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You should fap to more porn bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 02:03 AM
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I listen to him every day.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 02:00 AM
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The best example I have is one my husband told me. Australia was founded by Britain sending all the convicts and whores to Australia. A few men told the rest that everyone was going to die so they adopted a law that all the women needed to be married within a week or they'd be married off to the first man found. So, everyone became married.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 01:25 AM
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I do not smoke. I think it makes me insane, in an uncontrollable way. I drink instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 12:59 AM
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I don't really listen to music anymore. Owen Benjamin?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/20 12:21 AM
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Lazy is the problem. A friend of mine and I were pregnant at the same time. I've lost the pregnancy weight, had another baby, about lost the weight again, and she's still carrying the same weight. Most people don't even know about calories. There's my fitness pal these days. I remember the days of having to simply memorize calories. My husband and I talk about fat people all the time. We drink, we go out to eat. I cannot figure out how people get fat. Do people not notice how their clothes fit i…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/20 09:55 PM
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Kids might strain your relationship if you don't actually like your spouse.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/20 08:32 PM
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It's an obsession with being dominated anally combined with mental illness.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/20 08:26 PM
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I store babies there.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/20 07:22 PM
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The only thing you should listen to is your father if not in heaven when you seek, than in reality before you meet your husband, then it's your husband's advice you search for. My husband gave me the best phrase, that those that drag you down are bucket crabs. I can't say it's intentional, but I can say there are underlying factors to the advice people give. Goodness, everyone wishes they could go back. You are in a position that if you question it, it is wrong. If it is wrong, then do the oppos…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/20 07:23 AM
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Thanks for your honest response.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 12:43 AM
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That's fair enough. Do you look at her and imagine her with hair?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 12:38 AM
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Even if her head was basically shaved?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 12:32 AM
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Why is she attractive to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 12:31 AM
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Yes, I definitely gathered that afterwards.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 12:14 AM
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Hmm, I don't know if anyone looks good bald....
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 12:06 AM
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I tried when looking for wigs.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/20 12:05 AM
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This is my second marriage. I married because my husband said we were getting married. I don't regret marrying him in the slightest. I only know now that he regrets marrying me. We married for children. He made that clear. What is unequal chore? I have thought when I'm trying to get things ready in the morning, that it would be nice if he picked up a baby but that's what bottle propping is for. Hmmm, only surprising thing for me has been my vanity and the lies I tell myself about my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 02:56 AM
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They're not fwb, it's just what you tell yourself when you're rejected. I had one and yeah, expected more.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/20 02:40 AM
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Umm, the biggest heels I wear are 5". My husband picked them out for me. He's 6'2 though, so I get to enjoy the experience of being a giant for an evening.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/20 06:47 AM
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I would honestly quit your job if I were in that position and look for a new one. My husband and I just had a real conversation the other day that we've needed to have for years. When I first moved in with him, I worked at a gas station. There was a regular customer that would flirt with me that I didn't shut down. It's pretty easy to lie to yourself and think you would never let things get too far, but honestly, why tempt yourself? I've been lying to myself so much and had to acknowledge that y…
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/19 06:17 PM
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Why are you taking out the trash??
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/19 03:06 PM
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I'm curious. Why do you hate children?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 06:24 AM
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I don't think people realize how empty the world is without children.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/19 03:09 AM
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Awe, thanks for the concern. I've tried the recovery route before and it doesn't work for me. I've found I have a way better quality of life putting a limit on how much I can lose.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 10:16 PM
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I definitely agree with accepting what happens. Maybe fear is too strong of a word. You're always aware that you can get fired. I love what I do as well. Not trying to paint some absolute gloom. I do think it's important to remind yourself what can happen. It's never good to get too comfortable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 09:34 PM
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I don't like the way it feels on me. I don't want jiggling appendages, cellulite, or chipmunk cheeks. Weight doesn't bother me on other people. It's just a personal thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 09:19 PM
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Just because I'm afraid of gaining weight doesn't mean I starve my baby. I ate about 3,500 calories a day my first trimester because it's what my body needed. I went from absolutely no appetite to waking up at 3am starving with a jar of peanut butter beside the bed. I gained 10lbs alone in the first 3 months. It's tapered off since then because I'm where I need to be. I mean, my husband and I met on an eating disorder sub. Weight is going to be pretty prominent in our lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 09:04 PM
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Most of the fear is my own fear of being fat, and irrelevant to him wanting me to be at a certain weight. If we didn't agree on a number, I'd do much worse. If anything, he's been super helpful about it. He's just also been honest about how he feels about weight gain during pregnancy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 06:24 PM
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I find some fear healthy personally. It keeps me motivated to be the best wife I can be. I mean you do good at a job out of fear of being fired, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 06:16 PM
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We both agree on that bmi. It's a good balance for me. If I didn't personally set that limit, I'd probably be much worse off. I fear any number in the triple digits for weight but that doesn't mean I don't do the right thing during pregnancy. I'm gaining just as I should be but it's still terrifying knowing I'll gain around 30 lbs. He is all for breastfeeding and we've discussed it multiple times. Breastfeeding with our first child didn't pan out but that was all my fault. Unfortunately, pregnan…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 06:12 PM
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Sorry, I'm happily married with what I think is a healthy dose of realism.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 03:08 PM
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If you pack in the nutrients in all that you eat, a 16.-something bmi can be plenty healthy. You just have to be diligent in your diet and give yourself a 5lb weight fluctuation limit. I think more people should remind themselves that their significant others can leave at any moment. You'll appreciate them and all their positive qualities more often and yeah, I should fear baby weight in my marriage. Pregnancy is a woman's most vulnerable position. You burn way more calories just being pregnant,…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/19 03:04 PM
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Life things happen. My husband and I both gained like ten pounds when he almost died and he was out of work recovering for a couple months. We both lost the weight and then I got pregnant again. I think weight is going to fluctuate at times but it is definitely more important to me that I lose the weight I gain than whether he does. He's very picky about weight on girls. He prefers me to be around a 16-16.5 bmi. It works for me because I'm picky about my weight. I want to be as attractive as I c…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 07:52 PM
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They are projecting what exactly?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/19 12:01 AM
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I know this will sound odd but have you had your vitamin d levels checked? I found out mine were low and have been taking a supplement. Surprisingly, back pain and lethargy are symptoms. I didn't think I had an issue because I was outside in the sun so much. Since taking the supplement on top of regular vitamins, I have hardly any pain and normal amounts of energy this pregnancy.
/r/RedPillWives29/08/19 04:20 PM
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There is no approach to a person who doesn't want children. They are immediately rejected the moment the words escape their mouths.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/19 06:42 AM
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Well it's not just a guy buying something. Like last night, when my husband was talking to his coworker. It was after hours, so he was done for the day. He could have ignored it completely and let her fend for herself and he probably would have if it was a male coworker but he called her and walked her through the task. Money isn't the only thing, it's the whole response.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 03:28 PM
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I don't think men are obligated at all but I do think I've been blind in seeing it in retrospect. My husband was explaining to me last night about a female coworker. She was acting like a normal ditsy girl, the only difference being she had crossed the wall a while ago. He still responded to her like a girl but his inner thoughts were anger for having to walk her through something. It's not just men paying for something, it's their entire interaction with women that should be taken into account.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 03:00 PM
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I don't think sex works for women the way it does for men. I don't need to get off to enjoy having sex. I want as much sex as he wants. If it's once a week or four times in a day, I'm almost always happy to do it. I do like traditional sex though. We're having more of that since we're trying to have another baby. I suppose once a week of traditional sex is pretty awesome. Yes, I'm still very attracted to my husband. He is the top in my book. Can't say the same for me so it does lessen my ability…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 02:51 PM
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I met my husband on an eating disorder forum and we discussed our lives at the time and shared pictures of food. Not many guys will talk about food and body issues. What initially made me attracted to him was his scent. I actually looked it up because I've never been with someone where you could go camping for a week with minimal hygiene and still find someone's smell intoxicating. That's my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/19 02:28 PM
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How long were you with her? What reason did you both agree on surgery?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 04:52 AM
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So she told you what to do and you didn't say no I'm me, you said yes ma'am?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 04:23 AM
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Do you think she was scared that you didn't love her enough?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 04:18 AM
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Did she ask for it?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/19 02:38 AM
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Exactly. Thank you for your contribution.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 08:59 AM
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Did not the world hear about bulimic Terri schiavo?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 08:58 AM
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I agree with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 08:54 AM
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Thank my husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 08:50 AM
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So you wouldn't want someone to embrace you before they pull the plug in the most loving act? I've only watched two in hospice and none go without a fight. Hospice is only to pacify an individual. They give them all (legal guardian) the trigger to end it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 08:49 AM
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Sorry, I'm responding to a post that my husband guessed I should have made.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 08:40 AM
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I don't know man, have you ever actually had a feeding tube shoved down your throat? Then you have to eat along with it. Interesting things that no one cares about. Hold on,........
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 08:38 AM
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Interesting response. I think you might have thought of the the concept.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 08:35 AM
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Please tell me you're in a relationship and honest in what you want. I give my husband more blow jobs than any other sex act we do. Don't worry, I look whether he looks at me. A blow job for a man is pretty much a lazy hand job. Why do the hand when you have a mouth you can close your eyes to?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 08:33 AM
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Never have your husband depraved and all is good.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 08:23 AM
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No, you have to remember that you are the one in a coma. Yes, if a woman's man is in a coma, she will think these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 08:21 AM
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No, I don't like my husband using my account to do his trolling, but there's not much I will do. It's not that I didn't say the words, it's simply I don't get to say them myself, because you know, I'm a person, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 08:14 AM
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I do like your comment. Good job. Coma is meant to be temporary.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 08:08 AM
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Dumb dumm
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 02:13 AM
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I told my husband to pull the plug and move on as well
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 02:13 AM
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What if you wake up
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 02:12 AM
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Do you have a daughter? Do you miss your daughter? What do you want for your daughter?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/04/19 01:53 AM
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I can't say having two boys so far has changed my perspective of men because I was raised by my dad with only a brother. If anything, I have issue with connecting with women. With my first son, I didn't notice too much of a difference in development. He would color and draw but instead of animals, it was army guys and tanks. Instead of a stick being a wand, it was a sword, instead of excavating a dig site full of dinosaurs, it was an underground base of bad guys. Emotional regulation is no diffe…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 11:43 PM
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Once a guy bought me a gas station hot dog. Another guy once bought me dinner I'm still waiting for a guy to buy me a drink at the bar. Once a guy bought me on vacation I saw a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/19 06:47 AM
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Hey, go MGTOW guy. No one will miss your lack of effort.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 02:52 AM
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It's not the cheating that bothers me, it's the honesty of it that does. I have nightmares quite frequently. I want truth to understand and make choices because that's the world we live in. We live in a world of no trust and we must make choices in a world we don't trust. My husband could and almost did do just that. What held him back, me, him, our baby? I'll never know. I know that in the moment he could have and there was absolutely nothing I could do to prevent it. We'll have more children b…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/19 02:42 AM
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I really don't know. Okay, your life is awful man. It must suck having to talk to people in public. My husband is extroverted. I got hit with a, "okay, you go in store and talk with clerk," today. Was I hitting on 40 year old woman at the check - out when I had to have some items scanned? So what, your social apprehension only applies to women who make themselves available? That hit to your ego is only self - assured. I can agree that plenty of women are more extroverted and capable of preservin…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 01:19 AM
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I wouldn't know. I'm not a man. I have my husband's verbal examples to go with. He agrees that women initiate the mating ritual by stating that they're open to approach. Why do you think women just rationalize that a man didn't read cues or is it that that's what you think they eventually conclude so they preserve their egos? My husband tells me from his male perspective that he doesn't take the no's as absolute from previous attempts because any number of things could actually be going on. He's…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/19 12:30 AM
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My husband mainly works with men and from what he explains, most of them overtly complain about their wives when in their crowd before work. There's even one guy that will be the only guy to help him out when he can't complete a task and the man is completely ruled by his wife to the point that he's not allowed a cellphone and does weird things like sneak in cookies because his wife won't allow it? I don't know. Maybe it's where we're located, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 11:44 PM
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My husband typed that for me. How nice of him. Yeah, the calling men a "whiny little bitch" is from something we listened to. It's a nice joke. Either way, of course women feel their egos deflated when they do their part of the game and get rejected. Please explain what you mean by expressing interest.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 11:33 PM
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30
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 11:26 PM
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Oh I wouldn't know I like dating men who aren't pathetic whiny bitches
/r/PurplePillDebate05/04/19 12:29 PM
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I wouldn't know. My brother met his first girlfriend through this app very recently. Maybe it works for some people. Free drinks, lol. What do girls do for free drinks? Is it not initiation? I would like to think men and women alike know the difference in whether a person wishes to be approached or not. Women are the initiate. It's not through words, but by display and body posturing. The only time I've ever been hit on, like actual cold approach as I'm learning is because of being in a position…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/04/19 11:54 PM
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A bald man? I'd rather die
/r/PurplePillDebate03/04/19 04:19 AM
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Interesting. 😜
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 01:08 PM
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Be yourself, always, always. Explain to me age mate? What is age mate? Do you know "self"?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 08:44 AM
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Sounds like you would be fun to meet at a party. 🎊
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 05:56 AM
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This might be the best thing I've ever read.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 05:53 AM
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Just like vanity clothing. It's very annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 05:43 AM
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My husband says I have to answer. If I were the opposite sex, I'd want a short girl who is thin but can cook high calorie meals, who's forever 18, who can have children and still look 18. She has to be intelligent but not too intelligent because there needs to be the dumb factor. Blond hair, blue eyes, white, but not ghostly because that's gross, double d's with that thin frame.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 05:37 AM
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Sheesh, just let her keep a shirt on.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/03/19 05:22 AM
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Really just be yourself, always. Who cares? See your faults, don't be afraid to vocalize them. What happens by voicing your faults? Some people use them, some people relate to them, and others respect/reject them. There is truth in being your worst self critic. I am literal garbage trash. I know it, my love knows it. I don't need the gutter to remind me, or the filth "high horse" houses my dad used to drive me by and point out. (it was like looking at Christmas lights y'all). What is woe is me b…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 08:48 AM
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Scent is a powerful margin of relationship. Have you ever actually smelled the scent of your partner, camping in the woods? I didn't even know such a thing existed. You bet, I am with him immediately, after being worlds apart. Can you still embrace and maul one another years later? Yes, relationship for me is about 90%, the other 10% to our offspring.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/19 08:24 AM
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My husband is the best sex I've ever had. As for me fretting over not being his best sexual partner, I think to myself, Do I really want him to pee in my mouth?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/19 04:30 AM
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What you need to find "friend", is a real friend. My husband is my best friend. We met as friends knowing, knowing friends. How many people have friends, you know, the ones where your lives part and you go years without talking and yet somewhere out of the blue you can continue talking like the distance never happened?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 11:30 AM
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So he took a loan knowing the repprocussion. A reminder to who? Dread game is only to remind a man of himself, the pact he made to himself. You know what, after talking to my amazing husband in all the deep things, the conversations people should have, I realize that most people don't question themselves, they instead question other things, stupid things.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 11:20 AM
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This is true. I like looking up to my husband as much as he likes looking down to me. It takes away the ladder.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 11:10 AM
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Yes, a man can dump her always. So dread game is what, repetition of the fact, like she doesn't know? A woman is not a man.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 11:04 AM
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Ahem, you mean the dance? I'm sorry we don't have better words? We all get it, the dance. Where's your boundaries in said 'dread game'?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 10:56 AM
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No, a man is all or nothing. There is no in between.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 10:51 AM
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A woman stands behind a man, always. She helps him in all that he does. What are these terms? Are these definitions to "the dance"? Everyone, everyone sees the dance around them. Play fawn, man, woman. The 'dance' continues.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 10:47 AM
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Truth, that is the difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/03/19 10:35 AM
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My husband held me over a 10 story balcony on vacation while we were wasted and he didn't drop me. That's as romantic as it gets. It's our joke now. I just tell him that we get a second floor from now on.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/19 11:49 AM
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I am not a man, and I cannot bear your burden. I speak from my own resolve. If a man makes that effort, I will recognize it for the effort he makes. Your son, please explain to him all the effort it takes for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 09:05 AM
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Have you ever asked out a woman? She will reject you in the kindest of ways and know the effort you must put in. I'm not the best looking of women but anyone will appreciate the effort. Women bare the effort of turning an honest man down. It's not to belittle your ego, it's to be as honest as you have been in your efforts of approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 07:56 AM
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Maybe if I purchased some blinders for my husband...? My poor husband.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 03:58 AM
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Hmm, I find it interesting about the car. I was thinking maybe because the car is my husband's most of the time and mine maybe once a week, I might not view it in the same light because I don't exist in it for the most part, so I don't care for it like the house that I spend most of my time in. If you're spending most of your time surrounded by chaos (a cluttered house), I'd imagine it starts getting to you like the clutter of your car that gets to your husband that your husband exists in a lot …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/19 03:51 AM
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Not a swan, right?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 10:59 AM
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Introversion is like a video player that is constantly on that you watch be played over and over. You're almost never present as yourself. You're almost always outside the frame, a third party. You watch the video play out and you rehearse lines to be a place in the video your mind creates. You prep yourself for every interaction you probably conceive, and when that frame you imagine is broken, such as a man suddenly hitting on you, you fall, fall to some stupid levels of very odd self protectio…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 09:31 AM
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Wrinkles are laugh lines. My husband has agreed to name them as they come. My first one of note to him was kidney bean.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/03/19 07:12 AM
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Yay, I'm a unicorn!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 10:17 PM
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Oh boy, yeah, I wrote this post in the wrong moment. I wouldn't say he compares me to exes at all. It's more he talks about all of the ones that stand out to him. I've confronted him about it in my own way and asked why he didn't choose one of them instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 05:20 PM
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I just gave my husband a blowjob with some awful northern cold.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 05:27 AM
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Peanut butter cups? I imagine the carbs....
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 05:24 AM
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I wouldn't know. I know my husband is above average. Our sex life is great!
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 02:40 AM
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Yes, I laughed too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 02:11 AM
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I don't know, in anatomy and physiology, I found out that the vagina is only a couple inches deep and expands from there. It should be capable of accommodating most of the sizing range.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/03/19 02:07 AM
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No dude, you just need to have a boner. If you have a boner, she'll know that you're into her and she'll feed off that. Then you go from there.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/19 06:24 AM
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My husband named our boy Jr. I'm hoping for a girl next so I get to name her!! I'm excited for you! Has your husband chimed in on names?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/03/19 06:35 AM
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Did she want the surgery?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 08:08 AM
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Yeah, I forced myself to look at what actually happens for aborted fetuses for this very reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/03/19 08:07 AM
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Umm, my ring was $20 off amazon. It lost one stone but I love it. Don't worry, I also found my husband's ring there. Don't let him know, but I looked long and hard for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/19 07:37 AM
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I will never know but I do blame myself. I found out a lot of things afterwards that I feel were possibly contributing triggers.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/02/19 04:25 AM
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You bet!
/r/PurplePillDebate24/02/19 01:37 AM
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🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 06:12 AM
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Is your heart for sale or is your heart for rent?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 05:58 AM
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I very much appreciate your honesty, and I mean that. Honesty can be a precursor to usary. (I would know). I agree that you should just openly talk to him. Talk to him about your insecurities with his recent behavior. If he really has worked on himself as you say, he will be open to that communication and respond accordingly. It may or may not be what you want to hear, but that's what happens with honesty.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 05:27 AM
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It's a damn shame this is how you spend your Friday night....
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 05:04 AM
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Thank you for your honest response. Was he also religious? I mean, they were married for almost 20 years. Why would he say he isn't flirtatious? What drew you to him?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 04:53 AM
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I'm pretty surprised at the bitterness in some of these responses...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 04:24 AM
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Why does he not consider himself a flirtatious being? If you don't mind me asking, how did you two meet?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 03:53 AM
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I am curious. Why would a woman want to control a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 02:59 AM
2

I dated a guy who put me on a pedestal and he did make some amazing changes. When we parted ways, he immediately reverted to his prior habits.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/19 02:49 AM
1

To each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 08:15 AM
1

How the heck is his penis slipping out? Just how small are these guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 06:06 AM
5

I love my husband. 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 05:14 AM
4

I wish I didn't click on that link.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 03:45 AM
6

Surprise blowjobs while he's sleeping.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 01:38 AM
7

My husband says it's even better when the girl is just laying there silently crying
/r/PurplePillDebate22/02/19 01:31 AM
2

Hmm, when I was pregnant, I definitely wanted it more and of course my husband was understandably disinterested. Our sex life went to the back burner. I basically masterbated and he satisfied himself with blowjobs. It was a tough time of insecurity for me and a great willpower for him to stay faithful. Libido ebbs and flows. I would be concerned if this was an ongoing thing but thankfully it was not! Things happen in life, you know, like the flu, etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/02/19 12:32 AM
1

He was tall and handsome, we discussed marriage and then his parents just arranged everything for us to be married in two months. His parents were married forever so I thought I'd be able to grow old with him. His life was a mess though so I had to take over because he couldn't even manage to live paycheck to paycheck. So I took over and he just let me. Then when I needed him to step up he didn't. I had to be in charge of everything and things were falling apart and I was alone to take care of i…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/02/19 02:55 AM
1

It is a much healthier relashionship! He has wonderful boundaries and has helped me in processing some of these difficult topics.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 09:22 PM
0

He keeps telling me I'm too honest.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 09:09 PM
1

Yeah, my husband convinced me to post it here. I was originally going to wait until I thought on it more and maybe downed some alcohol.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 09:06 PM
1

Yes, I would agree I became more manipulative in a last ditch effort when I look back and that I was testy throughout. It's not like we never had conversations about the relationship. I made the mistake of running that relationship from the very beginning, thinking I was "supporting" him, wishing he'd take over. I definitely think I've grown as a person and wish very much he could have done so as well. No one should die like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 08:52 PM
-1

We talked for months and then we met for a vacation together and I couldn't imagine just letting him go. I felt like I had run across someone too good to be true. My husband at the time knew I was talking to him, even agreed for me to go on vacation with him, knowing we'd have sex. I remember at the time wishing that that husband would've said anything to step up for himself or something. I'd been in control of that relationship forever and I think I kind of imploded and started getting extreme …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/02/19 06:57 PM
1

Intj with my awesome entj husband. Never took that test until he asked me to. I couldn't ask for something better. I only feel bad when I mess up the little things, those little things I plan.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/02/19 10:50 AM
1

Thanks! Now I must get my hands on some rubber bands. 😬
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 04:15 PM
1

Please tell me what the rubber band trick is!!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 01:16 PM
2

I have two unopened off-brand v8 jars just sitting in the kitchen that I can't open. 🙁 I am one that cannot open jars. I joke with my husband here and there about it, but honestly, I just want him to take a couple seconds and open them. They're probably expired at this point....
/r/PurplePillDebate15/02/19 08:21 AM
2

Where does the sense of security come from? I mean sure, everyone is out for themselves, but why is it so wrong a woman test a man for a child's security, or a man test a woman that she'll stand by him? Those are our insecurities, aren't they?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 06:11 AM
1

Thank you for your post. It's a very daunting adventure for a woman to test the waters with a potential mate these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/02/19 04:30 AM
11

I don't understand why people are looking for approval for their wants. Have your wants. Yes, your pool of options will be reduced, but who cares? It just means you have to fight harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 04:55 AM
1

I think my husband forgives me when I mess up. It's more I struggle to forgive myself. I want to do my best, and sometimes it's just not good enough. I will honestly dwell on these things for quite some time. I have this performance anxiety that I inherently know is a flaw. If someone is watching, you bet I will fumble.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 04:43 AM
1

Yep, I do. I can rabbit - hole it away if I want, but honestly, I just wanted to have sex, and not the imaginings in my head. I was tired of restraining myself forever while everyone around me seemed so content with it. It was with the first guy that actually hit on me AND pursued me at 17. It was a three - some with another girl. I did not feel awesome afterward. I basically became a nut job for a while. The hardest thing was having to take the promise ring off that I wore for 4 years. I felt d…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/19 03:32 AM
6

I definitely think women's sexuality is reactive. I know I'm certainly not turned on when my husband asks for a blow job and he's a limp noodle. In a way, it hurts my sexual ego.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/02/19 02:05 AM
1

Oh.... 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 11:39 PM
2

I would argue that the adult adolescence is going beyond the 30's. My dad is 50-something and just up and left a job and screwed my brother over on a rental lease agreement that bombed his good credit score, to move to a different state. Oh, not to mention wrecked my brother's car that he was still making payments on. I can't even have an adult conversation with my dad. (Thanks for letting me rant.)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 05:55 PM
2

I think I remember it taking about five years with the first one...
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 05:44 AM
5

Damn straight. Haven't you heard of mom brain? It's a condition I'm suffering from and my husband and I are debating on when or if it will ever end....
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 05:06 AM
2

Exactly, you help the guy in a wheelchair.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 05:04 AM
4

Where is my suitcase - carrying man?? I had to carry that plus a 16lb baby in a baby car seat across a hospital today.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/02/19 05:03 AM
1

Hmm, probably nothing. Either last year or the year before, I quickly crocheted some hearts, made a dinner for two, and bought my husband a box of chocolates.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/02/19 11:04 PM
1

It helps if you talk about it first, but yeah, my husband and I agreed to save the baby (if the situation came up) when I was pregnant with our first. I also told him he could keep me around for sex if i were in a vegetative state.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 05:38 PM
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Yeah, I'm not going to do the whole engage conversation while I know you're bored, with my husband. If I feel that from him, I'm going to shut right up and let him do his thing. Thankfully, he lets me know when he rather do something else. I find it sad that you've decided to be with people that you can't at least talk at with. I promise, if you have the right woman, even if your interested topic isn't something she understands or actively pursues, she'll try her best to grasp it in enough time.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 08:38 AM
3

I just played yahtzee with my husband the other day and can you believe it, he got a yahtzee in his first turn! He told me it was talent. 😮
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 07:42 AM
1

My husband sometimes has to work extreme hours and I wish more than anything that he could get off at a decent time. I need to work on restraining myself in that. He'll say, "Hey, it's a good paycheck." I know he's saying that so that he can accept having to work the hours, but I can't help reminding him that I rather have him home. I don't know if when I say that that it is helpful or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 07:16 AM
1

Who cares what preference people have? Have your preferences.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 03:42 AM
3

Well, I personally don't baby my children. They test your boundaries while you help them learn to establish theirs. In relationships, boundaries should already be established before you get married.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 03:29 AM
2

Having children do change perspective. First thing, give up on perfectionism and absolute cleanliness. I feel accomplished if I get laundry assorted into piles. It's unfortunate you don't want children. They teach you patience, boundaries, and compromise.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 02:34 AM
3

Does asking for cuddles count?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 02:19 AM
3

My husband says he will clean the stove, but I know he means, "Kitten, I messed up the stove. Can you please clean it when you get a chance?" Sheesh, it's not that big of a deal.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 02:17 AM
2

Hmm, my husband and I were reading this thread and he just told me to remind him to do something he's needed to do for a while now. I said, "will it be nagging?" 😁 He replied, "Yes, definitely nag." See, it can be nice to have a good nag.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/02/19 02:11 AM
2

Lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 03:35 PM
1

Who buys that shit?!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 03:47 AM
1

I can't name makeup brands. Damn it.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 03:45 AM
1

I don't know about that. My husband picks out my clothes...
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 03:43 AM
1

No, he should have been asking her for a bj.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 03:37 AM
2

Good thing I don't keep sexy friends....
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/19 03:36 AM
2

My husband and I were drinking the other night and I remember saying, "At least there's wife goggles." Then he retorted, "There's no wife goggles for you." Dang, guess I'll get all old and he will go and get wife number 3. 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate27/01/19 01:28 AM
3

I think I found genuine love from one of them, but thank you. The negativity should go though.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 10:59 AM
0

Maybe I'm a racist. Maybe I'm a classist, or maybe, I'm just judgmental of words.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 07:40 AM
1

I won the lottery!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 06:18 AM
1

Okay....
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 06:15 AM
2

True that.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 06:14 AM
3

What is it with you people??
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 06:12 AM
4

Why would you say that? I'm already having to attempt to demand my husband see doctors here and there. Would you really want your love to die?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/01/19 06:11 AM
1

I'm sure he thinks of me sometimes. 🙂
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 06:31 PM
1

For me, I just pretend he's thinking of me when we have sex, and all is good! Men are going to look. I try to spot them first and make sure my eyes are averted so I don't have to feel the spark of jealousy. It was super awful while I was a land whale during pregnancy though. I was jealous of everyone, even people I knew he wasn't attracted to. I'm insecure as well. Find ways to put a lid on it. Not everyone is built for confidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 03:41 PM
1

Why did you cut your hair off at 11?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 08:30 AM
1

Fuck your noise.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 05:45 AM
1

Chopping your hair off is the first realization that you fucked up, and you don't even realize it then, it takes several times later. Why chop your hair off? Is it appealing? I chopped my own hair off at one point. I was told it "looked cute". You only chop it off because you fucked up.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/19 05:44 AM
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30 and 3 times. Yeah, my husband is awesome. I don't know if I can believe in two being the cap. Hell, I wouldn't make it through the day if we didn't get to talk to each other with Bluetooth headsets. Most mornings I try to get double hugs and kisses before he leaves for work. He's my world and yeah, I've been known to cry because I messed up eggs. He'll eat them however, realistically, but for me, it's like my daily expression of love.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 06:17 AM
1

I'll have to think on that some more but you could say I become aroused the more aroused he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 04:06 AM
2

Yeah, I'm a weirdo and have never lost my periods, even when my bmi was like 14.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 03:09 AM
1

Good for you! Sometimes we can surprise ourselves!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 02:23 AM
1

Well I do like giving my husband blowjobs but I definitely don't expect my mouth to orgasm hence no need to be horny.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 02:22 AM
2

You don't have to be horny to give your husband a surprise blow job.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 01:07 AM
2

I think it's definitely helpful to look at bone structure in determining ideal weight. My best friend and I are both the same height. I'm small - framed so I look healthiest underweight. She's a more solid looking person so she'd probably look sick. Unfortunately she's been obese most of her life and every time I see her, she's bigger than before. It upsets me quite a bit. We were both pregnant together and I do personally blame her obesity for losing her baby at 24 weeks. I think bmi is general…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/01/19 12:18 AM
2

We're all down with the flu. I haven't had the flu since a child. It's been hard watching baby have the flu. We went and got a jumper for him. We did a trial in the store. He likes it. I like smiling baby over I need tylonol to keep baby conscious.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 06:13 AM
1

What defines male and female relashionship?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/19 05:43 AM
1

I'm sure it helps to have a mom in the household for starters.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/01/19 12:21 AM
1

Who is Marni and kesdia noble? Are they white?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/01/19 05:23 AM
1

Everything he chooses to do. What's your point?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 08:28 AM
1

Hmm, what was it, women are the gatekeepers of sex? It's not that I need to get my jimmy's off when having sex, it's that my husband still wants sex with me, but yeah, if a week goes by and my love hasn't asked me for at least a blow job, I start getting concerned. It will probably change as we age.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 04:19 AM
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Yeah, my husband keeps insisting that when we're done having kids, I'll get some double D's, some tummy tuck business, and I don't know, a new head or something. I keep insisting that people look weird with plastic surgery when they're older, but good God, I'll do it! (Granted, it's not some character build game where you can say, "whoops, made those boobs too big....")
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 04:15 AM
1

Why do people need gyms?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 02:42 AM
2

There's only so many blow jobs in the world.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/01/19 02:40 AM
1

Thank you. I forgot that I need to schedule something for the vehicle by the 5th.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/12/18 07:15 AM
1

All women are attracted to the best that they can have. The difference? Holy hell, you'll starve yourself so he will pick you out of all his options. You'll do whatever it takes for you to be the one he eventually picks. God damn, I just had a baby and I lost 35 lbs in three months so my husband doesn't haven't to close his eyes as I blow him. "High value" what the fuck does that mean? Seriously, what are people deluding themselves with? Watch "there will be blood". I finally watched it with my …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 09:52 AM
1

Oh no, gamble your life essence like some video game guy. How many imaginary points do you lose by marriage? Jesus Christ. I got married, literally married in a court house. It's words. It really boils down to words and who you are as as a human being. What are you? Are you really going to allow mere words to define you? I can tell you that I was caught off guard when so and so told me to to say magical words at a court house wedding. I love my husband. I love him more, most, than anyone can bel…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 09:37 AM
1

"connected". What defines that? I am my husband. God damn, is there anything different or am I wrong.l?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/12/18 09:24 AM
0

I like that you put 25 or younger.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/18 07:53 AM
1

It's Friday!! I can't wait for my husband to be done with work! 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 07:04 PM
2

Health insurance for babies is pretty special.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 05:47 PM
1

I think some people confuse the concept of love with the infatuation stage of a relationship. I think love for me when I say I love my husband is me acknowledging him as he is and for what he does. Sometimes I say it more often, sometimes less. Love is a dangerous thing because it encompasses so much, yet is condensed down to a few words. What is my husband thinking as he says those words in return, you know? Is it like saying thank you, as manners go?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/18 05:36 PM
1

Don't you wonder whether they genetically rape themselves?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 06:42 AM
2

Yeah, my husband comes home tired, actually tired. He wants sex, I want him to sex me. We're human beings. Sometimes the blow job wins, other times we have surprise sex in the middle of the night after he's rested a little bit and we get the opportunity to be next to each other, or hey, both! Surprising, but you can want sex and just not be capable of it. I'd gladly give him a blow job knowing what he actually wanted to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 05:52 AM
2

The best hair cuts I had was a girl that would cut my hair in her kitchen as long as I typed her papers for her. It was a good exchange. Since that time, I've had maybe two haircuts I was actually happy with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/18 04:29 AM
5

I always wanted to run a bookstore/coffeeshop. 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 09:06 PM
2

Are you saying to accept something and then deny it by mitigating it on others? It's hard to believe, but some people are just doormats by nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 08:59 AM
5

I've never worked in an office environment. This reminds me of when I was growing up in good 'ole Floriida, where there was a dress code for school. History says it was because some fool was being bullied for their clothing and not being in the 'it' crowd. I grew up wearing uniforms. The bullying doesn't change. Changing dress code is not going to change human nature.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/18 08:51 AM
5

Why is she out in the "clubs" in the first place?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/18 05:28 AM
8

I think having children really do indeed mess with the brain for a woman. Before I had my first son, I couldn't imagine bringing anything into this world. I stared at a dollar store test strip and thought for a good minute what I could do and decided not to. Now? Now, children hijack my mind. I can't imagine a world without them. You're right in that deciding to have a child is one of the most vulnerable positions a woman can place herself. You are utterly vulnerable. I laugh at all this, "a wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 06:16 AM
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I find this sad but understandable. Of course pregnancy wrecks the body. Children require sacrifice. Sacrifice in itself is used in a negative context, but why should it? And what will you enjoy when you are old?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/18 04:10 AM
1

I think my husband should make a post about how the internet has skewed people's realistic perspectives of themselves. We've talked about it and I agree that it would be a good thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 07:56 AM
1

My husband didn't propose to me on his knees and my beautiful wedding ring came from Amazon for $20.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 06:10 AM
1

You sound like a potential stalker honestly. What other teenage failings did you have? Anxiety is not the end all, be all to a person. There's usually more to it. I'm not against your proposal perse, I'm more worried about your reasons for doing it.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/18 05:26 AM
3

I don't think I really like being tied up. I can't fight back. At least if I lose, I know I tried.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/18 05:06 AM
4

Okay, society at large? Women have been lied to, men have been lied to. I listen to my husband's nieces think they're super heroes and his nephew think he can't lose at anything. Stop lying to children. A woman cannot lift a truck, and a boy is going to be terrible at some things. My example was that women do suffer repercussions from their actions contrary to this seeming "a woman can do no wrong!" nonsense. So what if society convinces people otherwise? That's on them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/18 11:51 AM
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And this response is a man response. I relate by speaking about what I've been through. I'm not a man. I can't understand "man". You say all this girl privilege, what girl privilege? How does any of this influence you unless you let it?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/18 10:51 AM
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I'm not personally seeing where I said ,"who hurt you?" I sit with some severe scars across my body from bearing children, but you know, girl power! Honestly, I was hoping to inspire you to look outside of the nonsense and realize yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/18 10:33 AM
3

Yes, my husband settled for me. I don't understand "settled". You mean, made a decision based off of other options available? I find it wise for someone to look at all their cards and play their best hand. Good God. If he went for the best thing available, it would be some 15 year old virgin that was also somehow a porn star that liked someone approaching 40? The vanity, I swear.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/18 10:20 AM
3

Who are you looking for approval from? I don't understand. So what if society paints one picture of the world. What's your world? Are you making that a reality "for you"?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/18 10:06 AM
1

What does "settling" even mean? I look at it as realizing yourself and letting go of the ego. Settling.... Am I a virgin settling for another virgin? C'mon! Let's not kid. Cynasism. My husband introduced me to this forum and so far, I'm pretty appalled. Most of these questions can be answered by the original poster acknowledging his/her own posts.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/18 09:58 AM
1

And what, give you a concussion?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/18 06:55 AM
1

Oh fuck off with this at least he tried. "Does your coffee taste good"?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 08:13 AM
1

What if what I'm thinking about isn't about sex? You think it's all just about sex? I can orgasm whenever I want. If I want. You think that's why I love?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 08:10 AM
1

Does he even like me
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 08:07 AM
1

Does he even like me
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/18 08:07 AM
1

I'm surprised how many of these comments mention grade school. In my mind, I always viewed bullying beyond that.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/18 06:32 AM
3

What does ymmv mean? I'm new to all the slang.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/18 12:45 PM
2

My experience has been no, you cannot be friends. It's unfortunate because opposite sexes really do, in my opinion, have insights you're just not going to get with your own sex. I was friends with a couple guys for like a decade until they came clean with what they wanted. Haven't talked to them since. I brought it up to my husband once if say worst case scenario happened and he told me the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/18 12:25 PM
2

Porn is men making porn with women in the background.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/18 11:48 AM
2

I like how people assumes a woman who is in the throws of divorce has some secret desire to utterly ruin him. That has not been my experience. Why would I ruin a man? He ruins himself.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/18 06:56 AM
2

What was your wife's relationship with you before your kid? I'm not seeing that mentioned but maybe implied? My husband is the first thing on my mind. Having a baby has made that a lot more difficult, but you bet I rather burn some eggs with a baby for him and cry about it than do no eggs at all. I promise he sees my efforts. Tell me about things before the kid and then maybe that will help explain your resentment. You are right though, you're not taking charge. It sounds like you're not letting…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/18 04:55 AM
1

On an internet forum. We emailed for a few months and then got together. Best decision of my life! We've been together for about 2 1/2 years now.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/18 04:55 AM
5

Thanks for the insight. I get hating the game though.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/18 05:05 AM
1

Do you think social skills are associated with a sense of caring? I have very few friends but the ones I have, I care about quite a bit and assume they care about me too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/18 03:30 AM
1

Can you please clarify?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/18 03:27 AM
3

Just had a baby a couple months ago but currently 5'4, 103 lbs. I'm an anorexic so weight loss is kind of my thing. No woman wants some scrawny anorexic dude.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/18 03:24 AM
3

My husband and I watched a homeless woman pee outside of a drive-thru and wipe herself with her own hat before putting it back on her head. It was pretty disgusting but I'd argue it's still possible for a woman to pee anywhere.... We just stared at each other like, "Yeah, that just happened."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 02:01 PM
1

Women can get hair thinning too.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 09:29 AM
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No, I would much rather not be a man. A man is in constant competition in a different way. Would I still be the same height? Would I still be the same weight? If so, I'd have a smaller set of pickings. Even when a man is successful, he is trodden over in the hopes that less successful men can somehow what, usurp him? Women complement each other even when you know it's fake. Would I still be introverted with some awful social skills? Might as well give up on having to ask girls out. A lot of nega…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/18 08:50 AM
3

We have the same goals for children and the future for said children. He can have his fantasies and I can have mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 05:29 AM
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The polygymy thing for me stems from me feeling inferior. My husband already tried it in a way before we were married. There was some co-worker he found attractive and he asked why I wouldn't blah blah blah. It doesn't matter my response. By him wanting so and so dumb bimbo, I'm inferior. Men don't want to just have things, they want things to want it the way they want it. I think that's the core to polygemy. They don't just want some harem of women, they want the women to also somehow want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/18 04:18 AM
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You just have to get to know him first, and beneath the surface, you'll find that he's extremely devoted, kind, caring, and would make a great boyfriend...except for the fact that you're not attracted to him. Just add woman to your comment and it could reflect just about any introverted person. He doesn't want to admit that he's got the formula wrong. That he's been playing the wrong game by the wrong rules all this time and that the honest fact is that he's a loser. Loser, sure, but the game ne…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/18 04:53 AM
3

I've never personally felt like a man needs to "provide". It's more important that he's driven.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/18 02:45 AM
1

This cruise control thing. I've never grasped it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/18 08:29 AM
1

Man, the entry to the second season of Dirk gently just killed me. So unfortunate. Oh well, back to Star trek voyager.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/11/18 08:21 AM
3

Babies sure make for amazing alarm clocks....
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 10:58 PM
1

What is volcel? Hard to keep up with all these terms.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 02:57 PM
1

Damnit, this is what I get for letting my husband take over.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 06:02 AM
1

Are you going on a cruise?! Wait! I meant were you going on a cruise. Croooo9ozer
/r/PurplePillDebate02/11/18 06:01 AM
5

I feel like the center of attention if my husband "takes" advantage of me. In honesty though, I think people obsessed with power and domination experienced powerlessness at some point.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 04:26 AM
1

Can you please define love and connection?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/18 04:03 AM
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Unfortunately.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 07:14 PM
4

Maybe aloof isn't the best description, maybe he's just dense? I mean once he starts talking, he goes forever. He's had plenty of dating opportunities and never goes for them. He even told me that he had a girl in his room once and was annoyed that she didn't want to talk.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 07:12 PM
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My brother is probably one of the most aloof people I know and he's still a virgin at almost 30. I agree with this to an extent.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 04:47 AM
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Don't forget that she somehow "fixes" him or opens him up to all his potential.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/18 04:44 AM
1

Oh, she says she loves him when he finally wakes up. Just going off my aunt and uncle. Classic example of what you're talking about. Boob job and all. They've been married for 20+ years. He's head fire chief of some city. He finally realizes he lost out on the family life, finds another woman, and she suddenly wakes up to her femininity and has emotions. In her defence, they met at a gym where they both won a weight-lifting competition.... Don't get confused. The man is "winning" too. He has a s…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 05:54 AM
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There are definitely women who are attracted to this "status" you're hinting at. Don't worry, the men can see it while they delve themselves in WOW and their work, and wonder why their wives got a boob job with their money and purchases all this lingerie she never wears in front of him. This man that your speak of is like my experience with girl hierarchy. No man wants some loud-mouthed bitch, but guess who wins the chicken coop?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 05:32 AM
1

I don't have much for friends but when I was a teenager, I fantasized quite a bit while I was a virgin. It wasn't people though, more like scenarios. Now I just either imagine the sex I've had with my husband or draw on his fantasies that he's shared with me. He has a better imagination. When our sex life is good, I don't have to fantasize, but when I was pregnant, probably a couple times a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/18 02:15 AM
2

I second the habitica app. I went through a couple years of feeling pretty unaccomplished. I make lists to this day and they can appear really simple sometimes but I swear, just being able to mark off that I switched the laundry over can make a big difference and hopefully prevent the negativity from taking hold. They're personal goals and it doesn't matter how insignificant or mundane they appear to others.
/r/RedPillWives29/10/18 09:32 PM
2

We're taking the chit'lins out. We already had a family get together where everyone dressed up. My husband and I were a nun and priest. We thought about making the newborn a demon spawn thing but he ended up being a skeleton like one of his older brothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/18 02:57 AM
2

you are welcome!
/r/RedPillWives26/10/18 03:27 AM
2

Here's the video I hope it helps get you started!
/r/RedPillWives26/10/18 03:04 AM
5

I always thought women liked taller men because they can reach the top shelf at the grocery store or see over a crowd of people.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/18 03:51 PM
3

I will have to have my husband show me how to post a YouTube video on here.🙂 I'm kind of new to these forums. If you can't wait, just plug in "beginner crochet" in the search bar. It helps to just repeat the same stitches over and over again until it becomes second nature. I also followed videos of patterns for a while before I tried reading patterns. It's very therapeutic, crocheting and knitting.
/r/RedPillWives24/10/18 04:38 PM
1

I think the way men seem to handle their friendships is something admirable. They are great at talking about subjects that go beyond small talk. For women, I'd say the kindness they tend to show to others, especially in awkward moments. As for both men and women, everyone is awesome when they smile.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/18 04:03 AM
1

With my husband, sometimes we drink and do some silly dancing, we play videogames, board games, go on walks, watch the occasional funny YouTube video. I hope I'm fun to be around. 😮
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/18 10:04 PM
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I found a website called Allrecipes. You can find recipes for all skill levels, there's plenty of user reviews (sometimes a lot of great suggestions), and most of the recipes come with videos. I also use an app called recipe keeper that can export recipes from the internet or you can manually enter them. As to hobbies, I started out crocheting by watching YouTube videos and can now knit and all kinds of things. It definitely took some time, I'd say longer than six months to make anything decent …
/r/RedPillWives23/10/18 06:58 PM
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The biggest problem I've found in LTRs is eventually knowing so much about him that the stories become broken records. I'm hoping creating a ton of new memories combats that. 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/18 08:12 PM
6

Hmm, I think I dress to the level my husband dresses for the most part. If he's doing pajamas, you bet I'm joining him in a pajama party.
/r/RedPillWives22/10/18 08:08 PM
1

Does my husband hitting on me count?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 10:26 PM
1

Im sure you could convince her to join you in your lifestyle or you would find her in all the arenas that you visit, like the gym. How would you meet someone that's not compatible with your choice of life?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 08:01 AM
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There's no way to help the creepy guy because they validate their actions no matter what you say. One of my roommates is creepy beyond hell. I try my best to be as blunt in my replies as I can be.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/18 07:54 AM
1

It only bothers me when my husband brings it up. I'm going to be 30 soon enough and before him, I was in the mindset of calling wrinkles laugh lines, positive terms more or less.☹️
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/18 06:31 PM
2

Sounds like you have a pretty great family!
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 02:42 PM
1

Don't really talk to my mother. She abandoned me and my brother when we were 5, I reconnected with her at 25, talked for a while, definitely craved the emotional connection like crazy, and then we just kind of quit talking. I think I've decided to wall her off so I don't have to feel abandoned again.I should probably call her at some point.... My best friend on the other hand, talks to her mom constantly, like a friend or something. I've listened to them interact as we grew up, and I don't know,…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/18 02:39 PM
4

I would never break up with my husband over that. He does surprise sex any time he wants. The real issue is why he's angry with her. They need to work on communication.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 08:49 PM
8

My husband and I talked about this at some point. When I'm angry at external things, I attack inward or at myself. My husband said for him, he thought about attacking outwards. When he was going through a divorce, he thought about killing lots of people. Maybe it involves where the anger is directed?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/18 04:08 AM
1

It seems likely that husbands go through periods of finding their wives unattractive. My husband was repulsed by me being pregnant. Can't help those things and I couldn't blame him for it. It's been 3 weeks since I gave birth and what's more important now in my mind is that we reestablish a sex life. We can't resume the lifestyle we had before kids. I feel pretty intimidated by sex right now, but that's because I've gone so long and I no longer feel 'sexy'. Right now, we're kind of floundering a…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/10/18 06:11 PM
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It's an adjustment, but as long as a baby's immediate needs are met, yes, my husband's needs are my top priority. I'm still trying to figure out how to make it all work though. I've messed up breakfast a couple times already....
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 04:57 AM
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I have a hillbilly cousin who manages to do this gold digger thing. She had several kids and was a stripper with big boobs. Maybe it's the stripping? The last time we met, she kissed me on the cheek while I cashiered at a gas station, told me she was back in Floooridaa because she was running from cps trying to take her baby. She pointed at some muscle guy that was her bouncer/boyfriend/maybe father of current seed in her belly, and preceded to tell me about how she was pregnant and only had to …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 04:33 AM
1

What about a meat grinder?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 04:05 AM
2

Let me try this again. I think my significant other likes my dorkiness a little, and I'm hoping he likes my food. I think he enjoys super cuddles with me. Hmm, I know he enjoys it when I give him surprises. He says I'm an awful dancer but I know he secretly likes dancing with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 04:01 AM
1

My mistake. I'm on seven shots of delicious vodka.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 03:51 AM
0

I love watching my husband walk around in public and if something bothers him, he'll have the most obvious disgusted expression. (It's usually when we are at Walmart or IHOP) His OCD tendencies shine through when he talks about a subject that interests him. He'll pace around and 'fix' things or another number of little things. I love watching him with our newborn. I've taken several pictures because I can't help it. I'm blessed to get to talk to him while he's at work and get to enjoy listening …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/18 03:44 AM
1

Hmm, I did marry a law abiding drinker, so I'm going with that!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/10/18 02:42 PM
1

Umm, I think I want more sex since I had my baby, but I have to wait. I already told my husband that the bathroom is probably going to be our getting it on room.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 06:16 AM
1

I'm just sad I can't drink because I have elevated liver enzymes.... 😢
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/18 06:13 AM
1

I think online communication is tremendously helpful for those of us with poor social skills. I met my husband on the internet and I always view it as the luckiest moment of my life! 😍 Can it be damaging in certain circumstances? I think it can. I'm amazed at how glued people are to their phones in social settings in the real world. My husband likes to troll the internet so I can see where people might lose sight of there being actual people on the other side of the screen. It's a mixed blessing…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/18 04:00 PM
1

My husband and I share similar overall values I think. We definitely have different interests. (He's way more into politics and I could hardly care). He's extroverted, I'm introverted. We both enjoy people watching. He's far more educated but I like to think we have pretty good talks. We're both of European descent. He's tall, I'm average. He has a dominating presence and I'm pretty good at being invisible. We both enjoy video games and a few drinks. Yeah, I'd say we're a good mix of both.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/18 04:18 PM
4

Do you think it might in part have to do with mass immigration?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/18 03:31 AM
2

They do certainly hand out antibiotics for just about anything....
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/18 03:22 AM
1

F/none/29 Well shoot. I'm unremarkable and boring unless there's some alcohol involved. I would rather be unremarkable but fun and also have that in a partner. Thankfully my husband is attractive and fun! 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/18 04:06 PM
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Has she thought about looking into some therapy? Maybe she's using sex for those feel good hormones....
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/18 03:53 PM
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This is true. I value honesty quite a bit. I feel it gives me real choices. Thank you for understanding.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 09:55 PM
1

Of course he could hide it. I guess I was trying to show that you can communicate through some tough things. He chose to be honest about how he was feeling and our relationship is the better because of it. There's a lot of things that can mess with the sexual and emotional aspects of relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 09:48 PM
1

I definitely agree that emotional fulfillment is as important as sex, but I also feel sex can be a part of that emotional fulfillment. I think one of the worst things a man can do to his woman is pretend like she doesn't exist. It happened to me a little while ago from my husband and I swear I about went insane. I remember just being a tear-bucket for a while. He's since explained himself and I feel we're back to being emotionally connected. He finds me unattractive (understandable, I'm pregnant…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 08:49 PM
2

I do all the inside chores and my husband does the outside ones. I use a fun app called habitica to keep me motivated and feeling accomplished. I would say cooking takes the longest to do and can be up to an hour at a time, but I probably use a couple hours a day devoted to chores. I make a habit to skip certain chores on the weekends, like laundry and dishes (dishes still have to be rinsed off). I definitely keep a schedule. It feels good to mark things off. I sometimes feel like I'm not pullin…
/r/RedPillWives28/08/18 05:18 PM
2

Hmm, I think distance and meeting through a forum allowed my husband and I to get to know each other and for sex to come later. We've discussed it but if we'd have met in person first and he had tried the pick up, I would have awkwardly failed and he would have moved on to the next girl who passed his fancy. Maybe if you're young, a man can convince you that there's more to you than his interest in what underwear you're wearing. Just giving you a compliment that deviates from your physical appea…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 05:06 PM
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Cause guys don't have any kind of fantasy like this?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/18 04:36 AM
2

I think it's more like I try to live up to his standards. Unfortunately, I can't reverse aging. I believe the only things I try to hold him to are the ones he wishes for me to remind him of.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/18 10:31 PM
1

This is why I hate customer service jobs. It plays on the illusion of invitation. I suck at eye contact in general and have to make a conscious effort. It helps to stare at a feature on someone's face that's slightly away from the eyes, otherwise I get stuck with such thoughts, "Look at the eyes, look at the eyes!" It makes listening a little difficult.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/18 04:30 AM
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Dear Lord, I feel so embarrassed once I realize I'm pmsing and try my best to apologize if necessary and to make sure my husband's aware of it. It's like the logic filter is useless no matter what I tell myself. I usually cry a lot, think a bunch of irrational nonsense, and brew a bit of self loathing. I don't think he should have to put up with my behavior at all but i believe in communicating and fessing up when I don't feel like I'm 100%.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/18 04:15 AM
1

It's irritating when women play dumb for male attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/18 03:28 AM
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