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win at life Lol, bro. "Winning" is a state of being. You make it sound like a "one and done". That's never the case.
/r/TheRedPill11/05/22 03:38 PM
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My take would be that it depends on your personal skills. At the end of the date two broad things need to happen: She needs to be interesting enough for you to continue seeing her You need to be interesting enough for her to continue seeing you The first point here is self-explanatory. If a guy's skills are such that he can entice her and leave an impression as part of a regular coffee date then that's great! If that's not the case then you can compensate a bit by having a more unique/interestin…
/r/TheRedPill06/05/22 07:32 PM
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Hey, some women have testicles too. Don't discrimate, bro.
/r/PussyPassDenied01/05/22 07:27 AM
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They think it's a bad thing because it doesn't get they puzzy wet and because it means you're paying attention to something that's not her.
/r/PussyPassDenied12/04/22 02:45 AM
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Found the woman, lol! No, honey. Sex is not a transaction for men. We are not the gate keepers of sex (women are) so we can't ask for anything in return for giving the D.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/21 06:47 AM
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Kek, she sounds just like a man!
/r/PussyPassDenied26/10/21 04:57 AM
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Looks like we've had a quiet epidemic of female teachers raping their students over the past decade or so. I wonder what schools will do to protect our boys from these predators. Oh right, nothing. :(
/r/PussyPassDenied13/10/21 06:59 PM
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Why do you even ask? Are you that regretful about the money or did you actually want to go to that place that much yourself? Doesn't matter. She's being a brat so neither one of you goes. On the anniversary day I'd still make a nice breakfast to acknowledge the event and then leave in the afternoon to spend time with my buddies. You have friends, right?
/r/askMRP11/09/21 10:59 PM
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sailors Yes, because I understand that sailors have no internet in pooozzeeeeyyy
/r/PussyPassDenied04/09/21 03:43 AM
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Sure. And his is a perfectly legitimate reaction to such a cancellation. That’s the point I and others are trying to make. His response is ABSOLUTELY about him knowing his worth and respecting himself enough to immediately cut any future engagement. Why should he giveher “fortune” any consideration? He owes her nothing! Nothing!! Also, how are you reading “guilt trip”? Like, he just wants to make her feel bad or wants her to reconsider? Pretty sure a guy like that won’t care what a person he has…
/r/PussyPassDenied03/09/21 06:02 AM
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You're really fixating on the "showered" part. Women often complain about men canceling/changing plans last minute when it takes time for a women to prep as well (makeup). Or are you really taking that part as literally as "he probably got under the water for 5 minutes and then toweled off"? Did you get to read the "planned my day around it" piece too?
/r/PussyPassDenied01/09/21 11:11 PM
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You understand that she was lying, right?
/r/PussyPassDenied01/09/21 05:24 PM
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And he isn't obligated to go on any date with her ever. Risk your future What future are you talking about? This would have been their first date! It seems you're not used to seeing men draw boundaries and stand up for themselves when faced with shitty behavior from a woman. Apparently so much so that you think he owed her some kind of special treatment after this kind of message.
/r/PussyPassDenied01/09/21 06:32 AM
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He's not trying to present an argument. He's delivering another example of how being true to yourself, an open communicator, and honest can get you results (be they avoiding sinking more time into a dead-end situation or letting the other person be more clear about their feelings).
/r/TheRedPill31/08/21 07:18 PM
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I don't think you understand. Abundance Mentality means you have the personal confidence that you can get a girl on relatively short notice any time. It's not so much a correlation with reality as much as it is an internal defense for putting pussy on the pedestal. Actual abundance (i.e. lots of numbers in your phonebook) is a different matter. If you have the former, why do you care about "grooming" the latter? Why would you care how many steaks you have at home at any one time if you can alway…
/r/TheRedPill31/08/21 04:58 PM
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Oh, so you don't have an argument and just want to complain. Gotcha.
/r/TheRedPill31/08/21 04:54 PM
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What's your point? That a dude being heteroflex or even bi somehow invalidates his standing in a community or his TRP knowledge...?
/r/TheRedPill31/08/21 04:52 PM
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Hope you can make the trip, brother. Just make sure you don't get baby-trapped (accidentally or on purpose).
/r/TheRedPill31/08/21 12:11 AM
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You must be a tourist lost here. What he wrote is perfectly reasonable. Which part got your panties in a twist?
/r/TheRedPill31/08/21 12:06 AM
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When on a date you should have good situational/emotional awareness to create a smooth experience, but keep in mind you're there to have fun too, you know? If you want to engage in the things you mentioned then focus on them one at a time. Personally I wouldn't even worry to much. Sometimes silences happen and that's OK. Sometimes you ask the most off-hand question and that leads to an interesting conversation. The only things that are constant is that you must demonstrate that you're attracted …
/r/TheRedPill31/08/21 12:04 AM
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VZ isn't like u/GayLubeOil. VZ doesn't have a book/subscription/coaching service to shill with his free posts lmao
/r/TheRedPill31/08/21 12:01 AM
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But if you actually HAVE abundance then why would you care about that? You'd just move on to the next girl.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/21 10:14 PM
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It depends on when the "what are we?" or "what do you want out of a relationship?" type of question is dropped. If it's a few dates/weeks after first fucking then your answer is appropriate. After all it's been too little time to really figure out what's what. If it's several months or even years after starting an LTR? Then OP's answer is the right one.
/r/TheRedPill25/08/21 03:11 AM
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Most TRT programs are a one-way street in that they inadvertantly signal your body to decrease (and eventually stop) naturally producing T. So you end up dependent on the therapy for the rest of your life. Works great for older men who have the money and their T is already decreasing naturally. Sucks for almost everyone else. Definitely don't do TRT ONLY to lose weight and make sure you explore all other ways of improving T like getting enough sleep, weight lifting, and lots of sex with attracti…
/r/TheRedPill24/08/21 10:38 PM
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Nice concern trolling, bro.
/r/PussyPassDenied24/08/21 06:15 PM
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She came to you all upset because you are not clearly communicating what YOU want. Saying "do what you gotta do" only signals indifference or indecisiveness. Homie, you wrote a giant essay, but you never clearly laid out, even to us, what it is that YOU WANT. Here's what I see. You like her well enough for an exclusive LTR, but not well enough to wife her and/or start a family. Maybe that's because you're insecure/commitment-phobe, maybe you've just gotten lazy and decided that she's a better op…
/r/askMRP23/08/21 12:04 AM
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My dude, I think you're getting high on your own supply. Your dick is nowhere as good as coke.
/r/TheRedPill05/08/21 09:38 PM
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You realize that you are essentially saying that “lack of leadership” is a female trait. So you not realize how sexist that is? I would interpert OP as implying that those women got their position due to their gender and not due to their skills. Hence “pussypass”.
/r/PussyPassDenied04/08/21 01:45 AM
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Bro, why are you taking agency away from these girls? They can make decisions about these things on their own. Yes, sexual addiction exists, but do you really think you're so amazing (or statistically lucky) that you're inducing or unlocking that addiction in all these women? It's like you introduce someone to papayas, they love the fruit, and then they go out on their own to seek more papays and maybe mangos or w/e.
/r/TheRedPill03/08/21 11:33 PM
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Fuck like you like to fuck, just start at a low setting. You like choking, slapping, and pulling her hair? Go for it, but do it gently. If you get no push back try to up the tempo. Always check in with them after the deed. Start it as a compliment ("I loved how you moaned when I pulled your hair") and get the convo rolling from there. Your goal is to identify any treat post-coital regret ("he treated me like a slut, waaah"). You also want to see if she has any legitimate concerns/preferences whe…
/r/TheRedPill03/08/21 11:30 PM
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a budget Doesn't make sense. What's involved? Are you gonna ask her to contribute to some household expenses because right now she isn't? Are you asking her to limit HER spending of HER money? Your post sounds incomplete and kind of dumb. Edit: Also living together before marriage? lmao have fun with that
/r/askMRP11/07/21 09:17 PM
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If they're women, then yea.
/r/PussyPassDenied11/07/21 03:32 AM
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I answered that I wanted to drive around Europe for two weeks in a camper Did you ask her what she wanted to do for the honeymoon? Does that even matter to you? And yeah, you talked about this camper idea, but did you talk about doing it... for the honeymoon?
/r/askMRP28/05/21 02:37 AM
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Be friends with the hiring manager. Duh.
/r/askTRP10/02/21 07:26 AM
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And now we're back to my first reply. No one's forcing you to broaden your horizons, pumpkin, but being a homophobe isn't a good look.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/21 10:23 PM
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I like how you go from "MMF threesome" to "getting your ass team-pumped". You sound so insecure it's comical.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/21 10:16 PM
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Bro, no one's forcing you to DVP your girl (or any girl) with another dude, but calling it "gay"? lmao this is 2021, grow up.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/21 05:37 PM
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All of those are good basics that are (and should be) repeated on this subreddit daily, but: Learn a martial art Bro, c'mon now. This isn't the 19th century. If fisticuffs is your only real resort then you're probably screwed and heading for the hospital. Here's the real take on "martial arts": Get good at sprinting Keep your sneakers strapped on tight Know how to throw a punch if worst comes to worst If you're on the ground then protect your head above all else
/r/TheRedPill08/02/21 05:32 PM
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Homie, "monk mode" doesn't mean isolation. It means: "don't let social activities or dating distract you from accomplishing a specific goal". You can still see your family or even friends if you're on track for your goal. The whole expression is just shorthand for what a person is doing. I wish folks would stop fetishizing it.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/21 05:03 PM
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That's right. Be a woman's potato.
/r/TheRedPill08/02/21 05:01 PM
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Whatever you do, realize that the only reason he's trying to "one up you" is because he sees you as a threat (for whatever stupid reason) and/or is very insecure himself. My advice would be to kill them with kindness, but you're the only one with full context on the situation.
/r/askTRP21/01/21 01:54 AM
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but isnt it also a bit immature for me to leave it vague too No, because no one owes anyone else closure. As for your overall reaction: it read from your post as spontaneous and emotional. Maybe that's now how it went down IRL though. My suggestion would have been to finish the evening and then break up with her over coffee at some neutral place a day or so later. In general you want to give yourself a bit of breathing room so you can commit properly (especially if it was late and/or you were dr…
/r/askTRP21/01/21 01:51 AM
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You can absolutely have a surrogate carry a baby to term. You may have trouble finding an egg donor and this will be incredibly expensive, but it's doable (outside the US at least)
/r/TheRedPill10/01/21 11:57 PM
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Because she sounds crazy and involved enough to do ATM.
/r/askTRP02/01/21 03:53 AM
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share all of my dreams and fears and desires and goals with. Someone to tell my secrets and to take care of me if I get sick Bro you want your mom or a psychologist. Not a girl, much less a wife. You do this with a modern western girl and all she'll see is a weak sissy-man who can't handle his own shit.
/r/askTRP01/01/21 09:31 AM
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Bro you might be doing something wrong. Being “an asshole” doesn’t mean people end uohating you. Just that you out yourneeds first and don’t put up with mingdames and BS (but still, politely)
/r/askTRP31/12/20 07:37 PM
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Love her, don’t fall inlove with her. Also treat her like a complete trash whore in bed every now and then just to remind yourself of that.
/r/askTRP31/12/20 07:36 PM
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You're saying that you are happy to take on significant medical risk (no one's judging your 'roid use, but let's not pretend like it's the equivalent of taking an aspirin) just so you can do lifts with shitty form and still gain muscle? lmao are you for serious, bro? That's an absolute garbage approach to life.
/r/TheRedPill21/12/20 04:27 AM
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You sound like you have your panties in a twist over something, but I just can't tell what it is :(
/r/askTRP21/12/20 04:16 AM
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Thanks, bro. Too bad it doesn't look like OP read or understood what I wrote. This is why he'll never be a true ninja.
/r/askTRP21/12/20 03:52 AM
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No one’s saying “go and do something illegal”. We’re giving an hinest answer to a question. Everything else is bewteen the OP and his doctor (or dealer, w/e)
/r/askTRP20/12/20 05:10 AM
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She may be able to fix things with therapy, antidepressants and other things, but the real question is: do you want to stick around to find out if she will or if she will be successfull? You are 25 years young. If you got one girl you can get another. Start getting ready to untangle your lives and move on. Unless you love the idea of not getting any sex from her.
/r/askTRP20/12/20 04:52 AM
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I would ‘t mind a war between India and China. As long as other Western nations can stay out and it’s not too one-sided this kind of conflict could solve a lot of problems.
/r/TheRedPill20/12/20 04:14 AM
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What’s so messed up about this? Hos gonna ho. The only challenge is vetting ya girl to make sure she never got flown out to Dubai to get shat on.
/r/TheRedPill20/12/20 04:01 AM
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The examples come down to some simple questions: Do you understand your own personal needs to feel safe, happy, fulfilled, etc? Do you have hobbies outside of the basic-bitch consumerism stuff like watching TV/movies/playing video games? Do you have personal values that you are not willing to compromise on? If the answer is "yes" to all of these questions then understanding "shit tests" becomes trivial. Is she asking you to do something that makes you less fulfilled just because? Is she expressi…
/r/askTRP12/12/20 01:25 AM
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Yo how fat are we talking about? Below or above 200lb?
/r/askTRP10/12/20 09:37 PM
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Or be a bit more normal and just write back "no thanks, don't need them any more, please donate/toss them" and then don't respond to any further messages. Or respond, but make like the guy wrote above and say you're too busy with plans/friends to chat. She'll get the hint
/r/askTRP07/12/20 03:27 AM
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Bro, you're lifting wrong. And we're not even complaining about the weight. Your ROM is non-existant. You're jerking off with that barbell. You could even load it with real weight and you'd still see no gains because you're not actually performing any real world lift. If you don't believe us then please repost this to a fitness focused subreddit and prepare for an ass-reaming.
/r/TheRedPill06/12/20 10:05 PM
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Don't leave, man. The other dude is just a dummy who thinks posting "Sidebar -->" is the appropriate answer for everything. Your post is on point. If you feel like writing then this board would love more contributors. Examples are appreciated as well as any personal experience you feel like sharing. Cheers!
/r/TheRedPill03/12/20 01:36 AM
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They take alimony out of your paycheck, bro. It’s modern day debt slavery. You either end up with nothing or take only jobs that pay under the table or go to prison for non payment.
/r/PussyPassDenied01/12/20 06:10 PM
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Indians and Chinese and people from SEA too. Most got nothing good to say about dark skin. Whitening creams are super popular. And before anyone starts taking sbout “muh internalized racism”: lighter skin was more popular even in ancient times. There’s a reason India’shigh caste people are majority light skinned and lower caste majority darker skinned. And it sure as fuck ain’t white p-po who weren’t even there at the time.
/r/PussyPassDenied01/12/20 06:08 PM
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Gaming other women during the LTR does not equate to fucking those other women too. If you think it does then you either have an agenda or need to hit the sidebar.
/r/askTRP29/11/20 01:32 AM
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because it seemed clingy at the time All in the wrist presentation. I would have made the offer explicit: "I want you to know that I'm here for you if there's something I can do to help while you self isolate." Obviously this is a special case and you won't be sitting by her bedside, but dropping off her favorite junkfood/fast food as a morale booster is a nice touch if that's what she asks for. A super pro-gamer move if you're in your twenties and care about the girl as an LTR prospect is to ge…
/r/askTRP28/11/20 06:29 AM
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Its just disrespectful Sure. Agreed. But let me ask you: what outcomes did you gain or hope to gain by doing that? The only outcomes I see are: Pushed away a potential lay. Looked like a bit of a sperg in front of others. Were rude irrespective of the girl's behavior. She's a person, not a dog you push off the counter. Rumors about you being a jerk now? Problems getting invited to other parties? Who knows Preserved your sense of justice/morality/equality that only you know and care about Worthy …
/r/askTRP28/11/20 06:03 AM
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planned out my tantrum before the meeting Oh dude... From our other posts I think you did a good post-mortem, but lemme just list some things for you to consider the next time you get a hankering: I guarantee your manager was unimpressed. You're not the first person he had to write up or fire. You provided some gossip for the remaining crew. You're gone now, could be a small world and having a "reputation" sucks. The only person you hurt in this exchange is you because you can't get a reference …
/r/askTRP28/11/20 05:54 AM
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Him ... not believing in me when I was putting in the work for him Separate from what you went through, but I should add: being able to talk up your achievements to the right people is an invaluable skill. Very few people will know exactly how much you contribute to a team or a workplace. It's your job to toot your own horn in an appropriate way. Overall, you had a bad and unpleasant experience. I'm sorry you went through it, but it happens to almost everyone. Reflect on what happened to see wha…
/r/askTRP28/11/20 05:49 AM
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responds when i text her but she’s not initiating Who knows. Maybe she went to get tested and met a hunky nurse who used a q-tip to take a nasal swab and is now using his cock to take some pussy swabs. Make sure she knows you're concerned, you're willing to help if she reaches out, and you're giving her time to get better. Then text her in a week or so if she doesn't reach out first. it’s not like she’s making porn Uhuh. It's not like dudes are thirsting and jerking it over the pics she uploads.…
/r/askTRP28/11/20 04:41 AM
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If you’re my boss I’m gonna assume they’re right Don't, bro. Bosses want employees to use their heads. Any boss who tells you otherwise is a dummy and a control freak. Your hunches were probably right. You could have quit with more class, but what's done is done, right? That’s why I felt weak if I signed it because all the signs pointed to them wanting me out They would have had you out regardless of whether you signed it or not. I get what you were trying to describe before though. Here's my ti…
/r/askTRP28/11/20 04:36 AM
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Sounds like you came to (roughly) the right conclusions. Recognizing a bad workplace that's not worth the stress/paycheck is fine. Quitting amicably is fine. Throwing a tantrum on the way out is not fine. Whatever career you pursue you will come across people that piss you off or disgust you. Some of these people will be your coworkers with whom you'll have to collaborate. Some of them will be your bosses from whom you'll be desperate to escape. Regardless of the situation throwing a tantrum or …
/r/askTRP28/11/20 04:28 AM
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It becomes your mistake when you fail to follow up and subsequently fuck up. If I give you instructions that you know are wrong, are you just going to follow them and then blame me because you didn't use your brain? without looking weak Christ, I don't want to bust the whole "toxic masculinity" BS, but you are either young, have anger issues, or think young drunk ungle Frank is a good male role model. No one thinks like that outside of some incredibly high-stakes corporate politics. he wanted me…
/r/askTRP28/11/20 04:20 AM
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Also prep your resume and start looking for a new job just in case things start to get spicy with this crazy ho.
/r/askTRP28/11/20 03:45 AM
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FPBP. But also try to get to agree to let you stick it in her butt. Breaking in her hershey highway should keep you occupied for quite a while.
/r/askTRP28/11/20 03:44 AM
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You just find some of them boring. How socially retarded do you have to be to think that I'm ok with you touching me Because it's socially acceptable to touch men without their concept in public. Oh wait, do you mean when a plate is hanging out at your place and tries to get some attention from you? You really think I'm that much of a push over that I'd let you do that Oh man, you poor autist, you probably do. You never ever show anger at a woman's antics (barring, of course, some very rare exce…
/r/askTRP28/11/20 03:43 AM
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Same as before. Get ready to move on faster because girls are starved for attention and want to engage in lengthy chats/flirts via the app or text. Also consider the current situation. Herpes is not the only virus you can catch via Tinder now, unfortunately.
/r/askTRP28/11/20 03:37 AM
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What should I be looking for to give a more sexual vibe I mean, are you actually being sexual? You don't create a "sexual vibe" by taking her to some secret "sexy place". You do it with your (consensual) touch and words. Read up on escalation ladders. Don't be afraid of testing the waters by e.g. putting your arm around her so you can learn to gauge body language. Finally, if you're on a 2nd (or especially 3rd date) the date should end up back in your place for drinks and a demonstration of your…
/r/askTRP28/11/20 03:35 AM
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Well, what do you want out of the date? If you specifically want sex, then just get your logistics down. Meet up to do whatever for a few hours. Then back to your place for drinks and so you can show her your anime body pillow collection. Then make your move, playa. If you just want to have fun then go do whatever you'd usually do for fun with another person. Go gokarting or some shit. Then go back to your place. Then make your move and smash. Read up on overcoming LMR and remember that you can'…
/r/askTRP28/11/20 03:32 AM
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but it seems weird that we aren’t texting at all If she's having a hard time with COVID then you're an ass for wondering why she's not texting you. This is the equivalent of saying "My ONS told me she got a cancer diagnosis and she's not responding to my texts now, do I next her?". Like, c'mon, holy shit... She has an OnlyFans lmao, you're a cuck for considering an LTR with a girl like that, but you do you, boo. You can always become a member and see if she's been putting out content. Maybe if y…
/r/askTRP28/11/20 03:28 AM
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how can I put my ego Wow man, that's a deep question. Can't help you there. When it comes to your brother though - have you talked to him? Like, does he know that you're 'mirin him for all that poosy he be smashing? If he's cool then ask him for some feedback on where you're fucking up. Ask to go out with him so you can be his wing. Hell, maybe you'll find a crazy HB9 down for an MMF with two brothers. Won't that be an amazing family bonding experience? But you pretty much know all this already.…
/r/askTRP28/11/20 03:24 AM
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such as finishing college Are you asking us to tacitly endorse you being a lazy flunk-out bitch? No. You can't whole-sale apply this concept across the board. There are plenty of outcomes that you, as a man, are invested into achieving. Outcome independence is simply a person feeling OK with either rational outcome. It means that when you approach a girl and get rejected you don't fall into a deep depression or sign up for her OnlyFans. It's not an excuse to slack on your goals/life.
/r/askTRP28/11/20 02:21 AM
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But I don’t have the energy to keep pushing her to go to the gym and quit eating shit. Why are you nagging her? Yeah I know you feel like a hero because you think you're pulling her anchor while taking care of your shit, but from the outside you look like a nag. Do the two of you live together? Do you not control what food gets stocked in your fridge? Can you not have her go to the gym together with you (even if she just messes around on a yoga mat next to you)? Set some goals that require the t…
/r/askTRP28/11/20 02:18 AM
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What's the worse that can happen when one just keeps it to himself You kill yourself. Oh, you were asking for worst case. You waste your life. Then, when you're in your 60s and no one wants or cares about you any more you look back at your 30s, 40s, and even 50s with nothing but regret. Then you double-down on your poor choices hoping that a bit of hedonism before an early grave will make up for living like a loser. motivation to do anything that requires effort King, go to a psychiatrist and ge…
/r/askTRP28/11/20 02:15 AM
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I'm saying it can be either or even both. TRP is not a cooking recipe. This is not a set of programming instructions you must execute like a robot for guaranteed poosay. Find a new activity that interests your or reinvest yourself in something you're already doing that's NOT work or gym-related. Find a new girl and train her to be an even better fit for you than your ex (it's not beta to tell a girl what you like). That's all I'm trying to say. glhf, you only get one shot at this, don't fuck it …
/r/askTRP28/11/20 02:12 AM
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Too much flirting in what you wrote (unless you're actually enjoying it instead of, you know, trying to bang her). Drop your number and invite her for drinks or this cool thing you're doing. She already knows whether she wants to fuck you or not. Just give her a chance to make the decision clear. At worst you'll be able to move on and stop wasting your time on a bad prospect.
/r/askTRP28/11/20 02:09 AM
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The Patrice O'Neal approach. Underrated post.
/r/askTRP28/11/20 02:07 AM
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There's your answer. You felt that pull in your heart because there's nothing there to replace the "void" she left. Neither another woman nor your hobbies/personal life (sorry bro, not trying to call you boring, but a woman is not the only answer to fulfillment). That's why quantity is rarely the answer to a break up. You can fuck your way across half a city, but if she was the only one who knew how to "rub you the right way" (in the emotional sense) then it'll all be for naught.
/r/askTRP28/11/20 01:48 AM
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Yes, it's normal. Try to find someone hotter/more interesting than her to bang and you'll see how quickly you get over these feelings though.
/r/askTRP28/11/20 01:10 AM
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Tsk. That's just perpetuating gender inequality. She demands I have a six-pack while she's putting away food for six! /s
/r/askTRP28/11/20 01:09 AM
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Different person. I know nothing about clothing sizes for women. Personally, I would say there are several different measures the importance of each depends on the guy and you. Below are some examples you can answer for yourself (not trying to get your digits) to see where you fall: Can you hike multiple days in a row with a 50lb backpack over varied terrain (with rest, sleep and food, of course)? Any embarrassment at the prospect of wearing a two piece string bikini to a beach? Do you ever get …
/r/askTRP28/11/20 01:09 AM
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Your choices are roughly: SEA or Eastern Europe. Weigh your choices carefully, study the language, and don't get the locals pregnant!
/r/askTRP28/11/20 01:00 AM
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That's when you have fun and push boundaries. Will a fat chick consent to BDSM, golden showers, or ATM? Never know till you try!
/r/askTRP28/11/20 12:58 AM
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Hold my frame, kept it simple and gave no closure. Good man. I'm struggling but enthusiastic about the future I'm assuming you're young because breakups do get easier with time. Sounds like you got stuff on lock, King. What's your question? Just looking for a pity-party? :)
/r/askTRP27/11/20 11:34 PM
2

Even though I'm running out of money but yeah. That wasn't my point. Get money from them by all means, just don't cry about it either way. Or is listening to your mother berate you a condition of receiving your money? I believe I'm looking to fix my mindset. That's a job for psychologists, not books. Don't you have like free healthcare and shit? some crippling negativity Here's an idea. Pay a professional dom for a couple of hours. Go to her dungeon, tell her what a shit human being you are, hav…
/r/askTRP27/11/20 06:34 PM
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Our response is: "why is this even a question you absolute autist a man with options wouldn't even bother making this thread".
/r/askTRP27/11/20 06:16 PM
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different climbing skills, tools and knowledge In other words, you're not sure these girls will keep up unless you find something super ez-mode that'll be boring for you? you have to provide value and give to get What a weird take. Yeah buddy, the value of 90% of girls out there is their companionship and warm holes. You want "real value" then get a male friend or search for be interesting enough to find and keep a 10% unicorn. Like, I understand what you're getting at. No one wants a starfish i…
/r/askTRP27/11/20 06:14 PM
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Lol what an autistic post. You think tresspassing is “putting work in”? Take them or not is your choice, but your reasoning demonstrated so far is dumb. UrbanX is neither special nor a skill lmao
/r/askTRP27/11/20 05:50 PM
2

Lmao what a dummy. We’re telling you there is NOTHING TO RESPOND TO. She’s not your girl, never was, so you just move on, block her if needed, find new girls to fuck. Are you autistic enough for a specific term? Then sure, “hard next” her.
/r/askTRP27/11/20 05:38 PM
0

On a US centric site on a US made internet. Cope harder, non-American.
/r/askTRP27/11/20 05:10 PM
2

Is it safe to ask? Only if you want to kill her desire for you by showing your insecurity. Also, why do you care if she cheated? You gonna marry this girl? Did you stop looking for other chicks in the meantime?
/r/askTRP26/11/20 01:08 AM
1

fucking this bitch with no comdom lmao thinking with your dick. How sad.
/r/askTRP26/11/20 01:06 AM
2

avoid telling me I'm ungrateful cause you know nothing I mean, you could always turn down their help and not have to deal with them. We know you won't because free money is pretty nice, but you could. some book suggestions Why the hell are you asking for book suggestions when your stated goal is to find a job? Sounds like you're just procrastinating. why I can't find a job There are plenty of jobs, but I bet you're too stuck up to take the ones that are within easy reach of you. You know: grocer…
/r/askTRP26/11/20 01:03 AM
1

Bro you're 16, you're supposed to have a boner all the time. Rub one out and continue on with your day. Don't worry about NNN. That's a tool for porn addicts to get off their drug of choice. The trick about porn is not going off the deep end of porn when you don't have real life experience to match (none of that BDSM, ATM stuff until you get some notches) and use your imagination once in a damn while.
/r/askTRP26/11/20 12:53 AM
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Talk to them like any other human being. Don't bring up nerd shit. Have a list of things you want to find out about a girl that are important to you as part of the overall conversation. Examples could be: her relationship with her father, how much she parties, her goals in life, etc If you're autistic then you might want to study general conversation skills before graduating to "talking to girls".
/r/askTRP26/11/20 12:48 AM
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I'm not prepared to do all the heavg lifting again So don't. Next her and move on. That and her just getting high off the attention. Correct. No sex by 2nd-3rd date means that she was never really interested or you fucked up somewhere and now she's not interested. view my stories Why are you on Insta? Is this your primary way of finding women? So why bother at all You're just justifying your decision to wuss out and not approach. If you're going to be so defeatist then you might as well get read…
/r/askTRP26/11/20 12:45 AM
6

Only if you want chicken legs. You gotta hit all the major groups, buddy.
/r/askTRP26/11/20 12:41 AM
1

Simple, my dude. You don't talk about your exes. Did you have some? Sure. Details? Nah.
/r/askTRP25/11/20 09:00 PM
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Chalk it up to a lesson and move on. If she reaches out to you then great, try to pick it up. If not, don’t waste your time thinking about her. her talking about my exes Why the fuck would this be a topic on a date? You don’t talk about your history and you don’t want to know her history. Absolute mood killer material here.
/r/askTRP25/11/20 03:49 AM
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Slavs So not Russia itself then because that country still eats Westernrs alive, especially ones who try and run an above board business без контактов. Hypergamy is rampant in Russia. The only diffeence is that more women in Russia are still feminine and skinny and dress well. Enjoy the honeymoon period. Hope the guys yare bringing over know what kind of shit they are getting into. Oh well. At least you’re not singing praises of South East Asia to us.
/r/TheRedPill25/11/20 03:24 AM
2

Sorry bro, Imdia is a shithole. Just not worth to visit that death traps. Even plenty of ABIs don’t go back unless they absolutely have to.
/r/PussyPassDenied21/11/20 05:57 PM
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Like ofhers have said: in MTRP abundance does not mean having many other sex partners. It means having other options to spend your time. Hobbies, gym, work, spendting time with kids, whatever. Also why is leaving after getting rejected a problem? Lmao just leave and go do something you like or something that needs to be done around the house. Is your house spotless and comfy btw? Or is it the usual american heap of a cluttered garage, tons of junk, dust, dirty carpets, and a toilet with a slow f…
/r/askMRP15/11/20 02:00 AM
1

The better option is to have a circle of friends and acquaitances that can be used to get introductions to women in a friendly and "safe" environment. Then escalate. Of course this takes time to build and an actual personality instead of just abs and people want to get laid now, damn it!
/r/askTRP14/11/20 01:59 AM
3

Read The Four Noble Truths (that link or many others). It's short and I think you'll find that will resonate with you. Heck, it really resonates with anyone who's actually lived.
/r/askTRP11/11/20 07:03 PM
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Why do I not feel like I’m enough? Because you actually loved her. You actually cared. And you know what? That's good. That's beautiful. Plenty of people are too scared of this or downright incapable of going this "deep". Unfortunately for you it turned out that she was a trash human being and she betrayed you in the absolute worst way a woman can. In sex I get bored and apathetic Are you staying off porn? Are you caught in the hedonistic loop of seeking out new experience, new ONS, etc? Take a …
/r/askTRP11/11/20 06:59 PM
2

How young are you to be asking this question? DON’T SHIT WHERE YOU EAT
/r/askTRP01/11/20 07:37 PM
4

Because the Marines get unlimited crayon rations when on deployment.
/r/askTRP01/11/20 07:22 PM
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she didn’t do anything wrong What do you mean, bro? She dumped you. Boom, case closed. You will gain nothing and you will not win her back by reaching out.
/r/askTRP29/10/20 05:34 AM
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Bro, this is workplace gossip. We can't advise you because we don't know your workplace. Either ignore it like others said. Talk to this woman and politely let her know that you'd prefer to keep your personal life and office life separate. Or use the nuclear option and go talk to HR about it.
/r/askTRP20/10/20 06:17 PM
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Bro. Healthy het men your age don't have these problems. You either have a physical issue (go get your blood work done, vitamin levels, test levels) or a mental issues (go talk to a therapist). Are you lifting? You better be. And stop jerking off so damn much.
/r/askMRP20/10/20 06:15 PM
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No, frame is important, even with young kids, because they will absolutely push your buttons if you allow them to. Protip: if you have to yell at your kid outside of an emergency then you already lost whatever point you were trying to make.
/r/askTRP15/10/20 05:08 PM
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YOUR RELATIONSHIP IS OVER This is serious. There's no saving this relationship. You have to protect your kids (they ARE getting hurt by this abuse even if it's aimed at you). You must get out and you must start planning your and your kids' escape immediately. DOCUMENT EVERYTHING Get some apps that shoot video without waking the screen. Or at least get some sound recordings. Whatever you can. Confessions/apologies from her for hitting you via text. Anything that would show that she's physically a…
/r/askMRP14/10/20 11:25 PM
0

\8. Fuck as many people you find attractive or tolerable (men, women, we don't care or judge) as you possible can. Just be a total man-slut. This experience (the good, bad, and ugly) will help inform your opinions, desires, and preferences when it comes to a sexual partner.
/r/askTRP14/10/20 04:25 AM
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We need a requirement to see the poster’s age bracket for philosophical posts like this. If this was written by someone in their twenties then I’d just laugh.
/r/TheRedPill12/10/20 03:26 PM
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Oh, but those women will nag insessently for their right to die in battle and go in the coal mines. So you give them that right, but suddenly they lose all interest in those pursuits. Strange how that happens.
/r/PussyPassDenied12/10/20 03:15 PM
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Correct. In feminstese “equal treatment” actually means “treat us better than men to make up for imagined past transgressions”.
/r/PussyPassDenied12/10/20 03:08 PM
2

Please cut back on the black pills, my dude. I'm worried for you.
/r/TheRedPill10/10/20 03:24 AM
1

Spoilers: just go to the doctor to get her uterus checked out dude.
/r/TheRedPill09/10/20 05:45 PM
8

Donald Trump is the only thing standing between us a communist takeover of intersectionalists. You're welcome.
/r/MarriedRedPill09/10/20 04:33 AM
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just wanted to share my feelings out Good Lord you sound like such a wet napkin. Listen to what u/red_philosopher told you. If you didn't like it then just embrace your BP Beta ways. And remember - even if you find a girl for an LTR, that's not the end. That's just the beginning. You will still have to continue working on yourself, maintaining frame, and keeping her hamster in line. The ride never ends!
/r/askTRP08/10/20 11:26 PM
1

I don't understand why you would want to. To have women "all over you"? Just go to TJ for a weekend. For easier access to pussy? Work on improving your social circle and yourself as a person. The results will last you longer than the flash-in-a-pan level of interest your friend's going to get.
/r/askTRP08/10/20 09:08 PM
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Bro, you don't need to stick your dick in to understand if she'll have problems getting preggers. There are tests and doctors who can tell you all that instead.
/r/TheRedPill08/10/20 08:58 PM
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How is this better? You can still get stuck with child support even if you were not married.
/r/TheRedPill08/10/20 04:45 PM
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Bitches are delusional about how valuable they are Absolutely. Thinking "I'm hotter/wealthier than her so this will be easy" is a beginner's trap. Treat them like equals. Equally likely to suck your peen if you never forget that you're the prize (because you're hotter/wealthier than her, remember?) and you maintain frame. You can't let go of your game and get pushy Note that defeating LMR is not being pushy. Being pushy is trying to force "it" to happen instead of setting an amazing table and le…
/r/TheRedPill07/10/20 11:14 PM
1

His point was: at the start it's logical that investment from both parties (emotional, mental, monetary) is low so treat that as such. Go for something simple, ideally involving booze to help her relax. You start flashing status when you realize she's someone you want to keep around. THEN start gradually bringing out the "everyone knows me here" stuff to keep her wondering what else might be to you.
/r/TheRedPill07/10/20 11:07 PM
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If a man wants children then he'll need to be in an LTR. It's proven that children do better (and it's easier to parent them) when two people are involved. Whether that LTR is marriage or just cohabitation depends on many factors. Unfortunately few women will agree to just cohabitate and have kids so marriage is the expected default. Only marry if you can see yourself having kids with this person AND she passes all the TRP questions. Then work on maintaining frame and keeping your spouse on the …
/r/TheRedPill07/10/20 11:00 PM
12

Whoever can kick the guys out. It's private property, ya know?
/r/askTRP06/10/20 10:37 PM
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Edit: Dude your "conditions" sound dumb and all her letter says is: "I care enough about you to write this long-ass, tender letter but you're kind of an asshole". Get a head check bro. DO NOT GET MARRIED YOUNG. We are fine with you being religious, abstaining from sex (although you should always try before you buy), and wanting different things from life than what the majority here do. THIS IS OK. STILL DO NOT MARRY YOUNG. You are still a dumbass at 21. Sorry bro, but it's true. Not enough life …
/r/askMRP06/10/20 07:42 PM
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Unpleasant situation. I think you did as well as could be expected from any of us. Ignore them Good advice I saw in another thread: apologize on their behalf to the girl you're with. "Can you believe people these days? I'm sorry we're getting interrupted like that." Try to get attention of a server/barman/security without leaving your girl if you can so they can deal with problem customers If that's not possible just smile at the dude bros. Feel free to laugh at their insults or insinuations. Tu…
/r/askTRP06/10/20 07:39 PM
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No worries. Yeah, the kid "didn't ask to be born", but why should I sacrifice my life for some mythical "greater good" if the ho won't abort? We only get one shot at life too man.
/r/TheRedPill03/10/20 04:43 AM
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Agreed. IMHO the only reason to marry in the west is when you're as sure as you can be that this is a woman you want to have several kids with. None of that "love" bullshit as the only reason to marry. I'm exaggerating, but: you're either going to put a baby in her oven on your wedding night or you're not going to marry.
/r/TheRedPill03/10/20 03:23 AM
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That's why you just gotta fuck her in the ass, bro.
/r/TheRedPill03/10/20 03:22 AM
6

Imma put on my spelling nazi hat here for a sec. It's spelled "granny suite", not "granny sweet", my dude.
/r/TheRedPill02/10/20 12:29 AM
1

That’s why I said “extreme example”. The point is to makeup for things you can’t change (like height) by being excellent at things you can (like your muscle mass or charisma).
/r/TheRedPill23/09/20 08:57 PM
1

I am positive that it will be. Noone wants the absolute uggos and most people are too afraid of 8+ partners for fear of rejection, having to perform, etc. Also applies to women, except women are allowed to be passive.
/r/TheRedPill23/09/20 08:56 PM
-3

Girls from where? 10 hot Indian girls who were born in the West or were born and raised in India? Do you get the difference? Again, if you want to blame your lack of success on "muh wacism" then go ahead. You're still not going to get laid lmao.
/r/TheRedPill22/09/20 08:35 PM
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A disparity in what situation? In attracting just anyone or in attracting white women? The world is big and beauty standards in the West don’t match many other continents or nations. Play to your strengths and improve yourself. Go to “politics” if yo uwant tomake excuses or talk about shit being ”problematic”. Want an extreme example? Look at Aziz Ansari. Think he has trouble with women? Dude is tiny and uggo.
/r/TheRedPill22/09/20 07:00 PM
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It’s only a “problem” because you’re gunning for white women who (surprise) have a preference for white men! Go visit India if you”ve never been and I’m sure you’ll be quite a catch over there.
/r/TheRedPill22/09/20 05:51 PM
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Non-chads are an easy lay to HB9+ for the same reason an HB5-6 is an easy lay for us. There is little risk of rejection. There is little pressure to perform (unless we want to). There is little or no thought ofmaking things into an LTR. We wanna bag a chubby chick for a notch and a distraction; we don’t look at every HB5-6 that shows interest in us as a potential LTR. Same way a 9 won’t look at me for an LTR because she is gunning to parlay her looks into a hot business bad-boy who makes hundred…
/r/TheRedPill22/09/20 05:46 PM
0

I’m talking about anal sex, you virgin.
/r/askTRP27/06/20 05:02 PM
2

You need grief counseling, mah joggah. Depends on where you are in the world or the US this may cost some money. Even if money is tight this will be worth it because such huge TRAUMA (yeah, you got trauma buddy) is going to fuck you up for years if you don't start getting it addressed ASAP. At a minimum you need to find some book to help you out because if you try to "deal with this like a man" at fuckin' 19 (sorry bro, you ain't nowhere close to "a man" that young because you just haven't had t…
/r/askTRP12/05/20 07:29 AM
1

Just put a mask on when going outside, bro. The cuckdown won’t holdusdown.
/r/askTRP09/05/20 06:36 PM
2

Committing and finishing a divorce is a big deal. Period. If you have no such experience then you have no baseline. Life is not a replay of LA HEAT. The end goal of all end goals is to live a happy life, whatever that means to you. Divorce in the case of OP and me is just the first step. The congrats is on taking the furst step. No one is sucking anyone off for “beating the game”.
/r/askMRP09/05/20 04:27 AM
2

Congrats! I'm only now starting on the road that you just finished. Have a drink to celebrate and then get back to work on yourself and your life!
/r/askMRP08/05/20 07:46 PM
1

Just to clarify - we have been apart for about 8 months now. I think you are right. Even if it's the most explosive/amazing sex ever it won't be worth having to go through the process of getting the divorce back on track. If I had a plate right now who was fine draining my balls whenever i thought of my ex-wife then my ex-wife's offer would have absolutely zero appeal.
/r/askMRP07/05/20 03:40 AM
1

Meaning your take is that the fights were her way of killing my sexual energy so she'd have more to spend on the other guy? She finally got me out of the picture, but now that he has moved on she's back. Would be nice to take her out for a final ride, but I'm not sure that effort is worth it since I do plan on finishing the divorce.
/r/askMRP07/05/20 03:00 AM
2

I think you've nailed me better than anyone. I don't see much positive in my life, especially with the divorce wracking my emotions. I'm also indecisive to the point that making an Amazon order becomes an ordeal (gotta read all the reviews and agonize over buying the right brand of hair brush). The feedback from this sub has been consistent. The scant few people who mentioned going back always added "if you can handle it" and all this discussion makes it clear that I can't. At best it'll be a wa…
/r/askMRP07/05/20 02:57 AM
2

That's a good point. I'll have to make myself better to find a better woman to have kids with. If I can't improve myself then there's no point having kids with my current wife or anyone; it'll just turn into a shit-show.
/r/askMRP07/05/20 02:52 AM
-1

No, her point was that she'd give me what I want if I only came back and gave her "a chance to show how much she's grown as a person". That the house would be clean and there would be no fights/nagging, etc. If anything during our relationship I was the one who started pulling away from her sexually because her nagging/fighting was killing my boner.
/r/askMRP07/05/20 02:49 AM
0

She probably did the Tinder rounds after I moved out initially and didn't find anyone to branch swing onto. I just hope she didn't fuck any dudes in my bed. I mean, I also did the same with similar results. This situation would be way easier if I had a woman down for sex who was understanding or even encouraging me to leave my wife.
/r/askMRP07/05/20 02:46 AM
0

A long time ago I was part of a small group of students who were getting private tutoring for the SAT. That guy (asian dude in finance) called me (in private) an underperforming asset. That stuck with me. He wasn't calling me dumb/bad, just not pulling my weight. Some 20 years later I'm still thinking about those words because I don't know how to fix myself. Best I can come up with is TRT or anti-depression meds, but those seem like band-aids at best. I would like to keep her around, but somethi…
/r/askMRP07/05/20 02:44 AM
1

You’re wife started treating you like shit because she wasn’t attracted to you and didn’t respect you The only thing that doesn't add up is that she was the one who wanted sex while her behavior was killing my attraction to her. Maybe she was causing fights to get me to fuck her. She was also never stingy with sex or played games with it. At one point that changed pretty quickly I doubt a man was involved during our marriage (but I'd have no way to check). She probably started dating after I lef…
/r/askMRP07/05/20 02:40 AM
1

I keep thinking that I'll show them the red pill, but from what people here are writing I'm realizing that if I barely had the energy to put up with my wife's emotional needs and her nagging then kids will just make everything worse. It's one thing if my wife think's I'm a beta faggot. It would be a disaster if my kids did as well.
/r/askMRP07/05/20 02:36 AM
1

Yes, there is improvement. I finished my degree, I got a much better job, I started lifting, and while I am fat I never let myself go higher than 250lb. I really am very hard on myself almost to the point of self-hate. Because of this it's hard for me to feel proud of my accomplishments or my progress. It's hard to motivate myself to see a professional about this, but that's the only way that will get better.
/r/askMRP07/05/20 02:34 AM
1

I do worry about her apparent vindictiveness. I never gave her too much cash and always kept control over her spending ("financial abuse" as she later called it). Once when drunk she told me that if our situation was ever reversed (i.e. she made bank and I was stay-at-home) then she'd treat me exactly the same way. In my case I did all that to try and motivate her to find a damn job (as mistaken as that approach may be). As for leaving things out - it wasn't intentional to try and save face. The…
/r/askMRP07/05/20 02:32 AM
1

She's a lot like I am right now. Hard worker and detail-oriented when a project catches her interest, but struggles with the routine. The key difference is if my heart's not in something then I drag my feet on starting it, but finish it very well. She does it in time, but does a slap-dash job. Thanks for that link BTW, very good stuff. Too bad I'm only reading this now and didn't start working to change the direction of this stuff two years or so back when it could have made a difference to save…
/r/askMRP07/05/20 02:29 AM
1

It would be nice to at least dip my toe in for an extended weekend or two of this promised "everything on the table, just come back to me" sex. I can't shake the feeling that she'll just be more upset when I eventually say "thanks, you tried, but it wasn't enough/I still want to divorce".
/r/askMRP07/05/20 02:16 AM
2

I'm glad to hear you had a good connection with your dad. Choose her because she makes you want to be better She only ever felt like an extra set of problems and burdens I had to deal with or carry. Maybe she just never learned how to make her partner feel like "the man" or give them encouragement/energy? Choose to stay with her because she is your best option, not your only option You nailed it. Right now, if I want a decent human being (not a drug addict, carousel rider, etc) then she's my onl…
/r/askMRP07/05/20 02:14 AM
1

This divorce made me realize how much of a coward I am. For the longest time I was panicked she would show up at my new place un announced, start banging on the door and making a scene. I avoided contacting her for months (and she didn't bother reaching out herself) because I was anxious over what she would say/react. I guess it boils down to two things: Can I "fix" myself during the relatively short "hysterical bonding" phase? No, unlikely. Even if I could fix myself, is there anything worth sa…
/r/askMRP07/05/20 02:11 AM
1

Don’t stay with someone just because they’re available The conversations here make me realize that the primary reason I'm hesitant to break things off is because how little I was able to invest in the relationship and still get some attributes of family life + bareback sex. The hesitation is not because of love. I can easily say that I've never loved her; just liked her. I married her because that was the easiest thing to do (going with the flow) of what my parents suggested. If she and I were j…
/r/askMRP07/05/20 02:07 AM
1

tell her you’ll take her back after the divorce as a girlfriend and if she is a good girl for a year you’ll remarry her I wouldn't mind continuing to fuck her, even though I'm worried about getting child-trapped (male BC pills can't come fast enough). I have thought about about coming back so she can "show me" how much she has improved as a person during our time apart but continuing the divorce during this time. Then, when everything is finalized, asking her to move out. I have no idea whether …
/r/askMRP07/05/20 02:01 AM
1

So in short: if I do the work then I'll be likely to find the same or better family situation. If I don't do the work then nothing will help. Either way, I'm not confident that I'll be able to both stay and work on myself in this relationship so I guess the answer is clear.
/r/askMRP07/05/20 01:58 AM
1

I guess it boils down to whether I'll have the time to get myself on a high enough level to maintain a healthy relationship while still married to her or if there's no way I'll manage this with my current state of mind if we remain married. Like I mentioned in other comments this relationship has been very comfortable. Minimum work from me for someone who (kind of) takes care of the house and some pussy when I want it. It's certainly not the case that conversations were ever stimulating (makeup,…
/r/askMRP07/05/20 01:55 AM
1

Not my "eggs", no, but the challenge of finding and marrying a woman young enough to have healthy kids when I'm already 35. I mean, if you really don't believe me I can post a pic of my hairy balls with a timestamp, but I think that's over the line.
/r/askMRP07/05/20 01:51 AM
1

I just know that if I don't have kids then eventually it'll be too late and I'll forever regret it. As for work, I understand they will require work, but I always thought it's a different kind of emotional labor than with a spouse.
/r/askMRP07/05/20 01:50 AM
1

Good point. Especially when I wasn't attached too much to the shirt to begin with. It was just comfortable and the easiest thing to wear and I had to do little work in maintaining it.
/r/askMRP07/05/20 01:49 AM
0

I kind of am being torn apart :) I didn't write about steps I've taken to fix them because they didn't really appear material to the fundamental question: do I go through with the divorce in its current state or not. Reading peoples' replies I'm starting to figure out that the biggest reason I liked out relationship is because it was very comfortable for me. The only real effort I put in (besides planning trips for the both of us) is putting up with her nagging/fights. She took care of the house…
/r/askMRP07/05/20 01:47 AM
0

Did you also walk out after filing/threatening divorce and then see her hysterical bonding attempts? Was the "pure misery" her quickly returning to her old ways or just the emotional pain of uncertainty?
/r/askMRP07/05/20 01:43 AM
1

Well written. I guess at least kids are stuck with you and can't divorce you? it doesn't really matter what you pick right now, because with who you are now That's what I also come back to. It'll take time (a year? more if I'm lazy? who knows) to fix my mental models and health. I don't think this hysterical bonding will last nearly as long. Thus I will be stuck in the same position: spending energy on work, on her, and taking off stress with food/youtube/beer. This means I'll just be back in th…
/r/askMRP07/05/20 01:42 AM
1

I do. When she first floated the idea of me coming back she said sex was off the table because we were separated for so long (about 6 months living separately). After our first makeout session and me still being non-committal she said all kinds of sex was now on the table. The really funny thing is that, in a way, I've never felt lonelier than when I was married. Here was another person and while we had good weekends together during the week it was almost like a room mate with benefits? Maybe I …
/r/askMRP07/05/20 01:36 AM
1

California, but with COVID I am down for video sessions with anyone from around the country and I'll be most likely paying cash.
/r/askTRP07/05/20 01:33 AM
1

I really did come here for advice because I have no one else to turn to IRL and my own navel gazing/anxiety over the divorce are preventing me from thinking clearly. I re-started compound lifts last year, I'm out walking every other day now and I'd love to pick up trap shooting after the divorce. I don't know why it's so hard to be confident in my decision to divorce. Maybe it's because my wife is asking me to question it yet again after I made it twice before (served her papers and sent an emai…
/r/askMRP07/05/20 01:33 AM
1

I agree that I have a lot of work to do on myself and I want to do that work. For example I'm already lifting, but a 325lb squat doesn't really matter when I have a BMI of 32%. The real question is if I can ride the hysterical bonding that's going on now to self improve enough that I can "save" this marriage. The more I read replies here the more I realize the answer is probably "no" because I'd have to spend energy on work, on myself and on maintaining a shaken marriage. Ultimately the question…
/r/askMRP07/05/20 01:26 AM
1

go to the gym three times a week and throw out your ice cream I sometimes feel like getting in shape will be the hardest thing I'll ever do in my life. Using food as a crutch and way to relieve stress makes kicking that habit much harder. However I know I don't have any other choice because, outside of appearance, health problems like diabetes will eventually get me. Unfortunately we both "sat" on this issue for 8 months now. I did because I didn't want to deal with it and she did because she's …
/r/askMRP06/05/20 06:38 PM
2

Thanks man, I appreciate the perspective. FWIW she nagged because she work was killing me and I wasn't giving her enough attention during the week. Or she was bored. Or frustrated at her own lack of progress in a new country. Those are the only things I can think of. Thankfully I found a new job soon after filing for divorce and between that and moving out my stress levels have been down immensely.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 06:21 AM
1

It's scary reading stories here about people who vetted and did their best, but still ended up with a partner who cheats on them, etc. I guess there are no promises and at some point you just have to roll the dice.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 06:19 AM
1

Fair point. If I may ask, how old was your mother and are the two of them still together? You are right about "ruining two lives" part. If we're together it'll be even more difficult for me to find the energy to improve myself between having to spend time on work (mandatory) and her (also... mandatory). It doesn't look like it'll be anything more than a slow death for the relationship.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 06:18 AM
2

The other thing she's mentioned several times (in English, we usually speak another language domestically) is "emotional abuse" and that I'm too controlling. This may be very beta of me to say, but I can see how some aspects of my approach are controlling, especially around money because she almost never had her own reliable income. The "emotional abuse" part is absolute BS unless switching from DEERing to ignoring her hysterics falls under that category. We also tried something similar a few ye…
/r/askMRP06/05/20 06:15 AM
1

I understand. It's almost like changing the way you eat when you first try to lose weight. Maintaining such a strict diet for the rest of your life sounds dreadful, but that's the only way forward that RP offers and I haven't found any better solutions for normal people.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 06:10 AM
-1

She's in my house because she has no job, no money, no family/friends in this country and thus no place to go. Kicking her out would have been an easy court win for her. Thankfully rental prices are now falling so I'm gently pushing her towards searching for her own place finally. No matter my FOMO/dying alone/never having kids fears the only solution that actually feels good is finalizing the div and then continuing communication with her (if she even wants that). I can't shake the feeling that…
/r/askMRP06/05/20 06:09 AM
1

I take it from that you'r take is that early kids would not have improved the situation, but only made it worse? Gotcha, at least that's a relief to hear.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 03:42 AM
-1

Well. Goes without saying that I'd fuck her even after divorce is finalized, but of course she announced she'd go NC then (which I'm fine with, I haven't missed her so much in the 6-8 months we've been apart).
/r/askMRP06/05/20 02:57 AM
1

Areas of relationship counseling and anxiety/depression.
/r/askTRP06/05/20 02:55 AM
1

Thank you, I'll absolutely follow up on that. At a minimum that should quiet the anxiety and dread I feel because the past several weeks it has been relentless.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 02:38 AM
0

I'm fairly sure she was not intending things that way. Now there's enough dread that I can set the rules, but the other issue is what happens when both of us start getting complacent again and she goes back to her old ways? It's almost impossible to believe that she has truly and fundamentally changed herself over these past 6-8 months and yet that's what she claims and wants me to come back and live with her to "prove to me" that it's the case.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 02:38 AM
0

Sidebar, lift, STFU That goes without saying. The real issue is whether I ditch the wife for good to start a new relationship or not.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 02:36 AM
1

I hear you, man. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
/r/askMRP06/05/20 02:31 AM
5

When I told my dad about this he sympathized. His advice was to install a camera pointed at the front door "in case of theft" so I can have some coverage if that ever happens again. I guess it only ever got that bad because I wasn't giving her the attention she craved due to being exhausted from work. I know that she never though I would react the way that I did to her (leave home immediately and a few weeks later file for divorce).
/r/askMRP06/05/20 02:28 AM
1

Thanks for that. I'll definitely have to get my BMI down to healthy range before I can consider things like TRT. Speaking of choices the only thing I regret is not getting her pregnant when she first moved here. She would have been too exhausted to nag (as much) and she wouldn't have to find a job (we didn't need the money, but I wanted her occupied and she failed to do that). I guess now it's too late and if I want kids I'll have to gamble on finding another willing and young enough woman to do…
/r/askMRP06/05/20 02:26 AM
1

You echo what others have posted: creating a new family or restoring this one will both take a lot of work. The only other deciding factor is having kids (which I personally want) even though it's hard to imagine my current wife as a mother (but who knows, right?).
/r/askMRP06/05/20 02:21 AM
2

If you are going to have children with someone, sooner will be better than later. Part of my concern is that, if I don't have kids with her, then I might never have them. Do you have basic incompatibility that make it so that pursuing something with your current spouse definitely a no-go Only our history, her harpy behavior and my previous DEER attempts before I got fed up with the fighting and would just start ignoring her. About three years in she found incriminating messages between me and an…
/r/askMRP06/05/20 02:19 AM
3

I'm not offended by such comments (I haven't BSed anyone who told me as much here), it's just that they're not super helpful to the immediate matter at hand. You’re looking for validation not to get back together with her. Yes. Along with a slap on the ass and a "You can do it, champ". Or comments like "You'd be an idiot to pass this up because it doesn't sound like you'll get anything better." her “quiet period” was her fucking other dudes Yup and I guess she found none of my "level" or better …
/r/askMRP06/05/20 02:09 AM
1

I have been hitting the gym and doing compound lifts. Unfortunately stress eating + alcohol + work eating up most of my mental energy means I still have a spare tire (~230-250 range).
/r/askMRP06/05/20 02:04 AM
-5

There's a difference between reading and internalizing. I have read the sidebar and I recognize myself in many parts. I'm unpredictable (at least when it comes to weekends), I don't beg for sex (and to her credit my wife has never played those games), and while no one loves rejection I don't really miss my wife's affections or those of other girls who've rejected me. It's dumb. It's hard for me to see myself having kids with this woman and, at the same time, I have no certainty I'll ever find an…
/r/askMRP06/05/20 02:02 AM
8

Thanks man, that's a beautiful point. You're right, in my mind the attractive thing about staying (and getting all the bennies she promises) is not having to do any extra work myself. I guess I'm just worried that if I do get out whether I'll have enough time to turn my ship around and get the family life I want or if this is my only choice (no matter how bad it is). That said, I've kept thinking about this quote from Bill Burr over the past few years: Realize that sleeping on a futon when you'r…
/r/askMRP06/05/20 01:59 AM
1

The funny thing is that saying "no" is easy. I feel like it'll make a lot of the ambiguity and emotional pain going away. I keep looking for reasons to say "yes" to her offer and to go back. All I can find in this category is the fear of becoming forever alone. Sure, the sex and home life are also good, but they are not front of mind or enough to outweigh the feeling in the pit of my stomach. The only other problem is that I've quit other relationships because... I guess I was either lazy for ho…
/r/askMRP06/05/20 01:51 AM
3

You're going to facepalm when you read this, but... ...I keep worrying how, if I go back, I'll get stuck again. Either she'll get pregnant or I'll get complacent and, at best, I'll be back at this within a year and at worst within a few years when alimony and other divorce expenses will be even higher and I'll be even older. I'm scared if I keep the course I'll just never finding any amount of family life happiness again.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 01:47 AM
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Only then consider her offer. Her offer is not going to be on the table forever. If I keep feeding her "maybes" then she'll get fed up eventually. I can come back to live with her at my place for some weeks or months and have her demonstrate how much she has changed in this time. It's tempting to do this, enjoy the hot sex and hot meals, and then push to finish the divorce regardless. "Kid trap" aside, I don't know if I'd be setting myself up for even more emotional pain if I did that, though. Y…
/r/askMRP06/05/20 01:41 AM
0

I get that. Ultimately I'm responsible for this decision. I feel really trapped and alone - that's why I made this post.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 01:35 AM
1

That's a beautiful analogy. I tell myself that never during the time we were separated and no contact did I miss her or the sex. Sure, sex is nice when I don't have to think how much work it requires, same for companionship. Some of the dating I did went well, but the women (understandably) did not want to proceed too much further after learning I was in the middle of a divorce. The only reason I'm thinking about jumping back in is because I have little confidence that I'll be able to do better …
/r/askMRP06/05/20 01:34 AM
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People who follow the Red Pill can also end up dying forgotten and alone. I'll be 35 soon so I'll have to work extra hard to find a woman young enough to have healthy kids. It just might be this bitch I have to learn to manage and control or nothing. Living a married life with her felt more like I acquired a little sister than an actual woman/friend/lover because I always had to deal with her shit/emotions. Honestly, work takes 80% out of me and I do just want an easy time back home without havi…
/r/askMRP06/05/20 01:32 AM
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Kind of. I'm not going to give you the whole "b..but I'm working on it" excuse. Walking away is the most RP thing I've done in that relationship. I guess now I'm wondering that if I do finish the divorce whether I'll ever acquire the nuts to successfully start another family.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 01:26 AM
1

That's a unicorn, bro. You'll have to figure out how to avoid having to "carry" her emotions because she'll always demand emotional/attention labor from you.
/r/askMRP06/05/20 01:10 AM
1

This is my first marriage and LTR. I had some short relationships prior, but nothing serious. I've never had much interest in women because internet/games/technology/programming were more accessible and easier. Through initiative of my parents I got hitched. Since I eventually want kids I'll have to get married again. I wish I was a skirt-chasing, plate spinning Chad, but I'm not.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 01:09 AM
1

To give some post-separation context. She was quiet for months after having her initial panic. She justifies this as "wanting to give me time to cool off". After I re-engaged because I wanted to get the divorce finalized she started her push to have us get back together. Initially sex was off the table (we were separated for months by that time). After I sent her an email explaining why things are over she said sex is on the table and I have "nothing to lose" by giving the marriage another shot …
/r/askMRP06/05/20 01:08 AM
1

there is nothing redpilled about this No, there isn't. I'm pretty upfront about calling myself out. I guess I'm hoping there's something salvageable here because the alternative is a lot of hard work by me with little guarantee for success. That's why I'm asking internet strangers for advice because I literally have no one better to turn to.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 01:01 AM
1

Thanks. I didn't realize that existed. I'll cross-post.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 01:00 AM
2

Yes. She said it was a "sales pitch" with exactly the things I listed and some of her nude photos. Yes, I get that she's trying to survive and get back her stable life. She came over on a fiance visa from Poland and the only things she's really accomplished on her time here is to get her passport and chase me away (no real friends, no career, and she had a falling out with my parents). At the same time I'm being realistic because I have no idea if I'll be able to do better than this. If I can le…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 12:58 AM
1

To give some post-separation context. She was quiet for months after having her initial panic. She justifies this as "wanting to give me time to cool off". After I re-engaged because I wanted to get the divorce finalized she started her push to have us get back together. Initially sex was off the table (we were separated for months by that time). After I sent her an email explaining why things are over she said sex is on the table and I have "nothing to lose" by giving the marriage another shot …
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 12:51 AM
1

This is something that only money or sewing will fix. Just remember that your husband still loves your boobs (as much of a pain as they may be to you personally) and loves you. If he forgets to remind you of this because a 9mo old is exhausting then try to remind him of that back. He's still a man after all.
/r/RedPillWives06/05/20 12:35 AM
0

You can even go so far as to update a prenup with postnup provisions during the marriage. This exists precisely to cover cases like what you describe (pre-marital money used to acquire assets during marriage). If you got a hate-boner for prenups I won't change your mind, but you have to stop spreading lies.
/r/askTRP05/05/20 06:08 PM
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He agreed because he already had at least one kid. Plenty of people in their 60s who regret not having a child and now can't do anything to fix that other than adopting I guess.
/r/askTRP05/05/20 05:03 PM
1

Not even in your 30s? Not even if you want kids? Problem is that you want a young (28-32, maaaybe up to 34) woman with whom to have kids to avoid genetic issues like autism. Also your sperm potency drops even as men age. This means that if someone realistically wants kids their window of opportunity (due to biology) is pretty limited.
/r/askTRP05/05/20 05:02 PM
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really limited in scope Not true. They can list whatever within bounds of reason and contract law. expensive to execute Sure, but so is anything when lawyers are involved. It'll probably cost 10-15k for two lawyers. Is this expensive? Well, if you have assets to protect then the answer is probably "no". often get thrown out Anything is possible in court. That's why you prepare as best you can in how you draft the prenup (she has equal representation, etc) and hope you did a good job vetting your…
/r/askTRP05/05/20 05:00 PM
1

Sure, here's one: If her butt's off limits then we're done.
/r/askTRP03/05/20 07:47 PM
1

And (since you mentioned nice guys) the expectation that being nice means someone owes them sex. If anyone reading this thinks that someone owes you anything just because you were nice/accommodating then you better check yourself before you "m'lady" yourself.
/r/askTRP30/04/20 06:16 PM
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Just think about it like camping. i.e. - leave 'em better than when you found them. If you gave them a great experience, some fun times and ended things like an adult (i.e. don't ghost them, let 'em down gently, give them some closure even, etc) then it's fine. If you're already doing all that then it's starting to sound more like you're falling in love with every bitch who acts cute/innocent.
/r/askTRP30/04/20 04:43 AM
1

Nah man. It just sounds like you have some latent homophobia if you can class a woman as having "masculine energy".
/r/askTRP28/04/20 10:46 PM
1

masculine energy Dude was she trying to peg you or something? What even is this?
/r/askTRP28/04/20 09:03 PM
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Essentially pretend like this stupid exchange never happened. If she brings it up then either ignore or just reiterate that you were busy. This is such childish behavior that I can't even.
/r/askTRP28/04/20 07:49 PM
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Correct on all three counts. Unfortunately some alcohol is often unavoidable, but never go after someone who's VERY tipsy (not to mention just plain DRUNK) or you suspect is on drugs. Changing up your day to smash is never worth it. If she values you then she'll be around when your schedule is more convenient for you.
/r/askTRP28/04/20 07:49 PM
1

I am not saying one is better than the other in any way. Do youhave to (sometimes) touch assembly and worry about the system resource limitations? Because modern typical devs don’t have to do that. Anywaythese differences are for nerds. A normie won’t know or care. You are forgetting to have fun when talking sbout your job. Make up outrageous stuff, say wacky things with sexual undertones, etc. Talk about what brand of vibrators to stay away from because their electronics will shock your pussy. …
/r/askTRP26/04/20 08:07 PM
1

Try dating a woman who you know has the same or better career than you (i.e. another lawyer) and see how she reacts. You ain't gotta marry her or nothing, just compare reactions. Also consider this whole thing a net positive. If you can filter out girls who are getting wet over your (potential future) money from the ones who are getting wet over you then you're a mile ahead.
/r/askTRP26/04/20 06:43 PM
1

You are not concealing. You're telling a lie so outrageous that only a child would be upset when you later "reveal" the truth. You feel the way you feel because vetting a woman for an LTR/emotionally intimate relationship is a lot more work than plating actually is. If you want that "real connection" (you giant pussy, you) then you'll have to work at finding a girl who's worth that investment. Then you'll have to work extra hard on your frame because nothing is weaker to a woman than a man who l…
/r/askTRP26/04/20 06:42 PM
0

You're an "embedded systems engineer", not a "software dev" per say. The two SDLCs are way different, for one. Just tell 'em you program vibrators for work and ask them about their favorite setting so you can get that into your company's next product. Or get excited describing the advancements in teledildonics your workplace is developing.
/r/askTRP26/04/20 06:39 PM
1

Of course. Some people decide to have an easy time in college so they go for an easy degree like PolSci, communication or business. Then they graduate and realize a BS in those is not enough to get a relevant position and struggle.
/r/askTRP26/04/20 06:37 PM
7

Unless you're WFH of course. The only real savings you get are from not having to commute, but having to cook more eats up into that instead.
/r/TheRedPill21/04/20 05:26 PM
21

Putting yourself at higher risk for domestic violence is no joke!
/r/askTRP15/04/20 08:42 PM
1

Gotcha, thanks.
/r/askTRP14/04/20 09:30 PM
1

acts masculine What do you mean by that? Any examples?
/r/askTRP14/04/20 07:47 PM
1

You are, of course, correct. I mis-spoke. I was trying to say that the latter girls are, at best, a plate. The former may have some potential for a more serious relationship (if that's what a person wants) depending on other factors.
/r/TheRedPill14/04/20 05:33 PM
2

The latter you can fuck without feeling guilty lol
/r/TheRedPill11/04/20 04:23 AM
1

Lol, not without a gym you can’t
/r/TheRedPill11/04/20 04:22 AM
1

Disagree. Will ALL people who need to read that post see it? No. Will some (like me)? Yes. My diet has been bad (even with cooking at home I did not restrict portions), I'm looking forward to drinking too much (because stress and boredom) and my sleeping schedule is garbage. I got work to do.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/20 07:16 PM
1

Please continue writing BUT please also find someone you trust to edit your posts. At a minimum to look at organization/presentation and simple gramma errors like "your/you're".
/r/TheRedPill10/04/20 07:15 PM
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OP's post is good and I'll give a tl;dr = "There's no reason you should come out of quarantine weighing MORE than you did going in". I'm looking at myself here.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/20 05:38 PM
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There are some weird people out there who actually put a lot of thought into their tats. That's why it's important to ask. If she got it to "commemorate a trip" or "because it felt right" then everything you wrote applies.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/20 05:35 PM
5

Don't forget over indulging in drinking. Honestly, that combination makes me want to learn to be more assertive and direct because seeing girls like that feels like it should be easy mode.
/r/TheRedPill10/04/20 05:34 PM
3

They're always down it if the price is right.
/r/askTRP09/04/20 09:32 PM
33

Rip and tear until it is done.
/r/PussyPassDenied08/04/20 11:47 PM
3

Or fathered a bunch of bastards. I hate condoms, but until there's a cure for the biggest STIs and a male contraceptive pill they are necessary evils. Also, I kind of hesitate to think what kind of plates let you smash raw on the reg. Imagine they let other guys do that to them as well. Just saying.
/r/askTRP04/04/20 09:54 PM
2

Yeah, we have an age difference. The take away is that TRP can be used towards different goals/needs at different stages at life. Of course you don't want a family or kids now. Give it a decade or so and you might come to different opinions (or not, who knows, right?).
/r/askTRP04/04/20 09:52 PM
9

Only if you relax and get sloppy. I don't see you sleeping on a bed of rocks or nails. Is having a nice mattress or a nice and stable LTR "the devil"? :)
/r/askTRP04/04/20 07:50 PM
7

idea of a relationship honestly kind of is weird to me at this point Not judging you, but that sounds pretty broken. Look, if you have no ambition or desire to start a family or have kids then keep on truckin'. For those of us who do want these things the world looks a bit different. The only foolish thing about all this is thinking that there's only one right way forward. same hole Some things get better with repetition. It's easier to get an LTR to do ATM for you than a plate.
/r/askTRP04/04/20 07:49 PM
6

No, just someone who realizes that people, including men wow, want different things out of relationships. If someone primarily wants novelty and new experiences - that's great. Other people want comfort, routine, and easy access to condom-less sex. Getting the latter situation going is much more time consuming than bouncing from plate to plate. You should exit if there are problems, but OP did not describe any issues besides his own FOMO insecurities.
/r/askTRP04/04/20 07:29 PM
16

Agreed. AWALT is right, but too many of the posts here are just seething with rage when the real world (as seen via TRP) collides catastrophically with the rose-tinted fantasy that's been sold to men (and women!) in the West.
/r/TheRedPill04/04/20 07:25 PM
41

Not management - EFFORT. Effort to "keep the flame alive", to keep the romantic/tingles part going, and to remain a pleasant person when you've been around long enough to see the person's faults (and they yours). Finding a new girl is not just going to be hard, it'll be a lot harder than you think. The only thing I get from your post is that you are worried about missing out on some new pussy. Look, is your girl giving you 110% of what you want in bed? If not, you should probably talk to her abo…
/r/askTRP04/04/20 06:46 PM
3

Bro, you need help of professionals dealing with this situation. This isn’t a “i got fired” or “i got rear-ended” type of problem that men are supposed to handle and recover from on their own. This is MAJOR and if you don’t approach it like that you are setting up yourself for failure. Again, you need professionals to help you deal with an equivalent ofanuclear explosion in your personal life. A therapist will be helpful. A grief counselor will be invaluable. Spend any money you need on this. It…
/r/askTRP29/03/20 10:04 PM
5

This isn’t weakness, homie
/r/askTRP29/03/20 06:01 AM
2

Brother, you do not have a choice. You will continue in the execution of your duty until the pandemic passes or you yourself are disabled by the symptoms. You will have time to reflect and rest and process and honor the fallen later. Now os the time for work. As low and weak as you feel those around you know that this is your finest hour.
/r/askTRP29/03/20 06:01 AM
1

Not going to touch the “good thing” part, butit’s true that some girls enjoy the chase way more than the prize (of having sex). Just got to filter out these girls because their pussy is no better than anyone else’s.
/r/TheRedPill08/03/20 06:21 PM
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Just saying that she won’t cook or clean if those expectations are not set ahead of time. Now more than ever before you gotta train a bitch for her to be a woman you’ll like for more than just her vageen.
/r/TheRedPill27/02/20 08:17 PM
1

Bro it's nice that you felt safe enough to come to us (internet strangers) for help, but TRP is absolutely NOT EQUIPPED to help you with this situation. Please seek out advice from a professional. Even if it costs you money! Spend whatever you need and treat what you dad said as ABSOLUTELY SERIOUS. He obviously feels comfortable enough to say something so intimate to you. Keep spending time with him. Keep asking him to do things for you or the household. Don't ever let him feel like everything i…
/r/askTRP20/02/20 09:59 PM
11

Yeah, I always thought this was the "true" definition of Intro/Extravert. I dunno why OP is talking about being "more concerned about my own thoughts/feelings".
/r/TheRedPill20/02/20 09:54 PM
1

Anyone can do that while claiming that they are "red pilled". The distinction that u/mkovic is trying to make is the difference between saying "do this or we're through" vs "I need this". The outcome of not getting the ask in an ultimatum is automatically following through with the threat (lest the ultimatum giver gets seen as weak). The outcome of voicing your need is not necessarily leaving or breaking up. You might spend less time with the girl, demote her to a plate, or even re-evaluate your…
/r/askTRP20/02/20 09:52 PM
9

He means you had a good run with her and she likely won't take no for an answer, although with UEMcGill's advice you can probably squeeze some more miles out of your baby.
/r/askTRP20/02/20 09:49 PM
25

My man hope you have the resces because you need grief counseling. Not just a therapist, but a grief counselor. That’s an actual niche that people specialize in. Please look into that. Also please do whatever it takes to stay away from alcohol or drugs as a means of dulling the pain. Religion, spending lots of money, traveling - whatever it takes to keep yourself from hitting the bottle. We can’t tell you that the pain will ever get better, but you can and will find a system of living and moving…
/r/askTRP17/02/20 04:44 PM
1

Sounds better than coprophilia.
/r/askTRP08/02/20 05:33 PM
1

Bro why do you engage with these hoes? You don’t have to be rude, but you are under no obligation to stand around and listen to their problems. Just duck out. Also lol at the “fairly liberal” shit. Drop your cucky ways, man.
/r/askTRP05/02/20 09:10 PM
1

Proceed to what? Stroke it out right then and there? Alpha move, bro.
/r/askTRP05/02/20 09:07 PM
8

A man’s insecurity at what though? There are some women I see and realize I wouldnkt know what to do with them. Bend them over, obviously, but ouzzled why I feel that eay to a stranger some times.
/r/TheRedPill18/01/20 04:27 PM
21

They don’t, unless you want to have kids or a family, of course.
/r/TheRedPill18/01/20 04:21 PM
29

You still have feelings? I guess you are just not Alpha enough /s
/r/askTRP14/01/20 06:49 AM
4

“Emotionally self reliant conpletely”? That sounds solly. What do you do? Punch those pesky emotions back into your brain? Everyone needs some level of emotional support at some point. I am tired of feeling alone even when I’m lying in bed with a cute girl. TRP’s insistence that an SO is “not to help you with feelz” is a really troubling trend.
/r/TheRedPill03/01/20 09:30 PM
1

GET OUT NOW BECAUSE DIVORCINGHER IN A FEW YEARS FOR THE SAME REASONS YOU WROTE ABOUT NOW WILL BE HARDER, MESSIER, AND MORE EXPENSIVE. Sorry for the caps, brother. Look, you’re in the military. You’ve had to eat some shit. This is no different. Inprovise, adapt, and get the fuck out of there. Your baby girl will understand.
/r/askTRP30/12/19 05:29 PM
2

Of course there is. You can go to a therapist who specializes in sex-related topics and explain your situation. Say you are not looking for affirmation, but to understand why and where your desire is coming from. With a better understanding you will either be able to embrace it or fatties won’t be that attractive any more. In truth it’s fine to be attracted to signs of fertility (wide hips, thighs, butss, big breasts). The problem is when this crosses the boundary to attraction for unhealthy lif…
/r/askTRP27/12/19 06:02 PM
7

I mean, at least he knew how to spell balaclava?
/r/TheRedPill25/12/19 06:35 PM
1

You still need to play by the other rules though. I’m in a similar boat where I like holding hands and being lovey-dovey. But if I do this more than her or give her more attention/compliments then gorls read that as needy. It’s not true, just what I’m in the mood for, but I don’t blame them for thinking that way. Always remember the 2/3 rule of Thomasi.
/r/askTRP25/12/19 06:26 PM
6

Yeah. She was a ho in the past and had ho friends.
/r/askTRP25/12/19 06:20 PM
2

So if a guy does ALL that emotional and mental labor in a relationship then what the hell does a woman bring to it? Just sex and popping out kids? Jesus, that’s depressing. mTRP has definitely destroyed any notion I had of finding a partner on whom I can lean as much as they can lean on me.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/12/19 03:32 PM
1

You really want alphas everywhere and bitches with huge clit-dicks from all that T going around hitting on guys?
/r/TheRedPill12/12/19 04:59 PM
18

Agreed. Rub that pussy, make sure she’s wet, then go for it. Wat her at the end if you really feel she earned it. Otherwise imtake care of your pkeasure first. It’s not like you are likely to see her again.
/r/askTRP06/12/19 03:56 PM
6

It sucks dude. What sucks more is that plenty of people earn more than you do by babbling on about diversity instead of writing code. But hey, we can learn a thing from muslims who have a concept of taqiya or “precautionary dissimulation or denial of religious belief and practice in the face of persecution”. Beat your chest and be the biggest “ally” you can while laughing all the way to the bank. Then jump ship to some place less radical after you got a few years of Google under your belt ;)
/r/TheRedPill30/11/19 04:22 PM
2

Dude, why are you spending time on anything OTHER THAN FINDING A NEW JOB? Playtime’s over mother fucker. You gotta get that bread. Politely cut all your plates unless you have one that’s easy sex. Tell ‘em you gotta focus on your job and then get searching. Expand uour radius and move of you gotta.
/r/askTRP29/11/19 11:14 PM
3

OP, you’re absolutely right, but yku’re (slightly) missing the point of “go lift” advice. This advice essentially translates to a general catch-all to people hoping for a change. It really just means “get off your ass and do something”. To wit: I started lifting to feel like I was doing at least SOMETHING right. Now that I’m over DOMS and going to the gym consistently I am ready to focus on diet. Everyone will be different, but you need some kind of trigger to get a person to start moving.
/r/TheRedPill29/11/19 08:27 PM
4

And I am saying you won’t even notice her around if you have pussy on tap. Right now you are overthinking. Also imho the fact that you are shitting where you eat doesn’t really mesh with you saying that you value work highly.
/r/askTRP20/11/19 04:52 AM
-3

Dude, you know what will get you on your game? Knowing you’re phone call away from good pussy any time of day. Worl on that and you won’t wven notice her or her potential attenpts to fuck you over with a workplace romance.
/r/askTRP20/11/19 03:08 AM
2

Fair enough. The short answer is “no, not all HBs are like that” just like not all blank are blank. gl;hf!
/r/askTRP20/11/19 03:06 AM
1

My only question to you is: why do you care? Go to the parties to have fun first, get laid second. I would jext this girl from the outset because of all the attitude. I don’t care how hot she is - that pussy ain’t worse that headache.
/r/askTRP20/11/19 03:02 AM
10

You can ignore her comment (you don’t have to respond to everything she says, you know) or you can dimiss like another poster suggested (“lol k”) or you can AA.
/r/askTRP10/11/19 06:43 PM
1

Naw dawg, she’s a solid 6, she just had a difficult time growing up that (I assume) did not leave any time for CC.
/r/askTRP10/11/19 03:21 AM
1

lol. I expected to be called a beta cuck, not a race traitor. Y’all need a paddlin’.
/r/askTRP09/11/19 09:11 PM
1

Yo, is this Stormfront? You don’t even know my race/nationality! It’s 2019 bro; black pussy’s good.
/r/askTRP09/11/19 07:52 PM
4

I like how youbhad to specify “...with vaginas”. No feminine benis for you, my friend!
/r/askTRP04/11/19 05:30 PM
5

Wut? Did she usually cum before you before or are you such an awesone lover that you out her orgasm first? You know that nothing will come from this so next time focus 100% on getting your rocks off and she can take care of business herself.
/r/askTRP27/10/19 11:29 AM
1

Plenty of insecure guys out there who find confident or competent women a turnoff or “manly”.
/r/TheRedPill27/10/19 11:08 AM
6

My man, you write a lot while saying very little so it’s easy to skip paragraphs when all they are is poetic filler. I didn’t make any assumptions in my post; just teased you for shilling your side hustle under the guise of helping people. Judging by your response I guess I was a little too on target. Also, my porn clips aren’t random! Each month has a theme, each week explores an area of that theme and I curate my viewing catalogue extensively!
/r/TheRedPill23/10/19 07:21 AM
-2

Started skipping filler paragraphs of flowery prose half way through. Then tealized that it was GLO. Then realized he’s just shilling his business. Sad times, boys. Oh, GLO, at least pay to get rid of the WIX branding. That stuff is Beta as fuck.
/r/TheRedPill23/10/19 06:43 AM
4

Keep in mind you could have done everything right 100% and this could have still happened. Lick your wounds and don’t kick yourself. I’m suoer happy that you dodged this slut bullet.
/r/askTRP19/10/19 11:54 AM
1

No. You like what you like. The challenge will always be explaining that this is just a kink you enjoy in the bedroom and not that you’re secretly a little bitch.
/r/askTRP07/10/19 03:47 PM
1

You’re absolutely correct. The challenge is that becoming 1% takes time (years for most guys and even never for some) and we still want companionship/sex in the meantime. I would say that’t the real challenge.
/r/askTRP23/09/19 08:44 PM
1

If that’s all you have going on then your life sounds kind of boring on paper to a casual observer. Where’s your interesting/sensitive side? All I hear is: “I work, go to the gym, and browse reddit”. Find a cause that you like and start volunteering (I recommend animal shelters). Are you DIY/handy? Is there a topic you are passionate about and want to become more knowlegable in that DOESN’T have anything to do with fitness or work or cars? Start thinking in these directions. Also tell your bitch…
/r/askTRP05/09/19 03:56 PM
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