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I'm a bisexual woman and I didn't realize my attraction to men until I was an adult (because high school boys are gross, ew). I dated girls throughout high school and college, and was used to initiating and paying for dates. When I started dating guys... I experienced culture shock. There were so many rules and expectations and things that were considered taboo that I didn't even think about in my lesbian relationships. Any intiation on my part was either seen as an unexpected bonus, or a one-up…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 08:14 AM
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I read this as "pandemic unemployment assistance is not that scary" lol
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 08:05 AM
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I believe that men generally have it easier in some ways than women, and that women generally have it easier in other ways. I've read several essays and articles written by transgender people who have experienced life as both men and a women, and I find their perspectives on sexism very interesting.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 08:02 AM
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Well, anything worth striving for in life is going to be difficult. I think it's acceptable to approach at bars, parties, raves, climbing gyms, other social events etc. When I was in college I wasn't receptive to men cold-approaching me while I was walking around on campus or studying in the library... because I was focused on getting to my next class or studying. But I did go on dates with men I got to know better over a period of time in my dorm, my orchestra and outdoor club. My boyfriend app…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 07:50 AM
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Keep your chin up, bro. Sounds like you're going through some dark times. But there's always a light at the end of the tunnel.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/23 07:21 AM
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So many men underestimate the amount of time, money and effort that women take to look good or at least presentable to look conventionally feminine and attractive. The average looking (according to men) woman puts a LOT of thought and effort into her appearance. As a woman, I notice the details that other women put into their makeup and outfits. I notice when they have fillers and sometimes plastic surgery. Many men can't detect these details. And the details can completely make or break what me…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 09:08 PM
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That is true.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 07:55 PM
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Nah... I'm bisexual so I still would have gotten a pretty good chance at being approached by a guy I like had I hung around long enough on Grindr or in the gay bars in my city. The perks of having twice the options!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/12/22 05:20 PM
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Well... yeah. Self-improvement isn't gendered. I did the 75 Hard fitness challenge with my friend a few months after she and I had broke-up with our exes. I also went to therapy. My self-esteem improved, and I quit a job that I hated and got a job in my desired field. I also naturally weeded out friends who only wanted to hang out with me when we were drinking. Towards the end of the challenge, I felt confident enough to start dating again, but I had stricter boundaries than before, and if I was…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/12/22 07:20 PM
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Second guy seems more pleasant to be around. I don't care about what industry the guy works in as long as he's able to support himself without bumming off of me. Shared values, mutual interests and good looks are more important to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/12/22 12:19 AM
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I find that the general consensus of what is considered low-value in RP communities troubling. I've seen "low-value" men described as those who drive Hondas and work in blue-collar professions. I've seen people on this subreddit comment that women who were raped as children are low-value because they have "irreversible psychological damage". Yikes... Search for "signs of a low value women" on Google and the first thing you get is an article that says that women who are clumsy in heels, who work …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/12/22 06:51 PM
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Hey, there's no need to make assumptions. You're jumping the gun here. I'm a pretty social person. I get put into the confidant role often. Like you, I often get asked for dating advice. It's probably why we're drawn to these sort of conversations. I'm asking because I'm genuinely curious as to where you are coming from with your very confident conclusions - and if you by chance had some interesting insights about this topic, based off your subjective experiences. Especially since the point of O…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 10:06 PM
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I guess that's one way to think of it. I was definitely attracted to the novelty of the different archetypes of men more so than their body types, though - some of the men weren't conventionally attractive, and I was more turned on by the fantasy they portrayed than their physical appearance. Kind of like how I'd imagine a guy searching for "brunette nurse" or "school girl" on a porn website. There was the research scientist, the wildland firefighter, the philosophy major, electrician etc. Once …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 06:29 PM
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The reality is most promiscuous men and women never grow out of it; they settle down out of necessity (desire for a family, financial stability, etc.) and don’t truly value everything that goes into a relationship How do you know? Are you promiscuous yourself? What are you basing your claim off of?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 01:43 PM
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I'm 26. I've lost track of the exact number of people I've slept with, but it's somewhere between 25 - 30. Lifestyle: I'm a therapist for children with ASD, and I also work with underprivileged youth in a group home. I'm in the process of obtaining my masters degree so I can start my career as a behavior analyst. In between going to school and my two jobs, I rock climb 2x week and go hiking and backpacking frequently. I also like to dress up and go to raves and EDM shows. I also waste a good amo…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/22 01:02 PM
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I'm not sure how to provide a thorough answer to your first question at the moment but I'll answer your second question - I received some angry messages for a couple of days, but I ultimately recieved more positive messages than negative ones. The positive ones thanked me for providing a narrative about dating and relationships which they hadn't considered before, which was very sweet. I stopped receiving messages after a week. My inbox is a ghost town these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/22 09:41 PM
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I'm in a relationship with the man I want :) He and I were talking about our exes and he said that he had an ex with big breasts and that he didn't like the way they looked out of a bra. I told him that I had an ex-girlfriend with similar boobs and I wasn't the biggest (haha) fan of them either because they looked saggy when they weren't propped up. But of course neither of us would have ever told our exes that, because boobs are still boobs (great!). After that conversation I thought back to so…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 03:14 PM
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Yes, it's also my first day on earth.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 02:50 PM
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I can't speak for all women but I feel unproductive and lazy when I play videogames. I don't see the fun in simulating achievement. It feels fake. Then again I also don't enjoy reading fiction for the same reason. It doesn't feel like I'm learning anything practical and I feel like I'm wasting my time.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 08:19 AM
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I'm bisexual and I've dated and been in serious relationships with about an equal amount of men and women. My conclusion? There are shitty people of each gender. Neither is worse than the other - it's just easy to blame your disappointing love life on women being crazy or men being stupid.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 08:13 AM
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Yes.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 07:06 AM
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Yes! This is what I was trying to get at and you just clarified it for me, thanks!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/22 07:00 AM
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I'm crying lol. Yes. Pair that with blonde hair and hazel eyes and she's a keeper.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 10:59 PM
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The cross-eyed thing is pretty unique haha. Haven't heard of that one. Physical: a crooked smile. Bad posture. Behavioral: Someone who has the ability to remember most of their dreams. I do. It's so fun to wake-up next to a fellow dreamer and talk about your nocturnal adventures.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 10:04 PM
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A personality disorder. She needs professional help.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/22 09:58 PM
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As long as his eyes don't glaze over when I talk about women's issues, it's fine.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/22 10:59 PM
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It only makes the friendship less legitimate if the sexual thoughts are more than just ocassional intrusive thoughts. The thought of a male "friend" wanting to fuck me makes me so uncomfortable, even if he has no intention on acting on it. I've had bad experiences with straight male friends in the past, and I purposefully avoid making close friendships with men these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 05:35 AM
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Notice how I said "partners" and not just men. The best sex I've had always came after hours of talking, cuddling, kissing, laughing with the women and men I've slept with. It's a game-changer, you should try it!
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/22 05:02 AM
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The assertion that men as a whole don't put in effort into relationships. The right person will put effort into a relationship if they want to. This isn't a gender thing. When women complain that men are basically children and that they shouldn't have to raise them - I've met plenty of women who don't actually want a partner. They want a father figure. That a woman is a "pick-me" if she advocates for issues that men specifically face.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/22 12:57 AM
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I feel the occasional twinge of jealously when I think of my bf watching porn. And then I feel like a hypocrite because 90% of the porn I watch is male solo and MM and the kind of men featured in those videos would make most men feel insecure. I have no intention of stopping and would be annoyed if he told me to stop. I empathize with how someone could equate porn to cheating, but I feel neutral about it. No porn star could ever replace my bf.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 03:17 PM
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I don't have a strict preference on exactly how tall a guy I'd want to date would be, but I do prefer men who are at least a few inches taller than me. I think a strict 6' requirement is a little silly because people's bodies are structured in different ways... there are people look shorter than they are and people who look taller than they are depending on how their bodies are proportioned. For ex. I guessed that a guy's height was 6'2 and he was 5'11. I'm 5'4 and some people are surprised when…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/22 12:57 PM
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Well said.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 11:43 PM
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It depends on the chronic illness and how debilitating it is in her day-to-day life. I dated a guy with CFS. It got worse over time - he wouldn't be able to get out of bed for days. I had to end it. One of the hardest break-ups I've ever gone through. Technically anyone has a chance of dying at any time. I could walk outside and get hit by a bus and die today. Life is not guaranteed.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 11:11 PM
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The grass is always greener on the other side. I admit - I am envious of tall, attractive and healthy men, especially in the workplace. People pay attention to handsome men when they talk. I've noticed they're more likely to be labeled as "natural leaders" - even when they're not actually much smarter or more diligent than their less-attractive peers. A handsome man can be smart AND attractive. He can be funny AND attractive. Good looking men typically don't get quizzical looks when they say som…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 10:58 PM
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100%. It's depressing.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:57 PM
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You seem in a stage of life where you are looking only for ltr, so i believe you are not the target of my question (my target are women who actively have ons meanwhile searching for a ltr). But i want to ask you: is this strategy of vetting successful as women portray it to be? I can't speak for everyone but it has worked well for me. I think I'd be back in the dating scene if I hadn't commited to my boundaries. Sex doesn't exist in a void, and although hook-up culture denies it, it usually come…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 09:46 PM
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Yeah, I am. What's the benefit in me hiding it? I don't want to piss my date off. I just say, "I'm really attracted to you, but I'd like to get to know you first before we spend the night together." And then I trust the person I'm dating to leave if that's not something they want. It's as simple as that. I'm nearing my thirties and I'm tired and I don't have time to play games. Setting clear boundaries and expectations has worked out for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 08:24 PM
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If that "ltr worthy man" thinks that the dating situation he's in is unfair, then he can just walk away. Nobody is holding him hostage. Nobody owes anyone sex. He can decide he doesn't like the boundary that his date has set, say "this isn't for me" and look to be somebody else's average Joe if he wants to. If a man I was seriously dating straight up told me "it's not fair that you hooked up with _____ after knowing him for 1 week, while you're expecting me to wait 3 weeks before we have sex" I'…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 08:02 PM
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It's wild how differently men and women see this!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 05:19 PM
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"I don't normally find women funny, but..." "She's smarter than she looks."
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/22 03:48 PM
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I'll answer your question in as much detail as possible. I need to evaluate his character and moral values first so that I trust that he won't force me to do things I don't want/rape me when we do become sexually intimate. If he's not listening to my no's on our dates, he's not going to listen to my no's in the bedroom. I don't want to become chemically attached to him through sex if I'm still getting to know him. I want to be able to see him as clearly and think about being in a relationship wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/07/22 10:35 PM
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OP, I'm wondering if your perception of what "average" for a woman is is skewed because of social media. We're constantly exposed to images of beautiful people on social media, many who have been photoshopped with filters on that can make 99% of women look very plain irl. If your idea of average doesn't look like this or this, I would like to see you provide an example of what you think is average. I rarely see couples with widely different levels of attractiveness. I can only think of one off t…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 11:31 PM
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As a bisexual woman who has initiated conversations with women I get how tricky it is to approach a gal and not be seen as a total cornball. It's made me less judgemental of men who have (non-creepily) tried to get my attention.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 07:59 PM
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I can't speak for people who won't date single mothers, but I briefly dated a single father and it was a nightmare. His ex-wife would use their child to block us from being together - for example, we had planned a weekend getaway, and as soon as she found out that he was seeing me she coincidentally got COVID and told him that she couldn't take their child for the week. Kid is three years old and at that point it was too late in the day to find a babysitter for the weekend. These kind of interru…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 07:36 PM
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You summarized exactly what I was trying to put into words haha.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 04:02 AM
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I took some time while I was single to read through the rules on FDS before I started dating again. Some of the rules are golden - FDS really did teach me about the importance of not settling and not tolerating disrespectful and abusive behavior. I do have to thank the core message of FDS because I am in a happy and healthy relationship now. Some of the advice is pretty dumb though, particularly the "don't accept coffee/walk in the park first-dates". I would be so uncomfortable on a dinner first…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/07/22 12:57 AM
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Definitely not Mario. He seems untrustworthy. In my observation the majority of people with body counts of 50+ have unaddressed psychological issues, like sex addiction or a personality disorder. Dario is husband material. He's less jaded than Mario is in the bedroom and is probably better at sex. The best lovers I've had were people who had gained most of their sexual experiences from their long-term relationships. They had better technique and were better communicators.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/22 08:49 AM
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The alpha and beta thing is super cringe. Like, brony level cringe. I didn't even know this was a thing until two years ago when this douchey guy pointed out all the "betas" around him at a party we were at. They were just men who seemed more introverted? It was an instant turn off. I wonder if guys can see all of the "he's a 10 but he listens to alpha male podcasts" type of memes floating around on women's social media algorithims right now. It's hilarious. We aren't wolves.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 09:08 PM
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There really is a lot of black and white thinking going on this sub. And yes, you can be the hottest, richest guy to walk the earth but if we can't talk without there being awkward silences or shared values it's a nope. For example, I usually find that I don't have much to talk about with sports fanatics, or people who find philosophical discussions boring. I joke that I knew my SO was the one when he sighed in relief after I told him that I hated football.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 08:52 PM
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When I was younger and more naive I would endure some pain while having sex because I thought it was normal. The men I was with didn't seem to comprehend this (also young, inexpetienced and naive). After a while I would make excuses not to have sex because it was too painful to bear. I definitely associated pain with sex. Imagine a knife scraping the walls of your anus. That's how it felt sometimes. Men need to understand that 2 minutes of foreplay isn't enough. All of my best sexual experiences…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 08:40 PM
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When I was on the apps I immediately swiped left on really attractive men. I assumed that they were catfishes/fuckboys/tragically flawed in some kind of way. I would have swiped left on my SO if I had met him on Tinder. I jokingly called him a "player" on our third date, and he said "I don't understand why women think that I'm a player. I get that a lot. Is it because of the way I look?" Apparently being turned down because you're percieved to be too good looking as a man is a thing. It's hard t…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 07:04 AM
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I've been barhopping and clubbing all over the country and the Phoenix area is one of my favorite places to party. Lots of pretty, single girls. It's like Miami without the humidity and with friendlier people.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/22 06:22 AM
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...did you not read the part where I stated that my comment about transitioning from MTF for this post was sarcasm. I am a cisgender woman. I was born with a vagina, vulva and ovaries. I have periods every month.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/22 04:11 PM
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I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism when I was 14. The endocrinologist who diagnosed me told me that I'd be alright as long as I exercised, ate a healthy diet and consistently took my prescription medication. I am 26 now and my BMI is 20%, and has never gone over 22%. When I tell people that I have hypothyroidism, they're surprised because obesity is commonly associated with hypothyroidism. But in fact: "Most of the extra weight gained in hypothyroid individuals is due to excess accumulation of …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/06/22 02:00 AM
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If you don't want to get pregnant, yes, it's nice not having to be on birth control, and there definitely is a mutual understanding between women-women when it comes to stuff like periods, the fear that comes with womanhood etc. But yeah, it doesn't make wlw relationships easier as a whole. When my straight friends tell me "I hate men! I wish I was a lesbian", I tell them NO you don't. The grass is always greener on the other side. Bi/lesbian women are also capable of being players, cheaters and…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 07:22 PM
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"The one that got away" isn't specific to gender. I've been hung up on exes before, and when I was younger and had less dating experience, I do remember having thoughts like "wow, I can't do better than them" cross my mind the weeks following a break-up. But after I got over them, and gained more confidence I was able to see these relationship as they were, without rose-colored glasses. Sometimes this meant that the person wasn't as attractive as I thought they were while I was dating them. I da…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 06:28 PM
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"It has nothing to do with their sexuality or the company that they keep." Yes, absolutely. I've gotten the "haha, guess I have double the competition now" comment before... I currently don't have any close hetero/bi male friends but based off the assumption that bisexual people are more likely to cheat, I guess I can't be left alone with my female friends because I won't be able to control myself! Cheaters are going to cheat, regardless of gender or sexual orientation. Assholes are assholes, re…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 05:47 PM
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I prefer a woman that's my height or shorter as well. I definitely have a thing for women around 5'2, they're so cute!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 05:37 PM
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Here's a pic I linked to another Reddit user in this thread who has a hard time believing that LGBTQ people are capable of having diverse viewpoints and life experiences. Just replace gofigure62 with u/cherrysoupsux. The boob job I got just for this thread was super expensive, but worth proving to homophobes that I'm not just a heterosexual man in disguise. Happy pride!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 05:13 PM
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Here I am in all of my heterosexual male glory, u/gofigure62. Happy pride!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 06:44 AM
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Women are intially more comfortable being approached by other women, but there are straight women who are definitely creeped out by wlw hitting on them. There's the fear of being labeled as creepy or predatory. I feel self-conscious about hugging my straight female friends sometimes, because I don't want them to think I'm hitting on them. "Women have less requirements for other women in comparison to the requirements they have for men." Not true. I wouldn't want to date a woman who's broke and p…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 03:49 AM
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That's so beautiful! I love that :)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 03:17 AM
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Guess ;)
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 02:04 AM
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The last time I heard that being lgbtq was a "lifestyle" was from my homophobic youth pastor. Are younger queer people reclaiming it or something?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 01:34 AM
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I can anticipate that a man will eventually have an orgasm if we have PIV sex, without wondering about or asking him if it's something that will help him climax. With a lady I'm more likely to try different things and ask her questions as to how she wants to be touched. I know that I can't get off unless I have sex in a particular way, and I've had to teach each of my sexual partners how to do so. Lesbian sex is lots of fun lol, but overall there's just more energy, communication and time spent …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 01:27 AM
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The "lifestyle?" lol what.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 01:13 AM
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Yes, I wish there were more lesbian bars! Or wlw spaces that don't revolve around alcohol. :( There's one lesbian bar in my city, but it's really small and low-key compared to the gay male bars surrounding it. On that note: I saw a mini documentary on the disappearance of lesbian bars in the US - you might find it of interest. video And yes, Tinder/Bumble/Her etc. for wlw sucks. The "wlw is a small dating pool, so it's going to be harder to find a date" explanation is valid, but I've seen my gay…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/22 12:53 AM
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Ooh I didn't know she's bi! Thanks for sharing :) I felt inspired to write about my experiences on here after coming across a video on youtube - her name is Kiera Breaugh and she's also touches on has been on my mind for a while. She also goes into how race plays a factor in the assumption that she'll take on a masc role, which is interesting. You can click here for her video.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 10:31 PM
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I find it funny that there are people in the comments thinking that I'm pretending to be a straight dude - it's like my experiences aren't real according to their stereotype of how someone in the LGBTQ community is "supposed" to think.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 10:24 PM
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I'm a femme who has mostly dated femmes- think Sydney Sweeney or Joanna Newsom level femme. Two of these women were also just realizing that they were queer, so they weren't used to dating outside of heterosexual relationships. That could absolutely be a contributing factor as to why I've had the experiences I've had.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/22 10:20 PM
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The times I've been interested in a man for more than his looks, I've waited to have sex with him. Not because I didn't feel sexually attracted to him, but because I see him as relationship material, and don't want lust to cloud my vision of who he is as a person. My boyfriend was a little taken back when I didn't go home with him on the first date. I took it slow with him, and we waited a few weeks before having sex. I absolutely wanted to jump his bones every time I saw him, but I didn't want …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/06/22 11:12 PM
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"What were some of the red flags?" The first one that I noticed was that he would barely address any of the women in a group conversation. He wouldn't outright ignore women either, but he wouldn't give a woman his full attention in the way that he would give a man in a conversation. I thought the best of him at first and thought he just felt shy around women... As I got to know him a bit more, I learned that he didn't have any close friends. He did mention a "Steve" or "Jack" here and there but …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/22 02:04 AM
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25, why do you ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 11:59 PM
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Thanks for reading my story! It is cathartic to write about it. I met my ex at work. There were some red flags that I didn't realize were red flags back then - he was such a different person at work vs. outside of work. But he didn't really show his true colors until about 5 months in. I met my boyfriend at a bar. I was doing a birthday bar hop with my friends. We walked into the bar and I made eye contact with a guy there. He approached me a few minutes later and introduced himself. I was reall…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 10:19 PM
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Unhealed trauma from a dysfunctional childhood. I dated men and women who grew up from similar upbringings, and who brought their baggage into their relationship. After I was held at gunpoint by my ex-boyfriend, I realized that I would end up dead if I didn't make a change. I had gotten the police involved but because there wasn't any physical evidence, I was told that legally there was nothing they could do about except put my ex's name on file. So I escaped by moving out of his apartment in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 07:03 PM
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The attractive men I've dated have always treated me better, and the people around them better than the men who perceived me as more attractive than them. There's this idea that it someone's unattractive that they must have some other redeeming quality, like kindness or intelligence, which is not always true. For every one douchey attractive guy there are 3 douchey unattractive guys who take out their insecurities out on the women they date. When I was younger I was naiive and thought that less …
/r/PurplePillDebate10/06/22 06:05 PM
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Who is "a lot of people?" I have never heard the phrase "n-count" come out of a person's mouth irl, nor have I witnessed people argue and dissect what someone's body count means as thoroughly as I've seen it on here. I guess it could be a deal breaker if you've slept with 300+ people because you're a sex addict - but if you're going to be turned off by someone who hasn't had sex with more than 4+ people... good luck. I think the men on this sub who keep bringing up n-count just want to date a wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 11:54 PM
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The reason why I come to this sub is the same reason why I watch 90 Day Fiance. Sometimes I learn something new, but I really just love the cringe.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 11:24 PM
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"they usually don't want a guy who is shorter, not unemployed, has his own car, own place, makes more money, has alot of time for her, usually has exceptional game, humor, great storyteller, amazing conversational skills, extremely patient, aggressive etc." most of what you listed here are just the traits of an average functioning adult. An adult of either gender who is chronically unemployed, who doesn't have a means of transportation and who lacks emotional intelligence is going to be a very d…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 10:35 PM
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Why do you ask?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 09:23 PM
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That's one way to put it haha. Nothing wrong with wanting to have nice things.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 02:07 AM
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My gender of psychology class in college actually had two lectures dedicated to this concept. Historically, men could "afford " to be romantic - having a wife was more of an option than a necessity for men, since men weren't barred from the workforce and could easily provide for themselves. Men didn't have to worry about depending on someone else as adults to eat and keep a roof of their head. For centuries, women had to marry men out of necessity, not romantic love. So women had to be more prac…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/22 01:30 AM
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For the most part, the sexually unsuccesful men that I've met lack emotional intelligence and have difficulty being upfront about their attraction to women. I'll describe a few of these men and my interactions with them so I can help you out (names changed for privacy, of course). Raymond told me on a bad shrooms trip that he couldn't understand why women kept rejecting him. He's a 23 year old constuction adminstrator who makes 55K per year, is 5'11, slightly overweight (but would be pretty good…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 11:13 PM
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Yep. Most of what you've listed really is the bare minimum, for both sexes. I want a partner, not a manchild/womanchild looking for a mother figure to take care of them. This is what my girl friends and I talk about when we discuss how low the bar is set for men. Is it really that unreasonable to desire an emotionally mature man who can feed and clothe himself? Christ.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/22 09:30 PM
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My roommate and I were gushing over dinner last night about how our boyfriends have skincare routines, eat vegetables and put effort into dressing nicely and smelling good. It's pretty sad. Skincare is basic hygiene! You can't really change your looks in a major way unless you resort to plastic surgery, but I'll take a guy who takes care of himself over a guy who looks identical to him who doesn't take care of himself. If you're a single guy without kids or other overwhelming obligations, there …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/22 07:45 PM
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I took a psychology of gender class in college; there has been extensive research on the happiness levels of single women vs single men and single women reportedly have higher levels of life satisfaction than single men do. Men also fall in love faster than women do, even if they don't verbalize it, and have a harder time recovering after a break-up. This is because women have social networks that can almost nearly provide the same level of intimacy that a romantic relationship can. I can say fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/22 05:40 PM
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Oh, I believe you. I've had this exact conversation with my boyfriend; he had a major glow-up in his late twenties and went from being basically invisible to women to having women and gay men flirt with him on a regular basis. I had an "ugly duckling" phase as well- I had cystic acne all throughout high school, wore glasses and braces and had zero social skills. When I started college, I got on antibiotics to clear up my skin, ditched my glasses for contact lenses, took off my braces, began work…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 09:52 PM
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In college I attended a networking event in DC with my friend who was studying political science. My friend is biracial (half black, half white) and is a stunner with a perfectly proportioned body and a pixie-like face. She even had paid modeling gigs as a part-time job outside of school. During the event, she had a handful of handsome white men approach her and proceed to flirt with her and ask for her number. I was younger and more insecure back then and I jealously commented that it "must be …
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 06:13 PM
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Disagreements about who has it worse overall in dating aside, men on this thread absolutely over exaggerate how easy dating is for women. Especially for darker-skinner WOC. I have female friends that complain about not being able to land dates, feeling sex-starved, being "friend-zoned". And of course women aren't going to open up about these experiences with men because it's embarrising! After all, according to IG and "boss babe" culture, dick should be easy to get right? I was out at a bar last…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/22 05:23 PM
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As in how many people expect that? Not many that I know of. Most women I know have the self-awareness to understand that they can't expect their ideal man to be extremely wealthy (unless it's a sugar daddy scenario, ex. one of my friends found her partner on seeking arrangements, they fell in love and now they're in a relationship) or good looking unless they have those qualities themselves. But maybe that's just in my social circle. Once in a while I'll come across a man/woman with entitlement …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/22 03:59 PM
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I would say that I am the same, 60/40 in terms of feminity/masculinity. I have traditionally masculine hobbies (rock climbing, bushcraft) and have been told throughout my life that I'm blunt, assertive and ambitious. I work in technology sales, which is a very competitive and high-pressure field, and sometimes I feel pressured to exhibit more traditionally masculine traits at work to be successful. On the other hand, I dress very femininely, am a social butterfly, am a sucker for romantic poetry…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 08:07 PM
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Assholes are assholes regardless of gender. "...being ghosted by someone I had been having very loving, intimate sex with for three months" I am really sorry you went through that, it's a shockingly painful experience. I had a situation like that with both a man and a woman last year - I dated a guy for two months, everything was going really well, 0 red flags...he asked me to be his girlfriend, and a week after I said yes, he abruptly told me that he decided that he wasn't ready for a relations…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 07:35 PM
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From what I've observed, I don't think most RP men even think about the LGBT community when it comes to RP philosophy because it doesn't apply to them. Lesbian and gay relationships don't exist in a vaccum, though. I am a woman who is solidly bisexual, and I've had both serious relationships with women and men. Homophobia aside, it is definitely harder to date women. Especially women who have just realized that they are gay/bi and have had years of heterosexual dating norms ingrained into them, …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/05/22 06:58 PM
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Your standards are too high if you can't match the desirable qualities that your ideal partner has. For example, you expect him to have a six-pack when you're out of shape.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 10:59 PM
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Well, he was young and handsome once and has other qualities that won her over. And he still has a full head of hair hahaha. They've been married for 26 years, so it must not be a huge dealbreaker.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 05:44 PM
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In my observation, first-generation Korean immigrants are very blunt about things like weight, looks etc. Growing up I saw it as a sign of love when my mom pointed out that I was getting a little chubby, had acne... she would help me out by buying me skincare products, cooking healthier food for dinner etc. I never took it personally, and I now have healthy self-care habits as an adult because of it. This doesn't translate well to white American culture though, and it's considered rude to point …
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/22 05:33 PM
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My mom complains about the same thing, she's constantly trying to get my dad to wear sunscreen!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 11:05 PM
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My boyfriend and I play videogames together, but we don't really play them alone. I could not date a "gamer", I find it a major turnoff. I watched way too much anime and played video games in high school and it took away from my social life - I became reclusive and super socially awkward. I was severely depressed during this period in my life, so whenever I see a gamer it just reminds me of that and brings back bad memories.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 10:31 PM
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Same here - I've worked in both trail construction, wildland firefighting and in nursing homes + autism therapy. I will take 12 hour shifts drilling boulders and swamping branches in the hot sun and snow over getting shit thrown at me by seniors and kids with severe behavioral issues. Emotional labor is fucking exhausting.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 10:18 PM
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Absolutely. My mom is Korean and she's in her fifties, but she looks like she's in her late thirties... my white dad is in his fifties, and he looks...well, like he's in his fifties.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 09:59 PM
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I think that some insecure men try to make themselves feel better about aging by saying stuff like "men age like wine, women age like milk" - and obviously anyone can be more attractive in their thirties if they take care of themselves, have a stable income etc. So there are definitely some men who age well - however I find the majority of men in their thirties to be less attractive than men in their twenties. Collagen production decreases rapidly after 25 for both genders, and if you weren't fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/22 09:11 PM
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25yrs old, 5'4, 118Ibs. US size 4. I lift, go backpacking twice per month and climb. I hated exercise and sports until I went to college - I identified with the "gamer" and "emo" kids in high school and thought it was some huge rebellious act to not take care of my body. I started lifting in college and it was like my body went through a second puberty - I grew curves that I didn't know were possible within a few months of training, and developed a hourglass figure. I became more confident in th…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/22 08:33 AM
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tldr: I have a 20+ n count and I'm in a LTR relationship. My boyfriend has a similar n count. I felt intense sexual chemistry from the start, but went on sober dates, and waited to have sex until there was an established romantic connection. So my overall body count doesn't matter - the strategy that I used to land my relationship did. STORY TIME: I met my boyfriend while I was in the middle of doing Andy Frisella's #75Hard challenge. I started the challenge months after I left a disappointing r…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/22 08:53 PM
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