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Seeing a future with her at 2 months is just oneitis bro. Your brain attached to the idea of her, and not really her. That version of her was just the honeymoon phase doing its thing and it changed very quickly. For moving on fast the number one thing is don't keep replaying it. You need to get back in there as soon as possible, even if you're not feeling it and not to replace her, but because it reminds your brain that she's not the only option. Abundance mindset isn't just theory, and you actu…
/r/seduction29/03/26 09:00 PM
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Well she fucked around and found out. You did the right thing, she's a toxic girl. 2 months in and she's already playing these games lol She wanted to play a power move on you. She wanted you to chase her and apologize but you flipped it on her. Women do this when they feel too confident or to check how much control they actually have over you, and once you give in a little, they take the whole arm. The double stndard is insane too she can't handle you having a friend that is a woman but she get…
/r/seduction29/03/26 08:41 PM
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Yeah honestly guys let this happen to themselves. Girls can go out, get smashed, use a dude for drinks, maybe take one home out of the 50 see met and bounce and most guys just take it because they're hoping something more comes of it lol. You're not going to be able to buy most girls with drinks, you get her with escalating attraction. I saw this firsthand. Back when I was a broke student I lived with this really hot friend and we'd hit the city together. She'd be getting drinks thrown at her al…
/r/seduction27/03/26 12:32 PM
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I don't go for apps. Waste of time for me unless I'm in my country planning a trip to another then yeah, I'll get on to set some dates or to get picked up from the airport. And in my hometown, I don't even have to use the apps, I already have contacts here to meet up very fast.
/r/seduction21/03/26 04:30 PM
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I'd get on Tinder and Badoo. I saw that you're in Thailand, and I've used Badoo in Vietnam which was pretty good. Might as well use it passively without too much investment, who knows what you'll get.
/r/seduction21/03/26 10:45 AM
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I think Badoo is the option then. It was for Vietnam, so you should probably try that and Tinder.
/r/seduction21/03/26 10:45 AM
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Bro honestly apps are kind of a wasteland if you're looking for something actually worth your time. Like yeah you'll swipe through hundreds of profiles and maybe land a date here and there but the conversion rate on quality isn't great. Dating apps are basically a slot machine at this point, most of them have the same pool of ppl. your chances of meeting a genuinely high quality girl through a cold app are pretty damn low... but not zero, just low. The girls worth knowing are usually not doom sc…
/r/seduction21/03/26 10:29 AM
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yeah exactly, it was never really about having your life perfectly assembled before you can start pulling. You can be broke as shit, living with roommates, driving a beat up car and still consistently pull women way out of what most guys would consider your league And on the flip side you can have the penthouse, the six pack, the passport stamps and go home alone every single night. Those external things are almost irrelevant to the actual mechanism of attraction. Does fixing your posture, dress…
/r/seduction20/03/26 11:38 AM
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First thing bro stop trying to be clever and just try to be fun because girls on these apps are drowning in boring safe messages all day and they're not looking for the perfect line, they're just looking to actually feel something. Be the guy who makes her laugh or raises an eyebrow instead of the guy who carefully crafts a response for 20 minutes. And your whole goal on the app isn't even to have a good text conversation, it's just to get her in front of you as fast as you reasonably because en…
/r/seduction20/03/26 01:29 AM
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The guys saying if you have to check you should just leave aren't wrong. That just means you don't trust her, so why even be in a relationship? And if she's gonna cheat she's gonna cheat either way. Checking her phone isn't going to stop that it's just gonna make you look insecure and paranoid if she isn't hiding anything which is not a good look. Better move is just being observant. You can usually tell by just looking at her. How she acts with her phone around you tells you more than what's ac…
/r/seduction19/03/26 05:21 PM
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Man I give a lot of advice on here and usually get solid feedback but I gotta be honest, I can't really get behind this one and here's why.. you have a wife and a family bro. I know the dead bedroom thing is brutal and I'm not dismissing that at all, that stuff genuinely grinds you down over time, but I'd feel wrong just repying to you through this without saying something. That said you clearly have your head screwed on right in a lot of ways and that self awareness you have about not wanting t…
/r/seduction18/03/26 03:09 AM
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damn she runnin the game out there on my boys and ain't fucking around… well i guess she is lmao Drop the coffee spot location haha We might as well all share at this point 😭
/r/seduction16/03/26 10:41 AM
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Forget cold DMs entirely because the odds are basically zero and beautiful women with any kind of following are absolutely drowning in messages from guys they've never met and almost none of those ever get read. It also makes you come off as desperate. The real move is to meet her in person first and build something before you ever open that app. Find a situation where you're naturally around her like a work event, mutual friends, a class, anything really and you don't need some big rehearsed mo…
/r/seduction15/03/26 04:15 PM
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Yep. cool profile
/r/seduction11/03/26 10:23 PM
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Usually you want to set a date fast and not really mention about ONS in the text. For the date itself, I usually do one drink somewhere close to my place, keep it to an hour or two, build some tension, then suggest continuing the night somewhere more chill like "I've got drinks back at mine if you want to keep hanging". You've built some trust so if you did everything right she should agree. From there it's pretty straightforward. Your real problem is probably that you're naturally good to talk …
/r/seduction11/03/26 07:07 PM
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Biggest mistake guys make is getting the girl interested and then ignoring the friends or treating them like an obstacle. you're going to have problems if you do that because they notice that immediately and they don't like it. You have to make them feel included early and that doesnt mean you have to do it in a try hard way just be funny with them and acknowledge that they're there lol The envy thing is real and there's not much you can directly do about it. Some girls will cockblock purely bec…
/r/seduction09/03/26 06:30 AM
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Okay there's a lot going on here lol Ointment made out with a guy in front of you right after you walked off with Shelly that's pretty clearly a reaction to seeing you with someone else. Whether she actually likes you or was just in her feelings in the moment is hard to say but it wasn't random timing. The crackhead thing probably didn't help because jumping in to handle something that wasn't even a real threat can come across as tense and erratic especially when everyone's drunk and in rave mod…
/r/seduction09/03/26 06:06 AM
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Okay so some of what you're saying is actually valid and some of it is completely wrong and I'll tell you why. You're right that confidence alone doesn't magically transform your physical appearance. A picture of you looking confident looks the same as a picture of you not confident. That part is true and the people telling you otherwise are oversimplifying it. But here's where you're going wrong because attraction isn't just a picture. It's a live experience and how you carry yourself, how you …
/r/seduction09/03/26 05:13 AM
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And don't forget to stop her and give her your contact info and tell her to text you at __ said time lmao
/r/seduction09/03/26 05:05 AM
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That's true. Even the best looking people get rejected for many reasons. Seriously there can be 100s of reasons that don't even involve you.
/r/seduction09/03/26 04:55 AM
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True. The actual rejection takes about five seconds and the avoiding it can take years off your dating life. And that's where the real damage is which is not in the rejection itself but in all the approaches you talked yourself out of. Every time you bottle it and walk away without saying anything you're basically training your brain to believe you can't handle it and the fear just gets bigger and bigger, you're not doing your brain any favors by avoiding. Every time you just do it anyway regard…
/r/seduction09/03/26 04:52 AM
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The fact that you have no problem talking to women already puts you ahead of like 80% of guys who come here. The escalation thing is just reps honestly. You're three weeks in and you're already identifying exactly where things are breaking down which means you're paying attention and that's how you actually get better. Most guys go out for months without even figuring out what their specific problem is The keeping them interested part usually comes down to one thing most beginners are too interv…
/r/seduction09/03/26 04:26 AM
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Yeah the touching thing is definitely a big part of it but it's not just that. The shift from two people who like each other to this is going somewhere tonigh happens through physical escalation and tension, not really conversation. You can have the best chat in the world and still go home alone because you never created that charge between you. Words don't usually do that, touch does. The things you say over dinner or coffee will likely be forgotten, but the feeling you create will be remembere…
/r/seduction09/03/26 04:19 AM
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Big true. Women absolutely approach good looking guys and rich guys directly too. I guess OP believes that no woman ever walked up to a billionaire, a famous musician, or a celebrity and made it obvious to secure them, like just telling them outright. They approach constantly in those cases and he reason most of us don't experience women approaching us directly is simply because most of us aren't famous, filthy rich, or 10/10 on the looks and that's the honest true. And the other honest truth is…
/r/seduction09/03/26 03:58 AM
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Yeah welcome to modern dating bro. Here's the thing though you had great conversation, lots of making out, good vibes and THEN she ghosts when you ask for a third date. That's a text game problem not a chemistry problem. The date was fine, you were fine, but something about how you came across over text after killed it I think. Can you post them here exactly? You texted a few times after the date, then suggested a date, then called when she didn't respond, then sent another follow up.... Bro wtf…
/r/seduction09/03/26 03:33 AM
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Bro ait until you're back without a doubt. Getting the number right before a 3 week trip is one of the worst things you can do. You're basically signing yourself up to be a texting buddy from a distance for 3 weeks straight which kills all the tension and mystery before you've even had a chance to build anything real in person. By the time you get back you've already used up all your material over text and the whole thing feels stale before it started. If you get the number and then not message …
/r/seduction09/03/26 03:23 AM
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Okay so last minute resistance when you're already at the location with her is actually a pretty common think that could happen It could possibly be this, I've talked aobut it in another post but can't find it right now. So she's already there and already kissed you. She's already into you otherwise those two things wouldn't have happened. So it's not about attraction since that's likely handled so what is likely happening is she's in her head and she needs plausible deniability. She doesn't wan…
/r/seduction09/03/26 03:08 AM
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You're are kind of cooked but not completely but you're definitely playing on hard mode lol Small towns are a different world man. Everyone knows everyone and the word travels faster than light. One slip up follows you around for years and everyone remembers when there's nothing else going on. You hit on someone's daughter and she doesn't like it, you're going to have enemies. I live in a city of 200k and even here everyone my age basically knows each other through someone and dating options can…
/r/seduction09/03/26 02:30 AM
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Don't stress too much about the job thing man the market is genuinely shit right now and you're not alone in that. In between things is a perfectly fine answer and the girls in your social circle already know you as a person anyway so you're not cold approaching anyone as the unemployed guy, you're just you. Unless you end up asking them for money. But here's the thing that actually matters. You said you're good with women. That doesn't turn off because your job situation is rough and honestly y…
/r/seduction09/03/26 02:20 AM
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bothing wrong with direct approaching at all and honestly the whole snake your way through social circles thing is way overthought for most situations The reputation thing at a commuter school is basically a non issue. You're right that these girls aren't going home and gossiping about the guy who approached them in the hallway because they usually don't even know each other. Their one and main goal is to get in and get out fast lol It's a thing they check off daily, and return to their normal l…
/r/seduction09/03/26 01:37 AM
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First of all bro, stop booking the hotel before you even know if there's chemistry. That's backwards and it's probably why you're not closing. You're investing money upfront on a maybe and then subconsciously putting pressure on yourself to make it work which she feels. Wait until you're already on the date and can feel where things are going and if there is physical escalation. Most hotels in Midtown you can book same day on your phone in two minutes. Date is going well so you excuse yourself t…
/r/seduction09/03/26 01:23 AM
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Bro autism or not you're 30, self aware enough to know what's not working, and actually asking for help. That's more than most guys do. Bar and club scene is rough for TONS of people so if you say you're extremely award and weird around people, I would forget that whole world for now honestly. What actually works better for you is just being somewhere where there's already something happening board game nights, hobby meetups, whatever you're actually into. The conversation basically writes itsel…
/r/seduction09/03/26 12:58 AM
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Who is this person? Do you know her in real life or is it someone random online?
/r/seduction09/03/26 12:44 AM
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What I'm about to say is the most cookie cutter shit you've heard a million times on here but honestly it's repeated so much because it actually works. Social hobbies are your best bet, most likely the indoor ones. Dance classes are probably the single highest ROI thing you can do small groups, there's physical contact is built in, same people every week so you naturally build rapport over time and there's always women there who are also just looking for something social during winter. Yoga is s…
/r/seduction09/03/26 12:36 AM
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That's a rough patch bro Let me help you actually break down what probably happened here and maybe you can respond if it's true because there's usually a pattern Three women at once in December feeling like a king... that energy is exactly why it was working. You were outcome independent and you had options and they could feel it. That vibe is literally the most attractive thing a guy can have and you had it naturally because you were new to it and maybe didn't care too much about it. The moment…
/r/seduction09/03/26 12:22 AM
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That's a valid preference man and it makes sense but the idea that western women want you purely for you and not for what you bring is a bit of a stretch too. It works both ways everywhere just in different ways. A guy with a good job, his own place, decent looks and she's already factoring that in whether she admits it or not. The difference over there is they're just more honest about it. A lot of guys actually find that way easier to deal with once they get over the initial difference. And mo…
/r/seduction09/03/26 12:10 AM
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Hell no it's not too late. I'm in my mid 30s myself and I'm just starting to live my life now. Spent basically my whole adult life in relationships since I was 17, only ever had like a month or two gap between them, last one ended January and now I'm finally just doing me for the first time. That's about 17-18 years of not being alone. The thing about being a man is you genuinely have time. You can get married at 40, find a woman in her late 20s, have kids and build a great life. That's a real o…
/r/seduction08/03/26 11:51 PM
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That's good to know and that actually puts you in a good position if you want to escalate both at the same time. They’re roommates, and they were comfortable hanging with you as a trio the whole night. A lot of the times most people iwll kind of ruin it immediately by trying to pull one aside and pick a winner and that's the move that usually kills any chance of the fun group dynamic continuing if you're into that and if you know what I mean. But a lot of people do that because they usually won'…
/r/seduction08/03/26 09:59 PM
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Bro you literally pulled two girls in one night at a wine event and you're calling yourself a desperate loser lmao Already posted something yesterday and yeah some people were throwing out the usual doom and gloom "don't do this don't do that don't listen to that guy" but the real thing worth paying attention to is the rejection risk. If you shoot for the prettier one and she's not feeling it, there's a decent chance the other one hears about it and now you've lost both. They're roommates who wo…
/r/seduction08/03/26 05:44 PM
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Yeah bro you got rejected and it stings but honestly you did something most guys never do which is actually approach. But here's the thing... she gave you the signal BEFORE you even opened your mouth. No smile.... No eye contact. No curiosity. Just a cold wall that she didn't give a f. That's your answer right there before you even said a word. You don't need her to put up a stop sign if she never gave you a green light in the first place The guys who are good at this aren't approaching every gi…
/r/seduction07/03/26 04:33 PM
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Don't have time to go in depth right now but you can't expect every girl to be on you just because she's average lol Some are just not into hookups, some are loyal and have boyfriends, some are just there to hang out with friends and that's why they might not want to have anything to do with you. And there might be a 10/10 who is the complete opposite and down for it. This is also part of the reason to get rejected. Might not even be because of your looks or things you said. Plenty of good looki…
/r/seduction07/03/26 12:59 AM
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You're already more than half way there, she is making it easy for you.
/r/seduction05/03/26 12:53 PM
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she was literally running game on YOU lol strong eye contact holding it... hand on your back for a full minute... she wasn't being friendly she was telling you to wake up and make a move. That girl knows exactly what she's doing and she was basically spelling it out for you in slow motion the good news is she still wants to see you next weekend so nothing is lost. for the next date you have to stop waiting for some perfect magical moment where it feels right because that feeling never comes for …
/r/seduction05/03/26 12:49 PM
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Dude you already know the answer and you said it yourself. You didn't feel attracted to her at first and that energy telegraphs. Women pick up on that immediately and they'll slot you accordingly. By the time YOU caught feelings she'd already made up her mind about what this was. The friend zon usually gets set in the first hour, sometimes the first few minutes. Not because of some rule but because attraction is basically decided before you even open your mouth just by social signals like eye co…
/r/seduction04/03/26 11:22 AM
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Bro you're already in so stop overthinking it. She's calling you babe, she engineered alone time with you, and she said yes to a birthday lunch. The escalation already happened and you're just showing up to collect. The age gap works FOR you here and not against you. Older women aren't impressed by games or routines, they've seen it all. So don't switch into weird date mode and get stiff on her because the vibe she fell for is the relaxed confident trainer guy so stay him. Tease her like you alw…
/r/seduction04/03/26 06:20 AM
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Nah you're thinking too short term bro. The earring isn't there to seal the deal that first night, that's already happening. That night when she gets home and she's lying in bed, and her brain starts replaying everything she saw. Who's earring was that? ios he seeing someone else? Does he even care if I come back? That uncertainty is what makes her text first the next morning. That's what makes her want to lock you down. If your place looks too clean, she leaves feeling comfortable and comfortab…
/r/seduction03/03/26 09:03 PM
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They will tell you what you want to hear brother. No women is going to tell you she just got fucked a week ago or has been for the past month.
/r/seduction03/03/26 02:30 PM
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Brother the real issue here is simple you're acting like she's the only one. She texts you had a great time and suddenly you're planning your week around her. Meanwhile she's still got 3 other guys in her DMs. That's just reality. That not ready response means she didn't lose attraction in 4 days but your vibe shifted. You went from the confident guy who kissed her goodnight to some dude casually asking her to grab food. What actually works is you stop treating the date like a finish line. The c…
/r/seduction03/03/26 11:26 AM
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First of all relax, because you already did the hard part of getting her out, that means she is already showing some type of interest. O the expressing yourself thing you do not need to drop big compliments to show sexual interest. In fact telling a girl you are so beautiful early on can actually kill the tension because it puts her on a pedestal and makes you look a little nervous. Instead of saying that directly to her, you're going to be showing it through your behaviour. Maintain strong eye …
/r/seduction01/03/26 03:26 PM
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To be honest with you, texting every day is one of the fastest ways to kill the dynamic with a girl like this. Daily texting turns something exciting into something routine and for an avoidant woman who's already scared of catching feelings it basically fast tracks her anxiety. You became too present too fast and that's when the walls came up. When she told you she was scared of getting hurt on Valentine's Day and you looked her in the eye and said if you need to stop seeing me to protect yourse…
/r/seduction28/02/26 09:47 PM
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She told you exactly who she was from the jump and you still got caught in your feelings trying to analyze every text and that's where you lost the frame The voice note saying you miss her after she called you a dry texter was the turning point. You sensed the coldness comin and you overcorrected by chasing her emotionally. Women don't respond to that, especially ones with avoidant patterns. The moment you started trying to fix her mood through affection you handed over the frame completely and …
/r/seduction28/02/26 09:34 PM
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Lol.. Bro I'll be real with you. Two women sitting alone on a sidewalk at 1am aren't in meet new people mode they're in get home safe mode. From their perspective, a random car slows down and a man starts talking to them in the dark. That's a threat assessment situation, not a social one and it wouldn't really matter what you said. The better rejected than not trying mindset is actually solid and don't lose that. But context is everything in this game. That situation was unwinnable before you op…
/r/seduction28/02/26 09:11 PM
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If women are going cold after giving you their number, the issue is almost always one of two things. Either there wasn't enough of a connection built in person before you got the number, so the number was kind of hollow to begin with. Or you're texting in a way that kills the vibe too much small talk, taking too long to ask her out, or coming across as needy. A number means nothing on its own. It's just a door opening. What matters is what you do right after. Stop texting back and forth for days…
/r/seduction28/02/26 11:06 AM
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Bro. She sneezed. That's it. There are no ulterior motives behind a sneeze. But real talk, the problem here isn't the sneeze. It's that your brain is constantly scanning for threats that aren't there. When you're that deep in your own head looking for signs of rejection, you will find them everywhere... in a sneeze, in a delayed text, in a look she gave you for half a second. Your mind will twist anything into evidence that you're not good enough. And you already know where that comes from becau…
/r/seduction28/02/26 11:03 AM
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Good signs bro, don't fumble it by texting her all day. Lock in the date and chill. Let the anticipation build with some light texting to show her you're still there. Forget trying to make it romantic, the more you try to force it the more she feels it and it kills the vibe. Just be fun and a little unpredictable. Tease her, disagree with her sometimes, hold eye contact a beat longer than normal. Touch her casually early on so it feels natural later. And by touching, I mean light friendly touche…
/r/seduction28/02/26 10:59 AM
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Yeah this is so true and honestly applies to life in general too. If you constantly have negative thoughts running in your head, your brain starts to wire itself around that energy and literally leads you toward those outcomes. It becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. if you wake up and tell yourself "today is gonna be a bad day" guess what, it probably will be because your brain is literally filtering everything through that lens. You start noticing every little thing that goes wrong and ignoring…
/r/seduction26/02/26 10:37 PM
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Bro honestly the never date coworkers rule is way overblown, most people meet their partners at work or school so relax. But here's where you're messing up before you even start. Sliding into her Instagram DMs before she barely knows you exist in real life is a rookie move. That's the kind of thing that makes girls show their friends and cringe together. Don't do that yet. Also if she is beautiful, she's constantly being spammed in the DMs by random dudes, and you don't want to be one of them. W…
/r/seduction26/02/26 05:47 PM
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Yeah, that definitely works. But my opinion has always been that asking for permission breaks the tension. The whole point of escalation is that it's felt, not negotiated. When you ask 'can I kiss you?' you're putting the decision in her head instead of her body. You want her reacting emotionally, not thinking logically. The ladder itself is solid, handling resistance by dropping back down is legit but the verbal ask is a crutch. I've always felt that learning to read and pulling the trigger wit…
/r/seduction26/02/26 03:19 PM
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Yeah this is also completely true... once you know she's initially attracted to you it makes all of this 90% easier and usually you don't really have to try that hard, but you still need to escalate. Once you've got that green light the whole interaction is just logistics and you're not gaming her, you're just escalating a done deal. This is what I do these days as I don't really have time to go out there anymore like I did years ago. I still get a good amount of interest so I put my energy ther…
/r/seduction26/02/26 03:16 PM
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I don't ask, I lead to it and make it happen. That has always worked for me the best.
/r/seduction26/02/26 03:07 PM
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Bars and clubs are the obvious answer but beyond that it's really just about putting yourself in more social situations in general. House parties, friend of a friend connections are how a lot of people end up meeting someone. Take up hobbies that naturally have a mixed gender split, cooking classes, dance classes, hiking groups, that kind of thing. Apps are boring but they do add volume if you're not already using them. The real answer though is just get out more, say yes to more things. The bes…
/r/seduction25/02/26 11:41 PM
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Very true... saying shit like "I know my worth" and "I set boundaries for myself" openly in a bio or early conversation is such a red flag lol. Like those are genuinely good qualities to have, but the people who feel the need to announce it unprompted are almost always the ones who are the most insufferable to deal with. And that goes for anything in life really the people who constantly talk about how honest they are, how loyal they are, how real they are... bro just be those things. Actions sp…
/r/seduction25/02/26 11:36 PM
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I'll take a different approach to what was mentioned already. He was just trying to compliment you but thought making it a comparison would land harder. Like instead of just saying you're attractive he framed it as you're better than the alternative thinking that would feel more genuine or specific. Some guys think a compliment hits different when there's a contrast attached to it. There's also a slight psychological thing happening whether he was aware of it or not introducing another woman rig…
/r/seduction25/02/26 11:07 PM
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Bro first of all 5 approaches in a month is not enough to feel demoralised about, that's like barely getting started. The gym is genuinely one of the worst places to approach. Everyone's got headphones in, they're in the zone, they're sweaty and just trying to get their workout done. Even if a girl finds you attractive she's going to be guarded because she has to come back there every day and doesn't want it to be weird. You're basically approaching people who are trapped in a place they need to…
/r/seduction25/02/26 10:58 PM
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Bro relax first, being a virgin doesn't mean you're behind on anything. Escalation is just a skill like any other that you learn it by doing. Start with low stakes stuff touching her arm when you're making a point, light touch on the back when you're guiding her somewhere. If she doesn't pull away or tense up, that's a green light to keep going slowly. This is also a very good skill even if you are making friends because physical touch actually builds rapport and trust faster. There's literally …
/r/seduction25/02/26 09:56 PM
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Experiment with different places. Like I said, each city has it's own vibe. You also do not have to move to another city. You get on the train and come back in the morning or you get a hotel if something progresses. We used to do that all the time. You can go to Warsaw for example. Never had problems with security teams as long as you're not going to strip clubs. About the assertive approach, it's like I said, if I can notice a girl with a little bit of interest, then it's going to be way easier…
/r/seduction25/02/26 09:12 PM
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Are you mentally challenged? Uber, have someone drive you, take a buss. Set up the date and go for it, there is nothing to be confused about.
/r/seduction25/02/26 08:43 PM
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I am polish living in Poland. Switch up the clubs, go to different places. Warsaw, Kraków, Wrocław, Tricity they all have very different vibes and crowds. Which city are you in? Your read on Polish club culture is accurate. It's much more male initiative driven than Sweden or France. Girls here are generally more passive in that sense as they won't signal the same way you're used to. That doesn't mean they're not interested, they just won't make it obvious. The direct approach works better than …
/r/seduction25/02/26 08:18 PM
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Which country is this? Yeah, you should just have a good time on the dance floor, make the eye contact happen, if it happens a few times, go in and be subtle about it. Meaning don't make a big deal, just see if she reciprocates. If not, just keep dancing and try again later. If it's a big club, then yeah you can go try other places and just rotate.
/r/seduction25/02/26 07:53 PM
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Real talk first, if you're genuinely as attractive as you believe, and you're going to clubs regularly, and you're never getting approached or having eye contact land naturally... that's worth sitting with honestly. Not to crush you, but because that feedback gap is information. Either the self assessment needs slight recalibration, or something in your body language/energy is actively repelling approach like making you seem closed off, serious face, phone etc etc.) Dance floors work on momentum…
/r/seduction25/02/26 06:35 PM
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Asking is never a good idea, it's best to lead to it with your actions.
/r/seduction25/02/26 06:07 PM
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because the first time she doesn't know yet if she's "that kind of girl" with you there's no established precedent, so asking outright breaks the tension and puts her in a position where she feels like she has to consciously decide. the escalation lets it just happen which gives her plausible deniability with herself but once you've already slept together that dynamic is gone. the precedent exists. asking is no longer weird it's just... logistics. you've already crossed that bridge together so t…
/r/seduction25/02/26 05:16 PM
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You met 2–3 times. That’s barely any investment. When she couldn’t meet and you switched from logistics only to more frequent texting, you changed the frame from busy guy with a life who sets dates to a guy seeking reassurance through text. Sings of chasing too much is decided base on her investment and yours. If you're initiating 80-100% of the conversions, you're sending multiple messages before she replies, you're trying too hard to fix the vibe over text, you're explaining yourself, you're r…
/r/seduction25/02/26 02:51 PM
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Yeah this is 100% the point. And that doesn’t just apply to women you’re interested in it applies to literally everyone. The difference is energy. When you banter, make playful assumptions, teasing a little etc. you’re creating something dynamic. It gives the other person something to react to instead of just answering prompts. A statement with personality is way more engaging than a checklist of questions. It doesn’t even matter if you’re right as the fun is in the back and forth. And light tea…
/r/seduction25/02/26 02:23 PM
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True. The first priority of texting is to set the date. Lock in a time, place, done. Everything else is just filler. There’s nothing you need to say over text that isn’t better said in person. In fact, the more you try to build chemistry through paragraphs before you’ve even met, the more chances you give yourself to fumble it. Tone gets misread, jokes don’t land, you over explain, momentum dies etc etc . Reminds me of the guy on this subreddit that had two dates set but he kept texting and fumb…
/r/seduction15/02/26 09:26 AM
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I’ve had about 10 relationships, and every single time it’s been the same pattern. I’d just focus on myself for a bit… and somehow someone new would show up. Like a girl coming over with my friend, or some girl we called on speaker phone at a party and we’d just start talking. I know this won’t work for everyone. Most of the time you do have to step out of your comfort zone to get what you want. There’s probably a lot of luck involved on my side too. It’s kind of crazy when I think about how eve…
/r/seduction14/02/26 02:21 PM
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Yeah you're overthinking it. The guy you saw probably was taking more risk than you but risk isn't the same as recklessness. He likely wasn't just randomly grabbing people. He was probably picking up on receptiveness (eye contact, proximity, her staying near him, touching back) and testing incrementally. A hand on the lower back, seeing if she leans in or pulls away. A lot of successful escalation is about offering an opportunity and watching if she takes it. The girl bumping into you repeatedly…
/r/seduction13/02/26 06:03 PM
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I don't think you should escalate this right now since you live together and it could blow up in your face making things awkward af. Even if you decide to just do some light flirting. She trusts you right now, so even dong something like that can send the wrong message. You need to get some clear signals first over time and then make a move. If you don't get any obvious signals then I honestly wouldn't even try as you'll fuck up the friendship you have right now 100%. You have to ask yourself if…
/r/seduction13/02/26 10:32 AM
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Let's be real, drive and principles alone won't magically attract tons of women. You've all probably seen posts on reddit at some point, or maybe even know someone personally like this: guys complaining that some broke dude with nothing took their girl, or they can't believe how this dime chick is dating that bum. The classic quote: "I don't understand why she's with him when he's broke, no job, no car, while I went to college, stable career, savings, 100k a year salary, principles etc. what els…
/r/seduction13/02/26 05:29 AM
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Try cold approaching. Dating apps are hard for a lot of people and tons of competition. Also I wouldn't recommend cold approaching around campus, it's fine once in a while, but don't go hard approaching 100s of women otherwise you'll quickly gain yourself a reputation there. Hit up the clubs, bars, the city, grocery stores, coffee shops and see what you can do. Feeling nervous is completely normal. Nobody is born smooth. This is a learnable skill like any other. Some guys have a head start becau…
/r/seduction13/02/26 04:02 AM
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Yes, do not overdo texting if you're not good at it. Keep it just enough to get to the date and in the meantime you're better off trying to secure a date with someone else on a different day than wasting your time writing texts to one person that might not even matter. You're honestly not getting anything out of texting more, you're just wasting time and energy and it all may be for nothing. Also you might f up your chances like you just did. Also don't respond immediately to messages, stretch t…
/r/seduction12/02/26 09:43 PM
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Bro… two dates lined up and you fumbled the texting? Hinge isn’t about writing novels, it’s about getting a connection and moving it offline. Don’t spend days texting, just plan the date within a day or two. Send some messages here and there is fine, but you don’t need to be texting 24/7 or trying to craft stories. Keep it light, playful, and get to the date asap since making conversations in person is your strong point. Don't use chatgpt because it sucks and the stuff it tells you to say/write …
/r/seduction12/02/26 09:02 PM
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I've noticed this in my own relationship. I've noticed that when sex fades then there's probably something underneath it that faded first. Curiosity, playfulness, emotional safety, admiration etc. I believe the bedroom reflects the relationship more than it carries it. I’ve known couples that tried to “fix” things by just being more inventive sexually, but if they’re disconnected outside the bedroom, it likely won't stick. Both go hand in hand and need to be nurtured. It's like you said, novelty…
/r/seduction12/02/26 08:39 PM
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Well said. I’ve learned the same thing from my past 10 year relationship. You don’t notice it happening, but comfort slowly turns into autopilot. You stop being curious about each other because you feel secure, which can be a good thing, but attraction needs a little tension and novelty to stay alive. Without attraction, you don't have a relationship. Staying intentional. Still dating each other. Still putting in effort even when life gets busy and routine feels easier. Experiencing new things t…
/r/seduction12/02/26 07:10 PM
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If it works for you then ok, but I think that is just stupid. The whole “don’t text or you’ll run out of things to say” take is such scarcity mindset thinking. If you genuinely have game and social awareness, conversation isn’t some limited resource you burn through it’s something that expands the more you vibe. Light texting before meeting actually works in your favor. It builds comfort, which lowers resistance and you also establish frame, humor and personality before you're face to face. That…
/r/seduction12/02/26 03:26 PM
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Shoot your shot if you need to and also start talking to other girls. No point in becoming fixated on one, as that will usually lead your to disappointment when she says she's not interested. By then you've already invested too much energy for nothing, better get it over with quick. If she likes you, she'll find time for you.
/r/seduction23/01/26 07:58 AM
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Exactly. This isn't even limited to just this scenario as those principles scale everywhere. You can run this at any party or event. The key is understanding that attraction isn't built in isolation amd it's built through perception. Bring your friends who happen to be women. Be engaged with the people already around you. Build a vibe that others want to be part of and thhe target will notice you're not just another guy orbiting her randomly. The chase reverses itself when she realizes you're th…
/r/seduction09/01/26 09:44 PM
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you DON'T introduce them directly. Instead you just exist in her orbit with Girl A. Let Girl B see that you having a good time, being social, being wanted because pre selection is real. The key is controlled distance. You're not ignoring Girl B completely, but you're also not dropping Girl A to chase. When you do engage with Girl B maybe at the bar, or she happens to be near your group, keep it light like Maybe a quick "oh hey, good to see you here" and then back to your thing. Girl A being clea…
/r/seduction08/01/26 02:05 PM
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A lot of people you meet at clubs will flake even though they seemed interested. That's why you need to seal the deal that night if possible. Not much you can do now. You've already reached out and reaching out again isn't going to change anything but make you seem desperate.
/r/seduction07/01/26 02:52 PM
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Yes, but not in a way that they'll walk up and try to get my number. You really have to be breathtaking for that to happen. They'll shoot their shot because the opportunity cost of NOT shooting it is too high and they don't want to let someone that attractive slip away. But if you're not at that level (and let's be real, most of us aren't), you need to focus on reading body language. The key difference is even when these signals are there, you still need to be the one to make the move. She's giv…
/r/seduction06/01/26 05:03 PM
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Nah not really. People send friend requests all the time. And her looking at your hands doesn't really mean shit. Out of what you've written in your post nothing there really confirms that she's into you. Plus it's your friends sister. If you end up hooking up then you're going to risk your friendship with your friend. People don't really like when their friends bang their family members. I would steer clear and focus on other girls.
/r/seduction27/12/25 12:02 PM
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For real lol I’m skinny and still pulling very easily. But this also depends if you’re down bad on looks then a gym/sporty physique will work in your favor. I’m average with acne scars on my face and last night pulled two very easily. You have to be really really down.
/r/seduction25/12/25 11:12 PM
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Can’t do anything really. At the end of the day it’s completely up to her and from what you wrote above she just enjoys the attention but isn’t interested in taking the relationship further. You’re just wasting your time at this point, you have like 5% chance or less to hook up with her at some point.
/r/seduction25/12/25 11:02 PM
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If she doesn't text back then you move on and I wouldn't waste time going to events in the hopes of seeing her and trying again. Send a text, and plan a date asap. If she's interested, you'll know right away. Waiting for another event is not going to change anything.
/r/seduction22/12/25 03:49 PM
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Usually it's best not to get involved with coworkers if you care for your job. If you don't really care, then go for it. Just know that sometimes shit gets messy. If you end up breaking up, she might try to do things to make your life harder at work, or even get you fired.
/r/seduction19/12/25 09:53 AM
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If she genuinely wanted something with you, she wouldn’t have pulled back with that whole line. People who really want you don’t create distance but they look for ways to keep you around. This is not going to lead anywhere.
/r/seduction28/11/25 05:03 PM
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Nah, you're overthinking it, man. If she genuinely wanted something with you, she wouldn’t have pulled back with that whole line. People who really want you don’t create distance but they look for ways to keep you around. Texting her now to tell her you miss talking to her won’t make her suddenly change her mind. It’ll only put you in a position where you look like you're chasing someone who already told you she’s not sure. There’s no reason to hand over that kind of power. The best thing you ca…
/r/seduction27/11/25 02:30 PM
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This is good advice.
/r/seduction25/11/25 03:44 AM
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Be nice to everyone, and involve all of them before making your move on the one you originally wanted. Being hostile to people in the group is not going to do you any favors. Next time say yeah I'd actually like to get your friends number.
/r/seduction15/11/25 09:05 AM
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Lol, the stuff she is already doing with you is inappropriate if she's in relationship. To some people, this is already cheating. Cheating isn't just kissing or fucking. There's also emotional cheating.
/r/seduction03/11/25 05:03 PM
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If she cheats with you, she's going to cheat on you lil bro
/r/seduction03/11/25 04:32 PM
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This is true. They give their number or a fake one sometimes just to be left alone. Doesn't mean they are interested at all.
/r/seduction11/10/25 03:41 AM
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"How does Thursday sound at (time)?" If she wants to meet up, she will say yes. If she says no then just move on. No need to think more into it. People who are interested, will find time for you, even if it's just for a few hours or they'll give you another date if they can't make it then. Anymore than that and you're wasting your time writing.
/r/seduction09/10/25 02:04 PM
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True shit lmao
/r/seduction18/08/25 12:57 PM
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I think that’s a what he means. He’s good looking so if he’s not getting laid all of us are fucked lol
/r/seduction16/01/22 06:51 PM
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Fuck what people think. Do what you want to do as it’s your life. It’s something that took me a while to learn. I’ll be 30 in just a few days and I’ve recently gotten out of a 12 year relationship. Of course I’m going to hookup with random women and just enjoy life. I’m not going to be looking for another serious hookup because of pressure from society.
/r/seduction06/12/21 09:42 PM
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You need to change that mindset. It doesn’t matter where you are in the world, you need to go for what you want. Stop making excuses. Even if you think it’s socially unacceptable, you’ll have an advantage of being different.
/r/seduction30/10/21 04:30 PM
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Quit job and move to another state, easy.
/r/seduction30/10/21 03:17 AM
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Don’t be bothered by the cashier. In my country it’s pretty normal for the female to order first. Maybe that was the case in your situation. Next time don’t plan a date when you know the girl has other plans right after. That’s just setting yourself up for disaster. Of course she won’t bring you home or go back to your place because she has other shit to do soon. Try it again and this time don’t get too emotional about the little things. It sounds like your were overthinking a lot.
/r/seduction09/10/21 03:49 PM
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