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KnownDistance/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 01:50 AM
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KnownDistance/r/Divorce_Men17/07/20 07:27 PM
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Drop it, drop her, move on. She's not good for you, and she's interfering with your healing. Bad medicine, in other words. Maintain that no contact thing, she's most likely trying to use you, because things didn't work out like she thought they would. Stop carrying that torch. Wishing you the best...
/r/Divorce_Men06/07/26 08:04 AM
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It's not your fault. She did this.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/25 05:05 AM
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Brother... get the therapy. It helps, a lot.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/24 04:07 AM
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She's made you aware of this to make you twist... Don't give her the satisfaction.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/24 02:37 AM
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You're doing it right... stay the course.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/24 03:45 AM
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Good on ya.
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/24 03:44 AM
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There's going to come a day when you stop caring about what she thinks about you. And that's when the clarity will really start to set in. And 35 is still young. Others will agree with me, vehemently.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 04:11 AM
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DON'T!!!
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 04:47 AM
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I feel for you, sincerely... But you have an obligation not just to your kids, but to yourself to be strong. Yes, I get that you're venting on Reddit... good on ya. You're taking care of yourself, a good sign, by actually venting. But you need to step up... and by that, I mean "Man Up", stand on your hind legs, and just decide that you can get through this. We've all felt the pain you're going through, and especially with the distances you're talking, can sympathize all that much more. But for y…
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 02:48 AM
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Just one consideration... if you take nothing else from what you're experiencing... ​ This is over. Do not reconciliate. Move on, you're young... start over, with the wisdom you've acquired.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 02:39 AM
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Do NOT reconcile... this is over.
/r/Divorce_Men02/10/23 02:15 AM
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LOL! Fucking savage... I love it...
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 02:09 AM
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Give it time, it's worth the wait...
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 02:08 AM
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Live well, it's truly the best revenge... Happy for you, enjoy your freedom.
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/23 02:07 AM
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Way, way, WAY too soon, for ANY reason...! Walk away, this is over. And don't look back.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 01:44 AM
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You're doing it right...
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 05:26 AM
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Make it ugly. You can lose everything, but still be at peace, and that's priceless. The fact that she cheated and that you're both being "amicable" says that you're being played like a radio. Stand up on your hind legs, man...
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 08:56 PM
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She's a fucking liar.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/23 08:34 PM
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First off, everybody has felt what you're feeling. Dismissing it at as "Just your turn" is a little too easy to offer up at this point, because your wounds are still fresh. It takes time, in other words. The good news is that it passes... I get what you're feeling, believe me, it's nothing short of a betrayal. In Dante's "Inferno", one guy is getting a tour of Hell from another who was born and died before the coming of Jesus, and wasn't allowed to go to Heaven; he wasn't ever a Christian, so...…
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/23 02:51 AM
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Let it go. She will NOT appreciate it the way you want her to.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 03:06 AM
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Damned fine... exactly the right thing to say. And if you'll pardon me, I'm going to shamelessly make it my own. Sincerely, though, well said.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 02:14 AM
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I'm 59... Married 32 years, divorced for coming up on three, and it gets better. Not going to repeat what a lot of good men have already related, other than to suggest you continue to read this subreddit for the answers. It passes... but not before you have to walk your own path. If it's any consolation, this will pass; happiness will come again, along with contentment, but right now there's a gaping hole in your soul that takes time to heal. And that's the worst part, the waiting... but I promi…
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 02:08 AM
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You're not screwed. Document everything, give her what she wants, a new start. Sucks that it's going to cost her, but sounds like she's made her decision. In the meantime, live well.
/r/Divorce_Men30/01/23 03:11 AM
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Women aren't the enemy to be feared, far from it... just take the wisdom you've acquired and apply it to individuals you happen to meet. When you say the idea sickens you, it's plain that you're not ready for a relationship right now. The good news is that this will pass, and you will heal up. It takes time. Don't be in a hurry. My first impulse upon separating from my ex was to replace her. Realizing that, I set out and dated the single women in my life, starting as friends, but emphasizing tha…
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/23 02:43 AM
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Develop your game, women look for confidence.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 03:48 AM
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Good on ya, sincerely. Grab all you can get.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 03:46 AM
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Having a great time after 2.5 years since I was finalized, there's a metric shit-ton of good and lonely women available. I recommend Match.com; write a good bio, to include some good pics of yourself, and bring your "A" game.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/23 03:45 AM
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Good on ya.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/23 05:54 AM
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I'm really digging this thread... Godspeed and God Bless all of us. None of us are navigating anything Terra Incognito, so stay the course. And remember, any of you just starting out on this new development in your life, you have an obligation to make yourself your own best interests. Don't worry, as alien as it may feel right now, you can get used to it. And it's a good thing. Stay the course.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/23 05:51 AM
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Good on ya... me too.
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/23 05:47 AM
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Perfectly stated, I can't add anything to that... other than no matter how much she believes her own narrative, it doesn't mean it's true. Having been active in this sub for as long as I have, two things are plain (spare me any misogynist statements for either of these): First, men and women don't occupy the same plane of existence, and I believe it every time when I hear about a man in failed marriage being completely mystified when he learns that he's being asked for a divorce. Seems like ever…
/r/Divorce_Men07/01/23 05:46 AM
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You're a good man... I wish you well.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/22 06:04 AM
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Boom... Dead Bang. Well said.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/22 10:14 PM
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Not your problem.
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/22 10:09 PM
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I can't add to any of the wisdom already expressed here... so, I'll say I'm intimately familiar with what you're going through. Like you, we were together for 33 years, I got the "Love, but not in love" thing from her, and it was clear she didn't know what she wanted. So I pulled the trigger, spent $9000 (a bargain), and kept the house after it was all said and done. Driving home just tonight, I was still a little resentful after 2 1/2 years, but was actually enjoying the ride on a cold, clear D…
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/22 10:07 PM
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First off, Happy Birthday. This is over, and you know it. She sees you going out the door, and most likely knows of the other woman, and is having second thoughts. Don't fall for it. Allow me to repeat myself: Don't Fall For it. I feel for you when you say you got kids, but the dynamic is that everything you have together is because you are together. Odds are, she didn't "break up" on her own volition with this guy... it's highly likely she saw something she didn't like, or even more likely, got…
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/22 03:16 AM
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No, you sound like a man in pain, and for good reason. I drove home from work with tears in my eyes many, many times to an empty house... it was the worst part of my day. In my case, it took time, counseling, and leaning on friends to get past it all, but it ended. Keep a journal, hit the weights, go run/hike, get work done around the house, talk to friends, family, professionals, clergy, and get it all out. Good friends and loved ones will understand, and want to help; if they don't, get counse…
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/22 08:03 PM
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+1... start today, this is over.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/22 09:55 PM
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Same...
/r/Divorce_Men16/08/22 02:31 AM
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Semper Fi.
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 06:51 AM
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Good eye... grew up a USAF brat, did four years USMC. You never get all the way out...
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/22 01:15 AM
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Good on ya. To piggyback on that, I went from crying on the drive home to an empty house every night, to enjoying my life, with new and old friends. It gets better, it just takes time. Happy for you, it's kind of you share your experience. Stay the course.
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/22 11:36 AM
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To add... do NOT roll over. Fight like hell... she will... tits do not mean "Automatic Winner".
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/22 03:39 AM
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Bravo!
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/22 01:26 PM
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OP doesn't need permission to change his locks, and it wouldn't be considered out of line if his wife did it. Both can say what they want, but actions speak louder than words, as she's the one who left; if the roles were reversed, she could say he was potentially violent and threatened her. Sauce for the goose...
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/22 07:05 PM
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You have my sincere sympathy... know that this will end, and life will go on. Everything happens for a reason... That said, my suggestions: 1- This is over, that much is clear... "It's been an awful marriage", your words. You really want to continue to live like that? Change the locks, today. 2- Decide now that you're not leaving the house/apartment. She left you, remember...? That will go an extremely long way in court, especially if she's been adulterous. It's a 1-2 punch in your favor for cus…
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/22 05:38 PM
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Fuck her. Watch out for yourself, don't curry favor, stand up on your hind legs and fight. Show some self respect. Do it for yourself, because war has been declared. Do right by you. And don't fucking simp! Time to man up! I feel for you, truly... maintain your dignity.
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 06:26 AM
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So it's your fault, hah? Bullshit. She's playing games, and it doesn't matter if she's slept with her new paramour, she's cheating on you. Reverse the roles; what if you did this to her?
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 02:46 AM
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OK... I take no pleasure in telling you that you're in for a pain-filled time, but these are the facts. As several others have mentioned, it's vital that you do two things; 1- Lawyer. 2- Work the system Exactly As If The Roles Were Reversed. This may sound incorrect on the surface, but you have an obligation to your kids and your dog to make yourself a priority. That means looking out for yourself at all times, making sure you're fully equipped to deal with everything that's coming your way. Lea…
/r/Divorce_Men23/07/22 02:40 AM
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Perfectly stated. Raising my glass to you, that's the most complete and accurate statement I've read on this sub. To the OP: She made her choice, make her regret it. What you don't realize yet is that you get to be 100% selfish 100% of the time now. Capitalize on it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/22 03:40 AM
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You're doing it right... good on ya.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/22 02:16 AM
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If you don't get anything out of the responses here, take this to heart: Your #1 priority is to get a lawyer. Do it tomorrow. You owe it to yourself. Best of luck...
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/22 03:30 AM
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Stand up on your hind legs, Man... throw the bitch out by filing tomorrow morning. Do you like this life? Do you feel like you deserve this life? Is this what you wanted? Is this how you imagined it? Are you afraid to file? Are you looking for validation? The one common thing in all those questions is that none of them fucking matter. Do right by you! And her! Set her free! Set yourself free! Get her out! Live your life!
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/21 05:41 AM
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Eject! Eject! Eject!
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/21 03:24 AM
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Walk away. The trust has been compromised.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/21 04:45 PM
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And document these things. Keep a journal.
/r/Divorce_Men31/07/21 04:39 PM
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Bravo!!
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/21 08:08 PM
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Good on ya.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/21 09:05 PM
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Good attitude... sincerely. It all ends in time.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/21 09:05 PM
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Good on ya... and thanks.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/21 02:16 AM
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​ My ex is a self-admitted workaholic, and bailed so she could continue to run our home rental business on her own. She doesn't have a lot of clarity in her thought processes, and failed to bone up on community property laws prior to her decision to leave. Long story short: the business is being liquidated, will not be able to be rebuilt under new zoning laws, and she lost everything. She's currently selling everything off, including one of our rentals that she's been living in for coming up on …
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/21 09:30 PM
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Semper Fi... some good did come of it, at least. Give yourself a break; YOU didn't blow a bunch of guys after all...
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/21 09:17 PM
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Don't roll over. Not only is she probably counting on you to do so, you'll regret at least not asking. Have some self-respect and raise a fuss about it... it's the truth, ain't it? And what would she do to you if the roles were reversed? Good luck regardless, stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/21 12:34 AM
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I'm 57.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/21 02:05 AM
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Same role, same dynamics... Almost a year out, I started dating almost immediately after she left, and currently see 2 women now. It's a fun little hobby until I figure out what I really want.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/21 12:14 AM
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Wishing you the best, stay strong.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/21 02:41 AM
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Don't roll over, fight it every inch of the way. Demand your rights be respected, and do not believe that by being gracious and a gentleman you'll curry favor with ANYONE. I guarantee you that you'll be looked on as weak and foolish, and you'll still take it between the cheeks. Right now, you have an obligation to stand on your hind legs and fight back. Even if you don't want to. Besides... fuck that bitch...
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/21 01:36 AM
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Touché... perfectly stated.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/21 01:26 AM
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Sorry to be the bearer of bad news, but she doesn't care anymore. If she did, she'd be there for you. I know precisely what you're thinking and feeling, however she's kind of enjoying herself at your expense by being and not being with you at the same time. This leads to distrust on both of your parts, and the odds of you fixing this are slim. You said you reconciled with your Dad... congratulations, sincerely happy for you. But that's a different kind of love, and a different kind of bond, so w…
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/21 01:23 AM
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The simple pleasures are the finest... good on ya.
/r/Divorce_Men08/05/21 01:00 AM
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Very happy I could give you a boost. You deserve happiness, go and get it.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 03:16 PM
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;)
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 03:15 PM
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Thank you kindly... the takeaway from my own experience that I'd stress to anyone else is: Don't Roll Over. It'll profit you nothing, and cost you everything. You have rights; demand they be respected.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 03:15 PM
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It was her idea... we had a home rental business, and owned a couple of dozen properties. She thought by giving me the house, I wouldn't come after the business, which turned out to be a tactical mistake on her part.
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/21 09:40 AM
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"I have never lived alone before and I hate it." This really stood out to me... at the risk of sounding cliché, you really do have to be good at living alone before you can really be good at living with someone else, and I mean that with all respect. What you're going through is real, but it's not permanent. Sounds like you're getting the help you need, and I applaud you for getting it; it takes guts to just admit you need help. You're hurt, and rightfully so, but what I'd suggest is to first lo…
/r/Divorce_Men03/09/20 06:50 PM
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To add: She and I cashed in our 401K's, and bought a couple of rental homes. She seemed to be good at running them, so I gave her complete autonomy to run it as she saw fit. I provided money, labor, did repairs, grunt work, etc., and never took a dime for any of it. I also never asked to see any financial reports, and was completely in the dark about the state of the business; I trusted her, and the business grew. Thus, it was easy for her to hide. And that included any tax returns we got, as we…
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/20 04:43 AM
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No, they are not, they're entirely in her name. But living in a community property state, I'm afraid I'm on the hook for half.
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/20 04:38 AM
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