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I’d say there are quite a few butterface guys whose physiques are a draw
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 04:40 AM
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Seen tons of couples with a fat girl and normal even attractive guy getting married
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 04:39 AM
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Only the numbers indicate women ARE dating men who are below them educationally and financially. Think a full third of women now. So this is all hysteria
/r/PurplePillDebate26/09/21 04:26 AM
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Problem is men want women to put up with all their shit and stay humble, nice and pleasant. Known of plenty of women who became nagging bitter types because of men. You end up becoming shrill and bitter when men are constantly being shit in relationships, cheating on you, ignoring your requests to treat you better, not pulling their weight as fathers, etc. Men are like “then choose better men then!” But the truth is so many men are like this
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 05:08 PM
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Dan is a fake front for a shadow sponsor, all those girls are hired and stuff are rentals. One of his former partners dropped the tea. He’s basically an artificial figure made to appeal to young gullible guys Very few men of significant net worth live that way tbh. I’d say the closest real one is Gianlucca Vacchi but even he settled down with a chick and had a kid
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 04:07 PM
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I say abuser since I have experience with this (mental/emotional/verbal abuse) and something just clicked that I realized he was a narcissist. Thankfully it was short lived. Women who are a little more timid and submissive might be locked in this sort of toxic cycle for years. Normal guys won’t do this and would probably feel horribly guilty if a woman they had feelings for was crying and pleading with them to talk about their problems and going to great lengths to tell him how much she cherishe…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 08:03 AM
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I’ve been messaged by men like this looking for dommes. So you’re probably not in their target segment.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 07:56 AM
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Several American dommes have charged this successfully. One of the ones I recall with this rate was a successful domme from LA, who is retired now. Current dommes who aren’t doing visits can charge 1500 just for hourly zoom calls. I’m talking about the dommes who are capable of traveling to meet international clientele. Huge diff between the ones just charging 300 an hour. They’re on another level.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 07:12 AM
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It’s a thing. Several dommes have noted this.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 07:09 AM
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Usually the pickme phase that attractive women go through is with an abuser, hot and cold kinda guy or avoidant guy. But it doesn’t last since women like this have options and usually give up
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 07:08 AM
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Usually they’ll take a guy’s word for it and men tend to embellish. But some women do know. I tell girls if they’re curious to just know how long one of her fists measures across the knuckles, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 04:09 AM
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Smart women know the length of their knuckles across the fist. It’s pretty easy. For women with small hands that’s 3 inches. Two knuckled fists width = six inches. It’s not rocket science. Also, you disregarded what I said about taller men being bigger. If women sleep mostly with taller men their chances are better. https://www.sexedlibrary.org/do-taller-men-have-bigger-penises/
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 04:00 AM
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I can tell you that’s not exactly true based on my exp and that of my female friends, and my N count is low esp for my age. I’d estimate it at about 30% of the men women tend to sleep with while if you take the general population it says it’s only 15% of guys. That’s why I think my explanation is correct
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 03:54 AM
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If it’s mostly or only those guys they’re sleeping with then it would make sense the chances of them getting dudes in that size range are higher
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 03:30 AM
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I mean physically? Stacies are not bending over backwards to get male attention, they get it by the bucketload. Any reasonably cute girl is going to have male thirst on her IG, or real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 03:28 AM
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Tall guys tend to be on the bigger side, according to a couple of studies. If these women tend to favor taller men that’s one explanation.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 02:58 AM
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Pickmes are usually not attractive. If they were they wouldn’t need to bend over backwards for validation or commitment
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 02:55 AM
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Theyre already married, they’re just not getting it from their wife. Problem would be avoided if they’d just married a dominant, but such women are rare. Why some of them can charge 5k a session Demand outstrips supply. Likewise the most self declared “dominant” guys are blue collar workers. Lack of status and agency tends to fuel that desire. Most of them don’t lead anybody lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/21 01:22 AM
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False. There are men like this who prefer dominant or equal women. In fact the most dominant men at work and socially tend to prefer women with a high amount of agency since they’re tired of handling all the responsibility and decision making themselves Why do you think dommes encounter CEOs and generals in their line of work?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 11:59 PM
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Pickmes really like attention though and are pretty fickle themselves. Do you want a girl who responds to flattering dms from randoms
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 08:57 PM
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That’s the thing, most Pickmes are just used and discarded because of their lack of backbone. Or they get cheated on. Same result, shit ending
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 08:56 PM
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Didn’t set out to disprove anything. Men need to realize that they’re just experiencing what we have.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 02:39 PM
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Maybe not in today’s generation but growing up eating disorders were very prevalent. I was stocky as a kid, men treated me as if I were invisible and bullied me until I lost 15 pounds in high school and became athletic. Then they were climbing all over themselves sending flowers to my class and things like that. Think about how much more awful the treatment really fat or unattractive girls got. Those douchebags would throw my books out the window and shove me into lockers. Has that happened to y…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 02:33 PM
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I guess you’re not acquainted with the beggars being choosers mindset some men entertain even when they’re unattractive. It’s somehow still pretty prevalent in men.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 02:07 PM
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I did, the point is men never realized what they were subjecting women to. There’s a bit of justice in what’s happening now. It wasn’t ever just men out of women’s league. When I was a freshman in university a bunch of douches was sitting there rating girls who were coming out of the gym loud enough for them to hear. Ask any woman and I’m certain 99% of them will tell you they’ve experienced something similar at one point in their lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 01:55 PM
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Women are much better at being alone than men are for the most part. According to the last poll from Pew 40% of women 18-39 are fine being single and don’t even want casual relationships. 71% after 40
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 05:38 AM
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That’s not being lucky at all when most women are average. What evens it out is male thirst.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 05:36 AM
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Because sex is meaningless to men. They’ll compare women though and won’t bring a girl around their friends that they think is too ugly. They know they’re having sex with someone they aren’t attracted to. Doesn’t mean they aren’t imagining it’s some 9 they’re trying to date seriously or a model on IG.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 05:30 AM
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Yup. I’m not losing any sleep over men being subject to the same ruthless aesthetic standards. The irony is not a lot of you are learning any lessons from it on how to treat others
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 05:05 AM
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It’s just the tables turning. Women have been killing themselves to look perfect just to appeal to the male gaze. There’s a Korean manwha/show called Gangnam Beauty that has a chapter devoted to how ruthlessly men pick over women’s looks. Should check that out sometime, it’s a pinkpill Besides, men are lucky that women don’t just select for looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 05:01 AM
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Women were always picky. They were never as picky as men were about looks until recently. Now we can be. So why not.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 04:59 AM
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If it’s about the other stuff as well it’s not all about looks. Men are just salty they’re being weighed on looks as well now when y’all have been doing it to women for millennia. “Ooh we want them young and hot.” Cry me a river.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 02:55 AM
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People can do whatever the hell they want. Let them figure it out. It’s nobody’s business but theirs.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 02:52 AM
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No one cares about being hypocritical about looks not mattering anymore. That part of American culture was always hypocritical to me when American culture is looks obsessed. Looks mattering isn’t shallow. It’s when it’s all about looks and obsessing about it that it’s stupid. Women’s looks have always mattered. They’re just being honest about men now.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/21 02:37 AM
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You’re using the incel/blackpill approach to rating. Not talking about just you, but if you’re not an incel why are you adopting their approach? Is it working at all for them? And I know it’s how incels rate because it had its origin in incel forums even before truerateme was established. It’s not about whether or not Matt has fans. People have widely acknowledged he’s one of the best looking actors in Hollywood. The issue with incels is they have a maladjusted approach to picking apart facial f…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 08:20 PM
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This is the problem with incels trying to rate. They take individual body parts and use extreme masculine standards for them without taking ratio and proportion into consideration. Those individual parts mean zero if they aren’t in proportion with the other parts. I stand by what I said, the lower three quarters of his face are far too beefy to be as attractive. And no, his mouth width is smaller in proportion to his larger jaw than Bomer’s, which is perfect for his facial width. When Bomer firs…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 07:58 PM
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Not sure by what the threshold may be but cost of flights, hotel stays, tickets to events can add up. Partner and I make enough that we can comfortably do this now and then, I’ve surprised him with tickets+flights a couple times now and if he can’t we wouldn’t be compatible lifestyle wise
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 04:21 PM
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Something like 1-2 times a year. I don’t want something too opulent. Something like a nice trip somewhere beautiful, a really romantic getaway where he’s put in a lot of thoughtful touches. I’d prefer he regularly shows me he loves me and cares, along with the occasional splurge. I guess I’d be okay with him not being excessively adventurous but some of it is a must. I can’t live a compatible lifestyle with someone who just stays home all the time. I’m an ambivert who can appreciate downtime cud…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 03:51 PM
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I mean the kind of guy who likes to keep his friends enthralled with his stories and jokes. My partner is like this, a bit over the top really. He’s also a musician (not his day job but his talent) and sings And no, that kind of thing would freak me out as being too love bomby or excessive. I don’t expect it all the time in an LTR but it’s really nice to be surprised
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 03:41 PM
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Yes except I’m more the chill fun friend than the entertainer. I’ve flown my partner to places for events before. Think that’s a grand gesture
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:58 PM
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Respectful of my feelings and time. Nurturing, caring, intelligent, compassionate, affectionate. Wants to hear me out and is also a fun and loyal companion. Doesn’t lie, cheat, deflect, justify, bears responsibility for his actions. Is always in a state of personal growth. Is disciplined, driven, keenly interested in the world around him, and passionate about the arts and sciences. Ethical, not to the point of being tiresome, well balanced, thoughtful and introspective. Super adventurous but can…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:11 PM
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No, he’s jowly and doesn’t have the same exact symmetry. Cheeks, jaw and nose are heavy in comparison to his eyes which give him a beefier look, that doesn’t exactly mean he’s more attractive. I watched a video of him and he looks better in video than in his photos, but Matt looks good at any angle.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 05:55 AM
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It’s the same with muscles from what I’ve observed
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:17 AM
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That’s Matt Bomer, he’s apparently even more attractive in real life. He boarded a plane once and everyone literally stopped to ogle. Men have been known to have man crushes on the guy IMO that’s the only guy who looks better
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 02:07 AM
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There is no such thing as a professional rater. They’re not pageant judges or model agents. If they’re being paid maybe but no, lol. And yeah, no, I was walking around the city while responding to you. Not going to be staring at a bunch of pictures You realize you’re talking to someone who’s taken anatomy, sculpted, done photography and art of human subjects? If you’re capable of sculpting a human skull accurately and layer muscle and skin on it get back to me on facial aesthetics otherwise don’…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 01:52 AM
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Those people aren’t professional raters. There is no such thing. I lined up three male models and that guy who they said looks like a model and sent it to them to show the disparity. I’ve given a detailed breakdown of why their chart is wrong to one of the posters here via dm, they mistakenly think exaggerated hyper masculine features are higher rated when it’s more about bone structure. Dudes rate a 9 a 7 and a 6 a 9. If I underrate men then I wouldn’t be rating some of the 7s and 8s on their c…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/21 12:26 AM
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I’m better at judging looks than most of the men there, and I’ve seen quite a few people posing for art and photography in the studio. They were telling this guy who was a 6 at best that he could model. Guy had uneven features and you could barely see his bone structure. It’s pretty easy to see why some men are on the upper end of the attractiveness spectrum. Grab a couple shots of the most attractive men, superimpose them and you’ll see that a lot of them have the similar approximate distances …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 11:27 PM
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Yup. Anyone who believes Truerateme ratings must be blind or crazy or both
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 10:22 PM
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Going to repeat this meme here since it’s pretty true Women don’t want a new man, they want their old one to get his act together Men tend to ignore when their women nag over time or has a complaint, or neglect her or their share of doing tasks/share of pulling their own weight. Over time she gets fed up and that last thing is what breaks the camel’s back. The guys believe that she broke up with them over it when in reality she’s been getting fed up with him for quite some time.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 02:30 PM
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High status, wealthy men of decent attractiveness have no need to pay escorts. Women of any age are jumping all over themselves to get into their bed. Even average men can get laid easily if they make a good amount of money. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.livescience.com/amp/28169-men-who-use-prostitutes.html It’s usually those who can’t get easy sexual access that do and even then some men would rather go for a year than pay a prostitute College educated couples tend to have kids later. And i…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 09:35 AM
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Men who pay for prostitutes remain outliers. And it’s not just about marriage, we were talking about kids. In the past having them with older men was for stability Women who want children should start dating someone around 25 with the goal of marriage 28-32 and having a few kids prior to 35, and marry men their age, not much older. Studies show that these are the most stable and long lasting marriages. Those that marry earlier tend to get divorced earlier
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 09:22 AM
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I’ve read the actual studies, there are dozens of them at this point. There is no benefit to having kids with an older man that you can’t get with a man in his late 20s to late 30s that has a good career. Men are at their sexual and mental prime at 25-35. Generally if a woman feels into a silver fox I say go for it. But with younger men in finance and tech there’s literally no point anymore. Why gimp your kids’ genetic material and your own enjoyment
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 09:07 AM
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No they do not. High earning men tend to marry high earning women
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 08:44 AM
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Tell that to old cougars who seem to have no problem getting young men. This Wall talk is kind of pointless if a 60 year old woman is getting laid more than a 25 year old incel
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 08:35 AM
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This isn’t proof of the wall. There’s a biological reason for this. Older women tend to have birth issues and that gap in egg quality can be closed if the father is younger (better sperm quality) https://www.hindustantimes.com/sex-and-relationships/can-t-blame-demi-cougars-are-biologically-driven-towards-young-men/story-kZtenJ748rX2wUVX1M11tM.html
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 08:31 AM
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https://www.contemporarypediatrics.com/view/older-fathers-linked-problems-pregnancies-births
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 08:29 AM
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Not only do men post 40 have much greater chances of having kids with genetic defects but the reduced sperm quality apparently causes issues for the woman as well. She has higher chances of getting gestational diabetes and birth complications. It’s not in a woman’s best interest to have a much older father for her kids https://www.contemporarypediatrics.com/view/older-fathers-linked-problems-pregnancies-births
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/21 08:27 AM
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That cancer risk thing is bullshit and too many doctors are not up to date with it, the sample size was women who were older or something Have her read this https://www.endocrineweb.com/news/other-endocrine-disorders/57541-estrogen-therapy-underused-women-their-40s-50s-due-outdated-thi If she wants she can email the guy profiled in that article. Hopefully you guys can find better informed practitioners to help out
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 07:51 PM
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Young people tend to be less aware of what those boundaries are. It’s pretty damn clear even if you read dating subs.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 06:53 PM
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It matters because there’s a much higher risk of exploitation of the younger by the older. Even LTR experience doesn’t necessarily mean life experience. Life experience also means getting to know different kinds of people in different contexts, how to deal with emotional situations, how to lead, compromise, negotiate etc. To clarify, I’m not against age gap relationships IF the older person has good intentions and doesn’t normally chase younger people just because they’re young. Those that are o…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 06:46 PM
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Nope, you could date a bunch of naive people and still know nothing about how people tend to function or know anything about how to lead or compromise.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 06:45 PM
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Sleeping around =/= life experience.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 05:59 PM
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No, just because there are less marriages doesn’t mean people don’t get into relationships. People are getting married much older if at all, but everyone knows someone in 7-10 year partnerships. I knew of a couple who’d dated each other since they were in high school and had been together for 13 years, waiting to get their lives better together before getting married. It’s expensive and less people are having kids, so marriage doesn’t need to be on the table for there to be a serious relationshi…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 05:34 PM
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There are 21 year olds admitting their naïveté about relationships and much older partners manipulating them due to much greater life experience and you want to question how a 16 year old might get manipulated? Really? Younger men don’t have the life experience to draw on, totally different power dynamic. Younger people also tend to defer to older people
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 05:31 PM
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And? Most successful men in their 30s are not dating 22 year olds. They date other 30 year olds. In my circles very, very few men are dating that much younger. Most the men thinking successful men always date women that young are either projecting or taking their cues from Instagram
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 04:44 PM
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Most of the men that women that age desire are not hitting on younger women. This is always a weird reason Most of them used to date older men and felt victimized or groomed and don’t want younger women falling prey to the same thing. Women 28-45 can still mostly get a hell of a lot of attention if they’re fit and attractive, even from much younger men
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 04:00 PM
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It’s only worth it when you’re with a guy you love, are attracted to who’s a decent person
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 01:46 PM
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Women have less of a chance of surviving if an altercation were to turn violent. It’s been theorized that’s why when women resort to violence they strike to kill. Saw it on a documentary
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/21 04:35 AM
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Set up an online business or look into working for people/companies looking to outsource. I did this from back in my country and was able to put myself through college in the US. Sell only to the US market.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 03:00 PM
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I already said I lived in a crap wage country before. Don’t work a regular job if that really obstructs your goals and think of ways to earn in USD. I didn’t and never bothered to work there until I was able to leave for the US.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 02:52 PM
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Someone tried to spike my drink when I was in Miami. Scary stuff Imo it’s fun if you know someone who has a place there but I much prefer the crowds in LA
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 02:38 PM
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OP, since your other post got removed, reposting here to prove what I said earlier about men doing this if they can as well https://postimg.cc/gallery/JXQw050 Also i used to live in a country with crap wages as well. Instead of asking for money I made an online business for USD. Why don’t you try similar?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 02:28 PM
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If you’d bothered to search on social media you’d have found that men do it too (for gay kinksters) there are a ton of male “findoms” on Twitter. It’s kind of bizarre
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 12:33 PM
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Unlike strangers couples have a relationship and something of actual value If she blocked and moved on she judges the juice isn’t worth the squeeze
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 12:27 AM
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That’s why you’re wrong about Pickmes becoming Chad. They’re usually having a hard time just getting noticed even with their behavior, which tends to attract abusive men. Very few Pickmes get what they want
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 07:04 PM
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Pickmes don’t usually get what they want very easily, which is why they have to do what they do to get male attention Chad gets what he wants without simping Stacy = Chad Pickmes = simps
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 06:40 PM
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Most older men are not capable of pulling younger and get hella triggered when you state this fact. I've had guys threaten me online for saying this or that older men have a higher risk of passing on genetic defects. They always bring up some outlier super rich or fit guy as an example. The level of copium is absurd
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 04:42 PM
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Probably a matter of viral load. Who knows. It's not the same as the first variants that were killing older people. https://www.nytimes.com/2021/08/03/health/covid-young-adults-sicker.html A Californian wife died recently who was a mom to 4 kids, she was pregnant and gave birth before she died. Think she was 37. Depressing stuff. She was fit too.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 04:37 PM
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30-40 year olds who aren't vaxxed are dying of Delta, so
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 04:14 PM
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Dunno, I don't digest that garbage
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 04:09 PM
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Sounds like a recipe for misery
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 02:25 PM
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For someone who touts sex you seem unacquainted with what mind blowing sex is like. I’ve known of women capable of having a hundred orgasms in marathon hours long sessions of sex. This is both highly dependent on how good the guy is and how multi orgasmic the woman is. Throw some weed or psychs on there or weed lube and two very compatible, very fit high libido people who also know each other’s bodies well can have incredible marathon sex that would make an orgy look dull. Deep orgasms, g spot o…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 08:19 AM
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If there aren’t a lot of good performing guys then my point stands, you’re not having sex for yourself but for them. And what boomer meme? My guy is capable of going all day and giving me 30-50+ orgasms. That’s way better than I would be getting from a bunch of poorly performing men. That’s why I’m pretty satisfied. I can explore kinks and have great sex with a well-endowed man I actually find attractive and desire. Why would a woman trade that for poor casual sex that doesn’t even get her off. …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 07:36 AM
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You can be self serving in your sexual pursuit but obviously being discerning in your choice of partner contributes a lot to personal pleasure. I’d never have sex or continue to have sex with a man I didn’t find attractive or was dissatisfied with in any way regarding his performance. You can do all the exploring you like with men who know what they’re doing and are focused on your pleasure. Sex positive feminists tend to encourage indiscriminate sex for the sake of painting sex in a better ligh…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 07:14 AM
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“Sex positive” is just another label for being indiscriminate with your sexuality, which obviously benefits only men. Real sex positivity that benefits women is not what the libfems are selling. This is why I have better sex than most of them while they’re trying to justify the bad sex they’re getting with some guy they regret sleeping with
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 06:51 AM
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Absolutely. Therapists have been saying it again and again that it’s about validation as a man
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 03:16 AM
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It’s because people especially men are emotionally constipated in today’s society and people are encouraged to have relationships without love/declaring love first. That always seemed kind of crazy to me. Seems an American thing though
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:32 AM
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Why sex positive libfems are playing themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 12:49 AM
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Cheating in men is usually because of feelings of inadequacy/insecurity about their masculinity and a perceived lack of validation rather than sex https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.fatherly.com/love-money/emotional-validation-men-who-cheat-seek-it/amp/
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 12:45 AM
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I’m guessing he didn’t want it but was like “this might be my last chance at it”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 11:50 PM
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Should see the old videos of K1 in Japan, they had a ton of female spectators. Date someone like that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 11:07 PM
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There was a music event recently where a bunch of couples got engaged after the guy proposed. The one couple where the woman did had the saddest caption and pics “He said yes, I think.” Guy was way less attractive than her and didn’t seem thrilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 11:04 PM
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Swingers are usually somewhat older and not the younger tail end of Millenials and Gen Z. It’s quite possible you’re seeing more outdated attitudes towards male sexuality generationally and not just due to a person’s sexuality. If OP is young his chances are usually higher with the LGBT crowd as far as getting accepted. Of the women I know, if I dig deeper into the “why” many of them unconsciously hold very trad expectations of masculinity. I find women who have done more introspection on gender…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 02:17 PM
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The chances of bi women finding it acceptable are higher than straight. The comments on the sub should tell you that - there are maybe 2 or so bi women who have said they’re turned off and others say they’re dating a bi man or don’t mind. I’m one of the latter
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 01:59 PM
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Live in a liberal area and date a bi woman
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 12:12 PM
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She found out and instead of saying anything got her own affair
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 05:03 AM
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How many years did you take pole for?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 05:02 AM
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Humiliating men.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 05:01 AM
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😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 03:04 AM
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We only used to pretend it was ok, but just hid the domestic violence, rape and all that and pretended it didn’t exist. I would say better if only because the truth has come to light and women aren’t being treated like property
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 08:25 PM
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He doesn’t look 12. Looks like a teenager. But I’m addressing your attraction bit.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 08:23 PM
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Young women are attracted to young looking men… because well they’re the same age
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 07:25 PM
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I love how everyone is laughing at him in the comments
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 06:44 PM
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This is what I was talking about before with average/below average thirsty girls and that you seem to have also commented on some time ago, they come on soooo hard to good looking men it’s embarrassing. My guy was drunk once at a guy friend’s party at a bar (I was at a different party) and texted me to come get him kind of frantically. When I arrived I saw why, some potato of a middle aged woman was try to convince him to go home with her and was pulling on him. She and her friend scattered when…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 06:25 PM
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This is what happens when you get greedy. Background Background 2 Some real karma here if this is real. And for all the guys that say men only cheat when they’re unhappy with the sex or marriage…. nah.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 06:19 PM
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It’s true for both men and women. Studies have shown this. You guys don’t get a license to sleep around freely if you want a lasting marriage Sorry but this whole “the sexes are different” thing delineates a whole different set of characteristics than what laymen like to imagine. Stuff that’s mostly boring, like spatial reasoning and attitudes to casual sex, motor skills, so on. Our brains may differ but not in the way laymen like to believe either. In this men and women are no different.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 02:30 AM
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Sexual Partners
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 02:29 AM
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Because their men are too unattractive and they’d never get a chance otherwise
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/09/21 12:26 AM
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Higher n count affects your ability to maintain loyalty and a long lasting marriage. Plus STDs can lay dormant in the body a long time, some men are walking HPV infection sites or herpes repositories. I don’t want that anywhere near me American lifetime average is about 7 for both men and women If a guy had even just one girl a month, that’s 12 women a year. Say he started at 18, by the time I would marry or get partnered to him at say 28-30 after meeting him at 26 thats at least 96 women. How’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 11:55 PM
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Naturally gifted in mathematics So he’s brainy. Number 2 then If he didn’t work for his position on his own merits then probably not. But he’s clearly intelligent and attractive, as well as well endowed. I was going to say neither guy attracted me but hot nerds are my thing. For long term relationships though? No. I want a lower N count partner
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 10:53 PM
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No, men aim for girls they find unattractive to get laid with and aim outside their league for relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 10:05 PM
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Intj
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 10:02 PM
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How does 7 abs work
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 10:01 PM
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Hitachis are also uh kind of rough lol. Never tried them but I heard they’re a bit strong and some women need the stimulation to be a bit softer to orgasm
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 09:56 PM
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Tell that to Italians. They usually get married around 35. You guys keep forgetting cultural differences and such. 27 is not old for marriage, the longest marriages started 28-32 Also women in their teens tend to confer some genetic issues to their kids, which seems to indicate teens is way too early.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 09:49 PM
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Depends on who’s causing the jealousy. If the partner is at fault, no, I’ve seen plenty of women blame the man. Which is why there’s that funny skit where even when the man is innocent of coming on to the other woman the wife slaps him instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 02:46 PM
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From what I’ve seen the MILs on the wife’s side rarely cause issues if they have a good relationship with their daughter. It’s the MILs on the husband’s side if the man was a mama’s boy
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 02:44 PM
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https://vm.tiktok.com/ZMRPWjURp/ basically
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 02:39 PM
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It just means you chose the wrong guy. Only a low T dude would be preferring porn to actual sex
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 04:40 AM
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If she prefers sex toys over you something is wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 04:22 AM
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Sex toys aren’t whole visual representations of human beings. The equivalent isn’t porn it’s a flesh light or tenga eggs
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 02:35 AM
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Show me a guy on this sub who has led armies to combat and victory the same way as some women did in history. This is a dumbass assertion that men resort to in order to feel superior by virtue of having a penis when most men are average and unremarkable
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 12:09 AM
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They are not. Historically women have always been combatants in my culture. You’re just trying to force cultural sexism on everyone else
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 11:56 PM
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That doesn’t mean women can’t be badasses. They’ve historically been important combatants and informants, and most of these women would outdo the keyboard warriors in this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 11:54 PM
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Lol no. That’s still trashy
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 11:53 PM
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The story about the women who did that in my country has been around for a while. My grandfather knew about it and he was in charge of guerilla communications in his area. Y’all are just embarassing
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 11:52 PM
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Sure. Let’s see you try and surprise a soldier at night with just a machete. That woman who did that was a schoolteacher btw, masculine woman lol
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 11:00 PM
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Sure Jan https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.history.com/.amp/news/meet-the-night-witches-the-daring-female-pilots-who-bombed-nazis-by-night Women in my country would sneak behind enemy lines at night and kill Japanese soldiers with machetes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 10:27 PM
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If a woman had a philosophical saying and graphic in a carefully planned location would that still be a tramp stamp
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/21 10:25 PM
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If you’re really in tech then it’s probably a function of age that you haven’t met women earning more than 200k. Both partner’s and my company have quite a few women that qualify and are in senior positions. I belong to that category. He does income wise His old (female) boss was easily making over 700k and his manager was married to some engineer at Apple making more than he was. His boss is in her late 30s but did not marry young, her kid is still young. I’m west coast
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 02:59 PM
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They are not. They’re married to women their age and occasionally women who out-earn them. I don’t think 35 is older age. Basically high performing men are marrying high performing women within a 0-5 year age difference. That guy always wanted kids. Of the men I’ve asked about settling down without kids only a handful are adamant about not getting married. Some are fine with it. Got to remember that real life is not Reddit. I’ll be clear - most people in tech really do not care about the weird a…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 02:49 PM
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Most guys in tech are transplants or immigrants unless they graduated in the area and those tend to be a minority tbh. That means a lot of single dudes and by the time they reach management level a lot are engaged or married, and not necessarily to their college sweethearts. Know a tech VC who within 3 years was dating someone different from when I met him and he just posted baby pics with his new wife. The guys I know are similar, they seem to reach a certain age and suddenly bam they’re marrie…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 02:38 PM
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Those biases exist for good reason. And no, lol. You clearly have very little dating experience if you think only desperate incels are asking out 35 year olds. That is not adult world or adult dating, the reality is women up to 50, especially if they’re attractive and fit, can get dates no problem. Your mind would be blown by the kinds of men asking my friends or myself out in the 32-42 age range. Model/former model guys, generally well off men, etc. Most of us are with attractive men our age gi…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 12:28 PM
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In current society most people think around 7-8 years is a significant gap. 13 is almost double that. A 35 year old woman is still being asked out by men 30-42. And not really. Depends on the location. In coastal cities upper middle class to upper class women age much better than straight men because of their skincare and exercise regimens. I wonder if this disconnect in views is because people are using examples from their own locales.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 11:56 AM
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That is still a big difference.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 11:25 AM
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Never had a man ask. Some men volunteered casually when on dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 11:03 AM
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Lol you can’t just use surgery on someone like that. If you’ve never been to Asia then you don’t know but we’re talking messed up teeth, they are generally much shorter and look nothing like the beautiful women that locals prefer The reason they go for old white men is 1) they’re broke 2) They can’t get anyone decent in Asia/desirable Asian men do not want them The idea that some mediocre white guy can get beautiful Asian 10s is a myth. Asians know this but don’t care since the women are in it j…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 09:07 AM
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I’ve had men lie to me about their education. Maybe she was just confirming it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 08:55 AM
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It is old to women in their 20s and even early 30s.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 08:54 AM
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That’s not dating. Not even Asians think it’s actual dating The young women prostituting themselves to old white farts are bottom of the barrel in Asia. The hottest younger Asian women date mostly famous Asian men, and not really old ones.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 08:51 AM
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Silver fox chasers are a minority. With the advent of young cocky guys in tech and finance most women have the option of 30 something successful men. Guess who they’re picking
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/21 08:47 AM
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This is highly dependent on how attractive you are as a man as the more attractive men will have hotter matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 11:57 PM
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Read a study which said that 43 was the average age when infertility issues started to manifest a lot. But 50 is way too old, gotta remember as a species we only were supposed to live around 40 which is why 40 is also the age hormones tend to go wack for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 11:34 PM
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His sperm are going to be decrepit which is why I said that Post 40 chances of defects and health issues appearing in your kids rise
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 08:51 PM
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Google paternal age effect and autism. It’s been studied a while and a startup that focused on studying it in Scandinavia concluded that autism was linked to it. Meta analyses have been run on millions of data points from Scandinavia, the USA, etc. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5414073/
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 10:14 AM
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No we do not. Only silver fox chasers do. If you’re looking for a man slightly older who looks good the current crop of Marvel actors are aging a bit. Ryan Reynolds has gray and looks good. Clooney is way too old even if he looks good it’s clear he’s over the hill as far as sex appeal goes This is what a good looking older man looks like (Eric Rutherford, gay model who probably is the gold standard for older guys) https://encrypted-tbn0.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcSxOiT6w7_UiQi08ctxK1AT-mJuZx…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 09:52 AM
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Nah the cutoff is around 40-43
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 09:49 AM
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Yeah but people are more autistic as a result
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 09:46 AM
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The study rings true to what I’ve seen in life. While there are Chad types who are extremely good looking that most women will find attractive in reality women diverge hugely in their preference. A lot of it also stems from their own experiences or what they associate as being positive ie. if she had a band member bf who treated her well her pref for guitar playing long haired musicians with tats might solidify into a lifelong thing while it leaves other women cold. Dude doesn’t even need to be …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 09:17 AM
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If someone tends to fit all the things someone is looking for they are a 10 in that person’s eyes. They could be skinny, a redhead, whatever. Doesn’t matter. Women have “types” more than men do. Study - https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/06/090626153511.htm You have zero clue how female sexuality works in this respect
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 08:16 AM
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Every person tends to fit a niche that appeals to someone that for whom they’re a perfect 10 Most people will just not find that person. Stick with your gf and if she’s a good one and you want to, put a ring on it
/r/PurplePillDebate07/09/21 07:11 AM
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I don’t care for small talk but I do fine socially. Throw me into a party I don’t know anyone and I’ll be able to find somebody to talk to. If you can’t talk to people how do you expect to maintain a relationship You don’t even need to like parties to have social skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 07:35 PM
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A lot of guys don’t even make friends or go out to social events. This is clear in the ideas people have about normal shit that everyone else takes for granted, like socializing at parties. If these guys can’t even do that how are they going to compete with normal guys who do things like mountaineering, diving, flying around the world to destinations with friends, etc It also contributes to their warped ideas of what society is like. If you aren’t out there living then your frame of reference is…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 05:13 PM
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Why the idea of women becoming cat ladies at 30 is funny as heck If she’s hot and has a chill personality guys are going to want her and even to ask her to date if their values are aligned/she’s what they’re looking for
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 04:26 AM
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I heard Jennifer Aniston was a narcissist and drove Brad crazy with her meticulous emphasis on image. Not that that makes cheating merited but they all seem damaged people Honestly of the three only Angelina seems to have done the most good with her humanitarian efforts
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 02:34 AM
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Tbh these things are two different contexts Most women walking around are not seeing some dude letting it all hang out and making seductive faces at them, plus it’s in public These posts are the guy giving the viewer 100% of his attention and the women are viewing this in privacy (usually). Unlike men for women context, mindset and comfort is important for arousal
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 09:11 PM
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Applause for Asian guys flexing their attractiveness. Pop culture did them dirty
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 09:00 PM
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Idk. I don’t care if your abs are chiseled from granite, so long as there’s a bit of definition and it’s not soft
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 08:26 PM
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In my country we didn’t have any extra help and we still outscored men in academics. I don’t think this is the case, men just tend to not take learning as seriously/the women just were more studious. The few men who do tend to excel.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/09/21 01:08 AM
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https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.csmonitor.com/layout/set/amphtml/Science/2012/0717/IQ-test-Women-are-now-scoring-higher-than-men
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 08:00 PM
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Generally men only encounter other men as friends. Which is why they have trouble empathizing with women’s dating woes. Gay friends are often known to be great at commiserating with women on this. It’s not a “every individual is different” thing, there are very common patterns you can identify in types of people (like hot and cold or avoidant individuals) that carry across to others.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 08:35 AM
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Because bi men who date men experience the same difficulties women experience in dating men
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 04:09 AM
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The guy probably liked it. Just speaking from experience, if there’s an arrangement like that, the guy is very much on board
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 01:14 AM
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Yeah, after dating flexible and bi men I don’t want to go back to straights. They’re also generally cleaner and have better grooming
/r/PurplePillDebate03/09/21 01:09 AM
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Denotes that they’re healthy and fit, and fit my active lifestyle. Too much means they’re spending too much time at the gym. And no, some playboys have the unshaven French look. Suave playboy guys always seem kind of greasy to me no matter how clean they actually are. It’s the personality
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 10:43 PM
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Eh, no, they’re a turnoff to me and have been since I was young. I find it kind of overcompensating and immature I prefer high achievers who are also fearless and physically fit but nice. The clean cut kind of guy you can bring home to mom and loves to just cuddle but has lean muscle under his shirt and is athletic. Bad boys elicit visceral disgust especially if they’re not clean or clean shaven. Much prefer the slightly shy hottie to the suave playboy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 08:07 PM
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Even fairly well balanced men struggle with this. Which is why men who can roll with critical feedback are so valuable. I’ve found men who have careers where their competency has to constantly be scrutinized do a bit better here.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 01:23 PM
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Depends on the woman. Worldly and experienced successful people of both genders who are a certain age and interact with people of all ages seem to have a broader POV. Avoid anyone who seems bitter or toxic, look for magnanimity and balanced perspectives. Regarding success, in order to get there many of these people have often had to manage myriad relationships with others, led them, and have a far broader spectrum of experiences to draw from. I’ve met women who were 55 and very limited in their …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 10:28 AM
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Humans generally need some kind of stimulation/novel environment or the brain stagnates. That’s their stimulation probably
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 03:38 AM
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I have relatives over there and it’s not really about glitz or glam. It’s just pretty drab overall. You could live in the Pacific Northwest and see some amazing sights, ski, get great food, go hiking etc. East Coast also has some pretty beautiful places. But Ohio… yeah it’s drab
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 03:30 AM
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Nobody wants a robot, but a functioning healthy adult is bare minimum for a solid relationship. I steer clear of men with persistent depression and anxiety as there’s enough in the world and relationships to deal with without something worse on top
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 03:10 AM
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Because nothing interesting happens in Ohio
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 03:08 AM
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Hot bitter guys make me run fast in the other direction. There has to be something seriously wrong for them to be that toxic AND privileged at the same time
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 02:54 AM
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Cultivate your talents and have some interesting experiences under your belt so you aren’t boring. You’ll be a happier person for it too. Men who are good at something - whether climbing, music, languages, etc - tend to find female admirers This is why people like to travel. This guy I went out with had some pretty intense stories of his time in the Mideast.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/21 02:53 AM
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Yeah, definitely. The wealthy put some status on being able to party lavishly as well/host. That’s why they’re known as the leisure class. The UMC also tend to connect through this sort of thing and use it for business/career purposes. I think the point is more in the policing of someone else’s time, which is a very American thing. We care too much about other people’s business. In my social group it’s a thing for grownups being able to work hard AND party. Connections and networks are made thro…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 10:42 PM
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Very few people also talk about how marriage impacts physical attraction because the people themselves focus less on fitness or health. Sleep, physical attractiveness, stress levels all take a huge hit in most marriages.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 07:57 PM
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I agree, this doesn’t really exist anywhere else. Especially outside of America
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 05:21 PM
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Nobody cares if you game a bit in Asia. The rich there party and game and travel all the time. Same as Dubai. This attitude seems reserved for very conservative and more lower middle class tiers which makes sense as their leisure time is almost nonexistent. Americans take it to a whole other level though and it’s pervasive in all classes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 05:16 PM
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It’s only in America that those things are not regarded as part of adult life because of the Puritan obsession with suffering.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 02:43 PM
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The biggest incentive to be mature is usually a combination of having no other recourse and having parents/family conducive to growing up. IME the biggest spoiled babies have huge safety nets (parents have a house in the city they’re working in, their own family is highly immature etc)
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 02:42 PM
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Women who are not self aware lie to themselves about how much they are attracted to a man. Many women truly have no idea how their attraction works physically or mentally, and will go through life failing at relationships before gaining the self awareness necessary to figure it out for themselves. This is also partly why they marry men they’re not really attracted to and dead bedroom him. It’s not a conscious thing. Many women have double standards about consent and assault and don’t care about …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 08:41 AM
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“Traumatic” seems kind of too severe a word to use. What the heck. Secondary dick trauma? I’d say this is more like anxiety
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 08:13 AM
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I noticed less women tend to participate in autism related groups as they seem to manage it on their own, plus for women it’s less detrimental to their social skills. Go to groups that deal with disabilities, emotional support groups, or even just regular socializing looking for new friend groups. I see a lot of women in online disability groups. Just be sure not to focus on commiserating over a disability in getting to know someone as that can come off as predatory. Make friends first and don’t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/21 01:20 AM
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I’m a believer in people chasing and dating within their own league unless the hotter person is in love with the less hot one. Staying in your own lane is better in relationships Maybe then all these 5-6 orbiters, male and female, would get a hint and date someone who actually does more then like their cringy IG comment
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 06:42 PM
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Yes, failures. Do you realize that most doctors going into med school expect these salaries? https://www.nshss.org/blog/you-want-to-be-a-doctor-here-is-the-average-salary-for-each-medical-specialty/ Lol…imagine trying to lecture me on medical salaries when I come from a medical family. This isn’t about averages, it’s about expenses and expectations. You act as if every medical student expects to make only 100k which is the furthest thing from the truth. Just because the truth doesn’t fit your “w…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 06:05 PM
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Women tend not to attend these as they have a hit more success at socializing. It doesn’t mean they have similar success romantically especially if they’re disabled.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 12:00 PM
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This reminds me of that survey that found 40+ single women were unhappiest but when you looked at the stats it indicated they were those with advanced educations (medicine, law) that tend to rack up 100K+ in debt and earning less than 100k yearly. That’s significantly underachieving for someone with that sort of education at 40+, of course they’d be unhappy. Yet men spun it into “they’re unhappy because they’re older and still single.” Lol. Women still contribute most of the household and emotio…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 11:41 AM
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soft skills go a long way
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 04:40 AM
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I think it’s proven men tend to try and reach more as a gender That meme about the guy with a gut criticizing a model’s elbows still is a thing. I’ve seen more women happy and satisfied with their less than attractive men than the opposite. The husband often complains his wife has gained weight or whatever while he himself doesn’t look so hot. It’s like these husbands never look in the mirror
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 02:40 AM
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Look for a woman who is also struggling with the same difficulties
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 01:28 AM
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Yep. Women who settle dead bedroom their husbands People who settle are wasting their partners’ time. The partner should be with someone who appreciates them
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 01:26 AM
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Even "nice" men tend to know when they're dating someone they think is below their league (in all respects). They just won't admit it but the truth is evident in the way they treat their partners vs. that ex out of their league that they put on a pedestal. Jerks are just more honest about it. Why women should never choose men who think they're settling.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/21 12:22 AM
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This has been the tack of probably 80%-90% of the male posters here
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 11:50 PM
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The men in this sub are so eager to tear the women down they’ll grab onto anything even if they’re wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 11:47 PM
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The point here is all the white people saying a black or Asian people has aged well (who hasn’t by POC standards) tend to do so from a white perspective. We also don’t want to conform to your standard where everyone looks old at 30 when many of us are just peaking around that decade. In this sense the wall at 30 concept is a product of (unhealthy) whites wanting us to use their standard. Sorry but no
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 11:41 PM
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Because these guys are not genetically gifted and likely age faster due to their toxicity/lack of happiness. Unhappy people tend to age faster
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 12:10 PM
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Refer to my comment above about how reducing visibility doesn’t seem to do anything regarding the sexualization of women The Middle East is a huge example, in many instances the men act depraved if there’s a woman alone. It’s the opposite for tribes where nakedness is desexualized. Nakedness =/= sexual allure
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 09:58 AM
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I’m not sure the public space would be less sexualized because of this. Some of the most aggressive men are in more traditional societies where they hide women and the mere presence of one is enough to set off a frenzy. Hiding women or reducing their sexual presence does nothing for testosterone. If anything the opposite happens in more exposed cultures. The answer is de-sexualizing the naked body. Also, just to add some perspective, it might be of interest to study cultures where male beauty is…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 09:54 AM
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Yikes. That’s a 4
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 08:37 AM
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Have you not spoken to many men who heavily regret marrying young before they knew what they wanted? Most of them feel trapped, have no time or money to spend on the things they really want to do, and many wish they’d never been married or had kids. They regret the kids the most.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 08:23 AM
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Diet definitely ages skin and tissues. It’s called collagen crosslinking And look up calorie restriction and David Sinclair’s videos. So your saying diet doesn’t change the body structure is wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 05:49 AM
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UV exposure is a really good example that doesn’t have any real regard for genetics. More melanin definitely slows the process down, but cells still get damaged.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 05:22 AM
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Aging is very dependent on diet and epigenetics. Poor people have poor diets. Mice on bad diets affect their offspring for up to 11 generations. So your tack is invalid. Aging has multiple factors.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 05:07 AM
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That’s the thing, white suburban/rural America isn’t standard, y’all are aging worse than most parts of the world and certainly worse than most of the first world and a good swath of even the third world. Nobody looks bad at 30 but for people who have horrible diets and lifestyles. Only the extremely poor in very poor countries age worse.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 05:00 AM
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Lol look at his videos. He looks the same. Abs and all. Diet is the biggest thing. Avoid sugar. Don’t drink too much. Eat your greens.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 04:44 AM
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Its 40 bucks a floor in an expensive city, that’s not bad if you use it to catch up with overall cleaning
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 04:00 AM
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I seriously sometimes can’t figure out if people on here are joking about people not looking their age or 30+ looking aged. Kevin Samuels looks 55-56 and that’s his actual age, it makes me wonder if people think the wall is a universal thing because they’ve literally never seen actual healthy/nonwhite people aging normally or aging well past 40 This is aging well for a black person: https://hips.hearstapps.com/hmg-prod.s3.amazonaws.com/images/hlh110120cvrnovember-002-1601413615.png Lenny Kravitz…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 03:33 AM
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Ugh no. If you think that’s good look up Lenny Kravitz. Guy is 57. He was 56 in this photo. https://hips.hearstapps.com/hmg-prod.s3.amazonaws.com/images/hlh110120cvrnovember-002-1601413615.png The only reason people think Kevin Samuels looks good might be if you think in unhealthy white people terms of aging. For POC Samuels looks bad. He looks his age which is 56.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 03:24 AM
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He looks bad and black men generally age very well. Lenny Kravitz is a year older and looks half his age. Idk where people live that that guy looks good. He looks 55.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 03:21 AM
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Nah, most working couples who can now just get a cleaner
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 03:18 AM
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Idk why you associate discomfort with suffering. High performers work hard daily, I wouldn’t call it suffering unless they’re in a bad role
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 06:10 PM
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Not being comfortable isn’t suffering.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 05:47 PM
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Finance guys are not only snappy dressers but their homes are (usually) amazing. I used to go out on dates with someone like this in his early 30s and his taste was impeccable. Could have landed in GQ and everything from his linens to home accessories reflected thought and sophistication. It gave off the vibe of someone much more worldly than 33. As you said in another comment the narrative is important. I think it does depend on the field as well. Tech guys aren’t anywhere near as good at this,…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 04:21 PM
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I wear makeup and don’t break the 15-20 hour mark because I get microblading and sometimes lashes done. You can easily do zoom meetings just with a little tinted moisturizer and a lip tint if you invest in microblading. The brows make your face not look like you’re sick or just rolled out of bed. It’s all about investing in things to make time, which does take a little money. Hair is the big one since it takes about an hour to dry and fully style even if you get it blown out. I estimate without …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 04:10 PM
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Idk you could be a rich kid who had everything from his parents
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 01:37 PM
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What lol. No. Sacrifice makes something more precious than when you’re a trust fund kid who just had it handed to you
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 01:37 PM
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Honestly I wouldn’t care if I wasn’t his best sex partner so long as he was ecstatic and happy with the sex he had with me. I’d feel better if she were hot and a sex goddess since that means he doesn’t find me bad either. If his exes are all ugly and bad at sex I’d worry. Men should probably think about it this way
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 07:25 AM
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That’s not the point. Easy to get people who encourage complacency are bad for personal growth. If you love yourself you’d be with someone who urges you to be better
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 02:04 AM
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Anal should only happen if the guy lets her also do butt stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 02:03 AM
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Generally I’ve found high value folk tend to be in a state of growth and expect the same of their partners. If the person is too easy to be with and doesn’t nudge you out of your comfort zone it may be because they’re complacent and also encourage that same complacency in you. It doesn’t mean ease of communication and chemistry at all, which is important
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 02:02 AM
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Who wants someone easy to get if you know how easy he or she is?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 02:00 AM
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If you want a high level high value partner some discomfort is necessary as with anything high value or difficult in life.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 01:13 AM
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^ this
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 01:11 AM
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Lmao not in a fucking healthy way. Why are people so psycho If you want constant drama sure
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 12:20 AM
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That’s not going to do any good. Unless you want someone going crazy on you.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 12:01 AM
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Dread doesn’t work on secure people because secure people aren’t afraid of being dumped/have strong boundaries. They’d dump someone who tried dread
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 11:32 PM
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Look up anxious attachment
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 10:04 PM
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Both groups had higher rates of divorce, but the lowest rate was found among those with between three and nine premarital partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 08:52 AM
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Yeah but my link literally says the lowest divorce rates are for women 3-9 They have better outcomes than women with 2
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 07:33 AM
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https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-new-resilience/201606/do-women-more-premarital-partners-get-divorced-less
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 06:27 AM
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Healthy women don’t give a crap about trying to make their partner jealous
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 05:47 AM
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Not according to other papers
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 05:44 AM
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Dunno if this is a left wing thing. But the sweet spot is apparently around 3. Not 0.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/08/21 12:40 AM
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That’s not the point. https://qz.com/work/1812980/high-income-people-in-the-us-keep-marrying-each-other/ The men I know are seeking high performers. My own partner would not likely date anyone making less than six figures due to incompatibility. This isn’t just about money
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 02:58 PM
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They do. In fact the men in my field care a lot. None of them would date a barista
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 02:37 PM
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There are tons of millionaires that fit this bill in the coastal cities. Very few are dating 22 year olds at 30. Their friends would find that shit weird In my friends circles we have a few. And no none of them are dating early 20s women. That’s like someone already raking in a low to mid six figure income dating someone on their first or second job. It doesn’t happen
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 01:04 PM
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Rollo is also a fraud basically living the sort of life he preaches against
/r/PurplePillDebate27/08/21 04:55 AM
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The data indicates that the longest most stable marriages are with educated and high income women. If men can find someone like that they should vet if she’s a good partner
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 11:02 PM
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The reason you gave isn’t the reason why sexually successful women aren’t impressive It’s because men have low sexual standards and will have sex with anything that moves
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 02:22 PM
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People who want a stable marriage and low incidence of cheating in today’s society. Basically everyone
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 01:39 PM
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Trad women are not safer when highly educated/high income women tend to have longer marriages and divorce less. Low to no income spouses also cheat more
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 01:37 PM
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HVM do not need dread. If you need it then you’re not alpha enough or respected.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 01:36 PM
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You are very lucky then, but most men can’t tell the diff between a real one and a fake one, and the fake ones these days are what we tend to run into
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 01:19 PM
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No, they are not. You were already disproven in that other thread
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 01:19 PM
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They are trad, they don’t believe themselves to be gold diggers since they actually “love” the man but they don’t love him for him. They love the idea of him being a baby making provider who gives them a house, kids and a life they’ve been dreaming of since they were young. Of course female strength isn’t the same, but from an early age (I was raised by a woman boss of a mother) I’ve seen what womanly strength is like.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 01:18 PM
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We covered this already in a separate thread and the women with higher education and income tended to still divorce the least of all demographics.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 01:16 PM
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Highly educated high income women tend to divorce the least actually. So it’s kind of ironic but yeah, if you want to not get divorce raped get an educated woman with high income as they have the longest marriages. Also spouses with no or lower income tend to cheat more https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/wonk/wp/2015/06/04/the-curious-relationship-between-how-much-married-people-make-and-how-likely-they-are-to-cheat/ Remember women don’t usually cheat just for sex but emotional connection.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 01:09 PM
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Lmao or she’s securely attached and healthy and recognizes when someone is trying to manipulate her
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 01:09 PM
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Someone in between who has healthy attachment, enough independence and self respect that she doesn’t want to make you a lackey and walking wallet/won’t manipulate you into marriage or kids. Those things tend to exist more in women who aren’t waiting for some guy to make their goals happen
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 01:03 PM
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Not talking about cluster B types. Trad women tend to be boring at sex
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 01:01 PM
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Most women aren’t either type and fall somewhere in between. I think the “liberal strong career woman” is a boogeyman partly conjured up by stereotypes and men’s negative experiences with women, that drives them to seek these anxious manipulative hyper-feminine types when at the end what men should vet for is a good partner. Men shouldn’t be afraid of female strength, that’s what’s going to help him hold a marriage together.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 01:00 PM
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It literally gives levels of dread in the RP sidebar or used to. And no, it advocated giving “warnings” then successively more severe measures
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 12:56 PM
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It’s not just him lol. My partner had almost the exact same experience with an ex. Most people with significant relationship or marriage exp. know someone like this. It’s pretty easy to guess why a woman with these traits would see a man as a means to get what she wanted rather than a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 12:54 PM
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The “sweet” ones we’ve encountered tend to be women that their partners regret getting stuck with. I haven’t encountered this mythical unicorn at all. It’s funny because IME the women who tend to spoil their men, are truly nice/sweet people, and are feminine all have careers and rule the roost at home. Which is why I tell guys to run the other way if she comes off as being too submissive and nice. Most men are really easy to deceive with this.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 12:51 PM
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Only they do lol. Especially the trad kind.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 12:45 PM
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Do your friends not talk to you about their relationship problems? We had a guy friend who confessed he hated the sex so much/didn’t desire her that he preferred fapping And lol no, you clearly haven’t seen what being with a woman like that does to a man. They’re usually miserable to the point of being suicidal. Why wouldn’t they be when their spare waking moments are filled with screaming kids, a woman they’re not attracted to, debt/lack of spare money, her nagging and wanting to take expensive…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 12:42 PM
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The thing I often don’t get with the female “ideal” being outlined by many of the men here is that I’ve seen examples of this ideal in the wild and they’re usually terrible for men. Manipulative “sweet submissive” Stepford wives who starfish during sex, aren’t very educated or high income so they tend to fall into the more frequent divorce side of the spectrum, and will take you to the cleaners because of lack of said income. I have an inherent distrust of “sweet” trad women as I’ve known many o…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 12:22 PM
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Dread game is a red pill concept where the man “keeps his wife on her toes” by obliquely making her fear losing him or fear him cheating. Only anxious women tend to be susceptible to this. Healthily attached secure women would dump anyone who tried this So in short RP tends to select for non-healthy partners
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 12:12 PM
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RP also advocates for dread which only works for anxiously attached types. So you have women whose only real goals in life are to have kids, have no greater spark, are anxious, are often lacking in imagination. IME these women are also extremely manipulative, drama prone, unsexy, emotionally fragile and boring af. As many of them lack education or ambition they also don’t have solid income, so you’re a prime target for divorce rape. They also tend to be less fit than their more disciplined and d…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 11:57 AM
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I think I’m a good person with a trollish streak
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 09:18 AM
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Okc is probably crap now, it was already on the decline when we deleted our profiles
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 09:17 AM
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Even if they weren’t they have generally average features I think
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 09:15 AM
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Hella tall hot athletic finance and tech guys. Met my guy off there. I only occasionally have seen men on my friends’ tinder and hinge matches/searches like this
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 05:20 AM
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No way, my guy friends love Hinge and they aren’t into fatties. I saw their matches and they were almost always attractive, classy ltr material and these are gym going fit guys Hinge used to populate its matches using fb friends of friends, which is why most young professionals who used fb login tended to have people similar to them. The people who had bad matches tended to be among that type in their social media circles or didn’t use fb login iirc
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 04:50 AM
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You have to be in a big city imo. My rating ranking of people was 2014-2016 Okc > Hinge > Bumble = Coffee Meets Bagel > Tinder > everything else > PoF/Zoosk
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 04:48 AM
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You probably aren’t on the looksmaxxing subs or haven’t seen the pics posted there. There are definitely 8+ women
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 04:47 AM
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above average #1 two three average average two
/r/PurplePillDebate26/08/21 04:44 AM
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Nah, they’ve shown high income men care about income
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 07:22 PM
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Your average pleb in Rome did not have the luxury of knowing for certain they wouldn’t starve or fall prey to disease. Famines contributed to the fall of the Roman Empire. Your average person back then couldn’t just “hunger strike” and be sure of any change then be accorded medical attention. The fact we can do this attests to the luxuries we enjoy in the modern world as opposed to the ancient world. Quite likely nothing would have changed.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 01:58 AM
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Lmaoooo My partner is basically the same but I share some of the funnier stuff with him
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 01:51 AM
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I don’t even know who you are, funny how someone is this bothered to keep track of me lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 01:47 AM
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Are you seriously equating long term starvation with hunger strikes lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/08/21 01:45 AM
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I don’t think men would have starved when they themselves resorted to plunder to survive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 09:10 PM
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Men lie about their age more than women do IME. Legit had someone who looked like he could be my uncle show up and he said he was 37 on his profile. Dude looked 55 at least. The pic was of a tanned lean surfer type. I look back at it now and wonder if he used his pics from college
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 08:54 PM
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No, but the women in my circles tend to be capable of getting HVM. The ones that can’t tend to stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 02:17 AM
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No, but the women in my circles tend to be capable of getting HVM. The ones that can’t tend to stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 02:16 AM
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I got the figure but not the Ds. Sorry, you’ll have to ask someone else
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 02:10 AM
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Nah. We have similar standards, he’s actually more ocd than me on that
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 01:56 AM
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It’s the opposite for me, laundry is such a big pile to do and dishes are easily managed and put away
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 01:55 AM
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Idc if he doesn’t cook, but I’m also bringing a substantial income to the table. As such I expect him to do his share of cleaning
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 01:54 AM
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Wear it like a badge of honor (Tip - you can block those messages)
/r/PurplePillDebate24/08/21 01:45 AM
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Tbh I’ve met both very attractive and very unattractive men in STEM. Maybe because the stereotype mostly applies to the introverted kind. Is it a matter of numbers? Who knows Dolph Lundgren was a 6’5” beast with a Fulbright scholarship to MIT and a masters in chemical engineering, and this was years before all this lookist stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 07:26 AM
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Here’s an example of what I mean https://www.inc.com/jeff-haden/attractive-people-are-smarter-science-says-but-maybe-thats-due-to-how-we-treat-them.html But yeah I don’t think it’s incorrect. Can’t say for sure though. Wealthy folk also tend to be more attractive and have leverage in seeking attractive partners, could be that the correlation is partly due to that. Richer people are also more educated and tend to have higher cognitive ability In short beauty might be an advantage/resource sought …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 07:11 AM
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Huh, so I’m not the only one who noticed this. There’s likely correlations with physical ability and this though. I think it’s not PC to recognize it but there were correlates between attractiveness and intelligence. Whether this comes from genetics or encouragement being given to more attractive children, thereby making for an environment conducive to learning, isn’t really clear. Likely some bias in our perception as well though.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 04:18 AM
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You realize you’re the one who posted these Ana obsession threads to chat right
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 03:58 AM
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You can try and psychologize stuff all you want but it’s Reddit I’m bi and have prefs on women too. Ana is not it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 03:56 AM
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Not bothered, I really don’t think she’s hot at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 03:53 AM
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I mean if some guy is so mad that he has to run around copy pasting survey links to prove that men find Ana de armas is hotter than Gal Gadot I don’t think I’m the mad one lol
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 03:49 AM
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I literally gave them a couple of examples of women I thought were hotter lol. They’re just super simps
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 03:48 AM
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Yeah, but I’m laughing rl. Try suggesting some other actress is hotter. I did and they lost their shit
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 03:47 AM
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It doesn’t, I’m just trolling lol and they’re getting really upset :p
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 03:45 AM
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I’m just bored. The guy is claiming everyone should find Ana hot and is basically her super fan or something Dude probably is the type to pay for OF
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 03:43 AM
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Never seen it outside of some random online threads tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 03:38 AM
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I didn’t, I check and reload the chat thread for amusement Delusion is strong
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 03:37 AM
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No one cares dude. I’m bored and waiting for my dinner. You just opened yourself to trolling. I’m waiting for some prime material from our regulars 🍿
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 03:35 AM
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Maybe but if you’re in a place like Scandinavia it might be. It’s mostly contextual. Some women like big muscular guys, others don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 01:58 AM
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Not really. High T and aggression are detrimental to prosocial behavior So basically cooperation and social awareness are things that are negatively impacted by T
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 01:55 AM
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I mean suffering a little is one thing but this example is absurd if it’s choosing between eating and starvation isn’t it What’s a better metaphor?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 01:52 AM
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Picking lower t guys does not mean picking socially awkward men Plenty of lower t men with solid social skills who are also reasonably attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 01:48 AM
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🤣
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 01:45 AM
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Women tend to pick guys with lower T in more advanced economies
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 01:37 AM
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I don’t think that kind of thing was anything but a luxury during those times. Rome had to rely on grain imports or starve
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 01:33 AM
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Bone structure and symmetry like that is very rare and usually isn’t a creation of surgery. She’s posted no makeup photos and her younger pics are gorgeous. Even if she has stuff done can’t really deny she has the genes. Body is amazingly proportioned too (I don’t really mean just her boobs, but the legs and hips)
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 01:26 AM
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Yeah, I don’t get it. I’ve seen much more attractive women just randomly around the city. Seen her in movies and such and she’s attractive but not really all that
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 01:20 AM
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I don’t hate her, there are just a lot of better looking women than her and you will literally see them all over in real life in a city like LA. And no, Summer’s beauty isn’t just because of her makeup. Her face and teeth are almost flawless
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 01:12 AM
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Not coping. He also isn’t into bug eyed pale women with no hips lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 12:55 AM
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She isn’t hot…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 12:39 AM
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I’m lucky and can orgasm from deep PIV hehe
/r/PurplePillDebate23/08/21 12:04 AM
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It’s okay, good position for hitting the g spot. Favorite is spooning on the side though with one leg bent back over his thigh.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 11:56 PM
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Lol idk about that. Many of my friends are in interracial relationships. Not just white and Asian either. Generally the theory extends only to attachment style and affection/love we received from caregivers being similar
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 12:33 PM
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Successful adults were too busy studying and building their careers to be doing serious mate hunting and getting married especially if they’re immigrants. My demographic is UMC, so most are college educated or postgrad, with a sizeable number of immigrants. Most of the ones who met matches early did so in college, but even then wait to get married. The rest of us worked on our education and careers first. I know of plenty of 26 year olds who are too busy to even meet people for sex but are makin…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 12:29 PM
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No, my observations are current. Lol… I haven’t lost touch with my friends, what the heck? Do you not have friends who post to their IG and social media? I know who my friends are dating or sleeping with. Real dating doesn’t really start till after 24-25 anyway. Everything before then is practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 12:17 PM
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Women 26-44, now, mostly UMC, US. The only common thing is that the men are not obese or overweight (I know of maybe only one friend couple where the man was a bit overweight). Short, tall, muscular, skinny, all ethnicities, from tatted yogi types to clean cut finance guys. So the only common thing was that the men tended to be fit, but most the people I know are.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 11:44 AM
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I observed the opposite. The women I know are with men that span a wide range in terms of appearance, same with the men they have casual flings with
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 11:37 AM
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I think her sexual interest and enthusiasm, readiness to communicate and eagerness to spend time in your company are good tells. Even independent women tend to want to stick to someone they’re really into.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 10:20 AM
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Yeah. I don’t get men who don’t think that far ahead either.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 08:14 AM
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I want to recommend a cult classic war movie called the Beast, set in the Soviet-Afghan conflict. Saw it on HBO or something some time ago, great movie
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 04:54 AM
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It’s hard when those men encounter gorgeous, intelligent, dynamic and accomplished women who fit their new lives better than the first wife/gf. The ideal scenario is that she keeps up with his growth (finishes her education, gets some income of her own, glows up). This way she doesn’t hold him back. If the genders were reversed people would be telling her to dump her partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 04:46 AM
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It’s just self preservation in this day and age, tbh. It becomes more paramount if you have a successful partner. I think it’s nice and idealistic when a couple has the kind of love that endures but if one’s self aware it becomes apparent that choosing to pair up with someone successful means being in a growth state is not optional.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 04:44 AM
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Why you don’t just sit around improving someone else’s life. Where’s the self improvement on her end? I’m just staggered sometimes at the lack of awareness in these stories, there was time when he was getting more successful that it MUST have occurred to her she couldn’t keep up and he’d be meeting gorgeous and accomplished women in exotic locales that she wouldn’t compare well to if she didn’t step up her game. Absurd
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 04:08 AM
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Attractiveness as people yea but aesthetics and features wise the models are hotter
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 01:00 AM
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Hm. I think Evans is more attractive but I like clean cut dudes. I think the 9s and 10s tend to be random fitness/fashion models on IG though, we tend to pick actors because they have a distinct and appealing look not just for pure aesthetics
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/21 12:11 AM
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What about younger Chris Evans
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 11:38 PM
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One of the biggest tells of social class and income is health and how educated/informed they are. I once asked my bf how he could tell a woman was wealthier if she wore the same things as someone on a lower income, and pointed out her health, skin and general fitness was a good indicator. Generally people who save on everything else are loath to scrimp on healthy lifestyles since health is your most crucial life investment. People on lower incomes tend to be more stressed, and it’s been shown th…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 03:19 AM
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A lot of the guys here seem to be barely out of their early 20s tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate21/08/21 01:34 AM
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My guy doesn’t care, but I’ve heard men talk about it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 11:30 PM
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Someone just said it was bad on this thread lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 10:59 PM
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Or find someone self aware, honest and who is into you for real. Higher chances of that among women in their 30s who are smart/career oriented but the men in this sub don’t want that lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 08:52 PM
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Except I’ve heard men note when women have cellulite.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 08:49 PM
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It’s mostly genetics + work. I had abs fine for years. So did my male sibling. We didn’t do anything crazy. American diets are also not conducive to low body fat
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 08:47 PM
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No. My take is these women deluded themselves that they were actually attracted to these men and likely weren’t in the first place. And yes, I find that bizarre as hell but so many accounts of that exist I don’t doubt it at all. My observations of how women actually date are at odds with how incel/RP see it though. They think women settle while lusting after Chad. The reality is many women aren’t in touch enough with their own desires to know what they are, find something appealing about a reall…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 08:45 PM
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Except men don’t usually get cellulite and that stuff is like on 80-90% of women
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 08:36 PM
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Income matters, I just don’t care if I’m making more beyond a certain point. Dominance is not something all women are turned on by. It’s mostly meh for me. I find controlling and dominant men a huge turnoff. He doesn’t need to be assertive with someone who wrangles teams of often stubborn high income males all day. Someone more agreeable, affectionate and pleasant is much nicer to be with at the end of my workday. I don’t need yet another male presuming to make decisions for me at home. He can b…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 08:23 PM
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Paying for this always seemed kind of stupid and simpy to me
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 11:13 AM
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Thanks. But apparently these expectations are too high even if my guy meets them/I meet them since I got downvoted to heck lol
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 11:11 AM
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I already have one, he exceeds my expectations as far as fitness, income, self discipline etc. I don’t require that men be dominant and much prefer men who are passionate, have their own opinions, but prefer to collaborate with women and regards his partner as an equal that he is willing to accept influence from. I expect him to be capable of guiding me in areas where he’s better and expect him to defer to my judgement where I’m better. I notice many straight men have difficulties accepting the …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 03:41 AM
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This isn’t true at all and seems overblown from reading too much about niche online communities and women who go on Kevin Samuels show I know what I offer and require a dude on my level, as do most women I know
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 03:27 AM
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Make no mistake I think porn is destructive to both men and women. I’m just not all up in arms to abolish it since people can do what they want
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 02:39 AM
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Not so much unless he had death grip issues and a porn addiction/it has to be a thing he’s watching regularly. I’m high libido and I’d be pretty annoyed if he had performance issues because of it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 01:23 AM
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I’m not fond of porn and can confirm it’s not because of insecurity. I’m against relying on it in relationships as it affects your perceiving your partner as more desirable and saps your sexual energy. If he glances at a porn clip maybe once every few months I don’t care, but men tend to rely on it way too much and become dysfunctional. Refer to nofap guys in marriages and relationships and most of them have testified their relationships improved without it
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/21 01:17 AM
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Porn actors have problems getting jobs and getting partners who don’t work in porn. I met two guys who were Chads and had trouble dating decent women because of this I’d say there’s a penalty you pay for any kind of sex work and that includes income hits
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 11:39 PM
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You’re lucky
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 11:38 PM
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That’s kind of steep tbh. You can get a room (for students) of your own in part of the city for that and this city is insane for rent
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 11:37 PM
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Many are Asian, but some white women who are on the darker side (Mediterranean complexion)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 09:24 PM
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That seems more of a low income or middle class thing. The couple being talked about likely aren’t middle class or low income.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 07:44 PM
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Maybe for regular middle class America but she doesn’t sound middle class to me. These wives are usually doing Pilates and yoga AND Barry’s and their husbands look like mush. Also in couples like these they may have started out close but the woman is usually 1-2 points higher in the looks scale. That tiny difference is not kind as men age Also, these women usually don’t want to remarry. There’s been some literature on this that men actually prefer to remarry while women do not
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 06:17 PM
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I’ve seen pretty hot women stay hot without it. Only the very top/fit guys seem to maintain it well into their marriages, likely because they commit to fitness as a lifestyle. Most of the time they age a lot faster and are balding with a gut while their wives still turn other men’s heads There’s a meme about a couple who both say they’re 34 while the guy looks 50 and the woman looks 24
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 06:13 PM
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This is what I’ve been saying of straight men. RPers hamstering about the wall have likely never seen how these guys decline in their marriages
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 05:57 PM
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They don’t say anything anyway for the most part except “study and make money”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 06:54 AM
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Just 2, as most people will hold differing opinions on this based on personal experience
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/21 05:17 AM
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It’s a thought exercise. Just because you’re childfree doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be capable of imagining how the next generation should or shouldn’t be educated. It’s less about kids and more about what you’ve learned
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 01:54 PM
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They will cheat and say biology made them do it because they need variety. How about you stay single then guy
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/08/21 12:48 PM
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Yeah Asians are sink or swim. They don’t care until it comes to actually approving your partner and they should be educated and making money
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 08:01 AM
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Don’t think the women would care if they have robots as well
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 06:04 AM
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Asian
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 05:40 AM
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Lol my parents told me nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/21 02:29 AM
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I’ve done it to someone who tried to message me on an app.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 07:47 PM
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I don’t think that’s the case. I happen to have a pretty formally trained eye for aesthetics and have been around beautiful people quite a bit/seen numerous examples of humans in the buff for artistic purposes. There are some quite beautiful men but they are remarkably few depending on where you go. Most men’s features just aren’t that pleasing and they don’t have “pleasing curves” to fall back on. When I look at a person as an art or photography subject I’m not really seeing their gender as muc…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 04:43 AM
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I’m on here mostly out of niche interest and it’s fun and addictive, but no way do I take the tenets here so seriously that I apply them in any meaningful way in real life. Some observations are useful sure, but I feel most of what’s here may do you more harm than good
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 03:19 AM
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I’m attracted more to men than women as a bi person but still see women as more attractive as a gender, the number of attractive men is just much less imo
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 02:57 AM
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Read up on Spain and how they destroyed indigenous gender relations to institute rigid patriarchal dynamics and Catholicism. The weepy submissive chaste kept woman/housewife wasn’t something natives came up with. In some accounts the natives were depicted as loose and immoral and the women running around “having sex freely.” Was too easy for the Spaniards to frame it as civilizing a primitive country While in the Americas I doubt they were as egalitarian as in Southeast Asia they were definitely…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 02:08 AM
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Except for some countries where colonialism brought more sexist values, tbh. Europeans were not better on this front back then Women enjoyed equal status in parts of Asia and the ability to divorce, own property, be clan chiefs, participate actively in trade etc. Westerners took that away
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 01:53 AM
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Just eating less makes you skinny fat
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 01:34 AM
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Think this was written up by Satoshi Kanazawa
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 01:33 AM
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In studies where the entire group including women rated each individual the women were rated more attractive. The last one I posted here indicated “natural beauty”, so no makeup
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 01:32 AM
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We don’t? What, no. Cultures where women are second class citizens don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/21 01:30 AM
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Cry in a bad or good way?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 03:10 PM
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What I’m reading indicates that it’s high income women who are being married by high income guys. Basically women who are either high net worth, high income, or both, and educated tend to marry more and stay married. They might not be primary or solo breadwinners but these men are gaining another breadwinner. All this bs narrative about how men are not marrying wealthier women is just seeking to bring women down to “marriageable” levels for lower earning, lower status men, when their income is a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 02:38 PM
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Most people seem to within 1-2 points of each other though women seem to compromise more on looks in this regard. Women obviously need to offer more to partners who are high value.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 01:59 PM
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I mean, how is what I said incongruent with your experience if they’re not matching with you or are with likely more attractive guys These women have no lack of options and it’s likely you aren’t a blip on their radar in a sea of suitors
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 01:40 PM
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It’s been a trend that economists have been following for a while now. Refer to Quartz, Quillette and the Brookings Institute for articles that break the findings down. Assortative mating is making class inequality more pronounced
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 11:30 AM
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I like picnics at beautiful beaches/overlooks or the like where the guy plans and prepares the food and wine. It’s really romantic and you guys get to relax and enjoy the scenery. And you can tell what kind of a guy he is by the effort he puts in the planning and food. We’d go on quite a few of these and just watch the water and relax on a blanket on the grass. Just make sure it’s not super secluded or away from the public eye.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 10:46 AM
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Marriage isn’t just about money, otherwise the UMC wouldn’t be marrying either. It’s about raising children in an ideal environment. And no, I said what I said. We aren’t talking about the 1% https://washingtonmonthly.com/magazine/maraprmay-2016/why-is-marriage-thriving-among-and-only-among-the-affluent/
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 10:32 AM
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Older women often have insane sex drives that younger men can satisfy while their older husbands don’t. This is why there’s so much pop culture around milfs, cougars, the wealthy woman and her pool boy. Women like them strong, young and virile too.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 10:16 AM
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Wealthier women are doing pretty well marriage wise compared to the rest. Only segment not declining in marriage rates, so OP is incorrect
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 10:05 AM
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The data doesn’t lie though. You guys can keep theorycrafting soft/pop psych it all you want but the numbers say the following: 1) men are increasingly marrying their own social class and income class, more so than in previous decades, and that trend is rising. A top tier woman has more than three times the chances of marrying a man from her income class than from lower deciles of income 2) higher income/class women are basically the only group that are continuing to marry at similar rates while…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 08:56 AM
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Seems contradictory to the data that currently shows it’s the upper class that is overwhelmingly the driver of marriage compared to lower class women
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 08:30 AM
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Never marry or LTR a man who 1) doesn’t match your libido 2) doesn’t think you’re the most amazing ever or act intensely passionate and affectionate to you. Men who are lukewarm in their sexual feelings about their partner are often cheaters or are secretly carrying a torch for an ex they’re comparing you to in their head. These men will say they love you but fantasize about other women and think it doesn’t matter because “they luv yoo.” Men accuse us of hamstering but the grade a bullshit that …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/08/21 08:26 AM
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One of the studies usually referenced on women being more objective than men when rating attractiveness. In it it says more intelligent women tend to be more critical/selective when it comes to attractiveness. Is this something you’ve noticed irl?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 02:43 AM
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I’ll be blunt, but if you aren’t capable of finding someone like this in the top 10% of looks it means you may not be physically attractive enough. Attractive and brainy folk tend to date their looksmatch even with income thrown in. It’s been shown smart women are the most selective with looks. If there’s a bit of a looks disparity the guy is usually quite a bit wealthier
/r/PurplePillDebate16/08/21 02:04 AM
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Yeah, same here regarding guys
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 11:47 PM
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Those aren’t orbiters. Orbiters are women who cling to taken guys over a long time, are usually their friends
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 11:39 PM
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Sending this to the bf as he likes long islands
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 03:59 AM
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Yeah no
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 09:21 PM
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If they were with a normal guy they wouldn’t be insecure. They’d be happy and stable. Even women who aren’t aware usually detect when their man is cheating or something is wrong Cheaters blame everyone else when it’s their fault their partner is acting the way they are
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 08:02 PM
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I mean haven’t you said you’re ok with cheating They’re not being jealous they’re reacting to the fact their guy doesn’t tell women off
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 05:00 PM
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It’s common in my area because 1) the women tend to be high income and selective 2) there are a lot of very talented high income guys to choose from so he has to compete with all of them
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 06:12 AM
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They’re orbiters if the dude is monogamous imo. And extremely annoying. This girl was hyper delusional about herself and kept hitting on my bf, inviting him to like her lingerie page and insulting me/trying to “tell” him about my behavior. She must have been a 3 or a 4 and was quite overweight. Bf is very attractive. It was pretty cringe Just straight up delusional. They’re often like this. I’ve never really run into actual attractive women being orbiters.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 05:59 AM
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Isn’t it exactly the same though? Just saw this post from a 30+ guy saying his 25 year old gf did not want to marry or settle down and he couldn’t find women his age interested in anything but sex. Saw a ton of posts like this locally on an app. Not all men who fuck are commitment worthy. The highest tier imo are AF that girls do want to settle down with because they’re not only attractive but emotionally stable and desirable enough for commitment. (Like Chris Hemsworth)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 05:47 AM
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Ugh. The middle aged women hitting on my bf at work were extremely cringe. He’d gently remind them to stay on track by bringing up work subjects during 1 on 1 zoom calls whenever they strayed off topic to flirt. It was extremely embarrassing and I don’t know what they would have done if they’d realized his partner was overhearing all their cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 05:44 AM
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Most of the stem nerds who are doing the work honestly have no problem getting laid. That stereotype is dated
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 03:55 AM
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Men who are top of their EQ and social game are leaders. Is that submissive
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 03:45 AM
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The emphasis would be mostly on personality, intellect, niche tastes, social status, income and talent then imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 02:53 AM
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Men also complain that they can’t find someone to settle down with despite having fwb options. It’s not believable to people without options but it happens often
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 01:42 AM
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We do have to deal with female orbiters. Your guy just has to be attractive enough. It’s usually worse if he has female friends interested vs male orbiters with women as in the latter the women are not open to dating orbiters or have any interest in them Have to say though I agree with some posters on this thread, many of them are crazy and are somehow deluded they’re attractive and can “steal” someone’s guy For some reason the worst offenders are short chubby women
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 01:03 AM
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Maybe they’re not really into the bar and dating social scene.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 12:29 AM
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Yeah I agree on the likelihood of that being slim. Better to have someone at least like you somewhat for sex. Aiming for AF just seems like a waste of time
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 07:13 PM
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Then what I’m saying that most men are not going to get AF energy is correct. I’ve seen how women treat AF guys. They go up to them and hit on them all the time in bars and some literally follow them around asking for their number. Most men are simply not good looking enough to get that
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 07:10 PM
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Just one girl seeking you for sex is not AF. The meaning of AF is easy access and abundance of sex and sexual options Basically, the man is desired by women
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:46 PM
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You’re more accurate in this assessment than others saying otherwise. Just regular sex or being desired for sex is not AF. It’s when multiple women think you’re the best sexual option and you are desired for sex routinely by women in general. Not just one woman
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:44 PM
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Even without obesity most males are not 8s, 9s and 10s.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:42 PM
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Almost all of them tend to eventually. Even the wealthy ones. Just speaking from observation. The top 1% of men in looks are almost always in relationships or seeking them, the ones that don’t are outliers
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:39 PM
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I don’t really agree. Just getting regular sex is not AF. The men who have the genetic potential for this are few.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:38 PM
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Anglo, then, as the importance of appearance and putting your best foot forward is emphasized elsewhere
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:36 PM
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I feel like this is American specific
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:23 PM
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Plenty of people still need each other and find relationships, else no one would be trying. I also don’t think most guys can be AF.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:10 PM
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It’s funny that generally the men aspiring to be the first guy generally aren’t the ones who can easily get there and the AF dudes often want to settle down eventually
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:01 PM
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Yes, but this is also true of looks as most major coastal cities tend to attract fit attractive people. They’re just inherently more competitive due to wealth/looks and population density Moving is probably the best thing a above average guy could do for his chances if he’s doing everything else right and not having much luck
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 05:15 PM
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Not in places where multimillionaires are running around yes. It’s just a matter of how much someone has in a given area
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 05:03 PM
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Men can still compensate with finances and/or status currently
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 04:49 PM
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You can only really verify these assertions if set B were to have more relationships. Avoidant tendencies do not go away just because someone isn’t successful at relationships. Attachment styles are more the result of upbringing and trauma than relationship experience. Guys with absent father issues are going to have the same issues with commitment regardless of which set they belong to.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 03:56 PM
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Mostly inexperienced and unwise women. Inexperienced and unwise men commit similar mistakes as well. Like going for women who are a libido mismatch, marrying someone who’s not really into them and forgiving cheaters. Human judgement isn’t that great.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 03:53 PM
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Imagine there are two sets of guys, A) men who easily get relationships and B) men who don’t. Both sets have men with issues. Aka red flag havers. The only men being talked about here by women are the ones they have relationships with, which are red flag havers from set A. Set B might have as many men with red flags but we don’t know about them because women don’t date them enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 03:01 PM
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My point is that he’s implying women are picking these guys over the rest who struggle when it’s just bias in action.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 02:45 PM
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If I know cheaters like this they convince the gf that they have a different social media account or no IG at all while flirting with a ton of women on the account they’ve not told her about. Always verify if he claims he doesn’t have an account or whether he spends time looking at his phone/social media when his account looks sparse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/08/21 02:30 PM
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Men with these red flags are a subset of people who don’t struggle with relationships otherwise they wouldn’t be reported by women. The ones not being reported are obviously fine These same red flags likely exist within the set of men that don’t have relationships. Just that there are no women to report them.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 02:15 PM
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Nope. Settling is less than satisfactory. The literal meaning of reaching a compromise is to satisfy while cutting away what’s unreachable or extraneous
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 01:27 PM
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I happen to have a very good grasp of nuanced vocabulary, thank you. settllng: accept or agree to (something that one considers to be less than satisfactory). compromise: A settlement by arbitration or by mutual consent reached by concession on both sides; a reciprocal abatement of extreme demands or rights, resulting in an agreement. We aren’t using compromise as an infinitive here referring to given standards, but as a noun. A compromise is when more extreme or unreachable standards or demands…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 01:24 PM
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I actually do not believe that. There are quite a number of instances of women favoring men with good genetics and intellect/talent so long as they were stable over someone wealthier but of inferior genetics. I am one of them who actively chose my partner over someone wealthier and while I’m fortunate that he is doing well in a society with income equality that would quite simply remove any leverage a wealthier man has.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 11:36 AM
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Physical attraction is not really rational. That’s your instinct right there. I’d argue that earnings are more logic based than attraction to intellect, humor and talent. We don’t tell ourselves that height, hotness, humor, intellect and talent are attractive qualities because they confer or imply high genetic quality we want to pass on to kids. We can easily say however that money attracts us due to a desire for stability or provisioning.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 11:11 AM
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Honestly, despite the bad rap it gets for the very bitter and anti-women types, I’ve had plenty of civil discussions with blackpill types for the reason they’re more willing to provide and look into proof
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 10:57 AM
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I don’t think they can. The first implies a lack of authentic attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 10:51 AM
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zero way to have a good mate I don’t think “mating” would be as much a concern as the main driver of monogamy is to form a family unit for resources and provisioning. Can you tell me why people would even mate anymore if robot childcare were abundant? Imo you’d see a revision of what a family is compromised of, I believe the nuclear family would not exist. Single women could easily get pregnant and raise kids on their own or within a community of other parents. This scenario would result in a to…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 10:25 AM
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What book(s) are you reading for the end of summer?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 10:01 AM
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Settling is going for someone you aren’t really into since you can’t find someone better. Compromise is when someone generally ticks most of your boxes but you’re fine with the ones they don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 09:47 AM
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Probably higher participation rate due to reduced risks for women. I’d say more of an inclination to nonmonogamy, but not necessarily sharing the top men. Loose “bubbles” or cliques might form where similarly attractive people would be having sex with each other in varying poly configurations. I don’t see much of place for monogamy in a setup like this one. Is there social pressure to be monogamous still?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 09:44 AM
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Mind control
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 09:30 AM
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If men could not compete based on income it would wholly be based on attraction. Which means the genetically gifted, intelligent or talented would be the sexual elite
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 09:18 AM
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I agree with the 2-3 rating. Think I’m 7.5-8
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 08:05 AM
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Meeting the right person. It’s just like incredible financial success. Most people who hit that income level will tell you about how much luck played a role
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 06:15 AM
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People underestimate the role of pure dumb luck in relationship outcomes
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 04:28 AM
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Well you did shit on established dietary guidelines which most doctors tend to follow.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 04:05 AM
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No, it’s not about degradation. It’s about being dishonest to force a desired outcome. A man would not need to manipulate or be deliberately misleading with their intentions if women actually wanted to have sex with them. That they do to urge these women to drop their guard is a classic example of using the sex positive narrative for their own benefit against women
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 04:02 AM
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You could use this argument to deconstruct and attempt to discredit anything, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 04:02 AM
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Would you not put your money on nutrition and longevity researchers know being generally more bankable than what a couple of doctors know though? And yeah that’s the problem re: the food pyramid etc. it takes a while before old established beliefs are replaced.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 04:00 AM
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Both. I’ve encountered “sex positive” men who were on obviously only encouraging it so they could get laid.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 03:00 AM
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Is it really pseudoscience if there’s already research on this though?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 02:59 AM
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Your opinion, but women being seen as less than people has some basis when it’s been shown men’s brains react to women the same way they react to tools when women are presented in a sexualized way.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 02:58 AM
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Don’t think sex should be avoided out of shame more than a concern it can be exploitative and dangerous. Selectivity and caution are mechanisms that exist for good reason
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 02:31 AM
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The doctors in my family don’t know a whole lot about nutrition, especially not nutrition that helps keep young and fit for longer, or combats age related decline and diseases He’s mostly right on this stuff, it’s not something being taught in the medical establishment but being currently studied by anti-aging researchers Methionine rich diets and IGF-1 are related to worse aging outcomes. Meaning high in protein/meat intake
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 02:26 AM
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Thanks for posting this, I’m a longevity/anti aging advocate and you’re on the money
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 02:24 AM
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People who get bored with monogamy either did not have solid expectations, did not do the due work required to maintain sexual connection and excitement, or married someone incompatible. Kids kill the libido faster than any kind of boredom does A little bit of stuff say like threesomes might be fun but poly and ENM also require more work.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 02:21 AM
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Who said anything about victimhood lol. You think encouraging the commodification of sex helps at all with seeing women as less of sex objects?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 02:08 AM
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I don’t even think that’s what they want, some of them are too lost in the sauce. I have a better sex life and experiences because of being more discerning and waiting on losing the v card. Less girls would be complaining imo if they were more careful with their decisions
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 01:42 AM
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Someone doesn’t have to be sex negative to see how sex positivity in a patriarchal framework doesn’t serve women and just encourages them to be exploited or make poor decisions
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 01:40 AM
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Why sex positive sorts are often toxic
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 12:26 AM
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Talking to people is part of the charm tbh. I had a great time looking at architecture, ruins and just listening to people’s stories. Or wandering around looking at/interacting with wildlife. Of the fishy or animal kind, ofc, not the local dudebros
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 04:29 PM
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IMO a lot of the women who argue size doesn’t matter haven’t discovered deep orgasms or can’t have them Once they do I have a very hard time imagining anyone would want that off their menu
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 03:01 PM
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Look at how Lenny Kravitz looks. Guy is 57
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 02:56 PM
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Family structures also differ by culture. For example mine is very family oriented but women have always worked and participated in public life especially the higher in rank they are or social class. We are expected to have careers/jobs. Not putting words in your mouth, just being factual.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 09:48 AM
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It’s usually subconscious, despite their best intentions. What people like this need isn’t a relationship it’s therapy
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 09:46 AM
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I think you’ll find that modern adults want to dismantle toxic institutions and expectations, not to discourage people from doing what they want. Gender roles also differ by culture, what’s harmful is when people expect someone to adhere to their cultural expectations of a gender role Like I mentioned how femininity does not equal submissiveness in many cultures
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 08:57 AM
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Women who do usually have been abused or neglected themselves in childhood. We tend to go for partners that resemble the kind of caretaking or love we experienced developmentally
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 08:55 AM
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Most mature adults do not care if people want gender roles for themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 08:36 AM
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Who is the dominant one between a lady and her consort? A queen and a knight? Dominance is also about rank and who calls the shots. Those things I mentioned are acts of service.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 08:32 AM
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Not really. Normal people don’t think twice about handing over their phones if they want their SO to check on something. The only shady dude I dated was uptight about his privacy to the point it was an inconvenience. Not surprising really
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 07:10 AM
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I’ve never encountered the “privacy” thing in men who were honest
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 03:41 AM
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She’s right tho. It’s not as bad as up here but it’s pretty much a given. And a ton of tech folk moved down there A freelancer in my field down there can make 300 an hour
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 03:29 AM
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Lol yeah. I wouldn’t want to date down there either.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 01:24 AM
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Visible minority culture vastly out-influences average majority culture, also this “hot minority” is a little more reachable/accessible to the average person than elsewhere in the country and also brings up the overall level I talk about models a lot because if you’re in the right area, field or just life circumstance here you run into them a lot. In LA you have them waitressing and bartending hoping to be the next big thing
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 01:20 AM
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A visible minority influences the majority culture, if not directing it
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 01:18 AM
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California has a high concentration of high earners AND hot people. And the hot people are often high earners too To the point that being a millionaire isn’t really impressive. You’ll run into them a lot at work and not know it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 01:05 AM
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LA is extremely competitive dating wise because despite the comparatively low % of hot and wealthy people there it does influence the dating standard considerably. Plus dating apps mean that LA’s hot single men are all in the same dating pool. Man is in for a rude awakening. We used to head down there to celebrate NYE or other occasions, the men are some of the hottest and most stylish in the country, even compared to NYC. It’s nice going to a nice restaurant or club and seeing the men put in ef…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 01:04 AM
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Know a lot of men who do for their own pref. Athletes and swimmers also. Partner likes it for himself
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 12:00 AM
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Ew, no. I have zero interest in the men my female circle has dated. They aren’t usually attractive to me anyway and even if they are I get a feeling of discomfort/disgust that my friend had banged them before
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 09:37 PM
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bad in bed don’t really find him physically attractive I would never get into a relationship with someone who I didn’t desire. Poor guy Marriage is a lifetime commitment, you can’t just try and make it work with someone you don’t want. That lack of desire is going to be obvious to him and the kid too eventually Both options suck
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 09:13 PM
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It’s amazing how many guys post about cheating here tbh, this is like the third dude who does regularly and hamsters all kinds of shit to justify anything related to it
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 07:52 PM
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This. Guys who are sketch about keeping their phone from you are usually hiding something.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 07:49 PM
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Not talking about guys like you, just the men who say women will be mad about sex bots
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 07:41 AM
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These guys seem to think that way. 🤷‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 07:36 AM
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Yeah think it was Absolute Boyfriend and some other Japanese and Korean comics
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 06:53 AM
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Having sex with and having one 24/7 is different :) Tell me for real, would an average woman with money choose a lazy, ungrateful husband who doesn’t appeal to her physically, neglects her, messes up the entire house or a fawning 6’2” Chad who does the dishes nightly, doesn’t cheat, has never ending stamina, never gets a gut, never tires at eating her out, always down to cuddle or do whatever she wants? Um yeah it’s no contest Women who get Chads will still get them, it’s possible femcel types a…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 04:09 AM
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Like I said, why would anyone care what adults do in their free time? Knock yourself out
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 04:06 AM
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Be a bot quality tester, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 04:06 AM
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That’s just male projection, most women who can’t get a Chad are just thankful to have one. Bragging rights are not really all that compared to having one in your house. Just take your female bots, nobody really cares lol. Why do we have to care it’s a win win for everyone Like MGTOW/incels keep centering their complaints and lives around women when women really just want to not be bothered by them anymore. This is a great solution
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:50 AM
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That’s still not going to happen. Mostly because by then male companions will exist too and women who are fed up with real men will probably be fine with those. Everyone wins. Think about it. Men who never tire in bed, are always affectionate, don’t fight you, can lift heavy objects without complaining, forever six pack, tall or hot as they want them to be, specced to their desires, cleans everything, doesn’t smell, never cheats. The gay male and female markets will be interested esp for people …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:45 AM
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None of the guys I know being dated by the women I know have overlap. Like the only overlap I see in my close friend group is dark hair and fit. They all differ in height, body structure/physique, skin tone, features. I can name maybe 2 guys that do. Just too much variance
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:19 AM
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Both are but narrow-faced guy is more attractive imo. Has features I like
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:14 AM
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I don’t see it in my groups at all. And my professional and social groups are pretty huge. Most people stay single for a long time before they date again
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 02:02 AM
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You aren’t alone, most young guys don’t see the point. IME most of the guys wanting to go are kind of old and young people would rather go a casino, club or rave or something, judging from how guys talk
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 01:16 AM
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Women having a hard time dating at 30 or becoming old looking. Most professionals in cities are dating at this age and many are fitter and getting more attention than in their 20s. This perspective probably comes from either 21 year olds who aren’t really in the adult dating realm yet, flyover states with a ton of obese folks or olds who aren’t up to date with modern dating Branch swinging. Most people have normal relationships with gaps in between and are single for a time
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 01:14 AM
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I haven’t seen a single woman be mad over sex bots. Mostly men imagining they’ll be mad. Disgusted by men who use dolls is diff, but these women aren’t dating them anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 11:28 PM
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Mine lol. See comment
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 11:03 PM
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Modern Asian guys, the Italian men I’ve known on this side of the pond, etc With Asians there isn’t an aversion over hiring nannies and grandparents are usually there to help with childcare, women are also expected to at least have a good education and job. The men still like to pay though, it’s a pride thing
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 10:33 PM
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Or go for cultures where the man tends to provide but isn’t neurotic over gender roles and is happy to let you have your independence.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 09:43 PM
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I’m dating someone in the 0.01% apparently
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 09:20 PM
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Idk, I’d put my money on Kpop bands and these guys https://www.instagram.com/reel/CRWckBHITgt/?utm_medium=copy_link https://www.instagram.com/reel/CMUqfNOq9Mm/?utm_medium=copy_link I feel like the shift away from these types happens much later
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 02:06 AM
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I actually disagree, have you seen the guys on Tiktok that they like? They look like babies with huge poofy hair. The guys you mentioned are way too masculine and older looking for teenage fantasy fodder
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 02:01 AM
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It’s a discussion sub, not a place to get advice. I don’t know where you got this idea Your point is moot if this is the case. Nobody comes here for advice.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:41 AM
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Nope. I see people claiming they’re hot all the time when they’re not model level hot. That’s why I mentioned that. Cool, so Blind level. I’m going to mention here that I know plenty of men at your level who can’t pull model level hot women because of how many of your type there are in my area. The women here can afford to be selective with looks because of that. You’d just get swapped out if you tried to pull the cheating thing with the attractive women here. Partner is young so hasn’t gotten t…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:38 AM
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My point is that PPD is not a strategy subreddit. r/seduction is. This is a male/female dynamic discussion sub
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:29 AM
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Depends by how hot you mean. Not Miami supermodel level hot, but I’m fit and have a good figure and men with successful careers and are attractive have dated me seriously. Current partner is one. What % are you in income and looks? I want to know what you mean by “successful” as it doesn’t help the dialogue if both terms are subjective
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:27 AM
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I have dated men in the top 0.1% as far as having both a successful career and looks. I wasn’t any more worried than when I was being chased by average men. It’s in how the men conduct themselves not their looks and income My friend is a Brazilian model and women stare at him when we go out/he draws female attention from /all/ the women in a given room. But he’s also one of the most romantic/monogamous men I’ve met
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:21 AM
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Plenty of ugly married men and ones with gfs.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:09 AM
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If you really were that successful you’d realize that millionaires are fairly common now. A number of multimillionaires are on strategy subs here such as r/fatFIRE.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:08 AM
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This isn’t true, lol. Inner city cheating is a thing remember and most these men are cheating with or on overweight women
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:00 AM
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It’s not a small subset lol. In general parents are not as happy as non parents period. I don’t know why you’re even disputing this. If you read most of the articles on the subject it says despite intense highs of happiness parents are also more stressed and unhappy. You’re also assuming a lot in these comments. I’m not anti marriage or anti kids necessarily, just that men should stop trying to sell us on what a dream it is because it’s not. Did you read the comments of women here who’d had issu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 11:58 PM
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https://epc2014.princeton.edu/papers/140098 Parents are both less well than and unhappier than non parents. Sorry but this has been replicated a couple times You’re missing the point as well. Men need to stop telling women what to do to be happier in terms of having kids or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 08:30 PM
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You really should check some surveys on this as it all lines up with the general picture. The happiness tends to come later, but in general raising kids makes people unhappier overall compared to before it The point in giving that example is that many of the men on this sub who shame women for being CF aren’t interested in numbers as much as testimonies as to how miserable it can be, and it can carry more weight for them. I don’t think this is making the connection for you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 08:24 PM
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Considering I see “private posts” on my friends’ feeds it’s not just Reddit. People with young kids are unhappier than those without for the most part. Men shouldn’t keep trying to convince women to have kids. Let women choose. Neither should they shame the childfree or single for not wanting them
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 08:06 PM
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Think that % is actually fairly small if you mean 10+ years. Most women mean someone 5-7 years older not 10+
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:58 PM
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Lots of muscle on sprinters
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:55 PM
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My point is that the way I communicate here is closer to work than personal life. How I communicate to my friends and especially my partner is special and reserved for them. I don’t need to explain or justify myself to you, lol. All I can say is that men like me a lot. I don’t really care if men here do, as I’m not trying to date them. Biased? No. Truthful? Yes. I see the blatant disrespect men dish out here and it’s quite simple to communicate in a way that shows I’m not here for that nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:53 PM
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Men shame women for not having kids and say childfree women are coping lol That’s the point
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:51 PM
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I work in a male dominated field and my communication skills are well respected there. How I communicate in PPD and in real life is obviously different. People need more force here as the men here don’t really respect women. Seen plenty of level headed posters here get insulted and talked down to. No offense but the vast majority of the men on the sub either are too emotional or talk down to women as if they’re inferior in intellect
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:46 PM
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Chuckle. It’s actually the same for married couples Meanwhile, the number of marriages with husbands who are at least five years older than their wives declined from almost one-third of all couples 50 years ago to just one-quarter today. Idk why you guys seem so adamant about men marrying their own age when that’s the majority and the norm
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:43 PM
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Sprinting, swimming and soccer
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:37 PM
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Honestly yes
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:33 PM
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It’s actually not uncommon in my field. 50 hours is more the average. I also belong to a demographic that is known for being extremely achievement and work oriented. Looking at these chumps call women lazy then finding out they don’t work as hard is funny
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:23 PM
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Eh, it’s already been proven that having kids tends to have a huge hit on happiness. Other cultures have a better handle on how to raise children and not become chained to a suburban life, imo. Like not centering your life around kids or childcare (the French don’t and apparently their kids are better behaved and more mature than ours)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:49 PM
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I don’t think she’s an outlier. I apparently was a very quiet and easy to take care of child, my sibling was not. He continued to terrorize my family - set hotel room carpets on fire, flooded the entire first floor of the house, that sort of thing - well into his tens. Only our upbringing being a group effort (extended family and helpers) made it tenable for my extremely overworked mom My friend just posted about how while she loves her kid she has no more time for friends, social life or hersel…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:38 PM
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You didn’t see the post that I had to edit out. The woman was saying she hated being at home all the time with her son and that it being easier than a full time job was a lie. Seems pretty unambiguous to me
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:29 PM
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It’s me outlining the hypocrisy of his statement. Most hard working men have encountered women who do the same.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:16 PM
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Lol, you shouldn’t take it so literally. It just means he hasn’t been around hard working women in his life and likely isn’t in that kind of job either
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:06 PM
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Athletic horseback riding? Long hikes with no breaks? We were in the jungle in Puerto Rico and had gone on atvs, were supposed to ride horses and all that but yeah he was just not fit enough for that stuff and had a hard time keeping up with the rest of us. I wonder what it is guys like that think in trying to date very active women. It would be the same with the genders reversed
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:56 PM
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Obviously, but it doesn’t mean that women don’t do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:54 PM
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Spoken like someone who’s never seen women work 70 hours a week and probably hasn’t himself
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:41 PM
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Sure, but saying personality doesn’t matter is a huge reach. It’s fundamental to compatibility and even down the line with your relationship. I never said structure didn’t matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:24 PM
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I’m pretty feminine presenting and chill in real life with the same direct communication strengths. My partner prefers it and I’ve been complimented on it often by men. When I tried toning it down my partner said “speak more directly” so it’s a definite thing he appreciates. What might be “big asks” to someone is average or reasonable to another. Dating is relative. If you’re in Idaho you have different standards from someone who’s in LA.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:02 PM
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I was in my 20s lol (27). Just older and I thought he was 24
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:58 PM
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It’s not just Western women who want someone with a good personality lol. I’m not even Western I’ve plenty of relationship experience and someone who has a disagreeable high conflict personality is just going to crater your relationship. An antisocial, neurotic and high conflict male is perhaps one of the worst combinations for relationship health
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:55 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:55 PM
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More maybe you should take a walk outside in the real world instead of constantly reading conspiracy theory forums
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:53 PM
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Can’t make this stuff up This is why so many people fail at relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:46 PM
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Hah, it is. The men managing you and getting to C suite absolutely have the kind of personality to get there. Relationships are contingent on having a personality desirable and agreeable to your partner as well as conducive to bridge building and successful negotiation. Is this sperg thinking or what
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:41 PM
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So you’re asking for a pickme
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:40 PM
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They are asks more than exceeded by my current partner (who is probably a 0.01% or so guy since he has even more exceptional qualities than this) and most the men who asked me out met those criteria. People do not have one set of standards. If my dating experiences meet my criteria then I’m dating on the level of my asks.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:37 PM
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The fact you don’t realize how important social skills and high EQ + decent personality are to a successful relationship and career indicate you might be the one thinking like a teenager
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:24 PM
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TBF social skills, high eq, a good personality and stable income are all decent indicators of value. No one wants the opposite
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:10 PM
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Guys here who think marriage and motherhood make women happier should check out the motherhood subs
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:02 PM
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Yeah, this is also true for women. Biological age is also not chronological age. Technically people who don’t look 45 are likely not 45 at the cellular level either
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:00 PM
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I mean. Being obese also kind of bars you from certain lifestyle choices. My former friend who kept trying to get with me was a big dude and he couldn’t do any of the fun hobbies I liked. Also turned out to be an asshole but yeah. This isn’t just about aesthetics, it’s also lifestyle incompatibility/sexual incompatibility
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:49 PM
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Guy didn’t admit his real age and turned out to be 21.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:41 PM
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Bradley Cooper also didn’t look 37 at all. Most men are not going to have an army of aestheticians, trainers and dieticians to ensure they look 5-10 years younger
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:40 PM
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That you reposted fake stuff designed to make the left look bad and bought your own propaganda is hilarious
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:37 PM
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Years of being cooped up in their echo chambers
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 02:27 PM
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Lol at this alarmist fake stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:42 PM
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There are a ton of older women who aren’t weird, and physically attractive. They just don’t use OLD that much, have to try and meet them rl
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:21 PM
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I don’t understand why guys like you keep going on dates with women like this. Most people with strong boundaries would have dropped her after the second or third date This woman isn’t representative of most normal people at all. She gets what she demands because of guys like you letting her get away with terrible behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 12:01 PM
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Whew, idk about this. To me they’re not. Very few maintain their skin very well I see beautiful 40+ year old women in the gym or doing Pilates. My friend is 41 and has the body of a 22 year old (she’s Asian as well) and can wear bustiers and crop tops. A guy her age esp if white usually has some skin sag already. Asian, black or Latino not so much. It starts to get bad around 35 for straight (white) men because they haven’t used sunscreen. That is VERY early Good thing my partner has olive skin …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 11:31 AM
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It’s 5 years not 15.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:54 AM
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Ooh. In that case my gay friends think I have the same taste lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:48 AM
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Sometimes but people are individuals I’ve had gay guys tell me I’m their twin because of how we deal with things emotionally
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:44 AM
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Must be intelligent, prefer he works in my field or medicine. Tall, attractive, visibly fit, great hygiene and home habits, has solid relationship/communication skills and can transition from adventuring and music events to chilling at home. Must be affectionate and like intimate sex. Must be or look around 26-45. That’s it really. Most the men I’ve gone on successful dates have met most of the requirements so I think it’s attainable in my area. Oddly enough it’s the relationship skills that is …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 07:23 AM
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Yes, I think the title of this needs to be revised to “gold digging attractive women” or attractive women seeking monetary benefits are more likely to be fine with cheating The more attractive women I know who are seeking real relationships loathe cheating as much as more average women.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:59 AM
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Cheaters are most likely to cheat, and it is more likely to happen if the culture is conducive to cheating. In some cultures taking a mistress and cheating is more normalized. If it was this way why is the baby mama cheater culture so pervasive when those men are anything but top tier If attractive women have more options they also have less inclination and reasons to stay with a cheater, and may even be sleeping with these other attractive men behind his back. This seems purely anecdotal to me …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:50 AM
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Yep, exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 06:27 AM
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Pick the younger guy with potential over the older successful guy. It’s what I did, no regrets. He may not be pulling in 2mil a year like some of these men but he’s doing pretty well
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:37 AM
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Most men date their age so I don’t know about “naturally want a younger woman.” Men who date 5 years younger are only a 4th of the total and 10 years is even smaller Something like 60-70% of people are dating someone within 1-3 years their age
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:31 AM
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Some of these older people choose younger because they’re not going to challenge or question them as much and defer to their authority. This is not baggage, it’s exploiting the power differential This is one reason I was hesitant to date younger as it’s a responsibility the older person carries. You should be ethically responsible for being a healthy relationship partner more than someone her age because you know better. Many men do not take this into account. The guys in AGR who are more consid…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:20 AM
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Their stalking me definitely is. The cleanup? Lmao you just press a button on your browser. Easy peasy
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 05:08 AM
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Because sex in humans isn’t just a reproductive behavior. It’s used for bonding. Bonobos use sex as a social tool. Gay sex exists in animals too but they’re not having kids lol
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:45 AM
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Men tend to occupy both ends of the spectrum as far as intelligence while women cluster towards the middle. Less aggression is desired of longer term partners in more advanced societies (women actively select for men with more testosterone in riskier and less developed economies, and men with less in more stable ones). So it’s not quite so cut and dried as beauty or genetic quality. Women select for what benefits them in a given environment. Size though (height) does not seem to differ much. Hei…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:38 AM
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I do a systematic cleanup of comments every so often. Helps deter obsessive stalkers
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:48 AM
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Sexual dimorphism tends to be more pronounced in advanced and urban societies, it seems relatively new https://www.pnas.org/content/111/40/14388 It doesn’t make any sense for men to be as attractive when men select women more for beauty than the opposite https://www.abc.net.au/news/2009-07-29/evolution-makes-women-more-attractive/1371676
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:45 AM
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Older people who actually chase much younger, especially teenagers to early 20s, tend to have issues. Please re-read what I said I’m dating a man younger than me but he was the one who chased even if I befriended him first. I had reservations about dating younger and saw it as a responsibility of mine as I had more life experience. Older people who do not take this responsibility seriously should be avoided
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 03:12 AM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 02:53 AM
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Age gaps can work, but the people involved in them need to not have a history of chasing younger people. That’s indicative of something maladjusted imo. A 28 year old with a 38 year old seems fine. A 21 year old with a 40 year old (all gender combinations) seems a red flag
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 02:53 AM
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Sounds like late 90s music And yeah I tend to agree Gen Z music preferences suck
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 02:40 AM
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Totally different jokes and culture. If you saw Castlevania for instance it’s almost jarringly American. https://www.wired.com/story/theres-something-super-weird-about-netflix-anime/amp Stuff like Avatar is also discernibly American with its banter There are Japanese puns and in jokes that need to be explained to American audiences in translations.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 02:01 AM
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Netflix pairs with anime producers for American targeted releases. There are some other productions that are like this but Netflix pioneered working with actual Japanese animators and also hiring non Japanese studios that also imitated the style. Which is why you can see a little bit of a difference in the animation between some of their productions. Anime isn’t like manga in this respect. Manga is made for a Japanese audience. The anime made in Japan isn’t geared for us, at all. Movies and so o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:46 AM
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I don’t agree. Made for US anime productions obviously but manga? No. That’s for Japan. Source - I’m quite familiar with the industry for professional reasons but not an “anime fan”
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:30 AM
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Japan doesn’t really care about our gender issues and politics as fodder for their comics, it’s funny, that’s it
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:26 AM
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It’s based on a comic, lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 01:18 AM
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This. All the “trad pickme” MRA ally women are primping and posting for simps. They’re worse than women who don’t do this as they’re just milking male attention by being fundamentally dishonest about who who they are
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 12:53 AM
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http://content.time.com/time/magazine/article/0,9171,2007422,00.html You guys seem to struggle with the idea that if you’re athletic and fit as a woman at this age sex isn’t an issue. You realize that if you take a couple who are a 40 year old guy and a 40 year old woman who are both fit and attractive the woman is going to get propositioned maybe 5-6 times as much as the guy and also by men who are younger and more attractive than her husband right I went out with a guy a couple years older tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 12:33 AM
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We’re one and people think we look great together lol. They come up to us to compliment us. We’re both pretty fit and look younger than we are (we’re in our 30s and look 20s) I don’t think 1-3 years counts at all tbh. That’s basically dating someone in the same age group. 5-7 years is where any actual age gap starts IMO
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 02:44 PM
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Idk, most couples are of similar age. 3 years isn’t really that much. Also the opposite of what you’re saying is true http://www.appstate.edu/~steelekm/classes/psy3100/Documents/buunk2001.pdf
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 02:35 PM
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The psyche is a series of electric signals in your head. It’s of not much use to us if by your behavior and recorded preferences we can’t tell what’s going on in there. Most men aren’t even dominant, to be completely honest. I’ve met very few men who could match my dominance or will, which is why I tend to lead and be nominated to lead. Even self declared dominant men tend to not be able to match wills with me. This is why papers that use metrics such as agency (how much power a man tends to wie…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 02:23 PM
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Teenage women don’t hold a candle to women in their 30s. A study has been done on this, women of this age to 40s have the most sex
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 02:16 PM
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This just sounds like a lot of pop psychology when like I said findings indicate that leadership or agency has little to do with how dominant people are in bed, there is a literal study tracking this in men and dominant partners want equally dominant/agentic types. There isn’t really “submissive” or dominant as extrapolated in the bedroom that applies to real life. Sexual behaviors are not how you conduct yourself in a social group Show me an actual study that says there’s a correlate between fe…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 02:06 PM
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Because nature is compelling women to have one last hurrah before her fertility window closes And no, as a high libido woman I can confirm I definitely feel physically more compelled to have sex post 30, it’s almost annoying. Getting off on your own doesn’t work either, you basically have a lady boner all day as it comes back fairly quickly until your partner can attend to you
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:58 PM
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Thanks for posting this as I had been unsure of my comment earlier about the ratio, guess it was correct
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:48 PM
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Yeah absolutely. This also extends to people who try and censor your self expression or choices due to their own preferences. That kind of neurotic controlling behavior isn’t anywhere close to normal
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:36 PM
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Wallstreet guys aren’t top of the food chain. I’m talking about men in positions of actual power. CEOs, founders, even generals. That kind of leadership tends to be taxing on people and they seek relief from control and responsibility. My point is submission in the bedroom has zilch to do with actual leadership
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:33 PM
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Aww are you talking about your effect on women?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:13 PM
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Re-read my response as I added to it. As a dominant/switch woman I can say you have no idea how many “dominant alpha” type guys really want to submit lol, which kind of indicates your bedroom logic doesn’t make any sense
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 12:49 PM
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Leadership is not a masculine quality and never has been in my culture. We had female village heads. This is reflected in the fact we have more women than men in supervisory, management, government, and executive roles. We’ve had female presidents and their gender was never questioned. Please don’t force your cultural hegemony on other people, it’s myopic and as bad as colonialism By your logic, the men who are the most submissive in the bedroom should also be submissive in life when that’s not …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 12:44 PM
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Lol yeah women who like men 12-20 years older are an outlier at all ages
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 12:42 PM
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Yeah by around 40 it’s ideal for men to either have settled down with a partner or figured out what they want otherwise. There’s a lot of false narrative being floated around that men get hotter as they age when you’d either need an absurd amount of money or be extremely fit. The latter path you can walk with a lot of dedication and self care but not many can do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 12:35 PM
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Men are most attractive physically to women mid to late 20s and perhaps early 30s if they take care of themselves from what I can tell. Looks are also important to women though other factors go into it. Money is a secondary factor to actual sexual desire
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 11:51 AM
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I don’t think this is necessarily true. It’s one factor. Even women with hysterectomies sometimes get a surge in libido, which is a pretty complex thing to pin down to any one cause if it’s felt as physical urge vs a mental one. I literally get physically uncomfortable if I ignore it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 11:48 AM
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Lol yes and they get offended when I indicate I don’t want to be led, talked over, or told what to do. Sometimes my partner is a little surprised at how strong willed I can be on some issues. I like input, not orders. I once went out with a guy years ago when I was single and he told me what to wear, even down to wearing some false lashes. What a turnoff.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 10:02 AM
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I don’t like dominant men, I prefer equals who let me make quite a bit of decisions. But I present as feminine and conduct myself as a lady. My partner opens doors for me, protects me, and takes me coat, etc. Femininity is not automatically conflated with submission in some cultures.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 09:56 AM
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Trans women are pulling all the stops to become feminine and this includes social ideas about femininity in the culture they’re in. Has nothing to do with whether gender roles are wrong or right.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 09:54 AM
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Most the women you talk to with high libidos in 30s and 40s will swear up and down their libidos are way more than in their teens. I’m one of them. It’s physically uncomfortable to ignore it Men tend to have very high libidos teens to early 20s and women in their 30s, which is odd but it’s definitely a phenomenon
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 09:46 AM
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Fertility doesn’t have a connection with libido necessarily. Evolutionarily the reason could be that women who are older are being pushed to procreate before they hit menopause
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 09:26 AM
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Dunno but I had high t for a woman (athlete level) the last time I had it tested. I hit the gym regularly but I was almost always fit from my college years onward. I’m repeating the bit about higher t in ratio to estrogen from something I read about menopause. Not total serum levels but ratio, and not menopausal yet but yeah And yes my strong libido is something I’m grateful for as it’s fun to always be ready for your partner, it’s only complete exhaustion that would make me want to sleep first …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 09:20 AM
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Because testosterone becomes higher in ratio to estrogen, resulting in higher sex drive and even potential for better muscle mass :) This is thought also to serve to function to tell women to have a last intense round of baby making before menopause, or so the theory goes. No, increased sex drive is a thing. Do some research on this. My sex drive post 30 made my 20s look puny in comparison. It’s like a lion that needs to be fed constantly
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 09:05 AM
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ENTJ is best for men imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 08:49 AM
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Pre Covid I’d go fairly regularly. I go to music events a lot and make friends that way, also get invited to gatherings and grown up parties at someone’s home and meet people. Both men and women, I don’t really discriminate unless someone is being a creep. I’ve had to block some. A bit harder to maintain connections and friendships with the music event random folks but the wider your circles grow the more people you run into everywhere. 2019 was kind of a meh year for socializing which I regret,…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 07:21 AM
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I’m not talking about men at all. Question of OP was how easy it is to talk to women. I said it’s awkward in daytime
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 06:48 AM
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What’s gender ratio have to do with female to female interaction?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 06:29 AM
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That he’s super adorable
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 05:30 AM
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I don’t know tbh. I actually think women who marry out already aren’t very trad by this measure, but old habits die hard. It’s likely that they’re going to have to compromise on monetary control. I do know I love to discuss finances with my guy and make suggestions. I don’t control him though and in fact encourage him to make pleasure purchases if they discernibly and reliably increase his happiness. Materially they should be a worthwhile investment. He’s frugal and money minded enough that we d…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:37 AM
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They’re common but I believe not as rampant. I ran into at least two males there who did ads and were in the entertainment industry and both of them had eating disorders. And these were guys Height surgery is still pretty dangerous and not advised unless for serious medical reasons. Have a family member who does it and I asked them about it I don’t know if there is a feasible way to make it less dangerous. Chance of infection and scarring is high. Maybe the newer German systems of motorized limb…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:28 AM
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This is what happens to men who didn’t take care of their health and cardiovascular fitness and the (physical) wall hits them like a ton of bricks And not necessarily, he needs to fix his attitude and attend his health issues before he dates. With an attitude like that no one is going to be attracted
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:25 AM
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Some kind of midlife existential crisis most likely. It’s not to do with his looks or anything. His life is hitting him with reminders he’s not a young buck anymore and in today’s society 36 year olds aren’t really seen as normal or desirable if they’re dating someone your age The only solution of course is to fix his life and he needs to stop complaining and actually do it instead of whining to his dates about it. That part is really odd and shows low social awareness. You don’t spout your angs…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:21 AM
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Puritans established America In a more global sense it’s our biological drive
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:18 AM
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It’s tradition in that part of the world. The men would get the bread and the women managed the purse. Later on as women took a more active role in earning that gender role still stayed. Honestly I wish it were still the case in some less trad families as a lot of Asian men tend to gamble (I think this might be one reason) and aren’t super responsible about it
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:15 AM
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Men like this are annoying and won't change. Its the pessimism
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:07 AM
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Yeah, your being frugal is enough for those without investment knowledge.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:05 AM
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Maybe not, but saying Asian or Eastern European women are submissive is as ridiculous as saying American women are all big titted LA blondes. Not to mention kind of racist. All narrow stereotypes that aren't really true, nor helpful.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 04:00 AM
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I think I do know Asian culture better than an outsider. It's nothing short of annoying when someone comes along and foreignersplains your own culture to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:57 AM
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They are but at a huge cost of mental health. Eating disorders and such are common there. I do not regret leaving Asian beauty standards behind as they are very, very narrow. I have high cheekbones that people here like a lot but arent desired in Asia. I asked an SK doctor his opinion and he wanted me to shave them down/move my zygoma inwards and shave my jaw/give me v line surgery lol. I'm glad I didn't as I'm repeatedly told here I have great bone structure and it's one reason I stay looking v…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:53 AM
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Lol its kind of like that. Some tiger mom types definitely do, other more relaxed women will just ask him on his expenditures. Its definitely cultural. Men understand that this money is for the family and appreciate the common sense approach.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:47 AM
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Most guys with Asian wives will tell you the same thing. We rule the house (that doesn't mean we're not loving or nurturing, just that we expect to run the household and particularly in my culture momma's word is law) The tiger mother stereotype is based in reality
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:38 AM
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How adorable, and what a gorgeous loving family.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:37 AM
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Lol no. Look at the second thing I linked.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:30 AM
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They are, but IMO this culture is hypocritical in that it preaches to people that they shouldn't worry about looks but bombards them with gorgeous people in social media. American pop culture is messed up. Kids learn in a dysfunctional way how much looks do matter and the messaging causes all kinds of dissonance. Which is why you have obese young girls trying to improve their looks with makeup. I don't mean go South Korea in terms of telling people to improve their beauty, but acknowledging that…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:25 AM
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Just wondering at this cultural disconnect in the Western (or maybe Anglo?) definition of feminine being submissive and Western men thinking Asians, Eastern Europeans and other cultures' women are submissive and said women correcting them that they're not submissive at all. The correct word imo would be feminine. But as I noted earlier in a comment, in many of these cultures femininity doesn't mean submission or deferment to authority. Other men with more exposure to these cultures tend to agree…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:11 AM
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I was a huge nerd in grade school and coming into highschool. Invisible, slightly chubby, glasses, bad hair, acne, the works. It took being observant and working on those issues to be noticed. I was also non-NT and the idea of romance and being liked by men was such a scary and alien concept I literally could not imagine it. I didn't want to be bullied anymore so I fixed my appearance and worked on my communication skills. Pretty much the high school romcom glowup lol Women like this exist who n…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 03:01 AM
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Ha yes. I tend to include that with sex. It is always on the menu/we tend to do a lot of that to start it off
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:51 AM
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Cheaters tend to do the opposite OP. They get very obsessed with appearance
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:15 AM
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This is toxic. Refer to my comment above on how to do it healthily
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:14 AM
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Depends on the woman really, many women tend to get a sexual peak in their mid 30s to 40s
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:12 AM
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OP, I’ve posted some comments about my culture that might help break you out of this very black and white thinking and help you a bit in your search. I like to post a little bit about it since I’m proud of this aspect of my culture even if I don’t like the culture as a whole with the conservatism or religiosity My culture is VERY family and kid oriented. Women tend to be very feminine and be nurturing. But we are also some of the hardest working career oriented women there are, and most middle t…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 01:00 AM
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INTJ, female. No pill is easiest to say than saying I agree with a bit of everything since I disagree with the fundamental ideology of all and think that TRP tends to claim most of its basics from PUA and non TRP common sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 11:55 PM
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I think some couples are going to be even more attracted some time down the road, but that’s if both of them invest in staying attractive to their partner in most respects, not just physically. A partner learning new skills and becoming a more skilled, mature person is extremely attractive. I get the NRE part has to do with flirting and novelty but intense lust can be just as much of a thing some years down the road or more. Just have to keep the fires burning
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 11:43 PM
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Cold approaches in daytime like this? No, it can be super awkward Flirting in a club or bar when both of you are feeling open and sexy and have had a drink? Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 11:38 PM
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Absolutely lol Especially on the women paying for things bit. I started off with more than my partner and when we met I paid more accordingly even if he tended not to want me to. He’s doing okay now so it’s fine for him to but even then it tends to be on a whim like me getting him a snack then him buying me a meal. It’s definitely a love/care thing
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 11:32 PM
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Congrats 🎉
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 11:22 PM
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It happens. A lot of the beliefs here are pretty contradictory
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 10:46 PM
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IMO men tend to date up more successfully. In several surveys and studies it shows people think women are more attractive as a gender which makes sense biologically So most guys are dating about 2-3 points higher than themselves IMO.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 10:45 PM
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It really depends on where you guys are in life and how well the couple keeps their attractiveness (physical as well as in personality) to each other. I believe I’m just as attracted now seven years after meeting my partner if not more, as he’s gotten better in almost all respects. I find him extremely hot and judging from his reactions to me i think we’re good :) Some of the lust goes up and down depending on stress and the sex may not be as frequent due to our schedules but the sessions are wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 05:50 PM
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You might have a different idea of what honor is, but keeping quiet isn’t honorable.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 09:56 AM
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You’re projecting your own emotional state on me lol. I don’t bother responding if I’m angry You sound like a 12 year old trying to annoy an adult
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 09:04 PM
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I mean game as a system like PUAs are trying to teach it. The soft skills employed in game can’t usually be taught. Have to practice them and learn if you don’t naturally have it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 03:20 AM
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I defined it in my comment earlier. https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/oya4sh/the_direct_approach_vs_the_indirect_approach/h7spybb/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3 Also most women don’t get pumped and dumped. Pickmes and clueless types do In female friend groups there’s usually only one girl like this
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 03:17 AM
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Maybe but that’s the X factor about relationships - love. Pretty sure she fell for him and didn’t have chemistry with some Chad
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 03:07 AM
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He’s very kind and nice. Just super chill and reasonably intelligent. A really good dude
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:59 AM
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Or the guys being communicated with just aren’t getting it. I pointed out men with sufficient EQ tend to not have as many issues communicating with women
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:52 AM
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If you want to be more successful at it then working on it instead of “game” is more productive. Working on game without working on EQ is like trying to make a wingless plane fly
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:51 AM
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Are they hanging with social butterfly high eq types who have no issues dating or being invited or with other awkward friends? I feel like the former types rarely have friends who have issues approaching women. While there are a lot of socially awkward men who cluster together with maybe one guy out of the group being more social. The latter group tends to struggle with dating more
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:39 AM
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After observing the vast majority of men in my circles, at work or otherwise, who have dating success and those who don’t, the overlap between social awkwardness and lack of dating success is too huge to ignore. Most of the men having issues here often have equally awkward friends. That doesn’t explain anything. High eq social folks tend to hang with others of the same level of eq and more or less have normal dating lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:38 AM
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Well yes, obviously. Just correcting him on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:29 AM
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Men don’t need amazing social skills. Just functioning ones. It’s not a coincidence that the males who tend to struggle with dating are also awkward. Maybe not in their friend groups but I’ve seen enough groups that function on a much lower scale than others. A lot of users on Reddit are socially awkward, even more than the general public. I wouldn’t be surprised if the majority of users tended to be. Also, said guy isn’t perfect. That’s the point
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:28 AM
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We tend to be more aware of it, especially women with more life experience, than men are. The men I’ve seen with my friends and acquaintances or who have gfs just occupy a damn broad range that the men on this sub refuse to accept. The one thing most of them have in common is functioning social skills. They met through mutual friends and got together. That’s it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:10 AM
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Eh, no. My friend is gorgeous (intelligent, kind, at least an 8, is researching cancer) and could easily get a Chad. Went for a short skinny soft spoken guy This just demonstrates men don’t understand the spectrum of female attraction
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 02:01 AM
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Do you think most men who have options would bother to do that Most men really do not care unless it affects them personally. I don’t see Chads going on Tiktok to complain about their friends’ dating lives
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:59 AM
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A lot of the men I’ve seen with partners are far from perfect
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:57 AM
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No, they do not otherwise they wouldn’t be fine with high EQ males. If you attend meetings with people who communicate well there’s usually zero issue with gendered communication, just individual differences. Many of the men I know at work are excellent communicators and so are the women. Bf is one of them, one of the things he said to me that he really liked when we met was how much of a powerful communicator I was.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:44 AM
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Sure he is. A man like that isn’t hurting for options. Van or no, enough hippy girls are fine with van living Smells fake to me in fact, probably made for likes
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:41 AM
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Honestly feels like a vid for views and likes.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:39 AM
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Did you just purposely misread this? I obviously meant complaining about not having money. The people on this sub, I swear
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:32 AM
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I’ve seen her lol. Asian dudes seem to be quite a bit more social and capable of dating up
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:27 AM
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Considering I know a couple guys who are like this but date normally I’d say yes it’s social skills/EQ. Just mentioned earlier about my short obese and mostly unattractive friend being hit up in his dms by his pretty ex Guy is actually annoying to some people but social enough to have a ton of friends. Most the unattractive men I know who are dating are like this
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:19 AM
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Guy who isn’t ugly, socially awkward or malformed in any way complaining about how women have high standards is like watching someone with a car and house complain about money
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:14 AM
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Men seem allergic to considering that maybe it’s social skills. At least TRP encourages you guys to take ownership, but there’s not enough emphasis on social skills imo
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:12 AM
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Women have better developed brains as far as the centers dealing with communication go. This isn’t something most people who study this even question. Why Aspergers women tend to have the same social skills and awareness as average men. Neurotypical women tend to score the highest. Aspergers guys struggle the most. But yeah, it’s not relevant to the discussion.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 01:09 AM
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Honestly it’s quite obvious why so many guys are having trouble even if they’re not ugly. The complete lack of social skills/interaction skills and social awareness is often self evident. Social skills/high EQ and charisma + average guy > low eq awkward more attractive guy
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 12:51 AM
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She’s annoying as hell but the guy is just as annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 12:49 AM
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Bald
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 11:34 PM
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If men are into a beautiful woman that doesn’t mean they don’t love them either. Humans are deeper than that for the most part. You could be surrounded by men or women who have all the perfect qualities but still not want to date them. It’s called being perfect on paper but lacking romantic chemistry
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 11:12 PM
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Nah, gold diggers are not average women. Most women prefer to make their own money, me included
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 10:59 PM
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Lmao we are not submissive The only “submissiveness” these foreigners see in their SEA wives are them using soft manipulation so they can handle their men easier and get all their money Asian gals tend to be smart about the role of femininity and soft power, plus the type to marry old foreign dudes are not doing so for love at all
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 10:51 PM
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Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 10:43 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/of6a0z/daily_community_chat_megathread/h4cfbap/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 10:12 PM
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I tell men that the women who seek foreigners for marriage from SEA are not really women from good backgrounds most of the time. And yes many of them are former sex workers or scammers
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 10:03 PM
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Don’t think that’s the case. I’ve had conversations where it’s revealed they just aren’t into talking about their feelings at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 08:59 PM
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I’m curious about these things but IME men don’t want to talk about it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 08:28 PM
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Its a general term for someone with social skills, high social awareness and self awareness coupled with ability to read others and social situations. I don't date low eq men. Too much trouble communicating and they embarass themselves and other people.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 12:27 PM
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This thread is full of utterly clueless comments despite the explicit statements made by OP.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 09:54 AM
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https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/lifetime-connections/201804/love-bombing-narcissists-secret-weapon%3Famp
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 09:18 AM
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Men seem to swell with pride when they’ve gotten a woman. They prize her more. It’s the thrill of the chase and alpha types are particularly prone to it. If you chase too much it looks desperate to men who are used to women desperately chasing them. You don’t stand out. These 8-10 guys are usually being hounded by 5s and 6s all the time and even women their level. I say this all the time but people on this sub don’t believe it because it’s not been their experience. You don’t want to look like t…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 09:09 AM
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Wisdom, wit, humor and fearless support. My partner appreciates my candor, sharp humor and no holds barred style of approaching a given problem. I’ve dissected his presentations, given a listening ear and career advice, been very emotionally supportive when he was stressed or tired and been a warm presence when he needed affection. Sex isn’t even a question due to my high libido, I’ve literally never said no and make it plain every day I really do want him. He can be reassured that I accept him …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 08:48 AM
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Also you’ll be stuck with less quality guys as most of the higher quality ones are always being chatted up by women or other guys. Choose your target, go for it. But I prefer a “soft” approach since it doesn’t come off desperate and the guy can still pat himself on the back for “making the first move” when you actually picked him out from the crowd Had the best results from this.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 08:41 AM
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Direct after I show an indication of interest (usually indirectly). I don’t really like most men who approach. The most attractive man or men in a given group or room usually aren’t looking around as they’re being chatted up by someone all the time, whether an interested woman or guys wanting to socialize. I pick a guy and choose my approach. If he’s aware enough to catch that I’m interested or can carry a conversation from an indirect IOI means he’s not low eq.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 08:39 AM
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They’re not real empaths ofc
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/21 02:24 AM
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That’s why he’s an ex
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 11:36 PM
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I would definitely think he’s being rude but at the same time if he were ESL I’d point it out. It’s hard to get that when someone from Asia says “he’s not the hottest but x y z” they’re just following a cultural tendency to be honest. We actually think lying is a worse thing. Most Asian countries. It’s kind of toxic and in many ways wrong, but you have to understand they don’t see it as wrong in the culture to describe someone physically. Again, being dishonest is worse than being rude Chinese c…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 11:31 PM
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Your own frustration seethes from your nice all caps response lol. Nope idc. I do like pointing out when people are wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 11:29 PM
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This is nonsense, codependency is not hard wired Also having an abuser for a mate is not biologically optimal. He could hurt or kill your kids
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 11:28 PM
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If that was meant to come off as insightful, sorry nah. Just sounds like some random guy hating and thinking he's wise. Talk to a psychotherapist about narcissism. They're the ones who wrote these books.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 11:10 PM
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Sorry, you’re just being full of nonsense in your lack of comprehension now. Blocking you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 11:03 PM
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Absolutely. I read literature on narcissists and suddenly it just all clicked into place. What’s staggering to me is how so many of them follow a general template. They could be carbon copies of each other
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 10:58 PM
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You are still not understanding plain English. Not all empaths are codependent. Codependent empathetic people are. Please stop wasting my time with this lack of comprehension. It’s embarrassing
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 10:55 PM
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Empathetic codependents are not just people who feel out what others feel they’re mentally ill
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 10:53 PM
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Lol. It says empathetic AND codependent people. This is an intersection of the two traits. What part of and did you not understand
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 10:52 PM
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Maybe you should have a psychotherapist talk to you about it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 10:48 PM
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Reread it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 10:48 PM
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It’s often difficult to tell love bombing from someone being in love
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 10:48 PM
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My partner definitely knows because I’ve literally told him about it and showed him lol. He agrees it’s necessary, and has the EQ to intuit the man hating posters have been grievously hurt by men He’s the one who warned me against trusting most guys early on anyway when it came to some situations and definitely had a lower opinion of men than I did at that point. It’s because he’s seen how they act and had LVM in the family
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 10:46 PM
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It’s also cultural lol. Asians are hella blunt about your shortcomings but don’t really see it as a minus IF you are highly educated and successful. I mean sure it’s rude. Chinese parents will literally shame you for being fat so you lose weight https://nymag.com/intelligencer/2011/01/chinese_mothers_essay.html It’s not a culture that tends to respect your feelings for sure
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 10:39 PM
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If your parents told you it’s a value you should vet for and the entire culture does it you’d not see anything wrong with it I mean are Westerners correct for not valuing it as much? They aren’t superior
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 10:36 PM
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No, it isn’t. Not if the narcissist lied to them and presented themselves differently
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 10:34 PM
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Empathic codependents are
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 10:33 PM
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This sounds more ignorant than the post.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 10:31 PM
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Refer to what I said above about her culture
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 06:32 PM
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I guessed correctly then (ESL, Asian, refer to my other comment) I’m Asian too and to me it reads as a matter of fact summation. In Chinese culture income and education are of paramount importance to a family vetting a marriage candidate for their daughter. Her family might even have given her crap about it so it’s quite imprinted on her that he’s not perfect
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 06:28 PM
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One reason why I think this is ESL is the way it’s written. Some cultures, Asian and Indian for example, are very achievement based. Her own parents would get on her case if he were only average in income or education and it would be the subject of talk in her family especially if they’re very competitive. That entire paragraph doesn’t come off as a native speaker writing to me. She honestly sounds like she’s just describing her situation as best she can
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 06:11 PM
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Being engaged for a year is normal
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 06:00 PM
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It just reads as ESL to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 05:56 PM
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Most the guys complaining about how their nice behavior doesn’t pay off are usually just being rejected or ignored.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 05:40 PM
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Being ignored by women isn’t being treated badly.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 05:33 PM
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Narcissist women do this to men as well. Most the men getting triggered by this seem unable to comprehend that this is respective to the types described in the OP when most normal people are not like this. You men just don’t see that the woman is a doormat and the man is a manipulator.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 04:51 PM
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Narcissists are born actors. They are because they believe what comes out of their mouths at the moment. My best friend was with a narcissist for years. He was amazing in the first few and ended up devaluing her and cheating on her
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 04:25 PM
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Agreed I’ve passed over some clothes because they’re were being modeled by a plus size model and I had no idea how it would look like on someone petite. Some sites have two sets of photos for each piece which has been quite a bit better
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 04:03 PM
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I would not. I’ve seen some crazy things. We were walking back to our apartment when my neighbor’s door burst open and he and his very pregnant wife spilled over into the hallway yelling. He was gripping her wrists and slammed her into the wall in front of us. We were so shocked we just stood there until my boyfriend yelled and asked them wtf was happening. I had to call the police and building security on him. Scary as hell. Poor woman Imagine if she had miscarried and would have been traumatiz…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 03:56 PM
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And those characteristics the woman sees are charming, charismatic, exciting, often kind, loving, affectionate, sexy, etc. You seem to have ignored the part about love bombing. Or mentions that narcissists are particularly charming. It’s usually later that that masks come off and they find out he’s a liar, cheater or abuser
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 03:32 PM
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No, I’m saying dysfunctional women like bad boys, and the reason they particularly attract them and are attracted to them is the narc codependent dynamic
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 03:15 PM
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This is just what’s written out there in the literature on narcissism. Humans are quite complex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 03:14 PM
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We can make generalizations all we want but if you have fine executive function it’s safe to say you’re functioning
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:12 PM
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You’re not being logical nor concise. None of what you’ve been saying has been really backed up by anything but anecdotes. Point one: most women do not “chase” men. Hence the chasing bad boys thing is not done by a majority Point two: assortative and class respective mating is a thing. Meaning like attracts like. It’s been proven that people tend to go for people like them more than the opposite. Point three: observational bias exists. Just because you as an observer see certain incidents doesn’…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 01:38 PM
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Most women don’t chase men so your saying 90% is false. Women wait for men to approach them, especially here.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 01:15 PM
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Yes, by treated badly I mean what I said. I don’t even think it’s that widespread. I believe that many nice guys tend to lump their experiences being rejected in with men who suffer actual bad treatment at the hands of a partner
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 01:11 PM
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He runs a startup providing training for mechanical repair technicians. Guy is doing pretty well. I met them at a party at a wealthy guy’s house. Who is also the CEO of another company and owns several others. Also not a nerd. Hard bitten Israeli guy. What I’m saying is you just think of everything having to do with sex. It’s quite tiresome tbh. What you’re saying seems a projection of what you yourself tend to do with your posts
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 01:09 PM
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Problematic women aren’t all hot or fit one template, lol. You ignore boring women because they don’t fit your narrative and are invisible because they’re 1) off the dating market 2) busy living an average life with their husbands
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 01:05 PM
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That might be the case but patterns are recognizable when it comes to behavior
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 12:58 PM
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I’m talking actual bad treatment. Not a boy in college getting rejected. Being cheated on, abused, so on
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 12:51 PM
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Plenty of men do. Again, you seem to be talking about your own weird world which has little relevance to the actual wider world. Few people live in this world you operate in, it’s totally unrecognizable to most of us in America.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 12:49 PM
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The reason men believe this is most likely they ignore the vast majority of average women who are happily married with their average husbands. NPCs with other NPCs. Most of you notice the hot women or the problematic women first.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 12:48 PM
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Just because your mom is awkward doesn’t mean all of them are lol. One of the handsomest and most kind, charismatic and high EQ men I know is a CEO. Has a bombshell model of a wife. You really do need to stop generalizing this way. Not all relationships or personalities adhere to whatever you’ve observed. Sure some are nerds. Most are not. Like I said, you need to stop extrapolating your porn, kink, or whatever it is on everything on this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 12:45 PM
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If the man is based then why are there so many male authors on narcissism? Heck a male narcissist has some of the most read literature on the subject I’m a little tired of these circular arguments that end up disproving some prior point you said
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 12:31 PM
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They’re not in America. I know several. What kind of weird universe do you live in that a CEO is awkward? A finance company? Fashion? Many of them are extremely high EQ and good communicators. And maybe you should read more academic content instead of trash novels
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 12:30 PM
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Lol. Maybe in a parallel universe but we’re talking about functioning adults who study this for a living, and many who study narcissism are men.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 12:26 PM
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Uh, no. The entire post was based on the writings of psychotherapists. Maybe read more stuff outside of Reddit and whatever else you read.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 12:19 PM
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Narcs do it easily as breathing. It’s often just a game to them. But yeah they do it even if they’re CEOs. What romance novel consists of an abusive hero who dumps the girl who then goes on to be abused more times by similar men? This line of thinking is bizarre. Who finds that stuff romantic
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 12:16 PM
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I think you misunderstood the point. This is a small niche of women who are not mentally healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 12:10 PM
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This topic was originally a discussion so idk 🤷‍♀️ But imo it’s a solid theory if we are to judge by the number of posts by victims of cluster b folk. Let’s say a minority are misdiagnosed, but even then there’s a vast number that adhere to the pattern Why do we not take these accounts as people in relationships with “bad boys/crazy women” when so many of them fit that template?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 11:52 AM
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Not really using the articles as a reference for cmv so much as easy links for definitions. This was a discussion post that got changed to a cmv for some reason
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 11:46 AM
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Paul Rudd and Ryan Gosling knit. Don’t think they’re gay at all. My ex was also a competitive figure skater and women chased the f out of him. He was pretty hot
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 11:35 AM
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I mean, women brag to their friends when their man spoils them. I definitely feel like jumping my guy when he’s being cute (like when he’s doing something nice for me and being adorable doing it) Bad boys never attracted me at all. Seems greasy as heck.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 11:26 AM
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It might not hold true for your relationship but it’s a definite pattern in psychotherapy. I’ve also had a run in with a codependent. They’re quite toxic as well and it’s very clear why they can coexist with a narcissist. I’ve wondered if I was a narcissist myself as I have some traits but I’m apparently not. I just score a bit higher in some traits and am not neurotypical
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 11:22 AM
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Not all narcissists are “bad boys”. Depends on the image they want to project. I’m saying the bad boy and woman dynamic fits the narcissist-codependent dynamic. Especially with how the women react to abuse and have poor boundaries. Most have some kind of stereotype they work. Bad boy, smooth talking well dressed charmer, emo punk guy etc. whichever suits them and their victims best. Most of them cheat and emotionally abuse their victims. Narcs also don’t need to use PUA. They’re on a completely …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 11:01 AM
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It’s pretty easy to put together that someone who works hard on their charisma and seductiveness would get laid more than someone who doesn’t. Plus Cluster B types are master manipulators and predators. They seem to have a good sense of how to manipulate people into doing whatever they want. The narcissists/cluster B types I encountered were extremely skilled at interacting with people and adapting their communication to best be liked by them. They often work in PR and sales because of this Once…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 10:54 AM
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Read through the reference list. Narcissists tend to preoccupy themselves with excelling at anything they feel insecure about - looks, sexual skill, money, success, power. They spend an inordinate amount of time getting good at those things to make up for that lack. Which is why most of them tend to be uncommonly charismatic or successful. Otherwise if this strikes some nerve with you about how “women like bad boys sexually” maybe read something else You didn’t even bother checking the numbered …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 10:46 AM
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Usually codependent empaths do
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 10:40 AM
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Someone doesn’t know what references are. The article has an entire list on the bottom. And no, I’ve known about the different behaviors of narcissists for a while now. You’re starting to resort to personal attacks again. Either present a cogent argument or I’m blocking you.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 10:40 AM
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Like idk literally reading which some people on this sub seem to not do much of https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/communication-success/201504/8-signs-youre-in-relationship-sexual-narcissist
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 10:26 AM
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Dark triad men tend to wear masks though. Otherwise they wouldn’t be able to operate the way they do. People would turn against them. Most high functioning narcissists are charismatic, charming and if you ask the people around them (friends, colleagues) they’ll usually say they’re great guys. The very first narcissist I encountered in the wild (coworker who seduced our CEO) fit this to a t. Imo even the bad boy tends to have this effect with charisma
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 10:12 AM
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The codependent-narcissistic dynamic is well documented. One person is the victim (empath and codependent) the other is the narcissist Narcissists don’t always choose codependents but they’re drawn to them because they’re easy to abuse. I’d encourage people to look into the r/narcissisticabuse and other subs. It explains a lot of misconceptions people have about “women liking bad guys” or good guys being treated badly imo. Most mentally healthy people choose other mentally healthy people to part…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 09:50 AM
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Don’t know if it’s freedom when the poor guy is resorting to sex as escapism for his existence and the rich guy is probably a narcissist
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 05:40 AM
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Some of them will date hookers to get back at their bourgeois roots
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 05:39 AM
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I read that the neurochemical profile of masturbation isn’t identical to sex. Partly why it’s not satisfying
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 04:24 AM
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The question is is that 9 out of 100 big enough of a number that it shows up in associated subs Going to wager no
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 03:45 AM
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Pics and erotica don’t have the same addictive effect on the brain as porn And idk women seem fine with their average dude boyfriends not expecting them to be some Scottish highlander with rippling muscles
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 03:43 AM
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That doesn’t make sense if it’s the same job and the guy is getting paid more which is what women complain about. Jobs that women actually do. Not that men are doing physically demanding work
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 03:38 AM
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More like a lot of the dudes on incel subs are more than a little obsessive. I like the men in my life
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 03:07 AM
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Women on here are far less likely to be wasting their time obsessively stalking people and larping. I’d bet money on it
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 03:00 AM
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Eh, it’s addictive and sets unreal expectations in inexperienced men
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:40 AM
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Who would be on this sub getting off to women but dudes though
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:39 AM
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That doesn’t make any logical sense if it’s the same job
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:39 AM
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The links I posted said “even controlling for the woman’s age” and I think the one post on my profile mentions the 11 year age gap
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:38 AM
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Aren’t people who fantasize about raping vs being raped more male than female? Idk what your point is if that’s the case Incel types on Reddit seem far more likely to infiltrate subs and go to great lengths to troll or stalk people. I had a user banned for this There are definitely men posting on FDS, I’ve seen the boasts
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:35 AM
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Exactly. If a dude wants to wait he should do this
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:30 AM
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I wouldn’t be surprised if some of the posters are guys larping and reposting stuff about FDS on other subs
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:27 AM
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There was a poster here who had autism and her dad had her late.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:26 AM
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Anti aging medicine perhaps. I’m not sure if that will help though as the issue is in transcription of DNA Every time cells subdivide there’s a risk of a mutation/error and sperm subdivide so frequently it’s an issue. I feel like freezing sperm and eggs is the route to go
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:25 AM
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It doesn’t balance it out, lol. An 11 year age gap actually makes it worse. In some respects it might but if you read some studies it says it’s regardless of the woman’s age
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:23 AM
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I mean men are a greater mutation threat than women are. That’s from an authority on the subject
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:20 AM
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That’s fine though but it’s not the same as saying porn is harmful
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:19 AM
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That was way later lol
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:19 AM
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Then somebody shouldn’t be blaming women for that choice no?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/21 02:18 AM
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Honestly it’s not even a serious thing and never seen it rl either. Never made fun of my partner getting cough cold or flu
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 11:19 PM
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Judging from studies the cutoff is almost the same. The age stuff gets very risky is 40 for guys. That’s when women’s fertility also drops off a cliff (not 30) Which makes sense as we used to not live beyond 40
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 10:54 PM
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Yeah but you don’t have to be that guy then complain that women want you to do it? They don’t care and many in fact prefer men who don’t injure themselves in the line of work. Let robots do it eventually
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 10:47 PM
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A third of women are making more than the men they’re dating though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 10:45 PM
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No thanks, I get plenty at home
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 10:27 PM
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I think the problem is men are telling others to go sleep around and enjoy all the time in the world then settle down like in their 50s since men don’t have a shelf life when they do. When someone tells them “well buddy that’s not true” they deny it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 10:26 PM
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We’ve done kink and marathon sex and have never bothered to include porn because it looks faker than hell. The cons outweigh the pros imo The point is that the majority of people aren’t really making that much money. Men who complain that women have unrealistic standards regarding income might be looking at the wrong demographic
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 10:14 PM
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Wine turns to vinegar if it’s old enough
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 10:06 PM
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Nobody told men to choose a construction job over a high paying office job
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 10:02 PM
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How often do they update that from current findings? https://www.nature.com/articles/tp2016294 Check how for some of these the risk is 2-3x greater than for a guy in his 20s
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 09:59 PM
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I mean porn causes issues with addiction and unrealistic expectations in an act two people are participating in. Income is just a factor in selection that doesn’t involve another person having to agree to an act I fail to see how they’re even related except very loosely
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 09:55 PM
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That’s an older study, current ones say evidence is robust. Give it to them and they still deny it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 09:52 PM
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There isn’t a double standard, you can’t equate calling porn out as harmful to wanting someone to match your income. Most people aren’t making six figures either
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 09:48 PM
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Don’t think it’s women having to “raise their sexual game” as a lot of the stuff in porn just not being enjoyable. You don’t force your partner to do stuff in sex they enjoy. Would you be fine if your gf wanted to peg you or do scat play then accused you of “not raising your sexual game” if you refused lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 09:29 PM
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What is the denial some guys have of advanced paternal age effect (old guys causing genetic diseases if they have kids)? The proof is there, women haven’t complained about how age affects fertility but these dudes just want to pretend it isn’t a thing for men
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 09:26 PM
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Lmao I think you’re the one misunderstanding this The paper clearly says there is STRONG PROOF. The HOW is what they’re not understanding, but it’s very clear that older men cause age related defects in their offspring, NOT THAT THEY DON’T Reread that again
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 09:23 PM
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That paragraph doesn’t prove anything. You’re fixated on it when it doesn’t mean it’s absolute. Proof exists that the link is there lol Just because one study says it’s still not sure doesn’t mean new studies or others haven’t already established it. The new study I posted says it clearly. Don’t be in denial
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 09:20 PM
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I provided you a second link that states the evidence is robust for various disorders
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 06:07 PM
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https://www.nature.com/articles/tp2016294 Epidemiological studies have provided extensive evidence for an association between advanced paternal age (APA) at conception and a series of negative outcomes in offspring. These adverse effects include Mendelian (single-gene) disorders (for example, Apert syndrome, achondroplasia1, 2, 3), as well as those with a more complex etiology (for example, autism, schizophrenia4, 5), together with birth complications6, 7 and nonclinical phenotypes (for example,…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 06:04 PM
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That’s only one study lol. I mentioned meta analyses which means a compilation of various studies. There’s even a name for it. Paternal age effect
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 05:58 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/9bimh6/children_with_older_fathers_at_increased_risk_for/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 05:08 PM
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Uh, no, this is wrong. Current studies show that the man is responsible for about 50% of the autism risk
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 05:08 PM
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I disagree. It’s quite possible for a 35 year old to look as good as a 25 year old with good diet and exercise but most 35+ straight men look aged and not in a good way because they don’t take care of their skin and body like women or gay men. Also chemistry and love doesn’t really look at whether your SO is 25 or 32. My bf is younger (30 but we met a long time ago) and I picked him over many men my age who were extremely attractive, tall, fit and had good careers. It wasn’t because he was young…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 04:19 PM
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Even without those performance busters most men aren’t going to do a good job
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 03:37 PM
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Lol no. I spoil the heck out of my bf, but I’d still never date a man like this. It’s the whole keeping tabs thing
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 03:31 PM
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Absolutely
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 03:27 PM
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That’s because high n people pair up with each other.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 03:26 PM
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I get along well with most women except for a certain type and in my area there’s always at least one in most groups. The mind boggling thing to me is they all follow the same physical and personality template - short, kind of chubby, promiscuous, aggressive, bitchy and annoying/abrasive. They all are very sexually aggressive with men who aren’t thrilled with being hit on by them and even try hitting on mine and my friends’ bfs. You could put these girls side by side and they’d all look the same…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 06:38 AM
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Men are both. Some really prefer monogamy. Others don’t
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 06:14 AM
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People who describe themselves as nice and say the people they like are nice are sometimes the most passive aggressive moralizing holier than thou types ever. The guy I knew like this called me entitled and was prone to projecting his insecurities on me. Also a raging douchebag I steer clear of these types and go with kind over nice
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 04:08 AM
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Agreed. Doesn’t really happen in mine now
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 03:39 AM
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Yes, we both led teams. Leadership isn’t just a man thing. I grew up in a culture female town heads or politicians are normal. In fact more women are in management and supervisory roles in my country Western chauvinist cultures are kind of funny to me since we never made a big deal of women in leadership and Americans haven’t even had a female president yet. Y’all are weird. Imagine thinking a person having a penis automatically makes him a better leader
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 03:28 AM
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Lol the women in my company are extremely competent and often better performers than the men. Sounds like a you problem Our best CTO was a woman and not even 35 yet
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 03:14 AM
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Lol nice that you assume most are lying out of 2000 people. This debate is frankly stupid. Show me contradicting data if you can’t come up with something better instead of this lame crap and “duh they’re lying”.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 03:08 AM
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I wasn’t attracting Chads in my 20s lol. I’m Asian and my fat distribution just wasn’t that great even if I was fit. Heck I was doing better at 34 than 19-22 or any part of my 20s. Men who asked me out - 19 to 55. I never went out with an unattractive guy in my 30s or ever had to. Not one. The vast majority were hotter than any men I ever pulled in my 20s. Some 9s/10s Same for a lot of women who work out these days. Please don’t use white women with bad hygiene weight and skincare as the standar…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 01:24 AM
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I wonder about this is a societal context Honestly male drive to achieve or be productive has somewhat always been intertwined with reproductive drives, to the point that behavioral researchers have calculated what it does to GDP if societies were polygynous instead of mono I’m guessing GDP would plummet if men were asexual
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 01:22 AM
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The men with substantial means I know are in the 55-65 group and they’re dating mostly 40 year olds at least with the intent to either marry or cohabitate. These are guys with yachts, 15-25 mil houses. Life experience and intelligence is important for these men and I don’t think they have the patience for women who are still somewhat on the party circuit or are much younger. Most tend to have children from a first marriage or with said 40+ year olds already so they’re not looking for a much youn…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 01:04 AM
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I hope you were tactful? That has got to sting
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 12:47 AM
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Honestly using 20-30 as some arbitrary range isn’t useful in this context A 35-39 year old man is going to be shit on by both men and women if he’s dating a 21 year old. (I know this as I’ve perused the age gap subs here and their posts about their experiences. It’s not just women and it’s definitely not jealousy, women are not lusting over a random average 37 year old dude). A 30-35 year old with a 27-29 year old though? Nobody cares Speaking as a “post wall” woman who likes Gianluca Vacchi, we…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 12:26 AM
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Yep. I spoil him these days
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 12:24 AM
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Really depends on the delivery. I’ve been nothing but sympathetic to the young hurt men posting this kind of thing who aren’t being jerks about it. If they’re going for personal attacks and calling women whores even with the kindness we show them then the claws will come out.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 12:15 AM
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So anecdotal stuff when I posted two surveys that completely said otherwise, the second with 2000 respondents Nah think I’m good
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/21 12:04 AM
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Dunno, this really depends on your area. West Hollywood and parts of Miami, as well as my micro neighborhood pre pandemic have a ton of people like this. Heck my grocery next door was ground zero for a lot of fit tall European and good looking local Chads. Not a brag but my looks standards in both men and women are actually higher than most women’s as I spent quite a bit of time around models due to some of my life circumstances. Affluent neighborhoods with high income or image oriented occupati…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 11:58 PM
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Settling isn’t gradual attraction. It’s betting on your last option(s) because you can’t get better.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 08:07 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/PurplePillDebate/comments/ovwhvi/would_you_agree_that_vetting_can_only_take_you_so/h7cygyc/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=iossmf&context=3 Don’t think you settled
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 08:06 PM
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We all age, relationships aren’t just based on your partner not aging forever lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 08:06 PM
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It’s definitely not actual love, settling denotes someone you didn’t actually want but went for out of desperation I don’t think anyone really wants that
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 08:00 PM
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That’s not settling, it’s compromise. Settling is when you go for someone you don’t actually want because you’re desperate
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 07:50 PM
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Most people not of Gen Z have been hoping it 1) could be tackled in the current century 2) not be so serious as this. Current temperature extremes have exceeded predictions more than expected, how could it have been this dire to your average layperson if scientists admitted this? And no Gen Z is the most concerned about climate change.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 07:23 PM
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The link name is misleading, it doesn’t mention the pay gap
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 07:19 PM
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I said top tier women having no issues marrying top tier men. Higher income women are in demand by high income men and of course much more so if they’re attractive. Highly educated women also tend to marry the most and at a later age This sub seems to labor under the delusion that most of the women having trouble are top tier and that it’s all model 20-25 year olds the top men are marrying when those are outliers
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 07:13 PM
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It’s a strategy but most men and women are not mate poachers
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 07:12 PM
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Tech isn’t like other sectors. We tend to hire much younger and women here have to prove themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 07:11 PM
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This is pretty much not what is happening here either. Know of a couple of marriages like this. Nobody cares about this in big cities I’m not sure where you’re from but cities like mine literally do not care about age gaps as much or “not marrying women In their 30s”. The biggest problem is women at the 20-25 range don’t want to settle down just yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 07:08 PM
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It’s also borne out by data though. The largest demographic still tends to marry their own age, and successful people don’t seem to differ in this at all except that they marry each other
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 07:06 PM
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Lol how would there be a study when these developments just became pretty dire and apparent to the public this last year or so
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 07:06 PM
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Many coastal ciities in the US are very health and fitness obsessed especially if the women come from a higher social class NYC/LA/Miami etc have plenty of women like that
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 05:39 PM
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Pretty true. I also have an entire home gym on the ground floor and I’m not even the fittest in my friend group. Most people from 20s - 40s here work out.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 05:34 PM
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If you’re complaining about obesity I doubt you have the best women over there
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 05:32 PM
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Sorry but that doesn’t happen in my field. It’s mostly meritocratic and male biased
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 05:31 PM
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I find the opposite true. Top tier women have no issues dating top tier men IF they beat out other top tier women. 35 year old men here don’t want 25 year olds as they’re still not ready to settle down and still are wanting to party. I’ve literally read a post from a successful 35 year old guy asking where the women his age are at since he can’t get his 25 year old gf to marry. And no, in my area a lot of 30 something women date younger guys who earn a lot. I mentioned something about my 33 year…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 05:30 PM
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These women would not have their jobs if they weren’t competent. You don’t last long in these roles in this field without being competent
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 05:21 PM
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I live in one of the fittest cities in America and women who are UMC+ or making UMC+ level money tend to be fitter It’s rare for a woman to be obese at the companies I’ve worked in. Most people here hit the gym. Some rock climb, do triathlons, hike, or powerlift I know at least 6 women who powerlift in my two main friend circles. You’d be staggered at how fit a lot of people are here. I only have one fat friend and it’s not a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 05:15 PM
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You’d be surprised at how many women look better in their 30s than 20s. I did not look better in my 20s and it wasn’t because I was fat. People tend to age differently
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 05:14 PM
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She definitely doesn’t want to get married because she’s seen what it can be like. Women are less likely to remarry by choice than men
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 05:09 PM
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Or she likes them young and attractive. Men are not the only ones attracted to that
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 05:02 PM
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I’m pointing out the reason they’re likely single is because they’re less attractive. Not because they’re older. Note that people saying 30+ year old women have no issues dating likely live in areas where people are fit and attractive well into older age. Coastal cities if the US most likely
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 04:59 PM
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This is likely why they are single. The women in my workplace are almost all married or in relationships and many are extremely fit even at 40+. My friend is 33 and dating a fit and handsome 24 year old. My BF asked me to commit in my 30s and he’s attractive - tall fit and muscular. I don’t have a single wrinkle and someone just told me he thought I was in my early 20s when I told him my age Have you seen how young black and Asian women look like especially when they’re healthy?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 04:57 PM
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The most successful and attractive men I know are not pilled at all and just seem to acknowledge that life is unequal, hard work at your career, fitness/attractiveness and self development pays off and women are to be respected as equals. Many of them like investing in women-led startups and having more women in leadership roles at their companies. So no pill This is the sort of guy I prefer to date
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 04:48 PM
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It’s quite clear when there’s a meeting and the woman is the only one being doubted. There’s this as well: https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.independent.co.uk/news/business/news/gender-inequality-man-woman-switch-names-week-martin-schneider-nicky-knacks-pay-gap-a7622201.html%3Famp I’m part of a women in tech group and it’s a little staggering how often this occurs. And tech is better than some fields like games
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 04:25 PM
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Women in senior roles have literally been asked a question and when they answer the guy turns to another guy and asks him the same question. Often the second guy is in a junior role and knows less or she even trained him. There are countless incidents like these I’ve both observed and heard second hand. Men aren’t the only ones who do this, either, but the current generation of women back each other up for the most part
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 04:18 PM
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Yawn. How about 2000 respondents? https://onlinedoctor.superdrug.com/whats-your-number/ Ideal partner count is 7 for both men and women and the figures for the extreme end of promiscuity only differ by 1. I don’t think you’re going to find anyone find any differently no matter what. Good luck trying though.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 04:07 PM
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Not true. Some women have extra fat on their faces in their 20s. My cheekbones got their extra dramatic angle in my 30s and people can’t stop complimenting me on them. I used to kind of have a bit of a squarer face too and my shape wasn’t as good. I wasn’t fat either
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 03:46 PM
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Are the women in your workplace fit and thin and look attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 03:38 PM
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Having lower N count doesn’t mean not doing well with women, lol. I continue to be amused at how people jump on stuff like this without reading the specifics. It says that both men and women liked it when partner count initially rose then dropped off when it grew greater. Means both like some success but definitely not hoes
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 03:11 PM
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This isn’t really true for high value women. Amal Clooney was 36 when she met George Clooney. Both Jason Momoa and Chris Hemsworth’s wives were in their mid to late 30s when their much younger husbands met them (Momoa was 12 years younger than his wife and Chris 7 years younger) and are in their 40s now. Miranda Kerr met the billionaire founder of Snapchat when she was 32 and they married, and he’s 7 years younger than she is. Priyanka Chopra. Etc etc I’ve seen this same pattern with women in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 03:00 PM
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Yes otherwise there wouldn’t be two sets of responses Men are basically willing to have sex with high N women a little more but not by much and not willing to LTR. Women don’t like high N count men for either
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 02:33 PM
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Who actually has more power though, a woman who has a shot at LTR or one that is just going to be a short term candidate? Men wife women they value more
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 02:27 PM
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I encountered your pics and posts prior to your posting a lot here on PPD. You definitely are mostly BDSM centric and were. They were way more extreme back then. As it is most of these posts read like some bizarre extension of whatever it is/was. The BDSM paradigms in them are pretty clear as they aren’t vanilla in origin
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 02:16 PM
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It’s a bdsm larp account imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 02:10 PM
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You are questioned, interrupted and doubted much less if you are male in a work environment.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 02:08 PM
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Give proof.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 01:58 PM
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You still misread that then, the question asked was “given a hypothetical individual of specific N” and whether the men and women would have a short or long term relationship with said individual. Willingness fell as the hypothetical partner’s N count rose. Basically the only people who were more willing also had high N counts
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 01:58 PM
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Did you just ignore what the hell is going on around you? You need to stop just looking at whatever bubble you’re living in. Billionaires are building bunkers in New Zealand. If some of the wealthiest men on the planet are worried I’d be worried too
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 01:47 PM
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I like hotel lobbies for this reason. A friend of mine who moved to Santa Monica set up his “office” for about a week at Shutters on the Beach, which was as its name suggests a nice beach hotel
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 01:30 PM
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Many still do have kids but but there are folks who don’t for this reason. It’s already been talked about in some of my circles extensively and these are the sorts of people who contribute valuable research in fields like economics, tech, bio, etc A good chunk are childfree or on the fence, or even if they have children are exceedingly worried about the future. Judging from how women decided to delay having kids during the pandemic, I wouldn’t be surprised if some of them are also choosing to wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 01:17 PM
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Said men who are high net worth and older actually tend to ask women in their 30s and up out more seriously than younger women, from my experience. The guy who does the latter tends to be an outlier
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 01:01 PM
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In real life 30s women get with men in their 40s and up all the time. I’ve had older very wealthy men ask me out and these men were looking for serious LTRs.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 12:59 PM
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You mean someone who takes science and global warming seriously? A lot of men are actually as worried about this. You know, scientists and men with brains The only people who probably don’t care are the very wealthy as they have the resources to go wherever they want. It’s projected that we’re in for some very hard times ahead. A compassionate and nurturing woman would definitely care if her children were going to suffer. A woman who doesn’t is probably not very smart or terribly selfish and nar…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 12:49 PM
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Don’t think that was the case, one wasn’t a very easy girl (the one with oneitis). It was just had he didn’t love them. He seemed to have feelings more for the new girl. I don’t get women who have committed relationships with men who don’t love them. Seems a dumb move
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 12:41 PM
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In today’s world it’s a perfectly valid position for some conscientious types to have We literally are living in a time that indicates a precarious future for any would be children.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 12:36 PM
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The link says the damn opposite of the first thing you’re saying. It says men are more willing to have sex with high n count women while women still don’t want to have sex with high n count men. LTR
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 12:31 PM
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Most the people saying they’d rather date 20 year olds have no idea what it would take to date one.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 12:11 PM
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The study says they do. Ever thought that maybe the women you interacted with or slept with are the ones who are less selective about it?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 11:57 AM
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Or there are also Chads in non mono triads. This was the case with my former best friend. He had two girls who were primary and secondary (serious) and was casually still sleeping around. One girl had oneitis and the other still slept with others. Ironically the girl he became monogamous with was neither
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 10:28 AM
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Men generally do not want promiscuous partners for the long term. There are a few who prefer them but most don’t. It’s counterproductive and a waste of time to focus on the high n count crowd’s preferences if they’re not what most men desire
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 10:25 AM
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Like I said, you seem fixated on the women who do have higher n counts which isn’t what most men are after. Why do you care what they think when they’re not your target demographic?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 10:21 AM
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You are conflating women who don’t care about sexual history with all women. I have low n count especially for my age, I don’t care what women who don’t care about that say. The point is most of you are looking for women with low n count and act surprised when such women prefer the same. Stick to high n count women then if you don’t want to be filtered out for your n count
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 10:10 AM
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My guess is that there’s a whole niche of women that get off on mate poaching. It’s like being jacked, the men who are jacked appeal to that niche that are into bodybuilding
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 09:58 AM
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Lmao you men keep complaining about how promiscuous women are then when a woman from a more sexually conservative culture tells you that it does matter you think you guys get a free pass. It does matter to the kinds of women most men on this sub want to be with. Live with your double standards all you like, most women don’t want players
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 09:55 AM
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Most men think we don’t care but we do. There’s a point it just gets gross and indicates an inability to maintain monogamous relationships Edit: https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/full/10.1080/00224499.2016.1232690 For short-term relationships, men were more willing than women to get involved (although the difference was not large). For long-term relationships, in contrast, there was virtually no sex difference. Thus, contrary to the idea that male promiscuity is tolerated but female promiscuity is…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 08:42 AM
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The data isn’t opinions, it’s facts. High income men overwhelmingly prefer to marry high income women 3 to 1 vs the bottom decile. It’s called assortative mating. Facts don’t care about your feelings https://www.google.com/amp/s/qz.com/work/1812980/high-income-people-in-the-us-keep-marrying-each-other/amp/ https://quillette.com/2019/10/18/rich-like-me-how-assortative-mating-is-driving-income-inequality/ High income men are rare in this sub. There are maybe 4-5 of them and of the ones who didn’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 08:37 AM
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This sounds more like an opinion than an acceptable definition.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 03:05 AM
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No, it isn’t. Using a device to alter some part of your body isn’t natural. This is being disingenuous. Surgery isn’t natural but either required or a choice. Cosmetic surgery is as much a cheat code as t injections.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 02:52 AM
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Kind of reductionist argument
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 02:25 AM
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Lol posting on Reddit isn’t done with solid results in mind. It’s entertainment, that analogy is pretty reaching Juicing, lasers, emsculpt etc is just using modern technology and medicine to get ahead, it’s definitely a cheat code. Nothing wrong with it, own it It’s like some guy claiming he’s natty when he’s roided through the gills
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 01:21 AM
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Eating is a natural process, juicing isn’t
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 01:12 AM
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A lot of these content creators are hypocrites lol Generally they just say what their audience wants to hear. It’s good marketing strategy
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/21 01:10 AM
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Think at first the algorithm was like that, then they switched to walling the hotter profiles off so people would be convinced to pay. We tested this with a couple different profiles, if you subbed you had more attractive matches regardless of your own level Initially I was seeing a ton of really good looking guys, for my friends they saw the same around 2014-2016 then they just disappeared and the extra boosts were put in. If you paid the super premium/boost whatever you call it you’d see some …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 10:35 PM
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It was found that they were on both sides. Can’t find the article but basically any polarizing issue (race, gender, politics, social class) was fodder
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 10:31 PM
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Yep, it was a gradual decay. They just kept making dumb changes that drove away their userbase. Most my friends abandoned it for Hinge and bumble Match ruins every app it touches. They become walled gardens/multiple tiered. Iirc OKC had four tiers - free, subs, some kind of premium and top boosted, with each tier letting you see hotter and hotter people.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 10:16 PM
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Don’t think it’s a conspiracy theory, it’s already been proven that Russia deliberately created troll farms and fake content to comment/post on everything from manspreading to BLM. Probably pretty easy to extend it to that. The very polarizing stuff is pretty attributable to them https://www.thedailybeast.com/jenna-abrams-russias-clown-troll-princess-duped-the-mainstream-media-and-the-world
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 10:06 PM
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Im 💀 Think it’s a generational thing, the way he’s typing indicates he means it but it’s just old people communication style + bit of craziness
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 10:01 PM
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Women’s income does matter as far as if they plan on getting a high income man. The data supports this It’s the non UMC RP/manosphere men who pretend it doesn’t since they aren’t high income
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 09:57 PM
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It’s called compromise. Some women will compromise on men’s being caring or thoughtful for attractiveness, others vice versa. It’s better than settling, which connotes that you’re going for someone that you’d normally not be attracted to. With compromise you just cut away some of the desirable characteristics that don’t really matter to you as much as the ones you prefer to keep.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 09:48 PM
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I disagree with the bar being really high, women tend to vary with their tastes and will go for men other women find unattractive if they are clear with their physical type. Imo society tells women to “not be shallow” and they tend to think about wanting a guy physically as shallow and feel guilty about it. Many women have also never dated the men they’re physically attracted to, which is crazy to me Check this out https://www.refinedprose.com/not-attracted-husband/ This is particularly true in …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 09:16 PM
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Hm. Idk if I ever saw that type on Okc, might be a local thing. Cali OKC was full of hunks and travel/surfer/tech and finance bro types. It was almost ridiculous how many Chads there used to be before they ruined the platform after Match instituted more changes
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 08:50 PM
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That’s because Okcupid degenerated into pay for everything and became crap when Match acquired it The new Okc is not Tinder it’s apps like Hinge and Bumble. It’s always been less relationship minded people on Tinder
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 08:49 PM
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This is Reddit, a lot of people aren’t super experienced or knowledgeable about relationships Yeah, of course. We just went on vacation recently and I’d put a lot of work into my body and looking good since we were going to be at pool parties. He seemed proud guys were looking lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 08:39 PM
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This is reaching. Of course we know what we want. It takes experience to get there though and many (young) women buy the Koolaid that their personal sexual attraction to a guy doesn’t matter vs how much they love him. That’s naïveté. By the time they figure it out they’ve been in a sexless marriage for a couple years. My partner and I just had marathon sex and we met 7 years ago. The key is that we have a good relationship, he’s not lost his fitness and continues to work hard on being attractive…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 10:45 AM
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I won’t cover the bare minimum here (having a decent job, being an adult and being capable of taking care of himself, wife and kids) Support and respect should be mutual and intensive. This means respecting each other’s autonomy as well as input on important decisions like housing, children and on health issues, moving, careers etc. many men do not accept their wives’ influence, and that destroys the relationship. He should be capable of listening and accepting her advice even as she does the sa…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 10:36 AM
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Men can get money and get status. Neither really matters as a woman if you’re very unattractive
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 07:50 AM
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Don’t think we have one in our group. Even the least attractive one has a decent looking boyfriend.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 07:17 AM
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Neither are they traditional for many cultures
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 05:50 AM
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When you get older you realize other people give you enough crap that you don’t need that on top of everything else
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 05:49 AM
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Small talk is ok in the right context, this is just plain harassment though Human communication doesn’t occur in a vacuum, context is necessary to make something acceptable
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 02:04 AM
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These comments are gold Also indicative how disconnected some guys are if they think it’s no big deal and everyone else thinks it’s pretty cringe
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 12:53 AM
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Ok durrrr I’m going to not believe what researchers say because I magically have a PhD’s worth of knowledge just by “thinking for myself”
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 12:18 AM
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The guy is crazy annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 12:09 AM
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Lmao the studies’ authors are literally saying it’s stress and that men are likely wanting their partners to be proof against famine Maybe learn to look out for this stuff and read. Reading good you know
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 12:07 AM
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It’s been replicated several times in several countries. Sorry but I’m not the one here making sweeping generalizations that sexual attraction doesn’t follow distinguishable patterns of behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 12:03 AM
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Yeah, but the point is poor guys like em big. Rich men don’t. There have been a number of studies on this and resource-poor men (even hungry ones) tend to pick fatter women
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/21 12:00 AM
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https://blogs.scientificamerican.com/science-sushi/stressed-men-like-bigger-butts/ https://www.bakadesuyo.com/2011/06/do-poor-and-hungry-men-prefer-heavier-women-d/ Better to not say anything and possibly look like a fool than to open your mouth and remove all doubt
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 11:59 PM
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That wouldn’t make sense if just adding money makes them marry more slender women. Which is what happens
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 11:44 PM
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Men from stressed or low income backgrounds tend to prefer more fat on where it counts. Both rap and athlete culture tend to be fixated on looking back at the lower income roots they escaped, which makes sense as to why they’d prefer exaggerated boobs and butt Also why some athletes once they get more money tend to change their tastes to more slender women. (Which seems to accurately reflect the studies) I lived in a building recently that had a few athletes that rented out some of the units whe…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 11:28 PM
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Men don’t agree with this because in their minds being able to get sexual interest, however small or despite her looks, from a guy is value
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 11:26 PM
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The friend I have who does this does it way more often hahah I almost never post selfies
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 11:10 PM
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I see guys do this all the time. You’re likely following more women so you think it’s mostly girls Like some of my male friends will post selfies of themselves sitting at home doing nothing or watching tv on the couch
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 11:02 PM
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When the disparity is 4-5 points that’s not just being more forgiving lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 10:08 PM
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You can’t call a gold digger a real companion lol. There’s literally no feelings involved. And no, you’re being deliberately obtuse. A true romantic partnership isn’t transactional.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 04:53 PM
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It’s not flowery language. If he’s making more the woman is literally giving him her youth and body for children and companionship. That by definition isn’t leeching, the money is for HIS children and HIS wife.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 04:06 PM
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Just because women go for stability doesn’t mean they’ll give up a lifetime for someone who doesn’t even give them tingles. That’s a sure way to get a dead bedroom. Just read a confession in one of those letters to the editor thing where a woman admitted she wasn’t even physically attracted to her husband and no longer desired to have sex with him. You can’t buy attraction
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 03:56 PM
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Do you really think women like that don’t cheat or take a lover?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 03:23 PM
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Yeah as if the study weren’t an actual study the site references? Do you even bother to read
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 12:50 PM
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No, what the hell. When a man marries a woman who loves him and has a family there’s no “transfer of wealth.” He’s investing in a legacy he wants. A woman who doesn’t love him and is just with him for money is just taking it and giving him that illusion until she cheats or leaves him for someone she’s really into
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 09:27 AM
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If you’re aiming for an 8+ sure. You can get lucky. But realistically speaking why not go for a nice 5 with good character who’s fit? Men tend to overestimate their own looks level and don’t work much on improving it or their personalities Knew of this guy who was about like a 3.5 or 4 (short, unattractive ginger with an unattractive personality) who hooked up with an attractive acquaintance (blond, about 7.5 or so). Thing is if he wasn’t so annoying he might have actually gotten her into a rela…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 08:59 AM
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It is. They’re not really into him and just using him for money. How is that different from sugar babying or being a prostitute
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 06:44 AM
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Leeching off a man just because you want to be financially supported is prostitution. Big diff between that and marrying him/getting a family he supports because you want him
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 06:44 AM
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Because they don’t want to be prostitutes
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 05:10 AM
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More men do this than women in my experience. Most the women in my circles don’t have issues getting men
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 01:09 AM
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I live in a mostly fit city and overweight people are a minority. We’ve been listed as the fittest city or second in several publications over the years. If you live in an unfit area then move. My bf works very hard at staying fit and being neat, clean and well groomed and he’s attractive and doesn’t NEED to be ripped to be hot but he puts in the work anyway. That’s how it’s done
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 12:12 AM
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Nope, I’m a combination of several pills and FDS. Most people here don’t bother to read the useful info and just go on rants because of the hate FDS have for low value men when the sub has useful info. I’m dating a high value guy, that’s all you need to know And yes men aim too high and don’t bother being fit or attractive then wonder why they fail
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/21 12:09 AM
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Agreed. Most of these men would have a chance with a cute girl if they only hit the gym, had good hygiene and took care of their teeth. The partners of my attractive female friends are usually neat, clean and fit even if they’re not hot. Goes a long way.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 11:28 PM
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As a woman who dates extremely attractive men and has had women hit on her, it’s completely true to my experience. The man I’m dating now used to model and I would say is very attractive. We frequently get complimented as a couple by both men and women. Yet I’ve had men I’d rate 3 and 4 and even 2 keep attempting seriously to get me to like them. This is a waste of time on their part but they seem to think they have a chance. I’ve also seen this happen with my girlfriends. Women are far more for…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 11:06 PM
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This is psychotic, you realize that relationships are never the same once someone cheats? Trust is broken. She will never respect you or look at you the same at all again and most likely will even look at other men behind your back if she’s angry enough. It’s a sure fire way to ruin a happy relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 10:34 PM
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Women don’t think they’re 10s, women actually are shown to be more accurate in rating themselves and others looks wise than men. Men have overinflated perception of their own looks which is why they think women above their league are their level. https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/social-instincts/201507/when-men-arent-good-looking-they-think%3Famp They found that men’s ratings of self-perceived attractiveness were higher than women’s ratings; however, looking at others…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 10:14 PM
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That’s not true. Most women believe they are average and date average men.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 10:02 PM
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People should date their looksmatch. I read a study that says the couples that do tend to be the happiest. IME if the woman is much hotter and you’re not a rich guy men will constantly be trying to steal her (and likelihood of success is higher). She will also have higher expectations. If the guy is hotter everyone will ask him what the hell he’s thinking Average can still be sexy. Just have to be smart about who to pick.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 08:41 PM
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This is what truerateme does
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 08:33 PM
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Getting a woman hotter than you is almost sure to end with her running off with someone hotter than you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 08:30 PM
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No, and neither is it shallow for women to prefer attractive men. It’s just biology. The best relationships are with looksmatched men and women. Mate poaching is likely to be less, and jealousy less. I don’t agree with men dating considerably higher leagues with themselves (the most common habit) and neither do I think well of men who date below their league. The first is too high risk for the reward and the second is asking for a loss in appreciating the woman eventually. When it starts to be s…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 08:24 PM
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RPW are not HVW. That sub is full of clueless, not naturally feminine women who post there desperately when their “captain” acts low value and have no clue how to deal with it. Too many of them clearly did not learn how to manage a relationship earlier in life, how to choose a man nor the value of non doormat femininity. They struggle with dealing with their badly selected men and somehow never really learned to capitalize on their looks or natural charms Like “omg I act feminine and it’s a game…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 07:29 PM
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I’ve read quite a bit on most billionaires lives just out of interest, most are not good people and seem motivated to be better usually by their wives. Gates’ philanthropy was spurred mostly by Melinda and from what I read he never was very much of a good guy in his youth. He’s done some good it’s true, but I wouldn’t want to marry him either. I just had this discussion with the bf earlier. I think of the popular billionaires Richard Branson could be one who doesn’t seem like a total jerk. I hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 10:17 AM
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Anyone who takes this garbage seriously has no idea what high value or healthy relationships look like and deserves to be taken for a ride. Fully agree
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 06:20 AM
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I wouldn’t marry him if I had a chance to marry a hot celebrity who was loyal. Thats a decent net worth, Chad level looks and enough fame to get you some connections. There’s no telling when Bezos will dump you for the next fish lipped woman. Plus the dude seems odious as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 06:17 AM
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If they were swingers there would be no issue of a divorce. Musk may be a terrible guy in some respects but at least he has a semi open relationship with his gf’s full knowledge. If you’re messing around behind your wife’s back that just shows you don’t respect her and that’s not something money can buy that’s fundamental to having a solid marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 02:56 AM
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We are going to have to agree to disagree here. I feel strongly about people with clinical depression being blamed for their illness. Pregnant women have been struck with postnatal depression even with solid lifestyles and support and ended up committing suicide or other issues. It is not something someone who is unqualified can really pass judgement on and not look terrible on, but I believe in science more than “feelings” so I’m going to pass on debating this point.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 02:54 AM
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No, I just am aware a huge ass amount of money beyond a certain point doesn’t buy you happiness. Especially when your husband is a self absorbed bald twat who cheats
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 02:44 AM
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So I’m dumb for telling you women would rather not be boning a balding manlet of a cheater vs one of the studliest high status celebrity hunks on the planet who also adores his wife and kids? Looks like the dumbass here isn’t me
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 02:33 AM
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Idk where you get this idea but men have negative interactions just as much with other men. I can count maybe two times bf had conflicts with women at work when there’s always this one guy who makes work harder for him
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 02:31 AM
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He isn’t. Most women would prefer to be married to Chris Hemsworth
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 02:29 AM
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Sent a dm
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 01:59 AM
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Why no Chads if they’re trying to increase male birth rate? Like you think they’d put a premium on genetics
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/21 12:27 AM
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aww man. Are you serious? That sucks
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 11:14 PM
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I don’t think depression is something people actively choose. There are depressed people who are getting plenty of company, sunshine, and are reasonably fulfilled in life. Too, motherhood is shown to increase anxiety levels. The problem is when laypeople make assumptions about something not even scientists completely understand The best thing people can do is try, but there’s no guarantee.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 07:52 PM
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I’m good actually. I don’t blame people for being depressed, is all. This is the same dumbshittery people resort to when they blame others for being clinically depressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 07:43 PM
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It’s called a gun. You think most men could overcome a much larger and heavier attacker without a gun or jujitsu? The man would be as much toast and most men are deluded in their physical ability to fight. A real fight tends to disabuse them of their confidence in how well they do. I don’t think women need men at all in this context in the modern world. I mean I have a tall muscular bf and I’m grateful for his protection but I don’t need him to survive. I was in a third world country long before…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 07:41 PM
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You’re acting as if estrogen is something women have any power over. Ok sure let me reduce my estrogen be right back.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 07:36 PM
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Most poor folk who aren’t happy with being poor make some move to not be. My family did.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 07:11 PM
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Very good point.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:54 PM
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Of course we do. That’s what we do when we gather like minded groups of people and cut others from our tribe. That’s part of shaping our environment. Company culture is one example of fostering the right environment. However we don’t blame someone when they fail to thrive in a setting that is completely at odds with what they’re not suited to. That person needs to have the self awareness to realize that their environment doesn’t suit them, and to make the move to look for a better fit. That’s no…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:49 PM
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Most adults to some extent can figure out what is making them unhappy, and especially with a therapist. Idk where you got this idea that women don’t know If a woman is stuck in a lifestyle she doesn’t want with a partner who isn’t the kind of person she wants of course she’d be unhappy. Best thing she could do is have the initiative to seek what she really wants. Yet men still shit on women’s efforts to do just that and tell her to settle The advice for women on this sub is freaking horrible. “S…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:45 PM
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The fish needs a certain ph. Feed it right, give it that ph and the space it needs and it would be fine. An incel could have money, be in a first world country and still be awkward af. There are good looking incels. Social skills are not something you passively build just from the environment
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:41 PM
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Having a career doesn’t mean you have stability. Refer to what I said above. The happiest I’ve been has been when my career was going well, I was thinking about how lucky I am with my partner, and feeling good about my fitness/health. Women’s interpersonal relationships tend to make them happier if they’re good. The career part is for both stability and sense of direction/personal cause. The unhappiest women on that survey of happiness had bad salaries for their chosen (high debt) occupation Loo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:37 PM
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Fish fail due to their environment not satisfying biological factors. Women have estrogen. What do incels have that make them special
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:33 PM
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Women tend to be happier when they have solid careers, good partners and feel good about themselves. It’s called stability, it exists. It makes sense that women would generally be more sensitive if they’re tasked to mother children. It also makes sense that they’re unhappier in this society The only times I’ve legit been unhappy was because of people dying, other people physically endangering me/having endangered me or being spoiled unreasonable bishes and career issues. Women like me exist, we …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:28 PM
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Actual injustices? Depends on who you ask. Older men will say younger men are whiny crybabies who need to stop being soyboys while younger men will shame their own peers for being emotional cucks Don’t get this illusion that y’all don’t eat your own All humans are more unhappy these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:16 PM
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Yeah but most self sufficient women who use their heads don’t just pick some hot guy with no ambition in life. The reverse - some man picking a hot, ambitionless gold digging harpy - is much more common even among successful men
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:13 PM
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Like I said, it’s dumb to blame the fish. Society has been structured to accommodate stoic men as independent individuals more than women or sensitive men. Both men and women who do not fit the mold tend to be told they’re imagining things or told to “man up.” If both men and women are increasingly unhappy (which they are) it’s time to look at the environment and other factors
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 06:11 PM
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It’s really simple. The fact that increased prevalence of depression correlates with hormonal changes in women, particularly during puberty, prior to menstruation, following pregnancy and at perimenopause, suggests that female hormonal fluctuations may be a trigger for depression. However, most preclinical studies focus on males to avoid variability in behaviour that may be associated with the menstrual cycle. Nevertheless, primate and rodent studies consistently implicate a role for female horm…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 05:58 PM
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Just remember just because a guy is old doesn’t mean he is seeing you in a fatherly or grandfatherly way. Probably not at all. If he’s a coworker, older “friend” and being friendly 99% of the time it’s because he finds you attractive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/21 05:53 PM
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Not just allowing your little head to pick a gal of course
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 05:22 PM
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I’ve done plenty of work in my relationship and judging from the user above I responded to he comes from a similar dynamic in his. In fact I do not like being approached by men. I prefer selecting someone from the crowd or the given pool, indicating interest then vetting their efforts. Showing interest in high quality males has netted me overall better results than women who just sit around. I also come from a fairly progressive area and so does he. If you don’t want trad dating dynamics perhaps…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 10:25 AM
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This is only for confused immature women or women who can’t get the men they really like. Contrary to what men claim most women can get the men they like. It’s not always a smooth linear process, as every couple fights and has their issues
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 10:09 AM
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Numbers 1 and #3 are already very rare for most women lol
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 09:54 AM
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Because the men saying this have never really dated women, they rely on third party accounts and dated pop culture tropes. Only a fraction of users on this sub actually are capable of dating
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 09:05 AM
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I agree with your assessment on men with well fitting practical clothing being the best suited to excel. The man I’m dating showed great potential very early and while he didn’t spend on lavish or too flashy clothing styles he was always well styled, clean cut and neat. Works hard, great discipline. Always had very clean and tidy habits. Never ill fitting clothing.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 08:57 AM
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I see too many women who are dating trash men who look like they never outgrew their standard 15 year old uniform of basketball shorts, a backwards bill cap and a ragged oversized t shirt. I don’t normally judge just by their clothing, but at this point the overlap of this style and men who never grew up is just too great to ignore
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 08:15 AM
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Have you never been to a third world country? Women actually spend hours of labor in the sun sowing and weeding crops and carrying water. Like I said, men glamorize the crap out of men who they themselves persecute, demonize and belittle
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 08:10 AM
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Self reliant types tend to attract dependent sorts. Just as avoidant types attract anxious types. You need someone to need the other for cohesion to occur. Avoidant-avoidant or independent-independent relationships are either rare or don’t happen as much for obvious reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 08:08 AM
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Fodder men have contributed just about the same as women, which is the point. Saying we owe something to men is just trying to bandwagon off the accomplishments of said few when those few were also persecuted by the same males who take credit for their accomplishments It was men who forced Turing to accept chemical castration, for instance
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 08:01 AM
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It’s been a few. Your everyday average guy is the same cannon fodder the elite have used for their purposes since time immemorial. Many men have this delusion that they have kinship with the elite or with a visionary because they also have a penis. It is this same delusion that the elite exploit while laughing all the way to the bank. Nothing could be further from the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 07:55 AM
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Mankind has generally needed women more than vice versa. Men tend to boast about the achievements of a few men who made life worthwhile when most men are average or below average and have not really contributed much beyond being workers on the same level as women have contributed their own labor. Men do this while unironically denigrating said achievers as nerds and betas
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 07:29 AM
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Women don’t need men to survive. The higher rates of women opting out of marrying again especially after divorce, while men of the same age went to, is a testament to this Generally men desire women more than vice versa. They want sex more, they desire companionship in their old age more. Women tend to prefer to be alone more than men do
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/21 07:26 AM
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He’s a former model who makes six figures. Jokes on you The guy I was referring to is a former runway model as well. Most the men here only have aspirations of what these men already have. Sorry but it’s funny how the most good looking and high value men on this sub tend to agree that monogamy is a choice and several of them prefer it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 10:45 PM
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Yes. This isn’t about how good looking he is. A high value woman wouldn’t stay with a cheater because a ton of other options await her. Do you think a high value woman would let her kids be around a cheater?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 10:44 PM
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HVM aren’t the general population.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 09:41 PM
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One of the most monogamous men I know is also one of the most attractive. Saying that is projection from men who can’t get the women they want. You guys project your desires on men who can get anybody. It’s like a poor guy fantasizing about a car he can’t get
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 09:39 PM
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My point is income has very little impact on actual infidelity. A cheater is a cheater no matter what income they are. Their ethics, upbringing, sex drive and personal character has more impact on cheating than how much money they make. I’ve been around men who are 9s and 10s. One of them is the most romantic monogamous “simp” ever and he’s a Brazilian runway model. I bring him to parties and all the women stop stare and ask me who he is lol. Just proof that access is not necessarily the factor …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 07:05 PM
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I believe this is the reason
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 06:58 PM
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Are you not aware of the “cheating baby daddy” stereotype in lower income demographics Men do not need high income to cheat. Cheating is hyper common in the inner city low income demographic and I highly doubt they’re on Ashley Madison either https://www.jstor.org/stable/40607611
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 06:52 PM
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HVM don’t cheat. Cheating is low value behavior as high value people have ethics and morals
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 06:34 PM
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I’ve dated several HVM and never felt compelled to “submit”. I also come from a conservative culture. We just value our women more I think people tend to forget that family oriented conservative cultures exist where the woman is seen as running the household even if the man is the main breadwinner
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 05:57 PM
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If that were true then the study would show the opposite
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/21 05:54 PM
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Class striving isn’t bad. If you want your kids to have a better life it’s the best thing you can do.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 08:10 PM
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Back home you couldn’t get work without a 4 year degree. (The hell is with downvotes here for stating a simple fact? Sod off)
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 06:30 PM
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No, it’s not that. High income women tend to get the high income guys. It’s because they can get hired help https://qz.com/1125805/the-reason-the-richest-women-in-the-us-are-the-ones-having-the-most-kids/ In short the best way to get a family is to get a college degree, a well paying job and marry your level
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 06:27 PM
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The wealthiest women have the most kids now except for the very bottom in income
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 06:24 PM
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From a TS Ameritrade survey this conjecture doesn’t hold water. Women are either matching up with their equals or lower and don’t seem to care as much. Half of the respondents were with their equals in income or less https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.smh.com.au/opinion/marrying-down-why-men-are-the-ones-now-looking-for-wealthy-wives-20170831-gy7ykl.html Let the women worry about their matches and continue to get good income. We’re fine. It’s absurd that men would want women to not get educated ju…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 06:21 PM
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Only if they’re a friend.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 04:36 AM
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Most older women don’t care if they are, many of them are banging younger guys. And have you seen the majority of those saying they’d go younger, they’re aged and aren’t all that desirable as partners Women tend to be more protective of each other though
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/21 02:43 AM
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He should have, she was annoying and didn’t deserve him
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 06:40 PM
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It’s still a cop vs a random guy. I’d put my money on the trained individual every time. There’s no cheating in combat just luck and skills
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 04:28 PM
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https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.kcra.com/amp/article/graphic-video-mom-fatally-shoots-gunman-trying-to-rob-families-outside-school/20693513 You mean training wins every time
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 07:23 AM
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https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.kcra.com/amp/article/graphic-video-mom-fatally-shoots-gunman-trying-to-rob-families-outside-school/20693513 You mean training wins every time
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 07:23 AM
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IMO these people are already weird, OLD just worsens their lack of social skills. The men I met through OLD who were normal human beings and attractive in most respects (advanced in their careers, no problems finding dates) were fine with their communication for the most part. She was also at an age the men left over tend to be weird. There seems to be no in between
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 05:47 AM
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POF is a cesspool. Always been a bad site for individuals who aren’t able to use the other apps (which tend to have more attractive options for other daters) Try Hinge or Bumble instead.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 04:40 AM
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The guy I’m referring to was a Chad with plenty of options. Just feel obligated to LTR as she was his high school sweetheart “I don’t want to hurt her” a case of big dumb I guess but yes men like this exist who are in love with mediocre sex givers. I’d say they’re less sex driven than your average guy. Both men and women can be incredibly stupid in choosing LTR. I’d never LTR somebody with whom sex was bad or even just average. Current bf has been best for me
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 01:10 AM
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It’s not but it can be pretty amazing if the guy can come. Not better than psychs though
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 01:08 AM
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Nothing holds a candle to psychedelics. Alcohol isn’t really all that great for anything but silly fun social shenanigans
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 01:07 AM
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Reading through relationship sub posts it’s abundantly clear there are hordes of people who have learned absolutely nothing in 30-40, even 50 years of being on this planet as far as dating and vetting goes. It’s a constant cringe fest. I feel embarrassed for them What do you think contributes to this cluelessness if some of them have even been married before?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/21 01:02 AM
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I’ve known of men who do this. Not even a good sex partner either. According to him it was like “having sex with a sock puppet”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 10:50 PM
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I too would like to be a bee
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 10:39 PM
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Do you know that people exist who were born because the condoms their parents used didn’t work I know women who’ve gotten pregnant when their pills failed as well. Duh
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 09:46 PM
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Every app gets worse once acquired by Match. They ruined Okcupid and are well on their way in ruining Hinge I met my bf on Okcupid and during the time we weren’t dating it was a great app. Lots of attractive matches, decent guys. Same with Hinge. Match had just acquired Okcupid before I used it and over time turned it into a triple paywalled (three tiers of successively more attractive matches) cesspool devoid of any enjoyment or utility. Most the users left and only a bunch of bots and older ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 01:21 PM
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It’ll be great for women with easy ab genetics.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 08:37 AM
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A lot of women don’t even get ideal fat distribution till around 25, my figure wasn’t as good as it got post 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 08:36 AM
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Unless she was in a conservative culture. I come from one and had an LTR without sex. Sure we made out and fooled around but he was really afraid of getting me pregnant. It was one of the healthiest relationships I’ve had, he was HVM, later became successful I also lost my V card late, don’t regret it at all
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 08:14 AM
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I can name factors and data without seeing it as an insult. You see it as an attack on men and hurl personal attacks and make excuses they’re logic when there’s zero logic to “using men as atms”. If you don’t think that’s an insult how about you say that to any random woman at a bar. How dense and low eq can you get Lmao we’re equal. I make more but you seem to not have any awareness of how actual relationships work. It’s not a handful of women dating down. If you’d bothered to do your research …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 04:49 AM
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The data doesn’t lie unlike some made up magazine article you seem to be referring to. https://www.google.com/amp/s/amp.smh.com.au/opinion/marrying-down-why-men-are-the-ones-now-looking-for-wealthy-wives-20170831-gy7ykl.html You just called me looking for men as a walking atm. That’s speaking out of your ass and a personal attack. If you can’t be bothered to debate civilly go whine about women some more on a manosphere sub And yes, we both make six figures. He’s an HVM in many other ways - guy i…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 04:28 AM
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No, our equality index ranking is higher than the United States’. By a lot. And we have better marriage rates than you. The studies show a clear relationship between having sexist gender role values and marriage decline in educated women. Educated women in my country and the US tend to marry more
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 04:22 AM
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On the contrary, they’ve found women are resorting to educational hypogamy if there’s an shortage of marriageable men their level. So far these fears aren’t borne out by reality. Women are already resorting to homogamy and TD Ameritrade found half of women marry men their equal or below in income I have been making more than my bf for most of our relationship. I suggest you shut it with the ad hominem if you can’t think of a logical argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/21 04:19 AM
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Thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 11:36 PM
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Yes A lack of ego is unhealthy, most people need to have a healthy level of ego. No. If anything super attractive guys seem to have less than guys who THINK they’re attractive but aren’t all that. I’ve seen more arrogance and delusion in 6’s and 7’s than 8’s 9’s and 10’s. Super hot men don’t have to act big because they don’t need to pretend, they have the goods Unhealthy egotism can come from narcissism or just being spoiled Yes
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 07:04 PM
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They should also get an education if they’re aiming for an educated guy. College is the best time to meet one. Doctors tend to marry other doctors
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 06:30 PM
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Get and stay fit, don’t tan or eat junk, stay young fit and healthy as possible. Health is your number one investment throughout life. Don’t get eating disorders or follow fad diets. Learn a sport. Go to college and get an education. Don’t waste that time on partying too much. If you plan on having kids vet men assiduously and look for a combination of drive, discipline, ethics, character, ability to treat you well, loyalty, and ability to keep his word. Also don’t marry someone unattractive to …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/21 05:49 PM
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