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Op! That's all that matters. You'll fail in some of your approaches, or in many, but doing them will grow you used to the process
/r/seduction21/04/24 03:25 PM
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I've had success with girls with her friend, but so far I keep avoiding groups, too complicated
/r/seduction21/04/24 03:24 PM
0

It basically means what others have said above. You know yourself and that's who you are, she like it or not
/r/seduction18/04/24 12:50 PM
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Your mentality of I'm going to scrap the barrel to see if someone sticks is sad. That vibe won't get you to places mate, and probably that's why no girl is considering you partner material. Good thing is that you can change that. Work in yourself and it will eventually get better. Also as OP said, though I'm inclined to think he overestimates his capabilities and actual success, go places where girls can be met, then actually meet them. The only sad thing and truth about this is that it is a num…
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 04:45 PM
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If it's not about leagues, then he can't be in her leagues. Leagues are an stupid creation that leads to nothing
/r/seduction25/09/22 01:09 PM
1

Socialization is what you're looking for. That's why in sweeden everyone thought left wing would win and it ended up being a close victory for the right. People were afraid of speaking against what is more respected or desired. I might have a weird kink, but I'd never cry it out loud, same goes for what we want while dating
/r/ExRedPill17/09/22 04:33 PM
2

Glad you were born a genius, for those that have to learn, that is a decent step and he shall be happy por it. So shhhh
/r/seduction17/09/22 07:13 AM
1

It's above average I'd say, why show that you have so many fears?
/r/seduction16/09/22 07:50 PM
1

Thanks! I'm all in for moving forward but I'm all in for accepting rejection with a smile. Not everyone is going to click with us and pretending otherwise is foolish. This said, there is always room for improvement!
/r/seduction14/09/22 05:31 AM
1

Yup! That's why I'd rather shoot and miss as I just did than not shoot at all. My payroll will be fine, different departments, same rank, nothing risky there
/r/seduction14/09/22 05:21 AM
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It means that you went further ahead than many others and actually showed vulnerability and interest. You got rejected? Yep! It's life. Pat yourself on the back because you did what had to be done. Hope it was before you got invested
/r/seduction13/09/22 04:44 PM
1

W Anton's the method is quite good. It doesn't focus around neediness, but it has some content, but you need to go out and act if you want to rock
/r/seduction13/09/22 11:21 AM
2

I really hope to hear your story, whether it goes north or south!
/r/seduction11/09/22 06:32 PM
6

I'd go again on a date, read the room, touch her on the arms low back and see how she behaves. You can grab her hand while on the table or wherever for a little more than needed and calibrate. Maybe rest your hand on her leg and she what she does. These have been the methods I've used so far and they are good to evaluate the warmth that's going to receive my next move. If it looks good, move forward. If not, don't, or do it, and if she rejects you again, just move on. Simple, you go on a date to…
/r/seduction11/09/22 06:11 PM
2

It never feels like that at the time, we've all been there thought, it passes. Stay strong and keep the game op!
/r/seduction09/09/22 08:53 PM
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That sucks. I guess in the end it doesn't matter and it was better for you
/r/seduction09/09/22 07:43 PM
2

I got the "are you trying to have sex with me?" Not that long ago, I just lowered my arm to her ass and said "yes". We had sex later that night.
/r/seduction09/09/22 07:37 PM
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I usually plainly ignore them, or turn it the other way round. In any case, it's basic that we don't lose our footing due to them and it will work just fine. How you navigate the shit tests is quite relevant, you can turn them on your favour
/r/seduction09/09/22 07:35 PM
1

Honourable behaviour here, congrats
/r/seduction02/09/22 07:16 PM
1

It depends I'd say on what he wants
/r/seduction12/05/22 09:51 AM
1

I worked with doctors that hate 50/60% of their work. I'm no doctor, and I love my job, but there are days... That I really have to remember myself that I need to pay my bills
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 05:22 PM
1

Me neither. I'm also pro-legalization.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 05:21 PM
1

Those are different things yep. But none is worse that the other. I think you should consider learning medicine, have you ever gone to the doctor, trust me and this is personal experience, they hate a lot of their job..., But they have to pay the bills.
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 04:39 PM
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I agree with you, but I just sold my brain for 8 hours to a company... Because I have to pay my bills. Aren't we selling ourselves? In the past nobles could live without working and they even are the best... And those who had to work where seen as a lower class. Why people that have to pay to have sex are to be judged? Is it that bad? Is it that bad being a sex worker?
/r/ExRedPill10/05/22 04:37 PM
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This. And then you need to remember that your needs are still met even after having met an attractive girl
/r/seduction10/05/22 04:05 PM
1

It's hard once you have to show it
/r/seduction09/05/22 01:54 PM
2

Honest truth
/r/seduction08/05/22 10:19 PM
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Hope you like it!
/r/seduction08/05/22 10:19 PM
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If I don't like her I simply don't look at her, unless she's on high heels and jeans at the free weight area
/r/seduction08/05/22 10:18 PM
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So far I'm having to ration it like water on the desert, if I don't that would be like the fastest read in ages.
/r/seduction08/05/22 10:14 PM
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Thanks for your honesty. I do think that I almost don't remember any time I've had those thoughts about a girl at the gym that didn't look legit weird, like wearing jeans or similar kind of weird. Else if I look at them it is because I find them... Interesting
/r/seduction08/05/22 10:13 PM
1

Mark Manson is my go to, Models was just finished and now I'm reading the subtle art of not giving a fuck. So far it's been an enjoyable and enriching reading
/r/seduction08/05/22 10:09 PM
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Feel free to make one more notch on the reverences by random internet people post. This is so forgotten so many times. May I ask? What do you think of those guys who don't hold the eye contact
/r/seduction08/05/22 10:07 PM
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Well, we've got work to do
/r/seduction08/05/22 09:56 PM
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You seem like a pretty nice human! Congrats! It's just thinking about all the damned effort it requires the first times you approach a random... It just deserves a kind word, nothing more, but nothing less either. Then if you click well, that's a plus
/r/seduction08/05/22 09:55 PM
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I mean, I'm practicing my holding eye contact now. If I get a smile I for sure would approach, else, well, in the past I'd approach anyway, after the pandemic killed my sexy training I'm struggling a lil more.
/r/seduction08/05/22 09:53 PM
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We've also noticed that, it's fun because if you point that out many will freak and call you a misogynist :(. I think that guys act like that as well, but we're not approached that much
/r/seduction08/05/22 09:52 PM
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Smile once you both cross sights?
/r/seduction08/05/22 09:50 PM
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I have been told by a lot of people that gyms are no place to meet girls. But I've never had any issues if I got approached by one. Plenty of guys can't keep eye contact and if you have a resting bitch face haha, well that might help you know.
/r/seduction08/05/22 09:50 PM
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Read Mark Manson
/r/seduction08/05/22 08:21 PM
2

Yep yep, I mean, that's a realistic number for someone with a life. And you want to be someone with a life when you interact with people. Besides all the obvious benefits of living a life you enjoy you also will notice that you do not care that much about rejection, since your life is already good enough.
/r/seduction07/05/22 05:39 PM
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2.5M you're lucky, there are plenty of options. I do see probably 10 approachable girls on a day where the street is not unknown to me. Do i approach them all? noup, working on it after a LTR. But when i used to do it, it got my results skyrocketing pretty high while living on a 100k city.
/r/seduction07/05/22 05:21 PM
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I would say that 5 a day is a pretty solid number. I have settled on just approaching people I see during my life, since i tend to go out once or twice a day (work + gym) is good enough, that way you also just enjoy it, not commit your resources to it. Approaches also feel way more natural for me when they're a side activity to my main, rather than just going to chat with girls, it kinda removes the need to deliver. You of course have to be committed to approach someone during your daily routine…
/r/seduction07/05/22 05:20 PM
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Why does it interest you?
/r/seduction07/05/22 04:06 PM
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Why would she think that you only want to fuck her? Did you actually fuck her? People promise many things, out of who knows why. And relationships of any kind are constructed during a lot of time, you may do it, just let the thing evolve. It went well when you were free of overthinking, so don't spin the wheel, you're on the right course.
/r/seduction07/05/22 01:07 PM
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Because you think she's angry at you? My rule of thumb, if she rejects a plan but suggests a different option all good. If she's been busy it's normal you both didn't talk much.
/r/seduction07/05/22 12:46 PM
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"To enhance the probability" What do you want to say? Honestly without any second intention, just because you want her to know that those thoughts wildly crossed your mind. Just say it. Don't design complicated plans. Be honest with yourself and then with her. You'll be golden and you'll save a lot of trouble, you might get laid an X% less but it will be an X% better.
/r/seduction07/05/22 12:39 PM
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Well, they do. It's true that looks are less relevant once you like her as a person, but let's be honest. Super great lovely humans are daily turned into friends if the physical attraction doesn't exist. I've been on both sides of that equation
/r/seduction07/05/22 12:36 PM
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Do what you want, and learn, you won't be the first one to blow an already done match, you won't be the last. My tip, fight your own battles. If you wanna hug her do it. If you want to kiss her again, do it. Don't get too sticky though (or do it, and see how it goes) Buuut don't be self conscious, that's the only thing you can't do
/r/seduction07/05/22 12:35 PM
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One more tip, don't wait for any transformation, that's merely procrastination... And you do not want to do that, the more you learn now the more you'll profit after the transformation
/r/seduction07/05/22 12:33 PM
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Read models, from mark Manson. It might be too late or not. You won't know until you try, I would say though that you should be careful with coworkers...they're an excellent market, but you don't want to push more than needed. So far your conversation seems pretty standard for work chit chat so you can still show interest and maybe succeed.
/r/seduction05/05/22 06:30 AM
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It's great to see that the discipline is being standardized on a pretty solid doctrine based on self development and basic ideas but great nonetheless. It also feels good to see that models is not outdated and old. I liked your post, good quality and awesome ideas.
/r/seduction05/05/22 06:26 AM
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To me it's well written, but it feels like reading models again
/r/seduction04/05/22 06:23 PM
2

I have been reading models and this is one of the things he mentions, people wanting to change their environment rather than themselves. As a way to avoid... Exposure to failure ?
/r/ExRedPill01/05/22 08:51 PM
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In most of the cases? It's what society defines as success. In some? You want to experience new things. In others I guess people prefer that but I'd bet a lot on society being the biggest reason. By the way, you can sleep with many women before committing to exclusivity with one
/r/seduction30/04/22 02:29 PM
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It's just desired if you want to do it. If you just want to do it because it's considered good by society or your buddies it is just a way to show neediness for validation from your group/society. Do you want to sleep with many women? Sleep with the woman you chose?
/r/seduction30/04/22 01:56 PM
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I mean, he can take this approach, which I don't like, but he could also go and say hi. My experience is that saying hi is 99% of the time the best option.
/r/seduction29/04/22 06:20 AM
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I think that this is the right answer to OP. Humans can be confident in themselves
/r/seduction28/04/22 08:15 AM
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Honestly most of the advice here is great
/r/seduction26/04/22 03:44 PM
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I've already experienced success...
/r/seduction25/04/22 06:47 PM
1

Noup, moldes is the other book I'd recommend. I know the writer as W Anton.
/r/seduction25/04/22 06:46 PM
2

I honestly see OP as someone without the will to put the effort on himself to grow and change and the way to compensate that is to say that the game is rigged. If he's happy, well, we can't change that. But I think he's terribly wrong. This sub is about self development aimed to increase your chances to beat the game. No one said it would be easy. And of course, you have to have fun on the path, you want to really love what you do, like hit the gym because it makes you happy etc. But just saying…
/r/seduction25/04/22 05:31 PM
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Yeah, I agreed they're there. It's like rejecting an option, but let's be honest, they can't be the main focus of any man
/r/seduction25/04/22 03:50 PM
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Dating ups won't work imo. I've had some success but in general I prefer direct interaction. And to be fair I have met people that didn't match with me later hit me after we met during our daily lives
/r/seduction25/04/22 03:31 PM
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I finish my shift at 17, I have plenty of time to do a 1h walk back home to interact with different humans. I'm sure you can do the same. I honestly believe a human needs to be happy with his life, then just interacting with women and not being completely unskilled socially will land you some interesting things. If you need practice, speak to every kind of human you find how do you learn new skills ? By using them
/r/seduction25/04/22 03:29 PM
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Then read some book, I'm just starting models but W. Anton has really good content and then be yourself with some tweaks. Else the mask will fall sooner or later
/r/seduction25/04/22 03:24 PM
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You can ask or don't, I've experienced success and failure both ways
/r/seduction23/04/22 08:12 PM
1

I've had my best success while just living
/r/seduction20/04/22 05:25 PM
1

This is my approach, nice and easy
/r/seduction19/04/22 11:11 AM
1

Put in the effort my boy, develop some passions if you don't have any, else, explore your already existing ones. Find joy in yourself and then share it with others.
/r/ExRedPill19/04/22 11:01 AM
2

I don't think glasses are a plus or a minus, they're there
/r/seduction13/04/22 01:49 PM
2

I think a warning that this post is large might help some people
/r/ExRedPill03/04/22 07:59 AM
1

Sex just happens sometimes yep. Not that much, but it does
/r/seduction10/02/22 11:11 AM
1

This is the most important thing out of this
/r/seduction28/09/21 12:00 PM
2

Outside of your house. Some places are better than others but definitely outside
/r/seduction21/09/21 12:02 PM
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Super solid advice. That also shall be removed from your approaching skills
/r/seduction11/09/21 11:43 PM
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Don't let your ego suffer because of that. At first rejections hurt, then you get used to them and you don't care about them, thus you receive less because your approaches are better.
/r/seduction11/09/21 11:42 PM
2

I really like this post and it's pretty interesting how you approach your opinions with research, examples and a frame for everyone to work on it, rather than dropping pills of knowledge you give guidelines for philosophy to grow
/r/seduction10/09/21 05:41 PM
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I never read that book, I mean started it and didn't like it much. Honestly guys, it's a matter of being confident, enjoying your life as it is and when interacting with girls you feel attractive not to be intimidated by them and judging yourself but enjoying the time thus being able to be yourself. My tip, if you feel like escalating, try your luck, nothing bad can happen, you may be rejected, but escalating won't be the cause of it. And I've learnt the power of this during time but touch her, …
/r/seduction10/09/21 12:32 PM
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THIS comment is PURE GOLD. I've had tons of female friends, I still do and I really like them, I have my fair share of male friends but for some time I wasn't too lucky with girls outside of friendship. Once you become assertive while being respectful and can communicate what you want in a confident way things start falling into place. I've experienced that change and it feels so good, it's in fact dead weight you're leaving behind thus releasing yourself to be your best self. I needed to read y…
/r/seduction10/09/21 12:25 PM
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I remember how I had to grind once, it was shit test fiesta. I was aware of the concept back then but I didn't even think about it, I was enjoying myself so much that it all came natural and confident. And man it was worth it!
/r/seduction03/04/21 11:44 PM
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You will mate! It's a matter of sticking to the good advice and keeping a cool casual mindset while enjoying your time!
/r/seduction03/04/21 11:40 PM
1

Count me in! I think I can still get use of this code to prevent further damage, and if not to study the trends of the relationship. Thanks! By the way, excellent job and I'm happy this is helping you cope with the break up. Smart way to see it, don't dwelling too much
/r/seduction08/12/20 08:51 AM
1

That side of you is just anxiety, fear of rejection etc. that's trying to prevent you from suffering bad experiences it doesn't want you to process. Thing is the more you process the easier it gets. So as long as you pass that gatekeeper everything will be fine
/r/seduction25/08/20 06:55 AM
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Do you want to evolve and grow? If you want and commit to it, it's feasible. You wanted to compete in sports and you did it. And yup. That switch in mindset will help you a lot while dating.
/r/seduction24/08/20 05:56 PM
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Then look for help, don't be afraid! I've visited a therapist a few times and her input has been at the very least interesting and useful. It will, worst case scenario, leave you like you are but with few less dollars on the pocket
/r/seduction24/08/20 05:53 PM
1

Work on yourself to improve what you don't like about yourself
/r/seduction24/08/20 03:48 PM
1

Girls don't eat guys most of the time
/r/seduction24/08/20 03:45 PM
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Well Mr. Harweld, I just came here to share my 2 cents with you. I was a really really shy guy before my 20s. At something like 16 a girl I had a crush on asked me to go with her to the beach. It was a really stressing. I didn't accept her offer because I had no clue what I'd do if I went or whatever, it was just fear. It kept happening during high-school until I decided that fear was only hindering my life and how I'd be able to enjoy it. So I committed myself to fix that. By my freshman year a…
/r/seduction24/08/20 03:44 PM
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They are 15, she won't be on the pill probably, I'd use a condom for sure. But let them take their time. I think this sub is maybe too "aggressive" in the approach for such young age. Aggressive means too direct
/r/seduction01/07/20 09:05 PM
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To me it took more 😂
/r/seduction01/07/20 09:01 PM
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Don't forget OP is 15 yo...
/r/seduction01/07/20 01:51 PM
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Yeah! Well i don't know if necessarily with me, i mean, we never talked about that YET hehehe, but she freely spoke of a past fwb in a different country, so i know she's into those. The drive is not that common, but for that kind of relationship it's enough and I'm for now not interested in anything deeper. But yes, if things evolve it's manageable until we can figure out things. Hey!! Thanks!! I'm learning to get the right mindset while dating and it's being a really nice improvement to my mood…
/r/seduction30/06/20 11:22 AM
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Yep, next drive is on me, I actually like driving and i have to usually pass by her city like two times per trimester, so i don't see it as a problem, so far. Yes! Doing as you see fit without suffering because what might others think always males life better. Yeah, being with someone who's happy really has an influencd on my vibe so yep, i agree with your thought. Well people fake A LOT while dating so i wouldn't be surprised if they didn't know, and it's sad because in the end that side of the…
/r/seduction30/06/20 10:51 AM
2

Damn! That was bad luck. Haha let's see, it's pretty common people bailing out before things get going. Well she drove 90 mins to come and 90 more back to her place, so yeah, i see the potential aswell. That's why I prefered securing the cool vibes and then we'll get the sexy things going in the close future i hope. Yeah, so far we haven't got into the situation when we talk about what's going on 😅 but yeah, keeping things clear is important and i think that communication is not going to be an i…
/r/seduction30/06/20 10:11 AM
2

Fair!! I'd say it depends, but yeah, never later than that, and I'd say firsr or second. First date kiss has a lot of ways to be understood, it can mean i like you, it can be well, i have to do it because it's time, i want a relationship with you, etc. Yesterday for example i spent the day with a girl, i know she likes the idea of friends with benefits and she likes me, there was flirting and she made an effort to arrange the date, so i decided not to hurry (i decided to keep the "goodwill" i ha…
/r/seduction30/06/20 08:55 AM
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I didn't like it. I actually left it, "What women want and how to give it to them" is my go to, if you want to change your mindset. It's all about mindset indeed in that book
/r/seduction30/06/20 07:54 AM
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So you'd like to bed the guy but don't go yourself for the kiss (a little assumption made i know)
/r/seduction30/06/20 07:53 AM
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Yep! Value yourself, rather than focusing on what you don't like about yourself focus on what you like and improve it. You'll see the glass half full that way
/r/seduction30/06/20 07:51 AM
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I'm a fan of just leaning for the kiss, buuuut in these covid times you might want to ask, some people are not that haopy with getting themselves exposed to potential carriers of the virus
/r/seduction30/06/20 07:49 AM
2

6'+ is really above the average height, i don't understand why height is that relevant to women? I know it's because they usually want to be shorter (what's probably wired deep in human brains)
/r/seduction30/06/20 07:48 AM
2

Really agree with you, you have a solid point
/r/seduction11/06/20 05:09 PM
5

It's not the kind of advice that would come to my mind at first thought but it's actually pretty good
/r/seduction08/06/20 07:09 AM
20

Agreed, I'd never flirt like that
/r/seduction03/06/20 02:58 PM
9

Enjoy the ride, because if you enjoy it, wherever it leads you've had fun
/r/seduction12/01/20 08:59 AM
1

Thing is carving this deep into your mindset, it takes time and life to realize how true that is
/r/seduction12/01/20 01:15 AM
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Solid advice, really solid, in the end it's value yourself in a different form
/r/seduction08/01/20 04:19 PM
13

Seems like the best advice, that and being happy with who you are and not forgetting that there are many girls in the world and many are probably better than that particular one or at least the same
/r/seduction08/01/20 04:18 PM
2

The right mindset in my opinion is to enjoy yourself and your life without wasting chances of meeting people but not actually going out to pick up. Because that might cause frustration and you can lose yourself
/r/seduction24/10/19 11:31 AM
1

Club and bars, coffees all qualify for the advice.
/r/seduction24/10/19 11:28 AM
2

Yep, this is true. OP, do you know ghosting? Flaking? These can happen while on a date too. She might get a call or whatever, or simply change plans. You still have to make it well
/r/seduction24/10/19 11:00 AM
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Wow... They said that to cure hunger you had to show people how to fish, not just give them a fish, because once they eat it they'll be hungry again... Well this is the same, tho in being downvoted for giving someone a good tool to get what he wanted... Sad that in this sub about self improvement people is so... I don't know what name this deserves.
/r/seduction21/10/19 06:36 PM
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I mean, you've seen the text. You can go to something like canva and create an HD version that suits you perfectly and download it. It wouldn't take much time. I don't know if there's an HD version, just suggesting a good option
/r/seduction21/10/19 08:36 AM
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The one you can edit in a sec
/r/seduction21/10/19 08:29 AM
5

Don't plan that much, try to live and talk to girls while you live
/r/seduction19/10/19 02:11 PM
3

Well, key part of it is enjoying the bar, your drink and if you know the staff you'll chat with them aswell. Plus in decent sized cities there are always people hanging by themselves too so they may be nice talking buddies. So far I just go, have my beer, read some reddit/ebook while drinking and listening to the music and if I see someone cool/I'd want to talk to I do it If there's a party going on, or a lot of people in the place is just jump onto the social part and start talking with people
/r/seduction17/10/19 07:48 PM
0

In my case it's pretty irrelevant, tho if you go alone you have more freedom to take decision but someone people will see you as weird, if you go out alone.
/r/seduction17/10/19 06:46 PM
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Something similar happent to me once, it was also going by myself to a bar. Curious how people consider bad going out by yourself when there's nothing wrong with it. Glad you had such a great success
/r/seduction17/10/19 05:50 PM
1

Well, things would be weird if you both want to make them weird. Plus if you ever want to date someone she'll have to know that you're into her, don't you think? You can text to her, join her in her walk home. You shouldn't try to talk to her, you should either talk to her or don't. Don't stay inbetween. I guess this sitaution needs closure, so you either ask her on a date, ask her to go and have breakfast with you or something like that, you could always say it was a friendly plan, ooooorr.....…
/r/ExRedPill08/10/19 09:49 PM
2

By comebackeable I mean, you can salvage, reconquest, recover your chances with the girl. I'd strongly advice you to ask her to go on a date with you. i'm right now trying to go on a date with a girl (it's been a nice welcome back experience to the singles world) and one of the first things I did was ask her for her number and ask her on a date. She said she was busy, etc., I didn't feel eerything was lost so I wanna give it a second go. There's nothing wrong with girls knowing you're attracted …
/r/ExRedPill08/10/19 03:20 PM
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If all the content has this quality... It's worth it
/r/seduction07/10/19 09:14 PM
1

This needs to be everywhere, in all our mind, tattooed in our arms, everywhere. This must be stressed everyday in our minds, and I wish I had known this before I went to the gym today
/r/seduction07/10/19 09:13 PM
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Really solid advice, treat her as you would with any other girl. After all she gave agreed to meeting. No worries, if she wants she'll see the message even if she gets many. And congrats for your success op.
/r/seduction07/10/19 02:58 PM
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Yeah, plus I always try to provide people with a good interaction and the best interaction with someone that's not interested in you is not talking at all, so none of you waste time. If she shared contact details and then things go a lil cold I still try to overcome that situation
/r/seduction07/10/19 02:23 PM
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I usually bail out asap on those girls, there's no flipping that can be performed (with my knowledge at least) to change the odds
/r/seduction07/10/19 02:19 PM
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You need to care, you need to want to see her and she has to know that, but she has to know that you want to talk with your friends, do your things and live your life and talk to other girls. You have to show interest on her, as you would show interest on a hobby, a friend or something you like. You might have created the impression that you don't care, but that's so easily comebackeable that you don't need to worry about that. Be charming in your way, tho paying attention to what she says if sh…
/r/ExRedPill07/10/19 11:27 AM
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It depends, she might get the impresion that the other guy is constantly annoying her or being paying her too much attention thus devaluating his attention. One thing about dating that's interesting is that there is no real way to know, in the early stages, what a girl is looking for, unless she clearly shows it or says it. If you're just starting to know here you'll have to try with one idea and see if that works, since it is a bet try it with your most honest version since at least if you fail…
/r/ExRedPill06/10/19 04:48 PM
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Yay, that's the idea. In fact trying to be yourself always would be my advice on a general basis
/r/ExRedPill06/10/19 03:24 PM
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Practice, learn to lead in environments where you already feel comfortable, if you're good at any activity, lead while doing it and you'll get better. Then it will be natural
/r/seduction06/10/19 10:13 AM
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What I mean is that if you just want a hookup then you can be whoever you want, you want to hookup being yourself, nice, it's feasible, you wanna hookup being funny, flirting hard and going super strong, it's nice and an experience I recommend to live at least once. It doesn't matter because you want the sex, the experience of that night having a good time with that person. But if you're looking for something serious if you end up acting like someone you're not (you don't have to commit to be li…
/r/ExRedPill06/10/19 08:04 AM
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In the end it's a matter of what you want from her, a hookup, be funny, flirtatious and misterious, you'll get her probably. If you want something more you have to get her to like you for what you are. Being serious is different from being boring, just a friendly reminder. He might be building rapport and he can actually have something with her, that's how we work, but you're doing it the fine way
/r/ExRedPill05/10/19 11:44 PM
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Nah, you don't need to feel like that because your mission is not to entertain the girl, just be yourself if you're funny be funny, if you're serious, be serious, she will have to like you for what you are
/r/ExRedPill05/10/19 11:38 PM
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Yeah, well it depends entirely on the girl and what opinion she has from you, at least at first glance, but yeah
/r/seduction05/10/19 10:04 PM
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You had me cracking with that reflection I was worried women could read my mind and somehow see I found them attractive (why I thought this was a bad thing is beyond me). Besides that, it's entirely true
/r/seduction05/10/19 07:55 PM
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A good rejection is a thousand times better than a bad illusion on your head!
/r/ExRedPill05/10/19 12:43 PM
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Yeah, be yourself. Try to not be the most boring version of youself tho, but in the end you need to have fun while you are with her. Honesty is the best thing while dating, at least from my point of view. If you can flirt while being honest, well, that's even better.
/r/ExRedPill05/10/19 12:42 PM
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Fair, then what you said is entirely true. My bad I guess, first reply of the day 😅
/r/seduction05/10/19 07:45 AM
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Yes I understood it, but just wanted to point out that it will only work IF she has some interest
/r/seduction05/10/19 06:46 AM
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You're 15, plenty of time to get into it, tho you should learn by experience, don't look deeper for advice until you're older. Just a tip, what your female friends think that will work, is not necesarily a good idea, actually it tends to be completely biased. Follow your guts!
/r/seduction04/10/19 10:40 PM
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Today I was at the beach, I saw a cute girl by herself. Went to talk to her, she was obviously not into talking so I bailed after a minimal chitchat, just whished her a nice time here. I honestly took no hit from that. It actually went well, I'm doing what I see fit, approach if I want ​ Conclusion: being rejected is a victory!, you actually approached and you won't meet anyone without approaching. Even for a classmate or similar you will have to approach
/r/seduction04/10/19 10:34 PM
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This might or might not be true. If she is not hungry, following your example, and never will be, it doesn't really matter how much time you spend being scarce to her. You obviously can't be there 24/7, that would be annoying, but scarcity won't make attraction grow, it can show that you have things in your life.
/r/seduction04/10/19 10:31 PM
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Social skills are in the end like every other skill, if you don't use them they get rusty. I don't really think you can lose momentum on a week, but it's true that I'm ussually social with everybody. it can of course happen if you're being antisocial during long periods of time. Best time to be social in my opinion is Sunday, unless you're in college, then everyone will be recovering from the weekend
/r/seduction04/10/19 10:29 PM
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"Hey!, this is X, me and my friends are going to do Y on saturday, come join us" Not the best, tho I'm not really in the mood right now, but that's the idea. You only live once, perform, try to do your best but if it goes down you've at least tried.
/r/seduction04/10/19 10:26 PM
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26 here, there's plenty of time still. Things will be different if you date someone in their late twenties than their earlier ones, or not, but it's just a matter of knowing people once you're certain age and see how things go. I've got that I'm running out of time feeling, but we're males, our range is great, I can still go up to 20ers and feel nice, tho for a long term relationship I wouldn't go below 22/23
/r/ExRedPill01/10/19 07:18 AM
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If she had a boyfriend ego should have taken no damage! I did it the other day, in my case she gave me her number, but rejected my first approach for a date, tho she seems genuinely busy, so I'll give her another chance in a few weeks
/r/seduction30/09/19 10:26 PM
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Try your chances, but get the ready just in case the hit comes. It's best thing I can provide today :/
/r/seduction29/09/19 06:24 PM
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I really like this writing and I think it's pretty accurate. Tho going out there and being social is easy for me, taking the hits is taking its toll on me. For example I'm having a rough time with people not honoring the honesty I show with their own, asking a girl from classes for her phone for her to give it and just ghost right after it is completely unnecessary and could save me part of the pay I have to pay for trying to get to meet her. World is made right now so girls get in the comfortab…
/r/ExRedPill29/09/19 05:49 PM
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Naaais hehehe, we all did/do that so nothing to worry about, just saying it doesn't require much. Overthinking and social conditioning cause a lot of trouble dating... Sadly
/r/seduction28/09/19 03:39 PM
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By promising yourself not to be frozen or not move ever again, it works wonder with me, I don't want to disappoint myself because after all you have to live with your decisions and a bad decision is better than not at all, in this topic at least
/r/seduction28/09/19 03:08 PM
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No problem, we're all in the same boat!
/r/seduction28/09/19 03:07 PM
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Last month I went to a different city for studies, I went to the bar alone for 7 days in a row, I ended up talking with the barman and a wide array of different people. My main advice is to have plans that you enjoy by yourself so you're not seeking for girls/others. In this case that was my prefered bar in that city and went to have some beers and read/reddit or talk with the staff so they were great nights spices with different talks none of them lead to anything but I enjoyed my time. KEY: do…
/r/seduction28/09/19 02:24 PM
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It's just hey! Gimme your number and let's hang out some day. It doesn't really require that much preparation
/r/seduction28/09/19 01:15 PM
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Agreed, plus it was a pretty clear signal, I thought this text would be about how he had sex with her, not about he fucked up, but in the end, we've all made that at some point soo....
/r/seduction28/09/19 07:23 AM
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I've winged friend with decent success, now I need to learn how to wing foreigners! Tho as op said this knowledge is like everything, you need to know when to stop or it might hurt you. Truth be said too, it helps, makes life more interesting and once you learnt it is there with you, like biking, you can retake it, rustier or not, but it's there to help if you call it
/r/seduction27/09/19 06:04 AM
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I honestly expected it to end as it did, tho in the back of my mind I was slightly afraid
/r/seduction27/09/19 05:59 AM
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It happent, and now I've got a phone number and I showed myself that I'm able to open to whoever I want. Win/win situation in which I got the 2 posible outcomes simultaneously
/r/seduction26/09/19 08:34 PM
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Try to not think about performance or whatever might hinder your fun, the most important thing is you to enjoy your time, so focus on that
/r/seduction25/09/19 05:17 PM
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The no/yes thing is really important and I'm happy it's mentioned because for a first time it can be a lil daunting to receive a no. I've received many that ended in yes and a big chunk too that were no, reading through those take time so my advice is if a no comes, without being afraid of what just happen or blaming something or not, let it be, try if you feel it's a playful no but I'd not push through more than 2 noes, if you get 2 it will probably be the same the third time tho she'll respect…
/r/seduction25/09/19 05:15 PM
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Sure thing I will, there's no point in not trying!
/r/seduction25/09/19 08:09 AM
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This is something that must be stressed out far more, I needed it, I have one approach to do on Thursday and your post will help me stay on track
/r/seduction24/09/19 11:58 PM
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You did it right, there was no way to fuck what didn't even exist, so no worries
/r/seduction24/09/19 09:50 PM
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It's a hard one, but once you manage to get it things go far better (I used to know, now I'm back into it) Key is to pay attention, as I said, to what she says and compliment her using your brain not your eyes or cock
/r/seduction23/09/19 09:22 PM
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In my opinion part of the key of the matter is showing her genuine interest, paying attention to what she says, do some game, be flirty and she'll at least treat you well because you were honest and went for her. You might actually get surprised because some girls are so stunning that many folks are scared of talking to her so you might be the one
/r/seduction23/09/19 09:21 PM
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Thiiis! You like her, but if she's not up to it, it's entirely good for you! It can be acted if you know you rock or have plenty of options, else your facade will fall
/r/seduction23/09/19 09:18 PM
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This is important, some friends of mine said that it was a perk I had and it's true, keep that in mind that investing in culture is good for you and your game
/r/seduction23/09/19 09:13 PM
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Congrats on your game and on your success, enjoy your time and someone said we want field report
/r/seduction23/09/19 09:10 PM
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It depends on the Starbucks but I think it could work, potentially
/r/seduction23/09/19 08:56 PM
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This comment should be free thousands of karma
/r/seduction23/09/19 08:55 PM
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I used to be decent on that class but left when started college, still know some staff but yeah there's no real hurry, and since I go to the class because I enjoy it expectations are linked to the joy of it. Thanks for the female point of view and the tips! I'll try to implement them
/r/seduction13/09/19 10:22 PM
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Yeah, the approach shall be nice and easy and maybe be carried out in different sessions if it goes well, but speaking to someone totally new still requires speaking with them at some point, I mean, you still have to do it, even if it is at baby speed
/r/seduction13/09/19 08:33 AM
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I think there are two options here, either they attract them just for sex so all those things but fitness doesn't matter or they're really skilled at doing this picking up thing. We just have to remember that there are always people that will excell at things, if we don't but our skill level provides for us what we want out of it, then we're good
/r/seduction12/09/19 11:26 PM
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Thanks, it might be on my end then
/r/seduction12/09/19 11:23 PM
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No no, I mean, MY formatting, it's weird like the sentences overlap
/r/seduction12/09/19 11:21 PM
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Answer this message with the results of it!!
/r/seduction12/09/19 11:04 PM
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So true, pretending is not the way to get a girl
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/19 10:34 PM
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The mindset helps, it's true, tho you really have to improve your life to be able to attract people to it, kinda like flowers that smell and look good so bugs go to them. You're like a flower but you have much more room to improve, not only looks or smell but the idea is the same, be attractive (not physically only)
/r/seduction12/09/19 10:31 PM
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Read, have interests, that will provide you with culture and plenty of topics to talk to people about. I have no troubles speaking with whoever I want, if my brain doesn't like the girl of course, and that's what I've done and do. I used to be able to do the same with girls but it's been 2 months after a LTR so I'm relearning Edit: Even if you don't have many girls in your life if you're happy with how it goes you won't have problems with eagerness because you won't be eager because your life wi…
/r/seduction12/09/19 10:29 PM
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It's not bad for many pple to know that those things, tho being obvious mean interest instead of many other things they could
/r/seduction12/09/19 10:20 PM
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Don't wait more than 24 hours, or at least I don't, just don't be too eager to answer once she texts back
/r/seduction12/09/19 10:19 PM
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Well, if you did all of that and got her number you for sure must use that number and contact her!
/r/seduction12/09/19 10:19 PM
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This is the real truth. In my opinion looks are like the battering ram, they ease the way into the talk but once you're talking you're on your own. BTW: Are you having problems with lines not been spaced when you write the reply? because it's messing my formatting
/r/seduction12/09/19 10:07 PM
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Really solid advice, sex will become normal/usual as time passes th MO the first time it's always something particular. Good you achieved it if this was important to you, when I did it, it was for me, it was quite an story
/r/seduction07/09/19 10:40 PM
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Same goes for many other countries, it's a nice support tool as friend of mine said, explore all the ways
/r/seduction07/09/19 10:06 PM
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Just get your face close to hers and if she doesn't pull away go all the way
/r/seduction07/09/19 10:04 PM
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I'm right now on a bar alone having a beer because I felt like it. I'm reading the subforum and depending on how the night goes I'll go one way or the other. I've managed to pull one night stand in nights like this, so it's doable, you can enjoy your beer, the read and the night alone aswell and that's the key, if you are able to have fun alone, nothing is holding you from going alone to places
/r/seduction07/09/19 10:03 PM
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Noup, it's more annoying than confidence showing, plus if you're confident you can simply say "hey, how you doing, I'll see you at Mike's at 9pm" (not native so I don't know if it's the 100% accurate but I guess you can get a grasp of the idea) You can call if you want, we're just saying that millenials don't really like that usually. I'm alpha, so I'll colonize the Americas, that doesn't mean the Americans don't have something to say
/r/seduction06/09/19 09:17 AM
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I said more or less the same in the line of thoughts right above this one
/r/seduction06/09/19 09:13 AM
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Yeah, calling imo is like putting some pressure on the receiving end, like pay me attention now. I don't like being called for something that could be done by text when I don't know the other person. On the other hand if I know her that's entirely fine, partly because if I'm busy continuing with my life after saying I'm busy is way more comfortable for me than doing it is I wanna meet that person
/r/seduction06/09/19 09:12 AM
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Agreed, why call when we have texts... Or voice notes.
/r/seduction06/09/19 09:08 AM
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You nailed it and in my case I didn't do it right, so I'm back on being single
/r/seduction05/09/19 01:16 PM
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That last sentence is true and didn't think about that like that before thanks for the new point of view
/r/seduction05/09/19 01:15 PM
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The gf hookup difference you made on how to meet them is capital but ignored many times tho
/r/seduction05/09/19 09:47 AM
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Thanks for the tips! I think that I don't pursue girls right now, but it's somewhat hard to meet new pple in an small town where most of the pple are already known. I mean you can obviously do it, but since I'm a lil picky with girls it means that is not good. I like what you said tho and the don't ask lead mentality is one of my rules in life in general
/r/seduction05/09/19 09:44 AM
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Living in an small town
/r/seduction04/09/19 10:17 PM
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I can say that stepping outside of your comfort zone can cause that and once you find yourself in your expanded comfort zone it will fade by itself
/r/seduction04/09/19 10:17 PM
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Not asking like a gestapo agent, more like if she speaks about herself after you start talking with her, pay attention and if you're interested questions or impressions will appear in your mind
/r/seduction04/09/19 10:07 PM
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If not talking is your strength then... I'd go for a release of information while you listen to her since it's more important to pay attention to what they say than bombarding them with info
/r/seduction04/09/19 10:02 PM
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By the game I meant the style of daygame I'm not fan of The Game as book. Thanks!!! I just try to have fun while pple enjoy the interactions I'm in, a defeat for me is when the girl's not happy not when I don't grab a phone
/r/seduction04/09/19 10:01 PM
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I've consciously done that once, it was with a really beautiful girl and she knew it so I had to make magic, since she knows her value you need to make her now yours, in a flirty way. My advice is showing confidence while you interact with her. If she feels you're enjoying your time and that you like yourself she will probably want to have her share of you thus wanting you (just my 2 cents since I have far less exp than op)
/r/seduction04/09/19 09:59 PM
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I really like the content and the formatting. Really useful information that we all should learn by heart. I gotta confess I like your style and I'm happy I still have years to make a good use of it. I have saved the post tho I don't know how to make a good use of this save, how do I look for saved posts?
/r/seduction04/09/19 09:54 PM
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I definitely believe that
/r/seduction04/09/19 09:42 PM
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It's a good post man! Good to see you're back on track. I left a LTR 2 months ago and I'm trying to get my ass back on the streets because I used to be decent at this
/r/seduction02/09/19 01:40 PM
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Mine too
/r/seduction02/09/19 01:37 PM
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