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İ see so you are in different position and author say you should be like them,but you are not like "them",and its frustrating,am i understand correct? Yes. Manson claims that I should be comfortable with my flaws but in the end he wants me to be a way which is fundamentally incompatible with my flaws.
/r/ExRedPill05/04/23 08:10 PM
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The whole problem with Manson's book is that it the surface level, it claims that you should be comfortable with your flaws. But then it begins saying "Be comfortable with your flaws but not like this" and from there it starts rebuilding the same traditional masculinity which is the core tenet of most other redpill gurus. And in this process, a lot of flaws (e.g. insecurity, lack of humour etc) become anathema again. Stuff which you must change. For example, I am a very neurotic, insecure and so…
/r/ExRedPill05/04/23 07:26 PM
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So i see when we talk about "redpill" we talk about different things,in my mind redpill is,"women choose more powerful and people have more status everytime they get a chance,(hypergami),so you have to be so powerful etc,and cause of that women cant love like men,showing emotions and crying in front of your women is weekness,you should always hold your frame,you should always remind that they cant love you really,they love only your options,you should change plates(make love and flirt lots of wo…
/r/ExRedPill05/04/23 04:46 PM
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I read "Models" and I considered it as my entrypoint into the redpill. It emphasizes many typical redpill talking points. For example, in order to be attractive to women, you need to project status, be assertive, be confident etc. - i.e. display traditional masculinity. Manson also claims that you should be primarily invested in yourself. When I talk about the redpill, I pretty much mean Models since its the only redpill content I have consumed.
/r/ExRedPill05/04/23 02:46 PM
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Wait "Models" isn't a red pill book? I always considered it the quintessential redpill book.
/r/ExRedPill05/04/23 01:51 PM
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I don't have any social media. And no, I don't believe that most of my life is in my control. I tried too hard with too little success to believe that.
/r/ExRedPill03/04/23 03:26 AM
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I don't know what people you deal with but this kind of questions sound really immature at this age. I don't know. This seems to be just normal smalltalk between friends or close acquaintances. I also know a few girls who are very open about their sex lives. When I am asked, I am usually just honest. Shuts the conversation up very quickly.
/r/ExRedPill02/04/23 04:47 PM
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Yes. One explanation for this discrepancy was that women might consider certain arrangements relationships while their "partners" still think they are single.
/r/ExRedPill02/04/23 01:35 AM
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I'm not sure if there is any additional text to OPs post which I can't read but I believe OP was implicitely asking about that recently very frequently discussed survey which said that twice as many women between 18 and 29 are in relationships compared to men of the same age.
/r/ExRedPill02/04/23 01:31 AM
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No. Got that question from female friends too.
/r/ExRedPill01/04/23 03:22 PM
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He eventually started delving into women’s psychology and just blossomed with creating equally compelling female characters. But isn't the idea of women's psychology in itself another redpill trope?
/r/ExRedPill01/04/23 03:00 PM
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I'm in my mid 30s and the question surprisingly comes up again and again. Not in the direct version, but as "How old were you when you lost your virginity?" or "Who was your first partner?" or "When did you last have sex?".
/r/ExRedPill01/04/23 02:55 PM
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No idea. But its the only explanation I can still come up with.
/r/ExRedPill30/03/23 12:19 AM
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I mean, my husband is 5'7", doesn't have a 6-pack or anything close to it, and didn't start making 6 figures until a couple of years ago when he was already in his 40s, and we met when he was just shy of 25. So yeah, none of that stuff matters. It doesn't matter. Your husband was just among those preordained to have partners. You can be a model looking, 6'2 billionaire with a great personality and struggle and you can be an ugly, short, poor and abusive and do well. Because dating success is ind…
/r/ExRedPill29/03/23 06:03 PM
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There are lots of people who look like movie stars who have no success, and lots of people who don't look like movie stars who have lots of success. And its the same with every other trait. Two people can be almost identical in looks, status, behavior and personality and do diametrically different with women. Have and have nots. There is nothing the haves need to do and nothing the have nots can do.
/r/ExRedPill29/03/23 05:57 PM
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"Success" to the redpill is using people and discarding them. This is literally abuse. If your goal is to abuse people, then you have the wrong goal. The redpill primarily covers basic alpha male advice: be financially independent, work out, take care of your appearance, be confident and masculine. The whole six feet, six pack, six figures trope. Not that any of that matters or works. If you're looking for a person to love, there are people who will love you if you're out there and being your aw…
/r/ExRedPill29/03/23 05:52 PM
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I don't believe that there is a path to it. There are have and have-nots. And for most have-nots there is no path at all. The red pill gives the have-nots the false illusion that there is a path and that is what makes it so toxic. Red pill often tells men that you have to make this much and act this way, get in shape… anybody can do it. Anybody can do it. But that doesn't mean that it works. There is no formula, no path. In my life I have seen lots of different men have great success with women:…
/r/ExRedPill29/03/23 05:01 PM
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The problem is that the red pill is offering the illusion that if you do X, you can have success. But that simply isn't the case. Either you have it or you don't.
/r/ExRedPill29/03/23 04:39 PM
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Been there, done that. Still no success.
/r/ExRedPill29/03/23 04:31 PM
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I believe that all of this abstract discourse about what women find attractive is useless. People are not driven towards the redpill or blackpill out of some academic desire to understand attraction patterns in Homo sapiens. They are not motivated by the question: "Why are certain men attractive?". They are motivated by this question: "Why am I unattractive?".
/r/ExRedPill17/03/23 01:22 AM
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Exactly. And since most people who struggle with dating are not neurotypical, its bullshit advice.
/r/ExRedPill17/03/23 12:29 AM
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I never had problem making female friends. But I always had problems making romantic connection. And I believe this was (1) due to being myself, (2) due to treating women like guys.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/23 08:59 PM
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Isn't that pretty much what the blackpill is implying? That these things are outside of your control?
/r/ExRedPill16/03/23 08:19 PM
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So whats the solution?
/r/ExRedPill16/03/23 05:06 PM
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How is the advice helpful for men who struggle with not being desired or desirable? We are already ourselves.
/r/ExRedPill16/03/23 04:43 PM
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I agree. Isn't one of the core tenets of the red pill that you shouldn't be a nice guy? That nice guys are unattractive and unmasculine?
/r/ExRedPill09/03/23 07:57 PM
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I agree about redpillers and PUAs but I believe that we need to extend this kind of reasoning to any kind of dating coach and whatever "pill" they are following. If any kind of dating advice would yield consistent robust results for everyone, we'd all know about it by now. But instead, there are millions of dating advice books with contradictory advice out there and more and more people who struggle with dating. In conclusion, all dating advice is bullshit.
/r/ExRedPill05/03/23 05:35 PM
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I’ve dated two women who made 3 times as much as me and were also older. I met them through mutual friend groups and had been at events where a bunch of friends for together but I had not known them prior. Being funny, witty, and charming go a long way. And add along being able to demonstrate your best relationship qualities make for a great combination. This is usually where I struggle. I meet a lot of people but they never really seem interested in me.
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 07:20 PM
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Don’t be intimidated by a woman who makes more money than them. I have seen stories of men who break up with, cheat on, or refuse to date women who make more than them. Red pill logic tells you if she makes more she thinks she’s better than you. This is false. I would have no problems with a woman who makes more than me. But I have heard that many women still want a man who is more or at least as accomplished as her. In fact, I am been working in a low paying academic field for some time and man…
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 03:59 PM
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What else are you looking for in life? I’m guessing you’re not married and don’t have kids? Now idea what I am looking for in life. I'm not married and don't have kids. Never even had sex.
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 03:07 PM
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Nothing really works in increasing m confidence. I've tried the usual stuff. Hit the gym, got new hobbies, dressed better etc.
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 02:59 PM
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As for your confidence, you need to start with small tasks. This sounds stupid but it’s worked for me. Make your bed every morning when you wake up. Start with that and then start doing other small tasks and those gradually become larger ones as the day goes by. For me, this doesn't really seem to work.
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 02:54 PM
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Basically, men have not pivoted quickly enough to the changing roles and dynamics of the new gender and dating landscape; inaction in the face of adversity, met with resentful entitlement, leads to stagnant inertia and self-pity. How do you think men should have pivoted?
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 02:17 PM
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However, men’s primary focus needs to be on building good lives for themselves and not placing any value on whether or not they have a girlfriend or a wife. Once they’ve got started building a good life, the confidence from their accomplishments will come as well. After that, they’re better equipped to be the partner a woman wants, not needs. What is a good life? And how does one achieve it? Asking as a 35 year old with low confidence.
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 02:12 PM
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Redpillers/Blackpillers become redpillers/blackpillers BECAUSE they don't get even a tiny bit of attention from women. If they would have gotten attention from women, they wouldn't be where they are.
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 07:49 PM
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But OP didn't really go into much detail why he has success with women. He didn't describe how he acquired social skills. He didn't give any advice which could be used for somebody who is black- or redpilled to improve himself. He talks a lot about what he doesn't have but he doesn't talk about what he has. People become blackpilled or redpilled because they lack OPs experiences of just being successful with girls. So they are looking for explanations or actionable advice. OP provides neither. A…
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 04:33 PM
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Sure. But why should a redpiller or blackpiller care? In the end, both the black- (BP) and redpill (RP) are motivated not by some abstract interest in gender dynamics but by personal problems; people adopt the RP and BP because they themselves struggle with the opposite sex. And the RP and BP offer some explanations for that and in the case of the RP also some solutions. And these practical issues is what motivates people to adopt the RP and BP. So people will wonder what they gain from adopting…
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 04:15 PM
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No, it's not a personal statement. It's a truth claim. "All women are like x" isn't something that can change from person to person. If true, it applies for everyone. "And I'm not getting any women because of y" is also another truth claim, and one made even more important if the previous claim "All women are like x" is true. This might be semantically true but it is pointless because the men who argue like this are not interested in having some objective sociological discussion. It all comes do…
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 03:27 PM
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Except that it isn't in any way helpful. "All women are like a certain way, and I'm not getting any women because of x" is not some abstract point but highly personal. The second part of the viewpoint, "and I'm not getting any women because of x", is the critical part. And OP is not in any way improving on this point because he doesn't offer any advice how to change that part.
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 03:02 PM
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I don't see the point of this post. There is no actionable advice nor any kind of fleshed out argument. The whole post hinges in you just having success with women. And you should know that this experience cannot be generalized to other men. In fact, this is kind of a blackpill post.
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 02:00 PM
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I am not so sure anymore. I feel that my looks are slowly deteriorating and that I won't be able to catch up on my lack of sexual and romantic experience.
/r/ExRedPill26/02/23 01:37 AM
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I feel the same. I am a mid-30s male and I feel like my best years are over. Major FOMO.
/r/ExRedPill25/02/23 10:37 PM
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Being kind and agreeable is a strength; if you do it to get something or to be liked, that's different. I can only talk about myself as someone who acts very agreeable (and score very high on agreeableness as one of the big fives). And I do it because I don't like conflict, don't like to rock the boat unnecessarily, and like to please other people. And this makes it one of my biggest weaknesses because it becomes essentially self-denying.
/r/ExRedPill20/02/23 04:05 PM
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Because it makes you value social peace and other people's needs more than your own. It goes counter to some of the most desirable male traits: confidence, independence and assertiveness.
/r/ExRedPill20/02/23 03:22 PM
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I'm afraid to say that if he continued with that mindset he's probably in not much of a better position today than he was 10 years ago. And while your last paragraph is an improvement compared with his outlook, if your perspective on all of this after 10 years of being introduced to RP is that you're still in agreement with him, it's a bit sad honestly. As someone who just read Michael's story for the first time and somewhat resonated with it, I guess it is very hard to get over these kinds of m…
/r/ExRedPill20/02/23 02:32 PM
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This seems to be the best definition because it covers both "nice" guys and nice guys (i.e. those who only pretend to be nice to be manipulate and those who are genuinely nice due to a high degree of agreeableness). Both of these types are highly unattractive. The typical discourse which separates genuinely nice guys from those only pretending to be nice is missing the spot.
/r/ExRedPill20/02/23 02:23 PM
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Game - A lot of this just comes down to not being insecure in yourself, "picking up" women isn't the difficult part, it's maintaining that relationship if that is what you want. Picking up women is extremely difficult tbh
/r/ExRedPill17/02/23 03:50 AM
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I'm already 35. Not sure it'll ever happen unless I improve.
/r/ExRedPill16/02/23 06:30 PM
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In the past month, how many of those women fit your standards for a partner? For some reason, I never saw that message. But I would say half of them fit that standard.
/r/ExRedPill16/02/23 04:09 PM
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I live in NYC. And yeah it might be my personality or my face. Feels pretty hopeless.
/r/ExRedPill15/02/23 05:25 PM
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That's interesting because one common advice for guys who struggle is to form friendships with women.
/r/ExRedPill15/02/23 03:46 AM
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About your hair, you can maybe have a talk with your hair stylist, since they're professionals they might know what suits your facial features better. Even a beard, moustache, or shave can further compliment you, depending on your facial features. I have been to quite a few hair stylists over the years and somehow, I always ended up with some kind of side part with undercut like this.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 06:19 PM
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Maybe you're asking out the wrong kind of people for you? Then the question is where do you find the right people? Or it could be a problem about your presentation. Like they actually aren't that attracted to you. This is what I think! That I overevaluate my own attractiveness. If this is the case, then you'll need to work on yourself. I'm not telling you to spend hours on the gym, but keeping care about your health, proper clothing and hairstyle and grooming which actually suit you better, etc …
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 06:06 PM
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Unless ur bulking you shouldnt be overweight. Nutrient dense foods only! Try a lean bulk for a few months, Get rid of that fat. You are tall, aim for 200gr of protein per day. Be consistent. I am not overweight at 5'11 180 lbs though I have more body fat than I had a few years before. Here are some pretty recent pics. I get consistently over 200mg of protein and I am slowly gaining weight. Though I seem to primarily gain fat and not muscle. For example, one of my biggest issues is my chest. It i…
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 05:34 PM
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While I can appreciate this way of thinking, what kind of stuff are you talking about? Everything what people learn in their 20s. Basically who you are romantically, socially and sexually compatible with. What makes you think these expeirences are things you should have had in your life? Because they are important when it comes to chosing a partner. Many people date around a bit before they realize what they really want. And I lack that experience. On the other hand, most women my age look to se…
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 05:14 PM
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It's a learnt skill actually, to find out invitations to approach. The thing is, women tend to give more non-verbal cues due to social conditioning to be passive in dating. This is a problem which I face a lot; being autistic it is extremely difficult for me to understand social cues. In that blog which I mentioned there are some articles about it which could be helpful to you. Someone mentioned me the book Undercover Sex Signals by Leil Lowendes, basically the same thing. I always ask for these…
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 05:10 PM
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For me my female friends were the most helpful in my dating life. If there was someone who put you down or made you insecure or something about yourself then that's something to be opposed. They were never directly putting me down. But I was involved in a lot of their banter and their intimate conversations. I learned what guys they are going for, what traits they notice etc. And it made me more insecure than the redpill ever could because it seemed that I was well below standard. But they did h…
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 01:56 PM
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You'll need to work on this respect, like how can you express your desire to date someone without being seen as desperate. Many times there could be a confusion that you're just looking out for being friends, so those who do wish to date you will probably not sense that reciprocation from you. This is something even I'm struggling with, I felt this could help you. Would those that want to date show that in any way? Or am I practically flying blind? Also try to approach women in the social circle…
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 01:54 PM
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I guess I'm just not attractive enough. Whether physical or personality wise
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 05:08 AM
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But I do think being assertive, confident, and passionate helps. I'm guessing you're not actually asking anyone out? I used to ask people out but there was never any interest in going out with me. So now, I usually look for signs of interest before asking someone out. But there never are any.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 02:43 AM
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I've been lifting for about six years but I feel my body is more than subpar given the effort. It's one of my biggest sources of insecurity
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 02:40 AM
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You can focus on what you can do for yourself in the hopes of having other people react But this is goal oriented isn't it? You want to change yourself that you have more success with women. Because beyond that issue, I am perfectly fine with myself.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 02:10 AM
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Thanks for the advice. Typically, my go-to advice is to suggest hobby groups and volunteer work. Something that gives you the opportunity to present your "better" qualities. In hobby groups you get to be your most excited and enthusiastic self. And you also get to display greater confidence, because most people are typically well educated about their chosen hobbies. I am in a lot of hobby groups and I meet at lot of people through them. There just never seems to be any interest. But your soul. Y…
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 02:08 AM
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You need to focus on your own self-improvement in being noticed as interesting and desirable; But if my self-improvement is focused on being noticed as interesting, isn't the goal to make other people do something? I wouldn't do the self-improvement for itself, I'd do it for an effect (i.e. become more popular with women).
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 01:59 AM
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I think a good starting point is to reel it back a bit, and try to figure out what the actual goal is. Are we looking for a long-term partner. Casual hook-up, or practice in the unknown? At the moment, I feel very much behind. I feel like I have missed 20 years of normal social development. So any kind of positive experience (relationship, romantic, sexual) is appreciated.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 01:43 AM
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You will know when they focus on your own personal self-improvement, and not "how to make girls want you". But the latter thing is the one thing I struggle most with. Otherwise, my life is alright.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 01:39 AM
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At the moment, my circle of friends is around 50:50 male to female. But in my 20s, almost all my friends were women. Comes with studying in a female-dominated field.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 01:37 AM
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I am absolutely not relying on dating apps. In fact, I have pretty much given up on them. In fact, meeting people isn't my issue. I meet hundreds of girls every year. But they seem to all consider me subpar because there is never any interest.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 01:30 AM
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Biggest red pill lie is that “average” people have no chance. Ugly people have pretty much no chance (even then, debatable), average people do just fine. In this case, I cannot be average since I am certainly not doing fine. Not enough exposure, not enough confidence and a lack of non genetics attractiveness improvement (style, physique, hygiene, presentation). Fix those and you’ll be fine. Exposure is no problem, confidence no idea. Can you give me tips on attractiveness improvement? I don't kn…
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 01:26 AM
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All I know is that I have no success with women and never had.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 01:24 AM
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What's the difference between a life coach and a therapist? How specifically can a life coach help me?
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 12:58 AM
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How do you identify those life coaches? It all sounds like PUA stuff for me.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 12:54 AM
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Invest in female friendship. This will not only give you a safe place to learn how to treat women in your life but will also help remove a lot of your neediness. Knowing you have a healthy source of feminine energy makes it much easier for you to approach women. For most of my 20s, my circle of friends was almost entirely female. Now it is more balanced. But I believe that mainly having female friends was one of the sources of me not feeling good enough. Understand that all good things come with…
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 12:53 AM
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Do you have any interests? I have a very intellectually challenging job so most of my hobbies are more exercise focused. Besides the gym, I rock climb, do yoga, play soccer in a coed league, ski and windsurf in season. I am a decent cook and pretty good at mixing drinks. Do you keep up on politics, science or other topics? I do keep up with politics but it's not a conversation which I like to have with strangers. I have a PhD in molecular biology so I have pretty good understanding of science. B…
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 12:46 AM
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You're only going to meeting centers 5 times a month. I mean, how often does the average person go out? I cannot go out partying three times a week.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 12:39 AM
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I've been at a houseparty of friends of friends, so probably about 15ish? But that's an outlier. Usually, when I go to bars etc. maybe one or two.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 12:35 AM
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6 figures is not average, even if the high cost of living high where you live. Average is 50k for single men in the US, so you make at least double that. Depends where you live. In NYC where I currently live, my income (around 200k) is just enough to have a halfway comfortable life without roommates. What are you trying to accomplish in dating? Are you trying to find a long term partner? Are you trying to have sex with the hottest women you possibly can? Obviously you're not just dating for a fu…
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 12:33 AM
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In this case, I am excluding activities / hobbies where meeting people is a side effect. Parties, clubs and bars about once (sometimes twice) per weekend, so 5 times last month.
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 12:24 AM
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Could you be more specific about what you consider going out and meeting people? Just bars / clubs / parties? Or also activities?
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 12:21 AM
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Dancing is unfortunately one of the few things I am really bad at. I took standard dance (waltz, foxtrot) lessions in high school and I was an active woman repellent. A friend took me to salsa a few years ago and it simply isn't for me. Though I need to say that I have quite a few hobbies with equal numbers of women and men (e.g. rock climbing) and some where women outnumber men (yoga). Also, I studied in a very female dominated field (most of my classes were 70-80% female). The issue was never …
/r/ExRedPill14/02/23 12:15 AM
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I would consider anyone from 25 - 40.
/r/ExRedPill13/02/23 11:58 PM
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There is no competition out there. There’s just you and people who are looking for you. Find them. Where? Until now, there never has been any interest.
/r/ExRedPill13/02/23 11:57 PM
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Then why don't I have any success?
/r/ExRedPill13/02/23 04:37 AM
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So based on which traits to you select people for "in person screens"?
/r/ExRedPill13/02/23 04:07 AM
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So how do you select for that trait when dating? When e.g. chosing whether or not you go on a date with a guy?
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 11:36 PM
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That or the standards you set for yourself are too high. I have been consistently working out for 6 years. This is my current physique. I do believe that I can expect more in that time frame.
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 11:30 PM
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Hit the gym, groom yourself and wear nice clothes and cologne. You probably won't be no Brad Pitt, but all that will set you apart from an average joe. It absolutely won't. I do all this and I am a completely average guy. The problem is that even things like the gym are guided a lot by genetics. I work out a lot but I haven't managed to get past an average physique.
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 11:22 PM
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As a woman the best dating advice I saw was look for a man who was kind. How do you define kind and how would you identify someone like that?
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 11:21 PM
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Evaluate yourself. Are you actually good enough? Do you take care of your health? Are you educated? Can you hold a good conversation? Are you confident? If you lack in any one of these areas, it will make it harder for you to attract the opposite sex. Develop yourself. This is the difficult part for me. I don't seem to be good enough. How can you improve?
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 11:18 PM
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You have to work on it conscientiously. Like the points I've listed. Read about social norms, read about non-verbal communication. Watch dumb reality tv and note how people act around other people. See their confessions later, where they explained how they felt at the time. Read Reddit posts where normal people talk about their problems with friends/dating/relationships. "How to win friends and influence people" have gotten good reviews on Reddit, I haven't read it though. Read books about socia…
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 08:07 PM
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Seems like a normal interaction. But I have no idea how that would snap you out of the redpill. I had hundreds of those and I still fell for it.
/r/ExRedPill12/02/23 12:55 AM
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Why shouldn't they? It's like any other skill, you have to work on it. I was a terribly awkward teenager, I'm quite smooth now, bc I'm old and I worked on it. Because most people (unless they were e.g. homeschooled) got ample opportunity to work on it in their daily lives. And most people picked up social skills automatically during this process. So if you are behind, it is usually not an issue of just lack of practice but lack of aptitude. I had a lot of social exposure over the last decades. B…
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 11:10 PM
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I think a lot of the people you are talking about though mostly struggle with social skills, not looks. And if they actually worked on that, things could improve for them. I think you are right about social skills. But I don't think that they can be significantly improved.
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 07:28 PM
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In this case, it might be a function of experience. I am 35 and what I want hasn't really changed since my early 20s.
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 04:49 PM
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People need to click. Connection is a huge part of dating. Dating isn't an Excel spreadsheet. You don't choose the most conventionally attractive x highest social status x highest salary partner you can get. Most people just look for someone they are attracted to and click with. And attraction is a mix of who's their type (people have different types), the chemistry/connection between you and what their personality is like. The clicking bit is how some people are just on your wavelength. You can…
/r/ExRedPill11/02/23 04:41 PM
-1

The idea that women don’t know what they want is part of red pill theology and is inaccurate. Only redpillers/incels don’t believe women when they tell them what they want… and low and behold, they’re the men who struggle to get women. I believe this might simply have to do with projection. Ironically, one problem of incels and redpillers is that they think women and men think alike. What I tell you I want, what I tell myself I want, and what I really want are three different things.
/r/ExRedPill10/02/23 03:22 PM
5

Gave me hope and made me feel like a (potential) winner.
/r/ExRedPill07/02/23 07:51 PM
0

I did work on myself. For example, I went to therapy for my depression during my 20s. Also, I have no idea why you would assume that everybody who has problems with dating needs to go to therapy. The impulse to suggest "go to therapy" for every issue, no matter whether there are actually therapists equipped to deal with these issues, is such a braindead thing to do. And your advice is good if you are a woman. Because things like that will happen for women. Because men are still culturally requir…
/r/ExRedPill05/02/23 09:01 PM
1

In this case, there probably simply wasn't interest from girls. Anyway, my point is that I spend my 20s focusing on my friends and my hobbies think it will happen when I least expect it and it never happened. Might have been different if I focused on finding a partner. Now I am 35 without any experience and I don't want the same to happen to OP.
/r/ExRedPill05/02/23 08:21 PM
1

It wasn't a waste of time in itself - just in terms of dating. If you want to date, you need to actively , conciously and deliberately pursue. Just talking to women isn't enough, you need to ask them out. You need to make the first move, and all moves after that. It doesn't just happen.
/r/ExRedPill05/02/23 03:52 PM
1

In my opinion this is bad advice. This is how I wasted most of my 20s. As a guy, things aren't just happening. You will need to make it happen.
/r/ExRedPill05/02/23 03:03 PM
1

I wonder the same as someone who is 35 and has no experience with sex or relationships.
/r/ExRedPill05/02/23 01:54 PM
3

I believe one reason why I never had romantic success is that I am not very good at flirting. I inadvertedly always stayed on the platonic level. But this in itself shows that OP's hypothesis is wrong. Relationships are more than just deep friendships. A deep friendship will never turn into a relationship unless people explictely push it into a romantic / sexual direction.
/r/ExRedPill27/01/23 04:09 AM
4

During my life, I used to have mostly female friends. Yet, I never had any romantic success. So something is obviously missing.
/r/ExRedPill26/01/23 06:11 PM
2

Which is to say that the people who do work on themselves, and do overcome challenges tend to gravitate towards other like-minded people. So there's a lot of hope for those willing to grow. Could you give some details how you have worked on yourself? I want to become an extroverted go-getter as well.
/r/ExRedPill26/01/23 02:28 PM
1

I am in my mid-30s and never had success with women. Ironically, I have never seen a full video from any of the typical red pill youtubers. I learned about manosphere, redpill and blackpill basically from anti-redpill and anti-incel communities such as r/IncelTear, r/menslib or r/exredpill. And still, the ideology sucked me in.
/r/ExRedPill20/01/23 05:01 PM
10

I believe that the reason why I was subconsciously drawn to the redpill was because it was a source of hope for me. I am a decent looking guy, I hit the gym, I have a good income etc. So within the frame of the redpill, I was doing pretty well for myself and should be attractive to women. I always thought I was just unlucky. On the other hand, I am on the autism spectrum so I have strong deficits in the personality department. So when my friends pointed out that my looks, physique and income don…
/r/ExRedPill14/01/23 01:54 AM
4

I wouldn't call it "light". It was a very hard pill to swallow and I huge hit on my ego. It was like staring into the abyss.
/r/ExRedPill14/01/23 01:38 AM
6

Do my female friends who told me that my personality is the issue count?
/r/ExRedPill14/01/23 01:32 AM
0

I'm not sure if I believe that. I believe that there are very strict standards shared by most women, they just have nothing to do with 6/6/6. If you don't fit into a narrow range of personality, you are pretty much fucked. Especially if you are neurodivergent.
/r/ExRedPill13/01/23 08:31 PM
1

What he is saying at the end is that men should "work on the things that [women] say that they want, so it's not that women need to lower their standards, it's that you actively need to listen to them instead of guys like Andrew Tate to understand what that top 10 to 20% of men look like". So what he is saying is that there are still clear hierachies of men but what informs that hierarchy is not what people like Tate think (so no 6/6/6). So he doesn't dispute the idea that there is something lik…
/r/ExRedPill13/01/23 07:25 PM
1

My problem with videos like that is that they merely shift the goalposts. They go from one checklist (six feet, six pack, six figures) to another implied checklist ("what women really want"). For example, this guy doesn't really dispute that there is a hierarchy of men (or that there are top 10% men) - just that it is not the six pack, six feet, six figure standard which informs this hierarchy. And by doing that, he treats women as a hivemind again.
/r/ExRedPill13/01/23 03:33 PM
1

There really wasn't anything taken from me because reality exists independent of how I think about it.
/r/ExRedPill13/01/23 01:52 PM
3

It depends. I do well on dating apps as far as matches a concerned. Real life is much harder.
/r/ExRedPill01/12/22 02:39 PM
6

There are many women out there who want a partner. They just don't want you - that's the problem.
/r/ExRedPill01/12/22 02:38 PM
1

In this case, what are types? Isn't "I want a kind guy" just as much a one-dimensional predictor as "I want a tall guy"?
/r/ExRedPill24/11/22 09:55 PM
-5

Personally, I am convinced that there is truth to the blackpill. If you don't possess certain traits, it will be close to impossible to find a partner. However, incels commonly misidentify what traits really matter. Specifically, they put to much emphasis on physical traits.
/r/ExRedPill24/11/22 03:00 PM
0

but will more often than not end up with an average looking man who is kind and compassionate because that's closer to her. Yes. But again, this hasn't necessarily to do with preferences but with what you could reasonable get / settle for. It's a match in market value. You want what you want but you cannot get what you want. Also, it contradicts the title which suggest thats kindness is some kind of outstandingly desirable trait.
/r/ExRedPill24/11/22 06:10 AM
3

So a woman that is kind might say that she wants someone that is extremely handsome but in reality, she'll choose kindness over looks because it's more of a match for her. I hope that helps! What we desire and what we end up with are two different things. The woman in your example might just as well desire a handsome man. But if she isn't handsome herself, she likely won't get him. Overall, if some traits were more desirable (for either men or women or both) than others, we would again see an ex…
/r/ExRedPill24/11/22 05:50 AM
4

Have you actually read the article? There seems to be a huge incongruence between self-reported studies (what we pretend or think we want) and what we actually go for in real life situations. People, though, are liars. Experiments that don’t rely on self-reporting regularly show that physical attractiveness is exquisitely, at times incomparably, important to both men and women. Status (however you want to measure it: income, formal education, et cetera) is often not far behind. In real-life dati…
/r/ExRedPill24/11/22 05:03 AM
1

I think it’s the opposite. You got a PhD in some medical whatever stuff right? You’re above average in intelligence. Yes. But there are different aspects to intelligence. I am very good with analytical and logical reasoning. This makes me well suited to systemically solve for example scientific problems. On the other hand, I am rather slow witted in my job as well. I usually need a few minutes to think in order to solve a problem, but usually my answer will be profound. This makes me shine when …
/r/ExRedPill23/11/22 03:20 PM
1

For me, this isn't social anxiety. When I am in a conversation, I am so focused on the intellectual work of forming replies that I don't even think how others might perceive me. It feels more like a school exam for which I didn't prepare. And it doesn't really change based on who I am talking to, be it a complete stranger or my parents. Ironically, I love public speaking when I am allowed to prepare. As for letting it happen automatically. It doesn't. Every sentence is intellectual work for me. …
/r/ExRedPill23/11/22 05:58 AM
1

I don’t know how you talk to girls exactly but I’m assuming your conversations are very platonic. I also don't know how I talk to girls. Because I don't really talk to people in a deliberate way. It's not that I have different potential replies in my head - a flirty one, a platonic one - and carefully chose which one I use. Usually, I ring with myself to keep the conversation going at all and form coherent replies fast enough that it doesn't get awkward. And yes, there have been many situations …
/r/ExRedPill23/11/22 05:36 AM
1

What do you talk to them about? Women I just met? Normal smalltalk topics. School, job, hobbies etc. What do you mean by arrogance and cockiness? I had people say that I am both shy and confident. But the cockiness usually comes with kind of a wink. For example, recently someone asked me if I am good at pool and I said that I am good at everything in kind of a sarcastic, semi-serious tone. What do you think women want from a man? Connection? Chemistry? Actions which invoke certain feelings? What…
/r/ExRedPill19/11/22 02:32 AM
1

What is a 4 week natural bootcamp?
/r/ExRedPill05/11/22 01:22 PM
1

I am not afraid of normal rejection. But I am afraid of looking like an idiot. "Sorry, not interested" or even "Go away creep" are fine. "Are you autistic?" isn't fine and happens far too often. That being said, my issue isn't courage but skill. I can go to every woman on the planet, say "hi" and awkwardly rattle down a set of smalltalk talking points. But I cannot have a charming conversation with my own mother.
/r/ExRedPill31/10/22 09:25 PM
1

Couldn't it be that a big problem is that you have the rooted belief that you're not a "good flirter"? In my opinion, mindset has a big importance I don't know how mindset could influence it. It is not that I have all these great lines laid out and I am afraid to use them because I second guess myself. ​ Also, in my experience, even zero flirting skills are not a blocking factor. I've literally just gone for the kiss without any prior flirting, and some of those girls became gfs. How does that w…
/r/ExRedPill30/10/22 01:06 PM
1

I usually ask a lot of questions. Primarily because it keeps the ball in her court.
/r/ExRedPill30/10/22 03:27 AM
1

Whatever comes to mind. Which usuallys end up to be typical smalltalk topics, job, interests etc. My biggest problem is that I am not funny, witty, eloquent or snappy.
/r/ExRedPill30/10/22 03:22 AM
1

I still go to bars and clubs regularly. Also private parties and other friends of friends gatherings. Also clubs and social activities based on shared interests.
/r/ExRedPill30/10/22 03:05 AM
1

Been going to the gym for six years now. I am not buff but probably have an above average physique (see here). It didn't change a thing. As for alcohol. I am a social drinker and usually get very talkative. But being more talkative doesn't make you more interesting. My problem isn't social anxiety (I have stuff to contribute but I am afraid to do so), my problem is having nothing of substance to say.
/r/ExRedPill30/10/22 02:51 AM
1

Yes. The adjectives which I used to describe myself in the OP came from them: timid, dry, awkward.
/r/ExRedPill30/10/22 02:47 AM
1

I don't understand the gym advice. Like, how would that help? How ripped do you need to be?
/r/ExRedPill30/10/22 02:07 AM
1

You said it out loud in the second part. You have low self esteem and if you don't think highly of yourself and think of yourself as worthy its hard to appear confident and able to talk to women and stick out. I actually think very highly of myself. And this is why I have low self-esteem. The disconnect between my self-image as it is in my head and the image as it is reflected to me. For example, when I am in a bar or at a party, I have the mindset that I am a pretty awesome guy who many women w…
/r/ExRedPill29/10/22 07:40 PM
1

I've seen you around before. You have model tier looks, a full head of hair still, good teeth, you make good money and you're tall. Please. I might be good looking but I am far away from model tier. I have no idea how not one woman has yet to just throw themselves at you throughout your life. Because I am simply less attractive than you assume. I do get approached quite regularly when in bars etc. but once I open my mouth, the interest is usually gone. A good looking guy can still be awkward and…
/r/ExRedPill29/10/22 05:51 PM
2

They were less than okay. This wasn't smalltalk which eventually led to people conclude there was lack of compatibility. This was me strughling for a minute and her going "okay" with a "what's wrong with you stare".
/r/ExRedPill29/10/22 07:34 AM
2

Yes.
/r/ExRedPill29/10/22 07:27 AM
2

I upset them in so far as I was less than they expected.
/r/ExRedPill29/10/22 07:23 AM
2

They lost interest because I fumbled. They lost interest because I couldn't hold an interesting conversation.
/r/ExRedPill29/10/22 07:20 AM
2

Honesty, I guess they just lost interest. Still hurts. Being rejected is fine but being hit on and fumbling hits hard.
/r/ExRedPill29/10/22 07:01 AM
2

I had like three women hit on me like every night. Once I opened my mouth, they lost interest.
/r/ExRedPill29/10/22 06:49 AM
2

Currently getting shitfaced. I upset so many people today alone.
/r/ExRedPill29/10/22 06:30 AM
1

I'd love a good wingman
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 09:58 PM
1

I'm a PhD level scientist in pharma / biotech.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 09:23 PM
1

Medical science.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 09:09 PM
1

My childhood was great.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 08:49 PM
1

Writing things down is a good idea. What would you consider a long-term therapist? Longest relation with a therapist was four years in my early 20s.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 08:07 PM
2

Correct. One example: When I was in school, whenever there was a test I told myself that I will get a D. Usually, I got an A but I was disappointed that I didn't get an A+ (because this is what I was really expecting deep down inside).
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 07:48 PM
1

I could be wrong, but I’m assuming this since you keep refusing to answer what you have tried to change and what has maybe been even a little bit helpful to you before. The problem is as you say. There are so many issues and I don't know what to change with which priority. Specifically, I don't know which concrete steps to take. Whenever I even think about it, I usually lose track and everything becomes foggy. I lack the social insight and I lack the introspection.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 07:44 PM
1

First step is recognizing those patterns in CBT, next step should’ve been how to challenge those false thoughtsand make changes in your behavior. Did you do any of that? What changes have you tried out? I don't understand. If those things are in my head, how can I change them by changing my behavior? This is the whole self-improvement thing which went nowhere.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 07:28 PM
1

By observing your patterns, trying things differently like a trial and error experiment in yourself, noticing any patterns in your thoughts and emotions and correcting those things by doing a reality check on any unhelpful, doom based thoughts. Noticing a pattern and changing it are two different things. I have no problems where my negative emotions come from but that doesn't mean that they go away. It know how a wave is formed but it still washes over me. You mentioned you did CBT, so I’m surpr…
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 07:12 PM
2

Even if you're surrounded with women, it's possible that nothing happens. You have to be the one to grow a pair and show interest and be upfront. As in, going to a woman and showing that you like her. The good news is that that only requires balls, not skill. Things like telling a woman you like her, ask her out, kiss her. None of this needs any skill whatsoever. It can be done awkwardly and it's still going to be ok. You just need to grow a pair in the brief moment where you need them and do it…
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 07:02 PM
1

You have to recognize what actually helps you before you can help yourself. How do I recognize this?
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 06:58 PM
1

Something else you should try doing is making some affirmations to say to yourself in the mirror. This is something I already do. Self esteem is hard because it needs to be fed but we also can so easily talk ourselves out of it being true. Recognize those moments as what they are: intrusive and unproductive. And to be honest, 95% of time, I feel great about myself. Probably too great. But this feeling is extremely fragile. Because it has no foundation. Ask me to justify it and I come out empty h…
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 06:57 PM
1

I think the self-compassion and acknowledging your own successes might be helpful, what do you think? Do you think this would help at all? It hasn't helped until now. Also maybe try changing the way you look at failure. Everyone fails and it’s part of life. Failure doesn’t mean “it’s over, I suck”, it just means it didn’t work out this time and you learned what not to do again. A quote I really like: “The master has failed more times than the beginner has even tried”. Failure in itself usually i…
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 06:48 PM
2

Yeah, OP, after reading this comment I just looked at your profile and I would recommend therapy. Find a therapist who is either solutions based or uses CBT. I've been to quite a few therapists. Mostly CBT. I throughly enjoyed each set of sessions but it didn't really help.
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 06:26 PM
1

I can totally relate to that, man. I grew up with kind of strict middle eastern parents who showed me the most acceptance/love only when I would “succeed” or meet milestones in their eyes, so it kind of messed with my self esteem because, similar to you, I only felt worthy of love and approval when I was doing something perfectly, and everything else seemed like a failure. Honestly, my parents were the exact opposite. Always 100% supportive and heaping me with praise. I guess I got used to it as…
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 06:17 PM
1

You look good, are fit, earn a lot, have a good degree and yet have ultra low self esteem. Correct. You put yourself in places where women are but you assume they won't be interested so you won't even try to hit on them I don't even know how to hit on women. This is part of the problem. You have female friends but insist to listen to anyone but them. There never was any good advice from them. Just empty platitudes. I have heard that I am a great guy since I was in my teens. But somehow, it never…
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 06:03 PM
1

Ok, I see. So there’s definitely a pattern you have of competing and comparing yourself with others. Something to note, when our self-esteem is based off comparison to others, it’s then very fleeting and only circumstantial, so it won’t last because the minute you “win”, then there’s gonna be someone better or something else to compare yourself to now in some other aspects of life. This is indeed my experience. Personally, I think it would help to work in developing some genuine friendships and …
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 05:55 PM
3

What do you think would help raise your self-esteem that is in your control? And I’m not taking about just physical appearance aspects, I mean what can you do for yourself that would make you feel good about yourself? Hard to say. I am a very competitive person and I need some degree of success to raise my self-esteem. That being said, I am far more sensitive to failure than to success. Do you have any friendships with men that you consider a close/fulfilling/trusting relationship? I always had …
/r/ExRedPill28/10/22 05:03 PM
1

My profile isn't the problem. If you combine Tinder, Hinge and Bumble, I have a decent rate of matches (10-20 per week). Conversation just never goes anywhere.
/r/ExRedPill11/10/22 03:50 AM
1

There never was any woman in my rock climbing group of whom I felt that I should ask her out. Most women seemed courteous but disinterested. Maybe I am looking to much for signs of interest. Also never managed to get a date from Tinder.
/r/ExRedPill11/10/22 03:41 AM
3

Your friends were setting you up with women?
/r/ExRedPill09/10/22 04:19 AM
3

Stuff like just be yourself, go where you are wanted, it will work itself out is incredibly corny but honestly i've work out in person with my own failures and just seeing people get closer from rock climbing groups or whatever. I was always active in different hobby groups (which I actually included rock climbing which is still my main sport) and had a decent, usually female dominated circle of friends. Yet, it never happened. Hopefully this is not coming off as too preachy, but don't end up li…
/r/ExRedPill09/10/22 03:24 AM
9

There's quite the group of men on the internet who never dated, developed social hobbies (sports, game nights, etc) or really have developed beyond being a shut in. I am speaking from personal experience here, but you can have social hobbies and don't be a shut-in and still have no experience dating.
/r/ExRedPill09/10/22 02:31 AM
1

This is absolutely true but it kinda clashes with the OP. Since niceness is only the absolute baseline, you can be genuinely nice and still end up without interest if you don't have additional positive traits. When it comes to dating, extroversion is a much more desirable trait than agreeableness.
/r/ExRedPill07/10/22 08:38 PM
1

I have Crohn's in remission.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 06:13 PM
1

And yet I do. Again, this is about 25-30 lbs above the weight I had when I started
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 06:08 PM
1

And yet I do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 06:06 PM
1

I'm currently maintaining at around 4500 cal per day. Bulking is extremely hard for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 06:02 PM
1

I used to be about 10 pounds heavier than I am now. This didn't translate into more muscle mass or stronger lifts though. Only more body around waist and hips.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 06:01 PM
1

5'11
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 05:16 PM
1

Already do. I wanna look like I lift though.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 05:14 PM
1

Abs aren't the problem, I've always had visible abs except now because I actually try to put on muscle. Putting on mass is problem 1 and putting on muscle is problem 2. If I don't eat like a pig, I easily drop down 10 lbs in a matter of weeks. I try to get my 2 g per kg protein in and watch my macros to some extent, but bulking in a clean diet is super hard for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 04:59 PM
1

I'm about 170
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 04:56 PM
1

Thanks for taking the time to reply. Again, I don't see in which capacity what you write is different from the red pill. For me, your whole text seems to be drenched in red pill ideology. The only difference between what you write and what is typically posted on red pill subs is the absence of the characteristical red pill lingo. But you reiterate many of the typical red pill talking points: Here's another thing about human mating that might help: the biggest predictor to a man's sexual success …
/r/ExRedPill30/10/21 02:36 PM
1

it exists to criticize people who generalize about women, exaggerate their dating standarts, preach about how a 'real' man and woman should be like, But you were technically just doing all that. When you tell people to "work on your looks/have more hobbies/try to be more confident", you are generalizing women by saying that a e.g. a certain type of looks or behavior is more likely to be attractive to many women than another type of looks/behavior. And in consequence, you preach how a "real men" …
/r/ExRedPill30/10/21 02:13 PM
2

Sorry, but this exact text, with some flimsy evopsych justification, could be written on some redpill sub and nobody would think it is out of place. This is red pill ideology merely reframed into slightly different language. The "masculinity is not inherently toxic" phrase implies that men are still required to perform traditional masculinity, just without the inherent side-effects. How can you overcome the red pill when it is so clearly laid out in front if you?
/r/ExRedPill29/10/21 09:22 PM
4

No, men really do need to have standards and boundaries. It's ridiculous the differences I see between men in the States and men in Europe, South America, Africa, and Australia. Bullshit as far as Europe is concerned. I grew up in Germany, lived in Scandinavia, the Netherlands, and the UK, and only recently moved to the States. And the situation is not that different between these countries.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/10/21 12:02 PM
28

The problem is that you still need to be attractive in your niche. All the men mentioned have a high degree of facial attractiveness.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 05:04 PM
1

Could you give an example of what you consider lightly muscled?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 07:32 PM
2

Almost nobody doing these activities who doesn't also lift supplementally looks lean but muscled. Even rock climbing pros are not particularly muscular.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 05:05 PM
7

As someone who went through the whole "dress better, hit the gym, groom yourself" routine, this is not how it works. It has little effect on how women interact with you.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 07:58 PM
6

4-5 matches per day is insanely good. Most guys I talked to get 4-5 matches a month.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 02:07 PM
1

My T values are low but still in range. So no indication for TRT. Sex drive is pretty normal I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 03:18 AM
2

The problem is that people with different limits do not progress equally fast until they hit said limit. Their limits (or genetics) will also affect their whole progression trajectory. Someone with high T will not only be able to put one more muscle, but also faster / with less effort. I've been busting my ass off for five years and my physique is far from good.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 02:59 AM
3

Your ability to change your physique is significantly constrained by endogenous testosterone levels. You can't outlift your natural limits.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 02:33 AM
2

I don't really play video games. But I also don't have many hobbies which give me purpose or make me proud of myself. Simply because I have never risen beyond mediocrity in any of those hobbies. I enjoy them, but that doesn't mean that I am good at them. And this is my whole point: not everyone has hidden talents and investing a lot of time into things doesn't necessarily make you good.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/21 02:57 AM
1

I actually don't like video games that much. But I get why they are very appealing to many people: they offer clear predicatble linear skill progression (= you invest time, you get better) in way not possible in real life. I am not particularly smart or talented. But I do possess a good degree of discipline and endurance. So whever I get something into my head, I invest a lot of time and work hard on it. And it actually hasn't helped me much. For example, I decided to become jacked five years ag…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 07:18 PM
2

The problem is that video games are more inherently fair than real life. In a role playing game for example, everybody usually gets to invest the same number of skill points at the beginning. What some people invest into charisma, others might invest into intelligence. This isn't true in real life. Some people are good looking, intelligent and talented; other people are neither. In real life, what we lack in some areas is not necessarily compensated in other areas. Not everyobody has a hidden ta…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/21 06:41 PM
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