I’ve hit a specific roadblock in the dating app process that I’m trying to solve. I have no trouble getting matches, bantering, and leading the transition to getting the number and texting the logistics of the date. However, I’m noticing a weird pattern once the logistics start.

90% of the time, she’ll try to move the time I set without a specific reason. I’ve tried two ways to handle this: accommodating the change if theres a good reason, and or not (which usually leads to a flake) and then standing firm on the original plan to keep the frame (which usually leads to a ghost).

Even when I keep it positive and say 'no worries, another time,' they either disappear or reschedule and flake again. How are you guys navigating that middle ground between being flexible and maintaining frame?

where am i going wrong, am i being too rigid?