| Upvotes | Title | Category | Author | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 12 | Has anybody been able to help a redpiller out of their red pill views? | LCBrianC | /r/ExRedPill | 30/12/22 07:01 PM | |
| 10 | Debunking the alpha/beta dichotomy | LCBrianC | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/23 05:07 AM | |
| 2 | Are there any positives to TRP at all? | LCBrianC | /r/ExRedPill | 16/01/23 10:04 PM | |
| 1 | Where can I debate/have discussions with redpillers? | LCBrianC | /r/ExRedPill | 08/01/23 03:31 AM |
| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
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| 1 | Women who are suddenly surprised about hitting the wall are just really bad at time-management.So you start by using your own personal experience as some kind of "objective" metric, extrapolate from that that pretty much everyone else should have had the same conditions, experiences, skills and knowledge as you do and then top that off by... disparaging one sex but not the other? Okay. | /r/AllPillDebate | 15/04/23 11:45 PM |
| 2 | Debunking the alpha/beta dichotomyAwesome. I actually saw this on Amazon. I think it's on my wishlist. | /r/ExRedPill | 24/01/23 12:41 AM |
| 1 | Why are men here so opposed with being the nice guy a woman means and ends up with later in life?So basically what I’m seeing in the comments is that people seem to think the only men that exist are ultra GigaChads or Simps, and women are all hypergamous slutbots. Get me off this planet. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/23 11:37 PM |
| 1 | Why are men here so opposed with being the nice guy a woman means and ends up with later in life?Because people usually aren’t very good at realizing what’s best for them when they’re young. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/23 11:29 PM |
| 2 | Debunking the alpha/beta dichotomyBut you have led me to a possible rebuttal: if the alpha/beta studies of wolfs was debunked, then what scientific evidence are they basing this supposed phenomenon in humans on? | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/23 09:23 PM |
| 1 | Debunking the alpha/beta dichotomyNeither I nor he is denying its origins, but people often take terms that originated somewhere and appropriate them for their own uses. Pointing that out isn’t the same as debunking them, like pointing out that Pygmalion was a Greek myth doesn’t disprove the pygmalion effect. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/23 09:22 PM |
| 1 | Debunking the alpha/beta dichotomyThis is true and fair, but I know of at least one RPer who will admit that the RP alpha/beta male concept isn’t derived from the study on wolves. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/23 07:09 PM |
| 1 | Debunking the alpha/beta dichotomyI’ll take a look, thanks. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/23 05:21 PM |
| 2 | Most women in relationships love talking about feelings, but only about their own feelingsGive me one instance of a woman putting her life before her children and I guarantee you I can find 10 instances of women sacrificing their life for their children. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/23 03:00 PM |
| 1 | Most women in relationships love talking about feelings, but only about their own feelingsDid you read the article? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/01/23 02:56 PM |
| 2 | Debunking the alpha/beta dichotomyI appreciate you actually giving me a source, by the way. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/23 02:36 PM |
| 1 | Debunking the alpha/beta dichotomyNot so much. I’m talking to a Redpiller now who is claiming that conceptually it has nothing to do with the alpha/beta wolves, it’s just borrowing from the name and describing something else, which is perfectly valid. | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/23 01:42 PM |
| 1 | Debunking the alpha/beta dichotomyI assume that’s a YouTuber? | /r/ExRedPill | 23/01/23 01:40 PM |
| 1 | Does equality prevent divorce?What does the belief that most marriages happen because of the shortcomings of the husband have to do with only marrying someone who makes the same pay as the husband? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/01/23 08:37 PM |
| 2 | Worst Redpill creatorWow. Could I get a link to that video? | /r/ExRedPill | 20/01/23 11:11 PM |
| 1 | Worst Redpill creatorI actually thought Hamza was one of the good ones. Can you link me to some videos where he says these things? | /r/ExRedPill | 20/01/23 11:10 PM |
| 8 | Worst Redpill creatorI’m reading his book now. In the intro he basically says “all my bio professors would tell me I’m wrong, but it’s because they don’t want you to know the truth”. I couldn’t stop laughing. Okay Mister Bachelors Degree in Psychology, I’m sure you have it all figured out… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/01/23 06:42 PM |
| 5 | As a young man was everything in the red pill and black pill that was told to me a lie?Here’s the thing. Rarely is anything we’re told a complete lie, just as rarely anything we’re told is the absolute truth. My issue with most of these extremist type communities is they’ll take perfectly solid scientific facts (or worse, the conclusions of one study) and blow it into ridiculous proportions. Is it true that women tend to find taller men attractive? Yes. Does it follow from that that if you are 5’6” you are doomed in the dating market? Of course not. There are so many absurd connec… | /r/ExRedPill | 20/01/23 12:52 PM |
| 1 | Not tonight honey…I’m really confused what you’re asking here… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/23 07:19 PM |
| 2 | Does equality prevent divorce?Sure, but that’s a losing mentality. If your precedent is “make sure the wife works as equal paying a job as I do IN CASE we divorce SO THAT I don’t owe alimony”, that’s a pretty defeatist mindset. Why get married in the first place? Not to mention that whole scenario is more beneficial to the woman anyway as she’ll have more financial independence, hence relinquishing the need for alimony. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/23 01:57 PM |
| 1 | Where can I debate/have discussions with redpillers?I’m happy to have a discussion | /r/ExRedPill | 17/01/23 01:46 PM |
| 1 | Should people who broke up be restricted from getting into a relationship forever/for a fixed amount of timeOkay, but the problem with that is that I think the way it would be enforced would have a significant effect on society. I'm not sure how we can just ignore that without making this an almost impossibly ridiculous hypothetical. It's like "let's imagine social/public policy and the law were hugely altered but also imagine that nobody is affected by that and examine this question". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/23 04:15 AM |
| 6 | Should people who broke up be restricted from getting into a relationship forever/for a fixed amount of timeI think you mean hypothetical, and isn’t the point of entertaining hypotheticals to consider how they would actually play out in practice? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/23 02:44 AM |
| 14 | Do we underestimate the toll rejection takes on you?In a nutshell, learned helplessness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/23 02:39 AM |
| 5 | Should people who broke up be restricted from getting into a relationship forever/for a fixed amount of timeNo, for a number of reasons, my biggest being I can’t imagine the horror of actually trying to practically enforce something like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/23 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Stumbled upon this quote: “Women will never care about, or love a man in the way that he will care about her. This is a fundamental, inherent difference between men and women.” What truth is there to this?Parts of the full quote. The question in your title is the 2nd part. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/01/23 06:35 PM |
| 1 | Stumbled upon this quote: “Women will never care about, or love a man in the way that he will care about her. This is a fundamental, inherent difference between men and women.” What truth is there to this?The second part is true insofar as it’s true of any individual. The first part is ridiculous and easily disproven. | /r/ExRedPill | 14/01/23 06:33 PM |
| 2 | What are your main problem’s with the red pill?There are good people and there are bad people. Additionally there are good people who sometimes behave badly. Red Pill fails to acknowledge this simple truth. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/01/23 08:04 PM |
| 2 | What are your main problem’s with the red pill?Basically what’s already been said: like almost any trending ideology it’s inaccurately and unnecessarily reductive. | /r/ExRedPill | 12/01/23 08:01 PM |
| 2 | What Red Pill influencer do you think is the most realistic and doesn't promote radicalization?I agree with Mark Manson. I might say some of Hamza’s older stuff too. | /r/ExRedPill | 11/01/23 06:08 PM |
| 2 | Alternatives to redpill to increase chances of finding dates?What do you mean they mean nothing? Everything means something. Even if you don’t get a number, you still a) gained some practice/experience and b) made someone else’s day a little better (which was the whole point, remember?) Listen, it looks like the only thing you consider worthwhile is banging a hot girl. I’m gonna be straight up with you because I’ve met a good number of men like yourself and there’s just no point in beating around the bush or trying to walk you down the garden path. “I can… | /r/ExRedPill | 10/01/23 01:06 AM |
| 2 | Alternatives to redpill to increase chances of finding dates?I guess the honest answer is its never enough, and it shouldn't be. Improvement is a process, not a destination. I'm in my 40s and happily married and still looking for ways to improve. My question back to you is why should it ever be "enough"? And your whole second paragraph is the whole reason it shouldn't be about "getting women" and instead should be about becoming the best version of yourself: getting a woman isn't going to be as lovely and wonderful as you might think. It depends on who yo… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/01/23 01:28 PM |
| 3 | Alternatives to redpill to increase chances of finding dates?If you never see the person again, then what? | /r/ExRedPill | 09/01/23 05:42 AM |
| 10 | Alternatives to redpill to increase chances of finding dates?And I don't think anyone is saying you can't or shouldn't do that, so I'm not sure what this comment meant: "I guess but for how long? I can’t just be alone forever happy." It sounds like you think that so long as you are focusing on being the best person you can be you will also be alone. | /r/ExRedPill | 09/01/23 04:07 AM |
| 6 | Alternatives to redpill to increase chances of finding dates?I would say, at least at the start, don't even ask for numbers. To dive a little deeper, here's the gist of it: what kind of person do you like better, someone who is trying to add some joy to your day, or someone who is trying to get something from you? That's a rhetorical (I hope) question, but that's the whole idea: become that first guy. You can't do that if the expected end product of every action is, say, getting a number or a date or whatever. You can only do that when the end product you… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/01/23 03:45 AM |
| 10 | Alternatives to redpill to increase chances of finding dates?What I mean is, you seem to think that if you improve yourself then that precludes you from being able to meet women. Why is that? | /r/ExRedPill | 09/01/23 03:37 AM |
| 14 | How do you stop associating value and self-worth to romantic validation from women?A couple thoughts: How do you know no woman has ever found you attractive? I hope you're not basing that just on your experience with dating apps, people's expectations on there can be a bit skewered. I'm sure if dating apps were a thing back in my day I would have crashed and burned. I understand it can be hard to stay optimistic or confident about an experience you haven't yet managed to obtain yet, but I would say the two keys are keeping your expectations realistic and manageable as well as … | /r/ExRedPill | 09/01/23 02:56 AM |
| 5 | Alternatives to redpill to increase chances of finding dates?I can think of a million answers, but I'll give just a couple here: Spend a certain amount of time doing things for other people. I don't mean donating all your funds and possessions and living like a hermit, I just mean going outside with the constant mindset of "how can I improve other people's days?" and see where that gets you. Spend as much time as you can socializing with the end goal of just learning to be very good at socializing, without expecting anything in return from anyone. Approac… | /r/ExRedPill | 09/01/23 02:46 AM |
| 11 | Alternatives to redpill to increase chances of finding dates?For the rest of your life, ideally. Who said you have to be alone forever happy, or alone forever period? What is it, do you think, about focusing on improving yourself for yourself that precludes you socializing and/or having sex with women? | /r/ExRedPill | 09/01/23 02:42 AM |
| 1 | Where can I debate/have discussions with redpillers?True. I don’t think it’s really fair to critique the other side until you’ve heard their thoughts and reasoning as well. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/01/23 05:21 PM |
| -1 | Where can I debate/have discussions with redpillers?And I feel like it should be obvious that people shouldn't give unsolicited advice, yet here we are. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/01/23 05:18 PM |
| -2 | Where can I debate/have discussions with redpillers?If you say so. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/01/23 05:08 PM |
| 1 | Where can I debate/have discussions with redpillers?For sure. This is actually why I like debate. Not because I think I can convince someone or help them develop critical thinking skills and logical reasoning, but because it helps me do so. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/01/23 03:36 PM |
| 0 | Where can I debate/have discussions with redpillers?There are a number of reasons I’d like to do it. For example, I’d like to see for myself what their cognitive processes are, their logic, etc. I’d also like a chance to hone my critical thinking skills. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/01/23 01:31 PM |
| 0 | Where can I debate/have discussions with redpillers?I think I’d start with red pill and just see where it goes from there. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/01/23 01:29 PM |
| 1 | Q4Men: why don’t you prefer relationships?Strings attached is great. It's part of growing up. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 03:39 AM |
| 1 | Where can I debate/have discussions with redpillers?I joined that one recently. I'll check it out, thanks. | /r/ExRedPill | 08/01/23 03:38 AM |
| 2 | Do you really "choose" who you date?Imperfect analogy, but when you go to the grocery store, do you have access to every single item on the planet? Of course not, but in what world would we say you don’t have “choice”? Of course you have choice, you just don’t have omnipotent, infinite choices. You can choose from what’s available. You can go elsewhere and see what’s available. You can opt out of choosing altogether. You have plenty of choice. | /r/ExRedPill | 07/01/23 03:46 PM |
| 1 | Toxic ideas about woman - DamageMeh. I think there are two definitions of respect that often get conflated in these conversations about whether respect is earned or deserved, but I won’t get into that. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/01/23 08:37 PM |
| 6 | Thank you exredpill/ventIt’s amazing that you realized this in such a relatively short time. I know people who were in it for years and STILL don’t get it. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/01/23 04:49 PM |
| 4 | Thank you exredpill/ventTHIS | /r/ExRedPill | 06/01/23 04:46 PM |
| 3 | Toxic ideas about woman - DamageI agree. The more varied the responses (so long as they’re all respectful), the better. One of the most helpful concepts in regards to my relationship with my wife was learning to stop treating her as WOMAN and start treating her as an individual. | /r/ExRedPill | 06/01/23 04:44 PM |
| 1 | Why isn't your social circle considered a critically important trait, especially for men?That’s exactly my point. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/01/23 09:00 PM |
| 2 | Why isn't your social circle considered a critically important trait, especially for men?Meh. I don’t think having a social circle per se is that important. Rather, I think having a social circle provides a better context for developing social skills, which is just an all around good skill. Think about it, which would be more appealing: someone with great social skills who has a small social circle, or someone with poor social skills who has a huge social circle? And yes, I know both types of people. | /r/ExRedPill | 05/01/23 02:07 PM |
| 2 | Is it bad to play it cool?What do you mean by “playing cool”? | /r/ExRedPill | 05/01/23 03:50 AM |
| 1 | I swallowed the red pill and The fear and hatred of love screwed me upI would say two things: Talk to happily married people. I say married more so than unmarried just because of the amount of time they have spent with their wives. Talk to them, ask them their secrets and opinions, listen and learn. Read any/all statistics, studies, data or what have you with a critical mind. A big thing I’ve seen in TRP and similarly cult-like communities is an inability to think critically. They see a stat like “80% of divorces are initiated by women” and think “women suck!” The… | /r/ExRedPill | 04/01/23 05:46 PM |
| 3 | A question for everyone that can answer...Yup. I did this a long, long time ago. I used to be more sympathetic towards men venting about bad experiences with women but it’s gotten to the point where personal frustration has blown up into partisan warfare, and it’s just ridiculous. I mean, maybe I’m biased, but I’ve had my share of bad experiences with some women but it’s never occurred to me to lay that on the shoulders of ALL women. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/01/23 01:41 PM |
| 1 | Red Pill has now been well-known for about a decade. It seems it's track-record for actual helping men is dismal.Absolutely right about this. I’ve done the whole “be mysterious send mixed signals” thing. The long term consequences were never good. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/01/23 01:24 PM |
| 2 | Red Pill has now been well-known for about a decade. It seems it's track-record for actual helping men is dismal.Oddly I agree that dating is complex. But I think red pill makes it overly simplistic (aka “follow these simple rules to get chicks”). The problem is TRP thinks dating is biologically reductive. It’s not. | /r/ExRedPill | 04/01/23 01:22 PM |
| 1 | Am I going in the right direction? Is there something I am missing?I agree, good mental health will help you deal with adversity better. While a better conceptualization of “shit test” might help, the problem is that it may lead to you framing behaviors as shit tests when they’re not, and so might lead to unhelpful or even inappropriate responses. Also, if you examine it closely, the “shit test” frame is self centered: it assumes that the behavior is all about seeing how you “perform”. Sometimes, it is, sometimes it isn't, but the problem with having a hammer i… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/01/23 11:47 PM |
| 2 | Am I going in the right direction? Is there something I am missing?I mean, there’s nothing really “false” here, I just don’t agree with the overall paradigm/assumptions. First, I’m pretty sure people are actually considerably complex but the internet has latched on to how appealing heuristics are and tries to make everything simplistic. I definitely agree that getting yourself right mentally is a good idea. I don’t know that it necessarily makes you care less (that’s stoicism, which is one way to go about improving your mental health), but will certainly improv… | /r/ExRedPill | 02/01/23 11:30 PM |
| 2 | Female Sexual ResponsivenessI wasn’t fully aware of how the model was used, so I’ll concede to #1 readily. For #2: right, the model is more complex for women. But the whole “women have zero arousal” thing is regarding a sexual dysfunction. For #3 sure, but not sure how this relates to your OP. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/01/23 04:45 PM |
| 0 | Female Sexual ResponsivenessI can’t really to how it can be/is used but that’s what it was designed for, yes. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/01/23 04:42 PM |
| 4 | Female Sexual ResponsivenessUm… I’m guessing you didn’t actually look at the paper itself. The paper is on women’s sexual DYSFUNCTION, not women in general. To be fair, it does state that women’s sexual motivation is more complex than men’s, but not that women feel zero arousal. This is one reason people should never take a journalist’s reading of a scientific paper at face value. | /r/ExRedPill | 02/01/23 03:20 PM |
| 1 | Is it just me or does arguing with incels on this subreddit feel like your takeing a step backwards in your recovery process.Nailed it. I’ve actually seen this firsthand. | /r/ExRedPill | 31/12/22 03:06 AM |
| 3 | Has anybody been able to help a redpiller out of their red pill views?That’s awesome. My way out was essentially self help. From there I wanted to dig deeper into psychology, therapy and philosophy. I think curiosity has been a big asset, personally. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/12/22 08:22 PM |
| 5 | Has anybody been able to help a redpiller out of their red pill views?That’s interesting. I wonder how many of those people found this subreddit through their own effort and how many were recommended this place as a sort of intervention. | /r/ExRedPill | 30/12/22 07:44 PM |
| 3 | Redpill made me hate being a womanMy wife is 36 and I started dating her when she was 25. If I think about it objectively, yeah she was prettier and, in some ways, nicer than she is now, but I would never for a second trade her for anyone else. Why? Because of what we've built together. She's not only been my wife and companion for over a decade, but she is the mother of my children, and she's a fantastic mother at that. I trust her more than almost anyone else, and I know she has my back, and she gets me in ways other people do… | /r/ExRedPill | 29/12/22 03:47 PM |
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