And/or blackpillers and/or incels?

My purpose here isn't to "change their minds", and I'm sure I'll meet many who aren't the best thinkers. I'm fine with that, I enjoy both mental and psychological challenges, but I'm curious what spaces are available where I can engage with them where, ideally, both a) I won't be booted out of the community for asking a question and b) they're not being flamed by others who disagree with them.

If anyone could point me in a good direction I'd appreciate it.