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I don't expect much to change if either/both of us got the relationship we wanted with someone else. We simply wouldn't have time and energy to allocate to each other like we have been if we had SOs, because a partner understandably takes priority over friends. There's a cohesive sense of family or kinship between us due to the niches we're both in, sexual tension between unattached, young, attractive people is inevitable. I've accepted other dates, and I'm glad to suggest him to other women or …
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 10:03 PM
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I'll edit it! That's sort of an example of my sexuality I guess. I don't mind being open about it and didn't think of it as graphic. Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 02:16 AM
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I thank you for your wise concern :) I tend to have a lot running through my head at once. I'm curious about his devotion of time and energy to me; he's not flirting since saying he would stop. I guess it is like if I were a man he would be spending the same amount of time and energy with me for conversation and company, but due to being a single female there is always going to be a degree of sexual tension. He seems to be focused on his interests, I happened to share those interests and was clo…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 02:14 AM
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May I ask if you are holding off on sex due to religious faith, or personal choice? Both. I was abused as a child, and it is not in my personality to be able to be so vulnerable with someone who I don't know if they are even interested in marrying me or is okay with my past. I want my first man to be my only man, and I have faith that I'll either meet such a man or join the convent. I do not believe anyone's taking a gamble by waiting until marriage to have sex with me. I can communicate what I …
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 02:02 AM
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I'm still at liberty to accept interest from other men. He's free to go game other women. I'm surprised he hasn't, to anyone's knowledge, though. He's devoted to his career, school, and hobbies, we happen to have similarities in all three. This is me being open to whatever happens. Doesn't make sense to turn my nose up at him and reject him completely just because we don't share the same priorities at the same time.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 01:33 AM
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As said, he's choosing to stick around. I openly submit to just about anything, with clear boundaries when it comes to sex. If the men I've overheard and talked to were sincere, then it is true that women with my attitude are few and far between. Especially a conservative, alt right winger at my age. Most of our friendship is based on our shared views and sense of humor, centered on those political views. We're on a liberal campus where such people are tough to find. We both don't have many like…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 01:20 AM
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If we did end up together I would be happy. If we don't it's also fine. I enjoy his company and it's okay with me whatever happens. I've since dated another man and turned him down after two dates as well for other reasons. I'm not rejecting men in the hopes this one will change his mind. If I disengaged from everyone I felt emotional with, I'd be completely isolated. That is my personality.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/17 12:42 AM
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I have a handful of male friends from college, being an engineer, but as soon as I got into a serious relationship, our dynamic changed. I could see that happening with us. I wouldn't be able to spend time with him this way while being in a relationship with someone else, and I know when we first met I purposefully steered clear of him when I heard he had a girlfriend. I would hope that it's because of his age (early 20s as well) that he doesn't have marriage as a priority, so who knows what cou…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/17 11:50 PM
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He's 100% still initiating all contact, I've asked nothing of him. My initial thought was orbiter as well, but he has options and could certainly score an easier woman prettier than me. I reside in the modest 5-7/10 for looks with my weak point being my face and best being my body. He can easily pull gals 7+
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/17 11:45 PM
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Good points :) The only terrible thing is that I want to touch and flirt with men like him so badly. It can be nerve wracking as I'm still not very comfortable with doing it or feel in good control of myself. I'm quickly becoming more comfortable though. I don't mean accidentally having sex, but in example; On one day I tripped right into him and blushed badly, later put my hand on his arm and leaned into his chest telling him to be safe-- he's going out of town to compete and I felt worried, ev…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/17 11:16 PM
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Blue balls is a real physical phenomenon in men. When we're excited without release for hours, it physically hurts. Don't dismiss this reality from your awareness whatever rate of escalation is right for you. Hijacking to bring up the blue bean phenomenon in women. Ladies: is it something that you've also experienced? Or is it an occurance only in single women with high libidos? Prior to completely figuring out masturbation late in life, I would have severe discomfort and swelling when aroused. …
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/17 10:57 PM
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I agree with the top comment. Let the awkwardness show! I finally found a guy who didn't mind it, rather, seemed to find it cute and funny. He's the king of amused mastery and can tease just right without making me feel bad. Believe it or not there are good men out there who enjoy this.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/17 10:44 PM
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Thank you. One of my biggest issues is the minimal attention I receive from men and that when I do, they almost all are desperate and seem to just want a warm body that doesn't dominate them. I do not live in an environment that I feel I fit well with, I moved often and have had to stay in an area I don't like. I give a chance to all the men who ask to spend time with me or express interest, even if I thought we wouldn't get along. It feels like I set myself up for disappointment. Less than ten …
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/17 09:14 PM
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Late to the party// Is this a normal thing for women? Not being attracted to men 35+? I find old men on average more attractive than those my age (20s). I was hoping it wasn't a fetish haha... I guess it is... regardless of age, extra body hair and "weathered" but not uncared for skin are huge turn ons for me.
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/17 10:59 PM
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So I believe a red rose, venus, or unicorn are the simplest options. Venus or unicorn would be the most relevant, I think. There are many unicorn flair clothing options out there and as a icon in many websites and gaming platforms. I would go with the unicorn!
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/17 12:20 AM
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Because I believe men and women should not even be in the same schools, or taught the same way about the same things: A million times yes! Universities are skewed toward teaching women, besides the lack of men entering college now it has become a woman's world at the expense of men. Could it be that a widespread 50/50 split of women and men in the same careers and education is actually impossible, because men and women are different and one will inevitably be pushed to pick up the parental inves…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 10:11 PM
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Once I get this injury rehabbed I will return to lifting and running. I had been going at a training program for about a year but had a previous injury that did not heal right. It was a strange accident and due to circumstances I never got it checked out and just adapted to it. Conditioning brought it to light as I wasn't able to meet all the fitness standards, and progress was painfully, humiliatingly slow for me compared to everyone else. Flare ups got worse, I kept trying to work through it a…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 10:01 PM
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What's dishonest about being open to dating? We can stay friends, or if they want to date, they can, after a time.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 02:02 PM
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I was hoping for friends, then flirting, then dating and commitment It's true I'm still figuring it out, where lines are and what comes before this or that. Right now I'm not seeking anything.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 01:10 PM
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This I feel I handle well. Direct flirting and pick ups, not so much. I feel it is completely alright to deflate guys when they do this if you choose. People may disagree with me, but I feel this a man's version of a shit test. As someone else posted, these are methods for non-RP women. This doesn't mean throw shit tests and insults back though. Yes, laugh. Brush it off. Let it roll off and show it doesn't work with you. Women are blessed with making someone else feel a little awkward if we want…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 12:33 PM
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Think about what a waitress would do. That example helps, I'll follow this and FR some time :)
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/17 12:03 AM
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Makes sense, thank you
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 11:15 PM
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University career program
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 11:14 PM
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It's a sub against fat acceptance haha... That and r/Tumblrinaction were my jam, before wandering back to RPW. I get what you're saying but I mean, should I be worried about my flirts coming off as I will have sex with him, and thus upsetting him when he finds out.... Well dang I think I've been led to answer my own question. I was thinking, "If I flirt back it means I want to have sex with him but does not mean I will under his conditions. I'm not telling him I want to jump in bed with him toni…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 10:10 PM
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So it's on him if he takes flirting as a green light for sex?
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 09:31 PM
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I shit posted on r/Fatlogic a lot, haha
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 09:29 PM
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I hate TV shows nowadays. I don't like to use the word 'hate,' but I mean it. The acting is shart and the plotline is like a bad fanfiction some teenager wrote in high school. I watch kid's TV shows if anything, cute little ponies (think pre-2010 MLP) and birds (Peep). Do try oldies. Black and white shows from the 50s aren't all about women hating it. Old films are so good, I hope you give them a try :) I haven't even scratched the surface myself. I go for things like the Twilight Zone, Lone Ran…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 09:27 PM
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This is true, but I feel as though it is stringing him along to think I would
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 08:31 PM
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We women need to shift. Something needs to give. The longing for an alpha male is evident all across our western culture society, but there aren't enough to go around. Betas are not the plague, and as others pointed out, a "true alpha" is more of an idea than a real person. I see a spectrum for it but it is not set in stone. When we usually use "beta" around here as a noun, it's a guy who is bottom of the barrel, unattractive by nearly all standards, someone who ought to pair up with an obese, c…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 08:28 PM
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Good info! Thank you
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 07:50 PM
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If any of them actually dropped the sexual advances and went with getting to know me, hung out together, put some emotional and time investment into each other, I'd be all for it. Eh, it's a TRP mindset to think the ladies will all drop everything for a real man. Gaining sex with an alpha male is not my goal. If one of them made clear the intent for getting to know me for possible serious commitment, that'll work on me. I don't trust what could be a booty call in the works. They can orbit all th…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 07:47 PM
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That catch 22 might be what I mean, unfortunately! I don't lack interest for these men. The answer is "not right now," not a flat, "leave me alone." I have no problem with the advances, it's their decision what they want to do. At this time I am not going to get romantic/sexual with people I hardly know; that's for a dating strategy some other time possibly.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 06:09 PM
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Geez... I learned a while back to be restrictive with my social media, I had an odd guy who started leaving very crude comments. I accepted his friend request as he was part of a hobby group on FB but lord, that was uncalled for.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 05:55 PM
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Yes, this. I am saying no thank you and let him do practically whatever he wants to do. If he enjoys my company that is fine. If he wants to try gaming other women that is also fine. I do not mean to string anyone along, but do not want to shut him down and cause more harm than necessary.
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 05:40 PM
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You'd be surprised There are some real... kittens... in the armed forces
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 11:32 AM
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I was just thinking about this over in TRP, as one joe discussed femininity as a response to masculinity. Makes sense to me. The most extreme leftist desperate women are welcoming the most extreme rightward violent men. We're at that point now. I expect in few years we will see either war from the muslims or subversion. America still has some alphas around, maybe enough to win a war by the skin of their teeth, ultimately we are going to encounter pressure to finally masculinize this weak culture…
/r/RedPillWomen02/05/17 11:31 AM
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Femininity is a response to masculinity, lack of femininity is a response to lack of masculinity. Wouldn't this make even more sense in the context of violent Islam spreading in developed countries? Wherein their practices are as aggressively conservative as humanly possible, liberal women eagerly subject themselves to their will. So far as to call a burka a symbol of feminism and allow every degree of sexual action and sharia law, but blog about how some man-spreading white guy on a bus stare-r…
/r/TheRedPill02/05/17 11:21 AM
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Ohh I did not know this, thank you
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 05:57 PM
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I don't mean to start a franchise, but maybe use something like Custom Ink to design a shirt or do something simple we can make ourselves, or find a plain icon already available.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 05:57 PM
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IMHO about half of the men on TRP, even the self proclaimed top tier alpha ones who get laid, are still the same self-pitying guy with unrealistic standards as they were before they learned how to fake a frame and get in shape. Nothing changed except his tactics.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 11:52 AM
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I've seen other women feel pity for and (among girl friends) express mild disgust for men who continually get rejected. Depends on various factors. Mostly a mildly amused and repulsed feeling, it seems, while feeling sorry for the guy and usually bad because they've had to do the rejecting. It gets worse if the guy goes on Nice Guy Syndrome and laments about what a good guy he is and how all the girls want awful guys instead.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 11:46 AM
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OH OH, let's wear t-shirts with feminist-offending stuff like 50s "sexist" advertisements, graphics like pretty wives in kitchens and whatnot.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 11:34 AM
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You know I was just thinking we need to start wearing shirts with a unicorn on it or something of the sort, haha... Make a semi official RPW symbol and wear it low key in public...
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/17 10:35 AM
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Back when virtue meant something Boys were raised to be men Girls were raised to be women Sigh
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 10:56 PM
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Awesome, more virgins speaking out :) I am a strong believer in masturbation for women. I am not a man, never had an intimate experience or relationship with a man, so can't say much about what masturbation is like to them; double standard, yes. Anyway. My advice is wait. Save it for when you are sure it is worth the risks; and understand that the risks in sex are grand. STDs, STIs, pregnancy, vulnerability, last of all your partner count. There was a woman on here recently whose man picked up a…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 10:17 PM
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Yup, I agree. Death is a fact of life. Social norms are awful now, I think we can all accept that. "Open" marriages are trending, single working mothers with illegitimate kids, so on. Ugh.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 09:48 PM
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Hijacking this a bit ;) I have a pretty good relationship with my father, I think of him as a good, respectable, amazingly successful and serious man. I can't think of anyone else I would rather have watching my back in a dangerous situation, he's truly the best. I don't need another father figure. BUT, I am still attracted to men who are much older than me (I am in my early 20s, I am attracted to men all the way up to 60s). With young men my feelings are fickle, going wildly up and down with th…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/17 12:44 AM
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I usually just look out for things that turn me away. Things that catch my interest, in order of importance are: Protestant or Catholic, Wants kids or is good with kids, Shows passion for the outdoors or animals Bearded Stockily built (not tall/lean) Deal breakers: He's something other than Protestant or Catholic (atheist, mormon, etc. is a no-go), He can't control himself currently (crazy phases in the past are fine, entirely depends on who he is now and how he reflects on it) (Added:) Sort of …
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/17 02:12 PM
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RP is a collection of theories. I believe it would be unwise and unintelligent to limit oneself to one group of theories; I digress. RPW is the community seeking to use these theories for the benefit of themselves, their man, and children in some cases. In my opinion, this also brings a safer place for people to speak without liberal or leftist pressure, and that is what I identify with. This is a counter culture.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 10:40 PM
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He said that he doesn't consider it cheating because it was a service and that he would never attempt anything similar with say, a girl from a bar. He explained to me that there is nothing wrong with our relationship, and I understand that as a man, he has his needs. So in this circumstance, we'll go along with it as not cheating. Reasoning that out is completely dwarfed by the red flag across the entire sky of this relationship: how ridiculously risky this was for him to do and how much it show…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 04:56 PM
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The ol' list of biases, pals. Check it out. Familiarize yourself. Be aware. Every human being has multiple biases at work practically all the time, so be aware of your common ones and how to deal with it. Also deal with others' instead of pitching a fit against the person and not addressing the bias.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 01:59 PM
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1) Yes, sort of. I take spirituality as an intimate living relationship with a higher power and not a code of beliefs. I don't believe in humans having ordained power as in the Pope, but I mostly follow Catholic tradition like I have been raised. 2) Hinders due to views on sex and the fact that I will never have a man as the center of my life or my top priority; I thus have to find a man that has the same direction. This narrows my dating pool into a puddle. I'm not sure how much religion affect…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 12:46 PM
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or settle down early on with early bloomer alphas who become poor partners which they nag and cheat on into oblivion​ Neato, you described my parents, minus the cheating (as I'm aware) haha...
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 12:35 PM
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16yo in these new Islamic neighborhoods
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 01:24 AM
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Did not work with me. An RP man wanted to talk to me in depth over Reddit and seemed genuinely curious about my perspective so I indulged him. The conversation was interesting and had some helpful points I took with a grain of salt. He decided he wanted to meet me irl, and offered a plan to become intimate with me, intending to marry me if I was a match for him sexually. I saw what could be clear RP motions, though I give him the benefit of the doubt and believe he was being straightforward with…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/17 01:21 AM
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I can barely tolerate the grossness of my own genitals, I'm not about to mess with another girl's if that's what you mean, LOL
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 09:43 PM
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True I mean as an example off the top of my head, if he's being shipped out the next day, roads closed off due to imminent threat, that sort of thing. If I delve into the example, I think proving the kids are related to him would allow them to claim bennies.
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/17 12:50 AM
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Sounds perfect for how I masturbate. I get off quick by external stimulation. I'm weird, I like to kinda hump and rub, and squeeze on my hand with my thighs. It's not just clitoral, it's the pressure of pushing my thighs and vulva on something. I figure if he's at least got hands then we'll be fine, haha... I crave being gripped and pushed on externally rather than something inserting into me.
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 03:16 AM
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To address the title a bit, yeah, this girl would prefer old, old men. I'm open about who could cross paths with me but if I had to pick what he was, I'd pick a wrinkled, weathered man who had taken good enough care of himself young to have aged decently. Think Jeremy Irons or Clint Eastwood, not Mick Jagger
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/17 12:11 AM
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I would love a man that small, honestly. I think the only thing that would hold me back is sensitivity to penetration and large things going in, but I'm reading that with time and patience I could get acclimated to it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 08:28 PM
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The best place to find very young men who want to marry asap and have some conservative/RP type views is the military. Alas, the divorce rate is high because of the long distance pressures and the speed at which these guys go with women who are not cut out for marriage in the first place.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 08:25 PM
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Dang, I need to up my game. I've been raped zero times and I strongly prefer being in supportive, female exclusive groups. I need to start hanging out with men, hating and silencing women with different opinions, and not caring for my safety. (The Deleted posts are me, phone glitched and posted a dozen times lol)
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 02:41 PM
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The analogy goes deep xD To add: I truly think most of the RP guys are in such disbelief because we do not run in the same circles, they never notice. RPW steer clear of RP men and RP men steer clear of RPW. Encountering each other in the wild is like a deer hunter and a plain mare. Hunter barely notices her as prey, mare doesn't trust a random hunter and keeps her distance.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 02:06 PM
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I think I've been called a unicorn twice now, cautiously. I used to think a unicorn was a girl with everything; looks like Emma Watson, speaks like a princess, submissive, vulnerable but in control of herself with a squeaky clean past and good family. We're not sparkling and jumping rainbows for all to see, but we're around. Legend has it that unicorns are near impossible to catch and are not easily spotted. I'm a fantasy nerd and sort of like the analogy.
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 04:03 AM
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It used to be, in my opinion, horrible back in the day. I'm talking about 1-2 years ago on here, things were dominated by women who were cutthroat and I believe took it too far to shame others so I left for that time. That still holds some truth to RP logic though: when it comes to what is likely to go awry in a group, women tend to use emotional tactics and social control through shaming, and tear each other down. When you limit someone's choice by any means, it makes them more likely to do wha…
/r/RedPillWomen20/04/17 03:47 AM
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Eh. That's being too critical of it. There have been times when I see a lot of young college aged girls like me who have practically the same story and challenges. If anything there's been an increase in men around here drifting over from TRP, than middle aged women. Your opinion is far from unpopular... most of Reddit would agree with you. Try mentioning RP anywhere else and see what happens. You can take the RP views like any other mode of logic. I still don't really feel apart of the RP commu…
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 04:15 PM
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Yes, the appearance on the outside is what I meant Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 02:43 AM
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Aw, I can empathize. My parents were the same way. They were so weird about virginity and hymens staying intact and untouched.... considering they were both hound dogs when they met each other.
/r/RedPillWomen19/04/17 12:47 AM
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I'm glad this is becoming a topic of interest :)
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 07:39 PM
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Worded that poorly, woops xD I don't think I'll find a virgin, but I'd love to find if he exists. A guy with his flings far in the past and no STDs, living celibate while single would be totally okay with me. Hey, 45 is more than twice my age, it's "old" to me haha...
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 05:23 PM
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I wonder how many men are out there who choose not to have sex before marriage, but aren't extremely religious. I would love to find a virgin man, or one with a very low partner count, to match with but at times I worry that the only ones out there are too extreme and sheltered. Especially with older men. I find old men (45+) very attractive, but the religious ones seem too distant from our culture for me. You know, the kind who will exclusively listen to Christian music, only read books by reli…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 03:45 PM
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You're not going to become "loose" from sex, or from penetration with a toy. So it doesn't affect the labia or vulva? From what I understand, the vagina is a muscle, but the outside is just skin.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 03:14 PM
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I appreciate the post! Even in a religious context too, I believe you're right that virginity has more value outside sex.
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 02:05 PM
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I've asked a few GYNs about it and they've all told me the same thing, along the lines of, "You're young and you haven't tried sex yet, you'll be fine once you get it over with." I don't know if that's true. My hymen feels like a piece of rubber that doesn't want to budge most of the time. I've considered getting it removed or dealing with whatever pain will be involved when penetration happens. I feel that it's gotten much better since I started masturbating though. I wonder if I should try dil…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/17 03:55 AM
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I believe a reason why women are inclined toward bitchiness to their men is to incite that primal response. Makes me think of farm animals; I've seen females get upset with a stud and proceed to hump or dominate him a bit, which in turn provoked him to get on her. About porn-like sex though, it may just be me who finds too much of it is over the top and uninteresting. It's hard to find a simple clip of a man plainly thrusting away from behind and enjoying himself. A man who takes control and cau…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/17 11:42 PM
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right on the skittle Made me grin, haha! Yeah I was concerned if getting a dildo would get me used to that and uninterested in the real thing.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/17 11:17 PM
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That gives me hope :) I didn't know it's common not to orgasm from penetration. It can be kind of a downer for me to finish too fast, so if penetration takes longer or lets me focus on him then that sounds good.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/17 11:14 PM
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I keep in mind that RP is just one aspect of life and reality. So with that said, the "red pill thing to do" is to give men sex before marriage, IF: 1) you are both in a culture where premarital sex is acceptable, 2) you have gained a significant investment (be it emotional, time, physical, or financial) from the man first, and 3) you are confident in your vetting of this man. Personally I have strong beliefs and feelings about sex. I would not have premarital sex unless circumstances are someho…
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/17 04:31 PM
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Oh girl I still do that :) here I am thinking I was the only one, haha!
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/17 11:28 PM
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No, no, I agree with you! Most days I get home exhausted, hungry, thirsty, and already plotting out time in my head to do assignments and somehow have time to sleep and relax. I don't want to talk as soon as I get in the door, but I live with people who want to get at me as soon as I appear. Multiply the irritation with PMS? I hate the sound of anything, everywhere. So I make an effort to get in and get out without conflict and basically quarantine myself with headphones. Works well! Or at least…
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/17 10:30 PM
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I'm probably an oddball, I can look at quite a bunch of different men and find something I like about them. I think I have a slight preference for stocky, burly men with humor as dark as mine. I absolutely love plentiful body hair, I'm so bad about it I catch myself staring sometimes! Arm hair sleeve? Back hair bear carpet? I'm crazy for it! I can break down the big five based on my preferences if it helps. Height? Generally, tall men are initially perceived as more attractive than shorter men. …
/r/RedPillWomen02/03/17 12:22 AM
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Thank you for sharing, oftentimes tone is hard to convey across typed words. What would Paul say? I believe he would have a lot to say about how our culture has degraded family values. I believe masturbation should be enough to satisfy one's libido; it has for me, and I consider mine high. Modern marriage has more to do with laws and the government than anything, I agree. I imagine the first marriages were like that of mammals mating for life; the intent is to conceive and raise children togethe…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 07:59 PM
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I appreciate your perspective and agree in the waiting period the man is at the disadvantage. However I'm sure you've considered from mine, surrendering virginity to a man before substantial commitment (marriage/engagement) is a more substantial disadvantage, as a man who waits half a year simply waits and can leave whenever he chooses to, select a different woman and move on without investing his resources beyond some time, but a woman who gives sex has given him something of greater value whic…
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 04:03 PM
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Are you religious or know any religious alphas? So far I have found that the top alpha ranking kind of men are never practicing Christians. Compatible religious lifestyles are the most important to me, RP values come in a close second. If giving sex sooner than even 6 months is mandatory to gain an upper tier alpha, I can certainly live without those. I'm on the look out for men with a functional balance of beta and alpha traits I can fit to, not the top 1%
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 01:36 PM
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Are you religious or know any religious alphas? So far I have found that the top alpha ranking kind of men are never practicing Christians. Compatible religious lifestyles are the most important to me, RP values come in a close second. If giving sex sooner than even 6 months is mandatory to gain an upper tier alpha, I can certainly live without those. I'm on the look out for men with a functional balance of beta and alpha traits I can fit to, not the top 1%
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/17 01:36 PM
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That's helpful! I am getting involved with religious groups and it has helped. However, I am still getting used to balancing mentally when things are disagreeable. In one group I was told masturbation was outright wrong, and in another they briefly had a woman say she struggled with it and dissatisfaction in marriage, pointing out marriage does not fix pre existing sexual problems. I agree with the latter but not the former. I feel in control of my sex drive now. I didn't masturbate until I was …
/r/RedPillWomen28/02/17 02:40 AM
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I've never thought about it that way, thank you for this. I imagined that I would find the right guy who would enjoy all the silly nervous parts about a first encounter and I could just fit to him, but never really thought how I would feel beyond it. I'm submissive in nature and want to submit to someone else's will to be happy. I like to think I would always be receptive whether it's daily or monthly for him and I wouldn't complain either way. I ponder what he would feel more than what I would …
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/17 06:22 PM
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That does help! You summed up the picture I want to be. I hope to become the kind of person who is motherly toward others and can be approachable, I have a ways to go right now
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/17 02:22 AM
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Focus on achieving those 5 goals and when you feel bad or like that voice saying "all you have to give is your virginity", review that list of 10 things and remind yourself that you're so much more. Will do! Great advice
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/17 02:21 AM
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Thank you! I do have hobbies and spend almost all my time balancing work, school, and military service. I love all of that, but I feel like it keeps me from being able to connect with men often. Part of my reason for wanting to avoid premarital sex is for my own personality, and religious values. I attach closely to few people over a long period of time, assess risks and take few of them, feel a strong sense of loyalty, and do not trust others quickly. A sexual encounter would require a lot of t…
/r/RedPillWomen27/02/17 02:19 AM
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Good stuff, thank you! Here's my dilemma: people generally exhaust me. My energy and time is a scarce resource. I see it as this... I can put that energy and time into networking for practical purposes (improving work and athletic performance, most often) or put it into, what seems to me, the huge uncertainty of dating men who don't show promise in less than five dates. Am I knocking them too soon? I don't think it takes long to tell. Maybe it does take many dates with many new men, right now I …
/r/RedPillWomen19/01/17 12:50 AM
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Much of that has already occurred to me. That I am rationalizing is true. At the time of the post, I believed if dating would not get better for me, then I might as well justify turning my attention away from it. I also didn't know if I had the RP mindset right and asked for clarification; to me, I thought being a true RPW meant being willing to put everything on hold for a date. I meant that it is possible for women to marry and have children while serving, so I'm not feeling hopeless because o…
/r/RedPillWomen18/01/17 02:35 PM
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Oh god, I am a prude I want to ask "How do you flirt?" but it seems so vague. I'm unsure about showing interest first and of course, fear of rejection...
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 10:01 PM
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I agree, but I feel it's something I can take on and therefore should. At some point, before this situation developed, I thought I would drop everything for a great man. But now I doubt I could give up this far even if my family weren't in the equation, I think I would feel uprooted and unsatisfied with the amount of effort I've just committed.
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 08:29 PM
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a live-in housemaid to take care of them at least part-time? Not an option as both my father and sibling are antisocial, and have communicated to me that I am expected to look after them. I don't know what trying harder looks like. I lift weights for strength and for some vanity, it has given me a better physique and I am nowhere near overweight. My bodyfat % has remained 17-19% for as long as I've tracked it these past two years. My face is scarred and always has some degree of acne. I tried mu…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/17 05:56 PM
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Tfw my username is relevant xD
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/17 02:29 PM
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I don't know what your beliefs are, but I found my "home" with a relaxed girls-only bible study group from my college. They're part of a larger campus bible study group of young adults with men and women. We're focused on God, self-improvement, and weekly get together with our brother group to read and reflect. I like that it's different from a strict church. I did join a church and gained a great girl friend from it, but it is at times too collective.
/r/RedPillWomen04/01/17 03:04 PM
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OH snap. This is what I've been wanting to be explained to me for a long time. I really don't understand what the "bids" looked like, and how to react to them. I did exactly as described; look away, mumble, speed walk away-- out of nervousness. At best I'd stare like a deer in the headlights and try to work out eye contact or a compliment, and end up quickly falling back on that avoidant pattern. For the longest time I blamed it on my looks or my personality, neither of which I could change as f…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 05:59 PM
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I was a creepy, pessimistic, antisocial emo kid always dressing in baggy shirts and cargo pants a size too big while hiding behind my unruly mane of hair and killing my eardrums with heavy metal. Shit home life. I was completely focused on dealing with my own problems and those of home. Now I'm the opposite of a serial killer to-be, I work in law enforcement while attending college. Still never been in a relationship or met a penis in person. Much more social now. My sister got a lot of attentio…
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 04:02 PM
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This is exactly why I left some months ago. Today is my first time back on to look around out of curiosity. It doesn't seem as harsh as it was when I faded out; not only was I thinking in RP far too often and depressing myself, but for whatever reason there were some members back then who seemed to be unnecessarily aggressive.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/17 01:32 PM
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I still say cheating conflicts too much. The rare value wife and family was a prize, not all that beta in this case. I doubt he adjusted his life much to provide for them, he just allowed them to use his resources.
/r/TheRedPill26/06/16 12:23 AM
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Exact-o-mundo. This is a tale of primal human nature at work, but that is all it is. No betterment, no moral. I have to say they were the perfect match for each other nonetheless. They were both players, and it seems they both scored high as he was able to gain a composed wife who stayed on top of her game, and she gained a mark of commitment from him. I see his cheating as a flaw in commitment; marriage is supposed to mean committing to both staying with one person and being exclusive to them. …
/r/TheRedPill25/06/16 10:54 PM
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Thanks! I'm trying, I started raising the incline when I use the treadmill and spend about 5mins on the stair climber, plus the squats, though currently I can only do half my body weight.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/16 01:49 AM
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what if this niche in your college only had guys you were not attracted to? But if it does, doesn't it work?
/r/RedPillWomen28/12/15 03:26 AM
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My strategy for that was to find a core/niche group of people at college, be the most attractive girl there, and get with the most attractive guy. Sounds like a good strategy! You just gave me a Eureka moment haha! And heck it's easier to be the most attractive girl if you're, well, the only girl in the group, eh? ;)
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/15 04:28 PM
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10% of men consider a 9/10, and 90% think see as a 6/10 This is what trips me up. I am not a city-person, yet go to college with a lot of city people. I feel like there's a huge disconnect. I've found no one I really wanted a LTR with, and fewer I even considered approaching. I've never been approached, just talked to by classmates directly next to me. I can't tell if I'm not with the right people, or not doing the right thing. I haven't been around other people I feel are my "type" to know if i…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/15 03:56 AM
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Which makes me think, are we saying women who aren't aware of how SMV works will be unable to be happy unless they are attractive to desirable men? Can women who are not attractive, for a variety of reasons, find happiness? I went waaaaay off topic, post-hijacked down here and thought, well, maybe it means something to someone. Here you go, I'll bring it down if it's nothing of worth: I've been thinking about the genetic aspect of attraction, as a student and breeder. Personally, I don't have gr…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/15 03:32 AM
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Thanks! A problem I think I have would be my shoulder and lean body. My shoulders are 4" wider than my hips! There's only a 2" difference between my waist and hips. I work outside a lot on farms but go to college in the suburbs, I feel less feminine by default compared to the suburb and city girls. I'm trying to find a style that I can work with. I think I'll play up the country/prairie girl look.
/r/RedPillWomen24/12/15 10:40 PM
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She glowed whenever she talked about him! I bet he does the same about her, that's the ideal relationship right there... She mentioned he would do things like pull over on the long drive from work to pick her flowers from a field. Just adorable.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/15 05:44 PM
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I remember an old high school teacher of mine who showed our class a 1950s guide on how to be a good housewife, just to give us some contrast. Everyone was pretty uncomfortable with it. She smiled and said it did sound funny now, but she liked the article because she enjoyed doing those things for her husband. She told us a little story about when she and her man were struggling... low on funds in their early years, she still prioritized her man's wellbeing, making sure he had the best meal she …
/r/RedPillWomen18/11/15 05:14 AM
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If anyone's not tracking the history here; OP got shat on in BluePill for this post. On top of what she's already doing, she handled that bullshit like a champ. Much love and best wishes, I'm still in awe over the whole thing (how well OP is doing overall and how ridiculous BP is being) Just felt called to point that out. Can't not applaud OP for her badassery
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/15 03:21 AM
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There are so many aspects of mindfulness, I think, that I suggest just taking the time to find what works for you. Find a role model of relaxation, someone to have in mind and mirror to be relaxed and approachable. I like Bob Ross, haha... I try to get into his mindset when I'm walking between classes, thinking, "That's a happy little tree over there," or if I'm worrying over something I accept it in the same way. It does put a smile on my face to walk by and just touch things as I go; reach out…
/r/RedPillWomen06/10/15 08:46 PM
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I have general anxiety too, it used to be very bad when I was a kid due to a cruddy family. Last year I sat for a hypnosis session from one of my psychology professors, afterward he told me, "See, your face doesn't look so contorted anymore." Contorted. Ugh. That's how I look when I'm extra stressed? It's a learning curve, I think... I don't have any relationship/partner history, might as well stay single longer while I improve myself and catch up. Meditation and mindfulness are life savers.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/15 02:23 AM
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My resting bitch face knows no bounds... I have to be totally relaxed for it to lighten up :/ Being a university student like OP, I'm usually stressed between classes with a lack of sleep and time.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/15 02:03 AM
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Wonderfully written, you need to start a book! That is gold. Pure gold.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/15 11:59 PM
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I think I should've specified; affection in dating, and affection in already committed relationships x) It's a bit different with relatives, I would take naps beside my sisters or have a snuggle pile with my younger cousins, but I imagine that would have sexual tension if it was between me and an unrelated man I was dating.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/15 11:55 PM
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And let's face it, this is like the media issue going on about wedding cakes for same sex couples. Though even worse, because this woman does not need to do anything but sell her dress, whereas the cake problem was building a symbol of same sex marriage that they were against. I scratch that; it's like the people who have refused to sell items they did not agree with in super markets. Refusing to service someone based on your own values like that is bullshit.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/15 02:20 PM
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I'm not sure on the RPW idea on it, my experience has been that shoulder length hair is just fine.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/15 01:46 PM
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I get anxious and due to my upbringing tend to doubt myself, take what people say to heart even if it's BS. I'm getting better about not going into black/white thinking and realizing some people don't have anything good to offer. Knowing that this is what I lean to and being able to "catch it" helps :) It's a negative mental habit. I think my confidence comes from resilience and time alone to work on myself. I've been through hell and back, and by choice and circumstance was isolated since I was…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/15 11:44 AM
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It's something intrinsic, I tell you! I cook for my father and male relatives as often as I can, it gives a new depth of respect. They get loud about how much they like it and look like they enjoy themselves, lots of thanks and smiles. I swear I've seen tears in the eyes of some men when they get something that hits the spot. I've made things for my mother and female cousins, they might give a brief thanks before proceeding to stuff their faces on something they like. It's like giving chocolate …
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/15 02:47 AM
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Neat! I didn't know that.
/r/RedPillWomen03/09/15 08:54 PM
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Aw, seems lacking not to have a sub for the "captain" dynamic? This sub is about the first mate, over in TRP commitment isn't a focus (or it's on that ready-to-jump-ship basis).
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/15 06:52 PM
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Ah, I see. I'm new to the terminology and still looking through the sidebar; so the best-quality man is an Alpha, what would the highest quality woman be? Is she "alpha"?
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/15 08:47 PM
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Neat, good way to explain it. I like to see the dynamics in my own family, there's just about the whole spectrum here. Best type of leader and husband has been the reformed thug, a man who was aggressive and successful when young and backed off in his 20s.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/15 03:19 AM
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Men who cheat may be men who are "high stimulation" so have an addictive relationship to life including those they share their life with. They tend to make for unstable relationships. Back in my uni chemistry class today and made me think: potential energy is highest when it is unstable. A restless person is an unstable one.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/15 01:45 AM
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From what I understand of this, it seems the safer bet is getting a beta type man, and setting him up to lead? Or maybe that seems to be the RPW's "unicorn," a man who is beta but at the same time worthwhile to partner with.
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/15 01:29 AM
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History of monk mode? From birth! Haha... I had a rocky family life (very dependent parents) so never felt like I had the time or freedom to have a partner of any sort. At a university now I don't see this location as the right one for me, too many party/apathetic kids, not enough realistic men. Trust me, the pressure is still on for a partner; I just fap practically 2x a day. I also feel like I have much to work on. Still gotta clear my acne up, at least get my 4yr degree. I believe if I get in…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 02:49 PM
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I'm in the same boat. I found that while it seems having traditional views makes it harder to meet people, really what you're doing is skipping the vast number of people who would not be compatible with you. Don't feel too bad about it, if you are in a location of liberal, sort of mainstream cultured people, you're just not going to find "your" people that easy, and they will not have much an interest in you either. You need to place yourself where other traditional folks would be; sign up to vo…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 02:22 PM
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That makes sense; basically Edward Cullen or any guy in the Mary Sue type novels
/r/TheRedPill24/08/15 12:13 AM
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I didn't get the last part; it just sounds like any alpha who's looking for a LTR.
/r/TheRedPill24/08/15 12:09 AM
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Out of interest: what would the male version of the unicorn be? We've got female versions of betas (plates), and I would guess the female version of an alpha is a hornless pretty horse (opposite of a plate, but with a flaw somewhere).
/r/TheRedPill23/08/15 02:29 PM
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