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| 1 | Is no alimony a win?That’s 3400 a month lady. Most people don’t even take home that much | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/12/24 07:39 PM |
| 4 | Any success with staving off divorce by making a list of demands to radically change the marriage?She’s not ready for divorce, not because she actually wants to be with you, but because life will become so much harder for her without you. Go out and find someone that actually wants to be with you, not whatever this bs is | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/12/24 11:59 PM |
| 5 | Should I win my wife back even through I know that she was 100% about to cheat and was going traveling with a goal to get laid?Didn’t read the post, the title was enough. NO! Fuck her dude. There are women out there that would never think of cheating on you. Find one. Good luck dude. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/10/24 05:00 AM |
| 6 | She has 2 dating profiles and we are still living under the same roof.This is probably harsher than it needs to be, but true all the same. Find your manhood again my dude. She’s not the only woman out there. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/10/24 03:47 AM |
| 9 | She has 2 dating profiles and we are still living under the same roof.AWALT. The sooner you realize that, the better of you’ll be. And in case you’ve never seen that phrase, all women are like this. Once they’re done with you, they find another one to jump to. If they haven’t already. You’ll find better dude I promise you. Get in therapy, get yourself healed, get on the apps yourself. Get your confidence back, and you will find your happiness again. Good luck brother. We’ve all been there. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/10/24 03:46 AM |
| 2 | Ex wife keeps bringing new boyfriend to my houseOh I’m in the same boat dude. I don’t even respond to her anymore unless it’s absolutely necessary, which of course is starting to piss her off. Like why?! You left, you’ve had 2 boyfriends already (both introduced to the kids), and clearly think you need something that isn’t me! So why do you try to talk to me? Leave me tf alone! lol and yeah, I kinda wish mine would just move 10 hours away and leave the kids with me, that way no future girlfriend ever has to see the shitshow I put up with 😂 | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/24 01:17 PM |
| 10 | Ex wife keeps bringing new boyfriend to my houselol. Why do they all follow the same fucking script? My wife has had a boyfriend since the second week after she moved out. Dude moved right tf in with her, and now comes to my kids soccer games, school pick up, etc. they go EVERYWHERE together. But hey man, not my circus, not my monkey! She still texts me some weird shit occasionally that I’m sure he wouldn’t love, but that’s what happens when you jump into something like that without knowing the woman you’re getting with. Although I’m pretty s… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/09/24 01:04 PM |
| 2 | Anybody to talk ?✋🏻 | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/09/24 06:02 PM |
| 7 | Ran into my ex and her partner todayEh I don’t feel bad for him. I’m sure they were screwing around before the divorce talk came up, considering he moved in her apartment 2 weeks after she did. Thats what happens when you fuck with married women | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/24 05:36 PM |
| 10 | Ran into my ex and her partner todaySaw mine and her new dude at my kids soccer game over the weekend. Was amazed at how indifferent I felt about it. The crazy part is she’s only been moved out for 2.5 months. Guess it helps that she already cheated on him with me lol. | /r/Divorce_Men | 10/09/24 04:56 PM |
| 7 | I don’t know brothersI understand completely dude. I’m still early in the process, but I’m already reaching the point where I just wanna move tf on with my life. Just leave me be unless necessary, and enjoy your new saggy pants boyfriend. We’re all in this together tho, and we’ll all make it out stronger and happier in the long run. These women have no idea what the lost. Some realize it, some don’t. At the end of the day it doesn’t fucking matter. Power through bro. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/08/24 03:51 AM |
| 1 | 8 days and countingMine took like 34 days. Lawyer said it wasn’t worth fighting over or pushing anything, as a judge most likely wouldn’t care. I wouldn’t even pay attention to the 30 days | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/08/24 02:55 AM |
| 13 | Didn’t think I’d get here, but here we are.Fuck I needed this right now. Wife moved out a week ago and her boyfriend is already around my kids. This shit is eating me alive. I look forward to hitting this point. Thanks brother | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/24 11:47 PM |
| 2 | Walk away wife? Advice?Doesn’t make it easier dude trust me. And believe me, most women do before they leave a marriage. So don’t be surprised if she moves on rather quickly. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/24 07:38 PM |
| 3 | Walk away wife? Advice?AWALT bro. Unfortunately | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/24 05:48 PM |
| 4 | Walk away wife? Advice?Listen to this OP. My wife had an affair last year, filed for divorce, but I guess got cold feet and stayed to work on the marriage. Jokes on me, she didn’t really put in the work, I was an asshole because I could see she wasn’t putting in the work, and here we are a year and a half later. She moved out and within a day had introduced her new boyfriend to the kids. Who’s practically a kid himself, barely over 20 years old lol. | /r/Divorce_Men | 26/06/24 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Deciding if I should stayHell mine won’t even admit she’s having an affair. Learned from my daughter that this has been ongoing for a while. My wife is adamant they’re “just friends”. Like why tf do you treat me like I’m stupid? The same weekend you move out this dude comes and sleeps over? Come on, I’m not that dumb. “Oh I needed help putting furniture together”. Uh yeah, I offered to do that for you, while you were saying how I should come to your new place and hangout all the time, then I don’t hear a peep from you a… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 01:21 PM |
| 3 | Deciding if I should stayOh trust me, I get you. To be honest I’d STILL probably take my wife back given the chance, as crazy as that is. Everyone had told me I don’t deserve this and to let her go, but they just don’t know. I mean, I’ve had my issues too forsure. Spent a good portion of our marriage drinking too much and not spending enough time with her. People like my wife and probably yours need ALOT of attention and love. And I didn’t give her enough. Not that that excuses her behavior, just me accepting my faults … | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 01:02 PM |
| 2 | Deciding if I should stayGoing through something similar my man. Wife moved out Thursday and is already bringing her boyfriend around my kids. Isn’t the first time she’s cheated, and I’m pretty sure mine is bipolar as well. She goes through these episodes like once a year where she just fucking self destructs, and basically drops everyone who cares about her. Makes all new sketchy friends, her whole personality changes. I’ve been dealing with it for 10 years. I love her so much but it fucking sucks. Don’t have any reall… | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/06/24 10:20 AM |
| 1 | She filed for divorce, but now wants to call it offSo glad my lawyer got me to do this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/06/24 12:29 AM |
| 2 | Why do we want what we can’t have ?This is true as well, but it seems like he’s holding back because he’s afraid what his ex will tell his kids. Fuck that, she left you. Who cares what she thinks. Do what makes YOU happy | /r/Divorce_Men | 15/06/24 04:21 AM |
| 3 | Why do we want what we can’t have ?No worries. But it’s been two years man, it’s just time to let go. I know it’s hard, but you gotta do it. Go find a woman who actually cares about you! | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/06/24 07:24 PM |
| 6 | Why do we want what we can’t have ?Okay dude, so then move on. She can never blame you when she abandoned you and took your kids. If your kids ever say anything about her blaming you, or saying you love someone else more, just tell them the truth! Not in a nasty or accusatory way, just let them know that’s not the case. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/06/24 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Why do we want what we can’t have ?Did she initiate the divorce or you? | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/06/24 07:06 PM |
| 9 | When did you realize itGod, mine gave me so many reasons to leave early on. HUGE reasons. Anybody that knows me was questioning my decisions at the time. And here I am, 10 years later with 3 kids. She has filed for divorce for the second time, this will be probably the 100th time she’s asked for one. Just have to wise up and move on, instead of taking her back like I always do when she snaps out of whatever kind of episode she’s in. I can’t be safety net plan b anymore | /r/Divorce_Men | 12/06/24 06:46 PM |
| 3 | Is it wrong to ask my wife for a mental evaluation before I sign mediation paperwork?You don’t ask her. You let your lawyer know you think it’s necessary, and he can put it in motion. If you have solid reasons as to why you think it’s needed then they will get it done, whether she wants to or not. Unless there aren’t kids involved, without kids there’s not really a reason. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/06/24 07:36 PM |
| 3 | Is it wrong to ask my wife for a mental evaluation before I sign mediation paperwork?I’m sure you could, might just make things more drawn out and hostile, but if there are kids involved and you’re worried about their safety I’d go ahead and ask. Pretty sure psych evals are somewhat common in these situations. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/06/24 07:18 PM |
| 5 | In your opinions - Is it absolutely necessary to get lawyers and courts involved if we’re mutually agreeing to end it, and amicable?Nah man bad idea. Just get a lawyer and get it done. Trust me, I wanted mine to go this way too. We both talked and agreed on everything, said we would just pay a mediator. Within a week she had hired her own lawyer behind my back. Not to mention all of the things that could happen between now and when it’s over, it’s just not worth it. Lawyer up and be smart. Good luck. | /r/Divorce_Men | 07/06/24 11:53 PM |
| 1 | How much involvement is too much?Correction, the cards you dealt yourself. The victim mentality you display is pathetic dude. Go to the adultery sub. You’ll fit in better there. Any struggles you have in this situation are the struggles you practically asked for, so I don’t feel sorry for you. Meanwhile I’m stuck with a fucking mentally ill stbxw that can’t keep other dicks from accidentally falling inside of her. I don’t really care what you say, anyone that cheats is a piece of shit. It ruins lives. And not just yours and you… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/24 11:48 PM |
| 3 | How much involvement is too much?Dude, you’re acknowledging your fuck up, while still doing it! You’re still with the home wrecker. That shows you’ve learned nothing. So you can’t say you’re in recovery either. That’s like going to rehab for meth, and smoking meth as soon as you walk out the door. “But I went to rehab and I’m in recovery!” Doesn’t work like that dude. You can’t be humble and admit your wrongdoings while still in the middle of them. You’re gonna wake up one day and realize the grass wasn’t greener. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/24 02:24 PM |
| 6 | How much involvement is too much?Guess I’ll be the odd one out to call you out. You wrecked your marriage and your kids will suffer because of it, and yet you stay with some whore who willingly wrecked your home. Be a fucking man dude and grow up. A lot of us on here have this on the other foot, and you need to stop thinking about only yourself. Sure, helping your ex might help ease some of your guilt, but just leave her alone and let her move on. Oh, and I dump the gf. She’s for the streets. And who gives a shit what she think… | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/24 01:37 AM |
| 1 | Anyone have kids that went off the rails after divorce?Agreed. People like that don’t deserve to have kids. And I wish there was some kind of consequence for cheaters, but nowadays people just do whatever tf they want. Guarantee if women didn’t get alimony, and there was actually a negative impact to cheating and divorce, the rates would drop so much peoples heads would spin. But that will never happen. Thanks feminism. Lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/24 05:55 AM |
| 1 | Anyone have kids that went off the rails after divorce?They will eventually fall apart. Will probably cheat on eachother. Either way, as I’m sure you know, you’re much better off. | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/24 04:55 AM |
| 3 | Is there spousal support after 25 yrs?Possibly, but from the sounds of it it would be very short term. When I first read 25 years I thought “yup this guys fucked”. But clearly she is capable of making even more than you do, so I wouldn’t worry. I’m not an attorney, so take what I say with a grain of salt, but I think you’ll be fine here | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/24 02:22 AM |
| 11 | Should I stay or should I goYeah I’m gonna have to agree with most of the comments here, considering I’m going through it myself a second time after taking her back the first time. Most likely she is monkey branching. She has a guy on the hook, most likely who she was with when you thought she was with her sister. No need to check with the sister, a lot of them will lie for eachother anyway. When she came home and you said you were ready to be done, she panicked. Not because she’s afraid of losing you, clearly she’s not. B… | /r/Divorce_Men | 04/06/24 12:59 AM |
| 3 | Anyone have kids that went off the rails after divorce?Tried to talk some sense into my wife tonight. Unfortunately you can probably guess how that went. This is probably the 20th time I’ve gone through this with the her. I’m mentally exhausted. I don’t want to lose her or my family, but it seems like she’s just fucking determined to self destruct, and drag everyone else along with her | /r/Divorce_Men | 03/06/24 03:08 AM |
| 6 | Anyone have kids that went off the rails after divorce?It amazes me that they’ll even cut out close family members that disagree with what they’re doing. Just shows how stupid they are | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/24 08:58 PM |
| 4 | Anyone have kids that went off the rails after divorce?That’s because they go on a smear campaign while they’re doing it. They’re doing their best to make sure everyone thinks you are the biggest piece of shit on planet earth. That way when it’s discovered what they’re doing, no one thinks twice! “Oh it’s no wonder that poor woman had an affair, have you heard the things she had to put up with?”. These people will all realize it eventually, but don’t plan on ever getting an apology. Lol | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/24 08:46 PM |
| 9 | Anyone have kids that went off the rails after divorce?If only divorce didn’t fucking REWARD women these days, people wouldn’t be throwing in the fucking towel left and right like they are now. Dude at this point marriage vows are complete horseshit. In sickness and in health, til death do us part my ass. “My husband said something mean!” Divorce. “My husband works 60 hours a week, but won’t do the dishes when he gets home, although I’ve been sitting on my ass all day!” Divorce. Obviously these things can go both ways, but Jesus. Have yall seen the … | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/24 08:18 PM |
| 8 | Anyone have kids that went off the rails after divorce?It’s almost never for the best unless there is abuse or constant fighting in front of the kids. And the type of people that fight in front of their kids aren’t just going to magically change because they get a divorce. They’ll wind up in another toxic relationship and things will just be 10x worse, with the kids bouncing back and forth between houses, never feeling like they have a true home. Funny enough my wife is using this excuse now. “We’re toxic together and it’s starting to rub off on the… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/24 07:26 PM |
| 7 | Anyone have kids that went off the rails after divorce?Well good luck to you. If it’s any consolation it sounds like your ex permanently damaged her relationship with her son. Not that that should make you feel any better, but atleast she will feel some consequences. It’s just unfortunate your son has to suffer because of it. But I think he’ll be stronger in the long run, and eventually be a better man. One who doesn’t turn his back on his family. Your ex has shown him the type of person she is, so atleast he knows the exact type of woman to stay th… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/24 06:29 PM |
| 21 | Anyone have kids that went off the rails after divorce?This is the kind of shit that pisses me off the most, and is why I hate it when people say that kids will be better off with happy separate parents. Thats not always the case. I think that’s just people trying to make themselves feel better for being so selfish. Sorry you’re going through it man, I guess it’d be best to put him back in counseling. Probably a different one this time, because a decent one will see right through his charm. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/06/24 05:05 PM |
| 3 | Summer breakYou need to get that worked out. Until then, there’s nothing you can really do | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/24 11:50 PM |
| 3 | Summer breakIs it her time? If so then it doesn’t really matter what you think, sorry if that sounds harsh, just the truth. | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/05/24 11:10 PM |
| 1 | Still Stuck in LimboOh they definitely don’t. I’ve already told her good luck dealing with it. I’ve been the only stable thing she’s ever had in her life, and yet she wants to fuck it all up over and over again. Pretty sure my wife has bpd so I’m sure that has a lot to do with it, but I can only make excuses for her for so long. I’m sick of being married to someone that very clearly doesn’t want to be married to me. Although she waffles on that quite a bit. We went a month with almost no contact, very little commun… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/24 06:05 PM |
| 2 | Still Stuck in LimboOh my in laws are special lol. Her grandma (who raised her) repeats the same pattern over and over again. Believes everything my wife tells her, pays for her lawyer, tells her to get out as fast as she can, etc. After a ten minute conversation with me she has no interest in having a relationship with her granddaughter, won’t help her with a lawyer, sends her a bunch of nasty texts. This has happened atleast 20 times, it amazes me how her grandma never catches on. Her dad has been married 8 times… | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/24 05:15 PM |
| 2 | Still Stuck in LimboDamn your situation sounds very similar to mine. Especially the in-laws part. Good luck to you dude | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/24 04:50 PM |
| 5 | Cold feet?!Dude just move on. Too much has happened. She’s just figured out that the grass isn’t greener. As soon as you’re comfortable again it will happen all over again. As someone at the very start of this, I wish I could jump ahead 2 years and not have to go through this. | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/24 04:16 PM |
| 4 | Anyone want to make a new friend today?Hope you like a fucked up sense of humor! Sent ya a message lol 🤙🏻 | /r/Divorce_Men | 29/05/24 12:42 AM |
| 3 | I'm actually on my buddy's futon and happy about itMy stbxw has (undiagnosed) bpd. She filed for divorce yesterday. I always thought I could fix her man. But this is the second time she’s filed for divorce because of another man, around the 100th time she’s asked for divorce, etc. The difference is this time I’m not fighting to keep her around. There’s no fucking point. She’ll just do this to me and the kids over and over again. Not to mention, I don’t even really look at her with love or lust anymore. Usually when she flips this switch and sudd… | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/05/24 01:44 PM |
| 3 | Tonight is the first night I felt like filing for divorceThis. Read my comment above. #1 was kind of the point I was making, but turned into more of a rant. Get the divorce op. I normally hate divorce, and never recommend it, but these types never change. They just take it further and further, until you’re emotionally drained. | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/24 01:59 PM |
| 6 | Tonight is the first night I felt like filing for divorceYou sound similar to me. I’ve been a nightly drinker for 5-6 years. Never a mean drunk, and it was typically just me playing video games and drinking some beer until I got tired. Not that I’m making excuses, it was unhealthy, and I’m sure my stbxw hated it. She’s threatened divorce so many times over the years it’s not even funny. But she’s done that before I was a drinker. She always finds an excuse. Hell, last year she actually filed for the divorce, after finding some dude willing to give her… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/24 01:57 PM |
| 9 | What do I do?In this day and age, I don’t think many women are capable of long term relationships anymore to be honest. With all the mom groups and divorced women encouraging the wrong things, plus tik tok showing all of these women the “amazing” life they could have, women just aren’t happy anymore, no matter what the situation. Obviously, not every woman is the same, but it’s becoming more and more common for women to find every fault in their husband and just dip out to the next dude, most of the time bef… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/24 01:43 PM |
| 7 | What do I do?This OP. My wife cheated last year, and probably tons of times before that that I had my suspicions, but couldn’t confirm. I took her back so we could work on things, and stay together as a family. Just this last weekend when she was supposed to be staying at her moms, she dropped the kids off and went and hung out with “a friend from high school”. Yeah fucking right bitch. Shortly before this she had mentioned she was unhappy, and wanted space and possibly a divorce, which is the millionth time… | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/24 01:41 PM |
| 8 | What do I do?Found the cheater | /r/Divorce_Men | 23/05/24 01:37 PM |
| 2 | Wife cheatingNot worth it man. You WILL get through this. This comment is your sign. Fight as hard as you can. Don’t do this to your son. He doesn’t deserve it and neither do you. You’ll make it out the other side strong as ever. I promise. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/05/24 03:34 AM |
| 6 | Wife cheated, getting divorced and have a moral question.Wait until the divorce is final, then send the other guys wife all of the proof you have. Like u/bluephotoshop said, you don’t wanna knock her out of the affair fog rn. Use it to your advantage. Good luck OP. Sorry you’re here with the rest of us. | /r/Divorce_Men | 17/05/24 01:34 PM |
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