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LouiseConnor/r/RedPillWomen02/06/20 04:31 PM
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LouiseConnor/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 06:57 PM
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It is probably worth asking him what feels like mothering. Some mothering is bad. But mothers and wives should share some qualities - being encouraging, kind, loving, helpful, etc. Lots of men marry women like their mother in purpose for various reason, so you might need to figure out specifically for your husband what would be bad mothering. If he loves that you cook bc his mom cooked, don’t stop cooking, for example. If you’re reminding him to clip his toe nails, probably not necessary. But it…
/r/RedPillWives30/04/23 12:54 AM
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There’s a book called Anti-Suffragist Essays from the early 1900’s. Very interesting. From a Christian perspective, but still lots of data that’s not necessarily Christian itself (data is just data), Radical Femininity. Perhaps from Phyllis Schlafly also wrote some books.
/r/RedPillWives05/04/23 08:50 PM
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It’s understandably nerve wracking! Don’t stress, you (presumably and hopefully) have the rest of your lives to work on your sexual relationship, so it doesn’t have to be (almost guaranteed not to be, actually) the most amazing fireworks ever. So many things impact sex, expect there to be ups and downs forever. In my marriage, it’s took a solid 7 years or so to really get great. Not that we thought it was that bad, we just didn’t know the ceiling could keep rising and rising. 1) communicate abou…
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/21 02:01 AM
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All your kids, boys and girls, should be equipped with basic life skills like tidiness and basic cooking. What if your sons don’t get married for some time after moving out from your house? How will they live - starve and in a pig sty? In life, everything is not fair so you don’t want to make everything about fairness, but most parenting should be generally similarly applied to all the kids. For the example you gave, there’s no reason to let your son slack on his tidying - think of his future wi…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/21 09:50 PM
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I guess people view marriage as less permanent than children (unfortunately, in my opinion) these days. Maybe they were hoping the marriage wouldn’t work out, or if there were bumps that they could convince you to divorce. But you can un- have a child. Having kids is great! I was raised very differently than we live now. I had one sibling, we went to school. I homeschool my kids. It’s been really fun and a big growth process.
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 06:53 PM
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My husband is only a year older than me, but I also got married young and started having kids. Our family was mostly of the “well, smoke crack if you want to, your choice” kind of attitude, with a few exceptions. It’s odd to me that people supporting your marriage suddenly would not because of a pregnancy now. That’s a new one to me. In my experience, it takes time for the dissenters to come around. 5 kids and 10 years later, all of our family is more than happy for us and love our kids a ton. T…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/21 04:59 PM
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And I guess I didn’t mean so much that you had an off view of masculinity so much as the general world population who seems to say these days “if he’s a little fruity, artistic, not a meat head he must be totally feminine or gay or something”.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/21 08:28 PM
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I’ve been chatting with my husband about this lately, about why any guy not into trucks and sports is called feminine now. Some masculine men prefer to read and study and play chess, some are visionary artists or musicians or dancers, some are mad scientists. There’s a huge spectrum. Perhaps thinking outside the box a little will help seem like there are more fish in the sea for you?
/r/RedPillWomen15/05/21 06:58 PM
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Some great suggestions here! I’d add trying other times of day. Putting on a movie won’t kill your kids. Our watch Saturday morning cartoons and bc they get hardly any tv, they are GLUED. That’s surefire time right there. Also, mornings sometimes work, although we’ve had plenty of seasons where my husband gets up hours before me. We’ve also tried scheduling certain days of the week or at least each week deciding what days for that week. And I want to reiterate early bedtime. My oldest is about t…
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/21 01:46 PM
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I’ve had a kind of similar situation where people give us food quite often, but usually they are much less picky with ingredients than I am. I don’t want to say no, so I eat what I think is redeemable, or modify it, freeze some sometimes, and toss the rest. Tossing is not common, though. For me, the freezer comes in handy the most! I’d just say thanks and smile.
/r/RedPillWives07/04/21 08:18 PM
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Idk about fashion, but I love Cook’s Illustrated. I also have found some excellent gems at thrift stores.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/21 05:06 PM
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Some things we discovered into marriage that would have been helpful to be aware of earlier so we could Work on was the relationships with our parents. Not so much fixing those relationships themselves, but seeing how we were raised and how our relationships with our parents affected us.
/r/RedPillWomen06/04/21 09:34 PM
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I take a full 40 day rest after each baby. No commitments, no going anywhere, no expectations. The fourth trimester really sets you up for how mothering will be going forward. I’d say, it depends how tie birth goes and how nursing/feeding is going. It can take a while to adjust. For me, it’s mainly dependent on the physical experience and that is what my mental and emotional is based on during these seasons. I plan freezer meals, lots of easy grab snacks, ask friends and older women without kids…
/r/RedPillWives13/03/21 08:05 PM
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You know they don’t let anyone publish things that go against the narrative, right? See Dr Paul Thomas.
/r/RedPillWomen13/03/21 03:40 PM
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Was there a certain part I mentioned that you wanted link for, or one for each statement?
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 04:29 PM
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You want a link for over a decade of research and a whole medical education?
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 04:14 PM
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Not a snowflakes chance in hell for me. I’ve seen too many people injured by it and have a vaccine injured child. The maker of Gardisil has renounced it as unsafe. And that was after the Supreme Court (USA) declared all vaccines unavoidably unsafe and tax payers have paid out over $4 Billion-with-a-B to folks injured by vaccines, which Harvard (hardly an anti-science organization) has stated is about 1% of all injuries at best. And yes, my husband is a doctor so I’m not just doing “Google resear…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 04:03 PM
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My sons LOVE the old Davey Crocket movies and even though they’re young-ish, we let them watch the Mandolorian bc it’s pretty kick-butt! They also like the Karate Kid movies bc they can’t tell how cheesy they are yet lol As for actual kid shows, old Popeye is good! Goofy, but the tough guy wins by fighting, not being a wimp ... or diplomat.
/r/RedPillWives26/02/21 12:59 AM
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Most people on vents die. So those aren’t helping the death toll. Secondly the Spanish flu average age of death was folks in their 20’s, not 70+. It’s really apples and oranges. Anyway, thanks for the article. I will read it.
/r/RPChristians15/02/21 08:02 PM
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I am married to medical student, so I’m familiar with how much work you have to do now, and for many years to come. It’s cliche, but another led student might be your best bet Bc it’s hard to have anyone else really understand what you have to put in. It’s very hard to start a new relationship in the middle of the whole 10-15 year process Bc it’s just so unusual. But another led student will understand. That being said, they’re easy to come by - youre probably around them often, they don’t tend …
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/21 08:00 PM
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Right. Either could just as easily be seen as the “I guess they don’t go” or “weaker” group. But only one is getting called that bowing to their preference is the Jesus-like way. How is that so?
/r/RPChristians15/02/21 07:54 PM
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Define “same thing”. They shut down the whole economy and schools and forced businesses to close? To name a few ....
/r/RPChristians15/02/21 07:21 PM
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But to others it signals castration and willingly giving up freedom. I know tons of Christians that haven’t gone to church in almost a year since they refuse to go where they perceive people would rather give up freedom to be comfy or virtue signal than stand up for it. So, then what?
/r/RPChristians15/02/21 07:20 PM
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I know plenty of Christians that stopped going to church almost a year ago (when initial church closings happened) and refuse to go to a masked church. They are also weaker in this area. What happens when both parties are weaker in the situation?
/r/RPChristians15/02/21 07:03 PM
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The link from rocknrollchuck is great. In my experience you cannot make your man DK anything. He cannot learn true leadership from a woman, especially his woman. I “stepped down from leading” for our first 7 years and it was miserable. You can leave all the space you want - and should so you are clear before God - but don’t expect anything. Space does not teach a man how to lead, it just gives him space. So in my experience, I was frustrated Bc I had expectations that I should have let go of (al…
/r/RPChristians09/02/21 03:06 AM
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If she willing for this, it’s important to research bio parents rights very intensely Bc many end up wanting contact later but in the stress of everything opted to be shut out completely forever. More and more families are opting for more flexibility, even getting their own kids back, later in life. You just never know how your life or outlook on the matter will change over time.
/r/RPChristians27/01/21 12:06 AM
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Mm I see what you’re saying. That’s unfortunate that he was out of touch with the ebb and flow of giving birth and postpartum. Idk if you have to completely throw it away though.
/r/RedPillWives26/01/21 07:45 PM
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Sounds like quite the rough patch. Hang in there, it’s good you didn’t go through with the cheating. I think all wives can understand attraction coming and going throughout marriage. It’s not a steady constant thing and it’ll probably wane again the the future. If he’s kind of letting himself go, maybe he feels there isn’t much to upkeep himself for these days. It could be life stress, Covid, or your relationship. You could start each day with yourself thinking about or journaling at least one t…
/r/RedPillWives26/01/21 06:59 PM
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I’ve always admired mature looking women who can pull off animal prints, graphic tees, bright colors, chunky accessories. These things always come off as too cutsie or youthful on me. I think it comes down to the whole package - that you can’t go half way with it and some parts of it have to seem high end. I’m always jealous of a killer graphic tee and blazer outfit. My husband hates animal prints but I love these. And these bright colors are fantastic.
/r/RedPillWives23/01/21 12:18 PM
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That’s fine 😊🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/21 01:52 AM
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If he had serious mental issues.... that doesn’t sound like a sex issue. Sounds like a vetting issue.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 05:41 PM
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I didnt mean it wasn’t wise to talk about stuff before if you know if either of you have some preferences or what not. That’s another reason I think the less experience the better, Bc then people don’t have many preferences or hard to kill habits. You can actually grow together instead of having to accommodate deeply ingrained things.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 03:50 PM
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I think anyone can become sexually compatible since it takes years to develop and mature and thriving sex life with someone. So I don’t believe dating time really gives a good picture of what your married sex life will be like. So many things affect your sex lite from work, stress, health, loss, moving, kids, extended family, that I don’t think it’s possible to avoid issues. Everyone has issues with it for some reason at some point.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 02:11 PM
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She seems like an extreme case but I’ll just say my MiL is pretty extreme as well as I used to think fights were unavoidable as well. She is severely mentally and emotionally and physically disabled. She was abused all her life. Hurt people hurt people. She lived with us for three years. It was absolutely horrible. Everyone fought all the time. She’s excellent practice for me to STFU and go “oh yeah? Wow. Neat. Huh, that’s interesting. Oh yeah... I see. You’re right.” Kind of nothing type stents…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/21 08:08 PM
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I did not grow up around large families. I met them when I finally went to a Bible-teaching church when I was in college. I had gone to church my whole life but between that dead church and public school, I met zero true believers until I went to college.
/r/RedPillParenting12/01/21 09:07 PM
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Along with kibbe, one huge yet very simple upgrade to how old I look - I am also small and look young - was doing my eye brows. I just pluck them now and add some powder with an angled brush. One most days I only do brows and mascara and I’m good to go!
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/21 10:53 PM
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Of you make him food he wants but aggravate his condition, how does he at toward your - blame you that he does feel well, or happy you made other food? Bc if he is happy but sick, I’d make the other food. It’s somewhat up to him to participate in his health. Maybe if he experiences the ill feeling enough, it will motivate him back to the blander diet. In a similar way, my husband has mild-medium gut issue and although I cook great food for him and pack him food for work, he always gets junk from…
/r/RedPillWives08/01/21 07:26 PM
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That true! I was able to take the angle of what HE wanted - he kept mentioning how he was so excited to have people over and how I would do such a good job and be so pleasant and happy. Then that opened to door for me to say : here are the barriers to me actually having a good time, which I also want!
/r/RedPillWives05/01/21 12:08 PM
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I actually got to have a convo with my husband about this! Especially since I like to really make to special but the nearby family doesn’t care at all if it was paper plates and freezer food. 😳 Yeah, I’m not doing that. Plus, this family usually takes him away to hang/chat/whatever and I’m not only hosting a huge meal no one cares about but also having to manage kids. So finally I was able to say nicely, not complaining, but asking him how did he think I could feel more involved with the whole f…
/r/RedPillWives05/01/21 01:59 AM
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This is not true. It does have a lot of growth hormone though which bodybuilders pay big money for. If your breastmilk has enough estrogen to grow boobs on your child, there are other factors at play like environmental toxins such as personal care products and birth control, and trouble eliminating excess hormones which is done mainly by your liver (processing) and bowels (physically eliminating). To produce milk you actually need quite low estrogen which is one reason many nursing women have tr…
/r/RPChristians04/01/21 05:19 PM
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Yeah these little pumps are awesome for taking a little pressure off!
/r/RPChristians04/01/21 05:15 PM
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Not really; so far I’ve been picking up little things here and there while reading about femininity and trying to take notes from people I know in person. I have one book that is a Christian book on hospitality but I haven’t made it more than a few pages yet. It’s apparently a classic and my friends that are the best at it all have read it - Open Heart Open Home.
/r/RedPillWives03/01/21 07:42 PM
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It takes a lot of time - many years - to learn yourself and your partner and better technique all the time. It’s not something you just have or not, you develop it over time.
/r/RedPillWomen03/01/21 03:38 AM
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I’m surprised they love sterile plastic more than an open wound in a diaper.
/r/RPChristians02/01/21 11:32 PM
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I understand your sentiment. It’s nothing I will ruin my marriage over if my husband wants it done though. I have no strong feelings either way. Submission to him is more important than dying on this hill.
/r/RPChristians02/01/21 11:31 PM
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It is hard enough to please one partner, even if you lower your standard, it will never feel fulfilling. A necessary ingredient for monogamy to not feel boring is to continue to grow and learn and change. That way, everything is not the same all the time. This be specifically sexual growth, but even keeping other areas of life interesting helps the bedroom as well.
/r/RedPillWomen02/01/21 11:30 PM
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God really changed my mind on having lots of kids (from not wanting to, to wanting to) by me spending time with large families and seeing how loving and fun they were and reading magazines for mothers that promote God choosing yourself family size. It really was a heart matter and also unfamiliarity for me. For some women it is more cerebral in that they have rationalizations holding them back - most of them grounded in fear.
/r/RedPillParenting02/01/21 11:22 PM
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Hospitality is a classic one - hostess skills. It’s something I’m working on. It really is an art!
/r/RedPillWives02/01/21 11:19 PM
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Of my sons that are, I can say beyond the shadow of a doubt for anyone wanting it done that avoiding the clamp at all costs is nice. A better method is the Plasti-bell. It takes off less skin, does not leave any open wound, quicker, less chance of it being crooked, you can hold the baby in your arms while it’s done. The last thing a mother needs having just given birth - exhausted, in pain, bleeding - is a baby with an open wound in a diaper to deal with. This is honestly my main reason for peti…
/r/RPChristians01/01/21 11:27 PM
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Yeah that does sound frustrating. Maybe my view is tweaked bc my husband can instantly see it and dislikes heavy make up and the plastic surgery look very much. I’ve personally never covered my skin with any foundation so he must be used to that.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/20 03:17 PM
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I know exactly what you mean. But I think everyone sees right through it. Younger people may have a less easy time discerning that it’s not the norm bc they spend more time on screens and less time with many different types of people face to face though. But I don’t think almost anyone truly believes these “influencers” are practicing what they preach whatsoever. I also think it’s easy to avoid them. There are so many quality people age pages out there that reflect reality better!
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/20 12:56 PM
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Hm. That is a great solution you came up with. Maybe cut your losses on this particular plan.
/r/RedPillWives21/12/20 03:30 PM
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You don’t have to go, and I understand your principle, but she’s going to cook the rabbit either way so your not attending won’t save that one. You did tell her your specific objection, right? Bc if so, her racist comment doesn’t make any sense.
/r/RedPillWives21/12/20 03:11 PM
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Then you’re at an impasse with yourself. Just wait it out. How often has your woman been sexual when she wasn’t really feeling it? Probably more than you. It’s just your turn now. It’s a part of marriage.
/r/RPChristians18/12/20 11:26 PM
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Maybe you’re not looking for practicals then. Mindset shift could help. Instead of focusing on the physical for the time, use the physical to remind you of the wonder of marital intimacy, creating a legacy through having offspring, the miracle of conception and pregnancy and birth, and vision for the joy and responsibility or rising disciples in your home. Imagine how inspired proud you’ll be to watch your wife mother your children and thrive in that God-designed role. The amazing harmony of hus…
/r/RPChristians18/12/20 11:19 PM
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Some things you can’t unsee. You don’t know what you don’t know and that moment is not a moment to find out some of those things if you might not take them well.
/r/RPChristians18/12/20 11:13 PM
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To rephrase: snap back to reality. Of course her belly was going to widen as she grew the children you made! Did you not except that? You said she’s frustrated with you - Assumingly bc you told her about you not finding her attractive anymore. Don’t tell your woman stuff like that. Your baby won’t be cute when it pops out either btw. Oh, and don’t watch it coming out bc if you’re having this much trouble with the waist, you’re going to be forever scarred by the bun coming out of your oven. No tu…
/r/RPChristians18/12/20 11:10 PM
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Get over it. It won’t last forever. And keep your two cents to yourself.
/r/RPChristians18/12/20 10:57 PM
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I would shrug and drop it. I’d keep the mindset that he’s possibly the one missing out on a nice conversation. Oh well, his loss.
/r/RedPillWives15/12/20 02:09 AM
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Thanks, apparently I was out of the loop on this one.
/r/RPChristians15/12/20 01:38 AM
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Wild At Heart by John Eldredge
/r/RPChristians14/12/20 12:02 PM
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I shop once a week for my family of 5. I do a large shopping trip at the beginning of the month for all shelf stable and freeze foods and any staples I ran out of that usually come in larger packages. Each week for the rest of the month is a smaller and much easier trip for only fresh fruit, veggies, milk, and odds and ends. I have a lump sum for the whole month and can spend up to do much, but of course don’t have to spend it all. I can choose to save extra and roll over to following months if …
/r/RedPillWives10/12/20 11:50 PM
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Definitely depends on how it’s defined. I’ve heard of it from things like actual wife spanking to, say, if she’s been getting snippy from social media addiction he takes away her phone for a bit. So apparently there is a spectrum of how it’s carried out.
/r/RedPillWomen10/12/20 02:18 AM
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It’s a very real thing. You got (or are getting) married bc you love him and want to be with him. It’s a fact of life though that you can’t spend all day together. Even if you could, most couple end up hating that. I think this is where a community of other SAH wife’s/smothers comes in handy, like more traditional cultures. That way there would ideally be people you could see and spend time with, help them, or maybe they help you with things, or go places/shopping etc together. I don’t believe w…
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/20 06:43 PM
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Teaching and also responsibility/discipline if something goes wrong.
/r/RedPillWives02/12/20 03:59 PM
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It depends what you mean by “safe days”. If you are relying on an app to guess for you, you have zero confidence that it is ever correct. However, if you learn an actually Fertility Awareness Method, you can learn when you are actually fertile or not and add the appropriate amount of days before and after your window for the extra days sperm can survive inside of you. That being said, yes, when you are not fertile, you cannot get pregnant. But you have to take the time investment to learn that. …
/r/RedPillWomen01/12/20 03:23 PM
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I know exactly what you mean. We sound like similar people. In my marriage I was always submissive in idea and as far as decision making but my tongue got me in trouble all the time. I didn’t see how the way I talked was not submissive at all. I have always had a strong urge to let people know how right I am. Nowadays I’ve toned it down a lot and most of the time I don’t worry about it or if I decide to mention something I only say it once and then drop it. I used to really dig my heels in until…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/20 05:13 PM
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My hands don’t seem feminine to me either. All I’ve found is that certain shape of doing my nails and drawing attention to other things helps me feel better. Idk that it actually makes a difference to anyone else.
/r/RedPillWomen28/11/20 11:07 PM
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Maybe I’m misunderstanding, but I thought a Captain was just the man. But also he can be a sucky (or drunk) captain, or a kick butt captain.
/r/RedPillWives24/11/20 12:43 AM
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“Thanks! I appreciate that!” Thanks, this dress has pockets, how awesome is that?” Lol Thanks! Great minds think alike bc our outfits coordinate today. How Cute!”
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 10:56 PM
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I don’t think you need a certain personality to pull off dressing nicely. When I mentioned accepting things, it could relate to dressing bc you might receive more compliments. Some people aren’t comfortable with that, but I think anyone can get used to it and have a really pleasant way of accepting it. (This skill will roll over to accepting other things like physical gift items and favors too.) Maybe if you shift your inner dialogue about other girls, you’ll be more gentle on yourself and confi…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 07:20 PM
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I’ve always found it problematic to be underdressed but no one has ever given me even a silent look about being “overdressed”. I have a lot of practice though. We’ve always gone to a quite casual church and I just like to dress up a bit more - it’s the only time I really go out these days that isn’t grocery shopping! If anything people say, “oh you look cute/nice/love that scarf!” It’s definitely a skill to practice graciously accepting things - in this case compliments, but also extends to gift…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/20 06:37 PM
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Thank you 🙏🏻
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 02:39 AM
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I’ve spent a lot of time with families of more than 5 kids and this wasn’t ever the case. I’m sure it’s possible, but it’s also common in families with one or two kids - aka, my family growing up. Bc we (just me and a brother) had a single mom. I mostly raised myself and my family is not close. The big families I know are the most close knit.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 01:13 AM
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More than 5, up to... idk? 14? I really don’t have a number. Whatever God brings us is good for us. We started young so a larger than average family probably won’t be hard to achieve but you never know what happens in life - We have three and lost our fourth.
/r/RedPillWomen21/11/20 01:11 AM
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All our parents and grandparents were not too keen on me quitting school, getting married, and being a stay at home wife. That is our four parents, two step parents, and a lot of grandparents. We just said, thank you, we have faith in God and a smart plan, and zipped the lip. It takes time for some people to see the value and stop thinking it’s about them.
/r/RedPillWomen20/11/20 11:26 PM
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I have just started it. I love to read, and usually read very quickly, but I find this one is a slow read for me. I really enjoy it so far. I’ve read quite a few books on femininity and wifehood, but this has some things I’ve never heard before.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/20 09:47 PM
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Truth is: you will not be the same in a few years after marriage and neither will your spouse. Who you end up marrying is not who you end up with. People change over the course of life, events change people, dashed dreams change people, jobs, family drama... if all changes you... and hopefully you and your spouse are always working on growing as people so you change (improve). So don’t try to look for a perfect person bc they won’t be around forever. Look for a person worth growing and changing …
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/20 08:43 PM
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Sounds awesome! I agree, prepare for haters. But every great idea/brand polarizes. It shows you’re probably doing it right. Topics: dating, female friendships, femininity in the workplace
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/20 03:42 PM
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Just be direct - “what are your dreams/plans for the future?” “Oh wow, that’s interesting/neat, are you basically on the path to that? Or what is the path to that kind of end goal?”
/r/RedPillWives14/11/20 11:28 AM
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I wouldn’t want to convince him of anything. He should lead from the front. Maybe “have you ever thought about teaching?” and see where he takes it from there.
/r/RedPillWives14/11/20 12:25 AM
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Plans change all the time. You’ll want to talk about their back ups or see if they are able to keep you in the loop as things shift and flow over time. As for us, we are Christians, so we committed to following God first and foremost. Anything after that is of much less consequence to us. But part of our faith walk is keeping our word, and if things have to change we both trust God more than each other. So to us, that feels completely safe. You can never trust anyone 100%. So that’s why we rely …
/r/RedPillWives14/11/20 12:25 AM
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I married my husband when we had no money. Literally, he had a seasonal job the summer we got married. He had a plan to grow into life though so we’ve grown together. Does your SO have a plan to progress in life? Does he see himself staying where he’s at? That’s more important than the current position. Does he have vision?
/r/RedPillWives13/11/20 09:30 PM
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So with men there’s weak frame and strong frame. Good frame and lame frame. But there wasn’t any of that here for women. Can you speak to that for me?
/r/RPChristians12/11/20 11:04 AM
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No More Nice Guys was eye opening to him. I think there’s another called Boundaries.
/r/RedPillWomen06/11/20 11:41 AM
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That would be excellent! I’ve seen a few small Instagram pages geared toward teens. So needed!
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/20 11:55 PM
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That’s interesting! My impression on Instagram at least has been younger crowd. Either single or just married/just starting a family. I know what you mean about bloggers, a lot of them started as a hobby like 10-15 years ago. I’m excited to see younger women showing up to the party too!
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/20 08:50 PM
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Sounds amazing! Every voice and story needs to be heard. I have been following a lot of trad women and men on insta and they are growing pretty fast. I think people are curious at the very least and many are hungry for a different option in life. What’s your handle??
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/20 08:45 PM
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I’m not 30 yet, but I’ve been married 9 years and we’ve been through what most people don’t usually experience til their 40s and beyond. (Caring for aging parents, losing a child, moving a lot, etc)
/r/RedPillWives01/11/20 06:12 PM
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My strategy revolves around the desired outcome : is it imperative that he knows he’s wrong? Is it life and death? Are you wishing to save him embarrassment/people thinking less of him? Or simply you think he’s wrong and of course everyone enjoys being right so you wish you could show him he’s right? I’ve found it’s almost never necessary to make sure he knows I know he’s wrong. I’ve learned to find no satisfaction in that and more satisfaction in keeping respect and peace in the relationship. I…
/r/RedPillWomen01/11/20 11:13 AM
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I’m puzzled why people even use the word if they dislike the idea.
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/20 11:15 AM
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My mom was mostly so gel raising us and very dominant and career focused but she loved homemaking. She didn’t have much time to do it though. She taught us to cook and weekends w head to do house chores. She actually needed me to cook from a young age bc she was not home to do it and she was very serious about eating healthy food from scratch. One of the best things I did to learn to be a wife (since I did not ever see that modeled) was go live with another family. Now I didn’t do it on purpose …
/r/RedPillWomen30/10/20 11:14 AM
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I as a Christian absolutely define submission as the dictionary definition. My husband is not my equal. He is not my friend first and foremost, he is my authority. Don’t even mind if he says I belong to him. Straight patriarchy in my house. And in return for submission and respect I give him, he treats me like a queen. He speaks highly of me to his colleagues, he seeks to make my life easy when it’s reasonable and beneficial, he works very hard to provide and protect me and the kids, he takes on…
/r/RedPillWomen29/10/20 03:39 PM
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So fascinating!!! Thanks for sharing
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/20 03:42 PM
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Their virtu signal is sometimes “I don’t care about men’s looks, just personality.... or at least personality if more important to me.” They are trying to appear more virtuous by not caring or caring less about looks. As if that’s too shallow to care anything about.
/r/RedPillBooks21/10/20 11:53 AM
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Or they are virtue signaling. Aka, lying to themselves. And the men.
/r/RedPillBooks20/10/20 02:32 PM
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the fallacy of learning the basics and thinking your an expert You just described med school. As for the TSH example - your body is not lacking birth control hormones. It has what it needs. Pumping it full of synthetics to shut down a functioning system is not “giving your body what it needs” and should be taken lightly or pretended like it won’t have any consequences.
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/20 06:36 PM
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We have four and I’d like 5-10. I had them at 20, 22, 24, 26. Now I’m 28.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 05:22 PM
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Don’t worry I’ve read more than one book about hormones and listened to lots of lectures by medical doctors and all sorts of people for many years. Not to mention, my husband is a doctor. Do you know how much he’s been taught in his decade+ of medical training about the menstrual cycle? Just about nothing. Sure, they’ve been taught what hormones go up and down at what times but they are not taught how the menstrual cycle is a vital sign that interacts with just about all other body systems and c…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 11:38 AM
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And very few humans. Lots of space.
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 11:37 AM
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My relationship with my mom sounds similar in some ways. Her personality generally lacks empathy, sympathy, tenderness. She great at physically caring for things - loves to cook, garden, house keeping - horrible at showing any emotion through it. Very utilitarian. Combine that with : my dad was a jerk so she did need to toughen up to be a single mom of two kids, a temporary step dad that was very insecure and (found out way later) wasting his whole salary gambling), then she was single again. He…
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 11:36 AM
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I really enjoy PRM! The medical system’s treatment of women and hormonal issues is absolutely insane. “Let’s slap a one size fits all bandaid on it by shutting down a function system. It’s functioning poorly, albeit, but we don’t know how it functions or how to fix it anyway. So the best bet it to force it into a fake regulation. Tadaaaaaa! Now stop complaining.”
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/20 11:28 AM
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I’m not going to recreate whole books of information. I have a stack of them at my house. The Fifth Vital Sign is a very well-reaches book you may be interested in to flesh out what is true and not. It will discuss things like how the pill is fairly harmful whole clearing your skin - a nice side effect but not worth it for liver damage. Etc.
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/20 11:18 AM
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You are incorrect. First, the rhythm method is when you guess using the calendar and previous cycles, no temps, no mucus observations. Some FAM methods utilize ovulation test strips as well. People that have been taught by an instructor have as high of efficacy as the pill. 80% stats are by those that compromise, many knowingly, on the rules bc that’s their choice. Hormonal birth control has many side effects including but not limited to: depleting b vitamins and other minerals while raising cer…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/20 01:04 AM
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you only know what he tells you You only know what a man cheating on his wife who also has small kids tells you .... just let that sink in for a second.
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/20 07:26 PM
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Some books you may like for info on what hormonal contraceptives really do to your body are Period Repair Manual and The Fifth Vital Sign. Barriers sound like they may be your best bet for now. If you were to learn real fertility awareness, not one based on the calendar or an app, your success will be as high as the pill EVEN with irregular cycles. And to boot, you won’t have to use condoms every single time. Fertility awareness is a vital skill for all women of all ages. It is not “too advanced…
/r/RedPillWomen16/10/20 03:51 PM
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And I’ll add to what Glory said in that: your wife does not know the entirety of her parents’ marriage. No child does. She saw only glimpses, what was publicly displayed. She could not read their thoughts or see their heart attitudes.
/r/RPChristians16/10/20 02:00 PM
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We are her only care takers and she really means well. She can’t help her past and how it made her this way. My husband was able to read some books and really improve in a lot of ways. It was the realizing certain things that was actually harder.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/20 07:26 PM
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She was disabled, sick, needy, narcissistic, impulsive, anxious, frantic, divorced multiple times. She relied on him for emotional support and decision making from a young age. Very unhealthy.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/20 03:42 PM
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I’ve had a very different experience. It depends on the type of mother I suppose. My husband was a classical Nice Guy and it largely stemmed from issues with his mother.
/r/RedPillWomen12/10/20 03:38 PM
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I’ve only read her one book The Surrendered Wife. I appreciated that same principle about shutting up. Because I used to be extremely annoying and “yeah but” everything or “yeah and explain” stuff which just is such an unpleasant way to respond to every single thing. Another was the finances. I am much much better at keeping them organized and making everything on time, but I don’t really touch them at all now. Occasionally (one a year?) he has me pay a few things online and I do it, not even lo…
/r/RedPillWives09/10/20 11:04 AM
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If my husband were on Reddit he would say, Yes. Look for a submissive woman, or one who is open to learning and growing in that area. Yes, it reduced majority of issues in the marriage and home. Yes, it makes life easier. Yes, it’s biblical and necessary, not an opinion or preference, but also, he likes it and we are both more fulfilled overall.
/r/RPChristians08/10/20 03:59 PM
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You could try only checking your phone at certain times of day, and not too many times. Like 3 times. Then when you see a message, you can think of what to say til next time and really polish it. Also, it will reduce you instantly replying if you think it’s not something that’s working for you.
/r/RedPillWomen07/10/20 06:36 PM
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Radical Womanhood is a book I recently read that goes through quite a bit of history of feminism. It is from a Christian perspective. I learned a lot as far as history of the different movements and smaller movements in between, so many things I had never heard of. History is neither Christian or not, so I think it’s valuable for anyone interested in feminism (or interested in its death).
/r/RedPillWives05/10/20 11:58 PM
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I agree. I think the pageants overall tout community activity etc but I’m not familiar enough to know how widespread or impactful it is.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/20 11:54 PM
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I haven’t watched Phyllis but my impression from social media reviews is that how she was portrayed was not accurate at all. As for Miss America, it seems way too fake to me. They say they are inspiring young girls etc ... to what? If you have thousands of dollars to spend in beauty treatments and coaches and trainers and travel, you might win. Kind of like travel sports. In the US, you have have to have loads of money to be on fancy teams that scouts look at. It seems like a privilege competiti…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/20 10:23 PM
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Wow. I’m so sorry that you’ve had this burden to bear. You’re absolutely right that your mother is stuck with a false gospel and very off on her interpretation of the Bible itself and how to apply it to life. Are you financial able to get yourself out of there? It’s an extremely toxic environment and staying there is NOT “honoring your father and mother”, nor is leaving dishonoring.
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/20 04:38 PM
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I had the same fears. I never wanted to get married or have kids bc my own mother was very toxic. People told me I was just like her (they meant it in a good way) so I figured I was like the bad parts and would ruin my own kids lives therefore - no kids for me. I ended up becoming a Christian, getting married young and becoming a young parent. The actual process of parenting gave me opportunity to work through hurts and neglect and all sorts of things. It’s made me such a better person. However,…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/20 11:08 AM
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While it is perfectly fine if you to stick to not wanting children, it’s not too solid to base it off of some time spent with other people’s kids - you didn’t conceive, grow, birth, nurse, care for them 24/7, teach them character and manners, and you haven’t bonded with them at all in the normal ways parents do with their children. Also, it’s very clear-minded of your to recognize how your upbringing could/would affect being a parent yourself. Too many people don’t realize this until it’s much t…
/r/RedPillWomen05/10/20 01:15 AM
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I’m sure that class died out for lack of success. Although, in my lifetime my aunt had all 6 children the preferred sex from some book she read. I think they call it baby swaying? Or sway something. We know a lot more about how babies are made than they did in 1918
/r/RedPillWives04/10/20 07:16 PM
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Okay, one interesting thing is that in fruit flies they have shown that copulating with subsequent partners has given offspring with the previous partners DNA. 😳 crazy. Also, we are not flies. Thanks for sharing these excerpts! Some real doozies and also interesting ones in there. A friend of mine had found a similar book but less wacky and ore practical tips, yet a few simply outdated ones because of science that wasn’t discovered yet.
/r/RedPillWives04/10/20 06:46 PM
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Im sorry, that’s never easy. Probably for the best though if he didn’t have the gall to break up with you on his own.
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 05:04 PM
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It seems like he’s been looking for you to run with the way he has been drooling over marriage and not proposing. Women do that sometimes. But it wasn’t working so he picked a fight over nothing? Idk. Really strange. How old are you guys?
/r/RedPillWomen04/10/20 04:51 PM
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Always make me laugh. This was when I was into biking too..... not conducive
/r/RedPillWomen03/10/20 07:16 PM
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You are definitely not alone in your experiences so don’t let that lie seep into your head. You can take all that heavy burden and drop it right at the foot of the cross. 1 John 1:9 says if we confess our sins He is faithful to forgive us. So that’s, the first part as far as dealing with yourself and God. Having a good relationship is possible. If you’re looking in quality places for quality Christian men, they should have a box for women who have a past they aren’t proud of but have committed t…
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/20 03:22 PM
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Marriage is not a lottery, you aren’t just scratching a ticket and take what it is. There are many ways to eliminate the people most likely to have a bad marriage. There are good candidates out there. Looking at bad marriages and concluding bad marriage is not for, sure. Looking at bad marriages and concluding marriage is not for you at all - idiotic. The examples you described that you have are NOT an appropriate way to learn about marriage. And I did not say having children is guaranteed that …
/r/RPChristians29/09/20 05:05 PM
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He’ll also look 55 when he’s 90 haha
/r/RedPillWomen29/09/20 11:58 AM
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For knitting, most people start with the cheapest material which tend to make ugly stuff. Invest just a little bit more than the cheapest and make sure you don’t substitute any materials in the instructions so it comes out exactly as shown. (Yarn weight and needle size is important!) Then, pick something to make that you’d actually like and use! I liked starting knitting with a quality cotton yarn and made dishcloths. They were useful, easy to make, quick and therefore satisfying, and not ugly. …
/r/RedPillWives28/09/20 12:05 PM
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Singleness also comes with demands and expectations: celibacy, for one. There are many blessings to a godly marriage: you get a helpmeet that lives to serve and please you, you get to enjoy sex, you could be blessed with offspring to pass down legacy and inheritance and it’s a way to grow the kingdom of God, you get companionship and friendship in your wife for God said it’s not good that man is alone. You can’t look at crap marriages and conclude that marriage has no blessings. It’s like lookin…
/r/RPChristians28/09/20 11:53 AM
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You’re a believer and he is not, correct? If so, you are completely free to let it end if he’s walking away. But now he’s trying to gaslight you and say he doesn’t want it to end, is that what’s happening?
/r/RPChristians28/09/20 11:45 AM
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True, and no matter what you’ll always be sacrificing some blessings that go along with either lifestyle. There are pros and cons to both. Not just cons to marriage. I’m sorry you have bad examples. I’d get a new community and better people to be around.
/r/RPChristians28/09/20 12:32 AM
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Or, these men could be the issue in their marriage. They, themselves. Perhaps they are allowing the issues instead of getting quality advice how eradicate them.
/r/RPChristians27/09/20 06:00 PM
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I have no issues wearing leggings for working out, but I try not to wear them to the store, definitely not church or for regular wear any other time. I’ve heard my brothers, husband, and enough other guys oogle at women bc you can see every shape and curve in leggings so for me I would like to keep that for my husband and not make other men uncomfortable trying to avoid looking at me. For exercise, it’s just a practicality. I hated the wide leg yoga pant phase in the late 2000s. It was awful!
/r/RedPillWomen26/09/20 10:26 PM
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It is scientifically false that you can get pregnant any time in your cycle.
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 08:56 PM
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You’re either fertile or not, there is no degree of fertility. There are days more likely to be fertile days in your window though. I’m going to repeat getting Taking Charge Of Your Fertility to learn how cycles actually work. Women are fertile only about 1-2 days, then the fertile window is expanded usually 5 days beforehand because sperm can live in fertile quality mucus for up to 5 days. An app cannot tell you when you are fertile. Only you can determine it day to day. If you invest some time…
/r/RedPillWomen20/09/20 08:55 PM
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She’s probably irked that you misunderstand her life. I usually hear child free people say that they don’t hate kids or never want to be around them, they just don’t want to go through the whole song and dance for decades without end, they don’t want “parent” to be their identity.
/r/RedPillWomen16/09/20 10:21 AM
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It varies person to person. I’m a SAHM and my husband got stuck at home for a few months. We lounged a lot. Now that he’s back out of the house, I start my day on workout clothes, freshen up at some point, then put on a normal or “cute” outfit. It makes me feel nice and when I feel nice I treat him nicer. It’s a win win!
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/20 03:02 PM
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No way. If he’ll cheat on current wife, he’ll cheat on you as the next wife. Almost everyone makes the same mistakes in second and third etc marriages.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 07:43 PM
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You said it perfectly. “Mewing” is just one piece or strategy of Orthotropics. There are some other Orthotropics dentists I follow on Instagram too. One is Dr Steven Lin.
/r/RedPillWomen08/09/20 02:06 PM
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Misery loves company. Usually I see people hate the most on things which hurt them - not bc they are bad things inherently, but bc they didn’t have it or it hurt them. So they want folks enjoying that thing to also be hurt. At least, I can see in hindsight that I’ve been this way when I used to be very miserable and b*itc hy
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 02:17 PM
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What’s your age? You might enjoy binge watching Dr Mike Mew on youtube. At least, it fascinates me. Depending on your age, you can change the shape of your face/jaw.
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 12:15 PM
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That’s a thing I don’t get about people: if you hate it, why spend so much time obsessing over it?
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 12:12 PM
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The question confuses me too. But it’s the worst from folks that grew up with a stay at home mom that also had a maid and housekeeper and all that so their mother really was just a professional socialite. My schedule is similar: up 5:30-6 and down at 10 pm. I make all the meals from scratch and clean the kitchen each time. Homeschool three kids, workout, take care of the house, no naps for a moments silence. If we’re lucky on school time we go out to the play ground. After dinner is bedtime and …
/r/RedPillWomen07/09/20 10:44 AM
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This sounds so similar to me with my three babies! The difference is that I was always denying him instead of him denying me/not feeling into it. I have so much pain down there while nursing, for at least 9 months postpartum. And our babies sleep with us for about the first year. Around age 12-15 months I bite the bullet and get them to sleep in a pack n play in our room. Another successful thing a friend of mine does is train the baby to sleep on a floor mat/bed so she ca nurse them to sleep an…
/r/RedPillWives06/09/20 07:51 PM
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I’m so sorry for the hurtful comments he said to you! It’s not loving whatsoever. It seems youve been under quite a bit of stress this year with covid. This hits men very hard. His pride is probably shattered. He probably feels inadequate as a provider himself, which makes it easy for him to lash out at something you might feel inadequate about. It in no way excuses his comments though but this is how you work through problems. Mean comments will happen many many more times in marriage, especial…
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/20 03:49 PM
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I got married at 18 and had my fourth at 26. I understand your thoughts about what if conception is hard - very legitimate concern that affects many people. Weigh out finishing your degree and being a mother at the same time. I know it can be done. It seems he’d and I wouldn’t do it, But how would that look for you? Maybe you can do both.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/20 11:06 AM
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You probably don’t have to tone it down, but keep in mind to balance it with really attentive listening skills and asking interesting questions to show that you don’t do it to try to hog all the attention, but it’s just a fun feature of how you are.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/20 11:03 AM
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Oh no! That sounds awful. I stick to tweezers. Does that do the same?
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 04:33 PM
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I would say brows are a big thing to keep nice and really upgrade your face easily without make up. Can you do lip balm? For just a little shine or tint? Focus on hair and accessories from there. I love make up but don’t get to it many days.
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 04:28 PM
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It was a very nice gesture of your boyfriend, but you’re boyfriend is already the captain of your ship. You have kids and a home. Your dad doesn’t have authority to pass to your boyfriend. It was a nice try, but knowing dad dislikes him already, it doesn’t sound surprising. I guess a telling more than asking might have made sense. But regardless, move onto wedding planning! We had some resistance to our wedding (for very different reasons. We were 18) and everyone has come around now after a dec…
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/20 11:10 AM
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I lived with a family when I was in college. They had a lot of kids, like 10, and I was just 5 or so years older than the oldest kid. Nonetheless, if the wife or everyone but dad was on vacay and I stayed home, or some similar situation, the dad went to a friends house. We did not be alone together even though nothing would ever happen, huge age gap, not even a chance at all. But still, we avoided that altogether.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/20 09:59 PM
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I’ve built with my husband. We met at 16, married at 18 and he did his higher education for over a decade for a good paying job. The humble beginnings test the woman’s loyalty and commitment, the better ending tests the man’s. Women need and seek the security so it’s harder for them at the beginning like that. And men, once they’re more successful, feel like they can get anything/anyone they want and get approached by more women. In my experience, it was fun and carefree to be broke kids togethe…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 04:39 PM
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Definitely! The hair, make up, accessories, even shoes can totally make it. A cute jean jacket is really versatile too! Dress it up or down. My new favorite is a pair of really comfy wedge heels. Idk what they are called ... with the like straw braiding abound the wedge part. They are black and go with everything and when I wear them with fitted jeans my husband goes nuts. I’m short so it works.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 04:27 PM
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I think it’s newer-ish and comes from the “hot mess” culture. Being a basically put together hot mess is the most acceptable bc people are too easily offended by people who aren’t mediocre. They take someone achieving something or having a general habit or higher standard in some area of life, think about themSELF and somehow that it’s a reflection on themSELF, instead what it is - a reflection of that other person. As if the other person is doing for others. I think the internet and social medi…
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/20 04:12 PM
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I think I had a gel done a few years ago that stayed really well. When it started to chip the color came off all in one piece. I’m just not interested in maintaining polish these days. Just special occasions. My hair is 3C ish as well and really really soft so I can’t load it with product. I usually just do some MissJessies Jelly Soft gel after it air dries then spritz with water and diffuse dry on low. My hair is short right now (growing out a pixie, thanks quarantine), so it doesn’t take too l…
/r/RedPillWomen05/08/20 07:02 PM
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I just found a playlist of French music on Spotify that makes me feel so romantic and lovely, especially when I’m cooking or cleaning or self care. I don’t remember tons of French but I know half the list is love songs. I found the playlist searching for the Ratatouille music for my kids.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 05:49 PM
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What kind of hair do you have? It can make a big difference with the wash and styling routine. I work with my hands a lot - bread making, gardening, lifting, cleaning. I just keep my nails short and filed, no paint usually. I have to keep the left hand nails short for guitar playing anyway, so they all stay short.
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/20 05:47 PM
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I know exactly what you feel. When I was 25 I have 3 kids 4 and under. My disable MIL moved in with us a year or two before so o cared for her too. She’s emotionally and mentally unstable to add to the physical. My husband was full time in school all day and worked basically all night and weekends. We had moved away from our home and had no friends or church or anything. My kids weren’t really starting homeschooling yet so we didn’t have a homeschool community at the time. I also didn’t have a p…
/r/RedPillWives02/08/20 02:54 PM
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I’ll have to try that again. I haven’t had success before. Thanks!
/r/RedPillWomen01/08/20 10:47 AM
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A steamer sounds like a great idea. I’ll have to put it on my eventually buy list. We have so many different brand shirts for him, somehow almost all of them end up terribly wrinkled. I like dry a lot too, so they don’t get the dryer fluff.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 08:51 PM
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Yes! Daily spoiling here. In whatever small things he likes - a certain fork, very full water glass, making sure I plan ahead meals he needs when he’s at work, stopping whatever I’m doing the moment he asks me to do something, adjusting how I make meals just to his preferences, putting his under clothes in the dryer instead of line drying bc he likes that better, also blow jobs (could do more of that). If I’m planning a “bigger” gesture, it’s planning sexy outfits and a whole planned out sexy ti…
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/20 12:01 AM
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That would be a male/female difference. Women are much more social and need each other. Think of a village long ago... all the men go out each day. The women stayed home near the other women staying home raising kids. Etc.
/r/RedPillWomen30/07/20 07:41 PM
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For dishes, I make sure I wash as I cook and clean the whole kitchen before we sit down to eat. That way, after dinner when will power is absolutely lowest, there are very few items to wash. More often dishes help me bc it’s less each time and quicker. It may be more time total per day, but it’s way more tolerable! I honestly hate laundry bc it is never 100% done, unlike dishes. Bc we are always wearing something then my kids change or I find a sock or shirt somewhere or a pee pee accident. Also…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/20 10:14 PM
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I am way far from islander, but when it’s hot, I like flowy knee length skirts. I don’t mind sleeveless shirts so long as my cleavage is covered and the shoulder part covers my bra straps. Cap sleeves are cute too!
/r/RedPillWomen27/07/20 05:47 PM
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It’s not that I enjoy the maintenance. But it really doesn’t hinder my life at all. I have improved my health so much I get no cramps or mood swings, it’s very regular now, lighter than years ago. Since using a cup, there’s only one bathroom break per day necessary. Blood is not dirty, by the way, and it’s not all blood. I always know the exact day it’s coming because I practice fertility awareness. So there’s really zero inconvenience to me. Living within the natural up and down of hormones and…
/r/RedPillWomen26/07/20 04:20 PM
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Just had amazing success this week with stovetop pizza! I did a baking soda crust that was SO fast and easy and made them personal sized. The kids loved them! I did pesto and spinach for my and my husbands and another that was topped with fresh basil from my garden. Huge success. Maybe never making oven pizza again even though my husband bought me an awesome pizza stone a few years back.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/20 10:51 PM
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I have not used HBC, but I have read a stack of books about fertility and cycles and living without HBC. My experience was that after 7+ years of pregnancy and nursing (so extreme high hormones to extreme low back and forth many times), returning to my normal cycles was like fresh air. Like a piece of myself came back to life when I didn’t know it was dead. I LOVE my cycle now and it makes me feel whole again!! There are people who’ve had success with reducing PMDD and Endo symptoms without the …
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 11:31 PM
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Wow! That is amazing! So excited for you! I love Keeper of The Homestead. My biggest blessing is keeping little amount of stuff. That way, it’s much less to manage and things that need more attention get more attention: for me that’s the husband, kids, and meals.
/r/RedPillWives24/07/20 04:14 PM
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Re: I think o need death to be some kind of eternal oblivion, because it is only then that I’m productively pressured into making the most of my life. The Bible teaches that we should make the most of this life - to be kind to others and to grow God’s kingdom by helping others also become Christians. Lollygagging Christians are poor Christians. It’s not Gods plan for life on earth for Christians. There actually is a judgement for Christians in heaven - the bema seat. It’s not to determine whethe…
/r/RPChristians24/07/20 03:21 PM
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Can’t even count how many RP-like books for women have said “buy his clothes and anything with clothing if you job” or “don’t micromanage him, let him buy his clothes and dress himself”. Such a mixed bag. I guess, whatever he wants, do that.
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/20 03:11 PM
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These are excellent questions to explore. After studying hard theology for a good decade now, I can attest to the fact that there aren’t contradictions in the Bible. Not only does archeology back it up, no archeology has ever debunked anything in it, all prophecies in it have happened that are supposed to have happened so far in history, contemporary secular historians affirm the Bible accounts, and it also holds up to internal and external criticism. There is no alternative belief system that t…
/r/RPChristians23/07/20 01:18 AM
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Without the resurrection, there is no reason to be a Christian, be baptized, be monogamous, or anything else in the Christian lifestyle because without the resurrection, death is meaningless which makes life meaningless. So if you’ve been baptized.... read Romans 6 and find out what you’ve been baptized into - Christ’s death AND resurrection. But also, biblical baptism requires faith beforehand. Anyone can get sprinkled or dunked but that doesn’t mean anything without the faith. It’s fine to que…
/r/RPChristians22/07/20 11:09 PM
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Yes this is great. Make some achievable goals, things to actually work on, more than “just not have sex.” That’s like going on a diet but not specifying which or how or what the point of the diet is.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/20 12:41 AM
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No, I’d prefer that bc people tend to assume I’m much younger than I am and be patronizing or just generally strange to me.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/20 12:39 AM
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I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Really great suggestions in the other comments! I know how you feel about excess hair. I don’t have any underlying conditions to cause it but I am pretty hairy for a woman. I’m just thankful it’s mostly not dark hair. I got picked on through school bc my back and arms are hairy. Even my jaw (side burn area) has hair. I’m surprised I didn’t have any good enough friends to ever tell me to clean up my eye brows. I didn’t start that til my late 20s and it chan…
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/20 12:35 AM
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That’s a deal we had and luckily it was easy for us. We didn’t stay in their circles for any reason, and we had very few exes. I don’t think it’s unreasonable at all. Depending on how intertwined or circles are, it may take some grace and effort but there are a lot of fish in the sea, too.
/r/RedPillWomen18/07/20 05:49 PM
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Really well put. I run into similar straw man assumption and people are generally shocked to find out as I have that most RPW have tried the alternative and it didn’t pan out (at best). They’ve believed the lie we have unwillingly been conditioned to enjoy this lifestyle when many of us have turned to it hoping it can help heal how angsty feminism has hurt us, and it has helped. As for misogyny, I’ve never been MORE cherished and loved and protected and valued than I am now that we tapped into R…
/r/RedPillWomen15/07/20 04:51 PM
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This has always been hard for me. I only ever got gifts from my family which felt contrived because we were never closely bonded. So o hates getting gifts from them. I had to smile and say thanks when it felt like an obligation gift and I didn’t want to be near them. Then my husband used to be very beta and his gifts were extremely thoughtful but covert contracts to get me to do something for him in return. He’s recovered from that! So, all that to say, it’s taken me very long to get better at t…
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/20 03:51 AM
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I fake the heck out of my eyebrows every single day since I figured it out. Never going back 😆 They just look how they are supposed to now that I fill them in daily.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/20 03:41 AM
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Solidarity from a med wife - my husband is MS3 and I stay home with our kids. Very hard road! Not sure on the role reversal since we haven’t been there. Best on your journey!
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/20 03:39 AM
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So long as it’s something healthy to “let it go” I try to replace my annoyed thoughts with more constructive thoughts - like you said, thankfulness, even pity or “that’s cute of him”, or reminding myself it’s so big deal (clothes right next to the basket 😅). Also the more I flirt with him, or beat him to the punch complimenting or mentioning things about him I love or think are sexy, the more he does those things instead. This helped when his goofy side, which I do love at certain times, was tur…
/r/RedPillWives12/07/20 09:05 PM
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My husband and sons are enjoying Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willinck (audio, and kids version audio). Best of luck.
/r/RPChristians04/07/20 12:58 AM
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Way to own it and lead from the front! I hope we get a few families at our house soon for worship soon.
/r/RPChristians02/07/20 04:53 PM
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Bingo!!
/r/RPChristians02/07/20 02:22 PM
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I was raised in PCUSA too and it’s really down the drain. My grandparents have always gone to Orthodox Pres or PCA Bc my grandpa refuses to support women in leadership. Good for him.
/r/RPChristians02/07/20 02:21 PM
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Not Reformed, not Calvinist. Not totally Arminian. Not egalitarian. Is anyone egalitarian here?
/r/RPChristians02/07/20 02:20 PM
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We’ve been married 9 years, we average 3 times a week. But it usually looks like a couple weeks of less than 3 a couple weeks of more than 3 according to me cycle.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/20 11:58 AM
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Perhaps her expectations are .... off. 🥴
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/20 07:02 PM
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Your example make complete sense. My husband is a med student and people ask him what he’s studying (like “what’s your major?” to anyone else in college). Apparently they have no idea medical school is only for medical doctors. Maybe it’s just my experience and I suck at it, but almost every time I correct anyone it comes out poorly. Even when I smile and use a nice tone, everyone seems to hate it or think I’m being a know-it-all (which I did used to be a very toxic know-it-all). As for my husba…
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/20 10:50 AM
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With your friend, it’s strange. I knew we were getting engaged Bc we discussed it, but I didn’t know when he would propose. It wasn’t long after. It was pretty obvious at the time though Bc we were LDR and he set up some surprises with my friends before he can for a visit shortly after we talked about getting married and agreed that was the right thing for us.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/20 10:43 AM
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Yes. Don’t be beta.
/r/seduction27/06/20 08:38 PM
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Picking on him Being patronizing Suggesting things with intent for him to do what you say but acting like he’s deciding Correcting him (especially small things like if he pronounces something wrong) Valuing others’ opinions over his no matter how much you actually agree
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/20 06:45 PM
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Excellent points! The wedding is not the destination. Actually, there’s no destination, but there is an objective: Marriage is a journey that should render continual positive growth and change for both parties and those around them could be blessed by them as a unit as well.
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/20 06:40 PM
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Tonight is pizza night because I oopsed the dough for a loaf of sourdough bread. It’s now pizza dough. Recently I was injured and had a friend come over to make dinner. I told her I had ground turkey and cabbage, put it in a pot and it came out amazing! Ground turkey, onion, cabbage, carrots, salt, thyme, water. Cook all afternoon. Serve with rice. Similar variations I like with cabbage: tons of paprika and served with sour cream and baguette instead of rice. Green peppers optional as well. So g…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/20 04:31 PM
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Sounds like you know what to do but it’s not sticking. Something that helps me with making new habits is not focusing on stopping something but replacing it. When ppl make fun, compliment him. They’ll make of you too probably then, but you’re a team so at least you’re together in it. When ppl laugh at him, glance at him sweetly and brush your hand on him. Etc.
/r/RedPillWives24/06/20 01:44 PM
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I am an extreme planner. I want every single minute and detail planned and controlled. So naturally, even being married at all is completely against my grain. I have relaxed a bit over the years, but in the end, it’s just an exercise in let go and have fun. Over and over and over. A visionary guy is probably not going to ever be a great planner. He can grow and mature and chill a bit over the years but all the stories I have heard... they don’t 😁 He’d rather have a fun loving woman by his side f…
/r/RedPillWives24/06/20 01:42 PM
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Have you read Jocko’s book Extreme Ownership?
/r/RedPillParenting24/06/20 01:37 PM
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All glory to God. We had to learn over many years because our immediate community does not think this way and most churches actually teach against this. But nothing has blessed our marriage more.
/r/RPChristians22/06/20 07:45 PM
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I love Loft, Zara, H&M. I generally only thrift shop and these just so happen to be 90% of the brands I pick out. I don’t check labels for brand on purpose, it’s just happenstance. I’ve been seeing tons of ads on Instagram for really cute feminine/modest fashion! I must resist the urge to splurge right now though 😁
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/20 05:00 PM
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Another one is Daisy Cousens 😊
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/20 04:57 PM
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Exactly where my husband and I have been stuck many times and our conclusion is : husband should discipline their wives. Not physical spanking like you would with a child or standing in the corner but it says in Ephesians 5. “25Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it; 26That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word, 27That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing…
/r/RPChristians21/06/20 11:46 AM
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I (am religious so that’s primary) do not support any porn. The industry itself enslaved so many people, mostly woman, as an addiction it’s extremely damaging, I also think it decreases motivation in men, and trains their brain for instant gratification and arousal to people that don’t belong to them. I understand men have more of a biological need to climax very often but that why we try to fulfill that with actual sex quite often. If I’m really unable, he takes care of it himself just quick an…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/20 11:29 AM
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You have some really reasonable thoughts about the situation but in this case, supportive is going to mean being encouraging, being interested in his new project, finding a way to spend time next to him doing your own project, etc so that if it does flop he won’t feel so sheepish telling you. It will eliminate his fear of loss of status/you saying you told him so. Don’t burst his bubble 😊 Does he often come up with new genius ideas, have the feeling to risk everything all at once, and things lik…
/r/RedPillWomen21/06/20 11:23 AM
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Their shows, America’s Test Kitchen, used to be on Netflix. Not sure if it still is.
/r/RedPillWives19/06/20 10:53 AM
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It’s not free but usually about $15 a year I really really enjoy Cook’s Illustrated. It’s recipes and WHY they work and reviews on kitchen hacks and gadgets. Always interesting things in there! My grandmother gifts it to me each year.
/r/RedPillWives19/06/20 01:04 AM
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To Train Up A Child by Michael Pearl and his other book Created To Need A Helpmeet. He also has two other parenting books for a bit older kids and your wife will probably enjoy, like I do, their free magazine. It’s packed with info and biblical stories of family and marriage and short enough for a busy wife and mom to read in one sitting/small enough to hold whole nursing for hours on end. Another great parenting book is Parenting By The Book although I dislike how they downplay the physical use…
/r/RedPillParenting15/06/20 07:57 PM
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I’m interested in why the author is assuming that the 50’s housewife is what read wives are reaching for as their standard? With the kids in school, a tiny house, and machines to do everything for her, I’m sure she went insane!! I loved reading about the waves of femininity and feminism in Radical Womanhood. Excellent book. It calls the 50’s housewife the “unproductive housewife” who of course needed liberation from lack of purpose and boredom. Myself, as a Christian I do not strive to be a 50’s…
/r/RedPillWives15/06/20 07:51 PM
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Having female friends is important bc no guy in your life wants to fill the roll of your girlfriend. All my school years I struggled with having female friends and much preferred guy friends. I think it’s bc I couldn’t stand the drama bc I was not feminine at all myself, being raised by a very dominant mother, and having a passive step dad only for a few years. So naturally I hated being around females for the most part. Now that I’ve been married for almost a decade and have learned about real …
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/20 01:19 PM
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Coming from a very female dominant home, some really horrible habits have stuck with me and given me baggage that has been very hard to be freed from, but for the most part it once I learned what femininity was, it all made sense. I could look back and see why I liked this or that guy, why I did xyz, so many things came into clarity in hindsight. The parts I am cultivating by pure repetition and practice are empathy, asking less questions that sound challenging (even realizing I did that was ver…
/r/RedPillWomen07/06/20 02:43 AM
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Does this work in reverse too? Being confident to simply say “I do not know” and leave it simply at that?
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/20 12:42 PM
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Yes! I do that too! I’ve been very athletic for a long time so I’m maxed out in confidence from that 😁👍🏻
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/20 12:41 PM
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Likewise! I don’t have RBF but I do have concentration face haha! And shopping takes a lot of concentration with my kids in tow so I tend to scowl and ignore people. I’ve been working on this too! Good reminder! (Now that all my efforts are spoiled behind my mask lol)
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/20 12:40 PM
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I’ve always been pretty girly but never took the time to learn to do it properly til recently. Right now I’m working on my (face) skin care routine. Doing it LEGIT for my skin type and needs, and also trying to not age so fast as 30 is fast approaching and the youthful dew is leaving me. Yikes! Wardrobe, fitness, hair, I’ve been solid on for a while as far as appearing nicely, but this last year and a half I spent time learning better. For instance, the first few years of being a new mom I total…
/r/RedPillWives30/05/20 08:42 PM
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🥺it was terrible. As a Christian I’m not proud it was not with my husband, but honestly I’m glad he was not there to witness the immense pool of blood. I literally bled for days, I had to wear pads. It didn’t hurt at the moment. It didn’t last long. But I was sore for like a week. I probably waddled. So, lucky me on the hymen gig. I can’t imagine that much blood at our honeymoon, away from our home on someone else’s sheets. Like HOWWWW to explain?? Edit: no we didn’t use protection. I am SO luck…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/20 05:20 PM
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Yikes, yeah very hard to find! We have moved around a lot so we look for a Calvary Chapel church, a bible church (like one with bible in the name like Bible baptist), we’ve had good experiences at Orthodox Presbyterian, or just look for Christian homeschoolers bc the likelihood of like mindedness is pretty good usually. Can’t tell you how many years bible teaching on a Calvary Chapel radio station fed me. Literally years!
/r/RPChristians27/05/20 11:48 AM
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We have our bible and we research the heck out of everything. We have gone to many churches over the years, mostly bible teaching churches that teach chapter by chapter by chapter through the whole word. It’s been a huge blessing since I was raised in a dead church.
/r/RPChristians27/05/20 02:12 AM
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Absolutely. We are doing more of a bully-proofing, self defense style, pretty straight to the point, just physical and mental discipline. We are super careful of things with new age or eastern mysticism, so we won’t be doing muy Thai or yoga.
/r/RPChristians27/05/20 02:00 AM
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yes! After my husband read that and the non Christian one, he took up Juijitsu and is teaching our sons it as well. Very awesome.
/r/RPChristians26/05/20 11:25 PM
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yes I’ve heard it defined as strength under control.
/r/RPChristians26/05/20 08:25 PM
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In my experience with my husband, anxiety and control issues go hand in hand. Flying off the handle, overly intense reactions, all born out of feeling out of control so hopefully an intense reaction will keep him in control! Obviously has the opposite effect. It’s understandably heartbreaking to give up all trips, fun, etc. I have not had this experience in the same way - we have been severely short on finance so it’s a completely different feeling, I’m sure. When we do have the finances and it …
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/20 11:32 PM
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My top tips when expecting your first are to binge as much birth and postpartum and breastfeeding books and info as possible. You don’t want to go on blind. Of course there’s no way anything can say exactly how it will go for you specifically, but it’s worth the time! As far as still being a fiance and having a new born, time priorities do change, but you’ll want to figure out as time goes on how to make sure the relationship with your fiancé stays before the baby. For immediate postpartum, have…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/20 11:17 PM
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Agreed. Find a RP church and the girls are more likely to be what you’re looking for. Lots of blue pill churches out there unfortunately.
/r/RPChristians25/05/20 09:04 PM
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For wives: Created To Be His Helpmeet by Debbie Pearl The Transformed Wife by Lori Alexander The Peaceful Wife: Living In Submission by April Cassidy Radical Womanhood by Carolyn McCulley Can’t find the men’s books atm lol they are around here somewhere ... all I can remember is Wild At Heart by John Eldridge and there’s one by Randy Stintson
/r/RedPillBooks23/05/20 12:34 AM
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If you’re really wanting the next one to be the last one, bring up all your non negotiables as quickly as possible. Then you won’t waste time dating someone who won’t work out. It’s not personal. They don’t want kids? Okay, bye. Etc. whatever your non negotiables are.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/20 08:41 PM
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I have some good ones for Christian wives that are very red pill. I think my husband has a few for Christian husbands as well.
/r/RedPillBooks22/05/20 08:35 PM
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I believe Paul was married because he was a member of the Sanhedrin and they had to be married. Since no mention of her after his conversion, I believe she left him. We can’t know for sure. But certainly in Paul’s ministry, he does not seem to be married.
/r/RPChristians16/05/20 09:50 PM
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I didn’t read all the other comments yet but off the top of my head I’d watch for a few things in a woman, knowing that these things can still be overcome and the Holy Spirit is able to grow anyone who is Willing to become more like Christ. (Assuming you are male and looking for tips on future spouse? Correct me if I’m wrong.) Some hardships in my own life that carried into my marriage were: Dad issues. Hands down. At least know where the woman comes from regarding her relationship with her fath…
/r/RPChristians16/05/20 09:48 PM
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My husband was a SUPER Nice Guy for years. I cannot say what automatically clicked one day (but we just thank God). He did read No More Nice Guys after being on some Red Pill men pages. I’m not perfect but I’ve been very submissive, doing all housework, deferring to him for decision, raising the kids at home for 9 years. You CANNOT make a man change. 🤷🏻‍♀️ you just can’t. All you can do is stay in your lane so his lane is clear so that when he does want to step us, he has room to. I agree with t…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 10:20 AM
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You hit the nail on the head. Working out is more about self discipline - disciplining the body and mind and will. And then it comes with lots of side benefits such as better physical health and looking more attractive.
/r/RPChristians06/05/20 07:08 PM
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Like belcher said, extracurriculars with strong men sound like a good idea. We just started Gracie Juijitsu with our sons and it’s night and day for our one son that struggles with some of his self control type things - screaming at his brothers, meltdowns when he perceives embarrassment or something is too hard. Not exactly what your described but I highly highly recommend this program in person (there is an online option). What does your son have to be in total control over? For example, the o…
/r/RedPillParenting06/05/20 06:51 PM
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I have multiple kids and we’ve hung stuff on walls, kids are kids, there’s other marking, chipped paint on every corner, spilled stuff on carpets. Never lost a cent of security deposit. We left it very clean. No animal smells or markings, I washed the walls, never did putty or paint. Landlords generally have a little putty and repaint the whole place between tenants, it’s in the budget. Sounds like a mis-placed fear.
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/20 09:36 AM
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Oh no, I’m so sorry about your hairloss! I had extreme hairloss from telogen effluvium for a long time. I lost about 80% of my hair and it was so devastating. The best thing I finally did (which I was very scared to) was basically cut it all off. I got a long on top pixie cut and am just starting over now that the loss has stopped. For about a year I wore head scarves and ended up really enjoying it once I learned not to make them too tight and how to wrap them different ways. Mine was stress-in…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/20 09:22 AM
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Our relationships really transformed before we got engaged. We became serious about our Christianity and that’s when I started learning about traditional families and husband/wife dynamics Bc I had never been exposed to it. Years into our married, it was going okay-Ish, I had the basics concepts of submissions and defference and respect down (besides the hindrance of extreme amounts of stress for a few years where I failed a lot, not that my actual ideals changed), but my husband was a Nice Guy.…
/r/RedPillWives04/05/20 03:41 AM
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It’s both. You should have wisdom and vet well, but I truly believe there are principles that can allow any random man and woman to grow a meaningful and fulfilling marriage that lasts.
/r/RedPillWives04/05/20 03:33 AM
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Pick out a few functional, practical things, and it’s likely when you’re one lactating that they may deflate, so don’t invest a ton of money until you know how that will go. I have three sets of tops and bras : pregnancy, nursing, and post nursing. Such is life.
/r/RedPillWives04/05/20 03:24 AM
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agreed! Could also go hand in hand with vision.
/r/RedPillWomen03/04/20 05:20 PM
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Congratulations!!! So excited for you!! You’ve already begun, but it’s [basically] the start of a wonderful journey!!! Well done preparing yourself. Never stop learning ♥️
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/20 08:11 PM
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