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LIES MEN TELLLadySwitters/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 09:05 PM
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LadySwitters/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 08:37 PM
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You're right. I don't particularly care. But you have failed to address my point repeatedly. Why would men who want to have sex with women build a giant platform to make women want to have sex with men even less? Are there other things that make women not want to have sex with men? ABSOLUTELY! so why add to it?
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 05:49 PM
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I'm out of the dating game period. I'm a married old. I am only looking at incentives. I.e. the government taxes cigarettes to disincentivize smoking. If a large scale platform where men reveal sexual acts by women became an actual thing it would disincentivize women from having sex with men. Whether that's for the good or bad is a moral judgement I'm staying out of. However, men seem to like it a lot when women have sex with them. So I'm not sure how incentivizing women to have less sex with me…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 05:37 PM
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Aaand if OP said that he wanted to make a website asking if they're dating the same girl that would totally make sense. But what he suggested was a website that would punish women for having sex with men. I'm not quite sure what he sought to accomplish with that... but I'm assuming it's not the accomplishment most men would want. I have never actually seen a website were women were like... He went down on me on the second date ladies!!!! If he's not muff diving 72 hours in he doesn't really like…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 05:17 PM
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Men: There is a loneliness epidemic. I can’t get laid to save my life. Sadness. Also men: lets punish women for touching us. That will fix everything those dumb sloots. The thing is, it’s not a site like the women’s. Women are trying to disincentivize behavior they don’t like, namely men lying to them. The site proposed would disincentivize behavior I always thought men did like, women actually touching them. Like if I was still dating, I would check that website before going on a date to see if…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 04:38 PM
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Actual result: Men getting less sex get even less sex because women trust men even less now. Men who were getting plenty before aren’t affected as much because they’re not the type to degrade women for sleeping with them and women tend to have a decent spidey sense about that.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/26 03:05 PM
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Here's the thing - you sound like a pretty decent dude. and... if it's petty then it is likely maladaptive - and if it's maladaptive it can get in the way of getting what you want out of life - so even if you "earned" the right to do that (not that it needs to be earned) then... it would suck. I have seen a few friends that protected themselves out of good things and lovely opportunities. Women as well as men. I don't think there's much reward when it comes to love and relationships without some…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 05:32 PM
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Or what about... just bear with me.... dating adults who have mastered the art of discretion and aren't obsessed with the fear of being cheated out of something in life, but rather approach new people with some semblance of joy and discovery to see what there is between the two of them? As for "him" - I mean I already got my him. I could care less whether he screwed an ex in an areal swing for 5 hours every Sunday to multiple orgasms before taking her out to five star restaurants. I care for the…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 05:22 PM
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Well I think your primary criteria should be not to date stupid people, or people who surround themselves with other stupid people. That rarely lends itself to a loving and lasting relationship. If you're afraid of being handed papers in 10 years that is specifically the kind of person you want to avoid. If anything, I would think a solid predictor of how your relationship may play out is to look at the kind of people your girl surrounds herself with. And what if she does? What if she tried it, …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 05:08 PM
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Okay - so I'm like 40, dated until 33, and have had friends since I was a teenager who are still in my daily life, so here's my perspective: Who in the world keeps sex tapes on their phone? I mean really - that's not only stupid that's dangerous. What kind of friends are like - hey Bob, did you hear Milly used to take it up the ass? She loved it! She was ass-taker 5000. What kind of immature shitty friends would ever bring up their girlfriend's sex life to the guy they're dating. What kind of pe…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 05:00 PM
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Anyone who is dating anyone for any reason can have any kind of criteria they want. Anything can be a deal breaker and it is valid. You can look for whatever it is that you think makes it happy as you are the ONLY one who really has to deal with the consequences. I guess my only point was that I find it strange when men make these statements about their partners sexual past as if they have any way of really knowing. If a girl is not interested in ever doing anal again she's not likely to tell yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 04:47 PM
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Ive seen that as a more recent development. Maybe its be because at 40 im older. But in my time if I split or paid it meant I wasn’t interested and was letting the man know not to invest in me. Who decides whats undue? What does that even mean? What if you want to only come over at 1 am, get head and leave? Anything and everything is quite broad. Sure. Economy is rough. But will you really walk away from a great girl because she makes less than you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 05:43 AM
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Women get abused a plenty. Trust me. Even beautiful women are not immune. And there are downsides too. You probably don’t know what its like to be sexually harassed by grown men before you even have a proper understanding of what it is they’re after. Most women even as preteens already have some experience with that. Or men who lie about what they want to… get what they want. Women have their downsides as well. That doesn’t make your story any easier though. All Im saying is trying to figure out…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 05:34 AM
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Thats not gendered. Thats all of us. But objective criteria for someone like that wont protect them any more than red flags will deflect them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 05:24 AM
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Red flags in romantic relationships are not all that different than flags in platonic ones, in my humble opinion. I think people who are inexperienced and more eager for their chance see the red flags just fine, they just choose to ignore them.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 05:21 AM
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Well… I don’t know what your rules or experience is… but, with emotionally healthy women I would be surprised if the topic of ex lovers would come up in any great detail.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 05:15 AM
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Its a chemistry. You can rarely quantify it. But you know it when its there.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 04:35 AM
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I mean... I dunno.... dated for close to 20 years when I met my husband at 33... and... literally not one man ever asked me about my past partners or my past sex life. I don't think this conversation is nearly as common as you think, and if a man started even subtly prying it would have definitely stood out. (Okay - not 20 - 15. I'm not so great with math).
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/22 03:43 AM
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And yet so many men seem to have this as a criteria. Which confused me to no end. There really are much better ways of gauging attraction
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 08:45 PM
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Legitimate question: How do you know? Back when I was dating (so about 7 years ago - things haven't changed that much?) not one man ever asked me my average waiting period, how long I waited to have sex with my last partner, or anything like that. Like unless you've been friends for a long time before dating and privy to that information how can any man know?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/22 07:36 PM
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Did I suggest you were? You asked how men are supposed to be competent in a world if tv and Facebook. They’re not supposed to be raised by tv and social media.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 09:49 PM
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Then you answered your own question. Its not the job of Facebook and television to raise children.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 09:46 PM
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Because competent men aren’t raised by television and social media. They should be raised by other competent men. They need competent male role models.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/22 09:39 PM
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Tell me you’re bad in bed without telling me you’re bad in bed.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/22 05:08 PM
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Reading this makes me so glad that I will never have to go on another date ever again.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 10:02 PM
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But you're stripping it away.... interest = sex by having spent less than 10 hour with me in person (average 3 hour dates?); start paying for dinner once appropriate sexual interest expressed timely, without sex - no dinner. I mean that's about as stripped down and formulaic as it gets.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 06:07 PM
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Your prescience is impressive. By any chance do you do the lotto?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 05:46 PM
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So you’re not saying it… but if she has sex with you, you will buy her dinner. So…. If you don’t make it explicit it doesn’t count?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 05:36 PM
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You are willing to spend money on them when they provide you with sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 04:49 PM
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I think maybe to a large degree this is a cultural thing. A lot of men and this thread seem to want to pay for woman if she is having sex with them, until then, she can pay for herself. That is so transactional and icky I guess. I’ve been married for a few years now, but back when I was dating I can’t remember a single date when a man didn’t offer to pay. If I insisted on paying for myself, it meant I was not interested. But in the grand scheme, even with friends, family members, etc. it feels u…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 03:07 PM
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What happens in 2034?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 02:53 PM
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So…. Polite prostitution?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/22 02:51 PM
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interesting. thank you!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 07:09 PM
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But they did not start this war….
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 06:04 PM
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Out of curiosity… and this is a genuine question , I am not a history buff, but what percentage of wars can be traced back to female leadership?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/03/22 05:40 PM
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Or… it’s basic manners in a lot of cultures.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/03/22 03:35 PM
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Don’t conflate intelligence with interests. I have a great love of vintage sci-fi. I don’t consider men not into it to bot be into women who read.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/21 07:32 PM
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But what does that have anything to do with why I personally dislike prostitution?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 03:28 PM
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Similar likelihood
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:46 AM
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And after they fuck she thanks him and gives him back his money and everyone claps amazed at his endowment and stamina.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:42 AM
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Its the difference between having sex with someone that wants you and someone that is having sex with you despite their revulsion
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:34 AM
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Look. I don’t know you…. But the only way you could think the two are the same is if you’ve never had enthusiastic sex with a woman that wants you. If you want to know what hookers really think about their clients go look at some of their forums. If you think a hooker internally gagging while looking at the clock is a similar experience to casual sex between two mutually attracted people theres not much of a conversation to be had.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:25 AM
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To me thats not the same thing. Its still a mutual experience. Some women are down for casual sex too but at least here both are presumably enthusiastic participants. Whether you want to marry that woman is up to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 07:00 AM
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The original post was not about the legality of prostitution. It was about why women are against it. If you are asking if it should be legal I have no clue. Id have to do a shit ton of research to form a real opinion. Since I have no legislative power I won’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 03:13 AM
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Didnt say it should. Was stating my reason for my distaste for prostitution. I also hate oysters. Slimy and gross. You can still eat them.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 02:59 AM
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Men can wife and not wife as is their preference. The original post was for why women dislike prostitution outside of trafficking. I provided my reason.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 02:55 AM
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Thats fine. It doesn’t obviate my point for being against prostitution
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 02:41 AM
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My distaste for a man that uses prostitution stems from the fact that I don’t think I can respect someone who can fuck someone he knows does not want or desire them. There is something viscerally disgusting about that. Like a complete lack of self worth. To be intimate with someone pretending. Ugh.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/21 02:38 AM
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Neither man please. The first one sounds absolutely exhausting and the second one sounds blah.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/21 10:28 PM
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No. Its not attractive. Because I want (well now have) a family. What if something happens to me? I need a man who can provide for and support his child. I don’t equate intelligence with education. If a guy hasn’t gone to college but runs a successful plumbing company (someone else’s example above) he’s probably smarter than half the people graduating college with a liberal arts degree. Life is hard enough without partnering up with someone who will make it harder.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/21 03:07 AM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/21 01:16 AM
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The vast majority of women off the internet determine if you’re a good match before seeing your penis. Will some of them walk away after discovering a man has a micropenis? Yes. Will some walk away if its average or somewhat below? Not usually.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:35 PM
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Can this guy be flagged as the resident penis expert.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:32 PM
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Im sorry. I love that a man is lecturing women about what feels good in the vagina because he has had sex with so maaaany vaginas. Listen and learn ladies.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/11/21 03:31 PM
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Pretty much this. My husband is amazing but it was so much luck.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/09/21 02:46 AM
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Whats tissue bloating???? Did he mean blotting??
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/07/21 02:02 AM
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Right? I strongly prefer furry men.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/21 08:06 PM
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Women are not a monolithic entity. My hunch is this is not what hurts your prospects.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/21 12:43 AM
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Omg? Really? You cant have a genuine debate with someone who says that women don’t care about the economy. Done.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 08:35 PM
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Ok. Thats an income problem not a woman problem. Maybe a larger economy problem. I as a woman in my 30s had a home and savings before I married. My husband was still in school btw and broke as a joke. But thats not here or there.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 08:26 PM
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So… don’t. Women are not responsible for mens choices, but are at a huge disadvantage down the line after having children in all respects if they end up single. Lifes not fair.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 08:21 PM
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Men have same access to retirement accounts and housing than women do. Im not sire a reduced sex drive is correlated to health, happiness or longevity but not that many 65 year old men running around with raging boners
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 08:20 PM
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How is this different from men? Men too can save for retirement
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 08:18 PM
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And point being?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 08:16 PM
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This is some stats from not too long ago: https://yaleglobal.yale.edu/content/should-women-stay-single IMHO, happily married women are happy, but women who marry men who make them unhappy are destroyed by marriage and all it entails for them. There’s rarely a grey area.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 07:07 PM
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And if single wtf cares what someone’s sex drive is??
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 07:04 PM
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How are childless single women tax leeches? As for single moms they wouldn’t be if the men who knocked them up were supporting their kids.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 07:03 PM
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Yes. I didn’t mean solitary confinement. I meant being single.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 04:19 PM
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I think you’re missing the fact that women do better on their own than men. Statistically speaking they live longer and healthier lives than single men. For a lot of women the alternative to a man they want isn’t a man they don’t want, it’s being single. Those that settle for men they don’t want are the ones initiating the majority of divorces. Im not sure your plan would work out the way you want.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/21 03:38 PM
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Try being venomous?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/06/21 01:22 AM
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I meant on average... there are single guys who are taking wonderful care of themselves... and married guys who are half dead at 40. But on average married men are healthier - https://www.health.harvard.edu/mens-health/marriage-and-mens-health#:~:text=A%20major%20survey%20of%20127%2C545,ended%20in%20divorce%20or%20widowhood.&text=People%20living%20with%20unmarried%20partners,the%20best%20health%20of%20all.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 04:33 PM
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By that I mean vegetables other than the leafy green base. In this case I meant tomatoes, cucumbers, radishes, avocado, berries, etc. - I'm not sure this is the thread to debate the relative benefits of organic vs. non-organic.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 04:31 PM
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Well.... if YOU don't think so....
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/20 12:23 AM
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I would argue that married men are actually likelier to achieve this than single men because married men tend to: - Eat healthier - Have more robust social lives because women tend to run that stuff. - The pregnancies are wanted =) - They're likelier to eat healthier, and more likely to have healthy habits, see a doctor Happily married women tend to do a lot of man maintenance. Right now my husband whose normal food before meeting me generally came in a greasy wrapper ate an organic fresh salad,…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/20 10:10 PM
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I think women have a lot more opportunity for casual sex, but not for commitment. And maybe its an age thing but in my bracket (30s) men don’t seem particularly eager to settle. I think most men (and women) don’t ask because they don’t really want to know. I never asked my husband because I honestly don’t care. I also don’t assume Im the best lay he ever had, because I don’t think Im particularly amazing in the sack. Perhaps its just me but that thought doesn’t bother me much since I’m the one h…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/20 12:44 AM
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I don't actually think that your realizations are fact. In my life most of the men I've known (but not necessarily dated - i.e. guy friends) who were obsessed with that were very insecure. One of my best guy friends growing up married an absolute beast of a woman because she was a virgin. She was a heinous human.... but he was so insecure that all he saw was the fact that she couldn't compare him (not conjecture, he was open about this being a big factor) and now he's divorced and barely sees hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 11:36 PM
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No... because women are vaginas that grew legs and oddly a head, and one should never get a used vagina.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 09:58 PM
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Because most sexually secure me aren't obsessed with the idea of the possibility that their partner is comparing them against past lovers in some mental bracket and rating them.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 09:57 PM
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What does it feel like on the other days?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/20 09:42 PM
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Yes. Because watching football is a much more intellectual pursuit.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/20 12:36 AM
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A guy who won't even make that gesture? Yeah... that would bother me. we all have different strategies and dating experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 07:21 PM
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If a guy doesn't even pay for my coffee - he's not really the kind of guy I'm interested in... It's not about the money... and that's okay. We are not obligated to date or like everyone. And really is paying for coffee a worthy effort on a man's part? It's just a getting to know you period, and 4 bucks is just a polite gesture, no different than opening a door.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 06:35 PM
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Where do you see me defending not putting in any effort? Is paying your coffee the only effort men look for?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 04:56 PM
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That is a compliment, thank you. But to be honest, the reason I like reading FDS is because I cringe badly at the stupid, idiotic, downright embarrassing decisions I made in my dating days. Like have a physical reaction now, CRINGE. So it would have been amazing if someone (a future me) would have been able to smack myself upside the head and told me some truths I was too young and stubborn to hear. Sadly, older us rarely travel to younger us, and so I think it's great that communities like that…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 04:55 PM
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No ad-hominem. There's nothing about owning a pair of testicles that obligates you to have to pay for women. There is nothing in law or nature that obligates men to pay for dates. But dating strategy is about.... strategy. Women generally look for men who would be good providers. Men could generally care less. I made six figures most of my dating life and I am pretty sure not one dude I went out with was impressed or cared or was positively swayed by that. I can also tell you that I pretty much …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 04:50 PM
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Because women and men court differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 06:14 AM
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I guess as someone who has no skin in this particular game (married, and keeping him if he lets me) I really don't think there's really a thing such as beta or alpha.... like you can group men into the categories. In real life I don't know of a single woman who describes her husband or SO in those terms. I think they want men who are good partners, whom they'd like to have sex with.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/20 05:21 AM
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Fair enough. The women of FDS filter for what they want. You do the same. I hope everyone finds someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 11:27 PM
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But no to everything? Most would just find it off putting and boring. Babes lets grab a beer by the beach? No. Lets go. I dunno. Whatever. Lets go dancing. Lets try new food. No no and no. Dating needs to be fun at least.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 10:40 PM
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A woman who accepts a man who says no to everything all the time? Awesome lady
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 09:26 PM
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I think that's to push back against the red pill subs. Women don't appreciate being called roasties and plated either. And I would wager that 99.9% of the women take the advise in a reasonable sense, as in setting boundaries, having standards, and not putting up with really shitty behavior. Otherwise you end up with kids in really shitty relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 08:11 PM
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Part of being FDS is finding a man you're actually attracted to. Because how else do you have a good marriage? That doesn't mean he has to be thundercock of the Chad tribe, but you have to like the person, both physically and emotionally.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 08:09 PM
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Or... you're a dude... and aren't really aware how much work women do. Random link - https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2019/05/breadwinning-wives-gender-inequality/589237/ If you had an unemployed girlfriend living with you for free and complaining that you aren't doing half the housework perhaps you need some dating strategy of your own?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 08:08 PM
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I don't think the women on FDS think they're all 10/10 queens. I think they want to weed out men who are out to use them, or who if committed, would make terrible husbands. A guy who wants you to pay for your own coffee on date 1 is the same guy whose wife is posting 10 years later about how he makes 4x the income, but demands she pay half the rent and childcare. A guy who won't make any effort when you're first dating won't make any effort when you're married with 2 kids. A guy who won't bother…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 06:10 PM
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Because being a woman with boundaries and standards who wants to make sure her child can have a good standard of living, and selects a man with good genetics, does align with being a good mother. Selfless women who bend over backwards for their broke men are ending up on breaking mom, and I don't think that's the best version of motherhood.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 06:06 PM
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Not at all. Most women don’t find that attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 05:34 PM
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The least miserable option for most people is to be alone versus someone who adds misery to your life. I cannot imagine co-parenting, sharing finances, traveling, etc. with someone who only makes me a little more miserable.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 04:36 PM
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Someone who is a good decent person and you enjoy spending time with but isn't totally hot would likely fall under what FDS calls a HVM.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 04:34 PM
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I think one of the points of that sub is that the choices are to find someone who is right for you and staying single are preferable options to settling for a man that will actively make your life worse. It is a surprisingly novel concept for some people that settling is actually not the only option, and that women can, and often do, in fact manage to survive without men, and are often much happier than women who are trapped in loveless or abusive marriages. If you don't believe me read the head…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 04:33 PM
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I know right? It's all about - hey - focus on your goals, career, education before you focus on a man. Get your life together before inviting someone else into it. How is that not a recipe for self improvement unless the only self improvement that counts is losing weight and getting a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 04:31 PM
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Woman: You can't really see the female point of view on this one, so perhaps there's something you're missing here. Man: Nope! You're wrong! I know better how you as a woman were raised. DUH
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 04:29 PM
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Yeah.. no.... I'm with Giga on this. And I'm in America, and an attorney. Still... women are taught these things subtly most of their lives. Most female attorneys I know still come home and are expected to do the majority of childcare, housework, are judged by their ability to get a man in the first place. Actually successful women more so... because when a successful woman is single the trope is that she gave up family to have a career and now she's a lonely old cat lady, and society hopes her …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/20 04:27 PM
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you lecture children who don't know any better. He apologized immediately - he knew it was wrong. Maybe it was a huge and horrible mistake, and he'll never act that way again. Everyone screws up here and there.... but lecturing is pointless. He knows what he did. I'd take a day or two and see how he reacts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/05/20 06:18 AM
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I feel ya - but like damn... their front page was just depressing. It's all like... my husband is not a partner, treats me horribly, and sees the kids 3 times a year.... how is this all my fault?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 06:27 PM
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Well... FDS can be a bit harsh by my standards at times too... but scanning their front page titles I can see why. Husband won't spend time with me. Husband won't take care of children. Husband had emotional affair. Things my husband did today... (to make parenting as a de facto single mom even more difficult).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 04:35 AM
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Wait really? why?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/05/20 12:27 AM
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That woman needs to call an employment attorney ASAP. That is the definition of a hostile work environment. The lawsuit would also get her paid which she desperately needs right now. I wish I could comment there.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 10:06 PM
1

I am genuinely confused by the hate for single mothers... over and over again. For (almost) every woman raising a child on her own is a man who is the biological father who walked away. If they did what they're supposed to do society would not be nearly so burdened. It's just so much easier to hate on the parent doing the work...
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/20 06:49 PM
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you're in London - and I don't know anything about that jurisdiction. You would be best served by speaking to an attorney prior to marriage.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 04:47 PM
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Again - that depends on jurisdiction - and this is an attorney answer - not a FDS answer. If you live in a state like mine - any assets earned during marriage are community property whether you have joint or separate accounts - and if you hide any assets the court can award the entire thing to the other party. There are forensic accountants that can make assets nearly impossible to hide even with mafia level machinations.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 04:37 PM
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Is it not enough that some guys might want to kill you? Does it have to be every fucking one of them?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 04:49 AM
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How does a man that old with three children find this much time to stare into his own bellybutton???? Good lord. A four page letter and all about him. Not about anything he can offer you or any concrete changes he’s made. Minus the three kids he sounds like the ex I had that was so incredulous that after he broke up with me that I actually left that Ive now been the love if his life for a decade. Run. Don’t turn back. A person truly capable of loving another makes it about the other person. Fear…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/03/20 04:42 AM
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Oh good lord - imagine the lovely gents of "where are all the good men" showing up and demanding you drop your standards, even though they would totally never ever ever date you anyways, and there are totally perfect 10s knocking down their doors, and they don't even have time to harass you for all the hot chicks begging to do them... but they do it anyways. Community service you see. In my case they would probably have to explain to my very confused husband about how I'm monkey branching onto s…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 12:08 AM
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I think yours was.... I was confused too
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/03/20 12:05 AM
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Do you feel like I posted any information that would allow me to be doxxed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 09:44 PM
2

Sigh... I just had to block my first troll. My sadness... consumes me. But also I feel kinda special. I've never had my own troll before.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 05:07 PM
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Love it. They didn’t even read it. And none of them want to date me. Such sads.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 03:38 PM
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For their children's sakes I hope they're not bringing that home. When it comes to child rearing I am sexist AF. I don't trust men around small children unless I've known them for a very very very long time, and then I'm still cautious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 04:55 AM
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He got really lucky. She was 30 years old and took a chance on a broke single father immigrant with a teenaged daughter 1 (YIKES RIGHT?) who was just getting his footing in the States. But he has treated her like gold every single day they've been married and they now have a VERY comfortable life, and a great teenager of their own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 04:52 AM
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Ive been the kid and its so important. My dad was a single dad. The first woman he dated after my mom passed was a cold hearted $&@t and it was shitty. But he married a wonderful and loving woman who was a great step mother and now is a mindblowing grandma.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 02:53 AM
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Right? Like if I was in that position in the future you would have to go through like 20 second opinions before you got in the same room with my kid. Any desire for an instafamily would be greatly outweighed by the fear of the damage a grown man can do, physically, psychologically. Maybe it shouldn't be this way, but my standards for my son are much higher than my standards for myself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/03/20 02:39 AM
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I think for at least some of the women- you may be reading the signal wrong. For a lot of women when they are insisting on paying it's because they are insisting that you should not be making an investment in them. Most of us are not particularly interested in taking advantage of men, and if we are going to reject you, we don't want to have you pay. If I let the guy pay back in dating days that meant that yes I was interested. It wasn't about the money - at all. Just subtle signalling.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/02/20 12:06 AM
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I am now safely out of the dating game... but I'll say this. When I was dating if I was interested I would let the guy pay (I don't remember a single time when a man didn't offer... ) because I was then okay with this form of showing interest. If I was not interested I would insist on paying my share. Because at that point I was not into being for a lack of a better modern term - courted - by that man. In my experience many women do this. I would wager that for many of us it's more about signall…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/20 06:13 PM
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Because clearly pointing out that in many jurisdictions having separate joint accounts wont protect you and that proportional bill spending can be unfair too makes me a pickmeisha.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 04:01 AM
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I'm not a man, but that's besides the point. I'm countering your argument by pointing out that when you get close enough to another human being to enter into a contractual marriage and create people you take much greater risks than the man cleaning out your joint accounts. A more reasonable example would be if you married a man, had a couple of kids, and he chose not to work for years, until you finally divorced him, and had to pay him alimony and child support. That's a HUGE financial risk, and…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:05 PM
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What happens if one of the two doesn't work at all? If a woman is a stay at home mom - even if the husband pays all the bills, if the money is joint she is effectively without resources except at his behest.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:08 PM
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I mean what if he decided to take our kid and run off to Mexico? What if he decided to kill the cats and turn them into muffs? What if he started using intravenous Heroin and gave me an incurable disease? I feel like a certain amount of trust has to go into a relationship where you get married and have children, and money is not the biggest risk you're taking when you make that kind of commitment. For a more realistic answer - I make enough monthly to cover all of our expenses so I would probabl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 10:05 PM
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At the moment I make significantly more... but likely temporary. As for him leaving me high and dry under the community property laws in my state it doesn’t matter to division of assets if you have joint or separate accounts. Division is the same of any assets acquired during marriage. So it just makes it easier to manage during. I cannot imagine the headache of splitting all bills. Especially with a kid involved. I feel also that making a brand new human was a much bigger leap of faith than my …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 09:30 PM
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To me marriage is long. I don’t want division of money. It all goes into a pot and thats that. But it works for is because we have similar attitudes as to money. And a kid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 07:48 AM
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Considering how much he is worth this was more likely capping hoe much she would get in divorce.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/02/20 07:46 AM
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I'll go even further on this. It's imperative even if you find the perfect man and think you have the perfect life. Shit happens, people get injured, they die, they get sick. Even if you have a great provider, especially if you are a mother, you should always be in a position to be able to pay the basic bills if you need to. So many women think that their husband makes bank and everything is taken care of - then they find out it isn't. With a kid to feed.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:31 PM
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She's not telling all men to die. Just assholes who hate women and don't support their children. I mean...I wouldn't actively kill them... but if they opted to lie down and die I'm not sure I'd be rushing to save them either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/02/20 09:25 PM
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You don’t need to justify being not interested. You have valid reasons, but even if you didn’t, you can simply be not into a dude. The idea of being intimate with him skeeves you out. Thats more than enough reason.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/02/20 05:56 PM
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High value does not mean being everyone’s cup of tea. I wish I had the balls to dress like her. I don’t. She is sexy and I’m sure has zero trouble attracting men. And since shes not covering up her ‘flaws’ she knows they’re attracted to what she has. Btw. What makes a woman high value though isn’t just her fuckability.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/20 08:12 AM
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I'm not sure about FDS but I had a similar situation with my husband. He had to delay school because of his family situation, and I was much further ahead financially when we married. I did combine all of our finances, and we had a very very cheap wedding. It was a mutual decision because we had other financial goals such as paying off loans and home buying. To me once we get married our money was our money, and we made the decisions jointly. In the lifespan of a marriage you may always be the o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/20 08:39 PM
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Me. I married mine. I mean a million crappy dates later but I did.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 10:07 PM
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TBH I would have agreed with you until it happened to me. He just knew... but so did I.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 09:52 PM
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My boss married his wife 6 weeks after he met her, at a funeral. My dad married my mom a couple of months in. A coworker married her now husband about 2 months after they met. She was going to do it earlier but wanted a different dress. My guy proposed to me ... on our forth or fifth date and I thought he was joking. He wasn't. This was after a few 2-4 year long relationships that went NOWHERE fast. I do agree... very often when men know, they know right away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 09:52 PM
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I love sending flowers and balloons to my dad. If i can get them to throw in a teddy bear its the best. BUt of course, the whole point is to poke at him a bit. As a romantic gesture from a woman you’re just talking to? Worst.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/19 09:38 PM
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You clearly don't understand... so let me break it down for you. If a woman won't have sex with a dude, but has sex with another dude, she's a whore. So the only way for her not to be a whore is to not have sex with any dudes.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 08:34 PM
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I find it strange (not really) that none of the words that she used to explain how amazing she is have any defined meaning. What is a bad-ass woman exactly? Strong? Like you bench lady? Interesting how? It's all just a bunch of feel good nonsense you can find on pre-printed canvases at a home goods store. Other than her high opinion of herself she didn't actually say one thing about herself that would make you think wow - she deserves a bad-ass strong and independent man!
/r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen16/10/19 12:48 AM
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They don't.... until they do. I was 33 when I met my husband. I had pretty much decided I was okay being single, or at least it was preferable to being with someone that made me miserable, and had been single for five years when I met him. I had dated a LOT - like a lot a lot - OLD was like a part time job. And so many dispiriting, sad, shitty experiences. So many men that over promised and under delivered. So many men that seemed enchanted by me right before they would disappear. Or try to scre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/10/19 05:51 PM
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Maybe one of the ones lucky enough to be tenured.... all the other ones are scrambling. Anyways - I don't mean that jobs like that DO NOT EXIST. They are, however, pretty rare. It makes it a very very narrow definition. That is it. There are also people who are independently wealthy, retired by 29, have enough passive income not to need to work... etc. but they are in a very slight minority.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/19 01:02 AM
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I don’t doubt these jobs do exist. But they are rare... I am an attorney that gets to work mostly from home which is awesome. But also relatively rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 11:28 PM
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I didn’t say jobs like that don’t exist, but proportionally they are exceedingly rare. Also to be honest I have no idea how much pharma reps and oil people work.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 10:25 PM
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less.... how many people in a "distinguished, established career" spend no more than 40 hours of their time per week at it?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 09:26 PM
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IMHO - a good man is a man who makes the lives of those that depend on him better.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/10/19 09:21 PM
1

I am a woman, so if this post is not allowed - delete me? And sorry. I read this and it totally did not make sense to me whatsoever. For those men that are looking for a serious relationship how can this not be important? I mean obviously that's not what initially attracts a man to a woman, okay fine, but in planning a life with someone how is their career not important? I don't think my husband married me for money, but dang it's been a nice benefit having a high earning spouse. When he lost hi…
/r/MGTOW05/08/19 08:28 PM
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I am going to reply to this as well because I think there is a lot of truth to this. Life is harder, and protracted childhoods are just non-existent. One of the things that baffled me when I dated - even though I came here before I was old enough to date - were all these men in their 30s trying to figure out who and what they wanted to be. Completely unsure of themselves and their abilities. I think when life is harder, tests you more, you figure out who you are and what you're capable of a lot …
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 10:03 PM
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I mean I was born and raised there, so Russian family, and all that good stuff... I think this says more about your grandmother than it does about Russian culture though, because.... that is not.... a common trait. Also... it is the world's biggest country with a lot of regional cultural differences...
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 09:55 PM
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I mean I was born and raised there, so Russian family, and all that good stuff... I think this says more about your grandmother than it does about Russian culture though, because.... that is not.... a common trait. Also... it is the world's biggest country with a lot of regional cultural differences...
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 09:55 PM
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I'm only replying because I am a Russian woman... and umm... no. Russian women may never have had an organized movement or burned their bras - but that's because (1) try finding a replacement bra under communism? No... then don't burn it; and (2) we never had to fight for a lot of the same rights and privileges American women do. My grandmother was in medical school during WWII and a doctor for the rest of her life. Russian women simply didn't have the same barriers to entry into professions, un…
/r/RedPillWives15/08/18 09:47 PM
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You did bad things... but I think everyone here is being overly.. harsh. What you did was BAD. But he knew he married an addict... the subsequent behavior couldn't be much of a surprise. I think the same kind of man that marries an obvious addict is the same kind of man that proceeds to torture her later. And that's what he's doing to you. He's not working toward forgiveness. He's not asking for behavior that would rebuild trust. He's just using what you did as an excuse for cruelty and to get w…
/r/RedPillWomen05/02/18 10:11 PM
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You are with a slob. I know this. I am a slob. And I married a man who likes it neat, but doesn't actually want to do anything for it to be that way because in his mind it all somehow magically happens. From the slob perspective - being nagged or told that things are messy - ughhhh - no. I know. I just think my book is more important than the fact that the clean laundry isn't folded or the dishwasher hasn't been emptied or whatever. Yard work? Like outside... with like... effort? No. I worked my…
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 11:46 PM
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What everyone else said is spot on! But even if you meet this guy, don't' promise him anything physical. You might get in the same room with him and realize that you are NOT attracted to him, or aren't ready, or he smells weird. You might realize that after kissing him. you might get halfway there and realize you're not ready for sex period. You do not want to feel obligated. Whatever you decide to do, meet him in a public spot, realize that it's better to hurt someone's feelings than to have a …
/r/RedPillWomen23/01/18 10:35 PM
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Are we going to be able to have children?
/r/RedPillWomen26/12/17 09:33 PM
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" SO hasn't had time after work to complete the paperwork needed to get a job in our area. " How much time can this possibly take? Make the time!
/r/RedPillWives14/12/17 09:18 PM
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I think the best resource on this is an older, but AMAZING book. My father made me read it as a teen, and I am forever grateful. It is titled "how to win friends and influence people." what it really boils down to is how to make people enjoy being around you.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 08:53 PM
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My guess would be.. if you started taking care of yourself... without nagging him to do it.... he may naturally want to joint you if for no other reason than he wouldn't want to be left behind. I don't see why you would resent him if you're doing it for yourself, and not as a covert tactic to get him to change.
/r/RedPillWomen14/12/17 08:51 PM
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I would also argue that cohabiting is not the same thing as marriage because there's no... grand decision. When you marry you stand in front of parents, and family, and friends and you declare your commitment to another human being. They become your family and your responsibility. Cohabitation tends to just... happen... there's no grand gesture, there's no commitment. And while I know a lot of people say that they don't need that piece of paper - I would guess the majority of them simply do not …
/r/RedPillWomen13/12/17 02:27 AM
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If he's manipulating me it's one long con... but it definitely set off some warning bells in my head at the time, although clearly I'm glad I went with it.
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 08:44 PM
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"the urge to eat the buttons off his shirt" my new favorite quote! I looked at your list and compared my husband. He does lie, but only about my cooking. He did love bomb me... but then he married me, and now it's pretty awesome. So I guess OKAY!
/r/RedPillWomen12/12/17 04:27 AM
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I agree with you. I think what was confusing me was this whole "gotcha" attitude towards a woman's sexual past. I have never had it happened to myself or any of my girlfriends where their present partner was informed by anyone of their sexual background.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/17 11:03 PM
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maybe... just different circles? I have literally never once seen this happen to anyone. Ever.
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/17 06:12 PM
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Okay - but does that REALLY happen in real life? Maybe it's because I live in a large city... and also generally dated decent men...and never videotaped my sex life... but the chances of anyone telling my husband about our sexual past are somewhere between none and zero. I'm wondering how often anything like this actually happens?
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/17 05:23 PM
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I have a question... and it's not something I have ever really grasped. How do men know or find out about any woman's sexual past or what kind of sex she was having with her exes? I mean other than she isn't a virgin, it's not like there is a sign in sheet. I met my husband at 33, and we are very happily married. However, he has no idea what kind of sex I had with my exes (and visa versa) or the exact number of partners, or anything. It's not that I'm hiding anything either... we have simply nev…
/r/RedPillWomen07/12/17 04:28 PM
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Outsource. I'm an attorney too, so is my husband. In the beginning I was butt hurt because I did 90% of the housework. His mother simply never ever taught him how. It caused some minor fights. He'd try for a week, and nothing would change. He'd wash the dishes, and leave all the pots and pans dirty (how do you even do that???) I didn't want to keep fighting about it because I don't like fighting. I know it's not fair, but it is what it is. So I outsource. I have an amazing cleaning lady. She com…
/r/RedPillWomen25/11/17 07:25 PM
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Occasional lurker, first time poster. I'm 35, married for a couple of years, and so frustrated at this brand of feminism. Why is it one or the other? Look, I'm no slouch by this lady's standards. I went to a top law school, I'm a successful litigator, in a job that nets me well into 6 figures per year, at a job I even happen to like quite a bit. That being said, the happiest day of my life was the day I married my husband. I get satisfaction from my job, and money, which is also nice. I get joy …
/r/RedPillWives18/07/17 07:57 PM
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