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Happens to us all every so often!
/r/PussyPassDenied12/07/20 05:31 AM
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The person above you is asking for an explanation from the person above them thinks it isn’t rape.
/r/PussyPassDenied12/07/20 03:28 AM
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I agree with you totally, other than displaying myself as a fuckboy 😂 I’m more than that! But if sex is all she wants, and all I’m gonna get, I’ll take it!
/r/seduction16/07/19 02:29 PM
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I don’t see this as being ‘beta’ (I agree, thinking in that way is destructive), but I do think that it’s easy to be seen as ‘just a good friend ‘ if you’re seen primarily as someone who’s there for her to process her feelings.
/r/seduction16/07/19 01:27 PM
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On the extended social circle thing, I’m definitely aware that there are extra challenges there. As a person with a disability, though, I’ve always found it valuable to have someone who has gotten to know me as a person- it helps get past the wheelchair, which I know this particular woman is. Your post is pretty darn comprehensive, and full of good advice. Thanks!
/r/seduction16/07/19 07:31 AM
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/r/seduction14/03/19 07:09 AM
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You’re afraid a woman will shame you... has it ever actually happened?
/r/seduction14/03/19 07:07 AM
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Writing my list now. This is a great exercise! Really helps put your ‘frame ‘ in perspective.
/r/seduction14/03/19 06:56 AM
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If your approach to attracting people is to try to downplay and focus on your weaknesses instead of emphasizing your strengths as a person, you’re doing it wrong.
/r/seduction14/03/19 06:46 AM
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I am so glad you posted this! I’m a wheelchair user as well, and honestly, I’ve struggled with a lot of the same things. It takes time to build a relationship with someone you trust, and I’ve definitely had the same “Is she flirting, or just being friendly because she feels she has to, or is just a bubbly person?” question. Honestly, the best thing I’ve done for myself is to go from assuming the second, to assuming she’s flirting, until she indicates otherwise. There is really no harm in it! One…
/r/seduction14/03/19 06:32 AM
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‘Tis true, and I googled it right after I asked, but I figured I’d leave my question up, and save others the trouble.
/r/seduction18/09/18 04:07 PM
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‘Tis true, and I googled it right after I asked, but I figured I’d leave my question up, and save others the trouble.
/r/seduction18/09/18 04:02 PM
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What’s that?
/r/seduction17/09/18 07:16 PM
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Make it more personal, and ask for her number in private. That way, the pressure is off her to contact you (girls don’t like to be the one who has to initiate, in general), and she doesn’t feel any pressure from your mutual friends. Her attraction to you should be about you, not about feeling pressure to take things further.
/r/seduction14/08/18 05:25 AM
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Thats wayyyyyyy too much pressure on her.
/r/seduction14/08/18 04:58 AM
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You are completely missing the point of the quote, which is that while there are general rules about attractiveness, in the end everyone has their own subjective ideas, so don't beat yourself up over every rejection. Which is one of the major points of this sub.
/r/seduction11/09/17 09:31 PM
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Careful, you're making yourself sound like an expert.
/r/seduction11/09/17 12:27 AM
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Practice doing these things until you don't have to be deliberate about them.
/r/seduction08/09/17 05:17 AM
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I've never just walked up to someone and told them they were cute, and this is a little different, but one thing I've noticed is that it greatly pays to pay attention and score some social points with that less attractive friend. First, i's just a decent thing not to ignore a girl just because she isn't attractive, and it also shows your target you're not just there to get in her pants.
/r/seduction08/09/17 05:15 AM
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I'm in my 30's so... It's all about the Xanga!
/r/seduction04/09/17 07:21 PM
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Don't be a fuckboy. But really, though- be something more.
/r/seduction05/06/17 08:17 AM
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Came here to say that- I play and coach basketball weekly, and have been out for about a month with a shoulder injury. Getting back in the gym today, and the rest of the afternoon/evening, made me realize how much better it makes me feel. It's important not to limit your thinking to 'gym' meaning lifting weights or getting on a treadmill, either. Excercise is excercise, and you'll get more out of it, and be more likely to stick to it, if you find the kind you enjoy.
/r/seduction04/06/17 06:47 AM
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Solid! I've been looking for something that breaks everything down so straightforwardly. I would only add Escalate. Can't say how many opportunities I've lost because I was afraid to 'take it to the next level'.
/r/seduction21/05/17 03:01 AM
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Liking someone isn't wrong! But I've found that giving in to every desire for the person immediately, whether it's the urge to text or obsessive thinking, can result in them feeling overwhelmed by you, or those feelings leaving you quickly altogether. I would definitely recommend mindfulness meditation- it will teach and train you how to observe your thoughts, without stressing out about them.
/r/seduction20/12/16 08:30 PM
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This is such an underestimated truth. One night many years ago, I was at a favorite bar of mine, that plays dance music on the weekends. No one was dancing but three or so of us oddball guys. Slowly, people started to take notice, and joined us. Social proof plus not giving a shit can make you feel godlike.
/r/seduction03/12/16 05:38 AM
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Good, I'm glad we're doing it no more.
/r/seduction27/12/14 01:24 AM
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Thanks for this reminder. I had a situation recently where a girl I'm into invited herself to go with me to a museum I absolutely love. A lot of the museum is geared to kids, so l worried about her perception of me, but I should probably take it as a sign instead that she's interested in being with me, even if it is just some silly museum.
/r/seduction17/09/14 10:36 PM
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Great advice. In a world full of distractions, actually being in the present moment is a lot more rare, and a lot more helpful, than most people realize. In response to some of the comments here- in my experience, mindfulness is the opposite of overthinking, and more importantly, overreacting- it's the dispassionate (unattached to outcome) observation of your inner and outer experiences, which often leads to greater enjoyment of your experiences, or an urge to change them. And far from being som…
/r/seduction08/09/14 01:05 AM
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If I had a disability I would not try to pick up girls without a disability. Looking through these replies one would imagine a disabled person is a completely different race of human or something. Do you see how those two statements contradict each other?
/r/seduction02/07/14 04:57 AM
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Thanks for this reminder. I'm usually fine with going out solo, but I really needed this message tonight, since I feel like I'm failing compared to others I'm around. Need to stop that, and concentrate on myself. Here I go!
/r/seduction29/06/14 05:38 AM
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Haha, I LOVE the "let's talk about your legs instead." Totally gonna use that :) I'm totally open when it comes to talking about my disability, but I can see that coming in handy.
/r/seduction25/06/14 08:26 AM
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Hahaha- DING DING!!
/r/seduction25/06/14 08:22 AM
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I have totally found this to be true. When I'm out there in my wheelchair, caring more about having fun than looking good, I attract great attention.
/r/seduction25/06/14 08:21 AM
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wheelchair circles Those are called 'tires'... I kid, I kid ;) I actually have no idea what you mean by that. Of course we're not all picking up HB9s, just like the average guy isn't picking up HB9s every night. Where are you getting these ideas from?
/r/seduction25/06/14 08:15 AM
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How many guys in wheelchairs have you seen? Probably not too many, and you know why? Because many of us have been lead to believe people like you, who perpetuate the idea that we're unattractive and hopeless, and should be home playing video games. Your comments lead me to believe you wouldn't find a woman with a disability attractive, and you're projecting that. It takes extra effort to have a sex life when you have a disability, to break down the preconceptions that people (like you) have buil…
/r/seduction25/06/14 07:33 AM
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I know this is not politically correct but girls don't fall for disabled people who do not have other very notable qualities. It's not that that's politically incorrect, it's just plain incorrect. Whether you have a disability or not, you have to have 'notable qualities' of SOME kind to be attractive. A good number of the guys I know who are wheelchair users have girlfriends, are married, and/or have kids.
/r/seduction25/06/14 04:09 AM
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You don't know anyone with a disability, do you?
/r/seduction25/06/14 04:07 AM
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I'm in the same position- chair user, and a 'virgin' at 30, although I've done basically everything except literal sex. I'm with you on the 'being nice to be nice' thing. It's hard to tell sometimes whether a girl is attracted, or just being extra friendly because she feels she has to be. I've learned it's always better to 'assume attraction', until she gives you a real reason to think otherwise.
/r/seduction25/06/14 04:05 AM
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I'm also a manual chair user, more or less starting out (or actually, restarting) with the relationship game. Would love to share experiences, tips, and whatever else. I've definitely found the same- if you're confident and outgoing, people tend to see people with 'setbacks' of any kind in a really positive way. I'm a pretty independent, active guy, so it feels weird to have people compliment me for something normal, like being in public and having a good time, but for the sake of being attracti…
/r/seduction25/06/14 03:56 AM
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"George"
/r/seduction08/06/14 02:48 PM
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I have problem with the first issue you mentioned, being with my own family, or friends who know me as a shy, reserved guy- the kind of guy I've been for a long time. I'd love to figure out how to get out of my shell around people who've always known me inside it.
/r/seduction01/06/14 03:19 AM
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Absolutely, this. It doesn't matter how well you dance, as much as how enthusiastically you dance. I once started a dance party at a bar, with two other strangers (both guys), because we had no idea how to dance in any kind of prescribed, organized way, but we just simply enjoyed the shit out of moving ourselves. Slowly, everyone else saw how much fun we were having, and wanted to join in. I felt like this guy.
/r/seduction01/06/14 03:06 AM
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I've been in a wheelchair my whole life, and I definitely identify with what you're saying, though because my 'injury' is from birth, I understand there's a difference, when you're missing things you used to do. I definitely have struggled with 'what does she think of me, and my different body?' Seddit has definitely helped me 'get out of my mind', and stop worrying about what others might think of me. The secret is to be so involved in what interests you, you forget about what others think- you…
/r/seduction31/05/14 01:55 PM
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"No, I'm not taking that bet."
/r/seduction26/05/14 07:49 AM
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I really like the "Happy ------day!" one. Can be used any time, and especially if it's a totally uneventful day of the week, like Tuesday, it creates an instant, humorous connection.
/r/seduction26/05/14 07:48 AM
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Oh, no, doing much better than that.
/r/seduction10/03/14 01:42 PM
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I'm you, but 29...! ( :-/ )
/r/seduction10/03/14 01:15 PM
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Be careful... in my experience, girls who come on this strong can be a little nuts...
/r/seduction01/03/14 08:21 PM
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I can't envision gong up to someone and it actually going well now. I think that's your problem right there. If you envision nothing but failure, how will you ever succeed?
/r/seduction01/03/14 08:19 PM
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I recently went out with a girl who was the most energetic go-getter I've ever met. She told me to pick a place to meet up, but it was crowded, so we met up with some of her friends at another place. And then another, and another. I kept escalating, and by the end of the night we were making out. The key is being confident and comfortable in going along with her, being flexible and fine with changes. Don't 'give in' and go along with what she wants to do because you don't know what you want to d…
/r/seduction15/02/14 06:13 AM
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I got into a situation recently where I realized I was being needy- It's been a long time since I really hit it off with a girl, but I went out with a former coworker, and we ended up making out at the end of the night, and almost going home together. I played it cool the next day, but then started sending a bunch of texts, which I think came across as needy. Moral of the story is, once you've got the girl, continue being yourself- it's good to be excited and interested in a girl, but don't let …
/r/seduction02/02/14 01:43 AM
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I have a history of being incredibly shy touching girls. One of my favorite ways is a high-five shared about something you both feel good about. It's not sexual, but it's a good way to break the ice physically. Get talking, find something you're both interested in, and high five while smiling, and looking at her eyes/face, not her hand. From then on, any more touching you do isn't completely out of the blue.
/r/seduction02/02/14 01:38 AM
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I've done a variation that really boosted me- just simply smiling and winking at girls you pass. I was surprised at first how many of them give great smiles back.
/r/seduction27/01/14 11:47 PM
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/r/seduction27/01/14 08:27 PM
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Most people with disabilities, including me, hate being called a hero for doing something completely normal. I still have so much to learn. But I see what you mean. Also, PSA: everyone with a functioning brain is a sexual person, except explicitly asexual people.
/r/seduction27/01/14 07:51 PM
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Wow. I'm trying to figure out where to start, but this article is just so utterly full of crap.
/r/seduction05/01/14 07:02 PM
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Exactly. It fits both perfectly.
/r/seduction05/01/14 12:53 AM
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A friend posted this on FB. I think it's interesting and worthwhile to note the different kinds of love and attraction we feel to others, and to ourself. I'd love to know more about different cultural attitudes, and names for love.
/r/seduction30/12/13 04:10 AM
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The way I see it, you're describing short, medium and longterm goals, which as you say, most people have backwards. #3 should be the aim 100% of the time, whether you're alone in your room or at club with an HB 10. It's how to live your life successfully, concentrating on what makes you a happy person. Once you've got that down, you can begin to think about #2 (if necessary), general ideas about how to interact with the opposite sex. Once you've got that down, you'll get into situations where yo…
/r/seduction29/12/13 06:45 AM
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This is how it's done- dance (or pick up girls, or do whatever) because you want to, not because you look good doing it, or because everyone else is. I had a similar experience a while back, went out to see if I could find any girls, ended up dancing in a bar with three similarly geeky male strangers, not giving a fuck. The girls followed, for sure.
/r/seduction20/10/13 12:45 AM
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What's the deal with changing venues? I've seen that here and there on this subreddit, but I've never seen a good explanation of why it's a good idea, other than isolating, which doesn't really apply when it's a date.
/r/seduction25/09/13 05:31 AM
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Thanks, this is nice and constructive. Our last outing was one-on-one, and I tried to get a bit of kino in, but felt like it wasn't enough. Definitely planning on escalating next time. I've always felt it awkward to flat-out ask someone "on a date", but if that's what it takes to clear everything up, that's what I'll do. Hoping to figure a few things out through body language, for sure.
/r/seduction25/09/13 04:28 AM
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Thanks, man. After getting dumped a couple years ago, I came away feeling really shitty about myself, but I've spent some time thinking about it, realized that I undeniably did some things wrong in that situation, and decided recently that I'm ready to get back in the game. For a long while, too, I could only remember what being IN a relationship felt like, and not how they start. Feels like I'm starting to get that feeling again.
/r/seduction22/09/13 03:02 PM
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I think looking at another person's lips for an extended period is supposed to give a sign that the person who's looking wants to kiss.
/r/seduction19/09/13 05:13 PM
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I've never understood the connection some people make between body type and introversion/extroversion... I'm a bigger and stronger guy, and am not socially outgoing at all.
/r/seduction27/08/13 07:50 PM
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I'm dealing with this right now- a girl I'm interested in, and I, both have schedules that are busy as can be. I'm always worried (from experience) that she'll find other interests besides me in the meantime, and probably end up texting or facebook messaging more than I should. Any hints on how to keep in touch, but not be too clingy/needy?
/r/seduction27/08/13 07:48 PM
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Including yourself.
/r/seduction26/08/13 08:37 PM
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I was going to say this, but it's better coming from a woman. Confidence is great, entitlement is horrible and creepy. Confidence is the idea that she deserves a great guy like you. If your persistence is coming from a place of confidence, it's simply showing her your good qualities. If you're coming from a place of lacking confidence, you're trying to convince her that she should find value in you, despite your lack of redeeming qualities. Entitlement, on the other hand, is the idea that a grea…
/r/seduction11/08/13 10:38 PM
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I like that! I'm definitely someone who gets glances, and never knows what to say. Using that ASAP.
/r/seduction27/05/13 02:03 PM
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Well said! I just came back from a trip, and I totally agree- airports and foreign places are a perfect place to practice your game- no reason the be shy about screwing up (or being successful, for that matter) and having to worry about the reaction- you'll never see those women again, so you'd better use the opportunity.
/r/seduction27/05/13 02:02 PM
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This is great- thanks!
/r/seduction16/04/13 11:36 AM
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I feel like there's great potential to use other techniques along with this- palm reading kino, and lots of eye contact, for example.
/r/seduction06/04/13 02:26 AM
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I needed to read that, right now. Thanks.
/r/seduction28/03/13 04:24 PM
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Yep- I feel like a lot of guys would feel "gay", making a gay joke, but what it actually does is show that you're secure in your own sexuality.
/r/seduction26/03/13 06:14 AM
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Yep, this right here. I use a wheelchair, so I'm used to looking at the ground for cracks and bumps, but looking up at people makes me feel not so small. And my smile is one of my best attributes; it's great to see a pretty girl smile back.
/r/seduction24/10/12 09:08 PM
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I like to feel "easygoing and natural", and grow my hair out, but damn, having a nice haircut feels fresh and sharp.
/r/seduction24/10/12 09:07 PM
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Yes. I took an improv class, and one excercise was dedicated soley to being high status/low (mental) status- high status people look each other in the eye, walk confidently, and don't give up space easily to low status. It was incredible how much better I felt after 'playing at' being high status for a few minutes, and I try to repeat it whenever I can.
/r/seduction24/10/12 09:05 PM
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Ooh, look! A woman giving an honest opinion! I guess we have to downvote her, so that we can live in our own little bubble!
/r/seduction15/09/12 01:22 AM
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Do you have any good sources for learning about NLP?
/r/seduction03/09/12 02:42 PM
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I tried to take this one girl to rehab. She said no, no, no.
/r/seduction15/08/12 06:19 AM
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Having been there, I know "just don't think about it" is no help at all. So my advice is, when you do think about it, start thinking about where you want to be, instead of where you've been. What do you want to have accomplished in five years, and what can you do right now to help yourself get there.
/r/seduction14/08/12 07:40 AM
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Thanks, that sounds like solid advice. I went out for lunch with family today, and flirted a bit with the cute waitress... Gonna keep at it :) The original situation above by the fact that one of my coworkers was trying to flirt with me. Important detail I forgot to include. It really threw me off. Also, this place is right next to work, so it's easy for them to "invite themselves".
/r/seduction11/08/12 08:56 PM
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I totally agree. I've been going to my own "spot" every Friday night for a while now, and it's definitely improved my social confidence. I have a question, though- recently, two female coworkers have started joining me at my spot. They're both friends, not women I would try to make a move on. Theyre good friends, but it really throws off my game to have them there. Any way I can make it work while they're there, or find some way to deter them from coming, or do I need to find a new spot, or only…
/r/seduction11/08/12 04:53 PM
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Which would you rather be- a pirate or a ninja?
/r/seduction08/08/12 02:55 AM
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Reminds me of something someone told my dad- "No one thinks about you, more than you." They're all worried about their own interests and mistakes, and Most of the time don't have any room in their attention span for whatever it is is on your mind.
/r/seduction21/07/12 03:01 PM
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Well, ya lost me there. Taking a hint from other animals and acting exactly like an animal are two very different things...
/r/seduction16/07/12 03:27 PM
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This, too.
/r/seduction16/07/12 03:26 PM
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As someone born and raised in California, I'm coming to realize we have gone a bit overboard. I don't know about the rest of the stuff, but I've started to notice that eye contact is an amazing way to show confidence, and also to get confidence, when she looks right back.
/r/seduction16/07/12 03:25 PM
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Awesome. I've been bummed about not approaching a couple of girls Friday night, and this was really motivational. I like the description of the dialogue with yourself!
/r/seduction08/07/12 03:41 PM
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thanks. I see there's a lot here on that subject. I have no problem talking with girls, just taking that step to grab the hand seems to come off as awkward.
/r/seduction07/07/12 03:05 PM
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Number 4 is where I always block myself... Any advice from anyone getting over that? I use a wheelchair, and while I generally have a positive self image, I'm usually nervous how someone will react to me.
/r/seduction07/07/12 08:01 AM
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Thanks, man! Pretty much what I though, but you gave some great detail.
/r/seduction23/06/12 07:13 AM
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I'm seeing "state" or "in state" a lot. What's that, exactly? I have some idea, but it's good to be sure.
/r/seduction19/06/12 08:15 PM
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Isn't it better as "there are some things glossaries can define... ? I realize this isn't the most important correction here...
/r/seduction19/06/12 08:10 PM
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Thanks!
/r/seduction15/06/12 07:23 PM
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Removed... I guess this was the Almost Post!
/r/seduction15/06/12 06:47 PM
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Awesome. I've forgotten lately how nice my smile is. Gonna s-close more often, for sure!
/r/seduction14/06/12 01:37 PM
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That is some of the best advice I've ever heard.
/r/seduction04/06/12 09:57 PM
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Redditor for 2 years...he checks out...
/r/seduction25/05/12 07:39 AM
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