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There is no such thing as fwb from a female's perspective only potential boyfriends. If you don't want to be her boyfriend, move on.
/r/askTRP22/06/21 08:46 AM
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I'm not going to answer this question because the idea of upgrading a plate/fwb is stupid in first place. Any woman who is willing to be a guy's plate/fwb in first place is by definition low value. Keep your casual sex partners away from girls you feel reciprocated emotion for and don't mix the two. All this upgrade talk sounds clever but it is dumb. She's your whore this month but another's soon.
/r/askTRP22/06/21 07:29 AM
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First off, even if you do accept that men and women can be friends - which I doubt-you must realise that any female friend who regularly sleeps with you WANTS to be your girlfriend. All that 'I'm cool with how things are' stuff is bullshit. Fact. Now you may get good advice here about deflection but why the f*** bother with an increasingly emotional woman when you can just stick to one-night stands? You don't want to be her ltr so why bother. If you've not got abundance mentality, get some and k…
/r/askTRP18/06/21 08:17 AM
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Absolutely. Unless he has a thing for fat women and chooses them over slim ones, you can absolutely guarantee that the guy has a serious personality flaw. A man's woman is very much a reflection on his character. We know when we see a man with a hb9 that that guy is above the average dude. In this case two people who are retarded in some way getting together for ease. On a separate note, I am amazed that the authorities haven't got involved with their piss poor parenting. Not right to treat a ki…
/r/askTRP17/06/21 07:37 AM
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I once knew a guy who in his 20s was a cool guitar playing type. Hot girls clamoured around him. But he had no self-discipline. When he got to mid-30s he was still unemployed and living with parents. The hot girls didn't want to know anymore. He became FWB with an obese single mother. He wouldn't openly date her. His parents had enough and wanted him out. Understandably!!! He moves in with single mom and oops she's pregnant! There are strong parallels here between an undisciplined female finding…
/r/askTRP17/06/21 07:11 AM
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I think attachments are inevitable but the key is to be in a position where if they break you know after a couple of days feeling sad you'll be OK. You will know you'll be OK because of one vital insight- either learnt through bitter experience or you just know it naturally. The insight? The feelings you get from one person can always, always be got from someone else. No bloody woman -or man- is special and unique in that they and they alone can make you feel the way you do. I learnt this the ha…
/r/askTRP27/05/21 07:14 AM
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You're acting like a boyfriend to someone you regard as a fwb. I don't think you can remain a fwb now- the genie cannot be put back in the bottle. Anyway, THE most important point to realise is that women wanting to be fwb is bullshit anyway. They ALWAYS want more even if they pretend to be 'cool'.Break it off NOW. Record the conversation, too. Why? Because a woman who is happy to be a fwb in the first place likely has issues. Of course, she'll probably be just upset but don't take the chance. I…
/r/askTRP20/05/21 07:18 AM
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It might be hard but hard times foster growth. You don't want to be one of those guys living at home at 35 whose only options are the nearest hambeast single mom who have so little going for them you seem like a good option. Comfort never ever helps a man grow. It's also a turn off to women not to have your own place. Better to live in a dump independently than be stuck in parent's palace.
/r/askTRP15/05/21 08:35 AM
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Well said.
/r/askTRP15/05/21 07:05 AM
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A fwb is someone you quite like as a person and enjoy having sex with - that's it. You'd may be miss them a bit of they f***ed off but that's it. Any feeling of romantic/emotional connection and she's essentially a girlfriend. It's not about commitment- that's nonsense. You're not with a girlfriend because you're going to 'commit' to being with her forever-it's because you feel a romantic/emotional attraction that you just don't get with someone you quite like and have sex with.
/r/askTRP15/05/21 07:04 AM
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I say irony what I meant was naturally.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 07:35 AM
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Weak men do. I know a guy in mid 30s who never worked and still at home. Some fugly took a shine to him and he moved in as life at home was getting uncomfortable as parents wanted him gone. Understandably!! But he's not right in the head and perhaps an outlier. Irony is she didn't appreciate him for it and turned into a right bitch screwing his best mate.
/r/askTRP14/05/21 07:34 AM
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There's not one damned feeling that I can ONLY get from one 'special' person. Not one. You enjoy relationships while they last. By the way, this lesson is best learned young and only dating. If you go into marriage without realising this thinking your spouse is your only chance at happiness you will not only be disappointed but turn them off as women in particular hate neediness. Enjoy but always be prepared for a break-up.
/r/askTRP13/05/21 12:46 PM
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How low can you go... Lol. I think YOU are talking about super hot women vs attractive/ average women so don't take this personally. But if there is a big gap in attractiveness i.e.the man is way more attractive than his mate, people are going to think he is lacking in some way. You see a decently physically attractive man with an overweight, ugly woman is basically sending the message that even if he is charming he is fundamentally flawed in a major way. Every single time I've seen this happen …
/r/askTRP07/05/21 12:06 PM
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As tattoos are so mainstream these days, unlike in the past where they did indicate a guy was interesting, or had 'earned' it as a rite of passage in military or gang, I'd say that they can most definitely indicate a man who is just an average Joe so it can be argued it's more 'alpha' NOT to have one. As for women, they are most certainly ARE an indicator of sluttiness/damage - if large, multiple and across chest and body. Little butterfly on ankle or suchlike? Maybe a non-slutty girl who just f…
/r/askTRP06/05/21 07:20 AM
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I don't know what you mean by 'manning up'. See I think of it as getting enough self-confidence, self-belief and courage to leave. That she's not the only woman who can make him 'happy', that he will find the inner strength to fight whatever shit she flings at him. Which the bitch will. Not becoming a bigger nutjob than her. I'm not even sure if this is red pill, really, as only a real freaky bastard could deal with this sort of woman and 'win'. He's have to put the fear of god into her every da…
/r/askTRP04/05/21 03:29 PM
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This woman is nuts. The nuttier the woman the more super dominant the man has to be. You are suggesting that he go from a thoroughly blue-pilled guy to a super dominant man. I don't think this guy has it in him to do that. What's more, I don't think he wants the sort of sado-masochistic relationship and play the grandmaster chess headgames that staying with her would no doubt entail. That still leaves the kid. But even IF he did change, I'm not sure watching two adults trying to out do each othe…
/r/askTRP04/05/21 02:35 PM
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Your post is the best here in terms of practical advice. Obviously he needs to get out. Cannot believe that some posters are suggesting 'counselling' or staying with her. If he were the type of man who could keep a psychotic woman under control he wouldn't be asking for help here!
/r/askTRP04/05/21 11:36 AM
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'If you are unhappy leave' is often only applied to situations where there is a vague feeling of unhappiness and may indeed be feminine bullshit borne out of ennui and boredom because the 'romance' has gone but that hardly applies when married to a nutjob that the OP clearly is. This marriage will only work if, frankly, he takes control of HER. Something which obviously he is not naturally inclined to or he wouldn't be asking for help here. A constant battle for him. Hard enough to keep a relati…
/r/askTRP04/05/21 11:19 AM
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Not sure it's at the drop of a hat. It's more like waves on a beach- coming in, going out a little bit less each time until not there any more. Men THINK it's at a drop of a hat because they miss the signs of waning intetest. The only way to avoid this is to keep the attraction/interest up. Most chumps think they can logic their way to do this for the sake of the family or duty or some such nonsense or by giving in to every demand she makes which just makes her lose respect. An acquaintance of m…
/r/askTRP30/04/21 08:17 AM
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It does because they've 'got' you. I should imagine there is also bitterness if they think you just settled for them, too, because it was easier for you than a different path. Which often turns into downright hatred. I think it's the path of least resistance leading people to settle - but they pay for it later. That applies to women as well, though. Or, rather, ANY person who settles for someone.
/r/askTRP24/04/21 04:36 PM
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It happened to an acquaintance. He's worked rarely, no directon in life. Still at home at 35. Parents want him to move on. Don't blame them! Single mom very fat woman took a liking to him. I think he thought that being the best she could do, she'd be kind and doting. Not a bit of it. Screwed his best friend. Treated him like dirt. Somewhere in this woman's mind she knew that she was just the latest path of least resistance for him and that grew into outright hatred. He's now living in rented acc…
/r/askTRP24/04/21 01:49 PM
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Just experience and observation. You see with non-promiscuous women it doesn't really take a lot to turn them on- you just have to be playful and cheeky. They're usually quite submissive so all you have to do is be more dominant than her. A cheeky grin, minor IDGAF transgressions. Stuff like that. All it takes is to be more of a 'man' than her. Sluts, though, the ones who really do behave sexually like men, they require much harder dominance because they're dominant themselves.They need a man wh…
/r/askTRP24/04/21 08:36 AM
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As another poster pointed out, trp itself amoral. But that doesn't mean that you should not ask yourself how YOU'D personally feel, though. Would you feel bad about breaking them up? Also, this guy could be potentially violent. Does reputation matter to you? A lot of people may snub you for being a homewrecker- at least on the surface. Have you a thick skin? Sounds she likes men who are either wimpy puppy dogs or really dominant. Not an inbetween kind of girl who likes more of a mix of alpha/ be…
/r/askTRP23/04/21 10:35 AM
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It's highly unlikely that you'll meet a virgin but there are women who only sleep with men who are into them as a package but unfortunately there's a lot of guys after them. I dunno but repeatedly allowing men to have sex with them with it only being that or indicates a low quality woman to me.
/r/askTRP31/03/21 03:49 PM
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You're wanting a woman to be more like a man. Not going to happen. You come across as autistic to me. Not an insult as I'm sure there's advantages to autism but it does put you at hell of a disadvantage when it comes to women. And advantages, too. Autistic guys are often blunt and naturally idgaf so that gets them women, trouble is reading them afterwards. You need to accept that's how women are. I believe that most of the time fwbs WANT to be girlfriends. If you can't fathom out women or too mu…
/r/askTRP31/03/21 12:07 PM
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A woman who allows herself to be used as some guys sexual outlet knowing - they always know- that there is nothing else really that attracts him to her, the friends part of fwb is bullshit, is indicative of a poor quality woman. What a FWB really is is a situation of repeated one night stands.
/r/askTRP31/03/21 10:06 AM
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Ah yes 'The Talk', anyone actually have this in real life. I never have. You like someone on every level, they like you back and you carry on dating until it leads to happy ever after - or not which is usually the case majority of time. Whatever, there's never any 'talk'. It seems weird to me. One minute you're not in a relationship and next you are because of a conversation? Wtf. Or there's FWBs who you see until it just fizzles out. Or one night stands -which are self-explanatory.
/r/askTRP31/03/21 08:32 AM
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You can't 'ask' for a relationship- it's something that naturally happens when two people are attracted on every level not just sexual. It's not about being the provider type or c*ck being abundant, either. They're just not that into you. You seem to view all of this like a box ticking exercise. Stop it.
/r/askTRP31/03/21 07:06 AM
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If you want an opposite perspective go to the other sites on reddit where you'll be told lies that it's OK to have a hooker as a girlfriend. You won't get it here. You are in love with a thot. Not just because she is a hooker but because she opens her legs for men she's not in a relationship with. That is, you. FWBs/plates/f***buddies are never, ever worth having a relationship with. All this promotion talk is nonsense. There's nothing to process. Honestly, go the relationship sub,they'll tell y…
/r/askTRP30/03/21 08:32 PM
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It seems to me that you are determined to wife this girl up and are just waiting for the one contrary person to say it 's a good thing to do. You don't need anybody's permission . Just don't get butthurt when you come home and find your best friend balls deep in her.
/r/askTRP30/03/21 07:10 PM
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Lol.
/r/askTRP30/03/21 06:11 PM
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I'm going to take a slightly different take here and say that ANY woman ( former prostitute or not -although of course that is automatic disqualification) who is willing to be a plate/f***buddy/ FWB with a guy is damaged to hell anyway and not worth anything but fun. 'Should I wife up this woman who has so little self-regard that she's been willing to be a c** receptacle for me - and probably countless others?' Er, no. But what the heck you're clearly in love with this thot so do what you like, …
/r/askTRP30/03/21 06:04 PM
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No you do not try to reconnect. You become the sort of man who doesn't get upset because one 'FWB' finds other c*ck.
/r/askTRP30/03/21 05:52 AM
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I don't see it that way. Blocking seems sensible. She means it and don't be calling again as she's moved onto the next guy or... is angling for more - which he does not want to give her. Not blocking is leaving room for further tests like being called in middle of night for some b.s. reason. All that for a plate. Just block and be done.
/r/askTRP29/03/21 05:28 PM
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I have never mentioned commitment here at all. You're putting words in my mouth. Not once. All I've said is that a wise man should have the emotional intelligence to realise the fundamental difference between a FWB and a woman he feels an emotional connection to. Being rp does not mean being an emotionless robot. It's like this: a FWB is an IMMEDIATE RED light as you are dealing with a woman who is more than willing to let herself be used by you. A slut, in other words. A woman you feel a connec…
/r/askTRP29/03/21 11:29 AM
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Whatever I've said here is just good sense. But if you think you can turn a woman who is willing to be a FWB into a girlfriend, good luck. Can't turn a whore into a housewife.
/r/askTRP29/03/21 10:15 AM
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It's not a 'date', dating is what you do with women you are into. She is a FWB a.k.a. as a c**dumpster- a slut who is willing to be used by a man who she knows (they ALWAYS know) is not really into her. The friend also, rightly, assumes there's a free for all on her 'favours' -which there clearly is.
/r/askTRP29/03/21 09:34 AM
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FWB is just a euphemism for c** dumpster. There is no friendship. Healthy attitude is to let sluts be sluts because ANY woman who is willing to sleep with you knowing you're not really into them IS a slut. As for his friend, well he's done nothing wrong either. She's not a girlfriend.
/r/askTRP29/03/21 09:16 AM
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You can't 'promote' a FWB to a LTR. No matter what the guy thinks, once women have 'got' you they'll never forget that they were nothing more than a receptacle for your semen for a time. They know if you 'really' like them or not. Any woman who is willing to be a fwb is by definition not LTR material. Of course if she senses you really like her and vice versa sex will be immediate. The key is to know one's own emotional state enough to know instinctively who is FWB and who is girlfriend material…
/r/askTRP29/03/21 08:45 AM
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Text the following: 'That's OK. It happens. Good luck in whatever you do.' It's over whichever way you look at it and it's polite way of saying goodbye. Then block. Why? She either means it in which casre it's apt. Or she doesn't and it's a shit test to get you to give her 'more'. Which given she's just a plate you don't want to do.
/r/askTRP29/03/21 07:47 AM
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I think the naturally red pill men of the past instinctively knew the difference between women who were fun to be around sluts and girlfriend material therefore didn't get moody when slut got off with other guy. It's not your fault: you sound young and talk here of 'promoting' fwb to girlfriend does nobody any favours. Why? 1, Being red pill does not mean being out of touch with feelings. It means that you've the self-knowledge to know when a girl is just a bit of fun to you or someone you're in…
/r/askTRP29/03/21 07:05 AM
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Not sure I buy the idea that alpha widowhood is always a permanent state. Sure a woman can be devastated by the guy leaving her but if she's attractive there'll be other guys in time she'll fall for. Anyway, I can imagine the second scenario occurring in the following circumstances: she was essentially a FWB and never really had the guy's affection but she had an 'oops' pregnancy and the guy decided to do the 'decent' thing and stand by her. She gets very bitter and hateful as she knows guy is n…
/r/askTRP23/03/21 07:56 AM
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I've reconsidered this: IF a man is truly alpha, has a wide range of options with women, it IS possible to maintain some affection for his exes. The women are glad of continued association with the guy and just glad to have had their turn with him. He can meet them once in a while for lunch and catch-up and that's OK. Not sure I'd call this friendship, though, basically UNLESS you are thinking 'well I'm glad my ex is doing OK. Now who am I seeing tonight?' you're setting yourself up for trouble.…
/r/askTRP23/03/21 07:41 AM
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She's hoping to get back with you. Even if you do get back she won't forget the break -up. A woman's need for revenge outlasts all her other emotions. Be polite but decline. I don't know if this is red pill or not, but my own view is that you cannot turn a FWB /f*** buddy into girlfriend or a girlfriend into a friend. We're not robots. Too many bloody idiots try to do this and it never works out well. 'Why was I only a FWB for so long. Wah!' or they get annoyed that they're now 'only' a friend. …
/r/askTRP22/03/21 06:15 PM
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Great post. Any problems that happen should be because of external factors bereavement, job loss, illness NOT because of the relationship itself. A basically solid relationship will be tested by these things but if you're in the position where she doesn't get why her cheating is wrong etc what's the point.
/r/askTRP28/02/21 08:38 AM
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Nothing at all. He's doomed. THIS infidelity isn't just borne out of lack of respect but hatred of him. He 's lazy. Very lazy. She was a fat, unattractive but competent single mom he moved in with as he can't do 'stuff'. He's superficially cocky and probably seemed alpha to her and a catch. Oops she's pregnant. Now she knew she was used but she's the one in control as he wants to talk things through and stay for the 'family unit'.
/r/askTRP28/02/21 07:54 AM
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I guess what prompted me to write this is that I have an acquaintance whose wife cheated on him and with his best friend to boot. So there's an element of utter contempt for him as well as a lack of respect. He's autistic I'm sure but not so that it's immediately noticeable. He thinks he can solve this. I say nothing as what's the point. He also thinks his friend's wife will be as distraught as him. No. She knows her husband's ways and that her husband having sex with other women is no reflectio…
/r/askTRP27/02/21 11:26 AM
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Sorry to sound misleading-if she cheated you just leave. That's what I mean if things get really bad. Or one of them at least.
/r/askTRP27/02/21 09:44 AM
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Amazing how rp seems to know what will happen! A family member -superficially alpha in being good-looking, charming, witty, but mentally screwed in so many ways- knocked up the fat single mom he was staying with. She worshipped him but he's become really beta. DESPERATE to stay together even though she fucked his best mate. I can't work out if she has contempt for him now ( what demonstrates contempt more than screwing a man's best friend?) because he's revealed himself to be beta OR that he's t…
/r/askTRP16/01/21 11:37 AM
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There are cases where this DOESN'T happen: 1, Neither of you were really into each other and it doesn't really matter who ends it. You're both relieved. 2, She DELIBERATELY picked you as beta material and she grows bored and moves on. BUT if you're a perceived alpha and you fail to live up to expectations, God help you.
/r/askTRP16/01/21 08:42 AM
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