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| 1 | Becoming a Yes-man?I dont have any social media right now (admittedly pretty wierd for someone my age), would it be best to start using it in order to meet people and organize get togethers like these? | /r/seduction | 02/12/17 11:10 PM |
| 1 | How do I learn to have fun and be outcome independent?Any advice on how to achieve that mindset? I'm not a huge fan of most popular music and I have some hearing loss which makes it really hard to carry on conversations in a loud setting. It's such a massive challenge for me to not be totally invisible in any kind of social environment no matter how confident I act. How can I have fun when its such hard work to socialize and people still ignore or reject me most of the time. | /r/seduction | 01/12/17 03:47 AM |
| 1 | How do I learn to have fun and be outcome independent?So is everyone out at parties and stuff just putting on an act? Pretending to have fun and not care just so girls will notice them. I don't see why people put so much effort into something that is so inherently painful and unenjoyable? Usually when I do something painful or hard (which isnt often because I'm a pussy ass bitch most of the time) its because I'm hoping to gain something down the line, hence the expectation. Is there a way to actually enjoy socializing in the moment and not hate you… | /r/seduction | 01/12/17 02:14 AM |
| 1 | Is college supposed to be the easy mode for getting laid? If it is then I might be screwedWhy should I accept myself if my appearance and personality hold me back from getting anything I want in life. I'm a lazy, reprehensible coward who doesnt deserve to feel positive. I have been trying for years to improve myself but every thing I do blows up in my face or I just burn out from exhaustion and depression. I get overwhelmed just doing what to normal people are day to day activities. I am physically incapable of experiencing fun it seems and I can only fake happiness for so long befor… | /r/seduction | 23/11/17 10:03 PM |
| 0 | Is college supposed to be the easy mode for getting laid? If it is then I might be screwedMost people are morons others want to fuck though. Id take being dumb and hot over being intelligent and neurotic any day of the week | /r/seduction | 23/11/17 09:58 PM |
| 1 | Is college supposed to be the easy mode for getting laid? If it is then I might be screwedHow do I let go of my hatred and jealousy while also using self hatred to motivate me to change? I want to be a better, more attractive person but I just havent been able to muster the courage or willpower to overcome my weakness and depression. Part of me wants to stay in bed all day and hate life and more often than not that part wins. | /r/seduction | 23/11/17 09:57 PM |
| 1 | Is college supposed to be the easy mode for getting laid? If it is then I might be screwedSo would it be a good idea to try and stay an extra semester or two to maximize my chances? I know the time to really make these changes was freshman year but I already fucked that up. I doubt that I'd fare better in the real world if I'm still a loser in college | /r/seduction | 23/11/17 09:54 PM |
| 1 | Is college supposed to be the easy mode for getting laid? If it is then I might be screwedI was talking about the price of the haircut plus the products you have put in it. My hair tends to just lie flat or become a bowl if I don't do some serious moussing. I dont expect anyone to knock at my door, I'm a pathetic failure of a young man with no redeeming qualities a woman would enjoy. I just hate the fact that I've been trying to fix myself for years and have made zero progress because I keep making stupid mistakes and self sabotaging. I compain a lot online because I dont want to let… | /r/seduction | 23/11/17 07:15 PM |
| 2 | Is college supposed to be the easy mode for getting laid? If it is then I might be screwedDo opportunities like that exist after college? I'm pretty average looking and boring right now but I think that I could improve quite a bit in a year or two if I can cure my depression first. I don't think I'm bad looking, I just dont leave much of an impression and as far as I know there isnt any quick fix to that | /r/seduction | 23/11/17 07:10 PM |
| 1 | Is college supposed to be the easy mode for getting laid? If it is then I might be screwedI don't get invited to the fun stuff my friends do. I don't want to be rude and just invite myself, wouldn't that be really needy and uncool? | /r/seduction | 23/11/17 07:08 PM |
| 1 | Is college supposed to be the easy mode for getting laid? If it is then I might be screwedI dont think I have much value right now since I don't get invited anywhere by acquaintances or people I'm in clubs with. Besides working out and trying to become more physically attractive is there a good way to build up value by yourself so you can be confident in social situations? | /r/seduction | 23/11/17 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Obviously leagues do exist, and I'm having a hard time finding anyone who's in mineSo you can't become confident if you're thinking about being confident? That's rough. If I'm not allowed to fake confidence then aren't I stuck where I am now. My confidence and competiveness will never truly measure up to those of the guys who already have those attributes and who work every day to push themselves even further. If I have to start from square one and rebuild myself totally will I always be stuck at the bottom of the pecking order? | /r/seduction | 07/11/17 05:56 AM |
| 1 | Obviously leagues do exist, and I'm having a hard time finding anyone who's in mineIve been trying to wait out the storm of negative emotions but they never seem to stop. Ive been stuck lonely, ambitionless and out of shape for 3 years now and every time I make a step towards fixing myself I screw up and fall two steps back. I think I'm capable of loving myself, I just cant love all the bullshit in my brain and body that's holding me back and making others not value me. | /r/seduction | 07/11/17 05:51 AM |
| 1 | Obviously leagues do exist, and I'm having a hard time finding anyone who's in mineHow can I know I'm capable of things that there is no evidence I'm capable of (in the case of asking out girls there's actually quite a bit of evidence in the opposite direction) | /r/seduction | 07/11/17 05:47 AM |
| 1 | Obviously leagues do exist, and I'm having a hard time finding anyone who's in mineThanka for the detailed response, I really appreciate the effort. I guess I'm just really fed up with how much I'm stagnating right now while everyone around me is making progress and reaping the rewards of such. My grit and willpower is really low right now and doing anything outside my comfort zone completely drains me. I hope that eventually my pace will pick up and ill start seeing real change but for now I feel massively inferior to the people I talk to at school. There's so much I need to … | /r/seduction | 07/11/17 05:46 AM |
| 1 | Obviously leagues do exist, and I'm having a hard time finding anyone who's in mineWill that actually help? All the guys im competing with have presumably been doing all of that stuff for years, how can I ever hope to catch up? | /r/seduction | 07/11/17 02:53 AM |
| 1 | Obviously leagues do exist, and I'm having a hard time finding anyone who's in mineIt sounds easy when you write it down and I know I have to do all those things to have a chance with a girl but its so much harder to muster the willpower to do them in real life. I dont know why but I run out of motivation so fast and end up caught in a black hole of depression and self loathing which prevents me from doing anything for a day, and then I'm back at square one and everything repeats. Ive been doing one step forward two steps back for upwards of two years now and I'm now I'm more … | /r/seduction | 07/11/17 02:52 AM |
| 1 | Obviously leagues do exist, and I'm having a hard time finding anyone who's in mineHow do you show others that you love yourself without being narcissistic? I mean I could wake up tomorrow and lie to myself and say everythings great and I'm on the right track and I look good but that would be delusional and people would probably take my confidence as being stupid and blusterous | /r/seduction | 07/11/17 02:43 AM |
| 1 | My college days are limited, I don't know where else to turnI wouldnt say they're bitches, I've met some really smart, interesting and wonderful girls its just that some better guy always got to them first. I'm glad dropping out of school and forging your own path worked for you. I really am only here since I hate menial jobs and I don't know what I want to/can do otherwise. | /r/seduction | 16/10/17 05:55 PM |
| 2 | My college days are limited, I don't know where else to turnI was on the team for a year and most of friends were people on the team. However I wasnt able to pull my own weight once things got more competitive and I would always be left out of boat lineups. When I left the team I lost most of my "friends" too as they all cold shouldered me. I just took the whole thing as a big personal failure since this was the biggest effort I ever made to get in shape and it didnt work. I'm saving up for some sessions with a personal trainer right now so hopefully I c… | /r/seduction | 16/10/17 05:52 PM |
| 2 | My college days are limited, I don't know where else to turnSorry for the confusion, my scholarship was academic, not for rowing. I wasn't able to keep it since it was through the school I first went to. Luckily the school I transferred to is significantly cheaper over all. I joined some sports like rowing to try and get in shape but I wasnt able to keep up with the other people. I seem to have a really hard time putting on muscle, but I'm going to keep on trying until I see some kind of result. I do group therapy right now and am working to get off thes… | /r/seduction | 16/10/17 04:15 PM |
| -5 | I'm Afraid...Sounds like its over for me. If I could compete in the world as it is I wouldn't have ended up as such s sack of shit. I guess there cant be any winners without losers. | /r/TheRedPill | 17/07/17 05:58 PM |
| 1 | Question about hobbies.Its possible to by luck discover that one of these 'good' hobbies is something I will naturally enjoy. But if they aren't how can I be happy doing them if I'm forcing my self to participate to satisfy other peoples demands? | /r/TheRedPill | 30/01/17 02:04 AM |
| 1 | Question about hobbies.If you're producing I would think that that would be considered work. Aren't hobbies what you do to please yourself? Not other people?I | /r/TheRedPill | 30/01/17 01:12 AM |
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