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| 77 | When you polarize, you find out who wants the real you in their lives | Inner Game | KindredJars | /r/seduction | 15/07/21 12:54 PM |
| 23 | 10 tips for cold approach and freeing yourself from approach anxiety | Inner Game | KindredJars | /r/seduction | 16/05/22 04:30 PM |
| 4 | Can't seem to "convert". | Outer Game | KindredJars | /r/seduction | 19/09/21 12:36 PM |
| 3 | Have Something Else To Do When Day Gaming | Outer Game | KindredJars | /r/seduction | 01/08/21 01:25 AM |
| 1 | Field Report + Takeaways for a Successful Day Game Adventure | Outer Game | KindredJars | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 07:57 PM |
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| 1 | Does anyone have any tips for overcoming a feeling of inadequacy due to not being physically attractive?right but what exactly did it do though? like if i watch it, what should i be looking for? | /r/seduction | 02/11/22 01:47 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone have any tips for overcoming a feeling of inadequacy due to not being physically attractive?why listen to patrice o neal? | /r/seduction | 01/11/22 11:15 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone have any tips for overcoming a feeling of inadequacy due to not being physically attractive?seriously people need to stop imposing self-racism on themselves | /r/seduction | 01/11/22 11:12 PM |
| 1 | What is a high value man and how to become one?Basically it's what you can offer to others. The more you can offer the "higher" the value you have. Keep in mind though that everyone values different things. I think we all get into this "i must be high value in every way" when really, if you're looking for a relationship, you just have to provide the right value to the right girl... | /r/seduction | 29/10/22 08:38 AM |
| 12 | I just read Elliot Rodger's manifesto. It feels a bit surreal that I used feel that way once.Hey bro i actually read that recently too A big theme I picked up was that, like you mentioned in the comments, he thought that girls would come up to him. He'd get all dressed up and stuff and "walk around", wondering why "no girl would pay attention to him". All the while he never made a single move... I used to be in a similar boat where I was completely passive .. Now I know that the guy has to lead.. in every single way... | /r/seduction | 29/10/22 08:33 AM |
| 1 | Online dating is pretty brutal and insaneAny general tips for pics and profile? Also, do yuou have a link to yours? | /r/seduction | 29/10/22 08:31 AM |
| 7 | Normal eye contact vs a eye contact from a girl that’s interested?basically... if you have to ask, then shes not interested in you | /r/seduction | 09/10/22 10:23 PM |
| 1 | F21 I want a 3some with 2 guys but idk how to find themyeah you can verify you are the person in the pictures maybe but that doesnt mean youre not here to scam | /r/seduction | 09/10/22 10:21 PM |
| 2 | F21 I want a 3some with 2 guys but idk how to find themno cuz i like my kidneys | /r/seduction | 09/10/22 10:18 PM |
| 1 | 'You were good where you were over there with your friends. Bye''just laugh at her and leave | /r/seduction | 09/10/22 08:44 PM |
| 1 | F21 I want a 3some with 2 guys but idk how to find themyea discreet as in getting hit up by guys on reddit in dm. nice profile pic btw youre smoking hot. im surprised youre on this forum posting like this. surely you must know the attention youll receieve | /r/seduction | 09/10/22 08:40 PM |
| 3 | F21 I want a 3some with 2 guys but idk how to find themLol. Most likely a scammer. If you're a dumb ass DMing OP then be prepared. Look at profile life 2 months all pics of a hot girl. You think someone like this would be on a seduction forum filled with thirsty dudes asking about a 3some? Please use brains. | /r/seduction | 09/10/22 08:38 PM |
| 2 | F21 I want a 3some with 2 guys but idk how to find themScam | /r/seduction | 09/10/22 08:37 PM |
| 1 | How can I (22F) approach guys? What do I do if I catch them staring at me but they never approach me just stare???Just keep putting yourself in his vicinity. If he doesn't make a move then he's not interested enough or doesn't have the courage to make a move. Either way, | /r/seduction | 09/10/22 06:17 AM |
| 1 | Five Harsh Lessons I have learned about wingmen, guy friends, and the pickup community.Well said | /r/seduction | 26/09/22 05:37 AM |
| 1 | I've never been able to talk to girls and just started college and wanna know how I should talk to girls?Saskatchewan, Canada Lol. Bigfoot | /r/seduction | 26/09/22 05:11 AM |
| 1 | Is the game rigged from the start?The difference is everything you're thinking | /r/seduction | 26/09/22 05:09 AM |
| 2 | The Tinder advice you don't want to hearFor some reason read this in a British accent. | /r/seduction | 26/09/22 05:06 AM |
| 8 | POV: You've near maxed out your looksCan I be invited to the wedding? ^^ | /r/seduction | 26/09/22 12:45 AM |
| 1 | What do you say when a girls asks you about your previous relationships/experience and your a virgin?Ask her if she's a virgin and if she says no, make a disappointed face | /r/seduction | 28/08/22 09:17 PM |
| 2 | By far the weirdest cold approach experience I’ve ever hadjust like in the movies!!! <33 | /r/seduction | 27/08/22 02:21 AM |
| -10 | Best place to travel to solo in Europe?or get your organs taken | /r/seduction | 21/08/22 11:45 PM |
| 1 | Girl at Gymyou'll never know unless you take action | /r/seduction | 19/08/22 05:03 AM |
| 2 | Is having expectations of a ruining your inner game?Yeah bro, this post is spot on and is often missed here... which is that the guy should be qualifying/screening girls to see if they're a good match. The issue is that many guys' goals is to get laid. So with that goal in mind, it barely matters who the girl is or what the girl says, so long as the guy can respond in a way to move it forward toward sex. For example, if the girl is acting stuck-up, then guys here will be like "you need to use humor to pass her shit test!" or "you need to tease he… | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 10:50 AM |
| 1 | Can therapy help with my fear of approaching? Possible social anxiety issues?Just do it. | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 10:37 AM |
| 2 | This might sound ridiculous but. Does anyone else lose confidence as soon as they see attractive women?the reason you lose confidence when you see attractive women is because you have almost no interactions with them and this causes you to place them on a pedestal. the way to get out of this is to expose yourself to being around and interacting with attractive girls (hotties). So yes... you're going to have to force yourself to just go up to them and talk. after a while, it'll become normal and you won't be phased by their attractiveness. | /r/seduction | 08/08/22 10:29 AM |
| 2 | Group first date or just each other?I like this one too. Moving forward if things work out, it seems like you'd all be hanging out together alot anyways. Might as well get a taste for what itd really be like | /r/seduction | 07/08/22 09:17 AM |
| 2 | How do guys pull girls at church, and if it doesn't work out, how do they keep going and keep trying if it doesn't work out.Attend, be involved and meet people, and keep your eyes on God. How do guys pull girls at church | /r/seduction | 04/08/22 09:17 AM |
| 1 | *Video* Was this Girl attracted to me??Your conversation skills are okay but some of the way you talk about things come off slightly negative. Like the way you talk about clubs, the area, etc. Your language use too you drop a few f-bombs. I'd say try to put things in more positive light when talking about them. Your conversation was really just... typical chat between an uber driver and a rider. She's a bartender so she's used to be really friendly and talkative to other people in the service industry. She just likes to play with her… | /r/seduction | 19/06/22 01:12 AM |
| 3 | [FIELD REPORT] Approached a famous pornstar at a barHaving a lot of fun yourselves, being outgoing and talkative with others around you, and also talking to the girl more before asking to join in pool. | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 09:47 PM |
| 4 | [FIELD REPORT] Approached a famous pornstar at a barYea actually having fun is probably the highest form of value at a bar. I agree this stuff is really just for after analysis. During the event it's way too much to think about | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 09:43 PM |
| 12 | [FIELD REPORT] Approached a famous pornstar at a bargood stuff on courage. for future times, try to build more value first. in this situation, them being "hot girls" means they're going to give you value by simply playing pool with you. this is because you guys will be seen by everyone else at the bar and all that stuff and have cool status. however, because you guys didn't have an interaction before you asked them to join you guys, they felt as if they were just giving you guys value without receiving any. Idk if that's confusing. It's like, you… | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 09:20 AM |
| 2 | I look awful. How can I even find a decent woman?imugur pic? I ask because often times I've seen guys be like "im dead ugly" and it turns out theyre not ugly at all and even kinda goodlooking. and like the other dude said a haircut changes everything | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 04:26 AM |
| 1 | 26, been on a dry spell almost 3 years. This year is half over already. I don't think my situation will change by year's end.yoo wsup im out in LA i'll hit you up next time im in vegas you down? | /r/seduction | 12/06/22 03:46 AM |
| 1 | Man I’m so tired of wimping out on approaches…Are in in LA area? I'll show you how /force you. I really don't care... :) I've done it so many times and also I knock on peoples doors for a living so I'm always interrupting peoples days :D | /r/seduction | 28/05/22 05:55 AM |
| 2 | any tips to man up?yeah this one helps me a lot: have a "default opener" if you dont already have one. the most easy one is to just say, "Hey i know this is random, but you looked really cute" Then at least, once you decide to go for it, you won't back out because of the "I don't have anything to say". Sometimes I'd be walking up to a girl and then I'd actually just walk past or some bs, and much of the time it's because I couldn't figure out what to say. So at least having a default will give you a backup. Of cou… | /r/seduction | 28/05/22 05:49 AM |
| 0 | Self deception worksBro I encourage you to look at those scriptures again. | /r/seduction | 25/05/22 03:49 PM |
| -1 | could he like me back?If he doesn't make a move, then he doesn't like you or he doesn't like you enough. All you can really do is do your thing, look as good as you can, and give him opportunities to get to know you and make his move. | /r/seduction | 23/05/22 04:52 AM |
| 5 | 10 tips for cold approach and freeing yourself from approach anxietyGuys say that because they're scared to do it, so that's their excuse. Girls who say that have either rarely if ever been approached and thus that's their reasoning to save their self esteem, or it's a girl who has been approached in a way that gave them a bad experience. Most girls I approach first response is "omg thank you" when I tell them I think they're cute. I'm casual as fuck about it and I'm not like staring them down with my body all squared up etc. One time I told a cashier she was re… | /r/seduction | 16/05/22 08:51 PM |
| 1 | let's face it.. only socially creepy PUAs, social outcasts, and people with autistic tendencies will do cold approach because it is against the social norms. Stop presenting cold approach as a legit way to meet womenLOL. Nah bro. Plenty of options but I'd rather be a man. | /r/seduction | 16/05/22 04:20 PM |
| 5 | let's face it.. only socially creepy PUAs, social outcasts, and people with autistic tendencies will do cold approach because it is against the social norms. Stop presenting cold approach as a legit way to meet womenOnly guys with guts will do cold approach. | /r/seduction | 16/05/22 08:49 AM |
| 1 | I’m not attracted to women who aren’t really hot how can i fix this?Care to share your set of rules? | /r/seduction | 11/05/22 09:36 AM |
| -1 | Update to the Post: “How should I go about dating the popular girl, when I myself, am a loner”Also, if anyone wants to go down the rabbit hole like I did, check out op original post for fact checking etc: https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/tvf8uj/how_should_i_go_about_dating_the_popular_girl/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf I had actually written a reply calling this all out as fabricated. But now it does seem to add up, for the most part, or he's a fuxking sociopath who's keeping his story mostly tight. Either way it's whatevrs, maybe just for kicks on my en… | /r/seduction | 11/05/22 12:52 AM |
| 0 | Update to the Post: “How should I go about dating the popular girl, when I myself, am a loner”Actually fuxk it. Enough adds up. You're either a fucking sociopath or just telling the truth. But sure why not all kinds of shit happens | /r/seduction | 11/05/22 12:49 AM |
| 9 | Update to the Post: “How should I go about dating the popular girl, when I myself, am a loner”Your roommates host parties and "as usual" "invite everyone". So your roommates are super social but you are a loner with no friends. And yet you played drinking games with people at the party, yet none of these people are your friends and you're a loner. Yet you've been at enough of these parties to use your pets to bring girls back to your room since it works every time. And this isn't any type of red flag to these people who repeatedly come to the party. And this girl, who has a million follo… | /r/seduction | 11/05/22 12:07 AM |
| -1 | Update to the Post: “How should I go about dating the popular girl, when I myself, am a loner”Yeah pics or bs 😀 | /r/seduction | 10/05/22 11:10 PM |
| 1 | People watchingSo long as you are respectful about it, then the only outcomes from people that overhear/see are: Other girls will be jealous that a guy didn't approach them and be attracted to you (this is assuming, if you're declined, that you don't take it personally and keep your composure). The girl you approach will be impressed by your boldness, the fact that you're able to not be deterred by public opinion, that you're going for what you want. Other guys will be jealous that you have the guts to do this… | /r/seduction | 10/05/22 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Decided to bite the bullet and ask her out... got her number! Now I'm freaking out..The "bunch of stuff to grade" is a soft decline, like the other guy said. Yeah you have her number but youre going to have to text her something that really gets her attention for her to be interested. It really seems like she basically feels neutral toward you at the moment. So yes, she is 100% giving you a chance, but you also are basically starting on ground zero. So wait a couple days, like two full days... (this is because she's not that interested right now, so you need to back off a bit),… | /r/seduction | 10/05/22 08:33 PM |
| 1 | Is she not interested or genuinely busy?Bro just hit her up and be like." Hey let's get that coffee this week. Whats your schedule looking like?" Yes she's interested she's making all that effort and giving you times to meet et,. You're actually fumbling a little right now. Nothing drastic just saying you need to pick it up here with locking down the date. Don't say anything like "okay let me know when you're free". Lead the way and figure it out for the two of you. The reason it hasn't happened yet is bwcsuse you're not taking enough… | /r/seduction | 10/05/22 08:16 PM |
| 53 | Update to the Post: “How should I go about dating the popular girl, when I myself, am a loner”Ok bro I'm gonna a give you benefit of the doubt and believe you. That said, give us more info on how this came about, the relevant details that can give us insight and help us. The reason some people are doubting your story is that your story is like.. "I'm a loner gamer with no friends or social value. Super hot popular girl who's tik tok famous met me at party and we had sex. Now she loves me and pays for dates sometimes too. " Like bro OK but what were the details on how this happened? There… | /r/seduction | 10/05/22 07:58 PM |
| 14 | Attempting to be charismatic often feels forced and cringey. But not forcing myself to be outgoing results in me being quiet and boring. What do I do?Yeah this is spot on. Conversation/social skills/charisma is a skill like anything else that is learned. We just grow up thinking that we're either born with it or not, when it's the complete opposite case. The only reason there are naturally charismatic people is because their parents and role models are charismatic, so they learned from a young age how to model that behavior. | /r/seduction | 10/05/22 10:52 AM |
| 12 | Reminder that girls won't flock around you no matter how much work you put on yourself. You have to take action precisely to meet and flirt with girls in order to have "abundance".Bro... This is exactly the case. The power players at top subjugate every guy below them like this in business and life while they get all the success and girls. Also look at in TV shows and in movies how the maim character is a passive guy who just sits there amd magically has the hot heroine girls coming up to him and pursuing him, despite him taking zero action and basically acting unsure of himself the entire time. They feed us this fantasy and brainwash us to behave like this, and also tell… | /r/seduction | 10/05/22 06:18 AM |
| 20 | Reminder that girls won't flock around you no matter how much work you put on yourself. You have to take action precisely to meet and flirt with girls in order to have "abundance".I actually find that the most attractive girls are most receptive. Kind of a weird and ironic thing... but i think it's for a couple reasons: they almost never get approached because guys are too intimidated, so getting approached is both endearing but also shows that this guy's got guts and isn't going to just stand around, stare, and run away. I actually think they're often the most insecure. A lot of their value comes from simply sitting there and looking pretty, and alot of times they're mor… | /r/seduction | 10/05/22 04:36 AM |
| 65 | Reminder that girls won't flock around you no matter how much work you put on yourself. You have to take action precisely to meet and flirt with girls in order to have "abundance".Well said, my friend. They go hand in hand. The biggest pitfall is that guys think they'll just do the self-improvement part and completely ignore the actual talking to girls part. The reason for this (and I speak from experience) is that actually taking your shot with attractive girls involves risk, and the results are seemingly out of your control. Self-improvement is generally "safe". So you can go to the bookstore and spend your evenings reading books/magazines, thinking how interesting you'… | /r/seduction | 10/05/22 01:51 AM |
| 2 | Is it worth it trying to take a girl from the ‘slightly interested, but not really’ zone to the ‘really interested’ zone?She won't match the energy you choose if it's the opposite energy of what she's giving off. You can't make her match your energy. It just doesn't work and will have the opposite result of what you're looking for. For example.. Imagine she's ignoring you (being cold) and you start blowing up her phone with texts (hot) and trying to get at her like that. She's just going to get further turned off. It's like.. if you go to a party and are feeling in a laid-back mood that night, then you'll hang out… | /r/seduction | 10/05/22 01:35 AM |
| 1 | The Argument Against Cold ApproachCold approach takes guts. Girls appreciate that. | /r/seduction | 09/05/22 10:53 AM |
| 1 | Is it worth it trying to take a girl from the ‘slightly interested, but not really’ zone to the ‘really interested’ zone?Option two. Match her energy | /r/seduction | 09/05/22 10:46 AM |
| 1 | DM'd a girl, I am on delivered for 2 days...lol bro i was about to ask you the same thing... theres a subreddit called followforfollow where you can follow people and they'll follow you back lol. it's kinda fake but hey anything to get going...... | /r/seduction | 09/05/22 08:56 AM |
| 2 | DM'd a girl, I am on delivered for 2 days...naw bro.. just build up ur IG!! I'm in the same position where my IG is basically nonexistent and i'm starting from scratch. But i've realized something.. Guys who have strong IGs with tons of followers are attracting girls like it's nothing (at least in being able to open up an interaction through DM). I fought building an IG for the longest time and just said I'd do cold approach, but if you think about it, why not build up an IG and leverage that? The thing about cold approach is that it does… | /r/seduction | 09/05/22 08:38 AM |
| 1 | My biggest fear - what other people are going to thinkyea bro youre gonna have to just do it and gradually get over it. try going up to some girl and saying "hi you look really cute" or something and just put it out there. it will be a freeing experience regardless of what happens because you'll realize it doesnt matter in the end her response. what matters is you stop caring what people think. seriously... why give a fuck...? | /r/seduction | 09/05/22 08:31 AM |
| 5 | Bruh girls only like white boysgirls only like guys with confidence. they don't like guys who blame their "race" and have victim/passive attitudes. shit like this pisses me off because some naive non"white" dude is gonna see your post/comments and think "OH NO GIRLS DONT LIKE ME CUZ IM NOT WHITE" and start feeling insecure like you. It's not your fault tho the media brainwashed you | /r/seduction | 09/05/22 08:29 AM |
| 1 | Bruh girls only like white boyswww.asianalphamale.com | /r/seduction | 09/05/22 08:26 AM |
| 4 | Bruh girls only like white boys100% accurate. | /r/seduction | 09/05/22 08:26 AM |
| 1 | got friendzone but girl gave ma a chance updateLOL. Nice. Yea bro just kinda slowly stop responding to her and then next time u talk to her say something to throw her off guard. Like say something that you'd normally hold back on etc. | /r/seduction | 09/05/22 03:50 AM |
| 1 | got friendzone but girl gave ma a chance updateShe's too comfortable around you. That's really it. She finds you predictable and it's boring to her (not saying you're a boring person, just that the dynamic she experiences is boring). If suddenly she found out there were 2 other super hot girls that were into you, and you started somewhat ignoring her/taking a long time to reply, all that stuff about "we're too different" would vanish. In other words she's not interested right now because she doesn't feel any emotion, and she's justifying her… | /r/seduction | 09/05/22 02:29 AM |
| 2 | My openers are bad. Any tips to starting more natural conversations?Be more playful with it. Like ask directions to something ridiculous. "hey do you know where the unicorn exhibition is?" and she'll be like wtf and you can say "yeah you didn't hear? they found a unicorn. it was hiding out in alaska. it's frozen and stuff, not alive." and then be like jkkk im just messing with you. you just looked kinda cute and i wanted to say hi. :) | /r/seduction | 09/05/22 02:13 AM |
| 0 | A girl has just sent me a msion Instagram first and I already know I'm going to fuck itMind sharing handle? | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 11:54 PM |
| 1 | A girl has just sent me a msion Instagram first and I already know I'm going to fuck itMind sharing your profile? I'm trying to build an ig and am curious what a profile might look like to get a girl to do you first 🤔 | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 10:32 PM |
| 2 | DM'd a girl, I am on delivered for 2 days...Haha brooo.... Only chance you have is if your profile picture is solid enough for her to notice it and want to check out your profile, and your profile is also solid with more followers than her. Otherwise you're screwed 🙂 | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 10:22 PM |
| 1 | What are signs that you are a hot, good-looking guy but don’t realise it?You need to do things that scare you and conquer fears. The most basic version is to learn how to approach girls and groups. This is scary af if you haven't before. But other versions are like going for a career you really want but involves risk. Working out and all that stuff too. The trap here is that some people get too involved in self-improvement and neglect the part where you have to do some scary shit like actually approach and take risks in public. In other words, simply being someone wh… | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 09:03 PM |
| 1 | What are signs that you are a hot, good-looking guy but don’t realise it?Can you give us some insight on how you built your Instagram and also your Instagram game in general? I just started trying to build an Instagram for social proof. 🙃 | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 08:53 PM |
| 39 | What are signs that you are a hot, good-looking guy but don’t realise it?Being good looking and being attractive don't necessarily go hand in hand. Attractiveness is more based on confidence, status, charisma, etc. That said, to answer your question.. "how does one know if he is attractive when it comes to opposite sex?" You know you're attractive if you know you're attractive. In other words, if you really think you're attractive- i mean REALLY BELIEVE IT - then you'll basically act attractive, and it will come off to girls. | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 11:44 AM |
| 1 | Do I have to play the game to win?All the gamey things you mentioned are natural ways to qualify girls. The issue is that if you don't screen girls enough, then you feel like you have to fake it (and you do). In other words, if you have a lot going for you, and have an abundance mentality, ample friends and girls interested in you, etc., then you will naturally be uncertain about any one girl. You won't have to "play" the game. You'll just naturally be doing it because you're not going to just go for the first girl to come aroun… | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 11:38 AM |
| 1 | Got rejected and I am still glad I did it.good stuff you went for it and are outcome independent | /r/seduction | 08/05/22 11:00 AM |
| 1 | Tf is wrong with women? Am I doing something wrong?You're in your own head and overthinking everything. It's 1/1000 that a woman will ever even start and interaction the way she did, and you didn't really capitalize. Now you're just kinda being unsure to Make a move and doing these mental gymnastics about looking at each other. Very simple solution just go up to her and talk to her | /r/seduction | 07/05/22 12:55 AM |
| 3 | Just do not think its worth it anymoreUr burned out. Walk away completely got some time until you are excited again | /r/seduction | 06/05/22 03:11 AM |
| 1 | Dont know if this belongs here but worth a readWestern status. Basically they assume you have money lifestyle /opportunity etc. It's the same thing everywhere. Access to resources, connections influence, power, etc. Are all attractors. Being from certain countries (or appearing to be from there) automatically carries with it certain assumptions. It's like if you were here but you lived on the top floor of some fancy apaetmenr building and drove a nice car. Girls would assume things. With the country thing It's even more. People assume great … | /r/seduction | 06/05/22 02:57 AM |
| -9 | Advice from a girl: don’t always take it personally if you’re rejectedI believe you that your emotions put you in a state to want to be alone. I'm saying that if there was enough intrigue and chemistry between the two of you, then the emotion you experienced from the interaction would overcome the emotion of wanting to be alone. And you'd be saying, "crazy thing.. i really wanted to be alone, but wow this guy and i just clicked so well and there's something so special about him i just know it" I actually completely agree that it's 100% not personal when it doesn't… | /r/seduction | 06/03/22 12:03 PM |
| -3 | Advice from a girl: don’t always take it personally if you’re rejectedNope. Just not enough chemistry between the two of you. It has nothing to do with you "wanting to be alone". You could easily pick any other reason to justify your choice. ie. "I'm really busy right now." Fact is that there wasn't enough emotional intrigue there. It's no one's fault, and nothing against him or you. Nothing negative, just what's really going on. We act on emotion and justify with logic. | /r/seduction | 06/03/22 11:35 AM |
| 0 | Advice from a girl: don’t always take it personally if you’re rejectedBut if he were the man of your dreams then this would fly out the window I was replying to OP and her specific post/situation, not to every approach situation ever. Yes, anyone could be going through anything at any moment. However, OP claims that she declined "because I just felt like being alone, and I’m not currently looking for anything." All I'm saying is that there wasn't enough chemistry or emotional intrigue to say yes. If there were, she would've said yes. | /r/seduction | 06/03/22 11:30 AM |
| -10 | Advice from a girl: don’t always take it personally if you’re rejectedNah something was missing. | /r/seduction | 06/03/22 10:44 AM |
| 2 | Considering Going Full-Time in Picking Up GirlsI would walk around a mall for 2 hours, noticed quite a few girls I am interested in, but in the end I would only approach one girl which rejected me. You still approached a girl, so acknowledge that. Most guys can't even approach any girl, ever, and have never done so. You're not going to go from 0 to 100 just like that- it's going to take progression and time. I think your plan to hit the malls hard is pretty decent. Although consider other places too. Anywhere is an approach area. Outdoor sho… | /r/seduction | 06/03/22 10:43 AM |
| 4 | How many women are approached during the day?bro keep this on the down low! otherwise every dude is gonna start daygaming and nuke it | /r/seduction | 06/03/22 10:36 AM |
| 22 | Advice from a girl: don’t always take it personally if you’re rejectedI still rejected him. Why? Because I just felt like being alone, and I’m not currently looking for anything. But if he were the man of your dreams then this would fly out the window | /r/seduction | 06/03/22 10:30 AM |
| 1 | First approach! How did I do?you told her to say no | /r/seduction | 30/01/22 10:07 PM |
| 7 | [deleted by user]Just gotta do it to get over it. Then you get used to it and you'll start to not care and it'll just become fun. Basically once you're outcome independent you'll be completely free and it'll just be like a fun thing to do when u want | /r/seduction | 28/01/22 05:23 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]More importantly (and what you didn't include in this post) is how you reacted after she said "wow". | /r/seduction | 07/01/22 11:57 AM |
| 1 | What is a good way to meet a lot of women?how did you get started on all that? for me, the hardest part is just getting something going from scratch. | /r/seduction | 06/01/22 05:23 AM |
| 37 | the massive undertaking of getting a girl to take interest in you after she friendzones you. Work on yourself insteadWell said. Finding yourself in the friendzone is a symptom of a bigger, underlying issue. | /r/seduction | 06/01/22 02:19 AM |
| 1 | Anyone know where to find a free copy of “The Scrambler” ? Or maybe a comprehensive summary of the techniques?I recommend taking the plunge and purchasing it. His products are great. Btw The Scrambler is the first dating advice product I ever purchased. :) | /r/seduction | 04/01/22 12:45 AM |
| 1 | Anyone know where to find a free copy of “The Scrambler” ? Or maybe a comprehensive summary of the techniques?I'm guessing you're currently following Bobby's youtube channel? Or have you purchased any of his products in the past. The reason I ask is because The Scrambler is relatively similar to some of his other products. | /r/seduction | 03/01/22 05:16 AM |
| 1 | I have no confidence approaching women of different race(not a derogatory).all just a mind fuck | /r/seduction | 31/12/21 10:44 AM |
| 5 | Groundbreaking Discovery To Do Your First Cold ApproachThe reason you are scared of doing your first cold approach is because your ego is in the way and you're afraid of rejection. There's nowhere to hide in a cold approach. The rejection is right to your face. Compare this to dating apps where you can hide behind a screen and you don't have to watch a girl swipe left on you. The ironic thing is that, once you actually do a cold approach and just put your ego on the line, you realize that the "rejection" is not personal and you are liberated. This i… | /r/seduction | 31/12/21 07:50 AM |
| 19 | [deleted by user]This really is everything in a nutshell. Not just OLD but in real life. | /r/seduction | 27/09/21 12:45 PM |
| 0 | [deleted by user]:/ | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 11:42 PM |
| -3 | [deleted by user]Hi Babe... ;) | /r/seduction | 16/09/21 08:24 AM |
| 2 | (To All My Struggling Guys) Stop Overthinking it. This is Game in a Nutshell.I don't anymore because I've approached and interacted with them. | /r/seduction | 13/09/21 12:45 AM |
| 8 | (To All My Struggling Guys) Stop Overthinking it. This is Game in a Nutshell.I used to have this mentality and would've said the same exact stuff OP is saying. The reason people like hearing this is because it makes them feel good about not having to actually take risks and face their insecurities with women. In other words, they can do their own thing, work on themselves, and be friendly with some girls that they meet through work or various circles, and feel like girls are attracted to them simply because they're talking to girls and the girls are friendly. Lo and beho… | /r/seduction | 12/09/21 08:41 AM |
| 1 | It's crazy how important social circle and status isI actually posted in askseddit a few days ago asking how to build a social circle if you don't have much to work with starting out (in terms of people). Some helpful insight in the comments/responses: https://www.reddit.com/r/askseddit/comments/phhf4e/how_to_build_social_proof_when_you_have_little_to/ | /r/seduction | 09/09/21 03:45 AM |
| 1 | I'm more desperate than ever to date, but as unprepared as I'll ever be as wellDitto on dermatologist or maybe looking into some different acne products. The main thing is that you don't seem to be really "in the game". Like you admitted you have a mediocre haircut- so go get a haircut that you feel great in. Get clothes you feel confident in. And most importantly, get out there and meet more people and talk to more girls. Join some hobbies/interest groups or social activities. Get your life going. Girls are everywhere.. Push yourself to talk to the ones you're interested … | /r/seduction | 06/09/21 09:49 AM |
| 3 | Countries where Asian men are Most Desired?Check out these posts I wrote and resources regarding dating as an Asian and how to use it to your benefit: https://www.reddit.com/r/AsianMasculinity/comments/ohws6b/all_talk_and_notions_about_how_asian_guys_are_at/ https://www.reddit.com/r/AsianMasculinity/comments/os3vx5/the_advantage_of_contrast_in_dating_as_an_asian/ www.asianalphamale.com https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iUkQMkNJxYk | /r/seduction | 04/09/21 07:23 AM |
| 0 | Should I try harder, or is she just not interested?You're not really asking her out. You're just suggesting you guys get a beer. But she is not going to bring it up. She's the girl. You're the guy. Next time just be like, "hey wanna grab a beer after work today?" and if she says no for whatever reason just NO BIGGIE, and then maybe ask again in like a week or two. Keep it super casual. You guys work together so anything too formal that doesn't work out well will make things awkward. | /r/seduction | 21/08/21 10:23 AM |
| 1 | Liking this girl at the gym. Any advice??Seems like you guys run into each other a lot. And even your workouts are in the same area in the gym with the machines/weights section or whatever. This works to your advantage because you actually don't have to do much or apply any pressure. Just play it really slow. By simply working out next to each other, you're actually building comfort with her. Just go do your workouts, and then when you're next to her and the timing is right (she's resting, etc.) be like, "oh hey how you've been?". Be r… | /r/seduction | 06/08/21 11:19 AM |
| 1 | Liking this girl at the gym. Any advice??How do you deal with the pooping where you eat thingie? Is it a factor for you? | /r/seduction | 06/08/21 11:07 AM |
| 1 | Anybody turned shit around at 30 ?entertaining conversations can be learned. check out some books on conversation mastery | /r/seduction | 01/08/21 11:37 AM |
| 1 | Looking for Wingman: Los Angeles/Orange County, CAyoyo~ you guys still doing this? I PMed you - not sure if you received it . Lmk! | /r/seduction | 31/07/21 12:53 AM |
| 1 | Field Report + Takeaways for a Successful Day Game Adventurethanks bro glad it helped~ i'll hit you up if i'm ever in the UK lol. I do tend to travel a lot | /r/seduction | 31/07/21 12:14 AM |
| 1 | Field Report + Takeaways for a Successful Day Game AdventureHey there! Yeah I think part of the journey is just learning how to navigate each situation accordingly. It all depends on circumstances. So between your 2 approaches, I'd say just go with the one that feels most natural for that moment. For example, if the girl is alone and you see something she's holding/wearing that you're curious about, then I've found that's a great way to open-- because it's genuine. It wouldn't make sense if you're curious about her book to not mention it and say "You loo… | /r/seduction | 30/07/21 09:41 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]Looks do matter but it's a bit more complex as to how looks play out. If a guy is a 10, then he'll be getting a lot of attention, smiles, etc. from girls. - If he's confident and knows wtf he's doing, then he can easily get any of these girls to go on dates, etc. This success with girls then makes him even more confident, which increases attention/attraction. So it's a self-propelling phenomenon: - If he's not confident/ doesn't know wtf he's doing, then the looks don't matter. They just contrad… | /r/seduction | 29/07/21 09:21 AM |
| 5 | Don’t fool yourself— being in shape and having a masculine physical presence is extremely important to consistently attract the most beautiful womenYeah 100% agreed on this. A ton of us get into game and start thinking we can skip this type of stuff. It's not just that girls naturally become attracted to you because you look better, but you also feel way more confident when interacting with them. It's a loop that feeds into itself. Girl more attracted because you look better => Makes you more confident => Girl more attracted because you're more confident => Makes you more confident | /r/seduction | 26/07/21 03:43 PM |
| 2 | How do I complement my crush without letting on I have a crush on her.Text her this: "Stupid' | /r/seduction | 25/07/21 09:20 AM |
| 2 | 35-year-old Beginner here: how do I progressively get better at pick-upI do recommend checking out some youtubers/products on cold approach as you're figuring all this out. You'll need some guidance. However, all the knowledge in the world means nothing if you don't go for it. You're going to have to make some bad mistakes to get better. The only way to learn is to have skin in the game. Unfortunately that's the way it is. So basically what i'm saying is that you HAVE to just get your ass up there and approach next time. You may not go super duper well, but you'll … | /r/seduction | 25/07/21 09:18 AM |
| 5 | Made my first approach today, and I fucked it up.Good shxt bro. Soon you'll be smoother than my ass | /r/seduction | 25/07/21 09:10 AM |
| 2 | Gentlemen, I need advice.Thanks lad. I like the straightforward approach. I'll try it out | /r/seduction | 20/07/21 11:10 PM |
| 1 | Gentlemen, I need advice.How to know when to stop gaming and lead? | /r/seduction | 20/07/21 08:22 AM |
| 1 | Gentlemen, I need advice.Ditto the guy who says you should be giving advice. What is your approach/opening/strategy? :) Please help us n00bz | /r/seduction | 20/07/21 08:21 AM |
| 1 | I got "rejected" for the first time and it's such a reliefHey there... | /r/seduction | 20/07/21 07:43 AM |
| 1 | Gym date...Yay or Naythanks- very helpful! | /r/seduction | 19/07/21 10:57 AM |
| 5 | Gym date...Yay or NayI think a "grab something to eat after the gym" is a good idea. So like if you both plan to workout Tuesday at 5pm, you can suggest to grab food afterwards at 6:30pm or whatever. During the gym time, you're both working out kinda on your own but also casually interacting. Like maybe you walk over when you're both resting to like "warm up" for the date with a brief chat. Or you guys can spot each other a little here and there. This keeps everything in the gym casual. If you guys plan to work out … | /r/seduction | 19/07/21 10:12 AM |
| 1 | I got "rejected" for the first time and it's such a reliefNot just girls but anyone like some random dude that's upset and wants to fight- you can kill em with kindess Do you have any examples of kind lines that you can respond with if they are bitchy? | /r/seduction | 19/07/21 09:41 AM |
| -1 | I got "rejected" for the first time and it's such a reliefHi there... ;))))) | /r/seduction | 19/07/21 09:38 AM |
| 3 | Seeking AdviceWake up | /r/seduction | 18/07/21 10:23 AM |
| 5 | When you polarize, you find out who wants the real you in their livesLMAO!!! actually yes perfectly accurate | /r/seduction | 16/07/21 04:10 AM |
| 2 | When you polarize, you find out who wants the real you in their livesthanks! I'm almost done with No More so I'll move on to Not Nice after | /r/seduction | 16/07/21 04:10 AM |
| 1 | When you polarize, you find out who wants the real you in their livesThanks this is helpful. Yeah I should prob mention some form of it and acknowledge that I may be an asshole sometimes, so please bear with me | /r/seduction | 16/07/21 04:09 AM |
| 2 | When you polarize, you find out who wants the real you in their livesThanks I'll really watch out for it if she reaches out. Truth be told, if she does reach out, I'm going to say some polarizing shxt to her and she'll probably disappear for good LMAO Interesting you mentioned that she'd say "you deserve better". Mine would say "She isn't that attractive." when I showed her pics of girls I was interested in and had interest in me. I'm talking about 8's 9's and 10's too, girls that every guy turns their head for. | /r/seduction | 16/07/21 04:03 AM |
| 9 | When you polarize, you find out who wants the real you in their livesThanks I'll keep it in mind if she reaches out. i don't think she will though. Even if she does, she's not gonna like the new me. Looking back, I realize she had done FUD on me. I told her about a girl I met and was certain showed interest in me with IOIs. And my friend was like, "oh, nah, doesnt mean anything" Btw you pretty much nailed her to a T, down to the lack of stable relationships with men and never having a boyfriend. I think part of is is that they're insecure and this is the way they… | /r/seduction | 15/07/21 05:19 PM |
| 1 | This girl rejected me three times and I still took her home that night.I think a lot of it is that you actually were in tune with how she was feeling and acted accordingly. It became "you two" vs everyone else (or at least the guy) which built an initial connection for you to work with | /r/seduction | 15/07/21 01:49 AM |
| 2 | Not sure whether to talk to this girli dont see why not. unless you have opportunity to see her in person, then you have nothing to lose. | /r/seduction | 14/07/21 11:18 AM |
| 2 | What I've learned after 3 weeks of day game.try making a youtube channel or some bs like that. it'll force you to clean up your speaking ability in terms of mumbling and stuttering (i'm currently doing this, and it really does work, since you have to cringe while you watch yourself on video" btw you're really young to be getting into this and youre going to be a killer before you know it, especially when you start to hit your peak years in your 30s.. it's not even gonna be fair. | /r/seduction | 14/07/21 08:16 AM |
| 37 | First harsh rejectionI think her disgust is due to the line. "you're very pretty" - although this was honest on your part, she probably just heard it so many times, hence the conditioned reaction of "disgust look". If that had been the first time a guy came up to her and said that, she'd be all excited. "are you single" -this really isn't necessary at all. It's implied that she'll let you know she has a bf because you approached and told her she's very pretty. This shows a lack of social savvy on your part, which ad… | /r/seduction | 11/07/21 10:06 AM |
| 1 | Finally broke the Gym CodeSlow and steady gonna win that race. | /r/seduction | 24/06/21 12:14 AM |
| 1 | My first approach and why I'm an idiotAfter that, the girl was ready to leave and came and said goodbye to me Bro........ go for the number next time. | /r/seduction | 03/06/21 06:03 AM |
| 1 | What are your thoughts on a girl saying she’s busy, not bringing up another day, but continuing to talk?wtf? bro she wants to snap. she said her nephew was coming or whatever. you can't expect her to take initiative and suggest a time to meet. you're the man... bring it up again when it feels right and make it happen! | /r/seduction | 29/05/21 11:43 AM |
| 12 | Real quick question.Definitely not a sin to marry outside of your ethnic group. We all come from Adam, remember. The only command is to not be yoked with unbelievers. Marry a believer and you're good. This is for obvio reasons like lifestyle and important decisions to make in marriage | /r/RPChristians | 21/05/21 08:33 AM |
| 1 | Anyone else feel as though having a wingman or friends around actually throws you off your game?yeah going out alone just carries this feeling of loneliness. are you near los angeles area any chance? if so we should meet up | /r/seduction | 16/05/21 10:45 AM |
| 1 | Anyone else feel as though having a wingman or friends around actually throws you off your game?If you're with a wingman, try to branch off temporarily but stay within same area. Like if you want to talk to a girl, he can go grab the coffees in the nearby cafe. Then you can talk to the girl alone while not seeming like a desperate creep since you're just waiting for your friend to get his coffee. | /r/seduction | 16/05/21 08:42 AM |
| 11 | Tip for Approach Anxiety: Don’t masturbate for a weekalot of not masturbating's effects is mental. basically, you haven't done it for a while and so you feel more in control of yourself, and it probably means you've been spending your time well and have kept busy and engaged enough with your life to not masturbate. you subconsciously feel more in tune with yourself, and it translates into confidence. girls sense this | /r/seduction | 13/05/21 02:16 AM |
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