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Well yes it’s not a competition and it shouldn’t be an active goal to care less, caring less should literally just be that person’s default state. No effort or thought put into it at all. What this really means is it’s not an insecurity at all, because in order to actually be at that state you have to arrive there internally, and have an abundance mindset where you aren’t attached to any outcome because you know that you can prosper in any direction that life takes you. If you lose the girl you …
/r/seduction19/07/26 12:48 AM
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The woman should always be more into you than you are into her. If you are clearly the one more interested, you’ve already lost. You also shouldn’t be adapting your behaviors to gain her approval. That’s approval seeking and it is repulsive to women. Why would you need their approval to do anything? That makes them the leader and you the follower. The woman is supposed to follow. Why would she submit to a man that she has more power over? It’s simple power dynamics. Also the “opening up” sharing…
/r/seduction18/07/26 11:15 PM
3

Horniness and for some reason a hot girl with a resting bitch face is my thing
/r/seduction16/07/26 09:38 PM
1

Or just talk to girls at the gym, shit it will be a hell of a lot better than dating apps. The best part is most guys are too scared to do it that it sets you far and above them
/r/seduction10/07/26 06:16 AM
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Game is the ability to get what you want out of the game of life. When it comes to women that is all aspects of yourself, your seduction skills, how you walk, how you talk, your vocal intonation, how you hold eye contact, how you touch a woman, how you don’t care internally if she rejects or wants you, not needing her for anything but wanting her, stories you tell, playfulness you have, etc. that’s why there are separations of inner and outer game and that game goes beyond women too, you can use…
/r/seduction08/07/26 04:20 PM
1

Well exactly, you seem to understand you can’t just be teasing women all the time. You have to approach seduction from all angles and pivot when necessary. Sometimes it’s better to be serious and stern, share some wisdom, other times to make yourself laugh, other times to give her laughter. Other times you need to act like she annoyed you or something so she can feel a little bad for second. While other times you have to lock eyes with her and enjoy the feeling of attraction towards her and get …
/r/seduction04/07/26 07:45 AM
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When I was in my late 20s I had no issues while I still lived at home. Now your 40s or 50s that’s when it starts getting dicey
/r/seduction26/06/26 01:08 AM
1

Apps are a secondary source to just throw out an open net and see if you catch anything, primary source is irl. You also need game for both real life and apps via texting. Texting game is a whole different thing. I guarantee your conversations are probably boring on the app if you haven’t had any luck at all. Don’t blame the times or the women, the only thing that has stopped you from having success is yourself. The responsibility for this stuff is all on ourselves to make it happen.
/r/seduction20/06/26 06:22 PM
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Getting sucked into being a patron of the strip club isn’t going to be that valuable imo, but if you can befriend strippers you will definitely learn game. I’ve known girls who strip or onlyfans ones and they know serious game, but I didn’t meet them while they were working. Chilling with them or watching how they navigate social situations is often pretty impressive. They normally can flip on a switch to attract almost any guy they want. They’re hustlers and very socially agile, able to very st…
/r/seduction15/06/26 05:50 PM
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You can flirt. Start opening up yourself to connect with her. Raise the vibe. Have a smile and be in a great mood. Try to teach her something. Share some of your life philosophies. Cold read her. Preferably you need to be in an elevated state and you’re bringing her up to your level. If she is at an elevated state you either need to match it or exceed it. Self-amuse yourself. It’s honestly better to ramble and talk nonsensical than it is to talk logically when it comes to attraction. What you’re…
/r/seduction14/06/26 01:53 PM
1

Game ultimately is all the things you do to get what you want out of life. In regard to women it’s how you move, talk, and express yourself. How smooth you are at communicating. The decisions that you make to guide the interaction with her. The way you know how to recover from failures or turn disadvantages into advantages. You can have game in business, or in social media, or anything really. It’s just how you have learned to play the game of life and win. The important thing to remember is gam…
/r/seduction30/05/26 12:10 PM
2

Playing it safe isn’t how you get the things you want in life. The people who get what they want are the ones who take risks. Girls like boldness, fearlessness, guys that aren’t waiting for their approval or afraid to offend her. You do something because you want to do it, you say something because you want to say it, not because you think she wants to hear it. If you’re worried about the creepiness that girls talk about when they complain about guys hitting on them, that’s just generally becaus…
/r/seduction25/04/26 12:11 AM
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Yeah it’s all the salty guys that don’t want to put in the effort to go to the gym that rationalize their way out of it. You only benefit by being: fit, strong, and aesthetic. You look better, feel better, and can do everything easier. It’s barely even about the women at the end of the day, although it 100% helps no question. It’s not absolutely necessary but take the same guy and make him chubby vs ripped and he pulls better ripped guaranteed. Not even a question.
/r/seduction20/03/26 05:35 AM
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I would watch videos, I read a few books, but most of all I was going out almost every day of the week with friends and socializing a lot. Talked to and dated many women like that before ever thinking about learning game. So as long as you’re doing like 80% action and 20% learning you should be good. It helps that my best buddy was interested too so we would talk about it and go out to practice and be each other’s wingman.
/r/seduction18/03/26 09:33 PM
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Yeah and still there are a bunch of dumbasses that think it’s all about looks and money. But honestly if they’re still down at that level of thinking they’ll likely never get above that
/r/seduction15/03/26 06:02 PM
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Better to get flaked after a makeout than to be the guy too timid to do anything sexual and gets strung along by her
/r/seduction10/03/26 07:30 PM
1

You trying to post a Sabrina Carpenter song?
/r/seduction02/03/26 03:29 AM
1

You should definitely do no contact. It’s not about getting the girl back either. It’s so you’ll move on faster and stop wasting your time thinking about what was. She either comes back or she doesn’t and once you’ve moved on you shouldn’t care either way. If a woman wants to be with you she will move mountains to make it happen. If she isn’t doing that then it’s not worth it. As a man you should always be the one who cares slightly less than the woman does
/r/seduction02/03/26 02:52 AM
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Yeah my homie has gotten probably 150+ lays from DMing on insta. I only got maybe like 10 from insta. If your social media game is good, you have good pictures, you take stories doing cool shit, then you appear high value and girls legitimately get impressed. Even better if you have a good amount of followers and she sees that other girls comment on your shit too. Then you just hit her with the double tap in person and it’s GG. Having strong socials is just frosting on the cake.
/r/seduction28/02/26 07:34 AM
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I avoid it, but still anywhere that I work I get the women flirting with me and trying to get close to me. I only went out with a handful of women from work over the years when I was single and only because they were so persistent. Only one turned into a relationship. So in my case, some girls are able to butter you up when they get sweet on you long enough consistently that it’s like eh whatever. I was also going on plenty of dates each week with women outside of work at the same time too.
/r/seduction18/02/26 06:36 PM
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The guys that get with them are the ones that don’t treat them differently because they’re famous. Attract, establish and build a strong connection, stimulate them mentally and physically, and don’t be needy at all. It’s all about proximity.
/r/seduction31/01/26 07:57 PM
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Sure, it literally shows strength and many good qualities that are required to attain that physique. There is a natural power for the big guys in a room. Muscular, or very tall, size is just impactful. It’s why you see a lot of giants in positions of power more often. Girls subconsciously feel the presence of the biggest guys. Whether they’re the most jacked or some nba player sized guy, women already feel on a deep level that he is likely strong and capable. So basically it’s not a requirement …
/r/seduction27/01/26 08:01 AM
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There’s actually a term for this, it’s called kino. Feel free to look it up. The hands are a somewhat more intimate level compared to say a tap on the shoulder or elbow. After all, hand holding is a strong sign of affection which is why couples do it. If you notice her blush when you do kino or she smiles and doesn’t pull away then that’s how you know she likes your touch. I’ve done this a number of times when girls want to show me their nails as it’s a good excuse to touch their hand. Building …
/r/seduction27/01/26 04:55 AM
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Fairly often. I get compliments from women, they like to tease me, and I’ve had a number straight up hit on me. Just a few weeks ago there was this modeling event going on where I was working. One of the models had a question so she was asking me for help. Right before she turned to leave she said “You’re very handsome by the way” and walked off. I just said “Thanks you’re pretty”. Another time I was at a music festival shirtless, walked by this group of girls and one very good looking girl slid…
/r/seduction08/01/26 06:51 AM
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Yeah I’ve used the “Do you want to kiss me” in place of that but my suggestion was for the guys who feel like they need to ask a question in the first place, because they’re probably lacking the confidence to go that far. If it was me I wouldn’t even say anything and just kiss her. Silence and body language are already strong enough to build sexual tension.
/r/seduction08/01/26 06:19 AM
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Yeah or just tell her you want to kiss her. She’ll give you an answer and it either happens or it doesn’t. Same result but instead of asking for permission you’re just communicating how she’s making you feel. Even if she says no she’ll respect that you had the balls to say it straight up. Like she does something hot or cute and you say, “Mm you’re making me want to kiss you” Usually they giggle or something and you can tell they’re receptive, sometimes they’ll just say “Well then kiss me”, I gue…
/r/seduction05/01/26 02:52 PM
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Actually a great point. A lot of people use humor or start talking too much and it dissipates the tension. The absolute worst form of this is self-deprecating humor. They try to make it too comfortable. It’s the unsureness that makes things exciting. Not knowing exactly how the other person will react. Not fully knowing their motives or intentions and them not knowing yours. I already knew this, but I hadn’t put it to words yet.
/r/seduction05/01/26 02:47 PM
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Girls love attractive older men. What they don’t like is unattractive older men, because then it’s not just creepy, it’s OLD and creepy
/r/seduction17/12/25 03:54 AM
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Well then if you’re in that situation and want to say something, your best bet would be to tell her that you want to kiss her. Avoids asking permission and instead is just you expressing your desire for her. And to answer your original post, no. You can communicate plenty with body language and it should be easy to tell if she wants to kiss, check her eyes and proximity/comfort with physical touch
/r/seduction02/12/25 09:17 AM
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So are you leading her or is she leading you since you’re asking her permission for everything?
/r/seduction02/12/25 12:08 AM
1

Be aggressive, get into fights with other dudes over her, smoke her out, sell drugs, then you can beat her to the punch by poking a hole in your condom so she “accidentally” gets pregnant then becomes your baby mama.
/r/seduction01/12/25 09:45 PM
5

Bro’s dick is a minecraft block
/r/seduction25/11/25 10:41 PM
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Yeah asking a girl if you can kiss her is a death sentence. She’ll always see you as a little puss even if she won’t admit it out loud
/r/seduction04/11/25 02:17 AM
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It’s not just society it’s biology. Men are the hunters, men are naturally supposed to lead. Women are naturally going to follow a strong man for a giant list of reasons. Masculinity is bold, aggressive, and strong. Femininity follows and is soft, gentle. If you show a woman that you don’t even have the balls to take charge and lead her then why would she go throw herself at you when you could be a weak loser who’s too timid to take charge of his own life, destiny, and her.
/r/seduction21/10/25 09:55 PM
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Text to set up a date, she either flakes or goes, if she goes she can’t take 10 days to respond to you in person. If she denies or doesn’t reply to that, then next. Don’t waste time having conversations over text initially if it’s not to spend time together in person.
/r/seduction21/10/25 09:38 PM
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It’s because you didn’t learn game and your social skills are weak, so those are both things entirely within your control to improve
/r/seduction21/10/25 07:50 AM
1

If she’s not replying it’s cause she’s talking to another man that she likes better. If you are putting all this effort into someone else’s girl you’re just wasting your time when you should be spending your time with a girl who makes you her first priority
/r/seduction10/10/25 11:46 PM
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The funny thing is specifically in the instance OP posted, the girl is doing everything you explained in your comment, but to him. She dropped him for better options then came back around to toy him some more. Maybe he will learn to flip the script
/r/seduction18/09/25 08:19 PM
6

Sitting around and thinking about someone is what a woman does. Men should be too busy getting shit done to be doing that
/r/seduction15/09/25 12:43 AM
5

Never do it
/r/seduction03/09/25 11:22 PM
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League is a concept that was sold to weak men to keep them from trying to be better than they are. That’s all it is. A form of self-limitation. It keeps the guys with low self-esteem low on the totem pole where they belong. It’s all a fabrication.
/r/seduction03/09/25 04:35 PM
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No I’ve never been in a friendzone whatever that means. I’m not trying to be friends with girls and hang out like buddies if they don’t want to date. I’ll tell her that straight to her face if she pulls some disrespect like that on me and my time that was wasted taking her out.
/r/seduction06/07/25 05:32 PM
0

Yeah bro while you’re at it why don’t you go text her about getting your nails done and shopping at the mall. 😂
/r/seduction30/06/25 05:06 AM
2

Bro, texting about a purse?
/r/seduction30/06/25 04:13 AM
1

Honestly u don’t have any idea what you’re talking about, but guys should definitely not take test if their knowledge about it is around your level or less. You need to really be knowledgable to take that step towards steroids and it has to be for something like going pro in bodybuilding not just for aesthetic appeal.
/r/seduction28/05/25 09:33 PM
2

No you don’t. You can be serious and stoic and still get what you want out of life. You just have to know how to navigate.
/r/seduction12/05/25 07:01 AM
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Ay nice chompers
/r/seduction20/04/25 03:02 AM
20

Simple, straight to the point and effective. I would add also calm demeanor, moving at his own speed. Not fidgety. Over-reactive is not the way to be.
/r/seduction30/03/23 01:24 AM
24

Never underestimate the stupidity of what people will do over romantic partners. No rationality and all emotion, often rage.
/r/seduction02/11/22 03:22 AM
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Positivity is attractive. Negativity is repulsive. Cynical views are repulsive. 99% of the time the negative energy you give out is entirely useless. Others pitying you is repulsive. Nobody gives a fuck about your sob story. Nobody cares how ugly you think you are. People will be drawn to you when you think highly of yourself and embrace challenges with a love for being alive. You can choose to either have a positive or negative outlook. This will reflect in everything you do and say. The differ…
/r/seduction01/11/22 08:33 PM
3

So it sounds like the physical attractiveness is not the actual problem, women won’t stay with you that long if they just want a better looking man. Their looks may have helped the women make their cheating decision, but it likely wasn’t the reason for their cheating. The real questions are did the relationship get boring, were you taking them new places and making experiences consistently, deepening your love and connection via sex consistently, etc. In relationships the moment you get comforta…
/r/seduction01/11/22 08:10 PM
1

Just remember only addicts get defensive when people point out that they may have a problem.
/r/seduction31/10/22 08:46 PM
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Got it for free cause I had enough karma, you sound like a scrawny little kid. Come at me when u can bench more than 25s.
/r/seduction31/10/22 08:12 PM
2

Yeah point I’m trying to make is where are you without coffee. If someone took all your coffee away, you wouldn’t be able to keep functioning at the level you are now.
/r/seduction31/10/22 07:35 PM
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Doubt it bud. I’m a fuckin machine raw.
/r/seduction31/10/22 07:11 PM
2

But what if I focus better and have more energy than you, but without it. I have no dependency. I don’t need it to function at my baseline so I’m superior to you.
/r/seduction31/10/22 06:46 PM
2

Yeah but do you need it? It is a drug you get addicted to. I don’t drink any caffeine not even pre workouts and I’m fine. I just kill the day with the energy I get from eating healthy, working out consistently, and getting enough sleep.
/r/seduction31/10/22 05:47 PM
2

Just pretend you’re tony stark.
/r/seduction29/10/22 11:00 PM
1

The secret for me is to be completely content on my own. I love my free time and love life. I am always waiting to see what comes next. I don’t need anybody to feel complete. Others’ opinions won’t really affect me. I live in abundance in all ways beyond socially and romantically. This radiates and people can feel it. It is attractive. If you don’t need anything from a woman, don’t need sex, don’t need her attention, she will want to give those things.
/r/seduction29/10/22 04:09 AM
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God man I’m in college too and there are so many beautiful women. I’m not single so I don’t do more than talk to them, but you have the golden ticket so don’t even think they’re out of your league and go enjoy yourself. College is literally the jackpot once in a lifetime place for that many cuties.
/r/seduction27/10/22 12:27 AM
1

You're being dramatic, it isn't that hard. There are plenty of things in this life that will be way more challenging than finding romantic partners.
/r/seduction24/10/22 05:33 PM
1

Well not a bad idea. You can’t force a girl to be wife material. She has to prove to you that she is.
/r/seduction24/10/22 12:08 AM
3

Lol sounds like you were sold on the American dream. Wake up buddy it’s all a fabrication. Nobody is guaranteed a wife and kids. Nobody is guaranteed to succeed. Nobody is guaranteed to live until tomorrow. The world tries to sell you on these important milestones, but all of that was created by society. There is no set course for anybody’s life. The time it takes to do anything will differ. The only way you can fail is to stop trying.
/r/seduction23/10/22 08:45 PM
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Yeah man this is how guys toughen each other up. And it sounds like you need it. He’s trying to light a fire under your ass so you’ll get to work. It’s clear that you’re jealous of him especially that you get disappointed. Those are signs of weakness. You should either not care or be happy for your friend. Step all your shit up and if you were killing it out there he wouldn’t have anything to mock.
/r/seduction23/10/22 05:32 PM
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You misinterpreted what I said. You don't have to have one foot out the door, and you shouldn't be wasting time with girls you don't want in the first place. A woman's love should grow greater for her man, than for her man to her for there to be the correct power balance. Whoever is not chasing holds the power in the relationship. The man should be in the power to lead the relationship properly. When a woman starts to take over the power dynamic the relationship is already doomed.
/r/seduction22/10/22 11:07 PM
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Yeah I wouldn’t even bother with a girl unless she is more into you than you are to her. You can really tell when a woman is in love based on how much she chases and wants to be with you.
/r/seduction22/10/22 07:59 PM
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Remember you will die. You have no time to lose. Go after what you want. Good luck.
/r/seduction22/10/22 01:57 PM
9

Imagine you're having a conversation with a friend about something related to your career, some random person eavesdrops and tries to join your private conversation. That's just very uncalibrated. They don't have to talk to you or include you in what they were discussing.
/r/seduction18/10/22 01:44 AM
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All I'm saying is you're already mentally discrediting yourself before you even begin. You're letting the little voice in your head (your ego and self doubt) control you. You don't have to. You can observe those thoughts and choose to see them as nonsense. All I'm saying is, this life is too short to wait to go after the things you want because you don't think you're ready yet. It could all end tomorrow, and wouldn't you have rather been giving it your all? Good luck
/r/seduction18/10/22 01:14 AM
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Well, you think of yourself as a loser. I'm closer to 30 than 20, I'm in school getting my degree, live with my parents, and work part time making not much money at all. I don't think of myself as a loser. I have a plan of action and path ahead of me. I only think positively about myself and people gravitate towards me, including women. I also have good hobbies and actively enjoy doing things in the world. I have a spirit of adventure. Girls want to be around me, and I don't have money or a big …
/r/seduction18/10/22 12:07 AM
3

Sounds like you care about these things too much and it's holding you back. There are homeless drug addicts out there getting laid. You don't need money or your own place to have what you want. Just be working towards it and make progress.
/r/seduction17/10/22 11:16 PM
6

Yeah I never had much of an issue just closing the door and playing music.
/r/seduction17/10/22 11:15 PM
11

Not only women but the whole world will treat you better when you carry yourself strongly and with respect. I noticed a different from when I was younger and skinnier to now, older, much more masculine, and muscular. In general, most people don't go around disrespecting the biggest guy in the room unless theyre stupid.
/r/seduction17/10/22 11:13 PM
3

I live with my parents while finishing up school and I was still able to get hot girls when I was single. Now I just have a hot girlfriend.
/r/seduction17/10/22 10:55 PM
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I always would ask girls to text me when they got home safe. I don’t give a fuck if it would make me clingy because it shows you actually care about them and their well being. If she wanted to hear that you made it safe, she cared about you, and you blew her off. Bad move. Her intention was pure and you were trying to manipulate the interaction.
/r/seduction15/10/22 09:36 AM
1

Be glad she showed you sooner rather than later so you could drop that hoe
/r/seduction14/10/22 07:35 PM
6

If I had never met her I’d rather just grab a drink first or something light, no food or long commitment where I can’t bail if she’s weird. But usually lead, escalate, move to sex asap. Should be kissing relatively early in the meetup at least. I normally don’t invite random people straight to my house, woman or not, without vetting to some degree.
/r/seduction14/10/22 02:58 AM
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Classic tools in the toolkit. I’ve used both those with success before so can vouch. Small changes and different ways of saying those work too, can be catered more personally to each girl.
/r/seduction14/10/22 02:45 AM
1

Yeah, but I’d argue that it wouldn’t even be just about the sex either. They get to spend an amount of time around a very attractive woman and they can talk to her. She can fake flirt but they’re still getting to experience that. I mean there are some guys out there who get nervous around beautiful women. I don’t at all. I love talking to beautiful women, it actually makes me more relaxed. The comfort is a huge factor. On top of those things it does unlock a pseudo abundance mentality. It gives …
/r/seduction11/10/22 06:21 PM
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Yeah unpopular opinion, but I think a lot of incels and virgins who are letting it negatively affect their life to an extreme degree should go see escorts or pay for sex. They are professionals and can cater to beginners a lot more responsibly than regular women if you find the right ones. They are also generally better at sex than most non-working girls since they typically have high body counts and more experience especially in a higher variety of fetishes. Get your experience, see it for what…
/r/seduction11/10/22 04:56 AM
1

Aka it’s all about balance. Keep a growth mindset in all aspects of your life. Social, health, wealth. If you’re going to be working hard during the week then go out, socialize, and meet women on the weekends. It’s not rocket science.
/r/seduction10/10/22 04:32 PM
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Yeah man the whining on here is too much sometimes. It’s truth though, how you think of and treat yourself is how others will too. If you don’t respect yourself enough to do the things that will benefit you, then other people won’t respect you. If you don’t think you have a shot with a girl then she probably won’t give you a shot.
/r/seduction10/10/22 03:34 AM
5

Way too cynical and it isn’t overrated. True confidence is knowing you can handle whatever life throws at you and get through it. Knowing you can succeed. The opinions of others or insults cannot shake you because you know who you are. In the scheme of actually accomplishing impressive feats in life, getting girls is so low on the totem pole of difficulty. That’s why guys are able to do it that have confidence. It signals to women that they have a good enough mindset. That they are less likely t…
/r/seduction09/10/22 06:22 PM
3

I don’t blame them though, I’m easy on the eyes.
/r/seduction08/10/22 06:36 AM
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I just assume every girl that’s looking at me is checking me out, and I assume every cute girl is attracted to me until proven otherwise.
/r/seduction07/10/22 09:37 PM
4

Nah man learn to roast and if a girl insulting you hurts your feelings you need to take her less serious and grow a backbone. I’d just laugh and come right back at her with a roast and before you know it you’re flirting and she can tell you’re not a pussy.
/r/seduction07/10/22 04:51 PM
1

I'd say girls in general appreciate size to a certain degree over cut-ness. Like I'm big, definitely in shape and mostly muscle, but not cut and I do fine. No abs ever and that hasn't had an impact on my results with women. Got a little belly chub, but I'm usually bigger than most other guys in the vicinity so that commands respect naturally.
/r/seduction05/10/22 05:31 AM
1

Simple, don’t settle for average for yourself or you will live a mediocre life with average results. If you want to be a man who scores a lot of women you can’t be completely average you must be above the masses.
/r/seduction04/10/22 08:02 PM
0

My solution was to land a solid girlfriend so I don’t have to waste time going on dates with new girls or dealing with all the hassle. I take care of her and she takes care of me and keeps me satisfied while I pursue my goals. I sunk a lot more time into dating when I was single. Now it’s sex every day or any time I want it.
/r/seduction04/10/22 04:08 AM
7

My current girlfriend said she wouldn’t have kissed me and thought I was a bitch if I asked for her permission first. Maybe if you’re dealing with a feminist.
/r/seduction03/10/22 10:48 PM
11

See hot girl, go talk to hot girl. That has to be your thought process. Let the curiosity of how the interaction might go and who she is guide you on what you need to say.
/r/seduction03/10/22 06:16 AM
0

Yeah because most guys don’t want to believe that they are at fault for their failure with women, it feels much better to blame something out of their own control. In today’s day and age people don’t want to work hard or take responsibility for their actions and people are getting lazier by the day.
/r/seduction01/10/22 12:36 AM
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The thing is. Women may have an abundance of guys wanting to sleep with them, but most of those guys aren’t even worth the time of day. What really counts is who the guy is. How he can make her feel like a woman. What he can give her, whether that’s fun, charm, intrigue, stability, a rollercoaster of emotions, if he’s interesting. Men that take care of themselves command more respect because they respect themselves. All looks do is get your foot in the door. No woman will stay with a good lookin…
/r/seduction30/09/22 08:14 PM
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Yep, the unattractiveness comes from the cynical and weak mindsets found in the guys who sit around complaining about looks. It’s not even their looks, it’s the way they think that is unattractive.
/r/seduction30/09/22 06:33 PM
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Then it’s not your looks that are the issue. You need to figure out what you are doing wrong and change that. How you speak, how you carry yourself, your general mindset to life and how you approach challenges. Do you give off positivity or push people away with negativity. Can you hold good interesting conversations with all types of people. Do you care about learning and connection on a deep level with people. Think and reflect on those.
/r/seduction30/09/22 06:31 PM
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I definitely have, and I see it often. I work in hospitality so I see and interact with hundreds of different people from around the world and the US every day. In my opinion if a guy pulls a girl uglier than him he just has no game. Should always be aiming higher.
/r/seduction30/09/22 05:37 PM
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To a small degree, but a gym membership and going consistently doesn’t cost much of anything. You can find nice fitting clothes fairly cheap. You can fine tune your body language, vocal tonality, and choice of words for free. Hygiene is basically a good deodorant, cologne, showering every day, breath mints, brush and floss, haircut to stay looking clean. Smelling good should be the absolute minimum requirement everyone should do before going out to socialize or meet other people. Honestly no ide…
/r/seduction30/09/22 03:09 PM
1

Well I’ve done it my entire life with everything I’ve ever learned. Don’t have social anxiety or depression. Just am a naturally analytical and logical thinker with good self awareness.
/r/seduction30/09/22 06:49 AM
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The real point is to maximize yourself in every way to make yourself as attractive as you can be. Get as fit as you can, dress as well as you can, move and speak as well as you can. Never stop improving and fine tuning. Have great hygiene. These are all things you can do even if you look like a troll ogre. At least you could be a ripped troll ogre with good fashion that smells nice and is charming. I’ve seen plenty of ugly ass guys with bangin hot chicks. It’s all possible.
/r/seduction30/09/22 04:08 AM
3

Never say it first bro
/r/seduction29/09/22 06:01 PM
1

Well you can tell depending on how people react to you. I’ve learned too much throughout all my years to sum up in a comment. Always learn and strive to understand social dynamics and human behavior. Mental thought processes that others have. I’ve also spent a lot of time reading on psychology for years, and I’ve been going out and socializing a lot for the last 10 years meeting thousands of people.
/r/seduction28/09/22 11:34 PM
1

You do something and then think about what went well and what didn’t, then you change and do something better the next time.
/r/seduction28/09/22 08:08 PM
1

Watch videos. Read books. Engage others and be interested in them, which will lead to better conversations. Learn from trial and error. Be honest
/r/seduction28/09/22 06:28 PM
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On the flip side, for those that don't actively pursue improving their social skills, there is a lack of benefit for both yourself and others. Poor social skills will hold you back. Less friends, less opportunities in life, less ease in handling social situations, more stress. It is important that everybody realize this and work to be their best because it will shape your whole life.
/r/seduction27/09/22 04:51 AM
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Not what I said. You’re also twisting this interaction into something it wasn’t. Just a harmless chat. The way you’re reacting sounds like you’re coming from a place of fear of interaction, or even approaching strangers, which is illogical. You simply cannot live if you never talk to others.
/r/seduction21/09/22 09:29 AM
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Unbroken eye contact just means someone is giving you their undivided attention. It’s not good or bad. I’d say being looked at at all is better than being completely ignored which is a possibility in the gym.
/r/seduction21/09/22 06:25 AM
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Yeah man I guarantee you she isn’t thinking this deep about it so neither should you. I know what it’s like to get caught up overanalyzing though. Something I’ve learned is you can’t let a woman’s physical appearance affect your vetting of her. I’ve met some smoking hot or very cute girls that are straight demons once you get to know them.
/r/seduction17/09/22 06:03 AM
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You’re thinking on it too deep. She doesn’t have strong attraction yet. You said you’ve only talked to her for about 4 days now? I wouldn’t remember somebody’s birthday I barely know either, unless it was mentioned. If they told me and it was a few days away AND I was attracted to them the chance I would remember would be maybe 50%. Also it sounds like you’re giving her too much credit by calling her sweet, when you may not know her well at all. Ease off the gas.
/r/seduction17/09/22 05:28 AM
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Leadership and decision making are some of the most important qualities to develop. Moving into a management position at my job for the first time helped me to move in that direction. Now any opportunity I get I will take the lead. Most people don’t want to be leaders because they don’t want the responsibility, but the benefit of skills you gain from being a leader far outweighs the fear of failure. In seduction this is also a very powerful tool. Leading and making the decisions. Leading the con…
/r/seduction14/09/22 08:48 PM
2

Yeah I’m 6’1 but about 220 lbs of muscle. It makes the biggest difference you will ever see. Before and after was night and day. Bonus points you can easily lift girls and pin them against the wall and throw them around when in the bedroom.
/r/seduction14/09/22 01:43 AM
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Also 40+ but didn’t lose my virginity until I was 18 and had graduated. Had first kiss, first blowjob, and then sex all in the same week. And I thought I was so late to the party.
/r/seduction10/09/22 05:41 AM
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My current girlfriend is from sliding into instagram dms. Insta provides social proof via pictures, and often times you can slide into a girls dms that you have already met which is why you have her socials, which makes a meeting more likely.
/r/seduction07/09/22 01:50 AM
6

Idk most of my close friends have been approaching girls out and about since highschool. Was always the norm.
/r/seduction04/09/22 08:05 AM
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One of the best lessons I’ve learned is that improving your social game unlocks endless opportunities in life that extend far beyond women. Game in the sense of the word goes much deeper than attracting women, it’s also the choices you make, the friends you make, networking, the path that you pave for yourself. Nobody else has this power but you.
/r/seduction01/09/22 09:33 PM
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Yeah man take care of yourself and level up. I noticed it too, now I consider no girl to ever be out of reach no matter what she looks like. I’ve gotten hit on by some of the hottest girls I’ve ever seen and it made me realize there’s no leagues just myself who was holding me back.
/r/seduction31/08/22 07:14 PM
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I did. She’s my girlfriend now. She told me her number was about the same. Decently high number. Whether that’s true or not, it hasn’t really affected me in the slightest since. Depends on the girl. With her I’m just brutally honest about everything and she’s mature enough to handle it.
/r/seduction28/08/22 03:53 PM
1

What does this have to do with subtly turning a woman on? Too off topic for the OP’s question.
/r/seduction27/08/22 06:02 PM
1

While it’s never black and white, and there are some feminine qualities that inherently make a man more well rounded such as humility, warmth, and understanding, when turning on a woman the majority want a masculine man who takes action and doesn’t need her guidance. That’s more like a young boy looking up to his mother. I’d say that even women who try to be masculine or think they are dominant will submit to the right man who is more dominant than they are. That’s just how its always been.
/r/seduction27/08/22 08:20 AM
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Don’t be jittery. Take your time. Move with calmness, confidence, and ease. Adopt strong body language. Remain open (don’t cross your arms, hide your hands in your pockets). Take a strong stance and don’t be afraid to take up space. Stand up straight. The way you move your arms when you talk also matters. It helps to read books on body language, it has the strongest impact on how people perceive you. Most communication is through body language and how you carry yourself.
/r/seduction26/08/22 05:45 PM
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Be masculine. Talk like a man. Move like a man. Don’t be overly reactive to her. Guide her. Remind her you’re the one in charge. Make subtle hints at your desire for her. Be comfortable touching her and taking control of any situation between you and her.
/r/seduction26/08/22 03:26 PM
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Depends on the girl. My girl told me she wouldn’t have kissed me or had sex with me if I asked her if we could first. Lol.
/r/seduction25/08/22 06:14 AM
2

It’s a skill that can be improved
/r/seduction25/08/22 03:53 AM
3

Well what do you want us to do? Pity you? Become the version of yourself worthy of sleeping with attractive women. I wouldn’t think of sleeping with a girl I wasn’t attracted to, that’s a waste of time. Get your shit sorted out and quit daydreaming about the past because you’re wasting your own time. All you have is now and what’s ahead of you.
/r/seduction23/08/22 05:16 AM
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I agree with this. Single girls aren’t in short supply. I don’t associate with cheaters in general though, or liars, so I don’t tolerate that shit even with friends. Just a values and morals thing I stay true to.
/r/seduction20/08/22 06:26 PM
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Because it comes down to who deserves to have sex with that woman and who has the best genes biologically. If you’re lazy, out of shape, not confident, and bad socially, you really don’t deserve to be getting laid until you actually improve yourself and get your priorities in check. Women can truly have their pick, but they play hard to get to find out if you’re a pussy or a boss.
/r/seduction20/08/22 07:21 AM
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Yeah. There’s a guy who works with my girlfriend who has been persistent. She’s told him many times that she has a boyfriend and he keeps asking her out and she’ll tell me about it. She’s close to reporting it. Too many guys don’t know when to give up or how to pursue options that are actively available and interested in them. Then you end up like that creepy guy.
/r/seduction17/08/22 05:17 AM
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Nah, you’re not as much of a failure as you believe. Those things won’t give you a great life. You are the only one who can bring happiness and fulfillment to yourself, and be strong enough to weather through what it’s going through. Look into learning about stoicism and even take up reading. Like I said you have nothing to lose by keeping going. I’d rather be in pain and torment than be dead.
/r/seduction16/08/22 06:44 AM
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Just remember there are many others in the same position as you. You still have many things possible to do with your life. The way I see it, you’re only alive once and dead for all eternity so might as well push it as far as you possibly can. Take this opportunity to start anything new, you actually have nothing to lose. You can become anything you decide. Good luck
/r/seduction16/08/22 06:17 AM
1

Yeah all of that is good. If you aren’t getting all that I’d be more worried. Just pass with flying colors and big confidence and you’re chillin.
/r/seduction16/08/22 04:53 AM
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Nah I steered the conversation sexual first with my current girlfriend and everything’s golden. Actually had a good buildup for a couple weeks before we had sex where we kept talking about it more and more and she loved it. By the time we finally did the deed she couldn’t help herself and pounced me.
/r/seduction16/08/22 03:25 AM
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She’s giving you the answer on a silver platter. Remain chill and don’t get all into her quick. Let her come to you and let her be the one to say all that “crush” stuff or feelings and whatever. Go do your own thing and it may turn into something. Has to come from her though if it ever does.
/r/seduction13/08/22 06:16 PM
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Noticed when I used hinge that it would show least desirable women to high desirability in order. Would sprinkle in a cute girl every 20 or so initially to keep your interest. With premium I would swipe hundreds of times for a week or two before it got to the point where every girl in a row was a 7-9. That was when it was the best though, and I actually got decent matches with good looking women that turned into conversations and some dates.
/r/seduction12/08/22 10:05 PM
1

One loyal one for sure. Can create a deeper relationship. Loyalty is hard to find these days.
/r/seduction12/08/22 02:59 PM
1

Yeah I’m not advocating the click bait guys trying to milk money from guys. It’s hard to find the genuine straight up guys giving real practical advice for those who need some direction. Think that’s what OP’s looking for. Unfortunately none really come to mind for me to recommend. I’ve seen a lot of them and there’s a lot of bs circulating.
/r/seduction11/08/22 03:38 AM
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Well I take the initiative to share wisdom with those who struggle. It seems like you don’t know what it means to be a leader in that sense, which is fine. You can have whatever negative outlook you’d like. Too many depressed guys out here unfulfilled because they’re wandering aimlessly.
/r/seduction11/08/22 01:41 AM
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Big disagree with this. If anything we need more strong male figures teaching others how to be the best men we can be. Also he’s looking for something beyond women and approaching, which from a productive standpoint is almost a waste of time unless you’re trying to get a girl pregnant and have a child. Real men build, conquer, push their limits, and leave legacies. Takes a lot more than 30 minutes to learn any of those things. More like a lifelong journey of self improvement.
/r/seduction10/08/22 09:05 PM
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The thing is. If you want to touch her you should. That’s why I touch my girl. I can’t keep my hands off her sometimes, while other times I’m fine without constant touching. Just go with what you feel like doing.
/r/seduction10/08/22 08:40 PM
1

Clearly it’s not that serious if this happened only a couple weeks ago and now she wants to spend a night with you. If she wanted to cut you off she would have. You don’t have to take labeling as friends seriously especially after being fwb. You’ll friendzone yourself by listening to her.
/r/seduction10/08/22 08:19 PM
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I think the biggest problem with this whole scenario is that you’re not even trying to hang out with the girl whose number you just got. If you really felt enough of something to want her number you should put more effort into chilling with that girl and seeing how things progress. Go deep not wide my friend. Then you won’t need to bounce around like a pinball machine. If that’s not possible then just be social but talk to everyone not just the women. If women come up to you then socialize. The …
/r/seduction09/08/22 07:23 AM
1

Imagine if nobody ever took the initiative to speak with you then, you would never talk at all. Offer value with what you have to say. Make someone’s day better. The whole point isn’t to get women like they are a prize. Have an enjoyable conversation and add to their life with what you have to offer.
/r/seduction08/08/22 09:07 AM
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Just push through and look deep to find the root of these problems. Work through that first. What helped me was reading a lot about stoicism and minimizing attachments. Attachment to your ego, as well as the validation from women. Expectations can also be a big killer. The best relationships I’ve had were when I wasn’t trying to get into one. I didn’t expect anything to happen but then it did. I’m currently in a relationship, but I’ve been through enough of then to know if it ends I will be fine…
/r/seduction07/08/22 07:47 AM
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I’ve tripped something like 90+ times. Some low dose like 1g for social, a few times microdose, and a good amount tripping 2g-3.5g. Few times over 4g. I’d say the more profound changes came from the higher doses. It wasn’t instant, but over time it did make a difference and now I have virtually no anxiety. I was always into self-improvement however and would always build what I learned with bettering myself and optimizing my mind.
/r/seduction31/07/22 09:41 PM
15

Shrooms are underrated. Got rid of 99% of my fears and makes me feel like a super genius when interacting socially.
/r/seduction30/07/22 09:59 PM
1

Yes it gets better. You’re seeing the world more as it really is compared to how you thought it was. There’s anger there and disappointment which we all feel when seeing the truth. It will pass when you learn to accept it. Girls aren’t the fulfillment of your life you were led to believe, they are just more experiences. Fulfill yourself in other ways and one day you will find a good relationship to build. Never stop building yourself and don’t think of women as delicate princesses. They like sex…
/r/seduction29/07/22 06:13 PM
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You sound like you’re 10 years old. A real man goes after what he wants not what other people approve of. Grow a pair and make your own choices.
/r/seduction24/07/22 09:20 PM
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They don't understand what women really want. They just give them what they ask for or what they were conditioned to think they want. Lack of decisiveness, conviction, weakening of men due to societal and media conditioning, feminine behaviors that repulse women. It's a very complicated and deep issue.
/r/seduction22/07/22 08:06 PM
1

If you aren’t sure then she isn’t into you. A girl will make it obvious how much she likes you.
/r/seduction20/07/22 07:30 AM
3

It is possible to rid yourself of the negative thoughts if you truly focus on changing the way you think. It sounds like your ego is clinging onto this negativity as a form of self-identification as if this is who you must be. But it isn’t. You can choose to think differently, in fact at any moment you can choose to be better. Start looking for the good in everything you see. Every rejection or failure is simply a redirection towards something better. Even those can be seen as positive. Reframe …
/r/seduction20/07/22 07:15 AM
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Emotional fulfillment and depth comes from a relationship with a woman and support comes from the friends that you make. As a man it is important to find male friends that you can confide in, in ways that a girlfriend cannot help you. She will support you, but it is unwise to ever unleash your problems on your women who are romantic partners. Keep them filled in on important things sure, but if it’s just to vent don’t do it. If you are already solving the problem you can let her know.
/r/seduction20/07/22 07:07 AM
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All of the rejection can either make you weaker or stronger. It is all how you choose to cope with it. We will all fail at things in life, but success is built off of failures over time. Nobody gets it right instantly. You’re growing.
/r/seduction14/07/22 07:49 AM
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Remain calm and yourself. This is something mostly out of your control. Since you're talking to this girl and may not be in a relationship quite yet you're still in the vetting stage. How she acts around guys that flirt with her will show you whether or not she is a good fit for you. It's not about stopping her from doing anything or preventing other guys from hitting on her, it's an evaluation of her character.
/r/seduction09/07/22 09:04 PM
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Move on. Likely her feelings for her ex boyfriend were much stronger than the attraction you could generate with her. Just enjoy the experience for what it was.
/r/seduction09/07/22 08:58 PM
1

I’ve gotten called that and take it as a huge compliment
/r/seduction07/07/22 04:52 PM
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Lol I slid in my girl’s dms on a story she posted at the gym. Asked her to lift together and now we’re in a relationship. Have some balls to take the initiative. You likely aren’t a big enough prize to be completely passive like a woman would be.
/r/seduction02/07/22 08:45 PM
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I didn’t last long my first time, but the key is pacing. Don’t go full speed if you feel it coming, slow down, stop, maybe kiss a bit. Even switching positions can buy you some time to cool down. Don’t sweat it either, make sure you let her know that she really turned you on if you do orgasm quickly. Then go again for round two after a break and just focus on her until you’re good to go. Good luck.
/r/seduction02/07/22 05:38 PM
2

Sometimes I don’t on the dance floor while grinding. I haven’t had issues with performing in bed later, however so I don’t think it’s the worst thing.
/r/seduction02/07/22 05:29 PM
2

The real advice
/r/seduction02/07/22 04:30 PM
1

I do think I am attractive, but mainly thanks to myself for improving my attractiveness. Gym, good style, good hygiene.
/r/seduction30/06/22 06:29 PM
4

I don’t have much money and I have a very attractive girlfriend who has dated millionaires and famous influencers in the past
/r/seduction30/06/22 07:51 AM
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There’s always trouble but they are just projecting positive thoughts and self-confidence by saying that. Sometimes with communication, and with women especially, you need to understand the deeper meaning behind why people say things instead of taking the words literally
/r/seduction30/06/22 01:43 AM
7

Bad mindset. You’re holding yourself back. Learn to think optimistically and your life and social interactions will improve drastically.
/r/seduction26/06/22 04:17 AM
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Born alone, live alone, die alone. Most of the hardest things you will do in life will be alone.
/r/seduction26/06/22 03:03 AM
6

Well if you’re talking to everyone chances are you will then go talk to women you find attractive. Got to get in the flow
/r/seduction26/06/22 03:02 AM
2

How is this post helping anything? People literally post this shit every single day on this sub now. Where is the discussion of seduction at all? This is getting ridiculous. It’s like an echo chamber for all the whiny kids now. If you aren’t traditionally good looking in your mind then keep improving yourself, you have no other option but to try. Girls do have different preferences, there’s no one size fits all. We don’t need more men that complain, we need real men who can take action and build…
/r/seduction25/06/22 05:25 PM
1

Well I’m late 20s and my girlfriend is 21. She loves my maturity and confidence. She’s a solid 9.
/r/seduction25/06/22 02:17 AM
5

Better to be short and ripped than short and skinny or fat
/r/seduction21/06/22 08:07 AM
4

Lack of attention and connection will lead to a bitter end such as this. It’s unfortunate and hopefully you will get divorced sooner rather than later.
/r/seduction19/06/22 07:47 AM
2

If you were the woman, what would you want from a man? Who would you feel comfortable giving yourself to? Definitely not some loser with no ambition, leadership qualities, confidence, or the ability to adapt and overcome challenges in life. They need a man who can lead her, who she can trust, and who knows how to be a real man.
/r/seduction18/06/22 09:58 PM
2

I found tinder was garbage. Used bumble as well, but also garbage. Hinge was giving me the most luck as you can message first and use a funny line to get attention. Before I deleted it I was getting a few matches a day. Over a year something like 500+
/r/seduction18/06/22 06:32 PM
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Mine does. I love her, but she’s much more in love with me. It’s amazing what a woman will do for you that cares that much.
/r/seduction15/06/22 05:45 PM
1

After a while all that you learn will become who you are and the attraction process is effortless. Why do we do this in the first place? I like to think it’s to connect with women and other people on a deeper and more fulfilling level. Eventually it will pay off and the person you become will attract and keep a high quality woman by your side as well as higher quality friends who will support you for being yourself. Keep it real, once the real you is in line with becoming the strongest version o…
/r/seduction15/06/22 05:41 PM
1

Gotta have a good connection or I don’t even consider a woman worth having sex with. Don’t give a shit how hot either. Granted I’ve dabbled when I was younger and have slept with a bit more than you, it’s good that you’re realizing this now. Don’t allow any woman access to you sexually she has to unlock that to gain the rewards, be the prize. Women want a challenge anyways.
/r/seduction14/06/22 07:23 AM
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True, but that's because of the fame, social proof, musical talent, which all translate to high social status and power. So if you lack all those the least you can do is take care of your hygiene and physical appearance.
/r/seduction12/06/22 10:47 PM
3

He’s right though that’s what I did with my current girlfriend. She constantly wants to prove herself to me and treats me like a king.
/r/seduction11/06/22 06:06 PM
2

If she will cheat with you she will cheat on you
/r/seduction10/06/22 05:50 PM
2

Just remember that to a woman, being desired is a big turn on. Just don’t be needy about it. No problem in letting her know what you think.
/r/seduction10/06/22 03:43 PM
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Don’t spend your time with people you don’t care about or connect with in the first place.
/r/seduction10/06/22 03:38 PM
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My girlfriend likes to say this. I usually smile and ignore it or say "You have a dirty mind, you're already thinking about us having sex". Another good one is "What have you done to deserve to have sex with me?". Then we always end up having sex.
/r/seduction10/06/22 12:10 AM
2

My girlfriend told me after we kissed the first time if I had asked she wouldn't have kissed me. I was 100% certain she wanted to kiss though
/r/seduction08/06/22 08:55 PM
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It's funny because it's called having game to pick up women. Life is a game man, play or don't play the rules still apply. Either give up in defeat or learn to win.
/r/seduction07/06/22 04:18 PM
2

Thanks. Also went into it without any expectations, just that I wanted to workout with an attractive girl. Already had a couple girls at the time so wasn't trying to sleep with her. Kept it flirty of course, and escalated slowly over time. Conversations naturally got more sexual. Vetted her to make sure she was compatible with me.
/r/seduction04/06/22 06:03 PM
1

It always happens when you least expect it or when you aren’t even looking for it in the first place. Just put yourself out there, ask girls out, and you may find yourself pleasantly surprised soon enough.
/r/seduction04/06/22 03:06 AM
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Met her at a bar a few years ago through a mutual friend. Got her instagram but never had a long conversation with her. Timing was off back then. Didn’t make any moves, but thought she was cute. Couple months ago saw her post at the gym, so I asked her to workout together and she kept wanting to workout every day since then. The rest is history.
/r/seduction04/06/22 02:57 AM
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Apps were actually doing well for me until I got a girlfriend a month ago. Had some consistent girls, which always went beyond one date into a hookup type situation. Funny though, my girlfriend now was not from apps and she blew every girl I had met on apps out of the water.
/r/seduction04/06/22 02:01 AM
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She wants to see if you're man enough to not take her seriously. My girlfriend told me we weren't having sex right before the first time we had sex. I just laughed it off because it was clear she wanted to have sex.
/r/seduction03/06/22 10:40 PM
2

A small tip I can give you is just start making more decisions. Don't ask others what you should do, but always focus on becoming a leader any opportunity that presents itself. Everything in life comes down to the small decisions you make. Choose to do what's best for yourself, take care of yourself, and never stop learning or improving yourself and you will find that confidence will follow when you truly realize that you can shape yourself into the strongest version of yourself possible. The ob…
/r/seduction03/06/22 08:24 PM
2

Sounds like something you'd hear a woman tell you. I forgot we should all listen to women about what they want. Might as well let them make all the decisions in relationships too. I'm not a hater just a man that believes in making more men leaders. Leaders take action and go for what they want.
/r/seduction18/05/22 01:12 AM
2

Depends on the girl. My girl loves to be talked to like that, but we discussed that before ever having sex. She's my little sexdoll :)
/r/seduction13/05/22 11:10 PM
2

Most of them do, even if they aren't sleeping around a lot. Slut for the right man. Learn this and prosper OP.
/r/seduction13/05/22 11:05 PM
4

Where else are you supposed to rub your boner?
/r/seduction13/05/22 09:35 PM
4

I can't even read this. Stop being a bitch. I don't do what my girl tells me to, and she listens to me. If that's not how you are with a woman you're fucked. Be a leader
/r/seduction13/05/22 03:27 AM
1

Just like anything else in life it is an experience that comes and goes. Soon you will forget it, and it will be like it never happened at all. Like dust in the wind.
/r/seduction09/05/22 11:59 PM
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What if you're out and you're hungry cause gains
/r/seduction09/05/22 07:04 PM
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Attraction is an interesting thing because you can notice it if you are aware of what it is. Think of the physics definition of attraction, "a force under the influence of which objects tend to move toward each other." If you find women coming closer to you, wanting to talk to you, hang out with you, then surprise, you're attractive in some way.
/r/seduction08/05/22 04:14 PM
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Problem is I think that yes, it is completely possible to take this chance to attract her, but that OP might have a hard time behaving attractively to her. Me for example, I never get friendzoned and I don't believe in a friendzone, but I also behave in ways that aren't like a friend naturally around women that I find attractive. Seems like she's holding all the power and the balance isn't in his favor, but he needs to do everything you said and come from a place of non-neediness for it to work.…
/r/seduction07/05/22 07:12 PM
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Make her feel good. Be high value and non-needy. Also don't give a shit if she talks to other guys and you will already set yourself apart. Attract and pipe her down better than the others. If you don't care about any other guy or consider them competition they won't be. Obviously if she becomes your girlfriend and sees guys still then drop that girl and don't give a shit either way about the outcome.
/r/seduction03/05/22 07:27 PM
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Good post. These are all major factors that I try to share with others as well. It's completely about a mindset shift that has to occur before things click and all of these tips become part of who you are. Admittedly it took me a while to figure all these out on my own, so I hope that others can learn from this quicker than I did.
/r/seduction03/05/22 07:13 PM
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I'm not talking about people doing it wrong. The way I do it works out fine and girls are always laughing calling me an asshole while being attracted to me. I also back it up by being genuinely kind, but very confident in my own abilities. It's not for everyone, but it will always work since it's playful.
/r/seduction03/05/22 07:03 PM
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One of the biggest factors in maintaining is your state of mind. You need to be relaxed enough to keep what you have going, so it will be mental most of the time. Try focusing on meditation, read the power of now, you need to be enjoying each step of the experience and where you seem to be having trouble is the moment right when things should be heightening furthest. Sounds like a fear is taking hold of you. You need to lessen that fear.
/r/seduction03/05/22 03:48 PM
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Although cocky and funny works well when they are attracted.
/r/seduction03/05/22 04:54 AM
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I've been lifting for 10 years and am very happy with how I look. Usually the biggest guy in the room. But to get to a decent point it's going to take a couple-few years. Don't lift for girls though, lift for yourself, that's the only way you will stay motivated. If you lift for women then when you get a girlfriend you'll get lazy and fat. I've seen this happen to most guys. Start now, but don't ever stop.
/r/seduction03/05/22 04:52 AM
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Hm then why do girls work for my affection when I put in little effort?
/r/seduction01/05/22 10:50 PM
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Back off, reengage. Same tactic you can use in a club or social setting. I've gotten rejected once only to go back and then hook up with a girl later. They change their mind on a whim depending on how they are feeling.
/r/seduction01/05/22 10:38 PM
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Don't need money to be with hot women. The goal is to be a high value man. Solid personality, unshakable frame, good financials, best physical shape you can be, good mental health, and sprinkle some bad boy on top. That will set you above the broke bad boys and the rich guys with no game who can't get girls. You will literally be so high value that girls will fight each other to get you. Aim high.
/r/seduction01/05/22 10:34 PM
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No girls don't do that. Bot account. Real girls will make an onlyfans and get you to pay for it. Anything extremely sexual out of the blue is not normal behavior for a girl you don't know online.
/r/seduction01/05/22 10:28 PM
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Nah man, you're fine, I'm the same way. I've tried and the little junior me just wouldn't stand at attention. She has to be above a certain threshold and stimulate me mentally or it's a no go. Also can't deal with girls who don't know how to turn me on, inexperience is a big turn off for me.
/r/seduction01/05/22 10:04 PM
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Same way that extroverts do it. I'm an introvert and I simply make myself go talk to girls that I find attractive. Once I'm socializing it's all good, there seems to be a longer warm up period for us. I'm fine at festivals/clubs anywhere with lots of people, but I've also been frequenting places like that for over 10 years so I feel very comfortable and relaxed at all times. Have confidence and go after what you want. After a few too many days of socializing however, I can't wait to go chill by …
/r/seduction01/05/22 09:43 PM
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All good man, not once-in-a-lifetime as you might imagine. Plenty of better girls out there.
/r/seduction30/04/22 08:30 PM
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Yes never give up and don't let it get you own. It's normal to get frustrated at first, but eventually you will stop caring and that will actually make you more attractive. Maintain your honor and dignity, respect yourself first. But yes flirting is like push pull, there's give and take, different flows.
/r/seduction22/04/22 10:59 PM
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Okay well that's good, but it's important to always keep the mindset of improvement. Being more muscular never hurts. Masculinity comes in more ways than fitness and work, it's definitely a mindset and way of being. The way you navigate the world and respond to what's around you. There are good resources online that can help, I had to learn most of it on my own since my father wasn't much of a manly kind of guy.
/r/seduction22/04/22 10:58 PM
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Well have strong solid values, a direction, don't look for validation from others. Be a leader in interactions and in life. I don't know you well enough to give you specific advice, but it could boil down to many factors. Make sure you speak slowly and confidently, have a solid tone of voice. Don't let your pitch go up at the end of your sentences or it sounds like you're unsure and asking questions. Don't be reactive, only react to things when you choose to. Be in control of yourself. Gain more…
/r/seduction22/04/22 08:09 PM
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Great post and hopefully more guys will get to the point where they can fully digest what you shared and understand. These are major keys and flirting is the baseline requirement for any seduction.
/r/seduction22/04/22 08:04 PM
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That will be the outcome because your mindset is garbage. Stop putting yourself down and quit operating out of fear.
/r/seduction22/04/22 07:57 PM
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Bad calibration and they don't respect you. Become a man worth respecting.
/r/seduction22/04/22 07:55 PM
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Yes and remaining a bit mysterious is key to seduction. Nobody should ever know that they "have you" 100%. Think of women like cats chasing a ball of yarn, they get bored when they finally get it and move on to something else. Remain elusive, yet within reach. There's an art to the flow of back and forth. That's how your communication should be.
/r/seduction22/04/22 07:52 PM
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Well the OP did a good job of explaining what it is, whether you think it's cringey or not doesn't mean that is isn't effective. It's the subtle art of being playful, seductive, and teasing others while projecting confidence. "Hitting on someone" is basically just direct compliments and admittance of feelings which is what most guys do who have low level abilities at interacting with those they are attracted to. It's one of the problems I see most with this sub, people who don't understand flirt…
/r/seduction22/04/22 07:48 PM
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Why are you on the seduction subreddit? The baseline requirement for seduction is FLIRTING! You literally can't do it without flirting.
/r/seduction22/04/22 06:31 PM
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More people need to take that last line to heart. True seduction takes far more skill and is much more rewarding than simply getting a girl to have sex with you.
/r/seduction21/04/22 05:46 AM
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You nailed it on the head though. I've learned a lot of the theories and stuff, tried out different tactics, read up on things, but at the end of the day digesting all the information and then winging it seems to work best for me. I don't really plan anything anymore, what I have learned through experience has become who I am. I don't have to think about how to attract women when I am doing it, I just be "myself" because that is who I became. So it's good to know why things work, but really I ca…
/r/seduction18/04/22 06:50 PM
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I always make girls flex and give their tiny biceps a squeeze it's hilarious.
/r/seduction18/04/22 06:46 AM
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Well re-reading text message conversations and wondering how well they went. Being nice, but bordering on too nice so I had to switch up to being a bit more flirty and tease. Asked her out two days in a row, but she was busy and couldn't make it so backed off a bit. A little overeager and started noticing myself having expectations when that isn't what I normally do. All the overthinking was for nothing though and I have another date with her lined up and will see her tomorrow too. I've learned …
/r/seduction18/04/22 06:45 AM
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I understand and that is do-able. To be honest I still play games every once in a while but might be once a week for an hour or two or even less, but my schedule doesn't really permit. I'm pursuing other hobbies that should have my attention when I have free time over gaming. You will have to find the balance. Working out, eating right, reading, will take you very far and have such a positive impact. I do all of those and always feel great. A break for a bit will be good and once you have everyt…
/r/seduction18/04/22 05:53 AM
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I also had a video game addiction when I was younger. It’s amazing how much more rewarding life is when you finally do develop great social skills, have a solid social circle, and are out living life as often as you can. Beats any game I’ve played by a long shot. Just keep hope that there will be a brighter future for yourself with more fulfillment that is tangible and you can experience if you just keep working on becoming the best version of you.
/r/seduction18/04/22 03:37 AM
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Well I'm right in the middle of it right now, we're not going at a fast pace. I have another date with her coming up. I also have a different girl wanting to move in the relationship direction that I am seeing tomorrow. Time will tell.
/r/seduction17/04/22 05:37 AM
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Was doing casual for a while, but I'm also getting older and value good connection so I wouldn't turn down the right girl that I'm looking for just to stay casual. Personal preference, but casual doesn't do it for me in a fulfillment sense.
/r/seduction17/04/22 04:16 AM
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Well through dating apps and also meeting girls places. I go to a lot of music festivals, clubs, bars, but also other places such as at my school, the beach, wherever really. I make it a priority to approach girls that I find attractive. Rather than focusing on techniques I mainly have prioritized becoming more masculine. I speak slowly with a deep tone of voice, am not easily reactive, I'm pretty big muscular wise as well, and I just don't look for approval in any woman. I'd say working on char…
/r/seduction16/04/22 04:34 AM
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I wasn't doing either of those. I show my emotions appropriately for her and do not let them control me. I was also casually dating beforehand, but lost desire for the others when there is one that I do value. I meant focus on myself in the sense of my purpose, mission in life, hobbies, work and studies. To stop me from acting in unattractive ways, which we will all have to catch ourselves doing from time to time. I was getting overeager to text her and started overthinking slightly.
/r/seduction16/04/22 04:26 AM
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Happens to the best of us. I’ve been casually dating and sleeping with around 5-6 girls for the last few months. Met one girl who clicked better than the rest, share same values, and I started to actually like more than the rest. Had to catch myself before I slipped cause I was about to start behaving in stupid ways. Even caught myself overthinking text exchanges…like wtf. Had to go focus on myself and my other priorities to get my mind straight.
/r/seduction16/04/22 01:47 AM
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If you work on yourself and become successful at women you will hopefully be past the anger phase. If women are still able to make you angry then you haven't worked on yourself enough.
/r/seduction15/04/22 06:37 PM
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Everything is degrading. It's true, guys think their appearance will attract girls so they start acting like girls standing around for attention. Then everywhere I look it's the ugly out of shape guy with the hottest girl. Looks don't hurt but inaction is much worse, it makes you appear weak to women if you can't go after what you want.
/r/seduction14/04/22 08:12 PM
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As you progress more it will come more naturally, it is a skill that can be learned through practice and repetition. Once you cultivate yourself into the type of person who gives value through interactions, then you know that you will only be adding to their life. What helped me was that I used to avoid the very attractive girls when I was younger due to lower confidence, where as now I realize that even the hottest girls are usually into me, I just have to go introduce myself. Life's too short …
/r/seduction14/04/22 07:01 AM
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If you're giving girls trust issues you're an idiot.
/r/seduction14/04/22 06:58 AM
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Yeah that's a good one and similar. Breaks touch barrier quick and is pretty harmless. Not some crazy escalation but sets a good tone.
/r/seduction06/04/22 10:52 PM
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Don't wait, you could die tomorrow. Live your life.
/r/seduction06/04/22 06:02 PM
1

Yeah I even get bold enough where if it's a date and we're walking together I will hold her hand right off the bat. I've never had a girl not be okay with this while I am leading her.
/r/seduction06/04/22 06:00 PM
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1000% this. It's not some big act going and approaching, it's just being social. Then you start talking to someone and vet to see if you're compatible. Trying to sleep with a girl just because she's physically attractive is surface level beginner stuff. It usually unfolds in the right direction if you know where you're going, lead, and both of you are into it.
/r/seduction06/04/22 05:46 PM
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I get it, I don't need to show anyone either, but in the case with instagram there are basically only benefits and no downsides for me personally. That's just the way I use it so it wouldn't make sense for me to get rid of it. Plus having a good social life and social circle game with lots of friends always benefits in the way of attracting women. More so than the invisible guy that disappears, but that's just how the world works.
/r/seduction03/04/22 01:48 AM
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I'm going to be the devil's advocate here and just say having good social media game can definitely go a long way. I mainly only use instagram, not snapchat/tiktok/facebook and I really only post pictures of myself doing things or when I go places. I don't spend a lot of time on the app, but I have accumulated a good following and it does not hurt. Keeps me in touch with people and girls will open me when I post on my stories with DM's. I don't post everything though, so there is still the air o…
/r/seduction02/04/22 10:21 PM
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You could just say what you feel. "I really want to kiss you right now" then you either kiss or you don't it's that simple.
/r/seduction02/04/22 02:40 AM
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I disagree. It should not be the focal point of your life, because you should have a mission/purpose and other hobbies that are your main priority, but giving up sounds like the easy way out. There are good things to learn and improving your social skills is absolutely critical in more ways than just women. Learning game applies to everything in life. What I don't advocate is becoming obsessed with getting girls to the point that you don't do anything else.
/r/seduction31/03/22 02:18 AM
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I don't think there are specific words that you need to use to make it man to woman, it's more of a frame. As in you are the man and she is the woman, you lead and she follows. You can simply display this by touching her and being physical. I for one like to comment on things that they do which are feminine or their feminine traits such as being small, soft, sweet etc.
/r/seduction30/03/22 10:04 PM
2

Friendzone doesn't exist. If you can attract her it doesn't matter.
/r/seduction30/03/22 09:49 PM
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I'm a man and I understand women very well because I took the time to learn. Don't discourage people from learning and bettering themselves because it is difficult for some guys to do. There are many benefits. On the topic of the thread, there are many different ways to have/give/show value. These extend beyond wealth and fame.
/r/seduction30/03/22 12:41 AM
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Well if you were going out with her, you like her, and she likes you, then own that shit. You basically dismissed her by failing to claim her right in front of her. Pro tip: The other women will want you more when they see you already have a girl in mind. That's why you should always tell girls you have a girlfriend when they ask.
/r/seduction28/03/22 09:27 PM
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Yeah what the fuck is this shit? If you're joking about this to your friends you have bigger issues than not being yourself around women
/r/seduction28/03/22 08:45 PM
1

Eh bro I mean she has to stimulate me with her personality and mind to even get me turned on in the first place. I can't just look at her and be ready to go, she has to earn my interest. I believe the same goes for women in the way that they can be turned on more and more over time based on things that you do if you escalate properly. Also have to consider that guys who do have high status and wealth probably also have strong personalities that led them to obtain those things, so personality cou…
/r/seduction26/03/22 01:06 AM
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I was more replying to your other comment saying sexual attraction is only visual. Which in the case of men towards women is more true, but women for men it's more of who he is than exactly how he looks. I could say the same for me too, I don't even get turned on by boring girls that are smoking hot. I'd get much more turned on from a girl that's a cute 7 or 8 that can get me going than a starfish 10 that wants to just lay on the bed. Been there done that, boring.
/r/seduction25/03/22 11:18 PM
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Why are you on the seduction sub if you foolishly believe that looks are everything? Lol that's just a cop out answer for losers with no game. It goes both ways. I've met girls that weren't the most attractive who became way hotter because of their personalities, and believe it or not that happens to women with men too. Who knew!
/r/seduction25/03/22 11:11 PM
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I use baby if we're already getting into it with flirting and stuff, even if I don't know them that well, but that's how I talk. It's not weird or forced because of my delivery, tonality, and what I'm saying. Usually it's just to get their attention like, "Nah baby, listen".
/r/seduction25/03/22 07:30 PM
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These comments are awful. It seems like nobody on this sub even knows what game is. Game extends far beyond picking up women, game is how you decode this reality that we live in and how you choose to play it to your advantage. Most concepts and things that have been outlined in logical ways are just explanations of things that work. It's like music theory, if you write music you don't need music theory to make good music, but it explains WHY things sound good. Same with pickup, there are things …
/r/seduction24/03/22 11:48 PM
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Yeah, it seems to me like the overall atmosphere of it is declining. The novelty is long gone about it being something new and now it's like a reflex. I actually get a good amount of matches I'd say like 10+ a day and the success rate turning into a meetup is almost not even worth the effort.
/r/seduction19/03/22 10:50 PM
1

If I had to tone back my answer, I'd say mid 30s is more accurate. 27 doesn't make as much sense, but putting this all down to a formula also doesn't make much sense. Varies from individual to individual. I've found this chart to be accurate in my observations throughout life. https://rationalmale.files.wordpress.com/2012/05/smv\_curve1.jpg
/r/seduction19/03/22 07:20 AM
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I disagree, I've tended to hear many women think good looking celebrities have gotten more manly, rugged, and handsome the older they have gotten. I get where you're coming from, but you're approaching attraction far too logically. I've noticed the older I've gotten, the more women are attracted to me, and I've seen it with many older guys that I know personally. Also keep in mind that physical appearance is less important for women than it is to men. You have to consider what happens to your mi…
/r/seduction18/03/22 10:38 PM
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And why do you think that a 20 year old is genetically superior? Why do you think that wrinkle marks are unattractive to women? This is where you might be mislead, thinking that a youthful appearance is more attractive as a man. You have to consider what makes a masculine man attractive to a woman, and think about it on a primal level. Youth is more admired in women, as is with delicate young skin, etc.
/r/seduction18/03/22 10:06 PM
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Because men get more attractive as they age, usually peaking in the 40s granted he stays hitting the gym hard and isn't a loser. Women start at their peak around 18-25 and then are on a more downward slope after that. This is why as far as sexual value goes, an older mature and established man will be able to get the younger girl in her prime because they're at the same level and a lot of women are drawn to men with experience since they are typically more confident and have "been there done tha…
/r/seduction18/03/22 09:54 PM
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Yeah man, the older you get the more it hits you. I'm a little older than you and I don't waste my time sleeping with girls I don't have a connection with. Random hookups and one night stands sound a lot cooler in your head before all is said and done. Granted, not every one is going to be awful, but a solid connection and vibe then something a little ongoing blows quick ones out of the water every time.
/r/seduction18/03/22 09:32 PM
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Lol right you can tell these guys are young as hell or just really immature. As if their self image is that important and people actually give a shit who they're fucking. Better to own your shit if you're gonna get intimate with a girl and be a man about it.
/r/seduction18/03/22 09:21 PM
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Yeah this has actually never happened to me before. If we go out to eat I'll pick the restaurant and I only eat because I'm hungry. Would almost always do something less involved than grabbing dinner though, like coffee or just drinks. It's almost impossible to flirt and get into physical touch quickly with her sitting across from you at a table unless you grab her hands or sit next to her.
/r/seduction07/03/22 08:19 PM
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Huge one that I've been internalizing and fully realizing/understanding lately is the importance of not what you say, but how you say it. Staying calm, speaking low and slow will literally take you to the moon when it comes to success with women. Don't need any kind of lines and I can just talk in that way which is inherently a bit sexual in nature. Has drastically improved my success.
/r/seduction03/03/22 11:49 PM
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Yep, have a goal and mission for yourself in life and girls are the support to that mission. Still learn and practice with women and know how to meet them, but they are hardly worthy of that much mental energy. Even sex doesn't have much value if you truly have a mission, it is just a basic need to be met. I heard some good advice lately, a real boss isn't someone who is just trying to sleep with as many girls as he can, but someone who is making moves and leveling up. Be rare for not just ANY g…
/r/seduction22/02/22 07:16 PM
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Get another girl, or go out with this girl. You're your own person, how many other choices will you let him make for you. Just realize the consequences of your own actions.
/r/seduction22/02/22 06:57 PM
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You problem isn't getting her to reply back, it is to build yourself up and go beyond what you are now. As you spend more time around women you will learn that sex has little value, and what is more appealing to women is creating a connection and them earning you taking them on a date. Just because she looks good doesn't mean that she should win you over that easily, it makes you the same as all the other guys who only chase after appearance. It's like a spider catching you in their web, you're …
/r/seduction16/02/22 06:51 AM
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This is it. Starting an interesting conversation and just enjoying people's company that are out. Important social skill applies to everybody. The whole idea of "approaching" gets negated when it's an obvious approach, the more natural it flows then the more likely success is I've found.
/r/seduction16/01/22 10:08 PM
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To be honest, I'm going through the same thing with a girl I'm seeing where I'm not feeling it as much and don't want to lead her on. I'm going to be a little more clear with her and not offer the friends thing, but the truth is: from my perspective I am trying to date other women and there's nothing she can do to change my mind. So just accept it and move on, because if she wanted to keep dating you and be with you she would. There won't be any magic thing to do to get her back.
/r/seduction16/01/22 08:52 PM
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Massively false.
/r/seduction07/11/21 08:36 PM
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I'd say that getting emotional and butthurt about her leaving and then not accepting her back would be a decision made from weakness and even more needy than what he did. He planted the seed with indifference, but enough desire for her to return.
/r/seduction02/09/21 09:06 PM
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