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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/06/20 02:07 PM
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Pretty sure someone has already mentioned this, but some will use "terms of endearment" that involve your race very often...like "My gorgeous chocolate princess" and weird shit like that ...or they'll mention being fascinated with interracial porn and how they love the "skin contrast" 🤣 Just pay attention to what the person says...if they seem strangely fascinated with your race, just walk away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 11:16 PM
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Same. I've cut men way too much slack in the past due to being a very understanding person. My thing now is...if you're really so troubled that you cannot get it together and be a healthy partner, I'm not going to wait around for you to sort yourself out. I'm not going to suffer while I try to help/fix you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 11:11 PM
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I need this right now 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 09:40 PM
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I am sorry...my intention wasn't to offend...should I delete?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/05/20 12:09 PM
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Can someone tell me what OLD is? 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/05/20 10:03 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/05/20 09:56 PM
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Yes! Hindsight really is 20/20. You can't see everything clearly when you're in the moment. And I know, it hurts feeling like you weren't good enough someone. But you eventually realize, it wasn't you...they are terrified when it really comes down to it. A deeply insecure man doesn't have much of anything to offer a woman..besides dick and emotional pain. They're terrible for your heart and soul. They'll never openly admit to being insecure. They'll just project and make you feel like you're doi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 08:01 PM
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It really is! You just never know who you're actually dealing with. Sometimes, it's not until you try to advocate for your needs or raise relationship concerns...that's when his very dark nature would come out. I couldn't get him to have mature discussions about "serious" topics. It was like dealing with a chronically defensive man-child. He couldn't be vulnerable. He would put on this cold/arrogant act and literally reject everything I had to say. He would even imply that I was lying about how …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 07:17 PM
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So true! Listen... it took two years for this one guy I was involved with to display LVM traits...and when I say LVM traits, I mean full-on emotional abuse. Yes, he seemed so well-mannered during the first two years. I viewed him as a nice/reserved guy who had just run into a lot of bad luck in his life. He idealized the fuck out of me and made me feel great about myself during the first two years. OP is spot on! Some are Dr.Jekyll/Mr.Hyde with extremely fragile egos & you sometimes don't realiz…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/05/20 04:54 PM
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You're glowing! 😊
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 07:43 PM
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Haha, I guess I couldn't judge as I was on there too. I didn't know about all of this 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 07:38 PM
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Ignorance at its finest...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/05/20 08:45 PM
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I remember trying to explain to a man why people will respond negatively to rude behavior and why he shouldn't be rude to me 🤣 Then I suggested that I treat him the way that he treats me. His response: "That's childish." I could hardly believe my ears.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/20 01:38 AM
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Yes, so glad you didn't give into his immature behaviors. It's as if some expect you to keep quiet and stroke their ego 24/7. A truly secure/confident/emotionally healthy man will value honest feedback and use it to become a better partner to you (shocking, I know 😂.) I feel like some women are so very submissive in relationships and will just twist and mold themselves into whatever men need, no matter how much they suffer as a result. I remember being with a man who felt attacked by "I feel..."…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 02:23 PM
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Agreed. I have been guilty of not speaking up for my own needs/expectations in the past, mostly because I didn't want to be viewed as "demanding." I have also been guilty of begging for more from a man. I am not proud of any of it. I am not the type to give just because I want to receive, but at a certain point, it's like damn...I'm getting like 1/2 of the energy/effort that I am putting in...time to confront this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 11:28 PM
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But what if the man actually expresses interest in a relationship, comes off as secure & confident about it, then starts falling apart at the first little bump in the road? Lol. Seems like he's holding back all of the time? Suddenly flips the script and starts acting super anxious & insecure within himself. Randomly says that he's bad at relationships? Acts well-mannered with you but then tells you "I don't mean to be rude, but I have a life" when you ask for some more time from him? Says he fee…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 05:25 PM
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Someone tell me the signs that you are not a man's priority, besides the obvious not making time for you 🤔 I feel like it's more complicated than that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 02:12 AM
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Yes, I can relate. A man who is so very weighed down by his own self-doubts and insecurities has very little to offer a woman. He is essentially at war with himself. If he cannot believe in his own worth, he will never be able to love you in the way that you deserve. You will always feel a disconnect with him. He will even treat you badly at times due to his own issues. I'm glad you know that you are lovable ❤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 05:57 PM
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Yes, it's so painful being with someone, but feeling worlds apart on an emotional level.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 05:49 PM
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Lol apparently "feeling attacked" by a woman's feelings is an excuse to emotionally abuse/gaslight the fuck out of her 🙄🙄🙄🙄 Then if she responds to his bad treatment, SHE is the terrible person & he is the victim.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/04/20 03:32 PM
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YES! I think people wrongly think of expressions of anger as a sign of strength or being "macho." A man can be ultra sensitive, but only communicate it by showing anger. My ex was like this. He would become mean and hostile with me if I expressed anything that made him feel as if he wasn't perfect. He once told me that he acted this way because he felt hurt and attacked. So do not be fooled. Men are sensitive af- they just tend to show it differently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 08:28 PM
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/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 08:07 PM
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I also had trouble with speaking up in my previous relationship for a bit. I knew something was off, but would take the safe route & try to gently mention things to him, like drop little comments here and there. Of course, he playfully brushed everything off. This slowly made me feel like I was losing my mind. It was so very obvious to me that something really WAS off, but he seemed to be either painfully unaware of his behavior or living in denial. When I started to be more assertive with him a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 02:14 PM
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I was actually reading up attachment theory the other day and came across the whole Avoidant thing! God, I cringed through most of what I read...they don't need a relationship, they need therapy fr. I am an extremely patient & understanding person and think that this is part of what fucked me up. You have to be willing to take abuse if you want to date a man with Avoidant attachment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 01:23 PM
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Ugh, yes...it's actually really sad for me because I never saw a hint of this behavior during the two years that we were friends. Maybe that's part of why I held on...I just didn't want to believe it. He hid his issues so well & then they just slowly started leaking out 😂 You really do have to be cautious...😭
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 01:05 PM
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YES! I forgot to add this. I started to notice how rigid/narrow his thinking was. It felt like he wanted this very controlled relationship environment. It was suffocating. I am a very open-minded/understanding person & I realize that nothing is really black & white in this life. I remember him continuously calling me "perfect" and me continuously telling him that I'm not. He certainly idealized tf out of me and I begged him to stop because it worried me tbh. It seemed that he started to become d…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 03:17 AM
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True. I'm honestly scared of dealing with men after him 😂 He was all over the damn place after expressing interest in a relationship. Every damn time I tried to confront his behavior, he playfully denied it. I sat there for a while being stupid thinking "Well, he seems like a good guy with some issues...he'll straighten himself out eventually...." I was too caught up in wanting a relationship with him. I'm not even sure if the man is aware of how toxic he is, but I fear for whoever tries to date…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 10:26 PM
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I was friends with this man for two years prior to dating. I felt heavily pursued and eventually asked him what was up. He would make comments like "I don't want to do anything to mess this up," so I was like what is he afraid of messing up? We weren't in a relationship at the time so... He claimed that he had never made his romantic interest clear because his ex had betrayed/cheated on him. I thought it was odd as hell at the time, but went along with it. I should have known he had issues. I do…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/04/20 10:12 PM
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You have to draw the line somewhere...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 04:24 PM
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I'm confused by this strategy...is it supposed to be a power move? I can see this strategy backfiring. If he's someone that you are genuinely interested in...I think it's better to just match his energy/effort really! If he's not giving you much, don't give him much. Don't overinvest. I think that's a better power move really, but just my opinion. I get where people might be coming from with the leaving on read strategy, but if the guy is really putting in effort & you're just leaving him on rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 04:06 PM
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When you say "can't engage with you about things that are important to you," are you referring to raising a concern with him & being dismissed?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/04/20 07:32 PM
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What type of women marry these men? 😂 It's one thing if he opens up about having issues...another if he is Dr. Jekyll/Mr. Hyde!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/04/20 01:38 PM
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