| Upvotes | Comment on | Subreddit | Date (UTC) |
|---|---|---|---|
| 9 | Not sure if this guy is dull or just low effort?This is actually very true and good advice. Thanks! | /r/askFDS | 16/02/22 10:55 PM |
| 3 | Not sure if this guy is dull or just low effort?Ok, thank you! | /r/askFDS | 16/02/22 10:55 PM |
| 1 | In need of some supportAww, thank you! 😭❤️ | /r/askFDS | 09/12/21 05:45 PM |
| 2 | In need of some supportSo kind of you to check in, thank you. I am doing so much better! I look back on this post and think wow, why did I care so much? At the time this felt unbearable, but I’m feeling way stronger now, 16 days later. He could txt me now and I’d definitely be like …. Nah, bye. 😂 thanks again for the check in, much appreciated. | /r/askFDS | 08/12/21 10:43 PM |
| 3 | In need of some supportThank you ❤️ | /r/askFDS | 24/11/21 08:23 AM |
| 2 | In need of some supportThank you so much, I appreciate your response. I’m just so sad at the moment and struggling not to take it very personally. | /r/askFDS | 24/11/21 08:23 AM |
| 5 | Some good advice I got from an “avoiding dating toxic people” masterclassYes, they hate it! She said that confidence repels toxic people! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 10:21 AM |
| 3 | Need strength to get rid of a LVMI think I’m attracted to dysfunctional men and being honest I’m a bit lonely and sad at the moment so there’s that too. I need to stay strong and move on. | /r/askFDS | 09/02/21 10:24 PM |
| 2 | Need strength to get rid of a LVMThanks. You’re right. I already feel controlled by him because I’m being careful with what I say in case it sets him off. | /r/askFDS | 09/02/21 10:23 PM |
| 1 | Need strength to get rid of a LVMI was with someone with borderline before and.... yep, he ticks the boxes. I hadn’t made the connection til I read your reply. It would take a huge amount of work on his part and I don’t think he should be in a relationship until he has figured himself out, as borderline gets way worse for people when they’re in a relationship. Great insight, thank you. | /r/askFDS | 09/02/21 10:22 PM |
| 2 | Need strength to get rid of a LVMThis is really good advice, thanks. I think I’ll sit down and journal about it and try get to the bottom of it that way. | /r/askFDS | 09/02/21 10:20 PM |
| 3 | Need strength to get rid of a LVMInteresting. Hadn’t thought of it like that. | /r/askFDS | 09/02/21 10:19 PM |
| 2 | Need strength to get rid of a LVMI actually am being walked all over. I was thinking that earlier, because every time he comes back I allow it and I realised to myself “He’s walking all over you, and you’re allowing it.” I need to be stronger but I’m finding it hard. | /r/askFDS | 09/02/21 10:19 PM |
| 2 | Need strength to get rid of a LVMThanks. I didn’t tell him I was going out with another guy, I told him another guy called me, who I don’t know very well, and that it was strange. He made me feel like I was somehow totally in the wrong. It was horrible. | /r/askFDS | 09/02/21 10:16 PM |
| 1 | Need strength to get rid of a LVMI didn’t think he’d be manipulative coz he’s been doing so much work on himself. I misjudged that one. | /r/askFDS | 09/02/21 10:14 PM |
| 1 | Need strength to get rid of a LVMYeah you’re right this is easy, if I keep down this path it will get serious and then I’ll be on difficult level 😂 it’s just hard for me to let go. He’s sort of addictive, is the only way I can describe it. | /r/askFDS | 09/02/21 10:14 PM |
| 4 | Need strength to get rid of a LVMIt is enabling him and I feel the more I do it the more he’ll walk all over me because he knows I’ll accept it. Thanks for replying. | /r/askFDS | 09/02/21 10:13 PM |
| 1 | Need strength to get rid of a LVMIt’s so hard. I know I have work to do, I am attracted to dysfunctional men and it needs to stop. I really miss him a lot and I’m dying to txt him but I know that’s wrong. | /r/askFDS | 09/02/21 10:12 PM |
| 1 | Need some strength to get rid of LVMThanks! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 11:35 AM |
| 28 | Murder Red Flags: If you have experienced these, you are at higher risk of being murdered.I work for a domestic violence service, and we get a lot of women ticking all these boxes. The amount of fear they live in daily is heart breaking. A lot of them have been so gaslit, broken down, and bonded to their partner through psychological trauma, that they end up returning to them. I meet women who have been raped, burnt, stabbed, punched, kicked, drugged, you name it. We are told to treat the women who use our service as potential murder victims. It’s truly shocking. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 11:55 PM |
| 12 | Guy forgot he hadn’t txt me back💯 thanks | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/09/20 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Priding myself on being low maintenance as a pickmeTHISSSS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/09/20 02:11 PM |
| 5 | I’m so lucky to have my mom (FDS’er by nature). My LV husband keeps using the ‘pity poor little me’ move and this is what my mom wrote me this morning.Wow, what a QUEEN 👑 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 11:48 PM |
| 9 | Does anyone else go through waves of “craving” a man?Makes a lot of sense too, because it just hit me today. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 06:07 PM |
| 3 | Does anyone else go through waves of “craving” a man?Thanks! Any suggestions for how? I don’t have a pet and my housemate isn’t up for getting one. 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 06:00 PM |
| 41 | Does anyone else go through waves of “craving” a man?I just checked my period app, and it says I’m two days away from ovulation. Interesting! That must be what’s happening to me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/08/20 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Why are we so hated?I hear what you’re saying! And I agree to an extent. But to play devil’s advocate, wouldn’t that also make the women who use Reddit LVW? Not saying they are, just saying, based on that argument, Reddit attracts low value people in general then? Which I don’t agree with. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/08/20 06:08 PM |
| 6 | Who here can relate?I actually dumped him later that day, after a string of LVM offences. Lesson learned, next time dump at the first red flag 🤦🏼♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 09:59 PM |
| 121 | Who here can relate?I was seeing a guy and had my period. I took some painkillers and told him I was in quite a bit of pain and he said: “Yeah, I don’t get that.” Me: “What?” Him: “Surely your body has adapted to the pain by now. It can’t be that sore.” Me: “Should I kick you in the balls every month and tell you to adapt to that pain?” Him: “That’s not the same though, your body is built for this” I asked him not to try “mansplain” my body to me, or tell me what level of pain should be acceptable to me again, and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/08/20 09:18 AM |
| 6 | 💕 never forget your progress (while still striving for the future)I am gal! Well done you!! ❤️ I’m still in the early days of recovery. Alcohol and relationships with LVM seem to go hand in hand... 🤦🏼♀️ But not anymore. Feel free to PM me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/08/20 11:12 AM |
| 1 | I keep thinking I wasn’t good enoughThanks gal. More power to you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:17 PM |
| 1 | I keep thinking I wasn’t good enoughThanks for this lovely advice! X | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:17 PM |
| 1 | I keep thinking I wasn’t good enoughThank you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:16 PM |
| 2 | I keep thinking I wasn’t good enoughI think that’s what I need to remind myself but I do have creeping doubts, that maybe he was just telling the truth about me and I am all the things he said. I guess I need to work on my own insecurities. Thanks for your response ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:16 PM |
| 1 | I keep thinking I wasn’t good enoughThank you so much ❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:13 PM |
| 1 | I keep thinking I wasn’t good enoughGreat analogy, thank you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:13 PM |
| 1 | I keep thinking I wasn’t good enoughThank you!! Will check those out ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:13 PM |
| 1 | I keep thinking I wasn’t good enoughThank you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 12:05 PM |
| 6 | How does one stay unbothered, through the catching of feels?I’m guilty of the same thing. Don’t be too hard on yourself! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 03:44 PM |
| 2 | I am a recovering alcoholic and I sometimes post to a forum for people like me for support when I’m feeling low. Today I received this in my DMs. I am disgusted beyond belief.They found the phones in a lake after he murdered her, the messages were him telling her that she was his slave and she had to allow him to stab her, and she was replying that she was scared and didn’t want to be killed. He murdered her shortly after she’d been discharged from psychiatry care. Awful! Her name was Elaine O’Hara. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/08/20 01:40 PM |
| 11 | I am a recovering alcoholic and I sometimes post to a forum for people like me for support when I’m feeling low. Today I received this in my DMs. I am disgusted beyond belief.There was a woman from the area I’m from who went missing, her body was eventually found in a mountain. It turned out she had an array of mental health issues and a man had preyed on her and used BDSM to manipulate and control her and eventually convinced her to allow him to murder her. It was awful. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 11:23 PM |
| 33 | I am a recovering alcoholic and I sometimes post to a forum for people like me for support when I’m feeling low. Today I received this in my DMs. I am disgusted beyond belief.Screenshot and reported him to the admins. 👍🏼 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 10:42 PM |
| 1 | I am a recovering alcoholic and I sometimes post to a forum for people like me for support when I’m feeling low. Today I received this in my DMs. I am disgusted beyond belief.Thank you so much. ❤️ xx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 10:21 PM |
| 4 | I am a recovering alcoholic and I sometimes post to a forum for people like me for support when I’m feeling low. Today I received this in my DMs. I am disgusted beyond belief.Thanks so much 😊 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 08:45 PM |
| 3 | I am a recovering alcoholic and I sometimes post to a forum for people like me for support when I’m feeling low. Today I received this in my DMs. I am disgusted beyond belief.I am SO grateful I found FDS!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 08:38 PM |
| 9 | I am a recovering alcoholic and I sometimes post to a forum for people like me for support when I’m feeling low. Today I received this in my DMs. I am disgusted beyond belief.Thank you for your kind words, lovely to hear from a fellow gal in recovery. It’s hard going as most of my female friends are drinkers, but I am trying to grow a wider network of sober friends. I appreciate the offer of support ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 08:36 PM |
| 6 | I am a recovering alcoholic and I sometimes post to a forum for people like me for support when I’m feeling low. Today I received this in my DMs. I am disgusted beyond belief.I really can’t deal with them anymore at all. I’ve lost any faith I had left in them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 08:34 PM |
| 7 | I am a recovering alcoholic and I sometimes post to a forum for people like me for support when I’m feeling low. Today I received this in my DMs. I am disgusted beyond belief.Thank you so much. It’s early days and it’s difficult but I’m getting there! ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 08:33 PM |
| 18 | I am a recovering alcoholic and I sometimes post to a forum for people like me for support when I’m feeling low. Today I received this in my DMs. I am disgusted beyond belief.Thank you. It came at a time I was feeling low so it was quite upsetting. Now I’m just disgusted! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 05:05 PM |
| 47 | I am a recovering alcoholic and I sometimes post to a forum for people like me for support when I’m feeling low. Today I received this in my DMs. I am disgusted beyond belief.Obviously that’s how he sees women. REVOLTING. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 04:52 PM |
| 36 | I am a recovering alcoholic and I sometimes post to a forum for people like me for support when I’m feeling low. Today I received this in my DMs. I am disgusted beyond belief.Thank god. Because a few years ago when I was much more of a pick me and in a vulnerable place I might’ve responded to something like this. Scary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 04:23 PM |
| 53 | I am a recovering alcoholic and I sometimes post to a forum for people like me for support when I’m feeling low. Today I received this in my DMs. I am disgusted beyond belief.I’ve tried but I can’t seem to find the option anywhere, it’s only allowing me to block? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 04:23 PM |
| 110 | I am a recovering alcoholic and I sometimes post to a forum for people like me for support when I’m feeling low. Today I received this in my DMs. I am disgusted beyond belief.Complete and utter predator. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/08/20 04:18 PM |
| 1 | Lust can lead to bad decisionsTracy’s dog is AMAZING. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/07/20 04:14 AM |
| 21 | After years of fuckery, I’m free.Amazing! What you’ve done takes strength, proud of you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:13 AM |
| 40 | Lust can lead to bad decisionsNothing vulgar about it! Vibrators are great, better than a LVM anyway 🤷🏼♀️😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:01 AM |
| 1 | Dumped LVMThank you ❤️❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:00 AM |
| 1 | Dumped LVMThank you! ❤️ Feeling relieved he’s gone but I’m emotional and a little bit up and down. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 03:00 AM |
| 3 | Dumped LVMYES! Let him suffer and realise what he’s lost. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 02:59 AM |
| 6 | Dumped LVMI cannot understand this behaviour either. I even said to him “I really haven’t asked for much, all I’m asking is that you are nice to me.” Imagine having to ASK a man to be nice to you. Never again! Thank you for your kind words. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 02:59 AM |
| 25 | Lust can lead to bad decisionsSolid advice! 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 02:56 AM |
| 12 | Lust can lead to bad decisionsGot one | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 02:56 AM |
| 3 | I know their dynamic is supposed to be cute and fun... but a comment like that just screams insecurityWHY IS SHE WITH HIM?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 02:44 AM |
| 6 | Feeling lonely todayI am going through the same thing girl. I feel your pain. I’m incredibly lonely. I went for a walk with my friend and I thought I was ok then out of nowhere a wave of sadness hit me and I just wanted to go home. I can’t get him out of my head. We will get there!! Just give us a week and we’ll already feel a bit better, and in a month we will be flying!! You can do this!! Lots of love to you 💓 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 02:42 AM |
| 3 | Dumped LVMI will. Thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 01:07 AM |
| 11 | Dumped LVMThank you. ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 01:24 PM |
| 15 | Dumped LVMAw thanks girl. Hope you’re doing ok. Thought mine was a HVM too, they rarely are. 😔 Lots of love to you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/20 01:23 PM |
| 1 | Need strength to dump LVMThank you ❤️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 07:08 PM |
| 3 | Need strength to dump LVMThanks for sharing your story. Can I ask, did you feel sort of... trapped? Like knowing you should leave but for some feeling feel you can’t? I feel like I’m in a spider’s web. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/07/20 07:08 PM |
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