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Thankfully most people disagree with the manosphere in these regards - most people value children and giving them the best possible chance at a happy successful life.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 03:03 AM
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Nope because that puts it all on women and most people don’t want kids to pay the price of having stupid parents. Better to make both parents pay.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 02:06 AM
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Most diets outside of the USA aren’t processed, my kid eats everything I eat and has since birth, we don’t eat processed foods so red food dyes aren’t an issue. If women are buying things for themselves it doesn’t mean it’s from the money from child support. The money is added to a pool of finances and if it makes you feel better you can just think about all the day care or school fees that are paid and pretend child care is paying for that. In reality though, the person raising the kid spends a…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 12:09 AM
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Restricting food purchases by age is ridiculous babies eat normal foods in many households not pre packaged baby foods and you are missing the point that the things you seem to want to deny women they will still buy with their own money they earned which is what is happening anyway, child support supplements for necessities. Also creating programs to monitor and restrict the spending the audit as you said previously would cost millions in infrastructure and job creation. Who’s going to pay for t…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:59 PM
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2 condoms actually increases risk of it breaking just a heads up 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 06:53 PM
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Thankfully most people Disagree with you and wouldn’t punish an innocent kid for its stupid parents decisions because yeah both are stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 10:19 AM
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Unfortunately reproduction will never be equal as our bodies have different roles. Both genders have reproductive advantages and disadvantages based on our reproductive function. In the case of unintended pregnancy if it progresses to live birth the child then has rights and unfortunately for unwilling parents those rights are just as important and will supersede some of the parents rights. This includes duty of care rights and financial provisioning. Abortion is a seperate issue as it’s an issu…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 05:27 AM
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I made an assumption that I would get the higher rate of $80 hour since would prefer night shifts but it if I got day shifts would be lower as rate starts from $50 hr
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:31 AM
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50-80$ an hour 3x a week
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 03:30 AM
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Wharves
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:40 AM
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Should I take a part time labour job. Great pay. 3x week some shift work though. Male dominated but apparently they love hiring women and I have an in through a friends bf. Pros- the pay ~1800 week for 3x days Cons- leaving an easy role working close to home flexible hours. Wonder if they put the women on easier jobs since they are so keen to hire us
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 01:35 AM
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Use a condom that you bring, pull out even with your condom on, and be willing to purchase plan b immediately if one breaks. But yes, sounds like she would keep it and if you are uncomfortable with this despite taking precautions you should break up
/r/MensRights15/01/24 04:50 AM
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I have been told my numerous men that it’s the pay preventing them from considering teaching. I also imagine the status of it being seen as more feminine to some would contribute as well. I’m sure false allegations play a role in there but thankfully it’s not extremely commonplace for a teacher (male or female) to be accused of inappropriate behaviour (sexual or other wise).
/r/MensRights15/01/24 01:13 AM
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I’m in Australia and a teacher, yes better paid than in other places but that’s only true on the beginning years as you become a senior teacher with years of experience the pay doesn’t match other professions in pay growth In a high school teachers, the students love male teachers we definitely need more as positive influences on boys especially as they seem to disengage around year 7
/r/MensRights15/01/24 12:29 AM
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For points 2,3, and 6 supporting male teachers to take up the profession would be great! I think a big barrier this is facing is the pay is too low for large numbers of men to consider it. Supporting higher pay for teachers can help change that.
/r/MensRights15/01/24 12:18 AM
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Not necessarily. People can think they are “above” someone else for all sorts of stupid and usually untrue reasons like looks, money, intelligence, career, religion even things like having kids or not. I used the example from the show you because it was the only show I’ve seen that’s included a pee kink from someone outside a relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate06/10/23 09:55 PM
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For most they are rejected by women their own age usually because they are immature and that’s why they decide to look for younger women. These guys often don’t even have female friends of the same I don’t think you need to come here and justify your relationship at the end of the day you will know what your intentions are and we don’t know you or your girlfriend so we can’t give specific advice or judgments it will only be generalisations.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 11:27 PM
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Maybe but the question again is if he’s 37 why is he hanging out with 20 year olds? How are they meeting? Why doesn’t he have any women closer to His own age? These are important questions.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 11:03 PM
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I can’t say yes or no seeing as I don’t know the couples. But even “early twenties” has a huge variation 21 is very different than 24 In an earlier comment I say really up until someone is like 27 but it’s probably even 26 those 6 years you go through huge amounts of maturation and growth as a person. So 21 vs 24 is very different. 3 years in this life phase you do more growth than you will likely do in the future.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:58 PM
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They are harder to get because they generally are more superficial at that age so unless someone is very handsome or maybe “flashing wealth” or in gross power dynamic situation such as ex student and ex teacher it’s less likely to happen. The problem is when it DOES happen it’s likely predatory and another problem is that despite this it’s discussed openly about as a fantasy for many older men sexualising these barley legal adults. Barley legal. It’s even a porn category. Freshly “not” a child, …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:51 PM
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Yeah no one is saying it can’t work some of the time but the problem is that most of the time the man is looking for a more easily controlled person or someone who won’t challenge him and this is what can lead to Predatory or abusive behaviour. I only know of 1 couple who’s age gap was like 11 years and they got together when she was young but this was my elementary school friends parents…and I’m 30 now. these people were from a different time and generation.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:47 PM
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It really depends on the ages less than the gap. 19 and 37 would have nothing in common, but a 30 and 49 year old would
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:38 PM
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The 37 year old and 19 year old do not have things in common. Not having a relationship experience is not having things in common. These people are in completely different stages of life it is unfair and usually pretty gross for the 37 year old to Seriously date a 19 year old.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:32 PM
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No quite often women of that age will become very attached, and stay even in the face of abuse “because I love him” They don’t have the experience of recognising red flags. Some men will even isolate these women from their friends and families to have greater control, or end up Impregnating them “on accident” or convincing them that sex without condoms doesn’t feel good or means that they don’t love them etc. Not saying all age gap relationships are like this of course but MANY are. It’s general…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:31 PM
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Lowering your standards doesn’t mean seek out a relationship with a power dynamic and age gap relationships of 7+ years when the younger person is 18-20 have a huge difference in finances, wisdom and maturity
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 10:17 PM
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With someone youve already been seeing and have a good rapport with? Bar and then dinner, Wine/beer and pizza on the beach at night A first date - drinks or coffee
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 11:42 AM
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Yeah it’s actually lovely how close a lot of women become with our moms
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 09:57 AM
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So true I was so naughty as a teenager gave my mother lots of grief. Now we talk daily and she knows everything
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 09:42 AM
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It’s fine up Until a certain point unless there are religious reasons behind it. This is a generalisation and it won’t apply to every virgin over say the age of 27 who isn’t religious but for most of them it would be assumed there is either a personality trait that really turns people off or more likely extremely bad social skills
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:38 AM
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It’s about being chill, trying to have a conversation a few times to at least see if you guys talk easily and then maybe you could say something lease like hey I just moved here and I don’t know too many people or places here and I’m trying to make some friends, would you wanna grab a coffee sometime? It’s non committal And you can gage her interest in an environment that’s not work/ cold approach
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:22 AM
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It’s not seen as bad if you can take a no with a smile and leave it at that and back off, the only Places most people may dislike being approached is at work if they have to be nice but don’t really like you (but they may don’t mind if they do like you) or at the gym if you have 0 rapport. Stop worrying so much about offending people, if you approach in a cool way and also take rejection really well and don’t make things weird then it’s usually fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 06:11 AM
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Not at the mosh pit, the bar you talk to people around you And if the parties you go to don’t have people mingling they sound unlike proper parties. The point is to talk to people
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:54 AM
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College and concerts are a good place for cold approaches and it’s pretty much expected in those environments Why don’t you try going to some parties or festivals or concerts
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 05:48 AM
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All of this. And the appreciation one is huge. From day 1 If he made me or bought me dinner “thank you for dinner” or if I clean the house or do his laundry “thank you for cleaning/laundry” Telling your partner you appreciate the things they do is huge to not be taken for granted especially when you both tired from work and babies
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 09:47 PM
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Lol at that rating…Ryan gosling a 7 bro you guys are delusional half the men here be like “im a 6” no Hun if Ryan is a 7 your a 2
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/23 10:16 AM
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This could be a whole post
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 11:53 PM
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That’s actually true, it’s far better to have a respected man based on other merit, like job or sporting ability but not every woman will be able to pull those men if she herself isn’t up to scratch
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 11:51 PM
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His mistake was shaving that beard not the head good beards are like makeup for men and he had a good beard though needed a bit of grooming
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 11:26 PM
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I know this is a shitpost but if you are truly concerned I would recommend investigating the ph of the acid as well as the concentration. But in short the answer is no your dick won’t melt.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 11:23 PM
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Just a question and am just genuinely curious, is eye contact uncomfortable because it’s seen as intimate, or is it more like when you are giving a speech in front of the a large crowd and you lock eyes and then go blank
/r/AllPillDebate23/06/23 10:46 PM
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Much better, now wear a cleaner shirt (whitish stain on front) and take the photo somewhere not in a car 😄
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 09:00 PM
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Failure is one step closer to success I’m in the end of a shit week at work (sales) and closing off a below average month Keep grinding it or it won’t turn around
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 12:46 PM
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Almost correct, because I agree mindset is very good at looking at what you have and being able to see it as what you need but where I think the key step in between this to continuously work to improve what you have, just because your needs are met doesn’t mean that you can’t start working towards slightly better stuff or more luxuries. I had what I “needed” even when I was 18, a nice room I rented in a house but if I had given up there I might still be in a house share with a random person who …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 12:34 PM
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I’ve wanted to win lottery and be able to buy a house probs won’t happen but all I need is a comfortable warm home in a nice area I can raise my family in Wants are fine but if you set your whole sense of enjoyment or fulfilment on them you won’t know how To be happy
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 12:16 PM
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It only Limits it if you let it though that’s the point. It’s like how might not get what you think you want but growth is learning to be appreciative of what you have and to realise that what we need isn’t always what we thought we wanted.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 12:06 PM
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Yeah proper rejections, grew up In a small school had real crushes on two of my best guy friends (at different times) and they didn’t want to see me like that though as we got a bit older they made it clear if I wanted to explore sexually together we could but that’s all it would be as I wasn’t their type and they would just be practicing for girls they did like- best way to crush my self esteem and the friendships. Then had my first “boyfriend” who at 13-15 (can’t remember tbh but around this a…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 12:04 PM
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I feel like based on what I’ve seen anyone who claims they are black pill I feel like they’ve given up despite it not not instructing people to directly. They don’t want to acknowledge that there are lots of average looking couples and that men who have other qualities rather than looks do well, and they don’t want to try to develop those.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 11:50 AM
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I didn’t get my first real Success until I had already been through like 10 proper rejections and as a teenager and young woman it’s obviously pretty painful being rejected and not being peoples types. Now while I did get success after that the thing is I didn’t lose hope, I didn’t stop trying, I put myself out there even more and I also went through lots of shit like moving away from friends sophomore year to a different country and having to say goodbye to a parent because of it (thankfully te…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 11:23 AM
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How many times do men try fail and then give up and find black pill ? Posts usually read like they have had maybe 2 bad experiences and they decided that was it they are unlovable and self improvement is a grift? How many times is too many times for you? Shit I’ve failed so many times in my life…that’s how you grow
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 10:48 AM
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In relationships without kids but most people would like kids. Men who can provide usually means better family finances in the early years if any time worked is reduced on the woman’s part Also life is expensive, i don’t think it’s fair for women to expect men to provide 100% of their living expenses but the more both partners earns it’s no secret they will generally have a more comfortable life.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 07:39 AM
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The word dominate would be in the definition of penetrative sex or in any definition of sex but it’s not.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 03:35 AM
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He’s my husband first off Second, I encourage you to look up the definition of penetrative sex it does not include the words domination. This is your own definition
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 03:24 AM
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I don’t see sex acts as submitting or dominating The only time I would think something counts as dominating in my mind if you enter that mental Space and are like tied down or something that’s dominating. Receiving penetration doesn’t mean that person it’s being dominated that’s a porn thing perhaps, sex wouldn’t be beautiful if it was always just dominated every time you are penetrated.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:51 AM
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Yes an issue with seeing it as unmasculine since liking penis is generally a feminine thing. I don’t think sexual acts are either feminine but who is performing them on you does. I have quite a few gay friends and even the “tops” are pretty feminine and that’s why I wouldn’t want a partner who’s even bi. So not to do with anal, just the fact that they want it from a man vs an item.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 02:08 AM
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I’m saying a man being gangbanged by men is different to being gagbanged by women with strap ons purely because of the gender, and I would be uncomfortable with my husband being gay or having engaged in gay sex. I would not uncomfortable with him saying he has had anal sex or wanting to have anal sex so provided it was performed by women (or me) Sex is not degrading if it’s consensual. You don’t have to agree with every sex act but it’s not degrading. Even in my above example male vs female gang…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 10:18 PM
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Ooohhh hard agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 09:51 PM
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Of course it would but only because I don’t want my husband to be bisexual or gay. If he got gang banged by a bunch of women wearing strap ons I would be like whatever about it and head down to the sex shop and buy a strap on of my own There is 0 difference from a woman having sex with one Man or two or three men at the same time. She is still with the same amount of people, doing the same acts just quicker together. In men’s mind it probably means she has to be some porn level of sex where she …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 09:46 PM
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It’s actually funny how non sex havers think sex works
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 08:12 PM
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Nope they are all consenting adults if you view sex like that you shouldn’t be having sex
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 08:05 PM
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My partner did a gang bang with his friends on a random off tinder before we met doesn’t phase me. The only time we discussed it again was when he veto a name because it was the same name as the tinder girl. If you both had fun previously neither cares about your past. It’s a compatibility issue
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 12:13 PM
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Ok well if that’s what you meant it didn’t quite come across that way- because you said thinner friends think they are better than the bigger friends and wouldn’t switch places with them, which is what had prompted my comment
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 05:42 AM
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People are mean to people. But the context of my comment was in between friend groups not between random strangers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 03:58 AM
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You can build up your friends while not thinking your better than them while also not wanting to trade place Knowing you are at a healthier weight doesn’t mean you think you are better than someone
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 03:16 AM
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I grew up with a parent who had to travel a lot for extended periods I get the freeze unfreeze thing Love requires both parties to keep working and trying have you suggested counselling I would be seriously trying to convey how Lonely you are and how not normal that is to him and if he doesn’t care then figure out what you need to do to be happy again
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 08:06 PM
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Your hole to China ? Sorry not sure what you mean.. And also things are only hopeless if you decide it’s hopeless. Hope is a mindset. You can expect the worst but hope for the best, while actively doing all you can to increase your chances of obtaining your goals
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 06:58 AM
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I think This could be something to work with a therapist with if you are able to? But it’s far better to try and fail than to fail to try. You got this, baby steps sounds like you are already doing that maybe you can think of a way to reduce the pressure like just try to hang out as friends vs a date
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 06:46 AM
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What is it that’s scaring you?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 06:38 AM
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It’s never good to give up all hope, but you may need to really lower your standards while you work on yourself over the next few years (you said 5) and who knows the more you put yourself about there and improve the better your chances always become
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 06:16 AM
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Most peoples relationships are not lonely. Especially long term relationships you should feel really like you have a companion and that even if you don’t need to go and impress each other you do need to actively show love and appreciation. If you think it’s normal I worry for your future relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 05:24 AM
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Why have you stayed that sounds awful :(
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 01:46 AM
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Then you define emotional labor different to many other people because dealing with other people emotions is not the only thing that accounts for emotional labor. A lot of women don’t rely on men for romance it could be the women you are dating and looking for confirmation bias because literally every woman I know goes above and beyond for her partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 11:27 PM
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Emotional labor is all the other stuff including unpaid labor for most people because a lot of the planning to get the unpaid labor done falls into emotional labor Sure there are women who don’t pull their weight no one would argue that if they have a brain, but I also think largely in a relationship that’s long term so 1+ year it’s women who do most of the maintenance in a lot of cases, but I can agree in the beginning a lot of men are planning more than the women they are with
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 11:17 PM
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No one expects men to do it all. The problem is enough men do nothing extra even the ones not working physically demanding jobs such as office workers. People agree men should help out yes, but the whole point was that enough don’t.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 11:02 PM
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3.5% in general is not a lot. Even 7 hours is not a lot in the context of a relationship that has kids. That’s a difference of under a 1.5 hour difference 5 days a week, and that difference is usually because someone has to pick kids up by a certain time. So no it’s not a big difference and once you pick up kids there is work to be done feeding them and helping them with homework. Now factor in kids who’ve got shit going on and need to be taken places for sport or activities and hour and a half …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 10:44 PM
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Not going to read it as I’m busy this morning but you think for working 3.5% more men should get to come home and switch off and leave everything to mom? As a mom I can tell you that I have to work less because when baby is sick and needs to be picked up who do you think has to tell work they are leaving early? It’s usually women. 3.5 % is also such a small number. The whole point is for women it can feel like you don’t get a break to switch off because you are constantly having to manage someth…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 10:19 PM
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Most women work just as long hours regardless of they earn equal or less than their partner it’s exhausting to work 8 hours at work then have to Constantly do the home stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 09:41 PM
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:( don’t beg just get on his face People say 69 is a teenagers move but idk we do it most times
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 09:34 PM
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That doesn’t actually humble anyone it just spreads negativity
/r/AllPillDebate20/06/23 09:31 PM
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Damn we still love oral here
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 09:29 PM
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When I met my partner off an app I was going to walk the 15 minutes to The restaurant we went to but he came And picked me up instead since he lived close too. I don’t remember where we left the car that night we got so drunk
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 09:20 PM
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It does op asked a few questions including the title” what is wrong with free sex” and “do women not Enjoy sex?”
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 09:13 PM
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Yep, because if you’ve gotten o Know someone and in a relationship with them you can usually communicate better and have the opportunity to Practice and allow your sex life to Improve. You don’t get that in casual sex. If the sex is awful in casual it’s very doubtful there will be a repeat show
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 09:03 PM
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Nope it’s really not we have a whole external spot purely for pleasure. Most guys don’t ever touch it for wine reason The men who know what they are doing literally have their partners all over them
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 09:02 PM
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Jake Gyllenhaal is fucking hot and such a good actor. Damn.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 11:00 AM
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Yes from excitement. That’s not what turmoil is.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 09:50 AM
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Emotional turmoil is not ever a positive feeling Butterflies are usually a good thing
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 08:54 AM
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Bad photo of her
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 04:26 AM
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Nah i bet they just want to have sex and I doubt 2 really fat people could have sex
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:49 AM
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No because now you are being inconsistent. I agree that there is always room for improvement but if you’ve engaged in a sexual act let’s use anal because for most people who aren’t into it mentally (a really important component for it to feel good for a woman) and who’ve tried it once let’s say because she’s never tried it and her partner was really pushing and begging for it so she agrees and then when trying it it was the most painful act and couldn’t actually do it once the tip started pushin…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 01:17 AM
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I’ve discussed with you before but I think where most people disagree with your line of thinking is you value consistency so much that the definition of consistency has warped into meaning the best Whereas most other people view the best as something that elicits joy and enthusiasm So for most people giving their best in the context of sex means approaching sex with joy love and excitement rather than engaging in sex that Causes any negative feeling Like with your view of consistency meaning the…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 01:02 AM
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A lot of sex is not enjoyable though. Just because a man has a penis doesn’t mean sex with him will be pleasurable at all. It can be painful, awkward or even just leave you feeling gross. That’s why most women are less inclined for hookups especially when sober.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 12:49 AM
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I’m a woman and me to damn marrying my university boyfriend would have been a horrible decision and would have ended up with me a divorced and bitter woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 12:13 AM
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Peanut butter toast with honey 🤤 I’m eating it daily so yum
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/23 04:22 AM
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People who wear shoes inside are nasty, so much bacteria and mould grow on the bottom of your shoes. I’ve never understood why people do it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 10:48 PM
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Seeing as quite a few women on this thread and I imagine a shit Ton more would agree who are not On this thread I think there is a difference of opinion and saying that there is no room for Opinion doesn’t make that go away Anyway again have a good day 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 09:39 PM
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That is not what I said. Don’t put words into peoples mouths.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 09:14 PM
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I think we will Just go in circles at this point which is fine we have different opinions and I doubt we will be able to cha ge each others opinions, I see where you are coming from but I still disagree personally I think what you do is a far better representation of “you” than how your body looks because for most people what you do takes so much time and takes a lot harder work than your body Thanks for being respectful when discussing anyway and I hope you have a good on
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 09:11 PM
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In the op I wrote a whole Paragraph on you can have any job even low paying job if you want to be able to focus your time and mental energy to something else that you are passionate about and that if you can talk about that then it’s fine and the thing you talk about becomes the more interesting thing to you than the job. It’s the passion project that becomes interesting Women will view men wanting them for their bodies as shallow and men will find women wanting their partner to have a role that…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 12:30 PM
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I worked retail sales for 4 years
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 12:22 PM
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Yeah depression is hard and it would be preferable to not have to remind myself that when people I love are going through it that it’s not because of me or something I’ve done and it’s just a brain chemistry thing. It would be nice to mot have to feel like I have to have a brave face on if they are going through it. It can be mentally draining for me and I’m not even the one who deals with depression l. But just because it’s preferable doesn’t mean that it’s a deal breaker especially if you alre…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 12:13 PM
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He is a different person regardless if it’s a higher or lower paying job, each position you have impacts you and shapes you and sometimes people Do break up with people after they take a higher paid role if their time commitments or priorities change. It’s up to each person to decide if the person they are dating is compatible with the life you want. And no where did I say in one day you become the different person don’t put words in my mouth as I’ve largely been enjoying our discussion. Saying …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 12:07 PM
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My partner went this. depression, lost his job because the company closed and didn’t find a full time job for about a year just worked gigs for money. Yes I still loved him and didn’t leave him. I even went back to work with a newborn at home to be able to support us until he was able to get help for the depression and find a new role. Has not impacted our relationships and we support eachother that’s fine. If he had been in between jobs for a year and going through his depression would I have s…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 11:51 AM
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It absolutely changes who you are. Most career Walmart cashiers (career because obviously younger people work Shitty jobs while they study) don’t have the ambition or drive or maybe work ethic to get through studying at university. You can have the same likes as a cashier but your personality includes more than your likes and what you find funny. It’s also how you use your brain, the types of goals you set for yourself, how motivated you are to reach your goals, how focused you are or how much y…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 11:33 AM
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For the guy in the different stage of life who is now moving from a high paying field to low paying due to different stage he is being a different person and that’s fine his personality is changing as his life is changing. What you do is largely due cumulative choices you’ve made as a person and that shapes you. It absolutely impacts on your personality as you gain new skills. Eg. I knew a military guy very successful in military and led different ops and would get deployed and was always down t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 11:25 AM
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Your comment did inspire it but I wasn’t going to call you out specifically and by no means are you the first guy on ppd to say very similar things so it wasn’t really directed at you but more for all guys who have similar views I agree it’s important to be liked for how you make people feel, how you make them laugh etc. but people look at the whole person and decide if they like them. The ability to make someone feel good and laugh as well what kind of interests or drive or motivators people ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 11:11 AM
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You can be the same person after losing your job, but if you don’t get back up and find another job and you wallow in self pity and throw the towel, don’t apply for jobs and stay home to play video games for a year you change again and are no Longer the same person
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 11:06 AM
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It’s a huge part of you and who you are. The person who went to school for 4-7 years is a different person than before they went tho school, they grew and developed new habits and abilities. If they don’t care about your job they don’t care about the work it took to get their. They also probably don’t see you as a serious partner (general you) if they really don’t care what you do because they aren’t thinking about how your life will look together
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 10:34 AM
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I said they CAN be attractive. All of these things play a part in determining your personality and if you can’t see that despite the numerous times I’ve explained it then that fine I know different guys in such a wide spectrum of roles and guess what they’ve all got seriously different personalities and wouldn’t be happy doing what some of the other guys are doing. Dating is about finding someone whose personality you like and a part of that us their job you can disagree or dislike it but I’m ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 08:30 AM
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SAHP are usually women also because some. Are the ones who give birth and feed baby in their first two years, but again this is reducing. The plight of man…most men aren’t in plight at least middle class and above men are largely fine, poverty would add a whole different set of challenges but that’s true for all people Passion projects don’t happen at work btw more evidence of you not reading what was said. A passion project could be say a book that is being written that you do outside of work. …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 07:49 AM
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You
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 07:32 AM
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That’s fair enough to want a hottie who doesn’t
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 07:22 AM
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Most women aren’t sahm. Also you don’t have to do what you love for money but if you aren’t doing something you love in your down time the question is why? Most people who are complaining about women liking them for their jobs which if you remember what the post was about don’t have a wife or kids to worry about, they are still trying to keep and date people and still have the time to spend their time either at work our after work(see hobby/passion project paragraph in post) doing something they…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 07:03 AM
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Agree
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 06:36 AM
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Men leave women about the same rate in cases of serious illness i think men leaving women in those extreme cases was slightly higher than women leaving men. Sudden layoff is fine if it doesn’t persist for prolonged periods of time. If you are happy under a bridge that’s fine but no way would I be with a man under a bridge, no thank you. It’s not safe for kids and I’ve known I’ve wanted kids for a long time. My partner went about 5 months without a full time job due to depression but we made it t…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 06:15 AM
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Then dating should be easy for you if things like cashiering in interesting to you, personally I find it a boring role I’ve worked in grocery stores before it is pretty menial mindless tasks
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 06:11 AM
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That’s fine we don’t have to change each others views, you have an extremely male centric view and don’t want to see how some women might think about the situation and that’s totally fine too. Some people want to looks at everything suspiciously or with accusatory lens and that’s up to them and says a lot about their personality ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 02:43 AM
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Completely possible? Sure if the cashier is a cashier until they are a doctor. I don’t think a career cashier and a career doctor would be having the same drive or personality. If they did the cashier would get bored in that role and do something else. That’s what guys don’t seem to get. I agree that Your outlets can be where your personality shows vs your job - see hobby or passion project paragraph but no people who have completely different hobbies do not have the same personality. A anime fa…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 02:31 AM
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Garbage men are paid well because pretty sure most people don’t like stinky things and you say the job garbage men and most people will think of stinky things or think they might come home smelling like work. Should have used a less biased example. But tell me do you find cashiers a particularly interesting role? No? What do you find interesting? Women also like roles like college professors or even high school teacher and guess what that’s rent paid well but they are interesting still. I think …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 02:23 AM
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I think a better way to think of it might be “How do you as a person spend your time?” Someone who spends their time doing something they love or making and meeting goals is a very different person to someone who does something just for a paycheck if they don’t spend any of their time doing what they love. Your job is where you spend most your time, so how do you spend your time and why?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 02:10 AM
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True and I agree with this too, and what you do says a lot about you because not everyone can do every role or have the ability to study or work as hard to get to different places. Do we think the stoner cashier has the same work ethic or drive or capability as a doctor? No we don’t, they have different personalities. You 100% should be finding someone you are compatible with and their work/passion says a lot about that personality and the lifestyle you as a couple will have
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 01:52 AM
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You wouldn’t be the same person working in a warehouse as a web dev. The web dev presumably really enjoys computers or technology and may dislike physical activity or the warehouse worker may hate sitting still for more than 1 hour and wants to move all day and wants to do work that allows him to think about football or whatever else he loves. These two people have completely different personalities and interests to end up where they are and that’s ok. Very few people are pursued by someone who …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 01:50 AM
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Yeah I think maybe you just need to think a bit more carefully on how you present yourself. You can and should mention wanting to have kids - usually within a month to weed out men who don’t want kids, but leave it at that until you know each other more, and maybe really think about why you want to be a sahm. Do you want to homeschool kids? Do you want to do if forever or until they are school age? You should know these things and know why. You should also be flexible because not everyone can af…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 01:28 AM
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Yes this. And that’s why I gave the example of men who are in lower roles but have passion projects instead that require their mental or physical energy. And that says something too about that person and why drives them. We don’t all have to be the same, but it’s not fair to say that when people like that you do what you do it means they don’t like you as a person. I think it’s exactly the opposite.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 01:20 AM
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Your job is a part of you. You spend 40 hours a week doing your job. That’s more than you will do other things besides sleep. If you are the type of person who is in a role that you hate only for the pay that also says something about your personality and would be very different from someone who’s ok making a medium wage if it means they do what they love. Both are options but people will choose what path they take largely due to their personality. Did you read the post because I thought I was p…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 01:17 AM
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Maybe if you are talking about being sahm it scares them because you are basically saying they will Need to support you and your children. That’s a conversation that shouldn’t really be an early dating conversation and with how expensive things are it could be scary for them to think about that in early dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 01:14 AM
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Agree money doesn’t fix lonely, and that dating medical practitioners is a different ball game, I’m glad you’ve got each-other and sounds like what you have works! Yes jobs are important for many reasons, my post though was that your job is a part of YOU it doesn’t exists in separation from you. You being in medicine would have a very different personality from an a marketing manager and would have different drives and motivators and even lifestyle expectations
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 01:12 AM
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Depends, you might not be explaining your role in a way that they can see your passion / motivation for doing what you do, or they might be educated and expect someone from a similar circle. Most people will date within their own social class or environment. And this is fine and I don’t blame anyone for that and I was the same too. Life is expensive and people generally want someone who has similar lifestyle needs and the ability to contribute to that lifestyle. I’m not sure if you used teaching…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 01:01 AM
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It’s a wall, they probably don’t actually want a partner or a relationship some people become very attached to their victim / hard done by persona and anyone who comes along who might change that won’t do there will always be a reason found that they were out to get them in someway.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 12:56 AM
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And that’s completely reasonable and I’m of the same mind if you’ve gone to school and have a good role you are far less likely to accept being on the struggle bus, why would you when on your own you aren’t on that bus? Having an agreement in the type of lifestyle you want is extremely important. If you enjoy vacations or travelling but met a surgeon who absolutely hated spending money and he just wanted to save it all in a bank and never spend a dime then lifestyle does not match doesn’t matter…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 12:54 AM
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Sometimes people put up their own barriers and road blocks out of fear of rejection and hey I get it some of these guys have had bad experiences or have read too many horror stories online but end of the day you won’t make a connection if you view everything with a suspicious and accusatory lens.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 12:41 AM
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When I met my partner he was in my at the time dream role and it was a very possible next step career wise for me to get into a role that he would have been actively hiring for; we obviously were able to talk about similar things and also feel excitement about our interests and what led us to where we were, we even laughed about it saying we had to be careful not to turn it into an interview but it wasn’t about the actual role it was about our previous experiences and what had led us there that …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/23 12:39 AM
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Your job is a large part of you though. You spend a lot of time at work so people are interested in what interests you, what kind of a drive you have that motivated you to go to school and work hard and also interested in what inspired you to do what you do - your job is a large part of YOU because you Would be someone completely different if you did something else. It’s also a big part in why if you meet someone who has a good job let’s say lawyer but they HATE it and only did it to make their …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 10:32 PM
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Hard to know without seeing it I dislike honkers too but people do it if you cut them off or if you take too long to turn like you could have gone
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 09:11 PM
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I’ve been here for quite some time I’ve seen the beliefs that people of all pills will say. Self improvement doesn’t make so Some red pill. Red pill is about more tha. Self help, if that’s what you think you might be too naive
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 12:38 PM
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As well as their whining and self sabotage will help them develop into someone women want to date
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 02:20 AM
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No red pill takes a bit of self improvement/ self help advice such as the above and sprinkles it over a lot of categorising women as all the same and assuming the worst in women, and encourages men to use women for sex, have multiple relationships/cheat/not commit, and makes men insecure about themselves in the process by circle jerking and reinforcing the idea that if you aren’t “chad” that you will never be loved for you only for what you provide (how could you actually love women and have hea…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/23 12:59 AM
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Actually no, there is a push to get women into trades especially where I am, and roles like nurses or teachers are severely underpaid for the amount of work they have to do and it being an essential role. Every role needs to be valued appropriately and while teachers or nurses shouldn’t be making as much as doctors or lawyers in places like the USA (not where I am btw) teachers making 40k a year is unacceptable. The wage gap also exists for men and women in the same profession and that usually h…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 11:57 PM
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Red, blue and black pill or any other pill are not Philosophies.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 11:53 PM
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Pretty sure most people support all people having a living wage Especially if your field requires a degree but still pays minimum or just above
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 11:37 PM
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These men should not focus on “pills” and focus on becoming a healthier version of themselves, doing what makes them happy, and expanding their in person social networks.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 11:29 PM
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Didn’t Jesus say something about turning the other cheek
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 09:58 PM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 09:57 PM
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So thus description while basic could describe my partner, I won’t lie the depression can be hard at times but overall he’s amazing and I wouldn’t change him so have hope that you will find someone too
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 09:51 PM
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Most women do
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 08:07 AM
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Yeah I think most jobs that require social interaction and good social skills - sales, lawyers, corporate etc people who are good at these roles actually like people or at least like interacting with them. Some stem people I know dislike it or are pretty judgmental about people or come across like they feel that they are superior intelligence. Nothing turns people off more lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 07:18 AM
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Unfortunately all the schooling before college is meant to teach you those skills. I feel bad for some homeschooled kids if they don’t get put in enough activities to learn those skills but for most people 12 years of schooling is supposed to teach you those skills. Group projects, lunch and recess and even just being in a class. I 100% understand it can be hard but I hate when people try to minimise it and say personality doesn’t matter it’s all looks. Sounds like you realise the importance of …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 06:09 AM
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It’s not easy sure but the stupid phrase of touch grass is unfortunately the only way to do it but if you say it to anyone they don’t appreciate it. The easiest and most immediate way you can become more interesting and a better personality is to become interested in people and actually listen to them speak (eye contact and truly listening not waiting for your turn to speak, asking follow up questions) so many people aren’t interested in the people they talk to and it shows.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/23 05:30 AM
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Fuck you are ugly man
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/23 10:31 PM
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Yeah but rats do carry disease if they are out there in the wild, they collect fleas and pathogens and then get into Human spaces looking for food because they eat everything. Any animal can become a pest depending on the environment and rats unfortunately are pests.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/23 10:29 PM
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My first ex became very into these things, you forgot “spirituality” and “conspiracy theory” on your list. Became annoying and overbearing
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/23 10:27 PM
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Yes but mainly for sex not a relationship unless he was really special
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/23 10:24 PM
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True this guys girlfriend probably lucky if he offers to split the bill rather than name her pay for dinner since he’s in between jobs and finding himself and doesn’t want to be a wage slave as he is “ self employed”
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/23 10:07 PM
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Not that I’m Condoning sex with criminals but maybe you didn’t know that criminals can have good personalities too, good personality means engaging, fun, funny, charming, and generally pleasant to be around. In fact a lot of the most successful criminals fit all of those, and they hide their criminal activities or they allow them to become more open in view once someone is already in love with them. The ones that are openly criminals from the start aren’t attracting quality women anyway so you a…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/23 09:53 PM
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There’s too many of these types of tinder profiles unfortunately This dudes “spoiling” probably means 2 minutes of shit sex and he might buy her food once a week
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/23 09:44 PM
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That’s your opinion which you are entitled to have
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/23 09:40 PM
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Take better care of your bears get rid of the fluff, style your hair and your eye brows and your good, like Others said nice eyes and I think your glasses suit you gives your fave character and makes you seem smart Also I month change your clothes can’t tell very much but your grey jumper looks like something a middle schooler would wear so try getting nicer clothes
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/23 09:03 PM
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He’s more than average he’s above average attractiveness to me anyway. This is so sad, I think partly because he’s being vulnerable and opening himself up on video. It’s a lot more impactful that random words on a screen unfortunately.
/r/AllPillDebate14/06/23 01:49 AM
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Half your studies are severely outdated, did you know when writing papers based on research it’s preferable to have studies that are within 5 years of age? Information changes. The studies you did quote didn’t show what you wanted them to show you cherry picked and had a lot of conformation bias. Your “rebuttal” comments included the ok Cupid data which also showed that women messaged more men than men messages women despite who they found the most physically attractive. I get it it’s a lot easi…
/r/AllPillDebate13/06/23 10:32 PM
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There’s hardly any debating on this sub it’s all bad faith and bitterness
/r/AllPillDebate13/06/23 10:21 PM
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Might also be that they seem like they would be funny…laughter is huge in a relationship.
/r/AllPillDebate13/06/23 10:09 PM
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I did and I agreed with them.
/r/AllPillDebate13/06/23 09:54 PM
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Rebuttal doesn’t matter your whole premise was based on studies that didn’t show what you said they showed
/r/AllPillDebate13/06/23 08:16 PM
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Except people went through the sources you put and explained why the data isn’t showing what you thought it was
/r/AllPillDebate13/06/23 11:51 AM
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Who’s sibling did your nephew come from? I wonder if it would make any difference since youve both adopted though
/r/MensRights12/06/23 02:15 AM
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Yep you picked up the vibe
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 12:07 AM
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According to comments he’s a college professor
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 11:41 PM
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Here’s a great example of an average skinny guy who looks hot because he has a style that works for him and a great smile https://www.reddit.com/r/amiugly/comments/14621fb/30s_m_glasses_vs_contacts_stubble_or_clean_what/?utm_source=share&utm_medium=ios_app&utm_name=ioscss&utm_content=1&utm_term=1 Don’t underestimate smiling and style. Sometimes people who think they are ugly just present themselves as bad as they can as if they were trying to be ugly
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 10:58 PM
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Not cheating if it’s not people you know I would consider watching porn by someone you know as a boundary being crossed
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/23 08:59 AM
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My whole Family is liberal and my dad is the most masculine guy you could ask for. Your politics don’t make you feminine or masculine
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 09:02 PM
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I Liked rings of power but the other ones I thought were shit
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 09:00 PM
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Hasn’t been my experience, most women I know end up In long term relationships with great men. I only know one person who Could be considered a bit unstable who seeks drama
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 11:01 AM
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It’s not a game it’s a dance. And it doesn’t even last that long like two to three dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 10:26 AM
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That’s a good combination fun, and yet with a genuine person who you want to impress
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 09:54 AM
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I feel like if it’s 10 year gaps the answer is yes for likelihood behind higher. But still in transactional relationships both partners run the risk of being replaced
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 08:55 AM
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I can’t speak for all women but personally if I was with an older guy (10+) years it would be because he is pretty mature and is able to Provide. I would still need to Like him though. I’m Sure some Women do get with older guys for Money but I’m sure some also like Older guys (but I do think this is a smaller portion of women) My husband is same age as me he’s Only 7 months older than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 08:23 AM
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Hasn’t been my experience at all
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 07:38 AM
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I disagree though i mean earning 2x someone would be significant but not that hard to find as well as a good person I think commodification could start to happen when people are making maybe 300k Plus annually but only in the sense that person may want a trophy wife and he has commodified himself as well at that point and should be surprised if a trophy wife divorces him for a even higher earned
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 07:04 AM
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If you are only dating for money then maybe but most people don’t only date for money, most people want a balance of good person and decent income. Key word is decent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 06:53 AM
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You can care about not being treated as a possession while also caring if your partner makes a decent income.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 06:43 AM
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Nope nothing is universal don’t put words in my mouth There’s lots of situations and filing isn’t a metric of who has initiated or caused is all I’ve said
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 09:03 PM
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That’s what happened in my parents marriage Women generally do the admin work in marriages Also it could be the woman asking husband to talk and work on marriage and if no effort is put in on his part or not enough effort than she might decide to get divorced
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 08:40 PM
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Because filing paperwork doesn’t mean that women are the ones who wanted the divorce or even who brought the topic of divorce up to their husband. It means that they filed the paperwork that’s it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/23 07:08 PM
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Yes women would object to this. How about we just start eliminated 1 in 50 single men with no children over the age of 40 to lower our population Would men really object to this since they are unlikely to be the unlucky one?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 06:41 AM
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Lol that’s far more Believable. I’ve never ever heard a woman say her vagina has 0 feeling.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 05:33 AM
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True love does exist but not in the sense that there is only 1 person out there for everyone. There are many people who you could be attracted to and have a compatible relationship with some so more than others, it’s important to find someone you are attracted to and are compatible with and then provided you both treat each other well and make each other happy more than not and both want commitment, to decide to commit to your relationship and not look for any of the other people you may be comp…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/23 12:06 AM
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See I’m in the no go camp. I might accept a hint of it if I can’t see it or smell it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 10:39 PM
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Can you post a link to what you were reading that explains this?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 10:03 PM
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True, like blue cheese. 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 10:02 PM
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Damn I was kinda interested to see how tech is changing 🤷🏻‍♀️ my partner is super into tech I’m sure I’ll hear about its capabilities soon enough
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 09:40 PM
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Surely that can’t be a woman, if so she should go to a dr if she has 0 feeling in her vagina
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 09:39 PM
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The No nerves and feeling in vagina person?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 09:36 PM
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Why don’t you expand on that and talk about the capabilities you’ve found it has
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 09:35 PM
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2-3 dates a week is a lot. Most people go on 1-2 at most and for many it’s a fortnight not per week since still need time for self and friends when dating or looking for people
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 09:32 PM
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I’m sure they sleep great. Nice comfortable bed and no bills.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 09:16 PM
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This is sad that you’ve had that experience
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/23 09:04 PM
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U/ratdontpanic nice work blocking to get the last word lol Guess you needed to continue the badfaith techniques. Have a good one 🤚
/r/AllPillDebate06/06/23 02:06 AM
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You keep Making inferences about what I’ve said or believe out of no where , I dislike when people put words in other people mouth. If you won’t converse in good faith I don’t see the need to continue the conversation
/r/AllPillDebate06/06/23 01:46 AM
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Why are you getting so defensive? I didn’t say they don’t exist I even acknowledged that they exist. I said uou Could be getting shown that stuff because of what you Are clicking! Most women aren’t fds and most wouldn’t even know wtf it is or what they believe or whatever. Just like most men aren’t pilled and wouldn’t know wtf black or redpill is. You get what you interact with and what you look for.
/r/AllPillDebate06/06/23 01:33 AM
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I don’t think it is an algorithm but I’m sure it’s shown to some people due to algorithms I’ve never been shown fds stuff despite being active on this account on ppd, here and then aita. I get recommended stuff from not how girls work or true rate me but never fds or even twox I only know about those 2 from here and ppd but they don’t interest me so it could be based on what your clicking?
/r/AllPillDebate06/06/23 01:29 AM
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People will criticise anything and everything. If you are sharing without suggesting other people do it and not saying your way is better / critical of other ways then that’s fine share what you want and people will Still find things to complain about. You will get good and bad comments on anything you post that is going viral be real. Also has nothing to do with the fact my comment was about algorithms showing you what you want. Keep clicking that girls housewife videos and I’m sure you will ke…
/r/AllPillDebate06/06/23 01:12 AM
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Yep past 25 the only heels I wear are comfy low 1-2inch block heels unless I know I’m not doing much walking 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 11:54 PM
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To be fair algorithms keep showing you thinks you click on. You interact with a type of Post and you get more and similar types of content and content that other people who interacted with the same post also interact with.
/r/AllPillDebate05/06/23 10:59 PM
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He asked for the most petty 🤷🏻‍♀️ I can think of only 2 times I discontinued seeing someone for petty reasons and this was the most petty but at the end of the day smell plays a huge part in attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 10:57 PM
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It’s nice when you feel like dressing up and when you have somewhere to do it 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 10:55 PM
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https://www.bellelily.com/Floral-Lace-Up-Flat-Sneakers---White-g-98785-565192?currency=AUD&vsid=189032&vsid=215175&gclid=Cj0KCQjwj_ajBhCqARIsAA37s0zMXsVUyNNgbVImmSgqVQL0oQwbGQQ-dyIgLRVijuddzU5PB6I4i3AaAjRuEALw_wcB https://kedsaustralia.com.au/products/womens-triple-up-bow-cel-off-white?variant=40079471706209&currency=AUD&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic&utm_campaign=gs-2022-05-16&utm_source=google&utm_medium=smart_campaign&gclid=Cj0KCQjwj…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 10:49 PM
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My last boss had awful Back pain for weeks went to the dr and found out it was bone cancer :.( saddest thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 10:40 PM
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I love interviews they are fun and I always interview well. You can look up the common questions they ask and practice what you are going to say And if you really get stuck with a question you Didn’t practice an answer think Of how you can tie it back to An answer you did practice
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 10:38 PM
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We call them slippers in Hawaii
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 10:37 PM
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I didn’t like the smell of his soap on his body.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 10:36 PM
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I love white low top covered shoes for those exact situations. White shoes can look cute with dresses
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 10:33 PM
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I wasn’t saying that’s what he was suggesting. I meant that we as humans won’t always understand why or why not people want or don’t want something- including ourselves. So I was basically saying someone might actually want him as an intimate partner because we don’t decide if people want us or not. We can only decide who we want
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 12:42 PM
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Oh I meant you as In general you. As in none of us do.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 12:38 PM
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You don’t get to decide what other people want, the hard part is not being wanted when you want someone or finding the energy and capacity to be open available to people after continuous rejection
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 09:15 AM
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Sexual liberation and medical advancements allowed women to feel more comfortable with their own sexuality and gave them the tools to have sex outside of marriage or serious committed relationships in a safer way. Who do you think pushes for sex lol it’s men pushing women for sex from the time we are like 13. Im not Going to Speak for all Women as many people will have their own and different experiences but get burned from sex once and some women might decide to have sex on their own terms. Ult…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 08:47 AM
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Hookup culture I think was actually started by men. Women responded by doing it too and now that some men feel left out it’s all of a sudden women who started it? Also women do care who they sleep with. There has to be attraction or maybe for some men and women with questionable morals the desire to manipulate.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 08:30 AM
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When people vent about men in general in the context of “where are all the good men” I’m willing to bet that it happens after a particularly bad date. That’s exactly the same situation about people venting after a situation. The date was a situation. There are 100% going to be people who are venting constantly because they are delusional about what they want vs what they offer but for most reasonably adjusted and romantically successful people they aren’t venting constantly. You looking for peop…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 07:54 AM
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Man people vent to partners or friends about their jobs but if you ask them if they love it or are happy then the answer is yes. It’s ok to be frustrated with situations but still be ok with where you are. People vent about their kids and how frustrating they can be or how naughty they can be but if you ask them if they regret having kids most say no and how much they love them. When I was single I was frustrated about the bad dates I would go on and would vent about particularly bad ones and I …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 07:42 AM
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Why are you hearing about it? Are they botching to you personally or is it you seeking it out online? Online has a lot of frustrated people looking for a place to vent. Venting to friends in general can make you feel better. You can vent about something and still be generally ok with something. You can vent about not finding the right man /woman while still being ok that you are single. Disappointed maybe but still fine and overall happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 07:14 AM
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The reason ppd men/ other pill men don’t say the right woman would xyz is because they don’t care about the right woman they want any woman. I specify ppd men/pill men because a lot of men who have healthy ideas on relationships do talk about waiting or looking for the right woman.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 05:06 AM
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Yes I was replying in that context but more so for “the right man/woman vs real”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 04:38 AM
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I don’t want to talk about thieves or any other untrustworthy people because there are lots of situations and taking preventative measures is always smart but in an earlier comment I put you should trust people in the context of a relationship. Relationships require trust there is no getting around that doesn’t matter if you talk about a societal level or individual level they require trust. And relationships are created on an individual level assuming you aren’t in a country that does arranged …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 04:02 AM
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It’s both. You are responsible for yourself and if you don’t take responsibility for yourself and expect other people to have to Prove themselves to you you probably won’t get far because no one has time for that and it’s a toxic feeling being the person who has to prove. I’m using “you” here generally of course.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 03:39 AM
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If you can’t trust people and I say those very respectfully and empathetically because it does come from being let down in the past, but this person should be either in therapy or finding a different way to trust people before they think about being in a relationship. Relationships are about putting yourself out there and being vulnerable. That means you will get hurt at times, but you gotta take a leap of faith on people, give them benefit of doubt. Until someone breaks your trust, trust them (…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 03:23 AM
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I would like to suggest that while you don’t owe anyone a relationship if you get into a relationship what you do owe your partner is trust - without it no relationship will work and if you haven’t gotten to the point where you can trust freely you shouldn’t be in that relationship yet.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 03:16 AM
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Correct. Self improvement needs to be a journey for yourself where the reward is your improvement - anything that comes as a byproduct of those improvements is a bonus
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 02:27 AM
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Most guys with these insecurities haven’t got experience they are creating the issue. But you are correct no one “owes” anyone relationship, and I think he should break up with her if he’s that insecure that he starts mistrusting her When she hasn’t given a reason to as well as if she has given him a reason
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 02:26 AM
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Not sure if you are asking if he should dump her because he’s insecure/creating false narratives or if she doesn’t make him feel loved/has given him reasons to not trust her.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/06/23 12:43 AM
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Kudos for going against the grain and not drinking I’m sure it’s not easy in an environment like yours
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 10:49 PM
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You should remember that there are a lot of men on apps vs a smaller amount of women, and the ones looking for serious relationships and who are also attractive and has their shit together will probably be “taken” pretty quickly- or have 1-2 bad experiences and also take breaks from apps. Seriously dating on apps takes time unfortunately. Most people I know who met serious relationship partners (including me) off apps it took a long time. Between taking breaks because it wears you down, and sift…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 10:48 PM
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Yes if that’s what he says he is likely to be shamed because he is now acting on that insecurity. He hasn’t even met the woman and he’s already telling himself a false story “she’s going to compare me to her ex lovers and I won’t compare” he’s already devaluing himself AND her. If he says “I want low n because I want someone who has the same values around sex and relationships as myself” then no he won’t be shamed.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 10:28 PM
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Hmm sounds like a public health issue then and hopefully better attitudes around alcohol one day come into play. Guess it depends on the landscape too- the s it a really snowy and cold Country? I imagine if I was in a snowy and cold (miserable to me) place I Would drink a lot.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 10:25 PM
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Why drive yourself (and her) for a “what if” What if it’s not? Judge people by their actions- does she make you feel loved and valued? Has she given you a reason to not trust her? If she has made you feel loved and hasn’t given you a reason to not trust her then why tell yourself stories like “she’s thinking of someone else” “she doesn’t love me” “she’s probably cheating” it’s a great way to blow up your relationship and any self esteem you have.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 10:23 PM
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That last paragraph is it. The false narratives they create in their own minds - when their insecurity becomes so strong they are constantly in fight or flight and looking for proof for whatever story they’ve told themself.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 10:13 PM
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Yeah there was a specific country I was thinking you might be in but doesn’t seem like it. Is it cultural ? Like is it socially accepted to be violent? Or heavily patriarchal?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 10:07 PM
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Is the violence done by nationals or immigrants?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 09:53 PM
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Because women are fine waiting for that right guy and fine with being single and meeting people until then. Most men are also happy to play the field or do their own thing until they find the right woman. The men here in pill spaces aren’t happy alone, and many don’t want to self improve for some uncertain period of time in case it never happens and then they feel like they had to work for nothing (defeating the idea of true self improvement). Then they get mad at the idea of women dating and ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 09:50 PM
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Hinge- married from it. And anyone I know in a ltr from apps was from hinge
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 10:13 AM
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Nice guys is something else. It’s getting bad and being a dick after rejection while saying things like nice guys like me never get a chance but real nice people don’t respond in anger or spite
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 02:36 AM
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How old are you if you don’t mind me asking? I think before the first date would be weird because there is no context - you could be anyone saying anything. A lot of People Lie, a lot of people act on their best behaviour for awhile and then change. I’m 30 and thankful I’m not dating anymore but personally it wouldn’t work on me but maybe people your own age?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 02:11 AM
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I think where some of us may be confused is where do you think this conversation is happening? On a first date? If so she probably already do thinks your attractive but it would be a pretty intense conversation for a first date. And saying it before you are on a date would be a no go too. Dating is about getting to know people and seeing how they act. Words are cheap you gotta show people rather than just say things.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/23 02:07 AM
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What they say about not knowing true love until you have a child is true, they are literally a part of you- they are your heart that now lives outside of your body. It’s so cliche but so true.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 10:09 AM
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My baby choked on a carrot tonight I’ve never been so scared in my life. Thank the lord I was able to get it to clear. My technique was very sloppy and I’m going to take a class now but so thankful I’ve looked up what to do In the past. When I could hear a cry and a breath it was the most relieving sound ever. I’m still shaking and this was about an hour ago now. Baby is safe and asleep in bed now but my god I don’t think I could keep living if this had gone a different way
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/23 08:48 AM
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Don’t lie about being a virgin but don’t bring it up. Most aren’t going to assume you are a virgin unless you say it.
/r/AllPillDebate02/06/23 09:33 AM
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/s
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 03:28 AM
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I wasn’t trying to be, but for most people they don’t want to have to go out on Monday nights when they have work on Tuesday (Monday usually hospitality night off) and not date on weekends because they are working or get off at midnight. My partner was hospo when he was young if he was still in hospo it would never have worked between us.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/23 01:56 AM
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Your hospo don’t match online lol! Go to Staffies after work and pick up there.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 11:03 PM
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If your being serious you probably have 2 options- date another hospitality worker or change industries
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 10:37 PM
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That’s exactly what it meant but only at the time. You were the best choice at the time and to stay in the relationship you continue to choose that person and aren’t open to any other choices. People who stay in relationships have to actively choose to work at their relationship because if you’ve any to be with someone long term it takes commitment and that’s ultimately a choice. If you want commitment and happiness that’s also a choice because you behave in ways that aren’t going to cause probl…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 06:56 AM
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Break up you are doing yourself and her a disservice and wasting both your time
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 05:12 AM
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Nope because we all have many people we would be compatible with but finding them isn’t that easy or at least takes time. Most people don’t Stay in a relationship If they feel like their partner settled for you. Most people just love their partner and do their best to take care of them and the relationship. Why does it matter if there are more attractive people who could potentially be compatible with your partner? They chose you and you chose them so just enjoy what you have
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 05:11 AM
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Most men I’ve dated have met this criteria I haven’t had a hard time finding it. My partner meets or exceeds all of those criteria. Now before anyone thinks I’m delusional it’s also worth mentioning that I also meet that criteria. I think a large part of me being able to have been around men who meet this criteria is that I went to university myself to make sure I could make the income requirement myself. This I think is the “hardest” of my criteria to meet but again I’m flexible because of you …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:54 AM
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In USD 65k for ages 27-30 80k and up 31-41 unless having a good reason not to like change of field/ going back for another degree, 100k + 50years and above. Having a degree or a trade is a non negotiable. 5’10 and up is preferable but 5’5 is minimum which is my height. Being active is a must but doesn’t need to be a gym freak/ have a 6 pack. Liking outdoors is a must, kindness is a must. Reasonably attractive or highly attractive is preferable. Able to make me laugh is a must, chill and able to …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/23 02:17 AM
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Do people gift new parents items even if there is no shower? When I had mine I was so grateful for the gifts they all came in handy some even a year or so on. And some were beautiful items that I would never have bought myself because I wouldn’t have known where to go or because I wouldn’t have spent the money on it
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 11:43 PM
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Baby shower gifts love buying new baby stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 11:17 PM
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Most peoples only record is digital photos, you are free to do what you like but yeah I feel sorry for any women who have have a relationship with partners who agree with this person take me and my partner both have d Photos on our fb, and its not a cause Of concern for either of us. I actually liked seeingPhotos of him in his younger years that I Would never have seen if he didn’t have them 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 10:59 PM
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Of course you can do what you like. But if for example someone had photos of prom with an ex would this be a deal breaker for you ? Not that I care but I’m interested to know? How old are you if you don’t mind me asking?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 10:36 PM
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Hell nah why should you friend major sections of your life just because an ex is there Example: my prom pictures contain my ex. Should I delete those memories? As a 30 year old why should I delete those memories. It’s nice when fb shows you memories. You might say “ your 30 your 18 year old selfs prom photos are different with your ex from so long ago” But for my bf after that ex what if he had made me delete them I would have no memories today Life is about making memories. Don’t delete for som…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 10:28 PM
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There are some bitter and hateful people here all because no one wants to touch their penis. Some of the more hateful commenters I can’t help but think even if they didn’t start out this way they had this person inside them willing to spew such virile hate online anonymously where they probably feel tough for once in their life, they probably deserve to be alone tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 05:56 PM
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Yeah I’m partnered too and I would say our shit is all together thank god especially as we have a kid. Always room for improvement though no matter what life stage you are at
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 05:42 PM
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I’ve done dating with people who haven’t got their shit together and you learn that it’s generally a waste of time. Being in love and in a relationship with someone responsible and with their shit together makes for a much more pleasant experience. We get older every day and I have goals I want to meet and want someone who will help me meet them not pull me down into drama or to struggle- especial.my financially . But yes everyone’s gotta do what’s right for them
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 09:07 AM
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If being obese is you only downside it’s only one duck out of a row not most your ducks (job,mental health, stable living situation)
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 08:31 AM
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Love and respect isn’t enough in a relationship. You absolutely need it but life is full of stressors and pressure and if you are a mess it’s going to undoubtedly draw your partner into that mess regardless of how loving and respectful you are
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 08:29 AM
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I think you do need most your ducks in a row otherwise you are a hot mess waiting to drag someone who does have their ducks in a row down. If neither of you have them in a row then that ok but probably going to cause drama and strife since both parties are probably lacking maturity or stability
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 05:33 AM
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Is this Charlie Hunnam? Because he’s definitely a hunny 😍
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/23 05:24 AM
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Average guys have never had easy casual sex with hot women with minimal effort (for most of them anyway) It can happen but generally takes effort
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 09:59 AM
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If you call yourself a normie you aren’t one
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 09:51 AM
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I’ve never had an argument with my partner, and we have a kid and live together and have been broke in the past and have dealt with depression. Arguments aren’t normal, and a power struggle certainly isn’t. If you have a disagreement it shouldn’t lead to an argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 02:37 AM
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I’m in Australia and they also teach us that it is the environment that disabled people.
/r/AllPillDebate29/05/23 11:55 PM
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Even if she did lie if a guy is stupid enough to cum in a one night stand because he believed she was on bc… doesn’t make for a smart dr who Also knows about std risks
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 09:28 PM
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Hmm interesting, good to know. I’m a pre service teacher and we have to do classes on inclusiveness and how to differentiate and accomodate people with disabilities and one of the first things they teach you is it’s more respectful to use person first language so acknowledge the person and then the disability. Eg. Person with disabilities vs disabled person So I was thinking referring to autistic people in that way with person first was correct but thank you for letting me know. Yeah it would be…
/r/AllPillDebate29/05/23 09:18 PM
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Apple Maps does
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 09:07 PM
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Staying off pill subreddits might help remove some jade
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 09:06 PM
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Sorry I explained in a different comment to Someone else I was more talking about NT people being different even if it’s something like liking people who don’t fit societies preferred groups of people or looking different. Many times people will ditch childhood friends if they are “uncool” or stop liking things they like if it’s uncool or gets them socially outcast. In general when you are young there is a lot of pressure socially to Conform
/r/AllPillDebate29/05/23 09:02 PM
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I should have phrased it better because I didn’t mean only people With autism need to be true to themselves. I meant that even NT people will not partake in activities or hang out with people they like if it’s deemed socially “uncool” they will need to change their outward behaviour to be more socially accepted. This might mean changing friend groups to more popular kids or even dating more socially accepted people. When people Get older like 25-30 they generally stop caring what’s socially acce…
/r/AllPillDebate29/05/23 09:00 PM
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Yeah the sad truth is there is no manual and if you are different in anyway you will probably struggle dating especially when young and when peer pressure makes things weird and hard to be comfortable with being true to yourself or makes you do things you wouldn’t normally do.
/r/AllPillDebate29/05/23 08:23 PM
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Yeah it is not surprising to me either, people aren’t very kind in general and it’s sucks that to get treated better you would have to disclose your autism but your saying even then you get treated different. We have a long way to go as a society. I’m not surprised a lot of autistic men end up here either
/r/AllPillDebate29/05/23 07:49 PM
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I’m sorry for your experience. It could be possible people don’t know you have autism just that you seem off in someway maybe explained by those studies, but if they knew then the might be and act more accepting ?
/r/AllPillDebate29/05/23 12:05 PM
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Ask him to finish in your mouth and he will get off you and do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 07:33 AM
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Good on you for that I wish more men and women were honest with themselves and others, a lot less hurt would be around
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 05:46 AM
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I think if you think she has a good personality you shouldn’t use her. Be honest about not wanting a relationship or leave her alone. It’s ok to not find her attractive but not ok to use people
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 05:16 AM
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Why don’t you find her attractive? I think you won’t be an ass if you take it slow to see if you like her personality and see if you could actually enjoy it with her. If you try to Pump and dump you would be a dick if you lead her on. If you tell her straight up that you are only interested in casual dating and she agrees then there is no problem, just don’t lead people On. Also be careful if she is your neighbor you don’t want to create drama and not be able to get away from it especially if yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 12:17 AM
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Everyday and night
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 11:30 PM
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I did this and it was fun lol
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 11:10 PM
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My partner looks like a dirty blonde version of Henry. Always mention it to him whenever we watch anything with HC. I told his dad and his dad texted him a photo of hc as Geralt and said you do look like him.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 11:09 PM
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It’s probably a bit of both. Whenever you have men dating one thing and women another it’s probably a combination of both. There’s definitely crazy women out there and women who thrive on drama so some men would be dealing With that, and there are a lot of Immature people who would be actively ruining their relationships even if they don’t realise it.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 08:53 PM
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I have a feeling that a lot of the guys here who complain that women don’t let them Open up have opened up In a “wrong” way as defined above and then taken that to mean that men can’t open up in general. Not all of course. Some would have opened up in an acceptable way but their relationship was probably already on the rocks and the person decided that they had had enough and didn’t want to keep getting pulled into that persons drama. I’ve done that before. Broke up with an ex shortly after he w…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 08:42 PM
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There isn’t necessarily a right way but there is a wrong way If you opening up includes violence, yelling, or opening up after being caught doing something like cheating then these are wrong ways Other than that the listener should try to be empathetic
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 08:26 PM
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It would be a no for me, sounds like drama.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 08:18 PM
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Don’t delete it :) it’s good conversation Sorry you are dealing with depression it can be a hard go
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 10:31 PM
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probably cause you haven’t felt women’s feelings (obviously) but women stay in bad situations all the time because they love or loved someone, sometimes until they are seriously hurt or killed It’s easy to think you have it worse but we all feel the same and can all be negatively impacted the same
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 10:24 PM
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I doubt you’ve made people mad, maybe just shocked if you believe women don’t feel the same feelings or maybe if you think men’s feeling are somehow more pure or strong? Every crush I had from ages 13-18 I would always imagine our life married and kids. Pretty strong romantic and very childish and idealistic, then you get older and more realistic
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 10:10 PM
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I doubt it, lust and romance are different though
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 09:53 PM
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I know a few people on it and their sex drives are fine. It’s different for everyone and that’s why most people end up having to try a couple before they find the right fit
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 09:43 PM
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Women have romantic feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/23 09:30 PM
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They might like the result but only superficially because they didn’t do it for themselves. They probably won’t keep up with whatever the result is because their goals wasn’t self improvement it was to get someone. They probably will revert to however they were before after they have someone
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 06:13 AM
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Disagree because most people do self improvement for themselves and feel happy about it People doing it to meet people are doing it wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 06:00 AM
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Me and my partners first date. Mexican place to drink sangria and beer, then a greek place for more beer and then his house for wine
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/23 05:53 AM
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“Be confident” is very general and can also include approaching.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 03:47 AM
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We have widespread monogamy. Most people want to remain with their partners for life. Shit happens though and it’s good that you are able to leave if you need to. It’s not a bad things that we are not socially shamed to have relationships and have fun until we are ready for Kids and marriage
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 03:45 AM
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5k max I think. I know someone who has got a decent deal and able to do everything for 10k but they still have a reception Venue. I will do it out in nature near a beach or something My cousin spend at least 100k Average where I am is 50k It’s disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/23 12:43 AM
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Yeah that would make it harder. My sister lived with us when I was small and then lived next door to us when we were older and when she had kids. So she was always around us and we didn’t even consider her “half” she calls both her mom and my mom “mom”
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 10:54 PM
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My dad had kids with his first wife, then with my mom. I have a fantastic half sister and two beautiful nieces because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 10:39 PM
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I met my first bf in a club. I also hooked up with a few people on different nights before I met that bf. I met a fwb that way too. I went to the club with my lesbian friends and told One of them I wanted to make out and asked if she would kiss me (they were a couple though) she said no but to stay there and she would find someone for me. She brought me back her hot friend and we started making out after saying hi. He ended up having a gf but I became friends with her that same night after telli…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 10:19 PM
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Your post is a bit confusing but sometimes relationships don’t work out and you have to go your seperate ways. Sometimes there are kids involved. No parent should ever abandon their children, but as long as they are still present and still contribute to their children even if they meet someone else and have more children what is the problem?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 10:11 PM
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What is your stim like if you don’t mind sharing
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/23 10:54 AM
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It’s not there isn’t usually a wardrobe in a den. I have a fair bit of clothes and need a whole closet. But yes living with someone is cheaper so affording a 2br is no biggie.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 07:50 AM
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No way you want a 2br so you have a home office and 2 closets Before we had a kid we still needed a 2br for those reasons
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 07:32 AM
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If he’s happy to live in a place where I’m paying the same amount of rent I was before I was with him then sure that’s fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/23 04:10 AM
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Yeah. End of the day most partnerships rely on both people and need to find a way that both partners feel valued and appreciated. That means helping in areas they may not want to help in, it means doing some chores, being inconvenienced and also being happy when your partner is happy or at least being happy in peace. Both partners need to contribute enough that the other person feels valued and if they don’t sitting around and trying to justify not helping or valuing your partner because you ear…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 11:26 PM
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Alright I was wrong there I was walking to the train and I was relying on my memory of the figures. Regardless though it’s not a huge portion of men and the amount of household relying on two incomes keeps raising. And I can bet that those households that the woman is bringing in even 30% of the income if she suddenly stopped the household would be under financial stress especially if kids are involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 09:56 PM
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Most implies a far greater number than just over half. Most people would say “slightly more” or “about half”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 09:46 PM
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A 2 % difference from the halfway point I’d barley “most” “most” people would say it’s “about half”or “slightly more” rather than most
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 09:37 PM
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Yeah I’ll agree with that someone else posted an interesting stat page to my comment, and only 23% of men are sole and 29?% were primary 29% of marriages were elegatarian , and 10% wife out earned and 6% wife was sole earner It’s far more equal these days. Most men aren’t providers and most women don’t want providers because we saw examples of women who relied on their husbands for money and everything else get fucked over when he cheated on her and divorced her. Happened to my mom.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 09:08 PM
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It was an interesting read thank you but according to that only 23% of husbands are sole bread winner and 31% earn more than 60% of their wife. That’s about equal as the stat for equal income couples 29% and wives earning more is 10% and wife as sole bread winner is 6% So far away from most men are the primary breadwinner.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 09:05 PM
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Earning more but your partner still Earns means you aren’t the breadwinner Breadwinner implies you bring home all the money Most couples both have to Work.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 08:49 PM
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Most men aren’t breadwinners
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 08:40 PM
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1
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 12:05 PM
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I commented something similar Male gynos have always been more gentle when using the spec or a trans vaginal ultrasound wand or when doing a pap than the 2 women gynos I had
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 08:30 AM
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There is often times a huge wait for female gynos because if given the option with male or female and no wait time most women choose the woman. But a lot of people don’t want to wait for weeks. Also I’ve found male gynos to be MUCH more gentle with the spec. And when doing Pap smears. Plus you just remember while you are there at the dr that it’s their job and they see a million vaginas so get it and get out
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 08:29 AM
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This post will Probably be taken down as it’s an advice thread but dude: you can’t get her to listen to you and honestly why should she? It’s a LDR these rarely work and if you are already fighting and have different lifestyles doesn’t bode well for when you are living close or together. Asking her for more photos would be annoying and take the fun away from sending them to you, and forcing her to workout when she doesn’t actually Want to will cause her to resent you.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 05:14 AM
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I edited my comment
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:31 AM
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Hard Agree
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:30 AM
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That’s your opinion but the word most people would use is human. What I would say is weak is the inability to move on after an extended period of time
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:29 AM
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Yeah unless it’s your friends who are talking to you, online everyone will Have their own opinion on what makes a hvm (a “good partner”) or a lvm (a “bad partner”) and there will be overlap in peoples definitions and slight variations person to person. Figure out what a good partner is to you, look for that, and try to figure out what type of partner your ideal partner would want and if you are working on yourself you can try to make yourself closer to that. If you start thinking the type of wom…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:27 AM
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I think people who get heart broken after a short relationship aren’t broken up Over the person as much as they are over the hope they had for their life and the image they built up around the person and themself is what’s been shattered
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:21 AM
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Mmm I think you might be taking it too seriously, a lot of guys who struggle can be assholes (see above re:social skills) but not all of them a lot wouldn’t be assholes but still also will struggle socially in other ways than the asshole such as no confidence and no friends. If you listen to what people say online you are opening yourself up for toxicity. There are women who get 0 attention from men and online they are told they are lying or just ignoring men when that’s not the case. Best thing…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:18 AM
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Lots of shitty people get attention sexual or otherwise. This is men and women. If you are attractive and have basic social skills (not rude to the person you are speaking to, reasonably outgoing, and comfortable talking to people) you will be able to have sex and relationships. Having sex and relationships does not mean that you are high value. If a guy is struggling to get even sex it suggests he is probably got a combination -being far below average in looks -not having good social skills (lo…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 02:02 AM
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To a woman yes, but lvm still get sex if they are handsome and socially aware. Mainly casual sex because once women do see he is an asshole the sex usually stops (unless she’s some kind of criminal or abusive past or just has very low self esteem or something as well and in a relationship with him) Are you thinking only high value men get sex? That’s far from the truth.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 01:37 AM
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I think where you may be getting confused is there can be some overlap between what RP says is “hvm” and what women consider it According to you rp definition is a man who other women want to sleep with According to most women on this thread and my own personal opinion it’s a man who is kind, handsome, knows what he wants in life and goes after it, is self sufficient, is loving to his partner, thoughtful and emotionally mature See for rps definition at the base minimum if he’s handsome and decen…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/05/23 01:06 AM
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A lot of people are cruel in high school unfortunately. Adolescence is a hard time and not everyone handles peer pressure or social pressure in a kind way. Most people grow out of that as they get out of adolescence.
/r/AllPillDebate20/05/23 10:51 PM
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I disagree that it’s better or worse, it’s just different but there’s also a chance there will be incompatibility even if it’s a healthy loving relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 03:09 PM
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I think so, I’ve been with guys who I was sexually incompatible with and that doesn’t get better with time. It gets worse you want to Avoid having sex.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 07:39 AM
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There are a lot of stupid people out there and when a stupid person does something they aren’t going to do it well. You see people getting married after their entire relationship was on and off and rocky and then somehow they thought marriage or having a baby would fix their issues. Divorce rates are high yes but so is stupidity. If you are a decently educated or wise person and find a like partner, your chances of a successful partnership are already higher. But besides this, divorce rate has n…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 05:32 AM
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It doesn’t actually hurt most women. It’s an online fantasy that it does. Most still end up married to a great guy regardless of guys Prefer women with less experience or not
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/23 05:09 AM
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I was pregnant and during covid work shut down so I had a lot of time on my hands. A school shooting happened (I forget precisely which one but more was about 1.5 years ago now) and wanted to know more about how people get so radicalised so started looking on reddit which I used for AITA. Went down the rabbit hole, and now stay to offer alternative view that conflicts with main redpill advice. At first tried to help guys but now mainly for the entertainment of some conversations / shock factor. …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 02:31 AM
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Same
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 02:26 AM
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Damn must be nice to be able To afford 2k a week on preschool lol 😂 that’s a big no thank you from me
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 11:12 PM
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Is that private? Pretty sure preschool is free here unless it’s private. But our little is too young for preschool still.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 11:00 PM
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Yeah most people get it subsidised obviously and it’s a huge help. Still though it’s 1000 a month which is around 1/5 - 1/6 of our take home pay depending on the month, so it does add up. So grateful for it though, it means I can study or work. For parents who have multiple children though it can become less worth it to work in terms of weekly pay, but for those parents who do choose to stay home they aren’t able to have any money contributed into their retirement fund (government makes a contri…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 10:37 PM
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No it would be about 165 usd. Our government subsidies childcare for families making under 350k (232k usd) yearly. Ours is about 80% subsidised.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 10:26 PM
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We pay for full time daycare, about $250 a week, child loves daycare, and we get to work. I’m working part time and studying part time and he is working full time. In about 8 months we will both be working full time.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 09:53 PM
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It can be fear or just wanting to avoid having to reject someone or just not wanting to deal with people It depends on the day and the situation
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 09:44 AM
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Huge red flag with neon lights. Doesn’t matter if it’s a man or woman asking
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 11:10 PM
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I don’t know who he is so I don’t know what his personality is like or even his characters personality if he plays someone on tv, so I can only go by looks. He’s not my type so 4/10 but o hate the number scale because if he had a great personality or was endearing somehow he could go up to even a 6/10. And this is why online dating sucks for men because based only on a picture you are going to have a harder time getting someone attracted to you
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 10:29 PM
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And this mentality is why if I knew it wasn’t going anywhere I would pay for myself. If it was going to progress though I would let him pay for Me though I would offer as well and if he would insist on paying it was a very good sign.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 10:16 PM
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Sounds like she’s had an interesting life
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 10:11 PM
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2 I think.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/23 03:42 AM
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That’s disgusting.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/23 10:49 AM
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If he rejects her even gently and she persists then yes it’s creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 10:52 AM
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What do you mean? You can change your preferences as you mature without it being afbb.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 01:02 AM
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That only applies if you don’t desire the man you end up with
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 12:49 AM
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The minute you are “supposed” to do something you lose all desire too
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 12:17 AM
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I made a joke and said on Father’s Day I want the same treatment
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/23 12:01 AM
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It’s Mother’s Day and I put my husband’s favourite movie on (lord of the rings), gave him a bj and made him breakfast lol
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 11:37 PM
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I think someone else has said it, most people have a “customer service face” no one lays it all bare all of the time , it’s no one’s business
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 11:07 AM
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I didn’t say being shy or awkward means you are a bad person. I said that it could explain why they are single/ they may not know how to interact with women so they might avoid it or when they do they aren’t seen in a romantic sexual light
/r/AllPillDebate13/05/23 06:24 AM
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Anyone who thinks all you need to be is tall or handsome has no experience with people and doesn’t know how to be likeable and loved by people other than their family or childhood friends
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 06:19 AM
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Or that they are socially awkward or have 0 self esteem and all of that comes across when interacting with others
/r/AllPillDebate13/05/23 06:14 AM
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Men should try it more
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 05:44 AM
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It’s funny how you become your mom. Spent my Saturday using my bissel machine steam cleaning the floors. Love a good clean carpet.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 04:22 AM
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Everyone does it at times, in one way or another
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 04:16 AM
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Ah ok thank you for the context, Yeah it’s always good to ask if you aren’t sure but ideally you should be able to pick up on cues when your partner is sad/annoyed/ stressed etc. and you might not know why or what happened and asking is always good, but also being able to recognise something is going on and trying to help your partner feel better even if they say “I’m fine” or “nothing” It could be through doing something to make their life easier, or picking up their fave candy bar.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 02:54 AM
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What do you mean? That’s a normal question I would expect everyone asks their partner how they are feeling. Me and my husband ask each other this pretty often.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 12:36 AM
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Never go on dates, wants to Stay home and watch tv or play video games every bit of spare time they have, don’t take trips together even weekend trips are good, not open to trying new things or complains and whinges when they do, dislikes spontaneous adventures or ideas, not willing to go with the flow, takes themselves to seriously, not able to have a laugh at themselves, has to be with you 24/7 (or has to text you or call you constantly), doesn’t know what to talk about once you’ve talked abou…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/23 12:28 AM
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I actually agree with this, it’s fine to have preferences but you should have tact, and making blanket rules or requirements and broadcasting them is not having tact
/r/AllPillDebate12/05/23 09:24 PM
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I don’t have a single friend in a toxic or drama filled relationship. Ages 24-30 Thinking about 13 relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 05:58 PM
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Super stupid
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/23 08:59 AM
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Nope a lot of men like them
/r/AllPillDebate11/05/23 10:26 PM
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What a dick head filling kids head with this shit.
/r/AllPillDebate11/05/23 10:15 PM
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Where was the outrage for breast implants? Oh wait a good percentage of men like women with big tits so a good percentage were fine with it. A good percentage of women like tall men what’s the difference? You don’t have to get the surgery just like women don’t have to get implants or breast lifts. Find someone who doesn’t care, stop being so self conscious and feeling like you HAVE to conform to a beauty standard that you don’t want to.
/r/AllPillDebate11/05/23 10:06 PM
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Yeah but when you stop seeing some of your friends because you are all busy with kids you make new friends with other parents who run the same circles as your own kids. If you don’t have kids then you make friends from work
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 10:00 PM
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My mom became really good friends with our friends parents, or parents from thing like scouts so you can make friends even after kids Friends are important without them you can feel alone
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/23 08:18 PM
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Pumping and dumping vary rarely long term negatively effects women’s prospects though since most learn after a couple times.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 10:22 PM
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If women are able to get the men they want then that is their league. The ones who don’t will readjust as necessary
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 10:00 PM
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Agreed :) so it’s crazy when average men are complaining that above average women don’t want them
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 09:09 PM
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Depends on the context he’s brought it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 08:05 PM
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I agree but not what I said
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 08:04 PM
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If there aren’t enough men to go around who meet women’s standards why should women make sure there are enough women to go around who meets men’s? Especially since men keep proving they don’t really have standards
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/23 07:51 PM
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Not really. We continue to Make mistakes just new mistakes. Thinking in absolutes like this is what fucks guys over from trying. Get out there and fail who cares, learn from it, move on, do it until you aren’t failing. Fuck even if you did get dumped early days you should be investing so much time and emotion in someone you don’t know that well.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 07:30 PM
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Guess what op….even with lots of experience you will still make awkward mistakes or say the wrong thing here and there. That’s being human, and we all do it. You have made this more dramatic than it really is Edit to add: in high school women judge you just as much if not more
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 07:22 PM
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If it’s not preheated you can always turn the oven on if you know how to turn the knobs
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 12:13 PM
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It’s not only eating it, some guys are dogshit at it. They do it cause they feel like they have to not cause they enjoy it. My man literally loves when I sit on his face, he once told me he could live in it. He’s the only one though whose ever made me cum from it. And I have had a decent amount of partners before him
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 11:55 AM
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I’m buzzed watching a wrath of man it’s way better drunk than it was in theatres Hehe
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 10:37 AM
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Interesting take op Do you have a preference ?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 10:31 AM
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High ineffective for many men, Just fyi Not that I’m saying he’s going to get ED but viagra really isn’t that effective
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 02:25 AM
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That attractive women end up single mothers and unhappy because chad cheated on them
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/23 02:18 AM
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It is never going To be “equal” because men bodies don’t have to undergo trauma of pregnancy/birth / or abortion. The woman will always have to have some trauma. That’s why she gets the choice of what happens. Once the kid is birthed the parents come second to the kid because the state doesn’t want to Pay for hundreds of kids and neither do tax payers and most people would rather kids be protected over men or women. Each gender has choices but they will never be the same because our reproductive…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:46 PM
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I didn’t realise I said anything disrespectful. I didn’t say every member of that group is “insert whatever word you like” but I said there are quite a few present in the group and even here on PPD we see similar things said daily by people who would classify themselves being in that group. If we can’t acknowledge it that’s also a problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:33 PM
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Yes my question was why should apps dictate what person you can date based on income? That’s stupid. People switch jobs, be in between jobs, or even study or just prefer older or younger. It’s up to the individual to find the person an ask the questions. Why should the app do this?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:30 PM
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There are quite a few though and they are pretty loud even here
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:12 PM
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Meh
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:02 PM
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Why? Unless you are super rich what does it matter? And if you are they have functions for other wealthy people.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 11:01 PM
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Yeah I know guys are exposed to messages that can make them feel like size is everything but it’s really not for most women. Yeah it’s actually a compliment in a way because she wants to finish with you and have that experience together I briefly dated a guy who sulked after I pulled out a mini vibrator. Broke up with him after that. My husband and I love using toys together and exploring them and each other
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 10:07 PM
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If it’s average it’s fine It’s more of a deal breaker to not eat pussy, to not finger well, and to be insecure of toys(vibrators)
/r/PurplePillDebate08/05/23 08:12 PM
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Start by making more friends, and hopefully you enjoy alcohol and settings where it’s abundant
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 10:36 PM
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It’s sad if people really think it’s ok, sounds miserable to be motivated by fear, anger and spite
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 10:31 PM
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Young and single with a few hookups and then marry for life
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 10:29 PM
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I used a random number but the question remains the same regardless if the age of the woman
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 09:23 AM
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Lol more like a period of 3-6 months of monogamous dating
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/23 01:20 AM
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What difference do you think it makes if you are 28 or 30? She could be 26 while you are 28 OR 30? I’m just confused why you would set that rule or barrier for yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 10:23 PM
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It’s not sharing if you are exclusive for a time
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 09:35 PM
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We use them together, he likes watching me get off, he can do it without but sometimes if your having a quickie it’s easier to use a vibrator while you are having sex that spending 20 mins on for play and then sex. It’s also good for when he’s not around, just like he watches porn if I’m not around. Masturbation is normal and can be healthy in a relationship if it doesn’t impact your sex life. We have couples toys, solo toys, and all sorts of things in our sex drawer. The hardest part is locking…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 08:31 PM
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That’s silly many people meet the love of their life at 30 or older. My Cousin just met his last year and he is now 33
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 08:13 PM
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By that definition everyone will have limited options- it just seems pessimistic to think of everything being limited. Even beautiful women would be limited in this definition if they haven’t got access to wealthy men and that’s what they want. There are always many option, if you don’t like the current ones all you can do is change your situation until you do like your options.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 05:27 AM
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The way I’m thinking about it though is if I’m hungry and someone offers me a choice of chicken livers, beef liver, sheep liver, tofu tacos, blue cheese salad, dried fish with rice or kangaroo sausage I am being given plenty of options. Me not Liking any of the options doesn’t mean I don’t have many options.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 04:30 AM
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His options weren’t necessarily limited. Not attracting who you want doesn’t mean your options are limited, just that you don’t like your options
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 02:27 AM
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I don’t think it is weird at all. If you don’t see why a person wouldn’t want their partner cheating even if they are going through a dry spell you should stay away from commitment
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 01:54 AM
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That hasn’t been my experience with marriage, our sex life is great, our relationship is great, our children are great. If either one of us stepped outside of the marriage it would be a huge betrayal. Stop worrying about anyone else and just worry about finding someone you can have a great marriage with, otherwise you shouldn’t be getting married. And a lot of people who do get married are stupid because they marry just to do it regardless if their relationship is functional and healthy.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 01:42 AM
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Because when you get married you are vowing to be faithful and not sleep with other people unless you’ve an agreement that you don’t need to be monogamous If you break that vow you are a shit husband/wife
/r/PurplePillDebate06/05/23 01:16 AM
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Don’t be weird about it
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 10:30 AM
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Most. It’s usually lack of social skills, and unrealistic expectations
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 10:29 AM
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No, but it means he’s a terrible husband, and love isn’t enough in relationships so it suggests the relationship will probably end
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 05:25 AM
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Yes I would if I could and he needed it but we have different blood types. Would I have done it for any of my exes? No. The connection I have with my husband though is far greater and if it ever came to him needing an organ from me to live and I could give it to him I 100% would, for his sake and for our child’s.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/23 01:45 AM
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But the point is every parent is going to Do the same which is why it’s crazy to think things are going to change and women will be encouraged to stop having ambitions and goals outside of finding a husband and raising children
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 10:21 PM
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How do you feel about her volunteering or going out with friends ?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 09:41 PM
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I’m sorry you lost your pregnancy if you wanted it that’s a hard thing to go through. I think it’s easy though to judge people and not understand exactly how traumatic pregnancy (late stage especially) and birth is until you go through it. Having been through a Traumatic birth that ended in an emergency I would never want anyone to go through that unless they are willing to, and as a mother I can understand how much you love your child while also understanding how much of a sacrifice it is to ra…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/05/23 04:15 AM
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There is no way a rejection would not make you feel worse so at least she was gentle about it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 08:30 PM
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Have you any children? After going through pregnancy and childbirth myself I would never want to force it on anyone. Again it depends on where you count it as life. I think if it can’t live on it’s own outside of your own body it’s not alive
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 08:00 PM
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Damn but accurate
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 11:09 AM
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I think that’s gross
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 07:16 AM
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It’s common and expected that while you are in the early dating stages (1-3 dates) a lot of people will still be seeing other people at the same time. Once you start getting to a point though usually around date 3-4 if you want to Keep seeing someone you stop seeing anyone else. Not a hard or fast rule, some only talk to one person at a time, some will stop seeing multiple people if there is a strong connection with one of them and etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 06:07 AM
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That’s true but we weren’t born as embryos so eventually we change from an embryo to a fetus and then to a baby but they aren’t the same thing. Not allowing an embryo to grow (medical abortion with pills as it drops your progesterone levels which are required to be high to keep your womb a hospitable environment) is not the same as killing a baby. You are welcome to your beliefs of course and I won’t try to change them, but saying to people to go through adoption isn’t a realistic scenario as mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 05:05 AM
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Damn I think I remember that post history and think I said something about it too though nothing uncivil
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 04:46 AM
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Eh I wouldn’t be willing to go through pregnancy/birth and the physical trauma of that and the mental trauma of giving up a child I carried for 10 months. I don’t believe life starts at conception so for me going through that trauma compared to having an abortion while the pregnancy is still an embryo wouldn’t be worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 04:45 AM
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It’s not just the money though (but 100% there should be more resources available and social support) I had an abortion and then went on to have a child that could be raised in a 2 parent home. No way would I have been able to do it alone, even with two of us things are hard at times. Had I continued the first pregnancy and had a child then I would have been a single mom, wouldn’t have met my husband, wouldn’t have finished school, and would have struggled my whole life and not been able to give…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 04:20 AM
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Why was she banned ?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/05/23 04:13 AM
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a lot of people do demand “proof” when you say vaguely “people say/think this” *not justifying nor did I see the example you are referencing
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 08:09 PM
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Most of us on ppd aren’t in a developing country so why bring it up? Are you in a developing country? If not it has no bearing on you or the Norms around you
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/23 08:07 PM
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I agree again but also pointing out that your post is about men who dislike toys, and I’m saying men who are usually open to explore those type of things you are mentioning are far more likely to be ok with toys.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 12:00 PM
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Yes I agree but I don’t know if you noticed but all the guys who have talked about the importance of being open and trying things who have commented have mentioned incorporating toys. I would be highly surprised if couples who have good sex lives full of communication and exploration would be couples who are against toys. It doesn’t track.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 11:52 AM
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Your example though of exploring other things you used bondage. Bondage typically incorporates toys and even when it doesn’t a key part of it is trust. I wouldn’t trust someone who is insecure during sex with me I can’t think of other things you might suggest besides other positions - always happy to try new positions and be wild BUT that is why I brought up most guys can’t give women orgasms even with repeated practice. I’ve slept with 3 guys who were good at sex (out of quite a few). So person…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 11:44 AM
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Hell no would I trust a guy to do bondage if he is uncomfortable with toys In my opinion saying no to something as tame as a vibrator would already make me not want to sleep or explore with him , he sounds like he’s not interested in me having an orgasm I’ve met one man only who can give me an orgasm from oral alone and I married him. It’s not something many guys can do. You
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 11:37 AM
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If someone doesn’t like toys they aren’t going to want to explore that
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 11:23 AM
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Exactly this. I’ve only come across one man who sulked about me using a bullet vibrator (small one size of a pinky finger) while we had sex because I want to Orgasm too if I have sex. I didn’t sleep with him again. Didn’t shame him for it but didn’t go back for more. Guys who Welcome toys are usually better lovers because they are getting off on you getting off.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 11:14 AM
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A lot of plain Janes aren’t on OLD and don’t have photos on social media - I know quite a few of these. A lot of those women don’t have male friends.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 01:29 AM
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That’s true I haven’t. But a large portion of plain and nerdy girls I knew weren’t out at bars let alone till closing. And also for the younger crowd in highschool that’s not a thing
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 01:28 AM
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I think it’s usually the ones who have worked on themselves. The ones who put effort into themselves. Men here love to bash on fat women like Lizzo but even Lizzo has worked on herself, she’s ambitious, takes care of herself and her appearance she’s just also fat. A fat woman though who does not dress nicely, put effort into her appearance does not get attention (I used to work with someone like this and she never would get any guys attention and never had a relationship). Unwanted attention is …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 01:27 AM
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It’s bad when it’s persistent or aggressive. It’s fine when it’s not and many women also find it flattering when it’s not. 100% some women are overtly cruel to men who express attention in respectful and appropriate ways and this should be something that’s reigned it and called out by women to other women. But a lot of attention is not respectful or appropriate, and is overly persistent, and that can also wear someone thin and also make you weary of attention. Usually by this point though all th…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 12:34 AM
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Yes this is also true that the things women find attractive can take longer to develop depending on the starting point and the person. General things though like style, social skills, social hobbies, and general fitness can do huge things for even young guys and a lot of younger guys don’t do these because they don’t care too much about it or they are naïve about the importance. And even if it does take a bit longer let’s say the guy doesn’t start till year 10 he should still be entering his sen…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/05/23 12:04 AM
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Yeah and that was the point because women and men both are going to see who gets more attention and from who, and I think women will act on that and try to become more like the girls the guys they like far earlier than men do this. I don’t disagree that most girls would like the same pretty boy or hot guys (few exceptions of course) but women will try to become more like the women those guys like earlier. And then men who aren’t getting women attention don’t truly start caring to change until th…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 11:34 PM
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Yes it’s a fantasy, but while you may not openly discuss this many men do. Women hear this and internalise it. That’s why women become far more interested in making themselves attractive from a younger age than men. And they try to emulate the type of women they think are getting the attention especially the attention of the men they also find attractive (but also men in general) It’s a cycle, men say women go for bad boys and that’s why they try to emulate this, but I’m saying women internalise…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 10:25 PM
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I’m asking for women point of view because I don’t see how a man can confirm this. This is about what women perceive, how we internalise it, and how we proceed based on that
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 10:23 PM
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Can you say if you are male or female? I didn’t say nerdy guys think they have a chance with the hot women. But they do give them attention. This could be through talking about them amongst each other or comparing notes on HOT porn stars/models singers whatever That is giving them attention. They aren’t sitting there talking about the plain women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 10:16 PM
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You say while posting no data. And also I doubt there is data that captures the experiences of women in those high school years that shows what they are noticing
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 10:11 PM
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Young men (high school and college aged) give attention to hot women. Either the popular girls they fantasies about, or through discussing which porn stars/movie stars or whatever prominent female figure is around that they find attractive and hot. If they DO find plain nerdy girls or plain janes attractive they aren’t making this known and the certainly aren’t giving them the same levels of attention. Women internalise this and aim to become hot women and yes even more promiscuous for some from…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 10:03 PM
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I think the point is to talk about the issue and your feelings so that you can start to take steps and action to finding a solution A lot of people become stuck in a non action phase and talking about it and understanding the issue, your feelings around it, and why you have those feelings helps get to the action part
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 09:54 PM
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Unless you were a plain woman or were very close with plain women it does but it’s fine I understand it doesn’t fit the narrative you want
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 09:49 PM
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And yet men are constantly saying women shouldn’t have any preference in work and it should all be on merit especially in STEM or high power positions
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 09:27 PM
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Young women aren’t all getting male attention this is a lie men tell eachother. Young plain Janes aren’t getting attention. Even if someone does like her he’s likely far to shy to say something to her so she never finds out. What she does see though is the popular girls getting attention even from the nerdy boys. Women see this and internalise it far more than men. That’s why women work at glowing up from a far earlier age then men
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 09:25 PM
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Women also grow up seeing men give hot women attention, weather it’s movie stars or models or even just the hot girls in school, and yes they give attention to promiscuous women too. Women internalise all of that. So if men stopped giving those women attention women would stop wanting to be like that it’s a cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 09:15 PM
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In what context? I’ve brought up children in a general sense when men say thy hate that women want someone who has good earning power or potential my usual reply was I always knew I wanted kids so I wanted to date people who I could realistically believe having a possible family one day wouldn’t leave us broke and struggling. In that context I don’t think it’s inappropriate but I’m sure some do make things weird
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 08:22 PM
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I think men believing that only 20% of men are attractive to women is ridiculous. The stats come from online dating which is already an incredibly superficial environment surely you know the reasons why it is so superficial and competitive. Women are outnumbered 3:1, men swipe on everyone or a high percentage, and if you are going to have a good chance of having a match as a woman on whoever you do swipe since men all swipe yes of course it’s going to be very superficial. Even when looking at ra…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 07:41 PM
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No one getting compliments even if exaggerated thinks they are as beautiful as a model: that doesn’t mean they can’t feel as good as they can about themselves and feel themselves. That’s what it’s about. And men on this post don’t seem to get it no Matter how many women tell it to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 11:32 AM
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I disagree in that when I see my husbands friends compliment each other they all clearly enjoy it. It doesn’t happen often but when it does they feel good. Men are humans and humans enjoy compliments. Feeling good about yourself gives you confidence and women constantly tell men that confidence is a highly attractive trait: so I don’t see how compliments wouldn’t help men when they give them to eachother.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 11:20 AM
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Based on a lot of the things men with self esteem issues here say they could certainly benefit from a big dose of self esteem and confidence, it might help them stop feeling so valueless and pathetic. If you don’t feel good about yourself you will never be able to make any one else feel good about you. Men who can only get validation or self worth from women have already lost the game, even if they ever get that it won’t be enough, it’s not what they need.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 11:06 AM
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None of that is relevant to my comment or what I replied to. He’s mad that women build eachother up but not men. Men can build eachother up and feel good about themselves even when they don’t have women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 10:39 AM
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Based on your post history no one has threatened you. Only you have threatened yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 10:05 AM
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Online dating makes everyone who actually wants to Meet a partner feel like shit. It’s superficial; that’s not what being desired feels like
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 03:57 AM
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Your friends are correct , I don’t want to be rude but placing all your self worth from how many likes you get isn’t healthy. Your friends likely understand you have mental issues and self esteem issues even if you hadn’t spoken about this with them it is often apparent. If you work on these issues it’s far more likely they would go out and be wing woman for you or even try to set you up
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 03:09 AM
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Have you got friends? If the answer is no, why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 02:49 AM
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Why should I? I generally like to give people the benefit of the doubt and not assume they are out to get me or others unless they say something that raises red flags. Saying you have a love for travel is far too general to raise a red flag. My husband and I both love travel. He’s been to twice as many countries as me, though I’ve been to 6 different countries. We haven’t had the opportunity to travel together (yet) due to covid, then having a baby, but we have plans on where we will be going as…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 02:29 AM
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First of all a lot of those men are single by choice- fucking people or in sotuationahips is still single. Next, under 30 is only about 13 years of being old enough to seriously date and a lot of those people don’t start till older And finally most divorced people go on to have more marriages or relationships
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 01:27 AM
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Based on what he’s posted in the past I think he has a decent enough life and more than enough success with women.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 01:09 AM
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The angriest voices are the loudest. For every woman complaining there will be 2 who are happy in their relationship. Just like for every man crying about how hard dating is there will be 2 men who are fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 12:31 AM
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Or maybe they want someone compatible with them. Some people like spending money going on vacations and some have never left their state let along their country. Personally I wouldn’t be compatible with someone who hasn’t travelled or who has no desire to.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/04/23 12:04 AM
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You will be sorely disappointed. Your social life is the problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 11:22 PM
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That’s a bad photo of him. He’s not unattractive. Maybe a 5
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 10:37 PM
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Temporary is fine. 1 year + is not. For longer stretches of unemployment it usually means there are some underlying issues, things like mental health or physical health issues preventing full time work, lack of opportunity in an area, or being unrealistic in expectations. All of these are things that happen and women are more likely to be forgiving of these if a relationship is already established and is healthy. If there is no established relationship and you are actively trying to date it’s go…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 10:36 PM
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You aren’t below average. If you are struggling it’s far more likely because you don’t have a social life, you are relying on apps to meet women, and you have no self esteem
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 10:03 PM
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It also improves women’s health care having the option Many women know someone who has risky pregnancies, ectopic pregnancies or pregnancies that weren’t viable Women in Texas in these situations are having their health jeopardised due to the no abortion law
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 09:50 PM
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You look for a few examples on YouTube and think that’s representative lol No
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 09:30 PM
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He had a handsome face when he was young, but I wouldn’t use the word hot to describe him even when he was young, mainly because of his height. But had I known him when he was young I would have told him he was handsome because that part is true, but handsome and hot are different just like in the lizzo example I would say she looked grogeous and beautiful but if someone asks me what a hot woman looks like I would give an example of someone such as Kendall Jenner or Dua lipa And like other women…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 09:20 PM
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Most women don’t have issues with finding partners they are attracted to, who they love, and who they make a family with ….at any age…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 09:04 PM
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Are you asking why Danny wouldn’t be beautiful in that outfit…it’s a woman’s outfit the lines and curves are tailored to accentuate her curves… Women are seen as beautiful more than men because beauty is probably a more feminine trait. This doesn’t mean you don’t ah e very good looking men but they are less likely to be described as beautiful (unless it’s a pretty boy) men are more likely to be described with words like “hot, rugged, built, handsome”
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 08:58 PM
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So why not men start building men up if that’s what you guys are needing? Why do you expect women to do it first?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 11:44 AM
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You can appreciate other peoples beauty or looks without wanting to switch bodies what is this goal post moving. That’s a poor argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 11:42 AM
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Looking for love 1997 also said they are genuine Compliments and so did another I think
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 11:37 AM
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Your welcome to that opinion. How about don’t be mean to people just because you don’t find them attractive? A lot of men would also agree she looked good. Also I don’t think she cares what you think, she isn’t going to cry about it. Being kind to people you don’t find attractive goes for women to men as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 11:33 AM
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Lizzo has a very beautiful face, her hair looks like it was done really nicely, and her outfit was cute. So yeah she looked good. Just because she’s fat you think she can’t look stunning?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 11:31 AM
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I don’t see why you think this is making a point? She did look good, if you Don’t agree that’s completely fine but a lot women and men would agree. Also the comment you’ve replied to was me saying people Aren’t saying people looks like models/kardashians when they don’t…and no where in that article did someone say she looks like a kardashian. The comments were sensational (which she did - look up the definition of sensational) and gorgeous which again she did.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 11:24 AM
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That’s your opinion but every woman whose comments has told you that’snot the case
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 11:20 AM
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The impression that they are better looking is vastly different from saying they are just as good looking as a specific person as your original Comment of Danny and George implied. For comments that it’s the impression, they are likely being complemented on their complete person not Only their looks and even their looks would be improved through the lens of Friendship. Just like average looking guys can become hot to the woman who loves him.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 11:14 AM
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Your bias is that you think women are lying to eachother but they aren’t and that’s where we keep going in the circle
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 11:08 AM
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Then that’s a you problem not understanding how women communicate with eachother. beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and beauty is subjective and encompasses more than one aspect of a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 10:50 AM
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No one is giving fake as compliments like that. No woman tells a woman who looks like Rosie O’Donnell that she looks just like a kardashian or Jenner. Be real. You can tell Someone they are beautiful and mean and and not mean that they look like a model.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 10:48 AM
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Why aren’t you believing me and the other women who have posted here then that most women aren’t saying things with ulterior motives? Most are giving true compliments, and building them up. The way you are interpreting the interaction between women seems to be different from what all of us have told you is going on
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 10:35 AM
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This
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 10:28 AM
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But that’s where our views differ, because women are not saying these things unless they mean it, and they mean as a whole person especially if it’s a friend or someone they know. And again Women aren’t taking being told these things to mean they look are good as models, but it is good to feel positive about yourself. And for the third time I ask you, why do you or other men have an issue with women building each other up and making them feel good? Why do you assume women are lying to eachother?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 10:27 AM
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You can call someone beautiful without having to clarify that you only mean inside or outside. Again women know this, and we also aren’t delusional that when we call eachother beautiful that it means we look as good as Kendal Jenner or Bella Hadid or whatever other model you want to insert. Beauty is subjective and if you can’t understand that women can see the beauty in other women, acknowledge this to eachother then that’s a you problem (or maybe a male problem?) Women build eachother up, and …
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 10:17 AM
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You aren’t. Being beautiful is also about how your personality is. That’s why they say beautiful inside and out. No one in the world looks “perfect” so that is another subjective word that can describe more than physical beauty but also internal. And words like gorgeous I think are used less but when they are used I think most women are tactful and might say something more like “your hair looks absolutely gorgeous tonight, and you are beautiful just as you are” Men really don’t like women buildi…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 09:57 AM
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It’s not to make yourself seem kindhearted…it because you actually do mean it. Men don’t get that.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 09:50 AM
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You can tell an average woman that they are perfect and gorgeous and mean it, because they usually understand that it’s talking about their whole self not just how they look. Women build eachother up, we try to let eachother know that how we look is only one aspect of ourselves, and you can be perfect as you are without looking like a model.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 09:43 AM
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Yes!! It literally brightens up your whole day.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 09:37 AM
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I love telling women I don’t know that I think their outfit or whatever is really cute (only if I really do), they always beam and it’s a nice feeling to give to others that smile
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 09:32 AM
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I’m not trying to detract but I’m saying that where it is prominent from what I’ve seen is reddit or manosphere, so when women in those settings are asked (especially on video) I think that by uniting and saying 10, they are kind of shutting it down in a way while also supporting eachother.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 09:26 AM
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I don’t think I’ve ever heard people rate people in real life. Only on reddit or on videos people here post of manosphere videos. Most people aren’t rating people, most people can tell when someone is beautiful or ugly but most people know attraction is far more than looks.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 09:19 AM
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Meh I also think it’s a good way to get people to stop rating people on a subjective scale than eliminates most of of the things that make a person attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 09:10 AM
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Many of the women here have similar backgrounds, a lot of guys here are jealous they can’t get sex and want to believe that it’s over for women who could as a revenge fantasy
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 08:47 AM
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Damn would be perfect since it’s basically hey whore backwards 😳😂 When I read a book with a Spanish guy as the love interest his name was Alejandro. Miguel also sounds like he has a good body with nice hair and sand stuck to him as he walks away from the beach 😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 08:46 AM
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Jorge?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 08:30 AM
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It was so bizarre. I had a c section, but was shocked at how tight it became. Yeah if you have a healthy relationship even if sex isn’t as consistent it’s still going to be regular, and you will still have intimacy and love when you don’t have sex
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 06:11 AM
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I agree with that but doesn’t mean that 7.25 or 15 means you are doing anything other than surviving
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 05:26 AM
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A lot of people are not not living they are merely surviving
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 05:20 AM
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Before baby sex was probably 4-5x a week then after baby for first few months we couldn’t actually get it in, for some reason I was tighter than whe I was a virgin, and we had to really work with for play to be able to get it in, and then for first 6m of baby life we were probably doing it 3-4 time a month on a good month. We were either too tired, or had baby not being asleep when we were both rested and not working. Baby is around 18 months now and sex life is back to how it was before baby ca…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/04/23 04:57 AM
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I do agree that we need a society the rewards being functional and also having a family. I think the erosion of the middle class though is what has gone wrong. As for criminals having more children that’s always been the case and the women having children with criminals aren’t functional themselves (usually)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 10:12 PM
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Do you think everyone should get to reproduce/have a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 09:25 PM
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Give a massage if sore, bring coffee and breakfast in the morning before work especially if not living together, bring a chocolate bar home with you for them, fix something around the house if you see it needs fixing; take on a weekend getaway somewhere
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 09:47 AM
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Yeah you are spot on. The sad things is though that the black pill rhetoric can really be mentally damaging even to men who aren’t autistic or who aren’t (yet) socially awkward or recluse.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 03:35 AM
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True. And true for women as well.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 02:25 AM
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100% agree which is why when they say women gaslight that looks aren’t the most important they are literally keeping themselves where they are. I think they know but don’t want to admit it’s due to things they can have control over.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 02:24 AM
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It’s not gaslighting to say it’s not someone’s looks that’s the issues when they clearly have mental health issues, and have admitted to not having any friends or social life. It’s gaslighting of bps to circle jerk eachother into thinking it’s just their looks and make themselves feel uglier than they are
/r/PurplePillDebate28/04/23 02:08 AM
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Actually it’s frustrating you said this. You guys gaslight eachother into thinking you are ugly and hopeless Have a look at his posts. He has said he has no friends, can’t speak the language (German) in Austria, and he goes from being suicidal one day to obsessed with a girl he didn’t even date more than 3 years ago, and you think the issue is his looks? Nah, he is average looking he looks good enough it’s all the other issues he has.
/r/AllPillDebate27/04/23 08:08 PM
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Well yeah that’s a problem I was saying though that we should be encouraging trades
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 07:00 PM
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He’s not ugly did you even look at his pics
/r/AllPillDebate27/04/23 06:59 PM
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Eggplant pasta (pasta alla Norma)for dinner 🤌🏻 Rugby on White wine Baby in bed Not a bad Thursday night
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 11:04 AM
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Well obviously, I’m saying take similar photos with those things. Make yourself look social and fun because you aren’t ugly but those photos are generic and a bit boring. If you reply that chad can have generic and boring photos you already know you aren’t chad.
/r/AllPillDebate27/04/23 06:49 AM
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Having a professional take the photo doesn’t mean you have taken a good photo for online dating. For an autobiography or professional photo sure. Your photo on the boat was better but could have been enhanced if you say had another photo same scene but with friends and maybe a beer - this seems like you are fun. Anyway the point was to market something well it doesn’t only need a good photo it also needs to have the right message being sent. Example- to market a hamburger companies don’t only gi…
/r/AllPillDebate27/04/23 06:28 AM
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You aren’t ugly, you don’t take good photos or pose well and I believe this is feedback you’ve been given in your posts. I also don’t know how the country you are in is in relation to foreign sounding names but I know in some countries putting a stage name (white name) has helped some men. Not being ugly doesn’t mean that you will get matches. Generally the men who get matches are more than average looking they are hot OR they are average but take very good photos and are able to market themselv…
/r/AllPillDebate27/04/23 05:50 AM
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You aren’t ugly, you do seem mentally unstable though, highly insecure and dramatic. I don’t mean that in a mean way either it’s just based on your posts. You say you’ve been self improving and don’t want therapy but if you’ve been self improving the goal is no not be unstable/insecure and dramatic, so you may still have work to do
/r/AllPillDebate27/04/23 04:44 AM
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That’s not healthy for you. I hope you’ve at least agreed to a timeline that stipulates exactly when she will leave or when you will leave
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 04:11 AM
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Why are you stuck living with her, that can’t be healthy
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/23 02:52 AM
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You don’t need an education to do well, our world actually needs more tradies and where I am they are paid very well often more than most professionals (barring top lawyers or doctors)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 10:16 PM
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For real
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 07:46 AM
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Ok well you can’t improve on your penis size and if you meant you are trying to gloat about your penis size it’s a weird thing to gloat about. Men are more interested in penis size than women provided it’s not below average and provided there is no ED.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 03:50 AM
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I’m a bit confused as to why you are interested in his size? Also size doesn’t coorelate with height or weight there are men who are 6 foot tall with micropenis or below average penises. I’m 5’5 and he’s 6’1
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 03:39 AM
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I don’t know we haven’t measured it and don’t plan to, his erection wasn’t smaller than normal just 8/10 compared to what he normally is. I think you might be focusing on penis size as the limiting factor which it wasn’t. It was that he couldn’t move out of the lying down on his back Position.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 03:09 AM
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8/10 so pretty good
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 03:05 AM
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👏
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 01:40 AM
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Maybe one of the only comments of yours that I thought: yeah true
/r/PurplePillDebate26/04/23 12:27 AM
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Had very good drunk sex. Husband was too drunk to change his position from lying down face up. Decided to ride his face while holding on to the headboard. When I was done with that I got off him told him he wasn’t done yet then got back on him but facing the other way so that we could 69. His pussy eating skills were still on point despite him not being able to move. Once that was done, got into reverse cowgirl something that feels amazing for me but I’m usually too self conscious to do (thank y…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 11:59 PM
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Link?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 08:41 PM
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I prefer it to husband / wife
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 10:58 AM
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I’m not giving you negative energy. I do think that you are young (I think I’ve seen you mention before you were something like 21-23?) and that as a woman and as someone who has a relationship you are already more likely to be someone who is reasonable/ can be open to reflecting on your words (even if it’s not right this second) than a lot of the guys here who are socially isolated, and have mental health issues or conditions. Commenting on something you say around an issue that could cause har…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 06:29 AM
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I’m not trying to change your preferences, just asking you to be mindful of what you are sayingZ When men are saying things like roast beef lips or loose vaginas that’s much closer to when women are saying small dick or micro penis. Both comments are rude and unwarranted and unnecessary. Circumcising is a different field and would be closer related to FGM as that is the equivalent and I assure you if any man was saying he preferred vaginas that have had FGM done to them I would certainly say som…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 06:13 AM
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You have said you find them visually unappealing which means to you they are ugly and you are broadcasting that without saying those exact words. It’s like if you think that it’s fine but it doesn’t need to be said because it is harmful. Men also shouldn’t be talking about women’s genitals and how they look. Have your preference sure but saying anything about it is unneeded especially when it comes to mutilation. Even earlier you told a guy he is able to have a preference for a circumcised vagin…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 06:01 AM
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Now there ARE some ugly looking dicks and vaginas but saying all uncircumcised dicks are ugly when you have maybe seen a couple In porn or on Google images which neither are representative, and when the topic is around literally mutilating a genital is harmful discourse and you could try having more respect/tact. It’s 100% ok to want a dick you think looks nice, just like men can want someone without large labia and women can want men who don’t have micropenises. All valid. But saying that every…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 05:50 AM
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I do too and I’m telling you you don’t ever need to pull it back lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 05:47 AM
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Not accurate. You can’t tell when it’s erect. And you aren’t pulling it back when it’s soft lol
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 05:44 AM
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I’m Catholic too and it’s not as important in Catholicism as you may believe. What has been keeping this tradition alive though is men wanting their sons penises to look like their own. I’m not judging you but it does sadden me that the USA still think It’s ok to mutilate babies like that.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 04:11 AM
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You don’t care though that it’s removing a part of the genital that gives guys pleasure? And that it can cause issues for men? I understand it’s weird if you haven’t seen one that’s uncut in person and everyone around you is cut but you really would do that to your future son?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 04:03 AM
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You likely wouldn’t be able to tell when it’s erect. If you move out of the USA it’s uncommon. I prefer it uncut now. Wouldn’t do that to my son either it’s pretty awful that parents still do this.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 03:54 AM
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You need a diffuser and heat cream
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 02:45 AM
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That and taxidermy I image are hard professions to date with
/r/PurplePillDebate25/04/23 02:41 AM
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80% of babies are born to women under 35. At 35 the risk is 1 in 400. That’s a 0.0025% chance of it happening. It’s very rare and again most babies with Down syndrome are born to younger mothers.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 03:42 AM
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Would you want your daughter marrying a 27 year old at 16?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 01:22 AM
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We’ve never argued in my relationship, we have kids and all. We’ve disagreed sure and annoyed each other but have never said things we regret, never yelled, and never had any type of fight
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/23 01:21 AM
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Factually incorrect. The risk is not double, and it also doesn’t start until close to 40
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 10:33 PM
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Factually incorrect. The risk is not double, and it also doesn’t start until close to 40
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 10:33 PM
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No lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 10:12 PM
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It’s also possible that it was nothing to do with you, she might just not have been feeling it for no particular reason, or maybe she felt like she was connecting with someone else more. Sounds like main character syndrome to assume you were the reason
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 10:05 PM
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Lol a lot I’m sure they be out there matching with eachother and stroking each others ego
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 10:01 PM
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I disagree having a child is a huge responsibility and not many 24 year olds are ready for that I am glad we have the choice to travel or school or career first
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 08:15 PM
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It does mean something because most people are having children at that point. The worse our COL becomes though this more this will probably raise
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 11:20 AM
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Most people have there first child around 28.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 11:06 AM
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Maybe before modern medicine. 30 is fine to have children. Most people have there first at 28. With modern medicine and no family wealth most people couldn’t afford to have kids early 20s. The ones who do are far more likely struggle with poverty for the rest of their life
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 11:05 AM
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30 is not old to have your first kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/04/23 10:38 AM
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I disagree that unattractive people are low price. Your value isn’t determined on your looks or beauty. It makes things easier yes no one being honest will say otherwise. But life is long, beauty isn’t enough to have a happy relationship. This is why people as they mature stop valuing looks as much they want someone they get along with. Life is also better around people who bring joy to you, this is why assertive kind and funny people get what they want - even if they aren’t attractive just well…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 09:59 PM
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Anyone who’s believed that hasn’t had their eyes open, if looks didn’t matter we wouldn’t have an obsession with beauty. People wouldn’t flock to attractive people. Looks DO matter, they just don’t matter AS MUCH as some people here say
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 09:29 PM
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You must not live in a western country. Most places are around the same but most places and people Aren’t jaded
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 03:38 PM
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You don’t speak for all men. Most men understand exactly why women want productive men and most men want productive women right back
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 03:36 PM
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It’s not comparable because breast implants dont serve a purpose to improve standard of living only subjective attractiveness It’s easy enough to find men who don’t like fake tits. In your comparison a man can just find a woman who doesn’t care about you being broke.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 02:16 PM
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I didn’t say they don’t. But why would it be offensive? It’s understandable why someone would want to date someone whose productive and can sustain themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 01:37 PM
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In sickness and health you are already married. If you lose your money or health it’s different you’ve already made that committed The post was about to start dating. Why is it reasonable to expect that type of commitment that early? People want to have that type of Commitment with someone they can trust to build a home with. A husband or wife Being down on luck is more a symptom not a feature assuming they weren’t like that before.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 12:15 PM
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Except most guys are unsuccessful because of things they can control Very very few people are truly ugly enough to not be able to compensate with other attributes namely personality which includes confidence and social skills. Saying otherwise is a story they tell themselves to feel better about themselves
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 12:06 PM
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Do whatever you think is going to make you happy. Assuming a marriage is going to end in divorce is asking it to end.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 11:55 AM
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You do you, but most people rely on dual income households to have a decent standard of living.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 11:39 AM
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It’s made me more confused.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 11:19 AM
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Why would it be offensive…it’s part of being an adult. No one want to date a broke as person- this includes most men not wanting to date broke women. Life is expensive, minimum wage aint gonna buy you a good life and you certainly won’t be able to have a thriving family
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 10:37 AM
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Makes your home feel cozy and relaxing when you are surrounded by things you love
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/23 06:14 AM
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It’s usually a combination of all 3. It’s easier for them to blame looks and other things than take a second to really understand it’s not only their looks it’s everything else too. They don’t want to work on it because there isn’t a guarantee that working on it will give them what they want, it might take too long, and they talk themselves out of it by circling back to looks
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 10:48 PM
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Sounds like an even exchange to me if he doesn’t like the woman’s company but doesn’t want to be lonely or sexless why shouldn’t she use his resources? In this scenario they are both using eachother so it’s equal
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 10:41 PM
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This is me, except I still look good in photos but look better in person
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 06:26 AM
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Was this a couple years ago? Or was there a recent one
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 04:39 AM
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For some reason I thought it was going to be a truck
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 04:33 AM
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Yep once you are in a relationship with a good person a lot of the stuff said in trp spheres seems silly and unnecessary
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 04:27 AM
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Tokyo
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 01:18 AM
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Depends. I’m friend with the guy I lost my virginity to. He’s my best friends brother so he isn’t exactly going to disappear. We live in different countries though, and are both married. We were never in a relationships though. Purely platonic relationship and we aren’t chatting/commenting beyond an occasional congratulations of life’s milestones. On the other hand I’m not friends with any of my past relationships. I would find that weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 11:37 PM
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Surely you know the percentage of women who are successful on OF? Majority of accounts make less than $145 a month. You are talking about 1% earners.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 11:35 PM
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My remark was more sarcastic in op saying women can *easily move up social classes by not being fat
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 10:58 PM
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They don’t need to. Again it’s a man’s world, men are far more likely to be hired for high paying jobs than women, be hired over a married woman or woman with children (even with the “quotas” men here whine about) Men who don’t have good Jobs it’s like why? All you had to do was pick something and work to it. Minimum wage men make no sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 10:41 PM
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Lifting weights helps you lose weight quicker and changes the shape of your body When you exercise cardio is good for improving for blood flow/ heart efficiency and also burns more calories during the workout that’s strength training but with strength training you burn more calories when resting for the next 36 hours and your body also makes changes such as more muscle mass Doing both is good but the most important is doing what you Like. Some people hate cardio some hate lifting. Start with wha…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 10:15 PM
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Imagine being a man and not being able To secure or have a good job. Men are payed more and also have stronger bodies they could do any physical job make bank or they could get into a number of well Paying fields. Imagine being a man who can’t do anything but play video games and complain about his lack of Options in life..in a man’s world
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 10:04 PM
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They probably do wear things like short skirts or shorts and cute tops that shoe cleavage fit family functions yes No one wears club wear if you aren’t going to the club but for ops post he’s asking her to change the way she dresses not just an outfit once
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 08:42 PM
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Asking a man to change his tie is different from asking your partner to change their complete style if they had been consistently dressing sexy
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 08:09 PM
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That’s good you say that but he might not actually know and if you don’t know either can’t really hold it against him. I think you should be thankful you have someone empathetic to your frustrations.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 01:45 AM
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It’s very easy to look at your phone and comment when you work from home, or work at a desk. Also I think it’s a good thing older people comment a lot, it’s usually the young people making posts and it prevents it from becoming a circle jerk because they all lack life experience hopefully reduces some of the negativity when you have older and experienced people giving them hope
/r/PurplePillDebate20/04/23 12:42 AM
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They had a demographic poll in Jan pretty sure you can find the data if you search old posts. I can’t remember it exactly but I think around 75% of users were men 18-21? Also a lot of the older people (not sure what you are considering old) spend time on here while also working their jobs and stuff so touching grass at the same time lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 11:55 PM
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You won’t be able to reason with them
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 11:19 PM
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It doesn’t sound like your height is the issue sounds like it’s self esteem issues, lack of a social life and possibly social skills, and also resentment at imaginary scenarios against people you do not know Also most men who are I. Love aren’t avoiding marriage. It’s men who have no love who spout on about not getting married. Many don’t have love to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 11:17 PM
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The only times it is if the person you are taking out your insecurity on has broken your trust previously It’s unfair to impose your insecurities on people who have not broken your trust even if other people have.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 11:15 PM
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I agree on that but also people who do act out on their insecurities are generally seen as undesirable because those feelings don’t usually go away unless they work on the issue themself. Of often manifests as controlling behaviour or a different “negative” behaviour
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 10:24 PM
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Exactly, it’s not hard to understand why some of these guys have these beliefs due to their world experience But just remember that if you stay here
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 10:19 PM
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I think the issue is acting on insecurities not having them
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 10:18 PM
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While I agree with why you could feel insecure the way society is and also Liked your insight on thoughts around things buying a big truck etc and how that may be perceived based on your body rather than if you just like it or not I don’t agree that having a woman fill your security space is good because then you are one thoughtless comment away or one bad thought (say you decide to compare yourself to her ex’s who are tall) away from being insecure and *acting on the insecurity. You are right m…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 10:14 PM
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2 options for these men if they are serious about finding love and companionship Don’t be a low value man Stop judging her when she is ready to settle down Something tells me though they dislike the options that they have control over
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 10:05 PM
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Sounds like you Could be communicating poorly. Why not follow up your vent with “what do you think I should do?” Or “can you see any solutions available to me” And you can also just give him a hug and say “thank you for the hug but I need solutions. Any suggestions?”
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 10:02 PM
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That’s the source where all these men got 80/20 from lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 08:52 PM
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Yeah having autism doesn’t mean you are hateful. I think the risk to internalise these messages is present for anyone but I think autistic people are possibly at more risk if they also are more socially isolated or if they are bullied I’m glad your brother hasn’t joined this community I don’t even want my siblings here and they are NT
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 08:44 PM
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Most the men here are either 18, autistic or virgins because of bad social skills (or a combination of all 3) They know fuxk all about love so don’t let it get to you
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 08:18 PM
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How has anime motivated yoi
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 11:45 AM
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I think it’s intended to work like that but it can also lower your confidence repeating this. You are repeating the message that you are undesirable to yourself. You gotta switch that
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 05:25 AM
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Yeah confidence is a big part of social skills though because it allows your to talk to people. No point in being good at talking if you can’t go up and talk to women because of your confidence You are one of the “louder” voices here in the amount you post and you detailing your virginity haha which is why I comment a lot, I do want to “see”you try. When are you going to go out and give it a shot? Go out Friday night, talk to women, and see what happens
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 05:05 AM
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I get that, but again only one way to shake it off. Don’t want for women to go to you go to them. Shake off rejection, and just have fun. If you are drinking you should have more confidence and be less overthinking anyway. Ask women if they want to have a drink when you are close to the bar then dance a bit or chat a bit and then make a move to make out of the chat is going well (this is where you are looking for signs of interest NOT before you’ve interacted) I think this does show though that …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 02:32 AM
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Ah ok so that’s part of the issue because you’ve been saying you had good social skills but maybe not as good as you’ve implied. Yeah going up and saying that is fine I would recommend asking if she wants to Get a drink as well and then obviously paying for the drink. Only buy 1 and make sure you are chatting and dancing and vibing before buying more
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 02:12 AM
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Nah I’m not that much older than you only a few years and so is my man. People our age are fine with you approaching as long as you do It smoothly and if you get rejected move on. I’m concerned you are making excuses to save your pride from taking a rejection irl. It can take 10 nos but if you get the 1 yes who cares?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/23 12:31 AM
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Warm and welcoming never give the guy an in to Potentially isolate her from you
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 10:17 PM
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I’ve said this too. Men who get women are men who go are not Passive waiting for signs of Interest (except maybe reallly hot guys can)
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 10:15 PM
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You can tell men who struggle Don’t like talking to women and aren’t interested in them beyond sex. People Who are interested in people receive interest back to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 10:00 PM
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Sounds like you are dating a good person and that’s great. What you are describing is exactly what dating was like for me when I met my man.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 09:04 PM
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That source you’ve used is not showing a complete picture. It says the amounts in 2020 were dropped (hello Covid) and also of the total population is not a good stat to use because when you use it from just women 1 in 6 women will be raped or attempted to be raped https://www.rainn.org/statistics/scope-problem 1 in 6 women is a huge problem But besides making this the victim Olympics paternity fraud doesn’t happen anywhere near that
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 09:01 PM
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I don’t thing government should waste money on it for such a small percentage. Would much rather the money be used elsewhere, and I don’t care if men want to get paternity tests that’s on them But for it happening so infrequently it’s not surprising that women would be offended if you are married and ask for one when there has been no reason to think she would be in that 1_3%
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 08:54 PM
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Yeah that’s a good point too.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 10:21 AM
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I doubt it’s more than 3% Most women don’t cheat on their husbands and get pregnant. Most new couples with accidental pregnancies would test anyway because it’s a new relationship Hard to say the costs but it would take a huge expansion of laboratory equipment, staff and facilities for one. Hospitals already have to wait for tests in order of priority and times are blown out, testing every birth and the father and the mother would add huge pressures to health systems which are already underfunde…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 10:20 AM
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And all for the good of stopping 1-5% of new fathers from experiencing paternity fraud
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 09:53 AM
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That 1% would not justify the 99% of testa done for nothing
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 09:40 AM
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Exactly. The extra burden of testing for everyone when it happens maybe 1-3% of the time, as well as the burden of single parent payments and other social support. It’s crazy so many men are deathly afraid of this when it’s such a rare thing to happen
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 09:15 AM
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So it doesn’t happen and your comment was irrelevant
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 07:43 AM
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Uhm what? Where did I say that and no western country chops of a child’s testicles.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 06:58 AM
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Just the grocery store.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 05:24 AM
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I mean I do love spice But yeah my fingers are tingling still from chopping
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 05:17 AM
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Just subbed 2 red mini chilles for a jalapeño in a recipe. Wonder how hot this is gonna be
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 04:45 AM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 03:41 AM
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You are welcome to think that but I highly doubt any government in my country would see the benefit of this. Men in my country and mostly doing ok. There are more than 333,000 women then men in my country, and it’s women who are more at risk of being single or never married in their forties.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 03:10 AM
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They are gutting some services yes but it would be political suicide for any of the major political parties to rock the boat too much and try to change too quickly from a somewhat socialist country The point though for this post is that with different services already being gutted they aren’t going to add paternity testing for 0 roi when they are already “broke”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 02:51 AM
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Except the social programs we have actually has a net benefit to governments. Subsidised education- better trained work force, subsidised health care - healthier working Populations, subsidised housing for those who need it- more children growing up in more stable homes with better educational and career outcomes Paternity testing- a few men vindicated? Nah fam that math doesn’t add up.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 02:28 AM
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Depends on the country, in my country the issues I listed are a government concern, we have social benefits and they cost money, and we are experiencing brain drain with people leaving since can’t afford to live so huge teacher /nurse etc. shortages
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 02:19 AM
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Because most governments are already struggling to pay for other social programs including healthcare. Most countries continue to gut out services because of the cost. There isn’t a good ROI for a government to pay for a paternity test. And again it happens infrequently. In a world with a COL crisis, housing affordability crisis, stagnating wages and inflation, essential worker shortages, paternity testing would be dead ass last in government spending.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:57 AM
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You seem to imply r word should be allowed quite frequently
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 01:09 AM
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Most countries (west) give free Or subsidised healthcare, why would the government of these countries want to pay for this when paternity fraud is such a small percentage
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 12:43 AM
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If you buy a house together there is one team not two individuals
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 12:02 AM
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Same hours- not try to increase standard of living by buying more useless crap, let’s save the extra money or use it to invest in EFT’s or a house deposit Different hours- (me more hours and more money) try to do more housework or cooking so that when I’m home don’t need to worry
/r/PurplePillDebate18/04/23 12:00 AM
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If you do that you are always going to Be passive. Life happens to you. You are a victim of circumstance. (I mean you as in general because this is true of anyone who is passive) Try being more assertive, open yourself up to rejection, if it happens move on don’t sweat it and try again. I bet you will have more results. Also if you are out at a club and you Look like you are having fun and chatting to random people by you you will be a lot of lucky in meeting people than if you stand on the side…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 11:08 PM
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Most men I’ve ever danced with or for with from a club or party I didn’t notice until they came up to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 10:52 PM
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A lot of people Aren’t good enough with how they are presenting themselves and living their life but that doesn’t mean they can’t be good enough or that they have no Value as a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 10:44 PM
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Yeah and a nice hair cut
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 10:32 PM
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Why mention the world stalking at all??
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 10:23 PM
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You didn’t approach any women.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 10:21 PM
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If that’s what you want to take from it Why does not having a set time frame make it hopeless?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 08:47 AM
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There is no help that can be given with a guarantee time frame that’s what men don’t seem to get.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 08:34 AM
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It takes more than a healthy mindset unfortunately But a good starting point would be: feeling good about yourself and being interested in people, being kind to yourself and others, willing to put yourself out there meet new people try new things and not taking rejection personally and not letting it impact your next endeavour
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 08:23 AM
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My partner paid for his ex to relocate overseas with him and paid the rent while they lived together. We’ve struggled at times. Things change. I don’t mind a bit, his relationship with his ex is completely different to mine and I’m confident in how he feels for me I have 0 doubts and I am happy and that’s what is important
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 06:05 AM
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You can say no to sexual acts, with a man though penetration is nearly always expected
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 06:03 AM
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I would 100% sleep with the ugly woman vs the ugly man. This is assuming it’s a “hookup” and you don’t know the person. I think lesbian sex would be way less intrusive and that’s why women would rather that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 04:58 AM
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I’m a woman but cool good luck and have fun
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 04:56 AM
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Cause I mean really old women. Or old and fat. Assuming you are young they can’t just go and find a young man if they are ugly despite what men here think Think the news stories about 80 year old women with 20 year old boys The gross stories
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 04:56 AM
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I lived with roommates and had a blast when I was single. And yea it can be way cheaper. Also being smart with grocery shopping and other expenses but eod you can live in a cheap place but probably less things to do and less people to meet
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 04:49 AM
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Yep I live HCOL area too I know. But still young once. Goal is to meet someone, get close keep progressing and then if you can go somewhere else together
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 04:46 AM
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Probably not the best places for really specific groups to get from men or women who don’t know that experience advice then, probably best from other people in the same group ?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 04:44 AM
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I hear New York is good. I would prefer LA it’s warmer but depends on what you Like I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 04:41 AM
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Yes you are only young once
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 04:33 AM
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The only way I could think of a man doing this is to “fall in love” with a rich older woman Be her boy toy for treats
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 04:30 AM
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Very true I nearly commented this lol
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 04:21 AM
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I see lower you standards to mean physically
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 01:28 AM
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Eh idk I can’t and won’t judge your relationship on this limited information but as long as you aren’t expecting him to spend money on you you just want to be shown in some way that you are special to Him you should talk to Him about this before this resentment grows
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/23 12:39 AM
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Yeah it’s really sad that porn is what men think women want. A big part of that on the USA though is lack of good sex education. A good sex education would tell men and women of the dangers of pornography and how it’s not real
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 11:59 PM
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I think you resenting that could say more about yourself than him..sounds like he doesn’t have the same amount of money; how can you resent him for that?
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 11:56 PM
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You don’t want a ltr
/r/AllPillDebate16/04/23 10:32 PM
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True, but when the risk of drama could be your physical safety, or could be too uncomfortable for yourself if it’s someone you aren’t going to see again why bother? I feel like guys can ask for feedback while it’s happening if they want it. Things like “does this feel good?” “Show me how you want me to touch you” “what do you want me to do to you” are all acceptable questions during sex and forplay Also if a guy can’t tell if a woman is enjoying it then he probably isn’t paying attention anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 10:12 PM
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If he had more money then I don’t know why you would feel jealous or resentment. It’s normal to spend more if you have more.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 10:09 PM
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I didn’t get it until I went and watched it in theatre and omg it does things to a woman (many women but I’m sure not all) It shows heavy flirtation, sexy bodies and it’s erotic because there is a lottttttt of buildup which is how women’s sexuality works
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 10:04 PM
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A lot of guys don’t care and a lot of guys don’t respond well to “feedback” they sulk and get insecure
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 09:30 PM
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True
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 09:15 PM
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Someone told me that this could be the last chance to expand. Population is aging and decreasing will never have same amount of healthy young men to be soldiers again and that if they don’t expand they could get left behind on the global marker because all they have is gas / diamonds and both resources are potentially going to be used less as the world becomes more sustainable and green Ukraine produces a fair bit and would allow them to have that as well as they don’t want the UN surrounding th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 09:09 PM
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If your relationship is that unstable you should break up. Long term it’s probably not going to work anyway if you have had these feelings
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 08:59 PM
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It’s about desirability. Even if weight is controllable and height isn’t, a lack of height and being fat are both generally undesirable physical traits. You have exceptions on both sides for people who don’t mind, but since they are generally undesirable traits the people who have traits that are more desirable (healthy weight/tall) tend to have more options.
/r/MensRights16/04/23 10:34 AM
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Single women can’t adopt either.
/r/MensRights16/04/23 10:29 AM
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Exactly, anyone remember Harvey spectre form suits 😍😍 even Mike from suits - hey look at that an example Of an average looking guy who looks great when cleaned up well (Harvey is above average tho)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 09:12 AM
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I agree a lot of people act like overgrown children but in my experience more men I know are more child like. Saying a woman is a year younger than a man’s development because she wants to be provided for is baseless. That’s a gender expectation that has become romanticised. A lot of men I know are like children because they want Instant gratification, dislike hard work especially domestic work, can’t take no for an answer, are jealous, and can’t find the words to talk about what’s bothering the…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 09:11 AM
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Has a job, has friends, is kind, shares an interest with you, has similar life goals
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 09:03 AM
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Most are. That’s why critical reviews and literature reviews are necessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 08:58 AM
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A lot of people were unhappy with their exes maybe that’s the point
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 06:23 AM
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He can and should break up with her f he feels they are incompatible sexually
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 06:22 AM
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I went to 3 grocery stores to save money One the plus side I got so much food for 217 If I went to the big chain only would have been at least 400
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 04:52 AM
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Yes, she could be trying to see if you are a fuck boy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 03:37 AM
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“Not really, I was focusing on my career, my friends and family, and on doing things I love”
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 03:09 AM
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If she was unhappy with the frequency or enthusiasm he does it and it was something that’s important to her she shouldn’t have married him If she’s happy and then finds out what does it matter because she is happy
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 03:03 AM
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When you say you work out a lot are you pretty toned then with muscle definition? (Not talking sterilised/body builder levels) A lot of guys who aren’t over weight think they should be with a non overweight person as well but yeah I think since most people are overweight the women who aren’t have more options and if an attractive guy values someone for not being overweight he might end up with a woman with nice body and average face which might be what you think your looks match is but because g…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 02:49 AM
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What do you think is your looksmatch
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 02:28 AM
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And the parents keeping the child when they don’t have a stable home leads to broken homes and trauma. Men’s financial aspects have nothing to do with abortion they are two seperate issues. Abortion allows women to choose what happens with their bodies, and choosing to not let their body undergo pregnancy for financial reasons is a valid option.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 01:50 AM
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I think having an abortion if you aren’t ready to be a parent, or can’t financially afford the child is taking responsibility. Adoption is not a good enough alternative because most women can’t give up their baby after going through the hormones of pregnancy and birth, and most people aren’t going to risk their body and health for a pregnancy if they can have an abortion early enough.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 01:17 AM
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How would you know that your wife had sex “everyday”. Even if she said this it could have been an exaggeration. Also in college she’s probably younger and more energy and less going on. She could have been skipping her lectures and tutorials. No job etc. If you are happy with your relationship why does it matter? If you aren’t happy then that’s the issue not how much sex she had in college with someone else.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 01:13 AM
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A lot of men are yes. Based on the replies on this thread it’s mainly men who make comparisons and allow that to ruin their happiness
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 12:47 AM
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No it doesn’t because there are infinite reasons why Simone changes their behaviour and you making shallow judgments without knowing the who story shows you to be shallow If you don’t feel like your partner is making you feel special then leave. If your Partner does make you feel special and then you still go and compare and create issues on your own head about you feeling like your not the MOST special because of your comparison and not how you are actually feeling in the relationship then you …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 12:46 AM
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Then it’s up to her to leave him if she isn’t happy. He could have his reasons and that’s fine. His reasons could be he doesn’t like the way she tastes or smells, if that’s the case neither of them should be together. If it’s because he never enjoyed doing it and decided he doesn’t want to do it again then that’s valid and she will respect that or just LEAVE HIM and find someone who will do it and enjoy it
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 12:09 AM
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He could be trying to save money now, he could have been going anyway and just brought her along, he might have found crazy good deals. Any of these are valid reasons and it I’m not happy with cheap dinner dates then I should just leave him and find someone else Comparison is the thief of joy. I wouldn’t have enough details to know why he went to Paris and hoe is finances were then and now Ultimately if I feel like I am not being treated well that’s on me to leave Women are far more mature in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/04/23 12:06 AM
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We all have to grow up sometime
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:30 PM
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Ok yeah a good haircut really can clean someone right up though
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:24 PM
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Exactly If it was a sexual act who cares what he did before he may no longer like that act and I Don’t wanna do something with someone who doesn’t wanna do it. If he doesn’t like it but I want it that’s fine it’s an incompatibility and we can break up If it’s him spending lots of money again it’s like have you decided to save and be more financially responsible? Great I’m on board, because of you are my bf you are making me feel special in one way or another this could include gifts or thoughtfu…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:20 PM
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Are you trolling lol
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:12 PM
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Depend what and why You’ve left it too vague
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 11:01 PM
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Seems to have worked out well for women
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 10:47 PM
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✅
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:35 PM
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Link the comment because I’ve seen her say looks are important before
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:59 AM
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Physical attraction matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:53 AM
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Cringe
/r/MensRights15/04/23 09:46 AM
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You disregarded the point but whatever Not gonna happen dude get over it try becoming more attractive that might help
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:44 AM
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Because unenjoyable sex is painful physically and mentally So no
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:40 AM
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Why would they if they don’t want sex with someone they aren’t attracted to it’s not going to be enjoyable
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:25 AM
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No…..it gives you matches from people who use the app and who are around you I know more people who have found relationships on hinge than any other app
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 09:16 AM
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What does Facebook have to do with hinge
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/23 08:07 AM
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This is why people dislike this type of outfit though it could literally be anyone under there
/r/MensRights14/04/23 09:32 PM
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True. I was crying laughing with my boyfriend over a poorly written article I was reading out loud. In hindsight probably wasn’t that funny but we were making it funnier by being together and both feeding off each other
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 07:19 PM
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This is probably true Enough rejection is the key there
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 07:17 PM
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It doesn’t. You need fat but you don’t need to be overweight or obese (nor should you be for health)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 12:59 AM
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Healthy weight women date whoever they want (mix of average /above average men) but by and large it’s not the men here which is why they are complaining
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 12:54 AM
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Men here complain that healthy weight women don’t want them and that they don’t want someone overweight or obese
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/23 12:19 AM
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They do not call men beta or alpha lol That’s a red pill term. Normal people aren’t calling anybody alpha or beta unironically Anyone who does so in public is probably seen as a loser
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 10:36 PM
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Women don’t call men alpha
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 10:19 PM
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The casual sex market maybe depending On the women he goes for but not the dating market
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 09:42 AM
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Mmmm kimchee scrambled eggs 🤤
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 04:17 AM
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Not bad advice. I was listening to YouTube music the other day and an Indian music video came on and the two singers I found very attractive in the video Swoopna suman and samir shrestha I Shazammed them lol. But yea they had an unconventional exotic look
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 02:58 AM
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Sounds like what women do. Welcome to the club
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 02:43 AM
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Most women aren’t having casual sex. You are using online dating 80/20 statistic which is for online dating matches based on an old ok Cupid study. And we come back around to if men want to have casual sex because they feel they need to they need to have a social circle and skills.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 02:34 AM
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Of course. Just like being autistic, having a deformity, any physical or mental disability, or being below average looking yes of course this will make it harder especially in a western country.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 02:30 AM
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Ok so still haven’t been held back due to your height.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 02:28 AM
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Because action figures are seen as childish, take up space, and often are displayed and is a completely different aesthetic to what women find attractive. A lot of “bad boys” aren’t bad boys. A lot of guys call any guy who looks cool, maybe wears a leather jacket or Ray-ban sunglasses or has a cool car or motorcycle a bad boy even if he has a degree a corporate job and is a good guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 02:25 AM
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An ex is an ex for a reason most people would consider getting back with an ex to be dumpster diving
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 02:13 AM
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Men who think they are useless will become useless. Women will always want men, and while online dating has become huge (including things like Instagram) in person connection will remain a huge part of where couples form. Young guys have really got to cultivate friendships and social connections. And older people need to stop making this world so expensive to live (housing affordability) and driving things to be such a isolated and screen based society, and push for things like greater education…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 02:08 AM
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Men are contributing to their own problems then, and if they don’t want to marry a girl who hasn’t had casual sex then they can join the communities where that is more likely. But complaining they don’t get casual sex while also trying to find women who don’t want casual sex without maintaining their own standard or joining the communities where that is a thing is just silly. Also if men don’t want 4/10 women they are just as hypocritical since they blame women for wanting men they find attracti…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 02:05 AM
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Double standards like this is exactly why women don’t like having sex with men early. But besides that point, doesn’t sound like your height has held you back.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 01:57 AM
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No those previous comments was for that other user and we were talking about his situation For men under 5’8 and who doesn’t have the other things the original guy o was talking to said he had (athletic body and 6/10 face) then social circle is going to be even more important. It’s not going to be easy though and casual sex probably shouldn’t be his focus. The guys I feel really sorry for are probably the guys 5’2 and shorter i empathise that a lot of women would be taller than these guys
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 01:54 AM
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If you have had sex on every date you have been on then it sounds like you are doing fine. Have many of those dates turned into a relationship. They liked you enough to sleep with you. Or you could be like a dear friend of mine who is able to do the same but can translate that into a relationship because when spending longer periods of time with him it can be a bit exhausting ; so sex is a yes for him relationships have to date been a no
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 01:51 AM
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Sure link a reddit comment by an individual. That woman obviously is representative of every other woman out there huh. https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2021/10/05/rising-share-of-u-s-adults-are-living-without-a-spouse-or-partner/ 60% of men become married or live with a partner from 25-54. That means most men are still finding long term relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 01:49 AM
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For casual sex physical attraction is the main qualifier. My whole comment said the issue is men want casual sex more than to date women. The average guys who can get casual sex have good social skills. Still not as much as women or very attractive men though
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 01:44 AM
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Yeah the guy i was speaking to was 5’8 I’ve dated 2 guys who were 5’8
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 01:43 AM
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Most people in the world have long term relationships and that’s means looks isn’t the biggest factor and people in happy relationships aren’t people who have extreme mental health issues or bad financial health
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 01:36 AM
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5’8 isn’t too short for most women. A 6/10 face, athletic body and good social skills would make up for this Unless the other aspects aren’t as honed as the guy believes
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 01:16 AM
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To move? No it’s not. To have social skills ? Yes it is for average people, and there is my point not being able to meet people and create friends and connections means you are actually below average in your social skills and this is a huge reason why men are hurting
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 01:09 AM
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Not really you need to have a good amount of all those things to date. I’m not talking about it casual sex
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 01:08 AM
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Or maybe not being in debt, having some savings, being on a decent career or job path so that if you want a family you can both co tribute and not have to carry eachother
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 12:54 AM
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That could be a factor but also I don’t know you, I can take you at your word that all your social skills are fine but they also might not be. You don’t have to join clubs or hobby’s per say but does your social group include women? Do your guy friends have women friends? Do you regularly have parties where you invite these people? Do you go out with your women friends to the clubs?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 12:53 AM
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I have done it yes, I moved to another country for university and am still here.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/23 12:45 AM
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To some men sure and that’s fine too but women aren’t the ones here complaining about that issue, they are in their own communities complaining and trying to deal with their situation, but the men here largely aren’t meeting many women let alone those women
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 11:57 PM
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Forgot to comment in the other comment that if you are really athletic and 6/10 face then you should be doing fine and if you aren’t it means your social circle OR skills aren’t as good as you think, or that you aren’t actually a 6/10 in the face
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 11:56 PM
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Expats are able to penetrate and make groups all the time; highly developed social skills allow them to do this. This suggests that people who can’t do this who indeed do look average are lacking in social skills. Having women friends doesn’t mean you fuxk your women friends it means friends of friends and going to parties where more friends of friends of friends will be and you will have greater access to warm approaching more women.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 11:55 PM
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Exactly. Being average isn’t only dependent on how someone looks. It’s mental health, physical health, financial health and looks. Being severely lacking in even one of these areas can put you below average
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 11:51 PM
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I get that but I didn’t mention confidence I mentioned social skills are social circle. Confidence is a single aspect of social skills but often with a social circle this is gained anyway
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 11:50 PM
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Social skills and having a social circle are two different things Do you think most average men have friends who are friends with women and have large amount of women as friends themselves? Or is it mostly men or maybe 1-3 friends ? Also when you say calibre of woman, if you think you are able to get women you want vs who want you this is the same issue women have. Putting people into “leagues” often doesn’t work because people don’t just pair up based one one or two criteria
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 11:47 PM
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I don’t think so, average guys are still able to date. What they are less able to do is have casual sex and if they resent it long enough they can turn themselves into below average dudes based on their bitterness. Even if they don’t be some resentful they will still have less access than women because more men than women want casual sex so women will always have their pick. Average guys are able to date. They do so by employing their social skills and social circle. The men who don’t have these…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 11:18 PM
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Yes casual sex, but probably not one night stands - mainly because if it’s a warm approach you don’t want to shit where you eat and hurt someone who is a friend of a friend but I’m saying that casual sex can include short relationships of a couple months of sex, and it can include friends with benefits. For one night stands the way it can help is by again being invited to more social gatherings, example- you meet a woman who is a friend of your friend. You see each other occasionally when your f…
/r/AllPillDebate12/04/23 10:06 PM
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Unless you aren’t getting any partners casual or otherwise to begin with
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 09:47 PM
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Average men struggle for a variety of reasons. A big one would be over reliance on online dating. Online dating you do not get a chance to interact and show your personality it’s a purely looks driven environment. Despite this men still Over rely on dating apps and take their lack of matches personally and internalise it. On top of this a lot of men don’t have wide social circles so don’t meet women through friends (a lot of the friends they DO have also have 0 women as friends). A man can think…
/r/AllPillDebate12/04/23 09:43 PM
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A not extreme handsome face can be an average face. Average guys can be handsome too and women are a lot more flexible on how they view a persons features especially when they know them. Online dating will always be a realm where this isn’t really possible but in person it’s very possible and happens daily. Men don’t budge from wanting a pretty face- hence I didn’t say beautiful because pretty girls aren’t necessarily described as beautiful. And therein comes my extreme example because men would…
/r/AllPillDebate12/04/23 09:04 PM
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I think we use extremes because this whole meme is extreme All these men are way above average so they aren’t your normal guys either so it’s using an extreme example first And a lot of men use vague language , maybe you didn’t mean to but when you said all shapes and sizes that’s very vague and says nothing of face but reality is you probably still want a pretty face even if it’s not an extreme example and women want a handsome face even if it’s not extreme
/r/AllPillDebate12/04/23 08:39 PM
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Exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/23 08:00 PM
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Not to be facetious but those men in the photo are different sizes and colours. So a woman could say “ l like men of all size and colours” as well and not be lying. I imagine the women you like still have a relatively pretty face. These men have a pretty face in the eyes of women, which means that men and women are the same. We like different sizes shapes and colours but still want the face to be pretty. Eg. Would you date a younger “mama June” a obese woman who isn’t that pretty (though I think…
/r/AllPillDebate12/04/23 07:58 PM
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Yeah I get that, I was mainly talking about the circlejerking though and from what I’ve seen lurking around pst week or so you’ve been doing a lot of it. There are some good people on PPD and some fucked up people. Pill communities attract extreme views and they are often the loudest.
/r/AllPillDebate02/04/23 02:08 AM
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That’s what I thought and it’s clear you are going through that bitterness from your comments and posts. Try stepping away from the Blackpool communities all its doing is making you more bitter. You already know looks are important, stepping away doesn’t mean you need to stop believing that but try finding some positive reinforcement somewhere else. Go hang out with your friends. Go to the gym even more, go hiking go do something. Sitting around and circle jerking with the other black pill and w…
/r/AllPillDebate02/04/23 01:49 AM
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The theme of all your posts has been how you can’t get sex Dwelling on it like this isn’t going to make it any easier. It’s probably going to Make it worse tbh because you will keep losing more of your confidence and will probably treat women like shit even when someone does show interest in you
/r/AllPillDebate02/04/23 01:22 AM
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How many posts are you Going to make about this? You seem like you are becoming more bitter.
/r/AllPillDebate02/04/23 12:18 AM
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Men don’t want to be with obese single moms - how is it different?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/02/23 09:23 PM
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This is good advice
/r/PurplePillDebate27/12/22 07:58 PM
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Ok fair point. You could still add to your social circle though and eventually it could help by making you a more rounded person.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 11:32 AM
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It does if you are a catch
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 08:43 AM
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No I don’t think standards have changed, priorities have
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 04:20 AM
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I think both women and men are more superficial as they are younger though and then as you get older you have less patience for people who you don’t genuinely like even if they are “beautiful” So personality becomes more important as you get older
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 11:39 PM
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I hope that’s a joke it seems tacky regardless like how will that attract anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 07:11 PM
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Hard agree
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 07:02 PM
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Sounds like a personality difference between you and your friend How would you describe your guys personalities ?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 07:01 PM
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Even if that had happened I would have been honest about it But I’m not going to tell you my medical history so won’t be going into what was actually wrong, but the point is my partner was aware of what was happening, and he still felt valued and loved even while waiting a bit And we are still happy a few years on and taking a beautiful baby, and building our life together so I don’t think there was a problem, certainly wasn’t for us, but if a reddit stranger is upset about it am I supposed to f…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/12/22 09:20 AM
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Yes boundaries are a must! I have been lucky though have definitely taken some risks but I do like to believe most people are good(or at least not psychos) and try to use my best judgement on people and where we meet
/r/PurplePillDebate23/12/22 03:45 AM
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Seeing as my brother struggles I’m gaining relationships - no lol My dad would give me advice but also know learning from mistakes is how most people learn rather than being told to stay away from something
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 10:37 PM
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Wouldn’t work you would still end up an Arsenal of match
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 08:30 AM
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Why should the woman be penalised when the apps need more women
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 04:21 AM
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One did meet me at a pub and we had dinner and drinks and then he started pressuring me to come back to mine and after denying and holding firm he left immediately. That was a bad date but the conversation was fine up until then. Idk I’m comfortable saying no if I don’t want to, and once he left I just caught a taxi home. But I met up with I think 9 guys total from online dating in a period of about 2 years (covid as well as just not being super into it) 1 was that bad date 2 were a hookup 1 bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/12/22 12:12 AM
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I’ve had bad experiences as in bad dates. But no I was never assaulted from an online date if that’s what you meant. I’ve been sexually assaulted by a guy who approached me in the street or hit on in a negative way in clubs, but online dates no. I also would meet in a public place.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 11:59 PM
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No
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 11:23 PM
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It worked on me
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 09:56 PM
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I’m pretty sure my partner asked me as an opener “do you want to small talk or should we just meet for drinks on Friday” I chose drinks. I think most people have been in the situation you talk to someone online for awhile, good chemistry and then in person nothing no chemistry and it’s awkward Better to meet without having spent a lot of time talking
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 09:56 PM
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But hello or hi is boring. I agree if you’ve put some info on your profile you don’t need to do lots of small talk and the goal should be meeting up. So instead of hi you could do something like Hey, let’s get drinks this Friday? Should we get dumplings or pizza this weekend? I know a great cafe in *** they have the best coffee and muffins, let’s meet there this Saturday morning? These openers are assumptive,confident and accomplish meeting up without just saying “hi”
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 09:19 PM
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If I ever saw my first love on the street I would walk in the other direction. So thankful for the growth I had in that relationship and that I left and even more thankful I didn’t end up pregnant and tied to him
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:29 AM
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Yes how don’t you see that for a hookup you both have the expectation of sex and not getting to know eachother For a date the goal is to get to know each other and sex may happen but isn’t expected
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 02:16 AM
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Women want to date men and have sex with the men they date, but not if it’s expected or if not ready to. And setting a first date at a house sends the message of expectation.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/12/22 01:37 AM
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What things do you struggle with that they expect you to know?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 11:37 PM
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I wouldn’t go to a guys house no matter how nice he was for a first date (maybe for a hookup if it was just a hookup) It says you want sex right away or its just it’s too intimate of a setting for a first meeting if you are planning on getting to know the person
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 10:53 PM
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I’ve known attractive men who swipe on everything Older women are also targeted for scams and half the messages seemed scammy. Romantic scams are very prevalent
/r/AllPillDebate15/12/22 07:31 PM
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It is as simple as it sounds Doesn’t mean they will accept your approach but is being scared of rejection worse than what you are experiencing now? In most cases they won’t remember you if they get reject you so just shoot your shot
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 05:17 AM
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Being forced doesn’t always mean that you didn’t have the option to say no. You can be a victim of circumstance and forced to accept or do things that greatly demean yourself and will traumatise you if it means you may be able to have food or shelter or some other necessity that will become easier to attain by accepting said “offer” Sex workers often have “no” choice because the alternative if you say no may mean you or your children go hungry or that you sleep on the streets. It’s not a real ch…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/12/22 02:24 AM
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What do you want? Why are you striking out? What is the inner voice saying?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/22 09:19 AM
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Because a good man has empathy and if he likes her personality and finds her attractive he’s going to be empathetic to her and her journey.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 05:56 AM
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Most average women aren’t going for 10/10 guys either. Most go for 6-8 too but compared to a guy whose a 4 or below he’s still going to count those 6-8 men as top 20%
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 05:55 AM
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Yep and antibiotic resistance is becoming abuse problem for many bacteria’s and infections not just stis. It will be a huge concern in coming years. Best you can do to protect yourself is follow safe sex habit such as wearing condoms with partners, testing every 3 months, and making sure you and your long term partners test before being intimate without protection. And when you are sick in general and get prescribed antibiotics to make sure you Finish your course.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 12:34 AM
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I support men having more access to escape those situations as well I thi k historically the reason there have been more for women in this scenario are women are more likely to be overpowered than a man and have been the ones with lower paid jobs or with no jobs if they are raising children ; meaning no means of escape. Men having more access to resources historically could leave if they were the ones being abused where women didn’t have that option. That being said I think men do need more supp…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 12:32 AM
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Unless she got herpies or hiv it’s not really incurable. I’m sure it would suck regardless to contract a sti but most are curable. I think people should have safe sex and I’m not downplaying the seriousness about sexual saftey or the dangers of stis but let’s not be dramatic and act like most are incurable
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 12:25 AM
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I think as overall wealth and standard of living increased for each generation people Had more choices on what to do with their lives. 1935-50 this is my grandparents generation (1937) and their parents each had 10 kids because they were poor and it wasn’t garunteed that each child would live through wars and sickness and they needed the help with things like housework or work. My grandparents generation grew up poorer and had to work hard to immigrate to Australia and work two full time jobs ea…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 12:13 AM
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I’m not going to reduce what I typed into a three sentence summary for people who can’t take a minute or two to read a reply.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/12/22 12:00 AM
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Just read, it takes 2 mins tops
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 11:45 PM
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I think women do find average men attractive but it’s harder for men when using old because it’s literally a menu of sorts of men and just like when you order food you are inclined to order the tastiest looking option. And on old all the options seems to want you. In real like attraction is more than looks and many average guys have a lot going for them that does boost their attraction and they are judged as a package not a superficial photo or two in a catalogue/menu of sorts of photos with and…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 11:35 PM
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You did imply it, you likened women being able to get “bailed out” of situations such as unwanted pregnancy: abortion or domestic violence as a negative thing It’s a good thing supporting people with removing themselves and sometimes their children from dangerous situations , many of those women Have no one or a safe place to Go to, no job to support themselves for food or shelter: I’m glad governments help people in these situations, just like I’m glad help is offered to people with disabilitie…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 11:31 PM
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Most women don’t want a good morning text except for very occasionally/special occasions once you are older than 25
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 11:20 PM
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The fact that you are implying you Don’t think women should be offered ways to escape domestic violence is concerning.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 11:12 PM
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I disagree, you wouldn’t have successful men leaving wives as they progress to higher levels of success and trading in for a younger and hotter wife. Many men are not happy with good enough. Especially not men with options and/or success. People are mostly the same. If you have options you will look at your options, assess which is best for you based on what you value and proceed accordingly. It’s easy to speculate what you would do in someone else’s shoes or position but until you are there you…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 11:09 PM
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This is true :)
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 10:48 PM
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Hey I think it’s human nature to want to believe that someone you think is “special” also finds you special despite your flaws. I think every man here would also be overjoyed if a woman they thought was very beautiful showed interest in them, and they would want to believe that her interest is genuine and would fall harder for her because of this. I think we are all the same and would all act the same way when presented with the same circumstances, I think maybe women just experience those circu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/12/22 10:40 PM
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Yep, looking anywhere but the eyes suggests you are only half listening and that you may be bored/waiting for your “turn” to speak what you want (instead of responding after listening) or that you don’t respect the person I do feel bad for neurodivergent people who say that they don’t know why they come across as odd within a few seconds but eye contact is a big part of it. And for neurotypical people low eye contact is just as rude as constantly Interrupting someone else when they are speaking
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 09:46 PM
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Eye contact is very important. I look straight in peoples eyes when talking to them, or listening to what they say, without looking away. It shows you are interested and secure/confident in yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 09:35 PM
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Yeah I understand all of that and I think it’s such an interesting perspective because yeah how easy should it be to allow someone access to hormones, one one hand everyone deserves to feel happy in their body and on the other as humans our perspective and experience changes as we grow as a person or go through different experiences so how d we truly know if something is a phase/reaction/temporary feeling compared to a genuine and lifelong desire. Time is the only way to know but for some people…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 11:54 PM
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Wow what an experience you went through! Can’t imagine the emotional ride you have been on, I’m glad you are feeling confident as a man and realised that you weren’t happy and are now true to yourself Good luck! On a side note it’s a really interesting perspective you would have, did you feel some individuals may think they are trans because they aren’t happy with their situation rather than genuinely always having not felt right in their own bodies? Hard topic and would be such a journey.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 10:09 PM
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10 year relationship, what happened? That’s a long time
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 09:42 PM
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If she’s into you she will 😁
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 05:51 AM
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If you have erection issues as a young man you should 100% seek help. It’s usually a combination of Performance anxiety and physical conditions or lifestyle factors things So many guys suffer alone because it’s embarrassing for them. Seek help, you don’t have to tolerate it
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 03:27 AM
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Maybe women leave when men stop putting in effort or being available, or here is a big one, when they cheat. I also made the first move on my partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 03:10 AM
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If she’s not making the same amount of effort she’s not into you
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 02:16 AM
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You sound like you wouldn’t be a good Partner then? My partner and I are always trying to do things to make each other’s day better/easier and always trying to do things to make eachother smile. It’s effortless, or takes no time at all to do little things. For example: my partner gets stressed form work so I’ll make sure I give him massages or buy a gift voucher to a massage if he needs a professional. I’ll pick up his fave flavour of icecream for him to have after work. And he does things like …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 02:16 AM
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Erm women should be dating you as well, if she isn’t putting equal effort in, she isn’t into you.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 02:12 AM
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Is there anything wrong with “dating”your partner in our entire life (I don’t mean going out each week or spending frivolously- I mean constantly working at showing kindness and love, planning things to do with eachother, learning more about your partner everyday) the idea is to grow with your partner, not just grow old as two seperate people with nothing to talk about especially once the kids move out like so many old people today.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:45 PM
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Yikes you are in for a shock one day. It’s not a myth. But good luck to you I hope for your sake you don’t end up with someone you are sexually incompatible with- it really sucks and takes all pleasure away from sex. A lot of dead bedrooms exist because of it.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:23 PM
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Nope, you should read some stories of women who married as virgins only to realise they hate having sex with their husband for whatever reason, maybe he’s sexually incompatible, or incompetent despite time going on. If that happens there is huge FOMO. Most women who try sex learn what we like and find a partner who can give us that, then there is no regrets because we already found the best for us You’ve got posts saying you don’t want to be a virgin and it’s not by choice. Don’t be a hypocrite.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 07:06 PM
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Being with no one also seems to lead to unsatisfaction and depression You would have to be with a lot of people to feel that way. Probably 100+
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 06:54 PM
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/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 06:25 AM
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Work in jewellery for a few years and you learn haha I know people always hate on diamonds and say nah it’s not as special as a gemstone (bs btw most people who say that don’t wanna spend on a diamond) but I’ve cleaned too many gemstone rings and have seen exactly how they look with wear an tear, especially for people who Don’t normally wear jewellery so they aren’t very careful with them! They don’t wear well after a few years if you knock them! But I love lab grown diamonds, so beautiful, you …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 12:26 AM
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It’s a three stone ring, 3 round brilliants, the centre stone is 1.4 carat F or G color vs1+ with the two side stones at .75 carat each also F or G vs1+ Set in 18k white gold Stunning. 3 stone rings mean past present and future and that’s such a beautiful sentiment for an engagement. I prefer F or G color diamonds to D/E because you get a hint of warmth compared to the colourless diamond which looks almost grey or blue. And I like round brilliants because they give the most sparkle ✨❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 12:20 AM
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I’ve worked in jewellery for a while so I Know about rings and stones. I love the look of diamond rings after having put so many different styles on. That being said I would prefer a lab grown diamond so that I can get the quality and size I want without spending 100,000 which is ridiculous. We can get what I want for about 5k instead. I don’t like gemstones as engagement rings because of wear and tear a lot of gemstones crack or will scratch (you wear everyday and rings take a beating) I don’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 07:35 PM
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Not once did I say men should only listen to women. Ive been arguing why your analogy was incorrect. Men who are struggling should listen to multiple people men and women because they haven’t found what is right for them clearly. Emulating someone else may not work because they clearly don’t have the same traits as that person. They should listen to multiple Perspectives and find a way to apply all the useful tips from different sources into a technique that works for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 03:07 AM
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I’m not in the USA we spell it jewellery 😂 And yes client relationships are important in jewellery. Especially luxury and I’m talking about a brand that sells pieces that are high hundreds of thousands and some more than a million. With that type of clientele yes it’s about relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 03:01 AM
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Luxury jewellery is not found in shopping malls lol
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 02:53 AM
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I’m a woman and I’ve actually got extensive sales experience in luxury jewellery, skin care, and phone sale in tech and in health
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 02:25 AM
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It is interesting yes, and I agree lots of factors impact the things as stated previously
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 12:59 AM
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You clearly aren’t in sales. I literally said listen to what they want and give them what they need while making them realise that’s what they want. And the only way to do that is to use their own words and reasoning against them and you can do that by LISTENING to the words they use and repeat it back
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 12:24 AM
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In your linked articles it literally says “Porn use seemingly contributes to men's doubts about their sexual competence, the deterioration of their sexual functioning, and – in heterosexual couples – their partner-reported satisfaction. “ What do you think erectile dysfunction is? It’s the opposite of sexual functioning
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 12:22 AM
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Sales people tel you to listen to your customers lol. You listen to the words they use and ask question about why they want what they want. Then you give them what they need, after making them realise that what they need is what they want and you do that by listening and using their own words to and in some cases against them.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/12/22 12:00 AM
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If you think I’m going to spend more than 5 minutes finding sources you find acceptable then sorry to tell you but I do have better things to do. Again believe what you like, but it’s a common experience for men, 1 in 3 experience Some Sort of sexual dysfunction and there are lots of studies showing links between pornography and negative impacts on intimacy. And it was interesting talking to this man who was experiencing it himself, and also quite sad.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 11:47 PM
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I am learning about gentle parenting , my girl is an infant so it’s easy atm and sure it will get harder when she actually does naughty things but it’s about setting boundaries and appropriate discipline that doesn’t include hitting or yelling
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 11:35 PM
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Typing words into google scholar is how you find articles btw https://www.researchgate.net/profile/John-Foubert/publication/318391559_The_Public_Health_Harms_of_Pornography_The_Brain_Erectile_Dysfunction_and_Sexual_Violence/links/59e603040f7e9b0e1ab2660f/The-Public-Health-Harms-of-Pornography-The-Brain-Erectile-Dysfunction-and-Sexual-Violence.pdf This source in medical hours says there’s no evidence but that is because studies need to control for variables. It makes suggestions on how to better …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 11:31 PM
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You can become dependent on viagra and it can also stop working as time goes on, and can have side effects if you have heart issues. It also would be pretty humiliating for a man to have to take a pill 30 mins before wanting to have sex. No spontaneity and can’t perform without it.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 11:23 PM
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Actually it’s becoming quite common https://rewardfoundation.org/can-porn-harm- https://scholar.google.com.au/scholar?hl=en&as_sdt=0%2C5&q=porn+creep+erectile+dysfunction&btnG=#d=gs_qabs&t=1670023220622&u=%23p%3D_qN1iFejYc0J
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 11:19 PM
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I met a man who was married 9 months ago and he was a virgin when he got married at 31. I didn’t ask but because of his culture I am assuming it was an arranged marriage. He was suffering with a problem having sex with her like he couldn’t get things to work for him downstairs and he prefers masterbation because things work for him when he does that I couldn’t help but think of ppd and the fact that for men who are virgins that late and have spent their whole life watching porn and masterbating,…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 10:45 PM
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Yeah lol 13-18 most girls are a hormonal dumpster fire
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 09:41 PM
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Same, my old fwb ended up getting with a chubby girl and I was soooo thin and shaped with big boobs so I was confused - but I was also 18 so didn’t have the emotional maturity to realise that they he maybe liked bigger girls and/or maybe she is the sweetest person and they have amazing chemistry and get along very well They are married now and still very happy ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 07:32 PM
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Health programs for/to men -being really vague here because it’s a niche market.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 07:14 PM
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It sounds good but the base is shit and I will be lucky / have to work really hard to do this consistently 🤪
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 08:28 AM
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3rd week on the job 14k in sales this week 😁😁😁 if I can do this 4 weeks in a row I should get a nearly 10k bonus for the month
/r/PurplePillDebate02/12/22 06:53 AM
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In or above. And yes they do.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 11:34 PM
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She wouldn’t see it as a strategy? Just as common sense to not date someone who is below your league if you naturally get attention from people in or above your league and common sense to look for a partner with success vs someone who is struggling
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 09:26 PM
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But those women could hold those same values naturally without encountering fds (I did and didn’t know about fds until I found this sub lol) It’s like how guys here will say the most successful men are naturally red pilled without ever having encountered trp
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 09:19 PM
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I love that podcast
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 09:16 PM
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I think women just want someone to be able to take lead in those moments that we are unsure of something like “idk what I want to eat” instead of suggesting lots of options or one option at a time for her to say no I don’t want that try taking lead - “that’s fine, I feel like eating burritos, let’s get Taco Bell” being assertive and leading when needed is attractive. When we are venting often we just need to vent, we don’t want your solutions we want you to empathise and let us say it out loud, …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/22 02:07 AM
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Do you really not get it? Have you ever read r/niceguys that is the best way to understand why
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 09:02 PM
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I don’t think it’s that short men are unattractive, it’s that taller (5’10+) men are not uncommon so if you are comparing a short man and a tall man while neither is bad it’s just that tall looks more masculine. That doesn’t mean that short men are unmasculine just that his masculine features may not include height. And since again tall men aren’t rare, you may decide that you will hold out for a tall man. You may not hold firm or never date short guys it’s just that it’s a preference Only a sma…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 08:58 PM
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Not having time is a big one. If you work Two jobs and have 2 kids and have 5 hours of sleep if you are lucky meal prepping or cooking rice and chicken every night plus dishes is a lot more effort than a $5 pizza you can grab on the way home. Also poverty is usually generational so many people don’t have the skills to navigate a grocery store let alone prepare meals that don’t come in bags or boxes.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 08:46 PM
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Filing for divorce is not initiating or causing
/r/PurplePillDebate30/11/22 04:09 AM
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Ambitious is the wrong word - you can be non ambitious but still have drive to pursuer things you enjoy such as working out daily that takes drive and motivation
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 08:58 PM
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Only time I’ve ever disconnected from sex with a partner is when I’ve already disconnected from the relationship, and am already planning on leaving. This can take a process of 6 months while you make sure you are going to be okay when you leave- save money, look for places to rent, talk to therapists and friends etc until you are confident that it is the right choice and that you have to do it. This usually follow a year or more of trying to talk to your partner about concerns and why you aren’…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 06:29 PM
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The girl in this story is 100% a dick
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 08:12 AM
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My partner told me he loved me apparently one night while we were falling asleep but I must have been already in lala land because I said “nighty night” back 🤪😅😂 that killed me because I had been feeling love for him forever and was really busting to say it but was shy haha We ended up saying about a month later it after a wild date while drunk af in the shower
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 07:27 AM
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Nope if he was going to marry you he would have
/r/PurplePillDebate29/11/22 06:52 AM
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I tried to make it work until I realised and so did everyone around (including my exes family ) me that I was a shell of my happy and confident self and that I was wasting away in all meaningful ways
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 09:17 PM
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Of a couple isn’t having sex then there are bigger issues what do you mean? Whoever doesn’t want to be having sex is probably feeling repulsed in someway. Men will stop having sex if they think ther partner has let themselves go or if they are depressed and women usually if they no longer find their partner attractive because of how they are treating them or because they have lost all drive and motivation and let themselves go. It builds up, you talk to your partner ask for help or let them Know…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 06:29 PM
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The way you worded your last comment made it seem like sex was the only love language you have. And I have not advocated for people to remain in sexless marriages, I’ve said sex important multiple times. My kid is not even a year old. My sex life has slowed down but it’s still good. Thankfully I don’t feel touched out even after feeding a baby all day or working all day and also feeding/ pumping milk, but I can understand how and why some women might with kids. If there isn’t a reason like kids …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 10:19 AM
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That’s why if it’s your only love language your most likely fucked No most aren’t having 3-4 but a lot will have 2. Hell I have 1 and she is still an infant and she’s in our bed 4 times a night. That doesn’t stop. We have to actively make time on our days off and sometimes that means letting her cry in her crib. How long do you think we can do that, especially if we have another and she can then walk and find us? Sure sometime we can drop off the kids to grandmas every once in awhile but again i…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 10:02 AM
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3-7 years is nothing. If you expect sex at the same frequency after kids then you are in for a rude awakening if you are both working and if you have multiple little ones. 3-7 years could be the years you have 3-4 under 4. You are not having a lot of time for sex if that’s the case. Again I said It’s important, but if you ar wonky getting your love language 1 a fortnight or less you are going To have a hard time staying happy when shit gets hard. Gift giving isn’t about expensive gifts for most …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 09:48 AM
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Well it makes sense why Russia attacked IMO, what do they produce ? Oil/gas - as the world moves away from these where will they get their money from? They could really become obsolete in terms of exports. Then they also have harsh climate and tough surroundings, and like most places declining birth rate. Now may be the last time in history there are enough able bodied men to be soldiers and fight in a war. If it wasn’t done now it couldn’t ever really be done Idk maybe but maybe not only Putin …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 07:34 AM
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What happens when a woman gets old or has multiple kids and goes through periods where she is too exhausted or touched out from children, and her husband decides that nope he’s not getting his love language so he should just leave? Sex is important but real intimacy and love is showing up and giving your partner understanding and support when they are ill, or worn out because in those moments they aren’t pretty, and you aren’t receiving anything you are only giving. Making sex your “love languag…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/11/22 07:24 AM
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How do you figure that? Sure you can choose a person regardless on if you are attracted to them and not care if you don’t have anything to talk about because you have no shared experiences or interests. Why do you think you would be happy to spend your life and free time with a person like that? Why would you be motivated to have sex if not out of duty or for the sole purpose of procreation? Sounds awful to me
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 08:29 PM
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In the context of dating: Q4M, Are you scared of rejection?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 10:10 AM
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I only ever get back To Back Ones with my partner, if I’m by myself I only get to 1 cause I cbf
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:14 AM
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Lucky goose who got downvoted for it lol
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:04 AM
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Yes to the giant crab 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 05:03 AM
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I’m a woman
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 04:31 AM
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It be would be handy on a night out or at a location with gross ports-loos, other than that though I don’t mind having a seat it’s a nice relaxing break especially when your at work 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 04:30 AM
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Can confirm the rolling hair blowing orgasms are a thing. It’s exhausting afterward but you also feel like damn I could go again and have more
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 04:19 AM
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Guys do miss out a bit that they can’t have multiple orgasms tbh. Though to be fair I guess most women don’t orgasm every time they have sex like a guy normally would
/r/PurplePillDebate27/11/22 04:07 AM
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I’ve dated shorter men but I partnered up and had a baby with a 6’2 man Not because of his height btw if the short guys I dated had treated me as well it could have been them
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 07:02 AM
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The manosphere: unlike females** 😂😂🤮
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 07:00 AM
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Yes for the love of god please use women. Especially if you say men/guys instead males
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 06:58 AM
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I had a tongue peircing navel peircing and nipple piercings and my n count was 4. I removed them all And my n count got bigger It has no relation to peircings. Do what you want, the nice thing about piercings is you can take them out and no one will know :)
/r/PurplePillDebate26/11/22 06:36 AM
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Because they are provided for through their parents accumulated wealth or the government or because their whole life they were told they were special and deserved participation ribbons etc. Plus no wars and we have enough food that even poor people are fed- there is no survivalist mentality which is a good thing btw
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 10:35 AM
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It worked for us and I love him dearly so I don’t mind that it’s it what you or anyone else would do only what he did
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 05:05 AM
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He knew there was lots of sexual chemistry and tension . You can have that without sex it can build.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 04:53 AM
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Well you might not think it’s interesting because it’s your life lol but it certainly does ring a similar tune to abused becoming abuser -not saying you abuse your wife, but the power dynamic you touched on with this older lady having more power compared to your younger and “less wiser” self was certainly present in yours and your wife’s relationship in the beginning
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 09:27 PM
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While men who follow rp may not initially be misogynistic the danger is if someone joins the communities, follow the advice, don’t have success, find themselves reading group/listening to other men who haven’t had success and who are further along a bitter path and then being exposed to circle jerks, allowing their own bitterness to grow and evolve into misogynistic views that they have been seeing from people they identify to have similar views and experiences as themselves. I.e. it’s not a giv…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 09:25 PM
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Interesting that you then went on to marry a minor (16 years old) 10 years younger than yourself after being pursued by an older individual yourself at a very similar age It’s actually very interesting, above my pay grade, but interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 09:17 PM
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Ah yeah. The first three make him a bad boy. The others just make him cringe/probably not educated I asked for clarification because half the guys here would consider a corporate guy who has tattoos and rides a motorcycle a bad boy despite being a normal person with a normal job I do agree crime and DV makes someone actually a bad boy
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 07:23 PM
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What makes him a bad boy
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 07:16 PM
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Yes he knows. I swear every time I say this that’s the first question a ppd guy will ask. Yes he knows I had ons and hookups and he obviously knows he waited a few months. We have no secrets from eachother
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 06:26 PM
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Yes bad choices or naive choices at young ages such as 18 are common that’s the point
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 07:41 AM
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Yep we both have had a fair bit Of sex. He has had his share of sexual ons and adventures
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 07:32 AM
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You “banned” most discussion around things like power imbalance which does play a significant role in the problem. Many women are kept reliant on older men or they enter a relationship, become isolated from their friends and family, possibly pregnant and with no career prospects. Women especially are weary of such relationships because we tend to look out for other women especially women who don’t have life experience. Of course not everyone in an age gap relationship is an abuser and I’m sure t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 07:11 AM
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Also wanted to add if what you are saying is true about your intelligence I find it strange that you don’t understand why people would have an issue with age gap relationships when the younger person hasn’t reached a certain point such as 24 or 25 and the age gap is more or less a decade
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 07:00 AM
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If you’ve ever been 16 surely you remember doing more risky behaviour especially when with your friends? Not getting into it with you about your beliefs on the validity of peer reviewed works which do also include more than just social science btw. Research about brain development especially around adolescence wouldn’t be accepted if it wasn’t congruent to most peoples lived experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 06:58 AM
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I’ve had hookups but made my partner wait for sex for a couple months. I was recovering from an infection and was on serious antibiotics but I would have waited anyway because I really was into him and if we slept together an it didn’t work out it would have been a lot harder to move on. When we did sleep together it was amazing. I had already known him for a bit by then and felt comfortable communicating what I liked and bonding during sex rather than just fucking
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 06:55 AM
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This is true. I had only one ex give me an orgasm before and I can still remember that time and remember it felt nice but I don’t feel anything for him except thankfulness that we are not together and that I am with my partner now who is a much better match and person for me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 06:46 AM
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Ok well you can tell that to the researchers who literally have to do ethics reviews and lots of studies that show evidence to be able to make claims. You being someone who could have done any masters doesn’t negate the work of researchers who have been peer reviewed?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 06:39 AM
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I have had to learn about adolescence brain development as part of my masters degree
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 06:34 AM
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On PPD there is a user who was 27 who married a 16yr old virgin So YES it is important to discuss the power imbalance And 18 while is an adult is still a lot closer mentally to a 16 year old in terms of decision making and risk taking behaviour than a 20 year old
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 06:22 AM
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Eh I think she was always a free spirit and down to earth as evident by her home in old age - surrounded by her indoor garden and her ceramic works. She never wanted the engagement to Cal her mother forced her into it because they lost her money. She was essentially being arranged into that marriage trading her youth and beauty for his families resources as was common then especially in socialite circles
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 10:14 PM
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Self esteem and being happy in your own company
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 09:34 PM
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Why not? The end scene where you see all her photos she did everything they talked about I think they would have had an intense relationship and been fine
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 09:21 PM
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She didn’t leave cal for excitement with jack she left him because he’s abusive but also he only wanted her for her looks. Jack saw her as a person and not just for her beautify
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 08:37 PM
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In titanic Cal slapped rose for not behaving how he wanted her too Pretty sure she avoided a toxic relationship with him
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 08:35 PM
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Idk I know I lot of guys who were content and happy being single. But they felt like that because they had the same feelings you described women to have - validation from their self and focusing on themselves and their own needs and knowing that they will find someone when they are ready, and all these guys have I think the difference is if you feel comfortable in your own skin and being yourself you don’t care if there is another person there or not because you’ve got yourself and you are happy…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 08:30 PM
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You really don’t know women if you think we are all the same Good luck to you, with that mindset you will need it
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 08:19 PM
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What makes you different to every other guy A ?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 07:13 PM
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Yes I would tell them but I wouldn’t bad talk them and I would say that a mistake was made but that you can’t take back all mistakes and sometimes you can break a relationship without being able to fix it, but that we are both still your parents and we both love you and will both be around
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 10:32 AM
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Personally I like when my partners have a wide social group so that we have people to hang out with more than just my friends. If both partners have a social network it’s more interesting than just one group of friends
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 09:21 AM
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Ok guy A
/r/PurplePillDebate23/11/22 12:14 AM
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Excuses. Most companies are huge on culture these days so going for drinks is an open invite and encouraged. If guy a doesn’t go or actively try to socialise with his co workers that’s on him
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 11:45 PM
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Men don’t get shamed by women all the time though and rejecting negative messages we see in the media can start by not continuing bullying between genders You saying you want to become high n so that you can have same experience as a woman who will inevitably have the same high experience when you do settle down and then also calling these women slags or used up is disingenuous and will be hard mental block to overcome if you want to fall in love with said woman while holding these internal bias…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 07:13 PM
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Guy A works a corporate job. Most corporate jobs have drinks on fridays at pubs after work. If he doesn’t have a social circle then he needs to grow one.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:28 PM
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Using words like slag, and used up to describe women is awful. It would be like if we sat around and called men limp dick wanna be man if he wasn’t good at sex It’s just mean rhetoric and does nothing to actually promote trust and love between the genders You’ve expressed you wish to be with a woman who is low n so that she can match you experience that’s fine- why not talk about it in the way you wish to find a woman with similar values and experience around sex as yourself. That’s all that’s n…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 06:27 PM
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Ok a lot to unpack here The ex who told you that should never had said that like what was her goal there? I can’t imagine wanting to hurt your bf or partner like that. I’m sorry you had to hear that and it’s good that relationship ended because she didn’t respect you The partner who you projected insecurities on no it wasn’t reasonable. If she loved you you very well could have been her best. I have had casual sex. Only 1 partner I could tell was experienced in what he was doing and was good at …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 10:08 AM
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Ugh that’s my partner to a T.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 07:40 AM
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B Will get more dates because he’s attractive and puts himself out there but I would be surprised if he has any meaningful relationships if the women find out he’s got 7 kids. So he might not get passed first dates OR he gets used as a lay and that’s it and then never seen sgain. Guy A probably doesn’t put himself out there often and does poorly on OLD but if he does manage to get a date through work or social circle he is much more likely to continue to have dates and to be able to have a conne…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 07:32 AM
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Did your ex ever make you feel inadequate or did you project that feeling from yourself once you knew she had been with people?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 07:19 AM
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Are there small steps you could take that would help? If you don’t want to that’s absolutely fine too, are you content with that?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/11/22 07:05 AM
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To move? Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 09:11 PM
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Good dissection It’s true there are more white terrorists (public violence to create fear) than black despite violence being an issue in specific black communities
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 07:11 PM
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Ah yeah that would be uncomfortable We texted briefly before anything happened and made sure we were on the same page and we didn’t kiss till probably 6 months after to lesson the chance of feeling happening 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/22 01:49 AM
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Not a relationship. F buddies only That’s why I said make sure if you decide to do it you won’t get jealous if/when they get in a relationship, and make sure it won’t impact working relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 09:35 PM
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Yeah about 2/3 of my panties are thongs
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 08:54 PM
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I did it at one point and it was fine. Depends on your personalities tbh are you good at compartmentalising things? Won’t let it impact your working relationship? Won’t feel jealousy if they meet someone else? Won’t feel the need to talk to anyone at work about it? Me and my ex colleague did these things fine so it worked for us until he moved across the country and that was that. We still converse occasionally if needed (work related stuff) and there is no awkwardness or anything Hes more like …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 08:49 PM
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Ah yeah ok most first dates I ever had they could be categorised into 3 outcomes Bad date want to end it as quick as possible Good date enjoying persons company and being out with them but more as a friend than a romantic partner (ends in no kiss or at best a quick slightly awkward one) Good date with someone you are enjoying their company and you are romantically and sexually attracted to them (ends in a kiss that leaves you both wanting more)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 08:30 PM
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Did you guys kiss on Thursday?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:34 PM
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30% of men experience life long PE so they finish in 1-3 minutes. 15-20 is normal and on the high end too. Anyone saying they are lasting more is either highly exaggerating or spending a lot of time on non penetration sexual activities
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:03 PM
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As a child of divorced parents if there was no court mandated amount my dad would not have paid at all. I’m glad my mom got the support. We always were tight despite her working full time and the child support which was also not nearly enough because my dad was able to hide income by doing cash work for awhile. I’m sure my families experience was not unique.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 10:27 AM
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Everything is corrupt and designed to make money. There are still many hundreds of thousands of children who would be in worse positions if their fathers weren’t made to pay child support. I’m sorry you had a bad experience. Most ex husbands wouldn’t purchase a house for their wife to live in though (even with it being passed down to the children In the future) so you are an outlier
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 09:34 AM
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Nothing is perfect unfortunately but the system does exist for a reason. It’s a shame you and your ex couldn’t have worked something out along with the courts if you guys were civil.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 09:09 AM
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Yeah it’s quite shocking when it happens. I have a good friend he told me about a woman he was dating and he liked everything about her but then when they had sex for the first time her smell was really strong and offputting they had to do it in the shower so that he could do it. He was bummed out about it because he liked her but it wasn’t that she was dirty or had an infection or anything she just didn’t smell good to him. I’ve experienced something similar with an ex and I would avoid sex bec…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 09:05 AM
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If you had a stay at home wife or a wife who worked part time around the kids school hours while you worked full time and then you divorced and had 50/50 custody how would she afford rent or food for your kids after you split up? Child support is there to make Sure the kids aren’t the ones losing Out.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 08:52 AM
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You won’t find someone who truly desires you through casual sex. As someone who has had casual sex in the past even the “hot” guy you have a ons with you still are not desiring them. You are desiring sex and even if their body or face is good looking you still find things about them you don’t like - because there is no emotion there you are overly analytical. If you want to have sex with someone who truly desires you you need a relationship. And you are much more likely to Find one if you are ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 08:39 AM
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If that is your only goal hire a sex worker. Being happy is a better goal
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:53 AM
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If you spend your time doing hobbies or spending time with friends you love you should be happy (maybe romantically lonely still but at least happy)
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:41 AM
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Yes I agree with this, but it still can be done if someone is strong enough and desires it enough I mean what’s the alternative? Be unhappy with yourself and life ? Sounds miserable
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 07:08 AM
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Do something about it now
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 04:03 AM
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Yeah nothing is black and white. Life is grey and messy. If you aren’t willing to struggle and work for your goals and instead are happy complaining constantly or being bitter and negative then relationships aren’t the main issue (except for maybe with yourself) If you remove yourself from the game and are
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 12:50 AM
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they would yeah. But I’m not creating a double standard it counts for everyone weather you are the one who prostituted yourself or if you used a prostitute it all counts.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 12:40 AM
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And yet if a woman decided to be a prostiture for a couple of years her future partner if he was from ppd would certainly count all the men she slept with in hers They count
/r/PurplePillDebate20/11/22 12:26 AM
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Yeah and I don’t think that they would be happy (because who would) if you paid for a partner you want a partnership to be equally committed and invested And that’s where the tough conversations they need to hold with themselves come into play and hopefully finding the strength to do the work until it happens - and for men who are severely bitter and / under-socialised that can take YEARS and most certainly money for therapy. But if it’s not done nothing will change and I can’t imagine living a …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:36 PM
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I don’t believe in either pills but from my time here I think that’s what blue pill boils down to in the easiest way of explaining it. This wasn’t promoting either pills so idk why you focused on that aspect Point is you can’t really be an involuntary celibate person
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:18 PM
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Yep you are malleable but most people have a sense of self or if values of the things that are instilled in them as children that remain in all versions of yourself. I.e. being true to yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:17 PM
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I think when most people Advise someone to “be themselves” it implies to continue to better yourself, self reflect and develop but to remain true to yourself while you Do so. Which is why I said people to take Platitudes without understanding the nuance have bigger issues than just relationships- they probably have a low emotional Intelligence and navigating the world becomes more difficult if that’s the case Eg the rowdy version of you may have needed to learn when was the appropriate time to u…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:05 PM
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Your analogy doesn’t make sense. Whoring yourself out doesn’t ensure that you will lift yourself out of poverty. You can sell yourself for a price or 100,000 and have no buyers: you remain in poverty. You can sell yourself for $50 a go and get 20 goes a week and blow that $1000 on drugs or alcohol or even medication and again remain in poverty. A celibate man involuntary or not having sexual with a prostitute removes the celibate status as soon as it happens, every time. So no your example Doesn…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 11:02 PM
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You can get along great with someone, have a similar sense of humor, and genuinely like someone for who they are and be attracted to them. Then you have sex and realise their penis smells like something you don’t want in any part of your body even directly out of a shower and with them Being extremely clean, or that their size and shape aren’t going to do it for you. Likewise men can experience a woman’s wetness to have a smell revolting to them, or realise that the way they maintain themselves …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 10:58 PM
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Surely no one believes you can “be yourself and someone will come along” if all you do is avoid socialising or never put yourself out there to meet people and have fun. Anyone who believes a platitude at 100% face value without understanding the nuances of still needing to live life for them to happen is probably struggling in more areas than just relationships. I think the thing I don’t like with any pill is it tries to explain behaviour in absolutes or not n black And whites and humans aren’t …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 10:42 PM
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If it’s by choice they are just celibate and that’s cool no problem With that and then the term doesn’t apply to them
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 10:37 PM
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I would advise you to go to women’s homeless shelters and learn that women in poverty is a real thing (as it is for men too). Many women don’t want to “whore themselves out” and that’s great. But what does this have to do with men claiming to be “involuntary celibate”?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 10:28 PM
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Yeah I agree, but I don’t think these guys can’t change, they just gotta have some honest conversations with themselves and then do the hard and uncomfortable work. Who is he all I know is people say he cried and got annoying. Was he giving good advise before or was it all manosphere Tate style stuff
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 10:18 PM
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Spicy take. You can’t be involuntarily celibate. No one is forcing you to be a virgin. You could- work On your personality (blue pill?) and looks (redpoll) to become more likeable to women - obviously this still doesn’t mean it will 100% happen because humans have free will but majority of people who claim they have tried probably have done so At an unsuccessful level/ don’t realise how they actually come across during interactions Get a prostitute- not ideal obviously when your goal is companio…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 10:05 PM
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he died maybe 10 episodes or so ago
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 08:58 AM
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Haven’t even finished my rewatching Criminal minds and I’ve started rewatching ncis because I need a break of criminal minds lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 08:14 AM
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Yeah I get you. I liked kids if they were behaving and being sweet. Couldn’t stand hearing other peoples kids whinge or cry or misbehave. When it’s yours it’s different Circle of life lol
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 06:05 AM
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True. We used to do it with our cat but a baby does bring a whole new element when you can see a bit of yourself a bit of your partner and bits of both of your parents in baby too. Idk haha I know it sounds stupid. But the smiles you get from your baby warm your heart
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 06:00 AM
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Being pregnant can be hard the first trimester, is amazing in the second and then the third you may get stretch marks but feeling your baby move around gives you indescribable joy, birth sucks no matter how you do it, and then your baby is wonderful and perfect but motherhood means a lot less sleep, sex, and cute outfits (at least your baby will be in cute outfits though), and most of all so much more love and laughs with your partner as you watch your tiny human grow. Oh you boobs will be const…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 03:23 AM
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If it’s within a ltr then she would have done it hundreds of times let’s be real. Most college age people in relationships will have sex at least twice a week. If you average twice a week for 2 years…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 01:04 AM
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You go girl 😁 hope you have lots of fun and put yourself out there for new experiences
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:34 AM
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Lol very low. She’s got a bf or was single and at least had sex once. Exception being a highly religious college and girl
/r/PurplePillDebate19/11/22 12:28 AM
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I’m not a 9 or 10 so not Stacy
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 12:00 PM
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You should def look for someone who has the same values as you yes. This is important in ltrs especially for when you have kids together
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 10:56 AM
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Most women find men who don’t care or if they do they suck it up I’m glad my man doesn’t care but probably because he’s had just as much abs even more experience than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 10:39 AM
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My partner is 100% better in every way than anyone else I’ve been with
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 10:21 AM
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Mmhm you wouldn’t be the first guy here to hold that opinion 😂 ah well
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 07:27 AM
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Because we are women and a large portion of us got to have casual sex and then got to be with amazing men we love
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 07:23 AM
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Men don’t really know themselves. You think you would like a girl who had sex with you early but if you really liked her you would think she does that with everyone. Men require a bit of reverse psychology without them realising it: also I sell a men’s health product and have to help them understand what they want by using specific psychology techniques- it’s a process but works so I do know a bit about what I’m talking about Also been in 3 ltrs including my partner now who I have a family with.…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 07:22 AM
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You could have early signs of ED
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/22 07:06 AM
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We have some socialist policies and these are great I think people who are jaded unfortunately remove themselves from the game
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 10:02 PM
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F- 28yo -18n and yes was worth it
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 09:45 PM
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I’m here admittedly for entertainment and because it was interesting learning about other peoples experiences but the novelty is wearing off tbh Yes there are incels/dating problems here I’m in Australia but moved from USA so I have a unique view of how much better a socialist country can be for health in general The men who struggle here I would imagine are smaller than the ones in the USA and sky warming signs I imagine would also be caught earlier I don’t know many men who Have real problems …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 09:39 PM
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Well you said resource and it is a resource Yea I support more funding for mental health. Where I am every person gets 10 free therapy sessions a year through the government if they go to their gp and ask for it. If you want more than ten then you can pay and/or use your private health care. If you are in the USA it probably won’t happen because any initiatives that are socialist and usually rejected for either being “too expensive” whilst also spending billions on military might (though to be f…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 09:26 PM
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It’s called therapy 🤨 a therapist helps men who for whatever reason couldn’t develop emotional intelligence because they ask you open questions that make you reflect on scenarios and consider both your own feelings - which many men tend to Ignore and not want to understand what they are feeling and why beyond surface level, and also how the other person could be feeling after whatever interaction with you you are discussing and then reminding you that despite all that the only thing you can do i…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/22 09:10 PM
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I actually do agree with this she will cherish that memory with her mom
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 08:53 PM
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To them that could be more security than they are used to but if you want to hyper focus on a small portion of the population rather than look at average people then that’s fine
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 01:25 AM
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In their world which is as stated also probably a criminal world they think that out of their options those men could provide them with the most security through their status or wealth It’s the same thing just in a shitty underworld idk how you don’t get that
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 12:29 AM
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Because not all women are likely to choose men like drug dealers or criminals? I would say a small percentage are and those ones would also likely be in that lifestyle as well. Makes a huge difference than if we are talking those women or average / above average women
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/22 12:10 AM
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Would you really want the type of woman who accepts that? I was assuming we were talking about high value and respectable women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 11:54 PM
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It’s not the end all be all. But many women will at least try to find the “complete package” which does include looks even if it’s only really a nice to have and not a need ( as long as not repulsive because an average guy can become hot with love). But women will try to spend at least some time looking for everything
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 11:32 PM
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But being pregnant does contribute a lot to why women are the way we are. We know how once we have a child we lose a lot of value on the dating market so we don’t want to really end up on the dating market again after having a baby. This makes us want to make sure we have the “best” man for us. We also know how time intensive raising a child is and that it will most likely impact our ability to work and provide - so we know it’s important our partner and father rod the child is willing and more …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 09:24 PM
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Yes! Thank you! I’m hoping it’s not something where the excitement wears off. It’s phone sales and I’ve just finished all the training and I think tomorrow I will be role playing and maybe even picking up the phone I’ve got extensive sales experience but not quite like this. Im also the only woman in the office lol so everyone’s been pretty nice and very accommodating
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 06:09 AM
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Loooovvveeee my new job so far Day 2 was fantastic ❤️
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 05:44 AM
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True Iran would have less hookup culture but if you are arguing places like Iran to be healthy to model society on I would point you to the treatment of women’s rights and then would say no way should we bring that to western countries. If that’s what you truly want you will struggle anywhere in the west
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:31 AM
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I swear I didn’t downvote you. I can send you screenshots if you don’t believe Wait I was asking which country doesn’t have hookup culture and where it’s more fair because USA 100% has hookup culture
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:24 AM
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Which western country are you referencing?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:16 AM
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No way is it fair in other countries lol dating is not fair and I don’t think you could make it fair tbh because you can’t control who has feeling for other people
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 02:00 AM
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How would you make a law making dating fair
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/22 01:50 AM
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First date : yes After that split or turns treating Ltr- split/ treating each-other
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 09:55 AM
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We spend a lot of time at work- often more time than with our friends and even family if you don’t count sleeping. So it’s natural to ask about what you are doing during those hours, and find out why you do it how you got into it why you love it how it challenges you etc and what you are working to. I don’t think that’s a bad thing to ask.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 06:33 AM
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You feel sexy af dancing on a raised surface
/r/PurplePillDebate14/11/22 06:19 AM
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If you really want to help improve family unit work to reduce poverty and increase education Not by stripping peoples rights. Abortion is a right that allows many people to time a pregnancy and a child in a way that they will be able to provide for a child
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 10:23 PM
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My father wouldn’t care as long as it was safe and consensual He was separated to my knowledge Its not a black and white world, abortion helpe more families than you would think I bet people like you were shocked the red wave didn’t happen lol. I’m thankful more people vote for keeping life enjoyable and grey than a black and white cage. Your bitterness is a reflection of yourself
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 09:49 PM
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If I had been forced to carry my first pregnancy that child would not have a father as the father was married and with children (claimed to be separated and my nuvaring contraception failed) I wouldn’t have finished school, met my partner and gone on to create a stable and loving family
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 09:40 PM
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You don’t think there are as many low quality women as men? Any adult women reproducing with an active criminal (I say active because some reformed criminals shouldn’t have to always carry a stigma) would be just as low quality as the man she’s with…is that the type of Woman you are seeking? If not why bring it up?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 08:47 PM
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You get 10 free sessions a year
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 08:51 AM
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Yeah I just laughed and put them in a vase and said at least they look pretty on the table
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 06:16 AM
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I didn’t say don’t worry just don’t dwell - it dies nothing to help
/r/AllPillDebate13/11/22 04:38 AM
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I gave my man flowers and he didn’t really care about them lol He prefers when I surprise him with things like massage vouchers or dinner dates or yes lingerie
/r/PurplePillDebate13/11/22 01:49 AM
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Yes this is the same for my partner and I.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 11:12 PM
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I can’t wait to get stockings. If they sold real trees this early I would have one up too It’s funny Christmas really is for kids I haven’t been excited for more than 10 years about Christmas and now that I have one I want to make it similar to how I had it a child
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 11:11 PM
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This is going to be my first Christmas with my own little family and I’ve gotten my partner on board with having a real tree! Just ordered all my Christmas baubles, and I’m excited to Go shopping for a tree skirt, Christmas tree topper, Christmas stockings for us to decorate, and lights 😍😍😍 All that money was best spent this year when we don’t really have to get our daughter much. Maybe one or two toys because 1. She’s a baby and she doesn’t care and 2. The grandparents I’m sure will give a coup…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 10:40 PM
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Yes I have no doubt that it was a legal and consensual marriage. But yeah gross sums it up
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 09:17 PM
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What do you thinks going to happen when Putin dies? Will things get worse or slightly better
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 07:47 PM
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We have a resident ppd user who married a child (16) when they were 27
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 07:45 PM
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That’s creepy
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 07:42 PM
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And goal post moving
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 07:40 PM
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What do you sell ?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 10:54 AM
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I wondered where he went
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 09:41 AM
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Do you know that libertarians moral code involves not trying to force others to conform to their own beliefs and moral code- yesterday you were arguing with me against allowing and abortion
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/22 04:52 AM
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That would be a reasonable decision to make
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 10:01 PM
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I fully agree as a woman. If I’m going to be superficial about a guy’s appearance i am looking at his face first, height is either second or third (contending with height is build- not skinny, fit but not a hard juiced up guy is my sweet spot)
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 10:00 PM
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I think if he gets his acne in control he would be a 5
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 09:46 PM
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I’m very communicative with my partner during sex and that includes initiating and being adventurous
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 09:44 PM
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Nah fam, is he about to pay for her relocation, pay her rent, buy the groceries as well as give child support and also have the kids half the time? What if she doesn’t find a job over there is he going to give her an allowance as well? They aren’t married anymore moving makes no sense if she is stable where she is. Her kids will benefit a lot more from Having a happy and healthy mom with a support system and some financial stability vs a miserable mom who has an extra 400 a month for groceries o…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/22 09:41 PM
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