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Yeah, seeing a woman's profile on a dating app in real life is the best way to understand how hopeless it is for most guys. There is simply no way a regular guy can compete with that mountain of options, even if most of those options are just looking for something casual.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 10:09 PM
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Exactly. Just look at what women complain about on any dating subreddit. It is always that guys only want sex and casual dating. I wonder why that is. When the top 10% of guys rule the marketplace, they have all the options and can do whatever they want without any commitment.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 07:45 PM
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Could be. But if that is the case, it means 75% of the male population looks "off" in their photos according to the data. The 5% male match rate shows that this isn't just a few tech guys with bad profiles
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:37 PM
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I agree that it is what it is and men will have to adapt, but nobody is shaming women here. It's just data analysis. Women are just using the tools they have, and these dating apps give them access to a much bigger dating pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 03:34 PM
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Your math is close, but you missed the massive behavior from the data. Let's use your example of 600 men and 400 women. The top 25% of men is 150 guys. Where your math trips up is assuming the 400 women spread their likes evenly. The data shows women swipe right on only 6% of profiles, meaning they completely filter out 94% of the pool. If 400 women send only 6% of their likes, and those likes are heavily concentrated on that top, those 100-150 men get almost all the volume. The proof is in the …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 02:33 PM
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I guess it is less about creating a strict hierarchy and more about how the apps prevent regular guys from finding an equal match. For example, I have one friend who is 6ft, very attractive, has a great career, and show off his travel and wealth on his profile. He basically attracts every type of woman and has endless scrolling on his Hinge likes screen. On the other end of the spectrum, I have several normal guy friends in tech who are great people but cannot get a single date on there.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 01:03 PM
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I have a real-life friend who is incredibly successful on dating apps. He is tall, very good-looking, and showcases travel and wealth on his profile. He showed me his Hinge account once and it was wild. It was just endless scrolling of incoming likes, and women were messaging him first alot. Because he loves casual dating and this "chase game", he even showed me a scheduler app he uses to line up dayes so he doesn't things up. If a guy is truly in the top 10%, he should be seeing massive success…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 10:59 AM
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Well, if most guys actually had a better alternative, we wouldn't be seeing the fallout of this broken dating market. Low marriage rates, high numbers of young men opting out of dating, and rising numbers of childless women are direct results of this marketplace. Sure, there are plenty of other reasons and things to blame, but dating apps are definitely a major factor in this shift.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 10:43 AM
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You are bringing up one personal story from your own life. Statistically speaking, people are absolutely shifting to dating online every year. According to Pew Research, 30% of all US adults have used a dating app, and that jumps to 53% for adults under 30.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 05:14 AM
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it is a data aggregator. If you upload an Excel spreadsheet of your bank statements to a budgeting app, that is not AI inventing numbers. It's real data. As for the selection bias argument, SwipeStats actually includes plenty of successful profiles because people love to upload their data to flex their high match rates and see their exact percentiles. The top 1% and top 10% metrics exist in the data precisely because those highly successful users are in the dataset. nobody is saying women should…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 05:06 AM
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SwipeStats is not AI. It is an analytics platform where real users upload their official, raw data exports requested directly from Hinge. The numbers come straight from the app's databases, not an algorithm's guess. As for the bot argument, Hinge requires a lot more profile verification and prompt engagement than Tinder, meaning the bot presence is significantly lower. But even if you factor in bots, they don't skew the data this way because bots typically swipe right on everyone to cast a wide …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 04:58 AM
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Yeah, Hinge is actually the best option out of the bunch. Tinder and Bumble stats are even more skewed. The sad part is that even though Hinge is the best app we have for actual relationships, the math is still this brutal for regular guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 04:55 AM
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Agreed, but generally speaking, people are moving to doing everything online, from business to dating. The trend of people meeting online is increasing every year, but it seems like it leaves a huge portion of men out of the game entirely. This directly ties into the declining marriage rates, considering census data shows that only about 16% to 20% of men are married by age 30 now.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/26 04:50 AM
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Social media has convinced women that their peak value never fades, leading them to the claim a single mom in her 30s has the same “market value” as a cheerleader in her prime. Delusion is the new standard
/r/PurplePillDebate27/04/26 04:28 PM
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A few years ago, I did exactly that. I hit all sorts of bars and clubs with a friend, but the reality didn't match your post. My 6ft+ friend got all the attractive and even average women, while I was left with the ones who were obese or very unattractive. In clubs, you’re forced to fake your status and behavior just to compete, and a lot of guys aren't interested in playing those games.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 05:53 PM
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I wish it were only for "single guys in their 20s and 30s who are overweight, have average jobs, and no college degree." The truth is I have plenty of guy friends in tech and business owners who still cannot find a single date. On the flip side, I know a guy who is 6'0"+, fit, and makes $100k+ (the top 5 percenter) who has endless scrolling on Hinge and uses a calendar to organize his weekly dates. Women usually message him first, which i find the most unique. If you are not a top man, do not ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/26 03:49 PM
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I agree that simping is sad and odd behavior, but I still understand why it happens. Young men just want that emotional connection with a woman, and for a lot of them, their alternatives are very limited.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:15 PM
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I disagree. Simps are looking for a connection with a woman and the only way possible for them to get attention from a woman is by simping for her. They think she’ll like them more if they act that way. They can’t get attention in IRL or in dating apps, so simping is their only way for that
/r/PurplePillDebate14/04/26 03:10 PM
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Statistics in Western societies show this is somewhat true. Women are not getting married as much as they used to, and young men are reporting being sexless at much higher rates than women. From my personal experience, I have a bunch of friends who can't get a single date, while I have one friend who basically has infinite scrolling on his Hinge account. Because of that, I tend to agree with your view
/r/PurplePillDebate13/04/26 12:07 PM
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Liberal women are the biggest threat to Western civilization.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/04/26 03:49 PM
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Evolutionarily, males have been providers for centuries. The real distinction is whether you’re providing for your own family and children or for someone else’s. Providing for your own bloodline is just basic biology, not simping
/r/PurplePillDebate10/04/26 12:50 PM
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High standards are fine, but social media has given many women unrealistic expectations. Having access to casual flings with top tier men makes them think that's the baseline for a real relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 01:03 PM
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That might work in theory, but with birth rates at record lows in the West, the evolutionary plan clearly isn't playing out in reality.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/04/26 01:00 PM
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I disagree. It is less about "risk" and more about the abundance of choice. When people feel like a new partner is just one swipe away, commitment feels more expensive. People aren't necessarily more cautious, they are just less willing to settle when they think a better alternative is always available.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 12:13 PM
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White gold pill is the color of my favorite antidepressant
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 02:46 AM
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Generally, Reddit doesn't represent reality. It's a place where people come specifically to vent and argue, so you're naturally going to see those who are unhappy about dating. The groups you mentioned are definitely the ones most likely to be vocal in this sub
/r/PurplePillDebate27/03/26 12:06 AM
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I guess it's hard to even define "average" now. For me, it is just "not obese and no kids," yet I still barely find dates with women in my age group. I don't think my friends are hunting for supermodels either. The problem is not our standards; it is that the apps have shifted the baseline so much that even "normal" guys are effectively invisible.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 03:49 PM
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Let me guess. You want me to buy your dating course 😂
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 03:36 PM
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Generally, if you are not 5'10" and above, dating apps are a no-go. Data from 2026 shows that women on Hinge and Bumble swipe "no" on nearly 90% of men under 5'8"
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 03:31 PM
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I go based on data. Dating apps and social media opened the market so women can easily find the most attractive guys instead of the average men around them. Since these top tier men can handle multiple women casually, it creates a massive imbalance. It is not a conspiracy theory. As of 2026, marriage rates have hit a 100 year low and over 50% of women under 30 are currently childless. The "average" guy is being skipped for a small pool of men who have no reason to settle down.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 03:29 PM
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Looking at my income, lifestyle, and friends, I do not believe I am a loser. I just happen to be like many of average guys who completely fail at dating in the current market.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 03:23 PM
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That is exactly my point. Out of 100 men, how many can actually say that? Maybe 5? You are describing the experience of the top tier of guys while the other 95% of average men are struggling to even get a single match.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 03:17 PM
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I think that regardless of earnings, most guys still want a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 03:14 PM
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I am not sure I am following. Most average guys do not even have the opportunity to choose. You are talking about men accepting "any woman," but for the average guy, the problem is not having a single option to begin with.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 03:10 PM
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I keep hearing this on Reddit, but in real life and from my experience, that is not the case. I have plenty of single guy friends who are completely failing at dating while making 100k+ and staying fit. They generally fail at dating and can't compete with the "top tier" men.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 03:05 PM
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True, but the issue for most average men is getting that first lead. Most guys rely on dating apps and trends show these platforms are becoming the norm for dating. If an average guy cannot even get a single date, "falling in love" is not even on the radar.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 03:00 PM
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I disagree. The issue is that women generally look to date up and dating apps have opened the market for them to find top-tier men while ignoring the average men around them. I am not making this up. I have several average guy friends who cannot get a single match or date. Meanwhile, I know a high-value guy (6ft, lawyer, fit) who literally uses a calendar to keep track of his dates. He showed me his Hinge app once and it is an endless scroll of likes with women messaging him first.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 02:51 PM
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Meeting online is the new norm. In 2025, surveys showed that over 50% of engaged couples met through dating apps. It is not just "below average" men. it is everyone. If the apps are the primary way to meet, then the 2% match rate for men vs. 41% for women is a massive problem for the average guy, regardless of how "insecure" you think he is.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 02:43 PM
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I go based on data and personal experience. I have a bunch of average guy friends who can’t get a single date, while I know one guy who is a 6ft fit lawyer that is using a calendar to track his dates. He showed me his Hinge and it is endless scrolling of likes and women messaging him first. None of my other "average" friends can even get a match.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 02:38 PM
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Actually, the data says otherwise. The median male match rate on apps is just 2% while for women it is 41%. This means the average man matches with 1 out of 50 people while the average woman matches with nearly half. Even a bottom tier woman gets a higher match rate (15%) than a top tier man (12%). Most guys in real life that use dating apps will tell you the exact same thing.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 02:32 PM
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It's actually a proven fact. Pew Research shows 63% of men under 30 are single, while only 34% of women are. On top of that, the median woman on dating apps has a 41% match rate, while the median man struggles at just 2%. If you do the math, it means most women share the same guys
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 02:26 PM
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That’s not true. Data shows 63% of men under 30 are single, and the number of men reporting zero sex in the past year has doubled since 2010. Sure, launching a successful startup is hard, but my analogy is just about the struggle of getting a single date, which is like a new app trying to get its very first user signup.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 02:15 PM
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The data disputes this: 52% of women below 40 in the U.S. are now childless. Sure, women are still dating, but the "conversions" into marriage or kids have dropped off a cliff because the market is broken
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 02:09 PM
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Exactly. That’s my point. Most average men don’t succeed in dating for the same reason most startups fail: they can't out-compete a monopoly's value proposition. If the "user" (woman) has the choice between a proven giant and a new beta app, they pick the giant every time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 02:05 PM
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My analogy is strictly about User Acquisition. Getting a single date as a regular guy is like a solo founder trying to get their first signup in a market dominated by monopolies. The "Top 20%" (or the top apps) are scaling while the average "founder" is just trying to get one user to notice them
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 02:02 PM
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it’s not imagination, it’s math. Pew Research shows 63% of men under 30 are single, compared to only 34% of women. How's that possible?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 01:56 PM
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Yeah, I think people over 30 just understand that everyone ages over time. At that stage, most men prioritize the relationship
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 01:42 PM
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I think the "no contact" is overrated. If there was a connection in real life, there would never need for a "no contact" test
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 01:33 PM
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I agree. The disconnect is that many women don't realize men rarely prioritize career or status in a woman. For most guys, standards are almost entirely about age, weight, and physical traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/26 01:20 PM
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