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I find it funny how many articles this subreddit here generates. I mean FDS isn't even that big.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/03/21 09:40 PM
10

Good question.I am wearing a lot of gothic clothes and people would always assume I am into BDSM ( I was at some point, I am not going to lie) but I am super vanilla right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 11:16 AM
5

Jason Momoa seems pretty happy with Lisa Bonet and she is older than him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 11:08 AM
12

If you are depressed, take care of you mental health first. College is not the right place for this. And it is okay to "lose" 1-2 years to find and establish yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 09:43 AM
7

Congratulations !! I wish you all the best :D I am so jealous 😅
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/03/21 04:24 PM
34

She will leave him at some point. But I understand her. Getting a green card is ridiculously hard, marriage is pretty much your safest bet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/21 06:54 AM
11

Are you in therapy? I went to therapy totally unrelated to my sex life. But after almost 2 years I have gotten so much more confidence and sense of self-worth. And over time my desire to be degraded and humiliated during sex vanished completely. I now prefer much more vanilla and being spoiled.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:42 PM
25

Iam in the same boat. I was also a serious porn addict.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:39 PM
8

I am german and I couldn't watch more than the first seconds. The mother sounds so desperate and sad :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/21 10:11 AM
3

I admire Kim. She is not afraid to mold her life as how she sees it fit. If the guy is crazy, she leaves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 08:49 AM
37

Joke is on him, I already had stretch marks (I've always been thin), big aerolas and largr labias when I was 14. Its called genetics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/21 08:11 AM
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I used to take it as a compliment, but at some point I realised how damaging it is. For a while I was so concerned to keep on looking young, so that people would tell me that I still look young. It was tearing me apart and pushed me into buying more stupid skincare stuff (no one needs that much...) and even contemplating fillers etc. In the end I realised that women over 30 are simply under represented in the media - or the age of the characters is never really shown. Look at new girls everyone …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 09:38 AM
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Yeah, I am absolutely thinking about this. And honestly you never know if the right guy comes along and having the wrong guy as father might just end up with more stress for you than being a single mum.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 06:09 PM
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If you are tight with your Family, hold on to it. Nothing gives more strength than an intact family. It makes it harder for bad people to scree you over. Take it from me, sadly I am not very tight with my family and honestly it is just so much easier and simply better if you have support. I think family is very important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 04:16 PM
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I guess it really depends also on your surroundings. In Germany we don't have as many colored people as the US for instance. Here the majority of PoC are from Turkey and other middle eastern countries and most of them are Muslims. As a white woman you are just there for your pleasure, they will never marry you - they wil most of the time just marry a muslim woman. Ofc there are mixed marriages and the number is increasing - thank god, but it's still bad especially for muslim women who want to ma…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 05:04 PM
12

The difference is that woman are the important part for creating children. Guys need a woman to get a child, we just need to roll into a sperm bank and pick the best DNA. In the end it is the bigger problem for guys bc less and less women are willing to have children so young bc of their careers.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:48 AM
17

Hahah, I do that too xD I love to tell them that they are too old for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/21 11:44 AM
19

Mean will always enjoy what they see. I was harassed after I learned 1 week straight for a final exam, didn't wash my hair, didn't changed my clothes, had messy hair Iwas very tiered on the way the location of the exam and even then a score manage to throw "nice tits" at my head. And I had very wide and sorry cloths on.... Normally I dress a sexy goth and yes guys are oggling, but they will never have me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:07 AM
65

This must be a troll. I mean even pickmeishas have standards.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/02/21 01:02 AM
17

Yeah, or maybe a vanilla clip or pin.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/21 04:59 PM
4

I am so proud of you! You pulled the rip cord. I remembered times when I was to weak to get out. But you did it! And it might be months of therapy, bit at least it won't be years and you haven't wasted so much time with him. And I absolutely can understand the feeling of being emotionally raped. Hugs and wish you all the best!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/21 09:59 PM
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I find it hilarious how guys are somehow threatend by leg hair
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 11:16 PM
17

You pretty much confirmed everything written in the article. No one denies that other countries also have to deal with an aging society. How exactly is that racist?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 01:06 AM
128

And thats why you are a high maintenance woman. Does he spent like 5 mins each per week with hose women? Who is ok with that? Ok, maybe those were online "relationships". Online relationships are not relationships, stay clear the of those
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 06:40 PM
2

I changed my name to the last name of my husband. It simply sounds better. Furthermore my previous last name was the one of my LV father - I always hated in. We should give us our own names.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 01:55 PM
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I am working as an engineer with industrial robots, I am also always messy and never experienced judgement from other women 😅 it's simply my job
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/01/21 11:49 AM
56

Is this an american thing? I read this in the enm and poly groups so often and I am wondering if this is because of circumcision. In Europe guys don't act out so much bc of condoms, yeah sure everywhere they like to do it without it, but when guys are even admitting they don't get it up with condoms - that's on another level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:22 PM
1

Tbh I started waering make up, because of the validation I got. I always wanted to be smart, unfortunately I am not - or it's the depression and what not. Yes, I got two bachelor degrees in a STEM field, but I scraped by just barely and always people are thinking I am stupid. I also have so much trouble doing the daily stuff like taking care of my flat. It is just really hard, working your butt off and just get thrashed down for it. So yeah, putting on makeup and people behaving nicer to you, is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 10:25 AM
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And above all you have a solid family. I think it is easier for women to be independent of a guy if a good family is around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:45 AM
68

Well, on the other side this may lead to skyrocketing STD infections. "BuT I hAd A vAsEcTomY, wHy cOndOmS? QQ"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:46 PM
97

This has to be fake
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/21 02:08 PM
39

I hate the sentiment that "you just havent found the right guy yet" in order to enjoy anal. How many guys should stick their pee pees in my ass in order to find maybe one who doesn't suck and even this kinda implies that I somehow like it, even though I already tried it many times and I never enjoyed it - which invalidates my preferences....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 02:58 PM
18

Of course older guys are jealous of younger guys and more insecure. Take a look at dating apps. Most people who are lying about their age are actually men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 11:42 AM
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Can she get somehow out ? I was in a similar situation minus the skin tone, but being yelled at non stop will mess you up in the future. Can she go some place else? Otherwise try to be there for her, encourage her and make plans with her for the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/01/21 10:20 AM
55

Meghan Markle is also older than Harry. I lover her, she is taking what she wants.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 09:16 PM
10

In the end you like what you like. For me FDS is simply an outlet for all the problems that can be encountered in the BDSM scene and some topics that are somewhat taboo within the scene like mental health problems, abuse, misogyny etc... In other space it is instantly "dont kink shame" As for shibari my main grain is that it mostly about women being tied up and guys beimg the rigger. There are barely any workshops, tutorials, illustrations etc. that allow for another setup. So yeah, I wold think…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 03:04 PM
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Have you tried therapy? I never felt guilty for liking BDSM stuff, but after 2 years of therapy, which was unrelated to my sex life, my desire for being choked and humiliated vanished. I worked a lot on my social anxiety and sense of self worth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 02:55 PM
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Tbh I don't think it is just the too early sex thing. I too slept with my husband on our first proper date. But, before that he was pursuing me for months and I get the definition of date is different for people. We met for Coffee, Cinema other activities before, but I wouldnt consider those dates. Plus, when I met my husband in 2010. Tinder and online dating wasnt that big as it is now and as well as all the red pill and pick up content - I guess that is probably also influencing the behaviour …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/01/21 01:53 PM
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Nice, I'll look into it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 11:08 AM
8

One time I gave a guy the benefit of the doubt and it was horrible. Don't get me wrong, I had also horrible experiences with gut feeling guys, but at least have get butterflies out of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:45 AM
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My husband and I are together for several years and he makes sure I come every time. We don't have children and don't want them, I don't have to clean, he is pays for a cleaning help. But tbh after 11 years different flavors are nice. Before Corona hit we used to go to Swinger Clubs etc. - it was my idea and he wasn't to keen on it. And believe me the other guys are so bad compared to my husband - in every aspect. But just some novelty and adventure reingnited my libido. I have really nothing to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/01/21 09:39 AM
47

It sounds more like sarcasm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/21 08:28 PM
11

You dodged a bullet. Afghanistan is the worst country for women on this planet - this country has also the highest suicide rate of women on this earth due to women not having any right there. I think it is pretty telling that they want a woman who grew up with those kind of indoctrination - I also doubt they would accept a Afghani women who is too "western".
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/01/21 03:16 PM
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Yeah, I probably going to be an older mother (40+), so I will definitely get a much younger sperm donor.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/01/21 12:39 PM
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Friends can also betray you and that hurts even more. Life long friendships are also most of the time an illusion that no one talks about. Open up, betrayal might happen - even the best vetting can't prevent it, but it can reduce the probability of black and white. In the worst scenario you have had some nice months/years and than you move on. Otherwise stay alone if the thought of heartbreak is so unbearable for you - thats also fine.
/r/ExRedPill02/01/21 10:34 PM
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Well being mean and red pill content haven't gotten you far at this point....so maybe try a different approach?
/r/ExRedPill02/01/21 10:28 PM
12

Yeah... the long haired dudes seem always so harmless and woke.... I guess many of us have fallen in this trap once in our lives xD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/21 04:37 PM
32

Moving to another country and pursuing my PhD. I will not stop until I find a Lab that will have me!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 10:58 PM
128

Honestly, every guy that is putting out lines like "I'll always be there for you" after months or even years of radio silence is fucking red flag for me. That's just textbook manipulation. Cut him off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/21 02:03 PM
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No. Their views are just toxic. I will not join a group that brings me down in order to proof a point in some internet forum. And I will not give those people any kind of attention - they love any reaction from us.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 10:31 PM
3

This is absolutely gorgeous 😍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/12/20 07:19 PM
5

I agree that women of color face overall a lot more harassment, but being white doesn't mean you are immune to horrible abuse. Tbh I find this thinking very dangerous as it implies that social economic status doesn't have a very big influence in this matter. Take a look at the Rotherham child abuse machinery: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rotherham_child_sexual_exploitation_scandal ​ Those guys were targeting and coercing especially white girls at the age between 10 and 16 from low social econom…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/20 07:24 PM
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Yeah, a lot of men are thinking they are stronger by default. A trained woman can kick an untrained man's ass. Luckily there are so many lazy men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 11:56 AM
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Most male lions never have offspring and most die of starvation.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/20 11:53 AM
32

Yeah, I never got that sentiment either. If someone has a high pool of available sex partners that are 20 - it's women looking for younger men. C'mon, every 18 year old guy is down for action. Maybe guys are projecting again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 04:21 PM
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I think using sperm donors should be more acceptable.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 03:09 PM
9

I am surprised that he didn't describe himself as Dom xD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/20 06:34 PM
3

How is that really a difference? One influences the other. There is no strict line there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 01:24 PM
10

Even during the middle ages, people wouldnt marry of their 12 y o daughters and have kids, bc they were most likely to die from child birth. And even the misogynistic society back than understood, that woman are the limiting factor for the amount of children and not men. Therefore no, marriage with 12 and child bearing at that age wasnt the norm. ​ Furthermore there are studies, that are showing, that girls today are hitting puberty sooner, than several years ago, with the reason being environme…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:00 PM
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Well even HV-parents can create shitty children. Makes me wonder how much is genetics and how much is truly education.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 11:52 AM
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No he wont, as someone else mentioned - she would be drowning in dick, while he gets nothing and not even his wife anymore. He even says, that he was never popular with women. I don't get whats up in the mind of those guys ....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/12/20 09:14 AM
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And we are wired to update our guys, if we find something with better genes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 07:13 PM
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Men need validation no matter what. They might be married to a model, bit they still need the kick from other sources. Look out for the guys who are simply happy with what they have and are ambitious in their fields, bc they like it on not bc they think they get fame out of it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/20 07:11 PM
3

Don't forget such losers might even lie about their job.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 09:24 PM
13

I love seeing jealous men. This woman is an icon 🤩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 10:20 PM
19

At least deep down they know, that younger women don't care for older guys. It is so funny, that it is mostly guys who are lying about their age on dating apps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/20 09:33 AM
5

Tbh I whised you would include the links to those posts. Just posting this horrible abuse stories, without any possibility to tell them that they should just leave asap is just horrible.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 08:50 PM
4

I see myself as feminist and I love FDS. Heck, I dont even agree with everything here, but I think it is necessary to be somewhat radical and not always try to undermine womens issues with "...but men too"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/20 05:55 PM
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Yeah, I remembered when I had the phase of thinking about plastic surgery to get bigger breasts and a tighter vagina.... I am happy this place exists, before I heard about limp dicks from other women, I thought I would just try find justifications why two of the guys I was with, had struggles to orgasm. I began to think that something was wrong with my vagina and all other women had just better vaginas than me 🙈🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:18 PM
10

Nowadays the guys are the gold diggers xD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/20 08:07 PM
11

Good for you and we all have been there. And I share your sentiment that it is so hard to find place, where women don't get reinforced the sentiment of communication that we learn from early childhood on, instead of putting us self first.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 06:11 PM
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He will never marry her, so she chose to keep a connection through other means, if he gets bored of her. We all know why she let him knock up her, even though she avoided it all those years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/20 05:26 PM
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Because men have problems with their egos. I think a lot of guys have father issues and crave validation from other men. They don't value this from women, bc they got it from their mothers so easily.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/20 11:35 PM
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Tbh, getting dressed up nicely is simply so much easier than being intelligent and witty. That's why I rely on my optics too. But then again, who knows what people mean with being intelligent. Some people even think they are polyglots, if they are able to mumble some sentences in other languages 🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 08:17 PM
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I am an engineer and most of my male colleagues have a god complex. I think no matter the profession, most guys suck. A profession is not a good indicator if a guy is a HVM or a LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/20 09:51 AM
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Why do guys think they are entitled to hundreds of matches/dates just bc they are on a dating up.maybe they simply need to realize that those apps aren't amazon for ordering women. I think those guys simply have totally screwed expectations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/20 08:21 AM
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"Men want to impregnate as much women as possible,it's NaTuRe!!11" And yet, they getting a stroke, If you are late on your period
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/20 06:26 PM
10

I live in Berlin ... And tbh here are a lot poor and wanna be poor hipster. Oh, here areliving the most "woke" and alternative lvm too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/11/20 02:49 PM
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But you are saying it yourself, it is not a need for surviving. It's a want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 09:57 PM
4

Being gothic is quite expensive and time consuming. The hair, make up and close, that is some sort effort. And ofc they don't thank it to you. Thanks to the media, they think we are some easy sluts with the most depraved bdsm fetishes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 09:45 PM
1

In this case men can fuck each other.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/20 07:17 PM
48

I don't even get how the mothers are ok with this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 10:32 PM
20

Older men aren't necessarily more mature. Tbh I think most guys are set in their views about women and entitlement early on. If a guy is viewing women as fuck toy, when they are 20, it won't magically change if they are 30.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/20 07:57 AM
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No, I am lucky enough, that my husband really wants to cuddle and hold me after sex. In the beginning I thought that was weird... Brainwashing by media is strong.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/20 11:34 AM
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I find younger guys more attractive. I don't care how much some old dude works out, eye bags, receding hairlines and sagging skin isn't attractive at guys - especially if I just want to bang. Why would I choose an unattractive, old guy? At least young guys are so fucking exited and are trying harder to please you - I like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/20 06:27 PM
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I grew up, when the jocks, sport guys and machos, where labelled as the bad guys in the media. I learned which men to avoid, because of that. In comparison the geeky gamer guys were portrayed as the nice guys, who would treat you well and aren't after every women. On top of that, I used to be a gamer girl, and a couple of years ago, you were considered an odd ball for the cool kids, therefore at least the geeky dudes would understand you and be an ally for you, right? WRONG! They see you as well…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 07:55 PM
10

My heart is breaking for her. She is completely brain washed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 02:03 PM
170

Yeah, it's not just white dudes. Let's not pretend like other dudes are somehow not mysogynistic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/20 01:54 PM
5

Same here. I am saying to my husband that he needs new stuff, when I think he looks bad, but I would never buy or choose his stuff. I am giving my opinion to his choices though.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/20 10:17 PM
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Probably, that's a similar reason, why I don't go to male gynecologists.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 04:54 PM
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I never liked older men. Heck I prefer even younger men, at least the look decent - and no, young guys aren't worse in their behavior it is pretty much dependent on the guy. Respecting women isn't something they magically get when they hit 25, 35 etc. It's pretty much what role models they had during their child hood.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 08:19 PM
14

Yeah, in general I am fine with masturbating. I sleep with a guy, if he puts a lot of effort into it. Otherwise I pass
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 04:34 PM
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Lol, the guy is the poster child for dudes using women as therapists...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 03:44 PM
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I find that most of the time it's sheltered guys from quite stable and wealthy ( upper middle class +) , who don't k ow any sorrows. Therefore they try to create this narrative that they somehow are damaged for reasons like the cat that died 12 years ago, that someone mentioned. And I am not surprised they are falling for the manic pixie dream girl, those are often from wealthy families too. This lifestyle is quite expensive. And is hard to always be bubbly and exciting, if you have to work to p…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 09:46 AM
3

Omg, in which city Berlin? Sounds like a scrote I know. I need his name 😆
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/20 09:32 AM
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Don't blame the 18 year olds. When I was 18, I was poor, unpopular, had a terrible childhood with abusive parents. Some rich dude taking care of me and showing it off to all the people who treated me like trash would have been a dream tbh. And those rich guys can give opportunities, wether we like it or not. I don't say this is cool - those guys are abusive creeps, but honestly I can't blame the young women who try to take as much as they can out of those situations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 08:31 PM
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This is awesome. The results are so telling, I will never setup an OLD account... Thank you so much for your effort 👍
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 05:56 PM
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I am always wondering how we are falling for those asses in the first place. And how does this guy even have female friends who send him nudes? This is internalized mysogyny. It's so weird how we are wired to ignore when we are getting treated like shit.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/20 12:30 PM
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Tbh I disagree. Well, I guess it depends where you live. I married quite young and I live in a fairly lefty city. Most people my age are more pitying me for not giving my vagina to random guys. Or that I am a gold digger, because he earns the money while I am getting back to Uni to fullfil my dreams - other people have rich parents who are helping them, but that's apparently a non issue. But I guess people are always finding a reason to shit on women. Edit: Ofc I don't disagree with women being …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/20 08:51 PM
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No, causal sex wasn't that prevalent. When you had sex with someone, you were pretty much an item.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 10:12 AM
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You are right, but I think it is different in "public" scenarios. If we don't answer, everything is spammed with male opinions everywhere and thats what's everyone is reading then. We need to push back. ( Ofc no need to push anything for an OLD scrote)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/20 08:08 AM
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Drama. They all say they want a woman with no drama, but they get as easily addicted to the hot and cold play like women. This also includes being close with a lot of guys but the status has to be vague enough that he he thinks he can win you over and thus being the "alpha" of the other guys (competition with other guys is really important) And don't listen to advice of guys... They like to list stuff that makes you say to control and not what rips out their heart aka making them addicted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/10/20 08:12 PM
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Just block and ignore
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/10/20 08:45 PM
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Its a balance. Yes, I try to meme the sweet and sunny girl. NVM don't like to feel threatened by women. Therefore I try to be friendly and warm towards them. Most of them are bitter, because they have shit tons of problems in their lives. Believe me, after some time they open up, and are telling you all their shit. On the other hand, I am shutting down mansplaining about things I already know and are experienced, in bc I don't like to be bored. But if they are telling me something new, I mostly …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/20 06:19 PM
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You are right, if he isn't shutting it down , he is encouraging her. This said this woman isn't a beat friend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/10/20 09:38 AM
12

Destroying your property is against the law you could report him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:29 PM
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I agree he is either very stupid or a sociopath. Both are huge reasons to walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 05:28 PM
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But I thought men age like fine wine, and they are peaking in their 50s and 20 y o women would bend over backward for them ??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/10/20 08:45 AM
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Yeah, a lot of articles are overblown. It is similar to women over 30. "DaTiNg Is So HaRd fOr WoMeN oVeR 30".... ehm, no it's not.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:05 PM
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Yeah, I find it also very concerning that BDSM is considered to be therapeutic. I was quite active in the BDSM community for some time and sadly, it is not that utopia, where all people are considered equal, are responsible, and are empathic. There are a lot of predators and quite frankly it is naive to believe, that a Dom, who is a normal person, knows always what's safe for your physical and mental health. It is always a gamble, especially since there are so many people in the BDSM community w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 06:49 PM
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Yeah, I am a CS major and it is ridiculous how many guys are thinking they are better than the rest of the world bc they are engineers. Sometimes I want to change my career because it is so exhausting to work with those people. But the funny part is, that those exact same people are complaining about the arrogance of other engineers and feel pressured by them ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 08:08 AM
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Who knows maybe she had her eggs frozen and will be a mother when she is 50 🤷
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 08:35 PM
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They start to drop you for ridiculous stuff, when you already had sex with them. It's funny with how much stuff they are fine, if they think it's getting them laid 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:27 AM
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You are great and I am really impressed how you are standing your ground! You are so right, those guys offer nothing and want everything in return, what's going on in their heads? And what's about the sowing their oats shit? I never met a guy who truly wanted to show their oats. 'men are hardwired to mate with many women, it's biology' , but yet they don't want the consequences and are freaking out when their seeds are actually turning into babies. They don't make any sense. I think it's good to…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/20 05:25 AM
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I agree, it's a myth. And no, you don't need to sleep with 1000 guys so you gather enough experience to find a HVM. I found the right one already with 18, but I thought I needed to "explore". There was so many bad sex, that doesn't add anything positive to my life, in fact it started to affect my libido negatively and it took some time to bounce back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/20 08:26 PM
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Luckily she was stating in the comments that she will divorce him. Apparently emptying the bank account isn't so easy without getting a lawyer involved (which she should do), because they are married, according to other commentators. So yes, luckily she is dumping his ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/10/20 03:16 PM
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I encountered the same situations. Most of the time it's not even about sex, it's about their ego. They want to increase their number just for the purpose to brag in front of other guys, and ideally having a woman pining over them. And the sex with guys who just have sex in order to feed their ego is so much worse, than guys who are pervs, but at least somewhat enthusiastic about sex itself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 07:34 PM
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I don't get how this sub is against men. Tbh, since I discovered that sub, I am even more happy with my husband than before and happy that I found a partner who supports me no matter what. And quite frankly it made me finally realize, that I don't miss out, that I don't like/ have casual sex. I always thought I am bad feminist, that I got married so early and didnt sleep around much, even though I never got off on it. The hook ups were most of the time horrible and I always thought it was my fau…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 10:04 AM
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Yep, the moving on feeling, is one of the best
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/10/20 12:26 PM
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Yes, the intellectual men aren't any better than the Chad's. Well at least the Chad's are somewhat transparent and you know what you are getting into. The smart and nerdy guys are way more into gaslighting, and are pretending to be nice and your ally
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/09/20 06:58 AM
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Older men can leave you as well for someone younger. A scrote is a scrote no matter the age.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/20 08:49 PM
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I am german and I don't do sex on the first date - ever. To me FDS works out great , because I have rather no sex, than some guy mistreating me. And I was treated a lot worse, when I was putting guys on a pedestal and shower them with affection. Nope, FDS worked great for me, set your boundaries and present yourself as HV, that will scare off the LVM.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 09:26 AM
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The guy is 35- what a man child.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 08:39 AM
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I took my husband last name because it goes way better with my first name. I live in germany and name changing is very hard here, besides marriage. I wish I could give myself a name, I don't get why it is so hard, when we live in a time were people can chose non-binary as gender and identity is values more then ever. But I can't change my fucking name?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/20 08:06 PM
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Yeah, because there is such a shortage of young men who would bend over backwards to be with an older woman... Especially, if they think you are the one who is taking the lead. A lot of young men are quite relieved if they don't have to act like a super Dom.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/09/20 09:53 PM
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How do Polygamy and the stigma of divorce even work, if there are so many more men than women? There must be tons of desperate men out there. How does this whole system work, it is so bizarre that even in those circumstances women are getting shafted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/09/20 11:36 AM
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I was always attracted to nerds and "nice" guys, bc they seemed to be the safe option, because they would be happy that a woman would appreciate their character...nope, they just crave attention from every women, because of their insecurities. Nowadays I go for the more confident and beautiful men, because they are not overwhelmed and develop a huge ego, whn a woman is interested in them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:46 PM
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Time, you have time to lose.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:39 AM
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There are probably places with 60$ sushi, but in general, sushi is rather cheap? So weird what people are getting offended about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:37 AM
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I think this is so very important. I always claimed to be a feminist, since I was a child. But the truth is, every time I thought about getting divorced was "will I ever find another good man again as a divorcee and over 30?" Its really pathetic, but realizing that I actually don't need a man in this day and age is quite liberating and on top of that, you don't have to be alone if you are engaging with other people. And the most disturbing part is, that I had all those right thoughts when I was …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:32 AM
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But apparently he wasn't bitter bc of that and cheered her. There are so many men, who cant stand it, if their wives get the spot light. A friend of mine is a successful business women and her bf was always insecure and bitchy about that - even though he had no problems to asking her to cover all their expenses...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/09/20 05:09 PM
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English is not my native language and it confused me for quite some time, that female was like a normal word for women Oo
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 09:43 PM
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No fatties pls. Skinny or muscular, but low body fat value. Hair. Preferably blond, but no grey (it has to be dyed) Tall. Big dicks. From my experience, the smaller the dick, the more likely they are into anal.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 03:12 PM
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YESSS, this so much. I was obsessed with a guy once until I realized, I didn't wanted a relationship with him. I wanted to be him. He was so unapologetically going for everything he wanted. He had no shame. While I was always consider feelings of other persons, even If I didnt know them that well, plus I was really scared of rejection. I learned a lot from him, even though it was horribly painful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/09/20 05:44 AM
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WhY dO yOu LoOk So TiReD - on days where we don't wear make up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/20 05:56 AM
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Of course women are more visual. Look at our clothes, our homes, gardens, our desks at the office and how much more women are interested in art and creative stuff compared to guys. We like for our surrodings to be beautiful and we'll put together
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 06:41 AM
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I wished BDSM would get more criticism. I was in a BDSM relationship when I was 18 ... I would have needed an actual therapist instead of a old guy, who tried to slap the trauma out of me 🙄 In my case it was true, I was into BDSM because of childhood trauma. A couple years later I did an actual therapy. I needed some time, but it really helped. After I developed some confidence and a better outlook on life in general, the desire for being choked, slapped etc. vanished completily for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/09/20 08:57 AM
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I guess it depends on the culture. In Germany it is seen as a pretty shitty thing to drop your friends for your bf.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/09/20 09:21 AM
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Dont get me even started with the alternative or nature guys. Or the allied "feminists"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:23 PM
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This is especially true for women who have to battle with mental health problems. I cant count the times I used Dopamine from having crushes, to mend my depression episodes. Needless to say, that you feel even worse, when the Dopamine gets withdrawn. Dont be an addict, the lows will be way worse than the few highs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/09/20 06:11 PM
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I think in a lot of cases those people know deep down what they have to do. And I actually have to give the reddit people some credit, most of the time people are pretty much giving the advice "get out" for the cases you stated above. Therefore I think a lot of people who seek advice, are looking for validation and encouragement to change their situation. If it helps, it is a win in my book. Sadly, there are so many people out there, who are still blind to the behaviour of their abusers and don'…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 05:28 PM
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Absolutely this! Every 40yo guy who runs after 20 yo, has some serious issues with his self-esteem. There is almost no bigger red flag, than guys who are getting their self-worth from female attention and/or have the need to control people with less life experience. Believe me, those aren't guys for stable LTR.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:54 AM
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Yeah, I think to degrade is one aspect, and to boost their egos. I mean there are guys who are freaking out about their partner earning more money. In which world is it bad, if both people of a partnership earn more money? Thats better for everyone - except, this relationship is just about his ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:33 AM
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I'm so glad I found this sub. I always thought, I was weird for not liking anal and so many women are at least ok with it. To me it feels like doing a number 2 in reverse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 10:19 PM
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Yeah, thats a real plague. I've been there before and the guy even told me he like to subdue strong women. I thought it was romantic (?) ... God was I brainwashed back then.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 02:36 PM
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First, don't have sex with him anymore. Second, try to get your finances in order and move out. That should be your top priority. If you don't have ties anywhere, It's easier to move. Try find a job in another city and maybe shared housing projects.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 06:33 AM
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English is not my first language, so I was a little puzzled about how sex and immaculate fit together xD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 06:33 PM
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And then there are crying that there are not enough women on dating apps....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 11:41 AM
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You know who got cheated on? Byoncé. She is said to be one of the most beautiful women in the world and is damn successful. Guys don't go for the "better" choice. They go for what's strokes their ego best. Don't fall for the trap, that you have to be a good, beautiful, smart etc. woman to keep your man. The truth is, you have not really influence over that. Either he needs female validation or not. And if they need it, they will take it - and most of them time not from successful or insanely bea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 06:11 AM
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Write it in you bio, write it as you first sentence, if someone is approaching you and see how it goes. At least you are weeding out the creeps fast. And who knows, maybe you find a decent person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 05:49 AM
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poly is trendy being bisexual is trendy pickmeisha behavior cool girl syndrome But the worst is ingrained mysogyny in women. It's sad, but a lot of women can think they can use other women like sex toys, because they themselves were treated like a sex doll before. Hell, there are even couples who want a closed triad, live with their third and let them do housework, taking care of their children and waking up the third for sex when ever the couple feels like it as part of "bUiLdInG a LiVe ToGeThE…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 05:42 AM
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Mental health is one of the most important things for a human being. Anyone who is an threat to your mental health is low value by default. There is no middle ground here. And yes, the occasional love bombing and doing nice stuff mentality is part of their strategy. There is nothing that keeps you as hooked, as an inconsistent reward. It's like being an addict.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:55 PM
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Absolutely this!! This was such a hard lessons to learn, and a even harder thinking pattern to unlearn. Once I was madly crushing on a guy my college, and he felt the same about me. But he had some ego problems and started already treating me poorly and I knew it would never work out. Plus, he was going to study abroad for one semester a couple of months later. I rejected him, but felt utterly crushed for month. Later he came back together with his ex-girlfriend, and I thought, I was too hard on…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 06:45 PM
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We all made mistakes. Heck, I had good relationships and forced my partners to ENM, because I thought hook ups were so important for being a liberated woman. It wasn't even about sex , I had enough great sex. It was about a stupid dogma. But this happens and you learn from your mistakes. Maybe abstain from sex for a longer time period. If you don't like hook ups, wait with sex if you are dating a guy, most guys who want just hook ups will bail, after a couple dates without sex. And wait until yo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/09/20 05:50 PM
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I regret buying into the hook up culture... So much bad sex for nothing. And having sex with a long-term partner is actually way better than with tons of guys who don't give a shit, if you are enjoying it or not
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:56 PM
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This is pretty much what the manic pixie dream girl trope is for young introverted guys.... Helping him to get out of his shell and then getting dumped, because he develops an ego
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 07:53 PM
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Any guy who needs female attention for his self-esteem, is a LvM. This is one of the major red flags. Some guys have this toxic mindset ingrained, that they are more worth, if a lot of women are giving him first attention and later on of course sex. At some point chatting won't cut it anymore and he will cheat in order to feel like a desired man ( esp after you build them up, and they develop a huge ego) You at can communicate about household or money issues, but trying to bring him find another…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 05:45 PM
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I think prostitutes have a point. After numerous really bad hook ups, I was laying there, while the guy was doing ... not sure was that was, and thought to myself, that I at least should get some money out of those dates. And then it kinda downed on me, that I'm basically a free sex worker. I don't know why I ever gave hook up culture such a big status. Like it would make me a better feminist to sleep with more guys... So no. Guys can pay, and if the sex wont be satisfying for me, I will get up …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/09/20 03:53 PM
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I find it so funny that every guy sees themselves as alpha and don't even consider the possibility, that they would be the ones missing out on women and building a family. It's hilarious. It's the same when guys try to pressure their gf into open relationships and are so surprised, that they aren't in high demand, but their "plain" GF can check a new guy every night.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/08/20 06:01 PM
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Thank you so much! I have made the same experiences. Im doing a Masters in Computer Science and yes, they support their mediocrity so much. Unfortunately, in Germany the Professor decides who he will take on for a PHD and the loud and bragging guys are leaving their impressions...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/08/20 12:14 PM
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