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She made herself out to be successful and used to a certain standard of living and certain standard of man, but towards the end she is living with her mom. I think the ‘champagne flies’ comment was her defense against the younger versions of herself.
/r/PussyPassDenied03/03/22 05:58 PM
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Dude. You are 19. You know nothing and are nothing, but you are saddling yourself to a woman that is clearly not ok. I’m worried for you in how you are professing love for this woman. Your girlfriend is exhibiting a Cluster B disorder, quite possibly borderline. This doesn’t get better, especially for you. You are incredibly young, set this one aside before it ruins you.
/r/TheRedPill08/01/22 09:39 PM
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Set and enforce boundaries. “I’m not interested in hearing that,” is a good start. If something stronger is needed, try “how does that story make our relationship better?” Everyone has a past, but comparisons are disrespectful and triangulation hints towards a bigger problem.
/r/TheRedPill26/12/21 06:48 AM
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Anything by Jocko Willink.
/r/RedPillBooks13/11/21 09:05 PM
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Red Pill is accepting the Reality of the world, and then deciding you can use the rules of that Reality to better yourself and get what you want from that Reality.
/r/TheRedPill02/10/21 08:52 PM
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That’s not a guide. That’s a brainstorm of things that one should consider. Try this: Consider your three areas that you need improvement. Determine what things you could achieve in the next 90 days that have an impact. Concentrate on those. Put everything else on a back burner. Lifting 3x a week is mandatory. For career, this means you either quit, ask for a raise, ask for a promotion, or on a lesser scale start a process to make your job more efficient. For style, this means you take figure ou…
/r/TheRedPill02/10/21 05:00 PM
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My one BPD taught me that evil people are real. Get rid of the fantasy that attractive, intelligent women can’t be abusive. The takeaway is that you need to value yourself and when you see a serious red flag like verbal abuse, triangulation, etc., or anything that doesn’t fit your boundaries you have the strength to leave. Going to therapy will tell you why you stayed and that’s incredibly helpful. You likely stayed because you are ashamed of something, and this person took that hit you over the…
/r/TheRedPill03/08/21 03:52 PM
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Ah yes, the wonderful damaged BPD. You have to ignore her, or else it sets her emotions back onto you. Tell your current girl no real details. “What she did isn’t normal; she has a condition and I’ve been warned she might try stuff like this. It has nothing to do with you or me.”
/r/askTRP11/06/21 05:15 PM
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My LTR travels a lot for work and with her parents on real expensive five star trips. It’s actually a benefit because we split trips 50/50 and she uses points / status to upgrade us all the time. It’s impossible to control someone other than yourself. Trust but verify, and know that you might have to have that conversation and leave her one day. If you’re what she wants, she don’t stray.
/r/askTRP10/06/21 02:58 AM
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If you don’t handle alcohol well, consider not drinking. If you really like the bar environment, find a drink alternative. My buddy owns a bar, he rarely drinks and sticks to club soda and lime when out. No one questions it. If anyone asks why you don’t drink, remind them how rude of a question that is. If you don’t like bars, you’re setting a bad precedent by starting there.
/r/askTRP10/06/21 02:38 AM
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Your “girlfriend” has contempt for you by sharing intimate details with her friend, and it’s clearly unhelpful. Essentially she’s down talking you to her friends to boost herself, or set herself up to look like she ‘wins’ the breakup because it was bad sex anyway. Contempt from one partner or both means the relationship is doomed. In the future (with your next girlfriend) make it clear that sharing private details is off limits. If she’s dissatisfied she can let you know. Good partners do not ta…
/r/askTRP26/05/21 03:05 PM
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You’re not her first choice. Move along.
/r/askTRP25/05/21 05:24 PM
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If they aren’t excited to meet you, it’s a total waste of time. They are either bored or looking for validation. You can easily narrow down your options to good ones just by doing that. You are a man of action; your time is valued; if it’s not happening in the immediate future it ain’t happening.
/r/askTRP19/05/21 05:41 PM
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Don’t gently request a date. If the chat is going well, within the first 24 hours, offer a date/time/place. She either agrees or offers a different time. If she wants to get to know each other more, it’s a time suck. Respond with “Thanks, but I’m here to meet someone, not looking for a pen pal. Hope to run into you one day.” Then cut it off.
/r/askTRP19/05/21 05:11 PM
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Lying is really fucking you up. Be up front, say you lost your job and have been working hard to get a new one but didn’t want to stress her about it.
/r/askTRP19/05/21 04:49 PM
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Respond with “Sounds good. Thanks for letting me know.” Then you go date someone else. Preferably her sister. **wait. You haven’t even met her. What the fuck.
/r/askTRP19/05/21 04:38 PM
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Decide what’s important to you and vet accordingly. I think you’d be hard pressed to find a 30 year old without a considerable number. It is an indication that she can’t do relationships. I’d figure out the reasons why- did she date casually when she moved to a new city? Was it a hoe phase in college? Or is it the only way she can attract and control guys, by fucking them?
/r/askTRP23/04/21 05:00 PM
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“Grab a pizza and fuck on the floor.” I’d be wary against hooking up with customers where you work.
/r/askTRP23/04/21 04:45 PM
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Don’t be scared of other men. If she wants to meet this guy with you, why not, as long as she’s honest about who he is to her. But don’t change your plans - he can meet you as part of your schedule.
/r/askTRP23/04/21 04:36 PM
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There’s literally nothing good or attractive about sending a dick pic. No woman gets turned on by the sight of your dick on a tiny screen. A much better idea is to talk her through all this over the phone.
/r/askTRP23/04/21 04:27 PM
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You said it yourself, you’re getting interest in real life. You’ve got to initiate in real life. Go where these women hang out, initiate a conversation, arrange a second meeting.
/r/askTRP08/04/21 05:58 PM
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Be attractive; don’t be unattractive. I don’t go for any teenagers but early 20’s is pretty nice, though there’s not a lot to talk about. In my mid thirties, my life is chill, quiet, and I’m confident. A 23 year old can either have fun with me or go screw around with a guy with 2 roommates and a video game addiction.
/r/askTRP06/04/21 06:21 PM
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Uncomplicate your life. Some people just don’t belong in it and don’t need an explanation.
/r/askTRP05/04/21 05:10 AM
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Yes, communicate boundaries that align with your expectations of the relationship. What OP described was getting angry and upset with a possible plate that gave another guy attention. OP got overly emotional with someone that has no commitment to him. A boundary is your side of the fence. “You disrespected me, now I’m hurt” is emotional and accusatory. “If we are at a party together and you leave without telling me (or ignore me,etc), I’m not sticking around,” is describing a boundary - an actio…
/r/askTRP03/04/21 07:26 PM
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I’d ask what other psycho babble terms she learned from Instagram. Seriously, “self-care, toxic, gaslighting, manipulative, narcissism,” are so overused and popular because everyone on social media has to have their victim story.
/r/askTRP03/04/21 06:51 PM
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With zero debt and that salary you should not live at home. You are a grown man. If you want a house, save for one year for the down payment and go.
/r/askTRP03/04/21 05:50 PM
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Women are beautiful, and we are designed to look at them. Unless you are straight up staring and drooling, it’s natural, you are inclined to do it, and no one including the owner of the ass cares. If you think it’s a problem, turn staring into glancing.
/r/askTRP03/04/21 05:46 PM
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Two things to learn from: You got ‘angry as fuck’ over a plate doing something trivial. What angers you, controls you. You pointed out what you thought was disrespectful...to a FWB / plate. Thus you showed her your emotional attachment, lowered your value, and gave her control. A better idea would be to detach. When she hits you up for attention in a few days just say that last time you both hung out she seemed distracted so you’ve moved on.
/r/askTRP03/04/21 05:39 PM
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It’s not the most defining statistic but one to pay attention to. You set your own standards, but my red flag is 30 by 30. 30 years old and 30 plus partners is something to pay attention to. 30 partners is enough to include high school virginity, college boyfriends, hookups & one nighters, a threesome, and those 20-something relationships that could go somewhere but don’t. I’ve had one girl claim only 3 but admitted later to 20+ hookups (she was “Christian” and didn’t count unless it was full pe…
/r/askTRP02/04/21 05:20 AM
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Once her emotions take over and override any logic. 100% true. She will fuck you in a hotel room 5 feet away from her sleeping best friend. She will fuck you in a bar bathroom. She will leave her friend with a random stranger, call a cab, and fuck you in a parking lot.
/r/askTRP02/04/21 04:57 AM
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Look up medical tourism- traveling to alleviate medical costs. In particular I think Costa Rica has treatment like this available, far cheaper than the US.
/r/askTRP30/03/21 04:00 AM
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There’s a lack of ability to resolve conflict, and a rise in the pop culture phenomenon of self-care. It leads to a lot of people being reinforced that they are never wrong, so the other people in their lives are “toxic” and abusive.
/r/askTRP14/03/21 07:25 PM
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No I mean like the 4% of the population that has some sort of pathological disorder. I’ve dated many women, but only one cluster B. Heard’s recorded abuse of Depp was nearly exactly what I heard for a few shitty months of my life. The career marriage would only make sense for her. Depp was at the height of his career and apparently happily partnered before she came along. She likely held him hostage with threats of all sorts of contrived claims. My point is that despite Depp’s weakness and/or ig…
/r/askTRP12/03/21 01:21 AM
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Stop reading. Start doing. Match. Introduce yourself. Point out something you like about them. Invite match to a meet at a specific time and place. Do that 50 times, come back and tell us what you learned.
/r/askTRP12/03/21 12:12 AM
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Amber Heard is likely a cluster B/sociopath/borderline/ narcissist snake charmer. There’s a lot more going on than just “he’s beta.” I’m sure she was holding his career hostage for a long time before he left. Lesson to learn: don’t stick your dick in crazy, and always be willing to leave at the first sign.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 11:16 PM
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“The bartender called, said you were asking about me.”
/r/askTRP03/03/21 10:47 PM
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Holy shit. OP, get ready to have your balls cut off in the coming train wreck.
/r/askTRP25/02/21 06:16 AM
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Shift off thinking about shit in the past. Stop romanticizing high school. It was a time for awkwardness and first experiences but in reality it means nothing. This chick didn’t break your heart; you had some obsession with her and it was awkward. You’re doing the right thing being in school and lifting. Move your headspace to where you are today.
/r/askTRP06/02/21 06:35 PM
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Shit, brother I feel you. Let me try to at least save you the first therapy session. Decide whether you want to forgive your parents. You don’t have to. Even if you do, you can reduce or eliminate them from your lif. Next try to at least understand that your parents are flawed. They are not the perfect heroes that a child thinks of. They are flawed by what they learned and patterned growing up. They did not have resources to fix it. They persisted with their flaws til now. You can change who you…
/r/askTRP04/02/21 07:19 AM
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She knows what you look like, or at least, what other girls told her. She also knows what she looks like to men. Go for it, have fun, report back.
/r/askTRP04/02/21 07:15 AM
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I’m about your age but we have much different experiences. Hope this helps. Define what you want and pursue that. If it’s financial freedom, do that. It takes longer than a relationship and has high returns. I’m still paying student loans on a law degree and will for the next 8 years. That means relationships come second. That’s ok, because relationships come fast. You can get married and have a baby in under a year. My overall advice is to stay single 2 years, play the field. If you’re earning …
/r/askTRP04/02/21 07:09 AM
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Own it. Not a single person doesn’t have awkward teenage photos. Something like “that’s right, 13 year old me loved ‘shitty band name’ and made it to second base at winter formal,” should work.
/r/askTRP04/02/21 06:50 AM
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You learn from your previous immature behavior and you move on to mature, learned behavior.
/r/askTRP04/02/21 06:40 AM
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Go help the man if he’s your friend.
/r/askTRP03/02/21 05:58 AM
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Make a no drama exit. Don’t finish the trip, don’t make a long-winded goodbye. “Hey, I thought we were past this kind of stuff. You’ve made a choice to disrespect me and our relationship. Goodbye.”
/r/askTRP01/02/21 09:10 PM
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Clear, concise, and in control doesn’t mean autistic pauses between words. If your message is continuous and effective keep going. If interrupted I stop talking. As soon as they are done, I point out the interruption, then continue.
/r/askTRP31/01/21 11:36 PM
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Watch Jon Hamm as Don Draper speak. Slowly. With precision. Even when upset, the words are clear and concise.
/r/askTRP31/01/21 10:16 PM
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Not hot but not awful...stop wasting time and validating trash just get your dick wet. Respect yourself.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 10:21 PM
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Wait...you propose sex? Like in writing? Chat only about logistics and planning, let the fun and playful mood of meeting up naturally lead to sex. Being good sex isn’t her job, it’s fucking yours.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 10:18 PM
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Only read the title. You want no contact, so do that. Don’t complicate what you want with other’s emotions.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 10:12 PM
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You’re just fucking? Like a friend? No gifts. Also don’t fuck around with someone that asks you to buy them shit. Plates might different, an actual gift if you like giving, but not necessities.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 10:11 PM
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“Im not willing to engage at your level of anger.” Then leave.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 08:49 PM
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There’s very simple ones available through adult stores. Comfortable adjustable cuffs, straps run under the mattress. Very discreet to tuck away as well.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 08:48 PM
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You eliminate guilt with honesty. Guilt and even shame arise when what you want and what you are doing are not in alignment. Be honest with yourself and others. Act accordingly.
/r/askTRP15/01/21 08:41 PM
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I only read the first 2 sentences. Long distance is not a relationship, it’s a fantasy. “I’ve enjoyed our time together. This relationship isn’t what I want. Thank you, but it’s time we split up. Goodbye.”
/r/askTRP15/01/21 08:37 PM
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“When I say no, I feel guilty”. You don’t need to be aggressive, you just have to confidently say no to things you don’t want.
/r/RedPillBooks31/12/20 05:17 AM
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It’s a manipulative tactic known as triangulation. The idea being that if there’s another person in the picture, you must try harder for her affections or put up with her worsening behavior. Brush it off, withdraw, or move on to the next.
/r/askTRP28/12/20 03:36 PM
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The bar in a hostel is where people hang out to meet up and plan the random adventures you have with strangers when you travel.
/r/askTRP22/12/20 11:00 PM
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It’s up to you. Personally that wouldn’t bother me if she was up front about it, especially if he’s not a true friend of yours and not around. Be aware, every woman has at least one past hookup in her circle of friends.
/r/askTRP22/12/20 10:58 PM
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Covid makes this kind of challenging, but Mexico is open. Go to Mexico City. Stay in a hostel that has a bar. The rest will manifest itself.
/r/askTRP22/12/20 10:40 PM
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Air fryer, a good pan, a decent chefs knife. So much interaction happens around food. Art and books. Original art is expensive. There’s nothing wrong with prints. Stick to a theme. I’ve got a Half dozen abstract prints in my apartment. Music- record players are trendy, but honestly a quality Bluetooth sound bar works just fine and makes movies better. Rug and at least one plant. The plant can be fake. Bar- you need to have what you like, plus ALWAYS have a bottle of vodka, bottle of champagne or…
/r/askTRP22/12/20 10:32 PM
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You don’t have to be involved, just cut a check every month.
/r/askTRP16/12/20 07:59 PM
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“let’s be honest here, Insert Name, I’m the best you could really hope for.”
/r/askTRP16/12/20 03:33 PM
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If you don’t have a successful (whatever that means to you) career in your 30’s, spend more time changing that and less time chasing pussy that isn’t going to stick around. Your life is your responsibility.
/r/askTRP15/12/20 04:58 PM
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No. Guys were built to live together with strangers. Women are not. Plus, when you have a plate/date/ltr over, expect twice the drama. There is no benefit.
/r/askTRP15/12/20 04:53 PM
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“Hey, I’m taking this extended trip to Rio, and (taking some classes, surfing, BJJ, working on my novel, etc) full time while I’m there. Let’s stay in touch and I’ll see you when I get back.”
/r/askTRP15/12/20 04:43 PM
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Software first. Hardware second. Do the training at BJJ. You can find ways to train - at home or even a park- to supplement training. You answered this - you’d rather train BJJ than pay a gym. Do that.
/r/askTRP11/12/20 05:46 AM
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Realize the nature of society. It’s a thing. You don’t get mad because birds fly and fish swim. It’s a truth. You can just learn about the world and act better based on you knowledge, but you will never change the world.
/r/askTRP11/12/20 05:42 AM
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Anger is yours to own and use. It’s a never ending fuel. At the end of the day, it’s just a feeling and you need to understand that. When you can turn it off and and on you have control.
/r/askTRP11/12/20 05:38 AM
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I hope we could easily wake up and go about making ourselves the best men possible without disrespecting others. Realize someone disrespecting you, is shitting on you, they are just letting out their shit. You don’t have to accept it. Understand they are a weak and hurt person, and let them be.
/r/askTRP10/12/20 04:59 AM
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You need some Stoicism and emotional control. Nothing someone else does or says is your life. You cannot control anyone else in this world but yourself. You are not disrespected until you feel disrespected.
/r/askTRP10/12/20 04:31 AM
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Do not game with or in front of coworkers. Don’t shit where you eat. The purpose at hand is to make sure your coworkers see you as reliable, capable, charming, and not a stick in the mud. You guys are so distracted by gaming pussy that you won’t build rapport to move up at your profession.
/r/askTRP09/12/20 09:26 PM
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Gossip. Women gossip for solidarity and to determine who is in the circle or out. Men should rely on each other’s actions instead of rumors , but I see way too much gossip for entertainment. The rule is if you wouldn’t say it to him, don’t say it about him.
/r/askTRP09/12/20 06:39 PM
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Are you in the kind of job where this important? Remember the Laws of Power. You are going to need to socialize to move up, and you can use this situation to your advantage. My advice is to go to one to these now and then. Maybe don’t show up early. Grit your teeth and bear it. You will learn about your coworkers and what makes them tick, and watch them make the occasional ass of themselves.
/r/askTRP09/12/20 06:35 PM
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You put your cards on the table. If you are replacing her, do it. You wondering about her calling tells me you aren’t ready to do that.
/r/askTRP09/12/20 03:16 PM
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Body Count could just mean she’s experienced life for awhile, or it could be a red flag. I normally don’t care - everyone has had a life and an attractive 30 year old will have some experience. Except it can be an indication that this person cannot bond outside of sexual attraction- and that’s scary. I have one ex that is likely BPD and her numbers were outrageous. I learned of all this during several of her rage episodes. Take the whole-person view, but if it’s following other red flags it’s a …
/r/askTRP30/11/20 09:09 PM
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Talking about her recent hookups during your health scare is one thing. This whole ex comparison you’ve described is downright disrespectful. It’s a tactic called triangulation. Stand up for yourself. Anytime ex comes up, shut that conversation down. If she’s saying all these things, she’s either hung up on him or deliberately putting you down.
/r/askTRP16/11/20 11:38 PM
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You can have a successful relationship, if you want one. The red pill is about seeing the truth, not going nuclear on the male/female dynamic just because you can. It’s about acknowledging the truth and using the truth to achieve what you want. Find what works for you. There are successful fuckboys on RP. At the same time, Tomassi has been married for years. If you want a relationship, have one. Recognize this truth though: if you become a lesser male, she will leave; if she becomes a lesser fem…
/r/askTRP13/11/20 05:30 AM
10

Simply not being fat and having appreciable muscle tone is a luxury good in modern times. It shows you have discipline, free time, and money to spend on fitness. It’s instant respect.
/r/askTRP12/11/20 03:39 PM
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Lifting. Learning to say ‘No’. Lowering your body fat percentage.
/r/askTRP12/11/20 01:58 PM
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Stop operating out of fear and be honest. “You are important to me, I’ve learned a lot, but this is not the relationship I want. Thank you. Goodbye.”
/r/askTRP05/11/20 11:03 PM
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Your libido is not only dictated by your testosterone. Even if it declines, a man who lifts and eats appropriately will see less of a decrease. A guy in his 40s is still going to want sex. In your thirties you can be a lot more selective, have different priorities, and it’s not a novel experience. “can I fuck this woman? Yes. Do I WANT to fuck this woman? Meh.”
/r/askTRP05/11/20 10:47 PM
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Tease her for being just old enough. She’s already made her mind up.
/r/askTRP29/10/20 05:31 PM
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“I’d like to see what you’re about. How about coffee, at this time, this place?” You seem stared your intent without being desperate, and you’ve made a plan.
/r/askTRP29/10/20 05:26 PM
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“Want to get a drink sometime?” Shows that you are not a man with a plan. “Meet me at at OMalleys at 7 on Thursday.” You have a plan and are leading where this is going. Legend shit is “wear a low cut blue dress” and she does.
/r/askTRP29/10/20 01:47 AM
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I do. I know the menu, the staff, etc. Don’t let her know it’s your date spot, but it’s fine to say you stop in regularly.
/r/askTRP28/10/20 09:26 PM
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I don’t think any respect is lost, but you put yourself in the friendzone.
/r/askTRP28/10/20 09:24 PM
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It’s two different decades, and each has different things to enjoy. There’s a lot more freedom in your 20s. I travelled around, dated when I felt like it, worked hard, and then decided to get my masters. 30s are way more structured, but with structure comes some luxury. I’m not splitting a hotel room to go on vacation with some friends, I’m getting a suite with an ocean view and room service. There’s some pressure that didn’t exist, excel at work, buy property, but overall it’s all mindset. You …
/r/askTRP28/10/20 09:23 PM
1

“Yes, and she’d be into you.” Seriously, if you have a girlfriend be honest. If you just have plates, say whatever. If you aren’t looking for something from the girl asking, tell her that’s a weird question.
/r/askTRP28/10/20 09:17 PM
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Focus on making good friends. Invest your money. A little now will be a lot later. Cut out binge drinking, and look very closely why you have friends that do. Drop the fear that it won’t be perfect. It won’t be. Learn to walk away from anything that doesn’t suit you. Jobs, friends, women. Honestly there’s always more.
/r/askTRP23/10/20 06:33 AM
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“You are important and mean a lot to me. This isn’t the relationship I want. Thank you for the time we shared. Goodbye.”
/r/askTRP23/10/20 06:28 AM
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The sexual market is amoral. TRP discusses morality but itself doesn’t lend itself either way, and each individual can choose. A significant portion of this sub is virtuous- respect yourself, be honest, improve yourself physically,mentally, culturally and financially. We all know that we must then go and engage in the arena where virtues don’t matter, only the result.
/r/askTRP16/10/20 06:48 AM
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In your workgroup you are already higher on the hierarchy. He’s using this to bolster himself. Ask him or someone who laughed to explain the joke to you. Or, flat out tell him to take his racist shit somewhere else. *edit. Don’t agree and amplify in this situation- know the rules. If you retaliate in a classroom setting, this can violate university rules and you can be subject to discipline. Just set a hard boundary, or make everyone uncomfortable with this guy.
/r/askTRP13/10/20 07:22 PM
5

The conservative girl that’s “waiting for a real relationship” has sucked a random dick in a laundry room at a party and done anal on a second date. She’s just not into you.
/r/askTRP09/10/20 05:06 PM
1

Anytime you are speaking with the police it’s for information in pursuit of an investigation. Don’t ever do that without an attorney. Call them. Decline the interview. Don’t say anything else. If they had enough they’d already have you either in cuffs or facing indictment.
/r/askTRP09/10/20 05:02 PM
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“I’ve enjoyed our time together. This is not the relationship I want. Thank you and goodbye.”
/r/askTRP09/10/20 04:39 PM
3

They have a better option. That option could be another dude, or it could be staying home, Netflix and rubbing one out. She was purely attention seeking. When you didn’t provide enough attention, she moved you down on the hierarchy.
/r/askTRP05/10/20 05:26 AM
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Appropriate levels of intimacy- share only what’s appropriate for where the relationship is. Don’t blurt out that you had a shitty childhood on the second date, i.e. Eventually you get to share feelings with a long term partner- if that partner is a safe person. Don’t open up early, and don’t share anything with abusive people. They will pretend to care, then amplify and distort it. Certain things are for professionals only. Been through trauma? There’s a reason you pay a therapist, and part of …
/r/askTRP02/10/20 04:21 PM
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You’re comparing internal versus external. Peterson is giving you advice for yourself. Telling the truth (or just not lying) is to lighten up your psychological load. Your central nervous system knows you are lying. The dark triad are the personality traits of a manipulator. That’s for the external world.
/r/askTRP02/10/20 03:52 AM
2

Because they can’t control themselves, they find someone to control.
/r/askTRP01/10/20 11:06 PM
2

Honesty isn’t niceness. If you had fun there’s no issue with saying so. Just don’t dump neediness. A simple “hey had a good time, let’s plan another night out” is just fine. If you didn’t have a good time or just wanted a lay, no need for anything further.
/r/askTRP01/10/20 10:15 PM
2

You’re getting strung along. An interested woman will skip her grandmas funeral for a man. Your final “I’m not going to keep asking” just let her know you get pouty and emotional.
/r/askTRP01/10/20 10:12 PM
18

Not your relationship. Not your problem. You also didn’t see any of this with your own eyes. This just means you’re engaging in gossip. You are wanting to gossip because you want to know the truth about your girl. If you tell this guy you barely you know you will detonate his relationship and eventually yours. You can’t fix other people man. In this situation, you should let your gf know that you wouldn’t tolerate her hooking up, and possibly suggest that her friend come clean to her boyfriend.
/r/askTRP01/10/20 10:06 PM
1

At best a personality disorder can be managed to an extent. Take 10 or 9 down to an 8 on the scale, and they are still an incredibly difficult person to have in your life.
/r/askTRP20/09/20 03:55 PM
4

Everyone falls somewhere on the spectrum, and it’s healthy to have a little bit of narcissism. The opposite end of narcissism is co dependence. True narcissists rarely get diagnosed and treated- if it’s not affecting them negatively they don’t see a problem. Even if it is, they reclassify it as an external problem. I agree that few women have NPD. It’s also often comorbid with BPD, and I believe relatively few women have an actual personality disorder compared to what’s discussed on RP forums.
/r/askTRP20/09/20 02:33 PM
4

I personally find women 26-30 as the sweet spot. They have their shit sorted, good jobs, own places, own money, still fit. That said, I’ve also heard 28-32 described as the “donut hole”, where women are hitting the Wall and only want a quick relationship geared towards marriage, kids, and a luxury SUV. If you are t getting what you want it’s likely because they don’t see you as the provider they expect to take care of them in their last few reproductive years.
/r/askTRP09/09/20 04:27 PM
1

Why have one girlfriend when I can have 3? Or That’s the thing about this town, all my girlfriends keep running off to get married.
/r/askTRP03/09/20 08:04 PM
3

With BPD/NPD there is no way to catch her and logically end the relationship. The Cluster B in her doesn’t accept logic as reality; it simply takes her emotions and bends reality til it fits. She will walk all over your boundaries and shit inside you. I’ve been with a BPD/Narcissist, trust me. Leave with a short and firm breakup. Let her sucker on the next guy she has lined up.
/r/askTRP03/09/20 02:44 PM
1

Don’t expect some existential change or revelation from using an escort. Don’t use them as a crutch to not use your game to meet actual women. Escorts are fun, like cocaine, and should be used as such. Every now and then while partying? Ok. Not a solution to any internal issues though.
/r/askTRP29/08/20 05:54 PM
1

The term you are looking for is triangulation. She’s creating a triangle to lower your self-esteem. Lightly done, it’s a shit test. Once this becomes serious enough it crosses the line into abuse. Sounds like you are setting boundaries and she’s not respecting them.
/r/askTRP26/08/20 02:14 AM
10

High school and long distance? No. No. No. Use this time to get to know a lot of pretty young things and enjoy time with your buddies. You never get this time back.
/r/askTRP25/08/20 01:17 AM
1

Past numbers don’t matter and you shouldn’t have that conversation. It’s loaded both ways - you will learn more than you want and she will get ammunition against you. Be aware high numbers some indicator of emotional disregulation. Borderlines fuck a lot of guys. But for some woman that you get along with and otherwise share some values with, just live in the moment for your time. Would you turn down driving a Ferrari because it was used?
/r/askTRP19/08/20 10:05 PM
3

Tell her you understand and maybe you’ll hang out if she comes to visit. You got to college and live in presumably a city, surrounded women that are interested in meeting you. No long distance. Ever. Humans aren’t built to enjoy it.
/r/askTRP19/08/20 02:21 AM
1

You ‘dated’ for a month and didn’t have sex. Now you want to have sex with her? Be honest with yourself so you can be honest with her. When friend leaves, tell her to leave. If she wants to stay, tell her you are working on something and only dating casually / dating around. If she wants to, she’ll stay.
/r/askTRP17/08/20 05:45 AM
1

4 years ago? Should meet up someday? Is this an online or text-only thing? The energy is all on your side. She likes the attention but is already passing on you.
/r/askTRP13/08/20 02:40 PM
5

I’d say some BPD traits are present here. PTSD, anxiety, even bipolar disorder are often given out as cover up diagnosis, because BPD is essentially an interpersonal relationship death sentence and nobody wants to hear or treat that. REGARDLESS of any real or armchair diagnosis, she doesn’t sound that great to be with. You’ve just given a description of a woman who sucks. Low paying job, tells your private shit to friends and family, is emotionally unstable, blames you for her problems, has no o…
/r/askTRP12/08/20 03:38 AM
1

What do you respect about other people? Adhere to those same principles. Stand up straight. Don’t gossip or be dishonest. Don’t overeat or get sloppy drunk.
/r/askTRP10/08/20 11:19 PM
2

I don’t know what kind of sex you’re having, but ONS is not a significant event to cause long term mental harm. You did not cause her to be any particular way and surely isn’t your responsibility to fix her.
/r/askTRP07/08/20 04:36 PM
15

Take her out for a nice seafood dinner and never call her again.
/r/askTRP04/08/20 09:44 PM
11

Trauma bonding is an addiction, just like drugs. It works the exact same way. You likely have some underlying unresolved self esteem issue that makes you think receiving abuse in a relationship is ok. It’s not. Get out, get some therapy. Normal relationships are kinda boring if you let them be, but normal women don’t emotionally and verbally abuse people as a coping mechanism.
/r/askTRP02/08/20 10:12 PM
1

The world for young men must suck. If you’re chatting her up, set a date or move on. The social media thing is just feeding her attention.
/r/askTRP30/07/20 07:17 AM
2

She’s giving herself an out if she has a better option before then. Either cut contact or set a time and date within the next 24 hours to meet. Stop being her pen pal.
/r/askTRP30/07/20 07:14 AM
3

Cheating ex? She’s taken all your power and humiliated you before. What she’s doing here is validating herself and asserting power over you. Don’t expose her. You become the ‘crazy ex’ she’s fabricated. I advise against fucking her unless you can’t live without it. But you need it be be clear it’s for sex, not meeting up for coffee or a chat about feelings.
/r/askTRP30/07/20 07:11 AM
17

Do what you want. Get a girlfriend. Treat it like a case study. Change it up every semester. Just don’t base your life decisions on anything from your college girlfriends.
/r/askTRP30/07/20 06:57 AM
1

Slump buster. She had a shitty relationship, or got fired, or had a dry spell, and just wanted to get laid to forget about it.
/r/askTRP24/07/20 05:34 PM
2

Go ahead and assume that any girl over 21 has had a ONS. Absolutely yes if she went to college. The key here is context. Hooked up on college, or a few times in her 20’s? Fine. Had a tough break up and wanted a slump buster? Ok, as long as she can take ownership. 30 years old and still getting bounced around a couple times a month? Something is wrong here. Promiscuity is a red flag of something deeper being wrong.
/r/askTRP24/07/20 05:16 PM
1

You are past the college years and will tire of that environment quickly. Landing in a big city now will give you more options. As a bonus rent is falling all over the US right now.
/r/askTRP24/07/20 04:57 PM
7

Met and went on two dates with this beauty pageant queen. A legitimate professional model. She was too high maintenance for me and she wanted a LTR right away, so I passed. A few months later she calls and wants to start over. I’d moved but told her I’d call her when I was in town. Then every time I’d visit we’d hookup. This goes on for a couple years. Every now and then she’d call and ask if I was ready for something serious, which I declined. I find out she’d gotten married during this time, s…
/r/askTRP19/07/20 06:13 PM
3

Keep up with your health and fitness. Don’t forget about mobility. Travel. See the world with nothing more than a backpack and a map. Make friends (and girlfriends) in other countries. Don’t acquire useless debt. Learn about returns on investment. Invest. The dollars you invest while young have time to grow exponentially. Learn about personalities and communication. People are basically psychologically set at 25. Knowing how to engage people and communicate will make your career. Recognize red f…
/r/askTRP18/07/20 04:57 PM
1

You can’t unless you warp space and time. Work on aging gracefully and maintain yourself.
/r/askTRP18/07/20 04:48 PM
1

If he wants to talk to her, be amused. If she wants to talk to him or keep the conversation going, go fuck the cute bartender. You don’t control anyone else, but you don’t have to put up with any bullshit either.
/r/askTRP18/07/20 04:44 PM
4

They are for hire. Look at their social media. Email their booking agent. Not against the industry in any way, but realize it is just a transaction. Might be fun for the night but doesn’t fix anything.
/r/askTRP12/07/20 09:03 PM
2

How does she have a good heart? You’ve described a person who doesn’t want a steady job, never saves, and has fucked a thousand guys by your estimate. You’re overvaluing her because she’s physically attractive. She is preying on you and probably others wanting to rush in and save her. If you’re worried about the kids, make sure they aren’t starving to death and getting an education.
/r/askTRP12/07/20 07:56 PM
1

Go outside, walk around, sit down and get some sun. Read for 20 minutes out of a book you enjoy.
/r/askTRP12/07/20 07:46 PM
2

FWB and nothing else. She’s telling you she keeps exes in a stable for her amusement.
/r/askTRP12/07/20 07:44 PM
1

Why do you want to save this person? She sounds like an asshole.
/r/askTRP12/07/20 07:41 PM
3

Narcissistic traits in people peak between 16-24. Then most adolescents become adults, and see that the world cares much less about them than expected. Not always the case, but yes, that bitchy schoolyard shit decreases.
/r/askTRP12/07/20 07:37 PM
3

Fix your insecurity, then enjoy those long legs and stares from people who wonder if she’s a model.
/r/askTRP12/07/20 07:34 PM
4

Go to the union for the trade your interested in. Some trades are on the job training, some will provide paid training, some will not. In my area my understanding is that the electricians union will pay for training, but welders need to have their first certification, usually from a community college, before starting.
/r/askTRP30/06/20 03:21 PM
1

You are seeking her approval and wanting something out of nothing. You want her to find you attractive and hook up with you or agree to a second date. If you’re seeking validation, you arent being your authentic self. If “the vibe doesn’t change” end the date and save yourself that time, or shift the vibe. If she’s not into discussing your feelings on neo classical economics, and you want to spend time with her, you might need to take her mini golfing.
/r/askTRP30/06/20 04:09 AM
10

Stop seeking your date’s validation. You are lonely, anxious and needing them much more than they need you. What if you approached a date as a time where you get to have fun and do something you enjoy, and a person gets to come along? Change your perspective and expectations and things get much better.
/r/askTRP29/06/20 10:21 PM
2

How do you know it’s love? You wear condoms with all the other girls. Seriously, condoms are mandatory with anything but a LTR. STDs are very real. If a date doesn’t care if you wear a rubber or not then she’s not caring with other guys too. Be smart and responsible for yourself.
/r/askTRP23/06/20 03:49 PM
2

The good news is that you’re an adult and can make choices. You can be your own role model. A therapist is one way to start. I used one after a BPD/abusive ex girlfriend. I realized that I liked talking to him because he was like my dad. My father is deceased. Similar age as my dad, kind of a cowboy type, had some good advice. The other side is that you get to choose everyday role models and coaches. Find guys that do shit you like and do that shit with them. I got seriously into weightlifting a…
/r/askTRP15/06/20 10:09 PM
1

80 to 100 hour weeks here. That’s the sacrifice, right?
/r/askTRP05/06/20 11:44 PM
3

And becoming a millionaire is not that hard, technically. There was an old Wall Street blog that lad out a formula for twenty somethings to become millionaires. Don’t ever work for less than $25 an hour, increase your salary annually, work 80 hour weeks, save 25% of your income, invest properly, or something to that effect, and it’s impossible to NOT be a millionaire in 10 years.
/r/askTRP05/06/20 02:57 PM
1

You are looking something in a pattern you understand. Guess what...it’s your mother. Recognize that you are looking for a woman that is patterned after your mother so you can create and fix a relationship with her and thus fix the relationship with your mother. Break that pattern and you will stop going after these damaged women.
/r/askTRP05/06/20 11:01 AM
1

“Slept with seven guys in a frat party.” - use your honest words. She isn’t Snow White. She didn’t ‘sleep with’. She decided a good idea was to get gangbanged, and then tell you shortly after meeting her. Real crazy.
/r/askTRP05/06/20 10:56 AM
1

Excellent concepts. Remembering someone’s name, a few facts about them, and opening the conversation with something about them is very effective. I use it in negotiations all the time.
/r/askTRP05/06/20 10:49 AM
4

Definite red flag for a relationship, but do what you want with that. Habitual and compulsive lying is usually a sign of an abusive childhood. Lying was the way to escape consequences. Everyone is so quick to jump on the trendy BPD train, but I’m going to say if she’s telling you she lies and why it’s probably not BPD.
/r/askTRP05/06/20 10:42 AM
27

Unless you have extreme debt you’re just fine. Entry level is just that. Don’t stay entry level. You have no savings, so you’ve identified your first problem. Fix it. 100k at any point in your life puts you in the top 15% in the US. Quit bitching and get to work.
/r/askTRP05/06/20 10:38 AM
9

Do you love the idea of practicing law, or do you think it is just an easy way to make money? I give this advice to people considering law school. Only go if you have two of the following three: A. It’s free or close to free. B. You have admission to a top school. C. You have a job waiting. Being a lawyer is stressful. Your real job is to take other people’s big problems and make them your own. Your value is determined by the value of the problems you solve. Also be realistic about pay- each sta…
/r/askTRP08/05/20 05:52 PM
10

You should read tons of books that are not self-help or redpill books. Pick up a classic like Homer’s Odyssey, some Steinbeck, Hemingway, or Cormac McCarthy, even poetry like DH Lawrence. Expose yourself to other philosophy and worldview, learn how to artfully tell a story.
/r/askTRP08/05/20 05:27 PM
1

That’s ok.
/r/askTRP03/05/20 03:40 AM
1

The dichotomy of man, my dude.
/r/askTRP02/05/20 08:06 PM
0

Two responses. Good, schedule me for later. Good, call me in a couple weeks, we can do lunch.
/r/askTRP02/05/20 07:51 PM
16

Narcissistic traits are present in everyone, and are to some extent, good and even attractive. You want a person to be in the middle, healthy range of narcissism. Self confidence is sexy. NPD is something else. NPD is the extreme end of the scale. It’s very similar to borderline (BPD) and often comorbid. All cluster B disorders center around a lack of empathy, but it manifests different. NPD has grandiose persona, lack of empathy, lack of impulse control, lack of boundaries , double standards, n…
/r/TheRedPill29/04/20 03:39 AM
1

Next time a meme comes that references a male colleague, act a little confused and ask the meme creator, in a soft, inquisitive voice, “why is this funny? I don’t get it. Explain it to me.” Just keep up the questions.
/r/askTRP24/04/20 02:29 PM
2

Nothing can be fixed with a personality disorder, just changed to manageable misery.
/r/askTRP24/04/20 12:34 AM
1

I didn’t have to read much of your post after the title. BPD is a no go. I’m assuming she has a diagnosis, not just traits. It’s a disorder that wrecks you but she leaves feeling just fine. Do some google research or look at the BPD forums on Reddit to see a glimpse of a terrible future.
/r/askTRP23/04/20 11:56 PM
9

Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck, War of Art, Enchiridion of Epictetus.
/r/RedPillBooks23/04/20 11:42 PM
118

Thirty something is great. I’m a mid thirties lawyer in a major city. Life is great. College girls? Rarely but it depends on you. 21 year olds look great but don’t bring anything else. Personally, 24-29 is the sweet spot for women. They are lovely, independent, have their own place, and fuck how they want. A late 20’s woman’s apartment is always the best place to sleep. Friends change, they have lives and priorities, so do you. Make an effort to keep who matters and always make new friends. My c…
/r/askTRP01/04/20 04:51 AM
13

If you listen to the wrong people in here, they will say every woman has BPD. Look for patterns. Every relationship they had will be crash and burn. Their logic will not fit the actual circumstances (more so than normal). Very few deep friendships. Promiscuous past. They will either be extraordinarily close to their family or completely disconnected. Small things become huge fights and there is no way to get them to accept or apologize for their actions. They don’t argue, they rage and throw tan…
/r/askTRP31/03/20 02:01 PM
3

No need to try again, you already know she would be a waste of time.
/r/askTRP30/11/19 05:44 PM
2

Jordan Peterson for a psychological and mythical reasoning. Jack Donovan’s Way of Men for a kind of anthropology and philosophical explanation.
/r/askTRP17/10/19 03:45 AM
1

Do not chase or waste energy here. You’ve already said she’s crazy. If you believe that, she is not worth your time. It’s also not the end of her crazy behavior, but the beginning. Odds are she will contact you. If not, no problem and move on.
/r/askTRP30/08/19 02:04 PM
1

Did you also have the same problems or were you a caretaker? Overcome that shit.
/r/askTRP29/08/19 08:01 PM
1

You’re going after low hanging fruit that fucks easy. If that’s your goal, great. If you’re attempting to land a solid relationship you’ve got to change your targets and change your game.
/r/askTRP29/08/19 12:43 AM
2

My ex with bpd traits was much the same. They don’t operate in the same reality. Maintaining frame and setting boundaries is effective but you have to be at 100% all the time and it’s fucking exhausting. Read up on long term cluster B relationships. The best you could hope for is manageable misery.
/r/askTRP04/08/19 08:29 PM
1

You don’t owe him shit. Keep your private things private.
/r/askTRP21/07/19 06:17 PM
2

Part of your alpha role is making her feel sexually attractive . Seems like this is a way to do that. I would let her take the boudoir photos if this is a real professional photographer. Telling her she can’t because it’s a guy shows you are jealous. You should be pretty nonchalant and ask some intelligent questions, ask her about the contract, and maybe help pick an outfit. By the way, there should be a contract and she should be paying for photos. If it flat out concerns you, maybe you find a …
/r/askTRP20/07/19 11:46 PM
1

If your wife isn’t disordered, this is fixable. You should tell her that behavior is unacceptable and set a boundary. Stand up for yourself and be respected. Also hold up your end of the bargain and be a good father at all times.
/r/askTRP13/07/19 05:03 PM
5

If you’re trying to become a better man and access better women, stay away from BPD or any other cluster B personality traits. You are playing a game that you cannot win. They distort reality to fit their needs in order to survive because they are fragile. Sex is great, they are usually compelling, interesting, and at least one study showed they are genuinely more physically attractive. But yours will, like mine did, find ways to smash the things you’ve accomplished for yourself, pull up any inn…
/r/askTRP29/06/19 06:11 AM
1

Are those children yours?
/r/askTRP22/06/19 10:24 PM
1

Don’t date crazy women, and only consider marrying a woman who acknowledges your values and is accountable for herself.
/r/askTRP22/06/19 10:16 PM
6

Losers fight. Winners fuck the prom queen.
/r/askTRP16/06/19 12:40 AM
1

Both confident and non-confident people can be sociopathic. While alphas may seem dominant and narcissistic for their own goals, betas may use victimization and quiet narcissism to try and control others. Both can lack a sense of self.
/r/askTRP05/06/19 07:32 PM
2

There’s no magic or tricks to game or PUA. It’s the confidence of the person using it. Game and PUA tools just build confidence. If you view yourself as obese and therefore unworthy, that will be a self-fulfilling prophecy. My best friend is obese and has no college degree, but holds conversations with anyone he wants including hot women, has a 6 figure job, and a solid marriage to an absolute smokeshow. Confidence and willpower take you a long way.
/r/askTRP31/05/19 03:37 PM
1

Focus on the trip and having fun. Take it in. Talk to the girls you want and spend more time with them. If you behave like a 16 year old hornball trying to act cool, you will get treated like one.
/r/askTRP25/05/19 08:57 PM
3

Cut and run. At least she’s diagnosed and honest. I was in a 3 month relationship with a BPD, and that shit put me in therapy. I had PTSD symptoms. Sex is great, they can be beautiful, charming, and compelling, but they have to manipulate and then destroy you. They will hook you and then create impossible double standards.
/r/askTRP22/03/19 04:06 PM
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