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| 4 | How Men Coerce Women into Domestic Slaverymany people believe the woman should stay at home to care for the children, the house, the shopping and the cooking. I only just started reading it, and it already stuck out to me that shopping is included in this list. I never thought of that before, but it's so true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 11:00 AM |
| 2 | How Twilight’s Purity Culture and 50 Shades’s Kink Culture Play Well TogetherI'm going to write a long thing around this entire topic. Pertaining specifically to your question, jump down to the part about Recovery. Trauma bonding is when you identify with your abuser, to the point that you form an emotional attachment to them. For example, Stockholm Syndrome is one kind of trauma bond. If you undergo any long-term abuse (by your parents, by a partner, by a boss, etc) you might find yourself falling into trauma bonding without realizing it. Especially if this has happened… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/09/21 06:53 PM |
| 17 | How Twilight’s Purity Culture and 50 Shades’s Kink Culture Play Well TogetherYes, same. Also, I completely changed my sexual preferences after I went to trauma therapy and healed a lot of that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 05:23 PM |
| 17 | Free Solo - Movies with a FDS LensI did watch this movie, and I admire him as a rock climbing master, but you're so right that he embodies no FDS values at all. It struck me at the time of watching, and remembering now, all I can see are his very creepy large dark eyes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/21 05:01 AM |
| 173 | When he says he needs at least ten years to think if I’m “the one” for him. 😂🤡Also, doesn't this just show exactly how dumb he is? Like if he needs 10 years to figure out if his preference is for or against this one person, I'm sorry, you must be pretty dumb. You should be able to figure that out within a few months, a year tops. Usually people will know much sooner if they're with someone they want to be with for the rest of their lives. If you're not capable of that self reflection and self evaluation process on a shorter time frame than ten years you are either 1. a to… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 11:03 AM |
| 56 | One of the few times you know for sure a man is being 100% honest with you.Yes, I totally agree with this assessment! I missed this sign for most of my life and it almost always bit me in the ass. The last time I met a man like this, I paid attention. Right before covid (and lockdowns) was announced, a family member had a birthday party and invited a lot of their friends. I was immediately drawn to a very charming, vivacious (tall, blond, good looking) man. He seemed affluent, amiable, vivacious, and I felt like if a family member had him as a friend I wouldn't mind a … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 08:34 AM |
| 49 | Why are some men’s egos so damn fragile?It's a shit test. It's their way of checking to see how much you value your self, because if you're entertained by that stuff they know they can abuse you so much worse in the future and you'll roll over and beg for more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 08:27 AM |
| 14 | How do you come to peace with the money you spent on an LVM?It's the money you spent to learn a lesson. Sometimes they're more expensive (like the 300€ train ticket I once bought) and sometime less (like a dinner or lunch I paid for) but ultimately that's <500€ I've spent to learn that men are not all that, and now I can protect myself 100% better! My uni degree was more expensive and taught me less valuable skills. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/21 08:24 AM |
| 64 | Notice how she's the one trying to get advice, not himWhen I first moved to a foreign country to go to medical school there, I met a real scrote. A psychopathic scrote. He wowed me by telling me he had made it to 3rd year before dropping out. Young, barely-adult me was so impressed. He was working as a waiter and bartender, drinking his weight in alcohol every night, couldn't pay rent for his flat that was outside of the city (so of course I was so nice to let him crash at mine, even though he often didn't appear until 3am). Turns out he was spendi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/08/21 11:52 AM |
| 7 | FDS approved TV-shows?Her outfits are especially great. But I also like how she makes herself into a HVW. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 09:02 AM |
| 20 | FDS approved TV-shows?And she is so good at believing the victim. I will always remember the one episode where a woman holds a man at gunpoint in an apartment, and it's being livestreamed to the internet. The police is told about it, and half the the time they're trying to find the flat. When Olivia goes inside, she 100% believes the victim, although the scrote just denies denies denies. Eventually he confesses, and his entire demeanor changes. It was incredible acting on their behalves. I feel like Olivia Benson is … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 09:01 AM |
| 24 | Is this why old men in current government dont care about women’s rights today? Because their dad’s wrote & believed bs like this?It was really taxing to consume that much alcohol throughout the day and stay awake. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 08:54 AM |
| 11 | Is this why old men in current government dont care about women’s rights today? Because their dad’s wrote & believed bs like this?Holy shit... I HATE how much of this I've internalized from my mother. I almost want to stop doing all of these things. Instead maybe I should just make him do them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/21 08:52 AM |
| 52 | Are progressive/liberal/well-read men any better than others?If they don't walk the talk, they're using it to hide their abusive core. If they're doing the hard stuff (like being vegan, not watching porn, going to therapy for their own trauma, delving deep inside themselves to figure out their flaws and actively work on them - aka the non-performative actions) (performative actions being going to marches (to meet women), or joining woke book clubs (to pick up women), or talking about how woke they are on OLD (to pick up women)) then they're probably not c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 08:09 AM |
| 19 | Just got told off by a woman for being mean to a guy who idolises/sees himself in Joaquin Phoenix's JokerIt's better not to name the shooters of these mass shootings. They often do it for attention, and referring to them with their name feeds into that. Future wannabe-shooters will see it and take note that this is how you acquire fame. How many victims can you name off the top of your head? Time and place I feel are the best ways to refer to these degenerate scum. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 08:06 AM |
| 16 | Just got told off by a woman for being mean to a guy who idolises/sees himself in Joaquin Phoenix's JokerIn the mean time, employ the grey rock technique. Make yourself incredibly boring in his eyes. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 08:02 AM |
| 16 | Just got told off by a woman for being mean to a guy who idolises/sees himself in Joaquin Phoenix's JokerAbusers are abusers. It has nothing to do with their pasts, their presents, or their futures. They feel entitled to certain behaviors, perks, etc. He will continue to abuse you and others until it becomes more difficult to abuse than to change. As Lundy Bancroft says in Why Does He Do That?: "I have sometimes said to a client: “If you are so in touch with your feelings from your abusive childhood, then you should know what abuse feels like. You should be able to remember how miserable it was to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/08/21 08:00 AM |
| 6 | Male Neurodivergent PANDERING, and my seething resentment about itThis is also why I stick to the female autism subs, because the ones with males in them suck. Men always make the conversation about themselves, and dismiss any experience that they have not personally had. Autism presents differently in women! You don't know what we go through, random internet autistic man. Though the two female ones aren't that great either. Both mod teams have their own issues. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 10:50 AM |
| 4 | Dating as a neurodivergent woman following FDS principles.I highly suggest the book Set Boundaries Find Peace by Nedra Glover Tawwab. She helps you figure out what boundaries are, why you need them, and then a ton of helpful examples and phrases and situations in which to apply it. Perfectly made for autistic women. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 10:47 AM |
| 3 | Dating as a neurodivergent woman following FDS principles.I was friends with my partner for 4 years before we decided to take things to a deeper level. It worked ideally for me, since I could get to know him as a person in many situations without feeling like I had to stick with him or something. We had one big fight (due to communication problems) during our friendship, and when we picked up talking again months later, we both decided that that sucked, and we'd both individually improve ourselves. It's one of the only reasons I decided to move things … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/08/21 10:45 AM |
| 19 | What with FDS women watching Fboy Island, it's time for a reminder from Lundy Bancroft about The Player: an abuser, not a sex addictYes, definitely! I didn't want to do a hardline post and say: "you ladies who watch this trash are trash!", but I did want to point out that consuming a lot of reality tv is probably going to not lead towards the goal of being a HVW. I was never interested in reality shows, and have seen clips of a few here and there at most. I think a part of me always understood that they are catering to people on a similar level as the people on the show: pick me's, scrotes, and all the poor people who don't … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 05:45 PM |
| 29 | What with FDS women watching Fboy Island, it's time for a reminder from Lundy Bancroft about The Player: an abuser, not a sex addictSame, I also cannot watch them. They feel very low-value. Exploiting people, encouraging people to be toxic to one another, and on top of that, there is usually a monetary prize to incentive this behavior, which feels so gross to me. If you want to find love, you're not going to find it with a 100k grand prize. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 03:24 PM |
| 4 | I was groomed as a minor, twice. How do I cope with it?Yes, it can vary which modalities work best for you, however my comment was directed towards the type of therapist you want to find, not for the kind of therapy you need. That's best left up to the experts. IFS is Internal Family Systems. It takes the idea of parts (you probably worked through that model a bit using schemas, but this is not based on schemas), each part being one that was traumatized as you were growing up and left to sort of fend for itself. As you're triggered as an adult, one … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 03:17 PM |
| 8 | I was groomed as a minor, twice. How do I cope with it?my trauma therapist never forces me to talk about events. In fact, in many cases reliving the events by talking about what happened is detrimental towards healing. It's a very outdated idea. So if you find a therapist who forces you to tell all your stories, block and delete them! A good trauma therapist's focus is on getting you integrated into the here and now. The focus sometimes shifts to certain events or experiences from your past, but most of the work is done in the here and now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 08:32 AM |
| 9 | I was groomed as a minor, twice. How do I cope with it?You find a trauma therapist and start working through your trauma, integrating all the parts. Don't go to a hypnotherapist, or a psychoanalysis, or someone who only does CBT / DBT. You want someone trauma informed, who knows IFS, EMDR, and how to deal with the trauma of the past in the present. You can start on your own while you wait by reading the book Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors: Overcoming Internal Self-alienation by Janina Fisher. It has most of the latest research, an… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/08/21 08:30 AM |
| 42 | HVM turned to LVM rather quickly..Did I do too much by asking about dating after three months of courting? No. Best to block and delete and move on. His main goal was sex, not dating you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/08/21 04:23 PM |
| 4 | Another reason why 50/50 is bullsh*t: PERIOD PAINSome advice, unsolicited, but it might help you a bit: I have similar pain to you, only it lasts for 3 days, this last month it was 5 days. It was horrible. I've isolated one trigger: refined oils in my diet. They increase the estrogen, so just not eating any oil ever has cut down my pain from 5 very terrible days down to about 2-3 moderately terrible days. I also found what works is to take my pain killers before even a hint of pain surfaces. If I take them early enough I won't vomit them up. A… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/08/21 07:34 PM |
| 75 | What's happening in Afghanistan at the moment is absolutely terrifying. We can never take our freedoms for granted.Telling how there's basically no fiction about the Amazons aside from Wonder Woman or Xena. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 08:17 PM |
| 73 | The first page of this book: The Gift of Fear by Gavin de BeckerI tried reading this book, but there are pretty bad depictions of rape and stalking (from what I remember). It can be quite triggering for some people - it was for me. I still believe it's an invaluable tool for women, and if you can, read it. I just wish there was some kind of cliff notes version without all the stories. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 08:50 AM |
| 52 | “If she doesn’t put out by the third date, she’s not into you bro.”Who made up the rule? Men. Women used to not give it up until marriage. Then it was seen as being a "loose woman" if you did. Slowly it became being a "modern woman". Slowly, anyone who didn't want to have sex first and ask questions later was seen as regressive, as backwards, as uncool. I place the blame squarely at the feet of the patriarchy, because they're the ones who gain everything and lose nothing when women have sex early. Media plays into it: Rizzo is seen as the 'cool girl' and Sandy … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/08/21 08:44 AM |
| 3 | Britney Spears and Why We Shouldn’t Use the Terms “Crazy”/ “Psycho” or Mental Health issues in General, to Describe, Discredit or Label Other WomenI am fairly certain that her conservators and those working for them never mentioned it on purpose. She's the golden goose and they're all taking her golden eggs. Why jeopardize that? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 04:46 PM |
| 2 | Britney Spears and Why We Shouldn’t Use the Terms “Crazy”/ “Psycho” or Mental Health issues in General, to Describe, Discredit or Label Other Womenmentally unhinged BPD types I really feel the need to address this. The diagnosis of BPD has been a dead end dx for women for decades, as a way for the medical community to wash their hands of "hysterical women with too many problems". Add to that the family is often presented as the 'good' ones in a BPD-dx scenario, and the whole thing becomes a misogynistic patriarchal shit fest. I say this as a medical doctor who wrote her masters thesis on an aspect of BPD. So not only is actually diagnosing… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 04:45 PM |
| 2 | The Incels are DeCLaRiNg WaR on Us Again 🙄😒I'm happy to report back that the original cookie recipe is both easy to make and incredibly delicious! These might be my new go-to cookies. (Any chance you have vegan lemon bars? It's only that your name keeps popping up and I keep thinking of how nice they would be right about now). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 04:29 PM |
| 15 | The Incels are DeCLaRiNg WaR on Us Again 🙄😒I wasn't sure what I would find in these comments but I'm incredibly happy it was this recipe! I'm totally making these today (only with peanut butter because that's what's in the house). Any other favorite vegan cookie recipes? Because you have one I imagine you've got an entire bookmarked folder! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/06/21 09:28 AM |
| 44 | POV: You don’t see women as people. Even therapy can’t help you.And one of the main reasons why I support the child free movement. Honestly there is literally nothing that can convince me to have a child at this point. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/06/21 10:56 AM |
| 13 | Planning to end things with LVM tomorrowOne thing my therapist said, when I was trying to convince her of something, is: "stop, what are you doing right now?" and I explained I felt I had to make my case. "but why? I believe you. You don't need to prove anything to me." It's not healthy if you feel you have to set up a whole court case with documents, witnesses, evidence, etc. if you're stating your boundaries, wants, needs, desires, opinions, etc. There's a place for that, and that's in the court of law. My parents forced me to "prov… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 07:18 AM |
| 88 | When They’ve BEEN Ghosted Before 👻That's the kind of phrasing that is supposed to trigger your pickme behavior: "Oh I won't neglect you, I'm not like those other girls". And then you show him that you're not, no matter what he throws at you. It forces you into a sunk cost fallacy, and he'll keep lowering the bar, over and over, to see how much shit you'll put up with, until you've had enough. Then he'll reel it back slightly, promise to "do better", and never change. Biggest red flag ever, that type of manipulative phrasing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/06/21 07:10 AM |
| 15 | Truer words have never been spoken. Don't believe those fairy tales ladies.fr, letting any child consume porn is sexual abuse One way that pedo's groom girls is exposing them to porn. Seeing those acts, seeing what happens (usually in child porn) will make them more likely to engage in those acts. They're being shown as the normal, healthy, natural thing to do, so the girl squishes that feeling inside herself saying this is wrong and does what the adult says. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 03:10 PM |
| 19 | So many stories like this are popping up. I'm glad she's divorcing him.Definitely. There's tons of these kinds of stories on Just No MIL or other parental abuse related subs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 01:56 PM |
| 94 | So many stories like this are popping up. I'm glad she's divorcing him.Oh em gee. I can't believe it. I can't wrap my head around this. He was so controlling he was trying to control your completely erratic biological functions?! And then men wonder why we have trust issues and hate men telling us what to do!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 01:54 PM |
| 9 | If a man sits down next to you on the bus or train, and he's too close and he starts touching you, what do you do? - Aka how Dr Gail Dines finally put into words what I've been feeling.I highly doubt they got any pleasure from rubbing their shoulder on my back like wtf? Oh no, they got pleasure out of it. The sick kind of pleasure a spiteful, vindictive, angry man get's at showing a woman her rightful subordinate place. When kids squish bugs or internet trolls put down advocates, it's the same kind of pleasure. Nothing at all healthy, and most of it vile and gross and vomit inducing. I'm still seeing how ugly the world is, some days. I'm glad you didn't let it stop you from tr… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 07:10 AM |
| 6 | If a man sits down next to you on the bus or train, and he's too close and he starts touching you, what do you do? - Aka how Dr Gail Dines finally put into words what I've been feeling.Lots of hugs (if you want them). It's hard to watch these kinds of things. It's like a band aid being ripped off you. Freeing but also so painful. When she talks about your authentic sexuality being stolen from you, I want to cry. I think I had a similar reaction to you, only it was a few weeks ago. I realized I was asexual. I have had sex hundreds of times with tons of men. It was also shown as "so empowering" or "so liberated". No. I was trauma bonding with all of them. I just wanted someone t… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 07:07 AM |
| 3 | If a man sits down next to you on the bus or train, and he's too close and he starts touching you, what do you do? - Aka how Dr Gail Dines finally put into words what I've been feeling.I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I can say I've taken places off my travel destination lists because of stories like this. Places I'd love to see, but there's far too many scrotes there who ruin everything. I'm glad you could move and find a better place to sit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 06:56 AM |
| 4 | If a man sits down next to you on the bus or train, and he's too close and he starts touching you, what do you do? - Aka how Dr Gail Dines finally put into words what I've been feeling.I didn't actually know this. Wow. I thought I knew the real story, but it just goes to show how lousy reporting and police reports were at the time. Thank you for writing it out. I'll see if I can find a better article to read on her case. (I did know the issues around the 'Bystander Effect' retelling, however. So perhaps this plays into that). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 06:54 AM |
| 3 | If a man sits down next to you on the bus or train, and he's too close and he starts touching you, what do you do? - Aka how Dr Gail Dines finally put into words what I've been feeling.She mentions at the end of the 2020 webinar that I linked elsewhere in this thread what works: writing books exposing the porn industry, doing research and presenting it, talking about it with your friends, your community, FDS and other online spaces, hosting webinars and basically getting our voices out there. FDS did an amazing thing by having Dr Gail Dines on. FDS does amazing things just by existing. But it's also on you, on us. Don't date men who use porn (and emphasize that that is why). I… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/06/21 06:50 AM |
| 13 | If a man sits down next to you on the bus or train, and he's too close and he starts touching you, what do you do? - Aka how Dr Gail Dines finally put into words what I've been feeling.If you want a book suggestion, I can highly recommend this one. It's helped me more than most books. Plus the r-CPTSD community. Healing the Fragmented Selves of Trauma Survivors by Janina Fisher It explains things with the latest research into trauma, in a way that will resonate with you. There's a lot more book suggestions in the r-CPTSD wiki Library (and a lot you can get for free off their discord server). It's funny how all the trauma things happen collectively. Compounding like that makes … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 06:24 PM |
| 20 | If a man sits down next to you on the bus or train, and he's too close and he starts touching you, what do you do? - Aka how Dr Gail Dines finally put into words what I've been feeling.Crazy to think that only a few decades ago the main thing for teens to do was to go to movies and make out in the back row for hours. Now it's all straight to pornified, postured, posed sex. I've been rewatching Buffy and even in the late 90s when that show was airing it was still mainstream to just go and dance, then make out with a boy. That guy totally had a penis problem. Wanting to run away after sex is not a biological reaction, it’s a dysfunctional psychological problem. Preach it! It doe… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 05:49 PM |
| 13 | If a man sits down next to you on the bus or train, and he's too close and he starts touching you, what do you do? - Aka how Dr Gail Dines finally put into words what I've been feeling.It is so scary when it actually happens to you, no matter what kind of trauma it is. It is all valid, because it doesn't matter what the event, thought, action, words, etc. were, what matters is what happened in side of you. I am so sorry that you had to go through that. If it still bothers you I would highly recommend some sessions with a trauma-informed therapist. They do wonderful work, know when you're being triggered and can help you ground again, and can help you find a way to live with wh… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 05:46 PM |
| 29 | If a man sits down next to you on the bus or train, and he's too close and he starts touching you, what do you do? - Aka how Dr Gail Dines finally put into words what I've been feeling.People (who am I kidding, it's usually men) who get squished into airplane seats and then have the audacity to take up more space than they paid for are the worst. Either pay for business or first class, or endure like the rest of us. There are certain items out there that you can purchase that are made for you to maintain your space. Things to put between your seat and the middle one (like a clipboard if you will), things to put on the back of the seat in front of you so they can't lean back. T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 05:44 PM |
| 22 | If a man sits down next to you on the bus or train, and he's too close and he starts touching you, what do you do? - Aka how Dr Gail Dines finally put into words what I've been feeling.Thank you for sharing your story. You did nothing wrong. Those men were horrible, and for what? A bit of titillation? I'm so sorry you didn't feel brave enough to speak out then. I hope you have found your voice, or will one day soon. I know sharing your story helps a lot. And I'm here to tell you that your reaction is totally normal, not to be ashamed about. Lots of hugs (if you want them) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 05:41 PM |
| 22 | Men always talk about natural selection and animals. Well here is proof of their 'nature'.I had no idea about that. That's fascinating. And frustrating, since never in 30+ years was it mentioned that women were probably the creators. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 05:33 PM |
| 10 | If a man sits down next to you on the bus or train, and he's too close and he starts touching you, what do you do? - Aka how Dr Gail Dines finally put into words what I've been feeling.We've all been there. Young, naive, thinking everyone else will respect you the way you respect everyone else. It's sad that it takes years and years of these events to pile up to make bitter, loud, angry women. We should be loud and shaming them earlier to stomp out this scrote from society. Instead they get to get away with it, getting more and more daring until they escalate to full rape and/or murder. I still say good on your past self for staying safe first and foremost. Maybe you could hav… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 04:53 PM |
| 30 | If a man sits down next to you on the bus or train, and he's too close and he starts touching you, what do you do? - Aka how Dr Gail Dines finally put into words what I've been feeling.That's a great tip. Totally feeds into their worst fear of being laughed at. Although I can also see a man becoming so unhinged from that reaction that he'll lash out and harm you, so it might not always be the best first choice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 04:50 PM |
| 29 | If a man sits down next to you on the bus or train, and he's too close and he starts touching you, what do you do? - Aka how Dr Gail Dines finally put into words what I've been feeling.You focused on safety. It's not always safe to be the loud voice. Especially if it's night, you're alone, or the only woman around. Or even if there are no other men. Sometimes you can feel the loneliest in a crowd of people because everyone else will stare but not step up to help you. I think we all internalize a bit of what happened to Kitty Genovese, how she screamed for help multiple times, fought off her attacker multiple times, was heard by many people who did nothing, and still ended up d… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 04:49 PM |
| 20 | If a man sits down next to you on the bus or train, and he's too close and he starts touching you, what do you do? - Aka how Dr Gail Dines finally put into words what I've been feeling.It's rather similar, but this webinar from June 2020 has a bit more of an updated stance re the pandemic. But still quite similar to the 2012 talk above. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 12:06 PM |
| 96 | If a man sits down next to you on the bus or train, and he's too close and he starts touching you, what do you do? - Aka how Dr Gail Dines finally put into words what I've been feeling.They hit on their daughters boyfriends, they tease their daughters in preschool about having a boyfriend (when both sexes aren't even thinking about it yet), they tease their sons about having girlfriends in a very inappropriate manner, there is definitely emotional incest with their sons, they dress their daughters in a sexual manner (all those "baby doll" tops) and take them to beauty pagents, they cat call their own children, they uphold the FGM traditions, they think their children are seduc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 12:04 PM |
| 175 | Men always talk about natural selection and animals. Well here is proof of their 'nature'.Typical. Women invent or refine a technique and men use their power to take it away from them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 11:14 AM |
| 14 | Men are unhingedI hope you're healing from the trauma of having to live through that. And I'm so glad you're no longer with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 11:09 AM |
| 249 | If a man sits down next to you on the bus or train, and he's too close and he starts touching you, what do you do? - Aka how Dr Gail Dines finally put into words what I've been feeling.Oh yes. It begins when you're a very young child and are forced to hug and kiss your relatives whether or not you want to. Continues as a young girl being catcalled before puberty even begins. When you mention you were catcalled the older pick-me women will say such remarks as, "I wish I still got male attention, you lucky thing". Then continues during puberty as your classmates and more older men, including magazines, sexualize your body before you're even ready for it. On top of that the magaz… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 11:07 AM |
| 14 | Are there men who don't look at porn?My dad doesn't look at porn. He's still a LVM for other reasons (one glaring one being child abuse). My dad had an employee in the late 90s / early 00s that he caught looking at porn at work (apparently it was what he was doing 90% of the time in his office), and after one warning, he couldn't control his addiction and my dad fired him. My dad doesn't get porn at all. Growing up without that around the house was one of the few good things. On the other hand my dad does have a lot of those scanti… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/06/21 08:08 AM |
| 7 | dude pretends to be a woman and makes a post just to prove harassment exists, he isn't a hero for this, he is part of the problem since he couldn't believe women and had to see for himselfIn one of the early James Bond books, Bond puts on black face and goes to party in Harlem. The books are especially racist and terrible, and Bond never actually has any self awareness about anything. If racism can become so estranged from our everyday experience I still have hope that misogyny will be on the way out soon. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/06/21 07:12 PM |
| 14 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 14 - Dr. Gail Dines & the Queens Rage Against the Porn MachineWow, thank you so much! I'm going to spend my evening watching these. I love those hour long lectures. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 04:26 PM |
| 63 | The nerdboy syndrome is just as toxic as the f*ckboyOMG I had an ex exactly like this! I thought he was just shy. But he was pornsick, into BDSM, watched anime every day, and we basically only became a thing because I asked him out. Much much later one of my girl friends told me that he was mostly disliked not because he was a 18 y/o virgin, but because he took secret photos of one of his girl friends while she was in the shower. (Yes most of his friends were women). That should have tipped me off, but I was such a pickme at the time I stayed wit… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 10:34 AM |
| 75 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 14 - Dr. Gail Dines & the Queens Rage Against the Porn MachineDr. Gail Dines is my new feminist hero. She's amazing. Thanks so much for having her on, I loved listening to her. I hope she has some lectures online because I need more! P.S. Any other great rad fem podcast recommendations? The week long wait between episodes is too much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 10:28 AM |
| 5 | This documentary is worth watching if you haven't already. How Adult entertainmener women are treated In conservative / religious countries. It strengthen the core value of FDS against any type of sex work.This is so weird. It's like the south east asian version of western strip clubs, but no clothes come off. I can't seem to wrap my head around this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/06/21 08:31 AM |
| 84 | On being pedanticI also think a lot of posts here are fueled by anger and pain at the realizations that the handbook and the posts here show in stark reality. I know when I first came here it jumped my anger levels up significantly. Tearing the pickme blindfold off my eyes is healthy, but also liable to cause higher emotions. Due to that, people are going to have rants, are going to complain, are going to generalize. We want our voices heard, and tone policing righteous anger reawakening is harmful to those firs… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/06/21 07:26 AM |
| 75 | FDS STRATEGY SPOTLIGHT: SATURDAY JUNE 5 2021These spotlights are so great. So often I miss a great post because of the sheer number of great posts. Any chance you (mods) would be willing to do a sort of Throwback Thursday of these spotlights? Highlight posts in FDS history that were great, but never made it into the handbook? I'm sure y'all remember a lot more than you think. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 11:34 AM |
| 18 | Beware the pick-me in your social groupAlso don't know what to do for friends who ask for advice but don't want to listen to it. Honestly this became so tiring I don't put up with it anymore. I've dropped friends because of it. In future friendships I'll give them 1 chance to show that they value my input and opinion. After that if they ask for advice I'll (kindly but honestly) say that I don't want to give it because I don't think they really want it anyway. But ultimately I'm looking for friendships with women who will ask for and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/06/21 09:06 AM |
| 9 | How do you dress at home when living with an SO? Do you feel pressured to dress for his “male gaze.” Does he complain or suggest things? Y’alls experience?I wear what I want. If I want to be pretty - I get dressed pretty. If I want to be comfortable - I get dressed comfortable. If my SO ever mentioned me wearing a specific thing it better have a damn good reason beyond "I like it". Reminds me of my toxic narc psycho ex who really "loved it" when I asked if a shirt I was wearing was cut too low. He said it "made him feel special" knowing that I consulted him on these things. Yeah, no. Fuck those guys. You can consult your SO on your wardrobe and if… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 09:19 PM |
| -8 | My favorite TikTok doc 🩺 he has many videos making fun of trash men and advises women to do better ☺️Yes, but there is a difference between bringing up men and showcasing them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 09:07 PM |
| 5 | A lot of Female Bonding is Secondary Status/ Trauma BondingIt's true. I ditched my best friend through all my uni years recently, because FDS realized how trauma bonded we were. Hell, she is the one who forcefully stuck her fingers into my crotch in public one time. I still don't know what that is. At least guys only stuck to groping my ass in public. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 08:56 PM |
| -11 | My favorite TikTok doc 🩺 he has many videos making fun of trash men and advises women to do better ☺️I just hate how this is a female-only space, but then males are still brought in here. Through these tiktoks, saying basic shit that everyone should know, or through the Friday posts. Like, let's just be women, in our own space. It's the only one on the internet! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/06/21 08:52 PM |
| 3 | It's only okay when males practice seperatism bit lord forbid FDS is females only (2 slides)Thanks! I'm sorry you had to do the same. But it's safer. I've checked out that sub, but eh, I'm mostly over it. I'm trying to focus more on leveling up and healing from trauma and figuring out how to take my next steps in life. There was a time (and still sometimes is) where I want to share my stories, but for the most part I'm over it. Also there's the insane parents sub if you haven't seen that one. My parents belong there more often than anywhere. xD | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 02:06 PM |
| 6 | Porn Addiction Is More Common Than Anyone Wants To AdmitCongrats on your sobriety as well! I think it definitely depends on where you live and what kind of people you are surrounded by. When I was in uni there were hardly any people who didn't consume alcohol. But now that I'm older, and also moved to a more progressive country, I feel there is far more acceptance to not drink. No one pushes you, no one mocks you, no one tries to sneak alcohol into your beverage. Drinking is still prevalent, but not mandatory. And like I read in a book the other day,… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 01:57 PM |
| 5 | It's only okay when males practice seperatism bit lord forbid FDS is females only (2 slides)Yeah, that makes sense. He is a narcissist, and loves conspiracy theories (probably because they make him feel special; having access to special knowledge). So him knowing something about my partner I don't know probably helps feed his ego. I've cut contact with my LV parents for a few years now. They let me and my siblings down far too many times. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 01:52 PM |
| 12 | Porn Addiction Is More Common Than Anyone Wants To AdmitAny alcohol use is associated with some short-term and long-term health risks There is no safe level for drinking alcohol The US Dietary Guidelines recommend that people who do not drink alcohol start drinking for any reason. (Other countries have similar stances). Alcohol is never completely safe. Low-volume alcohol consumption has no net mortality benefit compared with lifetime abstention Alcohol consumption, even at moderate levels, is associated with adverse brain outcomes including hippocam… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 12:51 PM |
| 17 | Porn Addiction Is More Common Than Anyone Wants To AdmitNo addiction is gender dependent. Also with the push of "female empowerment" linked to sex work and how kinky you can be in the bedroom, a lot of women are watching more porn, learning to tolerate and then enjoy porn, and eventually also getting addicted to porn. Case in point: when Jennifer Lawrence's nudes were linked across the internet and it was a huge to-do across reddit (where you I see them?? have you seen them?! How do you judge her!?) I went out my way to avoid any places hosting the p… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 11:57 AM |
| 12 | Porn Addiction Is More Common Than Anyone Wants To AdmitThank you. Very kind of you. Though I do prefer no money goes to reddit, and instead to a worthwhile charity. Congrats on finding sobriety; it's very difficult usually! I've had my own issues with addiction in my life, and without support, without love and help, it's almost impossible to do on your own. I can't believe people just sent you porn. Indoctrination much? Though I have noticed that those countries with strong drinking cultures also tend to have strong porn use as well. Might just be c… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 11:53 AM |
| 4 | Porn Addiction Is More Common Than Anyone Wants To AdmitWow, thanks! I really appreciate it. Though I do prefer no money go to reddit and instead is donated to a worthwhile charity (MSF is my favorite). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 11:50 AM |
| 21 | Porn never taught me about passion and intimacyThank you. I really appreciate it. <3 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 09:30 AM |
| 2 | It's only okay when males practice seperatism bit lord forbid FDS is females only (2 slides)I feel the people are nicer in the south. They still can have really weird ideas about life and the world, but they are at least nice and willing to engage with you if you're a little different. Mostly what I found in the north and east (aside from downtown Berlin) was feeling ostracized and excluded for being a little bit different. Good luck! I hope it all works out for you! I ended up leaving Germany entirely for greener pastures. Have been a lot happier since. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 08:22 AM |
| 20 | Porn never taught me about passion and intimacyI think that's why I never "got" dick pics. Like what am I supposed to do with this? A dildo, a banana, or even a lamp looks as interesting. Without an emotional, safe, deep connection there is literally nothing there. On the other hand, when you do have a deep emotional connection built, body parts can start to look far more interesting. I still don't quite feel all the "let me smoosh my face in there" feelings of sexual attraction it seems most people feel, but without any emotion I feel nothi… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 08:18 AM |
| 39 | Porn never taught me about passion and intimacyI never enjoyed porn, until a guy friend showed me kink dot com back in the early 10's. My trauma-addled brain thought it was so good. But even then, I only occasionally viewed things. Once I started healing from my trauma, I realized I was asexual, all porn does nothing for me, and the more violent porn was only attractive because it's what I equated to love after growing up in a violent household. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 08:13 AM |
| 17 | Porn never taught me about passion and intimacyI find the same thing in books: a full on erotic sex scene can occasionally be nice, but generally it's just rote robotic movements, one listed after the other. You get a bit more fun out of it if it's written in first person, but that's about it. On the other hand, the building of the relationship, the showing up in troubled times, the holding close and showing companionship, all of those to me are so much more interesting and fun to read about. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 08:12 AM |
| 22 | Porn Addiction Is More Common Than Anyone Wants To AdmitI have also realized that I'm asexual. I've always been annoyed and never understood how these super-sexualized ads were supposed to get me to buy things. I hate them. If anything it makes me never buy that thing. I can't listen to mainstream music anymore - everything is about sex, hooking up, calling women slurs, (and now of course I pick up on all the pickme stories in the songs as well), etc. I hate watching normal tv series that everyone lauds. They're so infuriating in their patriarchy and… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 07:58 AM |
| 53 | Porn Addiction Is More Common Than Anyone Wants To AdmitI study trauma, addiction, and their intersection. Porn addiction is real, and as bad as alcohol addiction. There is no okay amount of alcohol to drink. I can cite tons of studies if you want. Basically, any amount of alcohol is toxic to you. And studies on porn have found the same thing. Any amount of porn is toxic to humans. You can consume a little bit, now and then, and still show signs of addictive behavior. The more you consume, the more you will want to consume. The website Your Brain on … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 07:49 AM |
| 7 | It's only okay when males practice seperatism bit lord forbid FDS is females only (2 slides)I'm really not a fan of the city. It's a very work-centric city, with many of the only recreational choices 1. driving out of the city (nice), 2. drinking (eh), 3. museums (they are so-so; some fantastic ones, many more lame ones). Traffic is the worst. It takes 1.5-2 hours to drive across the city (I can't think of any other city as bad; even Berlin was faster to navigate. Maybe Paris). And, honestly, I just don't like the mindset of northern Germans. It's very close-minded, forcing you into th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/06/21 07:32 AM |
| 1 | What would happen if dating coaches/ relationship gurus were honest about how desirable women vastly outnumber desirable men?Oh, sure I guess. I didn't think people would be that interested. But if you think it's worthwhile, I can put something together. Though I think I'd want to read at least one more book, just to have something to compare. Comparison posts are always great. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 05:53 PM |
| 20 | It's only okay when males practice seperatism bit lord forbid FDS is females only (2 slides)Yeah, I know right? I didn't get it then, and I still don't get it now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 05:53 PM |
| 6 | What would happen if dating coaches/ relationship gurus were honest about how desirable women vastly outnumber desirable men?The one book I did read and finish so far was full of a ton of pickme behavior that this sub is constantly calling out, as well as some HVW moments. I have a feeling the recommended reading list might need a renewal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 10:36 AM |
| 87 | It's only okay when males practice seperatism bit lord forbid FDS is females only (2 slides)Fun story about the Herbertstraße (okay, probably more "fun"): I had a LVX who manipulated me into taking him to Hamburg. I don't think my parents liked him very much, since my dad vetted him by suggesting they walk through the street. Of course, my father is an asshole and didn't tell me until years later that the scrote was oogling all the women and couldn't keep his eyes to himself (definitely into sampling the merchandise). I wish my father would have spoken up so I could have gotten rid of … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/06/21 10:23 AM |
| 5 | ‘No social media’ guysEven my SO who doesn't like social media and doesn't generally engage in it, has a reddit account that he never tried to hide from me. There is almost always some kind of social media, even if it's not the "traditional" ones most people are on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/05/21 04:14 PM |
| 18 | Pay attention to men's attitudes about aging.Also porn. If you consume vast amounts of porn, you're liable to only see young, attractive, ready and willing women. The subset of women featured in porn is quite a small % of the real population (essentially: young, beautiful, with a lot of makeup / body modifications). And when young women try to look similarly (wearing makeup and being young is often enough) and then go on dating apps or just exist in public, they will be fetishized just as the women on the screen are. These men cannot separ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 04:27 PM |
| 10 | Going from pickme "Please have sex with me so I feel validated" to HVW "I'm not sharing my body with anyone who doesnt respect me" has been life changing for my self-esteem.I had a trusted partner who helped me practice saying no, which was great right at the beginning. I told him what to say, to tell me that I can say no. To ask me if I wanted to say no. To ask me if I am saying yes. Etc. Being able to verbalize those basic things in a trusted relationship was the foundation. Then you can start learning nuance, figuring out what you like, if you feel comfortable in your own body at that point in time to try out something "new" (maybe you did try it in the past, bu… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 01:53 PM |
| 29 | Going from pickme "Please have sex with me so I feel validated" to HVW "I'm not sharing my body with anyone who doesnt respect me" has been life changing for my self-esteem.For me, I figured out it was the only way I could feel "loved". I mean, none of those guys loved me, but they pretended for a little bit that they cared, and it's the only caring I had in my life. Definitely trauma bonding because we had terrible parents and never learned proper attachment and how to be loved. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 01:49 PM |
| 14 | Going from pickme "Please have sex with me so I feel validated" to HVW "I'm not sharing my body with anyone who doesnt respect me" has been life changing for my self-esteem.FDS is the main thing that's brought my self esteem up since I was a child. Therapy only goes so far. Hearing (actually) empowering messages, statements, advice, etc. from women like me, who have experienced what I have and yet are still standing strong, their truth rings like the loudest bell I've ever heard. This place is one of the best places on the internet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/05/21 01:47 PM |
| 17 | The Female Dating Strategy Podcast: EP. 12 - How FDS Can Help Autistic Queens Navigate RelationshipsWow... I wasn't sure if I wanted to listen to this episode. Wasn't sure if it would be interesting. And now I'm thinking I might be autistic. So many of the things Artemis and Stena said resonated with me. It's so confusing. EDIT: because reading this again 10 minutes later makes me feel I came off too blunt and rude. I'm also so grateful for this podcast and for sharing your stories. They make a world of difference to hear, for me personally, but also to diversify the range of what it means to … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/05/21 09:47 PM |
| 6 | When people ask me "why are you so suspicious?" this is why...Those knives are often highly illegal to carry. Pepper spray can be illegal too. Check your local laws before breaking them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 10:29 AM |
| 2 | Any online self defense resources you can recommend?This post was just linked elsewhere in FDS, which is why my comment comes so late. This is what my grandpa used to do for "fun" to us kids. Take our pinkie finger and squeeze it really hard into our hand, or pull it backwards. There is literally nothing you can do to get out of it, and if you fight you can easily break your finger. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 10:21 AM |
| 27 | When people ask me "why are you so suspicious?" this is why...And then there's the huge population of women who never feel safe because (often) their father (or another male relative) was an abuser all their life. You don't learn to recognize what's unsafe because you never grew up feeling safe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/05/21 10:18 AM |
| 44 | Thought this belongs here. (From selfawarewolves... Men are so close, I can't decide if they're ignorant on purpose or genuinely can't grasp basic concepts)Reminds me of the vintage quotes post here the other day. Someone in the comments mentioned how men were against public restrooms for women, because how dare they exist outside of the home long enough to need a bathroom. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 06:37 PM |
| 26 | Thought this belongs here. (From selfawarewolves... Men are so close, I can't decide if they're ignorant on purpose or genuinely can't grasp basic concepts)That is so creepy! I think what makes it extra terrible is how no one helped you until you personally knew someone. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/05/21 06:34 PM |
| 29 | Another woman is not yours to “offer” or “give” 🤮I got hung up on the 2day for a while, trying to figure out what it meant, myself. It's such a weird way of writing. Looks like something you see on antimmlm | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 01:14 PM |
| 3 | If you're *really* married, how come you're on FDS?Not to mention this is the only actual woman-only space on the internet where you can talk about woman issues without a man butting in! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 12:57 PM |
| 18 | Girls-Only Gym In The US Ignites Discussion On Whether It’s ‘Segregation’ Or Protection Of WomenThe couple of times I've been to a gym I was always oogled, given the sense I didn't belong, and generally hated it. I work out at home now for years, and I'm happy enough with it, but I would definitely try out a gym again if there was a womans-only near me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 12:53 PM |
| 50 | Girls-Only Gym In The US Ignites Discussion On Whether It’s ‘Segregation’ Or Protection Of WomenYep, they can't control the narrative anymore. We can compare stories, experiences, knowledge, mostly about them, but also about each other. How to stay safe, how to level up, how to improve ourselves without them. That is all extremely threatening to these LVM who have ego problems. They want to be able to control what women talk about, are exposed to, and so on, so we don't wise up and leave them for someone better. It's easier to spend all their time and effort on controlling us and maintaini… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 12:46 PM |
| 73 | Another woman is not yours to “offer” or “give” 🤮Did you miss the "2day"? She needs a dictionary | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 12:34 PM |
| 2 | Rant about a subreddit :/That's probable. I mostly thought it was strange how it's the first year in a decade that it happened. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 07:06 AM |
| 13 | What's with all the stupid guys?Getting into Mensa is so easy. The practically just let you pay your way in. There's a 4 part podcast series that's about it (and how it's full of Trumpers). My Year in Mensa. It's hilarious and sad. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 05:14 PM |
| 66 | What's with all the stupid guys?Teaching used to be an exclusively male profession. Then it opened up to young women, right between the 'maiden' and 'mother' phase (aka too old to just sit at home (and not rich enough), yet too young to allow them out in the world alone. So women were allowed to at least teach until they got married. And with that the prestige of the job decreased, and now we're here. You see a similar phenomenon in healthcare, or even with names that used to belong to men and are now attributed to women (Lind… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 05:09 PM |
| 29 | What's with all the stupid guys?You know that statistic that says on average population IQ has improved in the last 50-100 years? With more education, people get more 'intelligence'. That is, when you work hard, you study hard, you learn how to learn and how to form coherent thoughts and express them so others understand you, all of that takes a lot of effort. The more you do it, the better at it you get. So when these guys haven't been practicing this skill at all their entire lives, when confronted with needing that skill th… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 05:07 PM |
| 25 | What's with all the stupid guys?The patriarchy supports men underachieving. An underachieving man can earn as much as a woman who works twice as hard. On top of that, these men tend to have had mothers who did everything for them, never had them tidy, clean, or do anything around the house (maybe mow the lawn or take out the trash). What they learn at home they take into the school / work environment. They get everything catered to them, so why put in effort? This is why FDS pushes to make these guys show effort: plan the date… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 05:05 PM |
| 26 | Rant about a subreddit :/I've been getting women friending me or following me on my Goodreads account of all places. The only thing they have is a link to their OF or porn site in their bio. I've been on there over 10 years and this is the first year I've ever seen that. No place is safe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 04:45 PM |
| 14 | If men really wanted to be good boyfriends/husbands, there would be more communities on it. But instead, we get communities where men share advice on how to use women for sex and other benefits. The internet is a reflection of men's true priorities. They can't lie to us anymore.The worst part is that it's not even an exaggeration. Check out Jordan Peterson's Top Ten Rules For Life (or something like that). He's a crazy white supremacist racist addict carnivore, yet somehow all the young white men think he's god. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 01:47 PM |
| 5 | If men really wanted to be good boyfriends/husbands, there would be more communities on it. But instead, we get communities where men share advice on how to use women for sex and other benefits. The internet is a reflection of men's true priorities. They can't lie to us anymore.Is it like super easy to see if something is cross posted on new-reddit? I never see that. I wonder if it's a format thing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 08:04 AM |
| 61 | If men really wanted to be good boyfriends/husbands, there would be more communities on it. But instead, we get communities where men share advice on how to use women for sex and other benefits. The internet is a reflection of men's true priorities. They can't lie to us anymore.It depends. Most of them are right-wing, authoritarian, white supremeacist pipelines into even worse ideologies. Probably the only male-centered sub I'm aware of that is at all okay is r-menslib. I'm not active there, however. But most of the other subs men love like the jordan peterson, joe rogan, stoicism, etc ones are all either giving extremely basic advice (wash yourself! get up in the morning!) and/or push these people into even more dangerous ideologies. This is especially prevalent on yo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/05/21 08:01 AM |
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