LurdOfTheGraveyurd Archive

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3	How do I stop the self hatred Cool, you are still wrong. You realise men outnumber women on dating apps by 3:1 at least, right? Most women aren’t on dating apps, and swiping on a dating app is not analogous to dating offline. That’s a weak sauce reason to deny all women in the world can experience something. Oh, and so you can understand an experience women have, but all women everywhere in all circumstances will never, ever understand being unwanted? All women everywhere forever all have options and no issues that may make …	/r/ExRedPill	09/07/26 04:47 AM
3	How do I stop the self hatred Incorrect. Contrary to what men seem to think, women are not being hounded by suitors at all times and “being wanted” is not always (or even usually) a positive experience. Have you considered that fat, unattractive women exist? That deformed women exist? That women can have serious mental health issues? That women can be neurodivergent? That women maybe don’t want to be wanted as just a bag of fuckmeat? Counterpoint: men cannot understand being prey. Men cannot understand being just a body. Men…	/r/ExRedPill	09/07/26 04:23 AM
3	How do I stop the self hatred So what are you saying? Because “women can’t understand [insert normal life experience here] and are lying if they say otherwise” will never not be a rancid take.	/r/ExRedPill	09/07/26 01:39 AM
7	I downloaded and read The Rational Male by Rollo Tomassi. It’s garbage. The red pill does the opposite of that though. It tears men down by telling them they’ll never be enough, it demonises and infantilises women, and it turns its followers into emotionally stunted, insecure rage monsters. What these people need is a therapist, not a cult.	/r/ExRedPill	04/07/26 03:13 AM
8	There is a phrase that resonated with me—which I saw in the comments on a video by a "red pill" content creator—that went: "The male psychiatrist falls in love with the female patient, but the female psychiatrist does not fall in love with the male patient." This refers to hypergamy. This example says nothing about “hypergamy”. A psychiatrist should not be pursuing a relationship with their patients specifically because the relationship is unbalanced in favour of the psych. The real argument you’re making here is that men will take advantage of vulnerable people in their care while women won’t. The actual data shows most people couple up with someone who’s of a similar education level and economic status. “Hypergamy” is not a thing men need to constantly be obsessing about. …	/r/ExRedPill	03/07/26 12:12 AM
1	Que opinan de foros como: Red pill women, red pill marriage, red pill wives, etc “Larp” stands for Live Action Role Play. It’s basically playing pretend.	/r/ExRedPill	02/06/26 06:09 AM
2	I need help developing my wardrobe Yeah, most stuff in fashion media is hella overpriced, but it’s more about finding the fit than anything else. It’s just for inspiration; seeing what is considered trendy and attractive, how certain cuts frame the body, how to accessorise, etc. Edit: Someone else recommended Pinterest. That’s also a really good place to look. I have some unusual proportions myself, so I know taking your measurements is a must. It’ll make your life so much easier. But your best option is to look for a tailor. Men…	/r/ExRedPill	23/09/25 11:33 PM
3	I need help developing my wardrobe I’d recommend looking at men’s fashion magazines, websites, and blogs for ideas. This can be your starting point from which you can begin to develop a style. Find something you like the look of and you can explore from there. The basics are to find colours that suit you and items that flatter your body shape. Don’t try to be too unique yet. Build up your style after you find some more simple clothing combos that you really like.	/r/ExRedPill	23/09/25 11:17 PM
3	Concerned about Robert Sapolsky's (neurobiologist) say about human mating, does anyone know of any flaws in his views? English is my second language so I'm not aware of the finer meanings of words, like picky, but I didn't mean to do that. Ah, fair enough. Fellow polyglot, definitely understand that. Yeah, to be picky does mean to be selective, but it's associated with childishness. I hope the culture could become healthier and less of a shit show where people compete for status and insult those who aren't as successful, I mean, that's really down to individual experiences. The fact is most people don't do that.…	/r/ExRedPill	21/09/25 03:06 AM
1	Concerned about Robert Sapolsky's (neurobiologist) say about human mating, does anyone know of any flaws in his views? Considering how complicated human interpersonal relationships tend to be and how people change as they get older, I’d be surprised if many humans could find someone they can stand to be around for the rest of their lives (without serious effort to make it work or not being able to safely leave), especially after their children are grown up and they’re past the point of making more. Like, how many lady gibbons need to have a serious talk with their gibbon husbands because they really don’t have a…	/r/ExRedPill	20/09/25 03:33 AM
3	Concerned about Robert Sapolsky's (neurobiologist) say about human mating, does anyone know of any flaws in his views? Dating is not a litmus test for value and framing it as such is one of those toxic dating behaviours I mention in my most recent comments to the other guy. We are not making a value judgment when we reject you. We’re not dating you because we deemed you “worthy”, like some sword-giving lake fairy. We do not bestow relationships unto worthy men. We’re dating you because we think we’d enjoy dating you. We could decide we wouldn’t enjoy that for a variety of reasons, including just not wanting to d…	/r/ExRedPill	19/09/25 11:32 PM
3	Concerned about Robert Sapolsky's (neurobiologist) say about human mating, does anyone know of any flaws in his views? As an addendum, I absolutely think men are more likely to abandon the idea of having standards because they view being single as a personal failure or because they just want any relationship, and just sort of flop into compatible relationships instead of actively seeking compatible partners. I also think “tournament behaviours” are heavily exaggerated in redpill and manosphere spaces because they’re not really a thing in real life. Women aren’t comparing men against other men. We’re comparing in…	/r/ExRedPill	19/09/25 11:10 PM
3	Concerned about Robert Sapolsky's (neurobiologist) say about human mating, does anyone know of any flaws in his views? I think the main issue is the term “picky”, which has clear negative connotations. Saying women are “picky” makes it sound like we’re children who refuse to eat their broccoli. The term is being used to imply that women’s selectiveness is unreasonable. I’m not arguing that women aren’t generally more selective than men. It’s obvious that we can be, but we’re not really “picky”. We will give a lot of men a shot. Going into a public place and looking around shows all kinds of people coupled up. Me…	/r/ExRedPill	19/09/25 09:49 PM
5	Concerned about Robert Sapolsky's (neurobiologist) say about human mating, does anyone know of any flaws in his views? Even if you meet all of those basic criteria, that is the bare minimum for a lot of women (as it should be) and not enough to make us romantically interested. It's not "picky" to want someone who is all those things but also a complete human person with other shit going on and whose company we actively enjoy. Men should want that too! Statistics show that women tend to pursue relationships with men in a similar economic and academic position as them with closely aligned personal values and goals…	/r/ExRedPill	18/09/25 03:47 PM
5	Concerned about Robert Sapolsky's (neurobiologist) say about human mating, does anyone know of any flaws in his views? It’s more that a lot of men expect women to settle for them so they sit on their hands waiting for their ideal woman to just be handed to them and won’t accept anything less. That’s how it used to work, after all, because a single woman literally couldn’t even open a bank account by herself. Men were required for women to live a life with any level of comfort or security. When this acquisition of a female specimen inevitably doesn’t happen and they’re expected to put effort into courting a woman…	/r/ExRedPill	18/09/25 12:07 PM
3	Animal behavior I appreciate the clarification. I wasn’t sure if you were being serious or not, but felt that a serious answer was warranted because redpillers and their ilk put real stock in this weird animal biological essentialism stuff. On the topic of the end of all things, being an optimistic nihilist myself, I would say that the one thing that humans have over other animals is that we live on a little longer than them in the people who knew us and sometimes loved us. Everyone’s gonna die, but after my tu…	/r/ExRedPill	20/08/25 01:00 PM
4	Animal behavior It’s not an irrelevant detail that humans actually think about and plan their actions in a way other animals do not. Humans are capable of controlling themselves. That's a monumental difference. Humans seek food because we literally need food to live. You will die if you don’t eat. Not sure why you brought this up. Plus, the fact that humans focus on the pleasure of eating differentiates us from other animals. It takes actual starvation to make a human eat like a wild animal. Huge swaths of huma…	/r/ExRedPill	20/08/25 09:30 AM
2	Lack of Self Discipline Thank you! I’m very happy with him. :) He was really casual about asking. Something like “Hey, did you maybe want to grab a drink sometime?” No pressure and no desperation. Just a guy wanting to get to know me better. My boyfriend has told me he was feeling especially good about himself at the time, otherwise he wouldn’t have asked, so self-confidence and good self-esteem is definitely a factor.	/r/ExRedPill	15/06/25 11:18 PM
3	Lack of Self Discipline But also you should go for it and at least ask even if you’re not 100% certain. My boyfriend and I met in the waiting room at the avian vet. I initiated conversation because I’m extremely outgoing and like learning about other people’s pets. We had a nice conversation about our respective birds and general small talk. It was obvious we had good chemistry, but we weren’t actively flirting. I dawdled a bit on the way out just to catch him before I left and he decided to take a chance and ask me ou…	/r/ExRedPill	15/06/25 12:47 PM
4	No, 80% of women are not sleeping with 20% of men And how do I do that? Education and career advancement, picking up a hobby or craft, going out and socialising regularly, developing a personal sense of style, writing a book, getting into a sport, getting involved with the community, etc. Any sort of personal development usually leads to an uptick in social status. I picked up calligraphy and everyone treats me like I'm hot shit. Same as when I got really good at fencing. But it needs to be something you would actually want to pursue otherwise …	/r/ExRedPill	30/05/25 01:08 AM
5	No, 80% of women are not sleeping with 20% of men What if you found a better looking man who had a similar personality as your husband? Why wouldn't you leave then? Because people aren't interchangeable and it doesn't work like that. For starters, I already have a partner I'm happy with so I'm not in the mindset of looking for a partner. He was there when I was looking and now I'm not looking anymore. Even if someone just as compatible but hotter were plopped in front of me on a silver platter, I'd never know because I'm not gonna try to suss o…	/r/ExRedPill	30/05/25 12:51 AM
4	No, 80% of women are not sleeping with 20% of men It’s hard to explain, but I don’t need my boyfriend to be the hottest man alive to be attracted to him. He’s just my favourite human, both to be around and to look at. Objectively speaking, some of his traits are considered “unattractive”. He’s overweight, he’s got an underbite, and a bit of a big nose, but they don’t really register as negatives. They’re just kinda wrapped up in the package. I love him, so I love the way he looks. I’ve rejected conventionally better-looking men in the past beca…	/r/ExRedPill	29/05/25 07:47 AM
3	They think Nature is deterministic of human behavior and actions well. I’ve always found it odd when people appeal to some sort of instinctual, base nature to explain human behaviour because humans’ whole thing is that our behaviour is driven by some kind of logic as opposed to instinct. Not necessarily good logic, but logic nonetheless. We second-guess our instincts constantly. We actively have to suppress them to function properly in polite society. Even when we give in to our more primitive drives, we still feel a need to logically justify them, and we get uncom…	/r/ExRedPill	29/05/25 07:14 AM
6	Why high body count in male is less to talk about than girls? No, the opposite is that scenario is being forced to go to the pound and being forced to take home a dog you don’t want, which, in this analogy, would still be rape since the dog is actually a man who wants to have sex with you. The idea that women can just have access to and date whoever they want makes no sense if you think about it. Women have lives. They have jobs and hobbies, meaning they have specific social circles, and need to eat, sleep, and shit just like you. Hell, women have emotions…	/r/ExRedPill	23/05/25 06:23 AM
7	Why high body count in male is less to talk about than girls? Women are individuals. Women as a group do not decide anything. And the alternative to women getting to choose who they love and have sex with is them being forced to marry and have sex with people. You’re advocating for rape. If the ideal associated with masculinity is toxic, then it’s toxic masculinity. It doesn’t matter who does what. The toxicity is the problem. And no, not all species have males competing over harems of females. Tons of species are either matriarchal or don’t have breeding …	/r/ExRedPill	22/05/25 11:49 PM
3	Idk why men has no value he must create it, women has a value in born. Uh-huh, sure dude. You clearly didn’t logic yourself into this position, because if you did, you would not be claiming it must be the 100% truth of every person ever. That’s a dumb statement. Nothing is 100% true in every case, not even physics. Just look at how many “top men” have been divorced and tell me how your fantasy holds up? Like, your whole worldview comes crashing down if a single woman offers to pay for her own coffee. You clearly just hate women and are resentful that you can’t have…	/r/ExRedPill	21/05/25 01:48 AM
3	Idk why men has no value he must create it, women has a value in born. Knowing people is the only way to know them. Actually interacting with them, learning their inner world, having them let you in. Things you can’t understand because you want to play pretend that you aren’t the problem. You just imagine what their lives are like and make sure to assign the most small-minded misanthropic interpretation to every action. How exactly do you parse all these deep details about people’s lives by staring at them in public like a weirdo? How do you know what jobs these pe…	/r/ExRedPill	21/05/25 12:41 AM
3	Idk why men has no value he must create it, women has a value in born. Maybe use your mind reading powers to see if they know a good therapist because you need one. “Watching people” is not some magical window into the true, secret lives of others. You’re just daydreaming about random people’s lives and then believing your own fantasies like a lunatic. Your sister is right. You’re delusional and seeing what you want to see, which is really sad because you want to see a world where everyone is miserable.	/r/ExRedPill	20/05/25 11:20 PM
5	Idk why men has no value he must create it, women has a value in born. Bro, women don’t like you because you’re a maniacally insecure misogynist who lives in the most pathetic fantasy world ever conjured. I guarantee that it’s got very little to do with your looks.	/r/ExRedPill	20/05/25 05:27 AM
4	Idk why men has no value he must create it, women has a value in born. Uh-huh. Sure dude. Are you not embarrassed? Like, here you are frothing at the mouth at the idea that relationships don’t all revolve exclusively around the minutes-to-hours a sex session may take and that being a sugar daddy isn’t the foundation of a long-lasting relationship. You speak only in hateful absolutes that debase all men and women. For what? You need to grow up.	/r/ExRedPill	20/05/25 04:34 AM
4	Idk why men has no value he must create it, women has a value in born. Most redpillers and incels (and a lot of men in general tbh) don’t understand that a proper relationship is mostly non-sexual. Like, you aren’t just having sex and only do other stuff when you’re waiting to have more sex. Sex is great, but the whole point of a long-term partner is to create a unit to tackle life together. Most of your time should just be existing with this person, and you should enjoy it. They make everything about sex, when in reality it’s not, and then can’t get into or mainta…	/r/ExRedPill	20/05/25 03:38 AM
5	Im spkraling cause i will never be a hogh value man Back when I was bartending, it was super obvious when a guy was trying a particular pick-up method or entered the interaction with certain assumptions about me. It was incredibly unsubtle, especially since a lot of them were just copying the words and actions of their favourite “guru”. I always got a kick out of calling them out and watching them squirm.	/r/ExRedPill	01/05/25 06:25 AM
9	Chad doesn’t exist You specify not liking women, but it just seems like you don’t like anyone. I don’t think you even want to like people. And you still need functional social skills to have casual sex. You need good social skills, even. Your social skills are honestly more of a determinant than your looks. People don’t want to have sex with someone who openly despises them for no reason, no matter how hot you are.	/r/ExRedPill	28/04/25 02:01 AM
6	Chad doesn’t exist We definitely still need our alone time to go do our own things, but we like being in each others’ presence more than anyone else. You need to be able to stand someone for any length of time if you want to be able to date people. The understanding is that you will spend time with your partner more than anyone else, and that requires that you actively like them.	/r/ExRedPill	28/04/25 12:45 AM
6	Chad doesn’t exist No, not in the same way. My boyfriend and I are close in a way I’m not with my friends. He wants to spend his life with me. We talk about living together and how we’d handle raising kids. We talk about our joint futures. It’s significantly more intimate than I could ever be with a platonic friend. He knows me in a way they never could. He loves me.	/r/ExRedPill	28/04/25 12:29 AM
9	Chad doesn’t exist Company. I like my boyfriend as a person. We have extremely good chemistry. We like hanging out together. We go on little adventures together. I wouldn’t get this experience with other people. My life would be worse and more boring without him in it.	/r/ExRedPill	28/04/25 12:10 AM
7	What if the 80/20 Rule Isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but a tool to Understand who we're actually compatible with? The 80/20 rule specifically refers to the idea that 80% of women are only attracted to some top 20% of men. It doesn’t ever consider that the lack of opportunities could have something to do with there just being less women available to hook up with or date. It’s very specifically about women being super picky. So, no, you’re not really talking about the red pill’s 80/20 rule if that isn’t what you mean.	/r/ExRedPill	06/04/25 08:02 AM
4	What if the 80/20 Rule Isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but a tool to Understand who we're actually compatible with? I mean, dating has always been annoying at best, so I don’t think we need something like the 80/20 rule to explain that. Meeting compatible people is hard (meeting any people can be hard) and there’s a lot of weirdos out there. Women just aren’t as interested in hooking up as men. Not because we don’t enjoy sex, but the risks outweigh the benefits and we’re socially conditioned against engaging in casual sex. Dating apps also skew heavily male, generally around 3 men for every 1 woman. The reaso…	/r/ExRedPill	05/04/25 11:47 PM
5	What if the 80/20 Rule Isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but a tool to Understand who we're actually compatible with? There’s no evidence that the 80/20 rule is an actual, observable phenomenon. Who said anything about “societal views”? My point was that it would be a logistical nightmare. People wouldn’t want to hook up and date like that because it would be decidedly unfun.	/r/ExRedPill	05/04/25 09:46 PM
9	What if the 80/20 Rule Isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but a tool to Understand who we're actually compatible with? By and large, the vast, vast majority of humans are monogamous and prefer monogamy. Even ignoring that women absolutely would not want to share the same tiny pool of men (because holy shit what a nightmare), there’s no evidence that men would want to sleep with that many women (how would they even find the time). Logistically, it sounds miserable for everyone. The 80/20 rule only seems reasonable if you never consider how it would work in real life.	/r/ExRedPill	05/04/25 03:24 AM
1	What do you make of the redpillers' stories? Yeah no, I argue with you to show other people why you’re wrong. So I’m gonna do one more, just as a victory lap. Your attacks on my intentions (callling me disingenuous and citing some ideology I apparently have) didn’t work so now you’re hand-waving the entirety of my response away with vague accusations of strawmanning. It ain’t a strawman if I’m quoting you directly, my guy. If anything, you’re projecting because my entire point is that your worldview lacks nuance. Also, you generalised the …	/r/ExRedPill	09/03/25 10:17 PM
2	What do you make of the redpillers' stories? It’s called statistical thinking. It’s rational behavior to make choices based on probability of risk. You're not using statistical thinking, because that would mean you're weighing the likelihood of something. You are saying higher probability should be treated the same as certainty. You're catastrophising. And you're shifting the goal posts again. You didn't say anything about the likelihood of abuse before now. You said that they "have no incentive to care", and there's a huge gap between tha…	/r/ExRedPill	09/03/25 10:19 AM
3	What do you make of the redpillers' stories? I can give anecdotes that tell the opposite story. Okay, then tell me the anecdotes. But seriously, that first paragraph. Oof. The sheer amount of countries and cultures contained within the purview of "the West" and "Asia" are so vast that your statement cannot be taken seriously by default. You've generalised 50% of the world's landmass in that first paragraph. Asia alone is made up of 48 countries that contain a multitude of distinct cultures. "The West" includes the entirety of Europe, North…	/r/ExRedPill	07/03/25 12:55 PM
3	What do you make of the redpillers' stories? I know from experience that you’re wrong about that. My parents “stayed together for the kids” and it was a dysfunctional nightmare. I’ve never seen a single person whose parents did this say it was the right choice. I and everyone else wish they’d just gotten divorced. In the case of my family, staying together actually made my parents incapable of parenting us properly. They didn’t respect each other and they weren’t invested in their own relationship so there was never any healthy conflict re…	/r/ExRedPill	03/03/25 06:34 AM
6	How to stop obsessing about power in relationships? Ah, the classic “you just wouldn’t believe me anyway”. The perfect excuse when you have literally nothing and your entire argument is based on putting words in someone else’s mouth. Look, I used to argue with fundies back in my angsty atheist teen years. I’ve seen it all. Unless you can actively point to some proof, I’m really not going to be dissuaded by you accusing me and others of saying things we clearly didn’t. Nobody attacked men. Nobody even said anything about women. You got your pantie…	/r/ExRedPill	01/02/25 11:08 AM
7	How to stop obsessing about power in relationships? Aight, well feel free to point out the parts where I “downplayed and invalidated” literally anything. Quite telling that you haven’t quoted me on that while doing so for other bits. You still haven’t demonstrated a double standard. You just asserted the conversation must be referring exclusively to men because… reasons. I think I did fine. I certainly did better than you.	/r/ExRedPill	01/02/25 10:53 AM
8	How to stop obsessing about power in relationships? Bro, I have literally never heard of FLR before and I don’t think of relationships in terms of leaders and follows. Healthy relationships don’t have leaders and followers. It’s two people tackling life as a unit instead of handling it all as individuals. It’s about a mutual division of labour, not one person bossing another around. The fuck. Unbalanced power dynamics in a romantic relationship are universally a sign of an unhealthy dynamic. This is not redpill-exclusive, this is not even exclusi…	/r/ExRedPill	01/02/25 10:37 AM
9	How to stop obsessing about power in relationships? By FLR, I assume you mean the woman is the breadwinner. Why would that change anything? Power still has no place in the relationship and she shouldn’t be using money as a means of domination and control. That’s abuse, no matter the genders of the people involved. Where’s the double-standard in the original comment? Hell, where was gender mentioned at all? Maybe you should ask yourself why you’re so reflexively defensive about this topic.	/r/ExRedPill	01/02/25 07:42 AM
10	Can we have honest convo about the red pill Hard agree. Redpill and PUA tactics are bullshit at best and actively manipulative at worst. The guys who buy into them don’t care who they date, they just want someone, anyone to date them, and they want to speedrun the process. They don’t want to waste time with all the “compatibility” and “having social skills” nonsense we normies keep prattling on about. When the cheat codes inevitably don’t work, they conclude the game is rigged or broken when, really, some random guy online handed them com…	/r/ExRedPill	13/01/25 08:29 PM
28	A lot of Redpill/Manosphere guys are some of the ultimate simps Great idea! How do you propose men start advocating for social changes that would benefit them? What kinds of calls to actions would be effective for getting these guys to actually do something productive? Something I hear a lot from redpillers and incels is that “society” is the problem, but it’s really just another convenient excuse to sit around and do nothing except blame everyone else. Society is not some eldritch unknowable entity that cannot be controlled or swayed, it’s just a collection…	/r/ExRedPill	07/01/25 05:50 AM
5	I need help And divorce rates fall significantly when couples get married a bit later, in their late-20s and early-30s. When sex is supposed to be abstained from until marriage, as is taught in large portions of the US, you get a lot of people marrying in order to finally have sex. This means people get married way too young to their first serious partner and end up growing into incompatible people or being too immature to handle such a serious commitment. Eventually the relationship becomes unsustainable a…	/r/ExRedPill	24/12/24 11:01 PM
28	What red pillers get wrong about the "girls love bad boys" trope Basically all of my faves are problematic. Some of them are just downright evil shitheads. It’s very obvious that I love a fictional bad boy. And you’re right, part of the fantasy is breaking down their walls so that they’re nicer, either to you or in general. It’s about being such a powerful force in his life that he has no choice but to shape himself into a new, better person because he wants you that much. My actual irl boyfriend is the human equivalent of a golden retriever and that’s perfec…	/r/ExRedPill	16/12/24 10:50 PM
1	I am a woman and RP makes dating men impossible for me. Not sure what that has to do with the thing you're quoting. Does the political climate also indicate people are incapable of liking black people or Mexicans and people are just pretending to not be a racist for clout? Being capable of loving doesn't preclude you from being selfish and dumb. You can love someone and still do things that will hurt them, especially if you can't relate to them and their problems. Men have a huge issue with relating to women's issues because they can never experience…	/r/ExRedPill	16/11/24 09:48 AM
1	I am a woman and RP makes dating men impossible for me. You still haven't addressed the brain scans, my guy. For one thing, the ode to romance in ancient literature in my culture (which we had endure in language class) is always from men. That's demonstrably untrue. Have you never heard of Sappho? We have a plethora of letters from ancient women writing to and about their lovers. https://www.nla.gov.au/stories/blog/great-female-writers-centuries-past-sappho-aphra-behn It seems like you're just making assumptions and haven't bothered to verify the fac…	/r/ExRedPill	16/11/24 09:42 AM
3	I am a woman and RP makes dating men impossible for me. I think it’s FOMO, since I seem incapable of understanding this adoration. Fair enough. I imagine it would be frustrating to be told something exists and everyone feels it while you can't but it's also not a material thing you can objectively see. It’s probably real given all the claims, although I am skeptical it’s as widespread as the claims make it out to be. But why? Why wouldn't most people feel love? It's a cultural cornerstone, sometimes to the point of worship, considering all the art, s…	/r/ExRedPill	14/11/24 05:16 AM
2	I am a woman and RP makes dating men impossible for me. It’s not about you commenting to me, it’s that you have this argument over and over with different people. That’s what bothers me. The fact that we have previously had this discussion makes it worse because I’ve personally seen your arguments before and you never change them. This is not an attempt to silence you, I’m calling you out to get you to engage with me beyond your usual talking points. But in your latest comment, you’re once again not engaging with that I’ve said. I’m trying to point o…	/r/ExRedPill	14/11/24 02:46 AM
2	I am a woman and RP makes dating men impossible for me. Oh my god, not you and the love thing again. How many times do we need to have this conversation? I say “Here’s an example” and you go “Nuh uh”. You’ve never demonstrated why something isn’t love, but you’ll never accept anything is. You keep bringing up the love of a parent towards a child but that’s a completely different kind of love. Obviously romantic love would manifest differently because its parameters and use are different, but it’s just as real. It can still be seen on brain scans and …	/r/ExRedPill	13/11/24 11:38 PM
2	I am a woman and RP makes dating men impossible for me. My point wasn’t that people are settling, I was more pointing out that this whole “date only the best, gotta trade up” mentality makes no logistical sense. No normal, functional person has the time or even the desire to be playing this min-max game redpillers peddle. I also wrote a huge paragraph about love and how it keeps people together even when things get tough and how it makes sense to pair up out of love and partnership, but you focused on one part of my comment and extrapolated the worst…	/r/ExRedPill	12/11/24 01:57 PM
13	I am a woman and RP makes dating men impossible for me. Wat. Research shows most people date within their own age group and in the same socioeconomic class, so your whole thing immediately goes right out the window. Like, your dating pool is only made up of the people you encounter in your day-to-day life, so we don’t have the means to swap partners for new “better” ones even if we wanted to. Most adults just work, maybe do some social/hobby stuff, run errands, and go home. Where exactly would people even be finding these “better partners”? Women are…	/r/ExRedPill	12/11/24 10:30 AM
3	Comparison and women's types...how to overcome? It’s both how you present yourself and how you engage with others. Self-assured people tend to have more open and relaxed body language, they’re at least comfortable when interacting with others, and they look like they take care of themselves and take some level of pride in their appearance. It’s about having a strong and definable presence. This takes different forms depending on the person, so beyond some basic stuff it’s largely something you have to figure out for yourself.	/r/ExRedPill	16/10/24 09:23 PM
1	Is there anything wrong with being traditional? Do you want to explore being “traditional” for your own sake, as a part of a journey of self-improvement to eventually grow into a happier you, or because you think it’ll impress other people? If the former, that’s your journey to take. The latter will make you utterly miserable.	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/24 06:27 AM
6	Is there anything wrong with being traditional? They’re not saying having male friends is bad. They’re saying having female friends is good. What do you mean “complain about women not doing things right”? What things? Who’s calling you gay?	/r/ExRedPill	09/10/24 06:07 AM
2	Red pill and psychiatric drugs I think that because the Red Pill pulls from this kind of weird idea of “traditional masculinity”, a lot of their views are similarly outdated, including on mental and emotional health. Back in the old days, therapy was for crazy people and whiners, and the only people taking psychiatric drugs were psychos and hysterical women. /s	/r/ExRedPill	04/10/24 02:45 PM
1	I just want to experience “sexual abundance” just so my brain can realize that there’s nothing special to it Yep, and then we had a ton of really good sex. Now shoo.	/r/ExRedPill	28/09/24 01:17 AM
3	I just want to experience “sexual abundance” just so my brain can realize that there’s nothing special to it From what I’ve heard from my boyfriend and other men, sex with a long-term partner is way more satisfying than sleeping around for similar reasons as it is for women. You know each others’ likes and bodies, you can communicate better, you’re not trying to impress them, you can say more easily say no, and you actually have a connection. It’s easier for it to be good. Like, yeah, it depends on the relationship and there’s not nothing to casual sex, but it’s definitely overrated.	/r/ExRedPill	27/09/24 02:45 AM
1	How often is it the case that a woman adores her man? Appreciation for one’s job is different than appreciation for a person, and appreciation for a person can be extremely variable depending on who they are to you. Yeah, you can be appreciative for things they’ve done but you can also appreciate that they exist in your space and that you get to be with them. How is it not adoration to appreciate just being in their presence? How are those things not connected? And again, what do you consider adoration? You talk a lot about what you don’t consider …	/r/ExRedPill	27/09/24 02:12 AM
1	How often is it the case that a woman adores her man? You can’t quantify things relating to individuals and relationships. They’re nebulous and weird. I can’t give you numbers on anything because those numbers don’t exist. They can’t. The problem with obsessing about numbers is that trends don’t matter on an individual level because you can’t know who exactly they apply to. You can’t apply them in any meaningful way. Women are individuals. You have to go out and meet them to know anything about them, and I don’t think you do considering how much yo…	/r/ExRedPill	27/09/24 01:37 AM
1	How often is it the case that a woman adores her man? Again, why can’t appreciation be an expression of adoration? And why must strong emotions necessarily be expressed strongly? It’s not always appropriate to clamber up my boyfriend and screech from atop him about my affection like some kind of love-drunk howler monkey.	/r/ExRedPill	27/09/24 01:24 AM
3	How often is it the case that a woman adores her man? What do you consider adoration? Why can’t thankfulness and appreciation be an expression of adoration?	/r/ExRedPill	26/09/24 03:01 PM
1	How often is it the case that a woman adores her man? My boyfriend is actually from Poland as well and he’s had some choice words about gender dynamics there, along with basically everything else about it. He jokes that if we ever have kids, we have to move back to Poland because he doesn’t want to rob them of the dream of someday leaving Poland. So yeah, I’m aware that Poland is a bit of a clown dimension. But through him I’ve met plenty of other Poles who’re in loving, supportive relationships without all the traditionalist bullshit. He keeps in …	/r/ExRedPill	26/09/24 09:43 AM
15	How often is it the case that a woman adores her man? But again, how closely can you actually look at other peoples’ relationships? How do you know he’s unfulfilled and being taken for granted? How do you even gauge that for people you see online? I grew up in a very dysfunctional home and because of that, I thought all marriages were miserable and angry. I just assumed every family was like that behind closed doors because my family was like that behind closed doors. Turns out my parents are crazy toxic and I needed to look elsewhere for good rela…	/r/ExRedPill	25/09/24 07:45 PM
29	How often is it the case that a woman adores her man? I mean, I adore my man. And I see plenty of other women who adore their partners, both irl and online. I can’t give you numbers but I can confidently say it’s likely the majority. Can you actually, honestly say that you have not witnessed a single relationship where a woman wasn’t using the guy? Can you confidently say that was the dynamic of every couple you’ve ever seen? What are you seeing and what do you think “adoration” is supposed to look like? How closely are you even able to look in mos…	/r/ExRedPill	25/09/24 07:05 PM
11	Its so hard to not believe in the RedPill Yeah, people with healthy, uneventful love lives aren’t posting on venting and drama subs.	/r/ExRedPill	12/09/24 08:09 AM
1	Is it ethical to lie about my height on dating apps? No, not really. That’s barely below average height and still taller than most women. I don’t think 1 or 2 inches really makes the cutoff for shortness. Like, it’s probably short for Northern/Eastern Europe, where men are 5’11 on average, but not for most of the Anglosphere.	/r/ExRedPill	28/08/24 12:29 AM
2	Advice for entering into my (21M) first real relationship? Considering your last post, you seem to have recurring issues with black-and-white thinking and projection. Used to have a girl best friend that would send mixed signals of maybe more, was totally into her, showed total vulnerability and 100% honesty around her Was this a continuous sharing of your emotions or was it a single event where you laid it all out? If it was the former, was it mutual? In my experience, what a lot of men consider "being vulnerable" or "opening up" is really a meltdown w…	/r/ExRedPill	24/08/24 04:12 AM
3	The redpill idea of relationships are so toxic and miserable Defend from what? You asked where the happy people are, and then declared the other commenter wasn’t in a relationship long enough for their experience to be valid. I just gave an example of a happy couple way past the “honeymoon phase”. The only way your response is a defence is if you think challenging you at all constitutes an attack.	/r/ExRedPill	23/08/24 09:00 PM
3	The redpill idea of relationships are so toxic and miserable And you think your sarcastic and dismissive response was worthy of loveliness on my part?	/r/ExRedPill	23/08/24 08:56 PM
3	The redpill idea of relationships are so toxic and miserable I can see why you’re such a hit with the ladies.	/r/ExRedPill	23/08/24 08:46 PM
3	The redpill idea of relationships are so toxic and miserable My boyfriend and I have been together for nearly three years and we’re super happy together. Like, we are just disgustingly in love.	/r/ExRedPill	23/08/24 08:42 PM
11	Dating women? After dilema how to get some, I realised I´m not sure if I even want some. At least at my age. His exact words are “I feel like only reason to get girl is starting a family”. He then asks what some other reasons to have a girlfriend could be. So no, that’s precisely what he said.	/r/ExRedPill	05/08/24 12:41 PM
0	Why are women so picky compared to men? I emphasised fixation. Commenting occasionally, sure, that’s probably nothing. But if you constantly comment on how attractive dudes are in comparison to their girlfriends, if it keeps coming up over and over again, it’s not exactly a mystery why people might start to think that you’re attracted to dudes. Especially since incels have a whole list of weird jargon relating to facial construction and musculature. It’s like those pastors who obsess about “homosexual temptations”. After a while, it f…	/r/ExRedPill	04/08/24 12:34 AM
0	Why are women so picky compared to men? That is not even remotely close to what I said, but go off I guess.	/r/ExRedPill	03/08/24 01:12 AM
1	Why are women so picky compared to men? If you’re constantly fixating on the attractiveness of other men, then yes, it does kinda sound like you might be gay. Especially if you also fixate on how unattractive women are to you by comparison.	/r/ExRedPill	03/08/24 12:14 AM
7	Are most people just not attracted to people they date in a physical sense? And autism. Lots of guys on the spectrum fall for the pills.	/r/ExRedPill	01/08/24 12:33 AM
9	Is it ethical to lie about my height on dating apps? The average height in the States is 5’9 so OP’s not short by definition.	/r/ExRedPill	24/07/24 12:32 AM
2	Tall husbands and short wives make the happiest marriages Very true. My boyfriend previously got married young (and he’s tall, go figure) and, well, it’s pretty obvious how that turned out. They just didn’t have the experience or maturity to make that kind of commitment work at that point in their lives.	/r/ExRedPill	09/07/24 04:58 AM
2	Tall husbands and short wives make the happiest marriages See, if you’d read the article, you’d know that it’s not “one person’s experience / a small amount of data”. It was a meta-study of 25 years of marriage data. I’m sorry your experience has been bad, but you shouldn’t blindly accept what people say about studies without actually reading them just because you agree with their conclusions. It’s bad form and it leaves you open to accepting distorted worldviews. Someone posting a study doesn’t means they did it in good faith.	/r/ExRedPill	09/07/24 04:50 AM
5	Tall husbands and short wives make the happiest marriages The article OP linked doesn’t actually support his claim. It actually shows that shorter men have more successful marriages overall; they’re significantly less likely to get divorced, though they tend to get married later than taller men. There’s nothing to live with. He’s just deep in the redpill hole.	/r/ExRedPill	08/07/24 04:14 PM
79	"90% of men are incels" For a lot of these guys, “being an incel” means “I am not currently balls-deep in a female”.	/r/ExRedPill	28/06/24 04:30 AM
4	How do people date people they aren’t physically attracted to? Less attractive than literally not having a bottom jaw? Are you actually serious? My guy, it’s basically guaranteed that you’re more attractive than a man with half a face. You realise what you said sounds absolutely absurd, right? Do you not think this is a very clear sign that you have some severe body image issues?	/r/ExRedPill	24/06/24 03:56 PM
6	How do people date people they aren’t physically attracted to? It’s very unlikely that absolutely nothing about you appeals to anyone. The level of base attraction doesn’t have to be them thinking you’re the hottest guy ever. It could be as mundane as thinking your hair is a pretty colour or that you have thick eyebrows. I always bring this up, but my boyfriend has a friend who is basically missing his entire lower jaw, but he managed to get into a relationship and they’ve been together for years. It’s actually extremely difficult to appeal to zero people.	/r/ExRedPill	24/06/24 06:11 AM
57	How do people date people they aren’t physically attracted to? I mean, if the attraction isn’t there then it isn’t there. While yes, your perception of a person’s attractiveness can change as you get to know them, that doesn’t mean it will. Something people here also bring up is how you can not be into someone for reasons that aren’t anyone’s fault. It doesn’t mean you think she’s objectively unattractive to everyone or you’re a bad person or a porn addict, you’re just not a good match.	/r/ExRedPill	17/06/24 11:37 AM
3	What is the phycology of an incel? From what I’ve seen, they’re insanely insecure rather than openly bitter and angry. It’s played out on IncelExit repeatedly: an incel begins his recovery and ends up finding a girlfriend, and then just completely sabotages the entire thing because it turns out that everyone was right when they said that acquiring a female does not, in fact, magically fix someone’s deep-seated self-hatred and misogynistic beliefs. He can’t bring himself to believe that she really likes him and becomes obsessed wi…	/r/ExRedPill	17/06/24 06:01 AM
16	How are dating apps not proof of how physical attraction/sexual attractiveness is not very subjective? Hi, I’m a neurodivergent minority, and my answer is go touch some grass. One of my partner’s friends literally does not have a bottom jaw and he’s in a long-term relationship. I play card games with a guy who is very obviously physically deformed, and he has a long-term girlfriend. Trends have a tendency to fall apart as soon as you try to apply them to individuals, and you’re trying to date individuals, not average populations. Your argument amounts to “It’s harder so I may as well not try” and…	/r/ExRedPill	28/05/24 03:53 PM
31	How are dating apps not proof of how physical attraction/sexual attractiveness is not very subjective? Dude, you need a hobby. It’s a well-known fact at this point that men outnumber women on dating apps upwards of 4:1. Those “studies” have been addressed and debunked to death. The fact that you think there’s any merit in complaining about dating apps in the Year of Our Lord (derogatory) 2024 shows how little material you have to support this worldview. What do you gain by believing this stuff? It’s so ridiculously extreme that it can’t be true. For your own sake, close reddit and go do literally…	/r/ExRedPill	28/05/24 02:04 PM
6	"Men need to be confident to get a relationship. Women do not." Men have the exact same amount of options that women have. Makeup, skin care, and hair care aren’t female-exclusive. I think I speak for a lot of women when I say men absolutely should be doing more personal maintenance. They just don’t because it’s not socially expected of them. Getting my boyfriend to even use conditioner was like pulling teeth. It took 2 fucking years! He still washes his face with goddamn hand soap. It gives me conniptions.	/r/ExRedPill	28/05/24 11:02 AM
5	"Men need to be confident to get a relationship. Women do not." No. But nobody here is saying they do. You want to argue that women have it easier. You want to say that because men are more likely to message and approach women, women don’t have to do anything. But that’s not how anything works. In actual relationships, women have to also put in energy. We have to respond to the messages, make conversation, coordinate the dates, take time to do stuff with the guy, learn and remember stuff about him, among other things. Then if a relationship happens, we have …	/r/ExRedPill	28/05/24 10:48 AM
6	"Men need to be confident to get a relationship. Women do not." Yes, because a lot of abuse victims are terrified that being alone will somehow be worse than their current situation. If abuse is what you know, it becomes almost comforting. You don’t register how bad things are. You may even begin to believe that you deserve it. Humans don’t deal well with change, even when that change is necessary and will be better than their current situation. It doesn’t help that the human brain actively tries to maintain its status quo, which makes trying to make changes…	/r/ExRedPill	28/05/24 10:25 AM
5	Decoupling sex and intimacy The robots are to help avoid men pestering women for sex. Not vice versa. Why would that stop them though? Giving them a robot won't stop any of this because it's not about the sex; it's what the sex represents. Men already have other avenues to relieve themselves sans women's involvement and they still feel entitled to masturbate with a woman's body. What's stopping them from just deciding they're too good for the robots and continuing to take their frustrations out on women? Not sure if that's…	/r/ExRedPill	27/05/24 04:49 AM
6	Decoupling sex and intimacy Sex itself doesn’t poison interactions, thinking women’s purpose is to have sex with men does. Robots wouldn’t even do anything because women are still going to want and have sex. You can’t separate sexuality from women because women are sexual. The comments mentioning the Madonna-Whore complex are completely correct because that is exactly what happens when femininity and sexuality are treated as separate. The actual solution is to have conversations with young men about sex and relationships, …	/r/ExRedPill	26/05/24 11:17 PM
1	What do the people here think of evolutionary psychology? Here’s a few. “Literature in evolutionary psychology suggests that mate choice has been the primary mechanism of sexual selection in humans, but this conclusion conforms neither to theoretical predictions nor available evidence.” https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/abs/pii/S1090513810000279 This paper states that human mating patterns depend on environment as opposed to people preferring a static attribute, and that male and female preferences have a lot of overlap. https://static1.squ…	/r/ExRedPill	21/05/24 01:41 PM
8	Looking for advice, cuz I think I'm cursed or sumn The plug and crank method doesn’t work. Each person is an individual and functional relationships require that you actually like the other person. You can’t do that if you’re just shooting from the hip. Stop trying to figure out the magic formula. There isn’t one. You just meet people and sometimes you meet one who clicks differently.	/r/ExRedPill	24/04/24 01:34 AM
5	Looking for advice, cuz I think I'm cursed or sumn Basically. People just sort of stumble into relationships a lot of the time.	/r/ExRedPill	23/04/24 11:27 PM
75	What are examples of women caring for their husbands / bfs when it's not tied to the man's status or money? How about how women are significantly less likely to leave a chronically or terminally ill partner than men? https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2009/11/091110105401.htm Leaving a partner who lost their job isn’t about status or power. I don’t understand redpillers’ obsession with social capital. No, it’s because losing one’s job is a traumatic event and now the unit is suddenly not making as much money as before. Men often earn more than women, so the loss of a man’s job is more likely to hav…	/r/ExRedPill	23/04/24 04:32 PM
2	Why is confidence so much more important than other good traits like humor, kindness,etc. when it comes to dating? There’s no guarantee it’ll make you more successful. More attractive? Potentially. Probably. It’s certainly not a bad idea to lose weight if you’re morbidly obese, for a variety of reasons. But saying anything “will make you more successful” when that isn’t guaranteed leads to the same entitled and deterministic thinking that ends at the redpill/blackpill. Telling men there’s some kind of way to ensure success with women is demonstrably harmful.	/r/ExRedPill	12/04/24 01:38 AM
16	Ugly = Creepy So you haven’t experienced this yourself, but you’ve “heard about it online”, but you’ve also decided that it’s true enough to make a post proclaiming that this is something that happens and is unfair? Also “online” is a very big place and where people are saying things is extremely relevant, especially since there’s a multitude of online communities dedicated to men calling each other ugly and then being mad at women about it. Are these guys sitting around studying women’s responses to being ap…	/r/ExRedPill	04/04/24 01:34 AM
14	Ugly = Creepy Except where are you hearing these things? What are the contexts? Who are these women and men you’re apparently eavesdropping on? Also unattractive by whose standards? Are we talking sewer creature or just “Rob the normal guy who works at the Post Office and doesn’t have much luck with the ladies”? Everything about this is so reductive and vague that I don’t believe this is something you’ve actually experienced. Are you unwilling to consider that perhaps my final paragraph holds some truth and y…	/r/ExRedPill	04/04/24 01:16 AM
23	Ugly = Creepy Some men seem to have this fantasy that other men are allowed to be total shitbags to women because they’re hot or rich or whatever, for the expressed purpose of getting mad at women (and sometimes other men but mostly women), even though those things don’t actually happen in real life. A lot of people do this in some way or another, but we’re not talking about them right now. I’ve seen this claim resurface every few years, but have never seen it in practice, nor have I ever been given real proo…	/r/ExRedPill	04/04/24 01:02 AM
11	Is following red pill content pages a red flag? Seconded. I’m 28 but people usually think I’m 20-22. And that’s without makeup or actively trying to look younger. Hell, my sister is 23 and legit looks 13. Some of us are just youthful elf maidens. But he should definitely have asked, especially if he’s an older guy in college. The vast majority of the women there would be late-teens to early-twenties. I don’t think there’s anything coincidental about this.	/r/ExRedPill	08/03/24 06:56 AM
6	How do you deal with trauma? It’s different for everyone, but I use distraction. I tend to ruminate and get trapped in spirals, so I go find something to do that will keep me from thinking about it. I have ADHD so I have to brute-force my mental health a bit. No mindfulness for me. But if your trauma is bad enough that it’s impacting your everyday life, you should see a professional. They can give you techniques and exercises catered specifically to you.	/r/ExRedPill	03/03/24 11:11 PM
2	I don't understand the point of debating the idea of not wanting to date someone because of their body count here. Because the reasoning for that preference is always rooted in misogyny and this sub exists to combat an explicitly sexist belief system. It’s also never phrased like a preference and always implies (or outright states) some kind of moral or value judgement about women based on their sexual history. The point of arguing is to point out that this is a really shitty way to talk about women, especially potential partners.	/r/ExRedPill	25/02/24 12:30 AM
3	I've stopped hanging out with my attractive friends and it's helped me not think about the red/black pill as much I have a chronic illness. The solution to having a chronic illness is symptom management and not being miserable about shit I can’t change. You learn to be happy despite the pain because the alternative is being a wretch. Also you’re equating not getting laid to having a chronic illness. That’s pathetic.	/r/ExRedPill	25/02/24 12:17 AM
8	why do incels get angry when other incel gets a girlfriend You may not know any people like that, but it’s absolutely a thing. Plenty of fat people hate being fat, but also don’t want to put the work in to lose weight, because losing weight is an unpleasant process. Instead, they lash out at those who are losing weight because it makes them feel bad that they can’t muster the self-discipline required to do the same. Like, the fatness doesn’t make them like this, just like how being single doesn’t make you an incel. It’s just that not every fat or single…	/r/ExRedPill	17/02/24 04:35 PM
1	What's the worst redpill logic you used to buy into? Japan is seeing the consequences of this issue right now. Their dogmatic adherence to strict patriarchal gender roles means that all caregiving positions were taken for granted, and now that their economy desperately needs women to enter the workforce instead of just being housewives, there’s no resources available to care for children or any other dependents. And thus women are expected to work and continue to take care of the family, which is literally impossible considering Japan’s already ho…	/r/ExRedPill	10/02/24 05:05 PM
1	women gushing about their husbands make me feel put off Very well, I accept everything you wrote as objectively true and concede my own lack of understanding of women. Thank you, that is the correct attitude to take when presented experiences you cannot relate to. Asking for clarification is fine, welcomed even, but please don't come up with your own theories to explain stuff that directly contradict what people are telling you. It's bad form. I suspect that not every man will find this reassuring. Some men want to be “objectively” sexy, and not just…	/r/ExRedPill	29/01/24 04:14 AM
3	women gushing about their husbands make me feel put off Except I didn’t say I didn’t find him attractive. I said I became more attracted to him the better I knew him. Like, I obviously had to find him attractive on some level to agree to go on a date and then to continue to date him for the next two years. Additionally, it would be really weird if I was as into him in the beginning as I am now. He was just some guy then, now he’s the person I want to spend my life with. There’s a huge difference there. I seriously do not get why this idea is such a s…	/r/ExRedPill	28/01/24 11:02 AM
5	women gushing about their husbands make me feel put off The audasticles on this man. Dude, you admit you don’t understand, so maybe it’s time to concede that you just don’t understand and stop trying to find reasons we’re misinterpreting our own experiences and feelings to fit within your worldview. Like every other woman responding to you here, I have become more attracted, and sometimes less attracted, to people the better I knew them. I’ve become more physically attracted to my boyfriend over the course of our relationship. I did not find him sexy…	/r/ExRedPill	28/01/24 06:14 AM
4	women gushing about their husbands make me feel put off I think some of these guys forget that there’s areas of the world where people are just generally taller and there’s no universal tallness constant. My boyfriend is 6’1”-ish but he’s from a country where the average height for men is 5’11”, while the country we live in has an average male height of 5’9”. Back home, he’s not really that tall, but here he’s considered a boi of notable lorgeness. Additionally, I’m a bit above average height where we live now, exactly average back home, but short by…	/r/ExRedPill	28/01/24 04:57 AM
6	women gushing about their husbands make me feel put off Absolutely agree. On my first date with my boyfriend, he was such good conversation that I really wanted to see him again. It helps that I think he’s pretty, but that couldn’t be what drew me to him because we were wearing masks when we first met. I’ve never felt like I’m “settling” for him. Yeah, we want to settle down, but that’s something we both want. We just want a quiet life to ourselves in the country until one of us croaks and then the other presumably dies soon after in a desperate but …	/r/ExRedPill	28/01/24 04:18 AM
3	women gushing about their husbands make me feel put off Redpill logic makes it very clear these guys really don’t engage with other people or the world around them. It’s so reminiscent of depression or anxiety thought spirals that you know are paranoid and insane but you hopefully have enough of a tether to reality to be able to ground yourself and dispel them. From what I’ve seen, these guys spend all their time alone and inside their own heads. Not even just staying away from people but emotionally isolating themselves because they’re consumed by t…	/r/ExRedPill	28/01/24 04:03 AM
2	Is love real? Reciprocation is kind of part of it, but the being in love part is not what requires effort. When people talk about effort, they mean the effort of putting in the work to continue to show their partner that they love them. I'm going to try to explain this in the most utilitarian terms I can, but obviously these aren't active thoughts people are having through their interactions. Yeah, this all sounds very transactional and shallow when dissected and the moving parts are put on display, but I and…	/r/ExRedPill	15/01/24 05:51 AM
4	Is love real? Because love, like every other feeling, requires attention to be maintained. People stop being angry about a thing if they aren’t thinking about it. Then they get mad again when they remember. Same with sadness, or joy. If your needs aren’t being met by the person you love, you can come to resent them or feel lonely when around them, and that can make you stop loving them. If love is neglected, it will eventually be forgotten.	/r/ExRedPill	14/01/24 10:16 AM
5	Would you marry a bisexual girl? If my man can’t accept that thing I do where I sit on one foot until I lose feeling in it, then it’s not meant to be. I’d kick him to the curb, but I gotta hobble around for a bit while the blood gets flowing again.	/r/ExRedPill	08/08/23 03:21 PM
17	What age do you think people are most likely to join red pill? If you're still red pilled, what age did you join? A lot of redpill and blackpill talking points only make sense if you’re very young or mentally stuck in high school. Yeah, teenagers tend to be shallow, selfish, judgemental, and mean. They move in packs and will absolutely ostracise specific people because it’ll hurt their social standing to be seen with them. A girl may dump some boy for another she perceives as better, and a guy may try to touch as many boobs as possible. Their expectations of relationships and their partners are puddle-deep …	/r/ExRedPill	21/07/23 12:25 PM
6	Don't feel masculine because of my average penis size Well, the thing is that you can work on pleasing her. In fact, you likely will have to. It’s a skill you hone and is very particular to your partner. There’s some overarching things like general anatomy stuff and basic preferences that can make sex better early on, but your sex probably won’t be the best it can until you know each other better. Like I said, it’s a mutual activity and partners need to communicate for it to be pleasurable for both participants. As far as I’m aware, most women are …	/r/ExRedPill	04/05/23 10:26 AM
59	Don't feel masculine because of my average penis size The idea that women require a massive dick to enjoy sex and that they’ll fuck some better man in front of you if you don’t have one was basically invented by porn. It’s almost funny how many of RP’s ideas surrounding women are literally just porn tropes, which says a lot about the people in the community. Aside from the fact that most women don’t get off on vaginal penetration alone, even the ones who do don’t have endless, infinitely stretchy vaginas. The average vagina is usually around 5” dee…	/r/ExRedPill	04/05/23 09:45 AM
1	I have an important question in this sub That’s not how I was taught, and that’s the point. Have you noticed that every time I address your anecdotes, you just come back with another as if that means anything more than the last one? You haven’t seemed to have considered my experiences at all. You’re assigning your personal experiences as universal truth and ignoring anyone else’s. I don’t doubt that in your a culture many men are told they must pay for women and women are told to let men lead them, but that’s not how all people were ra…	/r/ExRedPill	03/11/22 06:08 PM
1	I have an important question in this sub Then that’s those individual women because, again, plenty of women do plan and pay. Your sample size is too small to apply this to all women ever and claim we have it easier because you managed to date a specific kind of woman. It doesn’t surprise me that you did if you met them through cold approaches. In short, you’ve generalised all women based on a few. They’re not a minority, you’re engaging with a different demographic than I am because all my female friends plan and pay for dates. All my …	/r/ExRedPill	03/11/22 05:24 PM
1	I have an important question in this sub You’re presenting this like some kind of universal truth but it’s just not. It’s not even close. We’re not living in the 1950s, plenty of women plan and pay for dates. Women pay for weddings, or sometimes the couple’s families will pay, and the planning is usually left up to the woman because party planning is not considered a “man thing”. It sounds like you’ve just planned out a life with any woman without consideration for her agency in it or even your own. You’ve reduced her down to some face…	/r/ExRedPill	03/11/22 04:55 PM
2	I have an important question in this sub What you’re missing is that getting a date is not getting a relationship. It doesn’t make it easier because the asking out is literally the easiest part. Yes, you may get rejected, and they might be a jerk about it, but you haven’t really lost anything and neither has she. Everything that makes and is a relationship comes after the asking out and that is no more easy for women than men. Between my last and current bf, getting asked out and asking out men did not get me anything for 4 years. Ther…	/r/ExRedPill	03/11/22 03:59 PM
2	I have an important question in this sub You’re demonstrating that you haven’t actually engaged with women at all. That’s absolutely redpill rhetoric and has no true basis in the realities of dating. You believe in a caricature. No, we don’t just sit here and get relationships. Contrary to the fantasies of the manosphere, women don’t have an endless conga line of suitors awaiting their turn to ask them out. Yes, we’re more likely to get asked out than do the asking, but beyond that we have to be engaging and well-presented just as much…	/r/ExRedPill	03/11/22 03:11 PM
10	Why do ex red pill people say body count doesn't matter? Okay so apparently you can’t read because I said multiple times that men and women are different. If you can’t even properly engage with the responses you request, you’re a lost cause. Have a nice life, weirdo.	/r/ExRedPill	02/10/22 09:13 AM
10	Why do ex red pill people say body count doesn't matter? You’re shifting the goal post, but I will respond. How men and women process sex is highly influenced by culture and societal expectations, as well as their sense of personal identity. Basically every culture has different ideas on sex, and we know these ideas have been fluid throughout history. Many cultures have had structures that include more than two genders, and yet we act as though two has always been the default. You cannot act like women being less likely to have sex is some kind of bio…	/r/ExRedPill	02/10/22 08:50 AM
8	Why do ex red pill people say body count doesn't matter? Bro, nobody is arguing that sexual dimorphism isn’t a thing. Let’s approach this from your own bizarre logic: Human gentials are different so they can fit together for sex, and it feels good to do so. The differences in the sexes are specifically to facilitate sex and make it feel better so we have more of it. Boom. Checkmate.	/r/ExRedPill	02/10/22 08:33 AM
11	Why do ex red pill people say body count doesn't matter? What does that even mean or relate to how many people someone has slept with? How does this “biological functions” idea explain gay people? Or trans people? Or asexual people? Or hypersexual people? Or people who don’t want kids? Or neurodiversity? What about individual people’s social circles? Or the social conventions of their culture? What about religion? What about kinks? Or fetishes? Or sexual behaviours caused by trauma or mental illness? All of this is also rooted in biology. Humans are a…	/r/ExRedPill	02/10/22 08:16 AM
4	I'm an actual "Nice Guy". It’s really great to see you finally say that you don’t actually hate women. And I mean that in a congratulatory way! That’s a huge deal considering how fundamental it seemed to your internal narrative around your struggles, and now you can actually begin to work on the core issues that were masked by your projected self-loathing. I’m honestly so here for all your progress, my dude. 🌟	/r/ExRedPill	04/04/22 04:49 AM
3	I can now see why women don't like men cold approaching Oh I dunno, maybe men could actually start having discussions about boundaries to kids so they don’t grow up thinking it’s ever a good idea to just follow around women until they acknowledge you. Or maybe men could emotionally support young boys so they aren’t a festering ball of horny rage who lashes out when women turn him down. Or maybe men could start working to help kids foster close friendships with the opposite sex so they become familiar with each other as human beings and not just abstr…	/r/ExRedPill	01/04/22 10:53 PM
27	I can now see why women don't like men cold approaching You’re spot on, my guy. I’m really proud of you for analysing the situation and coming to these conclusions because this is not something that quite a lot of men ever realise. On average, women aren’t avoiding interacting with men because we hate men or feel anything towards a specific man, we avoid men because we can’t tell who’s sane and who’s a Dave (or worse) just by looking at them. If men want cold approaching to work, they gotta do something about Dave.	/r/ExRedPill	01/04/22 03:21 AM