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your post is so true to my ex cheater who became a batterer when caught and knew I was ending it. And he called his bully cluster (his paramour) distraught about how upset I was right in front of me and said she would come over to try to help. WTF? I left, went to file a restraining order and sent the cops over to tell him to never bother me again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 03:17 AM
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Wisdom spoken.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 02:49 AM
20

She actually said at a campaign stop once after all that ’he was a hard dog to keep on the porch’.... so folksy, huh?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/05/21 12:28 AM
21

Last pornsick scrote I was tangled up with had been into swinging with his previous wife. They were married a long time and he calls her ‘the one’. Apparently she left his lame ass for a fellow swinger. He was furious! onlything Kept him in check is the guy was a cop. i didn’t know any of this for years dating and romantically wrestling with him... as he had only told me she cheated and left him for another man after nearly 20 years. When he said they all had been swingers I said then how is it …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/05/21 03:19 PM
92

No... not sexless...he’s gonna cheat
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/05/21 03:00 PM
3

Women didn’t have to wear muffin top low cut jeans made by a fashion industry headed by men that like 12 year old boys either ... that fashion craze made me quit wearing jeans Altogether since it’s all you can buy. QUIT BUYING CRAP that you don’t want to wear, they will quit making it.....maybe.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/04/21 01:50 PM
4

High waisted shorts/pants? It’s how I wear my sports tops.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:25 PM
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The new scrappy sports bras are fine in an appropriate setting all by themselves. I wear them to the beach and other places I’m outdoors. I carry another layer but I don’t feel undressed or in my underwear. I’m 65 BTW. I’m in decent shape for my age but not perfect. I live in a warm climate.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/21 01:23 PM
42

Not sure he was smart enough to think of that. Either way, after that episode, it might have been the best way to get his dick wet from then on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 07:27 PM
92

My ex was pissed one time when I made him use some chocolate flavored lube, instead of spit, which was his go-to over taking his time or anything else too. He was already running late, so just threw on his jeans and went out the door. He bitched because he could smell the chocolate all day, and was sure the other guys in the auto shop he worked at could smell it too and would know what it was. Seriously. Got off work with an attitude about it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/04/21 07:10 PM
7

Dont overthink it, sweetie, that way it can be funny. Besides, we don't know much about what the cat thought either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:57 PM
55

I read some very good advise from a wise woman: early on, set a boundary. It can be anything, just tell them 'no' about something they want. Their reaction will tell you more in minutes than you otherwise might not know for months. Here's an example: a fellow I was on a second date with wanted to hold my hand across the table. It felt physically awkward to me, and was weird so I thought, here's my chance. I withdrew my hand, and yes he said, 'you probably aren't comfortable with affection, but t…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:51 PM
43

Ok, you owe me a new screen. This one has snot and icetea all over it....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 09:42 PM
50

Have ya'll ever noticed how difficult it is for a male to reach inside a woman's purse? They act like they are going to draw back a bloody stump if they accidently touch a tampon.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/21 12:22 AM
1

I left home at 17, had abusive father who wouldn't help, even with moral support, and I graduated college and never once sold sex. I didn't join the military. I had grants and loans that I worked for years to pay off, but that's ok, I was STEM so made a great living. I've heard many 'sex workers' say the same thing, 'I did it to pay for college'. Half of them did it for the drugs. Sorry, not going to applaud it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 03:28 PM
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They tried. But like you said, its a horrible world for children and women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:44 PM
1

Im sorry, I'm of the mind that all women are worth more than that. But you do you. I don't need to cosign it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:35 PM
-15

It's a neutral term, meant to legitimize selling sex as a career option. Regardless of what women who take their clothing off for dollar bills say.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:21 AM
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And terms like 'sex worker' back up that misperception.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:09 AM
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It's a term meant to sterilize selling sex. No way around it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 05:07 AM
31

That doesn't mean I must indulge their fantasies, nor make them feel special.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:45 AM
273

Mine would not let me sleep over anyone's house at all until I was like 16. I didn't understand why. Then, I found out about my best friends father and understood why. He was a perv. My parents were right to keep me away from her house, even tho' she was ALWAYS welcome in mine.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:39 AM
51

I so glad other women agree with my objection to this 'PC' terminology. I had a huge flamewar with a woman here on reddit that claimed to be a stripper, therefore a 'sex worker', and that was the proper term.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:36 AM
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I get upset about this term because many of these women are being trafficked. This neutralizes and legitimizes the situation. It also allows the Johns to believe that all women doing this are voluntarily wanting to do this work. They don't want to believe they are supporting human trafficking when buying sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/04/21 02:35 AM
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My ex never lifted a finger at my house. But I didn't hang a towel up on the door thingee...(because I was afraid it would collapse) and instead folded it neatly on the counter, he FLIPPED. Pet peeve he said... well, every freaking towel he owned was hanging on the damn door thingee and most of them were mildewy and stinking because they were all hanging on the door! Don't even get me started on the filthy floor with damp rug.... ewww... Place was a hellhole.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/21 12:50 AM
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It didn't get to be too much of a thing, and I got a couple of nice dinners at least! This all came about was when I applied my rule above: the 'oh you want my address? ok, what's yours and you go first, you can pick me up this time, next time I'll pick you up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/21 01:53 AM
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I kicked one to the curb when he fessed up that he was 'temporarily' living with his daughter and her girlfriends. Sleeping on the couch. I bet they all loved that. When I told him why he said he had been way more successful than I, but gave it to his kids... WTF.... I OWN my house, clear title dude, and have a pension and a 401k, I could live on the monthly returns.... . I go to Europe once a year for 2 weeks (except COVID, already booked Ireland for this Oct), and am truck shopping for the veh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:27 PM
10

When you are my age, Dear, who has time to wait? LOL j/k Good advise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:07 PM
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Thank you for the Helping Hands! edit: /u/apatheticnemo gave me the award, but thank you for responding too Dear.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 05:04 PM
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hahhhHhaaaaaaahhh Hobosexuals..... ima write that one down....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 06:25 AM
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A rule for me and online dating: when the second date rolls around and they want to pick you up at your house, and they ask for address, I say, I need your's too, and next time, I'll pick you up. You'd be surprised how many this just stops dead in their tracks. I figure, there's a wife/GF, or there's no house.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/03/21 06:22 AM
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That's WHY he 'doesn't do Xmas'. Nobody in his family wants him around anymore. So the holiday makes him miss them too much and then self examine and resent, so then he cant celebrate with anyone else. We had been together at that point for nearly a year. He knew everyone that was coming, my family. My DIL had even gotten a gift for him. We had just gotten back from travelling overseas. She had babyset his pony-sized dog while we were gone. Did he bring her back as much as a post card??? This is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/03/21 03:56 PM
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I had a dentist once that gave the most painful shots ever. I have since had quite a bit of dental work far an above what this dentist did and never felt the pain this quack caused me. I wouldn't really cry, but he hit a nerve that caused tears to just flow. The pain was intense, not mild. Of course, the area then numbed, but it was torture. I thought at the time, this is just part of getting dental work done. I was in my 20s. One day he leaned over and kissed the tears running down my cheek. I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 03:40 PM
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And he is torturing her emotionally at the very time she is LEAST likely to leave him. Men can be such evil pricks.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:57 AM
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My ex bf was still in bed one xmas morning when my family was coming for xmas brunch. I stuck my head in and said, 'they will be here soon, you might want to get up'. He growls and says 'I don't do xmas, I told you that'. I said ok then, it will make everyone uncomfortable if you stay here in the bedroom all day, and wander out to kitchen now and then in your shorts, so you should go home then. So he left. A few months later, during an argument, he told me how mean and evil I was for kicking him…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:53 AM
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That child going to have a rough time with a dad like that too. She'd and baby would be better off just getting gone and suing him for child support.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 06:47 AM
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Not only does he not care, it will make his dick hard. Just don't do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/03/21 03:22 AM
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Pretty would have worked better. And in context with his comment about his exwife being the 'most beautiful woman he had ever seen'... yeah, I didn't take 'cute' as a compliment.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 05:06 PM
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I just gave one the heave ho after a very brief time getting to know him. One reason: he would always text with 'Hey Girly'. After about 6 times I wanted to scream. I'm 65, he's 62.. I'm not a 'girly'. I guess they call me 'cute' and 'girly' because I'm only 5'1" and size 6.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 05:05 PM
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I didn't know better back then. Had not dated in over 10 years. Long term marriage before that... really dumb... lol I ended up dumping him 3 times!!! I took him back twice. He taught me a lot of hard lessons. But I feel like I came out ahead. He's very nearly homeless, chasing after a 70 year old lady now. (6 years older than himself). I feel for her, and hope her family runs him off, before he gets hands on the money. The guy has a name in auto racing... not NASCAR, the real stuff, Indycars, F…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 03:31 PM
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Zombie hordes!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 03:07 PM
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Got it. Now it's obvious. DUh... I gotta read their handbook.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:59 PM
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What is 'PUA'. All google told me is 'Pandemic Unemployment Assistance'... so... I'm in the dark...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:49 PM
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Looking back at my last ex and how it got started, the insecurity. When we first met after OLD chatting... he said 'You're cute'. I thought it was a compliment, not a neg. Until he said (not long after that) his ex-wife was 'the most beautiful woman he'd ever seen'. It was like 'cute' was negative after that , and yep, I was insecure after that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/21 01:44 PM
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Thank you! I will right now.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 07:16 PM
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I think two things when I see that beautiful ring: QUEEN I want.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/21 02:40 PM
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Don't women mostly take after their mothers, health and longevity wise?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:54 PM
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Only men that don't want a mature woman in her 30s is AFRAID of mature women in their 30s. They aren't man enough and they know it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:52 PM
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30 was when I felt like I'd finally arrived! Congrats. You are going to be AMAZED.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 02:51 PM
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You have some good gene's! You will have a long and fun life if you play your cards right. Take care of YOU first. Make yourself happy. Everything else will fall in place!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:48 AM
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And just as soon as they think you can't live without them, they start backpeddling, like 'who is this albatross around my neck'? It's stupid. I just don't ever let them think they have me nailed down. End of problem.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:46 AM
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I got my own too! I'm very comfortably retired. Travel, fun, don't worry about the bills. It's the best time to be alive! Stress freeeeee.... not needing one of 'em. I meant the old guys tryna date 18-25 year olds...they need the fat wallet. It doesn't impress me in the least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:43 AM
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You can do it... just keep walking toward it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:41 AM
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Oh honey, this was YEARS ago. But I'll see if I can find it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/21 01:29 AM
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I've heard research that says the happiest people in middle age and over are single women. Followed by married men. The LEAST happy? Married women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 06:17 PM
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They have to offer something like more than their bald head and budding beer belly. Like a FAT wallet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 06:16 PM
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This is soooo true. Im 65. I have an active, fun, social life. I date multiple men at the same time. My phone is constantly chirping. My biggest problem is them trying to tie me into commitment. Nope. Not happening. I need my space. I enjoy my alone time too much.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/21 06:14 PM
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Haha... I did that. Was dating a fellow. He was clearly interested, and I was basically 'wait and see'. One day, he was saying that people making over $75k didn't need a stimulus. This is CA. I was a single mom in CA (kids are grown now). I made over that amount by quite a lot toward the end of my career, and still found it hard sometimes to stay financially healthy. I said, 'you must not have ever been a single mom'. He said, no, my wife stayed home with our kids while I worked. I said, good fo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/02/21 03:39 PM
5

Why more women don't see this simple fact is alarming.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 10:42 PM
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I never thought of that, but he was very controlling. You could be right! Now I'm like creeped out all over again! No! Not good image! puuuue puuue
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 07:43 PM
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This is big. I always put my phone on silence and keep it in my purse. Not to be seen. If he gets a call, and it's business, I don't have a problem. Work isn't always scheduled well. Particularly when you OWN the business. A gentleman always apologizes for taking the call, and lets the person know he is busy when he first answers. If he is playing with his phone for fun... nope.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:47 PM
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I had one that kept trying to hold my hand across the table. Our second meetup. He seemed like a nice gentleman on our first 'date' that was basically just coffee. This was dinner. He grabbed my hand while I was looking at the menu. I thought, ok. This is weird. It made reading the menu a little awkward. I pulled my hand back as soon as I was able to extricate it. Kept them both in my lap, as we waited to be served. Drinks and appetizers arrived. I needed to use my hands... and I'll be damned if…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:43 PM
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I could not agree more. I worry that we will be in a barbaric society and am already seeing signs that I'm not sure I can safely bring up here. But let me say ,that I worry, that the women in sports are seeing the beginnings of our being 'erased' as viable worthwhile respectable non-male humans.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 06:28 PM
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How fun it would have been for you to walk onstage, throw out a quick line, comment about writing his material, pass a ball cap around labelled 'writer's donations', and remind them to tip the waitress! Scene's I'd like to see!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/21 05:47 PM
7

Woke guys aren't. They just claim to be to get laid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:51 AM
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I wonder who watched '50 Shades of Grey'? I hear it was mostly women. I thought the first book was stupid. Didn't read the rest of see any of the movies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:45 AM
1

Sansa turned out to be a good queen. Better than Dani. Damn sure. She didn't burn anyone down.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:34 AM
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It happened all the time. Women loved their masters. Would die for them. It wasn't considered rape. It was considered DUTY. It's a state of mind the women were raised with.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:33 AM
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And in the end, like her father the Mad King was left ranting: 'Burn them all', Dani burned the capital city to the ground, killing thousands of innocents. I knew it was coming too. Why was anyone else shocked?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:30 AM
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My greatgrandmother was 13 in a forced marriage. To a 45 year old widower who needed a women to work the household part of his farm, for him, his sons and his field hands. She married him when her father told her she had to if she wanted to keep eating. She had 9 kids by him before he died of old age. She was still pretty young. It's the way it was and the way it could be again, in a blink of an eye. Modern civilization in the western world is very much an outlier for women.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:26 AM
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Game of Thrones had the worst male torture scenes I've ever seen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:22 AM
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I assumed it was Game of Thrones. Seems like lately, there are lots of torture themes on TV.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:19 AM
7

'Woke' men just tell you they are to get laid. They aren't.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/02/21 04:18 AM
4

I'd do one even better. Doll up, girl, and go out as him and his guests are coming in.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/21 04:17 PM
24

Saying we are 'overreacting', is just another way of saying that you hold no importance to them at all, and that they are completely lacking of empathy. Im surprised as hell they keep trying that shit. Does it ever work. Mostly just pisses women off more.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:38 AM
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Shocking, but I thought the same thing. And I noticed that she kicked him out, so it was her place, she was probably supporting his bullshit ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/21 04:33 AM
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They've all learned the 'incriminating texts' game. So don't play, ladies. It can bite you years later after they've turned on you. I love the reference I just made... I used to hear about certain dog breeds 'turning on you' out of no where. Word to the wise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 07:21 PM
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Exactly! He said he was trying to get a third together. One of the old bitches actually was interested. He showed me the text... "OMG She's beautiful" Scary thing: Im 65, he is 64 she is 70. This pornfilled new world is fucked up with seniors that think they missed out on something, being married for years and years. I was appalled. If some lame ass showed me a pic of a beautiful woman he claims he is with, I'd say, GO BE WITH HER. But, I'd warn her of the contact if I could. He was insanely jea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/02/21 06:58 PM
21

All that invisibility will return as soon as you turn 45.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:08 PM
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How times have changed.... Im the first gen of women that grew up post-pill/abortion. We went into the workplace. On our own. Single women. It used to be 'wife or whore'. Now we get to/have to bring home the bacon too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:03 PM
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I read it as she 'hated herself for freezing'. I get that feeling. Times I wish I'd done more to fight back. So now I'm just a bitch to them in general. That way I'm covered.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/02/21 02:00 PM
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I couldn't imagine! If some guy sent me another woman's pic, that would be an instant block. I was shocked when he told me he had sent them my pics. Like, why? He said, so they could see what I'm used to having. Sick bastard called one of them in the middle of us having our last and final fight, while I was gathering my stuff to leave. I yelled loud enough for her to hear: 'You're seeing your future!'. Hope it helped her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 03:35 PM
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I had an ex send my pics to other women on OLD too. Why??? I don't get it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/02/21 02:11 PM
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This is simply the best, brilliant, genius meme EVAH.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/02/21 11:54 PM
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Why is she so suprised , when she is with an arsehole? Did she just now realize, I wonder?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 11:12 PM
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My greatgrandma had a nice husband in her old age. Her third. He was the greatgrandfather I knew, and lived into his 90s to0. They were good together at least.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:34 AM
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I try to explain to my daughter how 1st world women in the 21st century are about as free to live their life as they please and dream as women have ever been in human history. I think it's important to acknowledge how far we've come, and be grateful for the gains made, we could lose them in an instant. I appreciate how you've described the trauma to generations. I so hope we permanently can rise above.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/02/21 07:29 AM
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After my second divorce, I didn't need to do that again. Particularly because I barely dodged paying HIM alimony. That was 28 years ago. I've stuck to my determination to never ever put myself in that position again. I've been single and happy since. If I want to end a relationship now, well, bye boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 05:26 PM
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My greatgrandma was 13 when a 45 year old widower that was a friend of her father's, both poor farmers, came and asked for her hand. He needed a wife to keep the household, his sons and field hands fed and laundered, and cleaned up after. And other 'women's work' around the farm. My greatgrandfather. She had 9 kids from him before he died. Her second husband showed up to help on the farm. He was the town drunk. Abusive. One day he just disappeared. Nobody looked for him, filed a missing persons,…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/01/21 05:22 PM
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Yep. My ex insisted I smile all the time or he thought I was mad at him. It was unnerving. And he told me 'Love you' at least 5 times a day, but would get mad if I didn't say it back. I think he needed to hear it and that was the way he got me to say it. It felt forced and manipulated.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 03:33 AM
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I had this happen in person. A first meetup. Guy went on and on and on and on, I was looking around, watching other people, petting my dog, adjusting my chair, nothing stopped his monologue, and I don't think he even noticed me fidgeting . Finally I tried just jumping in. He got this look on his face that said, 'how rude of you to interrupt!'. I said 'hey it was fun, but I gotta go'. And just walked away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/01/21 03:25 AM
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Thank you, Sweetheart!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 06:04 PM
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I had two different bastards taken out during my career. One, a subcontractor, kept putting his hands on me after his 3 martini lunch. I complained to my boss, a woman, who HAD to by law take it to her boss, and then he was gone. First complaint. But he was one of those guys that everyone just loved because he would buy the drinks at happy hour. So my name was mud. Years later, in a different office, our supervisor kept visually drooling everytime this young intern came into his vision. She work…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/01/21 05:44 PM
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Yes, there are differences in how people metabolize what they eat. The overall trend, however, is Americans being heavier now than generations ago and in comparison to the rest of the world. Genetics certainly does not count for the increase. It's also very difficult to understand any American never having eaten junk food, when it's served in school cafeterias!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 09:10 PM
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There is a certain invisibility with becoming middle age. But that isn't necessarily a bad thing if you are able to step up and ask for what you need from people that can provide it. Incognito often works for me now. I can move thru public almost in a cocoon, and find a smile will always make me more visible if I desire. Attitude, happiness, serenity and efforts to stay healthy are always attractive. Work to keep these attributes strong and you will never hit that wall. I have found that these q…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 08:37 PM
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It has however, been an indicator of their station in life, and thus attractive. Only the wealthy upperclass could get morbidly obese, such as Henry VIII . If you look at pictures of people even 100 years ago, poor working class men, women and kids were very thin by todays standards. Now, poor quality, high calorie food is less expensive than high nutrient lower calorie food. Junk isn't good for people. And if your parents fed you nothing but junk, it's going to be difficult to stay at a lower w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 08:06 PM
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It's not her they never loved. Some men aren't capable of love.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:51 PM
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More than one man has told me that if he is no longer attracted to a woman physically he couldn't stay with her. Apparently, women have an obligation to keep themselves up and not 'let themselves go' as that is perfectly reasonable cause for leaving them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 07:36 PM
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Being thin hasn't always been the standard of beauty. Particularly in cultures where extra weight ENSURED longevity rather than the opposite. We women of that genome type are never going to be waifs or model thin. It used to be that larger women were perceived as better mates because they looked physically stronger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:41 PM
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Being with someone IS exhausting. I'm enjoying being single. AGAIN.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:38 PM
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This is so very true. I got taken advantage of by a really awful man when I was at my loneliest. For me it was 'empty nest'... my youngest had left home. Since I've made a large social circle of women and non-sexual male acquaintances, it's been easier to stick to a higher standard in who I date.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:35 PM
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I was told by my ex that one of the reasons he was attracted to me was that I don't drink, neither does he. His exwife was an alcoholic yada yada. Part of how I caught him cheating was the half empty QUART of cinnamon whiskey in his cupboard.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:29 PM
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We worry about our weight. They worry about their height. And their bald.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:25 PM
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I told my last ex he would die alone in a home beating off in the corner alone, with the others in the TV room.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:18 PM
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Honey, it's because they feel like they aren't good enough to keep a beautiful woman, and are constantly afraid some other man will steal her. We can't win either way, they treat us like shit if we arent up to their beauty standards and stay in a constant fear and jealousy and treat us like shit if we are.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:17 PM
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I asked my ex what it was that made him fall in love with his ex wife. He said, 'I know it sounds shallow, but she is the most beautiful woman I've ever seen' Some time later he told me he was sure he was over her. As I was asking if that was part of the reason we were having issues. I asked why he was sure and he said he lurked her FB and she had cut her hair short. Damn, it took me a minute, but that ass is GONE boy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:13 PM
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At my age, 65, I meet tons of widowers. They fall fast and hard. Then they cant or won't leave you alone. They always say 'I know I can't replace her'. Like, wow, no, you can't but you sure are trying to find someone to fit into her role and take care of you. Like can you wait to even find out my name and history? And it's not just sex. It's everything. They talk and talk and never shut up, like they haven't talked to someone in so long that they just have to get it all out. I feel for them, I r…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:05 PM
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I had a female psych fired me from her practice because we were different in our political philosophy, which SHE preached hers constantly. When I objected, I was dismissed, after trying to overlook it from her. I have found that some psych's are absolutely malignant narcs. The famous Sam Vaknin of youtube fame for example. Nonetheless, he has taught me a huge amount of information about NPD and ASPD.... I wouldn't want to know him RL.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 06:00 PM
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This is so true. Im 65, and HOT AS HELL for my age. I KNOW that from the tons of messages I get from the men in my peer group and BOYS I get on OLD. Which is basically the ONLY way to meet anyone right now for my peer group. OUr activities have all been shut down. I had a 35 year old with puppy eyes. I cut off talking with him because of the age difference, but MY GOSH he was great for my hurt ego. My exBF actually cheated on me with a women 5 years older than both of us at 65. She's in great sh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:57 PM
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But muh blue balls!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:45 PM
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This is soooo true. And I think some naive women don't understand the male sex drive OFTEN has no conscience and it's up to us to not be so free in our beliefs that he IS into us. Make him prove it first before you give him any.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:43 PM
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The reason men mistreat women that are not 'Hollywood standards' of beauty, is that it reflects their perceived value of themselves. If they aren't with a 'hottie' then it's a constant reminder to them that they aren't capable of having a hottie in their life compared to the other guys. It makes them 'less than' so they turn on you. And this applies to all women that aren't Hollywood hot. So basically, as porn stars and movies, Anime and video games, basically illusions of women, become the yard…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/01/21 05:36 PM
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What WILL they think of next? Virtual jerk. Just damn.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 02:46 AM
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Thank you Sweetie. So many younger women are so much more aware than i was even 10 years ago! Ya'll have taught me so much!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 01:26 AM
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I didn't assume you were, really, even tho' it sounding like I was addressing you personally, I was addressing 'us' as a group. I know you have good sense! Much better probably than I have... I've been a slow learner!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/01/21 12:01 AM
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Yes. Men are NOT like wine. They don't always improve with age. Many get worse, way worse. The phrase 'dirty old man' exists for a reason. I think for some it even escalates because they know they aren't going to be able to get it up forever. Their own clock tick. Ask most and they feel like they didn't get enough variety in their younger years. And some are soooo porn and kink sick after all these years, they get kinda bizarre just to get any thing going at all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 11:58 PM
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Wow, me too, and I'm a grandmother! But still found new enlightenment on the thread. Powerful and right on point.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 11:25 PM
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Oh my. This is so in line with my thinking about my exBF. But it took me awhile to figure out he is buried deep in the closet gay. And he does this thing, posting near nudes on FB so his 1000+ followers (he is a name in auto-racing) will hoot and hollar. Never dawned on me until later he was turning on to all the attention from other men, but now you got me thinking it was even more than that...like the physical reaction other men were having and that was his real fantasy. Damn, I wish I still h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 11:14 PM
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That's a dead giveaway he gay, but can't accept it. Get out girl. First time. If you don't you will be sorry.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 11:10 PM
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This so describes my exBF. He is constantly playing to the other boys. I always thought it was juvenile to post pics of models in skimpy outfits on his FB, where he would get tons of likes from the other LVM. Then he starting suggesting 3-somes... with another male, for ME of course, what woman wouldnt like 2 men at once he said. And said this was both his exwife's fav kink. That's when it dawned on me that he is gay. He just has to put a female body between him and his true desire to make it mo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/01/21 11:08 PM
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Some parents are really strict and their kids feel traumatized by that. I was raised by very strict parents. So I hid everything from them. And ran away and rebelled like crazy and got in all kinds of trouble. I consequently was more permissive, like your parents were. I let my kids friends hang around the house all the time and realized that some were going to be older, and some I was going to really have to keep an eye on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/01/21 05:20 PM
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I went back and read the scenario and I'm staying with the idea that she is being demanding and controlling. He apparently DID plan a date and she didn't like where, and another time, she didn't like they already hiked there, and yada. And then New Years, he planned and she said it was too late, she's over it. Yeah... I'm staying with that first impression, and actually feel sorry for the guy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/20 01:39 AM
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So if someone doesn't allow me to train them to make me happy they are 'shit'? I wouldn't call 'date planning' an essential task like changing a diaper. Domestic duty sharing is a responsibility. My point is, take the man as you find him, don't try to make him into what you want him to be. If it isn't working, don't try to change him to fix it. You may need to change some of your expectations or find a way to satisfy that 'need' in a different way. Or find a different man to 'work with'. Like I …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/20 07:04 PM
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Remember that she gave him MONTHS to learn to do this and implement this. Is this an appropriate assignment for a romantic partner? Or a superior over an inferior? That's what it sounds like to me. Most men would not relate well to this kind of demand. We make our own happiness. We don't give the power to give or take away to someone else if we truly have learned that. I wouldn't even go so far to say that the fellow in this discussion is a bad 'partner'. A bad match for the woman describing the…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:25 PM
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Yes, he did try. A little bit. I just don't think that singularly, that he didn't do this, didn't make him a bad person and not worthy of the pile on here. Like I said, maybe the pair isn't compatible if that made her so unhappy. I used to feel like if my man didn't show his love and appreciation for me in the way I wanted him to, it meant he didn't love and appreciate me. I finally learned, that men express their love and appreciation in their OWN way. And if it's not what I want, or can't reco…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/20 05:45 AM
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I'm a very independent, liberated and experienced old lady. I think you are trying to change him. I think he wants to make you happy, but you are asking for something that doesn't come naturally to him, and you are making it into a bone of contention that you may later regret tugging over. He will get frustrated by trying and not making you happy as well. Perhaps you two aren't compatible and YOU should make the choice to end it. But please, stop trying to change him. That is the road to unhappi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/20 07:37 PM
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I indulge myself sometimes wondering if he learned anything by losing me, if he regrets the way he treated me. Did I have any impact on him for the good. It actually makes me mad then to think he is better for having known me, but some other woman is getting the new improved him. See how I am, it's best to just go and don't look back, lol.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 11:21 PM
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Why do I need to explain anything to anyone when I'm done? Online date, short term, long term. Divorce even? File for 'irreconcilable differences' and let the attorneys work it out. If I need to make an opus, who am I trying to convince? What is there to say? 'I finally grew a spine and I'm leaving your ass? ' The walking away and staying away says it louder. Let the memory of you do all the 'holding accountable'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 04:05 PM
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Stop over explaining yourself. LVM don’t care about your feelings, and nothing you can say will change that. This is literally the title of the thread! Block and delete is a possible and powerful response to all scenarios that you are ending or leaving or walking away from, except divorce, that just takes a little longer to ultimately execute..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:44 PM
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One last thought, as to 'weak'. Was in a long term 2-house relationship, he kept stuff at my place, but I was always careful to take all my stuff home with me from his. But after awhile he had quite a bit of stuff here. I found evidence he was on Tinder. He was at his place, and had forgotten his phone at my house. An alert went off, I picked it up to shut it off, and the Tinder msg from some that obviously he had been talking to was right on the front screen. I threw all his shit literally out …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:36 PM
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Nothing wrong with a well worded opus on the way out, for YOUR own good, not his, but be careful to not get drawn into another blowout screaming match, as that will only justify him saying 'good riddance to that crazy bitch'. 'Calling someone out' or 'holding him accountable' is a fancy way of saying 'I want the last word'. And yes, you probably are justified! And if you don't get it all off your chest, you will probably drive yourself crazy over things you wish you had said, but what matters is…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:28 PM
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I had that happen with someone I had been with over a year, long enough to know that I didn't want what he ultimately did to me anyway, in a forceful way. I left, called the police and I pressed charges. Being in a relationship, even a short one, makes it a long shot that he will go to jail, or anything else. But here in CA, the case won't come up as a priority, but must be dealt with within a year. So, after about 11 months, the DA will contact the plaintiff to see if they still want the charge…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:21 PM
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Give it more time... more often than not, he will contact you. You can have your say then. If he doesn't eventually reach out, you really must move on. He really CAN live without you, and is, and there will be no satisfaction for you. Write a letter...put it in a special place, i.e. 'give it to the universe', and move on.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:09 PM
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Nothing wrong with a good Opus on the way off the stage.... but STAY AWAY after that or it's meaningless.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 03:04 PM
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I have found immense power in silently walking away and staying away. Im an old lady, have had many relationships. This technique works better than anything else for saving your self-esteem, which is really what you will want to remember years from now. How you kept your dignity. THEY always come back to check to see if you miss them, they can't help themselves, your silence and self control in NOT contacting them drives them crazy. And when they reach out.... you win. It's that simple. You can …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:59 PM
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Letting an asshole know they hurt you is rewarding the asshole for hurting you. Don't do it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/20 02:20 PM
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This is exactly the truth in my experience. Also, I've noticed that if they post alot of soft-porn pics of female models on their facebook or other social media, it's to get ATTENTION FROM OTHER MEN!!! Fishing for comments and likes. It took awhile for tme to figure that one out. It all clicked into place when he asked me if I was willing to do a 3some with another man. I looked at him with wide eyes and he said, "im not gay or anything". I said, "uh, yeah, I sorta think you are, but have to hav…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/20 11:34 PM
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Yes, it was off. Rule #1, Trust your instincts. I will tell you two things: in my 65 years, my instincts have never been wrong. I only got in trouble when I ignored them, because charming, cute, sexy, handsome.... and I did that enough to have sexual fun but bruised emotions, and in the past few years, real bruises. I have noticed men have gotten way more dangerous, I too blame porn. It's very sad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/20 04:21 PM
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I didn't even ask... I just said, oh, I'm surprised, I would think you'd want another woman in the 3some. He says, oh, I'm not gay or anything.... I saw a mate of his sitting in his lap one evening when they both had too much to drink. His mate had a gf and it was all laugh it up, but I got a hunch about it at the time. Big macho, ladies man, man-whore kinda guy. Overcomping?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/07/20 01:22 AM
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I had a BF that wanted anal even tho I said no way from day 1... it became an issue. And then he switched it up to bringing someone else in... another man was his first thought.... hmmmmm.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:59 PM
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Why would someone downvote this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:42 PM
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Yes. I had one FWB relationship, because I didn't want to commit to HIM, and he was the one that said the words FWB. And then when he called at 11:00 pm one night and I didn't answer because I was on a date until around 1:30. He BLEW UP my phone. Where are you? Call me.. Why didn't you call me? .... You are out with someone else I guess? ... Call me.. So I did, when I got home. How shocked was I when he so jealous he went into a tantrum. FWB is like 'Open'. Often the woman has way more fun.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/07/20 07:41 PM
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I agree with your last sentence complete. I like the way you said it too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 11:14 PM
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I didn't really have that experience at all. I worked for federal govt. Retired 6 years ago next month. We had a difficult time finding American talent actually. Contractors, particularly after 9/11, had to stop hiring H1B, for DoD anyway and anything requiring a security clearance. I was shocked at how many Congress people were using the Pak contractor for SYSADMIN functions on their email servers. This wasn't ok at all in DoD at lowest level clearance. But it did stir up the bit about the Russ…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 07:27 PM
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Women have always had to be strong! I truly believe we are the tougher sex. Males may be physically stronger, but women are tougher emotionally and spiritually, from my experiences and observations. This is a gross generalization I know, and there are exceptions of course. Im glad you younger ladies have even more choices! It's good to see what my gen was able to do. DOn't blow it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:56 PM
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I've had 4 committed LTRs in my life. 2 were marriages, until I learned better! Of the 4, ONE was a HVM and he was far from perfect. I don't know why, but I remain optimistic, and a believer in love. Maybe I'm just dumb as a stump!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:50 PM
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High and wide, girlfriend!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:44 PM
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Yes, sometimes I think 'women's lib' of the 60s liberated LVM more than hard working independent women. Many of them love sticking it to us now in court too. Be very careful ladies.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:44 PM
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I watched all the Disney princess stories growing up too, and believed in happily-ever-after. Well, it doesn't always work that way. And while I remain a believer in Love, I have a much thicker skin, and smarter brain. Fortunately, I haven't allowed my heart to harden. Pain-growth-joy: cycle of life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:39 PM
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Women aren't enrolling in CS? Try Information Technology. Those stats are probably because back in the day, the only major was EE with an emphasis on CS, when I started. Then the universities broke business applications and data management away from hardware, security and networks. Just like I said above. You speak like you know all about it. Why would that be? Are you in IT?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 01:48 PM
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Thank you for reading my story. Women have to look after themselves and when I share about my 'liberated' experience as a professional woman, I hope younger women learn how to protect themselves and their kids. All in all, I'm grateful to have been in the first gen of women in America that got to play on some new ground. Tech field was a good place for a woman to be. Software. Men didn't seem so threatened with gals that could code. As long as they got to fool with the hardware. I lived a better…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 04:25 AM
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The thing is, you really cant protect them. I remember the day I realized that. The courts here are so into this 50/50 shit and tying child support to it, a bad parent will fight like hell to keep it 50/50, as in mine's case, if he had another woman to help anyway. Because of that, it's nearly impossible to keep them protected from drama at daddy's and the drinking! So she's had some issues to work out. The crazy shit new GF did and the battle I had to put up to keep her and my house and keep it…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:55 AM
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No. It took 5 years to get out of that marriage tho'. Child custody battle with the woman he left me for. Childless at 40, and fear for her body, she was a stunt woman. Long ugly story. She wanted my daughter for her own. When she bailed, he folded his custody suit. By then he was working and had to pay child support, but no alimony, because of my high income. Will NEVER get married again. No power on earth could make me. I'm surprised how many old men are looking for marriage. Ah well, not this…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:25 AM
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I've not gotten married again, when my lawyer told me I may end up supporting my 2nd husband who was cheating instead of working via alimony. Nope, never doing that stupid move again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/05/20 02:07 AM
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This right here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/05/20 02:52 PM
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Some I have come to think are without souls. No empathy. Nothing inside.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 07:11 PM
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I don't understand why they get so angry! Then comes the tears. Oh yeah, I got those too. Late late late the next night, he text me to tell me I was imagining things and I was so wrong to see it this way. I'd seen this 6'2 260 lb man cry for his mommie before. I told him GFY and then he blocked me. LOL
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 01:52 PM
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The ANGER he directed at me for me finding out, accidently, that he was negotiating prices with hookers on Tinder. The first thing he said when I confronted him with the undeniable evidence on his phone, which he had sent me to fetch for him. I wasn't even looking for evidence of cheating. He said 'I didn't do anything wrong except love you'. In other words, it was my fault he likes young women and is willing to pay for the thrill? Go figure. The devil made him do it would have been a better rea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 12:56 PM
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This is true. Lots of insecure men actually hate women because they know they bring nothing to the table, and know they aren't going to have their first, second or probably 3rd choice, and that hurts their feelz. They hate you because they hate themselves. They don't want to belong to a club that would have them in it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 12:50 PM
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It felt so liberating when I learned that it's ok to love someone from a distance. A LONG distance.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/05/20 12:47 PM
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I'm way past having kids, hon. Make sure he keeps a different address. I've done that too. Thats actually when Im happiest. Cohabitation isnt a thing unless you mix bank accounts or one is supporting the other. I don't do that either.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 08:30 PM
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And not that long ago in the US. My greatgrandma was passed at 13 to her father's friend who's wife had recently died and he needed a woman to do the house chores on his farm for him and the hands. She had no choice in the matter at all if she wanted to eat and have a roof over her head. Anyway, he was 40. He was my greatgrandfather. Never knew him, but I knew her. She went on to have 9 kids with him before he died. This was in Oklahoma. He was half Choctaw on his mothers side (my greatgreatgran…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 03:39 PM
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Im very upfront with men I date that I'm not interested in marriage at all! At my age, its silly. I'd have to have a lawyer draw up legal work to do it! My stuff is going to my kids. And if I'm done, I'm done. Nothing like tossing his shit on the lawn to move forward.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 03:32 PM
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I took my husbands last name like most did back then. After divorcing, I kept it, for my daughter and I to match last names when she was growing up. I recently changed it to my fathers last name (my maiden name) as my middle name and my mothers maiden name is now my last name.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 03:29 PM
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I hear you on the 'bitches' part, as that word means 'female dog' which is demeaning. But it's American cultural at this point, sort of like the 'n' word but not as limited in usage by race. Lousy grammar is taking it a bit far. If it was for formal writing, yeah, a problem, but Twitter? Language evolves. I can use colloquial fluently AND write a perfectly professional paper.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 02:55 PM
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We all are laughin with you Sweetie, because we have ALL been there with ya!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 02:50 PM
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I saw more red flags than that stupid delipidated park in So., Ca! I burned them all to the GROUND. Full speed ahead. It wouldn't be a thrill ride if it didn't make you a little sick before it's over.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/04/20 02:49 PM
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As a woman retired from tech. I wrote code for years like nobody’s business. All other women hated me...the ones batting their eyes to power. Capable men like to lead me. Neither male or female leadership would let me out of the ditch and into management. I was too valuable to them for me to make them look good with my efficient and eloquent ditch diggin
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 09:16 PM
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True Alpha males want a capable woman with a head on her shoulders that has herself together enough to be healthy, they don’t need eye candy to Make the saves feel manly. Make yourself the best woman you can be and NOBODY will be out of your league.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 09:11 PM
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My father was a NASA scientist and I grew up and married the very nerd y'all are talking about now. I can testify to everything here as absolutely true. Add in some narcisism because they've always been stroked for being so smart. I don't want to date beta males anymore. And alphas are too difficult now too because I've been forced to be an alpha female, since I was with so many betas. I'm too old for this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:15 PM
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Love your username!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:13 PM
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Girl, it's radical. But I think you've had an epithany or two. Similar to some of my thinking lately. I wanted to react to 'Stem-lords', until I stopped for a minute and thought about it. I was a Stem-girl, and made a career around 'nerds'. Retired artist now. I can testify to much of what you have said here.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:09 PM
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I was on testosterone cream from my gynochologist for awhile. My motivations and needs changed. And that's ALL Im going to say about that. I think we have more oxytocin response. It was designed that way so that we don't kill our young. Oxytocin has been called the love drug. It floods our bodies when we orgasm and when we breastfeed. I don't judge any woman and their level of comfort in a world that has gone crazy. I'm not pointing fingers. I'm a grandma. I'm 64. I'm still dating and trying to …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 04:01 PM
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You make very good points. I was never saying that it wasn’t a total shitheel that would do that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/04/20 05:08 AM
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By the time they take us seriously and clean uptheir act, it’s too late. Love has been damaged.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 12:52 AM
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Not really. women Need to understand that men have different motivations and needs for sex than women do. It doesn’t cost men as much emotionally and physically if she ends up pregnant. Sex will always be a Much higher risk for women. Why women don’t understand this and protect themselves better? it can’t work to demand men change. They won’t.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 12:50 AM
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Maybe a woman should get a commitment before she is far enough along to fall in love? And rape is a legal term. With prison consequences. consent is consent. Even if tricked into it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/04/20 12:21 AM
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Sometimes its just a simple case of throwing good money after bad trying to make it up. We invest so much, we don't want to walk away just before the 'miracle' we are hoping for happens. "Maybe if I just try this...."
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:17 PM
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I think we've all been here, Sweetheart. I know I have, more than once, I'm hardheaded, and don't learn! I'm 64, and got caught up a little while back, and wasted 5 years of precious precious time before I threw his crap all out on the lawn and slammed the door on his philandering ass. I wish I was young again and knew what I know now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:15 PM
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Nothing says you must have sex with them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:12 PM
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No, it's not. Unless it's actually RAPE. Women can say no to a man that doesn't want a relationship. And she should find that out BEFORE she has sex with him, if a relationship is what she is looking for. She can still decide to have a FWB deal. But she cant cry she is being abused if she does. She's just settling for less hoping he will change.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:05 PM
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I disagree. We have to own what we cosign.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 05:01 PM
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Yes, you will put them over a barrel. Momentarily. He may then pretend to be in a relationship with you, but will continue his bs behind your back. If a man says he doesn't want to be in a relationship, believe him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:59 PM
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I feel like maybe we should ask what they are looking for before we bed them. I had one fellow ask what I was looking for. I was clear I am looking for relationship not FWB. I asked him what he was looking for, he hem-hawed around and said 'Relationship is a mighty big word'. The subject came up again. He said 'BJ, and laughed'. So I said FWB, and he said yeah he thought that would be best 'at first'. So I said, well, you don't mind if I date other men then. He shrugged. Next weekend I was out o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:41 PM
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If women weren't so beautiful, stuff like this would put men in real danger.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:30 PM
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I hear you! But women also need to stop volunteering for abuse. In mass. That's the cure.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:28 PM
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They don't want to feel guilty for using you, and act all defensive and butt hurt when you remind them that there isn't anything going on here but sex, because you want it that way.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:27 PM
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Only if she lets it be. She doesn't have to play by his rules.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/04/20 04:22 PM
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A story of a wolf pack that was being studied for a while I read recently was of a pack that lost their alpha male. The rest of the males were pretty young. They came across another pack that had a strong alpha male. The alpha female in lead in the pack of young males approached the strong alpha male very flirtatiously, licking his muzzle and turning her behind to him, and acting very beta while her young pack looked on. She defused the fight that could have happened, and integrated the two pack…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 05:49 PM
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I had no idea that the gaming world would take on characteristics of the real world such as this. Interesting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 05:39 PM
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Would you rather bond or compete?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 05:37 PM
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When my ex was under a fire evac order in So. Ca. he was trolling on FB to get a women to come sit with him while he rides it out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/04/20 03:23 AM
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To be perfectly honest, I check to see if the trashtruck has been by to pick it up and carry it off.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/04/20 03:41 AM
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Choose your words, don't make accusations. Its better to just state your intentions in the arrangement, and remain professional. Treat it like a misunderstanding at first. You want to send a message that will back him off but not piss him off. You really don't want to have to spend hours of your day with someone that is pissed off at you. Or worse, he uses his power to just get rid of you. It's always a risk, no matter how professionally you handle it. Sometimes, the experience you are gaining h…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 05:39 PM
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Thank you Sweetie. DM me anytime.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/04/20 05:33 PM
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I haven't always seen HR do things that way. They won't help you make a case until you open a complaint. 'Heads up' kinda stuff doens't work. It's not really fair to the one being accused either. It's gossip until it's a complaint. Make your own notes, dates times and who else was present, exactly what was said, context and how it made you feel. Those notes can and will help you make your complaint if it comes to that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 08:16 PM
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I can give you some perspective from a woman retired from 26 years working closely with mostly male Navy Chiefs. Think very carefully about what his actions actually are, what his generational norms are, and proceed carefully. As I know you are being very thoughtful about this matter, or would not have asked the question of us here. It's not a bitch move to say, '<insert name here> I appreciate the chance for us to work together and feel I could learn valuable skills from you. That is my total a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/04/20 07:58 PM
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Pardon me, I'm old...help me understand.... 'shoving it' is the objective with these boys isn't it? Well, lots of them. Ugh....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 10:58 PM
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And many claim porn isn't harmful. It's doing tremendous damage. Blessings, love. In my thoughts and sending good healing mojo (some call prayers).
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/04/20 09:57 PM
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If it were possible for any one of us to feed a man to a tiger, they wouldn't act like they do.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 05:16 AM
2

Im a mom to one boy and grandma to two boys and I'm triggered by male tears. They were aligator tears anyway.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/03/20 12:16 AM
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Well I'd hate to pull up and throw you thru the windshield :) ... but he sorta got the last laugh, in a way. His tears reached my mommy heart, and I ended up in a long exclusive with him that never really was very satisfying and in the end, caught him trying to cheat. He just took his part of the open back underground. Like I say later in this thread..... If he wants an open, only thing you can do is get your high heels and your makeup on, and don't let the screen door hit ya on your way out. An…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 02:20 PM
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I did the same YEARS ago when my first husband wanted an open relationship. We didn't have social media way back then, 1975-ish ... I ended up 'dating' some of his friends. I'd get them to take me to dinner, or the bar, out dancing while he stayed home with the baby ... but was strictly hands off, all I had to say was 'you don't want to screw over your buddy' and they would usually back right off. The thing was, he got to see which of his friends sorta betrayed him anyway. He ended up miserable.…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 01:06 PM
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Beautifully said! I just experienced the words for this feeling right now. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:49 PM
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Its like you said in your very first comment: "I don't usually like to hear about someone in distress". (if not an exact quote, Id have to leave and scroll back....lol.....) We have a woman's heart! It's sad we have to harden it to con-boys.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:36 PM
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When my daughter was 20, she knew a couple, both in their 20s, that had an open relationship, also, the gal was bi. He was one miserable sad-sack always moping around with my daughter wanting to commiserate. His mom and I were friends when they were all in high school. And then his mom moved away and he and this gal shared a studio appt and he didn't want anything serious, just a financial arrangement so he didn't have to move. He even commiserated with me! Ended up following his mom when the gi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:26 PM
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OMG. You just connected more dots for me! In his younger days he sold real estate on a golf course and got racing sponsors for startup race teams, led by him of course. Actually had some success. I used to wonder if he had suffered too many head injuries racing, but now you make me think, yet again.....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:16 PM
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In a weird way, that's how he got over on me. I'd get that sense of satisfaction seeing him sweat, get over my self protective urge to just slam the door on him, and that made me let down my guard in a weird way. I raised a son, and somehow that routine reached around my brain and found the 'mommy' in me listening to it. Sometimes I wonder how 'real' any of it was or just another Peter Pan ploy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 12:06 PM
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I ended my last long term relationship with a boy of 63, found a history of his messages to women in their 20s. Very pushy, much like you describe. Entitled. Most told him to f*** off, but he was getting alot of hits from Pickmeshias in their late 30s early 40s and up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 11:43 AM
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They say that at 43??? Who knew. It's routine for 60. Hell, even I say it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 11:40 AM
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I date in my age group, 60 something, and this old buzzard wanted me to know he dates other women. Ok cool I said. Following weekend I get home from a date with someone else around 1. There is a text from Mr Nothing-Serious at 9, another at 10:30, a call at midnight. .... unusual for him. So I call him back. He answers first ring, where were you? I said, on a date. By the end of the convo he was bawling.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 11:37 AM
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lol at chucklefucks. Can I steal it?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 11:27 AM
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Im 64. Trust me, if they are punks at 35, they aren't much better at 60.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/03/20 11:25 AM
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Im surprised if he wasn't doing it the entire time they were together!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 11:44 PM
7

I like the way this girl thinks. Hold yer fire till it really hurts em. hahaha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 11:40 PM
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And we are always psycho bitches from hell for trying to enforce our boundaries after they violate them constantly.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 11:14 PM
17

Yes. It is. During the CA wildfires, I reached out to a man I had broken up with 6 months earlier. I was honestly concerned for him and his dog (who I was very fond of). They live at pretty much fire ground zero. I knew he was the type that would never evacuate. It was a simple 'I hope you and dogo are doing Ok and coping with the fire. ' That was it. We had been following No Contact rule well. I was feeling sentimental, tense, drama-filled and worried. Plus may have been a little dizzy from smo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/03/20 03:25 PM
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Seems like a really bad trend.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:32 PM
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I’m a retired coder. I used to get so deep into code I couldn’t come up to go pee or risk losing the thread in my head altogether. There were a few times my bladder MADE me come back up and I barely made it. At least I was making a fab salary.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 06:31 PM
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Was he a trucker? There are literally thousands of pee bottles strung along the highway from Palm Springs to Phoenix. It’s disqusting .
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 04:03 PM
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I think if they wipe towards the front it’s smeared on the taint and balls to skid mark. Sorry for the optics.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/03/20 04:00 PM
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No, unless it's to diagnose whats wrong with her.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 04:12 PM
8

A wise friend told me once 'say it in 10 words or less'. Thats a guideline, but once you start applying it, you find yourself editing down to what is important anyway. She said, when you are saying too many words, you are trying to control. With men, I find 2 words work: first one starts with an 'F'. last one is 'you' or 'off' or 'that'. edit: ok, ok, I'll admit to the occasional 'me'.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 02:42 PM
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For the last 30 years, I collect pearls of wisdom, and string them on my imaginary pearl necklace that I wear everywhere. I'm adding an extra large PINK pearl for this one, luv. Love it. Shiny and round and perfect!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/03/20 03:28 AM
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Im old. It took me a second. Then I laughed my ass off. Truth.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/03/20 07:24 PM
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He has a really colorful history. Lots of accomplishments, lots of losses. Life literally in the fast lane. But an awful person, a conman, a liar, a narcissist, a control freak. A mean alpha male. But he never grew up, never owned up, and never really manned up. He stayed juvenile all his life and needs a mommy instead of a wife. But a man's man. Everything to impress the other boys. 64 years old, alone, sick hasbeen.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 01:42 AM
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Oh, he had a few more glories, quite a few. A very charmed life. But he never ever grew up. And very narcissistic. Larger than life. God's gift to women! And controlling. And mean. And I now suspect cheated. I literally threw his belongings into the yard when I saw he'd been on Tinder. You're outta here, bub. He says 'I didn't do anything wrong'. I said, neither did I. So we are even now. 4 years living together, just like that. Over. One look at his phone when he asked me to bring it to him. Wh…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 01:38 AM
1

I don't act/dress/talk/look my age so I'm cool with everyone being who they want to be, but unfortunately, most adults aren't as open minded. I wouldn't want this fellow dating my daughter and making grandbabies for me tho'. Nope. I'd be afraid! Very afraid!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/03/20 01:33 AM
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I attend community college because Im retired and always wanted to take art classes instead of STEM. So now I can afford to be a potter! The students are pretty great. I have many friendships with 20 somethings that are ambitious, intelligent, open and just wonderful people. But there are those that come to school with toys and stuff hanging on their backpacks and they sit in the back and talk and are just socially awkward. I was a mother at 20. And again at 35. I didn't have a chance to party a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 06:30 PM
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It's even worse when they are 64 years old. I had one actually claim to have been a Gerber baby. For those of you too young to remember, Gerber baby food had baby models. They were usually really healthy looking fat bouncing baby boys with an early charismatic smile. He fit the part all his life.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/03/20 06:17 PM
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Shoulda seen his face! And it felt so good.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:57 PM
13

I instantly said 'next' when some fellow told me his exwife is 'borderline'. I asked, 'what, you weren't able to drive her completely nuts?'
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 05:50 PM
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Why are there any self-respecting women on Tinder?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/02/20 02:25 PM
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Studies done on happiness too. Single women are the happiest people. Married women are the unhappiest people. Married men are 2nd happiest. Single men come in 3rd. Or something like that....
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/02/20 03:45 AM
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We are building up men for their next relationship while they are destroying us for ours! This is a 'pink pill' ..... I thought I was the only fool to ever do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/02/20 10:18 PM
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