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Oh my god, I snorted. Thank you :D This was unexpected but highly welcome
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/09/21 01:09 PM
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So very often I read things like this and I get kind of angry - why is she engaging with him, why is she polite to him, why is she taking her headphones off, why is she answering? She doesn't want to do any of these things. Yes, women get conditioned not to rock the boat, not to make a scene. Absolutely true, ergo absolutely not their fault to engage in this behaviour. But what about the silent treatment. Ignoring him. Staring right into in face and eyes with a blank facial expression of disappr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/21 10:18 PM
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You are absolutely right! Thank you for the energy and motivation!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/21 09:14 PM
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You were so lucky you had your mom! I honestly don't even want to think about what would have happened to you had you been forced to stay there
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 08:01 AM
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That is so fucked up :O damn... Honestly, at this point I wonder what kind of boy-dream-fantasyland it is to honestly believe wriggling your way through friendship / living arrangements into a woman's heart. I once moved into a city for a trainee program. I moved in with two Guys who had a spare room. Everything cool so far. The one guy and I started hanging out. Eventually, this led to a several years relationship (that was before I knew I was gay). It was like last month that I could pinpoint …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/21 07:52 AM
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I have had many friendships with men. Close, best friend situations. Many of them were ruined because the guy fell in love. Ruined because I, as the proud lesbian woman that I only recently accepted myself to be, would of course not share the sentiment and had to turn him down. It is devastating to have your best friend suddenly not talk to you anymore because he got feelings and you let him down and now he pulls back. It's an absolutely understandable reaction on their part - yet being on the r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/03/21 09:30 PM
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You do not need to have sex just to get pregnant. If everything else fails, go for a good career that can maintain you a good lifestyle, where you build yourself a nice life and then go to a sperm bank. You are a woman. You have the needed biological tools to procreate life. All you need is one tiny sperm that you can literally buy at a sperm bank, after checking page after page after page of the finest quality, price and checked for diseases.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 08:59 PM
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Love it. Just put on a blank face, preferably a resting bitch face and don't blink the entire time
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 03:45 PM
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Oh! No, not for the men! For those women who still think, porn is liberating
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 01:45 PM
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I kind of wish for a very strong, opinionated FDS queen who does not take shit, to go online in a stream to watch porn videos in front of the camera with one of those clicky-county-thingies in her hand, counting every time something happens in a porn video that is degrading / abusive / disgusting / far away from reality / ... I know that this is not feasible, because of many reasons (all with the underlying reason that men are disgusting and would probably jerk off to her with their left hand wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 09:54 AM
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Ladies. Whoa. What's going on in this comment section? Sorry, but this is not what I understand as HV behaviour. All this pointing out his looks or clothing styles. I have learned something important here. That manipulative men use emojis to know whom to easily manipulate. I feel it is kind of low to pick on him for being LV. I mean it's obvious, isn't it? The rule is to not paying attention and walking away from LV people. But making fun of a human being is paying attention and not walking away…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/20 02:29 AM
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I love everything she says and I adore her for saying it is this beautiful, gorgeous, absolutely wonderful accent of 'I am a self made woman and I don't take your shit'. Russian women are beautiful.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/20 06:48 AM
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Wait what? When did this happen? I just started catching up on crushing on him. 😑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/10/20 06:35 PM
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Congratulations on that decision! Good for you :D love to see leveling up firsthand. You got this, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 03:40 PM
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It makes sense if the whole idea of PuA is to trick women into doing something they in reality do not want. It's like believing everybody lies just because the person believing it, lies to everybody.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 03:38 PM
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See that's actually the hidden strength of womanhood. It took me long enough to figure it out, even after joining FDS I didn't quite get it at the beginning. If all of us just look out for us, support each other and call each other out when we are with guys who are not good for us, don't have our best interests at heart and drag us down with their LV lifestyle - that's a better life for every single one of us. Man or no man. Leveling up, getting an education, aiming for a better job or higher pa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/20 02:37 PM
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Bwaaahahaha, my gawd... the movies starting in my head.... Seriously imagining my guy friends dressing up in fine clothing, applying make up to be prettier, doing intricate dances in front of their ladies, with choreographies that they have worked on for months, doing dramatic eyes and vanishing behind feathered fans xD
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/20 08:12 AM
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he pays for me, score, free burrito at f*cking least. Girl... If you just would have dropped the guy after the first meeting, you could have gotten yourself out for a burrito. I don't know you but I can promise you - if you had just taken yourself out, you would have taken yourself to a nice ass restaurant, had a fine fine burrito and would have even dropped a drink in there too, all without the hassle of trying to push his grabby claws away from your body while trying to get touchy in a park. L…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 01:22 PM
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Love it! Guess I just turned into a kinky queen
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/10/20 10:13 AM
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Reading the meme a second time - does he say like "babe, i got an other women pregnant" like "an other women than you"? Or does he say "i got another women pregnant" like "a different one than last time"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:46 PM
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Ladies. Like. Truly take a step back here and just let that sink in. Think about that for a second. 100 years ago - when women weren't allowed to vote for their government, weren't allowed to work without their male relatives or husbands permission, didn't have a say about the money they earned as they couldn't own anything, couldn't inherit, couldn't rent real estate, couldn't get abortions - not even after being raped, couldn't buy or use contraception when they were married without spousal pe…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 03:41 PM
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"bUt ItS nOt fAiR! My PeRspEcTiVe MaTtErS tOo!" No, Matt, is doesn't. Stfu and go back to your console.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 01:06 PM
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This made me snort. It's so sad that this is true
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 09:36 AM
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I see the common element in all the answers before: If they know the woman won't like it. If she does not ask for it. If she does not want to do it. That means it's a thing where he can figure out how much power he has over her by making her do it in the long run. An abusers method by figuring out where exactly he stands.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/20 07:14 AM
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"Look! Over there! Somebody moved the manhole cover! Quick woman, to the sewers!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/10/20 12:38 PM
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the magic of not giving a fuck
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 11:10 PM
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You're welcome! But don't let this evolve into a feeling of pity for him - he got a real chance to learn from his experiences and chose consciously not to. Instead he was subconsciously controlled by suppressed emotions and ingrained behavior patterns of avoidance and did nothing to stop this and become a better person. I swear to you - this girl deserves your utmost compassion, because he has not changed one iota from the person he was when you deemed him unworthy. Her not seeing this will lead…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 10:43 PM
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Queen, do it. Seriously. I started studying again when I was 26. That's nothing. You are sooo young still! My grandma and my weird older aunt both do not stop emphasizing on how important a good education is. Especially for women. And no matter how questionable they both behave sometimes - they are right on that. Nobody can ever ever take that away from you, ever. Oh and: Good riddance of that looser who didn't appreciate you enough to treat you right and make it work. His loss. But also maybe t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 09:34 PM
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yaas queen :) good for your! keep it up. He was a very good learning experience for you on your way to truly leveling up, getting those self esteem issues fixed and rewriting the story of your own fairy tale
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 09:10 PM
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Totally get that! After I broke up with my ex, he went into vacation for two weeks where he found his new gf while I was essentially homeless. 3 years later - they are pregnant and I am weeks from graduation B.Sc. in Computer Science with a job lined up and inspirations to open my own business. You may feel resentful now. But should your ex get his new girl preggo as well, I sure as hell promise you you'll feel a tsunami of relief that it wasn't you. Use this resentment rn to show him what you a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 09:06 PM
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Omg thank you! that was an unsuspected loud-laugh :D
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/09/20 09:03 PM
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The degree to which this behavior in men is normalized is sickening. Imagine he didn't have sex with a minor but instead murdered somebody. "Honey, you didn't appreciate me anymore and I couldn't help how I felt and I am always surrounded by people I could murder who would like being murdered by me. And then you got those jowls, it's really not my fault at all!"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/20 12:58 PM
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And exactly why does this not say "belly full. clit found and satisfied. It's that easy." "Love goes through the stomach": Apparently one of the bigger lies they tell us in Pickme-Culture. Because it has to be true love if he only stays for the meals, right? /s
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 10:09 PM
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So true. Also loving the username!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 09:51 PM
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Samesies. At least we know better now. That's all that matters. We're seeing how we were wrong and attempt to do better in the future.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 09:49 PM
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Oh lord - I have been down the exact same path. He would also not even grace me with his presence for eating the meals that I provided for him. Never again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/20 09:46 PM
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It is weird. The car radiator thing made me think of my grandpa. He died in 2002 and I do not have many memories of him - but he always did those things for my grandma. Heating up the car for her in the winter, when she had to go somewhere. Sitting in the kitchen, peeling potatoes for her that she would cook. Don't misunderstand me - my grandma kind of is a narcissistic dragon, who turned my dad into a full blown narcissist and gave me a huge heap of emotional trauma to work through. But ... it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 06:44 PM
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I don't know why, but this comment sparked a thought in my head. Namely the counter-argument that many men would bring: 'BuT iT iS oNlY nAtUrAL', like a reflex or an urge that the body needs to have satisfied otherwise it won't feel good. But guess what... So is hunger. And hunger never stops, but if you overeat you get overweight. And the same applies to literally every other substance that you can abuse. Your body will tell you over and over again to light another cigarette, to drink another g…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/09/20 08:22 AM
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He like literally told her he doesn't like going down on girls. He not going to change. She does not need to communicate, girl needs to start to listen to what that guy is actually saying. This is not a him-problem. This is a her-problem. She needs to block. Delete. And move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/09/20 01:15 AM
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I imagine the most badass way to do it would be to move your head backwards in roughly the same speed the are moving their head towards yours. Just awkwardly bending backwards while maintaining eye contact. And then, if they don't get the hint, ask in a very flat, slightly offended and utterly surprised tone 'What are you doing?' to make them self-conscious about their failed attempt and misread signs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/09/20 11:25 PM
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I think it's also a control thing. Seeing if you do what he asks. Because in most cases you don't need to study people for a very long time to get a rough picture of their personalities but only need to observe a few little gestures. Observing how you respond. Will you send the pic? Will you be snappy? And then the actual picture - the way you'll portray yourself. Your facial expressions but also how you hold yourself, if you take care of yourself. Basically a reality check to test how much work…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/20 11:58 PM
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I have gained 10 kg (20lbs) over the past year. But I will start eating healthier tomorrow. Will also book that dentist appointment to check everything out, as well as schedule a long overdue check at the gynecologist this week. And finally call the embassy to get a timeslot to go and get my digital citizenship. And then I am going to write my bachelor's thesis, pass my final exam at the end of September, submit my thesis by the midst of October and start searching for a job and new flat afterwa…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/09/20 10:15 PM
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https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Elizabeth_Smart
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/09/20 10:11 PM
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Can you change your signature and just be forcefully adamant from now on not to go by Miss or Ms anymore, but by "Your Highness Unholyalliance" or "The Great UnholyAlliance"? That could simply be shortened to "Your Highness" or "Great Unholyness" or maybe just "Fierce Queen"?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 01:57 PM
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OMG! Thanks for sharing! I wasn't aware, but this is great!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/09/20 11:51 AM
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I disagree. This is highly major queen shit. Kudos to you! I hope I will be as badass one day!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/20 11:22 AM
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It's all part of your journey. Every step brings you closer to your goal. You are not alone in this - all of our journeys started somewhere and then we all reached that one point that connects us. Don't be too hard on yourself. Allow yourself to be there for you, to embrace you and to heal you. If you need help, we are here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 11:16 PM
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Can confirm. Woman in very specialised field of tech here. Sitting with the boys is my daily hustle in uni. Now I am stepping out of uni and up into employment and (hopefully soon) entrepreneurship. It takes courage to speak in all men's room. Actually disrupting their flow of conversation. But if you dared to do that often enough, you start losing the fear. They don't have that internal wall that makes them shut up when another dude says anything. It's not like 'a man is speaking, it has to be …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 11:04 PM
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Thank you for this. Truly. I haven't dared to sing from age 7 to age 26 because one teacher in elementary school made one comment, probably wasn't even thinking about it, and it hurt me so bad that I just stopped. Took me 20 years and the knowledge that she died to overcome this. One comment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/08/20 08:07 AM
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i dont often search up reddit users who got their usernames leaked from crossposts, but daym did it feel good to do it and report that
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 12:03 PM
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Anyone can explain to me why Goethe is on that list? ;_____; His book "Die Leiden des jungen Werther" was the only book that ever made me cry
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/08/20 11:42 AM
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🍿thank you. I'll wait with you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/08/20 06:51 AM
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I bet he just randomly swipes on his smartphone and tries two tips from autocorrect max to keep this conversation flowing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 09:56 PM
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I don't agree with the sentiment of your post, especially calling OP a drama queen. Expressing her emotions in this sub is absolutely valid and shouldn't be shamed. We're here to help each other out, uplift each other, not put each other down or shame one another. What those guys said was disgusting, yes. However the way her boyfriend acted is not acceptable. He believed her? Yes, that's the bare minimum! But he didn't set them straight, he didn't console her, he didn't take any actions to sever…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 09:44 PM
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Umm... I think a lot of men will gravitate towards a sad woman at a party but none of them will want to cheer her up without ulterior motive.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 09:38 PM
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Umm... You really don't need to care about this because... This is legit what a bunch of creepy old fuckers think... And nobody takes them seriously anyways. They're men. They're disgusting and they know it. But What the f ist wrong with your bf for not defending you? For not clearing things up? For not asking every single one of them for a one on one duell at sunrise? You didn't do something wrong. You did something awfully nice and those creeps and their perverted way of thinking should never …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 09:35 PM
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Fuck Brad!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 08:40 PM
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Oh, don't call him James 😂 the dude who held the talk was called James and what you're saying sarcastically is entirely his message. But yes, you are right! Only way I can see to convince them tough would be to deadlift them up and then drop them like the strong-ass bodybuilder that are, walking away proudly with your bizepses flexed and your neck veins protruding. 😂 Damn... I'd love to be able to deadlift and entire person..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/08/20 08:22 PM
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Amen!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:46 PM
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I have had a bf who told me we would stay together forever* but I never got a heart shaped wooden picture frame :(( ​ *thank god the forever-girlfriend-times are long over!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:45 PM
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Entitlement and narcissism is the only thing that causes incels. So sad because so true :(
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:43 PM
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Whoa. Sorry for apparently triggering you with this post. I do however not appreciate being called gross for liking a TV-series that you apparently have not even watched yet. Also you are jumping to a lot of conclusions here and quite frankly I do also not appreciate the language you are using here ("undignified socially inept bonobos"). If this post is not to your liking, either make your case in a neutral way so people can understand what you want to say without feeling like you deliberately w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 05:42 PM
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Yas girl! Sounds like a plan! All for it, that degree is gonna make you so empowered!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/07/20 12:04 AM
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The men film and laugh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 11:59 PM
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There is never advice on how to help the individual, because it's never the individual asking for help! It's the downright fed-up GF (Pickme) who asks on behalf of her BF. He does not even want to change. Otherwise he would, by simply asking how to change. "I recognize that I do not support my GF the best way possible - how can I change?" Instead she wants him to change, needs him to change for it to work - but he doesn't want to and suddenly she's the one nagging on him and he get's to be annoy…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/07/20 03:52 PM
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🤮🤮🤮🤮 'gotcha' 🤮🤮🤮 Like what, he thinks he can recover from this with a 'gotcha'?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/07/20 12:00 AM
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After reading through everything you just wrote here, I am still not over the fact that you paid for his broken mop?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/07/20 12:36 PM
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Hol'up, sister! I think I actually found a hack for this! Upon realizing that for nearly more than twenty years I have been unhappy with my body (because the last time I was happy with how much fat my body had was when I was six years old), I realized I needed to change my own perception and approach. So since "trying to loose weight" and "eating less" apparently didn't work, because that's what I have been doing those twenty years and what left me unhappy, I decided to do the opposite and start…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/07/20 12:05 AM
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Snip snip queen! *snips fingers loud and repeatedly*
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 08:57 PM
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My ex told me, he wasn't sure if he'd still like me as much if I'd really go through with cutting my hair really short. Got the the hair cut and the boy cut out. Of my life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:50 PM
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All the things he lists are things that make his life better. What a prize he is to have in a life from the perspective of a woman. Being only valued while functioning.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:48 PM
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Imagine divorcing somebody over a hair cut. I have no words
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 02:47 PM
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When we die, we leave everything behind that we accomplished during our lifetime. The house with the pool, the car, the spouse. Obviously we leave our bodies behind (or plain die, as some chose to believe). We cannot take anything into the next life - should there be one. We can only leave stuff behind. The only thing that we can leave behind that is of substance are our children. Even our spouses are going to die and that's that. The world will not stop spinning because of that. But leaving chi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/20 11:11 AM
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Yes, i do! I think I read it in one book of Jetsunma Tenzin Palmo, possibly "into the heart of life"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 05:44 PM
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Her childhood sounds amazing, right? (Up until the point where her father turned 'radical' and everything changed, I mean, but that's only mentioned in the movie) I wish somebody had taught me about my femininity like that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 07:47 AM
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I agree with this wholeheartedly! Thank you for taking the time for this lengthy reply :) Her mockery of the penis-envy theory had me laughing out loud xD Hearing her talk has made me realize again and more prominent how important femininity in the workplace and in society is.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/07/20 07:45 AM
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A Buddhist nun asked a Buddhist monk: "Is there any benefit in having a female body in this life?" The monk starts to think about that question really hard. A few days later he returns. He tells the nun: "I have thought really hard about your question. And I could not find one benefit of being in a female body in this life." The nun nodded and realized that the biggest benefit of having a female body in this life was not having a male ego.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 10:56 PM
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omg, is the last word "porn" or "poem" because both would be fitting in that context and this subreddit :O ​ also thanks for posting this, i think i've just upgraded my image of the future from "a flat of my own" to "a house of my own"
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/07/20 09:05 PM
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Think about that again really carefully. Dad puts daughter into the car. For a 3 hour drive. To drop her off. He realizes that he has to drive 3 more hours back to his house, right? So 6 hours on the road for dad. It takes nothing to buy and keep a six-pack of water bottles in the trunk of a car for those journeys. Not the first trip of that sort he ever did also. Especially concerning is, that he had to KNOW that there was no store / gas station / hotel on the way if he had driven before. When …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/07/20 09:40 AM
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Yup. The spark exists. For me it felt like being hit by a truck. The instant I greeted him at the train station. Spent a wonderful week together. Now he's back on another continent. I guess that just raised the bar on what I want in a relationship
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 05:57 PM
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Gurl :( i am so sorry for what you have been going through and made to endure. so happy though that you found this sub! it feels like a new sister joined the coven and i am very grateful that you made that decision for yourself :) If i can give you any advice (after smoking marijuana nearly every day for 7 years), stop with the pills. Even sleeping pills. This is you fleeing from reality. The truth is: this is going to hurt. and you're going to be miserable. alone. sad. but walking this path mea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 01:49 PM
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What! A nest? Nesting materials? NESTING MATERIALS? And then she is COMPROMISING with this birdman to get a two bedroom so he can build himself a stinking, weird-ass, NEST in one room? And now she is feeling childish over calling his nest as stupid as a mud crab?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/07/20 01:21 PM
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Omg, the genius who put this in printing! "Try the next size down" 😂😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 04:28 PM
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Funny. I have been thinking similar thoughts today too. On one hand I see how far I've come, how I've rebuilt my self-esteem and trust in myself. The content with being with myself and how other (male) energies would just mess stuff up right now. On the other hand I feel like living life alone is kinda not as strong and meaningful as is being able to trust somebody completely. I don't think I want to live a life where I do not have this sort of intimate, trusting relation with someone. Yet this …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 11:38 PM
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I'd say he went full cycle jerk here. Well done, that's not easy to accomplish and takes a lot of crapped up logic solidified over years of mental gymnastics
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 06:16 PM
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All the points have been approached in the comments already. But does nobody think it weird to ask OP to call him every 30 min while on the road? Like... that's twice during her whole trip home. I think being on the phone is actually more dangerous than plain driving concentrated. This bugs me as odd and very early controlling tendencies that could potentially develop stronger later on. Thing is, OP: trust your gut. If you're feeling something is off, but you can't quite put your finger on it...…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/06/20 06:21 PM
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Bwaaaahahahahaahahahaaaahahaaa 🤣🤣🤣 I mean that logic would work, if men were not so overly abundant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 08:00 PM
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Thank you for posting this. After a long and hurtful journey I was able to emotionally (not only logically) accept all of this some time ago. It's still sad though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/06/20 07:55 PM
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And then there are people saying you cannot hear written text
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 09:15 PM
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🤷🏼 whaaaaat? How could 'a stalker who lied to become my boyfriend who turns up after a fight with expensive presents at 2am in the morning' be a bad thing? Do you know like, when there is a terrible crime and a husband chops of his wife into tiny pieces and then builds a mosaic new wife out of those chunks that he keeps for ten years in a separate, completely cooled down section of his house, because like this she wouldn't talk back anymore, no neighbour or nobody ever saw or heard a thing? "Oh,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 07:03 AM
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Wow, this is really bad :( you have no idea how this will play out. Imagine, having somebody for a partner who was willing and able to concoct such an elaborate plan to get to meet you, talk to you, manipulate everything he ever said and done, everything you ever think you knew about him, so he could satisfy his stalking nature. This could end with cameras in the bathroom, jealous fits of his if she starts speaking to a coworker or her dead in his freezer with a blunt force trauma wound to the h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/05/20 06:54 AM
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Feeling cringe-y about past actions is perfectly fine - it shows that you have grown so very much that you are now not satisfied with your previous actions anymore! :) Keep at it, but stay kind to yourself. You made the best decision you could with the information you had. You're still the same wonderful person, you just have more information now :) Keep leveling up, sis!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/05/20 09:00 PM
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I mean I love the bad bitch vibes I am getting from 'im just stringing him along so he can help me move one day' xD that's definitely the mindset you want to be in as like the goal. And he sounds like a nice guy. Honestly. But even if he was friggin superman - it does not matter if it does not make you feel whole, loved, secure, appreciated and safe. You matter. Your well being matters. Every aspect and Facette of your mind matters. Every insecurity, every doubt, everything going on inside your …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 08:15 PM
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I don't want to be the girl going in another person's post history, and I seriously want to give you good vibes and build you up. But this whole thing seems fishy. You seem to be very insecure about this man, about committing to him even if he'd commit to you. You're having doubts. And that is entirely okay. But you have to realise that just because he may love you does not mean he is the only one who will ever love you. Severe social anxiety and CPTSD and your period hormones right now probably…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 07:57 PM
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Also where is your support network? With a LD relationship you should have a solid network of friends and family around you where you are, people who you can trust and rely on, who will take care of you in these situations
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 07:42 PM
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I clicked on the link and was thinking "oh man, come on, we don't need to shame one another, we need to hold together". ​ But then I read the post. ​ Wowza. Flair checks out. Thanks for sharing. Prime example of what is wrong with he pickmeisha way of thinking. The story of a women 10 years younger, fitter, without the bodily or mental changes of motherhood with a man who apparently badmouths his ex. Totally reliable source. That must have been how this played out. Guess if we asked his Ex we wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 10:08 PM
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Wow. thank you for this, really opened my eyes on how far I have come with my "journey to myself" :) god I love this sub
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 09:07 PM
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Do you have somebody to talk to? Honestly, even though you have said to him that you will only go to HR next time he does something, I'd totally go to HR today. And even if it is just to tell them, to make a report so you have a written statement of this so that if(/when) something else happens you'll have two statements and bigger leverage. I send you all my strength. Feel hugged. This is horrible and imagining that you have to go to work again with this in the back of your mind makes my toes c…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/05/20 02:48 AM
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What the actual f*** oO Are you ok?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 12:48 PM
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You are NOT a mental health professional or a hostage negotiator and you are NOT qualified to deal with this issue! So so so important! I have fallen prey to this tactic before - I broke it off with him, we were living together, he was my best friend - all this bullshit. He cried harder than I have ever seen a grown man cry in. my. Life. At the time I was lulled in by "the love he held for me" and I was also scared he would hurt himself if I left and that I held some sort of responsibility of "h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 12:45 PM
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I haven't seen this before and want to thank you as well for posting this again! ✊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:39 AM
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I saw that post but there were so many replies that I didn't bother. Aside from the doc mentioning this to OP because she may have seen something else, what sprung to mind immediately was another thing: There is a MASSIVE amount of pickmeishas that do have anal sex not because they like it but because they want to please their scrote. This doc deserves a medal. Not because she was or was not trying to shame kinkmeisha (get over yourself, this is less about you and your rectum than you could actu…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 09:32 AM
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Just a quick reply to yourself: Thank you for taking the time to write this up for OP. You are a kind and generous spirit and the love you bring to the world makes it a better place. Never change this part of you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 10:11 AM
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Quueeeeennn!!! Yas!!! NICE :D So proud of you for finally waking up! Welcome to the other side <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 05:49 PM
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I interpret that paragraph like he knew that he was seeing somebody else and then Emma tells him that she likes him. Therefore he knew that he was acting LV towards her, yet her liking him showed him that she was LV too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 09:35 AM
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I do not want to defend him. But this is not 'normal scrotes bs'-level. This is 'sociopath in hiding'-level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 12:06 AM
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I was asked recently over text "Do you want to see my penis?" My head went like "nope" but my fingers tipped "I am undecided" because I felt the 'no' would be too harsh. It's only today that I actually realized and had to have a very stern talk with myself, how disappointed I am in myself xD It's probably a long way to be able to block ruthlessly, but I feel like the path is the goal and every lesson learned is valuable
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:56 PM
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Well done :) the insight was there after a good night's sleep and you pulled through. Someday, I am sure, you and I will both be comfortable using the word 'No' as an independent sentence on its own, without any kind of justification or guilt afterwards. /#LevelUpSister ✊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/20 11:49 PM
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Eewwwww, I didn't know the background of the angry dragon D: all I saw was a selfprinted head on a lotion bottle. That's disgusting
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 08:54 AM
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Thank you. That was an amazing video and I literally had to cry on the end, watching their expressions as they compared the two pictures
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 07:48 PM
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While I congratulate you on your journey regarding LVM-views so far, I still get the impression that you didn't change the fact within. What kind of man you'll get will never change how you feel on the inside. And while you seem to have raised your standards, I would ask of you to please be kinder to yourself. I bet none of your friends ever told you that your face is not pretty. For me it was to realize that nobody judged me as harshly, put me down as ferociously and damaged my sense of self wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 07:43 PM
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Holy smokes! He sounds lovely. You should definitely go see him :) Also, don't forget your chainsaw.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 05:01 PM
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you put it in a way that made me laugh, because what you're saying is true, but that also makes it so so sad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 12:06 AM
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Honey, I know that I am not the most empathic person to talk to in this emotional state that you are in right now, but I need you to be strong and logical now. If you fear him having your nudes and ruining your life, you have to be smart. You have to be stealthy. And you need to have a plan. It's plenty obvious that after the way you feel, you will probably want to end this relationship rather sooner than later. However... he has your nudes. What you need to do now is find a way to get into his …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/04/20 11:58 PM
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Amen sister! I feel absolutely the same - this sub has set my head straight. It feels like a relief - like i finally do understand how stuff works between man and women and between women and women. And it opened my eyes that I will never ever ever put my physical or mental health in danger just because I wish to be a mother some day. Either everything fits and meet my standards or I will not put myself into that very vulnerable position of motherhood and instead enjoy my life to the fullest unti…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 11:43 PM
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Thank you so much!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/03/20 09:29 AM
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I don't know what the first comment said but I honestly have been wondering about your username too. Want to elaborate on the silent protest part? Thinking back to my own toxic and abusive relationship I felt most powerful after removing every last bit of his utterly LVM nonsense from my precious life. Like when I ceremoniously burned the picture I've had of him in my wallet for 7 years and literally turned everything I associated with him and his toxic views to ashes. Damn it felt good! But may…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 10:42 PM
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thank you :) you're right! All of us deserve to experience joy from doing what we love <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 09:40 PM
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I have picked up playing the ukulele. Only to then find out that apparently nobody likes ukuleles xD which broke my heart a little but i still love them. and i picked up oil painting with bob ross
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/20 09:04 PM
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Love the title <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/20 04:42 PM
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You can only help people that want to be helped tho :( As sad as it is - she doesn't. She calls and complains maybe, but as long as she's content in believing it'll work, there's nothing you can do except hope and be there for her when it will inevitably end badly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 10:24 PM
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Queens unite! So impressed that you made it out and are alive (and hopefully well?) right now! Lots of hugs and love
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:32 PM
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Go strong, Queen <3 <3 <3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:31 PM
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<3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:31 PM
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It's perversely fascinating how strategic and systemic abuse becomes, once one does not look at individual cases but the whole thing in itself on a larger scale. Very happy you are in a better place now! I am proud of you. You did well :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:31 PM
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I am very happy and proud that you are in a better place now and managed to set yourself free from this situation! Thanks for recommendation! Will check it out :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:29 PM
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<3
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 02:28 PM
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I have the same eye opening moments! It's amazing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 01:08 AM
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Thank you! I will definitely check that out next! Some inner world care is absolutely what I need next <3 My biggest realization so far is that 'Anger is powerful', because your anger is what abusive men can't stand and try to take away as early as possible. However nobody wants to run around angry all day so anything that leads me further than being angry is greatly appreciated :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/03/20 01:06 AM
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Thank you! This is very important advice and absolutely on-spot!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/20 05:01 PM
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This^
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/20 12:27 AM
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Queeeennnn!!! I am so glad you found this sub and realize that this situation is far less than ideal regarding yourself, your right, your standards, your education and what you deserve in life! I wish you all the strength in the world to cope with this and emerge a stronger, healthier person for this! Your rental situation is a problem. However... If he doesn't agree to cancel the lease (if both parties need to cancel it), Ultimately your situation is far more comfortable than his. If you break …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/20 08:01 AM
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Stay strong Queen 🙌🙌 thanks for sharing this! Today has been a self-doubting day for me and reading how you make EXACTLY the right decision with all the noise surrounding this issue that could drag you down or make you cave inspires me to get over my anxious feelings and get my shit together too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 11:32 PM
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The first step is always recognizing the pattern. Since I learned so much about behavioural patterns and character types, especially about the bonding and relationship types we form during our early childhood, I can understand myself and the people around me much better! I hope you can find a place of inner peace in your relationship with your parents. They don't do it to hurt us - they do it because they don't know better. That's why its so important that we hold ourselves accountable to higher…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 09:51 PM
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I congratulate you on overcoming this, too! There are so many aspects, so many facettes and subtleties in growing up like this, it's hard to get what it takes to leave that behind if you haven't experienced it first hand. You are amazing in who you are, regardless of whether or not other people are pleased with you :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 09:47 PM
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Thanks ☺️ I will!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/01/20 09:43 PM
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Omg, I didn't think about the unmatching and re-entering of the dating pool :O thanks for sharing this! Will refrain from unmatching in the future
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 12:33 PM
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Omg, this!! My brother and his gf did not get engaged, but over Christmas I was talking to my mum and told her I think my brother picked his gf well but she could honestly do better. He's not a bad guy, but I sense that he has serious trouble giving her what she needs on an emotional level and she will probably at one point be fed up about talking sweetly to him that he should clean up after himself instead of her or that he's working 24/7 :/
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 04:17 PM
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By clicking unfriend you saved yourself so many rabbit holes in the future! Well done! I actually followed your advice and unfollowed the last Insta account that tied me to me ex 🙌🙌 stay strong sis! You are on the right path and are inspiring others while on it 👏👏👏way to go!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/01/20 05:04 AM
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I don't want to shit on your dreams - please! You do you and you do what you dream to do! - but Paris for me has been a complete shithole and I will never in my life return there again, which is why I want to warn you: overpriced. Not living up to the hype. Will give you constipation from all the baguette and croissant :/ also experienced attempted robbery so stay in a safe (but therefore pricey) area! Would on the other hand totally recommend Prague again. Prague was amazing - People, food, pri…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 03:38 AM
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Middle of last year, after a rather traumatic break up with the biggest scrotum I ever met (and unfortunately been with for 5 years), I bought myself a beautiful but cheap ass, light blue ukulele for 30 bucks. Been teaching myself how to play and sing. Best. Investment. In. My. Lifetime. Chords and tutorials for free on YouTube and the internet. Amazing for my mental health. Fun hobby and by now I am rather proud of my singing voice :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 10:33 PM
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Queeeennnn yaaaaassss!!! I love the spirit! Keep 👏 it 👏 up! 👏 You deserve what you want for yourself!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 10:43 PM
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Thank you! It may sounds easy but I wasn't aware! Will adopt that strategy! No more heartbreaks because I actively choose lvm!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 06:47 PM
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The coping mechanism is often induced in children of narcissistic parents and called hyperawareness. We are trained to be people pleasers by our parents and hyperawareness helps us with this. But by being people pleaser we also trap ourselves, because we are to afraid of going full 'FUCK OFF YOU CREEP!' mode when necessary, because since childhood it has been ingrained into us that this behaviour, even in the slightest form, will cause the narcissistic parent to go full-blast. Same as Logic. Nar…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/19 05:22 PM
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I do this too. (And I really hate that i can't control it!) I found out recently that smiling is actually a way to cope with stress. Do you know these "if you're angry, smile for 40 seconds" or "before you call someone, smile for a few seconds" hacks? That's because the brain sends out endorphins when you smile, even if you don't feel happy on the inside, to actually make you feel happy. But smiling can also be a stress response, as when you are feeling emotions on the inside that are almost too…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/19 12:46 PM
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Actually this makes so much sense, I have to second this
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 08:14 PM
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Thanks for sharing! Pickmeisha here, wanting to get better. Stories like yours help me realize my own mistakes from the past. Keep strong Queen 🙌🙌✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/12/19 12:51 PM
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