxiety. You are ignorant.
/r/askTRP05/10/19 12:43 PM
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Sounds like you’re the one with issues
/r/askTRP04/10/19 09:56 PM
1

Anyone can buy one
/r/askTRP24/07/19 06:22 PM
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I’m aiming for 2700 at the moment but it’s hard to hit consistently. I’m going to track calories although MyFitnessPal seems to be difficult to use efficiently so I’m just estimating calories.
/r/askTRP15/07/19 02:57 PM
5

You are correct
/r/askTRP15/07/19 02:50 PM
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I had this problem last week. I was at a gay friend's party and later on when I was very drunk at a different venue, one of the guys kinda burst out with some unintelligable shit about how I'm really weird and words can't describe it - and how I was so 'full of love' at the start of the night yet now blah blah blah. He was staring me out like how you do if you want to kill someone. I laughed it off but then the adrenaline kicked in and I had to fight the urge to confront him. It actually reminds…
/r/askTRP17/06/19 12:12 PM
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Agreed with the P.S. part. It's pathetic.
/r/askTRP15/06/19 03:29 PM
3

"Take drugs, son"
/r/askTRP15/06/19 12:01 PM
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Are you really telling someone to take MDMA? You're insane.
/r/askTRP15/06/19 10:28 AM
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The guy that was 'better' than me 2 years ago was also at least 20 years older. Crazy stuff. People (women in this context) can be a bit strange and there is no use trying to rationalise their choices.
/r/askTRP08/06/19 06:24 PM
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Glad I could help. It was 2 years ago though. I also disagree with "You really need to spin plates and develop abundance". What if I don't want to? What if I'd rather spend my time developing my career and going to the gym? Abundance is something that I have and does not factor into the post I wrote today. My head is telling me I need to break up with her, but it's so difficult when she's so nice - I mean she is way way nicer than any other girl I have dated and I have a strong 'feeling' that I …
/r/askTRP29/03/19 03:33 PM
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Well I don't want to cut her completely out of my life, that's the thing. I like her, but I also know there are girls out there that I will want to LTR at some point.
/r/askTRP29/03/19 03:00 PM
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I'm not sure what you're asking. ​ I have all the power in this relationship
/r/askTRP29/03/19 02:59 PM
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I didn't say I was considering LTRing her. I said I can continue to plate her. If I wasn't such an 'empath' then I would do it and I wouldn't give a shit.
/r/askTRP29/03/19 02:11 PM
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You've just been dumped bro. Ghost.
/r/askTRP29/05/18 11:53 PM
1

Yep. She's distancing herself from you. Soft next or nuke.
/r/askTRP29/05/18 11:52 PM
1

You need to be more tactful
/r/askTRP29/05/18 11:51 PM
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Kinky
/r/askTRP17/05/18 12:14 PM
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Only once... a learning exp
/r/askTRP15/05/18 09:25 AM
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I've found that it's better to post stories on insta now, but I've not made the transition across. It is true that girls who give you their Snapchat want orbiters but you can hit them up from time to time and get dates. Follow normal social media rules i.e. Only post cool stuff on their and make it look like you've got a crazy great interesting life
/r/askTRP14/04/18 01:59 PM
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For all of you struggling, just know that at some point she will become a distant memory and you will laugh and feel embarrassed over the oneitis. Hang in there.
/r/askTRP27/03/18 09:51 AM
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What I mean is it causes a separate issue with his roommate
/r/askTRP26/03/18 03:50 PM
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'Cus it's his roommate
/r/askTRP26/03/18 11:52 AM
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No contact, the best way to move forward and gives you the biggest chance of seeing her again. If she contacts you, cool - if she doesn't, cool.
/r/askTRP26/03/18 11:12 AM
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Why? When I'm late it feels like I'm showing them a personality flaw, that I can't organise my time properly and therefore my SMV drops.
/r/askTRP21/03/18 09:29 PM
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Don't ask them what they're looking for, it doesn't help you. I had a dirty tinder date on Monday who showed extreme LMR as we were walking from the club to my hotel. The reason we left the club was that she couldn't keep her hands off me, on the way to the hotel she said she was going to drive home (she was drunk) Listen to what they DO not what they SAY.
/r/askTRP14/03/18 11:39 AM
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Just means you're narcissistic
/r/askTRP14/03/18 11:35 AM
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Also go through my post history... you might learn something
/r/askTRP02/03/18 01:45 AM
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This is the red pill, the sidebar is the truth - AWALT and everything else. If she was attracted to you she wouldn't want a break, she'd want to see you. This shit happens so frequently. Just accept it and move on with your mission.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 01:44 AM
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I just saw the pic of the texts. She's got someone else lined up most likely. Don't be her little bitch, just say "okay" and don't speak to her again. When she calls and texts you, tell her the relationship is over. You could downgrade to plate but I don't think you can handle that. Read the sidebar and proceed.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 01:41 AM
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Don't wait for ~3 months like I did, please. Get it over and done with NOW.
/r/askTRP02/03/18 01:36 AM
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This is important
/r/askTRP22/02/18 12:33 AM
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I get their snapchats and they still don't meet up with me. My stories are decent, SMV-raising. I think they just like the validation. Strange.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 12:31 AM
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I was replying to you. Peace.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 03:41 PM
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I was with her for 12 hours. No need to jump the gun and post some crap about oneitis. Appreciate the input anyway.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 03:33 PM
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Not all of them send me nudes and meet me though, will keep at it
/r/askTRP20/02/18 11:44 PM
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Got it. Cheers
/r/askTRP20/02/18 11:08 PM
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Oneitis hahahaha I'm all good bro
/r/askTRP20/02/18 09:42 PM
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My question is: why fuck only once?
/r/askTRP20/02/18 08:41 PM
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This is the truth, I'm just always reflective and trying to learn from my mistakes (if I've made any)
/r/askTRP20/02/18 08:41 PM
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Yep. She did say she 'got fucked over' so I assume a recent breakup. Still, she divulged way too much information for a one night stand. Do you understand what I'm saying? I'm chalking it up as a win. Every experience can be learned from. Cheers
/r/askTRP20/02/18 07:41 PM
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I think you've misconstrued me and my perception of it but thanks anyway.
/r/askTRP20/02/18 07:22 PM
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Actually I would have liked a new plate. I don't have any right now. Need to work on killing my ego and then I'll care less about shit like this.
/r/askTRP20/02/18 05:38 PM
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Fair enough. I'm finding this to be the most difficult thing about TRP so far, it's the stage where I'm stuck at right now. To have the power to move on and not overthink the illogical things that women do is a great thing. I will continue to strive to not occupy my mind with this toxic shit. I am always curious though, if I've done anything wrong that I can learn from.
/r/askTRP20/02/18 05:34 PM
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Why cut ties with me though?
/r/askTRP20/02/18 05:26 PM
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Come on man, if you're here you need to have a more positive outlook on sex than that. We should never have to pay for that shit. I understand what you're saying though. I'm not complaining per se, I'm just a little confused as I'm still learning and encountering new situations.
/r/askTRP20/02/18 05:25 PM
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No, it's okay. Lots of us suffer from those things and most of us don't have the balls to confront our issues and seek help. There is nothing 'wrong' with you per se but you need to relax and take it slow. Rome wasn't built in a day:
/r/askTRP19/02/18 07:06 PM
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Sounds like anger phase to me. Like a caged animal thrashing away at the cage trying to escape, when you just need to sit the fuck down and relax and realise you have all the tools right there inside you - this is a psychological issue that needs working on. Give it time. I was where you're at 6 months ago.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 07:04 PM
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Keep doing it. Come back in a couple of months. You're doing something wrong but you don't know what that is yet.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 06:59 PM
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It's classic oneitis - believing that your partner is better than you. It's toxic as fuck. It took me nearly 6 months to fully believe that I'm better than my ex in so many ways and all she is is a pretty face that I will never go anywhere near again. Proper RP advice would be to demote her to plate and use the time you would have spent with her to focus on your mission, but this is kinda extreme for most.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 12:54 PM
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Classic comfort test
/r/askTRP19/02/18 11:12 AM
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Ignore it and internalise that your are better than her and can drop her at any time. Raise your SMV and apply dread game.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 09:44 AM
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Dread game
/r/askTRP16/02/18 10:16 AM
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Stood up for what? Dates? What had you planned?
/r/askTRP16/02/18 10:15 AM
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You're basically me 9 months ago. Get a fucking grip. Learning the hard way hurts and takes longer.
/r/askTRP15/02/18 09:22 PM
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Agreed
/r/askTRP15/02/18 09:21 PM
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Too much disinterest and you've blown it. You can't expect to not communicate with a woman and have them end up on your dick.
/r/askTRP15/02/18 02:08 AM
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read fnordsnord's reply over and over and over and over again
/r/askTRP15/02/18 12:51 AM
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RUN
/r/askTRP15/02/18 12:49 AM
1

wow
/r/askTRP15/02/18 12:43 AM
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It's nice that she's seeking YOUR validation. Don't give it to her all at once, feed her crumbs.
/r/askTRP15/02/18 12:42 AM
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I was with a girl for 8 months and we had NO pictures of us together I don't think about it anymore so I can't give you a clear answer but I had a few theories, she wasn't the kind of girl to post stuff on social media (selfies etc) but it was a red flag that she wouldn't take pictures with me. If you take the sidebar as gospel then the only real answer is that your SMV is too low otherwise she'd be parading you everywhere, The rest of your post is a whole different problem - you decided to brin…
/r/askTRP15/02/18 12:38 AM
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Yep. Have abundance and be outcome independent and they will fight for your attention
/r/askTRP08/02/18 11:25 AM
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100%
/r/askTRP08/02/18 11:23 AM
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I told a broken plate who tried to worm her way back in "talk about your issues or keep them in your head and never see me again" It's kinda sad that I have to block these women to stop the attempted manipulation and mind games but hey... it works
/r/askTRP08/02/18 11:22 AM
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AWALT
/r/askTRP08/02/18 11:21 AM
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Please please end it now instead of going through this bullshit.
/r/askTRP08/02/18 11:20 AM
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How tf can she break up with you 50-70 times?!
/r/askTRP07/02/18 01:28 AM
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"You know what ghosting means? She needs a fucking ouija board to contact you" Gold
/r/askTRP01/02/18 03:21 AM
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More time and more girls Also no contact and block her on everything
/r/askTRP01/02/18 03:18 AM
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No. Respond if you want to, if she reaches out after a period of time.
/r/askTRP31/01/18 10:09 AM
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I got this last week. Soft next. Don't even respond and move on with your life. If she hits you up, meet, escalate, rinse and repeat.
/r/askTRP31/01/18 02:12 AM
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You have no idea. Your original reply was constructive and I appreciate it. I gave you more information and asked some further questions and you have nothing decent to say which is a shame.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 02:50 PM
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That wasn't very constructive.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 01:11 PM
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First of all I think it's important to be observant and when something like this happens, you know in your gut that something is wrong. The problem is that you can't react to it. Just go about your life as if this little problem doesn't affect you one bit, but remember to be aware of it. If it carries on or gets worse then you have a real issue. You should work towards being less needy - but the shift from 'responding quickly' to 'responding slowly' usually means that you've moved down her prior…
/r/askTRP28/01/18 12:18 PM
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It will cause serious serious issues somewhere down the line. My ex LTR had a guy friend who she joked about liking when we first got together. I then saw him messaging her with hearts etc, she said he was in love with her but they were just friends. I believed this up until our relationship started going sour. Oh, she also fucked him once but she's "not that kinda girl" and "would never have sex outside of a relationship". AWALT.
/r/askTRP28/01/18 12:15 PM
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Don't call out women about being a shittier texter or becoming less available. A man with options doesn't give a shit about these small details that are otherwise unremarkable. To be fair she was scheduling dates and going dark on me, falling asleep and turning up late. It's difficult to not give a fuck or care when you're waiting around for someone. I had every right to call her out and it wasn't in a whiney way, it was more of a warning. I always wondered to myself how she though I would give …
/r/askTRP28/01/18 12:11 PM
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This sounds like awful advice
/r/askTRP25/01/18 11:57 PM
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I have some other women hitting me up recently but I don't like putting effort and time into them when I don't like them that much, I only want sex from them and I feel like I'm wasting time doing other things. This is why I stuck with this plate. I'm in no means in the same situation I was in when I broke up with my LTR (not even sure I can call it a LTR anymore) - abundance is key! I could actually do without women for a while as I look to start in a new gym and start up my business.
/r/askTRP25/01/18 09:26 PM
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I could have broken frame, but there was no way I was about to do that with this girl. I'd call her a HB5, nice body and always wanting to fuck so it was all good in my book. But she was a particularly strange one and so my frame was rock solid from the start. I did take her to a couple of gigs, didn't expect anything in return (I got free tickets) and maybe I was testing the waters for something a little more serious to keep her around. When she started getting extra shit at replying she would …
/r/askTRP25/01/18 09:20 PM
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Yeah, after being here for a while I expect the worst in these situations, I was just curious and introspective in regards to me breaking frame or something, it's always nice to know where you've gone wrong - if you have.
/r/askTRP25/01/18 09:12 PM
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Understood, so a permanent soft next - if she reaches out then I have every right to respond as I'm not invested. Cheers
/r/askTRP25/01/18 09:10 PM
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I knew it was inevitable but it came at a strange time. She was texting me over Christmas (missing me) as I was in my home country for 3 weeks. When I came back we fucked like rabbits, she said she had been waiting for me etc etc - I didn't care either way, it was just nice to not have to put in the effort of initially dating somebody.
/r/askTRP25/01/18 09:09 PM
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Not at all. If you want to see emotional investment check out my post history. As I said, I'm merely reflecting as I'm in a new situation.
/r/askTRP25/01/18 08:43 PM
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Looking at this again, you were right. Of course. I really need to stop hamstering and letting the feels take control, it makes me angry but I'm making progress every day. If anyone's interested, she actually ended up going out drinking and went to the pub I was going to (obviously she did) - turns out that she was playing games the whole time. I didn't get a good chance to escalate and even after going back to my friend's place with her friends and us, she went home with her friends. I soft nex…
/r/askTRP24/01/18 12:32 AM
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You probably won't next her, so I propose you soft next her instead. If she contacts you, then cool, respond, but you don't want to be doing friendzoned shit with her. You need to escalate and from what I read you didn't escalate once. Rejection is good, invite it onto yourself and then move forward to the next woman.
/r/askTRP24/01/18 12:23 AM
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Doesn't it depend on how much he cares? A little push might set him up with a date and he can work from there. That's how I see it anyway. Sometimes you don't have to play the game 100% properly, especially when you're not invested - but I guess if he wasn't he wouldn't be posting this.
/r/askTRP24/01/18 12:16 AM
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Read my previous posts. I was in the same boat last year - do not think it affects your SMV because it doesn't unless you let it manifest into your personality or confidence. It only did for me when I got into bed with a girl. I had so many opportunities to fuck before I finally did, and even then, I had nearly scuppered the opportunity (might have been a good thing in hindsight, ah well...) If it means finding a woman who you're super comfortable with, then so be it. I lost my virginity at a ti…
/r/askTRP24/01/18 12:14 AM
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Go home sick before you quit, either way. You need to work on your frame. I'd start with the usual; meditation, lifting, reading, gaming. Spend time with your friends, go out with them and hit on women. Do something other than think about her or how you feel.
/r/askTRP24/01/18 12:11 AM
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Looking at snapchat stories means nothing
/r/askTRP24/01/18 12:09 AM
2

What's the point? If they want to text you they will. Less is more.
/r/askTRP24/01/18 12:08 AM
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Reads like what happened to me in regards to my ex. Does that make me the woman in this situation? It's rhetorical. Now I have the knowledge (and experience) that I didn't have back then.
/r/askTRP23/01/18 01:17 PM
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punctuation bro
/r/askTRP22/01/18 05:44 PM
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Meditate. Carry on lifting. Socialise with your friends often. Pick up a new hobby. Get a job. Meet new women. Fuck new women. So many things you can do but the main thing you need to be doing is shifting your mind's focus away from her, it's difficult but it happens over time and the process can be accelerated via different means.
/r/askTRP22/01/18 05:39 PM
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I'm in this situation. Grow some fucking balls and just deal with it until University is over. Fuck other women. Live your life!
/r/askTRP22/01/18 05:37 PM
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If you look through my cancerous post history you'll find some gold. Anyway, my ex is in every single one of my University classes, leading to me not going to class now and again, getting 'triggered' and so on... It gets easier with time if you follow all the advice here. I still want to smack her in the face when she's anywhere near me but of course I wont and I'm sure that feeling will also subside. I just tend to avoid situations where I will be close to her or forced to communicate with her.
/r/askTRP22/01/18 05:34 PM
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This happens a LOT. You can't/shouldn't do anything about it but it makes me lose all respect for the woman involved. I have a funny story about two of my friends' LTRs, I might post it via a throwaway sometime, you can probably guess what happened.
/r/askTRP22/01/18 05:31 PM
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You are my favourite bot
/r/askTRP21/01/18 10:44 PM
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Wise words
/r/askTRP21/01/18 10:41 PM
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I matched with a girl on Bumble a few months ago (maybe October) and have been super busy and occupied with another plate since. She added me on Snapchat and has messaged me a couple of times in the meantime, until recently she asked me when we're going to meet. She said she was bored and asked me if I want to chat to her over the phone, I thought yeah why not? It's practice if anything. We had a good chat, it went well, but I feel it was rather pointless. She mentioned she had a date this weeke…
/r/askTRP21/01/18 10:40 PM
2

I find this rule extremely difficult to follow, but it's the truth. When you talk, all you are doing is making opportunities for yourself to fuck up. Limit it - cut the neediness.
/r/askTRP21/01/18 10:36 PM
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Well, no, I don't. I've talked about tomorrow now and over-invested. To ignore her and leave town without saying anything is a bit extreme.
/r/askTRP08/01/18 07:30 PM
1

Sure. I know that anyway. Why am I afraid that by going back on my word and not meeting her tomorrow, she will lose some attraction?
/r/askTRP08/01/18 07:10 PM
1

It's just an expression. Anyway, for a woman to think you are bf material is a good thing, no? Doesn't mean I'm a beta provider, means she's happy to get invested and is attracted. The problem I have with women that I actually like is that I want everything except the 'boyfriend' tag. It seems I'm not happy to just have sex and I want to do date-type things with them too. Need more abundance still.
/r/askTRP08/01/18 07:02 PM
1

At least someone with a good insight here. I've found TRP to be quite simple after internalising things and learning some lessons the hard way. I'm unsure as to this situation because I've already made the mistake. Work up the hamster, don't text her and leave. Her imagination will do the rest for you. I don't think this would be a good idea, I'll be doing a complete 180. She sent me a snapchat a couple of minutes ago, I wont open it til later - so she is still initiating. It does feel like all …
/r/askTRP08/01/18 06:52 PM
1

You can have one plate
/r/askTRP08/01/18 10:56 AM
1

But you have time for a relationship?
/r/askTRP08/01/18 10:54 AM
2

There's this one girl...
/r/askTRP03/12/17 11:15 PM
5

I don't feel 'happier' but I do crack a smile from time to time when I realise she is never on my mind anymore. Finding it difficult to focus on my mission but I can't expect to be operating at 100% constantly. I'm still learning and growing. Cheers
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 01:01 PM
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Gospel. Sometimes you need a proper kick in the nuts to wake you up.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/11/17 12:47 PM
1

Nope nope nope
/r/askTRP29/10/17 11:33 AM
2

NEXT then
/r/askTRP19/10/17 02:09 PM
1

You sound like a child. Fucking dump her if you don't like her body and keep whining about it. Scarcity mentality.
/r/askTRP19/10/17 01:41 PM
3

Troll confirmed
/r/askTRP19/10/17 01:39 PM
1

This happened to me last weekend but the girl was the hottest girl I've ever been with. Pretty sure it's performance anxiety and it fucking sucks. I've quit porn and hadnt masturbated for a week, still nothing. Thinking of carrying viagra just incase.
/r/askTRP15/10/17 02:13 PM
2

Apply dread game
/r/askTRP15/10/17 02:11 PM
1

Placebo or not, I'm twice the man if I don't jerk it for a week +.
/r/askTRP14/10/17 11:57 PM
1

Approach in real life instead
/r/askTRP09/10/17 08:49 PM
1

Elaborate
/r/askTRP09/10/17 02:22 PM
1

Fuck him off then
/r/askTRP09/10/17 01:39 PM
5

More sexual energy that can be used productively for any purpose
/r/askTRP07/10/17 07:57 PM
1

I'm trying. Need to meditate and stay productive, it's difficult when she's around but that's the way it's going to be.
/r/askTRP05/10/17 03:25 PM
1

Sure. I know. She started acting up after around 2 and a half months and 11 months later it's still on my mind and making me feel like shit. I'd be lost without this place.
/r/askTRP05/10/17 03:15 PM
1

Nope. Like 2 months.
/r/askTRP05/10/17 03:10 PM
1

I obviously was at the start
/r/askTRP05/10/17 03:08 PM
2

I am speaking to a girl in the year below me. Just don't do it with a girl in the same class, or beware the consequences...
/r/askTRP05/10/17 02:59 PM
1

Read my post history. LTRd a girl in my class who ended up basically ghosting me, going on a break then dumping me. I have to see her in class for the next two years and it feels bad.
/r/askTRP05/10/17 12:34 PM
1

Y E S Depends how often you'll bump into eachother but please don't date anyone from your class or you'll turn into me.
/r/askTRP05/10/17 12:32 PM
1

I've already learnt and grown but she's been on my mind no matter how hard I tried. Her stance all along was 'I'll see how I feel in September' and now we know what that is. It's for the best, I know that now, just a shame she's in my class - definitely a lesson learned.
/r/askTRP03/10/17 12:43 AM
1

I'm pretty sure there isn't a new guy. Where we are now she is alone, maybe back in her home country but she wouldn't try to sustain it. Doesn't matter now anyway.
/r/askTRP02/10/17 07:42 PM
1

I have read it. It's just a bit more difficult to rationalise things when you are so caught up in the relationship like I was. I should have walked away in February when she stopped wanting intimacy. It makes me laugh now that I think about it. My ego is too big and that's why all this happened.
/r/askTRP02/10/17 05:06 PM
1

Sometimes you need to learn lessons the hard way
/r/askTRP02/10/17 04:06 PM
1

I don't think it's cringey. Definitely not r/relationships level of cringey. I can't/couldn't control my emotions to the point where I could believe walking away was the best thing for me. Nearly all of us go through it and I won't be acting like that ever again. TRP is grim, it's not nice and it kills the beta in you and everything you ever wanted from relationships. I know I will love again but it's all about holding frame and I'm working hard so that it doesn't take so much willpower and ener…
/r/askTRP02/10/17 03:58 PM
1

I disagree. She didn't communicate anything throughout the relationship and thought it was okay to ghost me and avoid answering questions whilst we were on a break. She is a coward and should have broken up with me back in May. I wouldn't have liked it but it would've been better than what actually happened. Sure she could have tried to hurt me more but I have lots of social power whereas she has none. She was always afraid of being alienated at college and now it's happening because my friends …
/r/askTRP02/10/17 03:55 PM
1

I already feel a million times better than I was, both mentally and physically. I've got this.
/r/askTRP02/10/17 01:50 PM
1

Yeah I put myself through the pain because I was too attached to the idea of her and us. Classic oneitis but it's easy for people to tell you what to do when they're not in your shoes. I did everything I could to salvage something and here I am. Lots of lessons learnt and it's time for me to shift my focus towards my mission. I appreciate everyone's advice through this and know that TRP is pretty much binary and there is no middle ground that I was looking for. A break means it's over, disrespec…
/r/askTRP02/10/17 01:35 PM
-1

I'm not deep in oneitis but I would like her to want me, sure.
/r/askTRP01/10/17 04:06 PM
1

I don't know that. She is stubborn.
/r/askTRP01/10/17 02:58 PM
1

I'm using the term loosely. I'm 'hamstering' because of the ambiguity of the situation. I can't go off anything except my thoughts and perceptions, so I should probably talk to her. I think it would be a good thing for her to reject me as it will stop all this.
/r/askTRP01/10/17 01:21 PM
1

I can't make a decision before I know how she feels. I will find out soon.
/r/askTRP01/10/17 01:20 PM
2

I have the same thing.
/r/askTRP01/10/17 01:14 PM
1

My hamster has been telling me that. If she is talking to or seeing anyone, they are in her home country. I know that for a fact. She has no options here. That's why I wanted to make a move sooner rather than later because she might think 'he's over me and we're not getting back together'. Maybe she agreed to see me to see how I am? In the same way I'm trying to figure out how she feels. Her attitude is pretty shitty, she hasn't made an effort so I will wait.
/r/askTRP01/10/17 01:11 PM
1

I'm just conflicted as to whether I should even try it or not, so I guess I need more time around her to see how things are.
/r/askTRP01/10/17 12:54 PM
1

That's what I thought. That I should treat it like any other date, but I'm going to give it more time as I don't know how I feel about her and want to see what her attitude is like.
/r/askTRP01/10/17 12:50 PM
1

Not if she still loves me, of course she doesn't. Why would that be such a bad thing? At least I'll know for sure and I can internalise the answer instead of using guesswork.
/r/askTRP01/10/17 12:37 PM
1

If she wasn't in my University class it wouldn't be a problem. This is why I'm entertaining the idea of plating. I can't avoid her. So I carry on ghosting? Now that she's back she is on my mind somewhat, because I'm wondering how she feels. I think nuking it would be better for me so I KNOW for sure.
/r/askTRP01/10/17 12:28 PM
7

10/10 You know, when you post constructive stuff it's great but sometimes you make yourself look like an idiot and it may invalidate everything else you say.
/r/askTRP01/10/17 12:00 PM
1

What's your problem? Do you really enjoy masturbating?
/r/askTRP01/10/17 10:22 AM
1

He asked 'what would you have done?'
/r/askTRP26/09/17 01:30 PM
5

You're making excuses. Take baby steps. Go out more often and speak to random people, your mood will lift and your anxiety will dissipate.
/r/askTRP26/09/17 01:29 PM
1

You made the mistake of becoming his enemy then
/r/askTRP26/09/17 11:45 AM
1

Befriend him
/r/askTRP26/09/17 10:53 AM
3

It will answer your questions. Don't shit where you eat
/r/askTRP26/09/17 01:15 AM
1

Sidebar
/r/askTRP26/09/17 01:08 AM
1

Get other options then
/r/askTRP26/09/17 12:36 AM
3

Kiss her and then get her into bed, the rest is easy
/r/askTRP25/09/17 08:10 PM
2

She wants you to chase her, don't do it
/r/askTRP23/09/17 08:33 AM
-1

What this guy said
/r/askTRP22/09/17 11:13 PM
1

You're falling or have already falling into her frame. Soft next.
/r/askTRP17/09/17 12:01 PM
5

Oh hey, you must be lost.
/r/askTRP12/09/17 03:11 PM
1

Distance yourself from her, like a periodic soft next. Sometimes it's the only way to put the focus back on yourself! I was like this in my last relationship, before she broke up with me, I could sense it happening but I didn't do anything to change it because I was too comfortable. Get out of your comfort zone. Sometimes pain is the fuel we need to find the discipline to better ourselves.
/r/askTRP12/09/17 01:10 PM
1

Even if it's your own home
/r/askTRP11/09/17 05:48 PM
1

In the ass right...
/r/askTRP11/09/17 12:45 PM
3

Do not pursue this
/r/askTRP30/08/17 01:57 PM
-1

Do NOT shit where you eat. Please.
/r/askTRP30/08/17 10:13 AM
4

I need to write this shit on my wall. WHO'S THE FUCKIN PRIZE?!
/r/askTRP30/08/17 08:37 AM
1

Clearly isn't impossible is it
/r/askTRP28/08/17 04:50 PM
1

Actions speak louder than words
/r/askTRP28/08/17 10:00 AM
1

I think this is the only 'quick fix'. Difficult to find someone better when you're in that slump though. Keep working hard
/r/askTRP28/08/17 10:00 AM
3

You sound really autistic. With that attitude there certainly isn't any hope.
/r/askTRP27/08/17 01:00 PM
3

Try to lead the social group. Host events at your place and always be out and about so people see you socialising, also try to get some social proof.
/r/askTRP26/08/17 02:29 PM
1

Broke up with my oneitis but working on my mission. And no - I'm sleeping with girls with lower SMV.
/r/askTRP25/08/17 02:14 PM
1

If you're in a slump this isn't very easy at all and you can suffer even more from having a dry spell
/r/askTRP25/08/17 10:32 AM
1

I'm 25 years old. I had my first 'date' ever last year with a super attractive girl who ended up being my ex of 8 months. The key was being in a moment where I was confident and happy with my direction in life, I'd also quit masturbating for 1-2 week periods, it gave me a feeling of aloofness and the fact I was putting myself out there constantly and surrounding myself with people meant that I sorta had an abundance mentality. It took me a few weeks and 3/4 dates to finally have sex with her (I …
/r/askTRP23/08/17 11:41 PM
1

I need practice but I'll try this, thanks.
/r/askTRP22/08/17 04:09 PM
2

What are you talking about? Music is music, different people write it for different reasons.
/r/askTRP22/08/17 02:47 PM
1

It's scary stuff though when you have little experience. I already demoted myself to a 'boy' when I found out she was 30. My insecurity are exacerbated.
/r/askTRP21/08/17 05:36 PM
1

I'm guilty of this aswell as the OP. Went on a date last week and because she was 5 years older than me I felt intimated so didn't escalate beyond some light kino. I was 'waiting' for some more IOIs from her.
/r/askTRP21/08/17 12:33 PM
3

Make progress on your mission. Be somebody who you can respect.
/r/askTRP19/08/17 09:12 PM
2

Bad
/r/askTRP17/08/17 03:08 PM
1

It certainly is easier to be weak.
/r/askTRP15/08/17 09:40 AM
3

It hurts I won't lie but she doesn't define my worth, she's clearly not who I thought she was and it's a liberating feeling - just angry at myself for putting myself through it. In the 2 weeks since I've been single I've had more 'action' than in my previous 25 years combined. Still gotta get rid of the oneitis though and it sucks that I have to see her in University 3 times a week. Gotta step up and be the man I was last September (and better!), should be easy now that I'm on my mission and pro…
/r/askTRP14/08/17 12:22 PM
1

Tell me about it, I just went through that shit like a beta chump. It was over months ago. Glad I found this place, it's helped a lot. Used to browse r/seduction religiously but don't go there anymore, it's desperate bullshit.
/r/askTRP14/08/17 12:15 PM
1

Take a break? That's the first time I've seen that advocated on here. Do you mean a 'break' so you can plate afterwards?
/r/askTRP14/08/17 12:00 PM
1

No, I just said "I know somewhere we can go" but that could be construed as anything. I'm only going to take her there if I like her and things are going well.
/r/askTRP13/08/17 11:50 PM
2

You're right. Cheers
/r/askTRP13/08/17 09:50 PM
1

It's a bit easier to 'get to know eachother' later on in the evening and after a few drinks but I disgress... Thanks for the input
/r/askTRP13/08/17 09:45 PM
1

I am pretty sure I read the 'adventure' post on TRP recently as I said. I was merely referencing. Alright then, so you'd just text back saying "okay" would you?
/r/askTRP13/08/17 09:43 PM
1

Alright, I see where you're coming from. No neediness here though - for this particular girl anyway, maybe there is in terms of wanting plates but I don't even know if I like this girl. I spent 10 minutes with her sat in the back of a cab. She's getting vetted too. I guess it's my inner autist wanting to know everything. Knowledge usually helps you make better decisions/plans. I will reschedule for 7.
/r/askTRP13/08/17 09:41 PM
1

Also, maybe I've been lucky with other dates I've been on, I've usually built up rapport BEFORE the first date and on every other first date I've been on, unless they're nutjobs or too high SMV, they want to sleep with me that same night. The consensus is that I take it slow with this one?
/r/askTRP13/08/17 09:36 PM
1

I'm not insecure. I'm asking for advice instead of mulling over it or making a mistake and asking her why. I'm also not trying hard. I like making the date an 'adventure' (referencing a recent post on TRP) and meeting at 6pm for a chat and a beer isn't my idea of a fun date. I guess it's good to get out of my comfort zone hey...
/r/askTRP13/08/17 09:35 PM
-5

I'll tell her I'm busy tomorrow but I can make 7pm.
/r/askTRP13/08/17 09:32 PM
1

I can just lone wolf if she bails on me, that's not an issue.
/r/askTRP13/08/17 09:32 PM
1

I usually go to a bar, then another bar, then an event (club) to escalate. Should I ask her why, or assume that it's for her to make sure I'm not a creep? I would rather be a little bit intoxicated on a date, I don't do it often so this is merely practice for me. 6pm is too early. It's not like we're just grabbing a coffee. I want to make a night of it.
/r/askTRP13/08/17 09:30 PM
1

It's Monday tomorrow, I'm in the UK. Should I ask her why?
/r/askTRP13/08/17 09:24 PM
1

Yeah - always thought it meant "Not Give a Fuck" but apparently it doesn't...
/r/askTRP13/08/17 09:07 PM
1

I think it was tongue-in-cheek
/r/askTRP13/08/17 08:27 PM
2

amused mastery. encourage it
/r/askTRP13/08/17 08:27 PM
1

Soft next
/r/askTRP13/08/17 08:23 PM
4

like poetry
/r/askTRP13/08/17 08:18 PM
1

NGAF attitude and good aesthetics/style. Also don't be autistic
/r/askTRP13/08/17 08:17 PM
2

I don't think it's trolling. It's interesting to me too because I'm going through it, but I'm going NC before I see her again in a month, then I will keep it civil - the consensus is that if you're a POS with scarcity mentality then you can plate if your feelings diminish (sounds like an oxymoron doesn't it), otherwise you avoid like the plague. Sex is sex, as long as you don't give a fuck
/r/askTRP13/08/17 11:35 AM
1

Oneitis
/r/askTRP12/08/17 09:31 PM
2

smoke weed
/r/askTRP12/08/17 09:29 PM
1

Extremely arrogant and stubborn. In my experience...
/r/askTRP12/08/17 10:19 AM
1

Understood. My thoughts are - if she wants to fuck me, we fuck. If she doesn't she gets ghosted indefinitely.
/r/askTRP09/08/17 09:42 PM
1

Isn't that a good thing? Or are you saying we should initiate to test the waters after a period of time? I want things to at least be civil with my ex but recently I got sick of her shit, got up from a conversation and told her it's not a problem anymore and deleted her off social media. We were 'supposed' to have a talk to see where we're at in a month's time. I was going to plate her. That's the oneitis talking but we gotta spend 2 more years together. Either way I'm going no contact for at le…
/r/askTRP09/08/17 09:13 PM
1

... great advice. I already have been for months. Not going to make progress if I can't eat enough.
/r/askTRP09/08/17 03:24 PM
1

Just have been since forever, being a lazy beta bitch. I've been going to the gym for 2 months but I'm going through a oneitis breakup so my appetite is destroyed
/r/askTRP09/08/17 02:55 PM
1

You're 25. What makes you think you're old?
/r/askTRP09/08/17 10:21 AM
1

You know what I find funny? That in most cases when you ghost they come crawling back. I don't understand that. I can't see it happening with my ex - I guess she lost too much attraction or respect.
/r/askTRP09/08/17 10:20 AM
1

I'm 140 and 6'. Bad huh.
/r/askTRP09/08/17 08:47 AM
1

Wear a condom
/r/askTRP09/08/17 08:46 AM
3

Best comment ever
/r/askTRP09/08/17 12:07 AM
1

Then what are you waiting for?
/r/askTRP09/08/17 12:06 AM
1

155 at your height isn't that skinny. Eat at a 500 calorie surplus and do something like starting strength with accessories (arms) thrown in.
/r/askTRP08/08/17 08:09 PM
1

I still want her back, even though I know I shouldn't. I believed that we could work things out after some time apart but she thinks that making me wait another month isn't fair so we should break up. That communicates to me that she wants to be single. I'm hamstering so fucking hard.
/r/askTRP08/08/17 06:12 PM
4

You don't reap what you sow with women. So as long as you're aware that the grass will wither away and die at some point (regardless of how much you care for it) then all is good.
/r/askTRP08/08/17 12:34 PM
1

There is always greener grass, it's up to you to find it.
/r/askTRP08/08/17 11:20 AM
1

For me it made things worse, the exclusivity conversation came naturally, shortly later I ran into some problems, 2 months later she declares her love and instantly the relationship crumbles
/r/askTRP07/08/17 08:09 PM
101

Blow it up. She did this, not you.
/r/askTRP07/08/17 04:21 PM
0

It's what people do late at night. There literally aren't any alternatives besides going home.
/r/askTRP07/08/17 09:40 AM
1

Get a phone
/r/askTRP07/08/17 12:12 AM
1

Why isn't it okay for a girl to go out and socialise with her girlfriends?
/r/askTRP06/08/17 09:57 PM
1

Alright. This has been bugging me. How the fuck can any of you expect your girlfriend to NOT go out with her friends? It would be considered to be 'abusive' or 'controlling' behaviour to try to stop your girlfriend from going out with her friends. I understand that they are not healthy for the relationship. But telling your girlfriend that she can only go out drinking if you're there is quite frankly pathetic and shows you have a weak frame. As other commenters have said, if she's going to cheat…
/r/askTRP06/08/17 09:56 PM
1

Alright. This has been bugging me. How the fuck can any of you expect your girlfriend to NOT go out with her friends? It would be considered to be 'abusive' or 'controlling' behaviour to try to stop your girlfriend from going out with her friends. I understand that they are not healthy for the relationship. But telling your girlfriend that she can only go out drinking if you're there is quite frankly pathetic and shows you have a weak frame. As other commenters have said, if she's going to cheat…
/r/askTRP06/08/17 09:56 PM
1

Wish I had done it months ago. Lesson learned.
/r/askTRP05/08/17 06:16 PM
1

You're right
/r/askTRP05/08/17 05:53 PM
1

Thank you
/r/askTRP05/08/17 05:53 PM
1

You mean it's better to walk away instead of carrying on fighting? I have gotten nowhere really in 2 months, though 3 weeks ago she started calling and messaging me out of the blue so it gave me hope. The thing is, we will be 'reunited' in a month. The 'break' would be over and then we were going to decide whether to carry on dating or whatever. I feel like she has destroyed any chance of that happening. Honestly, if she wanted to break up to be single and fuck other guys I would have been okay …
/r/askTRP05/08/17 01:22 PM
1

Yep, for real. The girl I fucked from tinder I wasn't even attracted to, which made 'game' difficult but made her want me more because I didn't care. I have self-esteem issues I have to deal with, and the saying rings true, that women don't want to know about your problems or help you with them. I didn't ever fully tell her I had issues or what they were but she knew, and abandonded me when the going got tough. It's her loss, it really is. I'm just bitter and angry about how easy it is for her, …
/r/askTRP05/08/17 01:14 PM
1

Yep. You know what's funny? I've read nearly all the RP content that exists, so I know how this works, but when you're engulfed in emotion it's difficult to rationalise everything, especially when, with a woman like this, you have little to go off.
/r/askTRP05/08/17 12:50 PM
1

I am aware of this, and I think it happened months before she even wanted to go on a break. What does that say about her as a person? Are all women disgusting evil human beings? I don't think so. Whenever I feel myself reverting to beta I remind myself that a few weeks after she told me she loved me, she stopped wanting to have sex or even KISS me at times. That is very fucking confusing.
/r/askTRP05/08/17 12:43 PM
1

This is why I didn't confront her about cheating or messaging other guys. It won't help me to know either way. I have a sick feeling deep inside me, that this girl that loved me so recently can disregard my feelings, disrespect me and throw me in the trash so easily. That does things to your self-image that you wouldn't believe...
/r/askTRP05/08/17 12:36 PM
1

100% oneitis but I blame that on how she has dragged this out and been ambiguous the whole time. I agree that if she doesn't care then I shouldn't, but I still don't 100% know how she feels. Is that the autist in me talking? For 2 days she showed no interest in me whatsoever. If she cared I would know about it right? It will be difficult to fuck 10 women hotter than her. This is the fucking problem. I've been lifting for 2 months but my appetite has been destroyed by the heartbreak etc.
/r/askTRP05/08/17 12:34 PM
3

Thank you, I'm starting to believe this. I know I deserve so much better.
/r/askTRP05/08/17 12:30 PM
5

Well, you kinda have to if you want things to improve.
/r/askTRP02/08/17 10:39 AM
6

The teeth thing is the biggest deal for me too.
/r/askTRP02/08/17 10:39 AM
1

Yes. STFU about it and carry on lifting. If you try to brag or make it obvious you're trying to apply dread then it wont work. Keep at it brother
/r/askTRP31/07/17 03:55 PM
1

Which is funny because it started happening a couple of weeks after she told me she loved me, the day before Valentine's Day she avoided sex and said some bullshit and then 2 weeks later I had enough and called her out big time, I was staying at hers and just walked out without saying goodbye. I'm not quite sure why that happened... I didn't go beta over the course of 2 weeks.
/r/askTRP30/07/17 10:29 PM
13

Invite her over to yours
/r/askTRP30/07/17 09:48 PM
1

Young girls do shit like this. Especially when they drink. I've seen girls do some crazy and disgusting things. They don't give a fuck. Saying that, I don't think you should next her because of this, seems way too severe. She was drunk and wanted to show them her piercing. Have a word with her and set a boundary.
/r/askTRP30/07/17 09:45 PM
2

If you nuke it, you will find out how invested she is in the relationship. If she says "okay" then you know it's over, but if she hamsters and goes crazy trying to stop the breakup then you can passively push her for a reason as to why she's ghosting. I hope you get the idea.
/r/askTRP30/07/17 08:36 PM
1

So... depending on how invested/strong you are, you can either ghost her harder or confront her about it. Ghosting her will damage the relationship (she's already doing it) but she might come round sooner rather than later and THEN you can talk about it or try to find out why it happened. Confrontation is frowned upon but I think that this is a pretty big deal. You could nuke it - say something like "seems like you're having a great time out there, me too, I'm thinking maybe we should make this …
/r/askTRP30/07/17 07:55 PM
1

Look through my post history. I know what I'm talking about, I've just been through the same shit. Do you have any theories then? She DOESN'T WANT TO CONTACT YOU. What does that tell you?
/r/askTRP30/07/17 07:47 PM
1

It's over.
/r/askTRP30/07/17 07:37 PM
20

Keep looking then
/r/askTRP30/07/17 07:19 PM
1

True but if it happens it's only temporary - the pain I mean.
/r/askTRP30/07/17 05:08 PM
1

I think it will take me a while to 'not want her back' - BUT I don't want her back in an LTR capacity. She would be a good plate. She's immature, childish and selfish, but I lost my V card to her and we had great sex, so I guess there's some sort of attachment there that I need to kill off. I'm working on improving myself and getting into the right mindset to game other chicks. I've been going to the gym for 2 months but haven't put any weight on yet as my appetite has suffered because of the 'b…
/r/askTRP30/07/17 01:54 PM
1

I can't cut all contact. We're going to our mutual friend's place for 4 days this week and she's in my University class. Don't shit where you eat, I know, but I have a higher social standing, she doesn't really talk to anyone although I've noticed her trying to snake her way around recently, liking my friends' posts and such. I'm not worried about that, she's just another person now.
/r/askTRP30/07/17 01:48 PM
3

Thanks. I didn't ignore any of your advice, I just needed to learn the hard way. Cool, I will treat her like a work colleague, no problem.
/r/askTRP30/07/17 12:38 PM
17

If you're good friends with him then I'd tell him
/r/askTRP29/07/17 09:15 PM
1

Well yeah, a couple of girls in our social circle. Not like I'm gonna fuck them anytime soon. But yeah I understand what you're saying. I need a stronger frame.
/r/askTRP28/07/17 03:24 PM
2

I'm waiting to get my hair cut so I have some time. I'm shitting where I'm eating, she's in my university class. For 2 more years. She has infiltrated more or less my whole social circle - before that, she had one friend. I am of higher SMV, I am a DJ and socially very competent, quite popular in University. I thought she was LTR material, low n count, comes from a rich/classy family but she has issues, mainly with communication. She told me she loved me first and I broke and became beta over th…
/r/askTRP28/07/17 03:05 PM
1

Come on dude be more constructive
/r/askTRP28/07/17 02:59 PM
1

Even if I am, do you expect a few comments on Reddit to magically help me achieve my goals and become Alpha in an instant? No. I have my own issues, just like everyone else, and this is why I'm here. I know what my mission is, but I let myself be put it in limbo for 2 months by this woman who I still have feelz for. A very very high proportion of men would have done the same. I'm working towards being the man I want to be and insults aren't productive especially when I've read all I can and am p…
/r/askTRP28/07/17 02:57 PM
2

She isn't riding anyone else's dick. No point even discussing that. I agree, I just felt like it was unnecessary for our relationship to end so soon after trading 'I love you's (yes, laugh all you want. LTRs require a mix of AF/BB) she went all weird as fuck, classic signs of losing attraction and I fought for it for months until she asked for a break. Main reason for her asking was that she would be away for 3 months and I agree that LD is fucked up, but she didn't want to see me regardless. Th…
/r/askTRP28/07/17 02:52 PM
1

Hey faggot. When we first had sex she asked me what was happening. It was an orgasm. Now fuck off somewhere else.
/r/askTRP28/07/17 02:47 PM
3

I don't know what to believe man and I will never know. I told her she destroyed our relationship the second she wanted to go on a break while she went home for 3 months. I'm seeing her next week as she's back for a few days and I told her it's "fuck yes or NO". Will be more or less a plate situation.
/r/askTRP28/07/17 02:45 PM
1

Now you're making more sense and I agree. It's the disrespect.
/r/askTRP28/07/17 02:42 PM
1

I know that. It would have been more or less logistically impossible for her to cheat whilst we were together. Although over the summer - sure, I have no idea. The people that comment stuff like "she's fucking chad, you're a cuck" are insecure child-like betas.
/r/askTRP28/07/17 02:42 PM
1

Yeah just because it's what you're supposed to think means it was 100% happening right? Get fucked.
/r/askTRP28/07/17 02:13 PM
1

Nope
/r/askTRP28/07/17 02:12 PM
1

Elaborate. Do you think good sex is all a woman wants in an LTR? Are you tripping?
/r/askTRP28/07/17 01:16 PM
1

Same happened to me but I let it go on for months until she asked for a break. Fuck that bitch she doesn't know what she's missing out on. I gave her the best sex she's ever had and she still lost attraction. Swallow the fucking pill and be a rock.
/r/askTRP28/07/17 11:38 AM
5

Soft next and when she comes back to you enforce that fucking boundary
/r/askTRP27/07/17 10:35 AM
2

Yes Yes Yes
/r/askTRP23/07/17 06:30 PM
1

why shouldn't he invite her out?
/r/askTRP23/07/17 10:59 AM
3

I said 'less'.
/r/askTRP21/07/17 10:20 PM
2

If everyone listened to this advice nobody would have a gf or any plates. People need to stop telling guys to hard next at the first sign of anything going wrong.
/r/askTRP21/07/17 11:51 AM
3

I was incredibly focused and kept my frame throughout. It took me until the end of the second date to kiss her and after the third she brought up sex so the next time she came over I knew it was happening. I spent quite a while on foreplay, she was loving it but then when it came to my member I had performance anxiety and couldn't get it up. She didn't mind and it was fine after that. I guess the most important thing is to be focused on the task at hand and don't let your mind wander and start w…
/r/askTRP20/07/17 09:55 AM
1

I went a month without one time. I felt amazing but I was horny as fuck.
/r/askTRP20/07/17 01:01 AM
1

I don't need to read it again. My head is whacked because of this shit. Give me time.
/r/askTRP19/07/17 08:14 PM
1

Well it hasn't really worked on me because I was 'in love' with her and at times I've wanted her to disappear out of my life. I don't think I can forgive her for throwing me in the trash and we can never have a proper LTR ever again. I'd say just tell her what the problems are and give her an ultimatum instead. If my girl would have done that then I wouldn't be in this situation - I went beta and she was waiting for me to change instead of telling me there was a problem (or what the problem was)
/r/askTRP19/07/17 05:45 PM
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Keep going. I was a virgin until last year, at 24. I had kissed two girls since I was 18 until then, that's it. I am attractive but underweight. Work on what you can, the mental side of things comes with practice and getting out of your comfort zone - and it's a slow process, baby steps.
/r/seduction13/07/17 12:38 AM
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As a man you will be in your prime in your mid 30s. Get out of your shitty mindset, stop self-pitying and start improving yourself.
/r/seduction13/07/17 12:23 AM
1

Brilliant advice. I knew my break up was coming but didn't act or prepare accordingly and now I'm fucked.
/r/askTRP06/07/17 12:41 PM
1

Yep
/r/askTRP06/07/17 12:09 AM
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I am yet to fully believe this. But yeah, I plan on doing that when I've sorted my shit out.
/r/askTRP05/07/17 11:41 AM
1

I am trying my best here.
/r/askTRP05/07/17 11:36 AM
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Agreed. Except I don't know what is good for me. As I said, my SMV is at an all time low due to my mental state. Sure, I'm going to the gym but it takes time. Abundance mentality is more or less impossible for at least a few months. That's why I'm leaving that door open. For some reason I feel like it's an option that gives me motivation to sort my shit out, rather than throw it away and be lonely. I struggle with monk mode and I understand that I have deeper underlying issues like needing valid…
/r/askTRP05/07/17 11:34 AM
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Was 165? That was his starting weight?
/r/askTRP05/07/17 11:29 AM
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I agree with the throwing away part. She has issues with communication and I thought we had worked through our problems but she dropped the break bombshell before going away. I feel abandoned and betrayed. How difficult would it have been for her to just communicate with me so we can fix this? She keeps talking about fixing it and saying that she will only know for sure what she wants in September. She's a little girl, but I still have intense feels. Everything I do is geared to getting her back…
/r/askTRP05/07/17 11:26 AM
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It may seem that simple to you but she has been ambiguous all along. She still has feelings but is more than happy to ignore me for 3 months. Being stuck in limbo is possibly the worst thing. I'm starting to think that the best thing to do is date other women and either: tell her and raise my SMV whilst possibly offending her and nuking everything OR doing it secretly and having an abundance mindset when she comes back. I have to stop being a chump. I have been angry at her a few times. Called h…
/r/askTRP05/07/17 11:19 AM
1

Ghost her back harder. It usually means the end of the relationship as you know it.
/r/askTRP02/07/17 12:13 PM
1

If they let you
/r/askTRP28/06/17 11:37 AM
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Yes
/r/askTRP28/06/17 11:36 AM
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You shouldn't want to be her priority, she's cheating on her boyfriend already.
/r/askTRP22/06/17 01:21 PM
1

I think that's a good thing. At least those people are aware of it and want to change.
/r/askTRP22/06/17 01:25 AM
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What percentage of men do you think are RP and plate women? Everyone is beta as fuck. Look around you.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 09:03 PM
2

yet
/r/askTRP21/06/17 09:02 PM
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Most men do.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 09:01 PM
1

Lie about it
/r/askTRP21/06/17 08:57 PM
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Yeah, in the moment.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 08:56 PM
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Yep. And the more they flaunt themselves around, the more desperate they are for YOUR attention.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 06:42 PM
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Do the opposite of mate guarding, you need to go and open strangers and that will make her wonder what's going on, she'll want to be yours at the end of the night.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 06:25 PM
1

Treat it like it's nothing to you and she's just acting silly. Don't give it too much attention.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 03:40 PM
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Just quit
/r/askTRP21/06/17 03:31 PM
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Distance yourself before it's too late. Get on with your own shit and set a date a week in the future where you see eachother.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 03:31 PM
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Fuck using social media for social proof in a way that takes up time and energy. You should be living a life where it comes easy, don't force it, it just makes you look like you're seeking validation.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 11:52 AM
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You need to report it to your boss then.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 09:16 AM
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Just be firm with them. Remind them that this is their job and there will be consequences if they don't take it seriously.
/r/askTRP21/06/17 08:55 AM
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Yuh I'm probably retarded
/r/askTRP21/06/17 02:38 AM
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You guys are in here for a reason and you think it's funny that the woman I love is (probably) fucking other dudes?!
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 08:12 PM
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There's no such thing apparently.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 07:16 PM
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My LTR kissed her best friend on the lips 'by accident' while we were out. People have had suspicions about them, me too, as they are super close and she's way happier around her than she is with me. So I agreed and amplified and kissed my guy friend on the lips, just a peck. She HATED it.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 06:39 PM
1

How do you compare your SMV to a girl's? All they have to do is be at least a 7 and most guys will want to fuck them.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 02:36 PM
2

Standard.
/r/askTRP20/06/17 02:34 PM
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If you were dating a HB8 and she put on some weight or gave you too many shit tests for an external reason or had a bout of depression - then a few months later she had sorted herself out, hit the gym and was happy, you would consider 'taking her back' meaning plating to begin with. Why is it so hard to understand that attraction fades when you're beta AF and attraction resumes when you sort your shit out? Sure, it might be a small reflection on the woman as to how she dealt with it, for example…
/r/askTRP20/06/17 02:33 PM
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No I'm not but I was way too invested. It doesn't mean I dislike her and don't want to be with her either. I'm going through a range of emotions now. I'm giving it a month and if it's not a "fuck yes!" From her, which it won't be, then it's over.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/06/17 12:30 PM
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I'm lifting and working on myself. I need to do this before I see other women, but it's something I definitely want to do.
/r/askTRP19/06/17 10:32 PM
1

I'm at the gym right now. Baby steps...
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/17 03:04 PM
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Yeah, if I don't change and man the fuck up, sure.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/17 02:53 PM
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No need to be so crude about it. I know that it's PROBABLY the case but oneitis isn't something you can eradicate in a week or two. I've already said I know I need to move on and work on myself, I'm just finding it difficult right now.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/17 02:33 PM
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Yeah, apparently so. But that doesn't mean I can't get new pussy either.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/17 02:22 PM
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I completely understand what you're saying. But I agree with her when she says we need a break. I can't focus on myself and motivate myself to lift etc if we're seeing eachother all the time and she's dragging me down. We can't physically see eachother for 3 months, that's what prompted her to ask for this break. I told her that I knew she would be going back home so it wasn't really a problem for me. She's in my university class so we will be seeing eachother regularly for the next 2 years. The…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/17 11:38 AM
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Okay, so she told me she loved me after 4 months of being together (in Feb) then the relationship quickly went downhill. She blamed depression (she's on the pill) for her lack of sex drive, but we were fucking like rabbits in the early stages. I nuked the relationship because of this and she said she loved me, wants to be with me etc etc. After this, the shit tests got stronger and we started arguing about little things - she lost respect. So around 6 weeks ago after she had been acting like a c…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/17 11:11 AM
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I'm in this situation now. Sex dried up, she started to lose respect and we argued more etc etc. She's away for 3 months (back home for summer) and said she she wants a break as she doesn't think it will work, but we can talk when she's back if things go well. I'm doing the right thing by not contacting her and working on myself right? At some point my thoughts and feelings for her will slide to the back of my mind and I'll be in a position where I'm happier with myself and will be more outcome …
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/17 10:49 AM
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Game
/r/askTRP19/06/17 09:38 AM
1

I never said she was. Aside from questionable red flags like communication issues and some childish displays she is/was LTR worthy. Basically she started acting up around 4 months ago which coincidentally was after she told me she loved me. Withholding sex, arguing, being disrespectful. I think it was my fault for being beta and not controlling her enough, I see that now. LTRs are hard work.
/r/askTRP18/06/17 08:17 PM
2

What?
/r/askTRP18/06/17 07:56 PM
1

I might be. Don't be so sure.
/r/askTRP18/06/17 07:29 PM
1

I definitely am caught up in it. I don't want it to end like this, I think we have some more left in the tank so to speak and it's a decision that shouldn't be made now - unless she makes that decision for me. But if we stayed in the LTR that's exactly what would happen? So how am I being an emotional tampon? She wants space and so do I to a certain extent. It has motivated me to start lifting and get my mojo back, it's not all bad.
/r/askTRP18/06/17 07:06 PM
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But what does that achieve?
/r/askTRP18/06/17 06:55 PM
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Yeah I understand she's lost attraction but it doesn't mean it's all gone. I think we need this space to get that back. I'm working new jobs and I'm lifting. Well I think that it wouldn't make a difference to me right now whether it's over or not. Not a difference at all. Actually I did put in the work. I put up with her bullshit for months and tried to negotiate attraction. It was wrong and I should have ghosted but LTR game is fucking difficult. What do you mean I left it up to her? The weeks …
/r/askTRP18/06/17 06:54 PM
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Well I can get on with my life without telling her can't I. Maybe the space will work - she said that the most likely outcome is that we miss eachother and want to try again when she's back. It's a very grey area.
/r/askTRP18/06/17 06:46 PM
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Also, sure I can play the dread game BUT only if a LTR isn't a possibility, so actually we NEED to talk. If she's still unsure in a month then I move on and she gets plated if she changes her mind.
/r/askTRP18/06/17 06:44 PM
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Not very mature - she doesn't communicate properly. Very rocky. For the past 4 or so months she's not really wanted to have sex and she's been disrespectful. Cause of the break? I'm not sure. She went away for 2 weeks and when she came back she didn't want to see me, it escalated until she told me she wanted space, this happened again a few weeks later so we had a long talk and I thought we'd resolved it but when she knew she would be away for all of the summer she ignored me for a few days then…
/r/askTRP18/06/17 06:43 PM
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No, but I fucked up and I know where I went wrong. Of course I'm emotionally invested. I'm going to be seeing her at least 3 times a week for the next 2 years.
/r/askTRP18/06/17 06:39 PM
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I get this response every time. She has a low N count (5 I think?) and apparently has never had a ONS. She says she's not planning or thinking of seeing anyone else and if either of us do then we will tell eachother and it's over for good. I understand her/our need for space but I don't agree with how she is putting it into action.
/r/askTRP18/06/17 06:31 PM
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No, we need these experiences to grow stronger. Use it as a catalyst to become the man you want to be. I don't know what to suggest regarding 'getting over her' besides meeting other women. I'm currently on a 'break' and because I know it's wrong and I'm still emotionally invested it's possibly even worse than an actual breakup. I'm trying to keep busy so I don't break NC. We're going to talk in a month. Does anyone else think it's weird to go on a 3 month 'break' but to also NOT talk to eachoth…
/r/askTRP18/06/17 06:21 PM
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It would be easier to just not be a facist.
/r/askTRP18/06/17 05:28 AM
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I'm in this situation right now too. I think the fact that her plans changed and she knew she would be away for 3 months prompted her to ask for a break. It's possibly a worse feeling than actually breaking up. I'm trying to emotionally disconnect but it's extremely difficult.
/r/askTRP17/06/17 07:06 PM
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You did the right thing.
/r/askTRP17/06/17 07:04 PM
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"a like means nothing/ i did it when we were fighting and weren't talking" Big red flag there. Either tell her that this a boundary that she has crossed and if she crosses it again it's over for good, or ghost her.
/r/askTRP17/06/17 07:02 PM
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Go get your jacket.
/r/askTRP16/06/17 07:21 AM
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She could be. I don't think she is, I know a lot about her life.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 10:40 PM
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Agreed
/r/askTRP14/06/17 09:34 PM
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So why 'react' and end it now when I can plate her or whatever in September? Hopefully my emotions have somewhat diminished by then. Like I said, why is my idea of moving on etc bad? I don't need to tell her anything.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 09:23 PM
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Well my plan was to move on without telling her and lift and talk in September but she's making it sound like she has doubts and might want to break it off before then. We agreed to speak monthly.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 08:03 PM
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Yeah. Well I don't think 'one-itis' really applies here because it's a LTR that I'm still invested in. Shit has been bad for months, all the classic signs of her losing attraction but I just can't accept it. I know what needs to change in terms of me and the relationship. I've told her we can take it easy. Can you see why I'm a bit confused as to what to do? I'm not really at a point where I can pursue other women, I need a couple months of lifting first. It makes me feel like a piece of shit an…
/r/askTRP14/06/17 07:33 PM
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Ah... well it's my LTR that initiated the break. She has issues, especially with communication and has been acting up for months. We 'resolved' our issues and were happy for a few weeks then she dropped the break-bomb before going home for the summer. She wants to be alone for the summer to think about our relationship and says she 'wants it to work' and we can talk in September. I feel like I'm being manipulated big time.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 07:25 PM
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This is a very rare positive story. I'm a week into a 3 month 'break' and I'm unsure as to what to do besides focus on myself and lift. Some days I want to talk to her and be angry and other days I think it's best if I give her the space she's asking for. inb4 "she's fucking chad". We talked at length about us not seeing other people and I believe her.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 07:16 PM
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Dread game
/r/askTRP14/06/17 02:27 PM
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Yes, for me it is. I am motivated like never before and I know I need to do things for MYSELF. Women are just a byproduct of this great journey we're on.
/r/askTRP14/06/17 12:48 PM
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But she's explicitly stated it's not about that, it's about our relationship and space, which I agree with, but she phrases it as a break up. We have an 'agreement' where we tell eachother if things have changed and we Want to see other people.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 06:53 PM
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Yeah that won't happen
/r/askTRP12/06/17 06:52 PM
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That will not happen under any circumstance.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 06:14 PM
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Except there are valid reasons. Our relationship has been rocky because she has issues and/or has lost attraction. We DO need space away from eachother. I've told her it's okay if she wants to see other guys but she needs to tell me first. I hope she isn't a lying bitch... I'm confused man.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 06:14 PM
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She's in my class
/r/askTRP12/06/17 05:58 PM
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Who said I'm limiting myself? She's an option for me too. I'm not going to fuck anyone else right away because I need to take time to work on myself. But as far as I'm concern I need to adopt an abundance mentality. She doesn't need to know.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 05:03 PM
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That's bullshit and you know it. She might be thinking about it but even though AWALT they're not all raging sluts with no sense of loyalty or decency. She knows I would want to know beforehand and it would actually be nice for me to know, I could move on.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 05:02 PM
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How would you suggest proceeding with this 'break' that we're on? I seemingly fixed things and gave her more space a month ago, she seemed really happy then as soon as she found out she would be away for 3 months she wants to go on a break. I spent 2 weeks mentally ruined and trying to negotiate something, some sort of commitment from her. But we're still at square one in that 'we wont see other people' and it's just time for us both to think about the relationship. We're scheduled to talk in Ju…
/r/askTRP12/06/17 02:45 PM
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Oh I know this! I fucked up big time and started letting her get away with this shit. I slept at her place like 11/12 times and she rejected sex every time. The last time I just walked out without saying anything. She promised me things would change after giving me shitty excuses and then a few weeks later, back to the same shit. It still hurts but I'm starting to swallow this pill.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 02:42 PM
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This is eye-opening. I let that shit carry on for MONTHS. At times I didn't even know exactly why I was anxious or stressed, but I knew it was to do with her.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 02:26 PM
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My emotions have been all over the place though since she suddenly decided she 'didn't love me anymore' (she said she doesn't know how she feels) and she wanted a break, this was 2 weeks ago. I'm starting to think she's a prime example of a narcissist, because her love was never the same as mine. AWALT I guess? She fucking loved her friends more!
/r/askTRP12/06/17 02:19 PM
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Implying I or we have no emotional attachment to eachother. We have to see eachother for the next 2 years in University. I will wait for a definite answer. In the meantime I'm working on myself.
/r/askTRP12/06/17 02:14 PM
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My ex was seeing someone 8 years older than her for 4 months last summer. He proposed to her before she left to study where I'm studying, she said yes then broke up with him shortly after leaving. Big red flag there. He used to call and text her non-stop. We're on a 'break' right now but I'm treating it like a break up - I feel as if she thinks I will do the same over the summer, but I wont. I'm not even sure if I want her back, but she's cute and we had great sex (when she wanted it) so I guess…
/r/askTRP12/06/17 01:26 PM
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Let me just say that it's better if you don't consciously think about it and actually BECOME alpha. For the first few months of my relationship I went along with the idea that she could leave at any moment. This meant that I called her out on her bullshit, "I'm not your father, grow up" and "okay, leave then" for example. As soon as we 'fell in love' i became afraid and you can guess what happened next...
/r/askTRP12/06/17 12:51 PM
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Watches are for fakers. I think they are obnoxious as fuck.
/r/askTRP11/06/17 06:50 PM
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You're the complete opposite of alpha. Listen to yourself.
/r/askTRP08/06/17 06:45 PM
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You write like a frustrated incel.
/r/askTRP08/06/17 06:43 PM
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Really shitty post.
/r/askTRP08/06/17 06:42 PM
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I understand this. At the same time, this girl has low value, apart from being pretty. She had one friend in university (besides me) and will find life difficult if we break up - she's also unsure which is why I have spoken to her at length about this, obviously whilst under immense emotional pressure, which doesn't help. I keep second-guessing myself and making rookie mistakes. If I'm completely honest the best outcome for tonight would be for her to WANT to talk to me about things, because for…
/r/askTRP08/06/17 05:25 PM
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I believe it will. I know what changes I need to make, not for her but for myself. She could in theory come back to me after this break but I already told her it will never be the same. I could plate her but I have strong feelings right now.
/r/askTRP08/06/17 05:19 PM
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I actually had game at the start of the relationship, she fell in love with me and then I got comfortable and needy.
/r/askTRP08/06/17 04:37 PM
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Well she knows I want her. Although I did advocate the break as we can't see eachother for 3 months and our relationship hasn't been great recently, due to her losing attraction probably.
/r/askTRP08/06/17 04:32 PM
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I don't think anyone realises how difficult this is. I think it's something you have to learn through experience.
/r/askTRP08/06/17 04:23 PM
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Well I want to see her and fix things, obviously. Everything is 50/50 and I have to let her go if I want it to work, It's my first 'breakup' and it came suddenly for me after we'd worked things out a couple of times. She's in my University class so it's impossible to avoid her. Thank you, this is good advice, I need to move on in my own mind and focus on having a good time.
/r/askTRP08/06/17 04:18 PM
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Regarding the break I meant.
/r/askTRP08/06/17 04:10 PM
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I am the prize.
/r/askTRP08/06/17 03:50 PM
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No it's okay... I would just like another perspective than 'she's fucking other guys break up with her'. She is a difficult woman. Oh I will but I gotta take my mind off her, I know she will be strutting her stuff having a good time. Should I pull her aside at the end and ask if she wants to talk? Things still aren't clear for me. If we're having a break and not seeing other people then we're still together right? Otherwise we're single and I'm not waiting for her for 3 months like a chump.
/r/askTRP08/06/17 03:07 PM
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That's not a fact. We've spoken about it and she said she's not planning on it but if she wants to she'll tell me and it's properly over. I don't know what to believe, it makes me sick.
/r/askTRP08/06/17 02:52 PM
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Yes it is sad. We spent too much time together and I had no game left. We spent 8 months together and it was intense. It's not easy just walking away from that.
/r/askTRP08/06/17 02:49 PM
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Well I wanted a 'break' but she's saying that 'maybe we can get back together'. It's a difficult situation because I know she's not happy with the relationship and doesn't love me anymore. She says she doesn't know how she feels right now. I'm DJing. So there will be an hour or so before my gig where I'll be sitting with them. It's our university bar and she mentioned going there but then said "but I didn't know you were djing, should I come or not". She's treated me like shit with this whole br…
/r/askTRP08/06/17 02:36 PM
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It hurts, a lot. I had the idea I could plate her after this summer, as I know where I've gone wrong and am going to start lifting. I don't want to see her.
/r/askTRP08/06/17 02:28 PM
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This made me laugh. My LTR got sick of vanilla sex and put my hand around her throat after around 6 months but broke up with me shortly after I bought some rope, a gag etc. AWALT. AWALT. I'm learning the hard way.
/r/askTRP05/06/17 04:46 PM
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Why prepare for it? It needs to happen doesn't it?!?! The shitstorm will rage on and on and on. Unless you're right and somehow I have 100% control over this situation (and her) with this realisation. Even if she comes crawling back, do you think her behaviour will completely change permanently? She will go back to manipulating once I turn beta again.
/r/askTRP01/06/17 11:59 PM
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That was months ago. It nearly got too much for me then, I was actually prepared to break up but she convinced me I was wrong.
/r/askTRP01/06/17 11:55 PM
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Already admitted I was too beta. That's not what I'm getting at here. I 'threatened' her with a breakup twice; when the withholding of sex became too much and the other time when she just didn't want to see me. She crawled her way back in both times but after that she was always in control. I know what ghosting is. It's a fucking waste of time and energy in a LTR, completely unnecessary. I mean, sure, don't talk for a couple of days but any more than that and you're a chump for not getting to th…
/r/askTRP01/06/17 11:50 PM
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Wrong.
/r/askTRP30/05/17 10:45 PM
1

Again, it's just mere speculation but I understand where you're coming from.
/r/askTRP30/05/17 10:02 PM
1

It's not a LDR, she's in university in the UK and her family home is in France. Either way I'm taking the positives out of this, I'm lifting and focusing on improving myself. Not for her but for me. I'm ghosting her so we'll see what happens in that regard, I'm prepared for a breakup.
/r/askTRP30/05/17 07:27 PM
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Doing this rn. Difficult as I'm skinny as fuck but I'm doing it. Progress is amazing when you're this skinny, though eating enough is hard.
/r/askTRP30/05/17 01:28 PM
1

Great advice, thanks!
/r/askTRP30/05/17 07:27 AM
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I understand that and believe me I have felt that many times but I just can't let go. It's not uncommon for couples to have breaks in a 'healthy' relationship. It might work out, it might not, right? Okay, understood but I really don't think she's fucking other guys right now.
/r/askTRP29/05/17 11:21 PM
1

and you call me autistic, wow.
/r/askTRP29/05/17 11:18 PM
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Yeah nothings a problem like spending time with someone you enjoy spending time with. Fucking autist. Excuse me? Who's the autist here? Seeing her whenever I can means that I'm always available and she's the most important thing in my life. Is that attractive? I think she tricked you into believing the "I need space" meme. She's fucking someone else. I'm confident that she isn't, not yet anyway.
/r/askTRP29/05/17 11:08 PM
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I don't understand your point. If I don't 'give her space' right now it means that she's in France and I'm blowing up her phone every day. That shit wont work. Ghosting and dread IS giving space. What am I supposed to do? So sexting is bad? We exchange pictures.
/r/askTRP29/05/17 11:07 PM
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2 weeks ago (her first week away in France) she was on her period and told me she was horny. I bought some stuff online so we could experiment once she's back - rope, a gag, a vibrator etc. We were talking very sexual, even more so than at the start of the relationship when we were having sex regularly. She doesn't get horny often though, mostly when she's drunk. I understand that I need to give her space but the confusion is really affecting me in a bad way. I was convinced everything was okay …
/r/askTRP29/05/17 11:00 PM
1

I am trying, but it's difficult because I have this shit going on and it's occupying my brain. I will hold my hands up and admit that I've been a fucking idiot when it comes to sex. I have a very high sex drive that probably comes across as needy, and even after knowing that I shouldn't initiate so much, I still do it. I am like a crazed sex addict sometimes and it must disgust her. But at the same time we used to have sex 2/3/4 times a day and enjoy it. Something happened and she says it's her …
/r/askTRP29/05/17 10:29 PM
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I don't think she 'dislikes' me. She still tells me she loves me and as I keep saying, before she went away and up until a few days ago the relationship was great again. You would nuke a relationship that's on the rocks? Or would you be a man and try your absolute best? It's clear I still believe it's worth it, because I haven't fully swallowed the pill and it's my first love.
/r/askTRP29/05/17 10:21 PM
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Indecisive about what? Can you elaborate? I've only initiated twice in 2 days - when I have she has replied promptly and then I've ghosted. It feels like she has lots of power and I can't really do much about it. I was looking for opinions and possibly some other options, like speaking to her about it again and holding my frame or just straight up breaking up with her (which obviously I don't want to do). Like I said, I will probably see her when she's back in 9 days so we don't necessarily have…
/r/askTRP29/05/17 10:08 PM
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Definitely. We were seeing eachother at every opportunity and then the sex started to slow down. In January she was crying whilst we were on a weekend break, saying that she thinks all I want from her is sex. She has also gone 'weird' like this 2/3 times since then, saying things like she's not good with relationships etc. I don't think it's a comfort test because I have told her I love her and shown her way too much (yes - beta) but now my head is all over the place because of her actions and I…
/r/askTRP29/05/17 09:45 PM
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Or skip the bullshit and invite her out like 2 days max before you actually go. If she can't come then you'll go anyway, just like you should.
/r/seduction12/10/16 01:04 AM
2

Still too much I think... I would just say something like "if you're free next week we should ---" and even a response such as "okay" is good enough. When the time comes you say "Hey I'm going to --- tonight. Wanna join me?"
/r/seduction12/10/16 01:02 AM
2

...good?
/r/seduction09/06/16 11:08 PM
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TRP is becoming a disgusting place in my opinion. I have always enjoyed reading their posts and such but it has gone too far into a cesspit of negativity and as you said, if you disagree with anything you are not welcome and will be banned.
/r/seduction03/06/16 01:53 AM
1

Don't fap, too.
/r/seduction12/05/16 12:48 AM
0

I used to like it here. It's become a cesspit full of hate. Almost beta in its definition. Just because I'm averse to xenophobia (my bad, it's all hate to me) and all the other shite being spouted on here recently, doesn't make me a SJW. It makes me a better man than all of you.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/16 08:58 PM
0

I'm Welsh. Is a multicultural society not an option? We seem to be doing okay. Yes, there are more and more immigrants and western society is becoming less white and Christian, but so what? Things change over time. I'm not an elitist prick. I agree with you that Muslim countries don't offer much... but that has little to do with Islam itself and more to do with governments, resources, economies et al. Islam has been trying to conquer Europe for 1000 years. Strong words. Sounds like you have a re…
/r/TheRedPill10/05/16 08:56 PM
1

Because countries are not assimilating them into their countries culture, and cultural ghettos are springing up, and that formula is dangerous. So the problem is created by the west? Right, xenophobia then. Islamophobia.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/16 08:50 PM
-5

Xenophobe then, still not a nice thing to be, is it? What about Christianity's radical view of the world? If you don't think it's radical, read the bible properly. I have Muslim friends, should I hate them because of their religion? Most Muslims don't subscribe to all of these radical ideas you speak of, therefore you can't categorise them all.
/r/TheRedPill10/05/16 07:28 PM
1

I have watched the guy speak his own words. Those words were enough for me to form an opinion.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 09:14 AM
1

You're lying or you're deluded.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 09:13 AM
1

Consider me educated. Still, the thought remains.
/r/TheRedPill05/05/16 09:13 AM
0

I meant in the comments. However impartial your post may have been, we know what response it's going to get in here after all the previous. For me, Trump represents what an Alpha shouldn't aspire to be like. If he was truly Alpha he wouldn't need to incite xenophobia, violence and more. Again, I reiterate that my comment was not aimed at your post but rather the comments and reaction.
/r/TheRedPill04/05/16 12:13 PM
3

Not being afraid of rejection doesn't mean that you don't get rejected. If you interact with anyone, ever, then you definitely get rejected sometimes.
/r/seduction03/05/16 10:45 PM
3

If you say so. In my eyes he is a bigoted narcissistic idiot. Not what I believe to be Alpha, at all.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/16 08:31 PM
1

No. Just disappointed that a movement that I once felt part of now represents things I am 100% against.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/16 04:57 PM
0

Agreed 1000%, I don't even come here anymore unless I see a post on my frontpage and it's always 'Trump' bollocks.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/16 04:38 PM
-4

Ouch. Is TRP turning into a completely pro-Trump subreddit? I'm not here to read about him and I'm not here to read politically-incorrect slightly discriminative and racist comments either. I've always been on TRP's side while everyone else slanders it but I think I'm going over to the other side if this carries on. Too much negativity, discrimination and hate.
/r/TheRedPill03/05/16 04:36 PM
22

Orbiters HATE him
/r/seduction16/02/16 03:06 AM
1

hiya
/r/seduction16/02/16 03:05 AM
1

You'd need a really strong frame to pull this off - I reckon you'd need to show your status or have a lotta social proof at the venue BEFORE doing this to strangers.
/r/seduction14/02/16 09:39 PM
0

fix what's broke? he's a deluded, racist piece of shit.
/r/TheRedPill28/01/16 06:30 PM
-7

Really?! He hasn't got a fucking clue. If you've even got a modicum of respect for the guy then take yourself elsewhere.
/r/TheRedPill28/01/16 02:26 AM
2

Sometimes I wish it weren't so simple... I need to mingle with the more intelligent ladies.
/r/seduction25/01/16 04:18 PM
2

My Tinder app is full of girls who I WILL see in real life at some point (small city) yet most of them just straight up stop replying at seemingly random points. Could I work on my game? Yeah, but I'm not 'ready' to go all out and straight up ask them out so I understand why it's happening. Does it get me down? Not at all, I think it's funny. I regularly see these girls while on nights out and they love it when I approach.
/r/seduction25/01/16 02:46 PM
1

Get a hobby. Go out by yourself and talk to guys over a smoke or whatever, it's not difficult. I have lots of 'friends' but not many people that I actually go out with, I've had to deal with feeling as if none of my friends want anything to do with me but as we all know, rejection is a good thing. I started lone wolfing and after overcoming my anxiety I have gotten into quite a few popular friendship groups in my city.
/r/seduction25/01/16 02:43 PM
1

It's funny because I can't tell who's taking the piss and who isn't anymore, a pretty sad state of affairs.
/r/TheRedPill25/01/16 01:23 PM
-5

Holy fucking shit, your views are a bit extreme.
/r/TheRedPill25/01/16 12:58 AM
1

But what if you're right to have insecurities? They're not going to disappear instantly, though I can appreciate that you feel better when you're working on it. Sometimes it's too difficult and takes a long while.
/r/seduction16/01/16 06:02 PM
1

I did this the other week and she made a comment along the lines of "why are you holding my neck?" - made me chuckle.
/r/seduction14/12/15 03:03 AM
1

I'd call neither of those skinny.
/r/seduction14/12/15 02:57 AM
1

Goes without saying really doesn't it?
/r/seduction22/11/15 03:17 PM
314

"You're very attractive you know" "U wot m8 I'll spark u in the gabber swear on me gran"
/r/seduction13/10/15 06:03 PM
1

I'm gonna buy some dumbbells and do exercises at home 'til I'm stronger because I'm too weak to go to the gym now. Also, if I was doing something like starting strength - isn't it a bit silly to pay £40 a month for a gym membership just to use a barbell and some weights?!
/r/TheRedPill06/10/15 12:20 PM
3

You may have even convinced yourself that you have Asperger's I laughed out loud for a good 10 seconds. I'm working on it...
/r/becomeaman17/06/15 08:44 PM
1

You can't control other people's thoughts, you can only fit in with their narrative. I feel like I need to add something else - if people liking you is a by-product of your 'self' then that's great, but if your 'self' is a by-product of seeking validation or trying to fit in with society's narrative then you're doing it wrong.
/r/seduction15/06/15 11:54 PM
2

It's a never-ending process though. I'm getting there and I'm happy that I'm improving but it's so far away.
/r/seduction15/06/15 11:53 PM
1

I'm honest and I stick to my principles. Don't even fuckin' try to bend me in half for anything, I'm made out of Dwayne Johnson.
/r/TheRedPill15/06/15 07:23 PM
1

It sounds like you completely disregarded what I'd previously said. It's a slow process.
/r/seduction05/05/15 11:20 PM
2

Yeah, doesn't help that I live in a super fuckin' small 'college town'. I need to go on dates.
/r/seduction05/05/15 10:39 PM
1

I'm talking about a hypothetical situation where views such as 'I'm too fat/skinny' are actually correct.
/r/seduction05/05/15 10:39 PM
1

Oh yeah, I definitely agree, I just can't be myself and be honest with my intentions if I don't really want it in the first place.
/r/seduction05/05/15 09:46 PM
1

I masturbate once or twice a week, it definitely helps, I should probably stop thinking so highly of myself and just go for it. There must be something wrong with me 'cus I can't remember the last time I kissed a girl - my head is screwed on and I'm socially adept but there are some deep-rooted psychological issues preventing me from 'letting myself go'. Cheers.
/r/seduction05/05/15 09:45 PM
1

So what you said was subjectively referring to being alpha. 'Man Up' means nothing without context and it's definitely a phrase we all need to hear less.
/r/seduction05/05/15 09:43 PM
1

What if these 'incorrect views' you're talking about are actually correct and realistic? Sure, you can rectify these problems but it takes time and NO amount of confidence/not giving a fuck/faking it will invalidate those truths.
/r/seduction05/05/15 09:22 PM
2

This made me chuckle.
/r/seduction05/05/15 08:47 PM
6

Practice with girls that are a couple "levels" beneath you if you know what I mean. Really? I know that if I did do that then I'd probably have an active sex life, alas I stick to my high standards and get nowhere. I keep getting matches on Tinder where I'm sorta trying to force myself into fancying them and it just ain't happening - any advice?
/r/seduction05/05/15 08:44 PM
3

I hope you're being sarcastic.
/r/seduction05/05/15 08:43 PM
1

I am like this and it offends most people, in the fact that I do not emotionally respond to things in the same way that they would, for example by getting irate or visibly angry. I think it stems from narcissism but I agree with most of your post - I hate it when I am 'cold called' because and respond in a bad way whilst letting my emotions get the better of me, it makes me feel like shit for a while afterwards. Stay rational.
/r/TheRedPill30/04/15 06:32 PM
3

She sure got messed with and you got the expected response.
/r/TheRedPill22/04/15 12:32 AM
1

You sound like a 14 year old.
/r/seduction17/04/15 12:15 PM
2

I wear tinted moisturiser, it's a godsend for my rosacea. I'd rather not be taking antibiotics for the rest of my life.
/r/seduction17/04/15 12:13 PM
2

I'm in the same boat - I feel like I'd be a pickup god if I just put on some weight but it's extremely difficult. It's disabling in the sense that I won't get physical with a girl because I'm so embarrassed.
/r/seduction16/04/15 11:44 AM
2

Being too invested is dangerous though. I am a perfectionist and scrutinise everything like there's no tomorrow, I can see the good and the bad in that but most of the time it's negative. It's not like I take action to improve things anyway, I'm still a super duper skinny unemployed guy - though a positive is that I've come so far over the past year or two in terms of my social life and how I act around people (frame?) so there's something.
/r/TheRedPill11/03/15 10:05 AM
1

I keep leaving my comfort zone by going out by myself if none of my 'friends' want to join me - I just end up feeling deflated afterwards as people aren't on the same wavelength as me. I'm thinking that maybe my outgoing, social personality is too much for some people. I also find myself latching onto people or groups of people because hey, who wants to be standing around on their own? It's worked in my favour a few times where girls have actually approached me on the dancefloor or wherever, but…
/r/seduction10/03/15 04:19 PM
1

Who paid me to be where?
/r/seduction08/03/15 05:02 PM
1

... why?
/r/seduction07/03/15 09:13 PM
5

Don't.
/r/seduction23/02/15 07:28 PM
1

I'd hope none of us are 13.
/r/seduction12/02/15 01:33 AM
2

aggressive is good.
/r/seduction12/02/15 12:41 AM
1

Hmm, I dunno... I smile at guys most of the time but it's a "hey it's a good day ain't it" sorta smile - also gets you out of your comfort zone.
/r/seduction11/02/15 11:51 PM
1

Really?!
/r/seduction11/02/15 11:38 PM
1

ha!
/r/seduction06/02/15 04:58 PM
3

Pretend you're God. Pretend everybody is your friend and get in-state and stay there. Talk.
/r/seduction12/12/14 05:07 PM
19

Does anybody not brush their teeth?
/r/seduction11/12/14 10:06 PM
1

Oh I have, trust me :)
/r/seduction10/12/14 09:44 PM
1

Yeah, this is quite important, I think I've been protecting myself from rejection and lately I've just been going with girls who show clear interest in the early stages.
/r/seduction10/12/14 01:57 PM
3

'or dj' - ha, I would be if people gave me gigs.
/r/seduction10/12/14 01:57 PM
1

There's only so much you can do whilst stomping your feat or nodding your head on the off-beat. This is why I like Drum & Bass raves, everyone looks hilarious.
/r/seduction03/12/14 09:07 PM
2

It's tongue-in-cheek humour. Like I said, I know nothing about dancing nor do I claim to so it's no surprise that I'm bad at it - if I do in fact look 'gay' when I dance then I guess it's a problem?
/r/seduction03/12/14 07:40 PM
2

Ha, I don't really give a fuck either way, I know nothing about dancing and my go-to excuse is that it's the reason I'm a DJ.
/r/seduction03/12/14 03:09 PM
2

A few weeks ago I got told that I 'dance like I'm gay' - alas it was from an overweight unattractive girl who was trying to hang off me all night. I shrugged it off but I did get a little pissed.
/r/seduction03/12/14 02:32 PM
1

It should be construed as a rhetorical question.
/r/TheRedPill01/12/14 04:13 PM
-2

"Why isn't he here with you?"
/r/TheRedPill30/11/14 05:32 PM
1

Don't bother. Seriously - unless you have a lotta money you don't mind losing.
/r/seduction08/11/14 05:08 PM
1

Sometimes it does... but it's a waste of time, sure.
/r/seduction24/10/14 03:20 PM
1

I'm speaking to a german au pair (I'm in the UK) who I met on Tinder and earlier today straight up told her she's 'too cute to be my friend' (yeah I stole it off here) and she replied with 'do you want to be enemies then?' - I just said let's get to know eachother properly first and I have a date next week. EDIT: I've been having a very very difficult time escalating the conversation, I've thrown in a few playful kiss and wink emoticons, even though I really shouldn't but it's the only way I can…
/r/seduction23/10/14 08:40 PM
1

That's... beautiful.
/r/seduction08/10/14 08:27 PM
1

When you know you're not and you don't do anything about it... that's the worst.
/r/seduction08/10/14 06:43 PM
1

Fuck this way of thinking. Yeah, it happens a lot in 2014 but we as men shouldn't succumb to the pressure of being afraid. If she's not legally allowed to drink alcohol then that's fair enough.
/r/seduction08/10/14 05:30 PM
1

How does a 1 hour coffee date escalate into anything other than going somewhere else afterwards or a hug/kiss & a goodbye?
/r/seduction08/10/14 04:38 PM
1

I get too drunk all the time but I know the consequences. Do what you want.
/r/seduction14/09/14 11:20 PM
-1

I know that, hence why I said they do - it's extremely difficult for me to keep frame. I guess I need more practice, first step is to hit the gym.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/14 10:22 PM
2

I don't like inviting girls out when I'm with friends, they make it awkward and I lose my frame.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/14 10:11 PM
4

This is the fist time I've heard that... Sounds a bit silly. What would I be doing anyway? DJing, smoking with friends or out drinking with friends.
/r/TheRedPill09/09/14 09:55 PM
2

Thank you. I've just had a chat with my friend and he said he will take me to and fro the gym as it's a fair distance away so I'll definitely do that once I have bulked up a bit and have the money.
/r/TheRedPill07/09/14 02:43 PM
0

I went to a gym for a few months around 4 years ago when I was in college but I really had no idea what I was doing (I'm 22 now). The disrespect is clearly visible in all walks of life and it infuriates & depresses me. I think it's the lack of money part that's hindering me at the moment as I can't really afford enough food to hit ~3k calories a day so the jobhunt is going strong. I also feel a bit 'lost' in regards to what I should actually be doing with the weights, I want to workout at home f…
/r/TheRedPill07/09/14 01:32 PM
1

Motivation is my problem, I need to look into ways to help in that regard.
/r/TheRedPill07/09/14 01:13 PM
0

I'm an advocate of TRP yet I am still making excuses because I try and fail constantly. Even if I scraped enough money together to join a gym, I wouldn't be able to afford enough food to hit my 'macros' - plus I think I'm too weak at the moment and should lift at home for a while so I should buy dumbells right?
/r/TheRedPill07/09/14 01:12 PM
1

I'm regularly horrified at the lack of respect I get from other people due to me being underweight and it just depresses me, sometimes I think 'why should I put effort into changing my body to please this sick culture?' - I know I should but it's difficult, especially when I have little to no money.
/r/TheRedPill07/09/14 11:36 AM
2

I do tell them to fuck off but sometimes they go too far and I feel a bit powerless 'cus, y'know... they're women.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/14 12:39 PM
4

Fuck, this reminds me that I really need to be a cunt with the 'women' in the club I work at (I'm a DJ) - I don't take bullshit anyway but I can probably get away with a lot more. I get women coming into the DJ booth, telling me what to play, calling me all sorts and sometimes threatening me, it's hilarious how they think they're entitled to everything.
/r/TheRedPill05/09/14 01:07 AM
4

It got a bit cringy towards the end, you did OK but she didn't respond too well when you asked her out because she didn't offer an alternative i.e. but I'm free on Tuesday... Check out /r/seduction - it'll help :)
/r/TheRedPill05/09/14 01:02 AM
1

fuck, when will I get off my arse and actually DO IT?!
/r/TheRedPill05/09/14 12:52 AM
2

Happens to me all the time man, I like to have a joke and sometimes girls can't handle it, ignore their bullshit or put them straight on the NEXT! list.
/r/seduction27/08/14 03:20 PM
1

I got this with a girl last week, we had good rapport but when it come to arranging a time and place to meet, she was being flaky - I escalated the conversation with some sexual innuendos and she responded to what I said with "No thank you! x" so I laughed and made a relevant joke which confused her and I haven't looked at her message or replied since. Not worth my time.
/r/seduction23/08/14 01:24 PM
1

I have a very dark and witty sense of humour that only a small number of girls 'get' but when they do 'get' me it's great. I'm also a DJ but not very successful at the moment so I put a spin on it and call myself a music connoisseur.
/r/seduction20/08/14 02:20 PM
3

girls lie
/r/seduction18/08/14 09:46 PM
1

...Then you are somewhat satisfied and lose the drive you need to succeed in seduction.
/r/seduction18/08/14 09:45 PM
1

What I'm getting at is there has to be more investment from your end in the beginning stages of 'seduction' (if you are the one that is seducing)
/r/TheRedPill18/08/14 05:22 PM
2

Definitely, but I think the same rules should apply, if only loosely.
/r/TheRedPill18/08/14 05:20 PM
1

Definitely, sometimes they are a helpful way of conveying a message more effectively. (sarcasm etc)
/r/TheRedPill18/08/14 04:44 PM
2

Doesn't this destroy everything that TRP & Seddit stand for? We approach and game because we want something - obviously up until the point where they are also invested in us.
/r/TheRedPill18/08/14 04:35 PM
1

Yup... NEXT!
/r/seduction15/08/14 01:48 PM
1

That's exactly what I said - when I invite them out, they flake.
/r/seduction15/08/14 01:48 PM
1

So as us Brits would say: "taking the piss"? Maybe... but if I believe they are showing interest by responding in a certain way, I pursue it. I'm not sure how we can weed out the time wasters, does anyone have any tips/advice?
/r/seduction15/08/14 01:57 AM
3

Work it up slowly i.e. throw in some innuendos and jokes, if she responds well keep pushing until you invite her out on a date - I don't get the whole 'get her number, texts are better' thing but your mileage may vary. What I don't understand is when a girl is responding very well and when I finally ask her out she flakes, I guess it's a good time to next them as you haven't really invested much.
/r/seduction15/08/14 12:50 AM
2

If you have lame friends then you can't be very cool can you?
/r/seduction20/07/14 09:50 PM
3

I've just taken up a sales job (door-to-door) and it's doing wonders for my confidence.
/r/seduction27/05/14 02:33 AM
0

Yeah... apparently I'm a ladies man. Except I'm not. :(
/r/seduction24/02/14 06:03 PM
1

Problem was that I wasn't confident enough to do any kino at that point, so I was just dancing near her as we were facing eachother. Not a big deal but I'm often at nightclubs so it would help if I knew what I was doing. edit: I just remembered that after I asked her to dance she backed into one of the walls away from the dancefloor and pulled me with her, she asked me if I was straight (it was a gay night) & what my name was - should have taken her outside there and then really?
/r/seduction13/02/14 06:56 PM
1

I approached a girl a few months ago at a student union 'gay' night. I think we locked eyes & I asked her to dance, but then I said something like "I can't dance, will you teach me?" which didn't put her off but I felt like a bit of an AFC. She proceeded to lightheartedly show me some moves and then started dancing with her gay friend. It went well from here & she invited me back to hers but her lesbian friend cockblocked me. The thing is, I can't dance. That's why I'm a DJ... (sorry) Do I just …
/r/seduction13/02/14 04:45 PM
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Yeah, that's the sort of mindset that I adopt in those situations but I still come away from them asking why and thinking that maybe there's a problem with me.
/r/seduction12/12/13 02:21 PM
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Also, I have been hugging people I know as a greeting more often recently. Sometimes I get the vibe that they don't like it, should I keep doing it and not give a fuck? or should I be more reserved? Related: After a night out last weekend (4am) I was walking past student accommodation, as I was walking past a house where my female friend lives, I saw and heard a few of her friends outside (There were 5, I knew 1 and knew OF 1 other) I was with my wing and decided to go and chat to them. The thre…
/r/seduction11/12/13 01:19 AM
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"my hand is pretty awesome!" cue: "Which one?"
/r/seduction11/12/13 01:16 AM
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I met two girls at a festival, went to visit them (yeah, bad move) and the one I was staying with (not the one I was interested in) starting talking 'bout sex and stuff. I told her I was a virgin and she straight up didn't believe me, said she thought I was a 'ladies man' etc, gave me a bit of confidence but I still thought it was a bit strange. Also, on the flipside, when you ask a girl, it always makes me laugh as they try to qualify themselves. "I keep my numbers low", "I only sleep with peop…
/r/seduction11/12/13 01:12 AM
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I was out a couple of weeks ago in a town near to where I live (so we didn't know anyone) - we met a group of girls and I outright asked one of the girls to buy me a drink later on in the night, she obliged but the bar was closed so she gave me money to go and get a drink at the bar upstairs.
/r/seduction19/09/13 03:44 PM
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DQ? Disqualify??
/r/seduction05/09/13 02:22 AM
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She still hasn't replied so I sent her this: I'll take that as a yes :) Go and have the time of your life and I'll see you sometime after you're back :D It's more of a statement than a question so she doesn't need to reply. The only thing I'm worrying about now is finding someone else. It's not easy y'know?
/r/seduction07/08/13 01:15 PM
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The thing is, I didn't go there with the intention of sleeping with her, I went there with the intention of 'loving' her. I adopted the wrong mindset from the start.
/r/seduction06/08/13 04:50 PM
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Thanks :) I fucked up massively, but these things happen. Hopefully I can learn from this and not fuck up next time! I still feel like shit but it'll pass.
/r/seduction06/08/13 12:57 PM
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I didn't get over it really. I was forever alone for the past 3 years and recently a girl showed interest in me, I fucked it up but now I'm much more confident, approaching a girl and getting rejected is not going to hurt anywhere near as much as 'losing her' did.
/r/seduction05/08/13 04:33 PM
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Take small steps that will help you to get into that state. I had severe AA and image issues until a couple of months ago. Now I just feel 'natural' in speaking to strangers.
/r/seduction05/08/13 10:02 AM
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What the fuck? In what way? Sex is sex.
/r/MensRights03/07/13 11:16 AM
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Is smoking really that important? Occasionally I get comments from girls like 'I didn't know you smoked', I don't think it's bad as I only smoke when I'm out (gives me a reason to go outside and socialise, I guess that's beta thinking, right?) I also smoke cannabis fairly regularly - actually a recent FR would be last month where I went out with my female friend and her friend, things were going great and I had taken some cannabis to smoke, she ended up smoking with us and saying how it was 'her…
/r/seduction12/04/13 12:46 PM
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I tried that with a girl I met for the first time last week. Said she should come out again soon and I (kinda) invited her out this Saturday, she said she's going out on Saturday anyway as it's her friend's birthday... I'll probably see her but I don't really know if I want to try to take it further (I think she's too good for me... unhealthy thought I know)
/r/seduction05/04/13 04:28 PM
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You can't just get a deep voice. Genetics suck.
/r/seduction30/12/12 09:41 PM
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What would you say to someone like me who is very underweight (6ft & 55ish KG)? The same thing? I'm disgusted by my physique so I don't take my interactions with women to the next level.
/r/seduction12/12/12 12:07 PM
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Hmm, I'm in this situation, I don't even want to speak to girls because I'm so 'disgusted' by my own physique (I'm criminally underweight). The thing is, I think I'd care more than they would & if it came to a point where we were taking our clothes off before sex, I wouldn't want to do it as I'd be so embarrassed. I guess this is motivation to put on weight and go to the gym... except I've been wanting to do that for at least 4 years... It's hard & I don't know how to change my mindset so that I…
/r/seduction11/11/12 01:54 PM
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She also said that it's 'her dream to be a DJ' when I mentioned that I was a DJ and I'm learning to produce music. She started asking me questions about gear etc and I didn't want to sit there all night explaining stuff so I told her she could add me on Facebook and we could have a chat on there. Bear in mind I had 0 interest in pursuing anything with her as she is a lesbian. I accepted her request later that night and in the morning she had unfriended me. Any ideas why?
/r/seduction01/08/12 12:46 PM
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I was out last week with a friend, he saw a girl he knew from college and we went to sit by her and her friends, halfway through the night a girl comes up to the table (she was out with this group of girls) and said something along the lines of "Sorry I'm getting drinks bought for me, I'll come and see you later but I can't say no to free drinks". Turns out that this one guy was buying her drinks all night, and she was a lesbian.
/r/seduction01/08/12 12:20 PM
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Calm down!
/r/seduction07/06/12 08:34 AM
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/r/nofap
/r/seduction29/05/12 08:52 PM
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6' and 125lb here - I HATE it and I don't even like going out because I'm so thin. I eat a lot of food (though evidently not enough to put on weight) I'm subscribed to /r/gainit but the general consencus is to go to the gym, which I really don't want to do when I'm this thin.
/r/seduction16/03/12 03:16 PM
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It's hard...
/r/seduction08/03/12 05:39 PM
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...Mostly when I'm asleep.
/r/seduction05/08/11 02:08 PM
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Yeeeeeaaaaaah
/r/seduction24/06/11 05:21 PM
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Thanks. I have rosacea which for some reason is causing extreme swelling on my face, I can't just ignore that. I used to get myself psyched up and in-state somehow before going to parties/social gatherings but now I tend to concentrate more about what is wrong with me rather than my good points.
/r/seduction24/06/11 04:55 PM
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What's the 'best' way to get over what you look like e.g. your flaws. I don't know what you look like or if you have or have had any insecurities but at the moment this is what is holding me back. I have had problems with acne and rosacea leading to a puffy face (which is starting to get better now). I have been a recluse for nearly a year because of this and I want to start improving myself.
/r/seduction24/06/11 04:37 PM
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OP reply is non-reactive.
/r/seduction28/05/11 01:42 PM
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Yah man! It is what changed me too! I figured if people actually do what I am listing their lives will CHANGE FTFY
/r/seduction07/04/11 10:17 AM
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Self acceptance
/r/seduction23/03/11 06:41 PM
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Fondling a cylindrical object lets you know what's on her mind. Wow, I see this happen a lot and have never thought of it like that...
/r/seduction22/03/11 10:09 PM
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Friend-Zoned
/r/seduction22/03/11 05:05 PM
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wut
/r/seduction22/03/11 05:04 PM
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A L P H A R O M E O
/r/seduction20/03/11 12:43 PM
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I don't think this would work... at all. Although I think a handshake would be a bit weird, maybe touching their arm and introducing yourself would be the best approach?
/r/seduction05/03/11 10:16 AM
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just shout out random sentences, after all, nobody can hear you on the dancefloor.
/r/seduction09/01/11 07:42 PM
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I get this a lot. Speak less.
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Were you the dumper though?
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Yes, I lost my v card after a 2 week streak. Went out on my first date ever at the age of 24 and she was hooked after a couple of weeks. Problems started occurring when we had 'too much sex' and I started jacking off again. I lost my drive and became beta.
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Also energy and confidence levels which you benefit from whilst abstaining. It makes a big difference and it's not anecdote because people aren't thinking "I haven't jacked off" 24/7.
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I'm on the receiving end. It has been 2 months of torture and I 'tried' (yes, I know...) to break up with her twice already. She started contacting me last week, we had a 1hr30 long phone call last night where I laid my cards out but she's still unsure whether she even wants to try. It's quite funny really. I see her in 2 weeks and will know then. Will probably post on here to let you all know what happens. I am lifting and focusing on my mission for the first time so you would expect attraction…
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What a pathetic boundary
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But it takes at least 20 minutes to be ready again. Some girls don't want to wait.
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DJing is not a career where you can (easily) game women. I turn up, play nonstop for 4 hours and then by the time I've packed up most people have left. Yes, women come and ask me for songs but it's not really an opportunity to game, the only thing I could do is get their number in 2/3 sentences.
/r/askTRP
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