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A lot of women were never taught how to have these conversations, instead being coached to be the "cool girl" and avoid confrontations like this to avoid "scaring men off." I completely sympathize, I was a couple of years older than that when a relationship I had blew up in my face because I didn't feel that I could have the conversation. And it wasn't the first time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/21 09:36 PM
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So many drunk girls have told me "you've got great boobs!" And then wandered off home. The honest compliment is nice.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:18 PM
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There was one lesbian who kept asking me out, and later manipulated me in ways that were uncomfortable even though I made it clear that I wasn't interested in her in anyway but as a friend, but she was a documented sociopath and thus an exception. Most of the lesbians who've hit in me accepted "no thanks" just fine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/06/21 05:16 PM
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I keep trying to figure out a good skincare routine, but every time I research it i feel like I am blasted with adds for everything and I get overwhelmed. I mean, I wear sunscreen, wash my face, and try to deal with breakouts, but I have no idea what else is necessary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/06/21 05:22 PM
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I know a lot of poly folks and been in a couple of poly relationships. I found it... unsatisfying. I just wound up feeling like a bit of side fun. I admit, I've had my fantasies, but I don't have a lot of hope for those coming true. I what I need is a committed partner, and I'm not going to accept anything less.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 05:40 PM
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I've been traumatized by several unexpected proposals from LVM, so this is what I want from an actual candidate: 1: Sober 2: During the day 3: Reasonably private (I don't want the pressure of public witnesses since there probably needs to be an adult discussion before I agree.) As for what I'd like in a ring, I want something nice, preferably custom since I know so many artisans, but vintage would be cool too-I just don't want a generic-looking ring. I'm not hung up on a diamond, because De Beer…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/05/21 04:51 PM
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Huh, that "manufactured love triangle" is hitting me. This behavior is not limited to males. Had a best friend (female) who wanted to date me, and I had a weird feeling about it, so we didn't date, but were so close that people often assumed that we were partners anyway. (Apparently everyone assumes I am already married, besides this woman there are at least four of my guy friends who have confirmed to me that folks thought they were my "husband."!) I had another weird feeling when she moved int…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 07:36 PM
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This reminds me of a male comic that had a routine about NOT being embarrassed to buy pregnancy tests and period supplies, because he saw it as a quiet way to brag about having a girlfriend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/21 04:00 AM
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This is one of my goals too! I have notebooks full of vardo designs and tiny house sketches. This person clearly doesn't understand the degrees of quality, or female safety. (Even though we have it drummed into our heads by male acquaintances.) Look, if a guy wants to live full-time in the back of a regular van, he has to expect to stay single.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 04:40 PM
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The worst problem I ever had with disposing period products was having a dog who loved to eat used pads in the trash. The solutions we used? 1: taking out the trash more often. 2: We kept the door to the bathroom shut all the time and began knocking to check to see if it was empty! There, problem solved.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/04/21 02:58 PM
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Sometimes I get given flowers for performing. I can only remember one time that a guy gave me a bouquet five years ago-and it was a roommate being nice. It is always women or young girls that set flowers by my harp.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 03:48 AM
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Not yet. My friends that know about it are ok, and I haven't dated anyone in years to have to bring it up. (Too many LV & NVMs trying to get my attention. Even if I feel safe enough to look for a one-night stand, I have to at least like the guy before we roll in the hay.)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:49 PM
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Once when I was at work I had to take a break to run to the bathroom. A random dude kept blocking my path "can't you hold it for just 10 more minutes and sing me a song?" I looked him square in the eyes and graphicly started describing my period, then told him he would have to pay for a new costume if he couldn't wait for me to come back. Dude turned so green it was hilarious.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:41 PM
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I have poly cystic ovarian syndrome and I am completely out of Fucks to give when it comes to talking about menstruation. I guess bleeding everyday for almost a year will do that to you. The doctor wants me to get an IUD (I have a history with blood clots, so standard birth control is out) and I am so done. Any guy who wants to date me will have to deal with blood, end of story.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/21 08:10 PM
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Wow, thank you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/21 01:52 PM
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So I'm not crazy? The impression that I've gotten over the last several years is that when most guys hit on me, it is because the prospect of having sex with me was only a slight improvement over their own hand. It's been weird and gross and very off-putting. I want someone interested in me for me, not as a disposable object that would be barely worth bragging about.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/04/21 12:07 PM
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Reminds me of Courtly Love,where men were supposed to idolize an unattainable (higher-ranked, usually married) woman, perform great deeds in her name, write poetry-and if they were lucky they may be allowed one day to kiss her hand.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/04/21 04:52 PM
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I can see how that could be miss-read. That was a boyfriend I had in college-who decided that pot was an acceptable substitute for lithium and would rather wander off to find a dealer than hang out with me. That relationship didn't last long. At least he had the balls to admit to other people that we were dating. I think my unwillingness to tolerate any more BS like that or any more "secret" relationships contributes to the problem I've had for several years of everyone assuming I'm already marr…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 03:01 AM
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Oof. #6 really hurts. It's my biggest pet peeve. Most of my relationships have had an element of secrecy about them-either them not wanting to interact with me in public or not publicly willing to state that they were in a relationship with me. Even the one person who actually admitted to being my boyfriend said, "I like to keep people guessing. Let's see how long it takes for everyone else to figure it out." 😡 I have been so done with that attitude for years.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/21 12:19 AM
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That or they just don't have anything else that they can attack you with. For example, the time I mentioned on Twitter that there was a white nationalist demonstration in my town... where all the people were posing while holding ACTIVE ROAD FLARES SPURTING FIRE in front of city hall, so I called the police. Next thing I know, there are nazi sympathizers going through my feed and insulting my weight. "Lol, look at this fat b**** who thinks we're scary." 🤨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/03/21 05:07 PM
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I get that these policies are in place to help the kids who are socially awkward and don't know how to make friends, I was definitely one of those, but there has to be a way to help the kids who don't know how to fit in without rewarding the bullies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 05:01 PM
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Pre-pandemic people, especially men, would walk up to me and first thing ask if I was married. Not "Hello." Or "What's your name" or even "Lovely weather today." Who is teaching these people manners? It's like people have to judge my relationship status before they can even say hello. Coming from men, it sounds like they think I only have value if they can fuck me. Women are also looking for an excuse to judge me because I must be a failure if I am single, or if I am married my partner must be i…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 09:16 PM
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While in theory I do not have an issue with polygamy, granted everyone in the marriage has full autonomy, in practice it tends to be very bad for women and society in general. Here's an excerpt from a Politico article that includes links to several research papers. t the level of human security, let’s be clear: Polygyny is the cause, not the consequence, of a vast array of negative outcomes for women and their children, research has shown. For example, greater sexual freedom for men to marry mul…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/01/21 08:59 PM
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I love the rant about this in Ratatouille. It made a fantastic song in the musical version as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:23 AM
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I have lost count of the number of men I've offended by simply declining their offers of "help" when they see me carrying large/heavy-looking things. Even when I've had paid gigs where schlepping stuff was the job?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/01/21 04:18 AM
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Every time someone has proposed to me it was done in a way to make me feel horrible and incredibly depressed for days afterwards. I want something that makes me feel wonderful, without pressure, and allows the pair of us to have a discussion before I agree to anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/01/21 07:26 AM
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There were a couple of guys (15-20 years older than me) just waiting for me to hit 18. (Actually more, but two who were laser-focused.) None of my age-appropriate crushes gave me a second glance since I was fat and weird, but the older guys were great conversationalists and were interesting and fun to talk to. A couple of years ago some kid who was 18 or 19 decided he had a crush on me and it was flattering for about one second. He was boring, had nothing interesting to him, and it completely pi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/01/21 07:44 PM
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I’ve been in relationships with the opposite problem-I get extra horny when I’m on my period. Funny thing, when I’m in relationships with guys who find menstruation sex a turn-off I don’t pressure them after asking them about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/01/21 05:45 PM
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On a related note-women never question needing to go to the bathroom. They understand if you have to drop everything and go NOW. Meanwhile, you give a man 5, 10, 15 minutes warning and they still do not get it. “Can’t you just hold it?” I remember one instance where I needed a break from my job in public, set things up so I could take a quick break, and a random dude tried to insist that I stay and wanted me to wait for him. He didn’t want to accept me saying “I’ll be back in a few minutes, I ne…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/20 08:18 PM
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A week later. I was kinda familiar with the guy, so when I flagged down a patrolman at work and described home the cop immediately knee who I was taking about. He was able to get a translator to tell the creep to stay the F away from me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/09/19 04:32 AM
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I’ve been trying this. Some creepy old dude grabbed me by the throat and tried to kiss me a month ago while I was working. What am I doing wrong, besides not breaking his fingers?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/08/19 05:35 PM
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