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OFF TOPICKiddingyoself/r/RedPillWomen28/12/16 04:18 AM
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ABC A, Always B, Be C, Communicating (I'm partly kidding wording it that way.) I'm curious, is he interested in this revitalized space industry, or something? I wonder what, at 24, has piqued his interest in physics.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/18 04:11 PM
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Three bits of info I think all young ladies who want families should know.. 1, IQ is the greatest single indicator of success in life, and it is genetic. 2, "The Truth About Sex: Facts You Won't Believe Are True!", by Stefan Molyneux. 3, A Gift for My Daughter
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/18 10:41 PM
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Oneitis?
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/18 04:57 AM
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Certainly, the woman's actions are on her, and the man's actions are on him. I feel it goes without saying here that we think women who squander their first 25 years are making a mistake. If they believe that family is not for them, the majority of them will be mistaken, and some of them will be right, but they won't be hurting anyone else. Now, the women that squander their youth, neglect and abuse themselves, have no concept of their own limited time, or mortality, and then one day decide when…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/18 07:18 PM
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On a somewhat related note, I'm starting to judge people who use women who are under 27 yo. Of course, everyone is responsible for themselves. Some women are convinced that they don't want to have families. However, we all know they usually wake up one day with regrets. Who wants to be party to these mistakes? I don't encourage "using" anyone, but in reality, there always will be women who offer themselves up as play things, and those who will be glad to take them up on it. At least women who ar…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/18 03:21 AM
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People who are bad at reality would rather pretend that reality is different. Rather than not being so great in the real world, they can kid themselves that they're doing well in some delusion. Also, there are those who purposely sabotage society, and spread lies, manifesting disease & destruction.
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/18 03:13 AM
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I believe that relationships are more likely to be successful adding a 2nd wife than simply having a threesome. At least I can imagine a polygamist relationship working, and I see the type of thing you're proposing as sabotage. I assume that if you do, your days in this relationship are numbered. There are hypothetical male fantasizes that don't really have anything to do with reality, and shouldn't, if your goal is to be married, and have a family. Your husband also, hypothetically, would like …
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/18 01:25 AM
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The idea that premarital sex causes divorce is based in religion, not science. Unless I misunderstand what science is, that's simply not true. I can tell you that I am not at all religious, and I am considering the facts scientifically. Are you familiar with the facts in Stefan's video? If not, I'd encourage you to watch. Coincidences are possible, but at some point it would seem to require a lack of scientific perspective to not be open to the possibility of it being causal.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 07:27 PM
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Maybe, but statistically, any premarital sex results in, for whatever reason, a much higher divorce rate. The more premarital sex, the higher the rate. Perhaps you're right, and simply mimicking what happens to be more successful would result in no advantage, but it certainly doesn't seem that way to me given many different factors.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 06:50 PM
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I am of the very unpopular opinion that people should not have sex until marriage. It really doesn't go over well when one of my other opinions is that very few men should get married today, and only if in a certain window in their life. I believe a cultural shift toward not having sex before marriage is the only thing that could save marriage. My perspective is not based in any religious beliefs, either. I came to this conclusion after considering these facts. I mention this in hopes that it wi…
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/18 04:07 PM
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..husband is not interested in learning about this stuff, but whose marriage is failing fast.. Is your husband interested in your marriage not failing? Presumably he is, or he wouldn't have married you. It's called "red pill" for a reason.. It offers only the truth. Once you have the truth, then you have to be adult enough to go forth, confronting reality on realistic terms, or go into denial, and fail. I absolutely HATE that this is true and always thought I was above needing that.. Let go of t…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 05:11 PM
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Women focus on the top, elite minority, of men, because they can't afford to bet on the wrong one.. and men want healthy women, because women are attractive when they don't neglect or abuse themselves, and there is almost no risk on missing the mark when you'll be back in the game an hour or so later. Another way the duration of investment manifests itself that is sometimes too foreign a concept for some women to recognize.. if, hypothetically, a "7" woman is somewhere where the available men ar…
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/18 04:50 PM
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High SMV men can have varied interests, but everyone is attracted to health. Attraction to "overweight", in my opinion, is a type of fetish. Having a fetish/es is arguably less than ideally healthy, depending on how extreme. Having said that, healthy men who like curvy women with big breasts are generally going to be attracted to healthy women who happen to have those features. It may be that a woman who has a great figure, but who is not optimally healthy, and a bit overweight, is still very at…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/18 08:24 PM
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One was a LTR who was quite low value (literally NO options besides me) 2, someone with MUCH higher value Depending on what you want, you are looking in the wrong places. Neither of these guys are good candidates for you.
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/18 08:08 PM
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I would recommend not wasting any of your time with him, but I would communicate with him your needs, and make sure you understand each other, before moving on. You obviously like him enough to be wondering, despite this incompatibility, so make sure you understand each other, and then do what you've got to do. He may be wishy washy, and decide to have kids in 25 years. That does you no good. You have precious little time, and he doesn't. There are good men who know they want to get married and …
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/18 08:26 PM
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Every day is a new day. You're pregnant at the moment (congratulations!). I'd suggest not "concluding" much right now. You have plenty to worry about, and your perspective will no doubt be different when you're not doing probably the most demanding thing possible. Not trying to convince you one way or another, but I have three friends, two with 3 children, and one with 4.. all of which told me every time they were pregnant "Never doing this again! If I bring it up to you, Kiddingyoself, please s…
/r/RedPillWomen24/05/18 03:19 PM
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Of course. I didn't think that I did. I can remove it if you think it does.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 04:35 PM
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OP, I don't mean to disrespect your question, or attempt to hijack the discussion, but if you don't mind, I have a question for everyone related to this subject. Do you believe that widowers, and their age, are an exception? Do any of you have feelings one way or another about marrying a widower?
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 03:25 AM
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One thing I believe is worth consideration is that the father should be willing and able to be a vital, formidable, presence for at least 16 years of the youngest child's life. It's not impossible to achieve this for a 45 year old father, but it does require an understanding, and conscious effort. I am in no way suggesting that you consider a 45 year old, btw, or any other age.. it's just that I often see a consideration for the mother's age, and her ability to play her role, and not the same co…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/18 03:15 AM
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It's amazing how people are fine with the idea of obeying in a compulsory relationship, but dislike it in a voluntary one.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/18 09:38 PM
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For what it's worth, the description of your concerns and feelings seem completely sensible, and not at all contrary to appreciating your children. I don't think you have to worry about people misconstruing what it is you're saying. You may not be pregnant, so I'd encourage you do to do whatever you can to calm down, and not obsess about it, until you've evidence that you are (if you are, of course). I know it's not what you planned. Given what you've written, you sound like good parents. I know…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/18 09:33 PM
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Your perspective is skewed. It makes me question the judgement of women, and quality of men, in your life until now. "There is no such thing as an ugly woman. Only lazy women." Don't be lazy. Cultivate the discipline to constantly challenge yourself to grow, and be better than you are. "No one owes you anything." Edit: On the topic of your skin, I'd recommend really focusing on diet (Imho, Primal Blueprint, or "NSNG"). In my experience, people who really clean up their diet are often surprised a…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/18 09:17 PM
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Get on the same page with your fiance. Maybe you conclude that his adult son will be accountable for nothing, and you'll have to treat him like an invalid the whole time. Or maybe you decide that he can rent a room from you guys, or a hotel down the street. Maybe that includes use of your laundry, food, and dishes, but doesn't include maid services to take care of them all... ..or maybe something in the middle. Whatever it is you guys decide on, you can jointly tell his son what is expected of h…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/18 11:10 PM
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Does "not applicable" equate to "phobic"? I'd guess most would consider there being an incompatibility. Much of this comes down to children, which is the realm of heterosexuals willing & able of reproducing. This is a public forum, so of course anyone is welcome. I'm not sure how relevant it will be for you, or how interested you'll stay over time. If you do stay for a while, I'd be curious to hear what's kept your attention.
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/18 04:40 PM
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I think many people try to avoid this topic, because saying definitively "yes" or "no", is really not accurate, even though it's close to accurate. It seems there are times in one's life when they can't just be friends with men or women, and then other times when they can. Or maybe a time when they can with one man, or woman, because of some circumstances of their relationship. It almost seems like the answer is "No*", with the asterisk being "Well, sometimes..". Or maybe "It depends, and more l…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/18 04:32 PM
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This reminds me of an interaction I witnessed between some cousins, one male, and one female. She was explaining to her cousin how an appliance repair man was talking down to her and her mother. He asked her how so. She described how he showed them, step by step, what he had done, and the malfunctioning parts that were replaced... "because we were just dumb women." I remember him kind of laughing, and saying like "I go through this all the time. When I hire someone for their expertise, it's beca…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/18 04:19 PM
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I fail to see how it’s my responsibility... an adult man... I wanted to mention this point.. His child is an 18 year old man. Inviting him to stay is a bit different than if he were a dependent. I would assume his 18 year old son would do his own laundry, dishes, etc.? If not, maybe it's worth at least talking about. What is expected of him. It is worth knowing for any younger children the two of you are responsible for, and this will be an example for them. It may not address your concerns, but…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/18 04:03 PM
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If you know you want children, you should know that this requires a family. In other words, a successful marriage. Which requires all the things discussed in this forum, among other things. When you consider the facts presented by Stefan Molyneux in the video I've shared many times, I don't know how to conclude anything other than that people who know they want children should not have sex until marriage. It's essentially imperative that men marry only virgins, and nearly so for women as well. T…
/r/RedPillWomen18/05/18 01:56 AM
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I have come to the conclusion that it's worse than that. It's not neglect, but sabotage. Consider just about every influence in society. If it were chance, some would encourage healthy things, and some would encourage neutral, or unhealthy things. In almost every way that matters, we, as a society, are encouraged to do incredibly unhealthy things. It's not just that young people aren't taught that sex isn't a toy... that they have much less time than they think to have a healthy family, and that…
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/18 07:54 PM
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Most people don't realize that they're often referring to agreeableness, cowardice, &/or weakness, when they say "nice" about men. Women have no need for cowards, whether they realize it or not. "A harmless man is not a good man. A good man is a very dangerous man who has that under voluntary control." - Jordan Peterson
/r/RedPillWomen12/05/18 12:56 AM
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When I was a kid, I noticed that all my guy friends were set with their first girlfriends. By that I mean, they had no ambition or aspiration to change anything (which was part of the problem). It couldn't get any better in their minds. Obviously teenage girls aren't typically happy with a teenage guy with not much going on, and without a feeling of a sense of urgency to strive for more. Especially when they're getting attention from every male between the age of 7 & 70. It inevitably ends witho…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/18 03:17 AM
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It sounds like she may need to check herself, given the description of your experiences. Dr. Drew often suggests "Think butterflies, not lightning bolts" when describing the type of men she should be considering. In other words, her instincts might not be great. She needs to temper herself with good sense. Certainly, she wants to find her captain attractive, but if it's firing on cylinders given how she was raised, it may be a perfectly bad match. Also, I recommend suggesting watching virtually …
/r/RedPillWomen10/05/18 05:38 PM
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If the fantasy of this man you've never met is so great that you've permanently lost interest in having a family one day... then so be it, and figure out what will be fulfilling to you. If you decide that you still want to have a family one day despite your loss, you'll need to wrap your head around settling for someone real, who is in your proximity, and sincerely interested in you, before it's too late. I'd suggest making up your mind asap. Also, it's understandable that you feel insecure abou…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 03:29 PM
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Is there no place, or way, of meeting people these days who collectively see dating as a means to find a partner to have a family with? Most men, and maybe to an extent women, I knew growing up didn't consider marriage, or family, when they started dating. It was just an exciting game without much long term consideration, or realistic understanding. I wonder if someone started a "dating" site which stated plainly that it was for young men & women who understand that sex isn't a toy, but a mechan…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 03:17 PM
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I think people need to keep the purpose for the genders, and their roles, in mind. In some ways, the husband/fathers's, and perhaps even just a man's, job is to die first. Or, do whatever it takes to protect his family, or community, even if it means die trying. In the same context, in some cases it's the mother's job to die next (before the children). If there is a son involved, and he's around 12 years old, arguably his role is to protect his family to the death before his mother. Maybe if he'…
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 04:20 AM
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To be clear, this isn't my theory. It is what scientists who study intelligence have determined.. There is no greater single indicator for success in life than IQ.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/18 04:02 AM
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I think that the pendulum is swinging back toward traditional. As long as marriage is between at least 3 parties, one being the state, I see fewer & fewer men being willing to partake. As society is today, marriage is for unthinking men who venture into things recklessly, or for very thoughtful men who want to have families (family is not a priority for all men, thoughtful or not, and even when it is, it could have only become so recently). Very thoughtful men may look at statistics such as the …
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/18 08:07 PM
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I tell everyone to consume any three of his videos, and make up your own mind. I'd say that same about Jordan Peterson. Molyneux's stuff is invaluable. If you are inclined, you can call him to discuss/argue. He'd welcome your proving him wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/18 02:03 AM
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Generically speaking, if it comes down to a coin toss, don't lose sight of the fact that IQ is the greatest single indicator of success in life, it's hereditary, and there's really no way of increasing one's IQ. I'm not suggesting that you have applicants take a test.. only that you understand the relevance of IQ in life.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/18 01:45 AM
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"There's no such thing as an ugly woman, only lazy women." Women are the fairer sex. Relative to men, women are desired by birthright... relative to each other, no doubt, too. Any woman with a healthy lifestyle will at some point in her life have the ability to take her pick of several partners. The same really can't, or shouldn't, be true for men in general. Women are quality control. Men are about quantity. 80/20. It's not foolish, or flawed, that women consider 80% of men below average. "Belo…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/18 01:35 AM
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They would be accurate if they said that to the other parent of their children. What a diseased perspective. Only someone with that type of attitude would say something like that. Why people bother with relationships when they see the other as an adversary, rather than the partner, I have no idea.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 08:28 PM
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our relationship isn't as happy as it once was.... nothing seems to change. It may be that you'll not be capable of a non-abusive relationship until after you get some therapy. Stefan Molyneux suggests that it takes at least half the duration of your last relationship to get over it, and be ready for another one. Whether or not he's right, he puts an emphasis on not wasting your time when it's not right. If you want to have children, you must understand the reality of the time you have to do it.…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/18 02:47 PM
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"LADIES! YOU CAN'T HAVE IT ALL!" I don't necessarily agree with the title, however he makes excellent points. I read an article where a woman points out that women can have it all if they understand that some of their goals have an expiration date to contend with, and others may not. In other words, if you want to have a family, presumably you want it to be healthy, and successful. Be a mother first.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/18 01:49 AM
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If you want a healthy family someday, please consider these facts before listening to any theory that encourages having sex outside of marriage.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/18 01:44 AM
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Most people who are younger than 27ish, and who still have their parents around, have no perspective on their mortality. Most people whose peers aren't married &/or parents don't understand that their social life won't continue like it did through school. It's hard to imagine why college aged males would be interested in marriage, but eventually their priorities will likely change.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/18 04:34 AM
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Divide and conquer collectivism and fear tactics.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/18 04:17 AM
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I’m too old to not know how to do this! Unless you're looking to get into the Olympics, or be a child actress, you're not too old for much of anything. :D The good news is this is a competence thing, and not an age thing. I, too, knew very little about cooking and have learned a lot with a little experimenting. Also, I learned a lot from a show called Good Eats with Alton Brown.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/18 04:18 PM
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I don't think that you understand fully what your issues are. It seems to me like you could use some therapy (not speaking of medicine). Please take no offense. There's almost no one who couldn't use some therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/18 04:13 PM
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People are attracted to health. Individuals should make their health a priority throughout life, maybe especially if they're parents. Parents teach more by example than by any other method. Also, you can only be so good a parent, or anything else, if you're unhealthy. Having sound priorities, and a lifestyle to manage them, is very healthy, and attractive. Some people are incentivized to stay healthy for the sake of being attractive to others to get what they want.. but good health is the means,…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/18 03:59 PM
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Congratulations!!! Keep up the great work! To anyone wondering about how to determine how many calories to target, I'd suggest checking out r/keto, and on the right side, Keto in a Nutshell, and their FAQ.
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/18 07:09 PM
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I think you've been given a lot of good advice so far, and I don't have much to add, but I did want to mention this.. ..was raped by my stepbrother repeatedly for about 6 months around six years ago. Will all due respect, and sympathy, I'd suggest that you probably have suffered earlier than this. I highly recommend therapy, and not because I think you're "damaged goods", but a person who could probably use some assistance in unpacking some stuff, and moving forward from it. I've come to the con…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/18 05:45 PM
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This kind of grace is so impressive, and something I continue to strive for.
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/18 05:33 PM
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I know husband loves him and would give him every single organ in his body if he needed to.. If you're certain of this, I'd suggest trusting your husband to be the father, and trust your instincts to be the mother. You're a team, and you have ever right to discuss it with him, but he'd be a poor father if he didn't do what he knew he must. You'd be a poor mother if you were concerned and ignored it. He most certainly wouldn't treat a daughter the same way, and neither would you. Can you imagine …
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/18 05:28 PM
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Stefan Molyneux suggested that half the duration of a relationship is necessary to get over it (and always warns about not wasting time). No idea how he came up with it, but it sounds good to me.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/18 02:50 AM
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Three bits of info I think all young ladies who want families should know.. 1, IQ is the single greatest indicator of success in life, and it is genetic. 2, "The Truth About Sex: Facts You Won't Believe Are True!", by Stefan Molyneux. 3, A Gift for My Daughter
/r/RedPillWomen22/02/18 10:35 PM
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You could help him focus on the bright side... he's a long distance from her, and just a new ph number away from being able to run some local hills, and meet some local people who won't toy with him.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 07:18 PM
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It seems very unlikely to me that you, a 19 year old woman, are hanging out with male peers who are biologically driven to have sex with you, due to the relative lack of attention you receive from them, as opposed to the attention lavished on you by your female friends. I would suggest that you're not being honest about that. Or maybe that you don't understand the dynamic you have with your friends, and have come up with an unrealistic fantasy for some reason. Getting to the bottom of that reaso…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 05:42 PM
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"Slut" is probably not relevant. If you're not having sex with these guys, and someone suggests you are a slut, they are probably being fast & loose with the term, or suggesting that they expect you to become a "slut" eventually. I heard Adam Carolla give a good analogy once about needing resistance in life. He mentions how astronauts atrophy in zero G. For some girls, spending a lot of time around a bunch of guys who think of you as special in some way, whether they know they want to have sex w…
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 04:53 PM
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It doesn't seem to be common. There's a lot of people who have never understood, or never experienced, that a couple should be on the same team. That relationships are win/lose, and the better schemer will win. For example, most relationship questions could helpfully be answered with "Copy & paste this to a message to you SO." It's sad and, like many things people accept today, meant to give family no chance. I would agree that it is obvious, and should be common sense.
/r/RedPillWomen21/02/18 04:42 PM
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Fake it until you make it. It may be hard to see, but your weight, and insecurity, are likely symptoms of a bigger issue. If you weren't insecure, but a valuable, attractive, woman, what would you do? All people are attracted to health. Be as healthy as you can be, and find some interests. If you already have them, pursue them. We like to pretend that who we are is separate than our biology, but it isn't true. Invest in your health, and your attitude/perspective/health/esteem/happiness will impr…
/r/RedPillWomen20/02/18 12:27 AM
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If he's a good man, and you're a good match, the best tactic would be to explain to him what you'd like to accomplish, and ask him what he thinks the best tactic would be. The two of you will come up with something that will work wonderfully, without being disrespectful to either.
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/18 12:59 AM
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Couldn't disagree more. Women can choose the quality they want. IQ can't change in an individual, but can trend up or down generationally (is that a word?). So you can either stick your head in the sand to the fact that there is no greater indicator for success in life than IQ, and leave it to chance.. Knowing that no amount of parenting, education, nutrition, etc., will allow you to improve your childrens' IQ, or you can make sure that higher than average IQ is a quality requirement in your cap…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/18 06:30 PM
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I don't see how "trans" & RP are compatible. RP is based on realities of differences between people with Y chromosomes, and people without.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/18 04:16 AM
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If you have two potential guys in mind, I suspect that you should probably move on. What if both came a calling right now? Stefan Molyneux once said that it takes half the duration of a relationship to get over one once ended, hence the need to not waste time once you know it's not right. I don't know if he's right or not, but it wouldn't surprise me if that's accurate.
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/18 03:42 AM
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It may be an issue of semantics. Being very clear, not wasting time, and not settling for less than you want, is advisable. Communicating it in a way that wouldn't be described as an ultimatum, even if that is arguably what it is, is probably also advisable. Again, may be semantics, but I feel like if you've picked the right captain, "ultimatums" won't be necessary.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/18 10:18 PM
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I would recommend that under no circumstances that you, or he, let anyone know, much less the woman in question. Playing with fire is asking for trouble.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/18 08:47 PM
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All guys have urges. If he's a good guy, it's not a threat to you. I would recommend that he should try not to indulge in fantasizing about others, as it is not ideal for your relationship. That's not that realistic. However, if fantasizing about an old hot teacher is a bit of energy spent in the wrong direction, fantasizing about an ex lover who is currently around, or your spouse's sister, or whatever, is more destructive. It may be hard for you to understand why he might fantasize about other…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/18 08:44 PM
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If you're family, you're family until death. If that's the case, not getting along at least enough to be civil & pleasant isn't an option. You can only control what you can control, however. If they're BP, they're following a failed strategy. You'll be an example of one that works. Be that example with as much grace, and patience, as you can. One day their only option will be to realize your value to their family, and maybe even as an example they should have emulated.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/18 05:12 AM
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"As unto the bow the cord is, So unto the man is woman, Though she bends him, she obeys him, Though she draws him, yet she follows, Useless each without the other!"
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/18 04:26 AM
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People are attracted to health. This includes psychological health, obviously. If you're ≤25yo, most of your health is taken care of for you. After this period, you are responsible for cultivating your health. It's not prohibitively difficult, but it takes focus, and effort. If you adopt a healthy lifestyle when you're young, it'll be of great benefit. It's much easier to maintain good health than it is to recover from neglect in bad health. If you're younger than approx 28yo, you have no idea h…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/18 04:25 AM
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If you know what you want, set goals for yourself, and don't squander time, and energy, you're in a fantastic position to make it happen. Also, no one owes you anything. Edit - Two more things. Part of not wasting time and energy is understanding the importance of IQ, that it is genetic, and that there is no greater indicator for success in life than IQ. Also, that these facts are relevant.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/18 04:04 AM
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I think a lot of women are concerned that men won't like the idea of a woman asking them out. I'd suggest that the issue isn't really that, it's that if a man doesn't, you'll never know if he was capable of it. Ideally he'd be a combination of interested enough to be motivated to do something a bit out of the ordinary, and have enough esteem to feel like there's some chance a woman would accept his advances. You may eliminate the opportunity for him to impress you sufficiently asking you out if …
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/18 03:55 AM
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If a man wants children, presumably he wants healthy, happy, successful, children. By far the best way to have & rear children is to marry their mother. If a man doesn't want children, he may very well not want to get married. Or he may put it off until he fears dying alone.
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/18 03:40 AM
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I don't believe that this is a sincere bunch of questions, but in the event that I'm wrong, or someone without a foolish collectivist agenda reads this, I'll respond with a few points. we're more or less nothing without them. And vice versa. So my question is, how do I go on knowing that I have no worth? This is a personal issue, and has nothing to do with being a man or woman. "If you think you can, or you think you can't, you're right.". Perhaps the same can be said for "worth". As long as you…
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/18 03:32 AM
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This reminds me of people who don't seem to know if they've ever been in love, or have had an orgasm. I tend to think that if they have, they'd know it, and that their uncertainty is likely telling. I could be wrong, of course!
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/18 12:53 AM
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It seems to me that ideally a mother would be young enough to not be concerned with age related issues for self, and child. Not just through pregnancy, but through nursing, and beyond. Men don't have the same age related concerns to conceive, but a father should be a vital, potent, man/leader for at least 18 years after their youngest child is born. If a man has taken good care of his health, deciding to make it a priority at least until his children are independent shouldn't be difficult (but i…
/r/RedPillWomen14/02/18 12:48 AM
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I would assume there will be a greater emphasis on N count going forward. Many men have bought into the idea there are no differences between men and women, and haven't considered the consequences (or even that there might be any) to partnering with a "slut". However, word is spreading. If someone wants a family, they need to watch out for those who are fast & loose with their sexuality. I could see a time when guys determine that they should limit, or abstain from, their flings, and only seriou…
/r/RedPillWomen11/11/17 04:44 PM
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Either he is a cheater, or best case scenario, he's pretty disrespectful, kind of a jackass, and someone you don't feel very confident about. Whatever the case, & whatever you decide, you'd be completely within the right to err on the side of your own health, and investment, and move along. You might both be better off for it. Take care!
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/17 02:35 AM
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Naturally I want to have a family. Assuming by this you mean a husband who loves & respects you, and children with that man, you can't afford to waste any time with anyone you doubt is a candidate for that. You're pregnant with someone else's child, so I'm not pretending that this is a simple matter. You're connected to this disrespectful person who you claim makes you feel like shit about yourself for at least 18 years, but realistically for the rest of your child's life. At a minimum, you've g…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/17 03:31 PM
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Yet again, I'd recommend checking out Stefan Molyneux's videos on this very topic.
/r/RedPillWomen15/10/17 01:46 AM
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Unless I'm getting the wrong impression, I can't understand why you have so much respect for him. The way relationships work is that we all do our best to find the highest quality mate we can. We understand that we both will age, and perhaps one of us could get injured, disfigured, or die. There is a line "for better or worse" that comes to mind. I suppose that's the issue here; a lack of real long term commitment. Part of what you describe is just life. Every day we get better or worse, we neve…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/17 06:06 PM
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Maybe someone better at summarizing than I am could give it a shot? I've been considering your request, and this video is just full of valuable info. I wouldn't know how to begin to abbreviate it. The more of Stefan's videos I watch, the more I'm convinced they're a treasure trove. I'd recommend making time for a few of them, and I would be surprised if you didn't agree.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 05:38 AM
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As I mentioned to someone earlier, I've heard it suggested that it requires half the duration of a relationship once it's over for you to truly get over it, and be ready for another one. This is why wasting time in a relationship you know isn't right must be avoided! Could it be that you weren't ready after your last relationship for your current one? Be true to yourself. Maybe this is a good relationship for you, and maybe it isn't. If not, it's not the end of the world. Don't let yourself down…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 05:34 AM
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I heard Stefan Molyneux suggest recently that it takes half the duration of a relationship once finished to get over it before you're truly, healthily, capable of being available for another one. No idea if that's true, but something to consider.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 02:01 AM
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It sounds like you're committed to be the best woman you can be, and arguably, he's not living up to his end of the bargain (being the best man/husband/father he can be). You may want to watch this, and ask your husband to, and discuss it.
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/17 01:58 AM
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OP, are you interested in marriage? If so, how long do you think you'd be willing to invest in this relationship before a proposal?
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/17 06:32 PM
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20/80 rule? What percent of males typically do all the breeding the rest of the animal kingdom? I wonder if it's consistent at all.
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/17 12:42 AM
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The "Red Pill" is about understanding, accepting, coping, thriving, etc., reality.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/17 05:15 AM
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It may be that not having good parental examples, and not having a father involved with you on a day to day basis, has left you with a real uphill battle, and screwy instincts. If that is the case, there is almost no chance you picked a healthy partner for yourself. You may want to consider therapy.
/r/RedPillWomen23/07/17 01:40 AM
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Thanks for introducing me to Lauren Southern. I had never seen, or heard of, her before, and am impressed to hear such wisdom out of someone so young. I just came across this on Voat, and it reminded me of your post here.
/r/RedPillWomen21/07/17 03:11 PM
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Part of this rational is based in men not wanting a LTR until later in life. Regardless of when/if they do want a LTR, while they don't, why would they tolerate anything they deemed negative when AWALT, and the plenty of fish thing? There is a big picture to consider. Another part of it is that men & women both shouldn't waste time with the wrong partner. If you just next anyone & everyone when there is friction, it might not be the best plan through your entire life if your goal is a LTR, but i…
/r/RedPillWomen09/06/17 01:31 AM
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I find it relevant that before reading the post, but after the title, I thought "The same as we do when sober.". Given the topic, I'd like to say that being responsible for your safety means taking necessary steps before you begin to be impaired. That said, those who would violate the rights of others exist, and they're certainly not good people. There is no excusing them. Focusing on them is a distraction from what each of us should focus on, and that is that which we can control. You can take …
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/17 03:51 PM
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I'd also consider not outright saying you want a relationship unless you're propositioned for something physical, telling someone that on a first date without provokation can read a bit desperate. When I first read this, I disagreed strongly enough to hit reply. Now that I am reading it again, perhaps I took it in a way you didn't intend. Stating that your intention is for LTR leading to marriage is a good strategy, and not at all desperate. However, if it wasn't clear in your dating profile, te…
/r/RedPillWomen10/02/17 03:08 PM
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If you're ever discussing something important, and/or sensitive, via text, and you're not 100% certain you're on the same page, asap abort the discussion via text, and request meeting to discuss face to face when you can. I've seen so many people react in myriad, surprising, ways to text.. The touchier the subject, the more sensitive/defensive. It's hard enough to come to an understanding with others face to face. Don't make it nearly impossible by taking body language out of it, and worse, not …
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/17 04:26 AM
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Once in a thousand times is essentially never. We have all likely declined more than that. If it's truly the exception, it shouldn't be an issue. I'm guessing that since you're asking about it it's more frequently. If you're not feeling up to it regularly, you should both reconsider what you want in a relationship.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/16 03:09 AM
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There is a yoga class in my village, so I have no excuses to not join. I think you can find yoga routines on youtube, too. I have definitely taken myself for granted, thank you for raising these points! Glad they resonate with you.
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/16 05:26 AM
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I've got good news, and bad news.. If you're not a total mess, always sick, with no energy, it's only due to you coasting off the work your hormones/youth do for you despite your abuse, when you're 26 & younger. You're body is about to cut hormone production, and basically tell you you're on your own from here on out. Which means you've got to stop abusing yourself, and adopt some healthy habits. Frankly, if you're under 28, you probably have absolutely know idea just how much you're about to lo…
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/16 11:21 PM
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because she is beautiful Beauty is subjective. I'm not arguing here, but reiterating.. If a man finds a woman beautiful, he'd probably be shocked if others didn't, but the vast majority of the time, it wouldn't matter. I heard a comedian once say that you can trick women by being seen out in public with 10s, and they'll assume you're good enough for them, too. It was a funny statement, though I don't know how true it is. One thing I can say in my experience is that most men know exactly what is …
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/16 02:45 AM
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Are you sure? I can't imagine a 20s only 3 times a day, never mind a teenager, who could have 30 times a day.
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/16 04:20 AM
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We feel hunger because we have a need. Same with the drive for sex. Starvation will kill you, whereas denying sex likely won't, but there are psychological tolls. There are men who need to compensate for their otherwise low SMV by behaving as Disney character who is only interested in The One, and always knew that they were out there. If a woman is also of low SMV, she may be doing her best to target this guy. However, generally speaking, if women are after the highest quality mate they can attr…
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/16 06:22 PM
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Hypothetically, if you wanted to get married, and have children, someday, and you were in a relationship with someone who doesn't, this would be an example of you not respecting you, right? Or, if you wanted to be in an exclusive ltr, and you were dating someone who doesn't want to be...
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/16 09:59 AM
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There's something to be said for a man waiting to have sex because he wants only you.. With all due respect, this reminds of the saying that porn/disney have ruined men's/women's ability to have relationships. Men are driven to have sex, and it's unrealistic to think they're electing to wait for someone they don't yet know to have it with one day (religion aside). Realize that from approx 12 until the day before they met you (not that it stops there), they want sex more than anything. To give so…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/16 09:53 AM
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Value is subject, and our regard for people is ever-evolving. Mentioning a high SMV person in discussion is one thing, but identifying one in real life can be tricky, or at least take some time. I think you need to at least consider "why" when confronted with an apparent high SMV virgin. A healthy man is biologically driven to have sex with women, so what gives? It could be for religious reasons, and that'll range from a bonus, to a deal breaker, for some. It may be some sort of strategy that ma…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/16 09:40 AM
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I assume this would depend on if a woman is willing & able to have children, or not. If she's 20yo, there's different considerations than if she's 45. At ≥40, I'd think if you enjoy someone's company, there's mutual respect, & interest, then I don't think there's much reason to consider age. It's either beneficial or it's not. If children are a possibility, though, I have two different thoughts; One, it seems to me that a child benefits greatly from having mature, wise, stable, parents. Two, the…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/16 08:27 AM
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He may be able to relate once you explain to him. I'm not entirely sure I understand how it happened in your situation, but I have cropped photos, & sent them using Telegram, just to have it send the uncropped photo. I don't know why it does that, but that's immediately what came to mind as I read your post. If he's experienced it too, he'll likely understand. It's unlikely that a single guy would be offended receiving a nude photo of someone (of age). There's not much threat involved for him. I…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/16 08:06 AM
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If I wanted to have children, I think I would have preferred someone who was at least as smart as me, but not so much smarter than me that I felt like a simpleton in comparison. I don't know how much IQ matters, but if it means anything, I suppose at least -10, to maybe +30ish, to me? I read once somewhere that children get their intelligence from their mothers. I have no idea if that's accurate or not, but it always stuck with me. I've enjoyed LTRs with women who I've had a much higher IQ than …
/r/RedPillWomen04/09/16 02:07 AM
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This sounds like an attractive child who refuses to grow up, and who is a bit of a loser, & not an "Alpha", to me.. but I don't know him, and everyone has an opinion. Having said that, if a lady wants a LTR with a man who is truly in high demand, she's probably kidding herself to think he's ready before at least his late 30s. Lets say hypothetically this 28 year old male was an alpha, truly remarkable, man. He'd be able to attract the majority of early 20s women for at least a few more years. If…
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/16 01:56 AM
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I wonder if modern tech isn't helping the smaller percentage of men get their services out there to the masses. When people look for a product or service these days, they skip to the top few with hundreds of 5 star ratings. If Tinder, et al, isn't like this yet, I'm guessing it's progressing in that direction. I'd think that this would result in a smaller % of men "getting their business". However, there's only so many clients these men can service, so maybe it balances itself out? I don't know,…
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/16 08:19 PM
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Not that anyone would want to marry someone this foolish, but say some man did decide to ask one of these "married" women.. I imagine some percentage are so out of touch with reality, that they can't be pleased, and so they'd refuse. However, there's gotta be some percentage who would immediately divorce themselves, and marry the guy. I'm kidding, but I wonder how they'd rationalize marrying someone else after marrying themselves... which for many reasons is unlikely to happen.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/16 08:11 PM
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Reading this, I gotta admit that I feel like it's a train wreck. Life, & relationships, just don't need to be this hard. Of course, I don't know you. Take what I'm saying with a grain of salt. What you find acceptable, and what you describe, makes it hard for me to know where to begin... So, how about this idea? You don't worry about it at all, and if nothing bad happens, you let go of this insecurity, or lack of faith, or whatever you want to call it, for good. However, if something bad happens…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/16 06:38 AM
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I have a feeling you could find a guy of just about any age that would be interested in you if you take good care of your health, and are "young at heart". However, if you're looking to find a TRP guy, I suppose it's probably worth asking yourself if a specific potential guy could attract a woman 10-15 years younger than you, AND what, if anything, you feel that would mean regarding your mutual interest. It may mean nothing, but certainly if a man hasn't closed the book on potential kids, for ex…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/16 03:12 AM
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This just reminded me of this thread.
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/16 02:58 AM
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Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/16 01:02 AM
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I recommend martial arts to everyone. If striking isn't your cup of tea, I'd recommend a grappling art (or vice versa). If you don't like either, I don't think you're doing any good by continuing. I get wanting you to be able to take care of yourself, but the fundamental part of taking care of yourself is taking care of yourself. If you're eating well, stretching, doing yoga, or whatever exercise you prefer, your health & fitness should be better than average. If you were to practice a martial a…
/r/RedPillWomen18/08/16 01:40 AM
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It's funny, this seems totally unacceptable to me, and I feel like suggesting you come to an understanding about it asap, &/or leave the situation... but at the same time, I do remember a transition in my life, and some of my friends lives, when they've always lived one way, and unexpectedly find their lives & schedules very different. There's somethings to learn about being in an LTR, and also at many stages of maturity, and at least for me, some of them were kind of a surprise. This guy could …
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/16 06:14 PM
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This may be a ridiculous thing to suggest, but for whatever reason it comes to mind... It sounds like you have the option of working from home, needing an internet connection & your computer. I am familiar with a lot of people who work from home, and have moved to new regions, to live more remotely, which is an option for them when many can't. Depending on where you live, and what you like, you may find it incredibly rewarding. If you have no idea where you might prefer to live, I suggest travel…
/r/RedPillWomen16/08/16 06:06 PM
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I injured tendons/ligaments in both legs. Had shitty knees for over a decade. One day I decided to swim, and it was the best decision I made regarding conditioning at that point in my life. We don't know what the future will bring. A while ago a torn tendon or ligament might have meant the end of a pro athlete career, but definitely a season ender. Now guys don't need surgery for things they did just a few years ago. They can regenerate cartilage now, and stem cells are doing seemingly miraculou…
/r/TheRedPill16/08/16 03:36 AM
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Sex, communication, relationship. You're communicating something, one way or the other. Communicating as clearly as possible is better than not, imho.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/16 06:02 PM
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I would think this would depend, on whether or not you had a definite plan for kids, one way or the other. Personally, I think the benefits from having a father at least in their 30s are valuable enough to conclude that that's a good idea. I go back & forth about the age of the mother, though. I tend to think a 5-11 year difference in a couple is probably somewhere in the right ballpark. Generally speaking, I think the populace would be better off if everyone could make it through their 20s befo…
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/16 08:34 PM
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A few points.. 1, The more obvious it is you're wearing makeup, the more likely someone will think you're wearing too much. I am no expert, but I imagine most men would like when they aren't sure you're wearing makeup at all. More often than not, less than too much makeup will likely be preferred, to having no effect.. whereas "too much" can be a negative for some. 2, Damage to your skin. Dolling up for perceived short term benefit, time and again, forsaking the long term health of your skin, is…
/r/RedPillWomen11/08/16 04:03 AM
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That's why it's called "red pill". It's not what we were told, or thought, or hoped.. but it is reality. Eventually you mature to the point where you accept it, and decide what you want. On a side note, this is one of the biggest differences I think I see between TRP, and RPW. Many guys speak of keeping frame, etc., but can't quit bitching about how they were mislead, and accept reality. RPW seems to have a higher percentage of accepting, rational, productive, types. Swallow, and move on.
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/16 03:11 PM
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A few times they've said things like I'm boring, should get out there, etc. These are not friends. I obviously don't want to drop my current friends. I don't really care what they do with themselves Again, not friends. I know it's hard when all you know is this type of association as a "friend", but actual friends are a lot more valuable. You'd have mutual respect, and wouldn't be pressured (at least not in this way. Hopefully "inspired"). Having said this, I can tell you that if you let these g…
/r/RedPillWomen09/08/16 03:01 PM
2

Many people just lack the perspective that we're really just a chemistry experiment. It's comforting to think of our memories, or personalities, as existing in some more permanent way than they actually are. Everyone has a breaking point. If your chemistry is good, it's easy to be "good". If it's off, it can be varying degrees of difficult, to impossible.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/16 07:58 PM
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I get it completely. Some people immediately think any intervention will mean SSRIs, or the like. It literally could be as simple as getting 30 more minutes of sleep, more water, etc.. Nothing lasts forever. Eventually our bodies stop working altogether. Long before that, certain things stop working quite as efficiently, and tiny, healthy, changes can make all the difference. When I was younger I had no interest in vitamins, but would take Ibuprofen at the drop of a dime. Now I take vitamins, fi…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/16 07:52 PM
1

I wouldn't get confused about the sexual/izing nature of this. What if he reveals himself to be bigoted, unkind, irresponsible, or just plain stupid? If it's undesirable, & not for you, move on. That's his problem, and none of your business. If you find it difficult to not allow them to get to you, perhaps these challenges are just what you need right now. I'd suggest being resolute and not settling, and moving on quickly from a waste of time.
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/16 07:38 PM
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If he's suddenly behaving erratically, it's foolish, or perhaps part of his illness, to no look into his biology. I'd recommend getting blood work done, and consulting an endocrinologist about the results. It could be something very simple that gets him back on track, and to his old self. If he's opposed things like SSRIs (I'd say good for him), you can assure him that seeing his hormone levels will simply be a diagnostic measure to rule out any imbalances. If there are imbalances, it could be a…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/16 07:32 PM
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Am i actually in the wrong for going/wanting to go? That depends how much you respect your boyfriend, and want to continue your relationship. It sounds to me, as a stranger who barely knows anything about you or your situation, that what you may be wrong about is your disagreement over his response. You want to go, and he doesn't want you to. You're a "LDR". He's 23, and TRP, so he could very well be a decade away from wanting anything more committed... whereas you're 24. It seems to me like may…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/16 05:02 AM
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Consider Primal Blueprint diet, ketosis, and an absolute minimum of 8 hours of sleep each night.
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/16 09:26 PM
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99.99% of the time, "deserve" is only applicable to that which one already has, good or bad.
/r/TheRedPill15/02/16 08:22 AM
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All people are attracted to health/happiness. If you're incredibly healthy in all aspects of life, how unattractive could you be? I think entertaining the idea that someone could do literally everything well in life, but still be physically unattractive is so remote, if possible at all, and hypothetical, that only people who aren't doing things well would really care. I wouldn't encourage most to spend much time thinking about it, as it's not a productive focus.
/r/RedPillWomen29/01/16 06:12 PM
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It sounds like a tough position to me. It seems like it might be advantageous to not have to say "I'm an actress & model", but at the same time.. you are. I don't think trying to hide that is a good idea, but perhaps trying not to to some degree? You mention that you expect it to evaporate when you hit 30. Whether or not that ends up being the case, I assume you have given some thought to what you'd like to do next. If it's be a wife & mother, that might take the edge off what most would assume …
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/16 05:45 AM
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Some perspective.. 1, I think we can all relate to going out to dinner without a plan of where you're actually going. It sucks. In my experience, my biggest issue with it is that I am honest about what I do & don't care about, and the other accompanying me hasn't taken me at my word. Conversely, they've expressed not caring, but have proven to care time & again. I've tried to address this by discussing how I mean what I say when I do/don't care, and there haven't been any examples of me going ba…
/r/RedPillWomen10/01/16 05:33 AM
1

Strike the root. Focus on your happiness. Until you know what that means for you, focus on growth; new experiences, and learning. Be better today than you were yesterday. You guys know the improvement drill better than most. The bottom line is, happiness is true success. Your happiness is "the root". Happiness requires health & success, which requires growth. Women, and money, and every other reward, will come with them.
/r/TheRedPill15/12/15 11:57 PM
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I know this may seem like not much of a distinction, but given the title I expected it to be worse. It could be an insight into your taking this more personally than perhaps you should. He was speaking with a friend about an activity the friend could relate to, and saying he didn't enjoy it with you. Do you enjoy playing with him more than someone else whose idea of fun coincides with yours? If you would enjoy playing with hypothetical fun player more, would this mean you were feeling "negative"…
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/15 09:01 PM
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I'm not sure how to word what I'm thinking. I get the policy for this sub. Those who would argue morality here have work they can do elsewhere if they care to. I'm not in any way trying to argue against this policy. Personally, I like to think of how we can effect change for the better. From this perspective, I want to suggest that.. If society is fucked, and men sleeping with "wives" other than their own is a consequence of it... for those of you with children, what will you teach your daughter…
/r/TheRedPill12/12/15 06:59 PM
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If you think you might ever end up with a son one day, you might appreciate the example his father is setting in attempt to maintain a relationship with his mother. One way to look at it.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/15 03:54 AM
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After reading some of RPW, and TRP, it makes a lot of sense to me that married couples would end up having an age disparity. The message in TRP seems to be never get married, due largely to the legal aspects of it, but don't even consider it until you're 35, and only when your wife would be many years younger. Conversely, it seems women should be looking for a companion with which marriage is a potential, if not the goal.. and not allow themselves to be in a long term relationship in limbo, wher…
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/15 03:08 AM
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This reminds me of Harry Browne's "A Gift for My Daughter". I share this around every Christmas, and I thought RPW might appreciate it.
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/15 02:28 AM
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